I'm currently a first year student studying computer science at the University of Washngton, seattle campus. I have been at the school for like 3 quarters so far so this is almost the end of my freshman year, but even after 3 quarter taking CSE courses, I still can't find the balance to how to approach CSE courses in general. My main struggle is how should I use chatGPT for my programming assignments and homeworks.
Before starting university, I worked as a software engineering for about 9 months (not in the USA), and I was able to most of the works using chatGPT because all I had to do was understand the codebase, read the documentation, and write the required code using chatGPT. However, after I started school, I still using chatGPT for generating code for me and I don't know if that is a good thing or bad thing.
For example, I was writing this server side code for chatBot application in one of my CSE courses, and I was stuck on the problem for a very long time. Then, I used the chatGPT for an answer and it produced the correct answer in an instant. Since I was stuck on a problem, I did not see the point of not using a chatGPT. However, the problem arises when the code works and the application works, and I just move on to the next problem because it works.
I'm not even trying to understand the chatGPT result since it is working. I know that this is a bad practice, but I want to ask is it really necessary to understand the code if it works? if it works, it works right? I don't have to waste my time. if that is not right, how should I change my mindset and what programming practices should I try to develop? Is there any books/lectures/vidoes that I can find to help me cultivate different mindset?
In the past, even before chatGPT existed, people used to search answers on StackOverflow, but I remember some programmers used to say "don't blindly copy/paste code" and instead understand the them. I think with these people, they have really different mindset when it comes to code.
Most of my friends at school do not use chatGPT for programming and they basically do all of the code implementation from scratch. if they have to look at answers, they go to stackOverflow or google to search for answers, not chatGPT. what is the mindset that drives them to not use chatGPT for programming and instead use different tools like google or StackOverflow?
finally, my last question is what makes a good programmer?

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This is an analysis video of the footage from the Las Vegas incident that happened in May of 2023. I originally posted this last year on AliensandUFOs, which for some reason, has been made private. I recently reposted it on another sub, but it was [removed](https://www.reddit.com/LasVegasAliens/comments/1cbzdax/on\_censorship\_and\_ridicule). The rampant censorship of this case motivated my decision to create this sub in order to create a safe place for those interested to explore the evidence.
First off, please forgive my messy drawings. I was screen recording on a phone using my fingers to draw, manually zooming, and trying to time everything correctly. It goes without saying that I don't do this professionally, but I did my best. Please note that, after closer analysis, some of my visual interpretations at the time turned out to be incorrect. My drawings are not one-hundred percent accurate, so use them as a guide only. I describe what's there more accurately below, but at least you'll get the general idea and location of what I'm pointing out. Hopefully someone who does this professionally will create a better video. I do plan to remake this with more accurate outlines when I have more time.
In the video, my main focus is on the two beings behind the red truck. I've also pointed out a few others, most notably the being standing near the hood of the front loader blinking as naturally as any living being would and moving their mouth as though they were frantically communicating. Keep in mind, this being is not facing the camera, so we're only able to see the left side of their face. The face is clear, but the body is blurry. It seems clear that they were using cloaking technology or a cloaking ability of some kind and that it was malfunctioning.
There are two very visible beings behind the red truck who appear more physical than the shadow being who zooms over to the fence. One is very tall and the other appears shorter. I took a screenshot, manually removed the background, and enhanced the image. Doing this makes it easier to see details. I will include this and any other relevant images in the comments.
The tall one has a snout like an alligator and you can see nostrils and almost human looking teeth with a gap between the front two. This being appears to be holding a shiny black spherical object against their chest. The shorter one is leaning their arms over the side of the truck. The shorter being appears to be sticking out its long pink tongue. Both beings have huge shiny black bulbous avocado-shaped eyeballs.
Last year, I collaborated with and researched this incident with u/The-Movements-. Their research is a gold mine if you take the time to analyze it. They discovered that there are many, many other beings of all shapes and sizes who can be seen in this footage with enhancement. You can actually see through their cloaking technology or ability simply by hyper-enhancing the images. At first glance, it may appear to be nothing or just imaging artifacts, but I urge you to take a closer look. After some analysis, it becomes easier to decipher what is an imaging artifact and what is not.
In a future post, I will cover one of the visually enhanced images of a being who is wearing a headdress with a symbol on it. There is another smaller being looking up at this one. I did some research on the symbol and found a few notable discoveries which I will go over in my future post.
In addition, by going frame by frame, turning up brightness and resolution, slowing down the video, and zooming in, you can see that they move faster than we have the ability to see normally. During most of the video, they stay very still. However, right before I outline them in the video, you can see the taller being described above completely rotate its huge head to eventually look straight at the family. Watch carefully when the family makes the decision to move ahead. The family looks away for a split second and then the shorter one looks up at the taller one and blinks. Then there is a bunch of blurring in that area and the blur moves over to the fence becoming the shadow figure with eyes. When they zoom back in on that area, the beings are no longer there.
Before the Las Vegas incident, I never really gave the Alien NHI UAP UFO topic the respect and attention that it deserves. Since researching this incident, I've had multiple personal experiences which have set in stone for me the reality that all of this is real.
The very night I made the discoveries about the symbol on the headdress, I experienced my first UFO sighting. Although I'm a huge fan of science fiction, I always thought it was all just a far-off fantasy or dream. I definitely went through some ontological shock and was able to overcome that for the most part, but I'm not sure I'll ever understand the betrayal of humanity by world governments and other entities.

I am 41 years old and an alcoholic up until 3 years ago I was out of control. 4 and a half years ago I moved in with a friend after the death of my grandmother. My drinking got so out of control that I had to start using an enema bag to consume it. Almost a year of drinking between a liter and a half gallon of straight vodka my stomach was so demolished that I had to start consuming it rectally. First I tried a half pint of vodka but almost died of alcohol poisoning, then I started using mini bottles of chardonnay. First all I needed was 2 or 3 but after several months I was up to almost 10. I don't remember the ambulance ride or where I was found but my BAC was .52. The withdrawal was so bad that I had to be put in a coma. After 3 weeks the drugs were stopped and I slowly came awake. My muscles had atrophied and I had to be put on a passive ventilator to ween me into breathing on my own. I was unable to do even the most basic things for myself. So after 5 months in acute care I was moved to a long term rehabilitation facility to basically relearn everything. I was unable to walk, feed, bathe, or toilet myself and basically had to be cared for as if I was a baby. 16 months I was in that damn place undergoing grueling physical and occupational therapy before I was able to leave and go home. Luckily when I got out my parents repealed their rule that I was not permitted on the premises and they have allowed me to live with them again. It has been around a year since I left the nursing home, I have been sober for what will be 3 years this June. Life is good and I will never take my independence for granted again. My family has stuck by me and I have an awesome relationship with my parents. Recovery is the greatest gift that God could have ever given to me

The argument is the fact Jesus did not come back in the first century as scripture said he would.
Firstly let's define some ideas and get some timelines straight; in what manner will Jesus appear for his second coming? According to the Mathew 24:29-31 "Immediately after the tribulation of those days the sun will be darkened, and the moon will not give its light, and the stars will fall from heaven, and the powers of the heavens will be shaken. Then will appear in heaven the sign of the Son of Man, and then all the tribes of the earth will mourn, and they will see the Son of Man coming on the clouds of heaven with power and great glory. And he will send out his angels with a loud trumpet call, and they will gather his elect from the four winds, from one end of heaven to the other." This verse makes it clear that the "Son of Man coming on the clouds" refers to the second coming as the entirety of chapter 24 discusses what will be experienced during the tribulation before he returns and gathers his elect. This is made clear here and in the other gospels such as Mark 13:24-27: "But in those days, after that tribulation, the sun will be darkened, and the moon will not give its light, and the stars will be falling from heaven, and the powers in the heavens will be shaken. And then they will see the Son of Man coming in clouds with great power and glory. And then he will send out the angels and gather his elect from the four winds, from the ends of the earth to the ends of heaven."
This does not refer to the transfiguration or any other event as Jesus is not “coming down” or in any way that is described by the verses above. Again the verses are clear, Jesus will return coming on the clouds to gather his elect, after the tribulation. But now when does Jesus and his followers believe this will happen? Jesus in the preceding verse 23 after explaining the pain the disciples will have to endure through the tribulation says "But be on guard; I have told you all things beforehand." And in Mathew 24:28 "See, I have told you beforehand." Jesus was warning his disciples of what would happen to them but there's more; Mark 14:61-62 "But he remained silent and made no answer. Again the high priest asked him, "Are you the Christ, the Son of the Blessed?" And Jesus said, "I am, and you will see the Son of Man seated at the right hand of Power, and coming with the clouds of heaven." Jesus makes it clear that the high priest will see him coming on the clouds, an event that would take place after the tribulation. This obviously does not happen.
Revelation 1:7 "Behold, he is coming with the clouds, and every eye will see him, even those who pierced him, and all tribes of the earth will wail on account of him. Even so. Amen." Revelation is writing to the 7 churches on "what soon must take place" and how all the tribes of earth will see the Lord, even those who pierced them. This does not happen.
Mathew 16:27-28: "For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father, and then he will repay each person according to what he has done. Truly, I say to you, there are some standing here who will not taste death until they see the Son of Man coming in his kingdom." Jesus has obviously not come back to give judgment on what people have done and nobody has seen Jesus coming in his kingdom
Thessalonians 4:17-18: For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: And the dead Christ shall rise first: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air: And so shall we ever be with the Lord." If the scriptures are inspired by God why would he have Paul write down that there'd be people alive during his time when Jesus returned?
1 Corinthians 7:27-31 "Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed woman [i] marries, she has not sinned. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that. This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealir with it. For the present form of this world is passing away." Paul instructs people to literally not seek a wife because the end is near. It does not get much more clear
Now for those who think this is somehow metaphorical or anything other than the plain reading of the text Acts 1:9-11 makes it clear Jesus will return on the clouds just as he asscended (but don't confuse this with him being seen on the clouds in the sense of the verses earlier because the earlier verses talk about him returning on the clouds after the tribulation).

Hey guys. I’m looking for some suggestions. I am an 11 handicap and see myself as a decent golfer. The last two weeks of my summer Golf League have been not very enjoyable or fun. I have boiled it down to being more anxious and not as confident to strike the ball. After a poor shot, I can’t let it go and want to anxiously run up and hit the next one to redeem myself.
Last year I was able to turn on this mentality that I did not care about the results and just go out to have fun which resulted to very consistent low scores. It was like I was on a cloud and no one could knock me off of this relaxed but focused mindset. But for whatever reason I have not felt this relaxed mindset recently and have been more anxious which results to a scattered golf game. What stinks is I am not having as much fun as I recall in the past and I know the people I’m playing with notice too.
For what it’s worth, I am now the organizer of the league and a new careejob change have added some stress and anxiousness.
For anyone that has been in a similar situation, what did you find that helped you bring yourself back to a comfortable mindset, potentially lowered your scores and ultimately have more fun?
Thank you!!!

I just happen to went on the Sonic fandom wiki in the Sonic Movie 3 page for the umpteenth time and noticed these two actors.
However, the one that intrigued me the most was the Robert Clarkson guy who's playing a 1970s US Soldier. Could this guy be the one who shot Maria, could be one of the people who raided the ARK back then, or anything regarding ARK incident 50 years ago?
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The entirety of Lala's "gotcha moment" on Katie was based on what I assume to be very understandable feelings of frustration on Katie's part, but from what I can tell, no actual resentment held for Ariana.
I can't claim to know Katie or any of these people personally, but the idea that Katie is faking for the camera after years of being villainized and not giving a damn is laughable to me. Coming from Lala, who professes to be out of the comment section but constantly speaking to things that the fans are saying at every opportunity it's even more laughable.
Ariana venting to Tom who was her partner for 10 years about her friends once in a while is not and should not be ammunition to use against her when their relationship turns sour. Katie venting to Lala, because she thought they were friends, about frustrations with her business and wanting to have been lifted up the same way Ariana was is not the smoking gun Lala seems to think it is. Katie can feel that way and still feel love and happiness for Ariana and her success. Lala doesn't seem to understand that because she clearly can't fathom holding two competing emotions at the same time and having the ability to unpack that within yourself without it becoming a national headline.
Lala (and Jeremiah I guess?) seemed to think that because Katie had an emotion about Ariana at one point in time they could rope her into this Ariana teardown pact they all seemed to have amongst each other and then villainize her when she didn't go along because she understands that a venting session with a trusted friend doesn't equate to being willing to tear them down publicly on national television. She didn't "jump on the Tom train" as Katie said it best in the reunion and now she's being villainized once again for it.
Except that as far as I can tell no one is buying this narrative they are trying to sell.

Yes, I know, it’s a terrible habit and sooo unhealthy. But I have an anniversary trip 6 wpo which is normally my one time a year to “go crazy” (drinking, smoking, etc.)
I just want to make sure I’m not going to ruin what I’ve waited so long for.

So recently I sorta came out as trans to five friend's of mine through one looking through my Pinterest together. And they started to make a few jokes that a was fine with, but it then started to to farther then that. (Friends: Ava, Sarah, James, Rachel, and Laura. fake names) We're all the people that knew which was fine I thought because they were all part of the LGBTQ+ community. But the jokes are getting out of hand now.
I recently left on a trip gone and therefore missed a day, apparently they made a bunch jokes about me getting transition surgery. It's been things like that have upsetting me but I'm scared to say everything. The one named Sarah was trying about to say something about my hair and I just lost and ask why she's such an asshole. Which was wrong but I was so done. The all push me around (literally and figuratively). "Sarah" being the worst with stealing things then saying that "seeing people mad is funny". "Laura" talking about way to much to a weird amount, claimed that she was a ch@$er for me and being oddly flirty aswell (I don't know if the ch@$er comment was joke or not).
Amma (also fake name) has been my only friend through it, but I haven't told her I'm pretty sure I am trans. Also have class with Laura, Sarah and Rachel. I also have to sit by Sarah. And at the end of day I tried to talk to Ava (we've been friends for three years {summer school specifically}) and she said nothing.
I honestly need help here, I love them but I can't deal with this, I have also considered leaving the group at the beginning of high school.[we also said nothing about me calling her that at lunch]

For context I am a pre licensed clinician. In one week it’ll be one year since I graduated with my masters. I started a new job weeks after graduating & working towards my post masters hours to get licensed. Ive learned a lot in a years time since graduation. The job I had out of grad school was toxic. All they cared about was productivity = how much money I was earning or losing for the company. I picked up on this pretty quick & burn out started settling in month 3/4 & I resigned after 8 months. While I was there I found some great colleagues for support…that was the best part of the job alongside my clients that I found a rhythm with & stuck with me. One of my colleagues I grew close with & I guess you could say we trauma bonded over being new in this field, the burnout we started experiencing, & how to incorporate self care/survive in a toxic work environment. I’m thankful I had this colleague & the lunch dates we shared, time outside of work exploring what we liked & needed for support since our job was horrible offering help to us pre licensed providers. However, their burnout got bad & went on and unpaid leave & I was still working there the last few months before resigning & I guess reflecting back on it now I’m learning how hard it is in the field as a provider & colleague. I definitely overstepped with boundaries by going above & beyond to help this colleague out & learning more about their mental health issues than I should’ve & disclosing my own to them— to the point we both trauma bonded over our passive suicidality and the current sociopolitical issues in the world that influx these feelings/symptoms. I’m glad we both had our own individual therapists for further guidance but i look back & feel like at times we were giving therapy to each other. Now we’re both at different jobs—difference paths. & I still want to connect & offer support to them but maybe less clinical & more friendship wise or vise versa idk but with more boundaries in place this time around & I’ve been ghosted by this person. Alll texts sent are left on delivered… I see why they say your coworkers aren’t your friends & keep it professional but it’s hard when we’re in this field that’s so personal & counte/transference occurs & also being in a shit work environment too you need people to rely on but it’s wild. It makes me not want to get close to another colleague again but obviously this is a field where we consult too so I guess I’m learning what my boundaries are in this process…
All & all I’m glad I have a better work environment now, less worries about productivity as I continue to figure out who I am as a clinician & what frameworks work best depending on the clients needs & the training I have/experience. & I have a better sense of what agencies to avoid that have business/corporate America interests as a priority versus bettering peoples mental health & helping clinicians feel supported too in midst of an active collapses in multiple systems & the intersectionality of it all that not only impacts the marginalized folx I support week by week but also myself & how fucked it can be to worry about profits over offering adequate & affordable mental health services.

It was summer. He needed money to pay for school next year. He decided to get a job. He needed to apply to different places. He first made a resume. He then made a cover letter. He walked around his neighborhood.

Hi! Seriously need help about to lose my mind due to stress and my community college counselors aren't available for a few days. Thought you guys might be able to give me some answers.
Background, I'm a Physics major who was just accepted to UC Berkeley for physics in the college of letters and science.
When I was meeting with counselors to schedule classes, they never put emphasis on finishing my IGETC requirements, instead telling me to complete my major requirements which i did do. I'm stilling missing 4 classes for my IGETC completion.
Berkeley is now asking me for my IGETC certification and it says that my offer will be rescinded if I don't have it. What the fuck? Could they have offered me admission even knowing I don't meet the requirements? They say they don't accept partial ones either, so I really have no clue what's going on. Did my counselors give me bad advice?
I've been trying to find information on this online but I haven't been able to find anyone answering this question. I am begging to know what's going on.

One thing I don’t understand is how she would be able to move with an open investigation against her son—both with the fight and the SA cases. I also don’t understand how she is able to say SO MUCH about this case. Even if there are tons of lies sprinkled in, it’s astonishing.
I have unfortunately had to file a police report against a predator before, and the length of time it took between filing the report and him getting arrested was 2 days. The police worked extremely fast because he was actively in my life and doing harm, and I honestly couldn’t thank them enough for that because it helped me get out of an extremely dangerous situation.
If she claims that people are stalking her, sending death threats, hurting her property and her son, then why wouldn’t the cops be working just as hard to make sure these people are behind bars? Her and I don’t live in the same state, but I feel like the same rules would still apply to someone in active danger.
Throughout those two days I was told not to say a PEEP. Everyone around me knew who this person was, so me saying absolutely anything about the investigation could’ve put the investigation at stake. I didn’t say anything except to my friend who helped me make the report (bc I’m a lil bitch and couldn’t make it myself 💀).
Im truly surprised they haven’t told her not to say anything about the investigation, ESPECIALLY with minors involved and with her being semi-popular online.

Hi all,
I've been serving as an accounts receivable manager at a private education company for the past 7 years, where I lead a small team. Before this role, I was working in sales and customer service type roles.
My educational background includes two bachelor's degrees: one in arts with a major in psychology and the other in commerce with a major in finance. Additionally, I have a graduate diploma in accounting that I finished last year.
I'm considering pursuing my CPA to enhance my career prospects. However, due to working in a smaller company and primarily focusing on accounts receivable functions, I'm unable to meet the practical experience requirements of the CPA program.
Currently, I'm in my mid-30s and earning $120k annually and I'm seeking advice on if it's worth it still to do the CPA program or if there are any recommendations as to what I should do.
Also curious if there's anyone else here who is an established professional and have done their CPA/CA later in life? As opposed to the early years of their career such as a recent graduate with little/no experience.
Thank you.

I'll start by saying I'm not much of a Reddit user. My first contact with Nix was on some project I worked on about 2 years ago, but I couldn't get the Nix package manager working reliably on my Fedora install (something that still hasn't been solved, btw). Recently, after being recommended some youtube videos, I decided to try the whole thing, NixOS, under the expectation that the Nix package manager would work well under its own operational system. And it does, but NixOS doesn't. It reminds me of that old Docker joke: "we used to have environment problems, now we only have Docker problems".
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love the idea of declarative configurations and using nixos-rebuild to build the system as you wish, but pretty much nothing runs on this OS.
I started by trying some random pieces of code I had previously written. One that caught my attention was written in Haskell, as Haskellians love Nix and it seems to be well integrated. To my surprise, I wasn't able to get a single Haskell project to build through Nix, despite copy-pasting dozens of flakes I found online on tutorials. Oh yeah, and on the topic of flakes, how the fuck are they "extra-experimental" and yet recommended by every tutorial? Anyways, after a few days of trying, the best I could do was use Stack (One of Haskell's "native" package manager) with the nix setting configured. nix develop or nix build would, inevitably, give me weird errors that I couldn't solve through googling, fiddling, or asking AIs for help.
I gave up on the "random pieces of code" idea and decided to try a github project I had been eyeing for a while. To my surprise, couldn't get a simple javascript code to run. As it turns out, node uses some global paths that won't work on NixOS because they're owned by root. Of course, you can sudo everything but that's a terrible practice - especially with a random github project I don't quite trust. Googling it got me vague results, none of which works. Yarn didn't work either, and neither did bun. Mind you, this is one of the most popular languages in the world, and one of the few I can confidently say is running on your machine as you're reading this post, and yet I can't get it to work.
Not willing to accept defeat, I decided to just YOLO and sudo npm install. While it worked, the project uses playwright - which also doesn't work on NixOS. And even worse, it doesn't work even if I sudo it. After googling a bit I found a few instructions, once again none of which worked. At this point I thought the code I was cloning might have been bad, but on my Fedora machine it ran fine with no setup effort.
Being completed defeated, I came to Reddit to search for solutions and, not only did I not find anything, I was struck with the news that this project lost dozens of core contributors in the last weeks. Something about the Haskell drone maker and a guy putting a picture of a steak on his profile? I don't get it, but this is beyond dumb. As enthusiastic as their replacements might be, the knowledge lost from shedding so many core devs can't be replaced. Thus, I conclude this post's title: I am confident none of my issues will be fixed in the near future - so this project is fucked.

First of all, thank you to everyone who contributes to this group because knowing others firsthand and hearing your stories is literally what gives me strength. In so many ways
Missing out and being late on things has affected my job this past year and I think I’m going to be called into HR. Been there 26 years and I’m not fearful of termination, but I’m also protecting myself. I know that narcolepsy is protected by ADA. I worked a lot from home and I am getting my job done, but I have been late on some things. It’s now getting to the point where my last task was late by 15 minutes and apparently that was the straw that broke the camels back. Smh. So I don’t feel like I need accommodations for sleeping at work, but I need some understanding that sometimes when I sit down to get a task done, I end up falling asleep. My direct supervisor says I should start earlier then. But that’s not what other people have to do. All I’m asking for is equality. In another instance, I have fallen the night that some reports were due, and I ended up in the hospital. I emailed him the next morning and he said I had all year to do. These reports I should not have waited to the night before and this is a very serious matter… while I was in the hospital unable to submit my reports. I did provide proof that I was in the hospital that night, but that was not official documentation with human resources. So what do I need from my doctor to prove a diagnosis?
I don’t think this matters but a little about my job … I’m a college professor. I’m not falling asleep in the classroom. Most of my classes are online. I’ve missed a few meetings this year. I’ve been late on what I think is minor administrative jobs like filing reports and submitting grades (that was the 15 minute one which literally affected no one, and I called the registrar).
I did do a search of the group on ADA and read some post that were helpful, but they were quite old. Thank you all in advance.

I’m not sure what everyone else is taking but I wanted to give an honest review in the chance it might help someone. I’m 37, I was diagnosed with Hashimotos at age 13. It’s been a wild ride so I’ve picked up a couple tools along the way. One of them is the medicine I’m on. I tried them all and rode the thyroid wave, I would be ok for a couple months, then dip and crash. The medicine would have to be changed and this went on for 20 years until a doctor prescribed me Tirosint. It’s a liquid gel capsule and I don’t know if maybe because it doesn’t have fillers, and I absorb it properly but it’s a GAME CHANGER! I get my blood drawn every 6 months now, I have only had set backs when I forget to take it or am not consistent. But it’s seriously changed my life! My insurance doesn’t cover it so I use a compounding pharmacy and pay $50 a month. Game changer! Also, I’m not a doctor and everyone is different. But I I hope this helps someone.

Can anyone tell me.. I've been with this girl off and on for over 3 years. we live together for about 6 months. But during the whole relationship. I've always felt very nervous especially when trying to have sex with her. I'd be so nervous that she's actually the one that always had to instigate the sex. It honestly feels like it's the first time ever having sex with her when we do. Even when we're just out together feels like the first date. But it doesn't feel like the first time in a good way like I'm really nervous around her all the time.

On another Korean subreddit:

• Parent Accusing Me of Sexual Misconduct
• School is asking me to hide from the parents and come to work in private

If you have your blackbelt in Hagwon Ju Jitsu, the first thing (and this is what I DM'd the user) is to be highly suspicious of the take-down move going for the legs of "A parent / student said" maneuver. In search bar: Hagwon: Phantom Complaints. How to Fight Back
My clairvoyant comment 4 years ago:

If they need to get you out in a hurry, expect the scare tactic, "You molested a kid! Quick! Run to the airport and leave us all your money before we call the police!" -Hmmm, funny the PARENTS didn't call the police instead of the money-grubbing Hagwon owner.

The first 🚩 red flag 🚩 is, most places on earth would not have the staff contact you about a serious misdeed. The first time you heard about it would be a knock on your door from the police, and be told not to return to work until the situation has been resolved. This is because you are a flight risk and informing you of a crime would be the stupidest thing they could do. A Hagwonite mulling over whether to have the police involved is a clear sign it's made up. If an accusation is serious enough to be made by anyone, then there would be an official complaint made to the authorities and they would take it from there, and they would act quickly and no one would tip you off the wheels are in motion.

Also, I was told to move out of my apartment to make way for a new teacher, I am constantly being micromanaged, surveilled, and pulled into arguments, and now I'm receiving messages that a parent is accusing me of sexual misconduct.

🚩 Red flag #2 is that the relationship has been increasingly threatening, abusive, hostile etc. The foreigner hasn't taken the hint that they are not wanted and should pack up and head out, Midnight Run it. The Achilles heel of Hagwonites is to push the shame on to the target. They QUIT, couldn't handle it, were failures, left us high & dry without notice, broke the contract! They don't want to fire people except as a last resort due to labor laws and looking like they abused a person that didn't do anything wrong. Search bar: Resign, or I will harass you until you do!

First, it was all the arguments, one of which included the director screaming at me and almost crying on the phone at 8 pm while driving because I taught the students to spell "Cabbage" instead of "Lettuce".

--Never underestimate the depths a Hagwonite will stoop, to make a mountain out of a molehill. They are not very smart to begin with, so they find the smallest traffic violation and turn it into a 1st degree felony. That's happened to me, and I simply responded, "Yeah, so what?" I didn't allow them to drag me in to apologizing, groveling, get into the weeds about literally nothing, or any of that, the argument for the next 10 minutes was whether it was important or not, and if the subject was befitting someone in a management position who should be able to discern things that need attention and things that can be ignored. The intent is to harass and they won't leave until they have exhausted all of their energy and are happy with the victim's response to it. I concluded by saying it was not important and I'm not changing anything. They can teach the class themselves if they think they can go the entire day without making a single error.
🚩 Red flag #3, ridiculous reasons and excuses, -no evidence.

I eventually received a call from the director telling that one of the parents believes that her daughter saw my private area in the bathroom (I am a male teacher and this accusation or anything close to it never occurred)

1. Oh yeah? Which parent? What's the student's name, which classroom of mine is she in, what time did this occur, and why would she be in the men's bathroom? Let me see the CCTV footage?
   
2. It's so weak, it's obviously made up. The foreigner would certainly have seen a student of the opposite gender in his bathroom and told them to leave and would not have unzipped anything if that happened.
   
3. What is a student doing entering or peeping into the men's rest room in the first place? That sounds like student misconduct to me. Why isn't the parent being told to correct their child's behavior and none of this would be an issue?
   
4. It's not illegal to pull your junk out in the rest room and try to relieve yourself, that's what it's for, it's not the hallway or classroom.
   

In the follow-up: School is asking me to hide from the parents and come to work in private
is by-the-numbers attempt to continue to harass, but the director doesn't know what to do after a lawyer was called. So first it was a "major" problem of exposing himself to a student, then when a lawyer contact the school, that was an even bigger error by the employee. Wow, no one can ever do anything right in that place.

Fast forward, the attorney contacted the school, the school says no police were coming to talk to me, but instead, the school talked to the police already on my behalf and I will not be talking to police, so I shouldn't worry.

--NONE OF THIS HAPPENED! Ask the attorney to call the precinct and ask for a copy of the POLICE REPORT. They have to fill out any interaction with the public so it's not all from memory, even if no action is taken. The next officer that fields a call about it, can pull up the report and get a summary of events, dates, names etc.

AND IT JUST GETS STUPIDER

Now, my school is asking me to no longer come to work at 9 am and greet the parents, but instead, come to work 30 minutes earlier, hide from the parents, not teach kindergarten anymore, and sit behind a computer on a different floor, alone, doing random administrative tasks.

--A blackbelt would NEVER come in to work 30 minutes earlier without pay. They would absolutely make their presence known to the parents and children so that the lies they were told, would visually be false. They are trying to hide the employee until they quit or get fired, or may have already told everyone a lie that they ran off w/o notice, because that's what they were expecting from the false sexual exposure claim.
Why cooperate? Come down from 2nd floor, walk around, enter the classroom, say hi to everyone when they show and leave.
Why would the other 4 foreigners cooperate? This is a serious accusation, they should all refuse work until the director is made to apologize and reinstate the teacher.
They are apparently bleeding student numbers, are in way over their heads, barely a year old, are over-staffed now, and need to shed labor costs. A foreigner strike would be the nail in the coffin. They would have to reverse themselves, or face foreclosure in about a week after parents yank their kids not having a NET teaching them.
A golden opportunity to bring them to their knees will undoubtedly be totally wasted. It's like the entire defense fell down, and the person with the ball is not sure whether they should go for a lay-up or not.....ridiculous.

Currently, I am in the DEP for the Air Force, however, the process has been thrown at me fast and I never really dug too deep in job selections. My ASVAB is 55 and I am okay with that, but the jobs I chose (the one's I REALLY want) are in very low demand, so the likelihood of getting them over my 5 critical jobs (which are "mostly" maintenance type jobs, which I don't want) is probably quite slim.
Before I make the drastic decision and discharge, I'm curious about opinions on how to navigate the scenario presented with the Air Force. I have no intentions of pursuing further education, the entire idea about joining the service is self-fulfillment, the challenge and the adventure. I have no interest seeking high-class positions, such as cyber (constantly reminded that this is the way to go) when it would serve me no purpose outside my contract term (4 years).
I want to stay in the Air Force, I really do, but unless there's some chance I can specifically get at least one of my top 5 jobs, I'd feel A LOT more secure. They are currently trying to pressure me into SecFo and Special Warfare currently (no thanks).
If this is not doable, I have 25B or 42A lined up for me in the Army, which is perfect, however, I still prefer the Air Force ideology.
Keep in mind, I understand the terms I was agreeing to with the Air Force. I knew that I was never guaranteed a job, but when it came down to it, I didn't realize that there were caveats, such as the 5 critical job selection that will "more than likely" surpass my choices I'd really like to have.