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Fapping is an inherently submissive activity. It is inverse to masculinity. To fap is to give control to women. Not that it is about having control over women, it's not. It's about having control over ourselves.
Give not your strength to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings. (Proverbs 31:3)
Ultimately, the key to not submitting to fapping is submitting to God. The key is always being ready to bring our minds to God. No matter how well we control our eyes (and this is extremely important), there will always be moments where the urge attacks our minds. In these moments, we can resist every single time, when we shift our attention to God and submit to Him.
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. (James 4:7)
We always have the option to bring God to mind. We always have the option to stop a lustful train of thought in its tracks by shifting our focus to God. No matter how strong the urge feels, when we trust God, and diligently bring our focus to Him, the urge will fade in time, every time.
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. (James 4:7)
It's also important to remember that fapping and porn are not natural. They are perversions and devices of Satan. To fap is to entertain real demonic entities in the spiritual realm. This may go over some peoples' heads, but it is a truth that God has revealed to me through dreams.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. (Ephesians 6:12)
The rabbit hole of Ephesians 6:12 goes deep. It is not necessary to go down it, but better to simply meditate on the reality of the verse. Knowledge of the spiritual realm is vain and even destructive if one is not diligent in submitting to God on a moment by moment basis.
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.(James 4:7)
I post this verse a third time because it is that profound. When we truly love God with our whole minds, hearts, and souls like He commands us to, we will keep Him on our minds extremely often. If we are struggling to resist fapping, we need to ask ourselves if we have truly submitted our lives to God.

Hi everyone! I'm a 25M working in tech as a Data Scientist, I wanted to find someone with similar interests or hobbies.
I'm primarily interested in all things related to tech, I game a lot as well (I love Sekiro and Lies of P, along with other FPS games like Apex Legends and Destiny2 - I did download FFXIV too) and also watch anime (a LOT)
Office commute usually drains me of all my energy so I don't have enough social battery to socialize IRL and I don't want to involve my IRL work connections with my personal life so I'm hoping to meet people over here instead.
Other stuff about me:

1. I enjoy listening to others' rants and sometimes giving my inputs as well
2. Love pets! Bonus if you have pets (though I haven't adopted one as I plan to travel far soon)
3. South Asian
4. Bit socially anxious IRL, but online I can communicate just fine with people having shared interests
5. Additional hobby I had years ago was as an amateur astronomer at a dept of science funded observatory

If these connect with you, shoot a chat/dm about yourself! (Please just don't say hi/hey and go silent)

Hi everyone! I'm a 25M working in tech as a Data Scientist, I wanted to find someone with similar interests or hobbies.
I'm primarily interested in all things related to tech, I game a lot as well (I love Sekiro and Lies of P, along with other FPS games like Apex Legends and Destiny2 - I did download FFXIV too) and also watch anime (a LOT)
Office commute usually drains me of all my energy so I don't have enough social battery to socialize IRL and I don't want to involve my IRL work connections with my personal life so I'm hoping to meet people over here instead.
Other stuff about me:

1. I enjoy listening to others' rants and sometimes giving my inputs as well
2. Love pets! Bonus if you have pets (though I haven't adopted one as I plan to travel far soon)
3. South Asian
4. Bit socially anxious IRL, but online I can communicate just fine with people having shared interests
5. Additional hobby I had years ago was as an amateur astronomer at a dept of science funded observatory

If these connect with you, shoot a chat/dm about yourself! (Please just don't say hi/hey and go silent)

They keep leaving just barely 24hr notices on my door for several several hour chunks of time where they are going to be showing people my apartment which is messy and full of important stuff I don’t want messed with or stolen. I have a lot of trauma and issues with humans and I’ve been having constant panic attacks because of this. I have physical medical reasons why I don’t want people in my apartment as well so now I have to go out and buy masks to give to the people who come in so I don’t catch something and get even sicker. I think it’s all technically legal what they’re doing right? Would a doctors note stop them? I don’t think answering the door naked would work because the person who is doing the tour is just the apartment manager (and I would feel bad to make her job harder cause she’s clearly just getting by also and is nice) but also I don’t think she has control of what the property management company does. Also answering the door naked would probably just give me another panic attack… help they’re gonna keep having people come in several days a week every week till the month is over.

My girlfriend and I were together for two years, part of it was long distance. We were previously good friends for 5 years, then she was the one that caught feelings and pursued me first. During our relationship she always told me things like “I’m the one”, we talked about how we would get married and grow old together, she made so many promises that she was 100% sure of me and that she’d never leave. She would say things like “we’ve known each other in every lifetime”. We got together even though I was leaving for a masters study, she said she thought she’d never do long distance again but for me it was worth it, bc she was 100% sure I’m the guy she wants. I left a week after we got together, and I was gone for about a year. During that time we visited once a month, it was always great. I eventually moved back and we spent another year together in person. I’m sorry if this post is too long.
She ended things about a month ago. During the breakup she gave me very vague answers so I couldn’t get the closure I needed. I decided to reach out a week after the breakup to ask why she did it, and what she said killed me inside.
She said that she knew we were compatible and I’m an amazing person but felt like she was settling for me, and she didn’t want to live her life like that when she thinks she can find something better. She said she believes in that soulmate connection with one person when you know deep inside you that this is “it”, and she didn’t feel like that with me, she didn’t think I was “it”. But we did say to each other during the relationship that this was “it”, she told me so many times that I’m the one, so I don’t know how a flip just switched in her brain. She also said she realized she didn’t love me in the way “real love” is, and maybe she just loved the idea of me. She said she always felt the need to be accepted and loved by people and I made her feel like that. She said when you truly love someone you’d sacrifice things for them, and she wouldn’t sacrifice things for me. She said she was forcing herself to be comfortable around me, and it wasn’t the type of comfort that it should be with “the one”.
How the fuck does it take you two years to realize you don’t love someone in the way “real love” is? Especially after all the emotional intimacy we shared. How could you be uncomfortable with me? I was her first kiss, her first hand hold, she said she was saving those things for the right person and she did them with me. Why would she feel like shes settling for me when she’s the one that pursued me first? She went all out to “get me” and be in a relationship with me. Am I really the type of guy that gets settled for? That hurts like hell. She said she was having all these thoughts during the last 4 months of the relationship. But literally a month ago, I felt that she’s been a bit cold, and I asked if everything was okay. She said “nothings wrong, I’ve been really stressed with school/work. But nothings wrong with us, maybe something’s just wrong with me with all the stress. But we’re good, that doesn’t mean I don’t love you or that I’d ever give up on us, I’d never do that. Don’t worry I still love you and I’ll always be here.” She said that word for word. So she was lying to me? Why would you lie instead of communicating openly? If she had told me she was having those thoughts it would’ve been easier for me, but she gave me that reassurance and then blindsided me a month later. I told her it’s normal to lose feelings in a relationship after a while, that eventually that initial spark or honeymoon phase ends, and that’s when the real relationship starts and you work on building a life together. Love eventually becomes a choice and not just a feeling. But she said she wouldn’t lose feelings with the right person. Now I’m the wrong person when she literally told me a million times that we were always meant for each other. I told her I think she’ll end up being disappointed when she realizes there is no “one” person that gives you that magical feeling for life, you eventually reach a point where you have to choose that person everyday. Relationships are hard and most of them end up losing that initial spark, but it’s an opportunity for a new kind of love to blossom, a love based off commitment and loyalty to each other. That’s the only way a relationship can last forever. And during our relationship we even acknowledged that fact together and we told each other that if the feelings fade we will always choose each other no matter what happens. It makes no sense to me. And if she actually lost feelings and fell out of love, that’s fine. But to say she never loved me in the way “real love” is, that makes no sense to me and it’s killing me inside. Have I just been blind and stupid the entire relationship? How does it take TWO YEARS to realize that? She said to me, “maybe you can choose someone and settle for them and learn to love them, but I believe there’s one person out there that is meant for me and when I find them I will know it deep inside me.” Yea, I believed that too. I believed it because I thought it was you. Just because I chose you doesn’t mean I’m settling for you or learning to love you. I thought you were meant for me. It’s so ridiculous I don’t understand, she used to be so sure that I was the one, she knew it deep inside her that I was. And now she’s saying that when she finds it, she’ll know. Well you knew it with me and now you don’t.
Part of me understands why she lost feelings, we didn’t really have a strong base. We were together for only a week before I left for a year. I feel like it wasn’t enough time for the physical attraction to build up and to get to know each other in person. By the time we visited each other, a lot of time had passed and the spark wasn’t the same as the beginning, it was kinda awkward at first. We got into a serious committed relationship talking about future marriage, before we ever hugged each other. She was scared to kiss me, maybe that’s why she said she was forcing herself to be comfortable. But eventually we kissed and it was great. During the visits it felt like everything was going great and that our relationship was getting stronger. I didn’t think that she was uncomfortable. I feel like if we had done all the intimate things in the beginning, we would have a base to build off of and the spark would be alive.
Also I keep blaming myself and wondering what I did wrong. I’m just certain that it’s my fault, that I made her lose attraction. Maybe I wasn’t manly enough or attractive enough. Maybe I was too boring or uninteresting or too “stable”. Being in love with someone basically means you have to be sexually attracted to them first, that’s what separates family love from romantic love. Maybe I didn’t do enough to keep her attracted to me, so she felt like she lost feelings. It was really hard with the distance. I tried, I really tried. I would always flirt and tease her, I tried not to let the relationship feel like it was a platonic friendship over time. I was always confident and “manly” with her, I stood my ground when she did things I didn’t like, I wasn’t needy. We sexted and video called all the time. I always planned amazing dates. I tried to keep the fun alive. I don’t know what else I could’ve done to keep her attracted. I truly feel like if we had been in person the whole time, it would’ve worked and she would’ve still been attracted to me. It’s just different when you’re there physically. But we both knew this, we acknowledged that it was gonna be hard and the feelings may fade, but we said we’d always choose each other no matter what. Maybe it was inevitable with the distance, but at the end she said it wasn’t because of the distance, she believes with the right person the distance wouldn’t matter. So I just wasn’t the right person for her, I was for a while, but I let her lose attraction for me. Your view on love and attraction may differ, but I learned that it’s the guy’s responsibility to keep a woman attracted, it’s about how he acts and behaves that keeps her attracted. So it’s my fault she lost attraction, it’s something I did. For example when I look back at the first visit, a mistake I made was asking to kiss her instead of just going for it. She said no, maybe because I came off as unconfident and that turned her off. I was so nervous during the first visit because there was so much expectation built up inside my head. Maybe that prevented me from being able to genuinely enjoy myself around her and attract her. Eventually though, we got comfortable with each other and we kissed and it was great. I felt the spark was there. I don’t think she met someone else, I asked her and she said no. Yea maybe she could’ve lied, but i know her and I don’t think she would do that. She said “you know me, I would never allow myself to do that while I’m in a relationship. The reasons are solely because I don’t feel in love with you anymore.”
We hit a little rut near the end because we were both very busy, but I didn’t think it was concerning because she always gave reassurance and made it seem like everything is fine. It feels like shit hearing that someone was settling for me. Why wasn’t I enough? I keep looking back and thinking what I could’ve done different to keep her attracted. I keep nitpicking at myself and feeling insecure about the way I am. She was so sure of me in the beginning so I must’ve done something along the way to make her lose feelings. She let me tear my walls down and trust her fully, then she left. It feels like I’m not worthy of love because she saw something in me and decided she didn’t want me. What hurts the most is that to me, she was “it”, to me she was the one. And she said that to me too and I believed her. I felt that she truly meant it when she said that. She would tell me she was always attracted to me and had feelings during our friendship but she “locked them in a box” because she was too afraid. She even told me that I was a walking green flag and that I was perfect and I did nothing wrong. It hurts to know she thinks that yet she still decided she didn’t want me. It kills to know that one day she’ll get married, he’ll get to hold her and kiss her and have a family, and it won’t be with me. I can’t stand the thought of her being intimate with someone else. And it’s the thought that, whoever she ends up with, will be better than me in a way. She will love him more than she loved me. He will make her feel what I couldn’t make her feel. And I’m blaming myself so much that I couldn’t make her feel like that anymore. I’m grieving the future that we both planned together. I feel so betrayed, I feel like shit. Most of all I just really miss her, we knew each other for 7 years and now we’re just strangers again.
I’ve been hurt before, I’ve had a few breakups, but this one hurts the most. I don’t know what it is about this girl that makes me feel like I’ll never find anyone better. I know that time heals everything but I feel like this has damaged me on a deep level, I feel like I can’t let my walls down again. I don’t want to love again and risk getting hurt. I can’t invest myself fully into someone if I’m always afraid they’re going to blindside me. I know a breakup shouldn’t define your self worth, but it’s just the idea that the person I loved doesn’t see herself spending her life with me anymore, that makes me feel really bad. It’s the thought that she saw something in me that made her decide she doesn’t love me. She analyzed our relationship and thought “I want someone better”. The thought that it’s my fault, that it’s something I did. I didn’t have enough “game”. I couldn’t keep her attraction high. I can’t stand the idea of her getting married one day and finding her “it”. Of course I want her to be happy but I’d be lying if I said that doesn’t kill me inside.
Nobody is perfect but she was close to it. She’s such a rare breed, she had everything I wanted in a woman and it’s so hard to come by. I wish I had a reason to hate her but she’s genuinely an amazing person. She did nothing bad to me, we barely fought and when we did it was very gentle. Our entire relationship was pretty much perfect up until the end. I’ve never been with someone that was this compatible with me. She’s the kindest human, she’s intelligent, she’s very mature, she’s beautiful inside and out, she’s very warm and gentle. And the fact that she’s such a sweet and genuine person makes it way harder. If she had cheated or something I think this would’ve been easier on me, because I’d see her as a bad person. But she’s not a bad person. It hurts way more knowing that she was feeling like she wanted to end things, but at the same time she was trying to convince herself to love me, because she didn’t want to hurt me. She didn’t want to break her promises, she was trying so hard not to, but in the end she couldn’t lie to herself anymore. Why do I have to feel like someone has to convince themselves to love me? Why does someone have to force themselves to believe I’m the one? Why can’t anyone ever just truly believe it with their entire soul, that they want to be with me. When I asked for reassurance and she told me she still loved me and would never give up, she was trying to convince herself because she didn’t want to hurt me. It was all lies. Every “I love you” in the last 4 months was a lie. I feel like such an idiot that I was sitting there for the past 4 months thinking that everything was going great. She was just faking her affection the whole time. Imagine hearing that someone was forcing themselves to love you. No one was forcing you! The exit door has always been open, no one forced her to stay, no one forced her to pursue me in the first place. I told her many times that I just want truth and transparency in our relationship, yet she hid all of those things. She said she hid them because she cared about me and didn’t want to hurt me, and she was trying to make it work. But if she truly cared for me, she would know that I deserve honesty, I deserve to know the truth even if it hurts. I don’t deserve to live in a lie. If she cared for me she would let me go find someone who truly loves me, instead of just pretending to love me. By lying, she was only caring about herself, to relieve herself of the guilt. The breakup would’ve been way smoother if she just told the truth from the start, but now I feel like an idiot who sat there for 4 months thinking that everything was going well, when in reality it wasn’t.
There’s so many things I loved about her. I loved the way she cries during every movie, she thinks she’s too sensitive but I think it’s beautiful to feel your emotions that deeply. I loved the way her face lights up when she smiles. I loved how she would call me just to tell me silly little things about her day. I loved her curiosity and wonder for the universe. I loved how she would run into my arms when she saw me. She just understood me, and I understood her. I can’t hate her, I wish I could, but I just love her with all my heart. I don’t think I’ll ever stop. Even when 20 years pass and I’m over this and we’re both married to other people, I will still love her and wish the best for her. I miss her so much, I miss talking to her. I know we can't be friends, but I really wish I could still have her in my life. But I shouldn't wish that I guess, because she decided she wants to live her life without me in it. I can’t believe she could decide to lose me forever when she always said she could never live without me.
The worst part is, I reacted to the break up very emotionally. I showed how hurt I was, I wrote a long paragraph, and I brought up all the promises she made. That was a mistake, it probably killed any ounce of attraction she had left. If there was any chance of her coming back or realizing it was a mistake, I destroyed that chance. I made it look like I can’t live without her. I didn’t beg for her back at all, but I kept pushing for answers and explanations. I asked her what I did wrong and stuff, and that made me look super desperate. I should’ve just accepted the break up immediately and cut off all communication. Maybe then she would’ve thought about it, she would wonder why I wasn’t upset and have second thoughts about her decision. It would make me look more attractive in her eyes. But no I ruined it forever. Now all I want to do is salvage some respect, to make her see me as a valuable person. Not as someone who can’t live without her. Deep down I really want her to have a change of heart, I want her to feel re-attracted somehow, after having some time and space away from the situation. But I ruined her image of me. Now I’m looking back and analyzing every little thing about our relationship and wondering what I should’ve done better. I realized I made a lot of mistakes, which at the time I didn’t think were mistakes, but now looking back it’s probably my fault she lost attraction. I didn’t do enough.
I told myself during the relationship that “everything is temporary, don’t get too attached, life can change at any moment”. I know those things because I’ve learned my lessons from the past, but this is still killing me. I know almost everyone has been heartbroken, I’m nothing special, every human has been through this before. I just need to hear that it wasn’t my fault or that I’ll find someone better eventually. I’m blaming myself a lot right now and I keep thinking that she wouldn’t have left if I had been attractive enough. I generally consider myself a confident person but this has set me back a lot, it’s ruining my self esteem. Maybe I have attachment issues that I need to work on. I know that time will heal this, but right now I can’t imagine myself finding someone that’s better. I feel like the idea of “the one” has been ruined for me. I want to believe it, but I don’t think I do anymore. Even if I find another person who I think is the one, there’s always the possibility that they will change their mind. There’s always a chance that all of their words and actions were just lies. A lot of people get into relationships because they love the idea of being in love, not because they are actually in love with the person.
Thank you for reading this far, I know it’s a long post. I needed somewhere to vent, I don’t have many people to talk to. When I cry, I cry alone. And during the act of crying I start to hate myself for being such a bitch. I know it’s perfectly okay to cry and feel your emotions but it’s hard to escape the conditioning that I’m used to. I have friends and family but, I can’t express my emotions the way I did in this post. People have their own lives and worries and they don’t want to deal with someone’s silly heartbreak I guess.
TL;DR - my gf and I broke up a month ago, she said she was settling for me and that I wasn’t the “one”, even though she made promises and assured me that she wouldn’t leave. I keep blaming myself and wondering what I did wrong.

Hi, bought a house recently and the ducted gas heating system stopped working suddenly. The controller on the wall is not showing any errors. With temperature dropping here in Victoria, I'm thinking of various options. The current heater is just over 10 years old. I'm considering two options: 1. Have someone take a look at the current system and potentially have it fixed/serviced for a few hundred dollars. 2. installing solar panels and split system in some parts of the house as a long term option (rebates in Victoria would reduce the costs slightly)
What would be pros/cons?

Posting for a friend 🙏🏼
My name is Zee, I am a transmasculine individual with a Middle Eastern and South Asian heritage. Since a tender age, I have struggled to navigate the complexities of gender identity, grappling with feelings of discomfort, disconnect, and dysphoria. Each day has felt like a battle against a body that doesn't align with my true identity, compounded by the heartache of familial disapproval and religious constraints. The path to transitioning through hormone therapy – a common avenue for many in my position, is closed off to me.
In this landscape of limitation, gender-affirming surgery becomes not just a deep desire and relief but a lifeline—a rare opportunity to seize agency over one's body and experience the euphoria of alignment between inner identity and outward appearance. For individuals like myself, surgery represents the ultimate act of freedom, empowerment, and self-assertion in a world that often denies us the very essence of our being.
And so, despite these challenges, I refuse to let my identity be stifled or silenced. I am determined to take control of my life and live authentically as the person I know myself to be. For me, sadly the only avenue for achieving this is through top surgery.
However, as many of you may be aware, gender-affirming surgery comes with significant financial costs. Despite working tirelessly and saving diligently, the expenses associated with this procedure remain beyond my means. That's why I'm reaching out to you today, humbly asking for your support in raising the funds needed to cover the costs of my surgery.
I understand that times are tough for many, and any contribution, no matter how small, will make a meaningful difference in my journey. Whether it's a donation, sharing this message with your network, or offering words of encouragement, your support will be deeply appreciated and cherished.
Your generosity will not only help alleviate the financial strain but will also serve as a beacon of hope and affirm the validity of my identity by standing in solidarity with me as I strive to live authentically.
With heartfelt gratitude, Zee
https://www.gofundme.com/f/nyx85y-genderaffirming-surgery

Title says it all, but after a couple IPAs I felt a maudlin post was in order. My trusty P10F has been my EDC for over a year now and in the time it eaten thousands of every type of ammo you can think of, including 1000 rds of the dirty ass steel Magtech garbage, aluminum, etc. I know it sounds hard to believe but I haven’t had a single malfunction to date. This also says a lot for CZ’s mags, as I have yet to replace any.
And the trigger ROCKS. I’m clearly biased but I think every trigger on any sub-$1000 handgun just feels yucky to me now.
Anyone new to the gun world or looking at sub-$500 pistols for CC I can’t recommend it enough.
Peace ✌️

Several months post psychosis now and don’t really have emotions. I was given two zyprexas to calm me down in the hospital. I’m pretty small so I don’t know if that was too much? They did not have how much each tablet was on my discharge papers. The next day after the two zyprexa, my mind was completely blank.
I have been off zyprexa over a month.
Since the psychosis, I mostly don’t have emotions. Recently, I had some irritation, and it surprised me because I hadn’t had emotions for weeks, was upset one day at a bad situation, was sad while listening to a song, but no joy. After several months, I laughed, which was surprising - can’t say I felt joy but it was a real laugh. But otherwise things haven’t come back. Also, when I wake up, I’m 100% awake and can’t go back to sleep even if I want to sleep in. It’s weird.
Have you gotten your emotions back after psychosis? How long did it take?

I’m meeting with a lawyer in two weeks to start the process of filing bankruptcy. I’m in Illinois and at my full-time job I make $51k before taxes. My apartment is $1k per month, and I have no car loan. I do have medical expenses of about $250-$300 per month. I have $23,921 in credit card debt and another $8,100 on a personal loan.
I’ve been working a second job (taking home about $800-850 extra per month) for the past year in an attempt to try to make progress on it, but with my medical expenses I haven’t actually made any progress beyond paying off one $1k limit card.
My health has taken a real downturn from working seven days a week, and the financial counselor I spoke to through my EAP agreed that I can’t keep working this much and would be a good candidate for bankruptcy.
My question is when should I quit my second job. I cannot make my minimum payments (just over $1k) without this income. Would it be better to quit now and have a few weeks with just one established income before meeting the lawyer, or should I wait until I talk to him in two weeks and see what he says? My gut says to wait until I talk to him, but my mum is urging me to quit ASAP because of the impact on my health.

Hi everyone. My gf (23F) and I (23M) have been together for 6 years and have been living together for 4 years. We met in our first year of highschool through mutual friends and we're both kinda weird so we enjoyed each other's company. Bonding over things like anime, games, and other related hobbies.
Looking back it was the best decision I've ever made for myself as I came to discover the most beautiful soul I've ever had the pleasure of knowing.
Our sex life has always been great. There's a lot of trust and communication. To this day I ask for consent before changing positions as I've always felt like her satisfaction should come before mine.
Recently she expressed some feelings regarding spicing things up (normal kinky stuff). I was excited as I've also had things I wanted to try and reluctantly agreed to trying something different.
To spare you all the details, it was fun and new, we were both excited to try something else. The problem I'm now facing is that I'm having a hard time enjoying it whenever I look at her face. It makes me feel bad, just thinking about how good she is to me. Almost like I'm kicking a puppy, but if the puppy asked to be kicked?
I've tried suggesting things to help with this uneasiness I feel, such as turning off the lights and such. She can tell that Im not acting the same way, but I feel unable to fully tell her as I feel like it's rude and honestly a silly reason to deny her of her needs.
I love her to pieces and don't feel like she should be dissatisfied because of MY feelings when I see her face.
How exactly should I approach such a conversation and reach a solution without making it feel like it's her fault?
I'm open to any ideas.

I’ve been scrolling this subreddit and it’s making me want to stop playing, so I need advice. Im very sensitive to scary aspects of any game, especially jumpscares and not having a ‘safe place’ where I can relax. Is the randomly spawning suction cup monster going to ruin the game for me once I get to the labs?
I absolutely love my bases - my bro and I have two - one in the 2nd floor security office, and one in the little room over the Blacksmith. The purple portals always open down by the robot near the sec office during raid nights and I set up a testa coil out front so I never have to worry about raids, but now I’m reading about this monster that comes through walls and doesn’t care about my base being ‘safe’.
Am I correct in this? I have really enjoyed this game but I can’t handle constant jumpscares. Is there an easy way to handle them and make my base safe again once they become an issue?
Again I love the game and most of the scary aspects I’ve adjusted to. This one seems more challenging. Thanks in advance!

My ex (19F) and I (20M) broke up last week at uni in Britain. We had been together 9 months and spent the last of it fighting. I felt as though there were different expectations about our relationship. She was going to be away for an 8 month period next year and did not want to do distance throughout that. In the past, we had done a period of 4 months of distance. I felt heartbroken that she didn't want to do distance again, it felt like we had very different levels of interest/investment. For a period in the middle of our relationship, she stopped expressing that she loved me because it "felt like too big of a commitment" until I came to her crying about it.
We broke up in the early afternoon on a Saturday, the conversation was challenging. Both of us cried and said that we loved each other. But also, things weren't working and we didn't really see them working. I initiated the breakup, but it was mutual. We said we could stay in touch and maybe it would work in the future. We said our goodbyes and another "I love you." That night, she discovered her grandfather was dying. She traveled across Britain to spend the week with him. He'd been sick for months and they knew it was happening soon. I felt awful.
Struggling to cope with our ended relationship, losing my first love and my first real relationship, and feeling heartbroken about what I perceived as a lack of equal investment, I turned to alcohol. I consumed upwards of 15 to 20 drinks a night. On the the Tuesday night, while she was still at home w/ family and her grandfather. I was nearly blacked out in a bar. That night, I drank from 4pm to 2am. A girl that I knew from an overlapping friend circle, though by no means a close friend of mine, expressed interest at 2am and we spent the night together, having sex. The next morning I awoke, feeling truly horrific. I spent the day vomiting with guilt. How could I have done this while being so in love with my ex? How could I have done this while she was home under such conditions, so recently after we split? It was a horrible way of handling my emotions and one I regretted instantly.
Two days later, she returned to uni. I told her what I had done that night. Our university is small, and she would have heard from others. I wanted her to hear it from me, I took full ownership, expressed my regret, and just let her express her anger and sadness. Over the next few days, we have sent each other drunk texts and finally after a long conversation agreed to go no contact for a period. I'm still in love with her, and she is with me, but our relationship wasn't working and I have broken her heart. Her friends refuse to acknowledge me, and many people on our campus despise me. I don't know if, or how, I can make things right. I don't think I should attempt to get back together and I don't want to reach out for at least a month or more. But I really don't know what to do. I hate myself so much. I feel like an evil, twisted person. I've called crisis hotlines. I've contemplated overdoses. I know she knows I love her, I know she knows how much I regret this meaningless, one-time fling. I know that people make mistakes, but I don't know how I can carry on with myself.
What do I do? What can I do? Am I a horrible person? Will people eventually stop hating me? I cannot sleep or eat or do anything besides wishing I was gone or would wake up from a terrible dream.

I've shared this story with countless people in my life, it feels like I have a great love story Luke no other. Me, Deedee age 21, and my fiance LL age 23 met a few years back in a local coffee shop. He was sitting there alone, he looked like he had been crying. I walked by but then took a double take. I thought that he was sad and maybe needed someone to talk to, but I didn't want to pressure him. So I went up to his table and said, "hey, you look upset. If you wanna talk I'll be on this couch over here." He followed me to the couch, and it turns it he actually wasn't crying or upset at all. He has really bright blue eyes and pink cheeks, so the redness made me think he was crying. But anyways, we sat there and talked for six hours. We shared our beliefs, values, interests, pasts, and just about everything about ourselves. We seemed so compatible. The moment I left that shop I realized I was going to marry that man. I even called a friend so I'd have a witness for when we did get married lol. A few years later he's still the love of my life and we're about to tie the knot.

Ever since I was a kid I always had an ability to use an object and spin it through my hands whilst simultaneously thinking about something which makes me almost experience the thing I'm thinking about through the movement of the object.
It used to be a toothbrush, I would think about car wheels spinning and imagine I'm driving the car whilst making noises lol.
This "object" finalised on a specific pencil with the right length, right amount of rubber on the end to give it weight and balance, I have had this pencil for over 10 years and I cannot be without it.
I often listen to music and fiddle with this pencil and can almost transcend into what I'm thinking about. I know this is very strange but I've done it all my life, I get embarrassed if my missus walks in on me spinning but she laughs and finds it cute hahaha. I can take a picture of this specific pencil if you like, it's been through the bloody wars, there is literally an imprint from my thumb in the wood.
Someone feel free to shed some light on this, I've always put it down to having a vivid imagination but it could be autism now I'm older lol 😆