I’m eager to learn swimming, but I’m apprehensive about the time it might take, especially at my age of 29. I’ve watched numerous videos of people succumbing to the waters in lakes, pools, or beaches, and I can’t help but imagine myself in their shoes. I often wonder, “What if I were in that situation?” or “What if I were helpless to save a drowning person and could only stand by and call for assistance?”
My fear isn’t rooted in swimming itself, but in the possibility of drowning and the inability to prevent someone else from doing so.
So, I’m curious to know, how long did it take for you to swim comfortably for leisure?

At the fisrt, sorry for my english, i'm a little oxidated, but i'll try my best. (it's not my original lenguaje)
But first, a little of context:
It's an story by 7 years. I did meet my (not still) ex-husband on a convention of Anime, i did in cossplayed by Electra and he was Tony Stark, he was had a girlfriend and I was in a toxit relationship (story i'll tell in other time). But in that day, i swear, i did wish had him, i did fall in love. We talk just a little moment, we take a photograph and we keep going with our lives.
One year latter, when i'd brake up my relationship, i fall down in a horrible depression and 1 try to unsiscribe by the life. I'd try to grow up and join a group of single peopple just search fun. I'd was surprised to find that boy again in that group.
Uno month latter, we'd be in a relationship. After two years, we was marrige. Whitout anything more than love, we start this new stage, in the night of weddings, i got pregnant.
At that moment, i wasn´t know i had anxiety and depression cronique, and during pregnancy it only gets worse, and our relationship wasn't the best, we fight a lot, especially because I felt very unprotected by my partner: when we went out there were men who made bad comments to me and I even had to walk home alone after work, not to mention that there were a couple of occasions in which, due to the times , I could only prepare food and run to work, without eating a bite, to be surprised when I returned that he alone finished the food without leaving me anything.
Added to that, the first four months of pregnancy and marriage, he was without work, I had to take care of the household alone; Added to this, to lighten the burden a little, a relative did us the favor of renting us well below the value he had, his house which was uninhabited. Imagine my shame when he asked for the rent and I didn't have the money to pay because my husband didn't go out looking for work. If they hadn't given him an ultimatum, he would have spent years like this, until he asked for a job at the only company where they don't fire anyone.
All of this caused me to spend the entire pregnancy stressed and worried.
The last straw was the day my baby was born, which coincided with my husband's birthday. I had a complicated birth, in which they had to do an emergency procedure: I was hospitalized for two full days, alone, without eating or drinking anything (For those who don't know, the medical service in Mexico is beyond terrible). Not to make it long, my birth was more than complicated; and my mortification was no less when all my relatives, when they were able to come see me, kept telling me how mortified they were, on the other hand my husband looked like a child at Christmas because they brought him gifts for his birthday, even my best friend from school.
When my baby was born, I was aware that I wasn't feeling well, so I decided to take some time to recover before returning to work. And for those who are wondering, it's not like I had a great job, our economic position was not good at all, but my depression only got worse since my baby was born, the complications of childbirth made me feel terribly guilty just thinking about it. that something could have happened to my baby.
Day after day, even though I did not work and did not contribute financially to the house, I made an effort to ensure that the little money that came into the house was enough for everything: milk, diapers and food. Despite everything, I always made sure to prepare a good breakfast and lunch for my husband to take to work, I got up before him so I could have that attention with him; Imagine my disappointment when he often returned with the food intact from when she prepared it for him and told me that he had preferred to buy something to eat. This only made me feel like I was useless. Added to the fact that on more than one occasion he even left the front door of the house open for us: a woman who had just had surgery and a newborn baby, in a neighborhood where, in open secret, it was hot for organized crime, added to the fact that I I felt insecure around him.
My family kept making comments to me about how bad my husband felt for me, how bad I looked (comments that I questioned, because my family never liked my husband). Despite the bad things, he had his attempts to be thoughtful and considerate (in the wrong way or causing me more problems, but I understood that it was his way of showing that he cared).
This was when I began to understand that my husband was like that, disconnected from reality, it was his shell of protection since he practically grew up in foster homes with "relatives" or "acquaintances", many of them were very violent and mistreated him, making him feel alone and vulnerable. I learned much of this from him, the rest his mother herself came to tell me and the rest was a matter of adding 2 + 2.
When I assimilated this and that the situation would not improve, when my baby turned 9 months old, I decided to look for a job, fortunately I found a way to work from what I studied (because yes, I have a degree), and with very humanitarian bosses. those who didn't even mind me occasionally taking my baby to teach classes with me (because yes, I ended up teaching at a basic level). Thanks to this, the situation at home improved a little, but the arguments did not stop over small things, more than anything everything he did or did not do bothered me. I guess it was because of the exhaustion of dealing with everything alone, and for anyone wondering, no, he practically didn't help me with the baby issues; With the household chores (just washing the dishes and sometimes sweeping the common areas), I took care of the rest, in addition to always making sure the house was safe for a one-year-old baby.
One of the breaking points for me (this occurs in the dark time of the pandemic when we all lock ourselves at home), your company was one of the last to send them to rest, however, since my sector was related to dealing with children, I was one of the first sectors to confine themselves to home, so now I was doing homme office. One morning I realized that the man not only lost the keys to the house, but he took mine to leave, locked them and left them stuck outside the door, leaving me locked in with my baby without the possibility of getting out if anything arose. emergency. If it hadn't been for my father, who came to visit me to see how he was doing, who knows what would have happened. Get an idea of ​​how little he cared about the safety of his family.
These, among other things, added up over the years, until I began to ask him, as a last chance to save our marriage (because at this point, I felt broken and discouraged), I insisted that we seek help, couples therapy or at least individual therapy, but he didn't listen to me or wasn't interested. Until the first time I packed my and my baby's things, he realized that I was serious and that I would leave him, he still didn't want therapy, not even when I was honest with him and told him that there were many things that I couldn't do. forgive him, especially for the pregnancy; What did happen was that he began to collaborate more at home and finally began to take responsibilities with our son.
The facts:
What ended up being the final break was a day of extreme heat, where the weather was useless and there were no technicians operating in the area. My son, now 3 years old, is very hot and in any heat his nose tends to bleed a lot, especially that weekend he was very tired, despite that, the only solution I could think of was to put the pool inside the house ( to avoid having it under the sun), I clarify that at that time we lived in a small two-bedroom apartment, which yes, I admit was an impractical solution but it was the only thing that occurred to me. Even before I did it, I notified him of what I was trying to do, not to ask for permission, but just to notify him so he wouldn't be taken by surprise.
When he got home, he didn't say hello, he didn't say anything, he just left his things and left the house to get a taxi. When I caught up with him to ask him, he said he was going to his mother's house to get an air conditioning unit that he planned to bring to install to solve the problem, to which I gave him my list of problems with it, because we didn't have permission to make modifications to begin with. Thus in the department, adding the amount of electricity it used, transportation, among others. To which he also responded with his list of drawbacks that he saw with my solution. The point is that the argument escalated and ended with him throwing the water into the garden and me locking myself in the room with my daughter, enduring the heat of the day.
Neither of us spoke to each other the rest of the day, in the morning, the first thing I did was pack my things and my baby's things discreetly. I called my parents to tell them what had happened and they were more than willing to receive us (something that did not make me so calm because, yes, one of the reasons why I married him in a hurry was that my parents were a cornerstone of my anxiety and depression).
The next night, with my things packed, I waited for my husband to drop the bomb, tell him that he was leaving with our son, he cried a lot, he begged me for another chance; That time I didn't shed a single tear, not because I didn't love him, despite everything, I followed him and I still love him, but I realized that I was loving him more than I loved me and my daughter. . I didn't cry because I spent years crying alone and falling asleep with tears.
I asked him if he would prefer to end the relationship peacefully, where we could still rescue our friendship, before reaching a point where I couldn't even tolerate seeing him.
That was the only time when he finally said that he would take therapy, but I no longer believed him. I know he did it just to convince me, but in the end he wasn't going to do it. So I decided to leave the next day with my things. It was the last time we talked about it.
At the moment:
We have a year apart, we decided to give ourselves a few months to settle in and calm our spirits. Despite this, we have still kept in touch through our daughter, when it is her turn to visit or when she brings him an errand.
I don't deny that I still love him, and now I'm the one who would like our marriage to be fixed, but he is the first to say that he feels better now.
Now that I am living with my parents, my symptoms of anxiety and depression have not improved at all, on the contrary. I don't know if I ever feel like going back to him was a desperate attempt to get out of my parents' house, because he was the only person who made me feel understood and that there was nothing wrong with being who I was (I did). which has mainly contributed to my mental health), because I clarify, my son has a disability and since his diagnosis, he has not contributed much either, I have been with the support of my family in the face of that, but not with my ex-husband or the his family, so I use practically all of my salary on my son and his basic needs; His father gives me alimony for him, but only the equivalent of $20 dollars a week, against medication a month that costs about $100, plus his therapies and special attention.
So I ask.
AITAH for asking my husband for a divorce for refusing to go to therapy?
I really appreciate that you take the time, I know that it is not a short or brief story, I will try to answer your questions in the comments if I have not been clear in any aspect. Right now I'm a mess, I'm discouraged because my situation is currently not good, my profession wears me out emotionally and mentally, added to the condition of my son who makes me feel like I'm not doing things right...
I need to know that there is something in life that I haven't done so badly. In advance, thank you Reddit community.

Someone once described Chuck as one giant plot hole, and they had a point. There are lots of loose ends and inconsistencies that we’re all prepared to overlook because of the overall genuine pleasure of the show. This is Chuck, not Chernobyl. We don’t really care that no one ever gets stuck in traffic in Los Angeles, for example, or that flying to Moscow seems to take maybe half an hour.
But still, people make mistakes, and there often isn’t an accounting for those mistakes. We may not want realism, but we do expect some degree of consistency. Ellie blew it big time with her CIA misadventure, which inadvertently led to her Dad being killed. What on earth was she thinking? We’ll never know. The entire chronicle of Sarah and Chuck the first two and a half years or so is a chronicle of mistakes that they eventually do put behind them, but it’s pretty fraught journey—particularly Sarah’s terrible taste in men (Casey gets this immediately,) and her double standard about Chuck. Morgan’s entire life trajectory is one blunder after another—he’s lucky Chuck doesn’t whack him from time to time, since many come at Chuck’s expense. Whatever happened to the potential lawsuits from Lester and Jeff’s interviews for new female staff? Who knows? The only person who ever seems to pay for any mistake is Casey, who is dismissed by Beckman for serious, but understandable and forgivable, offenses.
Which brings us to Beckman. How on earth did this person get to be a general? Her tenure seems to be a litany of bad judgments and downright blunders, one error after another. Starting with the remarkable judgment (shared by Graham, but not, importantly, enthusiastically embraced by Casey) to have Chuck killed, although he has, as Casey noted, served his country well, and never asked for the intersect in the first place. (Notice they don’t tell Sarah.) This is a completely bonkers decision. The argument that you can’t have two intersects around is nonsense—you probably don’t want them in the same room, but still, that’s no reason to kill the guy. Casey tries to resist the order, but she shoots him down immediately—refuses to even listen. This person is a military leader?
But by far the worst blunder is her repeated and bewildering confidence in Shaw. Not listening to Chuck and Morgan explain about the fake fight is pretty inexcusable, and nearly gets Sarah killed. Moreover, Beckman seems perfectly ok with Sarah working with Shaw even after she learns the truth about the death of Shaw's wife herself. In what universe is this a sound judgment? Shaw makes lots of mistakes, actually, and pays for exactly none of them until the bridge encounter with Chuck. (Shaw was a really good tragic villain, but his spy credentials are never catalogued.) Either Beckman is oblivious, or she’s genuinely stupid. I don’t think you become a general by being stupid. Well, maybe you do. And Beckman seems miraculously unscathed career-wise from any of these (in some cases, potentially fatal) blunders. We never again hear about Shaw’s elevator fake fight, or, more generally, the reasons for Beckman’s blind faith in Shaw when all the evidence should be suggesting otherwise.
Shaw isn’t the only example of Beckman’s poor judgments about people. We can forgive her infatuation with Roan Montgomery because that’s what it obviously is—the two seem to have been a thing. But Montgomery is an old drunk at this point, and even he knows it. Then there’s her belief that the Turners walk on water or something. How oblivious can you get, really. And who can forget Beckman’s expecting Chuck and Sarah to be back in Burbank the next day, following an excruciatingly harrowing experience and Sarah nearly getting murdered by Beckman’s favorite spy. They should have gotten three months off and the opportunity to work for someone less pathological. Instead, we get Beckman prepared to send them off again the next day. Really, doesn’t Beckman actually report to anyone?
And Beckman’s treatment of Sarah is pretty awful too. She knows Sarah’s strengths, but then we also have the ridiculous 49B exercise, which seemed designed mainly to show another attractive woman in skimpy outfits. As a plot device, it barely worked, and still it seems a bit of an over-reaction. Far worse was he decision to send Sarah off on her own to take down the Volkov empire, with Mary. Somehow the two of them were going to do something miraculous or something—it’s never completely clear. Of course, why Sarah agreed with this bonkers plan made as much sense as continuing to hang around Shaw even after he discovered the truth about his wife’s death. But at this point we’re used to Sarah making boneheaded judgments, so we let these slide.
I love Chuck--it's one of my three or four favorite shows ever. But a little more accountability for sheer stupidity wouldn’t have hurt the show one bit.

Continuation of my previous post here:
I'm giving tactics to every grey as I believe it would make them all more interesting, what with most of them currently only blocking damage in different ways. I know that they would have to be nerfed in some way to keep them balanced with the ones who already have abilities but I haven't thought of how.
T2s:
Pilgrim gets "revelation", shield and heal 2, costs 1 "1 keyword side". Pilgrims gimmick is that none of his sides have any pips, making it harder for him to contribute to most tactics. He also has no direct shielding, instead needing to rely on his stun or having allies with high pips to get value from selfshield. He therefore gets a tactic that is cheap to use and that he himself can contribute to. This tactic lets him block damage directly and can heal pilgrim himself for his stun.
Guardian gets "fend", target ally 1 repel, costs 1 blank Guardian has three really strong shielding sides, 1 mediocre damage side, and 2 blanks. This tactic gives him more reliability as he can turn his blanks into damage and further specializes him in area damage, giving him more of a niche among the greys.
Armorer gets "augment", shield 2 smith, costs 2 shield and 2 damage The biggest reason to pick armorer is for his smith sides(imo). I have always found them just a tad too unreliable/up to chance so he gets a way to convert his other strong sides into a juicy boost. This works really well with Gladiator and Brute who I personally find somewhat underwhelming.
Monk gets "discipline", target ally becomes immune to damage until the end of your turn, costs 1 shield and 1 blank Monk is a fairly strong, all-around useful guy. The only thing lacking is that his potential shielding in a turn is not as strong as some other greys but that is hardly unique to him or a relevant weakness. He gets a tactic that give him more utility, it works exactly like the item Thimble so pain or spikes won't hurt the target but it will not do anything to actual attacks or poison.
Warden gets "ally", shield 2, costs 1 heal. This is just the upgraded version of Defender's tactic in my previous post. Much cheaper as t2 reds come with plenty of utility on their heal sides, making the opportunity cost higher. If it sounds too good remember that it's really just making a hero spend their turn to shield for two.
T3s:
Paladin gets "purify", 1 damage to target ally and inflict self-cleanse, costs 3 any pips Paladin is the most reliable damage dealer of the greys, having three damaging sides, although the damage he does is mostly wasted on high-health enemies. He also has very strong single-target shielding, provided his target is either damaged or poisoned. Paladin is never really that flashy so this tactic can make you feel smarter by negating the damage with his heals and also makes his cleansing more reliable.
Valkyrie gets "sanctuary", shield 5 to all dying allies, costs 5 damage Valkyrie is generally considered weak because he is bad at preventing actual health loss. It may feel good when your Fencer is at 2 hp, getting overkilled by 10, and you just get to negate all of it but someone like Stalwart would have prevented you from getting to that point in the first place. This tactic is restricted to those who are already dying because I wanted to preserve this weakness somewhat(as to keep his identity) but make it not as crippling. Can be useful for things like roulette and also works with Valkyrie's own death wish side if he is dying. I am not too sure if this is balanced or not but I feel like the idea itself is what's most important here.
Keeper gets "sacrifice", redirect all enemy attacks to target and shield 6 vitality, costs 2 "1 keyword" Keeper is a bit hampered by needing others who can shield him and relying on being lucky with enemy targeting(both for repel and because it's mostly pointless to shield his steel sides if he's not taking damage). This tactic lets him make great use of his repel side and when used on himself also greatly boosts his steel. A neat thing is that his "apply selfshield and selfheal" lets you choose who spends their turn for the tactic or not, as those targeted by it no longer have 1-keyword-sides. I think this could be fundamentally absurdly broken in several scenarios and the cost might need to be 3 "1 keyword" sides, but I'm not sure.
Stalwart gets "endeavor", 4 damage, costs 2 shield and 1 blank. Stalwart is very good at shielding, so good in fact, that that's nearly all he does. This skill gives him decent damage if you want to pay the cost, and makes his exert side not feel so wasteful to use.
Stoic gets "one", copy targets left side onto all his sides this turn, costs 2 "1 pip sides" Stoic is really the epitome of all greys. No tricks or gimmicks, just pure, raw stats. I feel a little bad giving him the ability to do anything other than take damage well, but not enough to not do it. At least in my head, this tactic is difficult to use, but the reward is to guarantee a heroes potentially best side. The main idea was for Stoic to get his stun side more often but has many synergies, especially to cheat extra uses from the likes of Agent or Wizard.
In conclusion, these tier 3 tactics might be unfixably broken, as I based them around prince who was designed for a broken one. Thank you for reading.

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I often get nervous leading up to a fake personal/sick day and as a result generally avoid them.
After 7 years at my company I’ve accumulated a huge amount which I want to start taking before I jump ship in the next year or two.
Curious to know how often you chuck a sickie and what’s your excuse when you do.

Heya! I apologize for the word wall in advance. I'm excited, lol.
As the title says, I'm a person who absolutely adores snakes. To make a long story short, I currently can't get any more than the 9 I already have, so I was looking for a snake pet sim game to live vicariously through, and... there's nothing! The closest I can find are OviPets and Xanje, but neither of those are very close and personal with your pets, so it doesn't scratch the itch.
So, I want to take matters into my own hands and bring that snake pet sim game into existence! I need help to do it though, as I'm admittedly not very skilled in programming, audio, and 3D model work.
In this team, I would be the 'snake expert' (so-to-speak) that guides how the snakes themselves should be implemented to capture the realism of having them as pets (i.e., what sizes their enclosures should be, what they should eat and how often, what temperatures and humidity their tank should be kept at, their body language and personalities, morph genetics, etc.). I'll also conduct interviews with other experienced snake keepers to make sure all of my information is as accurate as possible.
I'd also be primarily responsible for planning how the gameplay works and how the gameplay loop should go, but I also feel like that's something everyone in the team should be able to contribute to if they want to, so that's by no means something exclusive to me alone. Everyone can have a say there.
I will also do 2D art (though not in a realistic style). I can do icons, UI, and other misc stuff as we need it. While I don't see much writing being in the game beyond tutorials and descriptions, I'll contribute all of that, too.
As I also have actual snakes, I will also need to record examples of behavior from them for the team to use as needed.
What I'm looking for is:
-A coder. As I have no relevant experience here, the coding language and engine would be up to this person. As long as it's something that can do 3D games, export to PC, track the conditions the snakes are in and simulate some degree of their genetics system, I'm open to whatever engine and programming language the coder is most comfortable with.
-An audio designer, as no game is truly complete without SFX and background music. Snakes don't make a lot of noises, but the few they do make are important, and we'll need something to fill in all that silence snakes make.
-Someone - or multiple people - to take on the work of 3D assets. Modeling, texturing, animating, and rigging. I know these are all different skill sets so I'm perfectly willing for multiple people to take on various parts of this role. There would be the snakes obviously, but also other assets like decoration pieces to be made. A lot of the fun with snakes and other terrarium / vivarium / aquarium pets is decorating the tank they live in, and I want this game to be able to capture that.
As for how big the game is going to be, I don't picture this being a very big game. Something around the size of Wobbledogs. The gameplay itself could go on forever in the same save file if the player wanted, but the game itself wouldn't be all that complex and would take place in a set amount of space. On funding, my ideal plan would be to get a team that can make a demo, and then see how much crowdfunding money can be gathered on IndieGoGo. That money would be split evenly between all team members to help us during development. When the game is complete and goes up for sale, same thing- profits are evenly split.
If you're interested in joining this project, please get into contact with me! This is a game I'd love to make a reality! Thank you for reading <3

Hi.
I finally got some of the supplements (b12, zinc, and micro c), but afraid to take them because of reactions. I became a hypochondriac after being diagnosed with a benign meningioma back in October, so I have a lot of health anxiety now.
Is it safe for anyone to take these supplements?
How do I take them and how often?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you!

Hello! I am hoping to get some advice / consulting from those that are more knowledgeable about current hardware and what it takes to min/max and optimize a custom PC build. I worked in IT years ago and for the last 20 or so years I've always built my PC. I am at a loss now though with what I should do to either upgrade or optimize my current build to maintain the speed and power that my work and hobbies demand.
I frequently utilize real-time render programs such as Unreal Engine, Adobe Premier and After Effects. I also play games like Helldivers and a few other higher end ones. I have found lately that my machine doesn't seem to be as fast as it should/could be and I am not sure what could be the bottleneck. I will post info below and hoping that I can get some insight on possible solutions, upgrades and maintenance procedures / best practices.
Processor: AMD Ryzen 9 3950x 16-Core Processor 3.5GHz
Motherboard: MSI MEG X570 ACE Gaming Motherboard AMD AM4 SATA 6Gb/s M.2 USB 3.2 Gen 2 Wi-Fi 6 ATX
Video Card: MSI Gaming GeForce RTX 3080 10GB GDDR6X PCI Express Gaming Z TRIO
Memory: Corsair VENGEANCE RGB PRO DDR4 32GB (2x16GB) 3200MHz CL16 Intel XMP 2.0 iCUE Compatible Computer Memory x2 (64gb total)
Drives:
1. Samsung SSD 980 PRO 2TB (Temp Data)
2. HGST HDN 4TB (Archive)
3. Samsung SSD 970 EVO Plus 1TB (Operating System)
4. SanDisk SDSSHD3 2 TB (Temp Data)
Power Supply: GAMEMAX 1050W ATX 3.0 & PCIE 5.0 Power Supply, 80+ Gold Certified, Addressable RGB Sync, Fully Modular ATX Gaming Power Supply, RGB-1050
CPU Cooler: H100i Platinum SE Cooler
My CPU is in a large warehouse/studio. The side panel is off and the warehouse is almost always around 76 degrees F. Should I elevate the machine so it's not on the ground? The floor is concrete.
TLDR: I feel my computer should be running faster and I am not sure what I should do to check/test and troubleshoot before upgrades.
I am not sure how to provide PCIE Lane info or other windows settings like virtual memory etc. I know I should start with my drives first and clean those up.
Is there anything that is blatantly holding me back? How often should I be applying thermal paste?
Do I need to post my BIOS settings?

After getting barely any sleep last night, I confidently arrived at the test center at 7:30 AM this morning prepared for my 8 AM exam. However when I went to grab my ID, I realized the "yellow thing I thought was my wallet" was my snack, a bag of dried mangoes, and NOT my yellow wallet. I asked the check in ladies if I had time to drive home and back to retrieve my drivers license. I was so thrown off and arrived back at test center at 8:10 AM. I noticed around 45 people waiting around and came to find out that the internet was down and they were unable to load exams on anyone's computers that required internet. They offered me the chance to reschedule or wait....I was very frustrated but thought I'm here and ready so let's go at least if I fail I have an excuse with all the distractions. 2.5 hours later I started taking my exam.
I thought the first section started off really difficult. It seemed like almost every question had 2 correct answers to choose from. I used the highlighter tool a lot and that helped me to dissect the question and see what they were REALLY asking for. The clues from the question often informed the best choice. DM's videos really helped with this. I personally tried not to psych myself by watching the clock and just grinded through question after question. I did write down the target time stamps when I first sat down (155/80) and thought that was helpful as I neared 60 question mark. I felt like the breaks were well timed and definitely needed. I had a few of the drag and drop questions and only one question where I needed a calculator. My test seemed to be mostly focused on agile vs waterfall.
As I moved through the test, my confidence started waning and I was pretty sure I was not going to pass but I kept grinding away. Since I was testing until after 2 pm and hadn't eaten since 6 and barely drank anything, my stomach was growling and I had a terrible headache. I was SHOCKED when I got my provisional pass as I was leaving the test site. So glad I stayed and stuck it out after a rough start to the day.
And you know I was wearing BLUE and maybe that luck helped me today! I can't wait to see how I scored on each of the domains but for now glad today is behind me. Can share my study plan if interested but I followed the same plan as others often post on here. THANK YOU to this amazing subreddit that helped me SO much.
Cheers and good luck grinding away- if I can do it, so can you!!

TW: Eating Disorder mentioned and emotional abuse
Throw away in case he sees this.
Me and my boyfriend dated for about 6 months he broke up with me and then we got back together about a year later. The second relationship has been significantly better, less fighting and better mental health on my end. He treated badly in the first relationship along with a friend of ours calling me sexualized insults (he mainly just agreed with our friend he didn't coming up with them). At this time I developed an ED (completely on me -don't want it to seem like I'm blaming him) due to this I was not doing well physically or mentally, I will admit I was irritable and wasn't the nicest at times. Due to this I frequently apologized for being mean or not doing things the way he wanted, I also told him that I won't talk about it with him and will just talk to my therapist and doctor rather than involving him. I also offered for us to break up because he was saying I was such a negative person in his life along with not saying I love you anymore etc., he said no and we continued dating. One random day he broke up with me and I was crushed. At this point my ED was significantly better I was much healthier and was getting higher levels of treatment. Now I am fully recovered and receive great mental health care to maintain it.
Onto relationship two, we got back together and have been together for a year. Mentally I am doing much better and self-confident wise I am as well. I signed a lease with 2 girls I am friends with for next school year (college) and am super excited. My boyfriend repeadtly cried because he was upset "I was leaving him" I'm moving 20 minutes away and we go to the same school. He thinks I am leaving him behind in favor of my friend (I have known her for 5 years and we are incredibly close)- this isn't jealously in a romantic way she has a girlfriend and he knows we have had no feelings ever for each other though we are both bisexual (he is also). He hasn't asked to see pictures or any info on the place and says he will not being going to see me there because my friends are "scary", they have met many times and hung out without issues (I have talked to both of them separately and there has been no fights or problems). Also is upset I have multiple part time jobs and I don't call out of work to spend time with him. He wants me around constantly and if I am not there or am alone with others he is upset. He refuses to visit me over summer cause he doesn't want to drive to my house and hates my dad. I am busy and can't drive there often and he is upset I am not taking off of work to stay with him. After I calmly said that I felt he was judging me frequently, whenever I would go somewhere he would ask me why I would do that? He immediately started crying and said they were an awful person and the worst boyfriend in the world and I had to comfort him ignoring my point all together. I feel guilty because he alway says how much he loves and misses me, how he wants us to get married (I have expressed many times I am not looking for that anytime now and it stresses me out but he continues to talk about it) and how I should move in with him right out of college when I mention moving home to pay off my loans and save money. His response is that I am too money focused and not prioritizing him and our relationship. I feel apart of this is all I put him through in the first relationship and he is just worried about where I am and what I am doing.
I ranted to my friend and sister about this one day and they are saying he is toxic and I should break up with him but I feel like I am just painting him in a bad light. I feel like I am being dramatic and this is normal in a relationship(cause none are perfect), but my only relationships have been with him the first time and now so it is so much better I have a hard time seeing me finding anyone better. So, is this toxic or I being overdramatic?

Hi !
I am a 19F, and I am too sensitive and come across as childish, because of my personality. I cannot argue with someone close, like my family, without crying.
Long contextualisation here, sorry in advance. This is more of a vent post looking for advice.
I was the cliché weird girl, ugly, curly hair and glasses, with no friends and who didn’t understood what was going on half of the time. I got bullied in preschool and sometimes over the years. I am ashamed, but I got violent when people were mocking me, and when we argued, because I was sad and didn’t knew what to do. Still am today to some extent. I was very unhappy when in public and in school, borderline embarrassed of existing, hating myself, but it got way better as a teen.
I grew up, I am social, I have very good friends, I am funny, I am way better, and sometimes I can’t believe how far I’ve got from the old me. I am very proud of myself on that. But I don’t have a lot of "life experience", with how I was so isolated before. I would say that I have three years of real "life experience". It felt like coming out of the fog or something.
Now, I am not someone that takes things at heart, or too personally. I like to think that I am pretty level headed. I never cried in front of my friends, except for something very serious or because we were watching a sad movie.
However, when I am alone or with my family, it is different. I just can’t help it, and I immediately cry when :
-I am embarrassed about myself - when I don’t have any great comeback when arguing - I am angry and the person I am arguing with doesn’t care and use it to make fun of me - when I think about something sad or someone going through intense emotional pain
But I never cry in public.
My close family is very different from me on this aspect, my parents are loving and supportive but they are not as sensitive.
The other day I argued with my father over lunch. It wasn’t because of something I did, he just got angry by himself and was being unfair and quite frankly ruining the meal, so I intervened. When he started jabbing at me, I left the table, because it was the end of the meal and my siblings already left. I was pissed, but didn’t want to cry. My father said "yeah right, go cry".
It’s not much. Worse things happens in life
(like when I had Cushing disease and nobody believed me until I went to the doctors alone lol)
But I got so angry. Because my little sister says the same thing when we argue. Because she never cry and I cry, well, often.
She doesn’t likes me. When I come home she never talks to me, seeing me makes her angry. She is the kind of pretty, very opinionated girl who would have bullied the hell out of me if we were in the same grade. We joked about this before. She is also f ing rude and probably hasn’t cried in years.
There have been instances of my dad and sister telling my that I act and behave childishly, my mother too. It’s true that I can be sometimes, but I am not childish about serious things, not about how I treat people, or live my life, or with my studies.
And besides why can’t I be childish with my FAMILY, in my own home, with my parents when I am literally their CHILD ? Like, I am the child that is "wise beyond its years" when I talk about serious things with my parents, when we talk about life and philosophy.
There is a big difference with how I act day-to-day with close family members, joyful and frankly dumb, and with how I am when it comes to serious subjects. And they get to see both of these sides of me, often. Which is why it hurts even more when they call me childish and they all agree with it.
I feel they don’t take me seriously, because I am the sensitive, cry easily artsy former-victim child. And I hate this. Because I can’t argue without crying, and when I don’t cry I don’t know how to respond and my arguments are weak. And I look pathetic. Even if we love each other very much and have healthy relationships.
I am sorry for the extensive rent, but i feel like it was needed so that you could give me some advice on how to be less sensitive, cry less and appear less childish, I guess, based on this context.
Sorry for over sharing, and for my English, it is not my first language
thanks you :D

Izuku's Quirk combines many elements of different blacksmith techniques across reality and general fantasy themes. It allows for the enchantment of his creations, creation and forging of fantasy/hypothetical materials, and an upgradable forging hammer that started it all.
It starts off with the sudden materialization of a seemingly regular but ratty forging hammer. Anyone else that attempts to weild the hammer often feel a sense of judgment before being burned. That's all the doctor and anyone else at the time thought he could do (and thus managed to escape AFO's notice). It leads into an intrest in traditional blacksmithing, and after managing to make a usable tool, after a blinding flash of light the hammer looks line a normal, unblemished forging hammer. It feels pleased. He can now create Earthen metals in ore form at the cost of the matter around him. This limitation stays with him no matter how upgraded the hammer is, transmuting materials will always result in it being in the form of an Ore, albeit a pure Ore with no stone or impurities within it. As he gets more skilled and the more hurdels he crosses in his blacksmithing, the more abilities and occasionally knowledge he unlocks.
Eventually he would reach his full potental, and it really lives up to the name Blacksmith's Dream. * Enchanting materials and weapons with Quirk Samples (DNA or residue from the quirk itself, like Kurogiri's mist. Costs stamina to make one, and the material had better be able to withstand the intensity of the enchantment or it'll crumble into dust. Intensity refers to what part of the Quirk's abilities are being used to fuel it and how compatible with the item it is. Basic enchantments like sharpness and duribility are stackable with Quirked Enchantments, and take basically nothing away from any material, though the number of times enchanted and general skill in enchanting does increase or decrease its chances of crumbling),
*creating weapons capable of sealing away entities (prisons really love him. Villains hate being able to see and hear the world pass by without them but being soulbound to an item for all of eternity or until the damn thing breaks),
*sentient weapons(which he quickly realized his hammer was after unlocking that option, they're really just judgemental items that choose their weilder based on a trait or concept in the soul of the handler and then dont let anyone else use them until the death of the user, although they do transfer the skills of the most skilled weilder they had, this includes their original Quirk in the item's form, though slightly weakened. Izuku's is an exception because its an asshole and thinks that he should earn the right to use its skills, which... fair. But come on why does eveyone else get the easy requirements! At least he gets hints...),
*cursed weapons(mostly accidental creations, made by the corruption of a sentient weapon or the hijacking of a sealed weapon by the sealed consciousness inside it. It takes a strong soul to corrupt a sealed weapon and the things will posses anyone who equips them. Same situation with the sentient weapon one, but they are worse because they typically hate everything thats not dead or inanimate and influence the weilder to kill or go insane from the voices in their head.),

• creation of whatever materials he would ever need(even if it did require him to make a theoretical combination of metals and materials to make them if it didnt already exist on earth and yes Quirk Residue does count as a material. Once Izuku makes it, it's been on earth before and he no longer needs specific materals to make them)

*and the ability to appraise people and items (is the diamond real or not? Is this person's Quirk compatible with this weapon or armor or does he need to reforge it and infuse it with their DNA? Is that stranger's Quirk usable to make the material I need? Is this peice of tech useable to upgrade this item?)

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We clicked immediately and he moved into my place about 4 months in. In the beginning the sex was super hot and often, if anything the problem was that he didn't last super long but that was never brought up and I'm almost certain it is not anything that he has any insecurity about. Once he moved in, it dropped severely. I figured it was stress and change in routine etc but after 3 months of this I decided to bring it up. I don't remember what excuse he gave but he listened and said he'd do better. A year after he had moved in…nothing had changed. I knew he was stressed about work and his health was suffering. He was constantly sick and started having frequent pain that he still deals with on a daily basis. He gained weight as well and that messed with his self-esteem. He fell into a depression. I did the math and made some adjustments and proposed that he take some time off work to get his mind right and I could support the both of us financially. He jumped at the opportunity. Throughout our relationship, the conversation has come up several times, sometimes it's me expressing my feeling of rejection/feeling undesirable or him telling me that he feels inadequate and embarrassed but these conversations come with less frequency as time passes. It has gotten heated a couple of times but never yelling or break ups. He always listens and understands but I've become tired. The disappointment that follows every one of these conversations has led me to stop initiating, the panic that sets into my chest in anticipation for the rejection is hard to surpass most of the time. Sometimes I can push through it and get out a measley “hey…do you think we can have some sexy time soon?” and sometimes he'll be up for “helping me masturbate” (playing with my nipples or caressing me while I use my vibe) or sometimes he'll have an apathetic yes but most of the times it's a “maybe later”. We have sex on the weekends and I know he enjoys it but I'd say about half of the times, it seems he does it out of obligation. I'm trying not to be pushy, especially since it is an improvement. I'm trying to give him the space he needs and be understanding of where he's coming from but sometimes it's hard to see past my own emotions about this.
We are in an enm relationship but aren't super active in the community partly because of this (I'm not comfortable introducing other people when there's this much insecurity in our relationship) and partly because I work 60 hours/week making it hard to find the time. He is an amazing partner outside of the bedroom. We are in love. PDA is frequent and unapologetic. I don't want to end things. I want to believe he is trying his best.
He's been on a journey of self improvement for a while. He's taught himself how to cook, he reads frequently and maintains the home. He cut down on video games severely and is trying to get more activity in. He's even trying to learn Spanish(my first language).
Yesterday he brought up a new way that he wants to improve himself. He called me at work to tell me he wants to stop masturbating and watching porn.This was surprising to me as I wasn't even aware that he was masturbating and watching porn often enough to warrant him thinking he needs to stop. Masturbation and porn are not frowned upon in our relationship, we're both ok with the other doing it/watching it. I asked him how often he was doing it and he said “2-3x a week, sometimes like 4 or 5 but mostly 2-3” This felt like a punch to the gut. I'm still not sure what about it bothers me exactly. I didn't say anything other than some words of encouragement and expressed my surprise at the frequency. He also said some sexy stuff about missing me and wanting me so bad. I came home from work and everything was normal, like any other weekday. When we went to bed he put on some sexy music instead of our usual sleep sounds and sorta caressed me a little bit but I couldn't bring myself to reciprocate or react. I just ignored him. I feel horrible. This is the first time that I've rejected his advances. He hasn't brought it up at all. This morning I got emotional as I was leaving and kissing him goodbye. He asked why and I told him that I didn't want to go to work and I just wanted to spend the day with him. He said he understood and he was sorry and that maybe I could take a mental health day soon. I'm not sure where to go from here….
p.s first time posting - please excuse any faux pas I might have committed.

My girlfriend and I were together for 2 years and had a very happy relationship together. We spent almost too much time together and with each others families to the point where we were together every day of the week almost. In december, she began to become distant and cold towards me, and I could tell something was off. She wasn’t as interested in me and it was clear she was getting bored. She broke up with me a few weeks later and told me “she didn’t feel the same spark” anymore. I immediately made the terrible mistake of begging her to stay with me and telling her I’d do anything to not lose her because of how dependent on her I was, which just pushed her away even more. We ended up being very on and off over the next following months. Everytime I left her alone, she would end up texting me telling me she misses me and wants me back and regrets leaving, and everytime I took her back, it wouldn’t take long for her to get cold again and leave me. It’s like she only wanted me when I left her alone, but as soon as she got me back she didn’t want me anymore.
She’d tell me that she wasn’t breaking up with me to get with any other guys, and that she was going to “save herself” for me and continue to be “loyal” so that we could one day get back together and “do things right” according to her and that she just needed space right now. I started to learn about the fact that she was texting and talking to several different guys, and once I realized she was just playing me I decided to leave her alone for a while. We didn’t talk for about a month, which is the longest we ever went without being in contact. Then she randomly contacted me and we ended up speaking in person, where she started crying in my arms saying she regrets leaving me, and the reason she left was because she was getting attention from guys in her school and wanted to be experience being free and single, as I was her first every boyfriend and first experience with men in general so she didn’t know what that life was like and she wanted a taste of it. I asked her if she did things with guys and she said she kissed a boy at a party but that was it. We continued talking over the following weeks and she genuinely was showing me that her mindset had changed. This wasn’t like before where she would be hot and cold, she genuinely had a change in mentality and wanted to be with me again and take me seriously. She realized the single life wasn’t all that and wanted me back. So we got back together, and we were together for a couple months and things were great and felt like the old times again.
However, I began to hear rumors from my friends that she had sex with a guy from her class while we were broken up. I asked her about it, and she told me it was a false rumor that sprang up because she took him home from school one day when he needed a ride but that they didn’t do anything. I believed her. Eventually, a mutual friend of ours reached out to me and told me he felt bad for me and told me that they did have sex. I confronted her again, and she admit that they had sex a couple times in January. She confessed that he had been flirting with her while we were still together but she didn’t start entertaining it back until she left me. A few weeks after, she invited him over to her house to have sex and they began having sex often. My heart sank to my stomach. This meant that while I was depressed and trying to save our relationship initially she was getting railed by someone else and I had no idea. Also the fact that she had been lying about it this whole time. She says she was scared to lose me and that’s why she couldn’t be truthful and that it was a mistake that she regrets deeply. She is practically begging me for forgiveness, but I don’t know if I could ever see her the same. I took her virginity, and now she’s been with someone else. I haven’t been able to eat or sleep properly since I found out since I constantly imagine it and throw up. I really love this girl and wish she didn’t do that. I don’t know if I can take her back. How should I proceed?
TL;DR Girlfriend broke up with me, had sex with someone else, got back with me and lied about it and now she wants me to forgive her and stay with her after I found out. I don’t wanna lose her but don’t know if I could be with her.

I am new when it comes to PC building and most of my time I used my Gaming Laptop to play my video games. But the newer games take too long to load and often lag. I don't know anything about PC building so hopefully I can learn something here.
I am trying to build a PC that can run Baldur's Gate 3 and also be able to stream it on twitch. I am working on a budget and trying to not spend too much.
What parts do I need and how do I set it up?

I've been wanting to buy some new pair of gloves and everywhere I check I cannot find when the gloves will restock again. Anybody know or predict?

It’s been almost 3 years since my partner broke up with me without a warning and signs. It is my first wlw break up and Im trying to find the best way to move on from her but I find it very hard. I really loved her (and I still do). We were a few hour distance from one another but we always made it work and I had the opportunity to meet her family too. She was my little sunflower. I really wanted for us to take our connection to the next level so I even got her a ring. Sadly, before I could see her and give it to her as a surprise she broke up with me one evening over the phone and just told me how nothing could change her mind. I was left heartbroken but I felt like begging her would be wrong of me if she was really unhappy or uncomfortable with me. I still keep her hand written love letters and sleep with the blanket she gave me just to have something to remind me of her. I desperately tried to stay in touch as friends but I realized it was unhealthy for me and Id drunk text her often sappy things. I deleted her number,our pictures but despite it all, no matter how much it pass sometimes i still wonder and hope she’d magically reach out again. Any helpful tips or advice would be very much appreciated. Thank you