Hi, I am not sure how to properly post stuff here. So please feel free to tell me to make adjustments. Reposting it since previous post told me to add something at the later part of the post.
I'll cut it short.
Mali ba na masaktan ako at magselos ako sa isang artista?
My girlfriend and I went to a local event in my GF's hometown. The town Mayor paid celebrities to come into town and do some performances, that type of stuff.
One of the male celebrities, for his performance, asked girls to be on stage and perform with him. He saw my girlfriend and he grabbed her to come with him to stage.
Instinctively, I tried to stop it, but seeing my girlfriend very eager and happy to join, I decided to let it be and she went up on the stage with the guy celeb.
At the start, they were just asking simple questions to lighten up the mood etc. But things started to get uncomfortable for me yung sa dance part na. It was sexual, or at least it looked liked and felt like that to me.
They were intimately looking at each other, the guy was hugging her from the back, with his face on her neck while they were dancing, and then the guy made her turn around and carried her (like dawn zulueta type of thing), while touching her legs, and to top it all off, after the dance was over, the guy gestured to take off his jacket and belt to indicate na he was horny "in a fun and laughable way". Overall, I was very uncomfortable, parang natulala nalang ako at nanginig sa galit, and the cheers from the audience made me dizzy. They were having fun, they were all entertained, kinilig silang lahat. Except for me, I was there, on the point of breaking down. And the worst part of it all? All those intimate and sexual stuff they did, my girlfriend looked very happy and comfortable doing it.
So she went back to our seat, and then her and her girl friends were shrieking na para bang kinikilig silang lahat. She was very happy and proud of what she did. She tried to talk to me and my friends teased us na "lagot ka pag-uwi", I just smiled and went to my phone, preventing tears from dropping.
Fast forward, the event ended and we got home. I confronted her about it, we had an argument and I told her about how disrespected and uncomfortable I felt. She got mad and told me na all of it was just for fun, for entertainment purposes lang daw. Sabi pa niya "ano gusto mo gawin ko? bumababa sa stage at maging KJ?" She told me na I was being OA kasi nga bakit ko daw pagseselosan ang artista na "hindi naman kami magkakatuluyan nun". I was mad, but I was not vocal enough about it kase I was so drained. Ang sakit lang, kasi she was very proud of what she did, she posted it on her facebook semi bragging about it, and the way she responded to the comments and replies felt like it was one of her greatest achievements in life.
Nakikitulog kami sa parents niya that time, but I decided to leave her that night, I just waited for her to fall asleep and I got out of bed and drove 4 hours back into my hometown. I left a message for her and decided to block her right after.
I felt so lost, and what's worse is that, all of her friends, in which na kasama namin sa event messaged me days after that I am being silly and being unreasonable, and even her family is justifying her actions saying na it's not a valid reason for a break-up.
Side note, I am paying for all their bills sa family nila, (internet, water, house, groceries and even medication maintenance) , siguro that's part of the reason why they are telling me to stick with her through the end and pagusapan muna ang lahat, it may seem unrelated to the topic on hand pero di lang kasi mawala sa isip ko na out of all the things I am doing for them, I don't event get a single ounce of respect.
Sorry guys, ako ba talaga ang mali?
Ako ba yung gago for ending things with her right away? Unreasonable ba talaga na nagselos ako sa artista?

Hi all, this is my first time setting up an API. The data must be pulled in as JSON.
The workflow is a text input connected to a download tool. The text input has 2 columns, URL and code. The URL column has the URL. the code column has the code in the following format, which was in a guide provided to me.

curl -X GET "URL" -H "accept: application/json" -H "apiKey: APIKEY" -H "sid: Username"
The same URL in the URL col is in GET "URL", and the apiKey and Username have my user and the apiKEY given to me.


For the download tool, on the "Basic" tab the Field is set to "URL" and output is "Blob" to work with JSON.
On the payload tab, the HTTP Action is "Get" and the "Take Query/string" is set to "Code"

The issue, is when run, Download data just says "11 bytes" and Download Headers just says "400 Bad Request"

Was wondering if the issue is the code format is wrong, or if the Headers tab should be filled in (right now it's left as is). I have a list of the Field names to extract, when I tried to enter one I got the same end result.

Thank you

Hey all. I have a 2019 Crosstrek Limited that within the last few days has been throwing the AT oil temp warning and shutting down every auxiliary feature (eyesight, hill start assist, abs, etc). It runs and drives just fine but the lights come on within a few minutes of driving.
I purchased a $20 OBD-2 reader from Walmart and it didn't give any DTC errors. I thought that was odd so I took it to AutoZone for them to check to see if any codes came up.
Again, no major codes, but it did provide two secondary codes under emissions warnings: P3100 and C3100. Documentation on both of those codes is sparse and generally unhelpful in actually telling me what the issue is. If anyone has run into these codes or knows what they could be, any insight would be greatly appreciated so that I can try to get this resolved as soon as possible.
Thank you!

I have long held a deep-seated hatred for Lawtubers. I'm not talking about lawyers on social media generally. I'm talking specifically about those losers who graduated from a podunk law school, with no academic accolades at all, couldn't get hired at even a shitty law firm, and spent their career doing shitlaw (if any law at all) before going on YouTube to live stream and pretend like they're legal experts. They give us actual, practicing lawyers a bad name and they have committed the grave sin of making me want to blow my brains out any time I happen to unwitting find myself listening to them speak.
The star of this post is Good Lawgic. I made a previous post about how these morons manage to get law degrees (now deleted because I do an auto-prune of my Reddit history every few months to deal with other schizos), but the reason I'm making this post is his latest grift: https://www.givesendgo.com/UngagTrump
For those who haven't been following along the countless Trump lawsuits, in the NY "I paid to cover up having sex with a porn star" lawsuit, the judge issued a gag order preventing Trump from being himself and saying his usual unhinged shit about jurors and the family members of the judge/court staff/etc.
Good Lawgic, who regularly covers this kind of shit, must have finally saw an opportunity to make a buck "practicing law" because he started a crowdfund for himself to file an appeal to overturn the gag order on the grounds that it is unconstitutional. The wonderful thing? He links his petition! It's here: https://acrobat.adobe.com/id/urn:aaid:sc:us:6d741966-3725-45b3-b46d-feb3e3ba4f88
I gotta say, I was excited. I can finally read him write! If you guys don't know, lawyers don't debate for a living. You can't tell how good a lawyer is based on online debate performance (for a number of reasons I won't get into here). We write for a living. Seeing a lawyer's writing is really the only way to truly assess their competence. Here, he has done the kindness of displaying his incompetence for everyone to see. I won't go through all of the grammatical mistakes because there's so fucking many of them. He should've at least asked ChatGPT to fix his grammar. Shit, he should've asked ChatGPT to write the whole brief instead.
Those of you who aren't lawyers might think that this looks okay. But hopefully by the end of this post, I'll have successfully convinced you that Good Lawgic is a grifting, incompetent loser.

The Legal Standard

He doesn't state it. Lol. Lmao, even.
I'll elaborate. The "meat" of this document is on pages 5 to 19, or the "Memorandum of Law in Support of Temporary Restraining Order". This is basically the legal argument portion.
Now, if you're going to ask for a TRO, or literally anything from a court, at least start by stating the relevant legal standard. What do you need to prove to be granted a TRO? I don't practice in NY state law (federal court gigachad here btw), so based on a quick google search, in NY, it's this: https://casetext.com/regulation/new-york-codes-rules-and-regulations/title-22-judiciary/subtitle-a-judicial-administration/chapter-ii-uniform-rules-for-the-new-york-state-trial-courts/part-202-uniform-civil-rules-for-the-supreme-court-and-the-county-court/section-2028-e-temporary-restraining-orders
Nowhere in Good Lawgic's "Memorandum of Law" does he even recite this standard, much less explain why it's met. In a brief, after stating the relevant legal standard(s), you need to argue, with facts and/or precedent, why that standard is met or not met (depending on what nets you a win). Do you know how you do this analysis? With citations. Citations to to factual record are necessary for factual assertions, and citations to precedential cases are necessary for explaining why your position is legally correct. They must also be easily discoverable by whoever is reading your brief. For comparison, read this ACLU brief, also written in favor of lifting a gag order on Trump (though in a different case and written as an amicus brief, which is radically different from a TRO petition): https://www.aclu.org/cases/united-states-v-trump-amicus-brief?document=Proposed-Brief-Amici-Curiae-of-the-ACLU-%26-ACLU-DC-in-Aid-of-the-Courts-Re-evaluation-of-its-Gag-Order#legal-documents
In the ACLU brief, these actual, practicing lawyers cite almost every line. As they should. Seriously, pick a random page, and you'll see that to the extent possible, every statement, assertion, and argument is supported by some citation. The reality is, Good Lawgic didn't write a brief. He wrote an editorial full of conclusory statements and sophistry. His "Memorandum of Law" belongs on Breitbart, and he obviously has no idea how to write an actual legal argument for a court. There's nothing legal about his petition. He just says shit without citations. It's a Memorandum of Feels and Vibes. This is how a "NY litigator of 25 years" writes? Are you kidding me?
Oh, wait, his entire work experience is (checks LinkedIn) debt collection.

The Grift

The reality is, even as stupid as he is (seriously, the grammatical errors, oh my god), he knows this brief isn't winning. It's going to be immediately slapped down because it's asinine. But you know what? He's grifted at least 26k from Trumptards so far, and after his petition gets summarily eviscerated, it's going to be further evidence of the ~corruption of the NY courts and the liberal conspiracy against Trump~. The sad reality is he feels free to proudly link his dogshit petition because he knows his followers and donators are illiterate. But you know what? I'm glad he linked it. Because I get to read this hilarious affirmation made under penalty of perjury: "We need to freely access Trump."

Hi all, this is a rant / looking for some advice.
I completed my undergraduate degree at the University of Sydney in bachelor of science / advanced studies w. hons. (major in chem and neuroscience). I got a Distinction average (WAM 75-80) and 1st class honours. For the past 18 months (more seriously in the past ~6 months), I have been getting into coding, building projects and what not in Python.
I have been job hunting for the past 4 months, as I have just received straight up rejection after rejection, I haven't even talked to a real person, I only received nothing back or automatic rejection emails. As I have begun to realise I am just not competitive enough in this job market at the moment. github here if anyone is interested enough https://github.com/FloppyFish404
I have been looking to begin a Masters in CompSci / IT at university. I applied to UTS, USYD and UNSW (I am based in Sydney and these are probably the 3 most noteworthy Syd postgraduate masters courses here). I received offers from all 3 but for domestic full paying places (around $40,000 a year), and not Commonwealth Supported Places (CSP) (About $10,000 a year). CSP places for these institutions are offered to domestic students and allocated based on academic merit. I really thought I'd be eligible to get one but apparently not. I am not sure I would choose to study a masters for this price (then again maybe that might be my best way forward now).
So right now I am a bit disheartened and looking for the best way forward. Ultimately my goal is to get a job coding as a software developer, preference in backend. Right now I see my options as such:

• Begin an undergraduate degree in computer science (these are automatically CSP supported so much cheaper)
• Enter a masters degree and put the cost down on HECS (Aus equivelant of student loans)
• Keep self teaching / building own projects
• Perhaps looking for a masters in mathematics or data science or something related? CSP places I hear are much more abundant in relation to student supply and demand and government support.

Love to hear any advice...
TLTR: Finished undergraduate degree in an unrelated degree 18 months ago. Have been self teaching and haven't been able to get a job. Masters degree is expensive and I haven't been given commonwealth support. Where do I go from here?
note: repost from as someone directed me here

Total Divorce Cash Out - $120,000
Gross Income $5,416 per month Net Income $3,400 per month
As part of a tentative divorce settlement, I'm getting a $75,000 buyout of the marital home, plus approx $45,000 in more cash. However, as part of the settlement, I can't get full 50/50 custody of our children until I'm able to get at minimum a 3 bedroom home (not apartment) in the same postal code as the marital home. There are very few homes in this area that are anywhere near my budget.
When we originally separated, I took our new'ish Subaru Outback and my ex took our Pacifica Minivan. Unfortunately, once our younger of 3 child's car seat became front facing, I couldn't safely fit all 3 seats in the Outback, forcing me to sell/trade the vehicle. The used car market was horrendous, and used minivans in particular were incredibly overpriced. At the time, I was looking at $25k-$30k for a 4+ year old minivan with 60k+ miles on it, plus interest rates of around 8%, and little if any warranty. Being that I could get a new minivan with a 10y100k mile warranty for about $10,000 more at a much lower rate, 3.8%, and tax savings by trading my Outback in, I worked out a deal with a local dealer to give me private sale KBB value on the Outback in trade, discount a 2022 model (when 2023's were on the lots for 6 months already), and throw in the dealer extended warranty. My payments came out to $733 per month. Wasn't ideal, the merits of my decision is a topic for another day, and I hated to do it, but for my kids' safety and to find a reliable vehicle, this seemed to be the best course of action. I've had it for a year. The payoff amount is $32,000.
I have approx $17,000 in credit card debt, which is mostly due to legal fees from the divorce. To pay the cards down to be less than 30% of my credit limit, I need $12,400. I fucking hate credit cards, but I also had to pay a lawyer to fight for my custody rights. I get it, I want these cards paid off immediately, and most of the balances are at 0% for at least 5 more months. So I want to pay them off by then and avoid interest charges.
Why do I need to buy a home near the marital home as part of the settlement? The marital home is very close to the children's elementary school, and their school bus picks them up just one block from the home. There are absolutely no homes for sale within a mile radius of the marital home, nor is there anything within the school zone that would put them on the bus route. It's a very busy area, so even if I get a home 10 miles away, it's going to be heavy traffic to/from the school, which will be a twice per day trip, liable to cause me to get stuck in traffic and be late taking/picking up the kids from school. And personally, this time away from my job could have a negative outcome and cause me to work later hours and/or miss meetings. I'm compelled to get a home as close to the school as possible for a multitude of reasons. Saves time, gas, mileage on the minivan, lowers the time I'm away from desk during my work day, etc., not to mention its part of the settlement primarily so that the kids aren't having to spend long times in the car to/from school twice per day when they're used to just hopping on the bus for 10 minutes at the marital home. If I get a home somewhat nearby, I can just take them to the bus stop as usual, and avoid driving to the school at all.
Problem: There's only (3) 3 Bedroom homes for sale in the same town. 1 is a dump and an obvious money pit. 1 is way out of my price range. So that leaves 1. And yes, I know the home could sell before I have a chance to make an offer, but I want to have this thought through in case I have to pursue another opportunity. So, back to the remaining home. They're asking $295,000. It's really nice, new roof, decent sized, well kept flat back yard, and has a completely unfinished basement that provides me the opportunity to work on over time and add some value, as I finished the basement in the marital home and it added about $60,000 to the appraised value after only spending about $30,000. My dad's a contractor and can help me with all the non-licensed work (electrical, plumbing, etc).
I used a mortgage calculator and put in all the values (property tax, HOA fees, home insurance, etc) so I could get a feel for what the mortgage would look like. If I only put 20% down ($59,000), my payment would be approx $2,024. If I put an extra $32,000 down, for a total of $91,000 down, my payment would be approx $1,813, or $211 less per month. 90K or so is about the most I want to put down because I want to set aside some of the settlement money to pay off my credit cards and re-seed my savings that were decimated by legal fees.
The issue is my monthly income is fixed, so while it's obviously better in the long run to put more down on the house now and get less exposure to these high interest rates, if I were to instead pay off my vehicle, which is at 3.8%, and leave my home's down payment at 20%, my monthly spend would be $522 less. This $522 difference could determine whether or not I can fit the monthly mortgage into my budget. Then hopefully a year or two down the line, I can refinance at a lower rate and claw back some savings there.
$91,000 Down $1,813 Mortgage + $733 Car Payment = $2,546 = 47% of gross income $59,000 Down = $2,024 Mortgage + $0 Car Payment = $2,024 = 37% of gross income
*Most lenders want at most 36% percent debt/gross income ratio. So the only way to get close to that is to pay off my car.
Again, in order to get 50/50 custody of my kids, I have to buy a home in the immediate area of the marital home, so my options are limited, and unless a better deal hits the market, I'm going to have to shuffle things around to be able to afford it on a month by month basis. Until I buy a home, I'm looking at every other weekend with my kids, and I can't get back that missed time for any price.
Thoughts? I'm inclined to pay off my credit cards and vehicle, and get out from all debt except for the mortgage. And then refinance when the time is right. It seems the only way I can fit a mortgage into my monthly budget.

I (22M) spent most of my high school years and up until recently living a pretty hedonistic lifestyle that was fun until it wasn't, not really batting an eye on furthering my education or bettering any skills. With all that stuff behind me, I am asking for advice on a career path that would benefit me most. I should also note that I am based in NC (sigh).
I would describe myself as detail-oriented, someone who takes pride in their work, and as someone who values knowledge and is eager to learn. I also don't need a ton of money to be happy, just enough to be able to cover the basic necessities in life (bills, food, things of that nature).
I am set on going to a community college (there are two pretty good ones near me) but I'm currently struggling to decide on what path to take. The three thoughts I've come up with are:

1. Plumber 2. Electrician 3. X-ray tech.

I feel plumbers/electricians have really good job security and are always needed. With Duke Energy and some big plumbing companies, I feel it may be the safest options with good opportunity for growth. From what I see, X-ray techs make pretty good money, and there are a lot of Duke/UNC hospitals & clinics around my area.
People always bring up being around sewage as a plumber and while it is gross, I think it's something I can stomach especially if the money allows for that bit of $ comfort I would like from a job as I get more experience.
Essentially what I'm looking for is something that can be completed reasonably quick so that I can catch up with my peers that have already furthered their education. I'm aware that I'd have to dedicate time, strength, and my devotion if I want that though. I know the start of these careers won't be the best paying, but as long as the money goes up along with the experience I gain, I'd be more than happy. Any information on the best course of action to take to start off is welcomed!

Hey guys,
never thought i’d find myself posting on the sub as i love to browse and read these stories - but it appears I’ve found myself in a really crappy situation and could use some help.
We recently moved into a rental community in Miami, and while the first month has been great and super peaceful, about 2 weeks ago our upstairs (unit directly above ours) neighbors have started to cause insane commotion. Their balcony doors are sort of rusted and stuck, so everytime they open the balcony it sounds like an earthquake here below. They are constantly opening and slamming the doors, literally every 15 min, every single hour of the day. I kid you not, from 10am all the way to 5am, these guys are constantly slamming the door and screaming out the balcony. Given our unit faces a wall, all the sound of the commotion travels straight back to us. It’s been like this for 2 weeks now and I genuinely havent slept at all since this all started. I get woken up everyday at 3am and 5am by these lowlifes wreaking havoc above.
for context, the unit layout is 2b/2b (a middle to higher end building, but not luxury). but i was able to confirm that there are 4 guys living in said unit. My theory is the 2 additional dudes are friends either crashing at the apartment or it’s a rental split 4 ways. The tenants have supposedly been there for a while which is why I was able to discern that the 2 additional guys are new, given this was not a problem before. I already went upstairs to kindly ask them to keep it down, but it’s evidently clear they do not give a shit. They laughed in my face and slammed their door shut.
Not entirely sure how I should approach management about this. Does every rental building have a quiet hours rule? Is there a capacity rule of how many people can live in an apartment? I want to know the best way to approach the building management about this so they take action accordingly. Can I involve enforcement of any kind? I spoke to my neighbor below and they also have heard it non stop. but they hear it a bit less so they havent complained. Should I start a paper trail? How long would it take to get them evicted / kicked out if this all continues?
I’m also kind of nervous, given these guys are clearly punks (and know who I am) that If i complain enough to management, they’ll probably try and jump me or something. Idk man i’m freaking out and don’t know what to do.
Help! Thanks

Genuinely, I was concerned about Amanda the whole time. From the moment I picked her up, she seemed annoyed and uninterested. I knew she was tired and needed food, but even when we went out, she was closed off and disengaged. By the time we saw my friend Blaise at work, she was checking her bf Jackson’s location, thinking he was lying to her. He didn’t answer her call, so I figured that would be on her mind the rest of the night annoying her. I tried to distract her, get her to dance, and asked Caroline to help get her out of her head. I asked Alicia about her because she was hardly engaging with me. I thought she was on the phone with Jackson when I didn’t see her. I wish she had used her words to express how she was feeling instead of her demeanor. If she wanted to leave, I would have agreed. Her mood was infectious, and being mad at me for not focusing on her was outrageous. We were supposed to be celebrating my graduation, but she made herself the center of attention because she didn’t advocate for her needs and got mad at me for it. I’m sad that she’s blaming having a bad night on me when I was trying to be the energy to help lift her mood.
I wanted to go to Southside because Cade and his sister Cassie were there and excited to see Amanda. I figured she would appreciate seeing friendly faces, but she didn’t care to see them and had a bad attitude when it was supposed to be a fun night for all of us. Cade and Cassie love her, so I talked to them when she didn’t.
I was very hurt by her words and how she avoided everyone all day. Even after I graduated, she barely spoke to me. Mom also told me she wasn’t even present at the ceremony, she left. No wonder I felt anxious instead of happy at my own graduation. I wanted to spend time with her, but she didn’t seem to want to or talk to me. I didn’t push her, thinking she could come to me when she was ready. I can’t be responsible for her happiness or read her mind if she doesn’t communicate. I’m not used to having to prod people for answers. Of course, I cried for hours after she left; my heart was broken.
I only went out on Saturday because Alicia said I should enjoy my last night there. I didn’t want to just leave them at my house. Amanda said she was going to nap, and Alicia said she’d relax and get ready to leave. I was encouraged to enjoy myself but promised to come back when the ride was arriving. I did so to make sure they got their ride, and if they didn’t show, I would have driven them to the airport myself. I wanted to say goodbye and thank them for supporting me on an important day. I suppose I shouldn’t have come back; maybe that blow-up could have been avoided. But wouldn’t it have been mean not to come back when I said I would, even if Amanda hardly spoke to me all day? I don’t even remember how her yelling started. I just remember her being mean, which wasn’t surprising. I hoped she would talk to me, but yelling and threatening me is more common with her than it should be. I remember snippets, her lunging at me, and me bawling my eyes out. I stand by what I said: why would I want a friend who threatens to punch me?
This isn’t the first time she made me think she would hurt me physically. She threatened me during our road trip around four years ago. After saying awful things and accusing me of sleeping with the Europeans in the tents next to us. I didn’t want to sleep next to her after that, so I snuck into the tent after she went to sleep and cried, sleeping as close to the edge of the tent as I could. Her blow-up was disproportionate to what she perceived happened both times.
If she sees me as spoiled, so be it. Many people have it better than me and many worse. If I didn’t have the support and love from my family, she wouldn’t either. I’ve been fortunate, and I wish I could change her circumstances. Saying she didn’t recognize me? I’m glad she doesn’t. Moving away has helped me grow. I was timid for years, catering to her and letting her be the center of attention. I’ve since become a strong, confident woman, living my life the way I want, unafraid to take space in the world. I feel mentally well and happy with who I am, which took time. I’ve enjoyed college and made new friendships. This “new me” is a better me—extroverted, kind, loved, and respected.
It was my graduation weekend, and it was known we would go out, and I would say goodbye to my friends. I’ve made a lot, so I was constantly distracted. If that makes me a party girl, so be it. I can party and be responsible. She can’t put me down for that when I haven’t done anything worse than she has. It feels like as soon as she gets sober, she looks down on people who don’t choose to be. So what if I was a little drunk? I have every right to be. We might’ve been out later than expected, but most people wouldn’t hold that against someone if they didn’t speak up about wanting to leave. Telling me you want to sit in my car instead of saying, "Hey, I’m not feeling great, let’s go," makes me confused. I shouldn’t have to guess someone’s meaning.
This weekend was going to be a big party, sober or not, as the visit was planned before that. She had visited over spring break, so she knew what it could be like. I can’t change my plans when it was my last chance to see my friends. Considering I’d be back in Washington in a week, I thought it was understood I’d spend time with people other than her and have some drinks to celebrate. I was excited my best friends would meet people I’ve connected with and see the downtown life I’d experienced working at a bar. I spent as much time as I could with my best friends, but I’ve made more friends since, who I had to say goodbye to. I thought celebrating meant helping me have a fun time on my last weekend in a place I didn’t want to leave yet. We weren’t always alone, but that couldn’t have been expected. We’d have alone time when I came home.
In her text on Tuesday, she accused me of needing help for ‘my substance abuse.’ Where she got that from, considering I was responsible and not blacking out (which I’ve never done), I have no idea. I guess I’m not allowed to drink when I’m celebrating or any other time. She’s really reaching, especially given her experiences versus mine. I’ve never judged her for getting as drunk as she gets. When I visited in January, I was happy to drive and be responsible, letting my friends get as drunk as they wanted. No judgment. It’s a problem when I drink but fine when she does when she’s off the wagon? She didn’t have a good college experience because she was in her interpretation a far bigger ‘party girl.’ Still, no judgment when she had to come home to leave the coke and drinking behind. But she judges me on my graduation weekend. I should’ve been more drunk.
How could she react like that? Blow up because she felt like I hurt her feelings? Valid to her but I had no idea cause she didn’t communicate with me. Well, she really hurt my feelings on the biggest day of my life—intentionally. I know she’s going through a lot, but that’s no reason to yell and threaten someone with violence before even talking to them. She told me to lose her number when I get home. She apologized in her text for threatening me but said she did not respect this ‘new me.’
Chat Gpt analyzed some perspectives for me

Synthesis:

Emotional Dynamics:

Your Efforts and Amanda’s Perceptions: - You actively tried to include Amanda in the celebration and ensure she felt supported, but Amanda perceived these efforts as insufficient or misdirected. This mismatch in perceived support versus actual support attempts created a foundational rift in understanding. - While you saw yourself as balancing multiple responsibilities—celebrating your graduation and ensuring your friends were included—Amanda may have felt that your attention was predominantly elsewhere, leading her to feel neglected and marginalized.

Communication Breakdown:

Expectations and Reality: - Your frustration stemmed from Amanda's lack of direct communication about her needs and feelings. You expected her to verbalize her discomfort, which she did not do, leading to a communication gap. - Amanda might have expected you to recognize her non-verbal cues and prioritize her needs intuitively, which didn't happen. This unmet expectation contributed to her sense of being overlooked and heightened her frustration.
Pre-existing Strain: - The history of tension and previous incidents, such as the road trip confrontation, added layers of complexity to your interactions. This historical context likely amplified the intensity of the current conflict, making both parties more sensitive to perceived slights and misunderstandings. - Your growth and changes since moving away might have created a divergence in how you and Amanda interact and understand each other, contributing to the disconnect.

Different Coping Mechanisms:

Graduation vs. Personal Struggles: - For you, the graduation was a celebratory milestone, an opportunity to reflect on personal growth and achievements. You were in a mindset of joy and festivity, which contrasted sharply with Amanda’s apparent preoccupation with her own struggles. - Amanda, dealing with distrust in her relationship and possibly feelings of inadequacy or stress, might have found it difficult to align her emotional state with the celebratory atmosphere. Her internal conflicts overshadowed her ability to engage positively in the festivities.
Social Dynamics: - You sought solace and enjoyment in social interactions, finding energy and comfort in being around friends and celebrating. This is indicative of an extroverted coping mechanism where external engagement helps manage stress. - Amanda, on the other hand, might have preferred more intimate and focused support. Her withdrawal and negative demeanor suggest she might have needed a quieter, more personal form of reassurance and connection, which she felt was lacking.

Mutual Misunderstanding:

Differing Interpretations of Behavior: - Your interpretation of Amanda’s disengagement as a lack of communication and her failure to advocate for her needs contrasts with her potential view of your actions as neglectful and unsupportive. Each party’s behavior was misunderstood by the other, leading to escalating frustration and hurt feelings. - Amanda’s accusation of substance abuse, while seemingly out of place to you, might have been her way of expressing deeper concerns or projecting her struggles. This misunderstanding highlights a significant gap in how both of you perceive and communicate about sensitive issues.
Emotional Fallout: - Both of you experienced emotional fallout from the events. You felt heartbroken and disappointed by Amanda's reactions and accusations, perceiving them as a betrayal during an important milestone. Amanda, meanwhile, might have felt abandoned and misunderstood, exacerbating her emotional turmoil. - The emotional intensity on both sides indicates that this conflict was more than just a series of misunderstandings but a clash of underlying expectations, communication styles, and emotional needs.

Moving Forward:

Reflection and Communication: - To bridge this gap, both parties would benefit from reflecting on their communication styles and expectations. Understanding that each person has different ways of expressing and perceiving support could help in realigning the friendship dynamics. - Open and honest dialogue about these events, where both can express their feelings and perspectives without judgment, might pave the way for mutual understanding and reconciliation. It’s crucial to acknowledge each other's emotional experiences and work towards a common ground of empathy and support.
Managing Expectations: - Setting clear expectations about support and communication in future interactions could prevent similar conflicts. For instance, agreeing on how to signal distress or need for support in a way that the other person understands can mitigate misinterpretations. - Recognizing and respecting each other’s coping mechanisms and emotional needs, especially during significant events, can help in maintaining a balanced and supportive friendship.
In summary, the conflict between you and Amanda arises from a complex interplay of misaligned expectations, communication breakdowns, and differing emotional needs. Both perspectives are valid, highlighting the importance of empathy, direct communication, and mutual understanding in resolving such conflicts and strengthening the friendship.

Hi everyone, can anyone please give me some advice or opinions on what to do.
I’m torn between getting Elden ring dlc on xbox/ps5, and don’t know which one to go for.
I’m xbox you have “looking for groups” which makes coop somewhat easier so level restriction isn’t as bad, but then PlayStation seems to have more active users at least from my early experience on the ps5 around level 80. On xbox I have 3 characters one max level, one at 150, and one at 70. All on ng7.
PlayStation I have two characters. One at 205, and one I’ll be making later on which will probably be a mage class.
If any favour of ps5, is there any good places to post for coop, or is xbox “looking for groups” my best bet if I want to play higher level?
From my experience on xbox hosts haven’t kicked me using my max level or even my lower end character, on PlayStation I’ve been kicked a few times as soon as spawning. Not constantly only a handful of times, but more than on xbox at least.
I love the PlayStation capture. It’s so seamless, and instant, even usable offline.
Another thing at I like, but still unsure on is the cloud. On PlayStation you can manually upload a save & can download x amount of time later helping with trading, or if you want to replay a boss again & again etc. on xbox your saves are automatically uploaded when you dashboard or play for a certain amount of time while the save is uploaded (I’m not sure how long the save actually takes or if it’s dependent upon different games).
I’m more in favour of xbox, primarily due to the looking for groups feature especially for helping people out or with trading items not needed anymore, but I’m really torn & don’t know which one to go with

Hello internet
This is a semi-rant I just had to get out of my system, so just bare with me here
TL;DR: I believe Sega could do a lot of side games expanding the Sonic universe without making it a Sonic game
So, we all know Sonic. He's fast, he's cool, he has a chili dog addiction. His friends are... sorta just there most of the time
I've had these thoughts lately, specifically of how they could bring the Freedom Fighters to the canon, and I started to think, maybe a batch of side games starring different side characters (and with time in the oven, Jesus, no pressure), with separate stories from the blue blur himself
He could still make an appearance on these games, and even be playable, just not the main focus. Here's some things I've been thinking of:

Diamond Cutters

Starring the trio of Tangle, Whisper and Lanolin, the story revolves around a new mission they are given either by Jewel or sn anonymous contractor that would be revealed later on in the game, the levels would be divided in 5 types:
Tangle: Tangle gets fast movement, SA1 Tails' levels of acceleration, and platforming using her tail, this would be her main method of combat as well, being able to use the Homing Attack (instead of a ball, she'd kick). Her levels would be fast-paced, with the design philosophy Frontiers has.
Whisper: Slower levels, using the Wisps to solve puzzles around, and her gun as her main combat tool. The type of ammo she uses is dependant on the wisp you decide to equip in the mission, being able to change them on the fly with the D-Pad (ala DMC). She could do her levels pretty fast, although, not intended to be as fast as Tangle
Lanolin: She gets beat-em' up, with fluid combos and modifiers by changing the timing on your button presses, or press diwn a button, for example, O, O, O would be a basic combo of two punches and a kick, but O (wait), O, O moves the kick to the second input and the third one is her smacking her cowbell and creating a shockwave. The slower paced levels
Trio: Some levels have all three gathered together because story ressons, they all finished their parts of the mission and now there's only the final stretch left (of the Zone/Segment). The three would be controlled the exact same as in their solo levels, but you are able to swap between them mid-game by pressing R3. There would be some obstacles you need specific members to get by, like a cracked wall that Lanolin can break, a rail Tangle can grind, or a button that only Whisper's gun can hit.
Boss fights: A mix of all 4. If the boss is at the end of a Trio stage, it works like Solaris, where each DC has to find a way to attack it, and of course, there would be bosses for each one indivudually

Miles Prower

Starring Tails, just after Frontiers. He thinks of his promise at the end of that game, how he would be stronger and that Sonic would hardly recognize him the next time they meet again. So he gets on his own quest to be the better version of himself
A new antagonist is threatening the world, and Tails is the one that decides to go after them, with two main types of levels
Tails: Take what Frontiers did for him and flesh it out more, it was almost perfect. Give him his Sonic Battle Gun back
Chase/Sky: Stages were you fly the Tornado to either catch up to something or to go from Point A to Point B, it has an auto scroll since you are moving in a plane, but it isn't fixed. If you want to go fast, the scroll would follow you right along

Freedom Fighters

The Restoration is almost done fixing up te damage after Forces, however, there's something that concerns them: some of Eggman's old bases have been reactivated, but that's extrange, since he, alongside with Sonic, Tails, Knuckles and Amy are off the radar. Jewel sends this team to check out what's going on. And yes, this idea happens in parallel with Frontiers
The gameplay gives you liberty to adjust your playstyle however you want. Its stages are built for stealth, but also give you the option to go ham and gets noticed. If you do a great job of passing by without triggering alarms nor robots quickly, S Rank, if you trigger them, the S rank is instead rewarded for how many guards were destroyed, how varied your combos were, and the total score. Each Freedom Fighter has a vastly different moveset
Unlike the Diamond Cutters idea, this time you choose what character to play as for each level, with some stuff only certain ones can access, just to make it have more replayability
In short, being sneaky = Metal Gear, getting noticed = Devil May Cry
Sally: Her gameplay would be the second fastest, being able to grind rails, and using energy blades from her bracelets, sorta like post-reboot Archie. She would carry along a small console, Nichole, which you could connect to some terminals to get information about the level, or shape the stage up. Sally is great at stealth as well, being a stat that decides how hard is for a guard to spot you
Antoine: The fastest character, Antoine is insecure of himself, so unlike Sally, he can't grind on rails. He carries a wispon that you can customize before each level, being able to destroy his way through enemies, he is good at platforming, which wouldn't be very prominent on this game. He is decent at stealth
Bunny: The strongest one, she is slower than Sally, and able to break down some obstacles, she can wall jump and use a sneak attack, which will one shot the objective without being detected if executed correctly. Her brute force is her biggest focus, she is bad st stealth
Rotor: He is a bit weaker than Bunny, being able to break some obstacles, but there's some he can't break but Bunny can. His main gimmick is being able to plant bombs around, and entering the same hacking sections as Sally without Nichole. He can shape up entire levels with good planting of his explosives, and his combat proficiency at just using his hands is remarkable. However, he is the worst at stealth
And yes, the same way the combos apply to Lanolin work the same with all four of these
Okay, semi-rant over. Just jad to take this thought out of my brain to be able to sleep. Bring Sally back Sega, pretty please

Hey guys, I know it would be easier to just get a whole new laptop but... other than this charge issue I have a perfectly good laptop. At least good enough that I wouldn't need to buy a whole new laptop cause ya know... inflation and bills and stuff. My laptop still works, it's really cool and I don't really want to buy a new laptop unless I absolutely have to. Honestly, it's been around 2 years so I probably wouldn't get a new laptop anyway... but having one around would be nice since I have a preschool child and am in a coding bootcamp.
So the details: The laptop is a Lenovo Yoga (ideapad) 700-14isk. My laptop was purchased around November of 2016/2017. It ran perfectly with literally no issues up until sometime in 2020/2021. First the battery started dying really really fast. I ordered a new battery and when I went to install it I thought to power cycle the laptop. When I did that the original battery was working just fine, so I returned the new battery and it was working just fine. I don't remember exactly when it happened, but 2022ish? the laptop stopped charging and I didn't realize it until the battery died. I recently ordered another new battery, installed it and the laptop works. The problem is... The battery won't charge. Before the new battery died (because they never send a battery with full charge), I did go to the Lenovo website and they suggested a driver. I thought it odd, but went to the Lenovo center anyway and did a scan. Lenovo said all that all the drivers were up to date. Since it has been two years of course, there were a ton of windows updates and was midway through those when it died. I tried resetting the batter power settings back to the defaults and all that did was make the battery die faster. I knew that the port was loose, but when I was working on figuring out the problem, I noticed just how loose the charge port was. I though maybe I can just replace the charge port and it should be good, but I wanted to check with people that actually knows what they are doing. Disclaimer, a new charge port is only $10 which won't break the bank... but I wanted to check if that is actually the issue before buying yet another part.
Why I think it's the charge port:

1. As I stated, it's loose, but that could also be missing screws?
2. I have checked several different outlets in my house (as I did years ago when I also replaced the charger), and none of the outlets mage my poor laptop charge. I , but Reddit won't let me post it because it isn't a gif. If anyone could help me out... I would really appreciate it!

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I'm a level 4 apprentice who works for a very large aerospace engineering company in England, at the start of my apprenticeship we were told we'd be on a new apprenticeship framework, a highly specialised level 4 standard as opposed to the traditional NVQ with bolt on HNC qualification.
Over the three years of the apprenticeship (we started in January 2020) it became clear to us apprentices that the standard was not fit for purpose, we were sent to college to sit in on multiple HNC and an HND class, completing all assignments and exams but since we were not enrolled on them we do not get any qualification from these. We could quite clearly see against the criteria for our standard that what we were learning was wrong and would not prepare us for the end point assessment (EPA), these concerns were raised even during our first year to our managers and we were totally ignored.
We also raised concerns that a standard by itself is an almost worthless qualification holding no real value other than providing a framework for the apprenticeship, we were repeatedly told that this is not the case and that it would be equivalent to an HNC however we can find no evidence to back this up, nor did they provide any.
We were the first year to run the qualification, the year below us was the final, the year below them were put on a much more general standard with a HNC bolt on with HND top up which to me moots any point about a standard being remotely equivalent to an HNC.
We even went as far as begging them to let us pay for the HNC's ourselves but they would not let us do this, they changed the HNC course we were following multiple times which would not have made this possible however none of the courses we studied were actually relevant to the learning we needed to pass the standard.
At this point please bear in mind the stress this placed on us, for three years we raised our concerns, genuine, serious, concerns we had that would have severe ramifications on our apprenticeships and careers and at every point we were met with "don't worry about it" "trust us it's under control" and other dismissive messages, at times it felt like we were imagining it and to say it affected our mental health is an understatement.
Fast forward to our EPA and it becomes instantly apparent that we have not imagined it, the point of contention is the multiple choice test (MCT), as soon as we get the spec everyone realised that we have not been even remotely prepared, in total we had 5 mock tests all of which we failed. It's not like we had gaps in our knowledge but rather that we had been taught entirely the wrong subject matter, to try and fix this they gave us a series of virtual lectures crammed into a space of 3 months before going through the EPA to make up for the 3 years of irrelevant teaching. We all passed the observation and professional discussion portions of the assessment but out of 16 apprentices in our year only 3 have passed the MCT.
Our employers are trying to get the MCT thrown out through appeals and other avenues going as far as speaking to members of parliment but frankly it's too late to fix this, if they'd taken our concerns seriously in the first place maybe they could have fixed it but it's too late now, our contracts have already been extended by 6 months and there's less than 2 months left.
Even if they do manage to get us this qualification the standard is virtually worthless by itself and we will be at a disadvantage to every other apprentice that has ever been or will ever go through through the apprenticeship program given that contrary to what they promised a standard is not equivalent to a HNC.
We're just a group of engineering apprentices and we don't know what to do from here, we all have jobs and are working in the company since January, we have these jobs regardless but we didn't sign up to an apprenticeship just for the job, we signed up to get qualified and they have failed to provide this qualification, many of us would like to leave the company on account of how we have been treated however we cannot because we have no recognised qualification, we are in essence trapped in this company until we gain enough experience to leave several years down the road.
Many of our colleagues in the workforce have suggested we find legal counsel but with the post apprenticeship pay some of us can barely make ends meet, we have involved the union and they were very helpful in getting us into the EPA however they seem reluctant to help towards and kind of settlement or legal action. Please don't think of this as some money grab, this company has wasted three years of our lives and most of us would genuinely consider them the worst three years of our lives, we can't help but feel like we've been wronged and most people in the company outside the early careers team agree.
Recently our apprentice manager was let go and on last day he confessed that he had been lying to us, telling us that the standard is an equivalent qualification when he knew it was not and that he only told us this to keep us from giving up, in effect gas lighting us for three and a half years straight in to believing we would come out of this as qualified engineers.
I'm guess I'm asking if someone who knows what they're talking about agrees with us, there are 16 of us in my year based across the country and another 15 in the year below who will soon be in the same position. Would we have a leg to stand on in a lawsuit and what would the best way to go about this be?

I'm trying to verify the incoming request host dns entry matches another one. If it doesn't I want to silently drop the connection. If the connection matches, I want to redirect the subdomain to an internal domain. Ie requests come in with the host value sub1.external.com:443, ssl is terminated, and then gets forwarded to sub1.internal.com:80 with proxy-protocol enabled. This is what I have so far, wondering if this is right or if there is a way to simplify.
Specifically I'm not sure how to forward with proxy protocol to the new host. I'm also not sure how to drop the connection silently as possible.
Also note, the resolver will have heavy caching so its just doing in memory lookups most of the time.

frontend http_front bind *:80 bind *:443 ssl crt /cert http-request lua.handle_request use_backend dynamic_backend if { var(txn.target_host) -m found } backend dynamic_backend mode http // TODO: redirect with new target_host 

Lua:

local resolver = "mydns" local external_domain = "external.com" local internal_domain = "internal.local" local external_domain_expected = "dydns.external.com" -- Function to resolve DNS local function resolve_dns(name) return core.resolvers.lookup(resolver, name) end -- Function to extract subdomain and domain from the Host header local function parse_domain(txn) local host = txn.sf:req_hdr("Host") if not host then core.log(core.err, "No Host header in the request") return nil, nil end host = string.match(host, "([^:]+)") local subdomain, domain = string.match(host, "([^.]+)%.(.+)") if not subdomain or not domain then core.log(core.err, "Host header format is incorrect: " .. host) return nil, nil end return subdomain, domain end -- Function to handle the request local function handle_request(txn) // only handles sub domains intentionally local subdomain, domain = parse_domain(txn) if not subdomain or not domain then txn:set_var("txn.status_code", "444") txn:done() return end // if the domain does not match expected domain drop request if domain ~= external_domain then txn:set_var("txn.status_code", "444") txn:done() return end local incoming_ip = resolve_dns(subdomain .. "." .. external_domain) local expected_ip = resolve_dns(external_domain_expected) // verify subdomain dns entry of incoming request matches external expected ip. if external_ip == internal_ip then local new_host = subdomain .. "." .. internal_domain txn.sf:change_req_hdr("Host", new_host) txn:set_var("txn.target_host", new_host) txn:set_var("txn.target_port", "80") txn:set_var("txn.proxy_protocol", true) else txn:set_var("txn.status_code", "444") txn:done() end end -- Register the request handling function to be called on the http-request stage core.register_action("handle_request", {"http-req"}, handle_request) 

I am willing to bet (and I never bet) that if there were a single common denominator that leads to a caretaker’s overall sense of burnout, it would be poor sleep. We don’t sleep well in many ways, but I want to address two biggies.
Poor Sleep Hygiene [^\1])](app://obsidian.md/index.html#fn-1-918560c8e41eb09e) [^\2])](app://obsidian.md/index.html#fn-2-918560c8e41eb09e) is an odd term that has little to nothing to do with cleanliness (or Godliness, for that matter). It is a set of actions that sets the environment and mood of your bedtime routine up for nothing other than sleep. Reserve the bed for only two activities: sleep and sex. You can learn about the latter on another site. Turning off your phone before you crawl into bed is a major part of this routine. If you have a TV in your room, turn that off before getting into bed too. It’s not just the frenetic activity on electronic visual devices. It’s the blue light emitted from them that messes with your sleep hormones. So, turn off your phone, TV, and whatever other media you might have before turning off the lights. Next, turn off the lights before getting into bed.
Another common sleep problem is Sleep Apnea. That’s not the same as snoring. However, a person with sleep apnea certainly snores; a snorer does not necessarily have sleep apnea. Sleep apnea is when your jaw and tongue slip back so that it cuts off the airway. You stop breathing. Age, weight, fitness, and about thirty-trillion other factors can contribute to sleep apnea. The most common treatment is a C-PAP machine. It forces air so the sleeper cannot get blocked as easily. I had to break down and get a sleep test late last year. Sure enough, my sleep interruptions were severe enough to warrant a C-PAP.
I hate the damn thing! I really, truly do. However, begrudgingly, I admit I have considerably more energy and am awake the entire day now. In contrast, for as long as I can remember, I needed at least an hour-long nap in the early afternoon, or I could not make it through the early evening. I suppose I will come to accept my life with a C-PAP as the decades pass. Still, for now, I will continue using it every night and devote much energy to bitching about it every day at around 1:00 p.m.

1. This has to be one of the stupidest psychiatric terms in the medical lexicon. Largely because it has nothing to do with being clean.
2. A good runner-up–perfect onomatopoeia–but a little too base for medical terminology is “Dumping Syndrome.” It is a GI term, and it means what it says. The opposite of dumping syndrome is “gastroparesis,” which, of course, sounds very sciency, as in no one knows what the hell it could possibly mean. (Okay, it’s Greek for partial paralysis of the gut.)

For context I had made a post on another sub with my situation which I have pasted here. If you wanna skip the story go ahead but it adds a lot of context:
My girlfriend of 6 years broke up with me out of the blue and had sex some random stranger not even two weeks after and now seems like she wants to get back together. I'm confused.
Me and my girlfriend have had a wonderful 6 year relationship. We communicated well, we both had great senses of humor, did almost everything together and had very good intimacy and romance. It was a very healthy relationship. Of course like all relationships there were some issues I was not perfect and neither was she but overall I would say it was a very healthy relationship with a very rare fight.
I apologize for giving so much context but I truly loved her with every fiber of my being and I still do. I have cried and cried and cried. My emotional state has been a wreck and the only thing that held me together was my family and I thank god for them. They were all just as shocked as I was when I broke the news that she broke up with me.
About 6 months ago I noticed some changes in my girlfriends behavior. She seemed to be emotionally unstable. During this 6 months I knew something was wrong and would ask maybe once a week what was going on with her. She would cry and tell me she's just been so stressed with school, her part time corporate job and her upcoming graduation from college. I am 1 year ahead of her so I completely understood where she was coming from or so I thought. I would give her advice tell her how I dealt with it and that it does get easier. It's a large transition and to not put so many high expectations on yourself and would hug her and tell her she would be more than fine. She has had past emotional turbulances over big life events and so did not expect it to last but of course still kept up with her making sure she was good. Even talked to my parents about it.
Then about 3 months before the breakup she would just start randomly crying in bed. Seemed like she wouldn't even look at me, never said “I love you” before leaving and whenever I had a family event she would abstain. Work for her was super stressful and school and combined with her already bad emotional state I figured she just needed some time for her and I was totally okay with that. What I did not appreciate was her not telling me she loved me anymore even if it had just been for a little. It made me feel weird. I told her that she was going through a lot and it was okay to need a little space or sometimes just be a little depressed but not telling me she loved me was hurting me. She agreed and apologized to me. At this time we were also looking for an apartment to move in together and had just got a nice little place. I was incredibly excited and so was she at first and then she just seemed to drop it altogether I had put the 1k security deposit down as she did not have the money but would have a full time job right after college and just told her to pay me half her first paycheck.
I think we can all see where this is going except I felt blindsided. About a month and a half ago she gets home from school and it looked like she had been crying. She said she wanted to break up but wasn't totally sure. I was shocked I asked her if everything was okay what the heck happened and she didn't really say much just that she needed time to think. I agreed. It was a Thursday. She said she was gonna take a whole week to think about it. Well it wasn't a week. That Sunday she gave me her decision in person.
She told me that she did not feel loved by me anymore. That the same spark we had at the beginning of our relationship was gone. I did not plan enough cute dates and things to do and she felt neglected. I didn't even fight anything she said I just listened in a state of shock. She said she also needed to find herself and that she was “young.” she also took a jab at my current job and made it seem like I was wasting my life away. It was my first full time job out of college and I haven't even been here a full year. I had zero plans to stay longer than two years. I begged her to not end the relationship. I asked if there WAS ANYTHING we could do. She said no I cried and held her and she just blankly stared crying too. I helped moved all her stuff out.
This is where I think I made a major mistake as she was leaving I asked her if she was COMPLETELY sure of her decision. She admitted she was unsure still. I explained that maybe we should give it a month. And if she wanted to talk in a month we could under the condition she was still faithful otherwise I would move on completely. I felt this was fair. I still love her very much and seeing her leave completely out of my life would break me.
We said goodbye and she left. I blocked her on everything. I had to otherwise I would texted her, called her and overall been more of wreck. The only thing I did not block her on was her email address as she said she was going to pay for the security deposit and in case she left anything she missed at my place.
I was good with it. Slowly moving with life still heartbroken and in shambles but moving on step at a time. Then out of nowhere about a week and a half after the break up i receive an email saying that she made a mistake and was a bad person and she missed me dearly. I admit I emailed back but then I received another email before I could finish saying to “disregard” what she said. I was mad as all hell and sent back an email telling her to stop fucking with my emotions and to not talk to me until the end of the month in person like we planned. She never responded.
The end of the month comes around. I unblocked her number and texted her to get my answer about talking in person and perhaps getting back together as previously planned. I was expecting a no and had already come to terms with it but she had texted back that she still wanted to talk in person. We had more conversations through text and it was going well. She seemed like she missed talking to me and admitted that she did not appreciate me enough and now saw that I did love her just in my own way.
I thanked her for what she said and also explained that I could have been better in some areas too. It was going great and we talked again like we used to for about 2 days. We were gonna pick a date to talk and she wanted it to be a little later since her finals were finishing up. I agreed but I asked the question that was eating me.
Did she see anyone else?
She admitted to me she did a random man at a bar. They had sex. (for context she was my first and I hers) and it broke me. It fucking broke my ego. It broke my mental state all over again. She apologized profusely and said it was an awful experience and she felt used and disgusted by her actions and that she couldn't even hold off for one month to give me fair closure. I came home from work that day and went into a rage. A rage I have never experienced. I destroyed memories. Crying like a kid who experienced their first broke bone. I couldn't believe it. Not even two weeks after our relationship she fucked somebody else and couldn't even hold out 1 month. It shattered my image of her. I felt Petty for caring so much but loyalty is important to me. Always has been and she knew that.
But she said she also wants to make this work and still talk in person. I agreed to the in person meeting as I have questions now. But I don't know to do. My rage passed and now I am just confused. I talked to my dad about it and he said I need to move on she showed her true colors. But at the same time I feel petty and like I could see past this if she really did regret it. I'm torn on what to do. I want to move on with my life and leave it at that. But I also still love her deeply. I'm broken mostly at the end of the day. I don't know what to do.
Anyways now that the story is over aka my life I think she cheated and if she didn’t cheat she was emotionally cheating. Personally I find the whole “random guy at a bar” story to be completely asinine and downright insane. Even if this is somehow actually true there’s a pretty good chance it isn’t and considering she’s already broken up with me and I have no intentions of getting back together I could care less if she actually tells me. But all the signs are there. I believe my GF broke up with me after some guy started giving her attention and may have been emotionally cheating on me and finally did the deed after we broke up (not even 2 weeks after mind you she had sex with this guy.) I pushed the day to talk in person back a bit more as I felt I was mentally wasn’t ready and I am not flaking out this time. Any suggestions on what to ask or say to get it out of her and get the truth?

This is a long story and if you do read through it and can offer advice it would be greatly appreciated.
I can't find too much if anything similar to my experience. I'm wondering if anyone heard about this and any advice?
About 6 months ago I got a call on my phone from RBC on the call display. It was spoofed but I didn't know it. The person on the phone asked me if I used my debit card to purchase an iphone in Ontario. I said no, and he said it's not a problem these things happen all the time, they will cancel the purchase and send me a new card.
This is not too out of the ordinary for me as I had my credit card have unauthorized purchases several times in the past. The weird thing was this time it was a debit card.
Then he said he can not ask my debit card number but a recording will follow and I should key in my debit card number. This was my major mistake. I know never to give a credit card number, PIN or password but for some reason I never thought of my debit card number to be a major issue. Like what if I lost it?
Anyway after I did that he came back and I asked him to mail the new one to my bank. He said no he would mail it to my home and told me my very old address. I told him no, it's unacceptable mail it to my bank branch like always. He then hung up on me. I didn't give any other info.
Minutes later I got an email from RBC saying my password has been changed! Then another saying my email has been changed. I quickly tried to login and couldn't so I called RBC Security.
As I was talking my email inbox got 1000's of email newsletter sign up confirmations per hour. About 12 000 in total by the next morning. It's a business email so it ruined everything and I couldn't find legit emails but that's besides the point.
The goal of doing that is because it was their hopes I would not see the emails from RBC.....but lucky they came first. it's called a Spam Bomb.
RBC Security said they would help me change my password back and I was able to reset it. Only minutes later while still on the phone....I had logged out and then tried to log back in....And he said this is strange. he put me on hold. He said there was someone on another call with the call centre claiming to be me and getting the password changed! He somehow was passing all the authentication and fooling the agent into changing the password.
So he put a block on the account meaning nobody can call in. Not even me. No passwords or access codes, nothing. The only way I could deal with RBC is going into the branch.
No money went missing. I guess I caught it just in time. Nothing was changed in my accounts. But I still cancelled all my credit cards and got new ones. And I got new account numbers for my bank accounts.
As I had to do this at the branch it took several visits and anytime I needed to ask a question Id have to go in person. I changed my phone number and even to do this in the back end systems beyond online banking I had to make an appointment. Fun fact RBC has to wait on hold forever also, no special access lines.
After changing my accounts I changed my phone number because they kept calling back. Changing your phone number nowadays is a major undertaking as I have 100's of websites many with 2 factor auth that I had to change. I also changed all my passwords unique without any matching.
After all this....I travelled to Japan. In fact I travel 6 months of the year to many countries. I decided to log into my online banking using a VPN. Big mistake. The system thought I was fraud and it locked me out. And I can't call! Luckily I have an account manager who knows me well and we could verify that way but most people don't have this.
Another time my debit cards weren't working anywhere in The Philippines and I couldn't call in. It was Christmas and my account manager wasn't available for 4 days. I had no cash. What a disaster.
So when I got home....I had to take this call block off. It's just not working. It had already been 2.5 months and my computer was factory reset, I purchased a new phone. I had really done everything I could.
I travelled to several countries and no problems, everything is working normal and perfect.
I take security very seriously to the point of paranoia. And I also know all the scams. I don't get fooled easily and used to have a hobby to mess with the scammers heads. But even this I don't do anymore because they probably put me on some sort of list or something.
Since then Ive been very private.
Then yesterday....I get an email saying my email has been changed. Lucky no spam bomb. I tried to log into RBC and it didn't say wrong password, it said account it locked.
I called RBC Security and they said I need to go into the branch with ID and they wouldn't talk to me.
I did so. They said someone called in and passed the verification. And convinced RBC to reset my password for them. This is infuriating because there are notes saying that I am a victim of account take over and to proceed with caution.
Again no money is missing but I need to change all my accounts and cards again. And I'm leaving to Africa in a few weeks.
I now have that call block on the system and can't release it otherwise the scammers will just call back and convince RBC to change my password again. What can I do about this?
I had the idea to change my debit card number. They will change the account numbers and credit card numbers but not the debit card number. Changing this number I think will solve all my problems. But no matter how far I escalated this. They won't do it. Not a chance. To me it seems the most logical way to start fresh as they are using that info to the agent.
So I opened a new account with another bank. I'll use this as a travel account and fund it with what I need. But with RBC I have many investment accounts, business accounts, several high end credit cards. You name it. And TD banks credit card for travel doesn't seem to match the power of RBC Avion which I accumulate tons of points with my business. Which is why I can travel so much! So in other words it's not easy to switch.
But anyway Does anyone know how they are passing the authentication so easy? Nobody knows my 3 secret phrases. Not even my wife. RBC usually have voice authentication, I guess that failed. Or they recorded me?
And also the hacker originally repeated my old address but I never gave a new one. When I do call RBC they usually ask my address and things about my account that I am likely only to know. It's so strange.
How can I get out of this mess?
Does anyone have any success having their physical debit card number changed? Any other advice?
I feel one day if this keeps happening I could be out money.
Would I be protected and refunded?
While I admit I did get fooled into giving my debit card number it wasn't my pin or password and they were the ones who tricked RBC over and over. And Ive taken all reasonable preacuations to secure my account since then.
However having this severely restricted account where I can't call in and since I travel 6 months per year as you can imagine I can't do this long term.
if you read this far thanks so much for reading, Any advice is appreciated!

In my apartment the bathroom exhaust fan and the dryer vent all merge together before going outside. 2 Bathroom Exhaust fans both merge into the dryer vent before running outside.
I know this isn't up to code... but how big of a deal is it? It's an electric dryer for what it's worth - but does this mean that the dryer lint is getting pushed into my inside air?

This made me feel hindered with my relationship with God, but I kept faith in my belief that God was the only one who could relieve me of the situation I was in and I didn't seek outside help from the illuminati or others.
I denied all new information given. I prevented them from talking until they forced me to allow them. I blocked my thoughts and thinking until they forced themselves into talking again after 6 months of blocking them talking. I refused to talk to them until they forced me to talk. I gave up fighting them on that because it felt like my best option and I still do it.
When I saw the Mr. Beast video, I noticed there was a hole in my logic I never noticed or picked up on. This logic made me realize that God taught me a lot about BEING and Jesus is more about MORALITY.
In morality, you rely on the other person, GOD. But since I was focused on BEING, I thought about what I was taught about God 'being me, and began to believe that I needed to have faith in my actions being correct no matter what I do, and not take the faith/morality way, but the faith/being way.
Then I started talking to people and moving. Plus I figured out the "entities" whole game plan and realized they are handicapped and limited in what they do and talk about. Outside of this limitation, I don't know their agenda or their true thoughts.
Early this year, I started looking at attachments. And realized everything is an attachment including thoughts and emotions. We are attached to even going home every night when we could go literally anywhere. We get tired and go home, but we could sleep in the grass or anywhere. I planned to go to some random city and just be homeless just because. Just to explore no attachments, but only for a few weeks because I had obligations. It didn't have anything to do with faith/morality.
But I was trying things at my previous residence and they would block me because they already had an extreme feeling of boredom in place if I didn't play video games or be on my phone (which I did a lot of in order to stop them from talking or teaching). So I wasn't able to explore no attachments because I could just be. No matter how much I waited, the feeling didn't subside.
It was excruciating boredom that was artificially put in place. I couldn't truly be in the moment with this boredom. And I have always been content just sitting somewhere not doing anything. This was different for me. Even before the beginning, I could let go of whatever I was doing and meditate for an hour or so and be fine. That was impossible so I let it go a bit and explored it when I could. Then I forgot about it.
I'm not going to do it now because I am busy. When I'm not busy I will explore no attachments. Maybe I will just a bit though. A bit.

“THE EARTH - A LIVING CREATURE!”
Joseph Burkes MD
I was a contact team coordinator for the CE-5 Initiative in Los Angeles from 1992 to 1998. “She is alive. She is awake and She loves us.” is the message that I received during of a kind of channeling experience that I had back in 1994 at Carlsbad Caverns New Mexico. It was an occurrence that Linda Irwin of the Unseen World radio show called a "contact download.”

I was meditating 600 feet underground. It just an hour before closing time. I sat alone in a small amphitheater cut into the rock face. With no expectations of results, I decided to reach out with my mind and try to contact with what I imagine is Earth Mother. She is called Gaia by many.

Soon two beings appeared in my mind's eye. Dressed in the garb of medieval pilgrims, I was informed that I could not interface with her directly, but through them a link could be established.

What followed was an "awake dream" that was so poignant because it combined striking visual imagery in full color with emotion and thought. The message that I “received” was as follows:
The Earth is like a beautiful woman, alive and awake and conscious of her reproductive power. Her love for all of her children, plants, animals, including us is profound. But humankind is now experienced by her as if we were a kind of pest. The rivers and oceans, her life’s blood, the mountains her skin and the forests her fur, are infested with a blight called man.

So, a cleansing has been called for and this brings her sadness. Brief images of devastation flashed through my mind during the download. Like a forest animal that rubs against a tree or dives into a lake to cleanse her fur, I saw earthquakes smashing cities, and walls of water, tsunamis, hitting the coasts.

But like a mother preparing to give birth, volcanic islands rose from the ocean floor to make new land, new homes for more of her beloved creatures.

I appreciate the work of those who created this brief YouTube video that still gives me pause to remember a strange bittersweet experience from three decades ago.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlqjz9OEhk0

Additional Remarks:
Back in the 1980s I was part of a movement of scientists and physicians that studied the possible effects of an all-out-nuclear war in which thousands of megatons of TNT equivalent explosives might be detonated over our cities.

Hundreds of millions would be killed immediately and billions more from what is called "Nuclear Winter." That dreaded event would result as the ashes of burned cities blocked out the sun. Our calculations, however, indicated that in the southern hemisphere there would be many survivors. Civilization as we know it would end, but human life most certainly would go on.

We cannot destroy the Earth. Perhaps it is an expression of our limitless pride that makes us think that we can. As suggested by my "contact download" her capacity to generate new life is boundless.

Many contact experiencers, while in communication with what we imagine are extraterrestrials, describe being shown images of terrible environmental destruction. This type of encounter conveys the impression that the "aliens" (my wife Yael calls them "the whatevers" as she is not very interested in these matters) really do care about the fate of our planet.

I suggest that we are getting important wake up calls about the need to become better stewards of this jewel of a planet. Sometimes the message comes from medical doctors like my colleagues in The Nobel Peace Prize winning organization International Physicians for the Prevention of Nuclear War. Sometimes the warnings come from those "little grey guys with wrap around eyes" that enter our minds with what have been called inconvenient truths.


Comments:
Name deleted: I had a similar contact experience. On 12/12/12, I lay down to meditate, which I always do, before sleep. On this particular night, which was associated with the end of the Mayan Calendar, I immediately began to get a "download" of images. It was as if there was a slide show going on in my mind's eye. Image after image of nuclear holocaust, natural disasters, death and destruction. These images were interspersed with images of mathematical formulas...none of which I recognized consciously. Pages and pages of mathematical formulas. This went on all night long and I didn't get a wink of sleep. The following night, the same went on as soon as I closed my eyes to meditate. This time I began to telepath questions to whomever or whatever was sending me the downloaded images. The answers I got were: 1. That I was being shown images of past and possible futures, 2. That our earth and our species is in peril if we continue on this path of self-destruction, and 3. I asked about the math and was told..."Don't worry. You now have it and will understand it when you need it." This experience was a profound and "otherworldly" awakening for me, one that led me to begin exploring my relationship both with the earth on a deeper level, and also my connections with the RAHMA mission.

Joseph Burkes Thank you for sharing your personal contact experiences. I too had a download that involved mathematical equations that I couldn't understand other than they had to do with determinants of the contact drama and interactions between human action and a masterplan to open up our planet to peaceful contact with UFO intelligence.

“THE EARTH - A LIVING CREATURE!”
This is the message of a brief video created from NASA satellite imagery.
Joseph Burkes MD
I was a contact team coordinator for the CE-5 Initiative in Los Angeles from 1992 to 1998. “She is alive. She is awake and She loves us.” is the message that I received during of a kind of channeling experience that I had back in 1994 at Carlsbad Caverns New Mexico. It was an occurrence that Linda Irwin of the Unseen World radio show called a "contact download.”

I was meditating 600 feet underground. It just an hour before closing time. I sat alone in a small amphitheater cut into the rock face. With no expectations of results, I decided to reach out with my mind and try to contact with what I imagine is Earth Mother. She is called Gaia by many.

Soon two beings appeared in my mind's eye. Dressed in the garb of medieval pilgrims, I was informed that I could not interface with her directly, but through them a link could be established.

What followed was an "awake dream" that was so poignant because it combined striking visual imagery in full color with emotion and thought. The message that I “received” was as follows:
The Earth is like a beautiful woman, alive and awake and conscious of her reproductive power. Her love for all of her children, plants, animals, including us is profound. But humankind is now experienced by her as if we were a kind of pest. The rivers and oceans, her life’s blood, the mountains her skin and the forests her fur, are infested with a blight called man.

So, a cleansing has been called for and this brings her sadness. Brief images of devastation flashed through my mind during the download. Like a forest animal that rubs against a tree or dives into a lake to cleanse her fur, I saw earthquakes smashing cities, and walls of water, tsunamis, hitting the coasts.

But like a mother preparing to give birth, volcanic islands rose from the ocean floor to make new land, new homes for more of her beloved creatures.

I appreciate the work of those who created this brief YouTube video that still gives me pause to remember a strange bittersweet experience from three decades ago.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlqjz9OEhk0

Additional Remarks:
Back in the 1980s I was part of a movement of scientists and physicians that studied the possible effects of an all-out-nuclear war in which thousands of megatons of TNT equivalent explosives might be detonated over our cities.

Hundreds of millions would be killed immediately and billions more from what is called "Nuclear Winter." That dreaded event would result as the ashes of burned cities blocked out the sun. Our calculations, however, indicated that in the southern hemisphere there would be many survivors. Civilization as we know it would end, but human life most certainly would go on.

We cannot destroy the Earth. Perhaps it is an expression of our limitless pride that makes us think that we can. As suggested by my "contact download" her capacity to generate new life is boundless.

Many contact experiencers, while in communication with what we imagine are extraterrestrials, describe being shown images of terrible environmental destruction. This type of encounter conveys the impression that the "aliens" (my wife Yael calls them "the whatevers" as she is not very interested in these matters) really do care about the fate of our planet.

I suggest that we are getting important wake up calls about the need to become better stewards of this jewel of a planet. Sometimes the message comes from medical doctors like my colleagues in The Nobel Peace Prize winning organization International Physicians for the Prevention of Nuclear War. Sometimes the warnings come from those "little grey guys with wrap around eyes" that enter our minds with what have been called inconvenient truths.


Comments:
Name deleted: I had a similar contact experience. On 12/12/12, I lay down to meditate, which I always do, before sleep. On this particular night, which was associated with the end of the Mayan Calendar, I immediately began to get a "download" of images. It was as if there was a slide show going on in my mind's eye. Image after image of nuclear holocaust, natural disasters, death and destruction. These images were interspersed with images of mathematical formulas...none of which I recognized consciously. Pages and pages of mathematical formulas. This went on all night long and I didn't get a wink of sleep. The following night, the same went on as soon as I closed my eyes to meditate. This time I began to telepath questions to whomever or whatever was sending me the downloaded images. The answers I got were: 1. That I was being shown images of past and possible futures, 2. That our earth and our species is in peril if we continue on this path of self-destruction, and 3. I asked about the math and was told..."Don't worry. You now have it and will understand it when you need it." This experience was a profound and "otherworldly" awakening for me, one that led me to begin exploring my relationship both with the earth on a deeper level, and also my connections with the RAHMA mission.

Joseph Burkes Thank you for sharing your personal contact experiences. I too had a download that involved mathematical equations that I couldn't understand other than they had to do with determinants of the contact drama and interactions between human action and a masterplan to open up our planet to peaceful contact with UFO intelligence.

HELP! I didn’t rest enough I guess and missed some important scene with astarion or maybe didn’t finish something in moonrise towers? Because I get to act three and he’s suddenly breaking up with me and I don’t know what I did 😫 what point should I go back to to fix it?
Thankfully I did the moonrise towers stuff last so I think I can just go back to like… after I did the gauntlet of shar maybe? Does it have to be before killing Rafael and Baltazar? HELP
I actually don’t think I ever talked to Rafael about his scars I can’t quite remember. I didn’t have a lot of time on my hands and was just trying to power through act 2. No wonder it was so boring I missed some important shit.
Someone pls give me a clear series of events without spoiling exactly what the romance scene is so I can know where to go back to without replaying as much.