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I've heard in the past that hosts would turn away AA people and I never knew why. I don't see it that way. Out of 12 years of hosting, I had an AA family of 5 guests (2 were kids) for 5 days over Mother's Day weekend. Things seemed to be ok. I did notice they were not from the best part of Texas (Killeen area), but paid no attention. I went out of town after a couple of days they were there to celebrate mother's day and lo and behold... All hell breaks loose when I left. They threw a small party, called the cops on each other (against the baby daddy) and had uninvited guests over. When I came home from my Mother Day's trip, my neighbor came over and told me and then I saw all the drama unfold on my Ring cams with 2 cops at my house and the uninvited guests and cars arriving. They left 3 trash bins full of garbage. They stole my Costco roll of garbage bags, new bag of detergent and lord knows what else. They even rented my Turo car and didn't replenish the gas. They were ghetto and trash and I let my guard down only to be let down.
Last night I was full of anxiety as that baby daddy was trying to get into the rented house but I took some sleeping pills and just waited in the morning as they were going to leave. I'm just venting that as a society, we try not to stereotype, but here I am... Wondering if I should have turned them away.

It's an honest question. Not looking for wars. I'm asking honest people. Do women hold more sway over a father just as dedicated? Not some baby daddy from a one night stand. Say it's a 10 year marriage. Spouses get along. Everyone does their part. Personally, I'm my marriage, I hold more sway. It may not be traditional, but it's whats working for us.
And before you type, we grew them in our bodies, yes, I know how it works. Men are still integral in conception. Plus, had the man done his job, he's have spent none months making life as easy on you as he can. So again, we aren't talking lazy fucks who want to pay video games. We are talking MEN who step up.

Let's have great conversations about baby sharks, momma sharks, daddy sharks, and all sharks in between! I hope everyone can be nice and friendly to each other :)

Hola.
¿Cuál es el rango de pago por encuentro y mesada en Bogotá, 2024 para la relaciones azucaradas (sugar daddy/baby)?

No encuentro una guía de esto en internet.
Posdata: Valoro si también me pueden por favor, recomendar comunidades de sugar babys en Bogotá.

just think about how glorious it would be

It’s now 2024. We met in 2016.
We were both 20 at the time we met. I became pregnant very quickly into our relationship. We were both 20 and turning 21 when I found out I was pregnant for the very first time. We had also only been in a relationship for 6 months before we found out. When we first found out we were pregnant, we obviously freaked out but we were so in love with each other we decided to keep it. We had so much support from all of our family that it seemed like a great idea. He was happy, I was happy and we were determined to make it work. We both moved in together and everything was great.
However at my 14/15 week scan the doctors noticed something was severely wrong with our baby. She had severe and major deformities that were most likely life threatening and because we were so young we made the mutual decision to no longer continue with our pregnancy. I was 24 weeks along when I gave birth to our little girl.
After her passing and some time went on and we both grieved very differently. I needed him and it seemed like he wanted nothing to do with me. He stopped communicating, became extremely insecure and would gaslight me every time I brought up any concern I’d have. He would tell me I was trying to fight with him and completely shut down when I was just trying to make sure he was good and we were good. He was mean.
Our relationship was so toxic and I was ready to leave him but then I found out I was pregnant for the second time.
When I told him I was pregnant again, we were in such rough shape that he broke down and we both didn’t talk for 48 hours. But when we finally spoke about it we decided to have the baby. But we were terrified of everything because we had just lost a baby 3 months prior. So we were living in so much fear and all of our relational issues became amplified.
We were SO toxic and we made the dumb decision to get our family involved in our toxic relationship. So we had so many opinions of other people interfering with our relationship. But there were some pretty significant issues.
Fast forward, our son was born. He started drinking, 20 pack a beer every single night, he stopped taking care of himself, he started smoking poppers and just went completely down hill and basically abandoned us completely. Mentally, emotionally and then physically.
It was exhausting and extremely emotionally painful for me because I needed him. I loved him and I’d beg him to just be with us and be a family. I wanted his love so badly. But he eventually left us when our son was 6 months old to go move back in with his mom and we tried to make it work from different houses until our son was eventually 1 years old when he completely decided to abandon ship.
He moved onto someone else only 1 month later.
Which was the worst emotional pain I’ve ever felt in my life.
And the girl he left me for was horrible to me. She would bully me with the help of other female members of his family.
I was angry because he has also abandoned me and I wasn’t even from the province I gave birth in. I tried to move back to my province him he essentially baby trapped me so I couldn’t move away with my son.
I was trapped, abandoned, isolated and absolutely heart broken. I had nobody to lean on, nobody that was there for me. It was extremely hard.
Fast forward to now, he had broken up with his girlfriend a year ago, I’ve healed from everything and we are actually able to be friends now.
He flirts with me all the time and I can’t help but feel some type of way. I do still love him, I probably always will and I know he loves and cares about me to. Hes apologized for the way he treated me and I forgave him and apologized for the way I reacted when I was younger as well. I imagine all the time what it would be like if we gave things another shot…
But I am stuck with the fear of the past. He left me for someone else and I think that’s the hardest part for me. If he did it once, could he do it again? Has he really changed? Is it worth it to find out?
I’d love to be a family again, but I’m worried about things failing miserably again and then now our son is older and how that would affect him.
Any advice on what I should do here if I do consider giving this a second chance?

First baby daddy beat it out of me February last year which caused the trauma. So 8 months ago while traumatized I meet my attacker fake Uber driver with outdated car but Uber sticker I didn’t check my car he took me to a dark parking lot and sodomized me. Welp we met again a month ago was intoxicated could not recognize him this time he drugged me up put doggy pads underneath me there was another unconscious male that I heard things done to and I was ordered to shower but guess what? I’m pregnant and I run out of energy with my increasing symptoms but thinking of contacting authorities from what what I dealt with and the bad things I saw while in that house. I’m glad I could produce a child but it was the wrong way by someone who’s evil. It left me in confusion for week and I’m spiraling again but I gotta start thinking for this raging baby that makes overheat and sleep a lot. I will give it a name that symbolizes rage and war but I don’t think am stable enough to keep it. Because of how it was conceived and what it’s doing to my body but I have enough to keep it and give it passage and I’ll try as hard as I can to keep it but mamas falling apart. My tone is flat because I’ve been through a lot of demented shit so everything will come off in a matter of fact way. Doesn’t mean I’m stronger just more like the animal that kind of sits there while being devoured by snake gave up.

I can't help but notice many many inspirations or references that Vivzie has put in the show and I guess there may be many that I don't know.
Some of these I am not sure of, but -Lucifer's Golden Fiddle is a clear reference to The Devil Went down to Georgia -The song "Loser Baby" seems to be blatantly inspired by the song "Schadenfreude" from the Broadway musical "Avenue Q" - Lucifer sings "Check out Daddy's reviews on Yelp" - in the BeetleJuice Musical, there is a song that says "he can help, we found him on yelp" considering Alex Brightman is in HB, I wouldn't be surprised if the inspiration came from that sing -Vox's Flying Fish/Sharks are VERY reminiscent of the flying fish that Chrollo summons in Hunter x Hunter. Also, Chrollos full name is "Chrollo Luccifer"
What else am I missing?

I’ve been slowly getting over the breakup. It’s been a little over a month. I went from the sad phase to the pissed off/acceptance phase. But I just found out that my ex was seen with another dude out and about around the time we broke up. And no one told me. And she’s been posting “soft launches” of another dude on her socials already right after we broke up (male arm, no face, etc) according to mutual friends. You telling me you had a whole other dude lined up?! Are you freakin serious? I thought it was an amicable break up, but f--k that. All this talk about never cheating and always being respectful with relationships and you were talking to another dude the whole time towards the end? Thats some BS. Lying sack of s--t. I hope he leaves you like your baby daddy did. I actually thought she was a good person, with good morals. I should have learned shes not what she speaks based on the things she pulled earlier in our "relationship". Never respected me or gave af about me back then either.

Hello!
TLDR Just kind of curious on if people would stay with grandma watching the kids or consider transitioning to daycare
I know there have been posts similar to this before but I think everyone likes to have things more specific to their situation LOL
So my mom has been coming to watch our son since he was 5 months old and he's 14 months now . I would LOVE to be a stay at home mom but unfortunately our finances do not allow this to happen.
We had initially planned for LO to go to daycare at 5 months but it was really hard on him. We picked a nicer facility and they had cameras and we could just see him crying on camera and them stepping over him. I know there are so many kids and they can't hold all the babies at once but my husband and I decided that it was best for our LO to be with my mom rather than daycare. This was initially going to be very temporary and then became ok until he's crawling, ok till he's walking and now it's like ok maybe when he starts to talk we will send him.
This was a hard decision as my mom and I used to be very close when I was younger (she was a young single mom, had me at 18) and then as I got older we didn't get along really. About 6 years ago she quit her job saying she was burnt out and has been living off her boyfriend (who doesn't work either and is a trust fund kid but doesn't get his own money, it all comes through his mom) since and they live with his mom. She has no car (she borrows his car everyday to come watch the baby) and no source of income on her own. And it was hard for me (and stressful as I am in no financial position to support her should he dump her) as her daughter to watch her be in this precarious situation dependent upon this guy who she complains about all the time and says she doesn't even like him. The way she paints the picture is not sugar daddy, more like controlling/ she has no money of her own or anything like that. There have been other things but too much to try and go into detail here. As I got older and was able to process things from my childhood I also realized she wasn't really the best mom, more of a friend most of the time and I really lacked structure.
So we went through a few years of not talking really and then when I had my baby we kind of reconciled a little (prior to her watching him) and she started watching him at 5 months which was originally going to be very temporary until we found another daycare and then turned into more long term.
Well I'm now pregnant again with baby 2 due in Aug and have just been having so many feelings about her watching our current son and the next one.
As our son gets older I worry about the impact in his development she has watching him all day. I have a lot of resentment with how lax she was with me as a child and I worry about her giving that to him also. He's so young though I wonder if that is truly something to be concerned with??
She also will push back on parenting choices we make and it's like she does it because she thinks she knows best. So I don't always feel listened to or respected as his parent which really bothers me. We've had several blow out arguments during these last 9 months she's been coming that are just kind of swept under the rug and she continues to come watch him. She says this has given her a new purpose in life to watch him.
It's also really hard for me for her to have all this time with him and I'm at work all day. But I wonder if that is part of why I want him in daycare when that's not really what is best for HIM right now.
There's also the fact that we do not pay her to watch him. Trust fund boyfriend (his mom really) supports her and gives her the car, but she does have to drive 1.5 each way to watch him everyday. So we have saved a lot of money and save money every week she watches him. She wants to move closer but has no way of doing that and trust fund boyfriend doesn't want to leave mom's house. We are in no position to have her move in with us and honestly that's not anything I would want either as I don't think she'd ever leave.
I don't mean to sound ungrateful to all she does for watching him, I just have a lot of childhood/young adult resentment against her as well as resentment against the state of things in the US where there is not more support for families/mothers. Also, regardless of any ill feelings I have with her I know she loves my son and truly cares for him while she watches him.
Thank you!

Hello!
TLDR Just kind of curious on if people would stay with grandma watching the kids or consider transitioning to daycare
I know there have been posts similar to this before but I think everyone likes to have things more specific to their situation LOL
So my mom has been coming to watch our son since he was 5 months old and he's 14 months now . I would LOVE to be a stay at home mom but unfortunately our finances do not allow this to happen.
We had initially planned for LO to go to daycare at 5 months but it was really hard on him. We picked a nicer facility and they had cameras and we could just see him crying on camera and them stepping over him. I know there are so many kids and they can't hold all the babies at once but my husband and I decided that it was best for our LO to be with my mom rather than daycare. This was initially going to be very temporary and then became ok until he's crawling, ok till he's walking and now it's like ok maybe when he starts to talk we will send him.
This was a hard decision as my mom and I used to be very close when I was younger (she was a young single mom, had me at 18) and then as I got older we didn't get along really. About 6 years ago she quit her job saying she was burnt out and has been living off her boyfriend (who doesn't work either and is a trust fund kid but doesn't get his own money, it all comes through his mom) since and they live with his mom. She has no car (she borrows his car everyday to come watch the baby) and no source of income on her own. And it was hard for me (and stressful as I am in no financial position to support her should he dump her) as her daughter to watch her be in this precarious situation dependent upon this guy who she complains about all the time and says she doesn't even like him. The way she paints the picture is not sugar daddy, more like controlling/ she has no money of her own or anything like that. There have been other things but too much to try and go into detail here. As I got older and was able to process things from my childhood I also realized she wasn't really the best mom, more of a friend most of the time and I really lacked structure.
So we went through a few years of not talking really and then when I had my baby we kind of reconciled a little (prior to her watching him) and she started watching him at 5 months which was originally going to be very temporary until we found another daycare and then turned into more long term.
Well I'm now pregnant again with baby 2 due in Aug and have just been having so many feelings about her watching our current son and the next one.
As our son gets older I worry about the impact in his development she has watching him all day. I have a lot of resentment with how lax she was with me as a child and I worry about her giving that to him also. He's so young though I wonder if that is truly something to be concerned with??
She also will push back on parenting choices we make and it's like she does it because she thinks she knows best. So I don't always feel listened to or respected as his parent which really bothers me. We've had several blow out arguments during these last 9 months she's been coming that are just kind of swept under the rug and she continues to come watch him. She says this has given her a new purpose in life to watch him.
It's also really hard for me for her to have all this time with him and I'm at work all day. But I wonder if that is part of why I want him in daycare when that's not really what is best for HIM right now.
There's also the fact that we do not pay her to watch him. Trust fund boyfriend (his mom really) supports her and gives her the car, but she does have to drive 1.5 each way to watch him everyday. So we have saved a lot of money and save money every week she watches him. She wants to move closer but has no way of doing that and trust fund boyfriend doesn't want to leave mom's house. We are in no position to have her move in with us and honestly that's not anything I would want either as I don't think she'd ever leave.
I don't mean to sound ungrateful to all she does for watching him, I just have a lot of childhood/young adult resentment against her as well as resentment against the state of things in the US where there is not more support for families/mothers. Also, regardless of any ill feelings I have with her I know she loves my son and truly cares for him while she watches him.
Thank you!

Grue got matching biker shorts for her and baby in a size 0-3months. Due date is September which is when it might be warm still but will cool off soon. Unless Amelia gets her daddy's size it's not adding up🤨

My(35m) gf(32f) have been together 1.5y and she’s got 3 kids with two baby daddies. I’ve set boundaries and eliminated their disrupting and abuse as they’ve chosen to exit their son’s lives. In turn I’ve stepped up, the older two(10and 9) call me dad and the youngest(4) doesn’t as he’s kinda slow tbh but that perfectly fine. I have no kids of my own and am learning the ways of parenting. Now to the point, despite my obligation being to my gf as I cook, clean, do laundry, clean car, babysit in off days and cater to her every need as a lover should, she blurs the lines and lets her kids destroy my efforts. Leaving messes everywhere no cleaning up after themselves, breaking boundaries etc. we also work opposite shifts so I make sure when she gets home it’s all spotless and when I come home at night while their all sleeping my efforts are rendered wasted. Yet I can’t stop this catering, am I crazy? I ask her to teach them the value in my actions and how much it means to her to keep things tidy, but she just says ‘talk to them’. THEY’RE CHILDREN!! They only know what they’re taught! But she won’t step up, and they listen to me on a hit and miss.
On mother’s day yesterday I gave her the day off to do her nails and relax etc. and dear god did I find out the hard way that during evenings while I work the values I try to teach them are not followed up on. It was horrible, I had the worst day. The older two gave her the presents I paid for to her then forgot its Mother’s Day, the 4 year old threw a fit cause he wasn’t the centre of attention (he does this every occasion). I didn’t have to make Mother’s Day special as they’re not mine yet I try to celebrate her any chance I get, but her kids fuck it up so hard it crushes me! I never had a mom so I don’t know a mother’s love but stepping on your partner and denying it to make your kids look better isn’t it.
I want to step back and just take care of myself and her….she’s already stated that parenting comes first for her, cool. Yet never gave our relationship second or third on that podium, so I let her parent while I focus on us and upkeep of the house yet in all this time she’s not parenting the kids in responsible youth. And I found out the hard way yesterday.
So, how can back off and set boundaries without getting attacked, I would like to not clean up after the kids (wrappers, toys and random garbage everywhere) also confront her about taking everything out our relationship and giving it to them yet somehow I see no change…..? Or am I just crazy?

I just finished watching newsradio (great 90s sitcom with a well-done will they won’t they) and than I binged selfie over the weekend. I was wondering if anyone has any recs that are similar to selfie. Just lighthearted but romantic and not toxic (I am upset the cancellation meant nothing happened on screen but fanfic to the rescue).
I love new girl, liked baby daddy, young & hungry, younger and lovesick; I thought many other short lived shows had decent romance too (merry happy whatever and pretty smart).
I thought I’d never love a romance again outside of dramas since they can be even more toxic in sitcoms to keep it entertaining (cheers and the Mindy project for example) but selfie was so so good and sweet.
I have seen and liked some barely romantic sitcoms like derry girls and Frasier and I wouldn’t say romance is even the focus on newsradio or Santa Clarita diet so comedies with romance as opposed to romantic comedy type shows are still aprecaited.
Others I’ve seen but didn’t work for me include starstruck (I think it was too realistic in the filming; I like plus one as a film for example but could do without the scene where she talks from the toilet), that 70s show (I’m convinced everyone hates each other on this show and the men give nothing to the women), and himym which I know would piss me off.
Any similar recommendations would be greatly appreciated (maybe list how it’s similar too). Thank you so much as I’ve already found many new favorite films from this sub as well.

There are so many people who are mentally ill and disabled or neurodivergent and are really struggling on earth wondering why when it could all be solved by their parents telling them that all is not well.
It’s really a disservice to not tell people that their problems so that they can get the tools and support they need to be successful. Today I met a guy who is clearly ID and couldn’t put 2&2 together. Something was super off and I was a bit taken aback. I thought he was high- which he probably was tbh.
I asked him how far in school he had gone and he said 8th grade. I asked him whether he had any diagonoses and he said no. I asked him if he had been in special Ed and he said Yes, for 4 years coz he was “learning English”. He’s a white American whose mum was born here. I asked him whether he had a TBI and he said no. But nothing he said made sense. Also he’s a young new father and having loads of trouble in his relationship as a dad and baby daddy. I also suspect they are abusing each other in various ways- the adults not the baby.
Come to find out after weeks of searches, he has Klinefelter syndrome. His mum knows but he has no idea. The child is very likely not his and is also medically fragile. It’s a shit show. Even if he leaves her, he’s gonna be on the hook for child support, which he absolutely can’t provide for in this day and age and will probably fall behind and go to jail. He also apparently has 2 other children in 2 previous relationships 👀? His Mum doesn’t appear to know either and apparently and has accepted the child… I’m so confused as to what to even do. No paternity tests have been done.
All this imho could have been prevented by the parents accepting their son as he was, teaching him about his diagnosis, and then helping him prepare better for his life. The man is frustrated and confused about almost everything.
TLDR- hiding diagnoses from kids does more harm than good.