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2024.05.14 12:24 OutThere_2044 My town's pine forest has a secret... [Part 1]
I ended up buying a house at the edge of this town.... before i knew all the bullshit that was goin' on around here. Got bored and went down to the local sheriff Jack and asked about an opening, Didn't even fill out an application, got the job on the spot. For the first few months it was the usual, speeding tickets, drunk and disorderly, normal shit right? Well... let the fuckery commence....
I had been a deputy for 7 months when one of the local farmers called in and reported he had some animals killed last night and wanted someone to come out to his house. John Nixon was a 60 year old farmer who lived by himself. His wife passed away years ago, but he never remarried and they never had kids. We met one day at the local tackle shop. Me being new in town, he took me to some of the good fishin' spots. The man was a huge military history buff and would always ask about my time in. I thought I knew him personally, so i took the call.
As I rolled up to the gate on his property, I saw John standing at the gate with a shotgun. " Hey john, can I ask why you are standing there with that cannon in your hands?" No response, he just stared at me. "John! put that damn shotgun down!!" I yelled. Its like he snapped to out of a trance. "Mason, i need you to come round the back side of the house to the barn, now!" he snapped.
"OK, OK, let me get outta the car and grab some gear." I said opening the car door. While i was grabbing my gear, John was standing there with his eyes scanning the tree line. "Come on mason! you need to see this!" He said heading towards the back. I closed the trunk and started walking over in his direction.
"So what the hell is going on that's got you walking around here with that damn bazooka?" No response, he just keeps walking and scanning the tree line. We finally got to the back of his house where the barn is. It looked like a horror movie in that pen.
"What the fuck happened here!?!" I said covering my mouth. There were pieces of chickens and goats everywhere, a few pigs looked like they had been filleted. "Its back mason, after all these years" John mumbled. "John what the hell are you talking about? what did this?" I asked.
John took his eyes off the tree line and looked me dead in the face. "Your not from here so you dont know." "Know what man? what are you saying?" I asked getting annoyed now. "Years ago this same thing happened to a few guys I know. All of their livestock had been killed. Not killed and eatin', just killed. It got people 'round here up in arms. Well, a few of us got together and decieded we were gonna look for whatever did it" he said. "What the hell are you telling me john?" I interrupted. "There were four of us. We were young, thought we were bullet proof. We went out into the woods one morning, determined to find the damn thing that had been killing our animals.
Tommy was the first to say something. "Hey, did you guys hear that?". The rest of us didnt hear a thing, so we kept moving. We got about three miles deep into the old pine forest at the edge of town. Will was the next to say something, "WHAT THE FUCK?!" he yelled out while looking down at the mud. We ran over to where he was standing to find him wide eyed. "I dont know what the actual fuck did this, but we..we need to go and I mean right fucking now!!!" he said pointing. This track was huge, at least 14 inches long with huge claws. Gerald spoke up "Let's fuckin' go guys!!".
We started back tracking out of the area, when we were stopped cold in our tracks, we all heard it this time. It was coming from everywhere and nowhere at the same damn time. A sickening, shrieking laugh was coming from all around us. We panicked and starting runnin'. As soon as we did that, whatever was making that noise centered as if right behind us, and it was coming fast, ungodly fast" John said eyeing the remains of a chicken that was torn apart.
"We were about a mile from the trucks when I heard a thud and a scream, when i looked back Gerald wasn't there. Will and tommy were right behind me, terror all over their faces. Tommy pulled his pistol and started shooting backwards. Only one shot rang out before something tackled him and Will. I stopped, raising my rifle, but they had already been torn apart. It was seconds, and they were in shreds" John said.
"Mason, what i saw standing over their shredded bodies has haunted me since then. The fucking thing was nine feet tall, shaped like a man, but not. Its skin, or or scales was a mixture of black and grey and it looked slimy. It looked like a damn bodybuilder with hugh claw like hands. Its head was massive, with what looked like horns coming from the jaw to around the chin. Its eyes, glowed bright green in the middle of the fucking day, and it had a mouth full of fucked up jagged teeth." He said lowering his head.
"I jus.. just stood there, waitng for my turn. This thing paced back and fourth, staring at me, with this creepy damn smile. It looked down at Will and Tommy, then it looked back up at me. My heart almost stopped when it pointed and shook its head at me. It started making that shrieking laugh as it grabbed what was left of my friends in each giant claw and walked off into the woods, still fucking laughing. I fell to my knees as it vanished into the trees."
I stood there, thinking he lost his damn mind. John had stopped talking, he had this way off look in his eyes. "John..., john.., JOHN!!" his eyes snapped back to mine. "So what are you telling me? A nine foot creature with claws killed your friends and animals?!" I half mocked. "Yea.... thats what i'm telling you. Its back for me, i know it." "What makes you think it was this thing you say killed your friends? It could have been coyotes" I asked " I know mason, i heard that same horrible shrieking laugh in the woods behind the barn last night."
Now I’ve heard some real bullshit in my time, especially during my time in the contracting field... But this was the most out there shit I had ever heard.
"Alright, alright... let's just take a big ass step backwards. I need to wrap my head around all of this." I said takin a deep breath. John laid the shotgun down to his side. "I'm telling you the truth mason. i'm too old and tired to lie about shit" he said shrugging. I looked deep into this man’s eyes. When I did, I saw something that told me this was the absolute truth as he knew it. " You haven’t given me any reason to doubt you... but fuck man... this is hard to swallow. I need proof John, that's the way this works." A look of frustration washed over his weathered face.
"Proof?! you want proof huh? follow me" John groaned.
He started walking towards the tress behind the barn. As we got closer to the trees, I started to smell rusty copper. Blood I thought out loud. John raised his shotgun as we walked closer. That damn gun had to be illegal, but this wasn’t the time for that. Him raising that gun made me a lil' uneasy, so I pulled my Glock 9mm out and flipped the safety off.
John owned about 90 acres, most of it unkept. A lot of the land was behind the barn which butted up to a state forest. We took about 12 steps into the wood line when the smell of death hit me like a brick. "I'm taking you to where I heard the noise coming from last night... your PROOF is out there Mason" He said with a slight edge to it.
We walked almost a hundred yards into the woods when john stopped in front of a tree. It looked twisted and warped all the way to its top. I stepped around John and saw huge claw marks cut deep all the way around the base of the tree, it's hard to even call it that. "What the hell is this?" I said looking up. "This is a marker, it's territory starts here" John replied. I looked at john like he was crazy, which at this point I thought he was. "This thing travels throughout these woods. I've found five more of these trees in our town" he said putting a hand on the tree.
"This isn’t telling me anything John, just that you've got a weird ass tree on your property" I said back to him. "Do you hear that?" So we could move this mess forward, I stopped talking and just listened. I hadn't noticed that during our walk into the woods it had got quiet, and I mean not one sound. " What the hell? where did all the animals go?" I asked looking around. "They're scared mason... you should be too. Let's get back to the house."
We turned and started making our way out of the woods. We were damn near the tree line when I heard a snap. I turned around, gun raised to see a black streak dart back deeper into the woods. "What the fuck was that?!" All John said was "we need to leave, now!" We turned and started sprinting the rest of the way out of the woods. I was surprised at how fast john was for an old man. We got all the way back to my patrol car. "I don't know what that was, but I don't think you should stay here tonight John. Pack some stuff and come to my place" I said pointing my gun at the trees. John just let out a sigh as if frustrated and defeated.
"You weren't listenin'. The pine forest, these trees, it’s all connected. I’m talkin’ bout before this area was even inhabited by native peoples. This fucking thing has been around for a very long time. I have been looking into this since that day, I had to find out what it was and if it can be killed" he tried to explain. The whole time john was talking I had my eyes and weapon pointed at the trees. " You can put that down mason, it just wanted you to know it's here" He said.
"John, I to need process this shit. I've never seen or heard anything like this and to be straight with you, I’m at a loss right now" I said opening the trunk. "I get it, I get it. The sheriff jack was a deputy back then. When you see him... tell him I said the dark is here..." And with that, he just turned his back and walked back into his house not saying another word.
I got back in the car and sat there. Looking at the treeline. After a few minutes I went back to the station. I must've walked in with that universal what the fuck look on my face, because Cathy the clerk asked what was wrong with me. I told her I was fine and asked if she had seen the sheriff? "Yeah, he is in the gun cage. Are you sure you’re ok Mason?" She asked again.
"Yeah, I'm good, just need to talk to Jack." I started walking towards the back of the building, when Jack came around the corner. "Hey mason, what's up?" he says walking up to me. "I just got back from John's house." The look on his face completely changed. "He had a bunch of animals killed last night. It looked like a slaughterhouse. He told me to tell you the dark was back?" I told him noticing his reaction.
Jack stiffened up and not saying a word gestured for me to follow him towards the back security door. We headed towards the back and out the door. Jack had stopped to make sure the door was secure then pointed at his truck and said "get in."
After getting in he looked over "I need some coffee" then started the truck up and headed west out of the parking lot towards the coffee shop. He ordered a large black coffee with extra sugar then asked if I wanted one. "I'll take a small black, no sugar." We pulled out and headed east back past the station. We ended up driving towards the edge of the county. "What's going on and why are we heading way the hell out here?" I looked at jack and said.
Jack just took a long sip of his coffee then placed it back in the holder.
After a long breath "You want some answers about what happened at Johns' house... I’m sure he told you about a few other things about this town... well we're gonna go get you some answers" He said looking at a black sedan passing in the opposite direction. "Aight so, like you mason, I’m not from here either. I was a trooper in New York for a few years before I came down here. I resigned after a call to an old couple’s house" He said reaching for his cup. "My partner Jake and I responded to what was thought to be an animal attack. We were the first on the scene, having been a couple miles away lookin' for speeders.
When we rolled up an older woman came running over to the cruiser. She had a panicked look on her face and just kept repeating "they're dead, they're dead!!" We hopped out and sat her in the back of the car then asked what happened. "I...I... came over to talk to gloria and... and I saw the door open. I walked in yelling her and Alan’s name, but they didn't answer... I found them upstairs... it's horrible!!" She said sobbing. Jake and I drew our weapons and started making the move inside. Like the witness said the front door was open, so we moved in. It smelled like sulfur and blood when we entered. We started clearing rooms. The first floor was clear, so we made our way up the steps.
The smell was overpowering now. We cleared the bathroom, and the two smaller rooms were clear also. The door to the master bedroom was slightly opened. I motioned to Jake and we hit the door.... it looked like some movie shit!! I kid you not. Jake turned and went back into the hallway and threw up. I stepped into the room and... listen I had never seen anything like this before" Jack stammered out.
"These two people were in shreds on the bed, they're insides had been yanked out and thrown around the fucking room. After looking at the bodies I noticed these huge claw marks in the wall, I’m talking if Andre the giant had had a Krueger glove. I stepped back out of the room and radioed to dispatch that we needed more units. I walked back to the front door where Jake was standing hunched over looking out of it.
Parked outside were 3 black SUVs and a black sedan. I counted 11 men dressed in black tactical military gear, some with a type of rifle I had never seen before, but you could tell it was large caliber. The rest with SMG weapons. When i looked over towards the patrol car, one of the men had the door opened and was talking to the witness. He saw us and started our way. He was dressed in all black too and carried what looked like a desert eagle in a chest holster.
When he got closer I got a better look at him. He looked to be in his late 40's with salt and pepper colored hair and a big ass scar that ran down the right side of his face. He got about ten feet from the steps "We appreciate the assistance, but you are no longer needed" He said in deep voice. As he is saying this, one of the other guys escorts the witness out of our car and into the back of that sedan.
The guy started walking away from us "Who are you? and what the fuck is going on?" I yelled at him. He turned with a look on his face that you only see in movies then took a few steps towards us. "Your command has been informed and you are to leave now!" He said raising his hand up towards that holstered pistol. Jake looked at me and shook his head "fuck it, let's go, let them deal with that mess upstairs" he said still coughing then started heading towards the car. I followed him down the steps... looking this guy up and down, checking out the vehicles... for anything that might tell me who we were dealing with.
The only thing I saw was on the assholes uniform... there was a patch on his shoulder. It was an all-black diamond with a weird looking black M in the middle on it. The guy stared us down until we were in the car driving away. He had that pistol in his hand and the other men starting moving into the house. Jake and I didn’t say a word until the radio squawked and we were told to head back to the barracks.
When we got there, we were told to report to the troop commander’s office. Commander Thompson was sitting in his office along with a man in a nice 2-piece suit. The man in the suit stood there quietly while Thompson told us that we never responded to any call out to that farmhouse, and that this was the first and only time he would say it. With that, he dismissed us and and we walked out. The shit didn’t sit well with me, and I ended up resigning a few months later.
I came down here and then that shit in the woods happened. I was on the scene, I saw the claw marks. They looked just like the ones in New York, and the same damn trucks showed up with different personnel. I knew just to shut up and walk away, and after making that choice I have had a pretty good career here." he finished grabbing his cup out of the holder.
My brain was in overdrive. I was just about to completely question bomb jack when he said, "We're here." He pulled off onto this overgrown driveway and drove for about a quarter mile. We pulled up to an old two-story house that looked like it was in ruins... but the lights were on. "Where the hell are we?" I asked As the last word of that question left my mouth, the front door of the house opened... standing in the doorway was a old man, dressed in weathered black clothing. Jack leaned over to me "You wanted answers... well.... there they are."
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I had been a deputy for 7 months when one of the local farmers called in and reported he had some animals killed last night and wanted someone to come out to his house. John Nixon was a 60 year old farmer who lived by himself. His wife passed away years ago, but he never remarried and they never had kids. We met one day at the local tackle shop. Me being new in town, he took me to some of the good fishin' spots. The man was a huge military history buff and would always ask about my time in. I thought I knew him personally, so i took the call.
As I rolled up to the gate on his property, I saw John standing at the gate with a shotgun. " Hey john, can I ask why you are standing there with that cannon in your hands?" No response, he just stared at me. "John! put that damn shotgun down!!" I yelled. Its like he snapped to out of a trance. "Mason, i need you to come round the back side of the house to the barn, now!" he snapped.
"OK, OK, let me get outta the car and grab some gear." I said opening the car door. While i was grabbing my gear, John was standing there with his eyes scanning the tree line. "Come on mason! you need to see this!" He said heading towards the back. I closed the trunk and started walking over in his direction.
"So what the hell is going on that's got you walking around here with that damn bazooka?" No response, he just keeps walking and scanning the tree line. We finally got to the back of his house where the barn is. It looked like a horror movie in that pen.
"What the fuck happened here!?!" I said covering my mouth. There were pieces of chickens and goats everywhere, a few pigs looked like they had been filleted. "Its back mason, after all these years" John mumbled. "John what the hell are you talking about? what did this?" I asked.
John took his eyes off the tree line and looked me dead in the face. "Your not from here so you dont know." "Know what man? what are you saying?" I asked getting annoyed now. "Years ago this same thing happened to a few guys I know. All of their livestock had been killed. Not killed and eatin', just killed. It got people 'round here up in arms. Well, a few of us got together and decieded we were gonna look for whatever did it" he said. "What the hell are you telling me john?" I interrupted. "There were four of us. We were young, thought we were bullet proof. We went out into the woods one morning, determined to find the damn thing that had been killing our animals.
Tommy was the first to say something. "Hey, did you guys hear that?". The rest of us didnt hear a thing, so we kept moving. We got about three miles deep into the old pine forest at the edge of town. Will was the next to say something, "WHAT THE FUCK?!" he yelled out while looking down at the mud. We ran over to where he was standing to find him wide eyed. "I dont know what the actual fuck did this, but we..we need to go and I mean right fucking now!!!" he said pointing. This track was huge, at least 14 inches long with huge claws. Gerald spoke up "Let's fuckin' go guys!!".
We started back tracking out of the area, when we were stopped cold in our tracks, we all heard it this time. It was coming from everywhere and nowhere at the same damn time. A sickening, shrieking laugh was coming from all around us. We panicked and starting runnin'. As soon as we did that, whatever was making that noise centered as if right behind us, and it was coming fast, ungodly fast" John said eyeing the remains of a chicken that was torn apart.
"We were about a mile from the trucks when I heard a thud and a scream, when i looked back Gerald wasn't there. Will and tommy were right behind me, terror all over their faces. Tommy pulled his pistol and started shooting backwards. Only one shot rang out before something tackled him and Will. I stopped, raising my rifle, but they had already been torn apart. It was seconds, and they were in shreds" John said.
"Mason, what i saw standing over their shredded bodies has haunted me since then. The fucking thing was nine feet tall, shaped like a man, but not. Its skin, or or scales was a mixture of black and grey and it looked slimy. It looked like a damn bodybuilder with hugh claw like hands. Its head was massive, with what looked like horns coming from the jaw to around the chin. Its eyes, glowed bright green in the middle of the fucking day, and it had a mouth full of fucked up jagged teeth." He said lowering his head.
"I jus.. just stood there, waitng for my turn. This thing paced back and fourth, staring at me, with this creepy damn smile. It looked down at Will and Tommy, then it looked back up at me. My heart almost stopped when it pointed and shook its head at me. It started making that shrieking laugh as it grabbed what was left of my friends in each giant claw and walked off into the woods, still fucking laughing. I fell to my knees as it vanished into the trees."
I stood there, thinking he lost his damn mind. John had stopped talking, he had this way off look in his eyes. "John..., john.., JOHN!!" his eyes snapped back to mine. "So what are you telling me? A nine foot creature with claws killed your friends and animals?!" I half mocked. "Yea.... thats what i'm telling you. Its back for me, i know it." "What makes you think it was this thing you say killed your friends? It could have been coyotes" I asked " I know mason, i heard that same horrible shrieking laugh in the woods behind the barn last night."
Now I’ve heard some real bullshit in my time, especially during my time in the contracting field... But this was the most out there shit I had ever heard.
"Alright, alright... let's just take a big ass step backwards. I need to wrap my head around all of this." I said takin a deep breath. John laid the shotgun down to his side. "I'm telling you the truth mason. i'm too old and tired to lie about shit" he said shrugging. I looked deep into this man’s eyes. When I did, I saw something that told me this was the absolute truth as he knew it. " You haven’t given me any reason to doubt you... but fuck man... this is hard to swallow. I need proof John, that's the way this works." A look of frustration washed over his weathered face.
"Proof?! you want proof huh? follow me" John groaned.
He started walking towards the tress behind the barn. As we got closer to the trees, I started to smell rusty copper. Blood I thought out loud. John raised his shotgun as we walked closer. That damn gun had to be illegal, but this wasn’t the time for that. Him raising that gun made me a lil' uneasy, so I pulled my Glock 9mm out and flipped the safety off.
John owned about 90 acres, most of it unkept. A lot of the land was behind the barn which butted up to a state forest. We took about 12 steps into the wood line when the smell of death hit me like a brick. "I'm taking you to where I heard the noise coming from last night... your PROOF is out there Mason" He said with a slight edge to it.
We walked almost a hundred yards into the woods when john stopped in front of a tree. It looked twisted and warped all the way to its top. I stepped around John and saw huge claw marks cut deep all the way around the base of the tree, it's hard to even call it that. "What the hell is this?" I said looking up. "This is a marker, it's territory starts here" John replied. I looked at john like he was crazy, which at this point I thought he was. "This thing travels throughout these woods. I've found five more of these trees in our town" he said putting a hand on the tree.
"This isn’t telling me anything John, just that you've got a weird ass tree on your property" I said back to him. "Do you hear that?" So we could move this mess forward, I stopped talking and just listened. I hadn't noticed that during our walk into the woods it had got quiet, and I mean not one sound. " What the hell? where did all the animals go?" I asked looking around. "They're scared mason... you should be too. Let's get back to the house."
We turned and started making our way out of the woods. We were damn near the tree line when I heard a snap. I turned around, gun raised to see a black streak dart back deeper into the woods. "What the fuck was that?!" All John said was "we need to leave, now!" We turned and started sprinting the rest of the way out of the woods. I was surprised at how fast john was for an old man. We got all the way back to my patrol car. "I don't know what that was, but I don't think you should stay here tonight John. Pack some stuff and come to my place" I said pointing my gun at the trees. John just let out a sigh as if frustrated and defeated.
"You weren't listenin'. The pine forest, these trees, it’s all connected. I’m talkin’ bout before this area was even inhabited by native peoples. This fucking thing has been around for a very long time. I have been looking into this since that day, I had to find out what it was and if it can be killed" he tried to explain. The whole time john was talking I had my eyes and weapon pointed at the trees. " You can put that down mason, it just wanted you to know it's here" He said.
"John, I to need process this shit. I've never seen or heard anything like this and to be straight with you, I’m at a loss right now" I said opening the trunk. "I get it, I get it. The sheriff jack was a deputy back then. When you see him... tell him I said the dark is here..." And with that, he just turned his back and walked back into his house not saying another word.
I got back in the car and sat there. Looking at the treeline. After a few minutes I went back to the station. I must've walked in with that universal what the fuck look on my face, because Cathy the clerk asked what was wrong with me. I told her I was fine and asked if she had seen the sheriff? "Yeah, he is in the gun cage. Are you sure you’re ok Mason?" She asked again.
"Yeah, I'm good, just need to talk to Jack." I started walking towards the back of the building, when Jack came around the corner. "Hey mason, what's up?" he says walking up to me. "I just got back from John's house." The look on his face completely changed. "He had a bunch of animals killed last night. It looked like a slaughterhouse. He told me to tell you the dark was back?" I told him noticing his reaction.
Jack stiffened up and not saying a word gestured for me to follow him towards the back security door. We headed towards the back and out the door. Jack had stopped to make sure the door was secure then pointed at his truck and said "get in."
After getting in he looked over "I need some coffee" then started the truck up and headed west out of the parking lot towards the coffee shop. He ordered a large black coffee with extra sugar then asked if I wanted one. "I'll take a small black, no sugar." We pulled out and headed east back past the station. We ended up driving towards the edge of the county. "What's going on and why are we heading way the hell out here?" I looked at jack and said.
Jack just took a long sip of his coffee then placed it back in the holder.
After a long breath "You want some answers about what happened at Johns' house... I’m sure he told you about a few other things about this town... well we're gonna go get you some answers" He said looking at a black sedan passing in the opposite direction. "Aight so, like you mason, I’m not from here either. I was a trooper in New York for a few years before I came down here. I resigned after a call to an old couple’s house" He said reaching for his cup. "My partner Jake and I responded to what was thought to be an animal attack. We were the first on the scene, having been a couple miles away lookin' for speeders.
When we rolled up an older woman came running over to the cruiser. She had a panicked look on her face and just kept repeating "they're dead, they're dead!!" We hopped out and sat her in the back of the car then asked what happened. "I...I... came over to talk to gloria and... and I saw the door open. I walked in yelling her and Alan’s name, but they didn't answer... I found them upstairs... it's horrible!!" She said sobbing. Jake and I drew our weapons and started making the move inside. Like the witness said the front door was open, so we moved in. It smelled like sulfur and blood when we entered. We started clearing rooms. The first floor was clear, so we made our way up the steps.
The smell was overpowering now. We cleared the bathroom, and the two smaller rooms were clear also. The door to the master bedroom was slightly opened. I motioned to Jake and we hit the door.... it looked like some movie shit!! I kid you not. Jake turned and went back into the hallway and threw up. I stepped into the room and... listen I had never seen anything like this before" Jack stammered out.
"These two people were in shreds on the bed, they're insides had been yanked out and thrown around the fucking room. After looking at the bodies I noticed these huge claw marks in the wall, I’m talking if Andre the giant had had a Krueger glove. I stepped back out of the room and radioed to dispatch that we needed more units. I walked back to the front door where Jake was standing hunched over looking out of it.
Parked outside were 3 black SUVs and a black sedan. I counted 11 men dressed in black tactical military gear, some with a type of rifle I had never seen before, but you could tell it was large caliber. The rest with SMG weapons. When i looked over towards the patrol car, one of the men had the door opened and was talking to the witness. He saw us and started our way. He was dressed in all black too and carried what looked like a desert eagle in a chest holster.
When he got closer I got a better look at him. He looked to be in his late 40's with salt and pepper colored hair and a big ass scar that ran down the right side of his face. He got about ten feet from the steps "We appreciate the assistance, but you are no longer needed" He said in deep voice. As he is saying this, one of the other guys escorts the witness out of our car and into the back of that sedan.
The guy started walking away from us "Who are you? and what the fuck is going on?" I yelled at him. He turned with a look on his face that you only see in movies then took a few steps towards us. "Your command has been informed and you are to leave now!" He said raising his hand up towards that holstered pistol. Jake looked at me and shook his head "fuck it, let's go, let them deal with that mess upstairs" he said still coughing then started heading towards the car. I followed him down the steps... looking this guy up and down, checking out the vehicles... for anything that might tell me who we were dealing with.
The only thing I saw was on the assholes uniform... there was a patch on his shoulder. It was an all-black diamond with a weird looking black M in the middle on it. The guy stared us down until we were in the car driving away. He had that pistol in his hand and the other men starting moving into the house. Jake and I didn’t say a word until the radio squawked and we were told to head back to the barracks.
When we got there, we were told to report to the troop commander’s office. Commander Thompson was sitting in his office along with a man in a nice 2-piece suit. The man in the suit stood there quietly while Thompson told us that we never responded to any call out to that farmhouse, and that this was the first and only time he would say it. With that, he dismissed us and and we walked out. The shit didn’t sit well with me, and I ended up resigning a few months later.
I came down here and then that shit in the woods happened. I was on the scene, I saw the claw marks. They looked just like the ones in New York, and the same damn trucks showed up with different personnel. I knew just to shut up and walk away, and after making that choice I have had a pretty good career here." he finished grabbing his cup out of the holder.
My brain was in overdrive. I was just about to completely question bomb jack when he said, "We're here." He pulled off onto this overgrown driveway and drove for about a quarter mile. We pulled up to an old two-story house that looked like it was in ruins... but the lights were on. "Where the hell are we?" I asked As the last word of that question left my mouth, the front door of the house opened... standing in the doorway was a old man, dressed in weathered black clothing. Jack leaned over to me "You wanted answers... well.... there they are."
2024.05.14 12:23 Bitmandoo The government and their policies in regards to crypto is the world's worst policy.
Government : Hey crypto users, We will tax you flat 30% income tax, you won't be able to offset loss, and we will deduct 1% TDS on every transaction, plus 4% surcharges and regular GST law will also apply.
Crypto user : But why don't you reduce 1% TDS to 0.001% or even lower , TDS is only for tracking who is involved in crypto isn't it ?
Government : Yes its for tracking but we want death of crypto in this country so we are using this method of 1% TDS and 30% flat income tax and no offset of laws.
Crypto user : But why can't we offset loss ?
Government : Because people can wash trade, buy NFT for high price, sell them to their own another anonymous wallet at low price and show it loss, so people will have gap to avoid taxes.
Crypto user : But don't you think if a person is determined to avoid taxes, and are at a higher powerful place, that person will use different legal/illegal methods to avoid taxes anyhow isn't it ? why because of some people's probable avoidance of tax causes you to impose this draconian tax law to regular users, we have users whose home runs on crypto basic income from airdrops, yields, swing trades , etc., these are not rich people, if you don't let them offset loss, it will stop their household's food. Aren't you worried about creating more unemployment ? you are not being able to generate employment, and whereas a user by its own merits is creating their own employment, you want to destroy that too ?
Government : Ya, we are like that. We give you 5kg of free food, be happy with that. We ain't giving you employment, neither we are going to let you do your own employment that doesn't give benefit to us.
Crypto user : I hope things become better, I will pay 1 % TDS, and 30 % flat income tax. But can you assure my safety ? My bank account has been frozen even though I traded on FIU registered exchange, I just used P2P .
Government : Na you solve that yourself, We didn't say you to deal in crypto, your account freeze is your issue, fuck off.
Crypto user : Sir, the indian exchange registered in India is not letting me withdraw my money since 1.5 years, the exchange name is "B*****" , at least help me get my money back, won't you take action against that person ?
Government : Na they gave us some money and now the owners of that exchange is planning to go abroad and settle, we will turn a blind eye on this, once that person reaches abroad safely and is enjoying then we will act like we are doing something.
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Crypto user : But why don't you reduce 1% TDS to 0.001% or even lower , TDS is only for tracking who is involved in crypto isn't it ?
Government : Yes its for tracking but we want death of crypto in this country so we are using this method of 1% TDS and 30% flat income tax and no offset of laws.
Crypto user : But why can't we offset loss ?
Government : Because people can wash trade, buy NFT for high price, sell them to their own another anonymous wallet at low price and show it loss, so people will have gap to avoid taxes.
Crypto user : But don't you think if a person is determined to avoid taxes, and are at a higher powerful place, that person will use different legal/illegal methods to avoid taxes anyhow isn't it ? why because of some people's probable avoidance of tax causes you to impose this draconian tax law to regular users, we have users whose home runs on crypto basic income from airdrops, yields, swing trades , etc., these are not rich people, if you don't let them offset loss, it will stop their household's food. Aren't you worried about creating more unemployment ? you are not being able to generate employment, and whereas a user by its own merits is creating their own employment, you want to destroy that too ?
Government : Ya, we are like that. We give you 5kg of free food, be happy with that. We ain't giving you employment, neither we are going to let you do your own employment that doesn't give benefit to us.
Crypto user : I hope things become better, I will pay 1 % TDS, and 30 % flat income tax. But can you assure my safety ? My bank account has been frozen even though I traded on FIU registered exchange, I just used P2P .
Government : Na you solve that yourself, We didn't say you to deal in crypto, your account freeze is your issue, fuck off.
Crypto user : Sir, the indian exchange registered in India is not letting me withdraw my money since 1.5 years, the exchange name is "B*****" , at least help me get my money back, won't you take action against that person ?
Government : Na they gave us some money and now the owners of that exchange is planning to go abroad and settle, we will turn a blind eye on this, once that person reaches abroad safely and is enjoying then we will act like we are doing something.
2024.05.14 12:22 Vee_Olet INFJ date: Is this guy interested romantically?
TL,DR: IS THIS A DATE 😭😭🙏 please help confirm I'm not just being DELULU *A continuation of this post: https://www.reddit.com/infj/comments/1cpmneq/is_this_infj_asking_me_out_is_he_interested_in_me/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share Hi!!! Entp Gurlie here, back again with a date update??? So the date went well, he arrived exactly 10 minutes late, but I chalked it up to the unpredictable traffic...
Please INFJs I want to know if this is actually a date, or just a hangout to him. 1. I offered a walk next to the lake but he was pretty hesitant and asked to sit pottery painting, which checks out INFJs hesitancy towards surprises lmao.
All this to say, my deductions lead me to believe he has feelings for me but doesn't intend to pursue them because of future, and is willing to spend whatever time in the present he can with me. Esp if you take determinism (his special interest) into account.
INFJs, please help this helplessly infatuated ENTP gurlie out 😭🙏🙏🙏 I know this is such a long read, but I accidentally fell in love with one of you and I'm worried my feelings aren't reciprocated.
Thank you for reading this far, I'll be so grateful if anyone can help.
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Please INFJs I want to know if this is actually a date, or just a hangout to him. 1. I offered a walk next to the lake but he was pretty hesitant and asked to sit pottery painting, which checks out INFJs hesitancy towards surprises lmao.
- And he dressed casually, in white tee and pants, so I felt a bit overdressed cause I had makeup on, in a sundress and he didn't clarify if it was a date or not. As for any solace, I noticed when I turned my back he aggressively tried to fix his hair.... and he couldn't even look at me at first, so I felt kind of bad inside but didn't show it. Just acted a bit anxious at first, i think.
- We ended up talking about philosophy, like, straight away. He seems to base his life ish and his attitude towards life on philosophies (determinism atp), typical INFJ behaviour lmao. He presented it at first in the most objective, factual way possible, and I was bemused and wanted to find out how HE actually feels about it himself. Had to coax it out of him how conflicted or resigned at first he was, and what's his thoughts on it. He went from presenting factually to speaking "I feel, I think..." To even "I don't know WHO I am!" In a sort of heartfelt way. And then the convo smoothly flowed towards art, and religion and I managed to make him laugh a bunch of times. Once specifically he threw his head back and laughed. And I felt so proud of myself lol, like YES! A proper laugh from him! Cus he doesn't emote all that often. And he ran along with that joke and added some sarcastic remarks to it. I added a bunch of perspectives that had him confused and unprepared to answer with my crazy Ne, adding logical implications to his thought experiments. I hope I didnt put him off with the new perspectives...
- Emoting and feeling: The more the date goes on, the more he emotes and seems himself. At first he was kind of factual and objective (I'd say passive and a bit emotionless), but as time went on he became a lot more comfortable and joked and became more emotive. Even if it's not romantic, I think he enjoyed this. And I'm SO glad. But in my mind my curiosity demands an answer of the nature of this rendezvous!!! 😭🙏🙏
- We never actually talked about any feelings, romantically and personally. In the sense that, he has a sort of "emotions are just temporary" and that's almost all he has to say about feelings at first.
- We talked abd enjoyed it to the point where a lot of times we weren't painting to focus on the thinking and talking. As such, we couldnt finish the statue. So he asked me if I wanted to finish it anf give it to him later to bring home, and when I refused adamantly, he said "We can finish this together next time then? Is that okay?" And we left it at the shop, and he told the shopkeeper to add his number, to which he did, so I think it's not casual airy suggestion.
All this to say, my deductions lead me to believe he has feelings for me but doesn't intend to pursue them because of future, and is willing to spend whatever time in the present he can with me. Esp if you take determinism (his special interest) into account.
INFJs, please help this helplessly infatuated ENTP gurlie out 😭🙏🙏🙏 I know this is such a long read, but I accidentally fell in love with one of you and I'm worried my feelings aren't reciprocated.
Thank you for reading this far, I'll be so grateful if anyone can help.
2024.05.14 12:21 LadyDairhean Generations
The Great Depression had a significant and lasting impact on society, especially in the Dust Bowl states. Oklahoma suffered the worst and is still suffering from its effects. The stock market crashed in 1929. This was 11 years after the end of WWI when a lot of working age men were killed. My father was 19 years old. Children age 4 and older had to go to work in the fields harvesting and hoeing weeds. My maternal grandmother who was born in 1932 cut broomcorn and picked cotton by hand. The International Harvester for cotton was invented in 1940, but only came into widespread use by 1970. The broomcorn industry died out in 1980. Older boys age 11 and up went to work in sawmills and the trades. Watch the movie Walk the Line. Johnny Cash’s older brother of 14 was almost cut vertically in half when he slipped and was cut through the sternum by a large saw blade. Can you imagine being that young and handling dangerous machinery with no safety equipment? Safety equipment didn’t exist back then and neither did child labor laws. Those old Boomer children worked just as hard as adults to help feed their families. They were punished for playing. They had to suck it up and endure extreme hardship just to eat and they ate very little. Everyone was starving and filthy. There was as no indoor plumbing, no electricity and no air conditioning. I watched my grandmother work from sun up to exhaustion and she slept in her clothes. When she died, her bra strap hooks were rusted from sweat because she never removed it, meaning she hadn’t bathed in decades. She was 4-8” and wore a child size medium. She was conditioned to hard work and starvation. She and her family including my mother never overcame the effects of the Depression. She was functionally illiterate despite graduating high school in 1948.
Education stopped at third-fourth grade for the average child because parents were extremely poor and couldn’t afford to pay for schooling. School was different then. Teachers lived in a teacherage provided by the school district and earned a living stipend from the state to teach grades 1-4 how to read, write, sign their names, cipher, count money and read a watch. That was the extent of free education. Advanced learning after 4rth grade was taught by subscription very similar to private tutoring. Grades 5-7 were called grade school. Grades 7-12 were called high school. They didn’t have Junior High.
In 1935, the Second New Deal created the Works Progress / Projects Administration (WPA) to help people recover from the Depression. A lot of new schools were built during this period. Schools were funded with a combination of state aid and a tax levy called a mill collected from every resident in a school district. When Boomers say they shouldn’t have to pay a school tax because they don’t have children in school, this is what they’re referring to. They had the right to vote against a tax levy. These days, we call them temporary sales tax increases to fund things like new gym equipment. Everyone inside the school district votes on the increase and everyone inside and outside the district has to pay the sales tax if they shop at a store in the district. These no-voters will shop outside the district if the tax increase passes.
Fast forward to WWII (1939-1945) and the Korean War (1950-1953) and we see a significant decrease in school attendance that results in the closure of many rural schools. Many of this second generation of Boomers grew up in boarding schools and orphanages because their mothers couldn’t afford to feed them. This period resulted in a high population of youth being institutionalized. One of my grandmother’s sisters was raped by her uncle at age 14 and was sent to an asylum for the mentally ill. My mother (born 1952) and her sisters were taken by DHS (called CPS today) and sent to a girl’s state school after their father died of cirrhosis at the age of 42. He was a bootlegger who literally drank himself to death. Prohibition (1920-1933) was another result of the Depression. It lasted until 1952 in Oklahoma. Forced sterilization in mental institutions was outlawed in 1951 for the sake of medical study. The practice began in 1931 because the state believed that mental illness/retardation was genetic and caused by incest/inbreeding. It runs in my mother’s family so I can confirm the state was right. Mutations in the brain can be passed from mother to child.
The third generation of Boomers was born during the Vietnam War (1955-1975). I was born in 1973, so I’m technically Gen X with Boomer influences but not to the point that I’m a raging psycho. I consider those born in the 60s to be the third Boomer generation. My town lost its high school in 1968 and stopped at the eighth grade. All those who graduated from the 60s-1980 are the anti education gatekeepers of the workforce that I’m personally struggling with. These are the people who hate anyone with an education level above theirs. They’re offended by education unless you’re a doctor or a lawyer and they can use you. They are also anti-technology and refuse to use it. They are bullies who are socially enmeshed and always in your business. This generation of women married older men because men their age were fighting in a war. Or, they married wealthy men. Those women didn’t have to work and became bored housewives. I blame daytime soap operas for teaching these idiots their horrible social skills. They stayed home almost 24/7 except for when they were at the hair salon or shopping. They wore a lot of makeup too and nail polish contained formaldehyde. The amount of lead and toxic chemicals they were exposed to was very high. My mother was in this category from 1970-1980 when she divorced my father. Men who came home from the war were addicted to heroin and may have turned to cocaine, crack or meth. Many ended up homeless or hooked up with women for the welfare benefits. They were insanely abusive. Very few were able to adjust. Women who did not marry well, had to work cash jobs to support themselves and they might have qualified for USDA commodities and food stamps under Johnson’s War on Poverty (1964). We didn’t have welfare reform until 1996. My mother became an alcoholic and was addicted to amphetamines sold as diet pills in the 80s. We had pure meth from 1980 that my stepdad was addicted to and an explosion of brown meth from 1994 to the present. Almost this entire generation and my own Gen X either experimented or became addicted to meth. It affected Millennials too.
Child prostitution as a means of survival and CSA were common during the Depression because there was no law against it and it’s something society has difficulty grappling with. Oklahoma passed its first anti-child molestation law in 1945 after the end of WWII. I remember those old Boomer women saying that talk about sex was vulgar and those matters weren’t discussed. It was swept under the rug until 1990 when teens finally began to speak out. We had an explosion of violent rape and domestic violence in the 90s by Boomers and chauvinists who couldn’t bear to give up their right to sex on demand and beating women.
We got the Department of Education and mandatory attendance in 1980 so Gen X was the first generation to have a well rounded education since 1929. All the generations that came before us are jealous because we also got child labor laws and the statutory rape law. We’re the first generation that didn’t have to endure backbreaking work as children. We got easy jobs like paper routes, babysitting and mowing. As teenagers, farm kids hauled hay but that’s about as strenuous as it got. Many Gen Xers got pregnant young and had to drop out of school or couldn’t go to college. They had to get married and raise a family. I’m struggling with this portion of my generation being jealous as well.
I think Gen Z is the best generation because they are so far removed from the absolute hell that previous generations went through. They have the best education, the best social skills and are the most well adjusted of all the generations that came before them. Gen X just needs to teach ya’ll life skills and survival skills that you can hand down to Gen Alpha.
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Education stopped at third-fourth grade for the average child because parents were extremely poor and couldn’t afford to pay for schooling. School was different then. Teachers lived in a teacherage provided by the school district and earned a living stipend from the state to teach grades 1-4 how to read, write, sign their names, cipher, count money and read a watch. That was the extent of free education. Advanced learning after 4rth grade was taught by subscription very similar to private tutoring. Grades 5-7 were called grade school. Grades 7-12 were called high school. They didn’t have Junior High.
In 1935, the Second New Deal created the Works Progress / Projects Administration (WPA) to help people recover from the Depression. A lot of new schools were built during this period. Schools were funded with a combination of state aid and a tax levy called a mill collected from every resident in a school district. When Boomers say they shouldn’t have to pay a school tax because they don’t have children in school, this is what they’re referring to. They had the right to vote against a tax levy. These days, we call them temporary sales tax increases to fund things like new gym equipment. Everyone inside the school district votes on the increase and everyone inside and outside the district has to pay the sales tax if they shop at a store in the district. These no-voters will shop outside the district if the tax increase passes.
Fast forward to WWII (1939-1945) and the Korean War (1950-1953) and we see a significant decrease in school attendance that results in the closure of many rural schools. Many of this second generation of Boomers grew up in boarding schools and orphanages because their mothers couldn’t afford to feed them. This period resulted in a high population of youth being institutionalized. One of my grandmother’s sisters was raped by her uncle at age 14 and was sent to an asylum for the mentally ill. My mother (born 1952) and her sisters were taken by DHS (called CPS today) and sent to a girl’s state school after their father died of cirrhosis at the age of 42. He was a bootlegger who literally drank himself to death. Prohibition (1920-1933) was another result of the Depression. It lasted until 1952 in Oklahoma. Forced sterilization in mental institutions was outlawed in 1951 for the sake of medical study. The practice began in 1931 because the state believed that mental illness/retardation was genetic and caused by incest/inbreeding. It runs in my mother’s family so I can confirm the state was right. Mutations in the brain can be passed from mother to child.
The third generation of Boomers was born during the Vietnam War (1955-1975). I was born in 1973, so I’m technically Gen X with Boomer influences but not to the point that I’m a raging psycho. I consider those born in the 60s to be the third Boomer generation. My town lost its high school in 1968 and stopped at the eighth grade. All those who graduated from the 60s-1980 are the anti education gatekeepers of the workforce that I’m personally struggling with. These are the people who hate anyone with an education level above theirs. They’re offended by education unless you’re a doctor or a lawyer and they can use you. They are also anti-technology and refuse to use it. They are bullies who are socially enmeshed and always in your business. This generation of women married older men because men their age were fighting in a war. Or, they married wealthy men. Those women didn’t have to work and became bored housewives. I blame daytime soap operas for teaching these idiots their horrible social skills. They stayed home almost 24/7 except for when they were at the hair salon or shopping. They wore a lot of makeup too and nail polish contained formaldehyde. The amount of lead and toxic chemicals they were exposed to was very high. My mother was in this category from 1970-1980 when she divorced my father. Men who came home from the war were addicted to heroin and may have turned to cocaine, crack or meth. Many ended up homeless or hooked up with women for the welfare benefits. They were insanely abusive. Very few were able to adjust. Women who did not marry well, had to work cash jobs to support themselves and they might have qualified for USDA commodities and food stamps under Johnson’s War on Poverty (1964). We didn’t have welfare reform until 1996. My mother became an alcoholic and was addicted to amphetamines sold as diet pills in the 80s. We had pure meth from 1980 that my stepdad was addicted to and an explosion of brown meth from 1994 to the present. Almost this entire generation and my own Gen X either experimented or became addicted to meth. It affected Millennials too.
Child prostitution as a means of survival and CSA were common during the Depression because there was no law against it and it’s something society has difficulty grappling with. Oklahoma passed its first anti-child molestation law in 1945 after the end of WWII. I remember those old Boomer women saying that talk about sex was vulgar and those matters weren’t discussed. It was swept under the rug until 1990 when teens finally began to speak out. We had an explosion of violent rape and domestic violence in the 90s by Boomers and chauvinists who couldn’t bear to give up their right to sex on demand and beating women.
We got the Department of Education and mandatory attendance in 1980 so Gen X was the first generation to have a well rounded education since 1929. All the generations that came before us are jealous because we also got child labor laws and the statutory rape law. We’re the first generation that didn’t have to endure backbreaking work as children. We got easy jobs like paper routes, babysitting and mowing. As teenagers, farm kids hauled hay but that’s about as strenuous as it got. Many Gen Xers got pregnant young and had to drop out of school or couldn’t go to college. They had to get married and raise a family. I’m struggling with this portion of my generation being jealous as well.
I think Gen Z is the best generation because they are so far removed from the absolute hell that previous generations went through. They have the best education, the best social skills and are the most well adjusted of all the generations that came before them. Gen X just needs to teach ya’ll life skills and survival skills that you can hand down to Gen Alpha.
2024.05.14 12:20 VinceyMoon AITA/Advice?! I feel awful for thinking of applying for DA visa after splitting with my narcissistic husband
Hello you lovely Spuds!
I'm an American expat living in England with my husband and our child (F7). My husband and I have been together for 8 years, our daughter was a happy accident but it took me at least 6 years to see my husband was the one I should not have kept.
For background: he is an alocholic since day 1, he made me thank him profusely for deciding to stay for the baby because he just wants to live his own life as a bohemian artist, he made us late for our own baby shower because he screamed at me and threw food at me for 2 hours in a parking lot because I bought him some Mcdonalds breakfast due to him being newly wasted at 9am, he proposed to me because his dad was visiting and wanted him to be proud of him - and when he saw his dad was drunk and missed it he got so angry and made us all go home - and then forgot he even proposed, (for the record, I didn't say yes because his friends were pouring beer on us and I wasn't sure I wanted to marry him but he told everyone I said yes and I wasn't capable of standing up for myself at the time). The day of our wedding I wore black and watched a zombie film in the bath haha that's not part of the story just something I'll always remember as symbolic. Of course he was wasted for our family meal reception and kept trying to dry hump his male friend which was weird, but ok. Then ruined seeing Phantom of the Opera for our honeymoon and then admitted to sleeping with his ex when I was newly pregnant (that he repeatedly told me I was crazy for thinking he'd sleep with that 'expletive expletive'). It gets a lot worse for about 3 years while we were in separate countries and waiting on a visa for me as our daughter and I visited a few times for a few months. Lots of binged weekends where he would be gone for days doing various illicit substances and lots of alcohol.
Fast forward to about a year ago and we al live together in England, still having binge days and sometimes things were good and sometimes not so good. the final straw was last March when I had mentioned I might go to a mums-night-out as I didn't feel like I had many friends at the time in England, and he said "I can deal with you being a shit wife but I can't deal with you being a shit mother" because my daughter didn't want me to be gone. Later he told me he only said it to hurt me. The moment he said that to me was the moment everything I was holding onto just died. I'm a massive planner and decided to learn what I actually want out of my life and how to make my own choices and have significantly leveled up since then, I made a 110 page life plan that broke down my life into 13 categories - I was serious about change. I watched "how to talk to narcisstist" videos and stopped allowing him to talk down to me and drive conversations in circles. It was last March when I made this shift and I've just managed to move out last weekend! In that year, he broke my fridge, ruined my bed because he doesn't shower, and shattered my oven glass door because "I made him angry by telling my friends about the situation and making him look bad." He never bought anything because he doesn't work, and the money he does get from his art doesn't go into the family or home. Oh also, I'm his second marriage as he has a case in the states against him for DV but said he only hit her back "in self defence" and he is a wonderful storyteller, clearly. I know, I'm an idiot.
ALL THAT BEING SAID, my visa relies on being married to him and I now have to urgently choose to pay £5k to apply as a parent to my English daughter and will be restarting the whole 5 year visa process which will end in over £10k -or- I could apply for the Domestic Abuse visa which in the long run is waaaaay better for me and my daughter but he would know I did that and would be so angry as he's told me off for "playing the victim" when I reported him to the police and social workers needed to get involved. Since this new year we've had a mostly good relationship as we live completely separate lives and have agreements where our daughter is involved. I feel awful because his parents have helped me so much throughout the visa process and with getting my English license and a car, and until last week I lived in a granny annexe in his mothers back garden with him. I feel like if I apply for DA then its like a slap in the face to his family for everything they've done for me and could potentially isolate myself and my daughter from family in the UK. They know about his character but choose not to acknowledge it and think we just need work things out. I also feel like as it wasn't physical abuse that I am sort of "playing the victim" and shouldn't deserve to apply for it. I don't want to bring my daughter back home to the states as I'm very happy with the safety and quality of life here for her compared to where I'm from, also I'm not even sure if I could as I'd be then taking her away from her dad and english family and friends.
Am I the asshole for wanting to make this massive decision that would then legally label him as an abuser (in the UK) as it would be the most beneficial route for me and my daughter?
Lastly- I am receiving professional support and not relying on internet crowdsourcing support, I'm just so stressed and nervous and there are massive time gaps with the professional support where I 120% overthink these things!!!
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I'm an American expat living in England with my husband and our child (F7). My husband and I have been together for 8 years, our daughter was a happy accident but it took me at least 6 years to see my husband was the one I should not have kept.
For background: he is an alocholic since day 1, he made me thank him profusely for deciding to stay for the baby because he just wants to live his own life as a bohemian artist, he made us late for our own baby shower because he screamed at me and threw food at me for 2 hours in a parking lot because I bought him some Mcdonalds breakfast due to him being newly wasted at 9am, he proposed to me because his dad was visiting and wanted him to be proud of him - and when he saw his dad was drunk and missed it he got so angry and made us all go home - and then forgot he even proposed, (for the record, I didn't say yes because his friends were pouring beer on us and I wasn't sure I wanted to marry him but he told everyone I said yes and I wasn't capable of standing up for myself at the time). The day of our wedding I wore black and watched a zombie film in the bath haha that's not part of the story just something I'll always remember as symbolic. Of course he was wasted for our family meal reception and kept trying to dry hump his male friend which was weird, but ok. Then ruined seeing Phantom of the Opera for our honeymoon and then admitted to sleeping with his ex when I was newly pregnant (that he repeatedly told me I was crazy for thinking he'd sleep with that 'expletive expletive'). It gets a lot worse for about 3 years while we were in separate countries and waiting on a visa for me as our daughter and I visited a few times for a few months. Lots of binged weekends where he would be gone for days doing various illicit substances and lots of alcohol.
Fast forward to about a year ago and we al live together in England, still having binge days and sometimes things were good and sometimes not so good. the final straw was last March when I had mentioned I might go to a mums-night-out as I didn't feel like I had many friends at the time in England, and he said "I can deal with you being a shit wife but I can't deal with you being a shit mother" because my daughter didn't want me to be gone. Later he told me he only said it to hurt me. The moment he said that to me was the moment everything I was holding onto just died. I'm a massive planner and decided to learn what I actually want out of my life and how to make my own choices and have significantly leveled up since then, I made a 110 page life plan that broke down my life into 13 categories - I was serious about change. I watched "how to talk to narcisstist" videos and stopped allowing him to talk down to me and drive conversations in circles. It was last March when I made this shift and I've just managed to move out last weekend! In that year, he broke my fridge, ruined my bed because he doesn't shower, and shattered my oven glass door because "I made him angry by telling my friends about the situation and making him look bad." He never bought anything because he doesn't work, and the money he does get from his art doesn't go into the family or home. Oh also, I'm his second marriage as he has a case in the states against him for DV but said he only hit her back "in self defence" and he is a wonderful storyteller, clearly. I know, I'm an idiot.
ALL THAT BEING SAID, my visa relies on being married to him and I now have to urgently choose to pay £5k to apply as a parent to my English daughter and will be restarting the whole 5 year visa process which will end in over £10k -or- I could apply for the Domestic Abuse visa which in the long run is waaaaay better for me and my daughter but he would know I did that and would be so angry as he's told me off for "playing the victim" when I reported him to the police and social workers needed to get involved. Since this new year we've had a mostly good relationship as we live completely separate lives and have agreements where our daughter is involved. I feel awful because his parents have helped me so much throughout the visa process and with getting my English license and a car, and until last week I lived in a granny annexe in his mothers back garden with him. I feel like if I apply for DA then its like a slap in the face to his family for everything they've done for me and could potentially isolate myself and my daughter from family in the UK. They know about his character but choose not to acknowledge it and think we just need work things out. I also feel like as it wasn't physical abuse that I am sort of "playing the victim" and shouldn't deserve to apply for it. I don't want to bring my daughter back home to the states as I'm very happy with the safety and quality of life here for her compared to where I'm from, also I'm not even sure if I could as I'd be then taking her away from her dad and english family and friends.
Am I the asshole for wanting to make this massive decision that would then legally label him as an abuser (in the UK) as it would be the most beneficial route for me and my daughter?
Lastly- I am receiving professional support and not relying on internet crowdsourcing support, I'm just so stressed and nervous and there are massive time gaps with the professional support where I 120% overthink these things!!!
2024.05.14 12:20 TheHappiestHaunt medical pictures before top surgery
Hello! I’m having my surgical consult for top surgery tomorrow and am for the most part very excited as I have wanted surgery for years. There’s a few things about the medical exam beforehand that make me nervous, but I see the necessity in them and obviously my surgeon is going to see my chest when operating on it anyway. However, at an appointment with my social worker (who works with the surgeon and would know the procedure) he said that part of the consult includes getting photos taken of my chest for my medical files. He assured me that it would be very secure and hidden, so I’m not worried about security. Still, the very thought of pictures of my breasts existing in the world, no matter how unreachable, makes me very uncomfortable. I wouldn’t call the surgery off for anything but especially because I don’t know how necessary those pictures are and what they would be used for I don’t know if there is any alternatives to getting those pictures taken. I’ve joked about taking pictures myself before surgery in the past and I know lots of other guys take photos before surgery for before/after reasons, but now that it’s actually approaching the thought of a permanent visual record of my breasts makes me want to throw up.
I guess my questions are, has anyone gotten top surgery without having photos taken beforehand? Have any problems come up without them? And also if anyone has insight on what the pictures could be needed for, and if there’s any common alternatives, that would also be helpful. I don’t know how much of a dealbreaker this is or even why it bothers me so much. If there’s any way around it that would be awesome.
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I guess my questions are, has anyone gotten top surgery without having photos taken beforehand? Have any problems come up without them? And also if anyone has insight on what the pictures could be needed for, and if there’s any common alternatives, that would also be helpful. I don’t know how much of a dealbreaker this is or even why it bothers me so much. If there’s any way around it that would be awesome.
2024.05.14 12:18 Quirky_Maintenance39 Summer Transfer Window
 | We need to start signing players with experience in europe like (Varane that just announced his departure) that will help the team. Before Brendan came in he said his main task was to do well in europe so i’m hoping for summer to be a brilliant window bringing in amazing players + some players with experience. We could also get some players as in the likes of De Gea very good keeper and very experienced too. He won’t be much as he wasn’t wanted by any clubs last season so he will just take what he gets i believe. submitted by Quirky_Maintenance39 to CelticFC [link] [comments] Winning the treble is obviously a main factor and a must but we need to remember that brendan’s been there and done that multiple times. A treble will come along itself next season it won’t even be the main goal in brendan’s head he just wants to do well in europe and we have a massive chance especially with the new format that’s been put out. We just need players with experience and that have the balls to show up against teams in the ucl because as it stands celtic are amazing for the opening 30 mins but shit themselfs. Our home record this season was probably the best in many years and the way we performed was amazing we just got unlucky. There is a possibility we could do really well in europe it’s just having the right players with a good mentality towards the team that could lead us to European Glory. Yet i might sound very mental saying all of this but it can happen. Brendan’s main task was europe and if he has his own players in its very possible something magic can happen. We performed very very well in europe this year compared to others it looked like the players really wanted to win games it’s just Brendan never had his own set off players so it was hard. Just hope and hope this window is an amazing window and then we do well in europe and win a treble next year. A lot to ask for but miracles happen 😂 |
2024.05.14 12:15 Pemulis_DMZ Longtime fan of the show who only just watched the movie last week. It was Milch telling us “something pretty”.
So I’m sure with the movie being five years old this has been discussed to death but as I said I just saw it and after a week of heavy drinking and ruminating I want to share my thoughts.
There’s a lot of things on a technical and narrative side I took issue with, which I list below, but I want to start with the larger issue of what makes the movie such a betrayal of the show and what made it a true masterpiece.
The show was always a brutal and unflinching look at life in the waning days of the Wild West, where true justice was rare and humanity was often at its basest. But what Deadwood showed was that despite this brutal reality, some people’s compassion and innate goodness could still shine through. That might not change the larger reality, but it gave people the strength to move forward despite the struggle it took just to get up in the morning.
The movie, on the other hand, exists in some parallel dimension where happy endings exist and good triumphs over bad. Because of this, the movie feels like fan service written by someone who never had anything to do with the original show.
Even from a visual perspective the movie is all wrong. Deadwood was surrounded by beautiful nature, but the town itself was dirty and ramshackle. The Gem looked sticky. It was a place you’d walk into and instantly feel the need to watch your back. In the movie, it looks great, with sun streaming in every window and every surface looking clean and new. A nice place for a family meal.
The characters are now all seemingly happy and confident in their places in society. No one squirms away from EB or belittles Johnny. They’re all one big happy family.
The dialogue awkwardly shoehorns in big words to try to mimic the show’s legendary dialogue without any of the poetic elegance. Instead of being wowed by how beautiful a random utterance was, I just found myself cringing at how stilted and forced much of it sounded.
The movie opens with a CGI train and ends with a street fight that looks equally fake.
EB Farnum is still mayor and still operates a hotel even though he hasn’t owned it for thirteen years.
Bullock is still sheriff despite being voted out at the end of season 3.
Dan is now just some dude in a fancy outfit. Con Stapleton is a pastor?!
Hearst has no edge whatsoever. He’s just a generic rich white guy and therefore the villain. He’s now a senator but still stays at the hotel and issues hits directly to hitmen.
Bullock, despite somehow still being sheriff, does the dirty work of burning Hearst’s lumber despite this being obviously a job for Dan or Johnny.
Utter and Hearst converse as if they’d never met, despite Utter having very harsh words for Hearst in the past. When Hearst has Utter killed, everyone is shocked as if Hearst hasn’t done exactly that before and was literally publicly called out by Trixie for doing so at the beginning of the film (one of the few parts I liked).
The town is suddenly very tolerant. General N——r is now just good ol’ Sam. THEY HAD AN INTER-RELIGIOUSLY TOLERANT WEDDING IN DEADWOOD. This isn’t a small point. The racism in the show was difficult to watch at times, but it’s a part of what made it feel so authentic. When you replace that with more modern sensibility it makes the whole thing feel false.
Aunt Lou is allowed to just hang back in deadwood after Hearst leaves and starts a career as a midwife. Again, nice to think about but in reality there’s just no way she’s allowed that kind of freedom.
And lastly (though I could go on ranting like Steve), while I think having Swearengen as a weak, mostly unimpactful character in the movie makes sense, his character suffered the most in terms of being a watered down “pretty” version. Nothing intelligent to say, just “witty” rejoinders to whatever is said to him. He walks trixie down the aisle, because apparently Deadwood is just an old west version of Full House.
The movie told us something pretty, and for that I loathe it entirely.
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There’s a lot of things on a technical and narrative side I took issue with, which I list below, but I want to start with the larger issue of what makes the movie such a betrayal of the show and what made it a true masterpiece.
The show was always a brutal and unflinching look at life in the waning days of the Wild West, where true justice was rare and humanity was often at its basest. But what Deadwood showed was that despite this brutal reality, some people’s compassion and innate goodness could still shine through. That might not change the larger reality, but it gave people the strength to move forward despite the struggle it took just to get up in the morning.
The movie, on the other hand, exists in some parallel dimension where happy endings exist and good triumphs over bad. Because of this, the movie feels like fan service written by someone who never had anything to do with the original show.
Even from a visual perspective the movie is all wrong. Deadwood was surrounded by beautiful nature, but the town itself was dirty and ramshackle. The Gem looked sticky. It was a place you’d walk into and instantly feel the need to watch your back. In the movie, it looks great, with sun streaming in every window and every surface looking clean and new. A nice place for a family meal.
The characters are now all seemingly happy and confident in their places in society. No one squirms away from EB or belittles Johnny. They’re all one big happy family.
The dialogue awkwardly shoehorns in big words to try to mimic the show’s legendary dialogue without any of the poetic elegance. Instead of being wowed by how beautiful a random utterance was, I just found myself cringing at how stilted and forced much of it sounded.
The movie opens with a CGI train and ends with a street fight that looks equally fake.
EB Farnum is still mayor and still operates a hotel even though he hasn’t owned it for thirteen years.
Bullock is still sheriff despite being voted out at the end of season 3.
Dan is now just some dude in a fancy outfit. Con Stapleton is a pastor?!
Hearst has no edge whatsoever. He’s just a generic rich white guy and therefore the villain. He’s now a senator but still stays at the hotel and issues hits directly to hitmen.
Bullock, despite somehow still being sheriff, does the dirty work of burning Hearst’s lumber despite this being obviously a job for Dan or Johnny.
Utter and Hearst converse as if they’d never met, despite Utter having very harsh words for Hearst in the past. When Hearst has Utter killed, everyone is shocked as if Hearst hasn’t done exactly that before and was literally publicly called out by Trixie for doing so at the beginning of the film (one of the few parts I liked).
The town is suddenly very tolerant. General N——r is now just good ol’ Sam. THEY HAD AN INTER-RELIGIOUSLY TOLERANT WEDDING IN DEADWOOD. This isn’t a small point. The racism in the show was difficult to watch at times, but it’s a part of what made it feel so authentic. When you replace that with more modern sensibility it makes the whole thing feel false.
Aunt Lou is allowed to just hang back in deadwood after Hearst leaves and starts a career as a midwife. Again, nice to think about but in reality there’s just no way she’s allowed that kind of freedom.
And lastly (though I could go on ranting like Steve), while I think having Swearengen as a weak, mostly unimpactful character in the movie makes sense, his character suffered the most in terms of being a watered down “pretty” version. Nothing intelligent to say, just “witty” rejoinders to whatever is said to him. He walks trixie down the aisle, because apparently Deadwood is just an old west version of Full House.
The movie told us something pretty, and for that I loathe it entirely.
2024.05.14 12:14 ThrowRA_9534 I (18M) dont know if I like this guy (18M) that I've been seeing. How can I work out if I have feelings for him or am just wanting physical company?
I (18M) have been seeing this guy (also 18M) for about three weeks now. We're in the same space mentally about a lot of things and have agreed that neither of us is ready for a full-on relationship yet. However, we see each other every day pretty much and have been on several dates.
At the same time, both of us feel like this isn't a typical 'schoolkid' crush where we get butterflies at the thought of each other. It's more of a 'it'd be nice to see the other person, but I don't feel like I need to'. We've admitted to each other though that the other person makes us feel safe and comfortable when we're around them.
But that's kinda the issue. I don't feel like I *need* to see him, and as such, I'm starting to get anxious about whether or not I like him, or it's more the being physically close with someone. And when we're together, I don't have the desire to always have sex, even if we've been making out for an hour or more. But I feel like I should, because of how attractive he is.
Maybe I'm overthinking it, but I feel like I should be head over heels for this guy when sometimes I don't especially want to see him (I'm always happy when we're together though). It's just an incredibly confusing situation and I'm hoping someone wiser and older than me is able to give some advice.
Thank you!!
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At the same time, both of us feel like this isn't a typical 'schoolkid' crush where we get butterflies at the thought of each other. It's more of a 'it'd be nice to see the other person, but I don't feel like I need to'. We've admitted to each other though that the other person makes us feel safe and comfortable when we're around them.
But that's kinda the issue. I don't feel like I *need* to see him, and as such, I'm starting to get anxious about whether or not I like him, or it's more the being physically close with someone. And when we're together, I don't have the desire to always have sex, even if we've been making out for an hour or more. But I feel like I should, because of how attractive he is.
Maybe I'm overthinking it, but I feel like I should be head over heels for this guy when sometimes I don't especially want to see him (I'm always happy when we're together though). It's just an incredibly confusing situation and I'm hoping someone wiser and older than me is able to give some advice.
Thank you!!
2024.05.14 12:14 godnerfedusall Should I just let things be natural?
Am I overthinking?
Hey yall so I'm 24 (M) and I just recently finished my internship and graduated, and during my internship I met a girl who was working in the same site as me. We got to know each other a little over the course of 4 months, and I would help her with her groups (we worked In a school). She thanked me for helping one of her kids and since then I took a liking to her at least as just a fellow colleague. So, we worked often and I helped her with groups, I got her number after leaving and we both graduated from the same college. But now recently we met up and hanged outside of work and that's when I started really liking her.
Weirdly enough, it seems like we felt more at ease with each other at work. But maybe that's natural? We're getting to know each other on a more personal level in contexts outside of work. So maybe that just makes us more vulnerable? But we've still had good conversations so far. A female friend of mine who I trust says I shouldn't rush it and just let things go naturally. She said she's going to call me later this week about her exam and eventually hmu about hanging out again.
She's been receptive to hanging out with me (she had to cancel once, but reached out the next day to reschedule),we don't text much but when we do she's relatively quick to respond, she's supportive of me and my career endeavors (as I am hers both being in a similar field), she offered to pay on our first hangout (which might not be much but to me it was appreciated) and she's made time to hang with my despite her busy schedule and looking for a job. I think interest is there, but some perspective is appreciated.
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Hey yall so I'm 24 (M) and I just recently finished my internship and graduated, and during my internship I met a girl who was working in the same site as me. We got to know each other a little over the course of 4 months, and I would help her with her groups (we worked In a school). She thanked me for helping one of her kids and since then I took a liking to her at least as just a fellow colleague. So, we worked often and I helped her with groups, I got her number after leaving and we both graduated from the same college. But now recently we met up and hanged outside of work and that's when I started really liking her.
Weirdly enough, it seems like we felt more at ease with each other at work. But maybe that's natural? We're getting to know each other on a more personal level in contexts outside of work. So maybe that just makes us more vulnerable? But we've still had good conversations so far. A female friend of mine who I trust says I shouldn't rush it and just let things go naturally. She said she's going to call me later this week about her exam and eventually hmu about hanging out again.
She's been receptive to hanging out with me (she had to cancel once, but reached out the next day to reschedule),we don't text much but when we do she's relatively quick to respond, she's supportive of me and my career endeavors (as I am hers both being in a similar field), she offered to pay on our first hangout (which might not be much but to me it was appreciated) and she's made time to hang with my despite her busy schedule and looking for a job. I think interest is there, but some perspective is appreciated.
2024.05.14 12:13 harpoon2k One of those verses that sums up salvation theology and Christian faith
John 15: 9-17:
I have told you this so that my joy might be in you and your joy might be complete."
I no longer call you slaves, because a slave does not know what his master is doing.
I have called you friends, because I have told you everything I have heard from my Father. "
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- God loved us first and loves us all.
- Jesus tells us how not to lose our salvation and the explicit call of obedience. We have to respond to that grace. It is not a passive faith
I have told you this so that my joy might be in you and your joy might be complete."
- What is Christ's explicit commandment, or what does he require of us? How do I become a good Christian?
- How do we strengthen our faith and relationship with Christ?
I no longer call you slaves, because a slave does not know what his master is doing.
I have called you friends, because I have told you everything I have heard from my Father. "
- Without God, we can do nothing.
- What does God want from me or expect from me?
2024.05.14 12:12 Queasy-Cake-2413 How Shankara school evades answering about Maya/Ignorance by giving Illogical answers
Here is an example to show how Shankara school evades answering about Maya/Ignorance by giving Illogical answers.
Let Dream be called "Kitten" Maya/Ignorance be called "Cat" Brahman be called "Dog"
First when it is asked "how the kitten is experienced?", they say "It is because of the Cat, Cat causes it".
Ok, then when asked "Does the Cat exist?", they say "No. Only Dog exists. No cat".
But, when asked again, "If Dog only exists how come we experience Kitten?", then they say "It is because of Cat, Cat causes it".
Then when said "Wait wait wait, hold on. You said before that, Cat doesn't exist only Dog exists, then how come Cat be a cause of the experience of this Kitten?"
Then they say, "If you don't understand it, it's because you are not doing Shravana-Manana-Nidhidhyasana to it's full extent. Do it and then you can understand what is said."
Then when asked again, "See. It's you that have brought a 'cause', it's you that have brought a word 'Cat' which is the cause of Kitten. Not us. You. You did. And if you say, "If you experience a Kitten, then that is the proof of Cat causing it, even though Cat doesn't exist in POV of Dog", it's illogical. It's not my view unclear, not the issue of my Shravana-Manana-Nidhidhyasana, but your concept of Cat, where saying that not-existing Cat is the cause of the experience of Kitten".
Let me give the right understanding.
The Dream is not Kitten, it is a Puppy. Throw away the illogical concept of Cat.
It's only Dog dreaming Puppy. Not a Kitten, and not a Cat causing Kitten. Just Dog dreaming itself as a Puppy.
When Brahman doesn't Dream, that is called Nirguna Brahman. When Brahman dreams his own forms, that is called Saguna Brahman. No second. Same Brahman one-only. No cause for the dream, no necessity of Ignorance for the dream. Just dream arises.
This they won't accept, as it threatens their concept of "Ignorance", where they give existence to this Ignorance unconsciously but trying to evade it by saying "this/Vyavaharika POV". Their evasion can look valid if one stops question, but it definitely not valid as it is illogical and if questioned deeply they will turn it by saying "it's your problem, what we say is right. Do what we say and then what we say will look logical to you too".
Nothing more to say about their tactics.
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Let Dream be called "Kitten" Maya/Ignorance be called "Cat" Brahman be called "Dog"
First when it is asked "how the kitten is experienced?", they say "It is because of the Cat, Cat causes it".
Ok, then when asked "Does the Cat exist?", they say "No. Only Dog exists. No cat".
But, when asked again, "If Dog only exists how come we experience Kitten?", then they say "It is because of Cat, Cat causes it".
Then when said "Wait wait wait, hold on. You said before that, Cat doesn't exist only Dog exists, then how come Cat be a cause of the experience of this Kitten?"
Then they say, "If you don't understand it, it's because you are not doing Shravana-Manana-Nidhidhyasana to it's full extent. Do it and then you can understand what is said."
Then when asked again, "See. It's you that have brought a 'cause', it's you that have brought a word 'Cat' which is the cause of Kitten. Not us. You. You did. And if you say, "If you experience a Kitten, then that is the proof of Cat causing it, even though Cat doesn't exist in POV of Dog", it's illogical. It's not my view unclear, not the issue of my Shravana-Manana-Nidhidhyasana, but your concept of Cat, where saying that not-existing Cat is the cause of the experience of Kitten".
Let me give the right understanding.
The Dream is not Kitten, it is a Puppy. Throw away the illogical concept of Cat.
It's only Dog dreaming Puppy. Not a Kitten, and not a Cat causing Kitten. Just Dog dreaming itself as a Puppy.
When Brahman doesn't Dream, that is called Nirguna Brahman. When Brahman dreams his own forms, that is called Saguna Brahman. No second. Same Brahman one-only. No cause for the dream, no necessity of Ignorance for the dream. Just dream arises.
This they won't accept, as it threatens their concept of "Ignorance", where they give existence to this Ignorance unconsciously but trying to evade it by saying "this/Vyavaharika POV". Their evasion can look valid if one stops question, but it definitely not valid as it is illogical and if questioned deeply they will turn it by saying "it's your problem, what we say is right. Do what we say and then what we say will look logical to you too".
Nothing more to say about their tactics.
2024.05.14 12:11 Shot_Recognition6300 Drugs, violence, you name it (Washington state)
So my sister and her baby daddy are big time meth users, so bad that she lost her job in December and then was finally evicted this month. CPS is “involved” but with the new law that was passed last year they said they can’t remove my nephew unless something happens to him because just bc you do drugs doesn’t mean you can’t parent. I really don’t want to wait for that to happen, but they have told us to just document and record everything happening so when something does happen we have more proof. Does anyone have any ideas for what other options we can do?
We have proof of drug use, violence, and for 5 months (when they had a home) they lived with no power and water, she sometimes stays in motels and CPS says it’s “safe” so we have to let my sister take him (but we don’t help her and don’t pay for a room or even drop him off there we were told to make it harder and so she has to come to us to get him) but she’s taking him to motels in the worst parts of town. She also hates everyone in my family so I (nursing student) am the only one she allows to take care of him but my parents who are willing and able to care for him are on her bad side so she won’t let him stay with them. I of course would rather take care of him than see who else she finds to watch him but geeze! Is there a way to go around CPS to give my parents custody? I heard we can file for temporary custody down at the courthouse directly but can’t reach anyone to get more information on what that process entails.
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We have proof of drug use, violence, and for 5 months (when they had a home) they lived with no power and water, she sometimes stays in motels and CPS says it’s “safe” so we have to let my sister take him (but we don’t help her and don’t pay for a room or even drop him off there we were told to make it harder and so she has to come to us to get him) but she’s taking him to motels in the worst parts of town. She also hates everyone in my family so I (nursing student) am the only one she allows to take care of him but my parents who are willing and able to care for him are on her bad side so she won’t let him stay with them. I of course would rather take care of him than see who else she finds to watch him but geeze! Is there a way to go around CPS to give my parents custody? I heard we can file for temporary custody down at the courthouse directly but can’t reach anyone to get more information on what that process entails.
2024.05.14 12:11 Rijeka_D Calling you out u/RusherRO @EA give us a new Evo for this monster plz !
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2024.05.14 12:08 Luca_000 Cross-Platform Reselling Tool (Best approach)
I am selling products online here in Europe. I usually list them on ebay, but would also like to add more smaller marketplaces as well for reach (like kleinanzeigen.de for Germany, willhaben.at for Austria, or subito.it for Italy). I would like to have a tool that automatically reposts my listings to these platforms without me having to do all of that manually.
There is some tool that does it, but not for the European marketplaces I need. It is called vendoo.co .
Now I wanted to ask for some ideas on how to reach a MVP the fastest. Would you go for coding and API integrations? Or web automation? Or something completely different?
Thanks guys for your ideas!
(If needed, I can give much better explanation of possible/desired features)
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There is some tool that does it, but not for the European marketplaces I need. It is called vendoo.co .
Now I wanted to ask for some ideas on how to reach a MVP the fastest. Would you go for coding and API integrations? Or web automation? Or something completely different?
Thanks guys for your ideas!
(If needed, I can give much better explanation of possible/desired features)
2024.05.14 12:06 ditord Blackout 2024: Why Social Media Users Are Blocking Celebrities Like Taylor Swift and Beyoncé
There's a new movement on social media called "Blackout 2024" sparked by celebrities' views (or lack thereof) on Palestine.
Context:
Last week's Met Gala highlighted the disparity between celebrity opulence and global suffering. Influencer Haley Baylee (real name Haley Kalil) posed in an extravagant floral gown, saying, "Let them eat cake" along with a TikTok sound. This phrase, attributed to Marie Antoinette, symbolizes an out-of-touch attitude toward the suffering of the masses. Although historians doubt she actually said it, the phrase remains a powerful symbol of severe wealth inequality.
Photos of the Met Gala flooded social media alongside images of Israel's attack on Rafah in the southern Gaza Strip. The stark contrast between celebrities displaying wealth and Palestinians mourning their dead shocked the world. People compared it to The Hunger Games, where the wealthy Capitol residents dressed opulently while children died in the games. The book series' author, Suzanne Collins, drew inspiration from flipping between Iraq War coverage and reality TV shows.
The Blackout 2024 Movement:
TikTok user @ladyfromtheoutside started the Blackout 2024 movement, frustrated with celebrities' silence on Palestine. "It’s time to block all the celebrities, influencers, and wealthy socialites who are not using their resources to help those in dire need," she said in a video with 2.5 million views. "We gave them their platforms. It’s time to take it back, take our views away, our likes, our comments, our money."
People have differing views on who deserves to be blocked. For example, some believe Billie Eilish should be boycotted for not posting about Palestine, while others argue her Ceasefire pin at the Oscars showed her stance.
Celebrities Respond:
Some celebrities have spoken out. Haley Baylee posted a nearly 9-minute apology video, explaining she wasn't an official Met Gala guest but a host interviewing celebs. She claimed ignorance on the Palestine issue, which drew backlash. Critics argued that in the seven months since the attacks began, there has been ample time to educate oneself.
Three days ago, Lizzo posted a TikTok sharing GoFundMe pages and organizations helping people in Palestine, Sudan, and Congo, stating she had donated to all three. Commenters pointed out the timing and questioned why a millionaire asked regular people to donate.
Impact:
The campaign seems to be making an impact. Haley Baylee's follower count dropped from 10 million to 9.9 million. Social media users claim Kim Kardashian also lost followers after her ambiguous "Free everybody" comment to a "Free Palestine" protestor.
Operation Blockout:
Online critics argue that events like the annual Met Gala, where elite figures from the fashion world showcase their extravagant styles, highlight the disconnect between such opulence and pressing social issues. As attendees dazzled in dramatic attire, protests in support of Palestine were underway just blocks away in New York City. This juxtaposition sparked the inception of "Operation Blockout."
TikTok users such as @blockout2024, who is credited with founding the celebrity blocking campaign, have called out several of the world's biggest names. Users, from Kim Kardashian to Taylor Swift to Justin Bieber, did not hold back. In one video, @blockout2024 said followers have "full control of celebrities' money and lives." "When we hate on them, they make money. When we praise them, they make money. But when we block their social media accounts and completely forget their names, they lose it all," he said. "The amount of attention we give them and the amount of engagement we give them is their direct currency. Take it from them."
Reducing celebrities' followers aims to pressure them to highlight issues in Palestine and Sudan. Jenny, a TikTok user from Vietnam, told The New Arab that "the genocide going on in Palestine" prompted her to join the campaign. "The algorithm of TikTok allows anyone, regardless of age, sex, or societal status, to go viral if their content aligns with the interests of other users. That's why the portrayal of any social issue on TikTok is non-biased and very authentic since it's the voice of mundane people like you and me," she said.
"I've never been able to comprehend the power of social media until I saw a whole movement to support Palestine, Congo, and Sudan start from TikTok. Especially among Gen-Zs, who are perceived to be the generation that's much more sensitive to social matters."
The 22-year-old TikToker reiterated that with power comes responsibility, adding that celebrities' silence has contributed to the miseducation of humanitarian crises worldwide. "I personally feel so much rage at why people can put so much effort into participating in a lavish event, which costs thousands of dollars while being completely ignorant of the fact that people are being bombed to pieces on the other side of the world," she told The New Arab. "The Met Gala 2024 depicted the imbalance of power and resource distribution in our society."
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Context:
Last week's Met Gala highlighted the disparity between celebrity opulence and global suffering. Influencer Haley Baylee (real name Haley Kalil) posed in an extravagant floral gown, saying, "Let them eat cake" along with a TikTok sound. This phrase, attributed to Marie Antoinette, symbolizes an out-of-touch attitude toward the suffering of the masses. Although historians doubt she actually said it, the phrase remains a powerful symbol of severe wealth inequality.
Photos of the Met Gala flooded social media alongside images of Israel's attack on Rafah in the southern Gaza Strip. The stark contrast between celebrities displaying wealth and Palestinians mourning their dead shocked the world. People compared it to The Hunger Games, where the wealthy Capitol residents dressed opulently while children died in the games. The book series' author, Suzanne Collins, drew inspiration from flipping between Iraq War coverage and reality TV shows.
The Blackout 2024 Movement:
TikTok user @ladyfromtheoutside started the Blackout 2024 movement, frustrated with celebrities' silence on Palestine. "It’s time to block all the celebrities, influencers, and wealthy socialites who are not using their resources to help those in dire need," she said in a video with 2.5 million views. "We gave them their platforms. It’s time to take it back, take our views away, our likes, our comments, our money."
People have differing views on who deserves to be blocked. For example, some believe Billie Eilish should be boycotted for not posting about Palestine, while others argue her Ceasefire pin at the Oscars showed her stance.
Celebrities Respond:
Some celebrities have spoken out. Haley Baylee posted a nearly 9-minute apology video, explaining she wasn't an official Met Gala guest but a host interviewing celebs. She claimed ignorance on the Palestine issue, which drew backlash. Critics argued that in the seven months since the attacks began, there has been ample time to educate oneself.
Three days ago, Lizzo posted a TikTok sharing GoFundMe pages and organizations helping people in Palestine, Sudan, and Congo, stating she had donated to all three. Commenters pointed out the timing and questioned why a millionaire asked regular people to donate.
Impact:
The campaign seems to be making an impact. Haley Baylee's follower count dropped from 10 million to 9.9 million. Social media users claim Kim Kardashian also lost followers after her ambiguous "Free everybody" comment to a "Free Palestine" protestor.
Operation Blockout:
Online critics argue that events like the annual Met Gala, where elite figures from the fashion world showcase their extravagant styles, highlight the disconnect between such opulence and pressing social issues. As attendees dazzled in dramatic attire, protests in support of Palestine were underway just blocks away in New York City. This juxtaposition sparked the inception of "Operation Blockout."
TikTok users such as @blockout2024, who is credited with founding the celebrity blocking campaign, have called out several of the world's biggest names. Users, from Kim Kardashian to Taylor Swift to Justin Bieber, did not hold back. In one video, @blockout2024 said followers have "full control of celebrities' money and lives." "When we hate on them, they make money. When we praise them, they make money. But when we block their social media accounts and completely forget their names, they lose it all," he said. "The amount of attention we give them and the amount of engagement we give them is their direct currency. Take it from them."
Reducing celebrities' followers aims to pressure them to highlight issues in Palestine and Sudan. Jenny, a TikTok user from Vietnam, told The New Arab that "the genocide going on in Palestine" prompted her to join the campaign. "The algorithm of TikTok allows anyone, regardless of age, sex, or societal status, to go viral if their content aligns with the interests of other users. That's why the portrayal of any social issue on TikTok is non-biased and very authentic since it's the voice of mundane people like you and me," she said.
"I've never been able to comprehend the power of social media until I saw a whole movement to support Palestine, Congo, and Sudan start from TikTok. Especially among Gen-Zs, who are perceived to be the generation that's much more sensitive to social matters."
The 22-year-old TikToker reiterated that with power comes responsibility, adding that celebrities' silence has contributed to the miseducation of humanitarian crises worldwide. "I personally feel so much rage at why people can put so much effort into participating in a lavish event, which costs thousands of dollars while being completely ignorant of the fact that people are being bombed to pieces on the other side of the world," she told The New Arab. "The Met Gala 2024 depicted the imbalance of power and resource distribution in our society."
2024.05.14 12:05 MaleficentLeek4007 Old school wattpad users ! 2013+
Okay so I haven’t been on wattpad since I was like 14 now I’m 25 right. Back then there was app called polyvore . If you know you know. Are they still using links to show us the outfits or is that not a thing anymore?! I need to know
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2024.05.14 12:04 D_Lina [Windows][90s/2000s] Female protagonist "trapped" in an castle on an island
Sorry but engliss it's not my first language, so if something it's unclear or need to be better understable please just tell me.
Platform(s): windows
Genre: adventure/puzzle/action, maybe also horror? didn't played enough to know for sure.
Estimated year of release:
-no idea, but not more than 2010.
-More specific it could be between 90's and 2005.
Graphics/art style: -2nd or 3nd, I think it was like old resident evil with the scenario that moved when the character goes to the edge of the screen. -A little dark, the level I played was in a castle but I don't think it was ambiented in medieval era.
-Almost sure it was 3D
Notable characters:
-female protagonist, probably black haired or brown, almost not blonde. -maybe a mage that acted like narrator that gives you the mission? but I don't remember if it dissapeared after or if you could talk with him later.
Notable gameplay mechanics: -In the castle I think a mage? or a voice tells you that you had to found magical gems I think? each one gived you a different power, I quiet not remember which ones maybe one permited you to transform in a bat or something like that? sorry really foggy. There where puzzles I think.
-I'm sure that in one room it was a library with corridors between the shelfs, it was laberynth like, really dark, and you had (or I didn't found the way of defending myself) to miss the monsters to find the gem/stone. I remeber especifically this cause I was scared, also, because of that I don't remember the enemies, if they were mosters or not.
Other details:
-Most probably it was a game that came with this CD-Roms with a ton more, galaxy ones where called?, in Europe, so it could be a demo.
-Remember that the loading or starting screen was a image of a castle or fortress in the middle of the water, dark, and with fog, at night, a little on the right-center of the screen, maybe there was also a boat in the first plane but not sure.
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Platform(s): windows
Genre: adventure/puzzle/action, maybe also horror? didn't played enough to know for sure.
Estimated year of release:
-no idea, but not more than 2010.
-More specific it could be between 90's and 2005.
Graphics/art style: -2nd or 3nd, I think it was like old resident evil with the scenario that moved when the character goes to the edge of the screen. -A little dark, the level I played was in a castle but I don't think it was ambiented in medieval era.
-Almost sure it was 3D
Notable characters:
-female protagonist, probably black haired or brown, almost not blonde. -maybe a mage that acted like narrator that gives you the mission? but I don't remember if it dissapeared after or if you could talk with him later.
Notable gameplay mechanics: -In the castle I think a mage? or a voice tells you that you had to found magical gems I think? each one gived you a different power, I quiet not remember which ones maybe one permited you to transform in a bat or something like that? sorry really foggy. There where puzzles I think.
-I'm sure that in one room it was a library with corridors between the shelfs, it was laberynth like, really dark, and you had (or I didn't found the way of defending myself) to miss the monsters to find the gem/stone. I remeber especifically this cause I was scared, also, because of that I don't remember the enemies, if they were mosters or not.
Other details:
-Most probably it was a game that came with this CD-Roms with a ton more, galaxy ones where called?, in Europe, so it could be a demo.
- I think I remember that the title of the icon it was different than the title in the windows label.
-Remember that the loading or starting screen was a image of a castle or fortress in the middle of the water, dark, and with fog, at night, a little on the right-center of the screen, maybe there was also a boat in the first plane but not sure.
2024.05.14 12:00 Ok-Drawer-4933 Revolutionize Your Sleep Routine with an Online Sleep Consultant: Proven Strategies Inside
Sleepless nights, tossing and turning, waking up groggy—sound familiar? If you're struggling with sleep, you're not alone. In today's fast-paced world, quality rest can feel like a luxury. But what if I told you there's a solution at your fingertips? Enter online sleep consulting—a revolutionary approach to tackling sleep troubles from the comfort of your own home.
Sleep isn't just about closing your eyes and resting; it's a vital process that rejuvenates both your body and mind. From boosting immunity to enhancing cognitive function, the benefits of a good night's sleep are endless.
Common Sleep Issues Faced Today
However, with the rise of screens, stress, and busy schedules, achieving that elusive eight hours can seem impossible. Insomnia, sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome—these are just a few of the sleep disorders plaguing millions worldwide.
So, what exactly is online sleep consulting? Think of it as having a personal sleep coach available at the click of a button. Through virtual consultations, sleep experts assess your sleep habits, identify underlying issues, and design personalized plans to help you reclaim your ZZZs.
Benefits of Seeking Help Online
The beauty of online consulting lies in its accessibility. No need to commute to appointments or rearrange your schedule; you can access professional guidance from anywhere with an internet connection. Plus, with a growing number of certified sleep consultants offering their services online, finding the right fit has never been easier.
But who are these sleep consultants, and what qualifies them to guide your slumber? Rest assured, they're not just self-proclaimed "sleep gurus." Many hold advanced degrees in fields like psychology, sleep medicine, or counseling, and undergo rigorous training to become certified sleep coaches.
How They Can Help You
From analyzing your sleep patterns to providing practical strategies, online sleep consultants are your partners in the quest for better sleep. Whether you're struggling with erratic sleep schedules or battling chronic insomnia, they're equipped with the knowledge and tools to address your unique needs.
One key aspect of online sleep consulting is gaining insight into your sleep architecture. By deciphering your sleep stages and rhythms, consultants can pinpoint areas for improvement and tailor interventions accordingly.
Tools and Techniques Used by Consultants
So, how do they do it? Through a combination of sleep diaries, questionnaires, and cutting-edge technology, consultants gather data on your sleep habits and preferences. Armed with this information, they devise customized strategies to optimize your sleep quality.
There's no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to sleep. That's why online Sleep consultant online take a personalized approach to crafting your sleep plan. Whether you're a night owl or an early bird, they'll work with your natural rhythms to develop strategies that stick.
Personalized Recommendations for Better Sleep
From setting a consistent bedtime to creating a calming pre-sleep routine, your sleep plan will be tailored to address your specific challenges and goals. Whether you're aiming for more restful nights or seeking relief from sleep disorders, your consultant will be by your side every step of the way.
For those battling more serious sleep issues like insomnia or sleep apnea, online consulting offers a lifeline. Consultants are trained to recognize the signs of sleep disorders and can provide guidance on managing symptoms, accessing treatment, and improving overall sleep hygiene.
Strategies for Coping with Insomnia, Sleep Apnea, etc.
Whether it's cognitive-behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) or lifestyle modifications for sleep apnea, consultants are well-versed in evidence-based interventions to tackle a range of sleep disorders. With their support, you can take proactive steps towards better sleep and better health.
Your bedroom should be a sanctuary for sleep, free from distractions and conducive to relaxation. From blackout curtains to white noise machines, consultants can offer recommendations for creating a sleep-friendly environment that promotes restorative rest.
Using Technology to Enhance Sleep Quality
In the digital age, technology isn't just part of the problem—it can also be part of the solution. Consultants can introduce you to apps, wearables, and other gadgets designed to track your sleep, monitor your progress, and even lull you to sleep with soothing sounds or guided meditations.
Just like Pavlov's dogs salivated at the sound of a bell, your body responds to cues that it's time to sleep. Establishing a consistent bedtime routine signals to your brain that it's time to wind down, making it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep throughout the night.
Tips for Relaxation and Stress Reduction Before Bed
In today's hyper-connected world, unwinding before bed can be easier said than done. That's where relaxation techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or gentle stretching come in handy. By calming your mind and body, you can ease into sleep more effortlessly.
You are what you eat—and how you move. Diet and exercise play a crucial role in regulating your sleep-wake cycle and promoting restful slumber. From limiting caffeine and heavy meals before bed to incorporating regular physical activity into your routine, small changes can yield big improvements in your sleep quality.
Recommendations for Improving Sleep Through Lifestyle Changes
Consultants don't just focus on what happens between the sheets—they're interested in your entire lifestyle. By addressing factors like diet, exercise, stress, and screen time, they can help you create habits that support healthy sleep and overall well-being.
In the age of smartphones and smartwatches, tracking your sleep has never been easier. Consultants may recommend apps or wearable devices that monitor your sleep patterns, providing valuable insights into your nightly habits and trends.
How Consultants Modify Plans Based on Progress
But it's not just about collecting data—it's about using it to drive meaningful change. Consultants will regularly review your progress and adjust your sleep plan as needed, ensuring that you stay on track towards your sleep goals.
Gone are the days of waiting weeks for an appointment or trekking across town to see a specialist. With online consulting, help is just a click away. Whether you're a busy parent, a frequent traveler, or simply prefer the comfort of your own home, online services offer unparalleled convenience and flexibility.
Effectiveness Compared to Traditional Methods
But don't let the lack of face-to-face interaction fool you—online consulting is just as effective as in-person sessions, if not more so. Research has shown that virtual interventions can produce significant improvements in sleep quality, making them a viable alternative for those unable to access traditional services.
Still skeptical? Hear it straight from the source. Countless individuals have transformed their sleep and their lives with the help of online sleep consulting. From chronic insomniacs to weary shift workers, the proof is in the pudding—better sleep is within reach.
Case Studies Highlighting Positive Outcomes
Take, for example, Sarah, a busy executive struggling to juggle work, family, and sleep. After just a few weeks of working with an online sleep consultant, she's sleeping soundly through the night, waking up refreshed, and tackling her days with newfound energy and focus.
You might be wondering, "How much does it cost?" Surprisingly, online sleep consulting is more affordable than you might think. With a range of pricing options to fit every budget, there's no reason to put a price on your health and well-being.
Availability of Services Worldwide
And the best part? Online sleep consulting isn't limited by geography. Whether you're in New York or New Zealand, you can access top-tier sleep expertise without ever leaving your home. The world is your oyster—and a good night's sleep is just a click away.
Ready to take the plunge? Before diving in, consider factors like credentials, experience, and specialization. Look for consultants who are certified by reputable organizations and have a track record of success in addressing your specific sleep concerns.
Questions to Ask Before Committing
Still unsure? Don't hesitate to ask questions. A good consultant will be happy to provide information about their approach, methodology, and success rate. After all, your sleep is too important to leave to chance.
Sleepless nights, tossing and turning, waking up groggy—sound familiar? If you're struggling with sleep, you're not alone. In today's fast-paced world, quality rest can feel like a luxury. But what if I told you there's a solution at your fingertips? Enter online sleep consulting—a revolutionary approach to tackling sleep troubles from the comfort of your own home.
Sleep isn't just about closing your eyes and resting; it's a vital process that rejuvenates both your body and mind. From boosting immunity to enhancing cognitive function, the benefits of a good night's sleep are endless.
Common Sleep Issues Faced Today
However, with the rise of screens, stress, and busy schedules, achieving that elusive eight hours can seem impossible. Insomnia, sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome—these are just a few of the sleep disorders plaguing millions worldwide.
So, what exactly is online sleep consulting? Think of it as having a personal sleep coach available at the click of a button. Through virtual consultations, sleep experts assess your sleep habits, identify underlying issues, and design personalized plans to help you reclaim your ZZZs.
Benefits of Seeking Help Online
The beauty of online consulting lies in its accessibility. No need to commute to appointments or rearrange your schedule; you can access professional guidance from anywhere with an internet connection. Plus, with a growing number of certified sleep consultants offering their services online, finding the right fit has never been easier.
But who are these sleep consultants, and what qualifies them to guide your slumber? Rest assured, they're not just self-proclaimed "sleep gurus." Many hold advanced degrees in fields like psychology, sleep medicine, or counseling, and undergo rigorous training to become certified sleep coaches.
How They Can Help You
From analyzing your sleep patterns to providing practical strategies, online sleep consultants are your partners in the quest for better sleep. Whether you're struggling with erratic sleep schedules or battling chronic insomnia, they're equipped with the knowledge and tools to address your unique needs.
One key aspect of online sleep consulting is gaining insight into your sleep architecture. By deciphering your sleep stages and rhythms, consultants can pinpoint areas for improvement and tailor interventions accordingly.
Tools and Techniques Used by Consultants
So, how do they do it? Through a combination of sleep diaries, questionnaires, and cutting-edge technology, consultants gather data on your sleep habits and preferences. Armed with this information, they devise customized strategies to optimize your sleep quality.
There's no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to sleep. That's why online Sleep consultant online take a personalized approach to crafting your sleep plan. Whether you're a night owl or an early bird, they'll work with your natural rhythms to develop strategies that stick.
Personalized Recommendations for Better Sleep
From setting a consistent bedtime to creating a calming pre-sleep routine, your sleep plan will be tailored to address your specific challenges and goals. Whether you're aiming for more restful nights or seeking relief from sleep disorders, your consultant will be by your side every step of the way.
For those battling more serious sleep issues like insomnia or sleep apnea, online consulting offers a lifeline. Consultants are trained to recognize the signs of sleep disorders and can provide guidance on managing symptoms, accessing treatment, and improving overall sleep hygiene.
Strategies for Coping with Insomnia, Sleep Apnea, etc.
Whether it's cognitive-behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) or lifestyle modifications for sleep apnea, consultants are well-versed in evidence-based interventions to tackle a range of sleep disorders. With their support, you can take proactive steps towards better sleep and better health.
Your bedroom should be a sanctuary for sleep, free from distractions and conducive to relaxation. From blackout curtains to white noise machines, consultants can offer recommendations for creating a sleep-friendly environment that promotes restorative rest.
Using Technology to Enhance Sleep Quality
In the digital age, technology isn't just part of the problem—it can also be part of the solution. Consultants can introduce you to apps, wearables, and other gadgets designed to track your sleep, monitor your progress, and even lull you to sleep with soothing sounds or guided meditations.
Just like Pavlov's dogs salivated at the sound of a bell, your body responds to cues that it's time to sleep. Establishing a consistent bedtime routine signals to your brain that it's time to wind down, making it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep throughout the night.
Tips for Relaxation and Stress Reduction Before Bed
In today's hyper-connected world, unwinding before bed can be easier said than done. That's where relaxation techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or gentle stretching come in handy. By calming your mind and body, you can ease into sleep more effortlessly.
You are what you eat—and how you move. Diet and exercise play a crucial role in regulating your sleep-wake cycle and promoting restful slumber. From limiting caffeine and heavy meals before bed to incorporating regular physical activity into your routine, small changes can yield big improvements in your sleep quality.
Recommendations for Improving Sleep Through Lifestyle Changes
Consultants don't just focus on what happens between the sheets—they're interested in your entire lifestyle. By addressing factors like diet, exercise, stress, and screen time, they can help you create habits that support healthy sleep and overall well-being.
In the age of smartphones and smartwatches, tracking your sleep has never been easier. Consultants may recommend apps or wearable devices that monitor your sleep patterns, providing valuable insights into your nightly habits and trends.
How Consultants Modify Plans Based on Progress
But it's not just about collecting data—it's about using it to drive meaningful change. Consultants will regularly review your progress and adjust your sleep plan as needed, ensuring that you stay on track towards your sleep goals.
Gone are the days of waiting weeks for an appointment or trekking across town to see a specialist. With online consulting, help is just a click away. Whether you're a busy parent, a frequent traveler, or simply prefer the comfort of your own home, online services offer unparalleled convenience and flexibility.
Effectiveness Compared to Traditional Methods
But don't let the lack of face-to-face interaction fool you—online consulting is just as effective as in-person sessions, if not more so. Research has shown that virtual interventions can produce significant improvements in sleep quality, making them a viable alternative for those unable to access traditional services.
Still skeptical? Hear it straight from the source. Countless individuals have transformed their sleep and their lives with the help of online sleep consulting. From chronic insomniacs to weary shift workers, the proof is in the pudding—better sleep is within reach.
Case Studies Highlighting Positive Outcomes
Take, for example, Sarah, a busy executive struggling to juggle work, family, and sleep. After just a few weeks of working with an online sleep consultant, she's sleeping soundly through the night, waking up refreshed, and tackling her days with newfound energy and focus.
You might be wondering, "How much does it cost?" Surprisingly, online sleep consulting is more affordable than you might think. With a range of pricing options to fit every budget, there's no reason to put a price on your health and well-being.
Availability of Services Worldwide
And the best part? Online sleep consulting isn't limited by geography. Whether you're in New York or New Zealand, you can access top-tier sleep expertise without ever leaving your home. The world is your oyster—and a good night's sleep is just a click away.
Ready to take the plunge? Before diving in, consider factors like credentials, experience, and specialization. Look for consultants who are certified by reputable organizations and have a track record of success in addressing your specific sleep concerns.
Questions to Ask Before Committing
Still unsure? Don't hesitate to ask questions. A good consultant will be happy to provide information about their approach, methodology, and success rate. After all, your sleep is too important to leave to chance.
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Introduction to Sleep Troubles
Understanding the Importance of Quality SleepSleep isn't just about closing your eyes and resting; it's a vital process that rejuvenates both your body and mind. From boosting immunity to enhancing cognitive function, the benefits of a good night's sleep are endless.
Common Sleep Issues Faced Today
However, with the rise of screens, stress, and busy schedules, achieving that elusive eight hours can seem impossible. Insomnia, sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome—these are just a few of the sleep disorders plaguing millions worldwide.
The Rise of Online Sleep Consulting
Explaining the Concept of Online Sleep ConsultingSo, what exactly is online sleep consulting? Think of it as having a personal sleep coach available at the click of a button. Through virtual consultations, sleep experts assess your sleep habits, identify underlying issues, and design personalized plans to help you reclaim your ZZZs.
Benefits of Seeking Help Online
The beauty of online consulting lies in its accessibility. No need to commute to appointments or rearrange your schedule; you can access professional guidance from anywhere with an internet connection. Plus, with a growing number of certified sleep consultants offering their services online, finding the right fit has never been easier.
Meet Your Online Sleep Consultant
Qualifications and ExpertiseBut who are these sleep consultants, and what qualifies them to guide your slumber? Rest assured, they're not just self-proclaimed "sleep gurus." Many hold advanced degrees in fields like psychology, sleep medicine, or counseling, and undergo rigorous training to become certified sleep coaches.
How They Can Help You
From analyzing your sleep patterns to providing practical strategies, online sleep consultants are your partners in the quest for better sleep. Whether you're struggling with erratic sleep schedules or battling chronic insomnia, they're equipped with the knowledge and tools to address your unique needs.
Understanding Your Sleep Patterns
Importance of Understanding Sleep CyclesOne key aspect of online sleep consulting is gaining insight into your sleep architecture. By deciphering your sleep stages and rhythms, consultants can pinpoint areas for improvement and tailor interventions accordingly.
Tools and Techniques Used by Consultants
So, how do they do it? Through a combination of sleep diaries, questionnaires, and cutting-edge technology, consultants gather data on your sleep habits and preferences. Armed with this information, they devise customized strategies to optimize your sleep quality.
Customized Sleep Plans
Tailoring Strategies to Your Unique NeedsThere's no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to sleep. That's why online Sleep consultant online take a personalized approach to crafting your sleep plan. Whether you're a night owl or an early bird, they'll work with your natural rhythms to develop strategies that stick.
Personalized Recommendations for Better Sleep
From setting a consistent bedtime to creating a calming pre-sleep routine, your sleep plan will be tailored to address your specific challenges and goals. Whether you're aiming for more restful nights or seeking relief from sleep disorders, your consultant will be by your side every step of the way.
Addressing Sleep Disorders
Identifying and Managing Sleep DisordersFor those battling more serious sleep issues like insomnia or sleep apnea, online consulting offers a lifeline. Consultants are trained to recognize the signs of sleep disorders and can provide guidance on managing symptoms, accessing treatment, and improving overall sleep hygiene.
Strategies for Coping with Insomnia, Sleep Apnea, etc.
Whether it's cognitive-behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) or lifestyle modifications for sleep apnea, consultants are well-versed in evidence-based interventions to tackle a range of sleep disorders. With their support, you can take proactive steps towards better sleep and better health.
Creating a Sleep-Friendly Environment
Tips for Optimizing Your Bedroom for SleepYour bedroom should be a sanctuary for sleep, free from distractions and conducive to relaxation. From blackout curtains to white noise machines, consultants can offer recommendations for creating a sleep-friendly environment that promotes restorative rest.
Using Technology to Enhance Sleep Quality
In the digital age, technology isn't just part of the problem—it can also be part of the solution. Consultants can introduce you to apps, wearables, and other gadgets designed to track your sleep, monitor your progress, and even lull you to sleep with soothing sounds or guided meditations.
Developing Healthy Sleep Habits
Importance of Consistent Bedtime RoutineJust like Pavlov's dogs salivated at the sound of a bell, your body responds to cues that it's time to sleep. Establishing a consistent bedtime routine signals to your brain that it's time to wind down, making it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep throughout the night.
Tips for Relaxation and Stress Reduction Before Bed
In today's hyper-connected world, unwinding before bed can be easier said than done. That's where relaxation techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or gentle stretching come in handy. By calming your mind and body, you can ease into sleep more effortlessly.
Diet and Exercise for Better Sleep
Impact of Diet and Exercise on Sleep QualityYou are what you eat—and how you move. Diet and exercise play a crucial role in regulating your sleep-wake cycle and promoting restful slumber. From limiting caffeine and heavy meals before bed to incorporating regular physical activity into your routine, small changes can yield big improvements in your sleep quality.
Recommendations for Improving Sleep Through Lifestyle Changes
Consultants don't just focus on what happens between the sheets—they're interested in your entire lifestyle. By addressing factors like diet, exercise, stress, and screen time, they can help you create habits that support healthy sleep and overall well-being.
Tracking Progress and Adjustments
Using Apps and Devices to Monitor Sleep PatternsIn the age of smartphones and smartwatches, tracking your sleep has never been easier. Consultants may recommend apps or wearable devices that monitor your sleep patterns, providing valuable insights into your nightly habits and trends.
How Consultants Modify Plans Based on Progress
But it's not just about collecting data—it's about using it to drive meaningful change. Consultants will regularly review your progress and adjust your sleep plan as needed, ensuring that you stay on track towards your sleep goals.
Benefits of Online vs. In-Person Consulting
Convenience and Accessibility of Online ServicesGone are the days of waiting weeks for an appointment or trekking across town to see a specialist. With online consulting, help is just a click away. Whether you're a busy parent, a frequent traveler, or simply prefer the comfort of your own home, online services offer unparalleled convenience and flexibility.
Effectiveness Compared to Traditional Methods
But don't let the lack of face-to-face interaction fool you—online consulting is just as effective as in-person sessions, if not more so. Research has shown that virtual interventions can produce significant improvements in sleep quality, making them a viable alternative for those unable to access traditional services.
Success Stories: Real-Life Examples
Testimonials from Clients Who Improved Their SleepStill skeptical? Hear it straight from the source. Countless individuals have transformed their sleep and their lives with the help of online sleep consulting. From chronic insomniacs to weary shift workers, the proof is in the pudding—better sleep is within reach.
Case Studies Highlighting Positive Outcomes
Take, for example, Sarah, a busy executive struggling to juggle work, family, and sleep. After just a few weeks of working with an online sleep consultant, she's sleeping soundly through the night, waking up refreshed, and tackling her days with newfound energy and focus.
Cost and Accessibility
Affordability of Online Sleep ConsultingYou might be wondering, "How much does it cost?" Surprisingly, online sleep consulting is more affordable than you might think. With a range of pricing options to fit every budget, there's no reason to put a price on your health and well-being.
Availability of Services Worldwide
And the best part? Online sleep consulting isn't limited by geography. Whether you're in New York or New Zealand, you can access top-tier sleep expertise without ever leaving your home. The world is your oyster—and a good night's sleep is just a click away.
Getting Started: Tips for Finding the Right Consultant
Factors to Consider When Choosing an Online Sleep ConsultantReady to take the plunge? Before diving in, consider factors like credentials, experience, and specialization. Look for consultants who are certified by reputable organizations and have a track record of success in addressing your specific sleep concerns.
Questions to Ask Before Committing
Still unsure? Don't hesitate to ask questions. A good consultant will be happy to provide information about their approach, methodology, and success rate. After all, your sleep is too important to leave to chance.
Conclusion
Sleep shouldn't be a luxury reserved for the lucky few—it's a fundamental human need that impacts every aspect of our lives. With the rise of online sleep consulting, help is more accessible than ever before. Whether you're struggling with insomnia, sleep apnea, or simply can't seem to switch off at night, there's a solution out there waiting for you. So why wait? Take the first step towards better sleep today and revolutionize your sleep routine for good.FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)
- Is online sleep consulting covered by insurance?
- While coverage varies depending on your provider and policy, some insurance plans may reimburse for online sleep consulting services. It's worth checking with your insurer to see what's covered.
- How long does it take to see results from online sleep consulting?
- Results can vary depending on individual circumstances, but many clients report improvements in sleep quality within a few weeks of starting their consultation.
- Can online sleep consulting help with children's sleep issues?
- Absolutely! Many consultants specialize in pediatric sleep and can provide guidance on establishing healthy sleep habits for children of all ages.
- Are online sleep consultants qualified to diagnose sleep disorders?
- While consultants can identify common signs of sleep disorders, they are not licensed medical professionals and cannot provide formal diagnoses. If you suspect you have a sleep disorder, it's important to consult with a physician or sleep specialist for proper evaluation and treatment.
- What if I'm not tech-savvy? Can I still benefit from online sleep consulting?
- Absolutely! Most consultants offer user-friendly platforms and provide support every step of the way. Whether you're a digital native or a technophobe, you'll find online sleep consulting easy to navigate and rewarding in its results.
Sleepless nights, tossing and turning, waking up groggy—sound familiar? If you're struggling with sleep, you're not alone. In today's fast-paced world, quality rest can feel like a luxury. But what if I told you there's a solution at your fingertips? Enter online sleep consulting—a revolutionary approach to tackling sleep troubles from the comfort of your own home.
Introduction to Sleep Troubles
Understanding the Importance of Quality SleepSleep isn't just about closing your eyes and resting; it's a vital process that rejuvenates both your body and mind. From boosting immunity to enhancing cognitive function, the benefits of a good night's sleep are endless.
Common Sleep Issues Faced Today
However, with the rise of screens, stress, and busy schedules, achieving that elusive eight hours can seem impossible. Insomnia, sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome—these are just a few of the sleep disorders plaguing millions worldwide.
The Rise of Online Sleep Consulting
Explaining the Concept of Online Sleep ConsultingSo, what exactly is online sleep consulting? Think of it as having a personal sleep coach available at the click of a button. Through virtual consultations, sleep experts assess your sleep habits, identify underlying issues, and design personalized plans to help you reclaim your ZZZs.
Benefits of Seeking Help Online
The beauty of online consulting lies in its accessibility. No need to commute to appointments or rearrange your schedule; you can access professional guidance from anywhere with an internet connection. Plus, with a growing number of certified sleep consultants offering their services online, finding the right fit has never been easier.
Meet Your Online Sleep Consultant
Qualifications and ExpertiseBut who are these sleep consultants, and what qualifies them to guide your slumber? Rest assured, they're not just self-proclaimed "sleep gurus." Many hold advanced degrees in fields like psychology, sleep medicine, or counseling, and undergo rigorous training to become certified sleep coaches.
How They Can Help You
From analyzing your sleep patterns to providing practical strategies, online sleep consultants are your partners in the quest for better sleep. Whether you're struggling with erratic sleep schedules or battling chronic insomnia, they're equipped with the knowledge and tools to address your unique needs.
Understanding Your Sleep Patterns
Importance of Understanding Sleep CyclesOne key aspect of online sleep consulting is gaining insight into your sleep architecture. By deciphering your sleep stages and rhythms, consultants can pinpoint areas for improvement and tailor interventions accordingly.
Tools and Techniques Used by Consultants
So, how do they do it? Through a combination of sleep diaries, questionnaires, and cutting-edge technology, consultants gather data on your sleep habits and preferences. Armed with this information, they devise customized strategies to optimize your sleep quality.
Customized Sleep Plans
Tailoring Strategies to Your Unique NeedsThere's no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to sleep. That's why online Sleep consultant online take a personalized approach to crafting your sleep plan. Whether you're a night owl or an early bird, they'll work with your natural rhythms to develop strategies that stick.
Personalized Recommendations for Better Sleep
From setting a consistent bedtime to creating a calming pre-sleep routine, your sleep plan will be tailored to address your specific challenges and goals. Whether you're aiming for more restful nights or seeking relief from sleep disorders, your consultant will be by your side every step of the way.
Addressing Sleep Disorders
Identifying and Managing Sleep DisordersFor those battling more serious sleep issues like insomnia or sleep apnea, online consulting offers a lifeline. Consultants are trained to recognize the signs of sleep disorders and can provide guidance on managing symptoms, accessing treatment, and improving overall sleep hygiene.
Strategies for Coping with Insomnia, Sleep Apnea, etc.
Whether it's cognitive-behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) or lifestyle modifications for sleep apnea, consultants are well-versed in evidence-based interventions to tackle a range of sleep disorders. With their support, you can take proactive steps towards better sleep and better health.
Creating a Sleep-Friendly Environment
Tips for Optimizing Your Bedroom for SleepYour bedroom should be a sanctuary for sleep, free from distractions and conducive to relaxation. From blackout curtains to white noise machines, consultants can offer recommendations for creating a sleep-friendly environment that promotes restorative rest.
Using Technology to Enhance Sleep Quality
In the digital age, technology isn't just part of the problem—it can also be part of the solution. Consultants can introduce you to apps, wearables, and other gadgets designed to track your sleep, monitor your progress, and even lull you to sleep with soothing sounds or guided meditations.
Developing Healthy Sleep Habits
Importance of Consistent Bedtime RoutineJust like Pavlov's dogs salivated at the sound of a bell, your body responds to cues that it's time to sleep. Establishing a consistent bedtime routine signals to your brain that it's time to wind down, making it easier to fall asleep and stay asleep throughout the night.
Tips for Relaxation and Stress Reduction Before Bed
In today's hyper-connected world, unwinding before bed can be easier said than done. That's where relaxation techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or gentle stretching come in handy. By calming your mind and body, you can ease into sleep more effortlessly.
Diet and Exercise for Better Sleep
Impact of Diet and Exercise on Sleep QualityYou are what you eat—and how you move. Diet and exercise play a crucial role in regulating your sleep-wake cycle and promoting restful slumber. From limiting caffeine and heavy meals before bed to incorporating regular physical activity into your routine, small changes can yield big improvements in your sleep quality.
Recommendations for Improving Sleep Through Lifestyle Changes
Consultants don't just focus on what happens between the sheets—they're interested in your entire lifestyle. By addressing factors like diet, exercise, stress, and screen time, they can help you create habits that support healthy sleep and overall well-being.
Tracking Progress and Adjustments
Using Apps and Devices to Monitor Sleep PatternsIn the age of smartphones and smartwatches, tracking your sleep has never been easier. Consultants may recommend apps or wearable devices that monitor your sleep patterns, providing valuable insights into your nightly habits and trends.
How Consultants Modify Plans Based on Progress
But it's not just about collecting data—it's about using it to drive meaningful change. Consultants will regularly review your progress and adjust your sleep plan as needed, ensuring that you stay on track towards your sleep goals.
Benefits of Online vs. In-Person Consulting
Convenience and Accessibility of Online ServicesGone are the days of waiting weeks for an appointment or trekking across town to see a specialist. With online consulting, help is just a click away. Whether you're a busy parent, a frequent traveler, or simply prefer the comfort of your own home, online services offer unparalleled convenience and flexibility.
Effectiveness Compared to Traditional Methods
But don't let the lack of face-to-face interaction fool you—online consulting is just as effective as in-person sessions, if not more so. Research has shown that virtual interventions can produce significant improvements in sleep quality, making them a viable alternative for those unable to access traditional services.
Success Stories: Real-Life Examples
Testimonials from Clients Who Improved Their SleepStill skeptical? Hear it straight from the source. Countless individuals have transformed their sleep and their lives with the help of online sleep consulting. From chronic insomniacs to weary shift workers, the proof is in the pudding—better sleep is within reach.
Case Studies Highlighting Positive Outcomes
Take, for example, Sarah, a busy executive struggling to juggle work, family, and sleep. After just a few weeks of working with an online sleep consultant, she's sleeping soundly through the night, waking up refreshed, and tackling her days with newfound energy and focus.
Cost and Accessibility
Affordability of Online Sleep ConsultingYou might be wondering, "How much does it cost?" Surprisingly, online sleep consulting is more affordable than you might think. With a range of pricing options to fit every budget, there's no reason to put a price on your health and well-being.
Availability of Services Worldwide
And the best part? Online sleep consulting isn't limited by geography. Whether you're in New York or New Zealand, you can access top-tier sleep expertise without ever leaving your home. The world is your oyster—and a good night's sleep is just a click away.
Getting Started: Tips for Finding the Right Consultant
Factors to Consider When Choosing an Online Sleep ConsultantReady to take the plunge? Before diving in, consider factors like credentials, experience, and specialization. Look for consultants who are certified by reputable organizations and have a track record of success in addressing your specific sleep concerns.
Questions to Ask Before Committing
Still unsure? Don't hesitate to ask questions. A good consultant will be happy to provide information about their approach, methodology, and success rate. After all, your sleep is too important to leave to chance.
Conclusion
Sleep shouldn't be a luxury reserved for the lucky few—it's a fundamental human need that impacts every aspect of our lives. With the rise of online sleep consulting, help is more accessible than ever before. Whether you're struggling with insomnia, sleep apnea, or simply can't seem to switch off at night, there's a solution out there waiting for you. So why wait? Take the first step towards better sleep today and revolutionize your sleep routine for good.FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)
- Is online sleep consulting covered by insurance?
- While coverage varies depending on your provider and policy, some insurance plans may reimburse for online sleep consulting services. It's worth checking with your insurer to see what's covered.
- How long does it take to see results from online sleep consulting?
- Results can vary depending on individual circumstances, but many clients report improvements in sleep quality within a few weeks of starting their consultation.
- Can online sleep consulting help with children's sleep issues?
- Absolutely! Many consultants specialize in pediatric sleep and can provide guidance on establishing healthy sleep habits for children of all ages.
- Are online sleep consultants qualified to diagnose sleep disorders?
- While consultants can identify common signs of sleep disorders, they are not licensed medical professionals and cannot provide formal diagnoses. If you suspect you have a sleep disorder, it's important to consult with a physician or sleep specialist for proper evaluation and treatment.
- What if I'm not tech-savvy? Can I still benefit from online sleep consulting?
- Absolutely! Most consultants offer user-friendly platforms and provide support every step of the way. Whether you're a digital native or a technophobe, you'll find online sleep consulting easy to navigate and rewarding in its results.
2024.05.14 11:58 genopolanco What’s your worst SELL story.
Was playing rec this weekend. We come back from down 10 in the 4th and eventually get the lead with about 20 seconds left.
Opponent team misses, we rebound. We’re up 2 with 8 seconds left. People start passing wildly and hit the PF in the middle of being double teamed and it looked like he was about to dribble into multiple defenders so I called timeout.
All we have to do is hit 2 free throws to win. Little did I know that calling the timeout on the PF with 6 seconds left when he was milliseconds from getting the ball stripped from receiving a bad pass…. That’s going to cause him to completely sell the game.
He burns the rest of the timeouts and takes a 5 second call to give the team the ball back. Then he doesn’t guard anyone so they tie it back up and send it to OT where we lose because he just stood at half court the whole period.
The crazy thing is he contributed in the game and 3 of us were even on the mic complimenting his game at times. No one was icing anyone out. He just got that offended that someone called timeout with a perfectly good reason to and sold the game.
Just wanna say, this whole weekend was FILLED with sellers in random rec. I went from maxed purple to silver in 1 day and I can honestly say it was just because of one or two guys on the team that would purposely sell the game. The sad thing is I even won some where they couldn’t sell hard enough so it was almost every game I played this weekend win or lose, someone was trying to lose the game for the team I was on.
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Opponent team misses, we rebound. We’re up 2 with 8 seconds left. People start passing wildly and hit the PF in the middle of being double teamed and it looked like he was about to dribble into multiple defenders so I called timeout.
All we have to do is hit 2 free throws to win. Little did I know that calling the timeout on the PF with 6 seconds left when he was milliseconds from getting the ball stripped from receiving a bad pass…. That’s going to cause him to completely sell the game.
He burns the rest of the timeouts and takes a 5 second call to give the team the ball back. Then he doesn’t guard anyone so they tie it back up and send it to OT where we lose because he just stood at half court the whole period.
The crazy thing is he contributed in the game and 3 of us were even on the mic complimenting his game at times. No one was icing anyone out. He just got that offended that someone called timeout with a perfectly good reason to and sold the game.
Just wanna say, this whole weekend was FILLED with sellers in random rec. I went from maxed purple to silver in 1 day and I can honestly say it was just because of one or two guys on the team that would purposely sell the game. The sad thing is I even won some where they couldn’t sell hard enough so it was almost every game I played this weekend win or lose, someone was trying to lose the game for the team I was on.
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2024.05.14 11:57 Intelligent-Swan-479 My (31M) girlfriend (27F) wants to buy a house without me and I'm not feeling too good about it.
My main language is Spanish. I might have some mistakes here and there.
We've been together as a couple for over a year. Yes, not that long, but we even felt comfortable enough to start living together after just 6 months, and we're now on a rental, doing good enough as a couple, although there are areas that I'd like to improve together.
She has received from her parents a good amount of money (€100K) to buy a house, and we've been talking about the topic, but more about placing us both on the mortgage, although of course with me owning less part of the house since I would put less on the starting point (around €20K) which I completely agree. I'd love to help more, but unfortunately, my savings are just not as good as hers right now. We've been checking houses together and do feel that agree with most of the things we'd like to have, so it's good.
However, lately, she's been telling me that she'd prefer to buy the house on her own to avoid possible legal issues in the future if we split up or anything (which I also understand) but it has just been a bit sad and impotence for me since I can't help as much as her, and I've been working to also save up more money and help more, and it does lower a bit my trust on her since I feel she can't trust me as much as I thought.
She also has asked if I could help her pay part of the mortgage as a "rental" for me but without me owning anything, as well as services, furniture, and more, which I understand and would agree, but it doesn't help too much with my feeling of being there as a "temporary" person, but at the same time she does feel me as the father of our children, she does talk about marriage and gives hints as to what she would like, and we do match in several ways of thinking for the future, which is a great bonus point.
I do feel that we are having a good communication about all the process, I do feel her receptive on my emotions, and we do and will have a deeper conversation on this topic soon, so I hope at least we can get up to a middle ground where we feel good.
How can I make sure I feel comfortable with her decision down the road? How can I feel more trust from her side in all of this?
TL;DR: My gf wants to buy a house without me legally owning anything, but paying part of the mortgage and it makes me feel a bit insecure or with a bit of loss of trust about everything.
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We've been together as a couple for over a year. Yes, not that long, but we even felt comfortable enough to start living together after just 6 months, and we're now on a rental, doing good enough as a couple, although there are areas that I'd like to improve together.
She has received from her parents a good amount of money (€100K) to buy a house, and we've been talking about the topic, but more about placing us both on the mortgage, although of course with me owning less part of the house since I would put less on the starting point (around €20K) which I completely agree. I'd love to help more, but unfortunately, my savings are just not as good as hers right now. We've been checking houses together and do feel that agree with most of the things we'd like to have, so it's good.
However, lately, she's been telling me that she'd prefer to buy the house on her own to avoid possible legal issues in the future if we split up or anything (which I also understand) but it has just been a bit sad and impotence for me since I can't help as much as her, and I've been working to also save up more money and help more, and it does lower a bit my trust on her since I feel she can't trust me as much as I thought.
She also has asked if I could help her pay part of the mortgage as a "rental" for me but without me owning anything, as well as services, furniture, and more, which I understand and would agree, but it doesn't help too much with my feeling of being there as a "temporary" person, but at the same time she does feel me as the father of our children, she does talk about marriage and gives hints as to what she would like, and we do match in several ways of thinking for the future, which is a great bonus point.
I do feel that we are having a good communication about all the process, I do feel her receptive on my emotions, and we do and will have a deeper conversation on this topic soon, so I hope at least we can get up to a middle ground where we feel good.
How can I make sure I feel comfortable with her decision down the road? How can I feel more trust from her side in all of this?
TL;DR: My gf wants to buy a house without me legally owning anything, but paying part of the mortgage and it makes me feel a bit insecure or with a bit of loss of trust about everything.