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2024.05.29 06:17 Public_Practice_1336 It has happened. Now what?
So I've only been separated for 4 months and it has been made clear she wants a divorce. At first she was no contact remaining under the same roof in another room. She brought me papers and when she did talk it was just nasty with threats galore. Fast forward to now, she has texted me multiple times and even called about kids stuff. She has sent me reels. We discussed transportation. She has said nice and mean things through text once she opened up. Yesterday she messaged asking if my therapist will see both of us for a "couples" session (not in her words). That was out of nowhere and I have been a nervous wreck. Like why does she want to come in? Does she want to tell my therapist whatever I'm saying isn't true? That these are my real issues? That I need to work on this set of things the most? Everytime I get a text or call and her name appears my insides tense up almost like flinching and starts to shake and becomes kind of difficult to breathe. This intense fear where I almost freeze overcomes me for a few moments.
How do you all go about knowing what to do after separation/divorce? Like part of me wants a companion for life and the other part of me is heartbroken and wants nothing to do with that. Like she has my heart and I don't think I could give it to anyone else. The effort to try again doesn't seem worth it at the moment. It's hard telling your heart to stop loving someone and also your mind to stop trying to do stuff you know will only hurt worse before healing. How do you know what healing feels like? How do you know if that hookup idea just to see what it's like again is going to do more harm than good?
Right now my focus is on getting better, moving on, and being the best parent I can to my 4 kids. They're the most important thing now and not screwing them up. I would be extremely selective if I ever decided to date again. I don't think I can. I wish I was a POS so that I could do these unhealthy coping mechanisms I hear others do, but I can't. Therapy helps, books help, and I'm moving forward with my wants and needs. I just don't understand any of this honestly. 18 years married and 20 together. I don't wish this on my worst enemy. Any advice? Tips? Podcasts? Books? Etc. you may have found helpful in the next steps or what to do and not to do? I've been getting out in nature, listening to music, processing feelings/emotions, biking, and occasionally writing. I like to quiet my mind when possible and just calm my nervous system when possible. I know I'm not perfect and I contributed to whatever happened.
Thanks.
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How do you all go about knowing what to do after separation/divorce? Like part of me wants a companion for life and the other part of me is heartbroken and wants nothing to do with that. Like she has my heart and I don't think I could give it to anyone else. The effort to try again doesn't seem worth it at the moment. It's hard telling your heart to stop loving someone and also your mind to stop trying to do stuff you know will only hurt worse before healing. How do you know what healing feels like? How do you know if that hookup idea just to see what it's like again is going to do more harm than good?
Right now my focus is on getting better, moving on, and being the best parent I can to my 4 kids. They're the most important thing now and not screwing them up. I would be extremely selective if I ever decided to date again. I don't think I can. I wish I was a POS so that I could do these unhealthy coping mechanisms I hear others do, but I can't. Therapy helps, books help, and I'm moving forward with my wants and needs. I just don't understand any of this honestly. 18 years married and 20 together. I don't wish this on my worst enemy. Any advice? Tips? Podcasts? Books? Etc. you may have found helpful in the next steps or what to do and not to do? I've been getting out in nature, listening to music, processing feelings/emotions, biking, and occasionally writing. I like to quiet my mind when possible and just calm my nervous system when possible. I know I'm not perfect and I contributed to whatever happened.
Thanks.
2024.05.29 06:12 EspeonLeafeon77 Peace order in Maryland
Hello everyone,
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I am trying to get some advice on a situation I have going on. It’s a long story, so please forgive me I will try to make it as short as possible. My grandmother passed away in January. She left everything to me in the will. I am also the guardian of my uncle now who is severely handicapped. Her house was left to me to sell to be able to care for him. Before she died she was in the process of evicting my mother and her boyfriend. Once she died I went through with the eviction. Even gave them a couple extra months and a car. My mom also had an extreme risk protective order served on her for threatening to kill herself and anyone who came onto the property. This made her boyfriend angry who began texting me saying he was going to buy her more guns. At the eviction, he put multiple guns in his car and pointed to a bulge on his hip and told me and the constables he had a .44 and wasn’t afraid to use it. Since then I have gotten texts from him saying he is going to make things up about me in hopes that I get killed. He has threatened to get me charged with grand theft auto. I’m not really worried about that stuff. My issue is he has been coming back to the house. He stole the BGE meter. Has been stealing mail. Going through sheds. I set up cameras to catch him stealing mail, being on the property, riding up and down our dead end street (my house is on the end), and walking through the yard. I went on vacation this weekend and someone shot through my house and destroyed the mailbox. I know it was him, but the police say he hid in the bushes to do it and my camera didn’t pick it up. They were able to find the bullet in the house and have been telling me I need to go get a peace order. That way if he comes back on the property they can arrest him. My lawyer says I don’t have proof of any of this and it won’t work. I am going to the courthouse tomorrow and very nervous and could use some advice. For some background info, he has an extensive record dating back atleast 30 years, was in prison for 18months, assault/DV charges, and is a convicted felon. Do I have a case here? I am also worried about doing this and making him more mad. But the police are telling me one thing while my lawyer says another.If you took the time to read all this thank you! Very sorry it’s so much.
2024.05.29 06:04 moonlit_peaches Feeling unsure about a project I was casting into
About a month ago I was recommended to message a friend’s friend about their project, I was a bit skeptical since I hadn’t heard of this person before but I shot them a request and we started talking. Asked them about the project, sent them my demo reel, got the lines to start recording the same day. Thats when I find out the person is working on a production contract to get this made into a series, I kinda freaked out because I didn’t think this is something that would be happening so soon, maybe that’s why I’m kinda freaked out? A week goes by, and the project host messages me saying, “Hey I’m sorry I’ve been really busy, I promise I didn’t forget about you.” I tell him no worries and things happens. That was on the fourth of May, it’s now the 28th. My friend messaged me a couple times throughout the month to let me know that the project was moving forward, his friend liked my VA work on the project, the lines are being worked on, etc. Cool, but why isn’t the host of the project telling me this? I don’t mind that it’s my friend keeping me up to date, I just find it strange that the host isn’t the one telling me? Idk maybe I’m just being over paranoid, I could really use some help, I’m having trouble thinking about this properly and it’s been making me nervous.
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2024.05.29 05:50 its_me_pg_99 3 FINRA and 2 NASAA Tests taken down in 5 months. You can do it too!
Hi everyone,
I'm a brand-new brokeinvestment adviser rep just starting out, and having gone through multiple exams and passing them all on the first try, I thought I'd give my 2 cents on how you can pass them, hopefully in a quicker time than me! I'll go through each test and my personal experience, then I'll explain the methods I actually used and how you can customize them to your needs.
SIE - I literally had zero experience in the securities industry when I started studying. I wasn't sure what to think after the first lesson, but I found it interesting! It took me a little over 2 months to prepare (I used Kaplan for all my tests). I studied for about 2.5 to 3 hours each day, and made sure to take plenty of notes. I found the real test was actually easier than the Final and Mastery Exams. Lots of questions of options, the primary/secondary markets, investment companies and the Acts; overall a good mix.
Series 6 - Immediately started prepping the day after passing the SIE; passed it about a month later. Suitability was the key point of emphasis; I memorized the suitability chart that they gave in the textbook and that helped a ton. Real test had a lot more scenario based questions asking you to pick the right type of investment for a customer. Tbh I was feeling a little nervous for this one since I had failed the second Mastery Exam, and this was three days before my test date. The key difference between this one and the SIE was that the latter had a broad amount of material, while the 6 asked you how products actually worked. I'd say this was the second hardest for me.
Series 63 - Again, started prepping the day after passing the 6. I'm being 100% honest here, it was almost pure memorization. I memorized the exempt transactions/securities, as well as the exemptions and exclusions for broker-dealers, agents, investment advisers, and investment adviser reps by writing them down over and over again (on my laptop to save trees lol). Also, knowing the legal terms was key, because this was a state law exam by NASAA (so don't confuse their rules with FINRA's). The Mastery Exams were a breeze, and the real test was definitely the easiest out of the bunch for me.
Series 26 - Here's where things start to get tougher. The info that I'd learned from the SIE and 6 (they're prerequisites for this one) came back to me, and I had to remember that it was important to look at it from a supervisor's POV, because a lot of questions were going to be based on this (i.e. "A rep commits X, what should the principal do to handle this situation?") The material itself was stuff that had already been drilled into me, but being a 110-question test, I had to time myself to keep pace on the practice tests. On the actual test, I was able to answer all the questions within 2 hours, and that gave me enough time to do a second-run through. Not too bad all in all; for me it was a tad bit easier than the SIE.
Series 65 - Oh boy. Let me tell you guys something that'll save you a ton of headaches later on: DO. NOT. TAKE. THIS. TEST. LIGHTLY. I just passed it last week, and if it hadn't been for the countless hours of studying I'd put in, I most likely would've failed. This literally had all of the material from the previous tests, including the entirety of the 63. On top of that, it also had federal laws that needed to be recognized from the state-level ones. The Kaplan course had 24 units to cover all the material, and a little over 4200 QBank questions. A huge mistake I made was not using all of them up. After taking the 2nd Mastery and all of the practice tests, I had answered around 3000 questions. After some debating on whether I should study some more or schedule, although I was still shaky in a few areas, I decided to go for it. The real test started out easy, and by questions 30-40, I was feeling like I might fail. But I stayed calm and focused on doing my best. I was super grateful for knowing those formulas, as a couple of questions didn't ask for calculations, but simply what they were. The ones that did ask to calculate tripped me up a bit, but I made my best picks/guesses. After answering all the questions with about 50 minutes left, I changed 2 answers; one because I didn't read the question properly and the other because I found another question that helped to answer. As you can imagine, this test was easily the toughest out of them all. I was more than thankful to see that "Pass" appear after clicking "Submit".
So there's my story! Sorry for the long paragraph on the 65; I actually cut out some more sentences to try and shorten it as much as possible. To cap everything off, I'll go through the main strategies I used, and how you can customize them to your will (Although I used Kaplan, they can probably work for other programs as well).
1) Do many practice tests. After each practice test, read the explanations throughly. Understand why you got the question right or wrong. The real test will almost certainly have different wording than the prep course you're using, so understanding the concept allows you to answer correctly regardless of how the question is asked. When I was using the QBank questions, I made sure to set the custom quiz to pull unused questions from the pool, so I didn't know what would appear next.
2) Make acronyms/phrases. They can be about absolutely anything (a movie, a life experience, etc). Anything that you can connect a group of bullet points or a concept to make it easier to remember is a good thing. For instance, I was having trouble with SEP IRAs, and it kept mentioning that only the employer contributes to this type of IRA. So to help me remember, I made the phrase "Solely Employer Puts In" (the first letter of each word makes SEP and I for IRA). Any silly way to hammer that point in means you won't forget come test time.
3) Record yourself saying concepts and phrases, and put it on loop. I started doing this a bit for the 26, and a LOT for the 65. Try to say what you want to say in a minute or less (absolute max of 1min30s). Once you put your recording on loop, you can listen to it over and over again, and this actually forces the info into your brain without you having to think or work too much. After listening to each recording however many times you like, try to write down what you heard. If you can't remember, just keep playing the recording until you've got it memorized.
4) Watch YouTube videos. Please be careful with this one, and make sure you use videos that are up to date (some videos were created years ago and thus pieces of info may not be current). Series7Guru with Dean and PassMasters with Suzy Rhoades are two excellent channels to look into. You never know, these videos may just help you snag an easy point or two on your real test ;)
If you're still here after getting through this humongous post, I wish you best of luck in not just your tests, but your future careers! Take care!
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I'm a brand-new brokeinvestment adviser rep just starting out, and having gone through multiple exams and passing them all on the first try, I thought I'd give my 2 cents on how you can pass them, hopefully in a quicker time than me! I'll go through each test and my personal experience, then I'll explain the methods I actually used and how you can customize them to your needs.
SIE - I literally had zero experience in the securities industry when I started studying. I wasn't sure what to think after the first lesson, but I found it interesting! It took me a little over 2 months to prepare (I used Kaplan for all my tests). I studied for about 2.5 to 3 hours each day, and made sure to take plenty of notes. I found the real test was actually easier than the Final and Mastery Exams. Lots of questions of options, the primary/secondary markets, investment companies and the Acts; overall a good mix.
Series 6 - Immediately started prepping the day after passing the SIE; passed it about a month later. Suitability was the key point of emphasis; I memorized the suitability chart that they gave in the textbook and that helped a ton. Real test had a lot more scenario based questions asking you to pick the right type of investment for a customer. Tbh I was feeling a little nervous for this one since I had failed the second Mastery Exam, and this was three days before my test date. The key difference between this one and the SIE was that the latter had a broad amount of material, while the 6 asked you how products actually worked. I'd say this was the second hardest for me.
Series 63 - Again, started prepping the day after passing the 6. I'm being 100% honest here, it was almost pure memorization. I memorized the exempt transactions/securities, as well as the exemptions and exclusions for broker-dealers, agents, investment advisers, and investment adviser reps by writing them down over and over again (on my laptop to save trees lol). Also, knowing the legal terms was key, because this was a state law exam by NASAA (so don't confuse their rules with FINRA's). The Mastery Exams were a breeze, and the real test was definitely the easiest out of the bunch for me.
Series 26 - Here's where things start to get tougher. The info that I'd learned from the SIE and 6 (they're prerequisites for this one) came back to me, and I had to remember that it was important to look at it from a supervisor's POV, because a lot of questions were going to be based on this (i.e. "A rep commits X, what should the principal do to handle this situation?") The material itself was stuff that had already been drilled into me, but being a 110-question test, I had to time myself to keep pace on the practice tests. On the actual test, I was able to answer all the questions within 2 hours, and that gave me enough time to do a second-run through. Not too bad all in all; for me it was a tad bit easier than the SIE.
Series 65 - Oh boy. Let me tell you guys something that'll save you a ton of headaches later on: DO. NOT. TAKE. THIS. TEST. LIGHTLY. I just passed it last week, and if it hadn't been for the countless hours of studying I'd put in, I most likely would've failed. This literally had all of the material from the previous tests, including the entirety of the 63. On top of that, it also had federal laws that needed to be recognized from the state-level ones. The Kaplan course had 24 units to cover all the material, and a little over 4200 QBank questions. A huge mistake I made was not using all of them up. After taking the 2nd Mastery and all of the practice tests, I had answered around 3000 questions. After some debating on whether I should study some more or schedule, although I was still shaky in a few areas, I decided to go for it. The real test started out easy, and by questions 30-40, I was feeling like I might fail. But I stayed calm and focused on doing my best. I was super grateful for knowing those formulas, as a couple of questions didn't ask for calculations, but simply what they were. The ones that did ask to calculate tripped me up a bit, but I made my best picks/guesses. After answering all the questions with about 50 minutes left, I changed 2 answers; one because I didn't read the question properly and the other because I found another question that helped to answer. As you can imagine, this test was easily the toughest out of them all. I was more than thankful to see that "Pass" appear after clicking "Submit".
So there's my story! Sorry for the long paragraph on the 65; I actually cut out some more sentences to try and shorten it as much as possible. To cap everything off, I'll go through the main strategies I used, and how you can customize them to your will (Although I used Kaplan, they can probably work for other programs as well).
1) Do many practice tests. After each practice test, read the explanations throughly. Understand why you got the question right or wrong. The real test will almost certainly have different wording than the prep course you're using, so understanding the concept allows you to answer correctly regardless of how the question is asked. When I was using the QBank questions, I made sure to set the custom quiz to pull unused questions from the pool, so I didn't know what would appear next.
2) Make acronyms/phrases. They can be about absolutely anything (a movie, a life experience, etc). Anything that you can connect a group of bullet points or a concept to make it easier to remember is a good thing. For instance, I was having trouble with SEP IRAs, and it kept mentioning that only the employer contributes to this type of IRA. So to help me remember, I made the phrase "Solely Employer Puts In" (the first letter of each word makes SEP and I for IRA). Any silly way to hammer that point in means you won't forget come test time.
3) Record yourself saying concepts and phrases, and put it on loop. I started doing this a bit for the 26, and a LOT for the 65. Try to say what you want to say in a minute or less (absolute max of 1min30s). Once you put your recording on loop, you can listen to it over and over again, and this actually forces the info into your brain without you having to think or work too much. After listening to each recording however many times you like, try to write down what you heard. If you can't remember, just keep playing the recording until you've got it memorized.
4) Watch YouTube videos. Please be careful with this one, and make sure you use videos that are up to date (some videos were created years ago and thus pieces of info may not be current). Series7Guru with Dean and PassMasters with Suzy Rhoades are two excellent channels to look into. You never know, these videos may just help you snag an easy point or two on your real test ;)
If you're still here after getting through this humongous post, I wish you best of luck in not just your tests, but your future careers! Take care!
2024.05.29 05:48 exasperatedbean Genital HSV-1 First Outbreak and Disclosing Experience
Hey y’all, 25F here. I’m new to the club as I just received my test results a few hours ago, positive for genital HSV-1, and I just want to share my experience so far as I’m on around day (10?) of my first outbreak.
First of all, I’ve definitely cried a few times this last week along with frantically googling, dealing with these awful symptoms, pretending everything is okay at my day job followed by coming home and experiencing intense anxiety (which can be triggered by medical issues).
I suspected it was HSV, but just didn’t want to believe it especially because I’ve come out of a 5 year with an abusive alcoholic ex who cheated on me so I’m new to the dating world and dating is hard enough without having to disclose good ole genital herpes. Haven’t I been through enough? I’m not sure if I got it from my ex, new guy I’m seeing (said he’s clean that he’s aware of and I never saw a physical outbreak on him), or if it’s something I got from a previous partner and it laid dormant for so long. Who knows, who cares at this point I guess.
I started by feeling a small bump on my inner butt crack which I chalked up to a razor bump. Within a few days, 3-4 more sores popped up and these were all of my symptoms over the course of about a week after noticing the sores: swollen lymph node and slightly sore throat for first couple of days, chills, sweats, burning pee like razor blades, nerve pain throughout lower half of my body (especially my feet), a dull ache in my genitals/surrounding area, burning/itching sores, random tingling, and the worst constipation I’ve ever experienced which is now the main symptom I’m dealing with as I think I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel for this first outbreak. My doctor prescribed Valtrex as a precaution while I waited for test results and my sores are almost healed up.
Anyway, I’ve been seeing this man for close to two months now, officially dating and exclusive the last couple of weeks so this is VERY fresh. Everything is going damn near perfect with us and I know we both have very strong feelings for each other and are interested in a future together, but with all good has to come bad (aka disclosing my HSV-1 status). I absolutely dreaded this conversation but knew it had to be had since I was symptomatic, we recently had sex right before my outbreak, and I was awaiting test results.
Luckily, he was so incredibly understanding. Of course he said it was a lot to take in at first which I understood. I am so grateful that he responded by basically saying it’s a bump in the road that we’ll get through together, we’ll monitor my symptoms, and it would be silly to jeopardize what we have that’s so special over something like this that I couldn’t control. So sharing my experience to show that not all disclosing experiences are horrifying, and I hope you all find the person that chooses to love you through this. And if not, then fucking love yourself.
With that, I still am an anxious mess about how to move forward and about the effects long-term so if anyone has any good research on that I’d be more than interested since I know it affects the nervous system. Obviously having a script of anti-virals on hand if I start to suspect an outbreak is a good idea but any and all advice, tips for dealing with the above symptoms, etc. would be appreciated. Peace and love to everyone reading.
TLDR; Genital HSV-1 Positive, having a lot of random and shitty symptoms, disclosed to my partner with a good response, and asking for advice/tips/tricks to manage symptoms.
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First of all, I’ve definitely cried a few times this last week along with frantically googling, dealing with these awful symptoms, pretending everything is okay at my day job followed by coming home and experiencing intense anxiety (which can be triggered by medical issues).
I suspected it was HSV, but just didn’t want to believe it especially because I’ve come out of a 5 year with an abusive alcoholic ex who cheated on me so I’m new to the dating world and dating is hard enough without having to disclose good ole genital herpes. Haven’t I been through enough? I’m not sure if I got it from my ex, new guy I’m seeing (said he’s clean that he’s aware of and I never saw a physical outbreak on him), or if it’s something I got from a previous partner and it laid dormant for so long. Who knows, who cares at this point I guess.
I started by feeling a small bump on my inner butt crack which I chalked up to a razor bump. Within a few days, 3-4 more sores popped up and these were all of my symptoms over the course of about a week after noticing the sores: swollen lymph node and slightly sore throat for first couple of days, chills, sweats, burning pee like razor blades, nerve pain throughout lower half of my body (especially my feet), a dull ache in my genitals/surrounding area, burning/itching sores, random tingling, and the worst constipation I’ve ever experienced which is now the main symptom I’m dealing with as I think I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel for this first outbreak. My doctor prescribed Valtrex as a precaution while I waited for test results and my sores are almost healed up.
Anyway, I’ve been seeing this man for close to two months now, officially dating and exclusive the last couple of weeks so this is VERY fresh. Everything is going damn near perfect with us and I know we both have very strong feelings for each other and are interested in a future together, but with all good has to come bad (aka disclosing my HSV-1 status). I absolutely dreaded this conversation but knew it had to be had since I was symptomatic, we recently had sex right before my outbreak, and I was awaiting test results.
Luckily, he was so incredibly understanding. Of course he said it was a lot to take in at first which I understood. I am so grateful that he responded by basically saying it’s a bump in the road that we’ll get through together, we’ll monitor my symptoms, and it would be silly to jeopardize what we have that’s so special over something like this that I couldn’t control. So sharing my experience to show that not all disclosing experiences are horrifying, and I hope you all find the person that chooses to love you through this. And if not, then fucking love yourself.
With that, I still am an anxious mess about how to move forward and about the effects long-term so if anyone has any good research on that I’d be more than interested since I know it affects the nervous system. Obviously having a script of anti-virals on hand if I start to suspect an outbreak is a good idea but any and all advice, tips for dealing with the above symptoms, etc. would be appreciated. Peace and love to everyone reading.
TLDR; Genital HSV-1 Positive, having a lot of random and shitty symptoms, disclosed to my partner with a good response, and asking for advice/tips/tricks to manage symptoms.
2024.05.29 05:44 ThrowRA-GumaGuma Is it wrong for me to want to talk less with my girlfriend?
Now I don't mean not talking about important things like issues with a relationship or asking if we're alright after something bad happened etc etc.
I'm talking about trying to keep a conversation going for as long as possible and when that one ends they try to (almost) immediately start a new one just to continue conversation. Is it wrong for me to think that I don't like/want that in a relationship?
For context: My GF (27F) and me (24M) have a long distance relationship together where we both live across the country so in-person visits are very difficult. As a result we talk to each other via text or call but mainly text. She has a ton of anxiety and almost always feels nervous about our relationship, if I love her, and if other people hate her. (Basically she is socially paranoid 24/7)
While at first I had a load of time to talk with her and would respond as quickly as possible and try to respond to everything she would send but as the relationship went on I just started to feel really fatigued about it. Since we first met through friends in an MMO we mainly just had conversations in-game and then started having them through text (mind you we continued conversations after logging off). After we started dating and I was taking a break from games, we continued to talk through text and call. As time goes on it seems like the only thing my gf can do to really entertain herself is talk to me. She texts me in the morning and sends me a bunch of funny images and the like. When we're working she'll send me more images and have conversations during her break. After work she send me more texts and images. At night she wants conversations and will continue to chat with me until its almost 5 AM unless I break it off first.
If a conversation ends or there's not much left to talk about, less than 10 minutes later she sends me a twitter post or image (if not several). The same thing happens with regular conversations too.
After I started gaming again, even if we talked in the morning for an hour or two as well as the afternoon, she'll log on and try to find me and start another conversation in game if I'm also online until I decide to log off or do something else.
TL;DR for the the above section: My gf wants to talk with me all the time unless I stop talking first or she has an important matter where she can't text me
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I feel very confused and my brain is telling me its wrong to not want to talk with her, especially when I wanna just game alone to recuperate after a long day. I can't tell her that I had a long day or that I don't wanna talk because I know for a fact that she'll then get sad/depressed about it even if she says its ok.
I understand that for some relationships, texting all the time, texting all day, and being excited for it is the norm but I've been learning that I just don't really enjoy that kind of experience. Is that wrong for me to think?
I want to bring this up with her but I worry that it'll make her spiral into a panic attack because she'll assume I don't want to talk to her because I don't love her as much anymore. (And yes I assume this because it has happened before and I wasn't even the one who was talking to her)
This isn't also me saying I don't like her or anything, I really enjoy her company and love how much we share in common together but I just am not good with the level of texting and conversation she wants from me.
tbh idk where I'm going with all this, I feel like I'm just ranting but I'm just feeling fatigued from conversation.
TL;DR for the entire post: I love my gf but she texts and messages me so much from morning to night that I just feel so fatigued from it. I want to have less communication overall in the relationship but I feel wrong for thinking so.
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I'm talking about trying to keep a conversation going for as long as possible and when that one ends they try to (almost) immediately start a new one just to continue conversation. Is it wrong for me to think that I don't like/want that in a relationship?
While at first I had a load of time to talk with her and would respond as quickly as possible and try to respond to everything she would send but as the relationship went on I just started to feel really fatigued about it. Since we first met through friends in an MMO we mainly just had conversations in-game and then started having them through text (mind you we continued conversations after logging off). After we started dating and I was taking a break from games, we continued to talk through text and call. As time goes on it seems like the only thing my gf can do to really entertain herself is talk to me. She texts me in the morning and sends me a bunch of funny images and the like. When we're working she'll send me more images and have conversations during her break. After work she send me more texts and images. At night she wants conversations and will continue to chat with me until its almost 5 AM unless I break it off first.
If a conversation ends or there's not much left to talk about, less than 10 minutes later she sends me a twitter post or image (if not several). The same thing happens with regular conversations too.
After I started gaming again, even if we talked in the morning for an hour or two as well as the afternoon, she'll log on and try to find me and start another conversation in game if I'm also online until I decide to log off or do something else.
TL;DR for the the above section: My gf wants to talk with me all the time unless I stop talking first or she has an important matter where she can't text me
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I feel very confused and my brain is telling me its wrong to not want to talk with her, especially when I wanna just game alone to recuperate after a long day. I can't tell her that I had a long day or that I don't wanna talk because I know for a fact that she'll then get sad/depressed about it even if she says its ok.
I understand that for some relationships, texting all the time, texting all day, and being excited for it is the norm but I've been learning that I just don't really enjoy that kind of experience. Is that wrong for me to think?
I want to bring this up with her but I worry that it'll make her spiral into a panic attack because she'll assume I don't want to talk to her because I don't love her as much anymore. (And yes I assume this because it has happened before and I wasn't even the one who was talking to her)
This isn't also me saying I don't like her or anything, I really enjoy her company and love how much we share in common together but I just am not good with the level of texting and conversation she wants from me.
tbh idk where I'm going with all this, I feel like I'm just ranting but I'm just feeling fatigued from conversation.
2024.05.29 05:31 QuietAffectionate498 I’m a depressed ISFJ. Which type do I sound as though I superficially appear the most like?
My primary fears, since I was about ten, have been that I will end up in a position in life wherein I am financially unstable, and that I am “useless.” When I say “useless,” I mean a member of society who has nothing of value to contribute… though as I’ve grown older, I’ve realized that this is actually a very unhealthy mindset. When I was younger, I used to look down on people who seemed very calm and relaxed, because I somehow thought it meant that they weren’t hardworking. Now that I’m an adult, I actually understand that it’s healthiest to be able to relax sometimes, but even then, I struggle when I have a break from work and school like I do this week because I think it makes me stop and think about how boring I arguably am. I mean, I suppose that I’m not boring because in my opinion no one really is - everyone has something they can teach you, everyone is more interesting than they may initially seem to be - but at the exact same time, I just mean that I somehow feel like I’m not doing things.
I watch films and television when I’m off school and work, and am finishing “Carrie” by Stephen king (I’ve been reading it for too long, been slacking on finishing it because I’ve been busy with school and work.) But I want to pick up a hobby, to learn something new. I feel now that we are 4 days into this break like I’m going crazy and I need some kind of change, but I’m also afraid to change my schedule too much, especially since when my job returns from this break there will already be a fair amount of change. I’m very tired and always am because of my awful sleeping schedule but haven’t fully fixed it and won’t just let my body take a nap even though I know I should. I’m tired of just watching films and tv on my breaks. I should teach myself something, pick up a new hobby, but I know I probably won’t. I have depression+anxiety+PTSD, I’m an ISFJ.
On Friday, I negotiated my salary with my employer. I had realized earlier this week after my employers sat me down and told me, in short, that my job responsibilities will increase that as an educator, I am underpaid ($17/hr.) I was nervous about it the day before even though I’d been feeling upset (I remember the term that had continuously come into mind was “disrespected,”) and requested the input of my coworkers.
I remember I had been steadily growing more and more agitated when my employers hadn’t set a date to discuss it, although I explained my reasoning to her as I had planned to (I was initially nervous and was actually partly frustrated, even though I knew they were busy with planning end of the year events, because I thought they would say no.) I was wrong. I provided $20 as the goal, said $19 was the lowest I was aiming for - we agreed that $19 in June makes the most sense, and $20 depending upon how June goes (I was specifically advocating for more money due to the care I’ve provided, and will continue to provide, for a child who has different needs.)
I had hesitated to ask for a raise after being promoted even though I’ve been working for nearly a year because I remember feeling early on as though I perhaps wasn’t good enough at my job, and didn’t deserve one because of it (I was told at last month’s evaluation that I’d be bumped up to $18/hr, but basically negotiated my way into more money today.)
I did tell my coworkers afterward, admittedly in a pleased sort of manner that may make me seem like a bit of a show off, even though I’m certain they make more as lead teachers. I have admittedly wondered if I am doing badly for someone my age (19 for nearly two months.)
I remember that I even cried, twice last week when I believed that my employers simply didn’t want to meet with me to discuss a potentially greater pay increase. I did not, however, have a set plan as to what I’d do if they said no.
I have no friends. I know that I should try to make some, but it’s very difficult for me to maintain friendships. I don’t know why. I actually think my communicative skills have improved immensely in comparison to how they were throughout most of high school, but I just am not the type who initiates plans/hangouts.
I have never received a grade lower than a C in any of my college courses (or courses throughout my academic career,) but still don’t know what I want to major in. Multiple people have told me that I should give it time, but some part of me wishes that I knew now.
I normally feel kind of stressed, especially when I’m around my family for a long period of time, but it’s hard to tell whether that’s due to my trauma and anxiety disorder, or apart of my personality. My mother did describe me as having been a “very nervous” child even when I was 3, and I didn’t experience any kind of real trauma until I was about 13-14 as my parents and home situation really changed around that time (my older brother had a mental break that year, and is presently in rehab.)
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I watch films and television when I’m off school and work, and am finishing “Carrie” by Stephen king (I’ve been reading it for too long, been slacking on finishing it because I’ve been busy with school and work.) But I want to pick up a hobby, to learn something new. I feel now that we are 4 days into this break like I’m going crazy and I need some kind of change, but I’m also afraid to change my schedule too much, especially since when my job returns from this break there will already be a fair amount of change. I’m very tired and always am because of my awful sleeping schedule but haven’t fully fixed it and won’t just let my body take a nap even though I know I should. I’m tired of just watching films and tv on my breaks. I should teach myself something, pick up a new hobby, but I know I probably won’t. I have depression+anxiety+PTSD, I’m an ISFJ.
On Friday, I negotiated my salary with my employer. I had realized earlier this week after my employers sat me down and told me, in short, that my job responsibilities will increase that as an educator, I am underpaid ($17/hr.) I was nervous about it the day before even though I’d been feeling upset (I remember the term that had continuously come into mind was “disrespected,”) and requested the input of my coworkers.
I remember I had been steadily growing more and more agitated when my employers hadn’t set a date to discuss it, although I explained my reasoning to her as I had planned to (I was initially nervous and was actually partly frustrated, even though I knew they were busy with planning end of the year events, because I thought they would say no.) I was wrong. I provided $20 as the goal, said $19 was the lowest I was aiming for - we agreed that $19 in June makes the most sense, and $20 depending upon how June goes (I was specifically advocating for more money due to the care I’ve provided, and will continue to provide, for a child who has different needs.)
I had hesitated to ask for a raise after being promoted even though I’ve been working for nearly a year because I remember feeling early on as though I perhaps wasn’t good enough at my job, and didn’t deserve one because of it (I was told at last month’s evaluation that I’d be bumped up to $18/hr, but basically negotiated my way into more money today.)
I did tell my coworkers afterward, admittedly in a pleased sort of manner that may make me seem like a bit of a show off, even though I’m certain they make more as lead teachers. I have admittedly wondered if I am doing badly for someone my age (19 for nearly two months.)
I remember that I even cried, twice last week when I believed that my employers simply didn’t want to meet with me to discuss a potentially greater pay increase. I did not, however, have a set plan as to what I’d do if they said no.
I have no friends. I know that I should try to make some, but it’s very difficult for me to maintain friendships. I don’t know why. I actually think my communicative skills have improved immensely in comparison to how they were throughout most of high school, but I just am not the type who initiates plans/hangouts.
I have never received a grade lower than a C in any of my college courses (or courses throughout my academic career,) but still don’t know what I want to major in. Multiple people have told me that I should give it time, but some part of me wishes that I knew now.
I normally feel kind of stressed, especially when I’m around my family for a long period of time, but it’s hard to tell whether that’s due to my trauma and anxiety disorder, or apart of my personality. My mother did describe me as having been a “very nervous” child even when I was 3, and I didn’t experience any kind of real trauma until I was about 13-14 as my parents and home situation really changed around that time (my older brother had a mental break that year, and is presently in rehab.)
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2024.05.29 05:20 goobalah [US/AZ] Out of state relocation/What if judge says no?
So what happens if the judge says no?
I relocated back to home state for child to establish relationship with coparent.
I can't find a job here, why I left initially. Back to square one.
Our state requires mediation before modification I guess, so attempted discussion and signature to agree to go, refused. Attempting to serve now, but the timeline is starting to make me nervous.
I have a signed offer letter with start date and house paid for in another state in 45 days (literally the length of the intent to relocate here, but I had to wait for the offer letter to file and the house was just luck to find so fast). Coparent openly admits that every part of this will be made difficult for me, so I anticipate not having a response in a timely manner. The timeline would effectively make it impossible to follow current parenting plan, thus the filings of mediation.
How do people relocate for work and have children?! I thought that was a totally appropriate amount of time to be given to relocate on the employers behalf, but it seems like I may need more time now and worry about losing the job.
My initial proposed plan was to give coparent majority of parenting time as child would like to stay at current school and near family (continuing to establish this relationship), which likely will be taken into account at this age, but also because our first time with this took years in court, I don't have that in me this time. Giving myself summers and school breaks but keeping joint-legal as close to as possible as I'm not trying to exit my childs life.
So if the judge says no, or I have to move before coparent responds/any of this even gets anywhere, what happens?
I read that the judge can enter basically the plan I am already proposing.
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I relocated back to home state for child to establish relationship with coparent.
I can't find a job here, why I left initially. Back to square one.
Our state requires mediation before modification I guess, so attempted discussion and signature to agree to go, refused. Attempting to serve now, but the timeline is starting to make me nervous.
I have a signed offer letter with start date and house paid for in another state in 45 days (literally the length of the intent to relocate here, but I had to wait for the offer letter to file and the house was just luck to find so fast). Coparent openly admits that every part of this will be made difficult for me, so I anticipate not having a response in a timely manner. The timeline would effectively make it impossible to follow current parenting plan, thus the filings of mediation.
How do people relocate for work and have children?! I thought that was a totally appropriate amount of time to be given to relocate on the employers behalf, but it seems like I may need more time now and worry about losing the job.
My initial proposed plan was to give coparent majority of parenting time as child would like to stay at current school and near family (continuing to establish this relationship), which likely will be taken into account at this age, but also because our first time with this took years in court, I don't have that in me this time. Giving myself summers and school breaks but keeping joint-legal as close to as possible as I'm not trying to exit my childs life.
So if the judge says no, or I have to move before coparent responds/any of this even gets anywhere, what happens?
I read that the judge can enter basically the plan I am already proposing.
2024.05.29 05:17 fresitahh Please help me not feel guilty for finally escaping
Eldest daughter here (29f), I’m finally able to escape.. but I feel so guilty..
Raised by immigrant parents who relied on me as their interpreter for themselves, my siblings, and myself ever since I learned English (5 years old).
I finally have a good enough job that I can move out. Instead of being excited I’m a nervous guilt ridden wreck. All I can think about is my selfishness in leaving.
I just finished setting up all of my mother’s bills and stuff up on her phone. I wrote down all of her usernames and passwords to access things. She asked if she can come to me if she can’t figure it out. I was caught off guard so I said yes.
I do feel a relief of handing off everything back to her but I also feel guilty. I don’t feel excited I feel sicker and sicker as my move in date approaches
How do I not feel guilty? How do I feel excitement? How do I feel proud of myself for figuring out and doing everything on my own?
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Raised by immigrant parents who relied on me as their interpreter for themselves, my siblings, and myself ever since I learned English (5 years old).
I finally have a good enough job that I can move out. Instead of being excited I’m a nervous guilt ridden wreck. All I can think about is my selfishness in leaving.
I just finished setting up all of my mother’s bills and stuff up on her phone. I wrote down all of her usernames and passwords to access things. She asked if she can come to me if she can’t figure it out. I was caught off guard so I said yes.
I do feel a relief of handing off everything back to her but I also feel guilty. I don’t feel excited I feel sicker and sicker as my move in date approaches
How do I not feel guilty? How do I feel excitement? How do I feel proud of myself for figuring out and doing everything on my own?
2024.05.29 04:52 ScaleComprehensive70 First date
F (19) going on my first ever date with a guy I met on a dating app a few days ago. And I'm super nervous.
We hit it off well and have been talking for past few days. He asked me to go on a date with him the first day we started talking and I agreed because I'd rather just get to know him in person and see if we actually click rather than just texting.
But now that it's actually approaching and we've made plans I've realized that I'm actually super nervous. He seems really nice but I'm just worried that maybe in person he could be different? Idk, I have pretty bad anxiety normally and this is driving it crazy. What do I do if it goes badly? I really don't want to come across like an idiot 😭
Any tips on what to do?
Edit: also any clue about what I should talk about?? I'm so hopeless🫠
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We hit it off well and have been talking for past few days. He asked me to go on a date with him the first day we started talking and I agreed because I'd rather just get to know him in person and see if we actually click rather than just texting.
But now that it's actually approaching and we've made plans I've realized that I'm actually super nervous. He seems really nice but I'm just worried that maybe in person he could be different? Idk, I have pretty bad anxiety normally and this is driving it crazy. What do I do if it goes badly? I really don't want to come across like an idiot 😭
Any tips on what to do?
Edit: also any clue about what I should talk about?? I'm so hopeless🫠
2024.05.29 04:50 Plane-Rutabaga8546 Married into a dead bedroom
Hi all,
A little background, we are both in our early 20s, both virgins, and married for almost a year. I'm shaking as I'm writing this bc I haven't told this to anyone. As you can tell by the title, we have a sexless marriage.
wedding night/ homeymoon: i always though that guys are so excited for the wedding night, you know thats what i heard. he did touch me on our wedding night, but then said he was tired and went to sleep. we were flying out on our honeymoon the next day, i was so nervous for it. When we got to our destination, he was still tired and went to sleep. Even though they prepared this cute setup and wine and stuff. About two days later he was going to take his pants off, i asked if he brought protection and he said no, and the thing is I was ovulating (and all my friends told me to be "careful") so i told him we need protection. I thought that was something he could've thought on bringing you know. On one of the last days we did end up trying (at this point tho, i felt like i was begging bc i cried once abt it( i was overwhelmed and emotional) and i would suggest for us to shower together..anything to get us closer and make it less awkward, but it seemed like it made it more awkward bc he didn't want to but still did it. when we tried he couldn't stay hard and get it in, I was nervous and laughed.. and that was all.
When we got back, I cried i felt unwanted, unloved, not good enough, like something is wrong with me. I had multiple conversations with him and he would say that he's sorry, that he's not good enough for me. I tried to wear lingerie for him one day, but he just went to sleep. the next conversation i had with him and brought it up, he said it's because i was just laying under the covers. but I'm so nervous, i would think guys are just excited and want to see you regardless, it took so much for me to even put in on, idk what he wanted me to do! after some conversations and no change, i kind of am giving up. i am the only one ever brining this up. he never brought this up as an issue. it's like he's ok with it and it doesn't bother him. The only way we are intimate know is small kisses.
Side note, I love my husband so much and I know he loves me. I sincerely try so hard not to think about this because when I do i distance myself, get sad.. etc. so when I don't think about it everything is "ok" We cuddle, he's sweet and loving. I do think he does struggle to be a leader at times like praying or suggesting to read the bible, usually I am the one to suggest this. We get along well and I know he has good intentions always. I also try to be the best wife i can be and he always mentions how he loves me and that I am the best thing that ever happened to him.. but...
even though i hear him say all of this, i feel like i have so much neglection and anxiety built up because we have not had sex yet. I keep thinking he doesn't "actually" want me, and what if he's not telling the truth, what if it's the way i look, i keep overthinking that every girl he sees, that he will like her better than me. I have never been this insecure in my life and I don't know what to do. i want him to initiate, to WANT me!
It got to the point where sometimes he spends 30-45 min in the bathroom and i become so anxious and think he is watching porn and masturbating. i even confronted him about it and he was sad that i would even think that.
But how can i not think that?? he is not finding pleasure in me, where is he finding it? I'm having a hard time trusting him and i don't know what to do. I pray about it all the time. I'm trying to grow my relationship with God and get closer to Him. I have so much anxiety, fear, anger? and try to surrender it to God. Sometimes I wonder about his relationship with God, when we were dating he seemed like a godly man and knows his bible very well, but after we got married if i don't initiate prayer or bible reading, we don't do it.
I am so scared,i want everything to be ok, can this relationship work? what can i do? please any advice and prayers would be very appreciated.
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A little background, we are both in our early 20s, both virgins, and married for almost a year. I'm shaking as I'm writing this bc I haven't told this to anyone. As you can tell by the title, we have a sexless marriage.
wedding night/ homeymoon: i always though that guys are so excited for the wedding night, you know thats what i heard. he did touch me on our wedding night, but then said he was tired and went to sleep. we were flying out on our honeymoon the next day, i was so nervous for it. When we got to our destination, he was still tired and went to sleep. Even though they prepared this cute setup and wine and stuff. About two days later he was going to take his pants off, i asked if he brought protection and he said no, and the thing is I was ovulating (and all my friends told me to be "careful") so i told him we need protection. I thought that was something he could've thought on bringing you know. On one of the last days we did end up trying (at this point tho, i felt like i was begging bc i cried once abt it( i was overwhelmed and emotional) and i would suggest for us to shower together..anything to get us closer and make it less awkward, but it seemed like it made it more awkward bc he didn't want to but still did it. when we tried he couldn't stay hard and get it in, I was nervous and laughed.. and that was all.
When we got back, I cried i felt unwanted, unloved, not good enough, like something is wrong with me. I had multiple conversations with him and he would say that he's sorry, that he's not good enough for me. I tried to wear lingerie for him one day, but he just went to sleep. the next conversation i had with him and brought it up, he said it's because i was just laying under the covers. but I'm so nervous, i would think guys are just excited and want to see you regardless, it took so much for me to even put in on, idk what he wanted me to do! after some conversations and no change, i kind of am giving up. i am the only one ever brining this up. he never brought this up as an issue. it's like he's ok with it and it doesn't bother him. The only way we are intimate know is small kisses.
Side note, I love my husband so much and I know he loves me. I sincerely try so hard not to think about this because when I do i distance myself, get sad.. etc. so when I don't think about it everything is "ok" We cuddle, he's sweet and loving. I do think he does struggle to be a leader at times like praying or suggesting to read the bible, usually I am the one to suggest this. We get along well and I know he has good intentions always. I also try to be the best wife i can be and he always mentions how he loves me and that I am the best thing that ever happened to him.. but...
even though i hear him say all of this, i feel like i have so much neglection and anxiety built up because we have not had sex yet. I keep thinking he doesn't "actually" want me, and what if he's not telling the truth, what if it's the way i look, i keep overthinking that every girl he sees, that he will like her better than me. I have never been this insecure in my life and I don't know what to do. i want him to initiate, to WANT me!
It got to the point where sometimes he spends 30-45 min in the bathroom and i become so anxious and think he is watching porn and masturbating. i even confronted him about it and he was sad that i would even think that.
But how can i not think that?? he is not finding pleasure in me, where is he finding it? I'm having a hard time trusting him and i don't know what to do. I pray about it all the time. I'm trying to grow my relationship with God and get closer to Him. I have so much anxiety, fear, anger? and try to surrender it to God. Sometimes I wonder about his relationship with God, when we were dating he seemed like a godly man and knows his bible very well, but after we got married if i don't initiate prayer or bible reading, we don't do it.
I am so scared,i want everything to be ok, can this relationship work? what can i do? please any advice and prayers would be very appreciated.
2024.05.29 04:49 Izzillla I hate our father for warping our feeling of intamacy. Feels like we'll never know innocent love.
I fell in love with a part 2 months ago. We are in an AFAB body that has, among many other things, OCD, limerence, and deep insecurities.
We already had/have an outer-gf, but my inner-gf feels more like "mine". Who else can I feel their joy in my heart like it's my own... Maybe it's very indirect self love, we all have mild variations of the body's face, and I love looking in the mirror more sense loving her...so who knows. Don't care. I love her. I still do...
My inner-gf is soft, frilly, sparkly and likes pink since we were kids, and I'm ... The opposite. I am a polite but ill-mannered neurotic punk who overshares when their nervous... Ever sense our teens. The body is almost 30 now. Why we never realized we were different ppl between the amnesia, dissociation, and personality overhauls beats me. Maybe I thought I was a phase. Really funny and obvious in hindsight.
She likes being scooped up, and I like scooping. We're addictingly compatible, we can go anywhere and do anything together, and most of all we understand our pain ...and it feels amazing.
But here's all the fucked up stuff I can't tell anyone. You rdy?
My age-sliding gf holds the memories of our fathers CSA, our masc shell alters kindnesss reminds her of the father she wished she had, and now my gf is suffering intrusive sexual attraction to him because we have OCD, and we've all struggled with inappropriate sexual feelings toward any one who makes us feel safe, Because our father, our brothers, our cousins, every male person we trusted preyed on us, and it's making literally everyone in the system feel terrible, especially my gf who is now feeling suicidal for for corrupting the safest outlet she had to heal it.
This is just... Torture. It's literal torture and we're all tired.
We are both healing hypersexual parts too. I have some of those SA memories, but it's incredibly vague.
Long story: you don't have read, I just... I've seen other systems dump, and I need it... I really need it right now I'm so tired.
She coped by sexualizing her victimization, i coped by sexualizing victimizing. I've never actually victimized anyone, but I liked very "borderline" porn from the perspective of the "initiator" ,I'll say that. I have sense stopped watching it now because I realized playing "predator" is so I don't have to confront how I was preyed on... I am hypervigilant about anything that could scare her or me now.
I put in work to be better. Especially now with my sparkly GF who age regresses when she's vulnerable... Our intrusive thoughts are mutually corrosive sometimes, and my worst fear is being a monster like our father.
So... Falling in love with her meant we had to confront those wounds. I was afraid I was a monster, and she only knew monster love, so... not being able to hide them those intrusive thoughts, and having the subject just go "it's okay🌸 I like being afraid!!" Took all of my stength to rise above our mutual depravity.
It was hard, sometimes hilarious, but we actually did it. I taught her real love is when someone respects your consent. There's no such thing as "loving someone so bad you can't resist them", that's what parasites do, not ppl who love you. It made both of us trust me more, because given the chance, i never hurt her.
Apparently , that whole time I didn't realize that I'm not the only one who's afraid of being a monster... So is our shell. Let's call him "Sheller". Sheller is a strange person. I'm a strange person. We get along well now that they realize they're a part too, not a container, or robot. We still do, things are just... Awkward... It's not his fault...
Sometimes I'd blend with Sheller, and they'd struggle to seperate my love for my gf from their own. They're like me in that they don't really feel like a woman either. So we both felt NB. Till he realized he didn't.
This poor dude... Had no idea the can of worms identifying as masculine would open. The dude just wanted to see himself, and when he did, it was a big healing thing to stop feeling like he only existed as our shadow. Truly, nothing is different now, he's just like 8 inches taller, boob-less, and his shoulders are wide. He's just as nice and safe as before, although more afraid of hurting us now.
I tbh didn't mind he thought my gf was cute, cuz she is!!! I trust him , and Of course he likes being around her, she's like sunshine and rainbows, it feels good to feel her joy, and when he blends with her he just fades in the back without thinking. He blends and expresses with everyone, it's his job lol. He also feels genuine joy when I am happy, and he supported and mediated our couple issues, he has and continues to be really supportive of us. He works a job and gets us shit he doesn't care about just cause it makes us happy. But I knew he was always quietly lonely. He loved seeing my gf get scooped up by me, cause she's a part of him too, a part that needs to feel loved and cherished. We all baby her tbh, but he never crossed any boundaries.
But then, this month, he fell in love with our old shell... "Shelley". Shelley had been inside an inner "infirmary" for a bit. She went through... so much for us. Shelley couldn't talk for years after ...And when she was finally discharged with his help... They bonded over the unique trauma of being shells, and being intense and weird. And when I say this dude was down bad, I mean it, he was down bad. Me and my gf are like treble, but they're BASS. Their love was so deep, and inspiring. Me and my gf were so happy, it felt like our awkward and stunted older brother fell in love and was opening up. We were going to have a cool older couple to bond with, and they were both just funny to watch too. We also remember reaching through Shelley, who never knew she was a system, but took care of us somehow even so, so we already cared for her.
My gf was happy for them, but started getting triggered by the glimpses she would see of their intimacy, and it made her think of the things she saw our parents doing by accident. And shed pop up sometimes when Shelley would feel those bright frilly things, and it would confuse her and make her uncomfortable.
She got really upset at Sheller one day and age regressed, telling everyone how uncomfortable it made her feel, pointing fingers and crying. Sheller felt terrible... He apologized profusely to my gf, asked how to make amends, and I did my part to soothe the rift between them too.
My gf felt very ashamed of both her regression and otp reaction, so she apologized for triggering his intrusive thoughts about being a monster again. She realized when she was big again that she was misdirecting anger at our father onto him, because Sheller is actually safe. She said she thinks she just wished she had pointed fingers at our Dad when he did what he did.
I think Shellers reaction to her discomfort was so gracious, kind, and safe... that she realized how much better things would have been for her if our Dad was like Sheller.
So she asked him if he could be her Dad. ... Lmao
He, understandably, insisted he was not stable enough to do that. He has too many intrusive thoughts he was still healing from, and could not risk both his own and her mental stability having even more responsibility on top of what he does. He was also honest that he saw my gf had some weird intrusive thoughts already slipping through and making him further uncomfortable. He said if he didn't share a brain, he would accept in a heartbeat, cause he likes taking care of us. And she accepted that well, but was sad.
She apologized about the intrusive thoughts, but when she thought about it more deeply, she explained she never had a safe male role model who didn't prey on her. That she wishes she had someone who could model familial love for her, and be a safe source of intamacy when she just wanted to be held without worrying it would turn sexual. She said I'm safe, but her attraction to me and mine to her reinforced the blurry lines she has around healthy admiration and sexuality. Me being the one to love her romantically but also hold her while shes age regressed sometimes makes her feel she's still warping those lines. I understand it, cause tbh, Sheller made me feel safe in that way too, but more like a brother.
He maintained his stance but said he already saw her as something like family. She realized it was enough to just know he loved her, and wasn't going to forget about her, and that we could all have family events with games or movies, and that was enough for her to move on happily.
The next day Sheller and Shelley had a beautiful date. They kept it inncoent in case my gfs signal was pulled in by accident. It was, but it wasn't a big deal, they were just dancing. I came out too so my gf felt less awkward. We had a whole evening together the four of us, and it was very fun. We just danced to our fave songs and listened to the rain storm.
My gf actually felt so happy and content. Id dance with her, and she's look over and see Shelley and Sheller laughing at us and waving at her. She was so happy, and felt like she finally had a family. But it was like... Out of nowhere she began spiraling.
She felt like she was going to lose all of us. She felt like she'd do something to mess things up. That her heart was breaking, or someone else's was. She couldn't place where it was coming from. Just heartbreak. Twisting sickening dread. Fear of abandonment. She started pulling back again and we all tried to comfort her to no help.
I switched in to comfort her more easily... But then I felt it too... It was like this depressive miasma... I started having all the same fears. Maybe I was just blending, but it was so confusing
She spent so long trying to understand why she felt this way, and testing different ideas, and now shes having those intrusive sexual attraction to Sheller really high.
Everyone involved feels fucking terrible now.
My gf has become incredibly depressed. She's terrified I'll leave her over this- and yeah, it's pretty disturbing and triggering for me, but I'm not really upset at her. I don't think I want to leave her yet. I mean I have intrusive sexual thoughts too, I've even had them about Sheller myself! But hers are way worse, cause she gets little and sees him as a father figure sometimes, and that must be so 🤢... OCD is like a shark and the more terrible a thought is the harder it tortures you with it.
My gf is trying not to feel suicidal... She's been far away all day... She feels like she will never know peace... Everytime she finally has someone show her love, her body reacts inappropriately, and not only will she lose me, but Sheller will Lose Shelley because he's getting his own intrusive thoughts about my gf, Shelley feels terrible because this all happened when she came along but my gf is afraid Shelley hates her, when she was excited to be yinyang friends with Shelley (who is also cute but more into spooky things).
Me and Shelley feel insecure too, cause like... Sheller is more masc than me and my gf is more femme than Shelley, so we are projecting all the insecurities into it. And what if we're wrong to trust them and they just run off and decide to have some gross fucked up trauma-themed relationship? Idk man, it's so mortifying even talking about it. But I really love both Sheller and my gf still, even with this burning in my chest, and they both are struggling with suicide ideation right now, and its just...
It's a whole ass mess...Our caretaker alt thinks Shelley, (sense she's an old shell) was blending with Sheller or my gf, and we were feeling her emotions, which we know she struggles with. It probably is that tbh. Cause we can barely lock onto Shelley sometimes. We think this is why it's been so weird and we don't even sound normal lately, and our signals are coming from weird angles.
So yeah... That's where we are... I just wanted to vent I guess. Support is welcome. I don't know man... Just feel so tired and embarrassed lol. I just feel like... Were so mentally ill and I hate it. Ugh... I hate our dad so fucking much. He really fucking broke us, and we're still in so much pain.
The only good news is we all have our anger placed in the right direction, not each other. We all understand what's happening isn't more than trauma. It just hurts so damn much ... Ugh... I really some how think we'll get through this... That day was so nice... And I felt so safe and happy... We all did ... And I think that's why we all possibly mutually ruined it lolol.
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We already had/have an outer-gf, but my inner-gf feels more like "mine". Who else can I feel their joy in my heart like it's my own... Maybe it's very indirect self love, we all have mild variations of the body's face, and I love looking in the mirror more sense loving her...so who knows. Don't care. I love her. I still do...
My inner-gf is soft, frilly, sparkly and likes pink since we were kids, and I'm ... The opposite. I am a polite but ill-mannered neurotic punk who overshares when their nervous... Ever sense our teens. The body is almost 30 now. Why we never realized we were different ppl between the amnesia, dissociation, and personality overhauls beats me. Maybe I thought I was a phase. Really funny and obvious in hindsight.
She likes being scooped up, and I like scooping. We're addictingly compatible, we can go anywhere and do anything together, and most of all we understand our pain ...and it feels amazing.
But here's all the fucked up stuff I can't tell anyone. You rdy?
My age-sliding gf holds the memories of our fathers CSA, our masc shell alters kindnesss reminds her of the father she wished she had, and now my gf is suffering intrusive sexual attraction to him because we have OCD, and we've all struggled with inappropriate sexual feelings toward any one who makes us feel safe, Because our father, our brothers, our cousins, every male person we trusted preyed on us, and it's making literally everyone in the system feel terrible, especially my gf who is now feeling suicidal for for corrupting the safest outlet she had to heal it.
This is just... Torture. It's literal torture and we're all tired.
We are both healing hypersexual parts too. I have some of those SA memories, but it's incredibly vague.
Long story: you don't have read, I just... I've seen other systems dump, and I need it... I really need it right now I'm so tired.
She coped by sexualizing her victimization, i coped by sexualizing victimizing. I've never actually victimized anyone, but I liked very "borderline" porn from the perspective of the "initiator" ,I'll say that. I have sense stopped watching it now because I realized playing "predator" is so I don't have to confront how I was preyed on... I am hypervigilant about anything that could scare her or me now.
I put in work to be better. Especially now with my sparkly GF who age regresses when she's vulnerable... Our intrusive thoughts are mutually corrosive sometimes, and my worst fear is being a monster like our father.
So... Falling in love with her meant we had to confront those wounds. I was afraid I was a monster, and she only knew monster love, so... not being able to hide them those intrusive thoughts, and having the subject just go "it's okay🌸 I like being afraid!!" Took all of my stength to rise above our mutual depravity.
It was hard, sometimes hilarious, but we actually did it. I taught her real love is when someone respects your consent. There's no such thing as "loving someone so bad you can't resist them", that's what parasites do, not ppl who love you. It made both of us trust me more, because given the chance, i never hurt her.
Apparently , that whole time I didn't realize that I'm not the only one who's afraid of being a monster... So is our shell. Let's call him "Sheller". Sheller is a strange person. I'm a strange person. We get along well now that they realize they're a part too, not a container, or robot. We still do, things are just... Awkward... It's not his fault...
Sometimes I'd blend with Sheller, and they'd struggle to seperate my love for my gf from their own. They're like me in that they don't really feel like a woman either. So we both felt NB. Till he realized he didn't.
This poor dude... Had no idea the can of worms identifying as masculine would open. The dude just wanted to see himself, and when he did, it was a big healing thing to stop feeling like he only existed as our shadow. Truly, nothing is different now, he's just like 8 inches taller, boob-less, and his shoulders are wide. He's just as nice and safe as before, although more afraid of hurting us now.
I tbh didn't mind he thought my gf was cute, cuz she is!!! I trust him , and Of course he likes being around her, she's like sunshine and rainbows, it feels good to feel her joy, and when he blends with her he just fades in the back without thinking. He blends and expresses with everyone, it's his job lol. He also feels genuine joy when I am happy, and he supported and mediated our couple issues, he has and continues to be really supportive of us. He works a job and gets us shit he doesn't care about just cause it makes us happy. But I knew he was always quietly lonely. He loved seeing my gf get scooped up by me, cause she's a part of him too, a part that needs to feel loved and cherished. We all baby her tbh, but he never crossed any boundaries.
But then, this month, he fell in love with our old shell... "Shelley". Shelley had been inside an inner "infirmary" for a bit. She went through... so much for us. Shelley couldn't talk for years after ...And when she was finally discharged with his help... They bonded over the unique trauma of being shells, and being intense and weird. And when I say this dude was down bad, I mean it, he was down bad. Me and my gf are like treble, but they're BASS. Their love was so deep, and inspiring. Me and my gf were so happy, it felt like our awkward and stunted older brother fell in love and was opening up. We were going to have a cool older couple to bond with, and they were both just funny to watch too. We also remember reaching through Shelley, who never knew she was a system, but took care of us somehow even so, so we already cared for her.
My gf was happy for them, but started getting triggered by the glimpses she would see of their intimacy, and it made her think of the things she saw our parents doing by accident. And shed pop up sometimes when Shelley would feel those bright frilly things, and it would confuse her and make her uncomfortable.
She got really upset at Sheller one day and age regressed, telling everyone how uncomfortable it made her feel, pointing fingers and crying. Sheller felt terrible... He apologized profusely to my gf, asked how to make amends, and I did my part to soothe the rift between them too.
My gf felt very ashamed of both her regression and otp reaction, so she apologized for triggering his intrusive thoughts about being a monster again. She realized when she was big again that she was misdirecting anger at our father onto him, because Sheller is actually safe. She said she thinks she just wished she had pointed fingers at our Dad when he did what he did.
I think Shellers reaction to her discomfort was so gracious, kind, and safe... that she realized how much better things would have been for her if our Dad was like Sheller.
So she asked him if he could be her Dad. ... Lmao
He, understandably, insisted he was not stable enough to do that. He has too many intrusive thoughts he was still healing from, and could not risk both his own and her mental stability having even more responsibility on top of what he does. He was also honest that he saw my gf had some weird intrusive thoughts already slipping through and making him further uncomfortable. He said if he didn't share a brain, he would accept in a heartbeat, cause he likes taking care of us. And she accepted that well, but was sad.
She apologized about the intrusive thoughts, but when she thought about it more deeply, she explained she never had a safe male role model who didn't prey on her. That she wishes she had someone who could model familial love for her, and be a safe source of intamacy when she just wanted to be held without worrying it would turn sexual. She said I'm safe, but her attraction to me and mine to her reinforced the blurry lines she has around healthy admiration and sexuality. Me being the one to love her romantically but also hold her while shes age regressed sometimes makes her feel she's still warping those lines. I understand it, cause tbh, Sheller made me feel safe in that way too, but more like a brother.
He maintained his stance but said he already saw her as something like family. She realized it was enough to just know he loved her, and wasn't going to forget about her, and that we could all have family events with games or movies, and that was enough for her to move on happily.
The next day Sheller and Shelley had a beautiful date. They kept it inncoent in case my gfs signal was pulled in by accident. It was, but it wasn't a big deal, they were just dancing. I came out too so my gf felt less awkward. We had a whole evening together the four of us, and it was very fun. We just danced to our fave songs and listened to the rain storm.
My gf actually felt so happy and content. Id dance with her, and she's look over and see Shelley and Sheller laughing at us and waving at her. She was so happy, and felt like she finally had a family. But it was like... Out of nowhere she began spiraling.
She felt like she was going to lose all of us. She felt like she'd do something to mess things up. That her heart was breaking, or someone else's was. She couldn't place where it was coming from. Just heartbreak. Twisting sickening dread. Fear of abandonment. She started pulling back again and we all tried to comfort her to no help.
I switched in to comfort her more easily... But then I felt it too... It was like this depressive miasma... I started having all the same fears. Maybe I was just blending, but it was so confusing
She spent so long trying to understand why she felt this way, and testing different ideas, and now shes having those intrusive sexual attraction to Sheller really high.
Everyone involved feels fucking terrible now.
My gf has become incredibly depressed. She's terrified I'll leave her over this- and yeah, it's pretty disturbing and triggering for me, but I'm not really upset at her. I don't think I want to leave her yet. I mean I have intrusive sexual thoughts too, I've even had them about Sheller myself! But hers are way worse, cause she gets little and sees him as a father figure sometimes, and that must be so 🤢... OCD is like a shark and the more terrible a thought is the harder it tortures you with it.
My gf is trying not to feel suicidal... She's been far away all day... She feels like she will never know peace... Everytime she finally has someone show her love, her body reacts inappropriately, and not only will she lose me, but Sheller will Lose Shelley because he's getting his own intrusive thoughts about my gf, Shelley feels terrible because this all happened when she came along but my gf is afraid Shelley hates her, when she was excited to be yinyang friends with Shelley (who is also cute but more into spooky things).
Me and Shelley feel insecure too, cause like... Sheller is more masc than me and my gf is more femme than Shelley, so we are projecting all the insecurities into it. And what if we're wrong to trust them and they just run off and decide to have some gross fucked up trauma-themed relationship? Idk man, it's so mortifying even talking about it. But I really love both Sheller and my gf still, even with this burning in my chest, and they both are struggling with suicide ideation right now, and its just...
It's a whole ass mess...Our caretaker alt thinks Shelley, (sense she's an old shell) was blending with Sheller or my gf, and we were feeling her emotions, which we know she struggles with. It probably is that tbh. Cause we can barely lock onto Shelley sometimes. We think this is why it's been so weird and we don't even sound normal lately, and our signals are coming from weird angles.
So yeah... That's where we are... I just wanted to vent I guess. Support is welcome. I don't know man... Just feel so tired and embarrassed lol. I just feel like... Were so mentally ill and I hate it. Ugh... I hate our dad so fucking much. He really fucking broke us, and we're still in so much pain.
The only good news is we all have our anger placed in the right direction, not each other. We all understand what's happening isn't more than trauma. It just hurts so damn much ... Ugh... I really some how think we'll get through this... That day was so nice... And I felt so safe and happy... We all did ... And I think that's why we all possibly mutually ruined it lolol.
2024.05.29 04:44 tunapastamayo111222 Still think about a missed opportunity from over six years ago
I was between 26-27 used to go to the same store a lot and there was a really cute bubbly ginger girl. I'd say she was around 20-23 but I had no idea. I was living at home In bad spot so not in gd position to date but I always still wanted to meet someone. Anyways I would see her fairly often and I would feel awkward abit like if I looked her way or anything when she was busy she would be able to tell I found her attractive n didn't want get caught awkwardly staring . I avoided her abit in general but I would notice how she was bubbly n friendly. I started speaking a few time when I checked out. I wasn't really trying big move or anything per se because I questioned if I was too old or how bad my living situation was but at same time I was building myself up abit. Anyways I saw her at till one night and I said something and she misheard me , and was like giving me judgey look. 🤨 apparently she thought id asked for her number. I laughed nervously told her I didn't ask her that and made some joke . I left pretty fast as I always do after my brief interaction. After I left it occurred to me that she might have picked up on that I like her somehow , I think she genuinely thought/anticipating I was asking for her number. Next time I spoke to her I don't know exactly what I said but I got on topic of takeaways and she was like really emphusitically telling me she liked a specific takeaway I mentioned and it felt like there was an opportunity that she was aware of that I might invited her to have takeaway with me . If there wasn't ppl queing behind me I may have spontaneously said something because it probably did occur to me it was such a natural opening. But I left the store and was analyzing what just happened, "surely she was aware like I was that it felt like a natural opening to invite her for takeaway, the way so emphusatically told me she liked this takeaway I was mentioning" maybe not, it could be perfectly explained by her bring friendly . But for the first time it occured to me she might be open to me asking her out. Anyways , to cut this abruptly short I never saw her again , (just as abrupt as this text it was gone) she must have took some time off and not long after I moved areas. I went back when I was visiting family a few times hoping to see she still worked there but she was gone.
I still think about that. I remember how excited I felt leaving the store that she might like me . I think I would have certainly found the confidence to ask her out but in the end it wasn't meant to be. I probs would got that far a lot sooner if I was not do insecure about my living situation.
It's the not knowing that gets you, she was attractive in every way.
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I still think about that. I remember how excited I felt leaving the store that she might like me . I think I would have certainly found the confidence to ask her out but in the end it wasn't meant to be. I probs would got that far a lot sooner if I was not do insecure about my living situation.
It's the not knowing that gets you, she was attractive in every way.
2024.05.29 04:38 teddyan I(29F)recently found out that my bf(29M) has been constantly seeing his ex situationship during the first few months of our relationship. How do I rebuild the trust in our relationship?
I am in a tough spot right now. I moved in to my boyfriend’s apt 3 months ago(I don’t pay rent). I graduated in December and I’m currently looking for a job right now so I can’t afford my own place.
History: I met my bf on a dating app and have been going out with him since June of last year. He said he’s never been in a relationship before and hasn’t been serious with anyone. It started as something casual but he wanted sexual exclusivity from the very beginning. It was great. We went along well and I enjoyed spending time with him. He asked me to be his gf in September and since then I stopped going on dates with other people. I understand that he might be seeing other people before this but nothing romantic or sexual. Since then, things have been going really well between us and I even started considering him to be the one (He said I’m the one for him and asked me if I would meet his parents sometime in the future). We do everything together, my friends like him and I’ve met most of his friends too. Although it did seem a bit soon, we’ve been on vacation(domestic and short) twice and it was great knowing how compatible we are. He is also the most supportive bf, he has been helping me look for a job and he assures me when I’m feeling burnt out with job hunting. His love language is acts of service and he will do anything if it makes me happy. I was in a very secure and happy relationship, or I thought so.
Fast forward to now: I had my doubts from a message he sent his best friend back in October(he showed it to me by mistake) and I decided to snoop around. It was the worst mistake ever. I don’t know how to feel cause it made me feel like everything is a lie. I didn’t go through his messages so I don’t know the details, but I know enough that he had a gf/situationship and he was still going out with her, at least till November. I also know she has blocked him. I brought it up with him (the text he sent his friend) and asked him why he was seeing other people and he straight up lied to my face. Maybe he was nervous and didn’t want to ruin what we have right now but I feel like he was gaslighting me during the whole conversation. He said he was seeing her till October but just for coffee and the whole conversation is just her berating him about his looks/job(private equity) and telling him how many guys she’s seeing at the moment who is better than him. I couldn’t tell him that I know for sure he went to dinner with her several times because of the way I found out. She also visited his apt till November but idk how frequent because we’ve been hanging out almost everyday at that point and I also had some of my stuff at his place. For context, he had told me before he went to Europe for work + vacation by himself last January (before I met him) but I found out that he actually went with her. Right now I want to focus on my job search and don’t want to deal with any of this(possibly leaving him and finding a new place to stay). Idk how to move forward. A part of me feels I should just forget I ever found out anything and continue focusing on my job search. I did consider leaving him but I can’t afford to do that rn because of my priorities. Is something like this forgivable? Also, is it worth bringing this topic up again? I know it’s been a while but it’s bothering me how he lied to me throughout our relationship. I just want him to admit to it.
TLDR: I(29F)recently found out that my bf(29M) has been constantly seeing his ex situationship during the first few months of our relationship. I don’t know to rebuild the trust in our relationship.
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History: I met my bf on a dating app and have been going out with him since June of last year. He said he’s never been in a relationship before and hasn’t been serious with anyone. It started as something casual but he wanted sexual exclusivity from the very beginning. It was great. We went along well and I enjoyed spending time with him. He asked me to be his gf in September and since then I stopped going on dates with other people. I understand that he might be seeing other people before this but nothing romantic or sexual. Since then, things have been going really well between us and I even started considering him to be the one (He said I’m the one for him and asked me if I would meet his parents sometime in the future). We do everything together, my friends like him and I’ve met most of his friends too. Although it did seem a bit soon, we’ve been on vacation(domestic and short) twice and it was great knowing how compatible we are. He is also the most supportive bf, he has been helping me look for a job and he assures me when I’m feeling burnt out with job hunting. His love language is acts of service and he will do anything if it makes me happy. I was in a very secure and happy relationship, or I thought so.
Fast forward to now: I had my doubts from a message he sent his best friend back in October(he showed it to me by mistake) and I decided to snoop around. It was the worst mistake ever. I don’t know how to feel cause it made me feel like everything is a lie. I didn’t go through his messages so I don’t know the details, but I know enough that he had a gf/situationship and he was still going out with her, at least till November. I also know she has blocked him. I brought it up with him (the text he sent his friend) and asked him why he was seeing other people and he straight up lied to my face. Maybe he was nervous and didn’t want to ruin what we have right now but I feel like he was gaslighting me during the whole conversation. He said he was seeing her till October but just for coffee and the whole conversation is just her berating him about his looks/job(private equity) and telling him how many guys she’s seeing at the moment who is better than him. I couldn’t tell him that I know for sure he went to dinner with her several times because of the way I found out. She also visited his apt till November but idk how frequent because we’ve been hanging out almost everyday at that point and I also had some of my stuff at his place. For context, he had told me before he went to Europe for work + vacation by himself last January (before I met him) but I found out that he actually went with her. Right now I want to focus on my job search and don’t want to deal with any of this(possibly leaving him and finding a new place to stay). Idk how to move forward. A part of me feels I should just forget I ever found out anything and continue focusing on my job search. I did consider leaving him but I can’t afford to do that rn because of my priorities. Is something like this forgivable? Also, is it worth bringing this topic up again? I know it’s been a while but it’s bothering me how he lied to me throughout our relationship. I just want him to admit to it.
TLDR: I(29F)recently found out that my bf(29M) has been constantly seeing his ex situationship during the first few months of our relationship. I don’t know to rebuild the trust in our relationship.
2024.05.29 04:16 Junior-Air-6807 The original Twin Peaks podcast is full of jabronis
I don't usually do podcasts but I drive a lot for work and am getting tired of music, so I looked up Twin Peaks podcasts on YouTube and this is the first one that popped up.
The four people on there are the most cringy, grating, awkward people I've heard in my life. It's everything you think about when you think about bad podcasts. All of their humor is so lame, they're all nervously laughing, their takes on the show are bad. It's like listening to 4 highschoolers talk about a show you love.
They had two people who had seen the whole thing and two people who were new to it, and their initial impressions on the music was that it's "over baring" and "dated". I turned off the video once they started discussing whether or not Sara Palmers actress was "over acting" and being too dramatic.
I found another one after though called "Twin Peaks rewatch" and that one was much better.
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The four people on there are the most cringy, grating, awkward people I've heard in my life. It's everything you think about when you think about bad podcasts. All of their humor is so lame, they're all nervously laughing, their takes on the show are bad. It's like listening to 4 highschoolers talk about a show you love.
They had two people who had seen the whole thing and two people who were new to it, and their initial impressions on the music was that it's "over baring" and "dated". I turned off the video once they started discussing whether or not Sara Palmers actress was "over acting" and being too dramatic.
I found another one after though called "Twin Peaks rewatch" and that one was much better.
2024.05.29 04:11 richied930 How do you build a social life from absolutely nothing?
So I've recently come to the horrible realization that I have no social life, no dating experience, and I have no idea how I'd get started on either. To make things clear from the start, this isn't cause of social anxiety or anything. I'm not a nervous persona and never had issues holding a conversation. My problem here is born of pure ignorance. I just don't know where people hang out or really how to establish relationships both platonic and romantic. I can maintain a friendship fine. I got friends. I just don't know how to start one. These people just found me and I managed to not scare them off.
To give you some background on I've just always been solitary given most of my hobbies (playing guitar, drawing, movies/books/games) are stuff you do alone in a room. I also never hung out much with people outside school cause I lived pretty far from everyone in school. I got into this nerd school thing (I'm honestly not sure what it's called cause it wasn't private) in case you're wondering what the circumstances are where I lived far away from everyone else. So even though I wanted to and people wanted to hang with me, I never really had much opportunity to since I always had stuff right after class and shit was too far to really meet em over weekends. And even in the very rare cases I was able to visit friends or they were able to visit me, these people are naturally gonna be pretty similar to me so we just did the same shit I'd do alone just with other people in the room. I figured stuff would change in college but for financial reasons I went to community college, and the one I went to was very much a "finish your classes and leave" kind of deal. Most people there weren't even around my age. So I ain't really meet people and I couldn't hang out with my friends and meet people through them cause they went out of state. Got a job but at a Thai restaurant but they ended up putting me in the back where nobody I interacted with regularly spoke English. After that I transferred to a state college and here I thought "finally, now's my chance to have a normal social life and hang out with people", but of course God had a really funny sense of humor cause right before I graduated from county the pandemic happened. The universe saw I had a chance at having a social life and through divine intervention prevented that from happening. So I basically just spend the last to years of my college online. Last year was hybrid so I went out a little but going to a tech school turns out everyone there is also pretty much isolated nerds. My roommate didn't even leave his room. I had to make sure he wasn't dead a few times and honestly I'm not convinced he wasn't. I'd fully believe if he reanimated by the fungus that grew from his pizza. Anyway then I graduated and since the job market wasn't great I took an opportunity for a job in Maryland when it arose. Thing is that state is very far from where all my friends, family and really everyone I know lives so if I was hoping to meet people through them after they came back from college that got ruined. Cheapest place I was able to find that's close to my work was a studio so I have no roommates. All my coworkers are also about a decade+ older than me and have families and shit, so I can't really hang out with them. I feel like I keeping winning a lottery in how to live the most accidentally isolated life ever. My parents are probably happy I'm the rare person that actually focused on my education and didn't go out partying and shit (tho that's more due to circumstances and not choice), but I imagine the pressure of finding someone's gonna ramp up eventually and I'd rather get ahead on that.
So if anyone can just give me some basic advice on where to meet people please help. Both for platonic reasons and not. I know bars are a thing just based off movies but I'm not much of a drinker. I can stomach it if that's the only place but I imagine people are hanging out outside bars in real life. I just don't know where. Also naturally have zero dating experience. Not even like the basics. Never asked anyone out/went on a date. I know rule 1 and 2 and probably some others is to not be ugly and I'm not. I am short but I figure I can make up for that. I can talk to women fine, I don't get nervous. Granted I've never tried pursuing someone before and I sure as hell don't know how to close a deal or tell if someone's interesting so who know I might choke there. Part of this is my fault I know, I probably could've made choices to put myself out there more or be more proactive but I've always felt content with my life and never really wanted more till now. Just kind of woke up alone one day and thought "I don't think I've talked to another human being in person, that wasn't a coworker for months" and I want that to change. So any words would be appreciated. Pretend you're teaching an alien or something cause I'm pretty sure whatever stuff you're assuming I already know when you're writing your answer I probably don't.
Oh also I've never been into social media. Never really had much going on to post about outside drawings and shit. I know most dating is online and a lot of people meet through Instagram. Not sure what I'd do there. I have like no photos of me, cause of the isolation thing, my page is just doodles from my notepad. I can take a mirror selfie but I don't know if that'd be sufficient. Maybe for Tinder but probably not one of the more reputable sites, but again, what would I know. I'm genuinely clueless.
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To give you some background on I've just always been solitary given most of my hobbies (playing guitar, drawing, movies/books/games) are stuff you do alone in a room. I also never hung out much with people outside school cause I lived pretty far from everyone in school. I got into this nerd school thing (I'm honestly not sure what it's called cause it wasn't private) in case you're wondering what the circumstances are where I lived far away from everyone else. So even though I wanted to and people wanted to hang with me, I never really had much opportunity to since I always had stuff right after class and shit was too far to really meet em over weekends. And even in the very rare cases I was able to visit friends or they were able to visit me, these people are naturally gonna be pretty similar to me so we just did the same shit I'd do alone just with other people in the room. I figured stuff would change in college but for financial reasons I went to community college, and the one I went to was very much a "finish your classes and leave" kind of deal. Most people there weren't even around my age. So I ain't really meet people and I couldn't hang out with my friends and meet people through them cause they went out of state. Got a job but at a Thai restaurant but they ended up putting me in the back where nobody I interacted with regularly spoke English. After that I transferred to a state college and here I thought "finally, now's my chance to have a normal social life and hang out with people", but of course God had a really funny sense of humor cause right before I graduated from county the pandemic happened. The universe saw I had a chance at having a social life and through divine intervention prevented that from happening. So I basically just spend the last to years of my college online. Last year was hybrid so I went out a little but going to a tech school turns out everyone there is also pretty much isolated nerds. My roommate didn't even leave his room. I had to make sure he wasn't dead a few times and honestly I'm not convinced he wasn't. I'd fully believe if he reanimated by the fungus that grew from his pizza. Anyway then I graduated and since the job market wasn't great I took an opportunity for a job in Maryland when it arose. Thing is that state is very far from where all my friends, family and really everyone I know lives so if I was hoping to meet people through them after they came back from college that got ruined. Cheapest place I was able to find that's close to my work was a studio so I have no roommates. All my coworkers are also about a decade+ older than me and have families and shit, so I can't really hang out with them. I feel like I keeping winning a lottery in how to live the most accidentally isolated life ever. My parents are probably happy I'm the rare person that actually focused on my education and didn't go out partying and shit (tho that's more due to circumstances and not choice), but I imagine the pressure of finding someone's gonna ramp up eventually and I'd rather get ahead on that.
So if anyone can just give me some basic advice on where to meet people please help. Both for platonic reasons and not. I know bars are a thing just based off movies but I'm not much of a drinker. I can stomach it if that's the only place but I imagine people are hanging out outside bars in real life. I just don't know where. Also naturally have zero dating experience. Not even like the basics. Never asked anyone out/went on a date. I know rule 1 and 2 and probably some others is to not be ugly and I'm not. I am short but I figure I can make up for that. I can talk to women fine, I don't get nervous. Granted I've never tried pursuing someone before and I sure as hell don't know how to close a deal or tell if someone's interesting so who know I might choke there. Part of this is my fault I know, I probably could've made choices to put myself out there more or be more proactive but I've always felt content with my life and never really wanted more till now. Just kind of woke up alone one day and thought "I don't think I've talked to another human being in person, that wasn't a coworker for months" and I want that to change. So any words would be appreciated. Pretend you're teaching an alien or something cause I'm pretty sure whatever stuff you're assuming I already know when you're writing your answer I probably don't.
Oh also I've never been into social media. Never really had much going on to post about outside drawings and shit. I know most dating is online and a lot of people meet through Instagram. Not sure what I'd do there. I have like no photos of me, cause of the isolation thing, my page is just doodles from my notepad. I can take a mirror selfie but I don't know if that'd be sufficient. Maybe for Tinder but probably not one of the more reputable sites, but again, what would I know. I'm genuinely clueless.
2024.05.29 04:11 richied930 How do you build a social life from absolutely nothing?
So I've recently come to the horrible realization that I have no social life, no dating experience, and I have no idea how I'd get started on either. To make things clear from the start, this isn't cause of social anxiety or anything. I'm not a nervous persona and never had issues holding a conversation. My problem here is born of pure ignorance. I just don't know where people hang out or really how to establish relationships both platonic and romantic. I can maintain a friendship fine. I got friends. I just don't know how to start one. These people just found me and I managed to not scare them off.
To give you some background on I've just always been solitary given most of my hobbies (playing guitar, drawing, movies/books/games) are stuff you do alone in a room. I also never hung out much with people outside school cause I lived pretty far from everyone in school. I got into this nerd school thing (I'm honestly not sure what it's called cause it wasn't private) in case you're wondering what the circumstances are where I lived far away from everyone else. So even though I wanted to and people wanted to hang with me, I never really had much opportunity to since I always had stuff right after class and shit was too far to really meet em over weekends. And even in the very rare cases I was able to visit friends or they were able to visit me, these people are naturally gonna be pretty similar to me so we just did the same shit I'd do alone just with other people in the room. I figured stuff would change in college but for financial reasons I went to community college, and the one I went to was very much a "finish your classes and leave" kind of deal. Most people there weren't even around my age. So I ain't really meet people and I couldn't hang out with my friends and meet people through them cause they went out of state. Got a job but at a Thai restaurant but they ended up putting me in the back where nobody I interacted with regularly spoke English. After that I transferred to a state college and here I thought "finally, now's my chance to have a normal social life and hang out with people", but of course God had a really funny sense of humor cause right before I graduated from county the pandemic happened. The universe saw I had a chance at having a social life and through divine intervention prevented that from happening. So I basically just spend the last to years of my college online. Last year was hybrid so I went out a little but going to a tech school turns out everyone there is also pretty much isolated nerds. My roommate didn't even leave his room. I had to make sure he wasn't dead a few times and honestly I'm not convinced he wasn't. I'd fully believe if he reanimated by the fungus that grew from his pizza. Anyway then I graduated and since the job market wasn't great I took an opportunity for a job in Maryland when it arose. Thing is that state is very far from where all my friends, family and really everyone I know lives so if I was hoping to meet people through them after they came back from college that got ruined. Cheapest place I was able to find that's close to my work was a studio so I have no roommates. All my coworkers are also about a decade+ older than me and have families and shit, so I can't really hang out with them. I feel like I keeping winning a lottery in how to live the most accidentally isolated life ever. My parents are probably happy I'm the rare person that actually focused on my education and didn't go out partying and shit (tho that's more due to circumstances and not choice), but I imagine the pressure of finding someone's gonna ramp up eventually and I'd rather get ahead on that.
So if anyone can just give me some basic advice on where to meet people please help. Both for platonic reasons and not. I know bars are a thing just based off movies but I'm not much of a drinker. I can stomach it if that's the only place but I imagine people are hanging out outside bars in real life. I just don't know where. Also naturally have zero dating experience. Not even like the basics. Never asked anyone out/went on a date. I know rule 1 and 2 and probably some others is to not be ugly and I'm not. I am short but I figure I can make up for that. I can talk to women fine, I don't get nervous. Granted I've never tried pursuing someone before and I sure as hell don't know how to close a deal or tell if someone's interesting so who know I might choke there. Part of this is my fault I know, I probably could've made choices to put myself out there more or be more proactive but I've always felt content with my life and never really wanted more till now. Just kind of woke up alone one day and thought "I don't think I've talked to another human being in person, that wasn't a coworker for months" and I want that to change. So any words would be appreciated. Pretend you're teaching an alien or something cause I'm pretty sure whatever stuff you're assuming I already know when you're writing your answer I probably don't.
Oh also I've never been into social media. Never really had much going on to post about outside drawings and shit. I know most dating is online and a lot of people meet through Instagram. Not sure what I'd do there. I have like no photos of me, cause of the isolation thing, my page is just doodles from my notepad. I can take a mirror selfie but I don't know if that'd be sufficient. Maybe for Tinder but probably not one of the more reputable sites, but again, what would I know. I'm genuinely clueless.
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To give you some background on I've just always been solitary given most of my hobbies (playing guitar, drawing, movies/books/games) are stuff you do alone in a room. I also never hung out much with people outside school cause I lived pretty far from everyone in school. I got into this nerd school thing (I'm honestly not sure what it's called cause it wasn't private) in case you're wondering what the circumstances are where I lived far away from everyone else. So even though I wanted to and people wanted to hang with me, I never really had much opportunity to since I always had stuff right after class and shit was too far to really meet em over weekends. And even in the very rare cases I was able to visit friends or they were able to visit me, these people are naturally gonna be pretty similar to me so we just did the same shit I'd do alone just with other people in the room. I figured stuff would change in college but for financial reasons I went to community college, and the one I went to was very much a "finish your classes and leave" kind of deal. Most people there weren't even around my age. So I ain't really meet people and I couldn't hang out with my friends and meet people through them cause they went out of state. Got a job but at a Thai restaurant but they ended up putting me in the back where nobody I interacted with regularly spoke English. After that I transferred to a state college and here I thought "finally, now's my chance to have a normal social life and hang out with people", but of course God had a really funny sense of humor cause right before I graduated from county the pandemic happened. The universe saw I had a chance at having a social life and through divine intervention prevented that from happening. So I basically just spend the last to years of my college online. Last year was hybrid so I went out a little but going to a tech school turns out everyone there is also pretty much isolated nerds. My roommate didn't even leave his room. I had to make sure he wasn't dead a few times and honestly I'm not convinced he wasn't. I'd fully believe if he reanimated by the fungus that grew from his pizza. Anyway then I graduated and since the job market wasn't great I took an opportunity for a job in Maryland when it arose. Thing is that state is very far from where all my friends, family and really everyone I know lives so if I was hoping to meet people through them after they came back from college that got ruined. Cheapest place I was able to find that's close to my work was a studio so I have no roommates. All my coworkers are also about a decade+ older than me and have families and shit, so I can't really hang out with them. I feel like I keeping winning a lottery in how to live the most accidentally isolated life ever. My parents are probably happy I'm the rare person that actually focused on my education and didn't go out partying and shit (tho that's more due to circumstances and not choice), but I imagine the pressure of finding someone's gonna ramp up eventually and I'd rather get ahead on that.
So if anyone can just give me some basic advice on where to meet people please help. Both for platonic reasons and not. I know bars are a thing just based off movies but I'm not much of a drinker. I can stomach it if that's the only place but I imagine people are hanging out outside bars in real life. I just don't know where. Also naturally have zero dating experience. Not even like the basics. Never asked anyone out/went on a date. I know rule 1 and 2 and probably some others is to not be ugly and I'm not. I am short but I figure I can make up for that. I can talk to women fine, I don't get nervous. Granted I've never tried pursuing someone before and I sure as hell don't know how to close a deal or tell if someone's interesting so who know I might choke there. Part of this is my fault I know, I probably could've made choices to put myself out there more or be more proactive but I've always felt content with my life and never really wanted more till now. Just kind of woke up alone one day and thought "I don't think I've talked to another human being in person, that wasn't a coworker for months" and I want that to change. So any words would be appreciated. Pretend you're teaching an alien or something cause I'm pretty sure whatever stuff you're assuming I already know when you're writing your answer I probably don't.
Oh also I've never been into social media. Never really had much going on to post about outside drawings and shit. I know most dating is online and a lot of people meet through Instagram. Not sure what I'd do there. I have like no photos of me, cause of the isolation thing, my page is just doodles from my notepad. I can take a mirror selfie but I don't know if that'd be sufficient. Maybe for Tinder but probably not one of the more reputable sites, but again, what would I know. I'm genuinely clueless.
2024.05.29 04:10 richied930 How do you build a social life from absolutely nothing?
So I've recently come to the horrible realization that I have no social life, no dating experience, and I have no idea how I'd get started on either. To make things clear from the start, this isn't cause of social anxiety or anything. I'm not a nervous persona and never had issues holding a conversation. My problem here is born of pure ignorance. I just don't know where people hang out or really how to establish relationships both platonic and romantic. I can maintain a friendship fine. I got friends. I just don't know how to start one. These people just found me and I managed to not scare them off.
To give you some background on I've just always been solitary given most of my hobbies (playing guitar, drawing, movies/books/games) are stuff you do alone in a room. I also never hung out much with people outside school cause I lived pretty far from everyone in school. I got into this nerd school thing (I'm honestly not sure what it's called cause it wasn't private) in case you're wondering what the circumstances are where I lived far away from everyone else. So even though I wanted to and people wanted to hang with me, I never really had much opportunity to since I always had stuff right after class and shit was too far to really meet em over weekends. And even in the very rare cases I was able to visit friends or they were able to visit me, these people are naturally gonna be pretty similar to me so we just did the same shit I'd do alone just with other people in the room. I figured stuff would change in college but for financial reasons I went to community college, and the one I went to was very much a "finish your classes and leave" kind of deal. Most people there weren't even around my age. So I ain't really meet people and I couldn't hang out with my friends and meet people through them cause they went out of state. Got a job but at a Thai restaurant but they ended up putting me in the back where nobody I interacted with regularly spoke English. After that I transferred to a state college and here I thought "finally, now's my chance to have a normal social life and hang out with people", but of course God had a really funny sense of humor cause right before I graduated from county the pandemic happened. The universe saw I had a chance at having a social life and through divine intervention prevented that from happening. So I basically just spend the last to years of my college online. Last year was hybrid so I went out a little but going to a tech school turns out everyone there is also pretty much isolated nerds. My roommate didn't even leave his room. I had to make sure he wasn't dead a few times and honestly I'm not convinced he wasn't. I'd fully believe if he reanimated by the fungus that grew from his pizza. Anyway then I graduated and since the job market wasn't great I took an opportunity for a job in Maryland when it arose. Thing is that state is very far from where all my friends, family and really everyone I know lives so if I was hoping to meet people through them after they came back from college that got ruined. Cheapest place I was able to find that's close to my work was a studio so I have no roommates. All my coworkers are also about a decade+ older than me and have families and shit, so I can't really hang out with them. I feel like I keeping winning a lottery in how to live the most accidentally isolated life ever. My parents are probably happy I'm the rare person that actually focused on my education and didn't go out partying and shit (tho that's more due to circumstances and not choice), but I imagine the pressure of finding someone's gonna ramp up eventually and I'd rather get ahead on that.
So if anyone can just give me some basic advice on where to meet people please help. Both for platonic reasons and not. I know bars are a thing just based off movies but I'm not much of a drinker. I can stomach it if that's the only place but I imagine people are hanging out outside bars in real life. I just don't know where. Also naturally have zero dating experience. Not even like the basics. Never asked anyone out/went on a date. I know rule 1 and 2 and probably some others is to not be ugly and I'm not. I am short but I figure I can make up for that. I can talk to women fine, I don't get nervous. Granted I've never tried pursuing someone before and I sure as hell don't know how to close a deal or tell if someone's interesting so who know I might choke there. Part of this is my fault I know, I probably could've made choices to put myself out there more or be more proactive but I've always felt content with my life and never really wanted more till now. Just kind of woke up alone one day and thought "I don't think I've talked to another human being in person, that wasn't a coworker for months" and I want that to change. So any words would be appreciated. Pretend you're teaching an alien or something cause I'm pretty sure whatever stuff you're assuming I already know when you're writing your answer I probably don't.
Oh also I've never been into social media. Never really had much going on to post about outside drawings and shit. I know most dating is online and a lot of people meet through Instagram. Not sure what I'd do there. I have like no photos of me, cause of the isolation thing, my page is just doodles from my notepad. I can take a mirror selfie but I don't know if that'd be sufficient. Maybe for Tinder but probably not one of the more reputable sites, but again, what would I know. I'm genuinely clueless.
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To give you some background on I've just always been solitary given most of my hobbies (playing guitar, drawing, movies/books/games) are stuff you do alone in a room. I also never hung out much with people outside school cause I lived pretty far from everyone in school. I got into this nerd school thing (I'm honestly not sure what it's called cause it wasn't private) in case you're wondering what the circumstances are where I lived far away from everyone else. So even though I wanted to and people wanted to hang with me, I never really had much opportunity to since I always had stuff right after class and shit was too far to really meet em over weekends. And even in the very rare cases I was able to visit friends or they were able to visit me, these people are naturally gonna be pretty similar to me so we just did the same shit I'd do alone just with other people in the room. I figured stuff would change in college but for financial reasons I went to community college, and the one I went to was very much a "finish your classes and leave" kind of deal. Most people there weren't even around my age. So I ain't really meet people and I couldn't hang out with my friends and meet people through them cause they went out of state. Got a job but at a Thai restaurant but they ended up putting me in the back where nobody I interacted with regularly spoke English. After that I transferred to a state college and here I thought "finally, now's my chance to have a normal social life and hang out with people", but of course God had a really funny sense of humor cause right before I graduated from county the pandemic happened. The universe saw I had a chance at having a social life and through divine intervention prevented that from happening. So I basically just spend the last to years of my college online. Last year was hybrid so I went out a little but going to a tech school turns out everyone there is also pretty much isolated nerds. My roommate didn't even leave his room. I had to make sure he wasn't dead a few times and honestly I'm not convinced he wasn't. I'd fully believe if he reanimated by the fungus that grew from his pizza. Anyway then I graduated and since the job market wasn't great I took an opportunity for a job in Maryland when it arose. Thing is that state is very far from where all my friends, family and really everyone I know lives so if I was hoping to meet people through them after they came back from college that got ruined. Cheapest place I was able to find that's close to my work was a studio so I have no roommates. All my coworkers are also about a decade+ older than me and have families and shit, so I can't really hang out with them. I feel like I keeping winning a lottery in how to live the most accidentally isolated life ever. My parents are probably happy I'm the rare person that actually focused on my education and didn't go out partying and shit (tho that's more due to circumstances and not choice), but I imagine the pressure of finding someone's gonna ramp up eventually and I'd rather get ahead on that.
So if anyone can just give me some basic advice on where to meet people please help. Both for platonic reasons and not. I know bars are a thing just based off movies but I'm not much of a drinker. I can stomach it if that's the only place but I imagine people are hanging out outside bars in real life. I just don't know where. Also naturally have zero dating experience. Not even like the basics. Never asked anyone out/went on a date. I know rule 1 and 2 and probably some others is to not be ugly and I'm not. I am short but I figure I can make up for that. I can talk to women fine, I don't get nervous. Granted I've never tried pursuing someone before and I sure as hell don't know how to close a deal or tell if someone's interesting so who know I might choke there. Part of this is my fault I know, I probably could've made choices to put myself out there more or be more proactive but I've always felt content with my life and never really wanted more till now. Just kind of woke up alone one day and thought "I don't think I've talked to another human being in person, that wasn't a coworker for months" and I want that to change. So any words would be appreciated. Pretend you're teaching an alien or something cause I'm pretty sure whatever stuff you're assuming I already know when you're writing your answer I probably don't.
Oh also I've never been into social media. Never really had much going on to post about outside drawings and shit. I know most dating is online and a lot of people meet through Instagram. Not sure what I'd do there. I have like no photos of me, cause of the isolation thing, my page is just doodles from my notepad. I can take a mirror selfie but I don't know if that'd be sufficient. Maybe for Tinder but probably not one of the more reputable sites, but again, what would I know. I'm genuinely clueless.
2024.05.29 04:07 apehasreturned Booking the AEW World Title in 2024 - Part Two: The Master
 | Part One Here! submitted by apehasreturned to FantasyBookingElite [link] [comments] We pick up following Blood and Guts, where AEW Champion Swerve Strickland led his team to victory over the Elite. It’s been an insanely brutal and bloody reign for Swerve so far, and with enemies and allies alike climbing the ladder towards a shot at the gold, he’s starting to grow slightly paranoid. With a second trip to Wembley approaching, the talk of the town is who’s going to win the Owen and go for AEW’s top title at Wembley - if Swerve even makes it there, the fans knowing that his wars of attrition are leaving him worse for wear with each passing defence. Road to All In London The lineup for the Owen is being narrowed down coming out of Blood and Guts, with MJF, Jay White, Bryan Danielson, Will Ospreay, Darby Allin, Hangman Page, Konosuke Takeshita and Katsuyori Shibata all in the running. With blockbuster match after blockbuster match being fought to determine the finalists for Calgary, we eventually come down to two: MJF and Will Ospreay, set on a collision course for the ages. Swerve’s troubles don’t end there, though - after leaving the Mogul Embassy, his old allies smell blood in the water, and the EVPs are all too happy to make Strickland’s life more miserable by announcing a title match with Brian Cage for the Dynamite opener in Alberta’s largest city. AEW World Title: Swerve Strickland (c) vs. Brian Cage Cage gets a good showing in here, using his remarkable athleticism to nearly put the champion away early, but once Swerve gets rolling, it’s clear that there are levels to this game. The Machine goes for a Liger Bomb, Swerve reversing into a hurricanrana to leave him prone for a HOUSE CALL, FOLLOWED BY A SWERVE STOMP! ONE! TWO! THREE! Swerve Strickland def. Brian Cage (11:51) to retain the AEW World Title After the bout, Swerve’s handed his title, and he keeps it hugged tight to his chest as he grabs a microphone. He says everyone’s been working their asses off around him to try and take this from him, but the champion promises he’s not afraid. He welcomes the challenge, because there ain’t nobody like Swerve Strickland in SWERVE’S HOUSE. He says he’s looking forward to seeing who comes out on top in the main event, and heads off backstage to watch it with Prince Nana. Owen Hart Foundation Tournament Final: MJF vs. Will Ospreay This gets a lot of time, with no limit on a tournament final. Let them cook. MJF is in worse shape than Ospreay, having been flung straight into a tournament after a series of surgeries left him held together with duct tape, but Ospreay’s in a worse headspace, his typical unending confidence hampered by a few narrow wins en route to the final. However, it’s two spectacular in-ring talents, and they go ham in pursuit of victory, MJF wanting to headline Wembley for the second straight year and Ospreay looking to win the AEW World Title in a stadium in his home country. The back-and-forth gives way to MJF getting control, working the arm extensively to warm Ospreay up for the Salt of the Earth. However, an appearance by Adam Cole gives an unknowing Ospreay the opportunity to turn the tables with a handstand reversal to a Heatseeker, following it with a Hidden Blade for two. Ospreay considers working on the shoulder, MJF crying out in agony with each blow to the surgically repaired joint, and eventually, Will has him in perfect position for the Storm Driver 93. He knows MJF’s neck and shoulder are in such a state that this would be an automatic victory, but he hesitates just long enough for MJF to roll him up… ONE! TWO! THRE-KICKOUT! MJF grabs the arm to go for a Salt of the Earth, Ospreay rolling him back into a pin of his own, followed by another HIDDEN BLADE! STORMBREAKER! ONE! TWO! THREE! OSPREAY’S GOING TO WEMBLEY! Will Ospreay def. MJF (31:02) to win the Owen Hart Foundation Tournament Out comes Swerve, standing toe to toe with his challenger as confetti falls around them. Ospreay leans on his trophy, grabbing a microphone as it becomes rapidly apparent his confidence is back. He says that All In is on the horizon, and last time AEW was at Wembley Stadium, he won as an outsider… yet Swerve lost. Now, Ospreay’s in AEW full time, mowing through all the competition, and now it’s time that the Kingpin get a shot at the crown. Swerve chuckles before his smile turns into a sneer, growling under his breath that Ospreay will have to kill him to take the AEW Title away - and he’s seen that despite being called the Assassin, he can’t do that. The next week on Dynamite, Ospreay and Swerve are scheduled for a face to face promo in the ring, the title match official for All In. It’s electric as they stand opposite one another in the squared circle, trading some quick verbal barbs that they both brush off before getting down to brass tacks, Swerve holding the microphone and beginning to speak. “Will, you’re impressive, man. You can be as athletic as the day is long, but it’s not ‘heavy is the body that wears the crown,’ it’s ‘heavy is the head,’ and there ain’t nobody like me. This is a mental game, and you don’t have what it takes there. You blew yourself up and broke your own neck when you went for the IWGP Title. You were betrayed by the Don Callis Family and somehow didn’t see it coming. You were beaten on your home turf by your sworn enemy because you got in your own head. You had the win of a lifetime against Bryan, and then you felt so bad about it that you neutered your arsenal. You don’t have what it takes… in your head or in your guts. There’s only one head fit for this crown, and it’s mine.” Ospreay scoffs, trying to keep his cool, but he doesn’t wait long before grabbing the microphone out of Swerve’s hand to an “oooh,” from the crowd. “Ain’t nobody like you, bruv? How dare you talk down to me. How dare you condescend me, belittle me, you arrogant bastard? I came here to AEW and started taking heads, just like I did in Japan, and there were people there just like you. People who said ‘ah, he’s not got it in him to be the next big gaijin. He’ll never be the champion,’ and now there’s you, saying I don’t have what it takes because I don’t have the mentality. YOU don’t have the mentality to do what I do. To fly from the UK to here twice a week, to raise a family, to spend a whole career an ocean away from home, to wear the crown on your head that says you’re the greatest wrestler on Earth. Nobody’s done that but ME, and when that championship’s fastened around my waist, mate, it’s going to prove what everyone already knows - that Will Ospreay’s on another level, and Swerve Strickland… he’s punching up.” Now it’s Strickland’s turn to try and keep a lid on his anger, stepping toe to toe with his challenger and holding the title inches from his face. He tells Ospreay to listen close, before saying that the years of hard work Ospreay put in everywhere but home aren’t gonna be enough to help. He’s gonna be in front of his family, he’s gonna be in front of his friends, he’s gonna be in front of his people, and he’s going to let them all down, because he’s an impressive athlete, but he’s not the guy. Finally, Ospreay snaps, throwing a SHORT HEADBUTT, AND NOW BOTH MEN ARE THROWING FISTS! IT’S UTTER BEDLAM! The bell starts ringing to try and encourage them to break it up, but neither man is stepping down now, furiously exchanging blows as security rushes to the ring to divide them. Swerve grabs the championship, hoisting it high as he spits venom at Ospreay, the challenger spewing a string of words that probably won’t make air. They keep trying to break free and take another swing, commentary asking what on Earth they’ll do when they’re finally let loose at Wembley Stadium, pride and the promotion’s top prize on the line. Swerve Strickland (c) vs. Will Ospreay All In London Wembley Stadium is packed to the gills as All In goes on the air, and they’re fit to burst as the first theme they hear is that of the Commonwealth Kingpin. Justin Roberts announces that our opening match is for the AEW World Title, and Ospreay receives plenty of fanfare and fireworks as he makes his way to the ring, looking more motivated than ever. He’s clearly jonesing in the ring, eagerly awaiting Swerve’s arrival as his compatriots cheer him on… and then Chaka Khan hits. Strickland may be in enemy territory, but the crowd can't help but sing. Oozing charisma as he enters the squared circle, the AEW Champion seems more than ready to put the Assassin down, the electric crowd letting both men soak in the moment as the bell rings. HERE WE GO! SWERVE VS. OSPREAY, LIVE FROM WEMBLEY, AEW TITLE ON THE LINE! AEW World Title: Swerve Strickland (c) vs. Will Ospreay From the bell, Strickland and Ospreay are exchanging words as they gravitate towards one another, Ospreay calling for a lockup. They settle into a collar and elbow, Ospreay using his size to his advantage to try and muscle Swerve into the ropes, but Strickland reversing the momentum to cinch in a side headlock. Will still drives Swerve into the ropes, eventually breaking free and whipping Strickland across the ring, the champion building up speed as he ducks a clothesline attempt from the challenger and nails a Tijeras to send Ospreay flying. Ospreay’s quickly back up to his feet, Swerve attempting a slip behind for a German Suplex, but Will countering with a headlock takeover, kipping up and throwing a superkick that’s narrowly avoided by Swerve, who drops flat to his back, picking Ospreay’s leg and floating into a handstand to bring Ospreay down with a headscissors. Will kips up once more to break free, Swerve scrambling to stand up before OSPREAY THROWS A HIDDEN BLADE, SWERVE DIVING OUT OF THE WAY AT THE LAST MOMENT BEFORE CATASTROPHE! Strickland quickly pivots as Will looks to get to his feet, attempting a HOUSE CALL, BUT NOW IT’S OSPREAY’S TURN TO DODGE AS BOTH MEN END UP STANDING! Gritting his teeth, Swerve goes for another lockup with Ospreay, this time quickly kicking him in the gut for a snapmare, cinching in a chinlock to talk some smack. The Aerial Assassin lands a few elbows to the body as he strives to get back to his feet, finally breaking free before being grounded again by a Tijeras from Swerve. Strickland grabs hold of his challenger again, Ospreay furiously backpedaling into the corner to avoid a lifting inverted DDT, only for Swerve to send him through the ropes for a HANGING NECKBREAKER! Ospreay rolls out to the apron instinctively, Swerve kicking out one of his legs and stepping through the middle rope to SLINGSHOT INTO A DDT ON THE APRON, BUT OSPREAY HANDSPRINGS STRAIGHT TO HIS FEET ON THE FLOOR! Strickland gets cocky, thinking he landed the shot, and turns around to see Ospreay charging at his legs. Swerve leaps up, still on the apron as Will overshoots, the champion pivoting for an APRON PUMP KICK, OSPREAY DUCKING IT AND LEAPING BACK ONTO THE APRON! SWERVE TURNS AROUND ONCE AGAIN… AND OSPREAY FLIES IN WITH AN APRON OSCUTTER! Tumbling to the floor, Swerve tries to get to his senses and figure out how he came out on the rough end of the sequence on the apron, but Ospreay gives him no time to think with a ROBINSON SPECIAL OFF THE APRON, STRAIGHT THROUGH THE BACK OF HIS HEAD! He props Swerve against the barricade, chopping him across the chest before scrambling to the top rope for a SKY TWISTER PRESS TO THE OUTSIDE - ONLY FOR SWERVE TO AVOID IT, NAILING OSPREAY WITH A GERMAN SUPLEX ONTO THE FLOOR! With Ospreay stunned, Strickland slides back in to break the count, measuring his man before effortlessly delivering a FOSBURY FLOP OUT TO RINGSIDE, WIPING OUT THE CHALLENGER! Turning the tables on Ospreay, now it’s Swerve’s turn to lay in some chops against the barricade, only for Will to dump him over the barrier and into the crowd. He follows it up with a hook kick over the guardrail to stagger the champion, running the length of ringside and LAUNCHING HIMSELF STRAIGHT INTO A PUMP KICK FROM THE CHAMPION! Swerve hops up onto the barricade, grabbing hold of Ospreay in a front facelock before MUSCLING HIM UP AND OVER WITH A BRAINBUSTER, OFF OF THE BARRICADE AND RIGHT DOWN ONTO THE FLOOR AT RINGSIDE! He rushes to roll Will back between the ropes, hooking both legs… ONE! TWO! TH-NOOO! Swerve jumps to the middle rope to deliver a diving European Uppercut to the back of the head before Ospreay can quite get to his feet, following it up with a DISCUS LARIAT! The assault on the head is relentless, Swerve looking for a DDT before being driven into the ropes, Will trying to earn a momentary reprieve. Instead, Strickland pummels him with Muay Thai knees to the body, heaving him up for a LIGER BOMB! ONE! TWO! THRE-KICKOUT ONCE MORE! Swerve lets out a frustrated roar, deadlift Ospreay up to attempt another powerbomb, but Ospreay manages to drop to the apron for a gamengiri, followed by a PIP PIP CHEERIO! ONE! TWO! KICKOUT! Desperate to keep momentum on his side, Ospreay quickly delivers a rolling elbow, following it up with a SNAP DRAGON SUPLEX, BUT SWERVE RIGHT BACK UP TO HIS FEET, NAILING A GERMAN! He swivels around, only to see Ospreay landed on his feet, BOTH MEN THROWING HIGH KICKS BEFORE COLLAPSING TO THE CANVAS! Wembley rallies behind Ospreay as both men struggle to get to their feet, barely stirring before the challenger begins pounding the mat, leaning back onto his hands for a kip-up before Swerve simply spins to punt him in the face and bring him back to the mat. Strickland rises to his feet, looking for the House Call, but OSPREAY HAS NONE OF IT, CATCHING THE LEG FOR A STYLES CLASH! ONE! TWO! THR-NOO! Following through, Ospreay attempts a Hidden Blade, Swerve ducking it before rushing towards his opponent and INTO A SPANISH FLY FOR A NEARFALL! Ospreay grabs the back of Swerve’s head, paying him back for the focused assault with a flurry of Kawada Kicks to the face, followed by an attempt at a delayed vertical suplex, Strickland floating over and landing on his feet. The champion runs the ropes, Ospreay stopping him in his tracks with a dropsault and an enziguri, continuously building momentum with a STUNDOG MILLIONAIRE TO FINALLY DROP SWERVE TO HIS BACK! Unleashing a war cry, Ospreay has a gleam in his eyes as he looks towards the top turnbuckle, dragging himself through the ropes to the apron before clambering up to the high rent district, turning his back to Swerve for another SKY TWISTER PRESS, SWERVE ONCE AGAIN ROLLING IN TOWARDS THE TURNBUCKLES… BUT OSPREAY ROLLS STRAIGHT THROUGH TO HIS FEET! Strickland flashes his grill to the camera in the corner with a smile, Ospreay looming behind him before BLASTING STRAIGHT THROUGH HIM WITH A HIDDEN BLADE! ONE! TWO! THRE-SWERVE POWERS OUT! It’s been just over fifteen minutes of insanity as Ospreay smells blood in the water, knowing if he connects with a Stormbreaker, he can wrap this up. However, that certainty would only be cemented if he were to nail a Storm Driver 93, but he refuses to go to such lengths, hooking the arms… BUT SWERVE COUNTERS WITH A BACK BODY DROP, ONLY FOR OSPREAY TO LAND ON HIS FEET! HE BREAKS INTO A SPRINT, REBOUNDING OFF THE ROPES FOR A SPRINGBOARD OSCUTTER - STRAIGHT INTO A HOUSE CALL! SWERVE INTERCEPTED HIM! ONE! TWO! THRE-NOOOO! Strickland can’t believe it, but he’s got Ospreay dead to rights, spinning him around into position for a Tombstone. Strickland looks to the hard cam, a smug sneer on his face as OSPREAY REVERSES WITH A SEGA MEGA DRIVER, SPIKING HIM DOWN ON HIS HEAD! ONE! TWO! THRE-NOOOO! Ospreay is in disbelief, even a tribute to Mad Kurt not being enough to put Swerve down, but he’s staying on the ball as he hooks Swerve’s arms to go for a STORMBREAKER, ONLY FOR SWERVE TO FLOAT OVER FOR A LIFTING INVERTED DDT! Will’s rally wasn’t enough to get him out of trouble, and STRICKLAND FOLLOWS IT UP WITH A SECOND HOUSE CALL! SWERVE IMMEDIATELY ON THE ATTACK ONCE MORE, POSITIONING OSPREAY FOR A JML DRIVER… BUT WILL CLEARS HIS HEAD, COUNTERING WITH A POISON RANA! SWERVE UP TO HIS KNEES, BUT OSPREAY FOLLOWS IT WITH A SPRINGBOARD OSCUTTER! HIDDEN BLADE TO THE BASE OF THE SKULL, AND NOW… STORMBREAKER! ONE! TWO! THREE! WILL OSPREAY IS THE AEW WORLD CHAMPION! Will Ospreay def. Swerve Strickland (20:10) to win the AEW World Title Later in the night, Kazuchika Okada defeats Kenny Omega to win their fifth encounter, establishing himself firmly as the Number One Contender to the AEW World Title, giving the new champion only two weeks to prepare to face off with one of his greatest foes - a foe he’s only managed to beat cleanly once, while falling to the Rainmaker eight times. Road to All Out Ospreay gets to celebrate on Dynamite, cutting a promo saying he’s geared up to finally put this to bed. He says he’s glad he’s starting his title reign like this, because he’s certain he can beat Okada, and he’ll not have to worry about the spectre looming over him anymore. Every time there was a title on the line, every time the stakes were high, he failed against the Rainmaker - but the stakes were high at Wembley, and he won. He proved Swerve Strickland wrong, and now it’s time to prove Kazuchika Okada wrong. Out steps the Rainmaker, taking the EVP Elevator up onto the stage to say that Ospreay has already proven him wrong; he thought, years ago, that Ospreay was a talent worthy of being in Okada’s stable of CHAOS, and Ospreay proved him wrong when he betrayed his leader, only for Okada to beat the brakes off him at the Tokyo Dome. Okada says that Ospreay should be all too familiar with Okada being the top champion, the Ace, and he plans to finally bring that vision to AEW by restoring the world to its natural order and beating the Aerial Assassin for a ninth time. The Rainmaker’s ego is peaking, having avenged his loss to Kenny Omega just a few days prior, and he says that Omega’s a taller mountain to climb than Ospreay. However, he says he’s sure there’ll be room in the Elite’s ranks for Ospreay, should he come to his senses and want to fall back in line behind the Rainmaker. Ospreay declares that at All Out, he’ll prove to Okada and the world that he’s eclipsed the onetime Ace, while Okada insists that Omega was just the beginning - in just a few days, it’ll be time for the Rainmaker Era to start back up. All Out With All In having just occurred recently, All Out is a package deal with the Wembley show, ensuring a huge audience for what’s certain to be an all-timer main event between the Rainmaker and the Assassin. Both men want to walk out with the gold more than anything in the world, making an already personal rivalry all the more exciting as the coin drops for the last match of the night. Okada appears in a new robe, debuted two weeks prior at Wembley, and as he rises from the Elite Elevator, he’s looking more daunting than ever. There’s only one feud the man had ever lost, and he’d just avenged it against Kenny Omega - this is the most dangerous he’s ever been, and as Will Ospreay makes his way to the ring, Okada doesn’t even turn to face him. The champion is furious, but the challenger sees him as a formality standing between him and another epic World Title reign, refusing to even acknowledge him as they’re both introduced by Justin Roberts. They head to their respective corners, and THE BELL RINGS! IT’S OKADA AND OSPREAY, WORLD TITLE ON THE LINE! AEW World Title: Will Ospreay (c) vs. Kazuchika Okada Both men are hesitant to open themselves up to a big counter in the early goings, especially given how well they know each other, so they try and psych each other out a different way - by waiting. The crowd greets them with a deafening reception as they slowly circle the centre of the ring, eventually meeting with a lockup that sees Okada immediately put his height to good use, bearing down on Ospreay with an attempt at a test of strength. He pushes Ospreay down to the mat, even getting his shoulders down for a moment, but the champion bridges up off the canvas. Okada jumps up and drives his legs down into Ospreay’s body, but Ospreay maintains the bridge with both men’s weight, Okada getting back up and shooting for a lateral press that gets a one count. Transitioning into a side headlock, Okada talks some smack, the Young Bucks supporting him at ringside while taunting the champion. However, Ospreay’s put on plenty of muscle mass over the years, making it all the easier for him to slowly make his way to his feet, twisting free and securing a side headlock of his own on the Rainmaker. Okada sends him into the ropes, Ospreay clinging to the top as Okada instinctively goes for a flapjack. Momentarily confused, Okada gives Will the opening to run in for a dropsault, attempting to follow it with an enziguri that’s ducked, Ospreay springing up… and into a flapjack, the inevitability of the Rainmaker’s plans coming to fruition putting the champion in a bad spot early. Continuing with his somewhat lackadaisical pace, Okada keeps treating Ospreay like he’s not that big of a deal, shoving him into the corner for a double pat on the chest, followed by a stiff forearm across the jaw as the referee steps in. Ospreay lunges at him, Okada grabbing the arm for an Irish Whip into the opposite corner, rushing the champion with a big boot, but Ospreay SLINGSHOTS RIGHT OVER HIM, LANDING ON HIS FEET BEHIND THE RAINMAKER FOR A KICK TO THE HAMSTRING! Ospreay hones in with a swift roundhouse to Okada’s other leg, trying to take out his base, but Okada shrugs it off by catching the leg on a third kick attempt before driving his shoulder straight into the bridge of Ospreay’s nose, following it with a DDT that makes it look like Ospreay just died. The champion goes full scorpion, folding over himself like PAC as Okada grabs hold of the wrist to attempt an early Rainmaker. He gets Ospreay up to his feet, a smirk on his face as he winds him up, but Ospreay cuts through his grip with a sharp elbow before rolling Okada up with a victory roll reversal, straight into a DOUBLE STOMP TO THE GUT! Okada rolls right out of the ring and into the waiting arms of the Elite, Ospreay lining up to try and take him out with a dive before being halted by the Bucks, who leap into the way with their hands up. Ospreay shouts at them to move before going for it anyway, launching himself with a PESCADO, STRAIGHT INTO A BOOT TO THE STOMACH BY THE RAINMAKER! THE BUCKS GAVE HIM TIME TO RECOVER! Taking advantage immediately, Okada sends Ospreay crashing into the barricade, Ospreay crying out before Okada sends him into the aisle on the crowd side of the barrier. He measures his man as he heads to the opposite end of ringside, the Bucks gassing him up as he takes a running start for a CROSSBODY OVER THE GUARDRAIL, LANDING ON HIS FEET AFTER TAKING OUT THE AERIAL ASSASSIN! Okada dusts himself off, his signature look of superiority clearer than ever as he drags Ospreay back to ringside, laying in a few boots to the body before spitefully laying in another DDT, this time on the floor. He breaks the count before continuing to pummel Ospreay at ringside, the Bucks taunting the champion with each consecutive shot he takes. Okada works over the champion’s neck, digging a knee into the back of it as he postures with his stablemates before securing a waistlock for a GERMAN SUPLEX ON THE FLOOR, BUT OSPREAY FLIPS OUT OF IT! He flings himself at Okada with a Hidden Blade attempt from behind, the seemingly omniscient Okada ducking at just the right moment before throwing a boot - but Ospreay’s just too quick, slipping under it and LAYING IN A HOOK KICK, FOLLOWED BY A BACK SUPLEX ON THE OUTSIDE TO THE RAINMAKER! Ospreay backs the Bucks away, threatening to put their faces through the back of their heads before sliding back into the ring and EFFORTLESSLY SOARING THROUGH THE AIR WITH A SKY TWISTER PRESS TO THE FLOOR! He sends Okada back between the ropes, following him with a PIP PIP CHEERIO, BUT OKADA CUTS HIM OFF AGAIN BY KICKING OUT THE ROPES! Ospreay is left hung up on the top, Okada turning him over for a DRAPING NECKBREAKER OFF THE TOP! ONE! TWO! THR-KICKOUT! It’s been virtually all Okada thus far, and he continues to methodically wear Ospreay down with a targeted offensive on the neck of the AEW World Champion. Whenever Ospreay tries to get some momentum going, Okada’s able to reverse it, the style Ospreay honed in New Japan having paid dividends against plenty of other AEW talents, but not the man who defined the style for over a decade. Soon enough, Okada looks for the Rainmaker again, and Ospreay finds his opening by reversing it into a SPANISH FLY! ONE! TWO! KICKOUT! Ospreay looks like a bullet fired from a gun the second Okada’s constant pressure is taken off his shoulders, the champion bolting out to the apron to connect with a PIP PIP CHEERIO, NAILING IT BEFORE OKADA HAS TIME TO REALIZE WHAT HIT HIM! Okada tries to evacuate out the other side of the ring, but Ospreay’s having none of it, grabbing him by the trunks and pulling him back in for a SNAP DRAGON SUPLEX! ONE! TWO! TH-NOOO! Okada sits back up just in time for Ospreay to strike him with a standing round kick to the ear, filling the Rainmaker’s head with cobwebs before flattening him to the canvas with a superkick, finishing the sequence with a RUNNING SHOOTING STAR PRESS! ONE! TWO! THR-ANOTHER KICKOUT, BUT OSPREAY’S FINALLY GOTTEN CONTROL AWAY FROM THE CHALLENGER! With the Chicago crowd rallying behind him, Ospreay struggles to get to his feet, the twenty straight minutes of punishment taking a heavy toll on the champion. However, he’s certainly up before the stunned Okada, with the challenger still attempting to get his wits about him when Ospreay charges with a ROBINSON SPECIAL, STRAIGHT TO THE BASE OF THE SKULL! Okada gets to his feet on instinct alone, the Assassin positioning himself behind his prey and circling him before running the ropes for an OSCUTTER! ONE! TWO! THR-NOOO! Ospreay unleashes some Kawada Kicks on the challenger, letting out his aggression before lighting him up with a flurry of chops, Okada attempting to stand on business and throw some of his own, only for Ospreay to obliterate him with a superkick. Okada is left leaning on the ropes, Ospreay beckoning him towards the centre of the ring before attempting a SHOTGUN DROPKICK, SENDING HIM STRAIGHT THROUGH TO THE APRON! With Okada prone, Ospreay looks for the OSCUTTER ON THE APRON, BUT OKADA CATCHES HIM IN A STRAITJACKET! He attempts a Straitjacket German Suplex on the apron, Ospreay avoiding catastrophe with a back headbutt to the bridge of the nose, followed by a stiff back elbow to send Okada tumbling to the floor. Ospreay vaults over the ropes to break the count, finding himself in the perfect spot for an old favourite as Okada gets to his feet at the base of the ramp. Measuring his man, Ospreay leaps into motion with a SASUKE SPECIAL, BUT OKADA CATCHES HIM! WHAT STRENGTH FROM THE RAINMAKER, AND NOW… OH MY GOD, A TOMBSTONE PILEDRIVER ON THE FLOOR! Okada’s confidence is peaking, the Tombstone on the floor having been a hallmark of so many of his defining victories and none of his defeats. Knowing this, he rolls Ospreay straight back into the ring, the work on the neck having paid dividends as he immediately secures wrist control, hoisting Ospreay up into position for a RAIIIINMAKERRRRRR! HE GOT ALL OF IT! ONE! TWO! THRE-OSPREAY SOMEHOW LIFTS THE SHOULDER UP! Frustrated, Okada hurls Ospreay’s lifeless corpse into the corner and simply starts stomping a mudhole in his face, grinding his boot into the champion’s features before the referee pulls him away. Okada bickers with the ref as the Bucks sneak up on each side of Ospreay, Will instinctively grabbing a hold of Matthew, who scrambles backwards. However, Will stays latched onto him, forming a fist around Matthew’s tie and being pulled through the ropes… ONLY FOR NICHOLAS TO SUPERKICK OSPREAY STRAIGHT INTO THE RING POST, SPARING HIS OLDER BROTHER! Blood begins to spill from the side of Ospreay’s head, dripping onto the ring post and ring skirt as it becomes clear he hit his head damn hard against the steel. Okada pushes past the referee and continues to beat Ospreay down, relishing each moment of offence as he sends the champion packing to the outside with a petulant boot to the side of the head. He rolls out to the floor, the Bucks handing him a bottle of water to cool himself off with after such a brutal match, and now Okada gets to admire the Elite’s handiwork as crimson teardrops start dotting ringside, a bloody mask obscuring Ospreay’s face. Okada keeps beating ass, commentary noting that this is now the longest we’ve seen these two duke it out for, nearly 40 minutes having elapsed. Excalibur notes Ospreay seems harder than ever to put down, but Okada’s showing the same sort of dominance he has in the past, with Schiavone sounding worried that it might just be a matter of time. Looking to finally put an end to things, Okada starts raining closed fists on Ospreay’s head wound, hurling him into the timekeeper’s table. Eventually, he lays Ospreay out on it, clambering up with him before flipping off the camera and calling for another Tombstone. He flips Ospreay around… but Ospreay drops to the floor behind him, sweeping out Okada’s legs before nailing a CHEEKY NANDO’S AGAINST THE GUARDRAIL, LEAVING OKADA SPLAYED OUT ON THE TABLE! Ospreay scrambles towards the ring post, blood pouring down onto his chest as he makes the long climb up the turnbuckles for a FROG SPLASH THROUGH THE TABLE, AND THROUGH OKADA! The count was broken by him hitting the top rope, sparing both men the risk of being counted out as they lie their motionless. Chicago wills them to their feet, Ospreay sending Okada back into the ring before using the surge of energy and momentum to get the challenger up for a STORMBREAKER! HE GOT HIM! OSPREAY’S GONNA DO IT! Ospreay leaps atop Okada, grabbing the leg and leaning back into a deep cover, putting all his weight across the challenger’s shoulders… ONE! TWO! THRE-OKADA’S FOOT IS HOVERING OVER THE BOTTOM ROPE, OSPREAY TOO ENTHUSIASTIC WITH HIS PIN! The Bucks look like they’re about to have panic attacks as an exasperated, mentally battered Ospreay fights back tears, a fraction of an inch away from redemption. However, he knows he’s got control, so all he has to do is take this one home. Both men are in deep waters now, and with both being renowned for their gas tanks, it’s clearly come down to a war of attrition, both men knowing that it’ll all come down to landing the one big move that’ll keep one of them down. They’ve both sustained plenty of damage, but as Ospreay staggers over to the downed Okada, he gets this look in his eyes - the look of a man who has the chance to do the funniest thing ever against a man he resents oh so much. Ospreay grabs Okada’s wrist, the crowd letting out an “oooh” as it becomes clear he’s going for his own parody of the Rainmaker, traditionally a ripcord Spanish Fly. Okada is on dream street as Ospreay positions him, pulling the wrist to whip Okada around… but the Rainmaker is still wise to Ospreay’s moveset, keeping an arm near his side to stop Ospreay from latching on for a Spanish Fly. However, he wasn’t wise enough, Ospreay digging into Kenny Omega’s toolkit with a RAIN TRIGGER, BLINDSIDING OKADA WITH A HUGE HIT HE DIDN’T SEE COMING! Okada falls into the ropes, trying to keep himself upright by keeping a firm grip on the top rope, only to be uprooted by a POISON RANA, OSPREAY SPIKING THE CHALLENGER RIGHT ON HIS HEAD! He stumbles to the corner, Okada looking to find his footing as he gets to his knees… AND EATS A HIDDEN BLADE STRAIGHT TO THE FACE, OSPREAY MOWING STRAIGHT THROUGH HIS CHALLENGER! ONE! TWO! THRE-OKADA GETS THE SHOULDER UP, AND THE GRUELLING BOUT CONTINUES! Justin Roberts is starting to sound pretty nervous as he makes the 50 minute time call, informing both competitors that there’s only ten minutes left in their longest bout against one another to date. Ospreay crawls towards the ropes, driven by pure determination as he peels off his elbow pad, winding up for the Hidden Blade of a lifetime as Okada slowly starts to stir. Both men have taken each other’s biggest shots, but Okada’s in the champion’s sights now, Ospreay waiting until he’s in the perfect position before CHARGING AT FULL TILT INTO A DROPKICK FROM OKADA! Somehow, Okada’s still got pristine form this late into the match, but there’s no time to linger on his magnificence as he rises to his feet, dazed and confused, in desperate need of a dagger against Ospreay. He leans over to hook Ospreay’s wrist, calling for a second Rainmaker, and now he ripcords him in, ONLY FOR OSPREAY TO BLAST HIM WITH A HIDDEN BLADE TO THE FACE ONCE AGAIN ON THE REBOUND! Okada somehow keeps hold of Ospreay’s wrist, tumbling into the ropes and dragging the champion with him, gritting his teeth and letting out a primal roar before CLOBBERING OSPREAY WITH A SHORT ARM LARIAT, BRINGING THEM BOTH DOWN TO THE MAT! Ospreay gets the slightly better landing tactically, turned completely inside out and managing to drape an arm over… ONE! TWO! THRE-NOO! Okada’s kickout flips Ospreay onto his back, the Rainmaker now making an exhausted pinfall attempt… ONE! TWO! THRE-KICKOUT! WHAT’S IT GOING TO TAKE FOR ONE OF THESE MEN TO STAY DOWN? Puddles of Ospreay’s blood stain the canvas as both men lie there, the unimaginable exhaustion washing over both of them as they fight to be the first man to a vertical base. Commentary discusses the importance of securing the upper hand at this moment, and somehow, it’s Ospreay who’s up first, although only by a matter of seconds. Okada decks him with a forearm, the Rainmaker doubled over trying to catch his breath, but Ospreay clocks him with one of his own, followed by a ROLLING ELBOW TO DROP OKADA TO A KNEE! Ospreay ponders a moment, considering going for a Storm Driver 93, and as Justin Roberts says there’s five minutes remaining, he goes for it. He hooks Okada’s arms in a butterfly, muscling him up off his feet… but Okada drops down to his knees, Ospreay too exhausted to lift 250 pounds into position if that 250 pounds is still fighting back. The champion knees Okada in the face before going for it again, but this time, Okada shifts his weight back and SWINGS OSPREAY OVER HIS OWN SHOULDER FOR AN AIR RAID CRASH NECKBREAKER! Ospreay goes down like a sack of potatoes, clutching the back of his neck in pure agony, unable to function properly as Okada scrapes him off the canvas and positions him for an EMPHATIC COBRA FLOWSION, DRIVING OSPREAY’S NECK INTO THE MAT ONCE AGAIN WITH A RESOUNDING THUD! The challenger rises to his feet behind his foe… AND SPREADS HIS ARMS, THE CAMERA ZOOMING OUT TO ENCOMPASS THE CHICAGO CROWD! OKADA HITS THE RAINMAKER POSE, AND HE’S READY TO STUNT ON OSPREAY ONCE MORE! Ospreay’s in the perfect position for the Rainmaker, only a few minutes left on the clock, but both men’s movements have become lethargic and feeble after all they’ve been through. Matthew and Nicholas pound the mat to encourage Okada as he painstakingly leans over to latch on to Ospreay’s wrist, the champion fighting as best he can with a few back elbows, all of which miss the mark. Okada drives a forearm into the back of Ospreay’s neck, dropping him to his knees again before finally heaving him up for the Rainmaker, winding up… AND WHIZZING RIGHT BY OSPREAY, WHO COLLAPSES FROM EXHAUSTION! Okada falls in a heap behind him, but he’s still in better shape than Ospreay with moments remaining. With the last of his adrenaline, Okada scrambles up and picks Ospreay up once more, positioning him for a Rainmaker… BUT OSPREAY DUCKS, THIS TIME BREAKING INTO A SPRINT TO GET OUT OF THE WRISTLOCK! HE BOUNCES OFF THE ROPES, OKADA TOO TIRED TO SPIN AROUND IN TIME, AND NOW OSPREAY NAILS AN UNPROTECTED HIDDEN BLADE TO THE BACK OF THE HEAD! He’s got to roll him over, the seconds counting down as Ospreay simply digs his shoulder into the Rainmaker’s arm to slowly turn him onto his back, struggling to hook the leg… ONE! TWO! THRE-KICKOUT! OKADA GOT THE SHOULDER UP! Ospreay can’t believe it, fighting to get his feet under him, frantically attempting to hook Okada’s arms to get him into position for a Storm… ding ding ding. Will Ospreay and Kazuchika Okada fought to a draw (60:00), for Ospreay to retain the AEW World Title Road to WrestleDream With Ospreay having been unable to put away the Rainmaker within an hour, it’s pretty clear that a rematch has to be on the horizon, but the question is where. Both Grand Slam and WrestleDream are coming up, and on Dynamite, Okada lays down the gauntlet for the PPV, saying that he intends to win the AEW Title at a show paying tribute to one of his idols in Antonio Inoki. However, Ospreay’s not off the hook until October just yet - Grand Slam still stands in the way, and a battle between two of his fantastic previous opponents is set to determine his challenger for the event. Those opponents? Swerve Strickland and MJF. In the end, MJF manages to pull out the win, securing a title challenge right next door to his home at Grand Slam. Ospreay walks in insecure, just as he did in the Owen Finals, but this time with good reason - his first title defence was hardly a successful one, and he might not even have the chance to make up for it if he doesn’t manage to put away the longest-reigning AEW World Champion ever, in their home state. The pressure’s on for the Assassin, and with challengers hounding him, all he can do is try and build momentum with wins week over week. He doesn’t bother trying to match MJF on the stick, the next challenger eviscerating the champion with promo after promo until the go-home show, where a fed up Ospreay simply snipes him with a Hidden Blade to cut him off. Grabbing the microphone, Will promises to prove the title belongs around his waist, telling MJF that he wants the same Max who dominated the AEW main event scene for over a year. (Cont'd in Comments) |
2024.05.29 04:01 dreamer55534 How to date/get back into dating after a long term relationship
How do you date after coming off a long term relationship?
Backstory: My wife (29F) and I (29M) separated at the beginning of the year. We had been together for a total of 9.5 years. We started dating in college in November 2014, got engaged May 2018, and got married May 2021. The beginning of the year she told me she wanted to talk, and she said she hadn't been happy with the relationship for about the last year, and wanted to separate. I pushed back as much as I could and was willing to do anything and everything I could to try and reconcile (offered to do stuff like marriage counseling, going back to the "basics" of dating each other again, etc.), but she already had her mind made up and was ready to move on. I, reluctantly, agreed to separate, and it was a very civil separation. We both made mistakes in the relationship, and ultimately just got complacent and neither side did anything to fix it. I was definitely in quite a deep depression during the whole ordeal, and took a while to pull myself back to a better state of acceptance. I went out to play minigolf with a friend from work and his friends, and something that night just clicked and I started to feel ok and ready to finally move on.
One big caveat: I live in NC, and for those unfamiliar with separation/divorce in NC, you have to be separated for a year and one day before you can file for divorce, so I am still married, legally. The reason I bring this up is because I feel like this may cause a red flag when it comes to dating.
That being said, I honestly don't know how/where to start in getting back into dating. Both of my relationships were with female friends I had gotten to know well and liked during school (1 in HS, 1 in college). I know there are plenty of dating apps out there, and that some are better than others, and have heard a lot of good and bad stories when it comes to said apps. I'm not a very outgoing or social person; I am quite introverted and shy. I've never been big into going out and partying or going to clubs, and I don't drink (by choice, as I do not like the taste of alcohol). I'm just super nervous about it all.
I am open to all advice and welcome all opinions on the subject, and I thank everyone for their time and input!
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Backstory: My wife (29F) and I (29M) separated at the beginning of the year. We had been together for a total of 9.5 years. We started dating in college in November 2014, got engaged May 2018, and got married May 2021. The beginning of the year she told me she wanted to talk, and she said she hadn't been happy with the relationship for about the last year, and wanted to separate. I pushed back as much as I could and was willing to do anything and everything I could to try and reconcile (offered to do stuff like marriage counseling, going back to the "basics" of dating each other again, etc.), but she already had her mind made up and was ready to move on. I, reluctantly, agreed to separate, and it was a very civil separation. We both made mistakes in the relationship, and ultimately just got complacent and neither side did anything to fix it. I was definitely in quite a deep depression during the whole ordeal, and took a while to pull myself back to a better state of acceptance. I went out to play minigolf with a friend from work and his friends, and something that night just clicked and I started to feel ok and ready to finally move on.
One big caveat: I live in NC, and for those unfamiliar with separation/divorce in NC, you have to be separated for a year and one day before you can file for divorce, so I am still married, legally. The reason I bring this up is because I feel like this may cause a red flag when it comes to dating.
That being said, I honestly don't know how/where to start in getting back into dating. Both of my relationships were with female friends I had gotten to know well and liked during school (1 in HS, 1 in college). I know there are plenty of dating apps out there, and that some are better than others, and have heard a lot of good and bad stories when it comes to said apps. I'm not a very outgoing or social person; I am quite introverted and shy. I've never been big into going out and partying or going to clubs, and I don't drink (by choice, as I do not like the taste of alcohol). I'm just super nervous about it all.
I am open to all advice and welcome all opinions on the subject, and I thank everyone for their time and input!
2024.05.29 03:31 Live_Psychology_4117 I (28F) dating a (44M) and I’m struggling with the physical piece
I matched with a guy on a dating app a few months ago and the chemistry between us is great. He makes me laugh and I feel comfortable around him. He is a terrible kisser and his breath isn’t always great. Every time I think we’re about to have sex he takes forever to actually do it. He’ll just be in between me looking at my body or want MORE foreplay or ask for head and I get frustrated and just put my clothes back on and nothing happens. I am sexually frustrated !! I have never had this issue before and I feel that he gets nervous so it makes me nervous/insecure as well. I’m not sure if the reason this isn’t happening is because of me or because we’re not sexually compatible (even though he his hard often) I brought it up to him and he said it’s my fault because he feels I close up and that’s not appealing to him. He wants me to be more open and seductive but I’m literally naked in his bed and he’s not very manly when he’s trying to “seduce” me either. Ugh. What should I do? I feel that sexual compatibility is important.
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2024.05.29 02:34 RideHot9154 What to do months before start?
Hi everyone!
I had posted here before about having an amazing interview with the mom and the kid and being nervous and hoping they wanted me.
Well, it was successful and i'm going to be their AP :) We confirmed this weekend, and I was sent over all the info today--expectations, compensation details etc. It's later for them as they're in europe and i'm in north america right now, so I'm planning on responding tomorrow and texting her.
The job begins end of August. This was the exact dates I was looking for, and i was hoping to secure something far in advance so i'm very excited about that. i kept striking out with families that wanted me to start immediately, or within the next 3 weeks. their current AP is finishing soon, and then they're spending summer holidays in their home country, so i'm starting when they are back for the start of the school year.
But now that it's all looking to begin to be confirmed, i find myself feeling like "wow, three months feels so far!". My question is, when it's in advance like this--what do you do to keep the ball rolling while i wait to start? how frequent should communication with the family be and such? as i feel like it'd be weird/awkward to be like "yup confirmed...well, see ya in three months!" and then just not be talking to them haha. but i also don't want to be like too overbearing/intruding before i start.
so TLDR; just looking for advice/experience from families who have confirmed with an au pair months ahead on what to expect/how to go about communication :)
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I had posted here before about having an amazing interview with the mom and the kid and being nervous and hoping they wanted me.
Well, it was successful and i'm going to be their AP :) We confirmed this weekend, and I was sent over all the info today--expectations, compensation details etc. It's later for them as they're in europe and i'm in north america right now, so I'm planning on responding tomorrow and texting her.
The job begins end of August. This was the exact dates I was looking for, and i was hoping to secure something far in advance so i'm very excited about that. i kept striking out with families that wanted me to start immediately, or within the next 3 weeks. their current AP is finishing soon, and then they're spending summer holidays in their home country, so i'm starting when they are back for the start of the school year.
But now that it's all looking to begin to be confirmed, i find myself feeling like "wow, three months feels so far!". My question is, when it's in advance like this--what do you do to keep the ball rolling while i wait to start? how frequent should communication with the family be and such? as i feel like it'd be weird/awkward to be like "yup confirmed...well, see ya in three months!" and then just not be talking to them haha. but i also don't want to be like too overbearing/intruding before i start.
so TLDR; just looking for advice/experience from families who have confirmed with an au pair months ahead on what to expect/how to go about communication :)