Deceased father's birthday

Invincible and the Invincible Universe

2011.08.19 20:26 Allakhellboy Invincible and the Invincible Universe

Invincible is an Image Comics and Amazon TV series named for its superhero, "Invincible" ("Mark Grayson"). Created by writer Robert Kirkman with artists Cory Walker & Ryan Ottley. S1 & S2 are out now and S3 is on the way! Mark Grayson is a normal teenager, except for the fact that his father Nolan is the most powerful superhero on the planet. Shortly after his seventeenth birthday, Mark begins to develop powers of his own and enters into his father's tutelage.
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2014.07.05 04:31 herpmanderpstein share your weird dreams with us

Had a weird dream last night? tell us all about it, and we will do our best to infer as what it symbolizes in your life. Anything from your deceased father talking to you, to Dennis Rodman bringing a cotton candy machine to your Bar Mitzvah.
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2024.05.16 06:39 fluffypenguinfeet Am I wrong for asking my friends to remove eachother? (Edited repost)

Am I wrong for asking my friends to remove eachother? TW: mention of miscarriage and abortion
I (18F) met a guy (20/21M) on tinder and got really close but for weird reasons didn’t work out. He thought I was using him for sex because he thought I only started to like him back after the first time we hooked up which wasn’t true I just told him I needed to make sure I was definitely ready first and needed to meet him properly first (he spent everyday for a couple weeks almost begging to meet me) but the first time we met we hooked up we didn’t use the Condom as we were both clean and I had an IUD. A couple other times we hooked up he did put on a Condom but kept taking it off. Anywyas he came up with many reason why he randomly out of nowhere “lost feelings” even tho we hooked up a couple times after that (we are no longer hooking up or anything like that). The reasons were weird. Anywyas we had also found out I was pregnant which was rocky because we kept arguing about what we should do I even had to tell his family. He hated the idea of me aborting and said I was definitely not to do adoption. He also kept on mentioning taking it back to his country as he’s not from here he’s just living here for a bit. Kept on making everything about him and the kid but I felt he didn’t care how I felt during it all. During my pregnancy I won’t lie I was a total bi*ch to him I kept on telling him he wouldn’t be a good father and just really rude to him I think it was because I was so upset and also hormonal but now I totally regret saying all those mean things. Then out of nowhere he was adding my friends on Snapchat and on Fortnite (video game) which I found weird. About a week after that I had unfortunately miscarried at 13 weeks which was hard on me emotionally and physically he said he was sad and distraught as well. He also said something he would’ve named the kid and I asked if he still wanted to name it because I wanted to but he didn’t like that thought. He also mentioned how I could still come up and see him and drink for my birthday with him (which now he doesn’t want to do anymore at all?) because the day after my miscarriage I was meant to go see him and stay at his for a bit and maybe talk things out and maybe early birthday celebration. Anyways couple days later he’s half ignoring me so I ask him what’s going on and he said he wasn’t which he kinda was. He told me to move on from the situation we had just been through and also apparently deleted the ultrasound photo. After that convo I found out he was still talking to all my friends whilst ignoring me (all girls). I think he may also possibly be attracted to one of them. I was furious as I was/am going through all this alone he even told me he couldn’t be there for me even tho originally he said he would be there for me no matter what even tho he lived 4 hrs away. Everything is and was a mess. He acted like he cared for me before and during the pregnancy being nice offering me things and even just talking to me but after losing my baby he’s been ignoring me and almost like he hates me and not supporting me at all. Talking to my friends who also somewhat knew what is going on also hurt me. I asked them to remove him at least while we get through what we needed to get through and they refused and so did he. I felt bad but angry at the same time. Our friendship was always weird we were close for a very long while even when he said he didn’t like me anymore he also kept changing his mind on that back then too. So am I an asshole for asking them to remove eachother? They’ve never even met him don’t even know him and have never spoken him till now. He’s not even supporting me but instead talking to my friends and ignoring me. I will sit there obviously upset them knowing that while totally ignoring me to play a game online together. At one point I ended up blocking him during a breakdown but then we sort of talked it out and were joking and laughing again until the next day he was pretty blunt but now again he’s barely talking to me but my friends instead.
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2024.05.16 06:38 fluffypenguinfeet AITJ for asking my friends to remove eachother? (Edited repost)

Am I wrong for asking my friends to remove eachother? TW: mention of miscarriage and abortion
I (18F) met a guy (20/21M) on tinder and got really close but for weird reasons didn’t work out. He thought I was using him for sex because he thought I only started to like him back after the first time we hooked up which wasn’t true I just told him I needed to make sure I was definitely ready first and needed to meet him properly first (he spent everyday for a couple weeks almost begging to meet me) but the first time we met we hooked up we didn’t use the Condom as we were both clean and I had an IUD. A couple other times we hooked up he did put on a Condom but kept taking it off. Anywyas he came up with many reason why he randomly out of nowhere “lost feelings” even tho we hooked up a couple times after that (we are no longer hooking up or anything like that). The reasons were weird. Anywyas we had also found out I was pregnant which was rocky because we kept arguing about what we should do I even had to tell his family. He hated the idea of me aborting and said I was definitely not to do adoption. He also kept on mentioning taking it back to his country as he’s not from here he’s just living here for a bit. Kept on making everything about him and the kid but I felt he didn’t care how I felt during it all. During my pregnancy I won’t lie I was a total bi*ch to him I kept on telling him he wouldn’t be a good father and just really rude to him I think it was because I was so upset and also hormonal but now I totally regret saying all those mean things. Then out of nowhere he was adding my friends on Snapchat and on Fortnite (video game) which I found weird. About a week after that I had unfortunately miscarried at 13 weeks which was hard on me emotionally and physically he said he was sad and distraught as well. He also said something he would’ve named the kid and I asked if he still wanted to name it because I wanted to but he didn’t like that thought. He also mentioned how I could still come up and see him and drink for my birthday with him (which now he doesn’t want to do anymore at all?) because the day after my miscarriage I was meant to go see him and stay at his for a bit and maybe talk things out and maybe early birthday celebration. Anyways couple days later he’s half ignoring me so I ask him what’s going on and he said he wasn’t which he kinda was. He told me to move on from the situation we had just been through and also apparently deleted the ultrasound photo. After that convo I found out he was still talking to all my friends whilst ignoring me (all girls). I think he may also possibly be attracted to one of them. I was furious as I was/am going through all this alone he even told me he couldn’t be there for me even tho originally he said he would be there for me no matter what even tho he lived 4 hrs away. Everything is and was a mess. He acted like he cared for me before and during the pregnancy being nice offering me things and even just talking to me but after losing my baby he’s been ignoring me and almost like he hates me and not supporting me at all. Talking to my friends who also somewhat knew what is going on also hurt me. I asked them to remove him at least while we get through what we needed to get through and they refused and so did he. I felt bad but angry at the same time. Our friendship was always weird we were close for a very long while even when he said he didn’t like me anymore he also kept changing his mind on that back then too. So am I an asshole for asking them to remove eachother? They’ve never even met him don’t even know him and have never spoken him till now. He’s not even supporting me but instead talking to my friends and ignoring me. I will sit there obviously upset them knowing that while totally ignoring me to play a game online together. At one point I ended up blocking him during a breakdown but then we sort of talked it out and were joking and laughing again until the next day he was pretty blunt but now again he’s barely talking to me but my friends instead.
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2024.05.16 06:33 Competitive_Ad_2648 Characters now scales how evil they are. How much would be powerful this character? (Things he did is in post)

Characters now scales how evil they are. How much would be powerful this character? (Things he did is in post)
He's fictional version of Sheitan from Turkish TV Series called "Şeytan" (Sheitan in Turkish).
Sheitan is basically Satan of my religion (Islam).
Here's list:
BEFORE THE SERIES AND OVERALL OF THE SERIES
⦁ By not prostrating to Prophet Adam (a.s.) and Prophet Eve (a.s.), he arrogantly declared that he was superior to them and all humanity.
⦁ He constantly says that he's a test for humanity. But do not think that it was created that way. He wanted to be like that.
⦁ Although he knows that he will go to Hell, due to his arrogance and to show Allah (swt) that he can bind people to himself and lead them to evil paths, he leads people astray, leads them to evil and irreligion, tries to be the owner of people and drags them to Hell, the place of eternal pain.
⦁ Throughout the series, children and adults, usually children, catch a whiff of it. This scent is implied to be a physical manifestation of his sins.
⦁ He takes great pleasure in dragging people into evil and Hell.
⦁ He suffers when he hears the name of Allah (swt) mentioned and sees goodness. In short, the guy can't stand these two things.
⦁ He usually calls people Adam or Eve, showing that he sees them all the same.
⦁ He makes fun of humanity.
⦁ He constantly stalks the main characters.
⦁ He trespasses too many places.
⦁ At the end of the episodes, he usually addresses the main characters and says, "I am your test. I will come again." He clearly states that he will not leave them.
⦁ The sections below are just a sampling of what they do.
⦁ Sometimes people's hands burn while holding them.
⦁ He gets very angry when he doesn't get what he wants.
⦁ He hates love.
⦁ He makes evil laugh.
⦁ He enjoyed everything he caused.
EPISODE 1
⦁ After giving money to Oktay with the agreement, the TV in the background tells the story of the loss of the money donated for children, which was the same amount as the money given with the agreement. This implies that Sheitan stole the donation and gave it to Oktay.
⦁ He sends another businessman, with whom he made a deal, to give evil advices to Oktay. This succeeds and Oktay begins to commit corruption.
⦁ He indirectly caused Oktay to oppress the weak, bribe and send death threats. And he enjoys it very much.
⦁ He asks Oktay to take his younger son Egemen as per the agreement.
⦁ He enters Oktay's dreams and tortures him psychologically by showing him terrible things.
⦁ To get Egemen, he threatens to bankrupt Oktay's company by tampering with his bank transactions.
⦁ While he was on the road, he came across a child crying because he was hungry. He tries to deceive him with food to become his owner, but fails.
⦁ While talking to Oktay in a cafe, he psychologically abuses him by showing him a child being shot to death in his dream.
⦁ He scares a nanny into kidnapping Egemen.
⦁ After training Egemen for 15 years to be what he wants, he sends him to kill his father, Oktay. But this fails when Oktay makes Egemen recite the basmala.
EPISODE 2
⦁ While Ece was driving with her newlywed husband, the car broke down. Later, while they're hanging out outside, a truck pulls up. Her husband narrowly saves Ece, but he falls into a coma. Sheitan's attitude at that moment implies, at least for me, that he ruined the car to cause the accident to happen.
⦁ He enters the husband's dreams and tells him that he will wake him up from his coma in exchange for him giving up his "heart" (which probably means giving up being a good person and becoming a bad person). This won't happen because Ece always comes.
⦁ Therefore, in order to deter Ece, he first comes to Ece as an old man and tries to dissuade Ece from coming to her husband, but it does not work.
⦁ He then makes a deal with another man. According to the agreement, he will teach the man how to have relationships with women, and the man will direct Ece to cheat on her husband with him, thus enabling her to move away from her husband.
⦁ He constantly verbally harasses Ece's husband until the night he manipulates him into cheating on her.
⦁ Once, he even tries to deceive husband by showing him something unreal, a scene in which Ece is having fun with the man she made a deal with, and Ece has not yet established a full relationship with that man. But Allah (swt) solves the situation at that moment by sending Ece's voice to the husband.
⦁ Finally, when Ece cheats on her husband, he reveals it to husband, bringing him to a psychological breaking point. He then encouraged violence against the woman by saying things to her such as "Say yes, give your heart and teach that woman a lesson.". When the Quran is read at that moment, things go wrong. Finally Sheitan kills the man. Allah (swt) resurrects the man, but this does not alleviate what Sheitan has done.
⦁ Finally, he encourages Ece, who was preparing to commit suicide, even more, but this does not work either when Ece's husband arrives.
EPISODE 3
⦁ He decided to disperse a family because they teach their children about Surah Nas and Islam.
⦁ He allies with mother Amine's friend Afet. Afet constantly tells Amine that her husband may be cheating on her, sowing the seed of doubt in Amine.
⦁ While Amine and her children were at the dinner table, she appeared to the little boy on the balcony and made him cry out of fear. This cry becomes the breaking point for Amine, whose psychology deteriorates because the seeds of doubt are planted in her, and she hits the little boy. As a result, Sheitan indirectly causes child abuse.
⦁ As a detective, he secretly follows Amine's husband and takes a photo of him holding a woman as she falls, and then gives it to Amine. Amine, whose perception is already distorted due to the doubt inside her, sees this as proof that her husband is cheating on her and takes the children and leaves her husband. While leaving her husband, she insults him and he slaps her. In other words, Afet and Sheitanboth separated husband and wife and indirectly caused violence against women.
⦁ Afet comes to Amine's husband and tells him to cheat on her in exchange for Amine's abandonment. This is probably the work of Sheitan.
⦁ He and Afet almost caused the family to break up.
⦁ He said he loved Afet. But that was probably because she was so bad like him.
⦁ When things start to turn out the opposite of what he wants, he threatens Afet to fix the situation. This situation causes Afet to die in a car accident.
EPISODE 4
⦁ After luring Emin with money when he was a child, he scared Emin by showing him himself, giving him a trauma that would cause him to have nightmares until adulthood. He probably did it for pleasure.
⦁ Just to encourage Emin to steal money, he got into the same job as Emin and encouraged him to steal money. Like, in most of the episode. And he succeeds in this.
⦁ Emin's wife says that when she saw him, she felt as if she had seen him before. Considering the wife's fondness for illicit money, this may imply that Sheitan is the reason for her becoming this way.
⦁ He referred to the donation of food used for orphans as "using the mind".
⦁ While Emin was psychologically at the bottom, he took advantage of his situation and tried to make him see himself as his master. And also because he makes corrupt people call him master, he makes them live in luxury and makes sure no one calls them thieves.
EPISODE 5
⦁ He scared the girl and caused the Zeynep to have an asthma attack.
⦁ To provoke the mother-in-law of Zeynep, he disguised himself as a old lady neighbor and told her fake stories, such as her being thrown out of the house by her daughter-in-law. He also tried to convince the mother-in-law that her son was paying attention to his daughter-in-law instead of her. And he succeeds in this for a while.
⦁ He makes Zeynep's friend beautiful enough to make men fall in love with her as her slaves, so that she can confuse men's minds and fill them with lust. He also uses her to handle his gaslighting with the Zeynep's mother-in-law.
⦁ He was trying to stop Zeynep's aunt by whispering because she was an obstacle to his work.
⦁ In one scene, while Zeynep is directly next to her husband and the mother-in-law is listening a little away, Sheitanleans next to her and Zeynep directly says bad things about the mother-in-law. The next scene was directly between Zeynep and her husband and they were normal. My guess is that Sheitan played with the mother-in-law's mind.
⦁ In order to separate Zeynep and her husband, the mother-in-law and he makes a potion with a witch. Once the husband drinks this potion, he will immediately hate his wife the next day. This potion is useless as it spills.
⦁ She encourages the mother-in-law to separate her son and Zeynep. The mother-in-law ruined her son's clothes by scratching them so that her son and Zeynep could separate, and slandered Zeynep about cheating.
⦁ He persuades the mother-in-law to slander Zeynep. And it works for a while but aunt fixes everything.
⦁ He almost caused the family to break up.
⦁ He made the mother-in-law a bad person. And this mother-in-law had taken her son from the bad way at the beginning of the episode.
⦁ He exposes the mother-in-law for what she did to her son and causes the mother-in-law to be kicked out of the house.
⦁ When the mother-in-law starts going to the sea to commit suicide, he takes pleasure in it. He hates it when Zeynep saves the mother-in-law.
EPISODE 6
⦁ He helped Bahar separate Fazıl, an old man, from his wife, tie him to her, and almost take over the company. After scaring her, of course.
⦁ As plan B, Bahar kill Fazıl's wife by dropping her and Sheitan helps her. Sheitan tastes the blood of the dead woman. Fazıl covers up the incident by saying that it was a suicide.
⦁ He tries to get her to cause an accident to stop a police officer investigating the murder.
⦁ While Fazıl's daughter was crying, he secretly made fun of her.
⦁ He convinces Bahar to kill Fazıl's son. He leaves Bahar just as the police arrive. Fazıl's son does not die.
EPISODE 7
⦁ He drops money on the road, causing two close friends to fight each other for gold. He tries to do the same thing to children, but it doesn't work because children are pure good. When it doesn't work, he vanishes the gold.
⦁ He tries to lead Adam, who is pure good, into a bad path and tie him to himself and become his master.
⦁ For this reason, he first tries to become his assistant, but fails. He then decides to corrupt her with love. For this, He gives a disease to a woman named Eva (only her name is foreign and she is Turkish) with the magic on the shoe.
⦁ He arranges for Eva to be sent to Adem's hospital for surgery by Adem. There he makes Adam fall in love with Eva. He then tries to get him closer to Eva.
⦁ He calls someone a fool for giving him his money.
⦁ He tries to impose on her the state of love corrupted by lust and desire.
⦁ Later, after giving Eva an illness, he kidnaps her to Adem's house, telling her father, with whom he is friends, that he will take her to the clinic.
⦁ He gives him a knife to keep Eva at home.
⦁ He causes Adam to seemingly "attempt to rape and murder" Eva and "go down the wrong path". And he called him "True Lover" because of that.
⦁ He makes an offer to Adam, who regrets what he did: If he kisses her hand (which means he becomes her master), he can destroy the corpse, make other women fall in love with him, and even resurrect Eva. Just as Adem was about to kiss his hand, Eva's guards arrived, so no deal could be made. At that moment, Sheitanexposes Adam, causing him to be "shot to death."
⦁ When he returned to Istanbul 10 years later, while reading the news of war, murder, hunger, unemployment and terrorism in the newspaper, he laughed and thought that its smell had spread throughout the city, in short, the whole city was mired in sin.
⦁ Later, when he learns that Adem and Eva's "death" was actually a trap made for him and that the duo did not die but became parents, he goes crazy.
⦁ He then tells the duo that he will follow them both constantly and will take over the Earth and humanity.
EPISODE 8
⦁ He plans to use a new discovery regarding stem cells to turn humanity into freak creatures.
⦁ In order to steal the formulas, he disguises himself as the university principal and asks for the formulas, but it does not work.
⦁ He whispers to a security guard not to let the mother of the Ayşe, who finded the formula, in because she was wearing a headscarf (I think that part is about Hijab Ban. For those who don't know, there were bans on wearing Hijabs in Turkiye at that time).
⦁ He encourages Ayşe's father-in-law to take the formulas with him.
⦁ They knock Ayşe unconscious and kidnap Ayşe's husband and ask for the formulas in return for her husband. And they do this while Ayşe is pregnant.
⦁ When Ayşe's brother goes to save Ayşe's husband, he scares him, causing his location to be revealed and him being taken as a hostage.
⦁ As Plan B, he tries to have Ayşe's father-in-law kill Ayşe, Ayşe's husband and Ayşe's brother. But at that moment, the father-in-law probably gives up because of the effect of the adhan recited at that moment.
EPISODE 9
⦁ In the first minute, he causes a father to have a car accident and die by making him look at his phone while in the car.
⦁ He puts misgivings and doubts in the mind of the dead man's wife about the factory partnership.
⦁ He whispers to Cengiz Bey that he should not give deceased man's, who is Cengiz's brother, son the factory when he turns 18. And he succeeds.
⦁ He whispers to provoke Cengiz's wife against the dead man's wife.
⦁ He whispers to Cengiz's wife to try to prevent money from being given to the dead man's wife.
⦁ He drags Cengiz down a bad path. He makes him selfish and bad guy.
⦁ He showed Cengiz's wife as if she was in a car accident.
⦁ He comes to Cengiz as a businessman who controls all the countries and establishes a partnership with him. Later, he smuggles drugs with him.
⦁ Cengiz's brother's son, who has a right to work in that factory, verbally abused him while he was mentally destroyed, saying that no one loved him. This caused the child to hit the glass with his hand, injuring his hand, and to turn into a problematic person within 4 years.
⦁ He whispers to the dead man's son to kill Cengiz. But the dead man's wife prevents her son from killing Genghis.
EPISODE 10
⦁ He decides to break Şükran's relationship and take her heart, which probably means taking the goodness out of her.
⦁ He takes over a girl's body and hits the cabinets with it until her hands bleed, insults Şükran and causes a mental breakdown in that girl he taked over.
⦁ It brings gratitude into dreams. He then psychologically tortured her by chasing her and posing as her lover in her dreams .
⦁ He watched as Hülya undressed and changed... While watching, she said "Ooh. Tsk Tsk Tsk." It made sounds like...
⦁ Looks like he made a deal with Hülya. According to the agreement, he will give Hülya beauty and attracting men. He would also receive his debt later. He asks him to help him with his business with Şükran to pay off his debt. He also physically and mentally abused her by calling her ugly and pressing her face against the glass. You can understand from Hülya's reactions that it has a great impact on him.
⦁ He exploits Şükran's fear that something will happen to her mother, who has a heart problem. Shows nightmares about it.
⦁ He threatens Hülya by holding her out the window to make her hurry up.
⦁ Hülya moves from studying with Şükran's boyfriend to caressing her head. While Sheitanconvinces Şükran that she needs money to go home for her mother, he suddenly decides to direct her to Hülya. When Şükran goes to her boyfriend's house, she sees Hülya caressing his head. When he sees that Beloved is cheating on him, he breaks up with her.
⦁ He tells Hülya to leave Şükran completely alone. Hülya calls Şükran's friend to "hitchhike to Izmir".
⦁ It suppresses Şükran's mother's heart and causes a lot of discomfort. Considering the pacing of that scene, he was probably trying to kill her or at least do her some harm.
⦁ When a car arrives and Hülya gets into it, Sheitanwhispers to Şükran's friend to get into that car. Then Hülya leaves the car and abandons her, and the men kidnap her. The wounds on her body and her reactions show that the men who kidnapped her did very bad things to her.
⦁ He secretly directs Şükran to be a babysitter at a house. Şükran comes to her while she is babysitting and shows her a fake proof that her mother is in a hospital. He then says that there is only one solution for humanity and that he can solve the problem in exchange for his heart. Later, when the owner comes, he tells her to tell owner that she wants to go. Şükran does this by threatening her with the vase. He then takes her hitchhiking in a car and tries to do the same thing to her that happened to his friend. Fortunately, Şükran quickly resolves the situation, gets out of the car and confronts Satan.
EPISODE 11
⦁ To ensure that vendetta continues and Yusuf or Ahmet's wife shoot Osman, he tells Ahmet's wife that he will give Osman's, who now lives a normal life with his sisters after changing his surname, location in exchange for her coming as a friend of Ahmet and convincing Yusuf, who is Ahmet's son, to shoot Osman, that have a father who shot Ahmet out of vendetta.
⦁ When Yusuf, tired of the nightmares he sees, decides to kill Osman, Sheitantells Ahmet's wife that Osman is in Istanbul. And Yusuf goes to Istanbul.
⦁ He later helps Yusuf continue his feud by things like giving him a house. For some reason, he places Yusuf in the house near Osman's house. I don't know why he did this, but he must have had a bad reason because... We're talking about the devil, he's probably planning something.
⦁ He drops Cemile's ,One of Osman's sisters, the bag in her hand and compares with Yusuf, whom she loved as a child but cannot recognize now, so he can find Osman but it accidently makes Yusuf fall in love with her again.
⦁ Yusuf gives up his blood feud after falling in love. For this reason, he tells Ahmet's wife that his son Yusuf left his blood feud and is in a relationship with Osman's sister Cemile. Ahmet's wife then decides to go to Istanbul with Sheitan, who disguised as Ahmet's friend, and meet with Yusuf, or to shoot Osman herself.
⦁ He disguises herself as his mother and goes to Yusuf and speaks like Yusuf's mother.
⦁ While talking to Ahmet's wife, when Ahmet's wife wonders about being called "Hevva", he forces him to sleep. He did this on the bus too.
⦁ He crushes a flower too much with a shoe while talking about continuing their feud and causing bloodshed.
⦁ He encourages Ahmet's wife to shoot Osman. This causes Ahmet's wife to shoot Yusuf, her own son, while trying to shoot Osman and stay in prison for a long time. Fortunately, Yusuf recovered, married Cemile and forgave his mother.
EPISODE 12
⦁ He goes to Ayla Bacı, a fortune teller, and shows her people burying their father's body, he goes there and gives someone the chills. Then it comes back. Then he asks the fortune teller to help him bind people to him. The fortune teller also accepts.
⦁ He whispers to Cemal, who is so fond of wordly goods that he cares about them instead of his father-in-law, to increase this fondness in him.
⦁ He enters the house of Cemal. Then he makes him leave his money under the board and makes him forget what he did.
⦁ He whispers to Cemal to make it seem as if Yakup, who is Cemal's brother who wanted money for buying a farm, will take over all of Cemal's money. Then he whispers to Yakup but it doesn't work.
⦁ He stops the heart of the man, who gave Yakup enough money to pay for farm in exchange for tobacco, just because he gived enough money for farm to Yahup. And he makes a evil laugh af
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2024.05.16 06:01 Choice_Evidence1983 I(29F) made my step-father(50M) an outsider at my wedding that he paid for. I need to make it up to him but I dont know how.

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/ThrowRA999333
Originally posted to TrueOffMyChest
I(29F) made my step-father(50M) an outsider at my wedding that he paid for. I need to make it up to him but I dont know how.
Thanks to u/queenlegolas and u/Direct-Caterpillar77 for suggesting this BoRU
Trigger Warnings: child abandonment, emotional manipulation, possible exploitation
Original Post: May 6, 2024
I ruined the memory of the best day of my life because I was too blind to see what I was doing was hurting one of the most important people in my life. I got married 2 months ago to the love of my life, and he finally opened my eyes to what I did. He showed me the perspective I didnt understand.
When I was 5 my father left us. Just disappeared without trace. He and my mom were already separated by that point, but he was still living with us. 3 years later my mom started dating Rob. He was quite a bit younger than she was, I belive she was 34 and he was 26. Today he is very wealthy (he wasnt when he met my mom) and he treats my mother like a queen. Whenever she is around him she looks like the happiest person in the world. My younger sister looks a lot like me and mom, but her personality is for sure a reflexion of her dad, always telling jokes and being just a nice person all around while me and my mom are more serious and cold.
As I got older, Rob became more present in my life he got married to my mom and she got pregnant. But it was still pretty weird seeing him as a father figure mostly because people would asume he was my brother all the time. When I was in HS, I was dating this boy, and he broke up with me at my friends house. My mom was on a night shift and I had to ask Rob to pick me up. When he did, he conforted me, took me to get ice cream, and when we got home he told me something like this (without knowing what happened) "whoever made you sad doesnt understand that you are the best girl in the world, and its their loss. Dont beat yourself up because other people are too stupid to see it"
I just said to him "I wish you were my dad". He smiled and said that he wished that too, and he could be if I wanted to. We left it at that. I never called him dad. But from that point foward I saw him as a father and I think he knows it.
I finally reconected to my biological father about an year ago. It happened because I got engaged. When I came to my mom's house one day, he was there and I couldnt even recongnise him. He was way thiner than he was when I was a kid. He struggled for years with depression and substance abuse. My mom and Rob actually helped him get clean and they even paid for his stay at a great reabilitation center. They decided together that it was time for me to finally meet him again.
I dont want to explore much on how this was, but all I have to say is that im glad to have him back in my life and im glad for being able to help him heal. He sufered a lot, he got lost. But now he is at least trying.
Rob and my mother payed for everything at my wedding, and everything was amaizing. The church was beautiful, my husband looked amaizing. The one mistake I made: I chose my biological father over Rob. I chose the man that did abandon me for over 20 years over the one the took me as his own and gave me everything he could when he didnt have to. I chose the man that broke my mothers heart over the one that saved her. I dont know why I did what I did. Looking back on it I feel so fucking stupid. My dad didnt deserve to walk me down the aisle. My dad dint deserve to be in all the pictures with my mom and my husbands parents. It should have been Rob.
I dont know, I think I was compensating for the time lost with my dad. Everything was still so fresh with him. I was helping him out, he talked to me everyday, I felt like he deserved to be back in my life.
When we were deciding who would give speeches, we had to cut some because it was just too many and me and my husband didnt really like the idea of hearing speeches for and hour and a half. So we decided for 5 people each. When I gave the list to my husband he even asked "no Rob?" And I said "yeah, my mom is already doing one". The others I chose were 2 of my bridesmaids, my mom, my sister (she really pushed for it) and, again, my dad. My husband said I should reconsider, He even thought of giving up one of his to put Rob in. I said it was fine, he didnt need to do that. My whole thinking when doing this was that Rob has my sister. He will have his moment. This was the only chance my dad had.
But I went too far. I completly cut him out of the party basically. If you look at the photos it doesnt even look like he went. My mom looks like she is faking a smile in half the pictures. I dont have a single picture with him. He only apears in group pictures, and some with my husband.
I only realised all of this when I texted Rob 2 days ago, asking him about a gift im giving my husbands for his birthday. He anwsered. Then asked about my car that is with a mecanic friend of his. He awnsered. Then I asked him something about my insurance. He did not anwser. A little over an hour later my mom called me. She just said "do you have no shame? Do you not understand what you did?" I just listend and she told me not to talk to Rob for now. I was just so fucking confused. I got home and told my husband and he just said that he knows what she is referencing but he will talk to her first.
Later, he showed me the wedding photos, he went step by step on everything I have listed here. He talked calmly, and broke it down for me. By the end I was crying so much that I had a headache. What an inconsiderate idiot I am. He told me that he and my mom didnt tell me anything before the party because Rob asked them not to. He understood that it was important for me for my father to be a big part of this day and when they protested he said that they should not make me worry about these small things.
I dont know what changed from before the party to now. My mom only tells me that he needs a bit of time and that he will talk to me soon. My husband keeps telling me that I made a mistake but Rob will be understanding and will forgive me. And I know that he will. He 100% has already forgiven me. He probably felt something when I was texting him that day that broke him down. I dont know what I said to trigger him at that moment, but also it doesnt really matter. I did the real damage at the party probably since he apeared to be fine with everything else before it (It was not fine by any means)
I have to make it up to him. I dont know how but I just do. I guess im just writing this here because im a little lost. Im too ashamed to talk about it with anyone else I know apart from my mom and husband. She doesnt tell me anything and my husband keeps insiting that everything will be fine and for me not to worry too much about it. And he is probably right but I feel like me not worrying about this is just being incosiderate to Rob again. I have to worry. I just dont know what to do.
Im now at work, and the only thing I can think about is this. Nothing else matters to me right now.
If someone has any kind of idea of how I can make it up to him I would greatly appreciate it.
Edit: Literally 40 minutes after I uploaded this, my mom texted me saying that Rob wants to speak to me tonight.
Relevant Comments
OOP on the situation of her insurance and Rob
OOP: Actually, Rob does not pay for my insurance. He only helped me set it up. And this is not about money at all, I make more than enough money and my husband is also very well off. Rob and my mom paid for the wedding because they wanted to. They told me it would be their gift for me and they gave me the money to use it on the wedding. My husbands family gave us a sum to help pay for our new house.
But your comment made me realise that this might be the problem, he might think im using him for money. That just breaks my heart. I do not want his money. I would happly take myself out of the my mom's will and his (if he has me in it, which he probably does), if it means I can fix this.
Also, he was not rich at all when he met my mom. He became successful after their marriage. Just to clarify.
OOP on why she didn’t plan the wedding photos ahead of time
OOP: My plan was that I wanted spontanious pictures and the photographer had to be changed last minute. In my head it worked out fine, what I wanted was to have the "important" pictures taken early, bridesmades, groomsman and family and later on have just spontanious pictures.
It was something I was too stuck on, this notion of "wasting time" doing pictures, speaches, etc.
But that was such dumb thinking. Thats what wedding are for.
At the end of the day though, everything went great apart from this disastrous oversight of mine.
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RevolutionaryHat8988: I want to hug Rob. We all need a Rob in our lives.
Deleted Commenter: You’re almost 30 and needed all of this pointed out to you?
You made multiple conscious choices to exclude Rob from your wedding and only cared after you brought up an issue with your insurance: another thing he helped to pay for.
At your age you should know that choices have consequences.
I’m not sure there is anything you can do to make up for the choices you made.
 
Update May 9, 2024
First, I want to say some things before posting:
  1. No, I am not Linda, my biological father isnt dying. Got a DM in here asking.
  2. My sister is mostly just sad, not really mad at me. Just said she understood my situation but it still was really shitty seeing her father taken for granted and sad.
  3. My mother is the person most pissed off at me at the moment. She is the only one that still does not talk to me. I mean she does, but not really.
  4. For the people saying my husband and mother were idiots for not talking to me before: they agree and have told me this. My husband specially. Im not trying to shift blame here, just saying this for the people that talked about it
I was not going to post anything else on here. Not a fan of being called names and for people to keep saying that Rob should leave our family. Although Im well aware that I deserve most of everything that was said about me. The coments saying "the apple doesnt fall far from the tree" in regaards to me and my biological father were the ones that hurt the most as it is a fear of mine and the reason I dont drink much and dont use any drugs or anything that could be addictive. But seing how there are other things that could make us more similar than I realised is really frightening.
The day I posted here, my mom told me Rob wanted to speak to me and to go to their home after work. I went and waited for Rob to arrive. When he did my mom left us alone and he started off by saying that he was hurt by what I did at the wedding, that he knows he is not my father and that he would never try to force that on me, but that he at least thought he had some sort of importance in my life and seeing me just not give him any importance apart from talking to him when I need help with something made him realise that I do not view him the he thought I did.
At this point I was already crying so much that I couldnt even talk. I waited for him to finish and when he did I just told basically what you all saw in the post. That I fucked up bad, that I was incosiderate, that he is one of the most importante people in my life and that what I did was unforgivable.
The only reason I am posting it here is because of something during the conversation. He said something about my time at college and I went "but that was because..." and stoped. He asked me "what? because of what" I just said "nothing, you are right, that was my fault and I should have done better".
He was pretty angry at that point and he started to smile and we talked about me taking responsibility for my actions. Its something I am terrible at, it was an issue at my old job and since then I have been trying to be better at it but not very successfuly. He asked what changed and I told him about the post. Multiple people in the comments said that I dont take responsibility and yes, they read right through me. I showed it to him and reading the post calmed him down.
And no, he did not read the comments, just the ones I showed it to him, I would not let him see what some of you were saying about my mom.
So yes, he told me if I was going to say something else to thank you people for calling me out for not taking responsibility.
We talked about a lot of other things not related to the wedding. At the end I just told him that there were 2 things I wanted to say for him to take away from this conversation: I really did mean it when I was in HS and said that I wished he was my dad. Even now, with my biological dad in my life. I still feel that way. And the second thing is that I know that it will be hard for him to belive it right now because of what happened, but I will try to prove it to him for as long as it takes.
For those interested, I`ve been going to a therapist with my biological father once every 2 weeks since he came back, but I think I need one for myself so I will try to make it happen soon.
I want to thank 3 particular commenters that helped me.
  1. The person that told me to take it slow with Rob and dmed me to stop looking at the thread cause I was spiraling.
  2. The one that said: "People fuck up. Sometimes badly. But in a loving and caring family it's never the end of things as long as you are willing to own your mistakes."
  3. And most importantly the best comment that was fair and gave me the right advice: "You are a spoilt, selfish, childish person. I don’t know that rob will forgive you but you can’t simply wait to see if he does. Write him a letter in which you fully own up to your awful behaviour. Do not say “I wish someone had stopped me” - that isn’t taking accountability for the way you treat people. With him and your mom paying for your wedding and your in laws paying for your house - you need to grow up and reflect very seriously on how you interact with everyone around you."
I guess the post served as the letter in the scenario, thank you, that was the slap in the face I needed to realise that I need to do a lot of work to improve myself and that the wedding was not its own thing, it was a reflection of who I am right now and I dont like what I see when I look in the mirror. Also, Rob more or less told me something similar, just not as a agressive, so this comment made me take his words as not him atacking me, but trying to help me understand my flaws.
Im not sure how I will make up for this. Rob is telling me that over time, just me being how I was before my biological father showed up will be enough for him. I dont doubt him but its not enough for me. I will live with what I did for the rest of my life. I will always remember.
The way I am now I actually need people to call me out for this kinds of things and its not fair to them. I will work on it, I have to. I will try my hardest to not ever hurt anyone I love this way again. Thankfully now I have someone in my husband to help me do that and call me out if needed. Thank you.
 

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2024.05.16 05:34 fluffycookie0827 NMom told me that she hopes my son wakes up in 30 years and hates me

As the title says, due to me deciding to go NC with my abusive NDad, my mom told me "I hope in 30 years he (my son) decides you weren’t a good enough mom and cuts you out of his life" due to her saying now she cannot be in my life cause she has to choose sides and chooses my fathers. I feel my story is like so many others - the last straw came from an incident that happened on Christmas Eve. I decided after that I no longer wanted my NDad in my life as I will not subject my son to intergenerational abuse. His response was a to-the-tee NDad response gaslighting me, calling me names, taking no accountability, all the norm. I tried to keep a relationship with my mom but it felt strained/awkward since.
Fast forward to three weeks ago, even though I have made clear I want NC with my NDad, my NMom asks if she and him can come up to the house to see my son. I then had to lay it out again but this time as clear as possible I want no contact with him. No response..shocker. I followed up a few days later asking her if she wanted to talk more about it, she said nothing just she was busy at work which is why she didn't reply or call me back which has never happened with her. I then asked her if she would like to meet us at a park for Mother's Day, to which she replied "that sounds nice as long as your father can come and see (sons name) too". At this point, I felt like there was a clear message being sent so I explained again why I am standing firm in my boundary and that this whole situation has not only brought back to the surface my own experiences with my NDad but my sisters/hers as well + the realization of how much abuse we have swept under the rug.
She then proceeded to send a text that she would give anything to see her mom on Mother's Day and since they are alive I should make the effort. Since I am not, she will no longer be in my life, and then proceeded to say quote above. Honestly, I feel I needed to write this out so I can continue to process what has happened (anyone reading this, thank you). I think the part that gets to me the most is the "I hope"...I feel like all I have been doing since Christmas is telling them the pain and toxicity they add to my life while they both do nothing but gaslight me and still right in front of our faces show that toxicity and abuse. I am now almost one week full NC with my family. I know eventually I won't think about it as the life I am creating with my husband and son is one I have always dreamed of. I will no longer have anxiety about when they will reach out and ask to see my son or having to meet expectations for birthdays or holidays. I know it will feel lighter and behind me soon, it just feels a little heavy right now.
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2024.05.16 05:22 Every-Ad-667 AITAH For going no contact with my mom, after my sister went no contact with me, calling me a “heartless b-“?

Get comfy, this will a long ride. I (41f) am the middle of three daughters, ‘Shannon’ (43) and ‘Carrie’ (27) and well mom, we’ll call her ‘Brenda’.
I consider myself the quintessential “middle child”, constantly forgotten, not taken seriously and outright ignored. I got my sister’s hand-me-downs growing up, and don’t dare I ask for anything and actually get it, meanwhile, Carrie was given everything. In high school, Shannon got a tailored dress for prom, I got one off the rack. Shannon got a brand new Focus, I got a 1990 Cougar. Years later, Shannon wanted a newer car, so mom upgraded her to an Explorer. When my car fell apart at the seams, I went out and purchased an Accord. I will admit, mom did co-sign for me because I was only 19, but I was given hell for her doing so.
Shannon dropped out of college after an earthquake hit the area, then she moved in with her boyfriend at the time. I was living at home with mom, working and going to college. My paychecks every two weeks were going to mom to take care of my car note and insurance, all the while mom was paying Shannon’s car note, insurance, giving her money for bills AND Shannon had one of mom’s credit cards “for emergencies”.
While I was working and in college, I was expected to help with Carrie, who was in elementary. I would drop whatever I was doing to pick her up from school, take her to tutoring, cook dinner and help with homework. Mom was an administrative assistant for a private firm, she worked 7am-7pm. One night leaving college, I was involved in a serious accident on the way home, my car was totaled. I eventually was able to get another car from my settlement money, this time I didn’t need a co-signer. Around this same time, I was dropped from college because my grades suffered being spread so thin. I continued working full time, still giving mom money for our bills.
I eventually made the decision to enlist in the Air Force, this decision caught my entire family off guard. Most of the comments I received didn’t surprise me, most thought I wouldn’t succeed. The ones that were supportive, congratulated my decision. I prepared myself to leave home; I made an agreement with mom I would send money for my car note, with the understanding that when the time comes, I will come back for it. Well, that time came and I was met with hostility. Mom decided she wasn’t going to give my car back, it was hers, she “was making the payments”. By this time, mom had moved to Vegas with Carrie, unfortunately developed a gambling problem and I felt helpless since I was so far away.
We’ll fast forward a bit, Shannon is now living in Tennessee. I was medically discharged from the Air Force and after talks with Shannon, I went to live with her. We both worked and shared the bills, I got to reconnect with our older sister from our father’s side (we’ll call her Veronica), everything seemed great. Until… Mom called saying that my car is about to get repossessed, that helpless feeling came back. I ask mom for the information for the finance company, reach out to them, made a payment to stop the repossession, then called her back to let her know she’s caught up. Months go by, Shannon comes home early from work, only to say she was fired for a physical altercation with a coworker. Shannon goes on to say, this is the perfect time to work on her music career. I began working double shifts to cover the bills, all while Shannon is going to the studio. Mom calls one night frantic and furious, the car was repossessed and she was on the bus going to work. This causes a huge blow up between the three of us, because mom and Shannon believe I called and had the car voluntarily repossessed (I did not). Shannon bursts into my room cursing/screaming over how I wronged mom, she grabs me by a leg and drags me out of our apartment and outside into the cold. Veronica picks me up, and I go to stay with her until I got my own place. Things begin to level out, forgive and forget and I start communicating with mom again.
After some time, I found out I was pregnant with my first child and make the decision to move to Vegas with mom. During this time I get to see first hand how badly her gambling habit truly is. I would watch her cash her checks, then immediately push money in a machine and loses it in minutes, this goes on for some time. I eventually have my son and months later start working. I save up to buy myself a car, as well as save up for his first birthday party. I was so excited, planning to go all out! That is until one day I get a call at work from my aunt who lived in our building, she’s noticed my mom coming and going frantically. I didn’t have a bank account at the time, and was keeping my money in a safe hidden in my room… well she found it! When I got home, my room was disheveled and money was gone, all but a few hundred. I took what was left, found a one bed one bath for my son and I and left mom’s apartment.
Enough back story! I’ll bring you to the present! We’re now living in Vegas; I purchased a home in 2015, Carrie moved to Arizona for college, mom, Shannon, Shannon’s 3rd baby daddy (Paul) and 4 kids had a rental home across town. Last summer, they all get evicted. Yes, it was for nonpayment, yes they ALL were gamblers. I allow everyone but Paul to come stay with me, this was not well received. Shannon eventually leaves with her kids, to stay with our cousin Candace, who allowed Paul to be there too. Mom eventually is sent to live with Carrie, because we kept bumping heads. I’ll save you the guess work, Candace gets tired of them being there (rent free) and tells them to leave. Shannon blames ME for Candace putting them out, and gives me an ear full on Mother’s Day. Shannon tells me I’m a heartless b***h, she wishes we weren’t related and karma will eat me alive. I called mom to tell her what has transpired, her reaction was “why can’t we all just get along”. I lose it! She was so flippant and dismissive! No comment about Shannon living rent free in someone else’s home, or the uncalled for and hurtful words to me. So I told mom I needed some space and time, I won’t reach out to her and please don’t reach out to me, then I ended the call.
AITAH?
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2024.05.16 05:08 Elegant_Ant3570 [MN] Shared birthday

Shared birthday
My child’s birthday is coming up and when I reached out to her father to see if we would be sharing the day or splitting the day he said neither since her birthday falls upon his visitation time.
Her birthday is considered a holiday which trumps regular parenting schedule, our court order states parents with share minor child’s birthday as mutually agreed. However it does not have any specific enforceable time frames.
I applied for mediation but he has not responded (and is not required to respond since it’s not court ordered).
Is there anything I can do to ensure I will be able to spend time with my daughter on her birthday?
If he withholds her from me, is there anything I can do aside from file contempt?
Will this event have a negative effect on his character if/when we return to court to adjust visitation?
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2024.05.16 05:04 Kitcatgirl21 Help retrieving money once i’m 18

[i am posting this in place for my friend, the following words are all her own]
I (17) am planning to move out of my parents abusive household in a couple months on my 18th birthday. I have a savings account under my name, but it is connected to my father’s bank account. I do not have access to my bank card, and all forms of identification have been stripped from me. I am afraid that if I tell my father or mother that I am moving out ahead of time, they will transfer all of my savings into my dads account so I do not have access to the money. Is there anyway I could safely obtain the money out of my savings account as soon as I turn 18? As of now, I cannot physically visit the bank prior to turning 18. I am so not think I would be able to talk with the bank without it notifying my father, and I cannot call due to the fact that I secretly have a phone.
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2024.05.16 05:03 Kitcatgirl21 Help retrieving money once i’m 18

[i am posting this in place for my friend, the following words are all her own]
I (17) am planning to move out of my parents abusive household in a couple months on my 18th birthday. I have a savings account under my name, but it is connected to my father’s bank account. I do not have access to my bank card, and all forms of identification have been stripped from me. I am afraid that if I tell my father or mother that I am moving out ahead of time, they will transfer all of my savings into my dads account so I do not have access to the money. Is there anyway I could safely obtain the money out of my savings account as soon as I turn 18? As of now, I cannot physically visit the bank prior to turning 18. I am so not think I would be able to talk with the bank without it notifying my father, and I cannot call due to the fact that I secretly have a phone.
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2024.05.16 05:02 Kitcatgirl21 Help retrieving money once i turn 18

[i am posting this in place for my friend, the following words are all her own]
I (17) am planning to move out of my parents abusive household in a couple months on my 18th birthday. I have a savings account under my name, but it is connected to my father’s bank account. I do not have access to my bank card, and all forms of identification have been stripped from me. I am afraid that if I tell my father or mother that I am moving out ahead of time, they will transfer all of my savings into my dads account so I do not have access to the money. Is there anyway I could safely obtain the money out of my savings account as soon as I turn 18? As of now, I cannot physically visit the bank prior to turning 18. I am so not think I would be able to talk with the bank without it notifying my father, and I cannot call due to the fact that I secretly have a phone.
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2024.05.16 05:02 Okokokokok176 AITAH for quitting my job of two years because I suspect my boss is a pedo.

I 17f have been working at a company for over 2 years. Recently I have been really busy and I have a lot of stuff going on in my life. From high school graduation to injuries to sickness, you name it, it happened this past month. Some context: I am on antidepressants that make my immune system a little bit weaker than normal so I’m more prone to sicknesses and the only reason I stay on it is because it works like a charm my grandmother who is my legal guardian has been extremely busy for the past year because we adopted two little girls, her step-grandchildren. one of whom had gotten sexually assaulted. So she’s busy with court and therapy and everything for them. I lived with my grandmother and grandfather since I was 2 months old, all the way up until June of last year. this has been extremely hard on me as I have nowhere to direct my anger. I don’t wanna sound like a stuck up little brat, but I’ve always been an only child. This happened out of nowhere, and we was also told that they would only be there for five months max, it’s been over two years. I cannot direct my anger at those little girls because I’m not that kind of person and it is NOT their fault that they got sexually assaulted, I also cannot direct my anger at my grandmother or grandfather bc They were just trying to do a good thing and help these girls. However, I no longer get to go out on Saturday girls dates with my grandmother and my my grandfather never gets to take me fishing anymore. They are old and they will not be here much longer, I would love to spend my time with them, but I can’t because they are so busy. They didn’t even come to my senior prom Pictures.. i’ve been struggling on where to put my anger. Which has left me tremendously depressed and always angry and anxious. So excuse me if I don’t wanna work my shift a day. because I have no motivation. I literally feel like I lost my family. They were like my mother and father and it’s almost like they are just gone. Out of nowhere. As I mentioned, I’m also a senior in high school so I’m dealing with things from class night,senior sunrise, class night practice, graduation practice, baccalaureate, graduation, prom, and my birthday is May 27 but we are doing me a combined graduation party and birthday party on the 25th. I’m a busy girl these days. My grandmother as I mentioned is always busy so I don’t direct my anger towards her at all and I don’t want to sound like I’m being mean but I told her in December 2023 that my Therapy Place had appointments for me, one of which was my one year therapy assessment, my one year medicine assessment, and a nursing assessment, all of my Therapy Place would not let me schedule as I’m not 18 yet. I don’t know if she simply just forgot or just didn’t care, however I have slowly been running out of medicine and I am now taking 25 mg of a medicine that I’m supposed to be taking 150 mg of. This is the same medicine that causes me to be sick occasionally. it really happens whenever I take one and then forget to take one the next day so this drastic change of 150mg to 25mg in the span of 2 months has not been ideal. It’s making me sick and angry and sad and crazy. All of this has also been causing a lot of issues in my relationship with my boyfriend 18m. We’re arguing all the time and it’s not helping anything. So I have a lot going on. And yes, I have been calling out a lot, however, everything with graduation I told my ex boss about a MONTH ago. This is not new information. Out of NOWHERE he scheduled me to work around 40 hours (my normal hours are about 15-20 a week as I’m working on school and applying to colleges and focused on graduation ) However, today he feels the need to call me and explain to me in passive aggressive words how I am making his and everyone else’s life harder and saying a few other things which all equaled up to “your a big inconvenience for everyone” This alone really hurt as my boss and I always got along ok. He knew what I was going through but assumed I was a liar despite me being a manager for 2 years now and still felt the need to call me and tell me how much of a problem I am. I was honestly going to let this slide and work my last shift and then tell him not to put me on the schedule anymore. But this is when I called my best friend for advice! Then she proceeds to tell me, my boss and another female coworker were stalking my social media accounts to see if I was really hurt. ( I had an ankle injury caused by tripping over my dress walking out of prom.) And I’m not going to lie to you. I really really really hurt my ankle. I was wearing a boot. I have been cooped up in the house for about a week and a half and I was sick and tired of it. My sister and her boyfriend and my boyfriend were all over and we decided we want to go to topgolf. I figured I had rested enough and I was really eager to get out of the house. I got all dressed up and was wearing my boot as we went into Topgolf! Only to find out that we had to be 21 or older to go past the certain time. We tried to get our older siblings to come, but they were busy! I had gotten all dressed up for the first time in a while and I wanted to take some Instagram pictures. That way it didn’t feel like I got dressed up for nothing. I took my boot off and slipped a regular shoe on as I didn’t want to wear a big ass boot in my instagram photos. The girls that get it get it! In all of these pictures, I either have my hurt foot up off of the ground or I am holding it up equal to my knee. Because as I said it really hurt. So I posted my pictures and all was fine. I also made a few tick-tock‘s. Well apparently both of these actions were illegal. As my boss and his suck up of a coworker felt the need to stalk my social media to see if I was lying I guess. You can check the images yourself on instagram at @molleigh_1 After I found this out, I texted my boss as follows:
Ok, I was gonna let the whole “ passive aggressively calling me an inconvenience” thing slide, however i just don’t understand why you and Alana feel the need to search up my social media accounts and see what I’m doing but if you must know my instagram pictures were taken while my boot was off because I didn’t want to wear a big boot in my pictures. My boot was still in the car. If you look closely in the pictures you can see that I am leaning my weight on my good foot and have my bad foot either up in the air or I am not fully stepping on it. I also didn’t know it was illegal to post videos of myself on tiktok when I’m sick, that’s New info to me. I also just talked to my best friend who did not know about my foot injury, just told her about it. You can come ask my entire family if you’d like. They have seen me walking around the house in a boot. It’s not fair to assume I’m a liar as you weren’t there. You can’t tell if I’m in pain from a picture or video. it’s weird that you guys are looking up my accounts. That’s honestly creepy. Now that my parents and I know this creepy, unsettling information I will not be working that last shift, (I’m not allowed) you all can go stalk other people! If you feel the need to reply or have anything to say, you can contact (My dads number) Have the day you deserve, and goodbye.
Here’s the reasoning behind why he’s a creep: - 40 yr old man who only hires teen girls. -Would always show up 5 mins after my shift started claiming he had work to do but then would sit in the office with me just to try and chat. - anytime he would arrive I would simply move my things out of the office and set out by the serving area to which he would say “ I didn’t kick you out you can come sit back here with me” - gave me sexual looks more than one time. - places security cameras in odd places such as facing the backs of his workers so he can look at their asses I’m guessing ( it’s not just one camera it’s all of them) - there’s been claims of him sexually assaulting his workers in the past (just found this out) from a previous coworker who was told this by someone who worked at a different location of the company -multiple workers have quit because they felt uncomfortable around him.
Am I the a hole? Did I do the right thing? Am I just being dramatic and overcomplicating this? Help!
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2024.05.16 05:01 Kitcatgirl21 Help retrieving my money once i’m 18

[i am posting this in place for my friend, the following words are all her own]
I (17) am planning to move out of my parents abusive household in a couple months on my 18th birthday. I have a savings account under my name, but it is connected to my father’s bank account. I do not have access to my bank card, and all forms of identification have been stripped from me. I am afraid that if I tell my father or mother that I am moving out ahead of time, they will transfer all of my savings into my dads account so I do not have access to the money. Is there anyway I could safely obtain the money out of my savings account as soon as I turn 18? As of now, I cannot physically visit the bank prior to turning 18. I am so not think I would be able to talk with the bank without it notifying my father, and I cannot call due to the fact that I secretly have a phone.
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2024.05.16 04:34 stfupinkyponkycuzyy_ well today is my sister's birthday

So my sister turns 20 today. when I woke up and opened my phone I saw that my father was the first one to wish her. Calls,wp status,wp gcs everywhere. He's also gifting her a guitar this year.
Flashback to Jan this year. My 18th birthday. Guess what. My father forgot my birthday. He talked to me in the morning. I thought he'll wish me. And then he doesn't. I never got any gifts so i just knew that he won't gift me anything. I had no birthday cake,except the small one which my sister sent for me. My little brother gets gifts too and big parties are thrown in his birthday. It's only me. And always me.
Idk this made me soo sad. Bec I always thought they were a bit biased. And this is one of the many incidents. Nevertheless I love my sister. And wish her the best.
Ik I sound pointless and childish nvm I'm just here for my morning rant
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2024.05.16 04:19 scaredtobeopen Naruto's birthday during the Great War

It's been nearly 8 years so it's hard to remember, was it Naruto's 16th or 17th birthday when either Madara or Obito said it was the day before the anniversary of his parents death
I remember him saying he was 16 to his father, but that could also be chalked up to Naruto not knowing when his birthday was (Oct 10). But that could also mean his final fight with Sasuke was on his birthday or did days pass.
It's not important, it just occured to me
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2024.05.16 04:13 Bubzoluck The Story that is Gepirone - How Late to the Party Can You Be?

So originally this was a question from a redditor, u/Madmax0622, about why Gepirone hasn't been on the market yet despite being approved in September, 2023 and doing some research into has led to a rabbit hole of murder, intrigue, and one very disappointed boy having his father arrested at his 7th birthday party. Okay, not really, but the story is interesting and there is some important points to make about how drugs become approved and how data is represented. So i thought I would mkae it a full post (and comments have a smaller character limit).

What the hell is Gepirone?

Gepirone (Exxua) is a novel azapirone drug that is thought to work as a partial agonist at the Serotonin-1a (5HT-1a) receptor. This is a fancy way of saying that Geprione is a drug that is structurally similar to other serotonin receptor agonists. In the United States we only have Buspirone (Buspar, approved 1986) as our 5HT-1a agonist but internationally there are several others such as Perospirone (Lullan, Japan), Tandospirone (Sediel, Japan), and Binospirone (China). All in all, these drugs share very similar structures and only really differ in their pharmacokinetic properties such as half life, bioavailability, and first pass metabolism.
Where Gepirone differs from these other 5HT-1a agonists is that it is a partial agonist which means that when administered into the body, it creates a partial response to the receptor rather than a full response. While Gepirone is novel because it is the first drug who's primary mechanism of action (MOA) is this partial agonism at 5HT-1a, it is not an unknown one. Several common medications also have this mechanism, such as some newer antidepressants (Trazodone, Vilazodone, Nefazaodone), old and new antipsychotics (Haloperidol, Olanzapine, Clozapine, Ziprasidone), and some other known anti-anxiety chemicals (cannabidiol, LSD, and gingko biloba).
So if Gepirone wasn't the first drug to work on 5HT-1a, why did it get delayed?

What did the data say?

Well I should say first that Gepirone did show benefit. In a double blind trial of two different doses of Gepirone in treating depression, patients received either a high dose, low dose, or placebo and were found to have lower depression scores (HAM-D) at the end of 6 weeks. Based on these results (among other trials, it takes years and millions to submit a drug for approval--im paraphrasing here), Gepirone's pharma company Organanon submitted their data to the FDA. Their package of data contained one positive phase 3 trial--a randomized trial of over 200 participants with drepssion who either received Gepirone and had a reduction in depression score of 9.05 points (17% reduction in depression score) vs those who received placebo and had a 6.75 reduction in depression score (13% reduction) after 8 weeks of treatment.
Feeling dejected, Organanon was sitting on the marble steps outside the main FDA office when little Fabre-Kramer came walking by.
"Hey Organanon, did the FDA deny your reapplication?" Fabre-Kramer asked. "Yeah, they said my drug failed to show explicit benefit. That in the analysis of the main endpoints, submitting 25 studies and only have 2 be positive against placebo and the rest be negative or fail when challenge other established drugs doesn't show positive results." "Man that really sucks. How much did you spend on developing this drug?" "About $1.3 billion." "Well that's not too bad, you just got NuvaRing (2001, still makes up 22% of their revenue) approved and are making a killing off of it. Likewise you are still making boatloads off of Mirtazapine (1997)." "Well don't tell anyone but we are actually in a major scandal with Medicaid in Massachusetts and Texas where we were defrauding state government," Organanon lamented. "Yikes, that sucks," Fabre-Kramer said, "Hey, why don't I take Gepirone off yours hands. Afterall I originally got it from Bristol-Myers Squibb in 1993 before I sold it to you in 1998." "Aight, bet."
And so Gepirone was handed off to Fabre-Kramer in 2005 so Organanon could write off this whole venture to their shareholders.
Fabre-Kramer started by conducting an additional randomized trial of 238 adult participants who received Gepirone ER for 8 weeks. Results were....the same as before--people who received Gepirone showed a 10 point reduction while the placebo group showed an 8 point reduction. In 2007 this third trial was included and sent over to the FDA for approval (for the 3rd time) and the FDA looked at it and said, "yeah no thanks kid." They said that the positive results from the most recent phase 3 trials was good but the 23 other small trials that showed negative results was troubling.
Fabre-Kramer then pushed up their glasses and pulled up their suspenders a bit and said, "I'd like to appeal that decision" and in 2012 the decision was send to the FDA's Psychopharmacologic Drugs Advisory Committee (PDAC) in Dec 2015. In a 9-4 ruling, the committee voted that Fabre-Kramer smelled funny and they were dummy and that their drug was not good enough. They said they could resubmit another drug application again when they had more data.
Eventually Fabre-Kramer did submit another application in 2022 and Gepirone ER was approved by the FDA for the treatment of Depression in 2023.

If Gepirone was denied so many times, does that mean its a bad drug?

It would be easy to look at Gepirone's story and say that the drug is just not good enough and the pharma companies had to complete multiple trials (and thus generate more data) to prove its efficacy. Truthfully, its a mixed bag and I am going to try to shoot down the middle hear so you can make an informed decision on your own if you want to try Gepirone ER.
The Good
The Bad
Alright, this is where my brain is wanting to stop for now. If I think of additional things to add I will throw them in. Cheers!
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2024.05.16 04:10 MacJones77 Malcolm 'Mac' Jones - Music Is What I Love

"I got all the time in the world, so for now I'm just chillin'" - Mac Miller, "Self Care"

Basic Info

Name: Malcolm Chris Jones
Nickname: Mac
Current Age: 14
Birthday: July 7th
Hometown: (just outside of) Denver, CO
Demigod Conundrum(s): ADHD

Appearance

Height: 5' 8"
Weight: 133 lb.
Skin Tone: Decently tan
Hair Color and Style: Black, curly hair

Notable Relations

Father: Dionysus, age unknown
Adoptive Mother: Anne Jones, age 42
Adoptive Father: Jake Jones, age 43

Personality

"Well, I love the kid. He's my son, of course I love him. He's generally been a kind, optimistic kid who loves the outdoors, although if you ever get him upset, good luck getting back onto his good side. Few more... quirks, if you really want me to talk about them, but let's focus on the positives. He's humble, there's that. I've never seen him take too much credit for his own achievements. He's entranced by music, which I guess is a good thing, but it's almost the only thing he pays attention to. He's really always had a hard time paying attention to things, now that I think about it. But yeah, he's kind, positive, friendly and social, but man does he hold a grudge." - Jake Jones, when asked about Mac, one year ago

Favorite Things

"Well I really enjoyed spending time with my friends. They're basically my heart and soul, we did everything together, until we didn't when I moved away. But finding new ones hasn't been a problem yet." - Mac, discussing what he misses most from his old hometown, six months ago
"Music is the best, for sure. I love my favorite artists, they've brought me to where I am today. Go ask me about some music, I can tell you ANYTHING. Length of an album? I got you. Release year? Already know it. Do I have the vinyl? Obviously." - Mac, when asked what he wanted for dinner, two years ago

Powers, Skills, and Weaknesses

Power Category Power Name Description
Domain Power Escape Artist Proficiency A trait where one is adept at escaping traps, kidnappings, dire situations, and awkward conversations.
Domain Power Plant Communication A trait where one is able to understand plantlife.
Domain Power Soil Manipulation (Edafoskinesis) The ability to control soil.
Godrent Minor Power Acting Proficiency A trait where one is naturally adept in performing, especially in front of crowds.
Godrent Minor Power Alcohol Manipulation (Alcokinesis) The ability to control alcohol both edible and non-edible. This includes the technique of turning alcohols into non-alcoholic beverages.
Godrent Minor Power Big Cat Affinity A trait where big cats are naturally friendly.
Godrent Major Power Plant Manipulation (Chlorokinesis) The ability to control plant life, specifically vines.
Climbing trees: Mac often spent time climbing trees in his day-to-day life, and has naturally become very skilled at it.
Indecisiveness: Mac has been known to be indecisive in many situations, and it has hindered him in both daily life and encounters with monsters.
Impatience: Mac is prone to becoming annoyed whenever inconvenienced by waiting on someone else, despite the hypocrisy of his own indecisiveness.

History

[to be revealed]

Now

Mac had been walking for the last few days, but looking at him you wouldn't realize it. His top, a white shirt paired with a leather jacket, was a bit dirty, but nothing major. His jeans had holes that could have been mistaken for an outdated fashion trend. A backpack was slung over his shoulder, unzipped. It looked like the contents were about to spill out, but Mac either didn't notice, or didn't care. He had a decently full duffle bag that he was struggling to carry, but he tried his best to hide it.
Starting the final stretch of his journey, he looked at the hill, with the gigantic pine tree at the top. This was the spot. As he made it to the top, he turned, and to anyone watching, it would appear he was waving at the trees. He continued his hike up the hill, unaware of the grapevines glowing above his head.
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2024.05.16 04:04 iiSkilledProgram (20M) My mother has told me in the past that my deadbeat father messed up my life. Do I deserve to die at a young age?

I'll try to sum up everything here, but I'm leaning towards "yes", than anything. This could also be a sign of depression, but I don't want to use that word since I don't consider myself as being that.
Anyways, here we go:
1. My father (42M) currently owes anywhere between $25k - $30k in back child support, and it accumulated after him and my mother (47F) separated when I was a toddler.
2. He was not active at all in my upbringing, and he is selfish. In August of last year, he whined to me about being depressed too much, and that he was seeing a therapist to better himself. Then the next month, he tried to pressure my mother to take him off of paying child support, even after he still owes money.
3. My mother holds resentment towards him, and also me for the whole situation. In October 2022, she got drunk at my uncle's birthday dinner, and told him and his fiancé, whom she just met at that dinner, about an argument me and her had four months prior that involved me not liking her manipulative, and a liar of a best friend who was staying with us at the time. Right in front of me! I had to get up from the table, and go down to the basement to basically cry and let out my emotions.
4. The last five years has really shown me a lot about myself, and my situation. When I was a teenager, I had really horrible attitudes towards my mother (which she says I got from my "father"), and she had to bring in her best friend who I mentioned earlier to straighten me out, and make me tougher. They called it "boot camp". It was a rough process, and I could see a bit of a difference, mainly with the attitudes stopping. But overall, I still feel like a weak coward lol.
5. My mother only married my father because she was pregnant with me. After what will be 21 years later in December this year, him and her are still married. She's sent him divorce papers to sign before, but he wouldn't sign them. I don't know what the process is to get a divorce, but I always thought that both parties had to consent to get it.
With all of that being said, I think I do deserve to die at a young age, but I'm just making this post to see if I'm the only one who feels this way. I mean, in all honesty I did mess up my mother's life, as another person online told me lol.
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2024.05.16 03:55 Ok-Carrot7803 Boyfriend won’t propose but has the ring..

Welp, yea title says it all. Me 27F with my bf who is 31M He bought the ring 2 mo. After we found out I was pregnant. I was pretty embarrassed to not at least be engaged while pregnant so I made a comment about not wanting to be titled “bf/gf” while I’m showing and he treated it as if it was a “ no way. We will be engaged by then” type of deal. Fast forward… Our child is 3 months old now. So almost a year after him buying it and stashing it away. No ring. Just had a talk the other day about when we’re getting married and I’m asking if he regrets buying the ring or what? He says he doesn’t and he still wants to marry me and that it’s extremely important to him and his family for us to be married but i just haven’t shown him that I’m worthy enough for it basically. We’ve stated no matter the issues we have, we will work them out for the sake of our son not growing up without both parents the same way I did. I’m Confused why he even bought it in the first place. I know he has bought the ring , during our move I was clearing everything out and found it in his gym bag. Which he doesn’t know I know He said he was going to propose the day we went to the beach for my birthday but that he didn’t b/c I was too cold and wanted to head back to the car after a short amount of time. It’s all bs and I’m fully aware. feel that it’s just being used as a pawn over my head. I know he would tell me if he regretted buying it. He’s not afraid of telling me the hard truth. But it’s gotten to the point where I’ve said I’m not going to continue to do all these wifely duties and raise a child for someone who doesn’t even see me worthy of a ring. I feel like he’s ruined all of the excitement of an engagement for me by telling me he has it, but just doesn’t see me deserving of it yet. I will say that I’ve been pretty on edge with a new baby and I have not been my absolute best towards him but I don’t feel this is right. and I’m confused where to go at this point and i need advice. And not just “leave him” advice. It goes against my values but I’d be lying if i didn’t think about leaving frequently. I don’t want to have a broken family because I know how it feels and I love my son and know how important a father is for a boy. Anyways rant over. Don’t know what to do anymore.
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2024.05.16 03:46 jetta_man I have a 'stable' job, car and my money. But I still find myself in a loop. I can't do it anymore.

(Long AF, please be patient)
Hey people, just found this community and I really need some place to talk with people that understand me (hopefully). Don't worry, I'm not going to end myself or anything (despite the title).
22 M living with my parents. I'm brazilian so the whole "get out when you are 18" isn't a thing around here. My parents are both from the 60's so old fashioned would be an understatement.
Do you people also stay locked in your room form majority of the day? Because I do. I work fully home office in a company so I have the "best" excuse.
My mother ALWAYS was very very controlling. While in school, always wanting to know what I did in class, how was my day, the name of my friends, etc. But ok, that wasn't that bad. When I started college (2020 🤡) she wanted to know everything also. I studied in the morning, they would pick me up because I still didn't had a car license and getting the bus was a "little" dangerous because of, well, 🇧🇷. And they would always say "why you need to stay on the campus?? We are not going to get you in the middle of the afternoon because of traffic" or some BS. Then came the pandemic, only got worse. My father on the political side, denying the vaccines, my mother completely paranoid with the virus (kinda of understandable) and my sister who married and got out of the house a few years back debating 24/7 with my dad because she is from the health area.
Always that I do something out of the ordinary she just makes as I've killed a person. Such drama. Now I just said to her I'm traveling with my GF to a nearby city and she went "OMG We can't catch a break, when we think everything is OK you do this" and just shut her face off as someone in the family just died or something. And yes, she refers to herself as "we". No, she isn't non binary or anything, I just think she has such a weak mind that can't say "I don't like it".
Why? Because she says the road is dangerous to there (it isn't). Bro I have my license for almost 3 years now, and rode about 30.000Km and a few trips with different cars. I know how to handle myself. She doesn't trust me. She doesn't like if I do anything that she doesn't agree or think "is right". She asks me constantly about my GF and her family, my friends, my coworkers, EVERYTHING. You know why? Because if I say to her "Xavier likes coffee". If I ever say something "Xavier brought his tea bottle today" MONTHS later she will say "what, I was thinking Xavier only liked coffe?"
I have the feeling she wants to know where single thing so she always has something to spit on my face and tell me I'm wrong. Bro, on her BIRTHDAY, we went to a restaurant and I ordered some fried shrimp (the price of regular two plates) because we like as a family but my parents love sea food. I paid it. I'm not kidding, she went about 3 weeks saying stuff like "...I have a rich son that work's at ____" because I bought some shrimp.Just because one time I got my GF to some nice restaurants she does the same. As if I was paying 1000$ per plate. And she talks with so much irony that honestly, doesn't even make me mad anymore. Just sad.
The problem is: I can't go out. I can't get out of my house. The car is mine but if I wanted to sell it to have some cash to start financing a home (don't want to because the car is one of the only forms of freedom I have) I can't. Because the car "is mine". The documents are on my name but you know how it is. They paid for it, it's theirs. Even if legally speaking isn't. Housing is so fucking expensive. Even the first payment (we call it here "Entrada") generally speaking is 20% of the total value of the house, then you finance it for 15,20,30 years depending on your situation). And yes, you can pay that years and years before 30.
The thing is, 20% for a house nowadays in my city in around 50K (300K apartment). My wage is 2,5K/month. How on earth can I do this? Simple, I can't. The only cheaper alternatives are on another cities which is a problem because of my university and job (hybrid).
So here I am, wanting love from my parents, wanting to love them but I can't. My dad is awesome for fixing my car, fixing things around the house, helping me with cosplays. My mom cooks like a chef, I'm little sick now and she went to the market I bought the ingredients that I like for today. But man, that emotional hole, hurts so much.
Yes, their love language is acts of service (both) towards me and my sister but you know, that doesn't compensate. I would rather have a "less loving family" for a more compressible and engaged. In the pandemic I wanted a drumkit, a distant dream. My father built a fucking soundproof studio inside my bedroom and bought me a used drumkit. Best dad ever right?
Yeah, but he also complains about the noise to the neighbors every time that I played and said I could only play until 6pm. Bro the studio is literally SOUNDPROOF. You can only hear a faint sound in the kitchen (right below) because the floor isn't as well isolated. The problem isn't the neighbour. The problem is that they know I'm playing so that troubles them.
My mom said to me "Why won't you sell this drum? You don't even play anymore" well because I'm fucking depressed that's why. She could so much say to me "look, you look sad, why won't you go and play a little? Might cheer you up" or something. Boy I would kill to get this type of love from them.
Everything became "formal". You know, I don't think they love me anymore. They treat me as I was an enemy that wants to spend all my money on futile shit and think the world is all sugar and rainbows. I can't even fake an I love you.
I saw a very pretty quote on Instagram about being a dad, a nice text to send to your old man. But I simply can't. I can't. I want so much because I know they'll be gone "soon" and I want to have pictures. Learn recipes, more about cars and motorcycles. But everything I do is wrong, I'm a dumbass, I'm spending money just on wrong things.
Bro, I wanted freedom. They stared giving me guilt trips.
I didn't want no contact with them, just wanted "go traveling son, go search the unknown, if it ever goes south, you have where to return". No. All they do is shame me for it.
I wanted to do my birthday with my friends in my house. My mom said no. Bro??? But she says going out is "expensive" so How the fuck am I supposed to act?
Sorry for the venting guys, I used the support flair because I hope someone reads this and can identify, and teach me something.
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2024.05.16 03:16 thescape-goat Worst birthday ever!

hashtag fatherless behavior
life honestly sucks with a dad you have nothing in common with. it isn’t worth it. My father isn’t exactly present anyway and I’ve never had someone to teach me the basics a father would teach. I guess you could say I have “daddy issues” or whatever. I’m not good at a lot of things, I tend to get distant when I’m mad and I’m trying to overcome it. As weird as it sounds I feel a father figure would fix all my problems. But I don’t have that. I have a miserable mother that is the entire reason I don’t have a father to look up to. “fatherless” jokes really aren’t funny at all. And as much as I hate it I feel like I’m age regressing. All I want is to be a little girl with a father again but that will never happen. My birthday is soon and I hate growing up. I’ll probably be dead by the time my birthday comes around and for good reason. No one needs a shitty person like me around. My birthday is in three hours i cant do this anymore. i have no one too spend it with, this is my first birthday i have to spend without my grandmother. How can i be surrounded by people yet feel so lonely? Too many memories and thoughts are coming back at the worse time and it hurts. Im missing so many people right now its not even funny. Its been a year since my grandmother has died and everytime i think of her all i can see is her dead body on the kitchen floor covered in a blanket. I begged them not to take her body but they had too. I cant hug anyone without remembering how it felt to hug her dead body and feel the blood that collected at her back and how weird it felt, i cant look at my mother without seeing her scream and cry manically in the parking lot. I couldnt even let her drive that day. My stepdad had to as she cried in my arms in the backseat. Speaking of my mother. She keeps trying to make my birthday a big deal. She wants this big party. I cant. Every birthday ive had i think of the grandmother that died on my birthday a few years back and i didnt kniw until my brothers birthday, and now i cant be greeted by a back massage and chamomile tea by my bunica. I miss her voice, and i hate myself that im forgetting what it sounds like.
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2024.05.16 03:00 Stregoica72 Is it normal to feel so lost all the time?

Hey y'all 😊✌🏿! I hope you're all doing well.
I'm approaching my 29th birthday soon and I honestly have no idea what I'm doing 😅. I've always known that I wanted to perform, so I learned a bunch of instruments and went to Uni for theatre performance. While I was in school, my mother, step father, and best friend all passed away in a matter of 8 months and I've been lost ever since. I moved back to my home town thinking that being with family would help, but I'm miserable here. I feel obligated to stay because that's what my mom wanted, but I don't want to be here. Having said that, I don't know where to go and I have no guidance. Is it normal to feel this way? Because I feel like a disaster.
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2024.05.16 02:32 R0s4lynn My crush likes someone else

 I’ve been texting my crush through solely Instagram dms for almost 5 months now (I’ve known him longer but we’ve always texted on-and-off, this is the first time we’ve been texting consistently). I’ve liked him for a while now so I always put in a lot of effort into our conversations, even when he was extremely dry. Like, I’ve had to pull topics out of my ass to his “hahhahaha” and “yes” replies. This and the fact that he’s made being a member of the WMSCOG church the center of his life didn’t discourage me even though it’s been really frustrating. (The WMSCOG thing could honestly be a whole post itself, but basically he’s been a member for about a year now and he spends essentially most of the week there. He goes to church before school everyday, he goes after school, and on weekends. And when we have school breaks, he spends the whole week there. I bet he’d sleep there if he can. He said he just studies the bible diligently when he’s there. Oh, and let’s not forget this church believes that a living Korean woman is “God the Mother” and a deceased Korean man was the second coming of Christ. I’ve tried being as respectful as possible, and I always listen to him when he talks about the church because I can tell it makes him really happy. But it’s taken up his whole life now. ) Anyway, a few days ago I thought that finally something had happened - he had finally showed interest in my dating life. However, looking back I can tell he just wanted to bring up the topic of his crush up to me. He told me he’s liked her for 6 months now. Bro went as far as saying he loves her and she’s very pretty, but he can’t date her because of the church (I suppose the church doesn’t let members date amongst each other). He likes her a lot, a lot. The day he told me this was the day of my best friend’s birthday and I was out with friends celebrating, and it really did break me inside but I had to keep a cheerful face. I guess I can’t be mad because I never told him I like him and he liked her since a month before we started texting more. I thought I was being obvious though, and now I just feel so pathetic for all the silly things I did just for him (posting myself or stuff directed at him on my story). I do appreciate my friendship with him, though. We have a good and trusting dynamic, but obviously I want more. I just don’t know what to do now. I respect him and his crush, but we still are only in high school. Is there anything I can do for him to potentially like me? I know at the end of the day feelings don’t always change, but I don’t want to give up just yet. 
P. S. Apologies for this being all over the place. I just wanted to talk about this so badly, but I can offer any clarifications if asked.
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