Art projects for preschoolers for the month of march

So, I (F38) was the only one at my parents home for a couple of weeks while they were on an out of country trip in March so I could house-sit and pet-sit their two cats and two dogs, while also keeping up on my college studies. We were having nasty weather the entire time the folks were gone and it's not uncommon that the weather might affect, or even knock out internet signal. Our neighbor is in her early 50s. I'll call her Jean. Some months ago, she had a roommate move in who is in her late 40s/approaching her 50s. I will call her Lisa.
During this stormy weather, Lisa texted me and asked me if our internet was working and if so, could she connect to it for the night because like me, she is doing college courses online and was in the middle of homework and could not get her laptop to connect back to theirs or get theirs to reset. I figured it was just the storm had knocked theirs out so I said, "Okay.But that password doesn't go to anyone else and please reconnect to yours when you get it back on." She agreed and thanked me. That was the second week of March.
This week and last week, the internet has been especially slow and that has been a seemingly increasing issue. Now, while I don't think it's solely due to anyone else using it, it did make me wonder if Lisa had ever got it switched back over. I had just assumed she did and didn't give it a second thought at the time. I shot her a text and asked her last night if she had switched back over to their internet or if, by chance, was she still using ours. It was late but as she is up late at night a lot and I could see the light still on where her bedroom window is from mine, I had sent it anyway. Almost immediately, I received the read receipt, but no response.
So, I mentioned the whole thing to my folks and told them I was pretty sure she just keeps using our internet. They were understandably irritated about it too so I went ahead and changed the password to our wifi, got all our devices at home logged back in and went to bed. Almost 7 hours later, I get a reply in which Lisa claimed she had just seen the message, that SHE hadn't been using our internet and had just been relying on her mobile Hotspot on her phone to connect her laptop to, but that Jean had been using it for their TV but "I guess you don't want us to have it since you changed the password."
Now, I really like Jean a lot and she has been super kind and helpful when our family has needed it and we try to do the same in return.
Jean has told us Lisa had agreed to a monthly rent amount but hasn't paid since the first month and keeps saying she has a check coming and the she'll pay Jean. Lisa does not contribute to grocery money. She doesn't contribute any rent so she isn't helping with bills and last we knew, the only thing she WAS covering was the internet bill. Lisa's boyfriend 'Greg' stays over for a few days a week and spends all day and night with her. He doesn't contribute to bills either and Jean has been absolutely stressed out over being the only one working. On top of all that, she never gets a break because on her days off from work, Jean's daughter drops her granddaughter off (and often in the afternoons after she gets out of work and her granddaughter gets out of school, too).
I ignored Lisa's message and after the folks got up, I told them about it. They agreed that considering "for the night" had been over 2 months and no one had asked if they could just use out internet for a while, she has no reason to send something so arrogant.
However, a couple of hours later, my mother says she thinks we just need to give Jean the new password because she has done a lot for us and she is dealing with so much stress because of Lisa and that if having our internet helps her out, then we should. I said I understand that but I AM concerned that if they give her the new one, it will wind up being given to Lisa, to Jean's daughter and her friend that hangs out there frequently.
I am POSITIVE that Lisa either told Jean that she was still paying for internet service and just told her what network to connect to or she told Jean that we said they could just use ours if rhey couldn't get their own and I don't know which. Whichever it was, Lisa lied. I HATE being lied to and I HATE being nice or helpful to someone and they take advantage of it. Now, with their concern about adding stress to Jean and being unfair to her, my folks have since changed their mind and think I'm being TAH and are even making excuses for Lisa now, suggesting I started up an issue. They gave the new PW to Jean (which again, I see nothing wrong with) knowing it will likely be given to Lisa again and that just feels like awarding bad behavior.
So reddit, AITAH?

I was hired to compose a soundtrack around 2021-2022. I was paid up front, and the lead developer gave me a lot of freedom, only wanting a check-in every month or when I otherwise required their input.
Ever since I completed the work, communication has been infrequent. I've moved on to other projects, but reach out for a chat once in a while and to receive an update regarding progress, since I tend to align music releases with a client's marketing schedule to increase visibility.
It's been a year since the developer has answered my messages or emails, and it has been even longer since they engaged with their community (which somehow keeps growing to this day despite their absence, people joining to ask about the status of the game). Without going into detail, I have some idea why the dev is MIA, and I don't blame them one bit. Quite the opposite, I feel for them and have asked if they need pro bono help to finish the project, either with programming or additional audio work. They said they would let me know around January 2023, and has since been completely unresponsive.
The project is funded by Kickstarter, some of which of course went to me for my work, so I understand that the community is distraught by the lack of updates. I don't feel like it's my place to share personal info with them, and since I also don't have all the necessary information it would be mostly hearsay anyway.
I'm at a loss regarding what to do with the music. I put a lot of effort into it and don't want it gathering dust. I hold the copyrights, as here in Norway it isn't possible to sell or give away copyright, only exclusive licenses. On one hand, I could release it to give at least something back to the community. As I'm not a known composer by any means, it would also help me gain listeners for future projects. On the other hand, while I've reached out to the developer many times asking if they need help (personally or professionally) to no avail, I'd still be going behind their back, something I don't really want to do.
Does anyone have words of wisdom for situations like this? Has any of you dealt with similar things on either side of a collaboration?
PS. I'm also discussing this with the community moderators.

I'll start with our background. We started dating in our late teens, were both raised very conservative and religious, but have not been for a very long time. Between dating and being married we've been together nearly 20 years. We both only had 1 sexual partner prior from previous relationships that we both thought were mistakes and wish we'd been each other's first. I definitely have a stereotypical guy high libido, but I'd always thought I didn't need a bunch of sexual conquests because I'd be happy just doing all those things with the person I love.
 
Along the way my wife came out as bi. This didn't bother me at all, especially with her stance at the time of "It just means I also find women attractive just like I find some other men attractive, but I'm married and happy with you so that's not something I need act on". She said she'd probably been bi a long time, but took a long time to admit it to herself due to religious upbringing. I also have an unconventional curiosity. Basically I'm a straight guy, but I happen to find dicks attractive at times despite not being attracted to the rest of the male body. About 3-ish years ago she brought up the topic of if she could act on her curiosities with women. She wanted to try making out and maybe playing with boobs, but seemed extremely hesitant at the prospect of anything below the waist. Since she brought that up I asked about if I'd be able act on my curiosity, with a bonus benefit of maybe it being an outlet for me as well with our struggling sex life (at the time she had a very low libido and I'd get rejected 95% of the time when I tried to initiate sex). After discussing we essentially ended up opening the marriage with the boundaries being:

• She couldn't do anything with other men (nor did she want to).
• I couldn't do anything with other (cis) women.
• It would only be for physical fun. Neither of us could have a romantic relationship with someone else. (I knew and told her there was a high probability I would end up feeling neglected/jealous/insecure if I had to share her romantically). So no gf or bf, just a FWB at most.
• She didn't want this to be something that happened frequently.

Now initially I felt completely fine with the prospect of her fooling around with women. I guess it was just kinda the typical male fantasies of 2 women getting sexual together being hot and who knows if that'd potentially lead to a threesome later (though she no gave indication of that being a possibility). She seemed more hesitant at the prospect of me acting on my curiosities, but gave permission since she thought it only seemed fair if she was allowed to act on hers. I started looking after that and ended up finding a pre-op trans woman. This kinda clicked with me since I was attracted to dick, but not male bodies. We met up and she fucked me. Physically things felt good, but the combination of it being my first time having casual sex and it being very unconventional sex made it feel really awkward for me. Afterwards I felt terrible, like I had cheated. When I told my wife I was literally trembling. She was shocked that I actually did it, and said she felt a little weird but that ultimately she was fine with it. I felt better after she wasn't mad or anything. Now a more stereotypical big kink for me is anal, but I've hardly ever got to try it to even know if it lives up to the reputation of the fantasy I've built up of it in my head. My wife had always been super dead set against even trying it, eventually let me try a couple of times after we'd been married for years, but essentially had her mind made up it was going to be terrible before we even got started so that kinda fell flat despite technically getting to try it. I asked if I could try anal with a trans woman since cis women were off the table. She gave me permission, then a small number of weeks later I met up with the same trans woman and fucked her. Despite physically feeling good, it still felt super awkward to me. I basically ended up coming away with the lesson that casual sex isn't all it's cracked up to be and I HIGHLY prefer sex be with someone I'm very emotionally attached to (aka, my wife).
 
I texted my wife at work to let her know right after it happened. Apparently she let out an audible "god dammit" after she read the text. She said she was fine with it but started kinda giving signs that she was uneasy. It seemed like every few weeks she'd ask in a concerned tone if I'd done anything else since then and I'd tell her I hadn't (the truth) and that if I did I'd tell her. I'd still get horny at times, the fantasy would sound more appealing, I'd browse around online some for an opportunity but between people being flaky and me kinda feeling unsure if I should, nothing ever happened again. I'd mentioned to my wife about browsing around some and I can't remember her specific words now but it gave me the feeling she wasn't crazy about it. Eventually I told her I'd basically given up on that and deleted my relevant accounts. Her response was "good", and not long after that she gave me a hug and said she just prefers monogamy. She didn't explicitly say I couldn't do anything else or that the marriage was closed, but it seemed soft closed after that. I'd occasionally fantasize about my stuff, but post nut clarity after porn was basically that the fantasy was more enticing than the reality. She never attempted to search out someone for her curiosity during this time.
 
The beginning of last year my wife got off her birth control that she'd been on for years. A month or two after that her libido started to come back and things have been great. We'd been very fulfilled and don't feel like I need any other outlet. Early this year she mentioned she wanted to try to act on her curiosity now and asked if I was still ok with it. I said I was, and I guess it seemed fair given I got to act on mine before. It was still the same boundaries we set before and she reiterated it'd probably be some infrequent thing. I think she really started in earnest in March. She kissed a friend, but the friend didn't want to go further than that and make things weird. I felt kinda weird, but I still felt fine at that point. Then she started talking to a girl online, met up in public to get to know each other a bit more, gave a kiss goodbye, and had rough plans that when their schedules/privacy aligned they'd meet up for something sexual. I still felt ok at this point, but then my wife started borderline getting obsessed and it started making me more and more uneasy. She hadn't even done anything with this girl yet but was talking about trying to do this every couple of weeks, saying very poorly worded things such as "what does 'romantic relationship' even mean?" (she later clarified on that, but at the time sure felt like she was purposely trying to push on boundaries). When she could tell I was getting uneasy she'd say stuff like "if you pull the plug on this then I won't be happy not getting to explore this part of myself". There were 2 separate times that when her plans with a woman got cancelled she was so distraughtly disappointed that couldn't get back to sleep and had to call in to work because she had horribly under slept.
 
She talks about how I owe her at least 2 times since that's what I got, but she's kissed 5 women since this started, fooled around with 2 of them above the waist, and wanted below the waist too but badly timed periods kept her from that. She says none of that counts towards her 2 times because they weren't full on sex. I want to be comfortable with it for her, but I just can't seem to be anymore. I feel like it'd be dickish to cut her off before her 2 times, but even when I talk to her about the prospect of closing the marriage after her 2 times she can never seem to acknowledge that she could accept that. She just says stuff like "I just really hope you don't" and "I hope we can find some compromise where we can both be happy". She now says I can look for a woman to do anal with. I tried to entertain that idea, but ultimately felt like I just don't want to bother with all that hassle for casual sex (further complicated by a lot of people not wanting to deal with married men, and even more complicated by them needing to be up for anal). She's now mentioned she'd try anal with me some more now if that'll make me ok with her stuff. She does specify that I'm the one she loves and wants to spend the rest of her life with and that she's not going to leave me for a woman, but that she wants to explore this part of her sexuality. She's also been very affectionate and sexual with me because she says she doesn't want me to feel like neglected over this. She doesn't explicitly say this, but she acts more like it's a need now instead of a curiosity or want. At this point I'm pretty just want monogamy with her. I want our sex lives to just between us and nobody else being with her like that. I feel like if my curiosity had turned into some big thing I was super excited about to do a bunch and she expressed anywhere near as much turmoil about it as I have then I would've stopped right then and there, or at the extreme least slow walk it until we maybe get on a better page about things.
 
Last weekend she really hurt my feelings. For background, the whole time we've been together she has hardly ever let me go down on her. I always found this strange since women are suppose to love that, but I've got so little experience with it that I don't even know how much I do or don't like doing it. There was one time she let me do it long enough to get her off (though now says she doesn't remember that), and nearly all the other times she stopped me after less than a minute. For the most part I just hardly ever try that anymore since getting shot down so much kinda trains you to not even make attempts very much anymore. I'm also 95% sure a few weeks back while we were discussing things I said I'd be pretty unhappy/hurt if she let a woman go down on her since she pretty much won't let me do that (which she says she doesn't remember me saying). Anyway, she mentioned one of the women wants to meet up again next weekend and that the woman is really eager to go down on her (and my wife implying she was fine with this). I think I was dumbfounded at first, then after I had time to process it I was pretty hurt that she was willing to let a stranger do that when she'd barely ever let me. She was baffled that I was so "hung up" about that. We argued and she eventually said she was fine with me doing that now, wants to do that with me and just hadn't thought about it, and that it'd been about her personal hang ups on it and not about me. I asked if she could just tell the woman not to do that part or say she's not ready for that part yet, but then she was upset that I was "trying to dictate" what she can and can't do when she hooks up. I just really wanted to be the first to explore that properly with her for at least a little while instead of it being with a stranger that's probably far more experienced with it than me (not by my choice). I did get to go down on her for a full session last night, but there's definitely a learning curve when being almost brand new to doing it. I just really wish we could have a month or so to 'get up to speed' on that between ourselves before she's having a stranger do it to her.
 
She says she wants to try to find a compromise where we can both be happy, but it seems like that only means her trying to bribe me but that anything that might limit or slow her down seems to be off the table. I just feel like I'm stuck between the choice of suffering through it, or forcefully shutting it down and her probably being bitter about that, which who knows what other issues that'll cause. I just feel like if the tables were turned and she was this distraught then we'd mutually close the marriage because even if I was disappointed about not getting some fun side activities anymore that I wouldn't want to make her feel terrible or guilty for not wanting it to happen anymore. She does at least say if it came down to it that she'd choose me and the marriage over this, but doesn't know how she'd feel about not being able to anymore. The irony is I'd probably be a lot more likely to be somewhere in the realm of comfortable with her stuff if she felt and expressed anywhere near my level of concern instead of soft bullying me into stopping short of closing the marriage. Since it went downhill my mood about it can vary day to day from anywhere between "not really keen on this" to hating it, upset, and sometimes tearing up. I guess my overall feelings after experiencing this whole situation is monogomy is much simpler and dealing with other sex partners while married is nicer as a fantasy than the actual reality.

This is mostly to vent but if you’ve been in a similar situation and have any wisdom, then it’s welcome. If you’d like to vent about your own situation so I don’t feel alone, that’s welcome too 🙃
Because this is Reddit I feel like I have to say: I am happy with my husband overall and am not seeking divorce. Thanks.
Anyhow,
My husband and I grew up in pretty different family dynamics. I saw my grandparents 1-2 times a year and my husband saw his once a month (sometimes weekly) during the summers. My husband and I have been married for four years and have two kids. He and I are at odds about how often to allow visitors to come. We saw my in laws six times last year, for 4 days at a time each time. They are great people and his father is always looking to help with home projects but I feel crowded and overwhelmed due to the frequency and it just feels like way too much. This may also have something to do with the sheer amount of stuff going on in our home life, which I’ll detail below (sorry it’s so long):
1) My oldest child has a feeding disorder called ARFID and with hospitalization for feeding tube placement, years of feeding therapy, and now starting physical therapy, she just keeps me very busy. We have appointments every week. I have to hand feed her every single meal even though she is 3 and have to coach her through everything from picking up the food, chewing, swallowing, etc AND we are now potty training on top of everything. She keeps me so busy that when we have visitors I have to start cleaning two weeks in advance because I cannot get it all done at once due to how busy things are. In addition, my (step) mother in law is a complete clean freak to the degree that she frequently goes through an entire thing of hand soap in only two days and I have literally painted windowsills to prepare for her visit because every time they are here I feel like my house is under a microscope. She will then start cleaning my house like crazy and while I know she’s just trying to help it makes me feel like she thinks I just didn’t do a good enough job. I am a SAHM currently because I had to quit my job to provide full time care for my eldest and there is no childcare where I live. No one else helps keep the house clean, even when I ask my husband to it’s a problem because we have different definitions of clean. So it adds A LOT to my already full plate when we have visitors and I do have a second child to care for on top of everything. It also just feels like it takes a long time to mentally recover from the visits themselves and by the time I’m “recovered,” they’re trying to come visit again.
My in laws do make an effort to help with the kids when they are here but because my step MIL never had children and my eldest is just a lot in and of herself, I typically have to take over again if I delegate because things just take too long or aren’t happening as they should. My oldest has to stay on a pretty strict schedule so that she can get enough calories in her day.
2) We live right smack in the middle of all of our relatives and for a long time have been the designated “family hotel” because we are the halfway point between everyone. This wasn’t really as big of an issue as it has become until we had our second child.
Our guest room is right next to our youngest’s bedroom. The bathroom shares a wall with her room and when anyone would use the bathroom it would wake her up and it would take about an hour to get her back down each time she woke. In addition, my father in law is likes to get up early. Like. Early, early. 3:30AM early. He then gets dressed and walks around the house. He’s always woken me because I’m a super light sleeper and our bedroom is right off of the kitchen, but it became really problematic when he also started waking our youngest doing this and suddenly my day had to start 2-3 hours earlier than it normally would because either I’m awake and can’t fall asleep again or my kid won’t go back to sleep. It was making visits pretty miserable for me. My husband saw how much it was affecting me and also wanted his bio mom to stop staying with us (she’s a terror). To put an end to this, we recently transitioned our guest room into a play room so that family can’t stay with us (we have a blow up mattress but tbh we really meant to deter family by getting rid of the bedroom). We gently told my in laws that we would be making this transition so it would not be a surprise. I thought this would deter family a little more since they’d now have to travel and spend time in an actual hotel.
However ——
My husbands family continue to visit very frequently. They are set to come again in both June and July for four days each time. My husband’s biological mother is also trying to visit. He is leaving for six months in August so I understand that this is everyone’s last chance to get a visit in before that happens. I have stipulated to my husband that I’d like a break from visitors when he returns and initial “welcome home” visits are done. I’m talking six months with no visitors because for the last few years our house has been a revolving door of everyone. The thing is, I asked for this after our second kid was born and then they visited every other month for the entire year…..so. There’s that.
Essentially I like my in laws but just feel overwhelmed generally. My life is all go, never stop and I don’t get time to myself much. Visitors make it worse because it adds so much to my plate. My husband isn’t great about setting limits with his parents but is getting better (especially in dealing with his bio mom). I’m hoping to have a break and then cut visits down to a max 4 times a year. I don’t want them to not be involved but I feel pretty smothered.

My phone is a Samsung Galaxy S24 Ultra that I use since launch day. Currently installed is OneUI 6.1 with security patch level of april.
There is already a new may patch available. Sadly my phone never checks automatically for any updates. I always need to remind myself: "hey it's a new month, you should update your phone" to get the newest update. This shouldn't be a internet connection problem, because as soon as I manually check for updates, it finds a new one.
As you can see in the attached video, the last time a update check was done is nearly two months ago. And this update check was done manually by myself.
Does anyone have the same problem? Is there any solution for this? I really want to use auto updates. And yes I already tried to restart my phone and let it charge for a while.
Translation for the video:
Zuletzt überprüft am: 27. März = last checked at 27th of march (27.03.24)
Current date: 24. Mai = 24th of may (21.05.24)
video shows oneUI update settings

I never considered myself to be someone who came on too strong or developed feelings quickly. Something about her was different though and I don’t know what but I think maybe I was being manipulated and used. We were never dating at any point in this but she made it feel like we were. In the summer of 2023 we had become friends in person and would spend almost all day every day playing games together online. She was kind to me, considerate, funny, affectionate, and was just so fun for me to be around. As our friendship strengthened I started to become physically and emotionally attracted to her. I thought this was how she felt but it was only physical for her which has never been the case for me in any “situationship” I’m usually the one in that position. In October of 2023 she started to become cold towards me. She started to distance herself, started to make sure I knew she was with her best guy friend any opportunity she got to show me. It was painful to know that even when I was free she wouldn’t bother to include me in anything they did together. She kept me and him separated from each other. One of my other friends started to send her sexually explicit messages but I forgave him for that as he was very drunk. He apologized to her but I never even needed him to do that as she was not offended but I was as he was my friend and knew I liked her. She got mad at me for “interfering” with her life. I told her I talked to him about it because he was my friend and knew how I felt and as soon as she deduced that I had feelings for her she slept with her best guy friend. This all took place within 24 hours. I asked her if there was anything wrong or that she needed to tell me. She lied to me and said there wasn’t. This guy lives in the same neighborhood as me and one night I was going to get some food and happened to see her car parked at his house at 2 in the morning if not later. I asked her again the next day and she admitted it. What hurt the most wasn’t that she slept with someone else, my feelings were not something I’d characterize as love, it was the fact that I couldn’t trust her anymore. I felt so betrayed, lied to, hurt, and confused. This was 10 days after the last time we slept together. I made it clear I’d like to know if she wanted to move to someone else before doing something like that. She didn’t tell me anything and I got so angry and upset I blew up on her over text. I apologized for my reaction to what she did but she never apologized for the pain and confusion she had caused me. I will forever have to live with this feeling of betrayal. I told myself “never again” and attempted to distance myself indefinitely and completely. They had a falling out and she cut him off. A few months after this happened, she started to reach out to me again. I was very hesitant, very cold, and did not let her back into my heart. Months went by, she made me feel very seen and appreciated on my birthday, which I have a bad history with and I usually just pretend it isn’t my birthday, but she didn’t know that and it made me feel so happy and seen. This was in February. She doesn’t know this.
We started sleeping together in March. She asked me if I wanted to sleep with her again and I said yes expecting that after all this time and everything I had said to her that she would never just do that to me again. I was wrong. About a month ago she started to talk to her guy friend again. He started to be around more and more. I tried to be accepting and understanding but it made me uncomfortable being around him as it reminded me of the betrayal she had done in the past. It’s unbearable. I have voiced that to her multiple times but never made her choose between us or tried to make her feel guilty about it. She was graduating and decided to celebrate with him and her other friends and I was not a part of this so I stayed home. I was anxious she was going to do the same thing as last time as we had a slightly abrasive interaction the night before at her house. The next day when she was with them, she started to ignore my messages. I told her not to ignore me as it makes me anxious that she will do something like that again and reminded her that if she wanted to she could but she had to end things with me first. Keep in mind this had been happening for weeks at various levels of intensity.
My alarm bells were ringing. She snapped at me when I said this then proceeded to ignore me. I spiraled as I saw what was about to happen and basically begged her just to talk to me and end things properly. She ignored me and slept with him again. I was described as obsessed, in love with her, crazy, delusional, etc. she said this not only to her friends but to mine as well. My entire text exchange was shown to my friends and I’m sure she showed it to hers too. I felt so betrayed, so frustrated, so angry at myself for allowing her to do this to me again. I blocked her and all her friends as she started to turn her location on and off and leaving me on opened at his house intentionally to test me. I knew what she was doing and what the right move was but I didn’t care anymore I don’t want to play games. She would talk shit about the other guy and complained that he was “stalking” her because he was looking at her location. I was scared she was going to do this to me too. I am so upset, so hurt, so angry. I want it to end but she keeps gossiping about me, keeps bringing this guy to our mutual friend group. All I asked for from her was to give me peace and leave me the fuck alone. She never apologizes for anything. I don’t know how to process this and it sucks. I was anxious sometimes but not without good reason and it’s not fair I was punished like this. It felt sadistic almost and as I expressed how she hurt me she did it even more brazenly and without remorse. I want revenge but I know what I am capable of and I don’t want to hurt anybody to that extent anymore as the guilt lingers but the satisfaction leaves. I wish I didn’t care. I will miss the good time but I feel abused and thrown away and know ending things is for the best. I miss you and I wish things had gone differently. I don’t think I can ever forgive her until I forget.

I have a lot going on in my mind, but i dont know what to say, or dont have the energy.
My anxiety and depression started to severly affect my life 10 years ago for the first time, when i was 19. I am 29 now, had a great job that I just quit with the excuse of physical health issues (spinal cord/nerve issue makinh it harder for me to sit), but i think what i am suffering with is my mind. Been diagnosed with ADHD 5 months ago. So I've been voluntarily jobless for 2 months now.
I wanted to take a break for myself and get better. I wanted to travel and learn new things. But, just a month before my last day at work, I texted my ex to check how he is doing. He has tried to contact me over the past 4 years, but since all his communication seemed accusatory, I thought i was protecting myself by avoiding him. This was my only relationship, we were together (long distance) for 4 years. He was inconsistent and dishonest from the get go. He would lie to me about going out with his female friends, would talk to them for hours and ignore me. He always called me crazy for misunderstanding friendship, but you dont hide it from your partner if there's nothing wrong in what you are doing. He was always harsh with me when i wanted to discuss that it hurts me. I used to text him in panic sometimes, because i didnt know who else to contact when i didnt understand what i was going through. I was feeling suicidal, consistent panic attacks, and a volatile relationship did not help. He was abusive on calls, and never respected me. He would force me to do things, and threaten to stop talking if I didnt do them. And whenever i tried to walk away, he would come back asking to patch up, but the same pattern continued.
As i was having a hard time keepinh myself alive due to my mental health issues, i couldnt take the disrespect anymore, and said i wanted to leave him. I think he thought i would never leave anyway, and provoked me to block him. So in a fit of panic, i blocked him. He owed me a lot of money, so that is the last rhing i asked him to return out of spite. Then he started sending texts that i am doing this to torture him, that i love him and that he didnt understand why i would do this. But i was so anxious all the time, i just couldnt deal with it anymore. The few times i did pick up the call, he would say things like "tell me your decision now or i will decide what i will do with my life" implyinh he would kill himself. I told him i can redirect him to resources that can help, but that i cant be in the relationship because i dont feel safe anymore. He was always very unstable and never ready to have a proper conversation. So everything he said seemed like emotional manipulation. But everytime i read the texts he sent, about how awful and hopeless he felt after i blocked, i feel like i monster. I cant help but feel guilty about the way i dealt with it.
I went to therapy later, also had a phase of self-care when i was lookinh forward to my future, and then fell back to hectic work. But have been feeling extremely anxious and hopeless since August last year - that is when i reached out for a diagnosis and got diagnosed with ADHD in January.
I dont know what made me want to contact him, but after an episode of panic attack in March, I just texted a 'how are you'. He responded well, and we had a normal chat about current worklife. Then 2 daya later, he called me and apologized for the way he treated me. He cried and opened up about his thought process behind everything, or what he rhought he was doing. This was the first time ever, that i felt like he opened up to me the way I craved. Then we talked for about 10 hours the two days, and he kept sending me good morning texts, and was worried about my physical health. He started giving me tips, and checking upon my exercise and schedule everyday. He called me everyday for the month, and even used to text me if he was going to be unavailable (he never did that when we were together). He asked me to meet multiple times, but i didnt agree to - until after 1.5 months have passed. By then, he had made many remarks about our relationship, reminiscing, when i didnt bring anything up. When we met, he held my hands multiple times, and even pulled me in for a hug (which i withdrew from) when he saw a note in my phone about my anxiety at night and also wondering about my love for him.
After I got home, i felt uneasy, and started the conversation to confirm where we are headed, and that i was starting to get attached to him again, so if this is just friendship, i cant do it anymore. He said he was just being a friend, and that triggered every bad memory i forgot about our relationship. Why would he be so kind, gentle and all things i craved for when we were together, call me everyday, hold my hands multiple times, and call it friendship? like i misunderstood? I sent a few frantic texts and he refuses to be honest and respond on why he behaved that way.
and maybe it's the free time without job, but i feel so depressed and powerless this time. i know its not the relationship that's making me suicidal. It's just my brain being frantic all the time, evern when there is nothing to stress about. i feel like i can go to the best beach in the world, and still feel anxious and breathless. I am seeking therapy again, but all thoughts i have are - i want to get things in order and actually kill myself. i fought the urge for 10 yeqrs, but i dont think i can anymore. i dont know what to do with my life.
and the funny thing is, i feel like i will feel better and want to live if he calls me everyday again. but i guess he doesnt care because i abandoned him years ago when he couldnt deal with the break up too, so i am the "cruel" one. he kept saying i only asked for the money back, which he still hasnt returned, but forgets about all the years i fought for him, for us. my parents are conservative, so it was even harder to hide this from them. why do i feel so powerless now, knowinh that he is actually capable of being better and somebody else is going to get that version? i know this is not rhe end of the world. but i feel like, due to my mental healrh issues, i am hyperfixating on this - hoping that getting some love will fix me. but no, it's always something wrong with me, i feel horrible for being rhis vulnerable and unstable. i kmow i can do better, i jave been there for everybody for years, but i just dont know what to do with myseld anymore. i wamt this pain to end.

I've been with my bf for 2.5 years, we moved in together a year ago. Recently I've been questioning if I love him anymore. I wrote a post on relationships and someone commented something along the lines of "did you ever really love him, or did he just love you and he's a good guy so you went along with it?" And now I can't stop thinking about it.
My boyfriend's been in love & obsessed with me since day 1. I wasn't. It took me a couple months to fall for him. I even almost called it quits during the first couple weeks of us knowing each other as he annoyed me. But then I felt like I DID fall in love. I remember feeling so in love and happy with him.
Ever since we moved in together our relationship has gone downhill a bit and I think a big reason for it is because since we live alone, I've been able to unleash my rage more intensely. When we lived with housemates, I tried to keep my anger contained a bit. I still got annoyed, but not as bad. Now that we live together, I scream and throw things and hurt myself. During the winter it got VERY bad and I could see my boyfriend was really affected by it.
I don't know why he stays with me, but he is still madly in love with me. But the past like 6 months, EVERYTHING he does annoys me. Now it's at the point where I'm questioning if I still love him. But at the same time I don't want to lose everything we used to have and everything we planned to have. I used to find things about him irritating in the past too, but I was still really in love and imagined our whole life together.
I don't know if I've caused this. I hate that he's seen the real me. It makes me want to start over with someone else. I said the same thing at the end of my last relationship, which also ended after 2.5 years. I wanted to start over and never get that way with the next person. And now it's happened. My last relationship my ex also was obsessed with me from day 1 but I also wasn't so sure for a little while.
I'm so scared that I've let myself fall in love with people that I didn't actually like that much, but I just loved that they loved me and were basically obsessed with me. I can't tell if I actually like my boyfriend, but I'm terrified of it ending. We were so happy before and I wanted to be with him forever. I want that back so bad. I can't tell if I'm projecting my insecurities onto him. Everything I dislike about him are things I HATE about myself.

I made a post here a few years ago (Feb or March?? 2022) about how I was going to be sent back to a TBS in Costa Rica. I did end up getting sent back, but it was only for a few months, the TBS was advising I be sent back to wilderness but my dad put his foot down and said fuck no and brought me home even though my mom was pushing for it. Doubt anyone remembers it, anyhow I’m 18 now, I have a full time job and I’m putting the pieces of my life back together. After I got out I struggled with addiction for about 2 years and still do, 9 days clean today. Anyways thank you for everyone here who gave me advice and showed me compassion, I appreciated it a lot and it made me feel less alone.

A bit over a year ago I (36M)moved out of my marital home from my wife (38F) and stepdaughter (14F). My ex and I got divorced in a fairly contentious and frustrating process over the last year. We had been together for over a decade, married for nearly 7 and that was the second home we had purchased together. When our divorce was being negotiated I settled for 7% of the house equity instead of fighting for half for a few reasons: my wife made much more than me and was the one making the mortgage payments while Icovered various utilities, house upkeep and groceries, etc., she also was not going to be selling the house and I knew wouldn’t have a bunch of money from the sale to make a huge equity settlement, and I knew what was feasible based on when was in savings when we separated and that she could reasonably afford.
The divorce was finalized in March and the agreement was made in the settlement that she had until the end of this summer to have me removed from the mortgage otherwise there would be a monthly payment made directly to me until this was completed.
My ex wife reached out to me last week asking me to forego the mortgage changes for the sake of keeping her daughter in their house. She expressed that she wouldn’t be able to afford staying in the house for the next two years if I force her to refinance and that if I ever loved her daughter or cared about her then I would reconsider.
Here’s the thing: the same type of situation happened last fall when she expressed her daughter was invited to an Ivy League summer program and just thought I should know because I was so involved with her education. Then after another month or so called that she couldn’t afford both the summer program and the equity settlement and to reconsider the equity settlement. When I finally told her I would consider it and asked her to send the financial paperwork to the lawyers and evaluate a payment plan to work it out she freaked out, said that I was being unreasonable and and called me a monster, stating she would make sure her daughter knew that I was the reason she couldn’t attend this program and that was the last I heard of it.
My ex wife is now claiming if I had any shred of decency left in me that I would let the mortgage stay for the next two years or so until her daughter can finish high school, but this just feels like manipulation of my good nature and empathy and another way to control me and keep me in her life when I so desperately have been trying to start over.

Hello everyone! I am a female disabled veteran. I was illegally evicted (from my townhome I had lived in for 7 years) during Covid and despite having section-8 I cannot find a place to live. The eviction results in an automatic denial of every application I have submitted. I am looking for a private landlord who will rent to me.
For some background information (I will try to make brevity my strong suit): I was in the USAF for 8 years. My husband and I went in together on the join-spouse program. We had our first child 2 years later, then the military did away with the program because there were so many married couples enlisted. We got out, had our 2nd child 8 months later and soon afterwards, bought a house. I obtained my bachelor's degree in nursing, then worked as an RN for 28 years. We sadly were divorced after 21 years, and I have been my sole means of support since that time. I moved into my townhome in 2015 and had no issues until 2021. I severely injured my back moving a very large (298lb) patient off of the OR table, following an emergency C-section. I struggled with back issues the rest of my career. In February of 2020 I was laid off from my job as a corrections nurse due to Covid. I was on unemployment but still paid my rent on time every month. In June of 2020 I allowed my oldest daughter to move in with the agreement that she would pay 1/2 of the rent and utilities. This turned out to be a disastrous decision. She had struggled with SA since she was 15, but swore to me she was clean. She was addicted to heroin, couldn't keep a job, created drama constantly, and never paid a penny's worth of her half. She was often rageful, as was her son who visited frequently. They did damage to the townhome in the form of her bedroom door, which my grandson made 2 large dents in with his fists, and the bottom of the staircase, which my grandson pulled the bottom of the handrail away from the wall. Those 2 items were the only damage.
In March 2021 I applied, on the 1st day it became available, to Biden's federal assistance program for tenants in danger of becoming homeless. I notified the property manager, and requested that he send in the required paperwork from management to complete the application. He came over to talk with us and he understood the program. I had applied for SSDI in March of 2020 due to back issues, major depressive disorder, and emphysema. I could no longer perform my duties well as a nurse. Everything was fine until June 2021 when he was replaced. The new property manager was a schoolteacher who was a longtime friend of the owner. She admittedly knew nothing about property management. I first met her on the day I had just been discharged from the VA hospital. I had been in the hospital for 12 days, so I came home and was resting in bed when my daughter came to get me saying, "The owner and a new lady are at the door screaming." They were indeed screaming at me because May's rent had not been paid. I tried to explain the program and the fact that the previous manager knew about it. The law protected residents who had applied from being evicted. I requested an appointment for the following day so we could talk civilly. At this point, TN had only released 6% of the millions of funds available. Finally, my funds were released in September. All arrears were paid, and 3 months into the future were paid, with the option of 3 more months being paid if the tenant was still struggling to pay. When the complex accepted the funds, they signed a federal agreement which stated they could not attempt an eviction based on non-payment of rent, could not create a new lease, and could not harass the tenants (my daughter was on the lease, too). They broke all of these conditions, starting with asking ONLY ME to sign a new lease 3 weeks after receiving the funds. They were requesting me to pay pet deposits for my 3 pets, a dog and 2 cats, in an amount $100 over the normal amount, then get rid of the pets immediately. The pets had not done any damage. The new lease increased the rent by $300. They had already been paid for the rent with the federal funds. Immediately following this "new lease" they sent a letter to both of us, saying that the new rent had not been paid on time and we were being evicted. They would not allow maintenance to come repair things. I had requested 6x that they repair both upstairs toilets, which were leaking at the base, to the point that their were stains and leaking on the living room ceiling! They filed for eviction in January 2022. They only named me, knowing that all of the rent payments were done by me. The case was dismissed because they had filed before it was legal, due to the agreement. I asked the judge if it would be necessary for me to appear in court on the next date if I moved out prior to the date, but he said, "That would be a moot point. You cannot be evicted if you have already moved out." We DID move out before the next court date, but their management went to court ANYWAY, saying we were still there and an eviction was granted!! I looked into filing an appeal, but the cost to file was $695, and I didn't have the money to appeal.
Luckily, a place opened in a VA sponsored home for homeless women. My time is up here and I have applied to a multitude of properties but my applications are always denied, based on the eviction. I am working with a lawyer who has written a letter on my behalf, as well as a letter of recommendation from the program director. Still, I have had flat denials from every property.
The assistance I am requesting is names of property owners who will work with me. If any of you kind Redditors know someone, or ARE someone who would work with me, please let me know. I am out of time at the VA home and I have nowhere to go. I never pictured myself at 64 years old being homeless. Thank you in advance to anyone who can help. I have SSDI, as well as VA compensation, so my income is secure and reliable. I am desperate for a safe place to live.

As the dream begins, I'm preparing to enter a building, I'm feeling a sense of contentment. The structure is familiar to me. It's a place that I remember appreciating the architecture of in the past, as far back as when I was a child. I walk around a bit, smiling, thinking that I have to tell someone about this association to my past. So obviously, I haven't been to this area in a long time. In fact, I think it'll be my first experience actually walking through the doors. However, I had been in one of the neighboring buildings on many occasions. They're both similar in style, but I've always liked this one I'm going to today very much more.
I'm kind of looking around the interior in awe as I enter the building. The inside is as cool looking as the outside. It all has a kind of art deco design.
Then I notice my ex-girlfriend in the large, spacious room. She's crouched down to be at eye level with some kids; one or two, maybe three. Either they're playing a game of some kind or she's helping them to get ready to go outside, adjusting the collar of a raincoat perhaps. They don't appear to be her own children. The scene has a very kindergarten teacher type vibe.
She turns her head as she notices me, and smiles. It's not clear whether she knew I was going to be there or not. But seeing her is a total surprise to me. A pleasant one. It feels really good to finally see her again. We interact for a bit, talking. Replaying this in my mind just now, I can feel my heart soar. I have no expectations of what will follow. I'm not thinking about kissing, reuniting or having sex - things I long for in real life - so I'm solely in the moment. I realize now while writing this down that she was probably able to do that for me often. That partner had helped me to feel centered when we were together.
After some conversation in the dream I find out my ex-gf works there, in this building, for my therapist. Then the dream transitions to where I'm walking into my psychologist's office. My impression is that I felt good going in, still riding the high of appreciation for the building and of seeing my gf again. But there are some conflicts here in the timeline. I can picture arguing with her out in the lobby area too, which would have been before I entered the office. Insert shruggie emoticon here.
I haven't been to see this therapist, either in the dream or real life, in a long time either. It's like our first session of a restart of our work together (which would have been for the third round). I would be happy if this were happening in real life. But I'm suddenly angry at the guy, basically yelling at him for having hired my ex without warning me about it ahead of time. My assumption is that he knew how important she had been to me, knew how much pain I'd been in since the breakup, and knew how triggering it would be for me to see her again. That was about it for the dream.
Some context: In real life, I had been seeing this therapist while that girlfriend and I were still together, or at least supposedly still a couple, even though she'd been out of the country for months, if not over a year. We didn't "officially" break up until after I stopped going to him for therapy and she returned from overseas. However, originally I had started my second round of sessions with him because she and I had begun having an affair. One that led to my divorce (and questionably to hers). I had probably spent the entire therapy session time since then - maybe six years? - talking so much about the anxieties caused by my relationship with her that he was literally nodding off while I blabbed on and on. In fact, I had stopped seeing him in part because I noticed this happen once or twice. I never mentioned to him though that I felt like I was boring him with my complaints, and it hadn't been my intention to put a halt to our work together. But we had a break for holidays, a different opportunity arose, and I decided to try that approach for awhile. Turned out to be years. He and I haven't communicated in any way for nearly 20 years.
Feel free to interpret the dream if so inclined, but the meanings aren't lost on me at all. I'd be happy to discuss. I just had to get it out of me and preserved somewhere.

I've been working for a company in North Carolina for 13 months now. My letter of intent stated that I would receive a monthly salary of $6,250. This is my first salaried position.
Inl work remote and my first month, April of 2023, I had some family medical issues going on. My mother had just been admitted to an ICU and these were things I had discussed during my interview process (3 interviews, 2 with hiring manager and operation manager and 1 with CEO). The family stuff was no issue; when filling out my first timesheet for the week the operations manager instructed me to to fill out time sheets with Loss of Pay for the days in which I had hours cut short.. be it to go pick up my mom, or if I was sick, etc (example, work 6 hours and then pick up and sit with my mom for 2 hours would be 6 hours of work and 2 hours of "Loss of Pay".
However, in October of 2023, I had a vacation I was planning. The company had offered me 3 weeks of PTO and 1 week of sick leave. These benefits were not listed on my account through our 3rd party payroll provider. I reached out to our operations manager (we don't, or didn't, have an official HR person. The operations manager said he would get my PTO and sick leave time put into then system and told me to have a nice vacation.
The time off benefits were finally added to my account in March of this year (2024). I also noticed on this month's (march) paycheck that my pay was finally at the offered amount of $6250.00. It stood out to me as it was for 173.33 hours (which I didn't understand what the significance was at the time) because I usually notice my hours marked at about 160-165 hours a month - they don't like giving out overtime hours. Then I noticed that my paystubs, even since my first one in April of 2023, say my rate is $6250, and that my "Basis of Pay" is salary.
Now that my April paycheck has come in, I notice it is exactly as my March paystub: 173.33 hours, $6,250.
However, my paychecks prior would range show my hours as the time actually put in (ie, 128 for April of 2023) and the dollar amount would be prorated from my salary to what seemed like an hourly amount ($4,641 in the case of April 2023).
Or, as another example, Jan 2024 has me at 162.83 hours, Pay $5,871.
Anytime I missed a single day, or a partial day, due to sickness (or anything else for that matter) I was instructed to use "Loss of Pay" on my timesheets. Also, I recall that my start date was April 3rd of 2023. My computer (a desktop) was mailed to me from the company and was suppose to arrive the Saturday prior. The mailing company lost the package and it was delayed. The monitors came in April 4th and the tower came in April 5th. I was ready and willing to work those days and it was out of my control that the company equipment necessary for my job had been delayed in post. Though.. I was also instructed to mark those first 2 days (April 3rd, 4th) as well has half of the 3rd day (April 5th, because the tower arrived at around noon) as "Loss of Pay".
Does this seem right? To me it almost seems like when I first started someone did not set up my payroll information correctly (PTO and Benefits not in system, appeared to be getting hourly pay instead of salary).. and then when someone went to correct and enter in my PTO benefits, the noticed I was being paid hourly and quietly corrected it to salary.
Here are some paystubs used in examples, personal information and company information removed:
April 2023: https://imgur.com/ADC6dt0 Jan 2024: https://imgur.com/uc4Ox5B March 2024: https://imgur.com/N7n3cJm

Hey everyone! I have a ton of acrylic yarn I’m looking to use up in the next few months, anyone have any suggestions for summer projects with acrylic yarn?

Hey, So i did my bachelor in Bsc IT from university of mumbai & MCA to complete my 16 years of education for eligibility 1. I had 8.65/10 in my bachelor's 9.2/10 in my masters ( currently in sem 2)

1. Work experience: I'm working on a startup which is going a project which a number of United Nations Framework Convention on Climate Change ( sustainability startup) 9 months of exp
   
2. I had one research posper award ( Institute journal) & one research paper ( same journal)
   
3. I'll get 3 Lor, one from the CEO of the startup I'm working with, one from my prof & one from my Institute director
   
4. I'm active in serval clubs in my college, like Institute innovation council, I'm head of women empowerment club in my Institute, teach school students who are unprivilege about technology I've attendedHarvardw wecode conference with an scholarship
   
5. Have different certification of coursera courses
   

I'm looking to do masters in ms cs in usa, I haven't shortlisted any universities but I will be looking up for some who provides scholarship
Will you please evaluate my profile & suggest some university I could apply too.

Since the time I was a small child I can remember a deep, unwavering, and often visceral sadness permeating every aspect of my being. I never quite figured out how to overcome this depression, and as the years have passed by, the regrets have piled up. The weight feels so heavy and I don’t know how to bear it. For as long as I can remember I have experienced a constant cycle of succumbing to sadness, bitterness, and isolation, feelings which I then allow to dampen any hopes or desires to grow. I am fundamentally ashamed of who I am and feel like a complete waste of life with no value to offer anybody.
I was dealt a relatively good hand in life all things considered, so I can only conclude that the problem is ultimately some kind of defect in my psyche. Yes my father had an affair and my parents divorced when I was four years old. Yes my mom was highly neurotic and depressed due to the tragedies she experienced in her own life. Yes I consistently experienced long periods of isolation growing up. But ultimately I never had to worry about when my next meal was, or whether or not I’d be able to go to a good school and pursue a meaningful career. My mother worked hard and made enough money for us, and my father worked his way up into a very high income bracket.
Yet, I squandered every possible opportunity I had, burned bridges, isolated myself, stayed in a comfort bubble, and now I’m 29 years old with barely any family or friends, definitely no romantic relationship, and trapped in a dead end job with absolutely no prospects. My life is utterly meaningless. I don’t relate to anyone, I don’t belong to any sort of community, nothing really brings me joy anymore.
I do like to read, I like to play guitar, I like fitness and martial arts. I’ve been told I’m a good looking guy consistently enough that there must be truth to it despite my crippling low self-esteem. I don’t play video games, I rarely watch porn, I haven’t smoked cannabis in months, I only drink alcohol once or twice a month. Aside from my low income job and lack of a career (which brings me great shame) I am not the stereotypical depressed guy. I live in a major city and am constantly outside, yet I am completely and utterly alone. I derive meaning from nothing.
What’s the point? There’s no point in doing anything if there’s no one for you to bring joy to. There’s no point in striving to better yourself if you feel purposeless. I’ve read Viktor Frankl, Adler, Aurelius, Camus, and Nietzsche. I’ve read all the self-help books - The Power of Now, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Atomic Habits, etc. They are great tools that have helped countless people. Yet I never utilized them as I simply don’t care enough to. I am numb.
It’s impossible for me to meet and connect with people due to my own deep embarrassment of who I am. I met a girl last week and we talked for hours. She was clearly interested in me (overtly enough that it was even clear to my dumbass who never picks up on signals). I would have loved to get her number and grab a coffee together. Yet I’m so ashamed of working a dead end job and her finding out that I barely have any friends that I didn’t even bother asking. Her disappointment was almost palpable when I said goodbye and left. Added to the pile of regrets.
This is how I feel. If you took the time to read it all thank you. I’m not sure I’m really looking for advice, but maybe this post will have some utility in letting even a single other person out there know that they’re not alone - if just for a moment.

Hello! I am a 3D artist with a focus on props and creatures. I am able to create game-ready assets in a stylized style, handpainted style or semi-realistic style. I am ideally looking for long-time work, but I can work as a freelancer as well. I have worked with 3D art for 5 years now. I can work comfortably in Blender, and Substance 3D Painter. I have worked with Unreal Engine in the past. I have studied game Art for two years, as well as interned at two different studios. During my education I have worked on three different game projects, as well as three personal projects that were portfolio-based. My workflow is highpoly to lowpoly. I prefer to sculpt out my details and work them into normal maps, and AO maps for added effect. However, I am also able to work with a more low-poly workflow if required. My portfolio can be found here: https://www.artstation.com/darkcrowarts. CV and cover letter can be sent upon request. I do not accept revshare projects!
Both props and creature models are an hourly payment. I charge €20/hr. Payment is done through a paypal invoice, you will not recieve the asset until the invoice has been paid.
Daily updates will be provided while working. These will involve screenshots, and a summary of what I have done/what I will be working on.
You can contact me at [darkcrowarts@gmail.com](mailto:darkcrowarts@gmail.com) or on discord: darkcrow.

I started a side hustle many people would call cringe: faceless digital marketing.
January: I started fresh social media accounts on TikTok, Pinterest, Instagram. I started following faceless digital marketing accounts and began trying to creatively copy what they were doing. At the end of the month, I was at 200 followers on TikTok and around a dozen followers on IG and Pinterest each. No sales. I decided to invest in a digital marketing course.
February: By the end of the month I had over 500 followers across all socials: IG, TikTok, and Pinterest. I started doing email marketing. By the end the month, I had made at least $500. I added a second digital marketing course.
March: My second month after investing in 2 courses. This month I did nearly $5K from digital product sales from one-time payments and payment plans.
April: I hit five figures in digital product sales.
May: 21 days in: I'm at over $20K in digital product sales.
My hope is to hit $50K in digital product sales this year, which will be a record for me. I'm not new to digital marketing but, I've never done it in this way before, so heavily-social media-based. It's work but, rewarding to see the fruits of my labor.
Ask me anything

About a month ago I was pulled over for (in his words) “you’re parked in the road blocking traffic.” I in fact was legally parked in my landlords driveway around the corner from my house, I was also not in my car and inside my landlords house talking to him, not sure how legal it is but this cop had come up to my car, ran my plates, got inside my vehicle to look for information since my vin number can’t be made out from the dash (due to design.) He wrote me a ticket for: no insurance (which I had but he wouldn’t let me show), tag being out of date, and wrong tag on the vehicle (that one is true seeing as it was a project car, and it was a nice day to drive around the corner to test it out) he then impounded my car and gave me an $875 ticket. My court date is coming up this week and I caught wind from another officer in my town that he was fired a couple weeks ago for the same situations and doing things he shouldn’t be doing.
The officer I had talked to gave me some advice and what to do in order to get out of the whole ticket but I’d also love some advice from people who may have been in this sort of situation. He had said since the original officer got fired I can go in to court, request the charges be removed since the officer can’t come and represent anymore. For context the officer talking to me and helping me works for the next town over from me. I just need to know if what he is saying is correct before I blow $875 on a ticket I’m not gonna need to pay

I am an incoming Computer Science transfer student. I have no preferences for the laptop brand, I can pay anything around 1K-4K, I just want the top 10 best of the best laptop recommendations to buy in the next month.
I have personal projects that require AI/ML work, simulations, editing, rendering, blender, game dev, etc.
I need great battery life and I cannot deal with fan noise when just browsing the web or coding.
I need to make sure I can do everything software related and that there are no impossible workarounds for my coursework.
I need the laptop to last at least 4 years from now.
No touchscreen or 2-in-1 laptops please.
Thank you.