18th birthday sayings

I’m on mobile so there may be spelling mistakes. I have changed some of the details. Hello I hope posting here will help me. (Me and Roger were together for 11 months and 1 week or 2 weeks) So basically I will be calling my Ex ‘Roger’. So first a little back story, Me and Roger meet in year 7. We both had a similar interest with video games.( as I got older my taste in video game changed) And we quickly became friends towards the end of the school year, his parents took him out of the school. We continue to be friends and hanged out at each other’s places. Okay so I started dating him when I was 16 and he was 17. Fast forward 5 months and Roger decides we should get promise rings for each other. About a month after this Roger started suggesting we have sex but I kept on telling him that I was not ready. He kept on pressure me, I kept on telling him to wait. About may/June last year Roger started saying we should put cameras on each other rooms I immediately said no. And he did not mention it again. I was getting annoyed by him constantly bringing up sex it really annoyed me when I saw his next I realized I started to act cold and distant. It happened the next few times I saw him. So i eventually ended it over text. But them I stupidly texted him saying something along the lines of “ do you want to know why I broke up with you?” And I think we got back together(can’t remember the exact conversation). The next time i saw Roger, I was still felt repulsed and disgusted so the next week I broke up with him fully (yay for me). I was still forced to go to his 18th. He tried to flirt with me but I wasn’t really comfortable with Roger doing it. But I did talk to Roger’s cousin more than I did to Roger :). Now back to current day, when I was in a relationship with Roger I mistakenly told my grandmother and my auntie (opps) and when I left the relationship. So basically ever since I broke up with him they has been saying comments like “you and Roger would be perfect together” “ You and Roger would make the perfect couple when you move in together in your new flat” ( when I talked to Roger about this flat I would be getting he always said something along the lines of “and when I move in it will be are flat and thier will be meat In the fridge” I am a vegetarian so this is against my beliefs)etc… also Roger brought up marriage quite a lot and kept on saying “when you get married to me you will get my surname” I also find a problem with this because the surname my family has is almost extincted because it is very rare also His is surname is very common and i have probably met load of people with the same surname(he knowns my feelings about this).
Recently I have been deciding who to invite to 18 th and my grandmother always said “why don’t you invite Roger I think you to will have fun together” (this party would be for only family. I think I would act more closer to one to my classmates at college that Roger) but two weeks ago when we were in the car she said “ I think it is better if were to have sex with Roger than any other men” (I didn’t say anything as a reply) I didn’t like what she said. Also my grandmother has made me invite Roger to a nearby town and hand out with him. I mainly ignore him when I am with him and don’t speak to him, unless he has a question or my grandmother wants a photo for proof. And the only thing I have told my grandmother why we broke up was because Roger was pressuring me to has sex with him and I only told her recently. Even writing this up I still felt disgusted and repulsed;( Would anyone have any suggestions about what to do and how not to invite Roger to my birthday party. And how to change the subject about Roger when my grandmother brings it up.
TL;DR I(17FtM) don’t like being around my ex(18M) but my grandmother(70?F) it trying make me get back together with him but I don’t want to and She is trying to invite him to my birthday party.

I don't even know how to start this..
I'll try keep it simple as this will be 1 of millions of stories I have to tell eventually.
I (31f) grew up most my life thinking my "1st dad" was my bio dad, he passed when I was 14 (we weren't close, he was a junkie and I hardly ever seen him) I had to close the lid on his coffin, I helped carry him, I helped plan his funeral and everything that came with it. He's in my birth cert, I legally have his last name and even have it tattooed on me. (this adds a bit of context somewhat)..
Fast forward to my 21st birthday, and my NM decided it was the perfect time to "joke" about how my 1st dad might not even be my dad 🤦 I'm hard headed so I instantly started pushing for more info and wondering wtf she was playing at.
She eventually gave me a name of who she thought could possible my Father, I got in contact with him and his now ex wife(there's stories about her too) and we got the process of DNA testing started..
Shock horror, "1st dad" wasn't my bio dad, when "2nd dad" called me with the DNA results I was incredibly overwhelmed, scared and confused as anyone would be..
My NMs reaction when I told her?? " Why are you crying I always told you 1st dad might not be your bio dad" (she never EVER mentioned it before in my entire life even though she'll argue til she's blue in the face that she did tell me)...
She still to this day swears she had always told me that there was a chance but a lot of things over the years that she swears happened or didn't happen I found to be lies so I trust nothing she says anymore.
Since then me and 2nd dad have had an amazing relationship, considering he went from no bio kids, a wife and 2 step kids to no wife or step kids and a 21yr old daughter he handled it like a champ.. his family have accepted and loved me since the day the DNA results came back.. we just all wish we got that first 21 years together too.
Sorry if this is long winded or if anything doesn't quite make sense, I'll happily answer any questions within reason and explain further if needed

Okay, so this is going to be a long one, sorry.
TL;DR
Despite a six-year relationship filled with ups and downs, long-distance struggles, and personal insecurities, my partner and I shared a deep bond. However, misunderstandings and miscommunications led to an abrupt, painful and aribitrary breakup from her end. When I discovered my partner seeing someone new, it left me questioning the sincerity of our past love and struggling with unanswered questions. Now, I'm torn between seeking closure and wondering if there's any hope for us to reconnect or if it's time to let go and move forward. Given that in matter of weeks that we were really good now she is in love with somebody else. Is she acting out of anger, revenge or is this real and sincere?
Ful context:
I had a relationship with this person for almost 6 years. So first, it was like a year we were friends, and then best friends. She had a boyfriend; she is older than me by almost 8 years. She didn't love this guy and wanted to break up with him. I already had feelings for her but didn't think it was possible. It happened; we were together in a long-distance relationship for about a year. A year later, we were great but had some fights due to inconsistency and the distance - nothing serious, really. We reconnected for 3 months before I came back to continue my studies. This time she would move to the same country as me to pursue her master's. We decided to have some time off to think about stuff. I forgot and broke up with her 2 days prior to her arrival. Why? I still don't know why I did that... I guess it was the desire of getting to explore more things and see if I could find someone else, given we were struggling because of some differences in her circle's acceptance. I still kept in touch with her because I knew how hard it would be in a new country with no support. I took some time for myself and realized I still loved her and I was sorry. We got back together formally.
Then during a couple of months, we entered a blurred line; we both loved each other, and we had a relationship, but I started to create barriers because I felt I was hurting her, as I think I didn't love her that much - I did love her more than I can imagine, but I felt insecure. Then we didn't really break things off; we just were friends, but we would occasionally see each other and would have conflicts when we were away. When she came close, I pushed her away, and vice versa. But when we were together, whether intimacy was involved or not, there were no fights, only depth and honesty and vulnerability. We fought every time over chat when we were not in the same place. A year ago, I decided to apply NC after she proved to me I was no longer really important to her. So I decided to cut her off without much explanation, which I regret now. Then 3 months later, I reached out again because I missed her and wanted her to come back. During that time, my intention was to see if I could continue my life without her and if I could avoid being dependent on her. She told me she worked on herself, she had some barriers. But it didn't last long. We again were cool with each other, comfortable. She now said that she had her mindset that this was "physical" and stuff like that, but we both knew it wasn't; it was never physical. Sometime later, we spent NYE morning together; it was delightful. Throughout this time, we did not have any major issues other than the fact that we knew we loved each other but we put up this wall for some reason. During the time I applied NC, she reached out to me several times; I never responded. She thought I was with somebody else; then I responded, said I wasn't and some other things. She told me that it was hard for her if I were to move on too quickly, which I wasn't really doing. We even worked together; it didn't quite help. Now, it has been a while. Since January this year, I knew I wanted to get back with her, but I wasn't sure she would take me. We saw each other every other week quite regularly, and we would talk every day; it's like we've been (we were) best friends. In February, we were on the same page finally; we both agreed but didn't do anything really. Then we went to the movies, saw "Past Lives" together, it made us really sad but connected us deeply. We were closer than ever. Then in March during my birthday, I didn't prioritize her because I was insecure about what my friends would say (I know, it's childish) that resented her a bit, but we fixed it. We hung out 2 more times; it was deep, nice, and we were connected to each other. Then I thought maybe it was time for me to move on but didn't want to act without her knowing the picture and doing the right things so I asked her if "it would be okay if I start seeing other people?". She agreed at first, then it was reluctant. I dug in deep, and that didn't help. I think this made her feel like she was my second plate or that I was already fucking sombeody else or sorts. She in that moment recently moved out on her own and started a new phase. At that initial phase, we got close again about the things we could do at her apartment; we could be free, how much we wanted to see each other and be okay. Then I put up a wall saying that we should stop seeing each other. She got mad and said she did not want to pretend we never knew each other, and it was unfair for me to decide for both when she still loved me and I loved her too. Why did I ask her that? Because I didn't want to date anyone else unless she was okay with that and that wouldn't hurt her because I loved her.
Some weeks later, she was really distant and started treating me poorly, worse than a dog. I knew something was off; I started to pursue her. I was ignored. I told her it's not okay what she is doing, that she knew my emotional wellbeing, and I wouldn't do that to her. She told me I did exactly the same a year ago when I cut her off. It was not true; I still replied to her because I know how bad her anxiety can get. Then I asked, "are you with somebody else?". I insisted; she said yes and not only that but she compared me to him and made me feel like shit. I was frustrated and acted out of desperation; I texted her, saying I'm sorry. But she said I was only using her as an object of pleasure (which as you can tell from the text is far from the truth). She told me all of this was over when I broke up with her years ago, like she was resentful and mad but never really told me. Then I tried talking to her to at least give me closure and let me ask for forgiveness for my negligence and wrongdoing, which was repetitive but never came out of wrongness but from insecurity. She said she didn't believe I love her but was acting out of desperation and then I demonstrated to her it was not the case. Anyways she told me to give her some days to think about talking again. She didn't say a word for about 10-12 days; unintentionally I ran into her 2 times because we live close to each other. Then, I sent her some emails saying since she has not told me anything I will leave a letter at her apartment and gonna continue with my life. She didn't reply. When I went to leave the letters we both saw each other and didn't say a word; I left the letter at reception and left. Next day, her father called me telling he was worried and that I should stop reaching out to her or looking out for her. Ever since, I don't know anything about her other than she is already sleeping with this guy (which she never used to have casual sex before) so I guess they are super serious in a matter of 4 weeks.
Then I found out during our time she made out with some guys, and then I came across some news that confirmed she was sleeping with this new guy. This makes me think really horrible things and most importantly that she is in love with him so fast. Like our relationship an didn't mean anything.
Right now it really hurts because it makes me think she never meant any of the words she said to me. Literally a month or two months ago max, she almost begged to not cut her off out of the blue, that I was the love of her life, she still loved me, and that she would never want to hurt me.
And she did all of that. Also, important to note when I asked her "why don't you at least give me the closure that I deserve If I did nothing wrong and your exes who were assholes you gave them your time?" to which she responded "because I am not strong enough to see you yet. when I saw them I knew it wouldn't affect me, but with you, it would still affect me seeing you." But my frustration is that it seems like she is not over me; she still has feelings for me, and yet she is in a serious relationship with another guy and treated me like shit. Why???
Another aspect which is important. Her previous relationships she has never been alone since she has been 18 uintil now she has never been single for real. Yes, maybe this last 5 years we were not fomally but we were together in a way... She had a boyfriend he was abusive and he had another friend who protected her. So whenever she needed something she would move from one to another. Until she broke off with the absuive guy ended up with the other guy (who she didn't rally love but stick with him as a safe choice). Adn then when she broke up with this other guy, I got into a relationship with her. Although in this time she literally had no feelings with this guy and wanted to break up with him for months.
My question is, is she serious about this person? Why did she behave in such a heartless way? Is there any chance she is coming back, or did I mess up by breaking NC? Or she didn't love me anymore? I really doubt the last one because I would have noticed that because how expressive she is and cmfrotable she was with me even the las time we sa each other.

I am sensitive, so I can't tell if I am making a big deal out of things or not. I would appreciate any advice.
My friend, who I'll call Sally, and I have been best friends for six years, so we've known each other for a while. But for over a year, I started to feel like she doesn't like me or trust me, LOL.
I don't know how to explain a story, so I'll give a few examples. I can't tell you that this will be free of grammatical errors, so I'm sorry. <3 or make sense, it might just sound whiny, so in advance sorry again
Example 1: My roommate and I get along, but there are just one or two things I get annoyed about. So, I decided when hanging out with my roommate and Sally, I brought it up in a nonserious way how she has multiple alarms, and it is a bit annoying to wake up (we live in a dorm room) 10 minutes before my alarm especially since in the end I wake her up when my alarm goes off, I just mentioned it would be better if she turned hers off and I would wake her up. But both said go back to sleep, and it's not a big deal. So I was like, let me wake you up then because you don't get up with your alarm regardless? LOL. They made it seem like it wasn't a big deal, so why was it hard for them to understand? I am also a terrible sleeper. I can't just go back to sleep when I wake up, and I mentioned that, but in the end, I felt like I just sounded fussy so i gave up.
Example 2: she doesn't tell me much; we used to share a lot, but after going to college, she doesn't say much, and if she does, she usually tells me if she has planned after, I don't know. Everyone is entitled to keep their stuff private, but I feel like I have to pry things out of her...
Example 3: Sally, my roommate, and I usually hang out. They met through me, and we all get along, so we hang out together quite a bit, but I rarely meet any of her friends. When Sally's roommate comes out, she gets so involved in talking to her that she doesn't seem to want to talk to me. I know she has been trying to get closer to her, so I want to understand that, but if we are watching something and her roommate walks in, she gets up and talks to her and kind of forgets I'm there.
Example 4: We recently mentioned that we'd watch the new Challenger movie with all our friends and were pretty excited about it; we never made concrete plans ig. So when she asked to hang out with one of our mutual friends and me, I recommended it, and she told me she had already watched it. I was confused because we were pretty excited about it. It would have been nice to know she watched it, right? We are best friends... so it's expected. Maybe? Or maybe I have a different view of 19-year-old friendships, that perhaps she's becoming more private? When talking about the plans above, she asked us to hang out and even picked two days she would be available. But then she said she couldn't make both days, one because she was babysitting her siblings (elementary) and another because she was singing Happy Birthday. I don't want to sound like an asshole, and I'm trying to be understanding. She has a big family, so someone could forget that. But then the friend we were going to hang out with texted me that Sally was going to be hanging out with her other friends on Friday, so I was confused. Why ask, then cancel, and then be able to hang out with your other friends? I understand it's been longer since she's seen them, but why did our mutual friend have to tell me about her plans? we also have group chat?
These are few instances, and maybe its truly not a big deal. But since i feel like i'm starting to get angry i feel like it would be best to check my self before pushing this on to her. Once again sorry the way i wrote is very messy LOL... Thank you to anyone that reads this :)

I am sensitive, so I can't tell if I am making a big deal out of things or not. I would appreciate any advice.
My friend, who I'll call Sally, and I have been best friends for six years, so we've known each other for a while. But for over a year, I started to feel like she doesn't like me or trust me, LOL.
I don't know how to explain a story, so I'll give a few examples. I can't tell you that this will be free of grammatical errors, so I'm sorry. <3
Example 1: My roommate and I get along, but there are just one or two things I get annoyed about. So, I decided when hanging out with my roommate and Sally, I brought it up in a nonserious way how she has multiple alarms, and it is a bit annoying to wake up (we live in a dorm room) 10 minutes before my alarm especially since in the end I wake her up when my alarm goes off, I just mentioned it would be better if she turned hers off and I would wake her up. But both said go back to sleep, and it's not a big deal. So I was like, let me wake you up then because you don't get up with your alarm regardless? LOL. They made it seem like it wasn't a big deal, so why was it hard for them to understand? I am also a terrible sleeper. I can't just go back to sleep when I wake up, and I mentioned that, but in the end, I felt like I just sounded fussy so i gave up.
Example 2: she doesn't tell me much; we used to share a lot, but after going to college, she doesn't say much, and if she does, she usually tells me if she has planned after, I don't know. Everyone is entitled to keep their stuff private, but I feel like I have to pry things out of her...
Example 3: Sally, my roommate, and I usually hang out. They met through me, and we all get along, so we hang out together quite a bit, but I rarely meet any of her friends. When Sally's roommate comes out, she gets so involved in talking to her that she doesn't seem to want to talk to me. I know she has been trying to get closer to her, so I want to understand that, but if we are watching something and her roommate walks in, she gets up and talks to her and kind of forgets I'm there.
Example 4: We recently mentioned that we'd watch the new Challenger movie with all our friends and were pretty excited about it; we never made concrete plans ig. So when she asked to hang out with one of our mutual friends and me, I recommended it, and she told me she had already watched it. I was confused because we were pretty excited about it. It would have been nice to know she watched it, right? We are best friends... so it's expected. Maybe? Or maybe I have a different view of 19-year-old friendships, that perhaps she's becoming more private? When talking about the plans above, she asked us to hang out and even picked two days she would be available. But then she said she couldn't make both days, one because she was babysitting her siblings (elementary) and another because she was singing Happy Birthday. I don't want to sound like an asshole, and I'm trying to be understanding. She has a big family, so someone could forget that. But then the friend we were going to hang out with texted me that Sally was going to be hanging out with her other friends on Friday, so I was confused. Why ask, then cancel, and then be able to hang out with your other friends? I understand it's been longer since she's seen them, but why did our mutual friend have to tell me about her plans? we also have group chat?
These are few instances, and maybe its truly not a big deal. But since i feel like i'm starting to get angry i feel like it would be best to check my self before pushing this on to her. Once again sorry the way i wrote is very messy LOL... Thank you to anyone that reads this :)

Hi Everyone!
This is my first write-up of any kind of unresolved mystery, on any platform, so I apologize for any formatting errors and my storytelling ability. Today I would like to hear your thoughts on the very mysterious death of Noah Presgrove, a 19 year old from Comanche Oklahoma. I have tried to be as thorough as possible with the details, but there is a great deal of conflicting information in the news reports, so I primarily used facts stated by Noah's family in interviews. With that said, let's begin...
Noah Presgrove was a handsome, athletic 19 year old from Comanche Oklahoma, which is located just south of Oklahoma City in the middle of the state. Noah had recently graduated high school in the spring of 2023 and was waiting for his cousin to do the same the following year so they both could enlist in the Marine Corp together and serve our country. By all accounts Noah was a ladies man, standing at 6'2" with an athletic build, in high school he was a 4-sport athlete with American Football and Wrestling among them. His family also says he was adventurous, kind and very much a jokester who would happily play pranks on his family. Last Labor Day weekend, the first weekend of September 2023, Noah was deciding between attending Rocklahoma, an annual 3-day hard rock and metal festival held in Pryor, Oklahoma, with family members or attending a 4-day Labor Day weekend bash/22nd birthday party of a friend. Noah considered going to Rocklahoma, but changed his mind when the family members he'd be attending with said they didn't think it was a good idea for Noah's 16 year old friend to join them there, since they didn't know this friend's family and Rocklahoma is big for consuming alcohol. With that, everyone went their own way to celebrate the holiday weekend.
The Labor Day/Birthday party was for a female friend of Noah's who was turning 22. It had been advertised on Snapchat, even containing the address, so quite a few people were expected to attend. Noah drove himself to the party on Saturday and by all accounts enjoyed himself. He did text his family member who was at Rocklahoma and express regret at not going with them, but it doesn't appear that this put too much of a damper on his attitude at the house party. After spending Saturday at the birthday girl's house, Noah returned home Sunday, probably to freshen up and take care of any outstanding errands or just check in with his grandmother, with whom he lived. Also, Noah's car was leaking from the oil pan, so it sounds like part of the reason to return home was to leave it there so he wouldn't have to worry about it. There are two stories about what happened next: The first is that one of Noah's friends picked him up from his house on Sunday, but took him to a truck stop so he could grab some food from the Sonic there. Oddly, the friend who took him there says he left him there and Noah was then given a ride to the party by the birthday girl, who had to come pick him up. The other story is that his best friend picked him up from his house and took him directly to the party, leaving him in the driveway. Either way, Noah was back at the party on Sunday and according to those present, was very much enjoying himself. There were videos from the party showing Noah and his friends doing "guy things" like the Slap Game, where two people try to slap each other across the face as hard as they can. Just "macho" drunken teenage guy things. There was also video from the party of the guests playing "classic" party games such as beer pong.
With all the drinking going on, some issues were bound to arise. A confrontation happened between Noah and his best friend. Noah had been in a corner with his best friend's girlfriend and apparently they had their backs to everyone else while talking. The best friend took exception to this and an argument ensued. Luckily, it did not become physical and they made up shortly after, but this event with the best friend and his girlfriend is important for later. A second confrontation occurred between Noah and a 16 year old guest that did become physical. The 16 year old accused Noah of hiding his phone, although the reasons why he thought Noah did it have not been stated. During the argument the kid "fishhooked" Noah and Noah returned the favor by biting his finger. It seems like the other people there were able to diffuse the situation and the kid's phone was found underneath another guest who was sleeping on a couch. As the day went on, things continued to become crazier as the people at the party drank more and more. At one point girls at the party started signing their names on Noah's torso and buttocks, writing things such as "Noah's hot!" and drawing a cartoon penis on his rear-end. Noah and the best friend he had the argument with even drove a John Deere "Gator" UTV "Side by Side" around the property, but stopped when Noah scrapped his hand almost flipping it over. Some people even say that Noah was tossed from the UTV, but he was checked out by a nurse at the party and she said he had nothing to worry about. Another event worth mentioning is that the birthday girl seemed to have a crush on Noah. Noah realized this, or was told this, and while talking to her about it called her a "fat, nasty b*tch". I assume that they were close friends and this is just a drunken teen being a drunken teen. An odd thing to mention is that this girl's mother, who also lives in the home, had told Noah's family that she believed Noah wanted her sexually. Whether this is true or not, I have no clue, but it seems a very weird thing to say to the family of a 19 year old your daughter is friends with.
So here's where the mystery comes in. Early Monday morning (September 4th, 2023), after 2:00am, the guests say that Noah was upset about something and that it might have had to do with sleeping in either the birthday girl's or her mother's bed. One of them either heard, or saw, Noah attempting to sleep in their bed and demanded that he go on the floor. This apparently upset Noah so much that he said he needed to go out for a walk, completely drunk, very early in the morning. The guests say Noah was wearing his best friend's shorts (we'll get to his clothes later) and could only find one of his shoes, so he grabbed another shoe lying around the house and took off out the front door. The house had a 1/2 mile long driveway that then went out to US-81, a major North-South highway that runs for 1,200+ miles through the central US. At 3:41am, a friend of Noah's posted a weird Snapchat: a photo of a girl at the party smiling, with the caption "well, Noah's missing". This was the last Snapchat posted by any of the partygoers after days of constant videos and pics. Around 5:00am, a semi-truck driving along US-81 saw something he believed to be a body lying on the shoulder of the road. After driving past, he became concerned and turned around to confirm what he saw. By the time he got back, two other vehicles had stopped in front of the lifeless body of Noah on the shoulder. He was completely naked wearing only 2 mismatched shoes and curled up in a fetal position. He appeared to have blunt force trauma to the back of his head. He had small scrapes on his left shoulder and left hip and his fingertips on both hands were reported as being "shredded", down to the bone. Noah's front top and bottom teeth had also been knocked out and they were found scattered at the scene. There was no blood found at the scene, other than a small amount around Noah's injuries. Very concerning was the fact that there was no writing on his body anywhere. Not on his torso and not on his buttocks. The shorts Noah was wearing were found folded up next him. The people at the party said "They must've been knocked off when he was hit.", which obviously does not make sense.
Around 6:00am, with the police already notified by the people who found Noah, all Snapchat's/social media from people at the party was deleted. His friends and acquaintances at the party say they have no idea what led up to his death and they were unaware of it. The police did not search the house because they said: "Noah wasn't found there.". They did eventually conduct a "mass" interview with all the partygoers. During this interview, Noah's best friend's girlfriend, the one that led to his first confrontation, told police she had never met Noah. She had wiped her phone so completely that even her boyfriend's number had been deleted. When the guests were asked about Noah being naked, the girls said they gave Noah a "shower", but Noah's mental state at the time, whether mildly drunk or completely inebriated, has been an area of dispute among the guests. Some say he was joking around and being himself while being showered, other accounts state that he was barely conscious. Noah's clothing he wore to the party that night has never been located. Police were told that after Noah showered his clothes were dirty, so he wore his friend's shorts. There is a rumor that his best friend's father found Noah's shirt from the party, which was then cut-up and distributed to the party attendees as a "memento". In addition to this event with his shirt, there is also information that his best friend's father had some of Noah's teeth in his pocket. He stated he "accidentally" picked them up from the crime scene. It's worth stating that this particular individual has been on Noah's family's Facebook memorial page for months, arguing with others on there. Just very odd behavior from an adult father who's son's best friend died mysteriously. But, on this same topic, NONE of the partygoers or their families have ever visited Noah's family to express their condolences. Never once.
Since Noah's friends and others at the party said they didn't know what happened, the police had their work cut out for them. The Oklahoma Highway Patrol obtained a "geofence" warrant covering a 1-1/2 mile radius around the party house. What they found was a bit disturbing. Around the time it is believed Noah died, 2 phones were traced as having left the house, heading to the location of his body. After briefly staying there, the two phones returned to the house. People at the party told a private investigator hired by Noah's family that they went out looking for Noah in the UTV/Gator that Noah and his friend had been on earlier. If they had really done this, they would have found him since the phones were at the spot Noah was found. It has not been released who exactly this was. Also revealed when police searched phones was a video of the birthday girl and her sister on their front porch, screaming at each other about Noah leaving the party. It is believed that this could be relevant. The Texas Rangers also became involved, due to the fact that two men at the party were from Texas. It is not known if these men are persons of interest. The Oklahoma Highway Patrol also quietly issued a warrant for a "black pick-up truck" believed to have been used to dump his body, but it is unknown why they are looking for this particular vehicle. The Oklahoma Highway Patrol has unequivocally stated that this was 100% NOT a hit-and-run. They have now also said that this is NOT a murder investigation. The Medical Examiner's report released on Monday, May 13th 2024 stated that Noah died from "Multiple Blunt Force injuries", but list the manner in which this happened as "unknown". His report also detailed extensive injuries to the teen's upper body, including 10 broken ribs, serious skull, neck, and spine fractures, internal bleeding, brain and organ damage, and cuts and grazes all over his body. The autopsy also revealed air in both his cranial cavity and spinal cord, extremely rare conditions only caused by massive head trauma. The family has heard rumors that a golf club from the set in his best friend's truck may have been involved, but nothing else has come of this.
The family has engaged with a private investigator, who did uncover previously unknown information, and gave that to the police. They have also said that there is much more which has not been publicly released and that the search of the phones did uncover good information. Also according to the family, some evidence has been covered-up or lost and that the day after the party, the birthday girl's house and property reeked of bleach. Despite this, his family says good things are going on behind the scenes.
So, with all of the above information, it doesn't seem to be a stretch to say that someone from the party knows something. It is my personal belief that this case will be resolved, but I think three things will have to happen: Time, Pressure and Guilt. At some point in the future, someone from the party will feel guilty, or media pressure will get to them and they will talk. Unfortunately, it may take some time unless the police uncover new evidence sooner. Thank you very much for reading this, but please let me know your thoughts on this case and feel free to ask questions.
Sources:
Podcast (Interview w/ Noah's family): https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jimny-carpenteepisodes/The-Suspicious-Murder-Of-Noah-Presgrove-Part-1-e2dchac
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13421341/Oklahoma-teen-Noah-Presgrove-beaten-death-gang-doctor-claims.html
https://kfor.com/news/local/m-e-releases-more-details-in-19-year-olds-death/
https://www.foxnews.com/us/oklahoma-teen-military-hopefuls-family-cant-imagine-was-murdered-offers-theory-about-last-hours

When I first lost Chloe, I wasn’t sure how to deal with the situation. I came across this Reddit board and spent a couple of days reading other peoples contributions. I thought that if maybe I contributed a couple of times and helped maybe one or two people with what they were going through it would help me. It has been good, but I don’t know how to deal with the situation I’m in. I know I have posted and made reference to my situation but now I feel that if I share it maybe that will help. Chloe was 12 and had a few health problems starting but nothing serious. I’m 50 and my mother is 75 and we decided to celebrate our birthdays by going to Paris again. We thought that we would go before one or both of our health falls apart and before Chloe gets to the age of being really sick (our last dog lived to be 18). We asked our vet probably 4 times if anything serious was going on and if there was any reason not to go to Paris. He kept assuring us that it would be fine. I’ll try to give you a brief history that may help. I am pretty much sick all the time. I can go a month or two without leaving the house. We are both retired and then with Covid, my mom was here all the time. So Chloe got used to having someone always around. I started taking a supplement that changed the way all my auto immune diseases were making me feel, so that’s when we decided to go ahead and go to Paris. I started getting out to go to the mall and it freaked her out. She would wind around my feet like a cat trying to get me to stop tying my shoelaces. She didn’t know what to do without me at the house. It freaked her out like I said. Looking back, we should have spread out those trips and got her used to both of us being gone a little longer each time, overnight maybe. But like the vet said he thought she was doing OK and it wouldn’t be a problem. We left for Paris and on the 4th day I broke my ankle at the Eiffel Tower. We started getting reports from home that Chloe wasn’t doing too great. We have a pet sitter that is absolutely fabulous. Chloe loves her so much. So by the time I broke my ankle, we started realizing that Chloe was very sick and that she was dying. Our wonderful pet sitter went to the vet and just sat with her so she wouldn’t be alone. I threw on an orthopedic boot with a broken ankle and we started traveling home. We never stopped. We just went from Paris to New York to Dallas and to Mexico. We didn’t make it. We asked the vet if he thought she was suffering waiting for us and he said that she was so we couldn’t let her continue that way. We said goodbye to her over the phone in the Dallas airport terminal. I hope that she got some comfort from our voices, but, as I think I’ve written before, the guilt is all consuming. She deserved better. She was our baby. The problem that I have been having since she died is that it’s like she vanished. When I got home, I wouldn’t let the maid come because I was searching for her, her smell. I laid by the table that she laid under. I tried to get as close to under the bed where she laid. I just kept saying “I can’t find her. I can’t remember what she looked like the last time we walked out the door. I don’t remember that moment.” The pet sitter was very nice, she picked up and took away her bowl, her leashes, her food, everything to do with her so that we wouldn’t have a such a sad homecoming, but it just made it seem like she was never here. I spent so much time upstairs that my association with her was the noise she made under the bed and when she wanted out of the door or when she started up the stairs to my bed. At night she was in the bed with me. I didn’t take her on walks or anything so I couldn’t imagine her as we walked along or anything. I have been searching for some kind of visceral connection to her in the house. But she’s just was gone. I think I hear her sometimes. Honestly, I don’t think I have grieved as much as I should. I always said that I started grieving her loss the moment I met her. I know it sounds crazy, but we used to get teary-eyed when she was six or seven or eight. We just loved her that much and couldn’t imagine our life without her. I would always say that we shouldn’t waste time thinking about something that was going to happen in the future. She was just that special. It was if you looked into her big brown eyes you could see her soul. This is too long of a post as it is, so I’ll just stop now.

sorry if this is terrible i’m so sleep deprived !!
TLDR: my friends tinder date turned boyfriend has not left her place for over a week (since they met) except for work, not left her side including to shower, and they’ve been high together the whole time and her roommate and i are getting concerned because this guy is essentially a stranger.
i need a fresh perspective on this situation because i’ve only talked about this with my friend and her roommate, who i’m also very close with. her roommate and i tend to spiral when we talk about stressful things because he gets delusions and i’m chronically paranoid, and we’ve talked this to death but im not over it.
so april 28th my friend got dumped by some guy she was dating for 8 months, it was incredibly out of the blue and harsh, and she was wrecked. she’s not someone who subscribes to hookup culture generally, and the last thing she was going to do was sleep around. between april 28 and may 5 she’s been getting over him, classic breakup shit, and going clubbing a lot. i have a slutty week about once a year, around this time, so i’d been on tinder like a full time job throughout this week. she ends up hooking up with a guy she met at the club, entirely out of character, and that guy ghosts her. she’s not super mad, but again she’s not a fan of hookup culture, so her single life is not off to the best start. she keeps bugging me to swipe on my tinder, and she keeps seeing her type, so she decides to redownload tinder. there was this one guy that we both saw and i wasn’t into him but she was, but i can’t remember if she matched me with him when she was still using my tinder. there was also at some point a guy i was going to meet up with, but i had to block because he was way too intense, and was scaring me, im not sure if it’s that same guy or not because i never screenshotted anything from his account because i was talking to him while i was driving (busy gal that week yk?). anyway, she gets tinder and matches with the guy who i wasn’t into, and she decides to have him over that night. i crash on their couch a lot, and i get uncomfortable with men so i wasn’t super chill with this and neither was her roommate, but the guy comes over and spends the night. she had also told us that this guy was not interested in having sex right away, and neither was she, they were just meeting.
i go home the next morning because i have work and school, and just life stuff, and her roommate is texting me funny anecdotes about her “hookup”. we’re both kinda confused because this is out of character for her, they weren’t initially going to hookup, and it just didn’t make sense. at some point i actually meet the guy, and he’s fine, a pretty charming person and fairly nice but something about him is throwing me. i shrug it off because he’s got to go home at some point, and that’s when i can ask her about it. a few days pass, and they’ve both called into work sick a couple times, and have not really left the apartment, and definitely had not had time apart. i talk to her roommate about this, and we’re both a little concerned, but assured that it can’t go on for that much longer because he has a decent level of responsibility at his job and she is pretty intense about her school and work. the next day, they’re officially dating. i’m shocked, her roommate is shocked, and our concern is getting higher. but she does have a tendency to get into relationships quickly, especially after having sex with the person, so we weakly chalk it up to her respecting her values and him being a pretty sweet guy. by this point we’ve noticed this guy is really clingy and intense, doesn’t share tons of values with our friend, and i’m generally getting skeeved out by him. her roommates sister wanted to go clubbing for her birthday, and it would’ve been her first time going out like that, so she only wanted trusted people to join. so our friend let the guy know that he couldn’t join us, and that she would go to his place after. i end up not being able to go because of work, so they go, and within the hour the guy is at the club. it’s unclear if she invited him or if he invited himself, but that was not part of the plan. they ended up leaving shortly after because the roommates bf got a bloody nose and the bouncers thought he was on something, and he got himself kicked out.
the next day, there was a protest going on near their place because they live on a campus, and i was going to head over to study with the roommate, which is something we do a lot. the protest gets intense, and we end up wanting to go, but while i’m driving over her roommate texts me that he’s heading over there because he saw something going down and was bringing a first aid kit and water. i called our friend at this point, because i was worried about her roommate, and she was still at this guys house. the protest was also something she felt passionately about, and in combination with mine and her concern about her roommate she wanted to show up and help out as well. her boyfriend convinced her not to, and tried to get me to tell her to stay with him as well, and he was generally being weird about her leaving without him. that set off alarms in my brain but i saved it for later because of the kind of pressing situation. it all goes fine and we make it back to their place safely, and work on our schoolwork. our friend comes home the next day, and her boyfriend had gone to work. she had classes and then work, so we didn’t see much of her.
i stayed over for that day and ended up sleeping over again because thats kind of just normal for us, but when she comes home from work her boyfriend is with her. he picked her up from work. at this point me and her roommate have been talking about this, and shared our concerns with each other, and were planning to talk to her about it when she got home. that plan was out the window. her roommate is also getting very fed up with an essential stranger being in their space for the amount of time he has, and it’s creating a lot of tension. i leave early again, as i’m uncomfortable with men generally. the next time i head over is a couple days later, and he is still there. at the very least they’re both going to work and my friend is going to her classes, but all of her free time he is around for.
at this point, my friend is also getting exhausted with being around him all of the time, and they’re trying to work out when to spend some time apart. then she tells us that at the end of the month she’s going to a different province with him for a 10 day trip. at this point they’ve only known each other for a week, so we make up a bad excuse to drag her outside and talk. she basically implies we’re being too weird about her going on this trip and to leave it, but then agrees to a couple safety measures, including an itinerary. at this time, her roommate had also seen our friends boyfriend acting stranger when i’m there, being skittish about me coming over, and generally showing discomfort around me. i’m a pretty blunt person, and i have a horribly dry sense of humour so people can misconstrue things i say really easily, but i’ve been generally nice to him.
so we’re all sitting down, i’m writing down the itinerary as they’re taking it through, and then i type up a very generously flexible schedule so that we know where they are just in case. by now, there has also not been a day where they haven’t smoked a joint together every hour. so they both (presumably) have been high since the 6th. he says to add him on snapchat so we can make a group chat to coordinate everything, and make sure we’re all on the same page. when i go to add him, it said that i had previously blocked him.
i get an awful feeling about this guy now, and it’s overwhelming, because i only block people for very specific reasons, everyone else i just unadd. i have no way of figuring out how exactly i know him, because even on the downloadable data files from snapchat our previous conversations are not available because i had blocked him. me and her roommate to outside to talk, and her bf is getting increasingly clingy. we decide we have to talk to her, and have him go home for at least a day or two the next morning, because it was already around 1am. he didn’t want her to join us outside either, which i think is strange. her boyfriend ended up ~getting a call~ that is uncle is dying, on the same night he was meant to go home and chill away from our friend for a while. he ends up staying because she’s worried he may hurt himself (unclear if he directly said this or not)
now, me and her roommate have been poring over the events of the last week and a half, and get ourselves worked up and paranoid as fuck. i think i am justified in being concerned, but every time our friend talks about how tired she is, or how much she wants her own space for a bit, she brushes it off saying that he’s a nice guy. although she has agreed to “kick him out” tomorrow morning.
i feel like he is so clearly far too clingy and possessive, and it feels reminiscent of a uhauling situation i was in a year ago. they’ve been high the entire time they’ve known each other (it’s mostly him providing and suggesting), neither of them has showered alone, and he doesn’t exactly look his age. i’m questioning my fear because the only other person i’ve spoken to about this overthinks just as much if not more than i do, and we both don’t want to wreck something that is going “well” for her. we’re waiting to see if the guy actually goes home today, i have a feeling he won’t. we’re mostly worried about the event of him possibly not taking it well, because we don’t know this man.
TLDR: my friends tinder date turned boyfriend has not left her place for over a week (since they met) except for work, not left her side including to shower, and they’ve been high together the whole time and her roommate and i are getting concerned because this guy is essentially a stranger.

England
Hello guys, I'm crying as I write this, and I have no idea what to do.
I started a new job last Tuesday. I worked Tuesday through Friday and then Monday, Tuesday, and today. I interviewed for the job three months ago and started last week, after finishing university. The company has two directors and two 'desks' that each perform a different function. I interviewed with one of the directors, although he was on the other desk from mine, so he was not my direct supervisor, I suppose. Usually, everyone gets interviewed by both of them at the same time, however my direct employer was unable to come due to a funeral. My first day was Tuesday, and my boss was not present. He was there Wednesday through Friday. I'd say he gave me quite negative vibes from the start, which was fine because he'd never met me before and was just figuring me out. He rarely worked around me, so he never noticed what I was doing. Everyone else had complimented me on how well I was doing and how well I suited the position.
The boss was absent on Monday and Tuesday of this week due to his wife's illness. So today was the first full day I'd been working well around him. Towards the end of the day, he brought me into an office, sat me down, and told me I wasn't the right fit. He stated I put in the effort but wasn't cut out for the industry (sales), which I don't understand because I sold a lot in my short time there.
I returned from the workplace, grabbed my bag, and attempted to slip out, but others asked where I was going. I thanked them everyone for their kindness and informed them that I had been let go; they were all surprised and thought i was joking.
The trouble is, I believe my boss had just had a horrible week due to his wife's illness, and today was my worst sales day yet, so I'm not sure if it was a rushed decision. I just don't understand it; he stated he appreciated my work and the number of calls I was making, and that they'd give me a great recommendation, but they fired me?
Anyway, sorry for the rant, people. I just wanted to talk to someone because I moved down to London from university a week and a half ago. I signed a contract for my house and used a loan to pay my first months rent. But I obviously don't have a job anymore. I think the contract is 12 months, therefore I don't know what to do.
My concern is, can they just terminate me for no reason after a week of work? I travelled 5 hours down here the day after my 21st birthday and am completely disoriented today. How do I go about getting paid for the week I worked?
I simply find it so unfair. They knew I had travelled so far and simply dumped me after a week. Is there any way I can get out of my house contract? Or any breach of workers rights? Does such thig exist?
Thank you, guys. If anyone has a job available in London, please let me know:)

I'm a woman with 6 tattoos, 3 on each arm. Nothing offensive. They are inspired by nature and mythology, all of which took alot of consideration and were designed by the best & top rated artists in my county. I get a lot of compliments from customers in my work, from friends and generally anyone in my age bracket. They are completely Me and I love them. However I was at a Birthday party recently, and the birthday girls aunt asked me what I planned to do with my tattoos when I get married. I asked her to help me understand what she was asking and she said she meant if I was going to be wearing long sleeves or not. First off, I'm happily single and will remain that way until someone amazing comes along. And secondly why do you assume that every couple are interested in marriage at all? If you dont like tattoos thats fine and its a personal preference but keep your weird questions to yourself please. I don't even know you.
Friend of mine, a few years back now, had blue hair. Her grandmother and her Father kept bullying her and making nasty comments towards her until she relented and dyed it to a natural colour again. When they found out she had 3 tattoos they pulled out the religious card and how tattoos are the markings of evil. Safe to say she has very limited contact with them now.
I know that social media is a cesspool of idiots and toxicity, but I couldn't help but notice the amount ignorance and nastiness folks have showed towards Bambie Thugs involvement in the Eurovision. If they bothered to do their research they would see That Bambi identifies heavily with Spiritualism and Pagan beliefs. Both of which involve zero worship of the devil. But there were so many posts claiming that Bambie was promoting Satanism and Pedophilia.... how and why do they think that? Do they not remember Irish history in school and learning about how our people used to be Pagans with strong spiritual beliefs with nature and the sky. Don't even get me started on the nasty comments made about Bambies looks. I identify as a Spiritual person, but I'm too self conscious to talk about it for all these reasons.
Anyways thats my rant done now. Anyone have any similar experiences?

We just found out that the landlord of the rental we moved into 1 year ago, wants to move back into her house in September So we have to be out by than. We put our kids in a new school in this area and are finally settled and finally really happy, it sucks we have to move. Housing in this area is ridiculously sparse and it's not going to be easy to find another, if we even do at all. It sucks, the entire situation sucks.
Since finding out, my husband now HATES his job because it's a "means to an end" and all it does is pay the bills. He says he's not working any overtime and doing the bare minimum. 5 hours later, he's going into work on his day off tomorrow for overtime. He spent the evening yesterday in our room, didn't hardly speak to the kids, today he's mad and hates his job again. He's going to come home from work and ignore the kids again.
There birthday weekend is this weekend and we always go away for the weekend, make it about the kids. He's going to ruin it for them, j know he is. He's going to go and be pissed for every move they make, instead of letting them have fun.
I feel like this is emotional abuse. Everytime life is t a cake walk, everything is on me. He's not going to help me look for a new place, that's my responsibility. He's not going to go look at places with me. He's not going to help me pack. He's no longer a husband, or a father. He sulks in the room, goes to work and treats us like strangers. Like I said I know this all sucks, it really fucking does. But being negative and acting that way with kids, is too much, in my opinion. He's almost 40 and acts like a 5 year old everytime life isn't perfect.

So I don't really play story games. I used to play lots of online games like Call of duty and Fortnite. But those games made me mad and stuff. And over the years of me playing COD, a few years back it even made my grades drop because of how much I played it over doing homework. I did play the campaign of one or two cods and they were all right. MW2 remaster was really fun. But I would try to play story games, but end up dropping them due to boredom. Mainly first person or new RPG style games. But one day I played a bit of the old Final Fantasy 7. I really liked the game play style. And I was like "that was really fun" and that was the end of that. I just never got back to playing it. Then I kinda stopped playing games for a year and just did other hobbies. But I decided to buy Elden Ring cause I like fantasy stuff. I am still playing it and it is super fun. But I got burnt out and decided to try something else. So I got Persona 3 for my birthday (a few weeks ago). It might be the most fun game I have ever played. At first I saw the main character and was like, I won't like this. As much as I like Delinquent manga, school media bores me. I hate school irl. I though the game was about school (i mean it low key is lol). But when I got really into it (when you get full ability to do anything you want, I really started to enjoy it. The characters are all interesting. I am only 6ish hours in right now. I really like hang out with Kenji. He is funny and I like encouraging him to date his teacher lol. Miyamoto is a cool dude. Irl I lift weights and stuff, so I would prob be best pals with Miyamoto irl. Yuko is fun to hang with too after track and stuff. Akihiko is the same as Miyamoto. He is just super cool. Yukari is a good friend and well written character. Junpei is king...all imma say. I have found I really enjoy turn based games cause its the opposite of crazy online first person shooters that make me mad. The story is cool too but im still really early in it. It's just super fun. I will come home after school, sit down with a coffee and play Persona 3 until homework time. Its so fun. I just wanted to rant about it cause no one else I know plays the game. I needed to get it out of my system lol.

assalam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh! i hope you are all doing well and staying healthy. TDLR will be at the end of the post since this might be a bit long.
i (21f) and my potential/fiancé (21m) are supposed to have our nikkah next month inshaallah. i say potential alongside fiancé because he never really proposed, we just both agreed to pursue our nikkah together.
i am a revert alhamdullilah and have been for almost 3 years now. he was born into a pakistani muslim household and has always made me feel accepted (as everyone should with reverts but astaghfiruallah i’ve met some muslims who shame me for being a revert).
he and i met on one of those matching apps because even though i live in a larger city, my nearest masjid is a 50 minute drive or an hour and a half train and bus ride. it was easier to find a potential online than in person. that being said, he lives in a completely different state in the north of the U.S. and i live in the south, so we’ve only met in person one time. he came down to visit and meet my parents almost a month ago and joined my family for my younger sister’s birthday dinner. my family LOVES him and thinks he’s a great guy, and he is! but the past few weeks i’ve been thinking a lot about going forward with him.
i worked at a restaurant as a hostess and unfortunately it closed the weekend of my sister’s birthday because the rent went up a drastic amount and it just wasn’t worth it to stay open, so i’ve been stressed about finding a new job because i help pay rent with my parents and i pay for my cat’s insurance (she was a troublemaker as a kitten so i felt it was needed). because of my stress, i haven’t been communicating with him ,or anyone else outside my family, as much as i used to. so the stress of looking for a job in a city where being a hijabi isn’t common has taken a huge toll on me.
he has brought it up that it stresses him out when i don’t communicate with him because he wants to help me worry less, which makes me feel bad but i understand where he’s coming from.
we haven’t discussed some nikkah topics like mehr, if we’ll move his parents from Pakistan to the U.S. after we get married, finances, and how we would move me from my city and state to his. i haven’t met his family yet but i talk to his sister and female cousin almost daily and he’s said his family adores me. i just got a package the other day from the girls with two traditional Pakistani outfits for me because i mentioned how beautiful they looked anytime they would send me pictures of them together in matching clothes.
i’m just worried that i’m either 1) not ready for marriage after we’ve already been talking for 7 months or 2) if this is just shaytan putting these thoughts into my head.
i care a lot about him and i would feel horrible if we call everything off after all we’ve gone though. i have prayed istikhara multiple times and i haven’t felt i’ve gotten any signs on whether to continue with him or call our nikkah off. i just don’t know what to do anymore.
TLDR : confused on whether or not to continue with nikkah after meeting potential in person. haven’t discussed important topics yet and worried about nothing cross country for him. is this shaytan messing with my thoughts or am i not ready for nikkah like i think i am?

You told me my birthday was not important, and i needed to grow up so you could go buy a car and needed a ride. You told me if I hadn’t had anxiety that weekend you would have proposed. You told me i never had anything good to say. You told me you needed me to cover rent so you could pay off your credit card bill. You told me you hadn’t loved me in 11 months and you staying even that long was a gift and you really tried. I found someone who helped me see I was worth it. I found someone who decided I was enough. I am her. And her anxiety will never be a reason not to be loved. -xoxo, doing better.

We just found out that the landlord of the rental we moved into 1 year ago, wants to move back into her house in September So we have to be out by than. We put our kids in a new school in this area and are finally settled and finally really happy, it sucks we have to move. Housing in this area is ridiculously sparse and it's not going to be easy to find another, if we even do at all. It sucks, the entire situation sucks.
Since finding out, my husband now HATES his job because it's a "means to an end" and all it does is pay the bills. He says he's not working any overtime and doing the bare minimum. 5 hours later, he's going into work on his day off tomorrow for overtime. He spent the evening yesterday in our room, didn't hardly speak to the kids, today he's mad and hates his job again. He's going to come home from work and ignore the kids again.
There birthday weekend is this weekend and we always go away for the weekend, make it about the kids. He's going to ruin it for them, j know he is. He's going to go and be pissed for every move they make, instead of letting them have fun.
I feel like this is emotional abuse. Everytime life is t a cake walk, everything is on me. He's not going to help me look for a new place, that's my responsibility. He's not going to go look at places with me. He's not going to help me pack. He's no longer a husband, or a father. He sulks in the room, goes to work and treats us like strangers. Like I said I know this all sucks, it really fucking does. But being negative and acting that way with kids, is too much, in my opinion. He's almost 40 and acts like a 5 year old everytime life isn't perfect.

so to make this not too confusing this is a wlw relationship, we started off good, everything felt like a movie we was all over eachother we would plan to do things etc but things got complicated few months after I started to self sabotage because of past situations and how the past ppl made me feel bad about myself, the thing is this girl never made me feel bad about anything and I was also reciprocating what she was giving to me to her but during the months of self sabotage i wasn’t the best and because I was just afraid of her leaving me after getting attached I would try to push her away but she would still be around and acc told me how she wanted to be with me and then later on I kinda said I wanted to be friends even tho that wasn’t what I wanted, my mind during that time was extremely fogged up and I genuinely didn’t want her to be with me cuz I felt i wasn’t too good for her but that was never the case. She liked everything about me and this is the first person that has ever seen me in that way so I think myself couldn’t accept it, I kinda realised afterwards and like we was still messaging but I could tell I hurt her deeply so then I told her everything how I felt and she also told me the same and then we was on a track to get together officially but now it was like tables has turned and she was the one self sabotaging and and it got messier around my birthday she wanted to go through a no contact for a month in which the first few days was alright but “I crushed out” badly that I literally made her not wanting to do anything with me anymore. (i posted a vid of us two on my socials and she seeen that and blocked me on everything and because of that I started spam calling and sending messages and I wanted to understand why) she ended up saying because I was doing too much she decided to end this and this was the result I was afraid of and it happened at the end. I then I find out that within the week of her ending things with me she moved on with an old ex talking stage I which she befriended and told me they was just friends and now I’m here it’s going into three months since everything and it seems like she so happy and I just feel shit most of the days. Because in the end I felt like I found true love for the first time and I threw everything away. We both (20)

England
Hello guys, I'm crying as I write this, and I have no idea what to do.
I started a new job last Tuesday. I worked Tuesday through Friday and then Monday, Tuesday, and today. I interviewed for the job three months ago and started last week, after finishing university. The company has two directors and two 'desks' that each perform a different function. I interviewed with one of the directors, although he was on the other desk from mine, so he was not my direct supervisor, I suppose. Usually, everyone gets interviewed by both of them at the same time, however my direct employer was unable to come due to a funeral. My first day was Tuesday, and my boss was not present. He was there Wednesday through Friday. I'd say he gave me quite negative vibes from the start, which was fine because he'd never met me before and was just figuring me out. He rarely worked around me, so he never noticed what I was doing. Everyone else had complimented me on how well I was doing and how well I suited the position.
The boss was absent on Monday and Tuesday of this week due to his wife's illness. So today was the first full day I'd been working well around him. Towards the end of the day, he brought me into an office, sat me down, and told me I wasn't the right fit. He stated I put in the effort but wasn't cut out for the industry (sales), which I don't understand because I sold a lot in my short time there.
I returned from the workplace, grabbed my bag, and attempted to slip out, but others asked where I was going. I thanked them everyone for their kindness and informed them that I had been let go; they were all surprised and thought i was joking.
The trouble is, I believe my boss had just had a horrible week due to his wife's illness, and today was my worst sales day yet, so I'm not sure if it was a rushed decision. I just don't understand it; he stated he appreciated my work and the number of calls I was making, and that they'd give me a great recommendation, but they fired me?
Anyway, sorry for the rant, people. I just wanted to talk to someone because I moved down to London from university a week and a half ago. I signed a contract for my house and used a loan to pay my first months rent. But I obviously don't have a job anymore. I think the contract is 12 months, therefore I don't know what to do.
My concern is, can they just terminate me for no reason after a week of work? I travelled 5 hours down here the day after my 21st birthday and am completely disoriented today. How do I go about getting paid for the week I worked?
I simply find it so unfair. They knew I had travelled so far and simply dumped me after a week. Is there any way I can get out of my house contract? Or any breach of workers rights? Does such thig exist?
Thank you, guys. If anyone has a job available in London, please let me know:)

I took my approx 2 year old Apple Watch Series 7 to swimming pool for 2 consecutive days and now it’s not working properly. Before taking it I purposely researched on the website whether it’s safe to use my watch while swimming and it told me that it’s completely fine. After today’s swim, it’s not working properly what to do pls help. I got it as as gift for my 18th birthday 😭

so this year is my Grandmother's 85th year and although she is sadly declining with dementia and other health conditions it is a milestone worth celebrating
My uncle and Aunt (my mums younger siblings) text my mother saying that they had organised a small get together for my nan as its her birthday soon and we could come up at any point after 1 this was with a week to go (and on my mums birthday) we were away at the time so didn't really respond as phone signal wasn't the best.
the day after we return we were out getting stuff we needed after being away like groceries and my mobile rings. Its my uncle.
he says "hello OP" but the way he says it is over exaggerated as i don't normally answer my phone (to my aunt) as she usually just wants to scream at me (she is very delulu and self intitled ) (she had a go at my mum and sister for not responding to a text I had responded to ) he makes small talk about our week away asking things like when we got back.
he then proceeds to talk about my nans birthday and what they had planned. and mentions "oh we thought we could all put in £50 (my mum, him, and Aunt)" at this point i passed my phone to my mum. he reiterated the 50 quid each to pay for the food and the cake to which my mum says she cant afford it not after a week away. and my mum also said she was working so wouldn't be up till after the party was over. to which my uncle responded "well there are others here"
my aunt was in the background saying the same sort of things basically telling him what to say so we just hung up and got on with our day.
my mum doesn't actually object to paying but
1) we were invited up as guests. who asks guests to pay.
2) we had no idea this was happening until the text and had no say in anything to do with planning
3) my uncle is getting the food from his work and although the platters are ££ with his employee discount there is no way the food and a cake would come to £150 (its all pre-made processed factory sandwiches)
4) besides it will all be done to cater my aunts gluten free diet there will literally be nothing any of us like
5) My aunt as i said is seriously delulu. a week before we went away she came to ours asking mums plans for middle of next year as they (aunt and uncle) were going to a wedding (probs my cousins) so could she look after my nan and they also wanted give us a code for my nans and then spoke to me like i was 3 (not 29) to explain, when i said i heard its in my phone she called me rude
its not that we object but they just expect us to fall in with what they say no matter what.

My boyfriend and I have been together over 3.5 years. Soon after we started dating I quickly became friends with one of his best friends. The three of us played xbox quite often together, he always came to celebrate our birthdays each year, but he wasn't one for coming around and "third wheeling" to do anything with just the three of us. I always felt that was understandable and neither of us were ever upset or wanted to pressure him into coming along if he didn't want to. He started dating a girl about a year ago, someone he had been friends with through work for several years. She was recently divorced and they moved in together fairly quickly. My bf and I met her a couple of months after they got together and moved in together and he really likes her. Since I met her I have had a bad feeling about her. I feel as though our friend is more muted, he doesn't speak as much. It's hard to joke around with him about things before, like she doesn't approve of his life before they were dating. The four of us were playing card games and she made me and our friend switch places bc we were sitting next to eachother and winning the game. She texted me to wish my bf a happy birthday from them instead of just messaging him herself. A lot of things just don't feel right to me and when I talk to my bf he doesn't see any of it or says he feels as though I'm being too harsh. Am I the asshole?

I’ve been dating my boyfriend now for 7months. We’ve never seen each other in person yet because he lives in country (continent actually) and i’m a still studying in college while he’s dealing with health problems that’s we both can’t fly to see each other. I’d say we get along pretty well on most things, we share the same world views and do have a good laugh about a lot of things. The problem is that sometimes i think he’s too nonchalant, just doesn’t care too much, or maybe i just care too much(i can’t really pinpoint it). I just feel like i’m the one engaging in most things. Like he never wants to call me unless I ask first and most of the time I feel like he’s just agreeing to it just to get it over with. When we talk in text he does answer but I feel like i have to be the one driving the conversation because if I don’t it just goes no where. He wasn’t like this at first, that’s why I fell for him because at first he really seemed to care about me. I don’t know maybe it’s like this as time passes and I just need to get used to it (?). I did bring it up to him a lot of times and it just caused a lot of fights that just drained the life out of me. He’s reasoning is that he doesn’t really feel the need to call me and his obliging with it only to make me happy and he texts me while his doing otherr things but he does try whenever he can. He just wants a chill relationship and someone he can just vibe with (that’s what he said) . I’ve made peace with it since I really want us to work and i do really love him and I do think he loves me too, to an extent lol. I just feel extra bad today because it’s my birthday and I didn’t plan anything because honestly I think it’s too much work and I just wanted to chill. It just made me feel bad that he didn’t try to do anything to make my day special, don’t get me wrong, i wasn’t expecting anything big. A phone call from him would have been more than enough. I just wanted to spend some time with someone I love. I didn’t ask for it because idk I thought he’d care enough to make me feel special on my birthday . The entire day I was sending him text messages, other than the birthday greeting (just the casual happy birthday) he didn’t do anything, it actually felt like I was begging for his undivided attention today . At the end of the day, I did expressed to him that I was upset for my birthday and he said sorry that my day wasnt what I wanted to be , he offered to talk about it but I was too upset to. It also gets him upset when I try to bring up things that made me upset at him. I can’t take another argument, i also cant deal with explaining to him why I feel this way cause it’s going to be a fight hence why I just want to be gone. I don’t want to ask him to care more abt how i feel.