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2024.05.07 07:53 Far_Illustrious23 What do standardized test scores correlate with (other than socioeconomic status)?
There's so much more to education than just test scores! Under no circumstances would I say that a student's overall academic achievement should be calculated solely based off their test scores.
I am posting this here to ask if there are any interesting correlations with test scores that you have read about. I have googled this and seen tons of alleged patterns.
So from what I've seen, there's a lot of evidence that higher socioeconomic status correlates with higher test scores. Like, if your family has more money, you might have access to tutors, prep materials, and other resources to help you get ready. It makes sense that those advantages could give you a boost. I think most people have heard this part before.
But here's the really fascinating part - even among students from similar socioeconomic backgrounds, there's still a ton of variation in their test scores. Take a school like Horace Mann where most of the families are super wealthy (don't believe me? Just look at their tuition rates). Their SAT score ranges are actually pretty wide, like 685-760 for the reading/writing section and 690-780 for math.
Horace Mann's acceptance rate for Ivy Leagues is a whopping 36%. That's crazy high and a lot higher than most schools. But you know what it also means? That most of Horace Mann's students don't get into Ivy Leagues.
So what is it that sets the high-scoring test-takers apart? It seems like it comes down to a few key things:
1. Stress Management: These students are just really good at managing test-related stress and anxiety. They stay focused and composed even under the high-pressure environment of such a consequential exam.
2. Adaptability: They're able to adapt to different question formats and difficulty levels, and they know how to adjust their approach to get the best results.
3. Practice and Preparation: They've put in effort over a longer period of time to really prepare for the test. They understand the format, they've practiced tons of sample questions, and they've reviewed all the relevant material. Other students with the same resources often do not practice/prepare as much as the top-scorers do.
4. Building endurance/stamina Kind of going off number three. These tests can be really long and tiring, but the top scorers have built up the endurance to keep going strong until the end.
5. Careful reading/attention to detail They're masters of careful reading and noticing even the smallest details. On the LSAT, the correct answer to a question often comes down to one word that the test-taker either noticed or didn't. Better test-takers just pay really close attention to these things.
I say all of this as an average test-taker myself. And of course, test scores are not a tell-all for how successful people will be over the course of their life.
At the end of the day, I don't think standardized tests are completely useless nor completely perfect. There are valid criticisms, but there's also value in them. It's just a matter of finding that balance and understanding the nuances involved.
So I'm curious about some interesting correlations you might have read about with standardized test scores.
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I am posting this here to ask if there are any interesting correlations with test scores that you have read about. I have googled this and seen tons of alleged patterns.
So from what I've seen, there's a lot of evidence that higher socioeconomic status correlates with higher test scores. Like, if your family has more money, you might have access to tutors, prep materials, and other resources to help you get ready. It makes sense that those advantages could give you a boost. I think most people have heard this part before.
But here's the really fascinating part - even among students from similar socioeconomic backgrounds, there's still a ton of variation in their test scores. Take a school like Horace Mann where most of the families are super wealthy (don't believe me? Just look at their tuition rates). Their SAT score ranges are actually pretty wide, like 685-760 for the reading/writing section and 690-780 for math.
Horace Mann's acceptance rate for Ivy Leagues is a whopping 36%. That's crazy high and a lot higher than most schools. But you know what it also means? That most of Horace Mann's students don't get into Ivy Leagues.
So what is it that sets the high-scoring test-takers apart? It seems like it comes down to a few key things:
1. Stress Management: These students are just really good at managing test-related stress and anxiety. They stay focused and composed even under the high-pressure environment of such a consequential exam.
2. Adaptability: They're able to adapt to different question formats and difficulty levels, and they know how to adjust their approach to get the best results.
3. Practice and Preparation: They've put in effort over a longer period of time to really prepare for the test. They understand the format, they've practiced tons of sample questions, and they've reviewed all the relevant material. Other students with the same resources often do not practice/prepare as much as the top-scorers do.
4. Building endurance/stamina Kind of going off number three. These tests can be really long and tiring, but the top scorers have built up the endurance to keep going strong until the end.
5. Careful reading/attention to detail They're masters of careful reading and noticing even the smallest details. On the LSAT, the correct answer to a question often comes down to one word that the test-taker either noticed or didn't. Better test-takers just pay really close attention to these things.
I say all of this as an average test-taker myself. And of course, test scores are not a tell-all for how successful people will be over the course of their life.
At the end of the day, I don't think standardized tests are completely useless nor completely perfect. There are valid criticisms, but there's also value in them. It's just a matter of finding that balance and understanding the nuances involved.
So I'm curious about some interesting correlations you might have read about with standardized test scores.
2024.05.07 07:48 No_Baby8203 Who is Paul?
Paul Dicamillo ( middle name unknown)
Is a American TikTok creator from Tucson Arizona. Paul’s account content is mainly consisted of early 2000’s nostalgia. As Paul himself lived through that era in his early childhood ( born 1996 ) ( 27 Years old ). The certain trends he posts about regularly are. Skating, movies, music, and other things related to that era ( from now on to be known as childhood era ) Paul also posts about his skating adventures as he is an beginner skateboarder and intermediate roller skater ( this is Paul’s most recent era known as “ skate era “ ) these are his most common posts as of this post. Paul most commonly roller skates at “ skate country “ located at “ 7980 E 22nd St, Tucson, AZ 85710 “ this is the most common setting in the “ skate era “ other places Paul skate boards are areas around his home in Tucson Arizona. One of Paul’s odd actions he often does is the popular dance “ the worm “. Usually on the presumably dirty roller ring floor. After doing further research. This is solely a Paul thing and is not based of a certain trend that would have been around during the “ childhood era “. Other notable eras to explore are the most recently retired but still semi active era known as the “ movie era “. This is where Paul binge-posted daily on movies. Mainly movies from the “ childhood era “. They are all on DVD discs even though Paul has access to modern streaming services. This is believed to be because Paul wants to have a piece from the “ childhood era “. He posted/posts trends on social media about these movies. Ranging from fan filters to ranking the movies. As well and showing/reviewing all of his movies ( he has so many dvd movies it’s unknown how many Paul owns ) the movie era is also one of the most notable era as most of his fan base came during this era. Other eras include the often mentioned “ childhood era “. This is the backbone of all eras and is very much used in all eras of Paul’s life. This era includes all nostalgic moments from Paul’s early childhood. Such as family. And other things Paul did in his younger years. His posts often are of nostalgic things he experienced or the often story times told with his famous lisp. Another thing that isn’t consistent so it can’t be considered an era is his lip sync videos he often posts. These are often a filler to other eras of Paul’s life. These are not as important but always funny to watch as Paul does some rather odd and exciting things during these videos. Mainly of odd hand signs and dance moves. The genre’s extended from rock and roll to modern rnb and hip hop. This is the best way for Paul to express his emotions of the day and keep us updated. Not much is known about it Paul’s family at this time. we can assume he has an older brother and one younger sister. Making him the middle child. We also don’t have much Information on Paul’s physical and mental disorders. It is known he unfortunately suffers from seizures and other symptoms. He also has a speech impediment. That is the beginners guide to Paul’s life. Here some codes to keep you caught up
Codes: Code green: Paul’s last known status is doing fine Code grey: Paul hasn’t posted in a day: Code red: Paul hasn’t posted in two days, this is a rare sign Code blue: paul last known to be skating Code orange: Paul has made a storytime Code purple: paul is making singing videos Code white: Paul is making “ movie era “ videos Code nostalgia: Paul is feeling nostalgic
Current era: skate era
Previous eras “Movie era” “ childhood era”
Made by: Ashton D
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Is a American TikTok creator from Tucson Arizona. Paul’s account content is mainly consisted of early 2000’s nostalgia. As Paul himself lived through that era in his early childhood ( born 1996 ) ( 27 Years old ). The certain trends he posts about regularly are. Skating, movies, music, and other things related to that era ( from now on to be known as childhood era ) Paul also posts about his skating adventures as he is an beginner skateboarder and intermediate roller skater ( this is Paul’s most recent era known as “ skate era “ ) these are his most common posts as of this post. Paul most commonly roller skates at “ skate country “ located at “ 7980 E 22nd St, Tucson, AZ 85710 “ this is the most common setting in the “ skate era “ other places Paul skate boards are areas around his home in Tucson Arizona. One of Paul’s odd actions he often does is the popular dance “ the worm “. Usually on the presumably dirty roller ring floor. After doing further research. This is solely a Paul thing and is not based of a certain trend that would have been around during the “ childhood era “. Other notable eras to explore are the most recently retired but still semi active era known as the “ movie era “. This is where Paul binge-posted daily on movies. Mainly movies from the “ childhood era “. They are all on DVD discs even though Paul has access to modern streaming services. This is believed to be because Paul wants to have a piece from the “ childhood era “. He posted/posts trends on social media about these movies. Ranging from fan filters to ranking the movies. As well and showing/reviewing all of his movies ( he has so many dvd movies it’s unknown how many Paul owns ) the movie era is also one of the most notable era as most of his fan base came during this era. Other eras include the often mentioned “ childhood era “. This is the backbone of all eras and is very much used in all eras of Paul’s life. This era includes all nostalgic moments from Paul’s early childhood. Such as family. And other things Paul did in his younger years. His posts often are of nostalgic things he experienced or the often story times told with his famous lisp. Another thing that isn’t consistent so it can’t be considered an era is his lip sync videos he often posts. These are often a filler to other eras of Paul’s life. These are not as important but always funny to watch as Paul does some rather odd and exciting things during these videos. Mainly of odd hand signs and dance moves. The genre’s extended from rock and roll to modern rnb and hip hop. This is the best way for Paul to express his emotions of the day and keep us updated. Not much is known about it Paul’s family at this time. we can assume he has an older brother and one younger sister. Making him the middle child. We also don’t have much Information on Paul’s physical and mental disorders. It is known he unfortunately suffers from seizures and other symptoms. He also has a speech impediment. That is the beginners guide to Paul’s life. Here some codes to keep you caught up
Codes: Code green: Paul’s last known status is doing fine Code grey: Paul hasn’t posted in a day: Code red: Paul hasn’t posted in two days, this is a rare sign Code blue: paul last known to be skating Code orange: Paul has made a storytime Code purple: paul is making singing videos Code white: Paul is making “ movie era “ videos Code nostalgia: Paul is feeling nostalgic
Current era: skate era
Previous eras “Movie era” “ childhood era”
Made by: Ashton D
2024.05.07 07:43 Decent_Fisherman_186 Help Request: Criminal Accusation for Pending Asylee
Hi Everyone,
My asylum has been pending for years in Texas [No call for an interview yet]. Recently, a cop car was behind me for the first time. I was confused as a new driver with a foreign background and no past criminal records. I was confused if the cop was really behind me. I stopped at the yield sign, no response from them. So I went to the highway and was there for 40 seconds and noticed the police were still behind me with their lights on, so I came out of the highway and tried to find a spot to park and stopped following a red light. The police dragged me outside the car and arrested me. I explained everything to them that I was confused, I am a new driver, I even showed them the sign my car has "Student Driver, Please Be Patient." I even was the first person to approach the rookie cop to check my car and belongings (he did & found nothing), I asked him to do a drug test on me if he had any suspicion--he shut the car door in my face. The rapid escalation continued and I was placed in jail for a day, later I came out with a bond. I was accused of Misdemeanor Class B: Fleeing a Police Officer in Texas. After a few weeks, I read on the police report that my headlight and tail lights were off--that's why they were after me and I did not stop on time. Nobody's safety was impacted, and no damages or accidents happened.
Later, I was offered a Pre-Trial Diversion. I am aware that Pre-Trial Diversion is considered a Conviction under immigration law, so I requested my attorney to have it dismissed as I can't have this on my record (I had nothing suspicious with me to run away from the police either--it was just a case of confusion, knowledge gap, and rapid escalation). My attorney has requested the District Attorney to make it a Class C Misdemeanor with Deferred Adjudication: Traffic Violation. No response yet.
I requested my attorney if he could do an ex-parte communication with the judge and file a motion in the court to have it dismissed. He said, the particular court I am at does not do that and it happens only in the TV show. Other criminal defense attorneys I consulted with suggested I should accept the Pre-Trial Diversion and "nothing will happen" as the case will be "dismissed" (they are not aware this "dismissal" equals conviction under immigration law).
Although the chance is marginal, I will try to adjust my status by applying to the EB program in the future.
Note:
Class C misdemeanors in Texas is punishable by a fine-only offense that carries a maximum fine of $500 and no jail time.
Class B misdemeanor in Texas can result in up to 180 days in jail, a fine of up to $2,000, or both.
My questions:
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My asylum has been pending for years in Texas [No call for an interview yet]. Recently, a cop car was behind me for the first time. I was confused as a new driver with a foreign background and no past criminal records. I was confused if the cop was really behind me. I stopped at the yield sign, no response from them. So I went to the highway and was there for 40 seconds and noticed the police were still behind me with their lights on, so I came out of the highway and tried to find a spot to park and stopped following a red light. The police dragged me outside the car and arrested me. I explained everything to them that I was confused, I am a new driver, I even showed them the sign my car has "Student Driver, Please Be Patient." I even was the first person to approach the rookie cop to check my car and belongings (he did & found nothing), I asked him to do a drug test on me if he had any suspicion--he shut the car door in my face. The rapid escalation continued and I was placed in jail for a day, later I came out with a bond. I was accused of Misdemeanor Class B: Fleeing a Police Officer in Texas. After a few weeks, I read on the police report that my headlight and tail lights were off--that's why they were after me and I did not stop on time. Nobody's safety was impacted, and no damages or accidents happened.
Later, I was offered a Pre-Trial Diversion. I am aware that Pre-Trial Diversion is considered a Conviction under immigration law, so I requested my attorney to have it dismissed as I can't have this on my record (I had nothing suspicious with me to run away from the police either--it was just a case of confusion, knowledge gap, and rapid escalation). My attorney has requested the District Attorney to make it a Class C Misdemeanor with Deferred Adjudication: Traffic Violation. No response yet.
I requested my attorney if he could do an ex-parte communication with the judge and file a motion in the court to have it dismissed. He said, the particular court I am at does not do that and it happens only in the TV show. Other criminal defense attorneys I consulted with suggested I should accept the Pre-Trial Diversion and "nothing will happen" as the case will be "dismissed" (they are not aware this "dismissal" equals conviction under immigration law).
Although the chance is marginal, I will try to adjust my status by applying to the EB program in the future.
Note:
Class C misdemeanors in Texas is punishable by a fine-only offense that carries a maximum fine of $500 and no jail time.
Class B misdemeanor in Texas can result in up to 180 days in jail, a fine of up to $2,000, or both.
My questions:
- Will I get deported if I accept the Deferred Adjudication for Class C: Misdemeanor of Traffic Violation? Different immigration attorneys say different things. I hardly trust any one of them as they provide conflicting info. How about if I have to accept Pre-trial Diversion for Class B Mis.: Fleeing a Police Officer?
- Are both accusations I am around moral turpitude in nature? Will these create impediments in the asylum or EB adjustment process?
- If I do the deferred adjudication for Class C: Traffic Violation, will USCIS still consider the initially filed accusation of Class B and may deny my immigration benefits?
- Is there anything else I can do? Any suggestions, please?
2024.05.07 07:42 ThehonedHunter Am I weird?
So I have a question with the new episode of Adc out now and all that I still kinda really don’t care for it, don’t get me wrong its funny but like I just don’t enjoy it like all it is just like torture for these characters I kinda felt the same way with murder drones like adc is just about Pomni slowly going more and more insane so am I weird for just not liking the shows?
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2024.05.07 07:33 KendiArtista1 My man walked into god's house, beat him and left like it was another Tuesday that's why he number 1 - but what do you think?
 | added an alternate version on the second slide because I find it funny how the man that took down god in question also cannot put his shoes on properly and trips down stairs like a little kid teehee submitted by KendiArtista1 to CaptainSparklez [link] [comments] reasoning: - the King is a strategist and given the possible time and resources he could definitely plan to take down Herobrine: but because he's literally Alan Wake and a sopping, wet and sad cat of a guy with everything he's experienced he probably wouldn't be that confident in his skills.
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2024.05.07 07:29 hemantha8055 Stuck in a mess at my workplace involving Privacy Invasion and Family Drama.
I(29F) am in need of some advice on navigating a really complex and stressful situation at work that involves not just cultural sensitivities and privacy breaches, but now direct confrontations in my professional space.
Here’s a bit of background: I’m dealing with a guy(42M) at my job who used to manage one of my current team members(31M) and is still with the company. He’s been overstepping boundaries by meddling in my personal life( way before I even joined the company )—details of which he knows because he's acquainted with my partner on Social Media and is also a distant family relative. On top of that, my old-school Indian parents, who disapprove of my current relationship due to caste issues, have been influenced by him and are convinced he can change my mind and make me leave my partner.
Context here - In India, caste can seriously dictate social norms, and this has led to major family disagreements and unwanted scrutiny. I have been no-contact with my parents for almost 2years due to constant verbal abuse and threats from them. I also suffered a lot of physical abuse until I was 23.
Recent Development:
Just when I thought it couldn’t get more complicated, a coworker of mine brought up these personal issues in a Slack chat and even included my manager in the conversation. They questioned me about the situation right there in the workplace messaging app, making me feel really uncomfortable and cornered about discussing such personal matters in such a public, professional setting.
Here’s the breakdown of what’s happened:
Looking for some wisdom here: Any tips on handling discussions about personal matters in professional settings, especially when they're brought up inappropriately?
Would really appreciate any thoughts. Thanks a bunch!
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Here’s a bit of background: I’m dealing with a guy(42M) at my job who used to manage one of my current team members(31M) and is still with the company. He’s been overstepping boundaries by meddling in my personal life( way before I even joined the company )—details of which he knows because he's acquainted with my partner on Social Media and is also a distant family relative. On top of that, my old-school Indian parents, who disapprove of my current relationship due to caste issues, have been influenced by him and are convinced he can change my mind and make me leave my partner.
Context here - In India, caste can seriously dictate social norms, and this has led to major family disagreements and unwanted scrutiny. I have been no-contact with my parents for almost 2years due to constant verbal abuse and threats from them. I also suffered a lot of physical abuse until I was 23.
Recent Development:
Just when I thought it couldn’t get more complicated, a coworker of mine brought up these personal issues in a Slack chat and even included my manager in the conversation. They questioned me about the situation right there in the workplace messaging app, making me feel really uncomfortable and cornered about discussing such personal matters in such a public, professional setting.
Here’s the breakdown of what’s happened:
- The former manager demanded I discuss my personal relationships at a cafe in my workplace and threatened my job when I pushed back and refused to discuss about the situation any further.
- He disclosed my personal life details to my conservative parents, fueling family conflicts.
- He spread false rumors about me dating a coworker to my parents, leading to invasive questions from my parents and now, this coworker. Apparently my mom(55F) messaged this coworker on Facebook asking if he’s in a relationship with me and he denied. I asked for these message screenshots from the coworker and he didn’t respond.
- This coworker, without any regard for my privacy, brought up these rumors in a Slack chat with our manager present, asking me to clarify these personal issues publicly.
Looking for some wisdom here: Any tips on handling discussions about personal matters in professional settings, especially when they're brought up inappropriately?
Would really appreciate any thoughts. Thanks a bunch!
2024.05.07 07:27 b_art I'm new to Gothic 2. Fun game. Some discussion.
True story. I seem to have bought this game some time back and returned it on Steam then recently picked it up again. I just kept hearing how good it was. But I remember the first time I played I just thought it was a bit too retro for me.
Now having gone through the trouble of buying it TWICE, I decided to be more patient this time, and something just clicked, and now I'm deep into the story! It's fun!
You need to go into this game with confidence that the story will get you, kinda like Fallout: New Vegas. The graphics won't immediately get you, but with a little faith the story and open world adventure will get you. Not much of an action game, more of a traditional RPG quest.
So much to say, and some questions, here's bullet points.
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Now having gone through the trouble of buying it TWICE, I decided to be more patient this time, and something just clicked, and now I'm deep into the story! It's fun!
You need to go into this game with confidence that the story will get you, kinda like Fallout: New Vegas. The graphics won't immediately get you, but with a little faith the story and open world adventure will get you. Not much of an action game, more of a traditional RPG quest.
So much to say, and some questions, here's bullet points.
- I noticed if you hit F4 the distance and clarity of the scene get way better. But have to keep hitting F4 every time I load or save again. Is there a setting for this?
- I like to play games vanilla, but are there any recommended mods to enhance the experience?
- Did Elder Scrolls copy Gothic or vice versa?
- At first I hated the interface. Now I love it. You can do everything with so little. WASD plus mouse.
- I also like the absence of any crosshair. Things just highlight when they are in view, but I also find you have to click, fumble, click a few times to get things to activate well. Is there a fix for this?
- I like the voice acting, I mean it's just cool that they took the time to completely voice everything. Although it's funny at times because some characters sound like they're from the Bronx.
- I see that nothing comes easy. But I keep running around, finding new stuff and growing bit by bit. It's fun to see what happens next.
- No hotkey to save?
- Any tips or tricks you wish you knew before?
2024.05.07 07:26 BPaulShelton Long COVID help
I am 30 years old and am currently suffering from long COVID (since August 2021 with a second infection in June 2022 which exacerbated my pre-existing symptoms) and as a result of this, I also have postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (POTS), myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS), and possibly fibromyalgia. Life is very difficult on a daily basis, even as I take nearly two dozen supplements a day just to get to a barely functional baseline. I currently work part-time; even then, I have flare-ups of my symptoms which can be VERY problematic. And for days (and sometimes weeks afterward), I spend my days and nights in bed, most times in complete darkness, as I recover from my efforts. That does not only happen after work; it can take me 3-4 days to physically recover from going grocery shopping. Normalcy is impossible.
I, along with millions of other people in this country, are suffering without the possibility of receiving medical or financial assistance, all while being unable to work regularly or live normally. I have applied for disability insurance, was denied, and appealing that decision would take at least 6-9 months, only to get denied again. I am able to work about twice a week for a few hours at a time. That's it. All the time in between is spent in dark rooms, as I mentioned before.
I hate asking anyone for money, family and friends included. Several times, I have written out a Facebook status to ask for small donations just to help me restock on supplements and then deleted it immediately out of embarrassment. I hated, even, the thought of resorting to Reddit because it feels a little shameful. But the desperation is creeping a little harder.
I do not want you to feel obligated to help. However, if you do feel inclined, you can find my PayPal under www.paypal.me/BPaulShelton . Any amount would be appreciated.
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I, along with millions of other people in this country, are suffering without the possibility of receiving medical or financial assistance, all while being unable to work regularly or live normally. I have applied for disability insurance, was denied, and appealing that decision would take at least 6-9 months, only to get denied again. I am able to work about twice a week for a few hours at a time. That's it. All the time in between is spent in dark rooms, as I mentioned before.
I hate asking anyone for money, family and friends included. Several times, I have written out a Facebook status to ask for small donations just to help me restock on supplements and then deleted it immediately out of embarrassment. I hated, even, the thought of resorting to Reddit because it feels a little shameful. But the desperation is creeping a little harder.
I do not want you to feel obligated to help. However, if you do feel inclined, you can find my PayPal under www.paypal.me/BPaulShelton . Any amount would be appreciated.
2024.05.07 07:24 SonicXGame4996 Can you tell I'm not funny?
 | I thought of this randomly and made it reality. Also if this gets taken down for being "low-effort" then idk, it kinda is. But please answer the question, was the vid "moderately funny" or was it awful? submitted by SonicXGame4996 to geometrydash [link] [comments] |
2024.05.07 07:11 orange_oorangutan Registering for Victims Portal
I'm registering for the Victim's Portal and on the last page it asks how you have been affected by the offense you were a victim of. It is a required field. I feel weird about answering this question. Would this information be given to the accused? Is it okay to just say "prefer not to answer this question at the moment"?
I've tried registering a couple of times and always get overwhelmed at this question and then give up. The Victim's Portal is mainly for receiving information about the status of the accused, so I don't see why this information is needed.
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I've tried registering a couple of times and always get overwhelmed at this question and then give up. The Victim's Portal is mainly for receiving information about the status of the accused, so I don't see why this information is needed.
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2024.05.07 06:57 Revolutionary_Eye56 Should I (26F) trust my gut feeling on my partner (27M)
So, it's been six years since we've been together, and I've noticed this one thing keeps popping up in our relationship.
Last night, I could tell my husband wasn't exactly his usual chipper self with our 4-year-old. So, I asked him straight up if something was bothering him or if he was mad. He just looked at me with this blank expression and replied, "Nah, babe, I'm all good." But deep down, I could sense there was more to it. His poker face and tone didn't match, you know? So, I asked again, calmly this time, if he was annoyed because our little one wasn't ready to hit the sack. He responded with the same blank tone, not even bothering to glance my way, and said, "Nope, not mad. I’m a normal person." before diving under the blanket. Left me feeling completely puzzled.
Take note, English isn't our native language, so I switched to our dialect when I asked him if he was upset, to which he replied in the same language but made an affort to say "I'm a normal person" in English.
Now, my partner knows about my BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), which I just got doagnosed last year, which I now regret bringing up to him because of all the stigma. Yeah, I have my moments and lapses and I admit and I take accountability if it was my fault or if I just overreacted but I never resort to giving the silent treatment. Yes, I ask reassurance if feeling abandoned. I always try to calmly talk things out. Understanding the other person just in case I missed something and would always make sure to communicate as much as I can in a calm manner so the other person know how I am feeling or what’s really up. But every time I ask if something's up, he just gives me this cold, emotionless response, like there's nothing to talk about.
If someone asked me if I seek reassurance because of my BPD... Yup, I totally do. I'd be like, "Hey, you seem kinda off today. What's up?" And he'd just give me this look like it's a pain to even hear that question and go, "Nah, nothing." But in my head, it just doesn't add up. If nothing's wrong, why the weird vibe? So, I try to ask him why he's got that tone if everything's cool, thinking maybe he needs some cheering up after a tough day at work. But all I get is a big sigh and him rolling his eyes most of the time.
This has been a thing for ages. I've tried talking calmly about why I don't deserve that tone. I just want to get it, you know? I'm all happy to see him, and then bam! I get hit with this annoyed tone. That's why sometimes I need reassurance, 'cause my brain's telling me he's gonna bail. And even when he's clearly in the wrong, he can't even apologize properly. It's always just a quick "okay, sorry!" like it's a chore for him. He's also the same guy who calls me "crazy" ever since we found out I got BPD whenever I try to explain why it hurts when he's not sincere about apologizing for his own mistakes. Yeah, I end up crying.
But he's also the same guy who tells me he loves me and cuddles me like there's no tomorrow. And our sex life? It's great. He provides for the family. But when it comes to being open about our feelings, he just shuts down. Last night, I asked him what he even thinks about us always being in this situation where it feels like I'm the only one trying to fix things, and I felt like I hit a brick wall. He just shuts off. I feel lonely, like I can't talk to him. But on other stuff, he's fine. He's funny. But when it comes to emotions, he's like a vault.
I've put up with this behavior for six years, always forgiving him first even without getting a proper "I'm really sorry, honey. I messed up, and you have every right to be upset." It's like he gets mad if I don't just accept his half-hearted apology and then gets even madder if I ask for an explanation.
I remember this one night we went to a friend's party back in 2022. It was their kid's birthday, and there was this super attractive guest there, catching everyone's eye, including mine. I saw my husband sneaking glances whenever he could, and if he caught me looking, he'd pretend like nothing was up. I get it, she was stunning. But when I tried to distract him by complimenting the decorations, he acted like he didn't even hear me. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe I was just being paranoid and projecting my insecurities. Maybe it was just my low self-esteem. But then, he got up, got our kid a cupcake, handed it to me, and rearranged his chair so he was facing her table. That was the last straw for me.
I kept it together until we left, and in the car, I asked him if he enjoyed the party. He said yeah, it was fun. So, I joked, "Did you find the lady behind you attractive? Caught you glancing a lot." But deep down, it stung. His immediate reaction? "What?! No way. You're just overreacting. Her partner was there. How could I be attracted to her?" Then he just laughed it off, like I'm some nutcase making wild accusations. I tried to brush it off and even apologized for maybe overthinking things, but he just looked pissed. It gave me this gut feeling like he was just making an excuse.
Fast forward to 2023, when our friend who threw that party mentioned that the same lady my husband was eyeing was caught cheating with some drug dealer. Her partner was a hardworking guy, too. Everyone was shocked. When we got home, I brought it up again, saying I couldn't believe she'd cheat on her good guy of a husband. And my husband just shrugged, saying, "That's life." So, I asked him, jokingly but also testing the waters, "Be honest, did you really find her attractive and were sneaking looks?" He replied, "Well, she was pretty. Looked like Elisse Joson." (Elisse Joson is an actress in our country.) That was it for me. I gave him one more chance, asking why he lied and made me feel crazy for feeling disrespected of how he was doing that right in front of me. He just said, "Sorry," and I was shattered because deep down, I knew the truth. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, thinking it was all in my head, but now he was confessing. I looked at myself in the mirror, feeling worn out, and asked him if I looked ugly. He hugged me tight, saying he thinks I'm beautiful and acting all lovey dovey. But after that party incident by the way, I spiraled. I ordered all sorts of diet pills, ate less and less, and wore nice clothes even though I'm just a stay-at-home mom. That gut feeling made me feel so ugly. And now, with his confession, I broke down because I knew I was being lied to, but I still trusted him. He always said he comes home to me, never late, and that I'm the only one he finds attractive because if I wasn't, he'd go find someone else.
It's just weird how he can say everything's fine but then act all distant and annoyed, especially right before I ask if he's sure about how he's feeling.
Dealing with the awareness of my BPD and constantly questioning whether it's my brain being sensitive or my gut telling me the truth is exhausting. I just need some opinions on this. On one hand, he helps out with cleaning, supports me being a stay-at-home mom to take care of our kid, sometimes does the grocery runs, and takes me out on dates, does laundry. I appreciate all of that, but it also makes me feel like I can't fully relax in the relationship. I don't know, maybe I'm overthinking it.
Any advice would be really helpful. And I'm totally open to answering any follow-up questions as best as I can. Thanks, everyone.
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Last night, I could tell my husband wasn't exactly his usual chipper self with our 4-year-old. So, I asked him straight up if something was bothering him or if he was mad. He just looked at me with this blank expression and replied, "Nah, babe, I'm all good." But deep down, I could sense there was more to it. His poker face and tone didn't match, you know? So, I asked again, calmly this time, if he was annoyed because our little one wasn't ready to hit the sack. He responded with the same blank tone, not even bothering to glance my way, and said, "Nope, not mad. I’m a normal person." before diving under the blanket. Left me feeling completely puzzled.
Take note, English isn't our native language, so I switched to our dialect when I asked him if he was upset, to which he replied in the same language but made an affort to say "I'm a normal person" in English.
Now, my partner knows about my BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder), which I just got doagnosed last year, which I now regret bringing up to him because of all the stigma. Yeah, I have my moments and lapses and I admit and I take accountability if it was my fault or if I just overreacted but I never resort to giving the silent treatment. Yes, I ask reassurance if feeling abandoned. I always try to calmly talk things out. Understanding the other person just in case I missed something and would always make sure to communicate as much as I can in a calm manner so the other person know how I am feeling or what’s really up. But every time I ask if something's up, he just gives me this cold, emotionless response, like there's nothing to talk about.
If someone asked me if I seek reassurance because of my BPD... Yup, I totally do. I'd be like, "Hey, you seem kinda off today. What's up?" And he'd just give me this look like it's a pain to even hear that question and go, "Nah, nothing." But in my head, it just doesn't add up. If nothing's wrong, why the weird vibe? So, I try to ask him why he's got that tone if everything's cool, thinking maybe he needs some cheering up after a tough day at work. But all I get is a big sigh and him rolling his eyes most of the time.
This has been a thing for ages. I've tried talking calmly about why I don't deserve that tone. I just want to get it, you know? I'm all happy to see him, and then bam! I get hit with this annoyed tone. That's why sometimes I need reassurance, 'cause my brain's telling me he's gonna bail. And even when he's clearly in the wrong, he can't even apologize properly. It's always just a quick "okay, sorry!" like it's a chore for him. He's also the same guy who calls me "crazy" ever since we found out I got BPD whenever I try to explain why it hurts when he's not sincere about apologizing for his own mistakes. Yeah, I end up crying.
But he's also the same guy who tells me he loves me and cuddles me like there's no tomorrow. And our sex life? It's great. He provides for the family. But when it comes to being open about our feelings, he just shuts down. Last night, I asked him what he even thinks about us always being in this situation where it feels like I'm the only one trying to fix things, and I felt like I hit a brick wall. He just shuts off. I feel lonely, like I can't talk to him. But on other stuff, he's fine. He's funny. But when it comes to emotions, he's like a vault.
I've put up with this behavior for six years, always forgiving him first even without getting a proper "I'm really sorry, honey. I messed up, and you have every right to be upset." It's like he gets mad if I don't just accept his half-hearted apology and then gets even madder if I ask for an explanation.
I remember this one night we went to a friend's party back in 2022. It was their kid's birthday, and there was this super attractive guest there, catching everyone's eye, including mine. I saw my husband sneaking glances whenever he could, and if he caught me looking, he'd pretend like nothing was up. I get it, she was stunning. But when I tried to distract him by complimenting the decorations, he acted like he didn't even hear me. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe I was just being paranoid and projecting my insecurities. Maybe it was just my low self-esteem. But then, he got up, got our kid a cupcake, handed it to me, and rearranged his chair so he was facing her table. That was the last straw for me.
I kept it together until we left, and in the car, I asked him if he enjoyed the party. He said yeah, it was fun. So, I joked, "Did you find the lady behind you attractive? Caught you glancing a lot." But deep down, it stung. His immediate reaction? "What?! No way. You're just overreacting. Her partner was there. How could I be attracted to her?" Then he just laughed it off, like I'm some nutcase making wild accusations. I tried to brush it off and even apologized for maybe overthinking things, but he just looked pissed. It gave me this gut feeling like he was just making an excuse.
Fast forward to 2023, when our friend who threw that party mentioned that the same lady my husband was eyeing was caught cheating with some drug dealer. Her partner was a hardworking guy, too. Everyone was shocked. When we got home, I brought it up again, saying I couldn't believe she'd cheat on her good guy of a husband. And my husband just shrugged, saying, "That's life." So, I asked him, jokingly but also testing the waters, "Be honest, did you really find her attractive and were sneaking looks?" He replied, "Well, she was pretty. Looked like Elisse Joson." (Elisse Joson is an actress in our country.) That was it for me. I gave him one more chance, asking why he lied and made me feel crazy for feeling disrespected of how he was doing that right in front of me. He just said, "Sorry," and I was shattered because deep down, I knew the truth. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, thinking it was all in my head, but now he was confessing. I looked at myself in the mirror, feeling worn out, and asked him if I looked ugly. He hugged me tight, saying he thinks I'm beautiful and acting all lovey dovey. But after that party incident by the way, I spiraled. I ordered all sorts of diet pills, ate less and less, and wore nice clothes even though I'm just a stay-at-home mom. That gut feeling made me feel so ugly. And now, with his confession, I broke down because I knew I was being lied to, but I still trusted him. He always said he comes home to me, never late, and that I'm the only one he finds attractive because if I wasn't, he'd go find someone else.
It's just weird how he can say everything's fine but then act all distant and annoyed, especially right before I ask if he's sure about how he's feeling.
Dealing with the awareness of my BPD and constantly questioning whether it's my brain being sensitive or my gut telling me the truth is exhausting. I just need some opinions on this. On one hand, he helps out with cleaning, supports me being a stay-at-home mom to take care of our kid, sometimes does the grocery runs, and takes me out on dates, does laundry. I appreciate all of that, but it also makes me feel like I can't fully relax in the relationship. I don't know, maybe I'm overthinking it.
Any advice would be really helpful. And I'm totally open to answering any follow-up questions as best as I can. Thanks, everyone.
2024.05.07 06:48 CockraptorSakura42 Our child is a UK and Ph passport holder
Hi everyone! So just recently, I posted a question here in regards to our child's first child UK passport. It was approved few weeks ago. We applied from Manila. I was actually surprised it got approved only days after submitting all the necessary documents.
So now, our child is a UK and Ph passport holder and that makes him a dual citizen right?
Our question is, is he really considered an automatic dual citizen or does he need to secure a document after acquiring his UK passport? I'm just thinking once we try to travel abroad and comes back in the Ph, BI might look for some documents.
Does anyone here have the same status? Hope you can help us!
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So now, our child is a UK and Ph passport holder and that makes him a dual citizen right?
Our question is, is he really considered an automatic dual citizen or does he need to secure a document after acquiring his UK passport? I'm just thinking once we try to travel abroad and comes back in the Ph, BI might look for some documents.
Does anyone here have the same status? Hope you can help us!
2024.05.07 06:47 RedRipeApple192 Bj
Bj, short for “Bjorn,” and I had already walked for a few miles in Oyster Point Industrial Park. Meanwhile, in the time used to walk that distance, he still had not managed to tell me what was really on his mind. Instead, we continued to merely make small talk. Because Bj was something of a new friend of mine whom I had just met from my new job at Gateway 2000 in the same city that I lived, which was Newport News in the Hampton Roads area of the state of the Commonwealth of Virginia, I did not want to grow impatient with him and risk offending him for making me walk for almost an entire hour with him for no reason at all. However, Bj was wasting my time.
Before long, we both were able to see in the distance one of the main traffic lights and accompanying traffic of Jefferson Avenue, which, in addition to J. Clyde Morris Boulevard, the other main road from which our walk began, was a main thoroughfare that spanned the entire length of the city from its southern extremity in the downtown area to its northerly, rural outskirts in the country. About half a mile or so away from this other main artery of our city, as we both continued to steadily close the diminishing distance between us and it, Bj finally unburdened his soul to me.
“I guess you’re wondering why I asked you to walk with me?” began Bj, with his head held somewhat lower than normal and his eyes looking forward as if to avoid my own understandably inquisitive gaze.
“Yeah, you can say that. So, what is it that you must tell me that’s so bad that you can’t tell me what it is at my apartment?” I finally demanded of him, more curious now than ever about what the still yet unspoken revelation could be.
“Okay. Well, I don’t know how else to say this to you. So, I’ll just give it to you straight…I’m a convicted sex offender,” Bj at last admitted, while simultaneously working up the courage to look me straight in the face and eyes during his confession to me. Moreover, his face looked worried, as if internally he was pained by self-doubt at the prospect of me immediately rejecting him in anger and disgust for being a rapist or even a pedophile who had the nerve and gall to work his way into my life, my home, and my goodwill without my suspecting something as potentially distasteful and off-putting as his serious crime and felony against the law.
"So, what are we talking about here? What do you mean that you’re a convicted sex offender? Did you rape somebody or what? Or is it worse than that?” I fired off one direct question after another, after pausing for a few seconds first and pondering what this all could mean about me as a person and as a human being if someone like a convicted criminal—a sex offender of all things, no less!?—could so casually snake and enter his way into my life the way Bj has done and potentially contaminate me with his perverse history and record. Even then in my surprise and beginning sense of indignation and hurt pride—as well as ego—over this novel development for me I had still bothered to form my interrogations of Bj carefully and with the utmost restraint and self-discipline to avoid betraying any indication of hasty judgment or condign condemnation of him.
“I sexually molested my four-year-old adopted daughter…,” answered Bj.
“Okay. So that makes you a pedophile then…a child molester. Is this what you needed to get off your chest with me?” I disappointingly discharged.
“Yes,” Bj said, now thoroughly ashamed of himself. Or, at least, that was what I at the time erroneously believed.
“I see. So why are you telling me this now? Or even at all? You could have just as easily kept this from me and I probably would never have found out your history, you know?” I inquiringly exclaimed.
“Pat told me to tell you about my past…to make sure first that you’ll be okay with having me as a friend even in spite of my past,” Bj confessed.
Pat was his wife, whom I have already met. In fact, she was really his second wife. Bj later revealed to me that he had divorced his first wife due to infidelity arising from her bitterness and then ultimately differences between them stemming from his using their adopted daughter as his surrogate (for a sex partner) while as a couple they were simultaneously experiencing marital and conjugal difficulties. Unlike his first wife, Pat, however, could easily forgive and tolerate his history of pedophilia and sexual molestation of a minor to obtain the sexual gratification and fulfillment that he was not at the time receiving from his first wife.
But back in the present and in real-time, I found myself in a delicate situation because of Bj. He was expecting one of two possible outcomes from me.
“First, what I want to know from you now is would you have told me on your own if Pat hadn’t put you up to this?” I rejoined. “Please be honest with me, Bj,” I then requested.
“No…probably not. I don’t think I would if it weren’t for her,” Bj said, mildly despairing in defeat.
“And why not?” I pointedly asked him, giving him the chance to hopefully tell me what the obvious reason was to him as well as to myself.
“Because I know that if our positions were reversed, I would not forgive you for it and then accept and welcome you as a new friend—as I'm doing with you here now…,” Bj added at the end of his statement which included the otherwise inescapable repercussion of his transgression against his former adopted daughter, society, and God. By finessing Bj to state to us both his own clear recommendation to what he was asking of me as someone who was merely a new co-worker with whom little more than a very friendly acquaintance had been developed, he suddenly became noticeably crestfallen and beside himself.
“Even you, Bj,” I triumphed at him, but more encouraged now by his honesty nonetheless, “would not do for you what you are requesting of me. Do you see and understand that? So, how can you therefore stand there in front of me like that and ask me with a straight face to do the impossible for you when you would not even do it for me if I were you, the convicted pedophile, and you were me, the unsuspecting and new co-worker whom you managed to strike up a conversation with at the factory and office less than two weeks ago?”
“I’m not surprised by your answer then,” Bj replied in dismay to me. “I understand. Well, it’s been nice knowing you, Sven…I’ll let you walk alone back to your apartment…‘cause I suppose you don’t want me near you anymore?”
By now, Bj was beginning to almost look miserable and inconsolable, as if my latest words to him were a resounding rejection to his hopes of winning me as his new “faithful Achates,” a bosom friend and companion, to call his own. Perceiving his palpable sense of gloom and downfall, and being—to my utter misfortune for most of my life—a bleeding heart and a soft touch for those who don’t deserve my sympathy or my kindness or generosity, those whom I to my near ruin and destruction have unwisely chosen to show mercy and quarter and give absolution to without even a thought for myself and at the same time disregarded my own better judgment and instincts to help, succor, and aid, I went out of my way to improve his suddenly chap-fallen turn of mood by giving him hope.
“Bj, did you clearly and in no uncertain terms hear me say ‘no’ and positively reject your desire to befriend me because of your less than perfect past? No, of course not!” I smiled, hoping to be able to uplift his mood because I believed in second chances and the power of forgiveness to redeem the offender.
Whether we liked to admit it to ourselves or not, all of us in our own personal and individual ways are like Bj, the pedophile and convict who stood before me (and required grace instead of judgment and condemnation). None of us are perfect. We all make mistakes, and many if not all of us at one time or another commit acts and deeds of commission and omission—as well as harbor impure motives and intentions and thoughts—which are all undeniably outside of the laws of man and of God, as well. From the Pope himself to practically all of our so-called respectable politicians and elected officials and leaders in addition to every walk of life in the spectrum between the two poles of power and authority and privilege, we all break the law. Consequently, all of humankind are lawbreakers by definition. Therefore, we are all offenders of the law; and thus, in this manner, we are all also criminals and convicts in the eyes of the law and justice who are only fit to be punished to pay the penalty of our crimes and transgressions.
But forgiveness acted as a substitute that can pay the penalty—or the debt—of our crimes for us. Forgiveness is meant as absolution (of our transgressions and disobedience against the law): and it derived from grace. So, once again, I felt torn between my principles and my compassion, but ultimately chose to show Bj grace even though I still stood the possibility of taking a very unwise risk with him. Nevertheless, and no matter what the ultimate outcome may be years or decades from now, I would have a clear conscience in knowing that I was faithful in following my principles—even at the risk of causing my own hurt or inconvenience in the end.
“Since it’s Friday, Bj,” I continued, picking up from where I left off, “give me a few days to think about whether I can be comfortable with us being friends or not despite your history. So, why don’t you call me this Sunday…and I’ll have a definite answer for you one way or the other, okay? How does that sound to you? Can you live with that?”
“Yes! That sounds good to me,” Bj beamed. “Thank you for not sending me away or rejecting me,” he added, betraying his inability to control his suddenly effervescent affect.
“Wait a minute, Bj,” I ordered, “I did not send you away on your ear—true! But I did not give you a response in the affirmative yet, either. Please don’t presume my answer until Sunday arrives, or I’ll be forced to use that as a reason to reject your desire for us to be friends?”
“Sorry. You’re right, Sven—forgive me for that.” Bj straightened up, avoiding this time to recklessly show any overt or too-obvious, premature glee or presumption at the prospect of successfully convincing me to overlook and pass over his pedophilia and his convict status as a sex offender.
“It’s okay,” I returned. “You want to turn around now and head back with me to my apartment…since there’s not much sidewalk or pavement left until we run into Jefferson Avenue’s busy traffic? Besides, I can use some hydration about now, too,” I realized.
“Yeah, I’ve had enough walking for one day, too,” Bj assented. “Let’s go back in the other direction now.”
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Before long, we both were able to see in the distance one of the main traffic lights and accompanying traffic of Jefferson Avenue, which, in addition to J. Clyde Morris Boulevard, the other main road from which our walk began, was a main thoroughfare that spanned the entire length of the city from its southern extremity in the downtown area to its northerly, rural outskirts in the country. About half a mile or so away from this other main artery of our city, as we both continued to steadily close the diminishing distance between us and it, Bj finally unburdened his soul to me.
“I guess you’re wondering why I asked you to walk with me?” began Bj, with his head held somewhat lower than normal and his eyes looking forward as if to avoid my own understandably inquisitive gaze.
“Yeah, you can say that. So, what is it that you must tell me that’s so bad that you can’t tell me what it is at my apartment?” I finally demanded of him, more curious now than ever about what the still yet unspoken revelation could be.
“Okay. Well, I don’t know how else to say this to you. So, I’ll just give it to you straight…I’m a convicted sex offender,” Bj at last admitted, while simultaneously working up the courage to look me straight in the face and eyes during his confession to me. Moreover, his face looked worried, as if internally he was pained by self-doubt at the prospect of me immediately rejecting him in anger and disgust for being a rapist or even a pedophile who had the nerve and gall to work his way into my life, my home, and my goodwill without my suspecting something as potentially distasteful and off-putting as his serious crime and felony against the law.
"So, what are we talking about here? What do you mean that you’re a convicted sex offender? Did you rape somebody or what? Or is it worse than that?” I fired off one direct question after another, after pausing for a few seconds first and pondering what this all could mean about me as a person and as a human being if someone like a convicted criminal—a sex offender of all things, no less!?—could so casually snake and enter his way into my life the way Bj has done and potentially contaminate me with his perverse history and record. Even then in my surprise and beginning sense of indignation and hurt pride—as well as ego—over this novel development for me I had still bothered to form my interrogations of Bj carefully and with the utmost restraint and self-discipline to avoid betraying any indication of hasty judgment or condign condemnation of him.
“I sexually molested my four-year-old adopted daughter…,” answered Bj.
“Okay. So that makes you a pedophile then…a child molester. Is this what you needed to get off your chest with me?” I disappointingly discharged.
“Yes,” Bj said, now thoroughly ashamed of himself. Or, at least, that was what I at the time erroneously believed.
“I see. So why are you telling me this now? Or even at all? You could have just as easily kept this from me and I probably would never have found out your history, you know?” I inquiringly exclaimed.
“Pat told me to tell you about my past…to make sure first that you’ll be okay with having me as a friend even in spite of my past,” Bj confessed.
Pat was his wife, whom I have already met. In fact, she was really his second wife. Bj later revealed to me that he had divorced his first wife due to infidelity arising from her bitterness and then ultimately differences between them stemming from his using their adopted daughter as his surrogate (for a sex partner) while as a couple they were simultaneously experiencing marital and conjugal difficulties. Unlike his first wife, Pat, however, could easily forgive and tolerate his history of pedophilia and sexual molestation of a minor to obtain the sexual gratification and fulfillment that he was not at the time receiving from his first wife.
But back in the present and in real-time, I found myself in a delicate situation because of Bj. He was expecting one of two possible outcomes from me.
“First, what I want to know from you now is would you have told me on your own if Pat hadn’t put you up to this?” I rejoined. “Please be honest with me, Bj,” I then requested.
“No…probably not. I don’t think I would if it weren’t for her,” Bj said, mildly despairing in defeat.
“And why not?” I pointedly asked him, giving him the chance to hopefully tell me what the obvious reason was to him as well as to myself.
“Because I know that if our positions were reversed, I would not forgive you for it and then accept and welcome you as a new friend—as I'm doing with you here now…,” Bj added at the end of his statement which included the otherwise inescapable repercussion of his transgression against his former adopted daughter, society, and God. By finessing Bj to state to us both his own clear recommendation to what he was asking of me as someone who was merely a new co-worker with whom little more than a very friendly acquaintance had been developed, he suddenly became noticeably crestfallen and beside himself.
“Even you, Bj,” I triumphed at him, but more encouraged now by his honesty nonetheless, “would not do for you what you are requesting of me. Do you see and understand that? So, how can you therefore stand there in front of me like that and ask me with a straight face to do the impossible for you when you would not even do it for me if I were you, the convicted pedophile, and you were me, the unsuspecting and new co-worker whom you managed to strike up a conversation with at the factory and office less than two weeks ago?”
“I’m not surprised by your answer then,” Bj replied in dismay to me. “I understand. Well, it’s been nice knowing you, Sven…I’ll let you walk alone back to your apartment…‘cause I suppose you don’t want me near you anymore?”
By now, Bj was beginning to almost look miserable and inconsolable, as if my latest words to him were a resounding rejection to his hopes of winning me as his new “faithful Achates,” a bosom friend and companion, to call his own. Perceiving his palpable sense of gloom and downfall, and being—to my utter misfortune for most of my life—a bleeding heart and a soft touch for those who don’t deserve my sympathy or my kindness or generosity, those whom I to my near ruin and destruction have unwisely chosen to show mercy and quarter and give absolution to without even a thought for myself and at the same time disregarded my own better judgment and instincts to help, succor, and aid, I went out of my way to improve his suddenly chap-fallen turn of mood by giving him hope.
“Bj, did you clearly and in no uncertain terms hear me say ‘no’ and positively reject your desire to befriend me because of your less than perfect past? No, of course not!” I smiled, hoping to be able to uplift his mood because I believed in second chances and the power of forgiveness to redeem the offender.
Whether we liked to admit it to ourselves or not, all of us in our own personal and individual ways are like Bj, the pedophile and convict who stood before me (and required grace instead of judgment and condemnation). None of us are perfect. We all make mistakes, and many if not all of us at one time or another commit acts and deeds of commission and omission—as well as harbor impure motives and intentions and thoughts—which are all undeniably outside of the laws of man and of God, as well. From the Pope himself to practically all of our so-called respectable politicians and elected officials and leaders in addition to every walk of life in the spectrum between the two poles of power and authority and privilege, we all break the law. Consequently, all of humankind are lawbreakers by definition. Therefore, we are all offenders of the law; and thus, in this manner, we are all also criminals and convicts in the eyes of the law and justice who are only fit to be punished to pay the penalty of our crimes and transgressions.
But forgiveness acted as a substitute that can pay the penalty—or the debt—of our crimes for us. Forgiveness is meant as absolution (of our transgressions and disobedience against the law): and it derived from grace. So, once again, I felt torn between my principles and my compassion, but ultimately chose to show Bj grace even though I still stood the possibility of taking a very unwise risk with him. Nevertheless, and no matter what the ultimate outcome may be years or decades from now, I would have a clear conscience in knowing that I was faithful in following my principles—even at the risk of causing my own hurt or inconvenience in the end.
“Since it’s Friday, Bj,” I continued, picking up from where I left off, “give me a few days to think about whether I can be comfortable with us being friends or not despite your history. So, why don’t you call me this Sunday…and I’ll have a definite answer for you one way or the other, okay? How does that sound to you? Can you live with that?”
“Yes! That sounds good to me,” Bj beamed. “Thank you for not sending me away or rejecting me,” he added, betraying his inability to control his suddenly effervescent affect.
“Wait a minute, Bj,” I ordered, “I did not send you away on your ear—true! But I did not give you a response in the affirmative yet, either. Please don’t presume my answer until Sunday arrives, or I’ll be forced to use that as a reason to reject your desire for us to be friends?”
“Sorry. You’re right, Sven—forgive me for that.” Bj straightened up, avoiding this time to recklessly show any overt or too-obvious, premature glee or presumption at the prospect of successfully convincing me to overlook and pass over his pedophilia and his convict status as a sex offender.
“It’s okay,” I returned. “You want to turn around now and head back with me to my apartment…since there’s not much sidewalk or pavement left until we run into Jefferson Avenue’s busy traffic? Besides, I can use some hydration about now, too,” I realized.
“Yeah, I’ve had enough walking for one day, too,” Bj assented. “Let’s go back in the other direction now.”
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2024.05.07 06:45 Unusual_Lock_6186 New Tax Law
Hey everyone! With the new tax law I was wondering if anyone had some more clarity on the matter. I reviewed the docs and Q&A we had from the Elite office but there's so much grey area it's not even funny. So on with the questions if anyone has any insight.
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1 - I'm a US veteran who receives disability. This is non taxable income. If I bring this into Thailand will they attempt to tax it at what I can only assume is the 25-35% tax rate?
2 - the old law stated that income was only taxed if brought in within the same year. The new law is anything past Jan 1 of 2024. So if I were to tap into savings income that has new deposits going into it, how will the government determine the tax liability? EY suggested getting a new bank account which is just nonsense, but I have a couple bank accounts anyways. Each has a deposit going into those accounts. Will they use LIFO or FIFO to determine tax liability?
3 - I am from the US, there is a dual tax treaty. I earn $0 in Thailand, however I am required to still file taxes? Why is this? I conduct 0 work in the country at all. Any work done I done when I leave the country, yes I am here more than 180 days though.
Thanks and hope we can have some good convo on the topic. Sorry for any typos, I wrote this on my phone, in the rain, on the back of a motorbike.2024.05.07 06:44 _wickedcity Need a local who can help
Hope this is not out of the question but I'm looking for a local resident of Marysville WA who can help out with something on Facebook Marketplace. Just PM me I'm never far from my phone. I'm located on the east coast, Virginia, to be exact. Thanks everyone and have a wonderful day.
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2024.05.07 06:36 SarcasmThenDie A couple questions from a nevermo...
So my LDS coworker and I started talking about all sorts of things today, and I feel like for a moment he was on the edge of losing sanity.
He seemed to get extremely offended when I asked why the church views women as beneath men as far as the household being very old fashioned, and women not being allowed to obtain any positions of authority within the church.
He said I must be confusing LDS with FLDS, said the woman actually has "more authority" than the man does because she runs the household and some other things I can't remember that he listed. I asked why women have never been bishops or stake counsel members, or if there had ever been a female prophet. He said something about women don't get "that calling" or sobering along those lines, and that it's not the church, that's God's choices.
The more I questioned the way the church hierarchy works and who gets chosen for higher ranking positions, and how they get chosen, he kept saying that there are "certain things that cannot be discussed because they are not secrets from the public, but they are SACRED between him and the church. To which I questioned why something is so sacred, but missionaries are encouraged to knock on strangers doors and tell them all about the church and whatnot. He didn't really answer that inquiry though.
I asked about some things I've read on this sub actually, but he said he had not heard of the couple things I brought up. Like the guy that was asked to donate his land to the church for a temple, or if he knew why the church seems to be on the verge of investigation and losing tax exemption. His answer to that was "they're always after us for something"
I asked where the gold tablets went that Joseph Smith supposedly read. He said something about "God hid them, possibly in another realm"
I asked him why the church doesn't refer all claims of abuse of any kind to law enforcement. To which he said "the church does their own investigation and decides if the claim is credible, then involve law enforcement." I then asked what if the accusation is about the bishop or somehow of similar status, which he said then goes to the stake vp for investigating. When I asked, he said he believes and trusts the "self policing" protocols.
One thing I learned that is ABSOLUTELY FUCKED... he said if someone claims they were sexually assaulted and it is proved to be true... the church puts them through repentance because they've technically sinned and they must earn their way back into good standing. THAT one I can't wrap my head around whatsoever. Victimization and severe guilting of an abuse survivor...WTF!?
Sorry this was so long, if anyone read this far, thank you. These rabbit holes are deep and dark for most religions in the world
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He seemed to get extremely offended when I asked why the church views women as beneath men as far as the household being very old fashioned, and women not being allowed to obtain any positions of authority within the church.
He said I must be confusing LDS with FLDS, said the woman actually has "more authority" than the man does because she runs the household and some other things I can't remember that he listed. I asked why women have never been bishops or stake counsel members, or if there had ever been a female prophet. He said something about women don't get "that calling" or sobering along those lines, and that it's not the church, that's God's choices.
The more I questioned the way the church hierarchy works and who gets chosen for higher ranking positions, and how they get chosen, he kept saying that there are "certain things that cannot be discussed because they are not secrets from the public, but they are SACRED between him and the church. To which I questioned why something is so sacred, but missionaries are encouraged to knock on strangers doors and tell them all about the church and whatnot. He didn't really answer that inquiry though.
I asked about some things I've read on this sub actually, but he said he had not heard of the couple things I brought up. Like the guy that was asked to donate his land to the church for a temple, or if he knew why the church seems to be on the verge of investigation and losing tax exemption. His answer to that was "they're always after us for something"
I asked where the gold tablets went that Joseph Smith supposedly read. He said something about "God hid them, possibly in another realm"
I asked him why the church doesn't refer all claims of abuse of any kind to law enforcement. To which he said "the church does their own investigation and decides if the claim is credible, then involve law enforcement." I then asked what if the accusation is about the bishop or somehow of similar status, which he said then goes to the stake vp for investigating. When I asked, he said he believes and trusts the "self policing" protocols.
One thing I learned that is ABSOLUTELY FUCKED... he said if someone claims they were sexually assaulted and it is proved to be true... the church puts them through repentance because they've technically sinned and they must earn their way back into good standing. THAT one I can't wrap my head around whatsoever. Victimization and severe guilting of an abuse survivor...WTF!?
Sorry this was so long, if anyone read this far, thank you. These rabbit holes are deep and dark for most religions in the world
2024.05.07 06:35 de_redditor Tell me Tuesdays - The All Questions Welcome Thread
 | Is there anything you always wanted to know about watches but were afraid to ask? Maybe you thought it was too basic, or too complicated. Or too funny. Or too sad. Or whatever. This is the space for you to ask all your questions and clarify any doubts. submitted by de_redditor to Watches_India [link] [comments] I hereby declare this space a judgement-free zone. Let the questions commence. https://preview.redd.it/81j2urkeirjc1.png?width=700&format=png&auto=webp&s=7096c9803ed2bf311676c70c338d507585f05b19 |
2024.05.07 06:34 Chance_Bug6589 International - No Internships, Need Guidance For Way Ahead
International (Indian) at a T25 (or T30 school - depends on who you ask), reputed for it's decent finance outcomes at undergrad.
Current Status :
I need some guidance on how to go ahead at this point, and am hence reaching out to you all.
I have a few questions I need help with -
1) What other fields in finance can I realistically recruit for full-time? Investment banking was my first preference, and that seems impossible now. .
2) Any certifications that can help with the first point above? I'm already working on my SIE and CFA L1 certification, confident of clearing these in the first attempt. Note - I don't have a finance background.
. 3) I'm also interested in pursuing a career in PWM for full-time. Any guidance here will be helpful.
. 4) Is the market going to improve enough to have a chance to recruit for consulting full-time?
. 5) For FT recruiting, which other countries should I start targeting and building a network in, for the above-mentioned roles.
I want to cast a broad net this time for full-time recruiting. I now have crippling debt that I can't repay if I go back to my home country. Really just reaching out to the community to get some guidance.
I'm almost on the verge of breaking - I need some guidance and help.
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Current Status :
I need some guidance on how to go ahead at this point, and am hence reaching out to you all.Couldn't land an investment banking internship - no interviews.
Got a couple of consulting interviews (one MBB) - couldn't convert (consulting wasn't a focus for me and wasn't expecting an interview in consulting)
No other paid internships in any other industry/firm converted till now
Been working in unpaid internships now in M&A/ deal sourcing roles
I need some guidance on how to go ahead at this point, and am hence reaching out to you all.
I have a few questions I need help with -
1) What other fields in finance can I realistically recruit for full-time? Investment banking was my first preference, and that seems impossible now. .
2) Any certifications that can help with the first point above? I'm already working on my SIE and CFA L1 certification, confident of clearing these in the first attempt. Note - I don't have a finance background.
. 3) I'm also interested in pursuing a career in PWM for full-time. Any guidance here will be helpful.
. 4) Is the market going to improve enough to have a chance to recruit for consulting full-time?
. 5) For FT recruiting, which other countries should I start targeting and building a network in, for the above-mentioned roles.
I want to cast a broad net this time for full-time recruiting. I now have crippling debt that I can't repay if I go back to my home country. Really just reaching out to the community to get some guidance.
I'm almost on the verge of breaking - I need some guidance and help.
2024.05.07 06:30 _kekai_ Confirmation Saints?
Basically what I know so far is that having a Confirmation Saint is not really that traditional in Anglicanism but can be a pious personal choice for an individual. My questions is who counts as a “saint”? Could any person included in the Episcopal Church’s Calendar of Blesseds count or must it be someone specifically designated the capital S “Saint” title (like the Apostle’s)? [I do find the idea of someone’s confirmation saint being a historic Reformer who may have rejected the idea of the intercession of the saints kinda funny though LOL (“St. John Calvin, ora pro nobis”)]
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2024.05.07 06:30 FloofyBirbBoy How do you deal with rolling low consistently?
So recently, I've been rolling improbably low, we are playing in Foundry but sadly the mod we are using to track rolls is super broken, and doesn't accurately track the averages (it stops tracking around 50 rolls across 4 players) but when I noticed this, I did a lil leg work myself and tracked my rolls in a calculator, and in my last 3 sessions, my rolls averages consisted of 6.2(38 rolls), 6.95(25 rolls) and most recently, 7.48(29 rolls).
Now these numbers should be on average 9-12, now I can simply just be bad luck on my end, and its just my bias of remembering the bad and not the good luck, but even my other players have gone from it being a joke, to it being an actual concern for when we play, we actually plan for my terrible luck, so basically my party is just a group of 3 people with me being useless at best, and a burden at worst.
And I really don't know what to do, like luck should change, but my luck has consistently been terrible, and its really effecting my enjoyment when playing, I have basically been a walking flanking status for my other 3 teammates to play the game around me, I cant recall knowledge, I can barely hit even the fodder enemies with strikes, and I cant roll high enough to do maneuvers to help out in fights ( I am a 11th lvl Thaumaturge, weapon and amulet) so being able to hit is very important, and I don't have many ways of effecting the game without rolling.
So my biggest question is: What tips do yall have to do as much as I can to help out, without actually rolling dice? I have as many skill boosting items as I can get, and I use consumables when I can to try and raise my chances, but even with +20's or more to a skill or attack, I rarely roll high enough. I don't think it'd be viable to use assurance for my skills, since I needed my feats for other things but if yall can give me some tips I would appreciate it.
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Now these numbers should be on average 9-12, now I can simply just be bad luck on my end, and its just my bias of remembering the bad and not the good luck, but even my other players have gone from it being a joke, to it being an actual concern for when we play, we actually plan for my terrible luck, so basically my party is just a group of 3 people with me being useless at best, and a burden at worst.
And I really don't know what to do, like luck should change, but my luck has consistently been terrible, and its really effecting my enjoyment when playing, I have basically been a walking flanking status for my other 3 teammates to play the game around me, I cant recall knowledge, I can barely hit even the fodder enemies with strikes, and I cant roll high enough to do maneuvers to help out in fights ( I am a 11th lvl Thaumaturge, weapon and amulet) so being able to hit is very important, and I don't have many ways of effecting the game without rolling.
So my biggest question is: What tips do yall have to do as much as I can to help out, without actually rolling dice? I have as many skill boosting items as I can get, and I use consumables when I can to try and raise my chances, but even with +20's or more to a skill or attack, I rarely roll high enough. I don't think it'd be viable to use assurance for my skills, since I needed my feats for other things but if yall can give me some tips I would appreciate it.
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