My friend my sister my hero poems

I don’t know what else to do honestly so I figured I might as well come on here and talk about it. I have always had a difficult relationship with my mother. She is a pathological liar and a bit narcissistic. She does mean things like threaten to call the cops when I fell on her leg when I was 12 then will deny it ever happened and call me horrible for making her sound crazy. I’ve tried over the years to have some sort of relationship with her but we aren’t really close. On to the main story I talked to my mom on how her actions affect me and how therapy could really help her she agreed and had been going to therapy. Her therapist advised her to relax more so she went on a cruise. After she came back she began acting weird and started immediately wanting a divorce after my dad asked her for money for the house payment. She had never acted like this before and I had my suspicions that someone was pushing her to do this. I knew the log in to her facebook so I logged in and checked her messages to see what was up. What I found was worse than I thought she had apparently met some guy on the cruise and had been flirting and had at least layed her head on his shoulder and massaged his shoulders on that cruise. Now that she got attention from a guy on a cruise she now is telling her friends that she deserves to be happy and wants to date. She’s now demanding that her and my dad divorce and sell the house so she can move out and be happy. I’ve tried expressing my concerns about moving out when my job and school are here, but she just keeps saying how she needs to put herself first and if I want nothing to do with her there is nothing she can do to change my mind. Me and my sister are both over 18 we are living at home to save money while going to college. I just feel so heartbroken watching her facebook and seeing her insult me to her mom and her friend and laughing about it. It hurts so much to see those messages of her taking pleasure in us being afraid of moving. I just don’t want to move but both their names are on the house and the state I live in is a no fault state. To Whoever reads this thanks for listening cause I just don’t know what to do.

This is a rundown of the predominant intelligent races on my fantasy version of Saturn, which is a sword-and-sorcery world loosely based on Classical mythology. Your feedback is greatly appreciated!
Aranians are the oldest of Saturn’s intelligent races. Like their kin the Arthropoids, they are entomons, with multi-jointed legs and semi-flexible exoskeletons. Unlike the Arthropoids, they are only slightly humanoid. Their lower bodies are spider-like, with eight legs and large abdomens, while their upper bodies are more humanoid, although they have six arms and numerous eyes. Once long ago, they boasted a planet-spanning civilization; they were the first to develop philosophy and art, mathematics and astrology, architecture and literature. But in the apocalypse of the Day of Wrath, their civilization was annihilated, and today, the descendants of those ancient Aranians have largely forgotten about the glories of their once-proud people. Many Aranians, such as the Slavars, live nomadic existences, although a few settled Aranian nations, such as Anansazi and Ctenizan, still exist.
{Classical Mythology equivalent: Centaurs}
Arthropoids are entomons, insect-like creatures with semi-flexible exoskeletons, but are far more humanoid than their Aranian cousins. Most are of human height, with two legs and four arms, but a few are smaller, such as the ant-like Marwari, who stand roughly four feet tall, or the flea-like Zaoi, who are usually less than three feet in height. Most Arthropoids have wings, which allow them to fly thanks to their irridescent membranes, membranes which manipulate colour and permit flight despite the Arthropoids’ weight. Unlike the Dendryads, the Arthropoids are not a single species, but rather a collection of many species that are not capable of interbreeding. A wide variety of nations have been founded by the Arthropoids—the expansive empire of Marwar, the reclusive land of Aed, the militaristic Vazhka—and in a few places, mainly Naranj and Merinj, they live in harmony with the Dendryads. In the main, however, a state of war usually exists between the Dendryads and the Arthropoids, as the two “superraces” compete for control of Saturn.
{Classical Mythology equivalent: Myrmidons, Amazons}
Although Dendryads appear to be plants, they are not. They are instead phyta, a kingdom of organisms that split off from plants roughly 400 million years ago. Humanoid, like almost all creatures native to Saturn the Dendryads have six limbs, four arms and two legs. Unlike the Arthropoids, the Dendryads are a single species, although with astonishing diversity; their subraces are capable of interbreeding, but this usually requires divine intervention. Most races of Dendryads are sequential hermaphrodites: they change from male to female or female to male periodically throughout their lives. Over the millennia, the Dendryads have spread out across the surface of Saturn, forming mighty kingdoms and vast empires. Today, most Dendryads would assert that, even if their own nation is not particularly powerful, the greatest and most puissant of Saturn’s civilizations are still Dendryad. The most notable of these is Aquarium, the Golden City, the Light of the World, the last remnant of the Anthemite Empire and defender of civilization since Anthem’s fall ten thousand years ago. Other Dendryad kingdoms of note are Naranj and Merinj, Dzjanggakh, Mora, and Qoq. With the fall of Anthem, though, the Dendryad position is threatened by rising powers, most of which are either Arthropoid or Mykobold in ethnicity. On multiple fronts, the Aquarine Empire is challenged: by its ancient enemy Marwar, by the new and dynamic Swarm of the Azzuzzazi, by invading Slavars. Only time will tell if Aquarium can withstand this onslaught of “barbarians”.
{Classical Mythology equivalent: Dryads}
Mykobolds are the fungal equivalent of Dendryads. Shorter than the Dendryads, they prefer dark and moist regions of Saturn, such as deep caves, swamps, and the undergrowth of many of Saturn’s forests. This often brings them into contact with the te’Ythul (see below), often at the Mykobolds’ cost. Their relations with the other races of Saturn vary significantly depending on the tribe of Mykobolds and the counterparty: the Russulkas or Redcaps are mischievous bordering on murderous, the Troggoths of the subterranean empire of Troggoroth are insane cultists, the Kuba are peaceful shamans, the Lichens are undead necromancers who possess the rotting bodies of other races, the Gomphlins are friendly but isolationist, the Thallids have an ancient but proud scholarly tradition, and so forth. Recently, many tribes of Mykobolds have begun migrating from their traditional strongholds into the vacuum left by the decaying eastern half of the Anthemite Empire, creating new petty kingdoms for themselves and occasionally finding themselves as the ruling class over Dendryads. This has led to tension between the two ethnicities.
{Classical Mythology equivalent: Troglodytae}
The Coral Brains are not, strictly speaking, a race in the same way as the others. They are, instead, vast colonies of polyps that function as enormous neural networks. Once a single supercomputer that covered much of the surface of Saturn, the coral was shattered during the Day of Wrath and many fragments were ejected into Saturn’s atmosphere and beyond. Now the remaining pieces, which range in size from a few dozen meters across to dozens of miles, roam the skies of Saturn, kept aloft by careful channeling of colour which provides an antigravity force. It also fuels their computation. Some of them have seen their surfaces colonized by other races, but those settlers exist on the coral brains only at the brains’ sufferance. For at least a million years, the coral brains have been locked in a secret war with the Shimmering Demons, recruiting from the other races individuals and sometimes entire nations as pawns in their struggle to control Saturn; most notably, both sides have engaged the services of what remains of Anthem’s ceramic legions as foot soldiers.
{Classical Mythology equivalent: Genii Loci}
The te’Ythul, or Spawn of Ythul, are one of the most ancient and mysterious of Saturn’s races. These hulking giants, who can reach heights of thirty feet, are found only in humid and swampy areas, where the water in the air keeps their mucous-covered skins moist. Having arisen from the congealing, rancid blood of the thousand-mile-tall embodiment of primordial chaos Ythul when it spilled from his body on the Day of Wrath, the te’Ythul hid themselves in secret parts of the world, far from the other races towards which they were and are profoundly hostile. Many have become masters of manipulating the obsidian oil, giving them access to arcane and eldritch powers unknown and forbidden to the rest of Saturn’s peoples. A few have even taken to dabbling in anti-colour, a sinister and unholy force of unknown origins. With their dozens of tentacles, they are formidable and terrifying foes for any adventurers who encounter them, whether in the depths of the earth or secreted within foul swamps or roaming the dusk-shrouded undergrowth of Saturn’s rainforests.
{Classical Mythology equivalent: Cyclopes}
Syngnals are the messengers and servants of Phragma, the trickster goddess of magic. These small, seahorse-like creatures flit around, gradually influencing the course of Saturnian history in the direction Phragma would like it to go. Unfortunately for her, they aren’t very good at their jobs. Or maybe they are…
{Classical Mythology equivalent: Hippocampus}
Titanians and Uberonians are humanoids not native to Saturn; instead, they originated on Saturn’s moon Voeba. However, when Voeba was destroyed during the Day of Wrath, its inhabitants were forced to migrate elsewhere, to other moons. One group settled on Titan; the other, after finding their first choice of Hyperion unsuitable, eventually formed a new society on Rhea. Not being native Saturnians, they only have four limbs, rather than the standard six, and they have a higher level of technology than the Saturnians, boasting flying saucers, rocket ships, and rayguns. Since the Day of Wrath, they have been locked in a cold war for control of Saturn’s moons and rings, largely ignoring the planet itself, which they regard as inhabited by primitives. Of the two, the Titanian are marginally more benevolent, although both nations feel perfectly free to abduct Saturnians and probe them, or, in the case of the Uberonians, enslave them for their own amusement. This latter habit is frowned upon by the Titanians, who attempt to enforce what they call the “First Order”, which states that more advanced and sophisticated and, frankly, intelligent races are not supposed to meddle in the affairs of primitives, because primitives, with their primitive planet-bound brains, simply cannot grasp how dangerous even a single piece of Titanian or Uberonian technology can be to a witless primitive. That raygun? Put it down. That com-talker? Put it down. That belt buckle? Put it down! The Titanian Ring Patrol, with its stalwart band of Space Marshals, attempts to enforce the law on a largely lawless Ring system, but even they periodically break the First Order, usually because the Uberonians broke it first or because the primitives had already been exposed to advanced technology or because the captain really didn’t feel like following it.
{Norse Mythology equivalent: Ljósálfar and Dökkálfar}
The Shimmering Demons, like the Titanians and Uberonians, are not native to Saturn. In fact, no one knows where they come from, exactly. What is known is that they don’t seem to be entirely…here. Flickering in and out of perception, they are found throughout Saturn, usually as traders, but what they trade in is…odd. Want wealth? They’re happy to oblige, in exchange for a handful of twigs. Want power? Sure thing; you’ll just need to give them your happiest memory. Want immortality? It only costs a broken sword. Want true love? Not a problem—but you’ll be sacrificing all the messy complexity of a real relationship…which the demons are glad to take off your hands. It’s been noticed that people who deal with them come away from the transaction a little…flatter, somehow; a little more two-dimensional. Those of the demons who aren’t engaged in trade are busy measuring. They measure everything, absolutely everything—from the diameter of that tree to exactly how much of a “hero” you are--and when they aren’t measuring, they’re cataloguing. They catalog everything. Even people. They would classify you as a web-based amateur worldbuilder grade B+ (not to be confused with a web-based amateur worldbuilder grade B++). Would you be interested in being reclassified as a web-based amateur worldbuilder grade A---? They have an installment plan…
{Classical Mythology equivalent: none}

I’m gonna lay out the whole context here, and it’s 2 years long so bear with me. A TL;DR isn’t really possible as there’s so much important context to whether or not IATA.
We’ve been married almost 10 years and she’s from overseas. She came here through our marriage. We were happy and doing extremely well for ourselves.
The problem started to 2 years ago. My friends wedding. Afterward we went out and then went to another friends house to continue partying. At the party one of the wedding guests started having a pity party about how he’s depressed because all these happy couples are around and he’s single.
For context. This guy is weird. He’s disrespectful to women, capitalizes on captive audiences (waitresses most often), and is overall a loser. He’s got a good job but that’s about it.
My wife, listens to his sob story and says “I have a sister!” and immediately starts FaceTiming her sister. This is something I’ve said isn’t okay. We’re not tinder, and we’re not matchmakers.
Beyond that her sister has a history of treating her poorly. She constantly told my wife she’s stupid growing up, well into adulthood. She blocked my wife for a whole year because my wife called her and told her not to go on boats with men she doesn’t know. Told my wife to live like she doesn’t have a sister. For a whole year I consoled my wife a couple times a week.
Anyways we were both drunk and with people so I’m not gonna start a fight right there. I figure I’ll talk to her about it maturely later. So I do. In the meantime, I switch to speaking Arabic with her sister and tell her this isn’t okay and isn’t what she wants.
Her and my wife to this day claim I was happy and supportive. They claim I was too drunk to remember. But there’s a few things wrong with this. I drove home, I take drinking and driving VERY seriously and would never, ever do it. In fact, if I know I’ve drank too much, I’ll hand my keys to a friend before the liquor starts hitting, just to avoid any possibility of making that bad decision.
Secondly, I switched to Arabic. I’m white. Arabic is a language I learned. When I speak it, I speak it very, very deliberately and remember the conversations perfectly. I know exactly what I said.
Anyways, when I talk to my wife later, I’m told how it’s wrong to prevent her from helping her sister and how her sister really likes this guy. A guy she talked to for 5 minutes. I told her it’s wrong to think of it as “helping” her sister in the first place and that her sister is a grown woman who can find her own partner.
So my wife says “okay I’ll tell my sister to stop talking to him”. That was the end of it. Or so I thought.
A few weeks later I’m at a different event and this guy let it slip they’re still talking. Immediately I’m upset and text my wife about how she lied to me.
She said her sister was really falling in love with this guy and separating them would be wrong. She said she did tell her sis to block him but when her sis went into a depression she told her she can unblock him and talk to him, behind my back.
Upset I told her we need to talk about going behind my back and how disrespectful of my boundaries this whole ordeal was. She said “it’s okay I’ll tell her to block him again”.
Over. Or so I thought for the next few months. A few months later I again am at an event with this guy and this time he’s smart enough to lie about them talking. But I’m a salesman and a bullshitter. You can’t bullshit me unless I trust you. I knew immediately he was lying but I let it go. I did ask my wife and she said no they’re not talking. So I believed her.
Well, a year and a half goes by. In that time her sister and her fought about how her sister could come to the US. We said we’d help her but it’s a lengthy process. At the time I had little animosity toward her sister and would’ve loved to see her come here and be near my wife again. She wasn’t happy with that and said it takes too long. This is her sister’s mindset.
Anyway. Her sister gets a B1 visa in the meantime, temporary business visitor and wants to come visit my wife. Lies through her teeth about her intentions to the immigration officer, telling them she wants to stay 90 days. They approve her for 60.
So we file for an extension ASAP so she can visit for 3 months. Staying with us the whole time. I wanted her to have fun on her visit so I arrange for my friends and I to go out. This guy shows up. She talked to him and told him our plans.
Immediately they disappear into the casino and come back holding hands and all kinds of PDA. I’m fuming because I know she’s a conniving word I won’t say here. I don’t say anything though and we go through the night and I let it go so I can have fun.
The next day he’s picking her up from my house and they’re out for the whole day. The next time my wife is off work, same story. Well, I thought you were here to visit her? And that’s where I put my foot down.
I got told it was wrong to try and control her, wrong to try and separate them, etc. etc. etc. Finally she blocks his number and he calls from a separate number. I turn off her SIM card because I’m not gonna support her going behind my back in my own home. He calls me and tells me he really loves her and just wishes I’d accept it.
I tell him very plainly I will never, ever accept it because it all stemmed from him, her, and my wife going behind my back. Primarily my wife, as she’s the only one of the three I should be able to trust is telling me the truth.
At this point, I feel as if my wife had an emotional affair, although it’s with her own family. She repeatedly chose to go behind my back, against a boundary I had told her repeatedly before this situation at my friend’s wedding after party ever transpired. If that’s not an emotional affair, I don’t know what is.
So I tell him bluntly to not call me anymore and I’m not going to change my stance, and his feelings don’t mean shit to me. He started to give me a sob story about how we’re friends and he I should be happy for him and I cut him off and told him to save his breath.
My wife is upset at me for how I talked to him. Another emotional affair. Trying to protect the feelings of this dude.
The next day, while my wife is at work I’m eating lunch at our dinner table and studying schoolwork her sister comes to the table and starts talking to me about this guy asking if I talked to him and I tell her plainly I did and what I told him.
She goes into a story about how she really loves him, she’s an adult woman and I shouldn’t be intervening etc. I told her I agree I shouldn’t ever have been involved and neither should my wife. I told her to save her breath with any talk of her feelings because I don’t care. She started crying telling me I’m cruel etc.
I told her at this point I’m done being nice. I’ve been lied to for 2 years and it’s over. I’m done being my laid back self and I’ve been pushed repeatedly and I’m standing up for my marriage and my boundaries.
I did turn her SIM card back on so she could call my wife and I, her hosts.
The next morning I wake up to my wife in tears calling me to her sisters room. Her sister is bawling her eyes out and packing her bags to go home. I talk her sister into coming for a car ride with my wife and I to talk things out.
Immediately in the car my wife starts berating her sister about how she’s selling her for a man and a whole host of other things. I calm my wife down and tell her that’s not okay to say to her sister. Because against what they thought I don’t want and would’ve never wanted this to cause a separation between them. I know how much my wife values family.
In the car her sister tells me she really loves this guy and that she can see them being a family one day etc. etc. etc. I tell her plainly don’t ever bring him around my house, if they do marry and have kids, don’t ever bring them around my house, and don’t consider me her brother in law because I will never do anything for her again after she goes home.
My wife is shocked, she’s shocked and they both wonder how I could be so cruel. I said I’m over it. I’m over hearing about this guy, I’m over being used, and I will never again trust her. She said she understands and resumes talking to this guy.
A few days later we’re in the car going to a family event with my family and I get asked if he can come. I said no, very politely. I said no, he’s not part of my family. I was told how terrible I am, and my wife and her sister both jump out of my car in a bad part of Chicago, an area neither of them know.
My wife calls my family and tells them I kicked them out of the car. So my family starts blowing up my phone screaming at me. Once I explained the situation my family said they’ll come pick them up but I hung around and kept driving by to make sure they were okay. Eventually my wife calls me and says they’ll get in.
So I pull over and they open the doors and my wife goes “I’m scared I don’t feel comfortable getting in the car with you”. So I drive away pissed off. This is a 85,000 car in a bad part of the city where carjackings happen every other day.
I go park somewhere but keep an eye on them to make sure they stay safe. A homeless guy passed them and my wife calls me to come get her. So I do and we go home.
Again her sister packs her shit and cries that she’s going home. I tell her to relax, sleep on it and we’ll talk in the morning. She does eventually and in the morning she decides she’ll stay.
A week goes by and I hear nothing about this guy from her. My friends and I all joked about him and made light fun of him. He caught wind of it and cried to my wife’s sister who told my wife, who came to me and aggressively told me to stop and leave them both alone. I got pissed off because this was a private convo between me and my friends and if he heard it and got his feelings hurt it’s on him.
This spiraled into a huge argument with me, my wife, and her sister. In the argument I asked her sister plainly if she planned to leave at the 90 day mark. She said no.
So I kicked her out of our house. Her and my wife went for a walk and I yelled out the front door to get her shit to the curb before the walk before I do, because if she doesn’t do it herself it’ll be thrown on the wet ground. They both thought I was joking before then I assume. Her sister comes in and packs her stuff and gets out. I said if you plan on staying here illegally it won’t be in my house. If the choose is between here or the streets, it’ll be the streets.
She went to stay with the boyfriend and his parents. His parents must not have liked her too much because within a couple weeks they made them both move out.
This was in January of this year.
Since then, I’ve been repeatedly goaded into accepting this. My wife has tried to get me to visit her sister, etc.
It came to a head recently at a wedding we went to for another friend. Her sister and this guy were there. I didn’t say a word to either one the entire night and all was fine.
Except my wife spent the whole night at their table because he wouldn’t dance or do anything to have fun. She can’t handle the idea that her sister might find something she doesn’t like about this guy. She has to be there just in case the relationship goes on life support.
This pisses me off, obviously. She’s more invested in their relationship than she’s been in ours for the past 2 years. Grown adults.
Well, today she was going to her sisters house. She had 2 bags. An ulta bag and a discovery bag. I asked what that is, and she said it’s for her sister. She pulled out taco shells and said it’s just small stuff she wants her to try. But I could see through the bag and saw beauty products. I’m not an idiot.
I looked in when she went to the bathroom and saw a fucking armoire full of shit. I looked at the receipt. $300. I was fucking livid.
I continued getting ready for work and said “her husband can’t buy her that?”. It’s confrontational, yes. But I said it politely, and was open to talking about it.
I get met with immediately hostility. I never raised my voice but I made it very clear I wasn’t being nice about this or anything anymore.
I told her “maybe she could pay you back and find you a new husband”. I’m going to give her a choice. Me or her sister now. Because this has gotten fucking ridiculous.
We pay for her to come here. She hired an immigration lawyer apparently, but doesn’t have money to pay me back for the flight or even pay for the Ubers they take or anything. My wife is trying to make up for this losers shortcomings. He’s too much of an idiot to see that her sister is using him.
By the way, this isn’t her first fiance. It’s not even her first western fiance. She’s been engaged to at least 3 different guys. One from France, another from Belgium, and a third from Canada before this guy. She was looking to immigrate. He’s a fucking idiot though so, oh well.
My wife’s sister is very materialistic. My wife is fortunately down to earth but is so far up her sisters ass because she thinks if she doesn’t do everything her sister wants that her sister will cut her from her life again. Which is exactly what would happen.
I told her that’s on her sister. I’m not asking her to never talk to her sister. I’m asking her to stop treating her sister like she’s a child and putting their relationship before ours. Stop bending over backwards for a grown woman who will throw you away the moment you’re inconvenient.
But it’ll never happen it seems and it’s the reason I’m strongly considering divorcing her. I’m over this fucking shit. Oh, and by the way, my wife claims that she’s scared of me etc. now when she tells the story to other people.
I have never and would never hit my wife. I’ve never given her any reason to be afraid of me. So to put that out there on me is absolutely fucking bullshit and I’ve lost all trust in her.
AITAH?

I met a friend in 2012. We started university together. We grew close and considered each other sisters almost. She moved away a couple of years ago. This past summer she sent her “friend” to my place after she planned to come with but had to cancel last minute. I let him stay even though he was a stranger because we still had tickets to a show and she was vouching for him. While at my place he almost SA me and crawled into bed with me and groped me before I woke up and stopped him. She told me that it wasn’t his intention and that it was partially my fault for being friendly with him beforehand. I was upset but stepped back and didn’t talk about it anymore. She is still friends with him and this bothers me a bit. Today I messaged her regarding animals being euthanized instead of being re-homed. I said it was sad that this particular animal didn’t have a chance and she said that I was annoying and that she didn’t care. She said the animal would just be somewhere else and someone else’s problem. I understand some animals cannot be rehabilitated but I think it was unnecessary to say I was annoying for wanting to help instead of seeing the animal put down immediately. I’m sitting here considering blocking her on everything without explaining. I haven’t seen her in a couple of years and after almost being SA and not getting supported this opinion about euthanizing has left a sour taste in my mouth. Would I be the asshole if I cut her off cold turkey without a word about why?

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I'm beyond excited. My little game. It's Yolk Heroes: A long Tamago. It's a... an Idle Game + JRPG + Virtual Pet Game = Fun? Sort of game?
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We've managed to get 100 reviews in the first day!This is pretty amazing... thank you everyone. People on reddit have been very supportive, so... thank you. I actually am only posting this here on incremental_games for the first time today, as I only just found out about this place!
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Okay so, I bought my kitten from an old “friend” who literally was going to let mama and kittens roam the streets. I bought the one, and literally stole the entire group of kittens&mama. These were not good people and i literally just made a run for it (it was dramatic, but i was 20 and just couldn’t let these babies struggle when I KNEW they’d be adopted at my local shelter)
So fast forward a few months, I find out my kitten has feline herpes. she got vaccinated, got the meds, she didn’t eat her food with the powder they gave me with both wet and dry food. So I continued the eyedrops and ditched the powder, I got an alternative paste to add to the food. She hated it. So we stuck with eye drops.
Fast forward to now, I’ve managed the flare ups well, she sits in the steamy bathroom, I always wipe her eyes multiple times a day with a warm cloth, eyedrops when necessary, etc.
Unfortunately as a first time pet owner, I was always told by relatives that unless the animal is showing signs something is wrong, a vet appointment isn’t necessary. Her and her sister are crazy playful, she loves snuggles and gets so many of them, she eats and drinks on routine and she seems really happy, however her flare ups have been a bit more intense than normal, her ears won’t stay clean no matter how often I wipe them, so I made an appointment right away.
I can’t shake the feeling I’m going to get judged and crucified for asking questions or just not knowing things I should already know. Or even judged because maybe her ears are dirty, or her nails are a little long. I give her trims but it’s the fight of my life, truly, I’ve almost lost an eyeball like 12 times.
Any advice on how to calm my nerves? It’s insane I’m even asking this, but I get anxious over everything so I just want to make sure I can handle things well, I guess?
Both are spayed, purely indoor cats. They only go outside for vet trips.

My (24f) boyfriend (29m) is going abroad with his female friend, they've been friends for years and claim to have a brothesister relationship but I've never met her. I already told him I was comfortable with the situation before he booked it but he booked it anyway and said its non negotiable. I've asked opinions from friends and they all think it's weird. But have I been too hastily in breaking up with him about it? He says I don't understand the situation fully and wouldn't have a problem with it if I knew her but it's a difficult situation. Just to add we are compatible in every other way.

It’s been just over a month since we split up. It’s definitely been a rollercoaster. One day I’d be fine, then the next I’m feeling extremely low. Or I’d be fine in the morning, then suddenly a couple hours later I’d be crying.
I’ve been doing my best to take the time to process everything. Journaling, talking/venting to friends or family, going for walks, letting myself cry, etc. The release I feel each time is great, like a small piece of the weight is lifted each time. A huge chunk was lifted when I removed his location from my phone, when I muted his stories on Insta, and when I asked that we don’t speak anymore unless it was for him to get his belongings. With each thing I did to let go, I cried for hours on and off after, but I’d like to think it was a release of emotions and also grief that the breakup was becoming more real.
Today, I took another step. I deleted all our photos and videos off my phone. I cried all the way through selecting each photo/video, deleting them then sitting with the knowledge that I did it. I kept crying after as well, so I called my sister to talk about it and tried to calm down. But it was on and off. It’s been a couple of hours since, and I feel a bit better.
I know, realistically, I’ll be crying about it again, and that’s ok. But I’m proud that I took another step to healing and letting him go. Letting what we had go.
For any of you going through the same thing: keep pushing, keeping showing love to yourself, and keep looking for healthy ways to process everything. Yes, it is hard and it sucks. And with each step, it will feel worse at first, but the relief and freedom you allow yourself will feel even better. Give yourself some grace and patience. Great things come with patience.

LF:
Looking for shinies I'm missing (plus some extras at the bottom of the post), and willing to overtrade for the more rare ones:

• Shinies I need (67): (current progress: 1270/1337)
  • Cap Pikachu (1): Cap Pikachu
  • Unown (12): B, E, F, K, L, M, N, P, R, W, Y, !
  • Hoenn (1): Relicanth (female)
  • Sinnoh (3): Wormadam (any form), Arceus, Shaymin (normal) (pending)
  • Unova (8): Simipour, Leavanny, Archeops, Gothorita, Frillish (male), Jellicent (male), Ferroseed, Accelgor
  • Kalos (15): Furfrou (all 9 trims), Tyrunt, Pumpkaboo (average, large), Gourgeist (small, average, large)
  • Alola (10): Wimpod, Golisopod, Type: Null, Silvally, Minior (blue, violet), Celesteela, Kartana, Stakataka, Blacephalon
  • Galar (12): Blipbug, Dottler, Sizzlipede, Cursola, Dracozolt, Arctozolt, Arctovish, Regieleki, Regidrago, Galarian Corsola, Galarian Zapdos, Galarian Moltres
  • Paldea (5): Crocalor, Quaxwell, Gimmighoul, Gholdengo, Maushold (FO3)
  • Extras (9): Pikachu (male) (pending?), Meowth, Centiskorch, Galarian Meowth (pending?), Kecleon, Wooloo, Lunatone, Gourgeist (Super), Tirtouga
• (non shiny) Pharaoh Furfrou trim -- Looking for self-caught and non location-spoofed.

FT:
Special stuff for trade:

• Shiny Unown A ✨ (premier ball) OT: AtoiZoi or custom ID: 449369 Self-caught in Pokemon GO raid, still in Pokemong GO
• Shiny Tapu Lele ✨ (Akala, cherish ball) OT: Akala ID: 181130 Claimed in USUM, touched, has been in Sword (no proof), vee4Phoenix -> me link
• Shiny Tapu Koko ✨ (premier ball) OT: AtoiZoi or custom ID: 449369 Self-caught in Pokemon GO raid, still in Pokemon GO
• Shiny Suicune ✨ (Movie '13, cherish ball) OT: GAMESTP ID: 01311 Claimed in Pokemon HGSS, touched, has been in Sword, simple WC screenshot as proof (no username/timestamp), Egamer20 -> me link
• Shiny Darkrai ✨ (premier ball) OT: blu ID: 267804 Caught in Pokemon GO raid (PoGO stamped), ScrewtaperBK -> Greenevers, Greenevers -> me link1 link2
• Shiny Mesprit ✨ (premier ball) OT: Fabio ID: 13838 Caught in Pokemon ORAS with SR, ZiR1402 -> me link
• Shiny Giratina ✨ (premier ball) OT: AtoiZoi or custom ID: 449369 Self-caught in Pokemon GO raid, still in Pokemon GO
• Shiny Type: Null ✨ (poke ball) OT: Yellow ID: 655069 Caught in Pokemon USUM with RNG on a CFW 3DS with Pcalc, TedDoesPokemon -> me link
• Shiny Amoonguss ✨ (cherish ball) OT: Baik Jongyoon (Korean) ID: 200809 self-redeemed in Pokemon Sword (wondercard proof available)
• Victini (cherish ball) OT: Victory ID: 220818 Claimed in Pokemon SWSH, unproofed, DigiDamian -> me link
• (non shiny) PoGO Mew (poke ball) OT: AtoiZoi ID: 449369 Self-caught in Pokemon GO, moved to HOME (PoGO stamped)
• SV Mew (poke ball ) OT: Reina ID: 834600 Self-claimed in Pokemon SV (WC proof available)
• (non shiny) PoGO Shaymin (poke ball) OT: AtoiZoi or custom ID: 449369 Self-caught in Pokemon GO, still in Pokemong GO
• (non shiny) PoGO Deoxys (premier ball) OT: AtoiZoi or custom ID: 449369 Self-caught in Pokemon GO, still in Pokemon GO
• PoGO Galarian Moltres (master ball) OT: AtoiZoi or custom ID: 449369 Self-caught in Pokemon GO, still in Pokemon GO

More in my trade sheet.
PoGO shinies still in GO: sheet
Shinies already in HOME (mostly from trades):

• Delibird (luxury/premiepoke/heal ball) Reina 834600 Self-caught in Pokemon Violet in Mass Outbreaks (event)
• Alolan Meowth (great ball) Momo 066475 Caught in Pokemon GO, n0itamina -> me link
• Hisuian Arcanine (hisuian ultra ball) God 858286 Caught in PLA, ajisawesome8 -> me link
• Hisuian Voltorb (hisuian ultra ball) Domate 736694 Caught in PLA, DomstarX -> me link
• Hisuian Electrode (hisuian ultra ball) Domate 736694 Caught in PLA as a Hisuian Voltorb, and I evolved it to a Hisuian Electrode in PLA, DomstarX -> me link
• Chansey (poke ball) Door-kun 240269 Caught in Pokemon USUM as a Random Encounter, has been in Sword, funyarinpa00 -> me link
• Galarian Slowbro (dream ball) Holdmyweave 396948 Bred in Pokemon SWSH, DrugDealer6969 -> Greenevers, Greenevers -> me link1 link2
• Beautifly (male, wing ball) Jonathan 54835 Caught in PLA, chenj25 -> me link
• Nuzleaf (male, ultra ball) Rocket 999034 Caught in Pokemon GO as a Seedot, and I evolved it to a Nuzleaf in Sword, CanaryIntheSky -> me link
• Shroomish (great ball) Ender 299038 Caught in Pokemon GO, Katilinann -> me link
• Ninjask (ultra ball) Spider 435800 Caught in Pokemon GO, snomming -> Greenevers, Greenevers -> me link1 link2
• Spheal (premier ball) Fabio 13838 Caught in Pokemon ORAS in a Horde, ZiR1402 -> me link
• Luxio (male, love ball) Iñigo 643897 Bred in Pokemon SWSH, hp_zephyr -> me link
• Stunky (premier ball) Fabio 41243 Caught in Pokemon XY in Hordes, has been in Sword, ZiR1402 -> ScrewtaperBK, ScrewtaperBK -> me link1 link2
• Blitzle (ultra ball) Babas 824000 Caught in Pokemon GO, babasoten -> me link
• Zebstrika (premier ball) Fabio 41243 Caught in Pokemon XY in Friend Safari, ZiR1402 -> me link
• Boldore (premier ball) Fabio 41243 Caught in Pokemon XY in a Horde as a Roggenrola, and I evolved it to Boldore in Sword, ZiR1402 -> me link
• Gurdurr (premier ball) Sablepepper 962365 Caught in Pokemon GO, has been in Sword, Fatless_toast -> me link
• Conkeldurr (poke ball) Bottled Fish 867143 Caught in Pokemon GO as a Timburr, and I evolved it to a Gurdurr in Sword, and evolved to a Conkeldurr through tradeback in Sword, Fish_In_A_Bottle -> me, me -> Evthe420 -> me link1 link2
• Chandelure (luxury ball) Green 811929 Caught in Pokemon SWSH Event Den (not RNGed, hosted on pokemonmaxraids), ShaikhAndBake -> me link
• Braixen (ultra ball) Ender 299038 Caught in Pokemon GO as a Fennekin, and I evolved to a Braixen in Violet, Katilinann -> me link
• Rowlet (poke ball) Shine 734555 Bred in Pokemon SWSH, TheWorstf0u -> me link
• Decidueye (hisuian ultra ball) Domate 736694 Caught in PLA as a Dartrix, and I evolved it in Sword, DomstarX -> me link
• Litten (poke ball) Marco 444621 Bred in Pokemon SWSH, MaRcEsCeNt -> me, link
• Torracat (poke ball) Marcos 166416 Bred in Pokemon SWSH, MarcosInu -> me, link
• Incineroar (poke ball) Ash 862902 Bred in Pokemon SWSH, Arsenal019 -> ScrewtaperBK, ScrewtaperBK -> me link1 link2
• Runerigus (dusk ball) Ramune 427790 Caught in Pokemon SWSH in a Max Raid (hosted by OT's sister in RNGed den, hyper trained), platokie -> Evthe420, Evthe420 -> me link1 link2

More in my trade sheet.
Apriballs, ability patches, and gold bottle caps:

• Apriball stock: Fast: x0, Friend: x1, Lure: x0, Level: x0, Heavy: x1, Love: x1, Moon x1, Dream x1, Sport: x2, Safari: x3, Beast: x4
• Sweets stock: Ribbon: x3, Star: x6
• Ability Patch: x20, Gold Bottle Cap x21

My mom has a big reoccurring issue with binge drinking. From my understanding, she’s been an alcoholic since she was a teen. She’s gone to rehab at least five times that I’m aware of, but there’s a cycle. She’s sober, she thinks she can drink in moderation, she fails at drinking in moderation and drinks god knows how much secretly, has benders where she’s debilitated for days and my stepdad (or whoever her enabler is at the time) helps her wean/detox, then she works her way up to a horrible life decision. Second to last relapse she drove my sister and I a long distance while completely inebriated. Once we drove two hours and got stuck after she passed out in the car, the time before that we got lost in the middle of the desert and my mom lost custody of us temporarily. Then she goes to rehab and she stays sober for a couple years.
I’ve always forgiven her because I really love my mom.
This last bender she mixed a month supply of benzos with an ungodly amount of alcohol. She said she was suicidal and we finally got her to go with an ambulance after several days. I was TWO WEEKS postpartum. While most grandmas help their daughters adjust to having a new baby by helping her clean or cook or take the baby so mom can nap, I had my newborn with a genetic disease in the ER in a baby carrier trying to bar my mother from ripping out her IVs. She was so far gone she was incontinent. We thought she had permanent brain damage.
She went to rehab and she’s now been sober a year and a half. I’ve “forgiven” her but every time I talk to her it feels like I’m talking to a ghost. This has been her first relapse in my adult life. It’s my husbands first encounter loving an addict. I lost my father to addiction so this isn’t my first time going through this. I’m 25 years old and sometimes I feel like how my friends described being spiteful of their moms when we were teens. I haven’t felt this before.
I really feel I have limited time on earth with my mom because I don’t think she’ll survive another bender. I feel like I’m wasting my time mad at her when my time is so finite. I still really feel like I’m talking to a ghost. My sister has gone extremely LC. I just feel so alone, especially looking back at my postpartum experience. Should I just be grateful she’s sober and move on??? Am I wrong for having this on edge feeling of her being a ticking time bomb??

I tried to recover my account by DMing Webkinz on Instagram and they said that my username (which I'm like 90% sure is correct) is not associated with any accounts. My sister managed to recover her account (she found the only used code that we had left that was associated with her acct) but the weird thing is that some animals that I know I had on my account are in fact on hers,but the animal that she adopted that is the same type and even misspelling of the intended name are the same. The only thing that is different is that hers shows as adopted later than mine (i have an old printed out sheet with the same and adoption date of the animal but no pet code unfortunately and no username or name). Another weird thing is that her friends list is wiped like she doesn't even have any character friends. Has this happened to anyone else? Is there a list of usernames in the database? Thanks in advance. Really weird.

When I'm at work I'm okay. I'm a gardener and grounds maintenance so it's very rewarding and puts me in a good mood but I dread going home. I have friends but they're all on different schedules and some of them are flakey and my best mates live 2 hours away. I went and got some food on my own today just so I didn't have to go home. I did a bit of DJing earlier which was fun but I got bored and now I'm just sat here, I don't even like watching things because we used to watch so many things together.
When I do manage to meet some friends it's so good but 90% of the time I'm on my own and it's just hard to keep myself busy. It's been 2 months, she left me on text, ghosted me and I found out she's seeing someone else even though she said she would meet me for clarity regarding the situation. She have some half assed reasons but it was so one way and I never got to ask any questions. I did no contact but had to message her when I found out she's seeing someone else to get my things back. Honestly it's just painful and dealing with the pain in the evenings is so hard, I end up just getting in bed super early.
On the weekends I try to see friends, this Friday/Saturday I'm going to a dnb rave on my own as it seems so much effort to get my friends to meet and they always flake on me, honestly I don't know if I'll go, I live in a really isolating village so it's so much effort to get anywhere to do anything.
I've also booked a boxing class as it's something I did as a kid and something i always wanted to do when I was with her but just never committed.
I'm doing all the things I can to heal but it just feels hopeless and I just feel so lonely. My mum is serverly mentally ill and there trauma revolving that, my sister lives 4 hours away and my nan is not very well either so I help her when I can but we don't have a very loving relationship either and she is depressed and lonely from getting cheated on by my step grandad 10 years ago, my dad is no where to be seen and my grandad abandoned everyone and never sees us and he has no interest in me. It's just so hard when you don't have support and as a man. I've been thinking about therapy but not something that is at the top of my list as of yet but I will down the line, I'm already very self aware and I've done a bunch of reflection and trying to improve In the areas where I fell short in the relationship.
I guess I'm just struggling in general. I grew so much in that relationship, I used to suffer from depression but since my gardening job I feel so much better, but this is really weighing me down. I know I'll get through it, but the betrayal i experienced has brought back my trauma a little bit and it fucking hurts that she didn't even think for two seconds how this could affect me.
I needed to rant, thanks to anyone taking the time to read.

Hi all!
I am planning to elope with my fiancé next year. It's not a traditional elopement - we intend on bringing our parents, and I've extended the invite to my sister and her husband as well. We really want a small, no-fuss, fun, easy trip that will be a funny memory to share. The trip will be about 4 days long.
For context, we're doing a dinner party in our hometown the week before that will be the 'reception'. It is more of a traditional reception. We're expecting 150 people, renting out a restaurant and providing the food, etc. It's really for my in-laws - my fiancé has a big family that really wanted to do a celebration, so we figured why not.
I made it clear to my sister from the get go that although I wanted her to come to Vegas, there was NO pressure for her to come. The real 'party' will be the week before in any event with the whole family. I made a point of emphasizing this because I know that it's an expensive trip (just flights and hotels will be about $2k a couple), they just bought a house, and they aren't super well off. I find it tacky to ask for this much money from family, and for that reason I feel very fortunate to be able to pay for my parents' trip, but I unfortunately can't afford to extend that offer to my sister. She's aware of this. I could maybe help out with her flight costs, but wouldn't be able to pay for her husband, so I haven't even brought it up because I felt like it was an unfair offer.
Now... we were talking about this recently and she started mentioning that she was picturing bringing her baby to the elopement. She was saying it will be a shame that the baby can't fly for free (baby will be 2 by the time we go on the trip), that baby would be well behaved, we wouldn't have to worry about it, etc. I glossed over it in the moment, because honestly, I never thought that was on the table. I figured she would never want to bring a toddler to Vegas, and if she came, she would be leaving the kid at home with her husband. I was shocked that we were on different pages there, but it's on me for not having communicated appropriately.
I've been thinking it over, and I firmly do not want the toddler there. This isn't a kid-friendly trip - we'll be going out to dinners, bars, casinos, maybe even a gun range (hey, it's Vegas). I just want to get married and have a fun trip and be spontaneous. I don't want to deal with the logistics of a toddler. We'll be such a small group that I think it will really change the dynamics. When there's a toddler involved, of course you need to accommodate them - and frankly, I don't want to. I also don't want my sister paying for this trip and then sitting in her hotel room with the toddler. My sister has options here - she can leave the toddler with her husband (I don't think the husband has offered this. Or she doesn't trust him. Which is a whole other thing...), ask her in-laws to take care, or simply not come!
Rant aside - what is the best way to deliver this message to her? Am I totally missing that I'm being a jerk here? How should I best communicate that I don't want the baby there, without starting WW3??
TL;DR: my sister wants to bring her toddler to Vegas for my elopement/mini wedding. I don't want the toddler there, and want advice on whether I'm being a jerk - and if not, how best to talk to her about this.

I’m getting really run down right now. My wife and I have been married 7 years with 2 beautiful boys. I want to move back to my hometown, where my parents still reside. My wife gets incredibly anxious about the thought and feels she cannot do it, it’s too scary at the thought. I’m not sure how we can move forward with our relationship if we can’t give this a try.
Background on why: I am the breadwinner with a remote, fantastic job. Can work anywhere—approved already by employer. My wife and I have 2 boys—one of which has several health challenges that we are working our best on him with: OT, Psyches, doctors, our own home therapy and parent practices, it’s very hard, and has been VERY hard on my wife. He is in preschool 5 days a week 9-3. Our 2yo is what you’d call more “typical” compared to his brother at 2. However, he is an awful, awful sleeper. Still cosleeping but waking 3-6 times a night. My wife cannot bring herself to try and help sleep “train” him (we would train him together) to be more self sufficient at sleeping, but constantly complains about how much he is up and how tired she is. I’m up with the boys every morning at 5:30 when the older boys wakes, then with the 2yo between 6-6:30 when he’s up and I let her sleep some more. I cook almost all meals, play, take them outdoors, to the store, do school drop off and pick up, dishes, laundry, etc. I feel I do quite a lot comparatively.
I’m running out of steam. My wife also recently had what I can only reasonably term as a mental breakdown when one of the boys became sick (a stomach bug), and it’s had a prolonged effect on her for a long time now. I got her to a crisis center and helped her finally get a therapist and a psychiatrist. I had been advocating for a year that she needs a therapist, since she stopped seeing her PPD therapist. She still sets off with anger, especially with our struggling 5yo, and gets severely overwhelmed with what I can only term as “life.” An example is she gets overwhelmed thinking what she wants for dinner. I’ve been balancing working at home full time with taking care of the youngest (while she’s trying to as well—but asks for help daily) and helping our oldest before and after school with all of his appointments—which are weekly, along with all the other life planning and tasks.
Her mom passed (by suicide) when she was young, her dad is around superficially and rarely visits. Her stepmom is nuts and toxic. She has 3 sisters, one I would say has now become toxic. The other two attempt to help, but are legitimately busy with their young kids and jobs and life. We are on an island. My family is 1000 miles away. My parents and siblings (with kids) visit more than her dad has. The friends I’ve made since moving for my career have actually moved away, for various reasons.
I want to move back to my hometown to be near my family, as they will provide our family with the support we need—particularly with our boys, but my parents, particularly my mom, wants to help her too. Our boys are terrific with my parents. It would provide myself with a great sense of relief too, as I feel I have little to no support where we’re at. Not to mention the cost of living will go down significantly—that’d just be a tertiary net gain. The thought of relocating terrifies my wife, change in general does. But life has just not improved whatsoever since we’ve become parents.
Trying to discuss this topic, or any topic of any significance or seriousness, causes my wife extreme anxiety. We’re paddling upstream against rapids all the time it feels. I’m not sure how much longer I can last in this environment—or our family tbh.
I think it’s become necessary to try a big change, to build something new for us with far more support and away from the drama and toxicity my wife has here. But moving for her seems impossible and too daunting. Her social network is full of similar stuff and doesn’t see her friends much, because she complains of their lifestyles (often involving drugs and alcohol) and the fact most don’t have kids and they stir the pot A LOT with drama, which causes her additional stress.
I’m trying to navigate how this can go from here. I want to be the leader and say “we need to give this a try” because I feel if we don’t, we’re doomed. Anyone been in any semblance of this situation?
TL;DR: I want to move back near my family for more support and build a better life. My wife is terrified at the thought, and feels she cannot do it. I’m drowning and our family NEEDS support, which we will get if we move. Advice?

I have been dealing with depression since my mom and sister passed away. Mom was diagnosed with cancer and lived for two years before she died, !y sister was diagnosed with cancer the day our mom passed. Sister lived for a few months before she died in my arms. I lost a year and a half, my husband says all I did was sit and stare. Met my husband a few months before my mom passed and I am so grateful for him. After my sister passed is when I lost my mind. During that time we ended up being homeless. One of my husbands friends helped us with housing in a different state, but the friend ended up being a twat and moved out in the middle of the night. The friend hadn't paid any bills though my husband had been giving him money for bills. Lived there during the pandemic till about a year ago. Never look for roommates on craigslist, at least in some states, cause they are likely drug addicts. About a year ago we were short $40 for rent so the rental company started the eviction process. Thankfully another one of my husbands friends helped us. So moved states again. Unfortunately my husband hasn't been able to get a job that'll work with his physical and mental issues,(the army screwed him up). I don't normally share anything about me but it's becoming more than I can handle and I have no one to talk to so I came here to unload.thank you for reading.

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Life is Just a Chance to Grow a Soul – A. Powell Davies

Have you ever thought about life as a journey designed to nurture and cultivate your soul? It’s an inspiring perspective that allows us to view our experiences, both joyous and challenging, as opportunities for profound spiritual growth.

The Gift of Growth

Imagine you’re a gardener with a small seed in your hand. Just as you would plant, water, and nurture that seed to grow into a beautiful flower, life is our garden, and we are here to grow our souls. As A. Powell Davies once beautifully put it, “Life is just a chance to grow a soul.”
When we embrace life from this perspective, every moment becomes precious. Each encounter, whether smooth or rocky, becomes soil in which our soul can find depth and meaning. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.”

Embracing Challenges

Growth Through Adversity: It’s often through challenges that we find the most significant opportunities for soul growth. Consider James 1:2-4: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”
Reflect on a time when a difficult moment led to a profound personal transformation. How did that experience shape your soul?

Building Connections

Cultivating Relationships: Relationships are another vital aspect of growing our souls. Interactions with family, friends, and even strangers can teach us invaluable lessons in love, compassion, and understanding. Jesus emphasized the importance of love in John 13:34-35: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this, everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
How can you nurture your relationships today to foster mutual growth?

Creating a Soulful Life

Daily Practices: Incorporate daily practices that feed your soul. Meditation, prayer, and reading inspirational literature can provide the nourishment you need. Just like a gardener waters plants regularly, we must also regularly tend to our soul’s needs.

• Start each day with a moment of gratitude.
• Engage in activities that bring you joy and peace.
• Connect with others in meaningful ways.

What habits can you incorporate into your life to grow your soul daily?

Conclusion

In life’s grand design, every season, every relationship, and every challenge is a chance to grow your soul. Embrace each opportunity with an open heart and mind, and watch as your soul blossoms in ways you never imagined.
Take a moment to reflect on how you can grow your soul today. Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. Let’s journey together in this soulful adventure!
Remember, life is your garden; nurture it well.
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For starters, I (24f) became the primary care taker of the family dog (10, beagle mix) when my dad passed away 2 years ago. I pay for his vet appointments, insurance, food, and everything in between alone. I walk him the most and I was already in 2nd in line of command for my dog before my dad passed away. It just seemed natural for me to take on the role my dog & family expected me to.
Now, My sister (29f) wants to take the dog on a camping trip for MDW with her friends and one child. She asked me and I said no. She ended up screaming at me and and calling me a jerk and how I don’t trust her with the dog. I feel very overprotective of my dog and if it was one day camping I’d probably say yes and feel uncomfortable, but one day is one day. Problem is that until April, my sister wouldn’t walk the dog without complaining and telling me how she regrets having one and was barely involved in taking care of him for the past few years, unless it was to show him off to her friends. She decided to react and feel differently about the dog in early April. She helps me by walking him in the afternoon now & at work, I still walk him morning & night.
However, I still feel uncomfortable/overprotective and I know my dog gets anxious when he isn’t in a familiar location and/or surrounded by strangers. The woods would definitely be different for him (and it’ll be around 80 degrees this weekend so being outside for so long sounds like a bad idea for him?? he is a senior!) but I feel bad that I said no now, I understand she changed her mind about the dog like a month ago, but it’s hard for me to move on from years of back and forth. so AITAH?

That will be a long post, I hope you can accompany me until the end, I will give you a little context and I will start with my story. I 24 (F) I clarify that I am a trans girl, my ex 27 (M) heterosexual cisgender had never had a trans girlfriend. We met through a social network. We realized that we lived nearby and decided to go out to eat, before seeing each other in person I made it clear to him that I was a trans girl, which took him by surprise, it was something that he was not expected, but he still said that he felt something inside his being that told him that there was no problem. two weeks after seeing us for the first time he asked me to become his girlfriend to which I agreed because he is an excellent human being with very good values, good ethics and morals and definitely men like him difficult to find today. the relationship flowed and at about three months, he decides to leave me. He had a lot of things in his head. He was waiting for a new job, struggling with insecurities and I know that the fact that I was trans somehow took away his sleep and I didn't know how he was going to handle it with his traditional family. he lied telling me a story saying that he had to go to Las Vegas for work, for a year and a half and that he could not continue with a long-distance relationship, at the passage of the hours he confesses to me that it was a lie that he was not gonna leave. At this point deep inside me, I had already left him, I had cried and I had suffered the grief and even though I agreed to continue trying something in m broke from that first time he left me, with the passage of time, I realized that there were things that did not convince me at all his physical appearance, his personal hygiene, his height, his neediness, his way of being so closed in certain things, they made me quite angry, we talked about it, he told me that he was going to change, but I only saw changes for a certain time and then he did the same again 6 months after being in a relationship I decided to finish things this time on my own and within hours, he came regretful, telling me that everything was going to be fine that everything was going to work. After that I began to feel a little uncomfortable, but I decided to move on because he had given me a promise ring when he asked me to be his girl, since his dream was to see me dressed in white. we made many plans for the future, we planned to have a family. A month ago He managed to get that job that he was waiting for so long, everything was slowly taking form and in order to accomplish the plans we had he needed that very good job. I was able to meet his mom, he never told her that I was a trans girl and his mom didn't realize it and he kept hiding it until certain point, I got along very well with her. Everything went well and the date to meet his dad, brothers and his sister-in-law was near and I began having doubts in me. I really wanted to stay with him and meet his whole family but It would seem like an act of bad taste if a few months after i decided to end up things. Then I tried to postpone things and not meet them. when spending time with him when sleeping together when kissing, I already felt different. I felt that something was off. I felt that something had broken since that first time, we broke up, but maybe I hadn't wanted to accept it. It hurt me a lot to think that all our plans, the great work he just got, the big salary, was finally coming true, everything we waited for almost a year. I just wasn't feeling it anymore, I talked to him and told him that I no longer felt the same as he deserved someone who could give him the same thing he expected since he was settling for the little I gave him of my person, he said that this was love and that it was worth fighting and that it didn't matter how long he had to wait that it was going to be worth it. Two weeks ago, I decided to leave him and coincidentally a best friend invited me on vacation with his family. I had time to think about things and I realized that maybe I'm too young to get married. Although I feel ready, were simply mixed feelings and I didn't know what to do, when I returned last weekend we saw each other we talked and I told him that it was time to heal both for him and for me that we could not continue living a half-love because he gave everything for me, but I didn’t. I decided to put an end to our story, he told me that he would never understand why I did it if he tried so hard that if this was actually love because why I did not continue fighting, but there was simply something inside me that It made me feel that I should no longer continue and it hurts me because he is an excellent man, he will be an excellent husband, an excellent father, an excellent provider has all the qualities that any girl would die to find a man, but I simply do not know if I am getting carried away and I will regret it in the future, but I simply no longer feel this relationship. I would like you to share your opinion with me. I feel that in the future, a part of me may regret it, but for now I feel that it is the best thing for both of us to take different paths and take care of healing and doing things. Better. Maybe in our next relationship. Thank you for reading me so far, I told you it would be long. If you have any questions, leave it at the comments and I will answer since I can't put all the details here because it would be too much. Thank you. Kisses. Melina.
TL;DR I need advice if I should fight for a man that is worth it but I don’t longer feel the relationship and am not sure to continue even though I might regret it since he’s an excellent men.

I, male, 15 Years, have been a drum teacher for 3 months now, and have already gotten a few more new students. One of those has a sister, which is 13 years of age. She doesn't really know me, she only saw me like three to four times when I were teaching his brother. She asked me if I wanted to do something. In private. I then told her, that I had eyes for another girl (and tbh, she's too young), and I couldn't do a date. After telling me, she only wanted to do it as friends (🫤don't think so), I eventually gave in. But I talked to a friend about it and came to a conclusion : I don't wanna. Now the meet up is in two days, and I don't want ta be seen as the asshole and am also scared to potentially loose my student if I cancel the meet up. Any thoughts?

Hey alll! I’m mainly looking to find new gaming friends that share the same gaming interests if possible. I have all consoles and pc and i play alot of games. Ranging from retro to new!
Current games i’m playing are WWE 2k24 and Fortnite too (zero build). But i’ll olay mist anything!
I’m married and have 2 kids, a 6 month old son and a 9 year old daughter. I’m into basic nerdy things. Gaming, star wars, super heroes, DnD, etc. Also trading card games like Disney Lorcana and Star Wars Unlimited.
I watch a ton of Critical Role stuff especially Campaign 3! Currently on episode 74, so if you watch too, let me know! Also like to watch Battle of the Brands on YouTube.
I’m also into movies and tv, some sports, pro wrestling. Collecting action figures and retro games is one of hobbies as well. Anything 80s/90s nostalgia i absolutely love so if you want to talk childhood and growing up back then, i’m down! I miss the good old days where we went to arcades and italian sunday dinners at the grandparents and where the world just wasn’t as nutso as it is today lol.
My kids are everything to me and I do love talking about them. Love being silly with them and spending time with them (when they aren’t driving me crazy lol)..I would prefer you be around my age and have kids as well just so we have that stuff in common off the bat! I’m socially awkward most times but very easy to get along with. I’m definitely considered an introvert. But once you get to know me I break out of that awkward shell. I do like to use sarcasm, and mostly like to try and make people laugh because a world without laughter would just be horrible.
Alright i’ll shut up now but I’d like to think i’m an awesome person to get to know and hopefully there’s more you’d like to know so feel free to DM me! (I looove using GIFs so if you message me, open up with a funny one! Especially since then i’ll know you actually read this 😂)