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Hello! I have just adopted a dog I found on the street back in October with my girlfriend. She is 8years old and her name is Athena. We found her in Florida and have recently moved to Massachusetts in January. She didn’t have any life threatening issues from what we saw when we found her, just a cyst on her back that healed up. But like a month and a half ago we saw her sneezing blood. At first I didn’t think anything of it but over time it started to be really bad. Splotches of blood everywhere, constant nosebleeds and trouble breathing. We took her to an emergency vet one day because it was a really bad case that day at like 3am and was told to do a bunch of tests and scans for a lot of money that we do not have. We settled with some antibiotics that worked for a while but is still happening when they wore off. I would get pet insurance but I’m a little new to owning a dog and found out recently that insurances don’t deal with pre existing conditions. These tests are like $2000-5000 for just to see what it’s about and it’s not even set chance that the test will find anything I was told. please help with any answers on what we can do! We’ve been very stressed and worried thank you!

This is a really long story with lots of context so I'll do my best to organize it into current situation, then his backstory and hers. I'm also not using real names or specific locations for any of this to try and keep this private. This also has some contradicting stories and because of how their relationship is structured relies mostly on information I have gotten from my sister, so I'm telling you the story I got from her first and then adding in what I've found out. I'll try to tell this as unbiased as I can but it's been a huge issue in my family for a long time now and that's a little difficult for me to do.
My sister (Olivia, 24F) has been dating this guy (Trevor, 25M) since 2021. When they started dating, she talked about him fairly often, sent a few pictures of them, ect., but then after a month she stopped mentioning him/ was cagey when we (me and my mom mostly) asked how he was so we assumed it just hadn't worked out. Then two months later she insisted that my parents and I all come to visit her college to meet Trevor before he went into the Army (she lived several hours away from my parents and several hours from my college, so I had to get a bus ticket and my parents had to get a hotel room to do this. We only met him once for dinner). Now they've been dating long distance for three years after a three month in-person relationship. She is in nursing school and is planning on moving across the country (literally opposite corners of the map) to live with him and is not applying to any residency programs outside of the Army base area (limiting her choices a LOT from her original goals and narrowing employment opportunities).
Olivia met Trevor on several dating apps, matched with him, but didn't really want to go out with him. He was really persistent, so her friend convinced her to go out with him. She lied about the way they met to our parents and told them they met at the gym through a mutual friend (she lied to me about this at first too and told me the truth about 3 months after they started dating). At the time, Trevor was working as a used car salesman and living at home (~45 min. away from Olivia's school in a rural area) because his sports scholarship had been dropped before his Senior year due to covid at the college he had been attending out of state. The university was unaccredited (I later did some internet stalking and found out it was accredited), so his credits would not transfer and he would have to start over. He was saving up money to attend school in state at the large college Olivia attended so he could go back to school. **Our state has crazy low tuition costs in-state and a full-tuition scholarship program for good high school GPA and SAT scores. There was also a "feeder" community college that had half the cost per credit hour that a lot of people would go to before the larger university if they didn't get in straight out of high school.**
Olivia told me that Trevor had applied to her college and not gotten in (she later told me he HAD gotten in but been unable to afford tuition). Either way, he decided to join the Army because his father had been in the Army. The Army would take his credit hours and he would be able to finish his degree during his 5 year contract or use the GI bill once he got out. **She is comparing the situation to our father, who joined the Army directly out of high school and used the GI bill to go to college after his 2 year contract because his parents wouldn't pay for school. He was a medic in the military, worked as an EMT through college, and then went to nursing school.** The original plan was that Trevor would be a Green Beret (special forces), he completed basic training and and got several months through training and moved to the secondary base in NC before failing the running portion of a physical by about 10 seconds and being dropped from the selection process. He then decided that he wanted to be a Ranger (another elite position). He got sent back to GA, then to the Ranger school base in WA (it took a couple of months before he was sent to WA). Again, he got partway through the training before failing the running portion of a physical by a few seconds. He is now not sure if he will be continuing Ranger school (failing the physical means no, but commanders may pass him anyways if they think he should continue). For a while, Trevor told Olivia that he might not stay at the base in WA if he wasn't in Ranger school and there were a variety of different bases he could be sent to, including somewhere in Italy, so she wasn't sure where to look for jobs. In the past month, Trevor told Olivia that he would likely stay in WA regardless of the Ranger school results.
Through this all, Olivia has visited Trevor at the different military bases countless times, driving from as far as south FL to NC and putting over 30,000 miles on a brand new car over the course of the 1.5 years she's owned it. Before she had the car, she paid for plane tickets to see him and hotels whenever she visited. At the time, she told me that he was paying for all of these trips because he was unable to visit her, was making an income that wasn't being spent, and she was working to save for nursing school and later was living off of student loans and savings during nursing school. She later admitted to me that she had paid for almost all of the expenses except for food when they ate out together and part of a hotel room one weekend.
A few odd things (to me) between Olivia and Trevor over the course of their relationship:
About a month into their relationship, Trevor got Olivia an over $300 christmas gift. He has not gotten her anything nearly that expensive since, and hasn't sent flowers for things like her college graduation or a severe emergency surgery she had last year. I don't care about monetary value or sending flowers, but I do think it is odd that he spent so much before moving away when he ostensibly didn't have much money, but now that he has an income and military sign-on bonus, he has not spent that much again.
Trevor's father left Trevor, his siblings, and his mother, but Trevor has a hat that his father gave him that he wore often. The hat says "Red Man" across the top of a picture of a Native American man wearing a feathered headdress. He has worn this hat several times around Olivia's friends and they told him they didn't like it and that it was racist. They also asked him to not wear it when he was with them and he refused because it was special to him and his father gave it to him. Olivia then told him to stop wearing it and he eventually agreed (Olivia told me that he stopped wearing the hat after this). A few weeks after this, I facetimed Olivia and Trevor was with her. She turned the camera so I could say hello to him, and he was wearing the hat. I talked to Olivia about this later and she told me that that was the first time he'd worn the hat in a while and it wasn't a big deal. Olivia has always been liberal and never racist, and I am uncomfortable that she was okay with him not only wearing the hat, but being with him while he had it on.
They dated for a little over 3 months in person before he joined the military (recently, Olivia told me that they actually met several months before she told everyone about him and that they actually dated for 6 months before he left). For the next two months in basic training, he was only able to use the phone for 15 minutes total once a week to talk to family and her. Throughout the different training programs he has completed he had sporadic and limited access to phones to communicate, and only in the past 6 months he has had access to his phone to facetime, text, and call (but sometimes he goes for a week or two without phone access). Olivia told me that they wrote letters during the time he didn't have consistent phone access. **I don't think that this is odd, I understand the military limits phone usage, etc., but I don't think they have been able to have an "average" long-distance relationship**
Last year, Olivia drove to GA to visit Trevor the weekend before Valentine's day. He had plans for them to take a pottery class, go on a hike, and have dinner at a nice restaurant. The day she got there, Trevor's barracks had their off-base privileges revoked because one of the guys had contraband. She would still be able to visit him on base though. Somehow, Trevor was able to get off base for long periods of time to her hotel, but unable to do the other activities he had planned for them.
In the past year, Olivia told me that she and Trevor were going to immediately marry when she got to WA so that they could move in together because they had to be married to live together anywhere. I and our dad- who was in the military- told her several times that this was not true, but she insisted it was. Then, his barracks were given an allowance to live off base in apartments because the barracks were being renovated/ rebuilt, so she backed off on the idea of getting married immediately after several long conversations with me. She is still insistent on moving in with Trevor, who lives with a roommate, when she moves to WA.
Some background on Olivia:
Olivia has ADHD and anxiety, and struggled particularly badly with the anxiety/ some depression after being broken up with by the boyfriend she dated before Trevor (he broke it off very abruptly, told her he just didn't love her anymore with no previous indications). Olivia is very pretty (objectively, not just because she's my sister), but had bad acne that she ended up going on accutane for at the time she started dating Trevor and was very insecure about it. She had also decided to not go to medical school, and pursue nursing instead around the same time she met Trevor. This was a very upsetting decision for her because she had been taking very hard courses and was burnt out but had told everyone she was going to be a doctor and thought that she would be letting us down by switching paths. Also around the time she started seeing Trevor, Olivia began being very cruel towards our mother (our mother had been borderline emotionally abusive in the past, but Olivia and I were both in college by then and fixing our relationships with her. She has been much better recently and Olivia and I believe that she had some mental health struggles that went unchecked that contributed). Now, several years later, Olivia told our family that she had acted like that because she was rpd by a friend of her ex-boyfriend's after her ex broke up with her. This person also gave her an STD.
I always believe people who say they have been S A'd, and we believed Olivia when she first told us, but some things have come to light that make me and my family question that. Right after Olivia and her ex broke up, Olivia told our cousin that she had gone out with one of his friends and had revenge/ breakup sex with him because he had also been dumped recently. Once my cousin told me this, I remembered that Olivia had told me about a guy she had a one night stand with after she was dumped. She showed me a picture of him, talked about how cute he was, etc. (no distress whatsoever). I know sometimes people behave in ways you wouldn't expect when a traumatic event occurs to them, but I really don't understand how or why Olivia would brag about this guy if he really did S A her.
Three months ago, Olivia was arrested for stealing a set of sheets from Walmart (incidentally, right before Trevor came to visit her on leave). She used the self check-out and only bought a small $5 item and the sheets. She held both in one hand and scanned each side because she had a cut on the other hand and was holding her wallet with it. She saw a 5 in front of the total number and thought it looked right because the total should have been about $50, paid, didn't get a receipt, and walked out. An employee at the door asked to see a receipt, which Olivia didn't have, so she pulled up her transaction history on her phone to show she had paid. At this point, the employee called the police and took Olivia into an office, where she was questioned and charged with shoplifting. (Olivia can get very emotional and probably got upset when the police questioned her, which may have led them to believe she was lying). Luckily, Olivia has managed to get the charges expunged, but the process is still ongoing. Because of her ADHD, if anyone genuinely made this mistake, I would believe it from her, but Olivia has been improving a lot on organization and being more attentive recently. It is extremely uncharacteristic of her to steal- she was honest to a fault as kids- she would break down from guilt and admit things to our parents that we would have gotten away with if she hadn't said anything.
Right now, my parents have met Trevor twice in person, and I've met him once in person and several times in passing over facetime. I personally don't think that Trevor seems to keep up with my sister or that they make each other shine, and that opinion is shared with family friends and family that have met Trevor. Olivia doesn't mention Trevor in front of our parents often because his name has become a topic of contention and argument between them. My parents don't think Trevor is right for Olivia. She has almost 2 college degrees and plans to become a nurse practitioner in the future, and he hasn't finished college and doesn't seem to have any drive to do so. Olivia is also well traveled and enjoys going to museums, concerts, etc., while Trevor has lived in rural FL his whole life (this is not Trevor's fault, and I don't think he is a lesser person because of it, but I don't see a lot of common ground between them). Trevor has not seemed very well spoken when I have talked to him and I just don't see a lot of qualities in him that Olivia values.
If you've gotten this far, I just don't know what to do. Olivia and my parents have a huge rift in their relationship right now and any mention of Trevor, with her around or not, explodes into a huge argument, discussion, or just icy silence. I want Olivia to be able to talk to me about him, and we are able to discuss things much better than she is with our parents. My parents have also started asking me about Olivia and Trevor because they know Olivia shares more with me, and it makes me uncomfortable because I don't want to betray Olivia's trust, but I'm also very worried about her. I know I can't control her actions and I'm having a really hard time trying to balance supporting Olivia but not supporting the relationship (I'm not going to lie to her about how I feel, but I don't want her to feel alienated or unloved by our family, because that is NOT the case). I also think that Olivia is romanticizing the fact that our parents don't like him because my father's parents had a rift with him over our mother when we were very young (this is a whole other story, but basically, his parents always favored his sister, his sister got (I think) jealous when he did well for himself and married my mother, who his parents initially likes, and she made up rumors/lies about my mother that turned his parents against her (this was way before our mother's suspected mental health struggles, which occured when Olivia and I were in middle/high school).
Please share any thoughts you have on the situation (am I reading too into things, is this not as bad as I think it is?), and any advice you have on navigating the relationships.
Tl;dr My sister's boyfriend lied about the circumstances of him dropping out of college and joining the military. Now I think he's lying about not making it through training for two different special/ elite forces. My sister has significantly changed her behavior and I think she may have lied about a significant traumatic event to our family. Now she is planning on moving across the country to him and moving in immediately. Our entire family doesn't like him and we're worried about her. How do I support her but not her relationship?

I am writing this because my friend told me I should start journaling about my situation. My situation is not too uncommon but I need to get this off my chest. I was recently in a relationship that lasted for 1 year. The break up literally tore me apart because he did everything he was supposed to do from spending time to going on dates. He was so engaging that we would have never ending conversations. We related on so many levels. As we got to know each other we developed what I now see as unhealthy behaviors. He was in a profession that allowed him to make his own schedule, I was in a profession that allowed me to take off time but I was unable to make up the hours missed. All of that was ok because we made plans on how to get right financially. He lived with his parents which was ok. We planned that he would move in with me because I own my house and if we went together on the mortgage it would be less for both of us so we could get our financial situations together. I loved hanging out with him so much that I began to make my schedule reflect his. Essentially working part time. I had a bad habit of drinking that i often told him I didn't want to bring into our relationship. He agreed but then developed the same habit. We had so much fun together.. drunk. I hated it and loved it at the same time. Out of 365 days we were together 350, he never gave me no clue of cheating.. so l thought. One day we got drunk together... of course.. and he passed out on my couch. While he was out I was still up drinking. I reached down the couch and felt his phone... my first thought was.. let me see if I know his code. First code I put in ...correct. Me still clueless I go to his text messages thinking I won't find anything, this man didn't play about me. I scroll through and I see mostly clients, then I see a text that says "I love you" I open it. Scroll back over the whole year w had been together and see that he was planning a future from moving in together to having kids with this woman I now know to be one of his exes F/30... I could not breathe. I then go to his Snapchat and see conversations with a woman named Laura, again another ex.. I scroll though it and the whole year the same thing, planning a future from moving in together to having kids another F/30.. at this point I'm almost on my death bed.. question... What do I do?
TL;DR;: he left me. For his exes. I think I messed up. Is this going the right way?

I’d like to begin this invitation of advice or experiences by stating that what I want in life is a partner who feels like home, will always give me their genuine effort, & will love me through all of the highs, mediums, & lows of life.
I specifically want to know about any advice or things I should consider when it comes to the age gap I have with the man I’m seriously considering making a staple & serious part of my life. I (29f) met Chance (40m) 3 years ago & we have been seeing each other for a little over a year. We met at the middle school in which we both work- he’s the social worker, I’m the art teacher. When I first saw him, he looked like a meat head (he’s pretty muscular, bald, beard, wears hoodies) & I’ve always been into nerds so it never occurred to me that I’d end up attracted to him. The first year we knew each other, it was very surface level, & then, during the second year of my time at the school, I got to know him better, as I did a few coworkers I now consider close friends. This second year of friendship was also a tough period for me as I was going through a divorce from a 5 year relationship with a man who wasn’t on the same life path as me & kind of made me dislike myself just for being me (wanting kids, needing to be intrinsically motivated in my career rather than financially motivated)- basically he was type A & I am B. Anyhow, as I was processing my divorce & creating friendships, I got to know Chance better both at work & at hang outs with friends outside of work. I watched how the kids at school just flocked to him & how kind he was with everybody. He coached the basketball team, did an after school program with the SRO to help at risk kids, & often stepped in to help others with tasks that weren’t related to his job as social worker. & he always did it with a positive attitude & good sense of humor. People just LIKE him, you know? It became obvious that he was just a really good person. One day, we had a discussion about kids & how we both wanted them. He told me I’d be a great mother because of how I treat the students & I told him he’d also be a wonderful parent. & he cast his spell on me & I slowly started falling for him. I couldn’t quite figure it out. Here I was, recently divorced from a relationship that had a tremendous affect on me mentally/emotionally, & I was gaining feelings for a man who was very different from my ex, & 11 years older than me. Was I just looking for a distraction? Was I using him to boost my confidence up after it had spent so much time at all time low? Or was I simply recognizing that this man had all of the features that I’d been missing in my past relationship & maybe I should pay attention to that? I was worried that my judgement post- divorce couldn’t possibly be clear, so I expressed that I had feelings for him but had to take things very slow. I was a bit of a mess as I tried to take the initial steps to get closer to him. I’d get emotional & have somewhat of a panic attack, or I’d go through some wishy washy phases when it came to wanting to see him in general. No matter what it was, he said that he understood, he wasn’t going anywhere, & that he just wanted me to be ok. He’d always ask what he could do to help & what I needed from him to feel better. If we were kissing & he felt that I wasn’t comfortable, he’d stop. One time he could tell that I wasn’t feeling great & he cried because he thought he’d made me feel bad. Needless to say, he was always there for me & ACTUALLY cared about how I felt. As we got closer, he was always respectful, would leave me flowers on random or special occasions (like when I was in an art show that he attended, or the first day of a new semester at work), wanted to make things like holidays memorable for me (one time I specifically thought was sweet was when he decorated my place with a Christmas tree & lights because “it’s your first Christmas in your new apartment, it should be festive!”). I consistently got solid evidence that he was emotionally mature, ready for a relationship, & wanted the same things as me.
So, I thought, “why is this sweet, courteous, kind, responsible, funny man single?” I’d heard some woman at work “pick” at him about this & say “I just don’t get how you’re single!” & I honestly wondered myself. You always heard that it’s a ref flag if a man dates a woman over 10 years younger & that it’s because “women his age didn’t want him”. Well, there are a few rational explanations I could think of: 1. He’d been sexually abused by his stepsister for years as a child. He’d told me that he’d had a few relationships during his 20s & 30s, but they didn’t last long & he’d had some issues with women not dealing with his anxiety around sex well. With me, this was not an issue, really. We’d taken the physical really slow, & when one of us felt anxiety as things heated up, the other stopped & supported. After a few months, it became a non-issue & we were able to have great sex with no fear that one of us would get anxious. 2. When he was younger (childhood-20s) he was overweight. He began balding in his 20s & so he shaved his head. Maybe there weren’t a lot of women who wanted to be with the overweight, bald guy? Women can be just as shallow as men.
So, I began to try to look for any signs that maybe this man is “grooming” me or something. I looked for issues as well as green lights. How’s his family? His brother is happily married with children & Chance is close with his family, seeing them weekly. What are his friends like? I enjoy his friends. They’re nice, fun people & his best friends are in happy marriages. Does he manipulate you? No, he treats me like a princess (I’m not used to it) & tries to establish healthy relationship patterns (he always insists on a weekly date night, suggests activities together, such as me weight lifting with him & him running with me). He also hypes me up like no other- If I’m wearing a risky outfit that I love but know my mom would insult, BAM Chance is the first one to see it & his jaw drops to the floor. Always telling me how strong, sweet, & cool I am. Made me take his gloves when we went on a snowy hike & I’d forgotten mine. Just basically an endless stream of courtesy.
I have gotten a lot of evidence that this is a solid person with whom I could build a beautiful relationship & family with. Everything he’s shown me has been positive as far as communication, morals, empathy, kindness & life plans is concerned.
So… is the 11 year age gap a concern? Should I be more paranoid about why he is still single, or are my theories valid? Although he goes to the gym daily & is like a kid at heart, should I worry about his age when it comes to us potentially raising kids? He’d likely be 43-45 by the time I was ready for that.
If you have any thoughts, please let me know. Truthfully, I do have other potential options if I pursued them & I’m not afraid of being alone, but I’m feeling that I’d like to commit to a relationship.

Hi, My name is Haze and I'm from Sri Lanka. I'm currently an introverted high school student studying Maths, Chemistry and Physics. I like listening to music, watching movies and TV series, hanging out, studying and many more in my free time.
My interests include nature, horror and the paranormal, history, K-pop, spirituality (Law of Attraction, meditation, manifestation, astrology), chocolate, cats, and aesthetics.
I'm going through a pretty tough time with my friendships and it feels so lonely, empty and suffocating sometimes, so I decided to join here and try it. I'm looking for long-term friendships with people around my age (16-23) where we can talk about our daily lives, have deep meaningful conversations, and support each other during their good and bad times. It's like I'm looking for a new best friend for my life.
I consider myself an open-minded person so, I don't care about your gender, origins, religion, sexuality etc.
I'm sorry I know this is boring so, Thank you for reading till the end and if you're called to I hope you leave me a msg or comment here, so we can get back to each other and form a special bond

I had struggled worse than the past years and ocd has encroached my entire year in 2023. Dream about it, wake up and feel that im still in this loophole. Then my ocd got slightly better so that i could go see a doctor and take some pills this year(i wasnt able to, because i felt i should punish myself and take it, i still do feel that way but not so much). I dont really am struggling with ocd rn but i still feel depressed. It isn't as much as i was struggling with ocd, but still do. Breaking out of ocd, I am finally studying for university entrance and it is a nice thing but i feel like i was taking my life down so long due to my ocd and there are lot of things i was missing out. Anyway i still feel depressed and sometimes get better, i feel some energy that i can do my study. But here comes the problem(that not might be scientificly verified, but still) that what if i am wasting my serotonine a lot so that i might get depressed again. Is it ok to be energetic for my study or should i calm down?(i dont think this is a part of manic episode but i dont know much about bpd, ill ask my doctor about what im going through rn next time i visit) I feel like i shouldnt enjoy my state and im kind of nervous about it. Thank you for reading it and i hope i didnt write anything offensive.

My husband of 5 years has been sneaking out of the house at night on the weekends and going to his friends house to drink all night long. I see him on the camera and I’m out of town visiting family on the weekends with our daughter. I ask him in the morning how he slept and he lies and says he sleeps great at home. Meanwhile I have him recorded leaving. I’ve never prohibited him to go to his friends and spend long hours away from home. I’ve encouraged it because he works a lot and I know he needs his time too. When I confronted him about it he becomes very angry and says fine I won’t ever go visit my friends and be miserable at home all the time. I told him I don’t wish that for him and I’m quite alright with him being out all night, he just has to communicate. Going out to drink and I’ll probably stay there so I’m not drinking and driving. This is so I know where he is and not staying up all night worried because he’s lying to me. I’m currently staying with my family house away because I don’t have a car and it’s being fixed. He’s playing the victim and not reading my texts, texting me or calling me. Straight silent treatment. I don’t know what to think but I’m feeling really crappy because I’m happy for him to see his friends several times a week and never gave him a problem. He said he’s lying because I don’t let him see his friends. That’s 100% not true. Could he be hiding something? What would be other reasons for him to hide going to his friends when im perfectly fine with it

I finished Gabriel's 10-week squat program on his app today. My back squat max before the program was 113 kg, and I hit 127 kg today. I weigh about 82 kg and have been weightlifting for 6 months. Overall, I liked the program and felt I was able to increase my PR by more than I had expected. The program was 10 weeks long, with 3 sessions a day, and each session took me around 2 hours to complete.
If you know Gabriel, then you know he loves volume. There were a lot of sets and reps, and there was a lot of waving in terms of load. I found the program to be challenging, and I even missed a couple of reps/sets along the way. But overall, it seemed pretty doable, and I never felt overwhelmed. I really liked the balance between all the exercises. Each session spent an equal amount of time on the classic lifts, back squats, and accessories. For every set and rep in the squats, there was an equal amount of work in accessories and other strength exercises like pulls and presses.
My favorite thing about the program was that it felt like it was building my whole body rather than just my quads. With the amount of work on hamstrings, lower back, and upper back, I always felt that the rest of my body was keeping up with my quads, and this focus on general strength kept me relatively injury-free. The biggest gain I noticed was not the 1RM strength but more the work capacity of my legs and the speed/rhythm of my squats. If I go back and watch my videos, I can see that the speed of my squats stayed relatively the same from 50% up to 90%+. I also felt that I had gotten much more explosive and started developing that signature Gabriel gunshot sound in my snatches and clean and jerks.
Regarding the Super Weightlifting app, I liked its build and functionality and felt all my needs were met. There is also a section in the app where you can post your lifting videos for form checks. I was able to get responses from Gabriel in less than 24 hours, even when he was traveling, and he would generally answer any follow-up questions on the same night. However, I feel you might have a different experience depending on your time zone.
All in all, I am happy with my progress, and I felt it was worth the money I paid. I will now be trying out his 5-day-a-week weightlifting program and probably do another squat cycle after that.
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My son is 11, almost 12. He’s in 5th grade. He and this other boy have had constant issues, mostly at recess. My son has tried to limit interaction from the kid but this kid is always making smartass remarks, calling my son stupid, and an “autistic monkey” my son doesn’t have autism but it still upsets him, of course. This child also makes negative comments about me. Saying I don’t parent right. Lol ANYWAY.
The principal decided to force the boys to separate at recess so they are alternating the friend group. (They have the same friends) which, I personally think is really dumb because in real life you have to learn to tolerate people all the time. You can’t just avoid people forever. Especially in the workplace which they will both end up apart of, some day. Lol the thing I’m most angry over is today his principal told my son he could not sit at his lunch table with his own friends, where he always sits. She is trying to make them switch off eating lunch at that table. She’s essentially alienating both of them on different days and causing more complications that weren’t even a problem. They have not had issues at the lunch table. Because my son was fed up and just wanted to eat with his friends, he said no, I didn’t agree to switch off during lunch. This principal then made my son miss his lunch recess because he was “talking back”
If I’m 11 years old, I wouldn’t be willing to do that shit either. I can’t stand this principal and am glad she’s leaving at the end of this year. I want to present an alternative to her shit plans but wanted some input. I don’t think it’s normal to isolate kids like she’s been trying to do all year.

I’m glad I’ve found this group. Maybe I can get some solid experience to overcome this. Growing up I did not have a lot of serious relationships let alone sex at all. I met my wife through a common friend from church. At the time we were getting ready to leave on religious missions. I really liked her at the time but couldn’t and didn’t wanna make a move because of what we were both preparing for. Anyways, a few months later she got a boyfriend and I was super mad because she told me she wasn’t looking for anybody because she wanted to get ready blah blah blah. I resented her and stop talking with her. Fast forward a few years. We get in touch again, we started hanging out and this time she fells for me. One day she confess and I had to bring up my hurt she choosing that guy over me. But again, they were only together for a few months. As we get to know each other I made the mistake to ask about her past. And she answered. Even though she has had several boyfriends, she’s been intimate with 2, ones of this being the last guy she chose over me. Luckily for me, it was not intercourse encounters but more like foreplay stuff. The 1st guy she ever had anything was a boyfriend from high school who black mailed her with oral if not he would tell her father about them. She said he did horrible stuff to her all the time they were together. The 2nd guy was a quick oral that didn’t go far because she stopped it. This happened in his school dorm. The 1st guy there’s nothing I can do about it. But the second guy, I was kinda in the picture. She never spent the night with me, but she would sleep in this guys dorm all the time… she even went on a road trip with him and she assured me nothing happened and I believe her. That whole fucking experience kills me. The fact that she chose him over me first. I feel like 2nd. The things this guy got without marrying her, yet I had to marry her to get it… she’s giving me a few orals in the last 10 years we’ve been married but the fact that I don’t how easy that guy got it kills me… I love her but those thoughts trigger me. I feel stupid thinking that way but I wish I can control it.

hellooo~ ur not allowed to have my name until youve passed a certain level of comfyness but u can call me V for now haha
idk im not lookign for much just getting buzzed and thinking about better times, and hoping to find some cool friends who might be into da stuff im into and idk i think id like to try for long term friendships and stuff, after a while the short 1 night only convos get kinda depressing u kno?
my hobbies n stuff are umm cigarettes~ i love tasting different brands and relaxing with a nice smoke at the end of the day (and the beginning and middle too haha)
i like alcohol too but wehn i drink too much friends get hurt n i dont like that
if ur coolio and u think im cool also maybe we can even tal;k on discord!!
platonic chats only please, and preferably relatively open minded people :')

Heyo! I'm really looking for some new friends to talk to or play games with. My name is yoni and I'm 23 to start it off. I currently live alone in a studio so I kinda get lonely alot. I have a friend group but with everyone working it's kinda hard to play other then a couple nights a week. I just want someone I can spend a lot of time talking to and getting to know. I have no problem doing audio or video calls once we start talking! I also have a discord sever where I talk to anyone new people or who wanna join our friend group if your interested. (Yes I keep yapping I'm sorry). Also just an fwi I reply super fast I don't mean to I just always have a YouTube video playing on my phone so I tend to hear when I get a notification. I also reallyyyy love watching or going to the movies I go every single Saturday the past 5 months. Just one thing is that I prefer talking to females because although most of my friends group is mixed I just don't relate to a personal level with guys as a do with girls who will talk to me about random shit for hours. Ok now that I'm done yapping lmk if you wanna be friends or game together or both when you DM me !
Just if you didn't read all that I'm not as comfortable with guys older then 25-26 and I get along super well with females as I'm really able to open myself up.

I 30f am way too old for this but. Ive never had a serious relationship. Met a guy at age 22 first guy I fell in love with. Only it wasnt mutual. We started off as a casual hookup/friendship which I thought I was OK with eventually told him I wasnt but he would kinda dangle the promise of a relationship with me for years and since we lived at a long distance that was kind of his excuse. It turned out he was not a nice guy anyway, he mistreated me a crazy amount and discarded me whenever convenient for him. He was narcissistic. He was also the most fun Ive ever had with a person. I will never feel that way again, but I have to remind myself it wasnt anything sentimental or real. Ive gone to therapy, online dated a ton, had some crushes, some flings, some longer things that almost turned serious but felt really boring. I cant seem to find someone and never feel good enough for the people I truly like and feel a connection to. It all started with him.
Anyway, he tried to reconnect many, many times to the point I had to block him on absolutely everything as he would not stop reaching out over the years but would only come back to shatter me again. He would always say how do you not have a boyfriend youre so xyz, and encourage me to find a boyfriend meanwhile he was just toying with my emotions. When I joined insta, about 6 months ago, he tried following me and I blocked him. Things went too far that last time we saw eachother, and I felt pathetic and degraded. Hes been blocked for about 2 years now. So our "not relationship" went on seven. years. I know this is shameful. I have a burner insta account where I lurk a bit (I know its bad) and I lurk several ppl himself included. He sent the account a message saying "why you lurking me". I blocked him on my burner account.
As an INFP how do I get rid of the sentimental feelings and reminiscing of a first love. Ive been open minded, but I have terrible luck/maybe just not quite "enough" for the type of person I wish to be with. Ive tried dating all types of guys but with the ones I truly like, I always get discarded. I get dates easily, but rarely get asked out a 2nd time. Guys I meet organically also lose interest super quick. I have come to accept I may never find someone, never have kids. I'll certainly never have that young love. Im kind of in a low point realizing this, even though other aspects of my life are going well. What I want most is romantic love. I guess thats why lately my mind wanders back to this guy just to see what hes doing as he was someone I talked to regularly for 7 years. I will never speak to him again but always wonder if he misses me ever.

I’m really nervous rn bc my parents got a letter in the mail saying that I have too many tardies (I completely understand that it’s my fault for having too many tardies) and in the letter they said to call this number as soon as possible to talk about it I’m just worried that their gonna say to come into my schools principal‘s office I really don’t want to go there if that turns out to be the situation bc one time I got my first detention from her for a really stupid reason in my opinion and I think that she was kinda mean abt it (like I understand that u can’t be nice when giving a detention but I don’t think she had to be kinda mean abt it) and she just really makes me anxious or also I’m afraid bc one of the assistant principals knows my name but I don’t really like it (ik its really odd) and I don’t want my parents to think that I want to be friends with all of the staff in school or something they haven’t called the number as far as i know yet I’m just worried abt the outcome of this situation

I have never been in a relationship before and I met this girl at uni and we are on a same friend group. We hung put for a while and she started to fall for me, a little too much. I avoided for a while because I knew she’s not my type and I wouldn’t wanna be in a relationship with her.
However as time passed by and we started to become a little closer, we hangout in the city together and talk about life over chat. She broke up last year so I don’t think we are on the same page either.
I how she’s a little too clingy and childish, cute as well. We flirt sometimes but I always get hints that she low key wants to sleep with me so bad. So far Ive just ignored her hints and she’s also not into taking care of household, cleaning and all which I value a lot. (Not stereotyping but I do everything myself as well) I also don’t t like her family background and I think she’d just be a big liability if we ever get married..
We dont hangout a lot together anymore (last month) but we do chat once in a few days but I feel Im slowly falling in love with her…
I know that this is not going to work and we’ll end up getting hurt. I’ve never confessed her directly. So how do I keep the distance or set my boundaries now? I want to keep the friendship but I cant even ignore her texts online..love sucks k garney
(I really want to marry the girl Im in a relationship (and in bed) with and this one might just ruin that idea I have in mind.)
Please help your boy out!

Stuck and need to let it out
Before i start i know i am very stupid for the choices i made. I (26f) got married to my husband (30m) when i was 21 we met from mutual friends and i fell in love with him and it was a feeling ill never forget. He was an amazing guy until he wasn’t he was always very charming and people instantly liked him when meeting him. There is more details but i am going to try to sum it up. I worked a little after marriage than covid hit and i got pregnant with my first born. He took care of me financially always and assured me i dont need to work anyways. I was with him when he was struggling i never complained as a newly wed who barley got to spend time with her husband because i understood i never asked him to take me out or anything i stood by him and now hes very successful (ill get back to why i mentioned that later) my pregnancy was very stressful in my 7th month he hit me and i had bruises on my neck and face i dont even remember what the fight was about after giving birth i struggled alot i was 22 years old i kept finding porn and videos being sent between friends which i have seen before but it started to make me feel bad about myself which i have always been confident before him i told him it bothered me and it never stopped so now im 23 and insecure and i alter my body and do a procedure thinking that will fix things (as i said i know im stupid) he strangled me 2 months after giving birth to the point that i passed out and woke up he almost killed me i never told anyone. He kept saying hes changing and well work things out so i forgave him. My family dosent believe in divorce and as much support i have from them i don’t want to disappoint them. We did good for a little bit we moved to a bigger place and than we moved again to another bigger place that i am in currently. In between all of that there was stuff that i kept seeing that hurt me and bothered me but anytime i say anything he says its me who keeps digging which is true because i grew up having a father who cheated on my mom and i saw it first hand im not going to lie it traumatized me but i did not project it on him until after he started doing the things he did. Hes a very jealous person himself he always tried to control everything he hates that im good looking he tells me all the time he should have married someone “ugly” i do NOT dress provocative at all i barley show any skin but somehow EVERYTHING always leads back to how i dress and all our problems are my fault because of how i dress he says that when we go out men always check me out and it angers him even tho i am not showing any damn skin. Anyways mothers day 2022 he hit me again but he says he didnt but the bruises on my arms say otherwise i have pictures of it and it was bad he tried to throw me down the stairs i begged him not to. Sadly i still wanted to be loved i forgave him moved on he is would buy me gifts and cards and because im so stupid i believed he was sorry anyways now its 2023 and i find out im pregnant i didnt know how i felt my first born was lonley so i thought at least they will have a sibling.. surprise its twins and i knew im going to go through it i had the worse pregnancy i almost died i developed pre eclampsia and my doctor missed it i gave birth early my whole pregnancy i was alone i was so lonley just me and my first born i cried everyday husband was working so i couldn’t complain without it turning to a fight even though its his company and he could afford to have been there a little for me it is not 7 months after i gave birth physically i feel good mentally i dont he is never there for me as a husband i been telling him i feel like he’s just a roomate at this point we have no dates barley any intimacy which had been going on for years i know hes insecure and i never used it against him but he always would to me he hates now that i bounced back quickly and like to dress up again because the end of my pregnancy i was very swollen i was wearing all his clothes. I kept crying telling him i have needs just like anyone else i want to feel loved i dont want to live like this but anytime i say anything he says i complain to much now last week he beat me over nothing it was 60 seconds into a petty argument and he attacked me i packed myself and my 3 kids he watched me packing calling me names i left to a hotel for a night nd than my moms house he got backlash from both our families i ended up having to come home for the kids im miserable hes not sorry mothers day he barley acknowledged me But we spent the day and today any time we try to talk about anything he blames me.
I know im stupid i dont know how i can start over again i have 3 kids i am in the works of going back to school so when the babys start school ill have my career because i am financially dependent on him which is my fault i worked since i was 14 but he convinced me not to anymore My oldest loves their father so much it hurts me to put my baby through this drama There is soooooo much more detail and stuff to add Hes not the worse person i guess i bring out the bad in him when all i ever wanted was to be in a healthy marriage and give my kids what i didn’t have growing up I dont know what to do i know i have to finish school so i can get a stable job but that means i have to stay and suck it up
I never wanted to be divorced but this marriage is over i always thought cheating was the only reason for divorce i am not in love with him but its so hard to let it go i never was like this i was so out going the life of the party i dont even recognize myself i feel so sad and depressed and alone i have the most amazing friends but i cant get myself to open up

Last week, my best friend passed away. I’m not gonna get into details, but it really hurt.
I didn’t know my ex was in a relationship went down but the night my best friend passed away. I reached out to my ex and I called him and told him about it as he knew her from when we were dating, spoke to her and stuff like that, so I decided to tell him I thought he would be there for me as he dealt with death in his family before , me and him have been friends and known each other since 2022
I didn’t expect after me telling him my best friend passed away that he would block me. I started crying because I couldn’t believe that he would block me, especially during a time like this.
My friend ended up, reaching out to him, asking him why he blocked me during a time like this he ended up, unblocking me, and reaching out to me, telling me his girlfriend made him block me this girl he has known sense preschool, who has been dating for a week and already proposed to his parents know by the way she made him block me
He reached out seeing how I was doing and I asked him how he was doing with this and everything as well. I asked him it doesn’t seem like you genuinely care, but he said I’m spending time with my fiancé his girlfriend response to me on the behalf of Logan during a time like this, he told her everything about my best friend dying and she accused me of manipulating and gaslighting because I said like genuinely it doesn’t seem like you care especially with him blocking me the night I told him
I reached out to him today and asked him if he could politely not have his girlfriend message me on his behalf because you don’t see that for me,
he ends up being rude saying First of all you texted me when I was spending time with her, you called me on Thursday while I was with her. I unblocked you because one of your friends started fucking guilt tripping me.
I didn’t know he was in a relationship the night I lost my best friend. I didn’t know he was hanging out with her. I just wanted my ex to be there for me as a friend in a time like this who has experienced some thing that I am going through before.
I texted my ex how I respect his relationship. I respect his girlfriend, but all I asked was for him to be understanding and to be there for me and not to block me after finding out I asked him to be a good friend and then I wasn’t trying to fight or start anything am I wrong or is he in the wrong, I don’t know what to feel
Because all I wanted was for him to be there for me when I felt like I needed to go to him as a friend during time like this

I’m terrified. On thanksgiving he got diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer at the age of 27 with innumerable liver metastasis. He was hospitalized for 11 days, it was the worst 11 days of our lives. The initial oncologists didn’t give much in the way of hope, but he quickly responded wonderfully to chemo.
I got him a consult with one of the best, if not the best, liver cancer surgeons in the world. He said this can still be cured, it just depends on how aggressive we want to be.
He’s been off chemo for three and a half weeks and the whole thing is just terrifying. I’ve personally have had over 10 surgeries for my own medical problems and I’ve never felt like this. I truly love my husband more than myself or anyone in this world. I would do anything for him, I wish I could take this all from him. He doesn’t deserve any of this, no one ever does.
He just had his MRI today and lab works. Hoping that the liver grew from the portal vein embolization they did and that there’s no new cancer. I’m a wreck. I’ve been hopeful as surgery is the most curative measure, but I haven’t been thinking about it. But now that we’re down at the hospital and starting to prep I’m beginning to feel all the emotions I’ve pushed down. It’s just so much.
This is my nightmare. I watched my uncle die from pancreatic cancer in 2013. My second mom (mom’s best friend and also my best friend’s mom) also lost her 16 year battle against a rare and aggressive thyroid cancer in 2021 - she outlived her cancer 3 times, thank god for clinical trials. And my sister also battled chondrosarcoma over 10 years ago, she’s been in remission. I can’t wrap my head around the statistics of my partner also getting cancer, I thought we’d be free of it after the long suffering of those close to me. What were the odds, at such a young age and barely two years into our relationship.
When I met my husband, I had this feeling something was off with his health, but he had zero obvious symptoms. He’d been sick well before I met him but we just had no idea. A couple of months into our relationship I had this awful nightmare that he got diagnosed with stage IV cancer, we got married, and he passed. I woke up sobbing but grateful it was only a nightmare. I hate that this has become our lives but I’m so grateful everyday that I have him. I can’t do any of this without him. I can’t.
I hate cancer, I hate what it does to people. How soul crushing it can be. He’s a fighter, but they all were. We’re very optimistic about this treatment, I’m positive, but that doesn’t mean I’m not scared of the unknown.
My husband saved my life. He came at a time when I was struggling to find myself again. My second mom had just passed, I bought my house, and got out of an unhappy relationship with my cheating, useless ex. I met him and suddenly everything made sense. It just feels like we’re living some sick cruel joke.
I just love him so much, I want him to be okay. I needed to get this all out.
Also a couple of things, 1) I will not be answering anything about his symptoms or colon cancer symptoms - if you have symptoms of a change in your bowel habits go to your doctor and push for a colonoscopy, colon cancer does not discriminate by age today. 2) I am in counseling and on a leave of absence from work for my own mental health, I’m trying to do things for me.

Hi all! This will be a very long post, but I hope it will be an invaluable resource in parrot care for anyone who is either considering getting a bird or has one already. I am NOT an expert and all provided information I have cited below for your viewing leisure; these are simply tips and educational content I've amassed over months of dedicated research and cobbled together in one convenient package. I will continue to update or make amends to this post as necessary and encourage insights from others so we can all do the very best for our feathered companions as possible.
(I should mention that there will always be exceptions to some of the broad generalizations elucidated here: for example, you might have a cuddly IRN despite the species' known aversiveness to touch).
With that being said, let's start by dismantling some very prevalent myths about parrot husbandry.
Myth #1: Placing your bird on your shoulder or the top of its cage will cause your parrot to think of itself as the "alpha" of the flock and thus, will encourage aggressive or dominant behavior towards the subservient human(s).
The reality is that parrots don't operate within a hierarchal system. Any observation of a "pecking order" among flock members is more than likely individual personality differences clashing or resource-guarding behavior.
Myth #2: All parrots need 12 hours of uninterrupted sleep in total darkness.
This is the myth I see peddled everywhere, and while there are some species less likely to be affected by these nocturnal habits, it can be detrimental to the welfare of others: a study showed that sleeping for more than 8 hours in 24 hours increased the likelihood that African Greys would feather pluck. Keep in mind that artificially decreasing daylight time by increasing the number of hours a parrot sleeps to ward off hormones won’t always work — in old-world parrots (cockatoos, greys) SHORTER daylight corresponds more with the breeding cycle and hormone triggers. The crux of the argument against this widely circulated fallacy is that, at best, parrots don't need 12 hours of sleep in complete darkness and at worst, it posits a significant risk factor for FDB (feather-damaging behavior). Yes, there is a 12/12 day-night cycle in the tropics, but that does not mean that parrots sleep for 12 hours straight and certainly not in what we presume must be deathly still darkness, for the wilderness is neither pitch-black nor soundless at night. Crucial to proper parrot psychosocial functioning is the ability to ROOST before sleeping; this is when birds start to settle down, hang out with and preen one another, an activity which confers numerous benefits to their overall health such as… I want to take a slight detour to discuss the popularity of "sleeper cages" and how replicating parrot breeding conditions in this manner (the only time a wild bird is isolated in darkness is when caring for its young in a nesting hollow) can promote a litany of unwanted hormonal behaviors. Not all birds will be affected by this of course, but it's something to be aware of. Your best bulwark against avoiding problem behaviors associated with avian sleep hygiene is to set up a stand in your bedroom or wherever you sleep and have your bird go to sleep at the same time you do. I understand that this arrangement isn’t feasible for everyone, so do what works best for you and your bird!
Myth #3: Cockatoos are unique among parrots for their “cuddliness.”
This statement is only partially true and for all the wrong reasons. In the wild, cockatoos take UP TO A YEAR OR LONGER to wean. Cockatoo parents are highly involved in the rearing of their offspring, providing feedings and physical comfort even after the young has fledged. Contrast this with the Amazon parrot's relatively neglectful parenting practices, and you'll see why many neotropical parrot species adapt better to captivity than their old-world brethren. Many new-world species can afford to encourage early independence in their young given the (relative) abundance of resources in the regions from which they originate compared to the arid, often harsh geographical range of some of the old-world parrot species like cockatoos. It stands to reason, intuitively, that it would be evolutionarily advantageous for young to enlist the support of their parents for longer to help them navigate their environment's unique challenges. Most breeders won't keep the babies for up to a year to ensure they are appropriately ABUNDANCE-WEANED and ready for their new homes. Consequently, most, if not all, captive-bred cockatoos end up neurotic and demanding due to being deprived of adequate physical and emotional nurturance in the formative period of their development. The psychologically stunted bird’s hunger for nurturance is then reinforced, often by well-intentioned caretakers, through petting and affection which further conditions the cockatoo's excessive reliance on us to meet his or her emotional needs. Though the damage has sadly been done by this point, the best we can do is incentivize parallel and independent play/foraging to create as well-adjusted a bird as we can given the limited resources at our disposal. This is why it is important to be judicious when selecting a breeder, but ideally, adopt cockatoos from your local sanctuaries.
I'm sure most of us know to avoid stroking anywhere but your bird's head to avoid sexually frustrating them, but the truth is that PROXIMITY alone is sufficient to establish a pair bond. In the wild, only mates spend much of their time near one another while maintaining a large personal space bubble with all other members of the flock (conures, a naturally "cuddly" species, are the exception to these observations). It's best to limit close contact and use the "capture" training method to reward desirable, autonomous behavior — more on that later.
Myth #4: Biting is par for the course of bird ownership.
While it is true that as a bird owner you will, if you haven't already, get bitten at least once, if not occasionally, to suggest sustaining bites with any regularity is normal takes away the onus of responsibility we have towards evaluating our contribution to receiving that bite — at least for people new to parrot keeping. Birds in the wild rarely bite, and frequent biting indicates the bird's body language cues have been ignored or overlooked. Once that first real bite happens, it increases the likelihood of biting as that bird's preferred means of communication for all foreseeable interactions. Of course, we all have days where we're not tuned in to our birds' emotional states, and that’s okay, but outside of certain factors (i.e. rescue or adopted parrots with a history of abuse, neglect, improper weaning, or insecurity due to clipped wings) biting should not be a major issue — even during the hormonal season. A survey (referenced below) had roughly half of the participants report no observable differences in behavior (aside from attempts to mate and associated acts) from their birds during their respective species’ breeding season. The surge of hormones merely AMPLIFIES existing problems the bird is having that either go undetected or happen sparingly enough outside of the breeding period.

Hey everyone, how are y'all doing?
So basically, everyone I know is moving out of the country, either to Australia, Canada or USA and I'm having this fear that I'm missing out on some good opportunities or better lifestyle since I'm staying in India. Now, it's not like that I never had any chance of moving out. Basically my parents never had that much sum of money to invest in me so that I can go abroad. It was always a loan to us and I thought it's not necessary at that time. And moreover to that, despite everything I love India. I like the social life here, I like the friendly nature of people here. Idk this about any other countries. So I'm not utterly hurt staying in India or in Ahmedabad. But this feeling or FOMO triggers everytime someone I know moves out. Do any of you guys feel the same? If yes, how do you cope with it?

I want to express some things that taking my breath sometimes.
My life are stressful. everyday, i have to do the the same things and end up no one think is enough.
my family kinda toxic, i couldn't trust any of them because of the past when they betray me, hurt me, mock me and laughing at me when i cried.
I can't go to school because i'm not citizen but born in this country, learn about culture and love the language, most of the things i learn is through the phone.
even though soon, when i turned 18 i can make passport to kept stay in this country, i don't think i could be anything rather than sell food at the stall.
I'm a girl by the way, i think about maybe if i marry a rich man he can help me and my family because we're poor but at the same time i don't want to marry just because of that.
Honestly, i'm afraid to get married.
My siblings can kept go to school because of my stepfather, i always think about i could never make my mother proud of me because she has other children that she can be proud of, can save her from tiring days.
I have no one to talk to, even if i have i always afraid if they tell that to someone or see me in different light. Haha, i actually talk with Ai or myself because i knew i end up regret it if i talk about my past trauma to someone and also because i'm lonely and introvert.
I always looking for online friends and end up they forgetting me, end up i always the one who contact them first.
I know i'm boring, i know i don't have alot knowledge because I was raised by experience.
Sorry if my grammar is bad, i still learning english. thank you for read this.🥺💗