This topic has been done a lot so this post is nothing special at all, but I figured I might as well do one. As a disclaimer, this is just my personal thoughts and ideas and is 100% not final nor will they happen, this is just for fun. This also might be a long post.
These are Pokemon I feel deserve a Regional Form, Regional form evolution or even Cross-Gen Evolution to make them stand out or even make them more powerful. These forms I'm listing are by Gens and are based on aspects of the Kalos Region, real life France or even its Mythology that could help create the Regional Forms of the Region. Plus, I decided to give my ideas for what the Starters could be and their final evo's Regional form (even if it's going to be pretty obvious for the Grass and Water, not so much for Fire, that one was hard)
A quick honorable mention would be Dachsbun, a very good boy who debuted SV so it's not going to be in Legends which is a shame because a baguette, croissant or some other French bread Regional form or Evolution of Dachbun sounds good. I could imagine the evolution being Fairy/Fire (for it's references to its Ability and it looks like baked bread) or Fairy/Ground (due to wheat coming from the ground) and those type combos haven't been done yet so hopefully LZA can fill those different combos up.
Another honorable mention is Charcadet as it could have a similar scenario to Eevee and have it's evolutions be of different types and based on different weaponry but it's an SV mon so sadly, it can't be the case.
Another disclaimer is that I'm not the best at explaining things but again, it's more like a brainstorm and not really serious
Starters:

• Serperior (Grass/Steel): Snivy and Piplup are pretty obvious for the Starters so here are my ideas for their Regional Forms. The Gen V Starters according to Ken Sugimori are based Western, Chinese (Emboar) and Japanese (Samurott) cultures with Serperior being based on Western royalty in places like Europe and is one of the few or only Pokemon based on a Manga character, Lady Oscar from Rose of Versaiise (set in during the French Revolution) and French kings like King Louis XIV.
  • My idea for this form is to take their Lady Oscar inspiration (who practiced Fencing), swordfighting, knights and Fencers to make this Serperior Grass/Steel, I tried to avoid the Fighting type because I wanted these 3 Starters to not use repeated types (Steel has been used once for Empoleon) of the past and focus on unused or rarely used types.
  • This line focuses on slash-based attacks and their stats which were Defensive and Speed based are more focused on Offense and speed. Their Hidden Ability I imagine is Sharpness and their signature move I could see being in line with Psycho Cut, Leaf Blade and Aqua Cutter being a crit-based Steel type slash move.
• Cinderace (Fire/Electric): Remember how I said the Grass and Water Starters were easy to choose and the Fire one isn't? Yeah, the Fire Starter was hard to choose because while Snivy and Piplup are based on royalty, Scorbunny has no distinction. When it came to the Fire Starters, Chimchar and Tepig were out of the picture due to Piplup and Snivy being there, Charmander and Torchic were also out since their evos have Megas, I've seen people say Torchic is the starter due to Roosters being the national animal of France but it and it's fellow Hoenn Starters have Megas and Mega Blaziken debuted in XY through a Mystery Gift when XY started so I don't see Torchic being the case and Fuecoco debuted in SV so that's off limits.
  • This left Scorbunny and Litten and Litten does have some French cat stories like the White Cat and the Mythological Matagot which takes on multiple forms other than cats but I couldn't really think of something for Incineroar so I went with Scorbunny because of it's Futbol (or Soccer) inspirations and FIFA being in France, not the main reason but I thought oh well.
  • It was then I thought about how I made Seperior to be a swordsman, a traditional knight of sorts and it gave me the idea that the first stages are based on royalty (aside from Scorbunny) but their final evolutions could be influenced by types of military/knight forces, swordsman for Seperior, line infantry for Cinderace and commander (or just Napoleon for Empoleon's case)/gunman/cannon person for Empoleon.
  • This Cinderace won't have a gun for a line infantry man but instead rushes to battle to take care of the opposing line quickly for the others to fight against the other army, so I chose Electric to represent that quickness. It's Hidden Ability could be Reckless since the line infantry's attacks can sometimes be reckless or a new ability related to it's signature move I call 'Iron Leg' that boosts Leg/Kick moves. It's Electric signature move is similar to Tachyon Cutter or Dragon Darts where it could kick the opponent twice possibly leaving them paralyzed.
  • As for it's stats? I don't think they change too much from the original, but I'd say in exchange for it's 75 DEF/SP.DEF going lower by 10 points, it becomes a bit faster and offensively strong (although 126 ATK and 129 SPE would be pretty insane, not too insane but I could see those aforementioned stat changes going to HP or something like that)
• Empoleon (WateIce): Napoleon, I think that's all I need to say... I'm just kidding, I'll keep going. I love Empoleon, Piplup was my first Starter but I always thought Empoleon's design looked like it would be a physical attacker with the blades and had Defiant until Gen IX so for this Empoleon, it would be a Physical attacker with it's SPA and SPD swapped with ATK and DEF and it would focus on cannon and 'gun' based attacks.
  • I imagine one of 2 Abilities for this Empoleon, Defiant, an Ability regular Empoleon had until SV or an Ability focused on Ball, Bomb and Cannon moves. It's Ice signature move I'm not sure of, maybe similar to Armarouge's Armor Cannon where it lowers DEF and SPD?

With the Starters done, here are the various ideas I had for various Regional forms, evolutions, etc that will never happen but it's for fun.
Dragons (because I had a lot of Dragon ideas)

• Druddigon (and an evo, Dragon/Rock): This idea I had for a Fakemon Region Dex based on Australia/New Zealand, but I thought this idea could work here as well. My idea for this Druddigon goes with its gargoyle inspiration where it becomes Dragon/Rock or has an evolution that becomes Dragon/Rock. This evolution I call Gargogon (another disclaimer, I'm terrible with names, from Gargoyle, Dragon and Don) where it embraces the gargoyle design and become something more intimidating maybe an ability relating to this aspect or having Intimidate as a Hidden Ability.
• Turtonator Regional or evo (Fire/Dragon or Steel/Dragon): I feel bad for Turtonator, no one talks about it and it's only notable for being a part of Kiawe's team in the Anime and I really liked Turtonator there, so I decided to give Turtonator some love. My idea is an evo based on the Tarasque, a type of turtle, dragon with a lion's head. What if this Pokemon evolved to be more protective of itself and appear more intimidating to others. It would keep the Fire/Dragon type but considering it's preevo would be able to use Eviolite with it's huge 136 DEF and it's good 85 SPD, I could make it as a Steel/Dragon regional form instead.
• Drampa Regional or evo (Dragon/Normal or Dragon/Fairy): I also decided to give Turtonator's counterpart some love as well, they would be based on another French Dragon the Guivre, a dragon who is said to spout a venomous breath. Ironically though, I could see this being Dragon/Fairy due to Drampa's mystical like appearance (and we need a regular Dragon/Fairy Pokemon since it's locked behind Mega Altaria) or keeping it's original Dragon/Normal type.
• Dragapult (Dragon/Water): The Regional Form Psuedo of the Gen similar to Goodra, I did a post talking about Regional Psuedos and Dragapult came to mind because I love Dragapult. My idea is related to Dreepy's Dex entry stating it was an aquatic Pokemon long ago. I wish it could've been a Paradox Pokemon to see what it could've looked like but Regional could work as well.
  • I say Regional but my idea here is what if there was a certain group of the Dreepy line that survived its original extinction and live their days within the canals of Lumiose trying not to die.
• Kommo'o (last Dragon I promise, Dragon/Ghost): This idea more fits with the Johto Region due to it's origins but I thought I'd mention it here. Kommo'o is based on monks with it's tail resembling a staff that monk's use. But something in my head made me think of another type of monk, an Onmyoji and Onmyodo from Japan. In many stories and even Manga/Anime for instance, they control spirits or the world to the otherside so what if Kommo'o was able to do a similar thing and contact spirits hence it's Ghost type. This concept again fits more with Johto than Kalos but I thought it could be interesting.
  
• Non-Dragons:
  
  • Convergent Gengar line (Dark): SV introduced the concept of Convergents, Pokemon that look like another Pokemon but aren't related and so I feel future games might introduce more Convergents so I decided to do one for the Gengar line based on the Beast of Gevaudan, a beast that wanders through the forests of France and is a man-eater. Convergent Gastly is a fuzzball, Convergent Haunter has small hidden legs and Convergent Gengar is a round wolf thing. I know Gengar has a Mega (and a GMAX) so Gengar would get more attention but well... I'm not sure what to say. This Pokemon would roam the streets of Lumiose.
  • Pidove line (Fairy/Flying): This line would be based on Pouters (a type of rock pigeon) and fancy pigeons, these are pigeons which have weird proportions (look up a Pygmy Pouter, they look very weird) such as freakishly long legs and puffed up necks that make it look like they can't breathe. What if these Pidoves were bred to look 'fancy' and ended up looking strange even gaining Fairy-like power in this state.
  • Electivire line (Electric/Ice): I love the Electivire line, so I decided to give it love. Electivire is based on an Oni but also yetis and bigfoot so what if this line was in the frosty forest above Dendemille Town who adapted to the harsh cold and gained icy abilities. This one wouldn't work in context of the game since it's set within Lumiose City and not the whole Region so this is one where it can't work but oh well.
  • Mandibuzz (Ghost/Flying): Since Braviary got a Regional form in Legends Arceus, I figured I'd give it's counterpart Mandibuzz a form based on the Grim Reaper or in this universe, how people see the reaper, a Kalosian Mandibuzz with a deathly look that peers within your soul.
  • Roserade (Grass/Ghost): This Roserade is based on Nightshades, a type of poisonous flower or any flower representing death.
  • Thievul evo (Dark): Thievul is based on gentleman thieves but could also have inspirations from Arsene Lupin by Maurice Leblanc, a French author so I think Thievul would fit very well in Kalos but there's also another story about a trickster fox named Reynard the Fox. I could see Thievul having an evo here that takes aspects from the story.
  • Torkoal (Water or WateFire): This one is pretty simple, a Torkoal based on a geyser, think of a semi-Volcanion based on cauldrons and geysers of boiling hot water. I'd imagine a signature Ability where it makes its Water moves have a chance of burning the target.
  • Magmortar line (Water or WateFire): Similar to Electivire, Magmortar is based on an Oni but it's also based on a bird called a Booby (yes, that's it's name) so what if this Magmortar adapted to the waters of Cyllage and became more aquatic. Again, this likely wouldn't work for the same reasons as Electivire (set in Lumiose) but it's a fun thought.
  • Gligar and a Regional Evo/or regional Gliscor (Ground/Poison: Last one for today. Gligar is my little guy and Gliscor is cool so what if it gained a Regional form based on desert scorpions like the yellow-tailed scorpion. These Gligar and evo stride through the ground using their stingers to stun their prey. Since it's not gliding, I imagine it would be an evo I call Striscor due to it striding along the sands.

And that's it for now, I know this post is huge and it's been done already but I thought I could give my personal thoughts on what could be in LZA. Let me know what you think and I hope these random ideas sound intresting.

You guys🎤🥁🎤🥁🎤 Why we are not talking more about this series!! I didn’t finish it yet, I only finished Beauty and the Mustache and Truth and Beard. I loved them. There was unnecessary gap or two in the plot. But I loved the characters and the writing. I like a storyline where I don’t feel like the MCs are living in an isolated island, where they don’t have family, friends or any living being in sight. I laughed out loud on the sayings such as melting my butter😂😂😂 I don’t know if this is “ and other sayings” used in the country or not but I am definitely gonna use it from now on.
Beards, brothers, and bikers! Oh my!
Identical twins Beau and Duane Winston might share the same devastatingly handsome face, but where Beau is outgoing and sociable, Duane is broody and reserved. This is why perpetually level-headed Jessica James has been in naïve and unhealthy infatuation with Beau Winston for most of her life. Whereas Duane and Jessica have always been adversaries. She can’t stand him, and she’s pretty sure he can’t stand the sight of her…
But after a case of mistaken identity, Jessica finds herself in a massive confusion kerfuffle. Jessica James has spent her whole life paralyzed by the fantasy of Beau and her assumptions of Duane’s disdain; therefore she’s unprepared for the reality that is Duane’s insatiable interest, as well as his hot hands and hot mouth and hotter looks.
When Jessica finds herself drawn to the man who was always her adversary, how much of her level-head heart is she willing to risk?

Please be nice. Some of yall act like rabid dogs when someone says they don’t hate children and babies lmfao.
I think I have been experiencing baby fever for the first time in my life since the birth of my niece. I would literally kill and die for that kid. I cry when I hold her because I love her so much, lol.
Anyways, it’s just made me feel really weird the last couple of months. I used to be so staunchly child free, so absolutely certain I never wanted to be pregnant or have kids. I know for sure that I don’t really know how to interact with kids that aren’t tiny infants and I don’t super enjoy being around them. Pregnancy and birth really freak me out still. But….there’s like some instinct or some shit that’s freaking me out. Like my brain keeps toying with the idea of having a kid someday.
I’m also temporarily living with my mother (that I do not have a great relationship with, I just have to live here for a couple of months before I move to another country) and I keep having these thoughts of “if I have kids I’ll never treat them the way you treated me”, almost like I want to have them and treat them the way kids deserve to be treated? Does that make any sense to anyone else? Idk, it feels like such a selfish reason to even consider kids.
I feel so off and weird and uncomfortable. Does anyone else have experience with this? Please don’t eat me alive for this. I’m honestly a little scared and I feel so uncomfortable in my own skin because of this.

Did I just fuck up or dodge a bullet? 25F matched with 32M on Bumble and wondering who is in the wrong. Me (25F) matched with this really great guy (32M) on bumble 2 weeks ago. We had a few phone calls, exchanged a lot of texts and were planning on meeting up this week (the reason we didn't meet up sooner was due to schedule conflicts and me traveling). Everything was going great, we were texting pretty regularly but nothing crazy, he was very complimentary and telling me how beautiful I was and how lucky he was to match with me, and talking about how he is so excited to get off the app (personally I thought he was coming on a little strong but chalked it up to him being a romantic), until one day the texts completely stopped. For a full week I heard nothing from him and he went completely ghost on me, so after a week of nothing I texted him and said ME 25F: "Could've at least let me know you weren't interested instead of ghosting me Imao" and then a few hours later I get a response 32M- "ummm I wasn't ghosting you, I had a family emergency and work wasn't ideal this week so l'm sorry, that's not a very nice way to reach out to someone you barely know, I'm sorry to disappoint, take care"
SO MY QUESTION IS: AITA for sending him that text because now I feel bad, but also my thought process is, it takes 2 seconds to send a text and explain what's going on, plus I didn't think my response mean, maybe just a little sassy. Would love to he your opinion on the matter and who you think is in the wrong here.

My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me 3 weeks ago. Until the week before we broke up, I believed everything was great between us – always sharing such emotionally-charged messages, having what felt like the best of times together, progressing at what seemed like a similar pace.
It took me 32 years to find enough comfort in myself to date, and he came along matching everything I wanted in a partner. He's attractive, funny, smart, and so highly viewed by everyone that surrounds him. I couldn't believe he picked me. Working with such a limited pool as it is, I chose not to specify certain things on my dating profile, but we discovered various compatibilities on our first & second dates that made it so easy for us to share a lifestyle, as well as validating that we shared similar values. We primarily enjoyed the same things, expressed our affection for one another in similar ways and had perfect sexual compatibility. I wholeheartedly thought he was my person.
I still don't understand why, but something changed for him recently that motivated him to end things, and so I've lost the person I waited all this time to find. I appreciate that 6 months isn't long in the grand scheme of things, that I'm still early days into the break-up, and that first loves are bound to impact you hardest, but the thought of being with anyone else just makes me feel sick – as does thinking about him moving on in that way. I felt like his in every way and, while I can't make him change his mind, there's nobody else I want in life.
Considering how deeply I still feel about him, and just knowing who I am as a person, I could quite easily see myself not moving on from this. There hasn't been a day these last 3 weeks that I haven't cried over what I've lost, and it leaves me wondering who else out there lost 'the one' in their eyes, and how you're doing now?

Hi guys, I have an update for you guys about the whole situation. Thank you for all the comments and messages and advice that I received.
I know a lot of people in the comments told me to break up with him. But I didn’t think that was right. So after getting some advice from guys that we’re in similar positions. I asked him to come over so we could talk.
Firstly I made it clear that I really do love him, And I apologised to him, I apologised for not taking into consideration how intimate he felt kissing was. In my eyes it was a fake kiss but it wasn’t to him, so when i was talking about it, he felt I was disregarding his feelings.
I changed how I spoke and I told him that it wouldn’t be Me and the boy kissing, it would be romeo and Juliet. But I also made it clear that him asking me for an ultimatum was not fair. If he feels like he has to give me one now, what’s the point in us staying to together after high school if there’s no trust?
after I finished talking, he apologised to me and said that he was talking to some of his friends hand they got into his head, that he should feel insecure about the whole thing. when he was gone for 18 hours he was with them. he was also with them when he gave me the ultimatum.
he later realised he was in the wrong when he talked to his older sister. We both understood that insecurity within the relationship is something we needed to work on.
He also apologised for making me feel like i had to make a choice between things that I love. he understood is was wrong and unsupportive of him.
At first I thought that it would be best that we went on a break, but after some advice from someone and his girlfriend, It probably wasn’t the best with the fact this was rooted around insecurity it would probably just made the relationship end completely.
so with the weeks left before the performance, I’m going to spend all time i’m not studying with him. Since we are now done with school. we are still going to prom together!! which i am very excited about 😊
But I have also accepted that by the time my show happens, if he feels that he can’t come I will understand.
Thank you to everyone’s advice. because we’re young fights are going to happen, and it just about taking a step back and actually seeing if it can be fixed or not!

There's too much to say, But I'll try to make it short. I'm using the Google traductor for most of the things, sorry
In short: I(34f) have been dating Leon(42m) for two years.
My uncle became friends with Leon when they started working together and he started coming to family gatherings and birthdays. Leon is a great guy and we get along instantly, my family always talked to me about Leon saying he's a great guy. One day Leon asked me out on a date and I said yes, we started dating.
Leon has two children (14m and 12m), his wife died in an accident nine years ago.
Here comes the problem: Leon always talks about his wife. I know it sounds ugly to complain about it but I don't say it with jealously, I mean it uncomfortably. He mentions her in intimate moments of our time, such as when we finish having intimacy, he just starts telling me random anecdotes about his wife and I just stay there confused. He goes to the psychologist so according to him he's working better on his grief but I doubt it very much. I'm not the first girlfriend he had after his wife passed away.
He still has contact with his wife's family (which is obvious, they are the grandparents of his children) and I have met them only once because all they did was tell me how much Leon and his wife loved each other and treat me really bad, I remember that they put a video with photos of Leon and his wife when they married while I was like this🧍because they didn't even gave me a chair to sit.
His late wife's parents talk as if they're still married. He always says in front of me that she was the only love of his life, I find it cute but when I think about the future I'm just like "I really want to get old with a man who is making it clear the he will never love me? Is that the kind of love I want?". One time I took him to my favorite place and he just said "it's beautiful, I wish wife's name was here so we could show her this. You two would have been good friends." it's like being a third wheel in my own relationship. I can tell a lot of situations like these, A LOT.
The only one time I talked about this with my family I was only told that a real woman wouldn't be jealous (I'm not jealous, I'm uncomfortable) and would be happy to be with a man who has loved another woman like that and expect him to love me almost the same. That I shouldn't expect him to love me that way since all love is different and that I should just be empathetic and supportive of him. I listened to them but nothing got better.
Anyways, I stopped listening to my family and talked with my friend who's a psychologist and told me that his behavior is not healthy for anyone and that I should think for myself.
She texted "Good for him for loving his wife so much, but you don't deserve to be used as an emotional support doll" And she's right. I have decided to cut off the relationship but this year marks ten years since the death of his wife, not only his family, even MY family are hosting a family reunion in honor of her with the things she likes. I think it's a nice thing to do, but I'm totally ready to end the relationship but I'm afraid I'm the bad guy in the story.
The 10th anniversary is in July, I want to end the relationship NOW but I fear that I will be a POS if I do that in this year when he is so vulnerable and even my family is pushing me to act like if I was his wife's bestfriend.

im insecure about certain parts of my body and would love to work out in order to make my arms and legs look more muscular and burn some fat in my chest and stomach, and maybe combat depression as a bonus.
i have a ymca close by, and ive been there a few times. however i dont know the layout of the place well. i also have no idea how to use any equipment, what the social norms are there, etc. i also have no idea how to learn. i dont have anyone to go with.
better yet, im biologically a girl, but i prefer to be seen as a guy. i can imagine id wear a sports bra to the gym for my physical comfort, until i can hopefully find a way to get my breasts removed. in the meantime, all i know is ive heard horror stories about how people with boobs are treated at gyms. im also on the spectrum, and incredibly awkward in new environments in general.
do you guys know that subway post here, from someone with social anxiety that wanted to go to subway, but was clueless as to how to order? and someone commented a step by step process of building your sandwich? i basically need that. but for working out at the ymca.

I mostly listen to him for the comedic value of it. My gf got me into it because apparently he makes her laugh her ass off with his rants. And i know most people, particularly within the "culture" see him as kind of demented, but even though i agree he does say a lot of stupid shit, there's value in some of the things he says.
Just now i was listening to him in a podcast where he says he turned his back on the "culture". The culture of victimization. Which i absolutely agree exists, and it's very profitable for some people. Not for the supposed "victims", but for those who convince you that you're a victim.
Then he started talking about how the "culture" victimizes you, but then it's all about spending money on stupid shit instead of making good investments, rapping about glorifying degeneracy, etc. You talk about prison reforms, but then rap about shit that will get you locked up. You complain about the police and discrimination, but then can't shut up about drugs and pimpin' hoes. You show nothing to the kids that will give them good goals in life. Look what you're rapping about. Look what you're showing in music videos. Look what gets applauded and glorified.
To me this reminds me of other problems we have in my country with certain minorities, where they claim to be victims, but they can't bring themselves to lift their own people. All they can do is bitch about being victims. Complain, complain, complain. But then happily glorify ways of life that are absolutely destructive. You don't see them pointing their fingers at their own for the dumb choices they make. You don't see them trying to educate themselves. It's all about pointing the fingers at the white man and ripping the benefits off it.
Also, historically, slavery and oppression is way more widespread than people are lead to believe. And i have a lot of experience with people that aren't black and were enslaved and oppressed for a long, long time. Some are still dealing with the consequences of it. But what i noticed is that the "victim mentality" among these people is mostly nonexistent. So, there's definitely a big cultural component to how much of a victim you feel, and how dependent you are from other's pity.
He isn't as crazy as he may seem. However, there's a big resistance to his way of approaching victimhood. And i believe he's going against a lot of people's livelihood, which is dependent exactly on victim mentality. In my country there are people who eat because they call everything racism. That's literally their job. They're part of governmental "anti racism" orgs, and what they will do is stir the pot at every opportunity.
Example: Not too long ago a group of african migrants terrorized a certain part of a city every single day. Robberies in bright daylight, aggressions, sexual assault, etc. Every day, and everyone knew who they were. Nothing was done about it. One day a group of natives decided to play vigilante and beat the living fuck out of all these migrants, after one of them attacked a preganant women. Essentially, the good old fuck around and find out. Now it's a big story about racism. That's these people's job: Turn this into a race problem. It's how they feed their family: They wait for a black guy to be beaten or insulted and claim it's racism. It's also the reason certain parties exist. Take away racism and they disappear. So you can't take away racism.
And even some artists that i do like strongly perpetuate this mentality. Kendrick is a very good example of it. Unfortunately he is one of the faces of that exact mentality. The dude even grilled a fan for saying the "n" word on stage after asking her to sing a song with him that contained that word. He's perpetuating this mentality, and you go over the Kendrick subreddit and they're all about that shit. The woker the better. Does he think he is helping his own people by humiliating a white girl on stage for doing something absolutely harmless? He isn't. He's creating division.
Bipolar Ye is Wise Ye. You can't tell him nothing.

He gave me bpd i know he did. He has it and the way my childhood went i got it. My mom was no help with abandoning but she wasnt physically there to give me trauma. I felt like my dad’s therapist, he treated me like a “wife” , idk how to explain it but in general it was permissive parenting. He would tell me “you dont love me” when i was very young for attention, i would scream at him saying ily. Anyways, long story short i confronted him about the trauma he gave me (he doesnt remember most of it because he himself was fucked up) so he doesnt hold any accountability. One thing i confront him on was beating my mom, he said she deserved it and thats when i went no contact with him. The last thing i said to him was ily because hes still my dad and his last words to me was “you dont love me” which is a huge reason i cut him off as well. Im tired of that shit. All i feel is resentment towards him, yes he didnt abandon me but instead he gave me trauma. I can go on and on how toxic he was. I feel guilty for cutting him off but i know i dont want that in my life as im trying to heal. We both have bpd but the difference between me and him is that im recognizing it and working on it. He doesnt believe i have any mental health issues (i was officially diagnosed with bpd and cptsd) and he completely invalidates me. Idk i just feel guilty that i cut him off i need outsiders point of view. Help

Hi, my name is Gracie. Im sure you are aware of what happened yesterday and if your worried about me please don’t be.. you shouldn’t have to waste your energy on me im not that important.. but I would like to tell you everything that happened and why I might be taking a break online, for a very long time
I have never had any social media ever, I have always been a YouTube watched but past year I decided to get Reddit a social place for communities and to share ideas. I joined because of my interest in hearing other peoples ideas and thoughts. I was interested in a community of a game I play called geometry dash. It’s a mobile game and computer game it’s a challenge frustrating game but it has a creator editor where you can make levels and I have enjoyed the creating aspect of it
As of the past 2 months I started branching out into askreddit and some question communities as I have wanted to share some ideas and intriguing thoughts I had. Everything went fine I managed to get quite a following with many of my posts having decent reception.. I enjoyed it and I started using Reddit a lot more after that
I would get messages from random strangers asking me questions and wanting to be my friend. I loved it it was very sweet and I enjoyed the attention I was receiving and became friends with quite a few peoples and those people are going to get to see this message that I’m sharing with you now. Well I have been keeping secret my Reddit profile from some specific people.. let’s say a crush I have on by the name of Ethan, he doesn’t know about my Reddit and I hope this can make him be aware of how things have went..
As of yesterday I made a few posts asking about things and one comment stood out they made a very inappropriate joke to a post I made.. I said ew.. please don’t say that. Well they somehow stalked my profile and found out I don’t have a dad.. the person started spamming me saying “you should get off Reddit you’ve been commenting and posting so much maybe that’s why you’re dad left you”. That broke my heart.. I started shaking and getting angry so I started calling them out and I said please stop this isn’t funny your being a bully and they continued to talk about my mom and started being very inappropriate.. I started crying really bad and I wanted to freak out but it was at night and mom was sleeping so I wanted to scream really bad I started crying really bad and began to have a panic attack.. I don’t have an inhaler so I’m gasping for air freaking out and my mind starts subsconsioucly posting asking for help and I started thinking of suicide..
I would never be the one to commit suicide, I know that but there’s been times I have thought of doing it and or running away.. I am a very extremely emotional person.. puberty started for me quite recently and everything was just going wrong.. I have been stressing out about life and certain parts of my body I feel subconscious and wish were better.. I fear my emotional and mental state might make people look away from me rather than care for me
I then after 40 minutes of crying I shut off my phone and cried myself to sleep.. woke up with my eyes dried and crust because of tears I was severely mentally unstable and drained I didn’t want to get out of bed and that’s where I am now.. i had to fake a smile today.. wasn’t great and I don’t like it..
And that’s what happened and I would like to end this chapter here, I don’t want to talk about it anymore and this is it.. thank you for reading..

I was never really a "try guys" fan, but the whole trying new things was still interesting at first. I was always more of a Eugene fan. Even before the Try Guys, I loved Eugene's other miscellaneous Buzzfeed content like the daily life of a dog owner. I realized that he was more talented than a lot of people in Hollywood. Speaking of Hollywood, I never got into it because of how manufactured and orchestrated it all was, so I should have known that online spaces would be no different. Parasocial or celebrity crush I guess. Buzzfeed knew what they were doing at first anyway.
Ever since Eugene's coming out video, I realized that his Buzzfeed persona was all fake. Eugene was a very rare example of a strong, confident, mysterious Asian man at the time. Then he makes his coming out video, which further illustrated his creative talent. It again made wonder why he wasn't big in Hollywood.
But it's like he became a completely different person. After that, his entire personality changed, which was around the same time they switched to YouTube. I feel like he never even appeared that much in any of their post-Buzzfeed content. When he did, he would make dick jokes and other sexual humor...constantly. Then the try Guys stop trying things at some point. I came back when the Ned scandal happened and their content was even worse subpar typical low effort YouTuber content like eating and ranking things. That's all of their content.
Anyway, I'm back now because Eugene's official departure, which I saw the writing on the wall and knew would happen even before the Try Guys officially formed. I never really followed them much or anyone at all. I deleted Facebook and never had any other social media. Frankly, some of those fans who demanded more private and personal information from Eugene were creepy.
I don't even know any of the people who aren't the "try guys" even are, but anyway the comment about "let's objectify Eugene one more time." And if that's how Eugene feels, then well, I'm not a fan anymore, and I haven't really been a fan since the illusion broke.

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Are you sick of guilds that treat you like a meatshield and words I cannot describe because I'd get banned? Yeah, we were too. And that's how the guild BASED was founded. By the people, for the people, a true tight community wrapped and held together by thick skin, mom jokes, but above all: Mutual respect.
What does this mean?
Well, you know how we, men with some real cojones, joke about eachother but we have that invisible line we never cross? Exactly that.
Basic info:

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• Highly experienced leadership
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• No CTA's. Everyone does content here. You can, yourself, start gathering people and do content. Sharpen that leadership!
• GM's act and behave like normal members. We are not invisible. We speak, we help, we learn, we play as well.
• True freedom of speech, guarded as an absolute by the GM's themselves. Say whatever you want, but keep in mind the invisible line of respect.
• We will never aim to be a massive guild. We want to be around 20 people max. This is so that instead of saying "im going with the guild", you'll say "im going with my homies".
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Success Story from Manifesting (Posted this in other subreddits to help motivate others!)
Hi everyone! I want to share with you my success story so perhaps it motivates you all that LOA works amazing.
So a few months ago I was in a period of my life where I was not ready to be in a relationship. I felt like I was not worthy of one and that it would never work out. This is because of family dynamics and other circumstances. Then my friends started getting into relationships and I realized that I wanted to be in one too. I struggled a lot with my feminine energy and so I targeted that first. I learned to accept that I am allowed to and deserve to receive. I’m also allowed to be happy and not in fight mode. After working on this mentally I started to work on this on my physical appearance as well. Started wearing pink more and bows and even started shaving more often than before. Once I was able to feel more feminine I told my mind that I am ready for a relationship with my soulmate. I don’t want a relationship with just anyone.
The first day I said it was more of a beginning mindset but I wasn’t fully convinced yet. After about a week I was convinced that I was ready and deserved to be in a relationship with my soulmate. That very day I met a coworker outside of work. I didn’t think too much of it because I usually never see him or think about him but I know of his existence. Soon I receive a message from him that it was nice to see me and that he was glad we ran into each other. Of course I replied back and we began texting each other ever since.
Suddenly I started to see him all the time and in random occurrences. I didn’t find him attractive before but for some reason I was beginning to think that he was cute. And quickly I started to look forward to his replies. We connected with one another on every single subject and we agree on every single take. It was very light, respectful, and friendly. It was then I realized that I started to like him romantically. The problem was is that he had a girlfriend of five years at the time. So I felt like I couldn’t overstep my boundaries.
I tried to let him go once I realized my feelings since I wanted to be respectful but he kept popping up more in my life. This frustrated me But every inch of my body began to love him. So I started to manifest him and I did this through religious prayers, LOA, Neville Goddard, subliminals, etc. While I was doing this it seemed like everything was impossible. New problems arises in my head like what if he’s just a nice person and thinks of us as just friends? What if he was seriously committed? What if our age gap of five years would make him not want me? And these worries manifested because I found out he used to be good friends with another female coworker too who he would talk to all the time even late at night. She told me that their conversations were always surface level and they stopped talking because she didn’t care for the friendship that much. Another problem arose like with his messaging time. He started to take days instead of hours. I started worry that I was losing him and that he’s just not a good person.
This is when I worked on my self concept. I realized that I was bringing these insecurities and worries to life. I was bringing these problems. I worked on realizing that these are just tests to see if I actually truly wanted him in my life. And I did and I do he is the love of my life. When you know you know, and I definitely knew. So I quickly turned into his friendships with females are purely platonic and nothing more . He respects women and sees them as equal. Regardless if they’re attractive, we both know that we are the one for each other so to have trust and faith that it doesn’t hinder our relationship with each other at all. With the issue of replying late I turned it into he is just battling his feelings for me with his commitment, because he is respectful it’s a struggle for him to own up that he’s fallen for someone else whilst in a relationship. He was fighting his feelings and that is why he tried to pull away but it doesn’t work because I’m what he needs and thinks about. After working on reframing my idea on the 3D world I began to let go of all real world boundaries and obstacles when manifesting.
Anytime I had a worry I reflected on my reprogrammed mind but also I let go of all that and focused on my relationship with him. That no matter what we are happy and happy together. That everything works out for us all the time. That our love for each other is indestructible and infinitely growing. No one and nothing can ever come between us. The universe brought us together for a reason and that reason is so that we could be together forever happily. I started to be grateful with our in person interactions too. Whenever I saw him I praised the universe for letting me see him. That I was grateful to hear his voice and make him smile.
Out of nowhere when we were both leaving from work he asked if he could talk. I said yes and we went out for coffee. At first it was nice and we were just joking around about the bitterness of the coffee. Then he became serious. He told me that he began to have feelings for me two months ago and fell in love with me a month ago. His girlfriend and him broke up two months ago for reasons that has nothing to do with me and more so their relationship being strained. He wanted to be with me because his whole world has been pointing towards me and that everything reminded him of me. He never felt so connected to someone before like he does with me. I almost wanted to cry because I couldn’t believe my ears and eyes. It worked everything I tried worked!
Long story short we are now together for two years. We’re engaged and he even converted to my religion after falling in love with it himself. We are in such a healthy and happy relationship that’s built off of so much trust and love. All those worries I had about coworkers went away after giving him my boundaries and my reprogramming worked because really there was nothing to worry about. I know he’s in love with me and loves me and that nobody makes him feel the way that I do. He’s loyal to me like a dog and we trust each other because our mutual understanding of how much we love each other. We really were made for one another and everyday I’m grateful to have met him. So the lesson here is to continue having faith, trust, patience, and gratitude. There are no limits and nothings impossible because your reality is what you make it. Work on yourself and confidence because in the end you are the prize. And visualize visualize visualize. Happy manifesting!

This is from the book.
Tyler:
I got into it with teachers a couple of times. When I was in fifth grade, there was one teacher I drove totally over the edge. I punched a filing cabinet, and he stomped up behind me, grabbed my backpack, and threw me across the room. Then he screamed at the whole class to leave the room. I couldn’t show my fear, but to be honest, I was pretty freaked out. I’d never pushed a teacher that far before. But when he got the kids cleared out, he turned and faced me and he had tears coming down his cheeks. He said to me, “Tyler, I want you to know that what I just did was not right, and I am so sorry.” He told me he’d had his own problems with his temper, and he’d lost control.
I was like, “Psh, yeah, whatever.” But while I was walking home, I started crying! I was so worked up with adrenaline and caught off guard, I sort of fell apart. Of course when I told my mom what had happened, she freaked out. She was about to call the school and get this guy fired. But I said, “Mom, no. He doesn’t deserve to be fired. I was pushing his buttons and he lost his cool. Don’t do anything.” That put her in an impossible position, pretty much. But I said, “Mom, if you get this teacher fired, I’ll never forgive you.” She finally agreed
On Monday when I went into that teacher’s class, he had probably had a hell of a weekend. I’m sure he thought it was all over for him, but apparently he did a lot of thinking between Friday and Monday about how to make things right with me personally. I think what he realized was that I needed some way to channel all that restless energy I was putting into being a dick. I was always trying to be the class clown, always interrupting, always acting crazy. So that Monday he pulled me aside and said, “All right, Tyler, from now on, the first ten minutes of class is gonna be Tyler time. Whatever it is you need to get out of your system, just go ahead and do it. Then we’ll have our class.” And after that, it was like magic. The kids loved it, and I loved it. Every morning I got to have my Jim Carrey stand- up time. I got my outlet, he got his class back, and I ended fifth grade on the honor roll. Ten minutes of Tyler-time a day was all it too.

Success Story from Manifesting (Posted this in other subreddits to help motivate others!)
Hi everyone! I want to share with you my success story so perhaps it motivates you all that LOA works amazing.
So a few months ago I was in a period of my life where I was not ready to be in a relationship. I felt like I was not worthy of one and that it would never work out. This is because of family dynamics and other circumstances. Then my friends started getting into relationships and I realized that I wanted to be in one too. I struggled a lot with my feminine energy and so I targeted that first. I learned to accept that I am allowed to and deserve to receive. I’m also allowed to be happy and not in fight mode. After working on this mentally I started to work on this on my physical appearance as well. Started wearing pink more and bows and even started shaving more often than before. Once I was able to feel more feminine I told my mind that I am ready for a relationship with my soulmate. I don’t want a relationship with just anyone.
The first day I said it was more of a beginning mindset but I wasn’t fully convinced yet. After about a week I was convinced that I was ready and deserved to be in a relationship with my soulmate. That very day I met a coworker outside of work. I didn’t think too much of it because I usually never see him or think about him but I know of his existence. Soon I receive a message from him that it was nice to see me and that he was glad we ran into each other. Of course I replied back and we began texting each other ever since.
Suddenly I started to see him all the time and in random occurrences. I didn’t find him attractive before but for some reason I was beginning to think that he was cute. And quickly I started to look forward to his replies. We connected with one another on every single subject and we agree on every single take. It was very light, respectful, and friendly. It was then I realized that I started to like him romantically. The problem was is that he had a girlfriend of five years at the time. So I felt like I couldn’t overstep my boundaries.
I tried to let him go once I realized my feelings since I wanted to be respectful but he kept popping up more in my life. This frustrated me But every inch of my body began to love him. So I started to manifest him and I did this through religious prayers, LOA, Neville Goddard, subliminals, etc. While I was doing this it seemed like everything was impossible. New problems arises in my head like what if he’s just a nice person and thinks of us as just friends? What if he was seriously committed? What if our age gap of five years would make him not want me? And these worries manifested because I found out he used to be good friends with another female coworker too who he would talk to all the time even late at night. She told me that their conversations were always surface level and they stopped talking because she didn’t care for the friendship that much. Another problem arose like with his messaging time. He started to take days instead of hours. I started worry that I was losing him and that he’s just not a good person.
This is when I worked on my self concept. I realized that I was bringing these insecurities and worries to life. I was bringing these problems. I worked on realizing that these are just tests to see if I actually truly wanted him in my life. And I did and I do he is the love of my life. When you know you know, and I definitely knew. So I quickly turned into his friendships with females are purely platonic and nothing more . He respects women and sees them as equal. Regardless if they’re attractive, we both know that we are the one for each other so to have trust and faith that it doesn’t hinder our relationship with each other at all. With the issue of replying late I turned it into he is just battling his feelings for me with his commitment, because he is respectful it’s a struggle for him to own up that he’s fallen for someone else whilst in a relationship. He was fighting his feelings and that is why he tried to pull away but it doesn’t work because I’m what he needs and thinks about. After working on reframing my idea on the 3D world I began to let go of all real world boundaries and obstacles when manifesting.
Anytime I had a worry I reflected on my reprogrammed mind but also I let go of all that and focused on my relationship with him. That no matter what we are happy and happy together. That everything works out for us all the time. That our love for each other is indestructible and infinitely growing. No one and nothing can ever come between us. The universe brought us together for a reason and that reason is so that we could be together forever happily. I started to be grateful with our in person interactions too. Whenever I saw him I praised the universe for letting me see him. That I was grateful to hear his voice and make him smile.
Out of nowhere when we were both leaving from work he asked if he could talk. I said yes and we went out for coffee. At first it was nice and we were just joking around about the bitterness of the coffee. Then he became serious. He told me that he began to have feelings for me two months ago and fell in love with me a month ago. His girlfriend and him broke up two months ago for reasons that has nothing to do with me and more so their relationship being strained. He wanted to be with me because his whole world has been pointing towards me and that everything reminded him of me. He never felt so connected to someone before like he does with me. I almost wanted to cry because I couldn’t believe my ears and eyes. It worked everything I tried worked!
Long story short we are now together for two years. We’re engaged and he even converted to my religion after falling in love with it himself. We are in such a healthy and happy relationship that’s built off of so much trust and love. All those worries I had about coworkers went away after giving him my boundaries and my reprogramming worked because really there was nothing to worry about. I know he’s in love with me and loves me and that nobody makes him feel the way that I do. He’s loyal to me like a dog and we trust each other because our mutual understanding of how much we love each other. We really were made for one another and everyday I’m grateful to have met him. So the lesson here is to continue having faith, trust, patience, and gratitude. There are no limits and nothings impossible because your reality is what you make it. Work on yourself and confidence because in the end you are the prize. And visualize visualize visualize. Happy manifesting!

These types of statements always come by when you mention polyamory or having a polyamorous mindset. As I believe everyone should do what they think is right for them, I do constantly see that there's a lot of misconceptions and misunderstandings about what polyamory means. So I wanted to vent about all the things NOT to say out of ignorance or judgement. I hope fellow polyamorous people can relate and understand this.

1. "I can't even get one partner, what gives you the right to desire or be with more partners?"
   
2. "It's cheating. I could never."
   
3. "It's just about sex."
   
4. "If I do that, you will get angry, so you can fuck everyone you want all the time?"
   
5. "Is one person not enough for you?"
   
6. "You deem yourself worthless, since you're unable to commit to one person."
   
7. "How will you give everyone attention?"
   
8. "You can't love and commit to multiple people simultaneously."
   
9. "That's not love."
   
10. "Yeah I know some poly people, and it never works out."
    
11. "Poly people are cheaters."
    
12. "That's illegal."
    
13. "You're indecisive and confused."
    
14. "It's impossible that you feel happy for your partner instead of jealous."
    
15. "You probably never feel alone."
    

Thank you for reading my vent. Feel free to add to it. 🥲

Again its obviously not possible for any of us to perfectly attain that state of being all-forgiving but I read somewhere on this sub that this mentality is what it takes to become stronger.
So let me get this straight, if someone beats the shit out of you, spits on you, and robs you blind, are you going to just say "I want to give you all my love and forgiveness. You must have stolen from me because you needed that money more than I did and so I forgive you". Ofc you'd probably want to beat the shit out of that person if you ever find them.
Unsurprisingly, this was one of the core teachings of the Budhha's philosophy and I'm sitting here thinking how impossible that is to attain that all-forgiving state. I read that you obviously wouldn't be able to perfectly attain that state but you should be striving towards it everyday. I'm sitting here thinking "hell nahh I am not going to strive towards that state everyday".
Yes, I do forgive people that are worth forgiving for the small things, but there's obviously a limit to that. Most criminals won't understand love or forgiveness and only understand violence in this world.
If a kid, gets constantly picked on and bullied, you really think him being nice to his bully and saying "oh man, you must be dealing with your own struggles to take it out on me and so I forgive you", you really think that'll work xD. The kids only option is to beat the shit out of the bully since, in this world, fear, power, and violence is the only thing most people will submit to, not love.
I will repeat that again since that might be the most important thing you guys can take from this post. MOST PEOPLE ONLY SUBMIT TO FEAR, POWER, AND VIOLENCE AND NOT TO LOVE. I'm sorry but thats just how this shithole world works.
Let me ask this. If a kid is born in absolute poverty in incredibly miserable conditions. He lost both his parents and is left with a little sister. They are both starving so he must steal from people for food and money to survive. Because he is forced to sin, is he immediately going to hell in the eyes of Christians?
This world makes it so fucking hard to impossible to live without sinning that a lot of these religions don't make any sense.

TL;DR - My father has a loan of over 1cr (again). We (me, my wife) earn about 1 lakh a month. Don't know if I (late 30s) should prioritise myself, my kid or my father.
Sorry this is going to be a very long post, as I feel like giving you a 40 year background and TBH, I don't even have right questiona to ask.
Part 1 - Background
My father started his first business (1980s) before even I was born. As he didn't have any capital, he took heavy loans to begin. Although he was running a successful wholesale agency (among top 10 in my state as per the company accounts), our expenses+interest was huge. By 1995 his interest was about 10 lakhs per month vs ~8L he made. By 1998, we got bankrupt and he had to sell everything, even his shop, my mother's ornaments and the house where we lived. As per the agreements court ordered us to pay 50% or principal to each lender (all of them had already got 10x via interests earlier). We did that, but not all money was owned by noble men, some of it was from loan sharks and they wanted last penny so they threatened and kept on taking money till today.
In 2000, after the shame of bankruptcy went little bit down, my father restarted the business as a retailer, with just 8000 that he earned doing petty things. With his contacts and dedication he grew enough to support our family, but 2005-2010 hit him hard. I went to college, my sibling wanted badly to go to Kota, all savings went down coz of 2008 crash and he took loans again.
Since then his expenses vs earning is constantly negative and loans have soared to 1 CR again. With zero assets this bubble will burst in maximum 1-2 years.
He has ZERO assets, just a 2007 Activa that he bought for me.
Part 2 - My story.
I (late 30s) along with my wife earn ~1.5 LPM. We spend about 80k in Rent, grocery, shopping, insurance etc. give 30k to my father for their expenses, rest saving in FDs/RDs for down payment to buy us a home.
My father loved us like anything and despite of him not having anything fulfilled all our naive wishes. Now all I wish is same like Babu Bhai from Hera pheri. I want to see my father sit in his own home debt free and take a sip of tea.
But this would be at stake of me not building anything for my future and can seriously jeopardize my kid's future too.
Part 3 - Questions

1. Should we consider him closing his business and shifting with us? His account says business earns about 1Lpm with average expenses of 80k. But his interests some of it from suppliers cause it go negative.
   
2. Should I send more money home to help him repay his loans?
   
3. How do I plan for my kid (~3 yo).
   
4. For my case does saving even matter?
   

P.S. Serious answer only Don't need upvotes, just need genuine advice, so rather share with someone who you think can really help.

I see a lot of you in here saying how you feel guilty about seeing other finsubs paying huge amounts to their doms. A lot of us genuinely prefer consistency over high sends anyway. It encourages us to get to know eachother better, our kinks, it means there has to be more than just money involved if the amount is smaller too. I know a lot of you like a big spend but for those of you who worry about not being able to pay as much as cash whales, remember that comparison is the thief of joy. It doesn't matter what you pay, only how much money it is to YOU. At the end of the day THAT is what will get you off. I wish you all a lovely day <3

So I just decided to do a single card pull about my love life - I’ve been out of the dating scene for a while and finally feeling ready to get back into it. So as I was getting ready I focused in on a specific guy I’ve had a crush on for a long time (a colleague), and pulled The Magician. Great! I saw that as being a really positive sign about dating again, bringing my desire for a partner to life etc., but for some reason I got it in my mind that it was a positive sign about dating generally, rather than a message about my specific guy. So I asked for a clarifying card about him, and pulled the lovers.
I’m kind of in disbelief right now, as about six months ago I also did a single card pull about this guy, and as I was doing it I thought “wouldn’t it be funny if I pulled the lovers”. And I did. And that’s the only other time I’ve asked specifically about him. So both times, same card.
I know that the lovers can be about choice as much as love, so I’m not taking this as a “omg we belong together!!” but it definitely stopped me in my tracks. I’m a bit spooked (but in a really nice way), I feel like the cards are having a bit of fun with this!
How would you interpret this particular situation? Would love to hear any thoughts!