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2024.05.14 18:43 Yurii_S_Kh A Parish Priest’s Conversation in the Cemetery on Radonitsa
 | Before I came to the faith, I didn’t like going to the cemetery. What’s more, the cemetery always reminded me of my mortality, and it made me sad. Since I didn’t see life as eternal, it seemed sad to live on earth. submitted by Yurii_S_Kh to SophiaWisdomOfGod [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/5iqk8wg87f0d1.png?width=700&format=png&auto=webp&s=ca4ed8cb5d2d2add69e831459d6614da6d532d23 What should I live for? In order to die? It’s all pointless. Willy-nilly you arrive at the idea of evolution here. Man appeared on earth as a result of positive mutations and eventually we began to have consciousness, conscience and reason. Sometimes you clutch your head, saying, “Why did I become a human being? Who needed all these mutations if I will just be buried in the ground or turn into a pathetic handful of ashes?” With such ideas, the old saying seemed justified: “Take everything from life before the worms eat you.” The awareness of the fact that you are a mold from an eternal Image justifies your existence and gives it meaning. And the thought of your inevitable meeting with the Creator makes you take your life seriously. The purpose is revealed to you: He loves you, and you are a child of His love. And you think: “How good!” It was only after I came to the faith that the cemetery ceased to be an eerie place for me and turned into a “repository of completed narratives.” Our cemetery beyond the village in the heart of the forest is divided into the smaller, old one, which appeared in the seventeenth century, and the new and larger one. Do you know how our village cemetery differs from urban ones—apart from its size? I served the funeral for almost everyone who is buried in the new cemetery. I made the “last entry” in the destiny of almost every person buried here. I pray for them and remember many of them. Besides, even before my ordination I had lived and worked with these people for many years. And I know that their life in eternity depends on my prayer in some way. Our bond with them was not severed by their demise. Spiritual care does not stop even beyond the grave. The Church year, with its memorial Ancestors’ Saturdays and especially the Paschal services, does not allow us to forget those who have already departed this life. And visiting people’s graves on Radonitsa always is always a special, joyful event for me. I go to the cemetery as if to visit my friends—those whom I came to love during their earthly lives and with whom I prayed and restored the church—my brothers and sisters. One day I had a dream just before going to serve on Ancestors’ Saturday. It was as if I had died, my soul had flown away, and I could even see my own body from outside it. And I was so upset and sorry that I could not say goodbye to anyone, hug my children and kiss my wife. And my soul began to cry from anguish. Suddenly a thought flashed through my mind: “Today is Ancestors’ Saturday! How many people will come to church now, but there will be no service! Where will another priest come from?” And my soul, accustomed to responsibility, immediately returned to my body. I woke up and was relieved that it had all just been a dream. But then I remembered forever how my soul had wept after leaving the body. From that day on I began to feel compassion for the deceased while performing the funeral over them. https://preview.redd.it/6n9w3htc7f0d1.png?width=766&format=png&auto=webp&s=865fb6725a4d697012e0c45be99ed41cee63ec40 I am greeted first by Alexei at the entrance to the new cemetery. I learned a lot from that man and in many ways, would like to be like him. He knew how to live and had a great desire to live. But for all his buoyancy, illness taught Alexei to be patient and to humble himself. He was dying for several years, but every time after the unction he got better and continued to come to church every Sunday and receive Communion. And he passed away on the feast of the Ascension of the Lord. The last thing Alexei said to me—and I managed to give him Communion—was: “Thank you, Father. Thanks for everything!” Christ is Risen, Alexei! The well-groomed grave of the child Sashenka [a diminutive form of the name Alexander.—Trans.] is very close. He received Communion almost at every Sunday Liturgy. He drowned in Feodosia the day before he was supposed to start going to the first grade. His father Nikolai, a simple worker, could not save the child. After that, through hard labor he earned a sufficient sum of money for us to pay for the work of icon-painters. Three large icons of the Deesis in the St. Nicholas Chapel of our church are his sacrifice in memory of his son. One day, after his death, the boy came to his father in a dream and said: “Papa, I’ve been to many places, but I like St. Alexander Svirsky’s monastery the most.” Christ is Risen, dear child! Pray for us there. Irina. Irochka, I still can’t come to terms with the fact that you’ve been here for six years already. You shouldn’t have died, especially at such a young age. You are our beauty! I will never forget it—after I had given you Divine Unction and Communion, you took my hand in yours, already translucent from illness, and, kissing it, said: “Now I’m not afraid of anything. Thank you.” I hope you were not offended that I almost forced your husband away from your grave. You know, I started to fear for him. The dead cling to the dead, and the living cling to the living, as it were. Christ is Risen, our joy! * * * Sophia, I’ll tell you honestly: no one bakes pancakes the way you baked them. Do you think I’m joking? No, in all seriousness. The schoolchildren who cleaned the church with us and then ate your pancakes with tea have already grown up. Now some of them have their own children, but every time they come, they recall how much they enjoyed your delicious pancakes! https://preview.redd.it/bki5kxkh7f0d1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=61aec1e80b6e09ef4450f1558ea47353e17ba303 What hard times we had! Now we have both a refectory and a parish house (with two floors), but back then we didn’t have anything. I still wonder how you always managed to cope with everything. Christ is Risen, our wise woman! Praskovyushka [a diminutive form of the name Parasceva.—Trans.]! My angel who selflessly helped me in the altar. Today is Radonitsa and the eighth anniversary of your birth into eternity. You read by syllables, but you taught me so much! My friend, I am grateful to God that He brought me together with you. Pray for me, mother, so that someday I too can reach the measure of your simplicity and learn to hope and trust in God the way you did. Of course, you know that your youngest daughter gave up drinking and came to the church, that she prays and often takes Communion. Today she is almost never out of the church, as was the case with you. So, both your daughters are in the church. Your prayer does its job, and even after your death it does not lose its power. You cried your eyes out for your daughter. The time came, and she told me herself, “That’s it, Father, there there’s no turning back.” What a wise woman you are! Praskovyushka, Christ is Risen! And here rests my old acquaintance, Vasily Ivanovich. In his old age a strange thing happened to him: he fell in love like a teenager. He started writing love poetry, but he was ashamed to reveal it to anyone. But he trusted me. He would come to the entrance of my house, sit down on a bench and wait for me to see him and come out. Then he would take out his notebook, and his “sonnets” would start flowing. How many times I invited you to the church, my friend! You kept promising, but... never came. Christ is Risen, Vasily! Then the tombstones of rich people begin. There are three tombstones here, behind an imposing metal fence. That’s right, it’s a family of three people. Petrovich, an entrepreneur, a good man who drank. He didn’t give sufficient attention to his son who was hooked on drugs. No matter how much they tried to cure him it was all in vain. After the young man’s death, Petrovich’s wife took to drinking too, as if she had decided to die. They lived beside the church. Their house had once been built on church land. It was a big, beautiful “mansion” in which you could live for many years. One day Petrovich came to our church while I was racking my brains over the problem of where to find money for a new roof. I desperately needed to have our winter church reroofed. A piece broke off from the destroyed bell-tower and pierced the roof in several places. And we had just plastered the walls inside, putting so much effort into it. There was no one in the church except Petrovich and me. I went up to him and greeted him. I saw that he was having a very hard time. And who would be feeling otherwise after losing his only son? I addressed him: “Petrovich, do a good deed in memory of Kostya [a diminutive form of the name Konstantin.—Trans.]. Do you see how the roof was broken by bricks from the bell-tower? Help us redo it as long as there is no rain so far. You’re a wealthy man, help me. I will also ask the parishioners—and we will do it all together. I’m afraid we’ll ruin the plaster inside after the rain starts.” Petrovich was silent for a little while. His face was so kind, he really was a nice chap. Then he said: “You know, father, I’ve been thinking about how I’m going to live now, after my only son’s death. And I’ve decided that now I will live only for myself. So, please don’t take it amiss, but look for other sponsors.” And indeed, Petrovich started to live for himself: he bought a new car, had a holiday abroad, and began to dress well. And then Petrovich disappeared—we couldn’t find him for a whole week. One afternoon as I was walking to the church, a boy of about ten caught up with me: “Father, go and see what it is! I keep looking and I can’t figure it out.” I went with him, and he brought me to the back of Petrovich’s house, where there was a huge puddle. I looked where the boy was pointing and saw something like a swollen sugar bag floating in the puddle. But it didn’t seem to be a bag—it resembled a man. We called the police, and Petrovich’s daughter-in-law pulled him out of the puddle. She said she saw a bullet hole in his forehead. But no one investigated it then. I performed the funeral for him in the courtyard of our church. And three months later his wife passed away. Their “big mansion” stands empty. Christ is risen, Petrovich! Don’t think that I bear a grudge against you. After you refused, another man came and offered his help—he took the church reroofing on himself. This is how things work with God—if not you, then someone else. You already know that. Poor Petrovich, nobody remembers you, but I don’t forget you. https://preview.redd.it/4cofc1xj7f0d1.png?width=700&format=png&auto=webp&s=9b38988d17339f1ee040045051c118eb8e9deac9 How many years have I served at the grave of a young mother’s child on Radonitsa. She crossed a pedestrian crossing in Moscow when the traffic light was green. But a jeep suddenly appeared, knocking the child down. There must have been a tiny news report about you that day. As I understand it, the jeep driver was acquitted. But it doesn’t matter now whether he was acquitted or not. A momentary incident, but the mother’s mental distress has not abated for four years, she is sick at heart, and she still wears black. How accustomed we are to these news reports: Someone has perished here, someone else has been killed in an explosion there, a plane crashed somewhere, etc. But all this means someone’s pain, tears, broken hearts, and orphaned children. Mother, Christ is risen, don’t cry and start praying for your girl. Help her, while you have some strength. There is a large marble slab with a portrait of a young man. Yuri worked at one of his father’s gas stations. About ten years ago, some drug addicts murdered him at work at night. I remember his mother weeping in church. We have a custom: If people make a contribution to the church in memory of their reposed loved one, order an icon, buy a candle stand or something like that, then we add the name of the person in question into our list for permanent commemoration. I offered the same to Yuri’s close ones. On hearing this, his mother stopped crying. She came up to me and said quietly: “Father, only don’t tell my husband. I’m afraid he won’t understand you.” It was only then that it dawned on me: If he left his son alone to work at the gas station at night without security, he really wouldn’t understand me. His family does not set foot in church anymore. Yuri, your closest ones betrayed you. But forgive them; You know, we don’t choose our parents. But I’m still wondering: How will they look into your eyes when you meet them in eternity? Nobody comes to your grave on Radonitsa, but I remember you, your placidness, and sometimes pray for you. But forget them all. Christ is Risen, Yuri—you and I will rejoice together. At the exit I met one of our believers from Moscow, who had buried her mother right around Pascha a year before. “Earlier I couldn’t go to the cemetery—I felt uneasy here. But now I can sit here next to my mother’s grave, talk to her, and I feel so good—I don’t want to go away,” she said. And we, Galochka, don’t “go away”. It only seems to us that the departed are somewhere far away from us, but in reality they are close, in our hearts, in our memory and our prayers. After all, and of course, you know it yourself, love (if we have it) does not disappear, even after death. Archpriest Alexander Dyachenko |
2024.05.14 18:42 TrAshLy95 When will we be safe?
Possible TW and I’ll censor words if that helps people. My sister first got sck on April 25th and it lasted maybe until the 30th (5-7 days). Her son got it on the 29th. Her husband and other child got it before her and the youngest. It was just darrhea and n*, lots of cramping.
She came to visit for Mother’s Day on Sunday, so almost 41 hours ago. I am driving myself crazy thinking about incubation. We were never inside the house with her, but I let my daughter ride her horse. I wasn’t thinking and I didn’t want to keep my daughter from something fun. She washed her hands and changed pants since my sister was just outside. She rode for about 10 minutes. I’m hoping she washed her hands well (I was still outside talking) and then she ate dinner.
Interesting fact about my sister - she is my polar opposite. I have contamination OCD, emetophobia, you name it. She kept sending me pictures of her poop and when she’d sht herself. She was riding her horse at one point when she sht her pants and sent a picture. That was 14 days before Mother’s Day. She usually rides English saddles but had the western saddle out in the pic too. Almost positive she was on English though and someone else rode the western saddle. Different things online say the sb* can last 2 weeks or more on surfaces. What about on a saddle? I would assume it’s been in the heat, humidity, and sunshine maybe that helps kill it? She is not one to clean up if she did have d* on her saddle, maybe just wipe off with her hand or something random. She was literally going shopping, eating out, and having d* in public and in her car. She said she had to throw away almost all of her pants.
Is it likely the b* is still on the saddle if she got anything on it? I can’t sit still. I have therapy in 2 hours but I’m worried my daughter is going to get what they had and it lasted sooo long for each person who had it. I’m also worried since it lasted so long, the vrus will live longer on surfaces - like the saddle. Does anyone have any factual info on viruses? I don’t think it was noro because no v and it lasted for so long for each person. Noro seems intense but more short lived. This seems like rota or something else, maybe even bacterial. She has a farm. Idk. I’m just very anxious. I know reassurance doesn’t help with OCD but having some sort of factual information on these things might put me at ease. I have to calm down. TIA.
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She came to visit for Mother’s Day on Sunday, so almost 41 hours ago. I am driving myself crazy thinking about incubation. We were never inside the house with her, but I let my daughter ride her horse. I wasn’t thinking and I didn’t want to keep my daughter from something fun. She washed her hands and changed pants since my sister was just outside. She rode for about 10 minutes. I’m hoping she washed her hands well (I was still outside talking) and then she ate dinner.
Interesting fact about my sister - she is my polar opposite. I have contamination OCD, emetophobia, you name it. She kept sending me pictures of her poop and when she’d sht herself. She was riding her horse at one point when she sht her pants and sent a picture. That was 14 days before Mother’s Day. She usually rides English saddles but had the western saddle out in the pic too. Almost positive she was on English though and someone else rode the western saddle. Different things online say the sb* can last 2 weeks or more on surfaces. What about on a saddle? I would assume it’s been in the heat, humidity, and sunshine maybe that helps kill it? She is not one to clean up if she did have d* on her saddle, maybe just wipe off with her hand or something random. She was literally going shopping, eating out, and having d* in public and in her car. She said she had to throw away almost all of her pants.
Is it likely the b* is still on the saddle if she got anything on it? I can’t sit still. I have therapy in 2 hours but I’m worried my daughter is going to get what they had and it lasted sooo long for each person who had it. I’m also worried since it lasted so long, the vrus will live longer on surfaces - like the saddle. Does anyone have any factual info on viruses? I don’t think it was noro because no v and it lasted for so long for each person. Noro seems intense but more short lived. This seems like rota or something else, maybe even bacterial. She has a farm. Idk. I’m just very anxious. I know reassurance doesn’t help with OCD but having some sort of factual information on these things might put me at ease. I have to calm down. TIA.
2024.05.14 18:40 Practical-Mix-6720 Husband finally said no to something
So as with many users here, my relationship with MIL was fine before having a baby, but now that he’s here she’s developed a classic case of baby rabies and has become a bit of a boundary pusher. I know this is common for new moms, but watching her interact with my son (4 months old) spikes my anxiety majorly and she’s suddenly way more annoying to me than she was before the baby. She lives about an hour away and I’d say we see her and FIL maybe once every 2 weeks. Some examples: MIL loves to barge into our house and try to take the baby from me immediately. I don’t think she’s ever actually asked if she can hold him, it’s usually “I’m going to steal him now” (one time she walked up to me while he was actively nursing and said TO THE BABY “Grandma’s going to burp you now so Mommy can get up”, no hello to me or anything-I just stared at her for a minute and told her I was going to nurse until he was finished), uses obnoxious baby talk in a weird voice, and always “answers” AS the baby if anyone says anything to him which drives me absolutely nuts. We also have a hard time getting her to surrender the baby back to one of us if he starts crying, because of course she knows exactly what’s wrong and can fix it. She is just hyper focused on him the entire time she’s around, to the point that she’s impossible to have a normal conversation with because she’s so busy following me around commenting on every tiny little movement or sound he makes. As someone with a VERY large personal space bubble, this is increasingly hard for me to put up with, and I’ve started going up to the bedroom to nurse or rock him to sleep using the excuse that the baby is too distracted by lights and sound right now because I’m tired of her hovering over me waiting for him to finish so she can try to scoop him up again.
This is her first grandchild and I’m glad she’s excited and loves him so much but she is just overwhelming and something about her audacity and lack of self awareness to how annoying she’s being puts me on the defensive and makes me dread seeing her. My husband has for the most part just let her get away with all of it. Whenever she asks to visit he’ll agree before consulting with me, which I try to be understanding of because it’s his mom but sometimes I’m just not in the mood to see people, even family. I’ve tried explaining to him how anxious her actions make me feel and his response has been that she’s always this annoying around babies (he has a big family with lots of younger cousins) and everyone just tries to ignore it. Which was not the most helpful response ever and had started causing some strain/resentment between us.
ANYWAY, MIL has started calling husband every few days to ask how the baby’s doing and asking when she can see him again. A few days ago they’re talking while baby is asleep on me and I hear him say “well I appreciate that, but please don’t just stop by. You need to text OP to make sure it’s a good day for a visit.” Apparently she had been planning to start “dropping in” on me the 1-2 days a week my husband goes into the office to “help out”(aka hog the baby and annoy me) and he actually stood up to her and told her she needs to ask first! AND THEN he told her we were planning to just have a chill day at home for my first Mother’s Day and could celebrate with her soon another time- in previous years the expectation has always been that all her kids come visit her all day on Mother’s Day (I did send a card and flowers so it’s not like we ignored her). This was 4 days ago and she hasn’t asked to see the baby since so she’s either realized we need some space or is super mad to be told no for once. Either way, I had a lovely peaceful Mother’s Day at home and got to snuggle my baby as much as I wanted, and I’m so thankful my husband has started to realize he needs to be the one to say “no”!
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This is her first grandchild and I’m glad she’s excited and loves him so much but she is just overwhelming and something about her audacity and lack of self awareness to how annoying she’s being puts me on the defensive and makes me dread seeing her. My husband has for the most part just let her get away with all of it. Whenever she asks to visit he’ll agree before consulting with me, which I try to be understanding of because it’s his mom but sometimes I’m just not in the mood to see people, even family. I’ve tried explaining to him how anxious her actions make me feel and his response has been that she’s always this annoying around babies (he has a big family with lots of younger cousins) and everyone just tries to ignore it. Which was not the most helpful response ever and had started causing some strain/resentment between us.
ANYWAY, MIL has started calling husband every few days to ask how the baby’s doing and asking when she can see him again. A few days ago they’re talking while baby is asleep on me and I hear him say “well I appreciate that, but please don’t just stop by. You need to text OP to make sure it’s a good day for a visit.” Apparently she had been planning to start “dropping in” on me the 1-2 days a week my husband goes into the office to “help out”(aka hog the baby and annoy me) and he actually stood up to her and told her she needs to ask first! AND THEN he told her we were planning to just have a chill day at home for my first Mother’s Day and could celebrate with her soon another time- in previous years the expectation has always been that all her kids come visit her all day on Mother’s Day (I did send a card and flowers so it’s not like we ignored her). This was 4 days ago and she hasn’t asked to see the baby since so she’s either realized we need some space or is super mad to be told no for once. Either way, I had a lovely peaceful Mother’s Day at home and got to snuggle my baby as much as I wanted, and I’m so thankful my husband has started to realize he needs to be the one to say “no”!
2024.05.14 18:40 IcyFeature357 ASMR, presence, the now.
So this whole 'presence' thing appears to have all manners of effects. My definition of presence is simply being in the moment, through meditation or other menas. Psychologically of course it seems to reduce unnecessary thinking.
It also seems to produce physical responses which fascinate me. Sometimes after a period of stress, I start to increase my presence, and my body does strange things. My muscles will kinda 'pop' (not sure how else to describe it, but it's nicer than it sounds), and my bodily will release. I also get strange head tingles. Eventually it usually ends with immense peace, sometimes lasting for hours, in which I have virtually no thought. (I'll pop back into ego every so often but that's another story).
This relates to what I've heard people talk about with chakras, which I never really got into, as I found simple presence does the job.
Something I've not heard talked about much is how this spiritual work relates to ASMR. I don't have this, but I've heard descriptions of ASMR that sound strangely like my meditative states, or other forms of nowness. I've heard stuff like 'tingles and fireworks inside the skull'- I have this on a good day!
Is ASMR merely an access point into the now? I don't get 'the tingles', maybe someone here that does , and meditates, can explain.
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It also seems to produce physical responses which fascinate me. Sometimes after a period of stress, I start to increase my presence, and my body does strange things. My muscles will kinda 'pop' (not sure how else to describe it, but it's nicer than it sounds), and my bodily will release. I also get strange head tingles. Eventually it usually ends with immense peace, sometimes lasting for hours, in which I have virtually no thought. (I'll pop back into ego every so often but that's another story).
This relates to what I've heard people talk about with chakras, which I never really got into, as I found simple presence does the job.
Something I've not heard talked about much is how this spiritual work relates to ASMR. I don't have this, but I've heard descriptions of ASMR that sound strangely like my meditative states, or other forms of nowness. I've heard stuff like 'tingles and fireworks inside the skull'- I have this on a good day!
Is ASMR merely an access point into the now? I don't get 'the tingles', maybe someone here that does , and meditates, can explain.
2024.05.14 18:40 Haunting_Opinion4380 24 [M4F] USA/Online - Looking for a smart, kind, and engaging woman
I’m looking for something serious with the right woman. I am very tall, smart, and caring. I’d love someone intellectual, I value brains. I want kids one day (not soon,) that is a dealbreaker for me. I value intellectual curiosity, passion, ambition, and kindness. I love football, so if you love football too that is a big benefit but not necessary. I want to be a researcher of some kind or join the Air Force, I’m currently in grad school. I love intellectual pursuits, I read constantly and am always working on improving myself. I am white, with dark brown hair and hazel eyes, in good shape. I walk several miles every day. I do have a cat. I do not do casual stuff, and I would prefer that you be from the US, Europe, or Canada. I am a completely open book so feel free to reach out, I will happily answer any questions.
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2024.05.14 18:39 somelikeitsweet 27F SB seeking SD in Philadelphia, PA
Hi! A little about me: I’m 27, blonde, blue eyes, average build with pictures on my profile. I currently live an hour away from Philly and some of my interests include watching sports and old movies, cooking, traveling, shopping, hiking, collecting vinyls, and going to the gym. My time is currently mostly spent writing a cookbook! Also to be upfront, I’m married but my husband and I are open.
I love age gaps and I’m kink friendly, but I’m also enthusiastic about building mutual trust and being treated like a lady. Ideally I’m looking for someone to go out for a fun date with once a week or so followed by intimacy and spoiling. I’m most free weekdays during the day but for the right person I can be flexible. If you sound like a match, reach out and I’d love to chat!
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I love age gaps and I’m kink friendly, but I’m also enthusiastic about building mutual trust and being treated like a lady. Ideally I’m looking for someone to go out for a fun date with once a week or so followed by intimacy and spoiling. I’m most free weekdays during the day but for the right person I can be flexible. If you sound like a match, reach out and I’d love to chat!
2024.05.14 18:39 IncognitoFriend567 Essay tips
Hello! I need to write an essay about Illegal Immigration in the US and the policies such as Greg Abbott against it. The essay needs to focus on laws and border wall that tries to stop it. This is a sensitive topic for my essay, I know but I didn’t have any other option. Any advices? What should I include in my essay?
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2024.05.14 18:39 LTTLBL0NDI_AU I keep dreaming about Jesus.
Basically the title, I made the beautiful and life changing decision to accept christ into my heart almost 3 years ago. My whole life i struggled with dreams, spiritual attacks, sleep paralysis (not all bad, but i defiantly feel like im more open to the spiritual stuff when im sleeping - i usually ask jesus for protection while i sleep) anyway since becoming christian i have been learning more and more about how to honour my relationship with Jesus. I read my bible & attend church occasionally, but i talk to god basically every day. Ive learnt over this time that when i just casually talk to him i feel the most connected.
Anyway, i've been quiet busy lately. i am about a week away from moving overseas and there of course is a lot of things to do and "worries", that i just talk to god about and trust him that everything will work out.
I have also had weird dreams, ALL involving Jesus in some way and each one becoming more memorable (i can usually remember all of my dreams) i just keep having this blurr over the dreams when i wake up.
the one that i first kind of remember, i was trying to say the lords prayer but i couldnt. it felt each time i couldnt get it right something bad would happen. He was there with me but i also had something or someone else there too, the dream was super blurry so i dont have much more detail than that.
the last two i had was this week, first one i felt like i was awake, kind of like how my sleep paralysis used to start, i could hear chatter and feel a really dark energy but it felt anxious/restless like it was in a hurry? i refused to open my eyes, but i started to say the lords prayer over and over in my head and was saying "the lord is here" & "in jesus mighty name i forbid you to be here" and not only did it leave but i felt his presence in the room right next to me and slept perfectly after that.
then yesterday, i had a dream that i was packing or folding clothes with Jesus and we were just laughing and he said something that i cant remember but i remember instantly just smiling and said "Man i love you". It was really casual and how i'd talk to my friends.
the reason why im coming here to ask is because anywhere that ive read about people who have had dreams of Jesus its been really profound.
And im here having scary dreams, weird chats, and reciting the lords prayer?
i feel like he is just really present right now and is showing me that he his here on this journey. But i actually dont know what to make of it all.
If anyone has had anything similar, or even if you think i should just take it at face value and assume the "he's just here with me" feeling is the message im supposed to receive id love to hear others thoughts on this?
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Anyway, i've been quiet busy lately. i am about a week away from moving overseas and there of course is a lot of things to do and "worries", that i just talk to god about and trust him that everything will work out.
I have also had weird dreams, ALL involving Jesus in some way and each one becoming more memorable (i can usually remember all of my dreams) i just keep having this blurr over the dreams when i wake up.
the one that i first kind of remember, i was trying to say the lords prayer but i couldnt. it felt each time i couldnt get it right something bad would happen. He was there with me but i also had something or someone else there too, the dream was super blurry so i dont have much more detail than that.
the last two i had was this week, first one i felt like i was awake, kind of like how my sleep paralysis used to start, i could hear chatter and feel a really dark energy but it felt anxious/restless like it was in a hurry? i refused to open my eyes, but i started to say the lords prayer over and over in my head and was saying "the lord is here" & "in jesus mighty name i forbid you to be here" and not only did it leave but i felt his presence in the room right next to me and slept perfectly after that.
then yesterday, i had a dream that i was packing or folding clothes with Jesus and we were just laughing and he said something that i cant remember but i remember instantly just smiling and said "Man i love you". It was really casual and how i'd talk to my friends.
the reason why im coming here to ask is because anywhere that ive read about people who have had dreams of Jesus its been really profound.
And im here having scary dreams, weird chats, and reciting the lords prayer?
i feel like he is just really present right now and is showing me that he his here on this journey. But i actually dont know what to make of it all.
If anyone has had anything similar, or even if you think i should just take it at face value and assume the "he's just here with me" feeling is the message im supposed to receive id love to hear others thoughts on this?
2024.05.14 18:38 VLenin2291 A little piece of advice on writing: If you don’t know how to write something, your best option is to go read fics with that in them
Take mental notes on what the good ones do and what the bad ones do. Then, Frankenstein it into your own take. It’s how I learned to write fluff and smut, and it’s been awesome.
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2024.05.14 18:36 Critical-Positive-85 SSRIs for a 4 year old? Anyone have experience?
Not looking for medical advice, just personal experience.
Kiddo is 4.5. Autistic +/- ADHD (not official bc of age), SPD, anxiety (noted by OT and during neuropsych eval); possibly gifted; highly masked in public.
We started floortime OT last summer to address sensory concerns. One of their first observations was that he is anxious (generally hyper aware of his surroundings and any small change such as the AC kicking off, a fluorescent light gently flickering, people walking in the hallway, etc. disturbs him). They have been pushing for us to pursue medication and after many months we finally got in with a psychiatrist (not many options in our area and even fewer willing to see such a young kiddo). Said psychiatrist did not rx him any meds because he presented very typically during his eval and basically told me the risk would most likely outweigh benefit at this point (given his age and lack of “extreme” behavioral concerns). Of note: his pediatrician didn’t feel comfortable writing an rx/managing an SSRI for us either because it’s off label at 4 and she said she just wasn’t well versed in their use at this age (which I fully respect someone knowing their limits). We are to follow up in 2 months with psychiatry and will reevaluate at that time. I of course communicated to the doctor that his behavior in clinic was not indicative of how he is at home.
OT is not pleased that he was refused medication. They keep telling me that they have clients as young as 2 who are medicated and that they see such a beneficial change in these kids. Their main concern at this time is that we can relatively easily get to a regulated point but we cannot maintain regulation for a meaningful amount of time… which then impedes making further progress in other areas. I don’t necessarily disagree with them, but I also feel like they are pushing really hard to get him medicated but can’t offer me a solid suggestion on a doctor to see who would be willing to try meds right off the bat.
So anyway… for anyone who has had a very young child (thinking 4-5 year old) medicated using SSRIs, what were the key indicators that led to those meds being prescribed? Once prescribed what kinds of improvements/changes did you notice in your child?
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Kiddo is 4.5. Autistic +/- ADHD (not official bc of age), SPD, anxiety (noted by OT and during neuropsych eval); possibly gifted; highly masked in public.
We started floortime OT last summer to address sensory concerns. One of their first observations was that he is anxious (generally hyper aware of his surroundings and any small change such as the AC kicking off, a fluorescent light gently flickering, people walking in the hallway, etc. disturbs him). They have been pushing for us to pursue medication and after many months we finally got in with a psychiatrist (not many options in our area and even fewer willing to see such a young kiddo). Said psychiatrist did not rx him any meds because he presented very typically during his eval and basically told me the risk would most likely outweigh benefit at this point (given his age and lack of “extreme” behavioral concerns). Of note: his pediatrician didn’t feel comfortable writing an rx/managing an SSRI for us either because it’s off label at 4 and she said she just wasn’t well versed in their use at this age (which I fully respect someone knowing their limits). We are to follow up in 2 months with psychiatry and will reevaluate at that time. I of course communicated to the doctor that his behavior in clinic was not indicative of how he is at home.
OT is not pleased that he was refused medication. They keep telling me that they have clients as young as 2 who are medicated and that they see such a beneficial change in these kids. Their main concern at this time is that we can relatively easily get to a regulated point but we cannot maintain regulation for a meaningful amount of time… which then impedes making further progress in other areas. I don’t necessarily disagree with them, but I also feel like they are pushing really hard to get him medicated but can’t offer me a solid suggestion on a doctor to see who would be willing to try meds right off the bat.
So anyway… for anyone who has had a very young child (thinking 4-5 year old) medicated using SSRIs, what were the key indicators that led to those meds being prescribed? Once prescribed what kinds of improvements/changes did you notice in your child?
2024.05.14 18:36 Gongorullo Stereotyped depiction of homosexuality in Esc
I've read one week ago someone on this sub saying how Olly act would have alienated half of the average esc audience and in the end we saw that he was right.
This year said to us that average esc audience has enough of the stereotyped and oversezualized depiction of homosexuality, (Zorra, Dizzy) and i bet there are also a lot of gays in the average audience who have enough about it.
Yeah, it is fun, it's camp and everything else but when it is basically THE ONLY WAY gays are depicted it becomes a problem in my opinion.
When will it happen that we we'll start to see other sides of it?
When for example, we we'll see an act that depicts EXPLICITLY something like gay romantic love or real struggles etc etc...
The only ones who got near it that i remember was Italy with Brividi (but it was about gay romantic love only from the side of mahmood and it was explicit only in the official video) and Mengoni, that had a song that was about the struggles of someone who has fear to show is homosexuality in full (and nobody understood it) and Austria with Conchita. (is there someone else?)
I think this is something that has to be debated.
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This year said to us that average esc audience has enough of the stereotyped and oversezualized depiction of homosexuality, (Zorra, Dizzy) and i bet there are also a lot of gays in the average audience who have enough about it.
Yeah, it is fun, it's camp and everything else but when it is basically THE ONLY WAY gays are depicted it becomes a problem in my opinion.
When will it happen that we we'll start to see other sides of it?
When for example, we we'll see an act that depicts EXPLICITLY something like gay romantic love or real struggles etc etc...
The only ones who got near it that i remember was Italy with Brividi (but it was about gay romantic love only from the side of mahmood and it was explicit only in the official video) and Mengoni, that had a song that was about the struggles of someone who has fear to show is homosexuality in full (and nobody understood it) and Austria with Conchita. (is there someone else?)
I think this is something that has to be debated.
2024.05.14 18:36 Wonder-Lad Favourite examples of LA media (regardless of being adaptations or original IPs) that perfectly capture the essence of cartoons/anime?
A bit of a word salad title but It gets the point across, whether it being an original work or an adapation of something prexisting, that is following cartoon or anime logic and strcture.
I've been watching the 80's Popeye movie starring Robin Williams after someone mentioned it to me in a thread and man, it's a fucking labour of love cause it's an almost 2 hour movie that is replicating a Popeye cartoon down to the T. Like I can clearly see this in animated form. The acting is also so on point to Popeye characters. Especailly Robin Williams and Shelley Duvall as Popey & Olive. They got the voice and body language down so perfection.
Aside from that, Hideakai Anno of Eva fame directs some incredible LA anime flavoured movies. Cutie Honey & Shin Godzilla are the two I've seen from him and those are just straight up anime.
It all kinda bums me out that more LA media doesn't just embrace the cartoonish way of doing things.
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I've been watching the 80's Popeye movie starring Robin Williams after someone mentioned it to me in a thread and man, it's a fucking labour of love cause it's an almost 2 hour movie that is replicating a Popeye cartoon down to the T. Like I can clearly see this in animated form. The acting is also so on point to Popeye characters. Especailly Robin Williams and Shelley Duvall as Popey & Olive. They got the voice and body language down so perfection.
Aside from that, Hideakai Anno of Eva fame directs some incredible LA anime flavoured movies. Cutie Honey & Shin Godzilla are the two I've seen from him and those are just straight up anime.
It all kinda bums me out that more LA media doesn't just embrace the cartoonish way of doing things.
2024.05.14 18:36 starryeyedq The Themes of The Boys
As we get into the new season, I just thought it would be fun to track and discuss the themes and motifs this show has kept up throughout the seasons so far so we can see how they play out in Season 4:)
NOTE: I have not read many spoilers. I don't mind if they come into the discussion, but please mark with a tag for anyone who doesn't want to see them!
Honestly, when I really laid all these out, it made me appreciate the writing so much more, even in moments I didn't really care for the first time around.
Plus analyzing stuff like this is fun for super cool people. Join me!
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How many times has a character exclaimed "I'm trying to save you," when actually all they're doing is trying to serve their own selfish agenda and alleviate their own guilt or affirm their image of themselves?
I could seriously write a whole essay about this and how it ties to the idea of What it Means to Be a Hero. But feel free to discuss it more in the comments.
Justice vs. Vengeance is also a big one that keeps coming up. Starlight is arguably the only character who is earnestly pursuing true justice on this show and tbh, it cramps everyone's style. MM and Hughie also great characters to follow for this because they are both genuinely trying to do the right thing and are often seduced by Butcher's much more attractive Vengeance call.
Children are seen by society as the ultimate innocents who must be protected at all costs, but they are so often abused and exploited by the people who are supposed to protect them - Even when it's unintentional. Parents so often see children as extensions of themselves rather than individuals. Simply tools to affirm their own existence or be mirrors of themselves (which ties into the whole selfish "I'm trying to save you" theme).
We see this explored with Ryan a lot, but this was beautifully culminated at the end of S3 when MM realizes he needs to be honest with his daughter about what he's been going through, not to justify his mistakes, but to show her respect and acknowledgement of a two-way relationship.
Super powers are definitely a vehicle to explore societal power with woman and POC on this show and the daunting idea that even with superpowers or wealth, race and gender can still be used as kryptonite.
We see it touched on in the ongoing discussions of how to properly "play the game" and achieve real power.
We see the Power and Women explored pretty in depth in Season 2, but Ashley is a really awesome ongoing exploration of this theme through a gender lens as she rises to power at Vought.
A Train and Noir are an obvious example of this exploration through a racial lens, but it's definitely also been touched on through pretty much every character of color on this show. I think they really got into it in a really interesting way on Gen V as well, but I don't want to bog this down any harder.
Toxic Masculinity really became the focus of Season 3. We see that most clearly in the character of Soldier Boy (though I do worry that due to Jensen Ackles natural charisma, it didn't quite achieve the impact the writers intended), but also in Hughie.
Although many people (including me) felt like it was a disappointing step back for Hughie, I'm actually leaning back the other way on the rewatch. I think that the feeling powerless (which is something we feel as ordinary citizens all the time) moment Hughie had when he realized all the work he did with Neuman was built on a lie probably threw a lot out of whack. It makes perfect sense that the comments about his vulnerability and softness might start hitting a little differently than they used to.
Frenchie and MM on the other hand, are great examples of characters of healthy masculinity in their willingness to share power, be vulnerable, and self reflect so that they are able to support the interests of their loved ones.
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Okay I'm tired of typing and it's likely that only four people will comment on this if I'm lucky.
I hope you enjoy discussing (feel free to add your own big themes if I missed any) and I hope that being aware of these themes make the upcoming season more fun to watch.
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NOTE: I have not read many spoilers. I don't mind if they come into the discussion, but please mark with a tag for anyone who doesn't want to see them!
Honestly, when I really laid all these out, it made me appreciate the writing so much more, even in moments I didn't really care for the first time around.
Plus analyzing stuff like this is fun for super cool people. Join me!
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- What it Means to Save Someone
How many times has a character exclaimed "I'm trying to save you," when actually all they're doing is trying to serve their own selfish agenda and alleviate their own guilt or affirm their image of themselves?
I could seriously write a whole essay about this and how it ties to the idea of What it Means to Be a Hero. But feel free to discuss it more in the comments.
- Subverting "Truth, Justice, and the American Way
Justice vs. Vengeance is also a big one that keeps coming up. Starlight is arguably the only character who is earnestly pursuing true justice on this show and tbh, it cramps everyone's style. MM and Hughie also great characters to follow for this because they are both genuinely trying to do the right thing and are often seduced by Butcher's much more attractive Vengeance call.
- Mother and Father Relationships
Children are seen by society as the ultimate innocents who must be protected at all costs, but they are so often abused and exploited by the people who are supposed to protect them - Even when it's unintentional. Parents so often see children as extensions of themselves rather than individuals. Simply tools to affirm their own existence or be mirrors of themselves (which ties into the whole selfish "I'm trying to save you" theme).
We see this explored with Ryan a lot, but this was beautifully culminated at the end of S3 when MM realizes he needs to be honest with his daughter about what he's been going through, not to justify his mistakes, but to show her respect and acknowledgement of a two-way relationship.
- Power in the Hands of Women and Power in the Hands of POC
Super powers are definitely a vehicle to explore societal power with woman and POC on this show and the daunting idea that even with superpowers or wealth, race and gender can still be used as kryptonite.
We see it touched on in the ongoing discussions of how to properly "play the game" and achieve real power.
We see the Power and Women explored pretty in depth in Season 2, but Ashley is a really awesome ongoing exploration of this theme through a gender lens as she rises to power at Vought.
A Train and Noir are an obvious example of this exploration through a racial lens, but it's definitely also been touched on through pretty much every character of color on this show. I think they really got into it in a really interesting way on Gen V as well, but I don't want to bog this down any harder.
- Gender Roles and Toxic Masculinity
Toxic Masculinity really became the focus of Season 3. We see that most clearly in the character of Soldier Boy (though I do worry that due to Jensen Ackles natural charisma, it didn't quite achieve the impact the writers intended), but also in Hughie.
Although many people (including me) felt like it was a disappointing step back for Hughie, I'm actually leaning back the other way on the rewatch. I think that the feeling powerless (which is something we feel as ordinary citizens all the time) moment Hughie had when he realized all the work he did with Neuman was built on a lie probably threw a lot out of whack. It makes perfect sense that the comments about his vulnerability and softness might start hitting a little differently than they used to.
Frenchie and MM on the other hand, are great examples of characters of healthy masculinity in their willingness to share power, be vulnerable, and self reflect so that they are able to support the interests of their loved ones.
- What is REAL Power?
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Okay I'm tired of typing and it's likely that only four people will comment on this if I'm lucky.
I hope you enjoy discussing (feel free to add your own big themes if I missed any) and I hope that being aware of these themes make the upcoming season more fun to watch.
2024.05.14 18:36 Objective-Speed-3727 I need someone (or multiple “someones”) to talk to
I’m about to post a slightly edited version of a comment I (35f) left on someone else’s recent post. We’re working on it, but I need support in supporting my partner (48m, father of my 2-year-old twins) through his addiction. Anyone who suffers from this or is with someone who suffers from this knows it isn’t something you just talk to anyone about. 1. it’s embarrassing 2. they tend to immediately tell you to write the person off bc they’re “disgusting” and too far gone 3. you love the person and don’t want others to think or talk negatively about them.
Anyway, here is a very, very short summary of what I’m currently dealing with, and what I have dealt with for much longer than my comment (the copy/paste below) portrays.
Idk, I just need someone who gets it. I’ve cried the last two times we’ve had sex because this relapse was the first one that shocked me. I’d truly believed that he was clean, whereas I’d always doubted him before. Now I feel like I have lost the ability to talk freely about my feelings with my best friend, because I don’t want to kick him while he’s down, and everything that needs to be said (for now) has been said. That doesn’t mean the hurt or paranoia (?) just evaporates.
Keep in mind I was replying to someone else, so there are parts that relate directly to that comment.
Here it is (edited to make more sense in this context):
i’ve been deeeep in the trenches with my partner, too. he has been seeing a counselor (who also suffered from porn addiction) on and off for two years. he loves him; that is key. when he sees him weekly, he is good. he has relapsed a few times, despite the “fail safe” of me having complete access to his phone via “myactivity.google.com”. we are logged into his gmail on our respective phones, and even incognito use shows up as “used google chrome”, but it will have no additional details attached, signaling incognito. yes, he has deleted activity during relapses, but sooner or later, they’ll miss something. guarantee it. Tbh, checking his activity online is secondary. His “tells” are setting earlier alarms (more time in the morning while everyone else sleeps), taking an abnormal amount of time “changing the wash over”, constantly having “stomach issues” which cause him to be in the locked bathroom, sometimes for an hour+, and so on.
I know that it’s just like any addiction. HE has to want it. I was addicted to opiates, and I know that no one can force you or convince you to get clean. I also know how hard it is and how easy it is to relapse and justify as “just this one time.” what matters most to me are the following points: 1. he willingly goes to counseling 2. he does not push back on me checking on his usage and instead asks me to please check his activity so he’s less likely to relapse, knowing something could (will) slip through the cracks 3. when he has relapsed, and I called him on it, his very first reaction was to call his counselor. he did not try to justify or lie.
all that being said, i’m at my breaking point. it cannot happen again without him coming to me and telling me he slipped, rather than me finding out on my own. I have asked again and again only for honesty, not perfection. (struggling with my own addiction, I know temptation sometimes wins. it’s not ok, but what’s worse is deceit,) I will not do it again. I cannot let it consume me. He knows I mean it. When I caught him this past time, I did not cry, did not pack bags, did not yell. I told him I was sorry he was overwhelmed enough to feel that relapse was worth it, and I believed in him. but enough was enough, and I would love and support from a distance. (edit: if I’m being honest, this isn’t true. I said all of that in May 2023. we have since moved six states away from everyone we know and love, and everything I own is here. the government won’t pay to ship all of my things back like they paid to get them here when he was hired into his current job. I no longer have a house or a job there, and because public transportation is so readily available, we didn’t replace my car when it had to be scrapped; I have nothing of my own, even though my mom would let us live with her in a heartbeat. I gave him another chance because not doing so was harder. If it happens again, I don’t care about my stuff. The twins and I will go home and stay with my mom. Stuff is stuff. My babies living in a healthy environment is the most important thing in the world to me—my feelings are secondary. for now, staying here is what’s best, as their father and I are continuing to work through it, as outlined below.)
I went as far as to email his counselor, and he (bf) thanked me for it, surprisingly. I knew ethically he couldn’t respond, but I want him to have 100% truth so he could help accordingly. He put my bf on a strict plan, and he has been sticking to it. The most important thing is that he has ZERO phone usage when he is home, except to check bus/metro times or when his daughter, who lives in another state, is playing softball and his ex wife is sending him updates. otherwise, as soon as he steps in the door, it goes straight to the drawer. (he works at the pentagon in a division that requires top secret clearance, so his phone is not on him during the day and he clearly cannot indulge in that environment).
I fully understand that this has nothing to do with me or his love for me or attraction to me. we have sex often, it’s passionate and fulfilling for us both. not to get too personal, I just want to state that I know he enjoys it, because we typically will have sex for an hour+, and he cums an average of six times. I know he sometimes doesn’t even masturbate (very likely often no erection) when watching. I mean, he’ll turn it on for three mins if he gets the chance, just to get the dopamine hit. it’s that hit of dopamine and, as fucked up as it is, a sort of “companionship” (bf’s word) that requires no effort that keeps the hold on him.
there is much more to the backstory, including him being raped (let’s called it what it is, it was not assault) when he was 10. a 17-year-old girl decided to “teach him what girls like”, which ultimately led to her “showing him” how to have sex. again, he was 10. she was 17. He also did two combat tours in Iraq. there is just so much trauma, but these are all reasons, not excuses. If someone does reach out to me, I’ll share aspects of our relationship that are also relevant.
Anyway…does anyone want to talk? This is my throwaway, but I still get alerts.
apologies for typos or just generally shitty writing—I don’t feel like going back to reread everything.
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Anyway, here is a very, very short summary of what I’m currently dealing with, and what I have dealt with for much longer than my comment (the copy/paste below) portrays.
Idk, I just need someone who gets it. I’ve cried the last two times we’ve had sex because this relapse was the first one that shocked me. I’d truly believed that he was clean, whereas I’d always doubted him before. Now I feel like I have lost the ability to talk freely about my feelings with my best friend, because I don’t want to kick him while he’s down, and everything that needs to be said (for now) has been said. That doesn’t mean the hurt or paranoia (?) just evaporates.
Keep in mind I was replying to someone else, so there are parts that relate directly to that comment.
Here it is (edited to make more sense in this context):
i’ve been deeeep in the trenches with my partner, too. he has been seeing a counselor (who also suffered from porn addiction) on and off for two years. he loves him; that is key. when he sees him weekly, he is good. he has relapsed a few times, despite the “fail safe” of me having complete access to his phone via “myactivity.google.com”. we are logged into his gmail on our respective phones, and even incognito use shows up as “used google chrome”, but it will have no additional details attached, signaling incognito. yes, he has deleted activity during relapses, but sooner or later, they’ll miss something. guarantee it. Tbh, checking his activity online is secondary. His “tells” are setting earlier alarms (more time in the morning while everyone else sleeps), taking an abnormal amount of time “changing the wash over”, constantly having “stomach issues” which cause him to be in the locked bathroom, sometimes for an hour+, and so on.
I know that it’s just like any addiction. HE has to want it. I was addicted to opiates, and I know that no one can force you or convince you to get clean. I also know how hard it is and how easy it is to relapse and justify as “just this one time.” what matters most to me are the following points: 1. he willingly goes to counseling 2. he does not push back on me checking on his usage and instead asks me to please check his activity so he’s less likely to relapse, knowing something could (will) slip through the cracks 3. when he has relapsed, and I called him on it, his very first reaction was to call his counselor. he did not try to justify or lie.
all that being said, i’m at my breaking point. it cannot happen again without him coming to me and telling me he slipped, rather than me finding out on my own. I have asked again and again only for honesty, not perfection. (struggling with my own addiction, I know temptation sometimes wins. it’s not ok, but what’s worse is deceit,) I will not do it again. I cannot let it consume me. He knows I mean it. When I caught him this past time, I did not cry, did not pack bags, did not yell. I told him I was sorry he was overwhelmed enough to feel that relapse was worth it, and I believed in him. but enough was enough, and I would love and support from a distance. (edit: if I’m being honest, this isn’t true. I said all of that in May 2023. we have since moved six states away from everyone we know and love, and everything I own is here. the government won’t pay to ship all of my things back like they paid to get them here when he was hired into his current job. I no longer have a house or a job there, and because public transportation is so readily available, we didn’t replace my car when it had to be scrapped; I have nothing of my own, even though my mom would let us live with her in a heartbeat. I gave him another chance because not doing so was harder. If it happens again, I don’t care about my stuff. The twins and I will go home and stay with my mom. Stuff is stuff. My babies living in a healthy environment is the most important thing in the world to me—my feelings are secondary. for now, staying here is what’s best, as their father and I are continuing to work through it, as outlined below.)
I went as far as to email his counselor, and he (bf) thanked me for it, surprisingly. I knew ethically he couldn’t respond, but I want him to have 100% truth so he could help accordingly. He put my bf on a strict plan, and he has been sticking to it. The most important thing is that he has ZERO phone usage when he is home, except to check bus/metro times or when his daughter, who lives in another state, is playing softball and his ex wife is sending him updates. otherwise, as soon as he steps in the door, it goes straight to the drawer. (he works at the pentagon in a division that requires top secret clearance, so his phone is not on him during the day and he clearly cannot indulge in that environment).
I fully understand that this has nothing to do with me or his love for me or attraction to me. we have sex often, it’s passionate and fulfilling for us both. not to get too personal, I just want to state that I know he enjoys it, because we typically will have sex for an hour+, and he cums an average of six times. I know he sometimes doesn’t even masturbate (very likely often no erection) when watching. I mean, he’ll turn it on for three mins if he gets the chance, just to get the dopamine hit. it’s that hit of dopamine and, as fucked up as it is, a sort of “companionship” (bf’s word) that requires no effort that keeps the hold on him.
there is much more to the backstory, including him being raped (let’s called it what it is, it was not assault) when he was 10. a 17-year-old girl decided to “teach him what girls like”, which ultimately led to her “showing him” how to have sex. again, he was 10. she was 17. He also did two combat tours in Iraq. there is just so much trauma, but these are all reasons, not excuses. If someone does reach out to me, I’ll share aspects of our relationship that are also relevant.
Anyway…does anyone want to talk? This is my throwaway, but I still get alerts.
apologies for typos or just generally shitty writing—I don’t feel like going back to reread everything.
2024.05.14 18:36 Main-Ad-5922 Looking for Co-Renters
Co-Renter Wanted! Please read the entire post!(:
Seeking a fellow creative soul ideally around my age (24) to share a living space where we can both pay around a comfortable $500-750 each in rent. ($1,000-1,400: would be the units ideal rent-total that we would split evenly)
I am open to living in ideally New England, but here are specific states I am most inclined to. (Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania, New York, Rhode Island, Connecticut, or potentially other states in a close proximity.)
Im aiming to create an environment thats inspiring and comfortable for the both of us!
A bit about myself: Im a (m)24yr Old enthusiast of HipHop, often writing and recording music of my own. Photography is another passion of mine, and I work within the media industry, balancing a few freelance gigs on the side!
I lead a pretty low key, simple and quiet lifestyle, not much of a social butterfly outside of the house. Dont have to worry about any family visits and a friend or two might by once in a long while. While I am I'm 420 friendly, I do prefer no pets in our shared living space, but I am flexible. And above all, I really value cleanliness and tidiness in our shared space, maybe even some mutual rules to make sure we’re comfortable.
I'm looking for someone who appreciates a peaceful atmosphere, isnt inclined to frequent hosting, and respects the calm of our Potential home. The goal is to have an affordable living arrangement where we both can feel at ease and free to enjoy every part of our home.
Just wanted to be a extra specific that I have not found a specific 2-bedroom unit in New England yet. However, Im aiming for a budget of around $1,000-$1,500 per month.
If you're still interested in joining forces to find our perfect shared space, let's keep in touch and work together to hunt down an awesome place that fits our needs and budget. We'll make it happen! 🤞
Looking forward to embarking on this exciting journey with you!
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Seeking a fellow creative soul ideally around my age (24) to share a living space where we can both pay around a comfortable $500-750 each in rent. ($1,000-1,400: would be the units ideal rent-total that we would split evenly)
I am open to living in ideally New England, but here are specific states I am most inclined to. (Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania, New York, Rhode Island, Connecticut, or potentially other states in a close proximity.)
Im aiming to create an environment thats inspiring and comfortable for the both of us!
A bit about myself: Im a (m)24yr Old enthusiast of HipHop, often writing and recording music of my own. Photography is another passion of mine, and I work within the media industry, balancing a few freelance gigs on the side!
I lead a pretty low key, simple and quiet lifestyle, not much of a social butterfly outside of the house. Dont have to worry about any family visits and a friend or two might by once in a long while. While I am I'm 420 friendly, I do prefer no pets in our shared living space, but I am flexible. And above all, I really value cleanliness and tidiness in our shared space, maybe even some mutual rules to make sure we’re comfortable.
I'm looking for someone who appreciates a peaceful atmosphere, isnt inclined to frequent hosting, and respects the calm of our Potential home. The goal is to have an affordable living arrangement where we both can feel at ease and free to enjoy every part of our home.
If you're still interested in joining forces to find our perfect shared space, let's keep in touch and work together to hunt down an awesome place that fits our needs and budget. We'll make it happen! 🤞
Looking forward to embarking on this exciting journey with you!
2024.05.14 18:36 ValuableFrosty2287 Girlfriend
Hello. I’m making this post because I am unsure of what to do. I’m 17 and my girlfriend is 16. We’re very close but are long distance. (4 hour drive) Her mother (actually her grandma technically??) has been abusive towards her up until she was 14. The last time she was physically abused her mom grabbed her hair and made her stare at her. It was much worse before that. When she was around 10, she was hit with charger cords and slapped and had dishes thrown at her. She had bruises but always said they were from other things. After being abused, she was bought things to keep her quiet I assume. Such as stuffed animals because her mom felt “bad.” She would also do this thing to her where after hitting her she would sit her down and say “give me your pain.” And hold her head against hers. I assume the only reason she stopped hitting her is because she knows she’d tell people now. I used to stay at her house for a week at a time. She has 2 brothers, I believe 8 and 10, who I would wake up to every morning screaming as they’re getting hit with spoons and slapped. I saw the youngest with a large bruise on his face. They used to do in person school, now they only do online, likely because of their mom hitting them and her not wanting to be caught. I had known about her hitting her brothers for a while but I hadn’t stayed at her house until August. It was seriously every single morning. I also knew about the abuse she received since middle school as she had told me about it then. We were very close friends. This past week, maybe more, her mom has been very rude towards her. She’d call her things like ugly and ignore her when she tried to talk to her. This current fight is about someone in Walmart giving my girlfriend 40 dollars to buy a shirt she wanted. She didn’t ask, it was just a kind person. She ended up getting a cheaper one as the one that was 40 ended up being too big for her. Her mom freaked out on her and said she was misusing his generosity. Saying she was an ugly person. Yesterday, she came into her room and lectured her about the money. She was screaming at her and saying she’s a selfish brat. She also brought up how she didn’t get her a gift for Mother’s Day. I heard all of this because I happened to call her right before her mom walked in. She came in and said something like,” are we going to talk about this?” My girlfriend wasn’t really saying anything as she’s very passive with her mom. After a bit, her mom was going crazy and screaming at her that she loves her no matter how mean she is to her?? Now, before we had called, we had been talking on text and she had been bringing up all the abuse things her mom has done. I assume my girlfriend was checking something on her phone and hung up so her mom didn’t see us on call. I only know what she told me on Xbox as they forgot to take that away—-
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2024.05.14 18:36 4ZRA31 22 [M4F] #Sweden/anywhere Let's give this another shoot shall we?
Hello! I wanna say that i'm open to F and tF, i just don't think R4R let's you put more in the brackets.
I'm a (soon) 22 year old swedish guy. on the lookout for a relationship. i have been single for quite a while now. a long while acually. and it feels terrible i'm not gonna lie. i feel very lonely and giving/taking affection on a daily basis is something i miss alot.
so what more about me than the fact that i'm 21. I don't really look the part but i'm acually quite a nerd, i love fantasy and sci fi stuff. reading, writing, gaming. all of that are hobbies i like. I also recently picked up Warhammer 40k if you know what that is. i also exercise on a regular basis and i keep myself in good shape. that's also something i value in others, maybe not exercise to lose weight but keep your body healthy.
for looks i'm blonde with short hair. next to no facial hair since i think i look horrendous in it. green eyes, white skin. pretty tall standing at 6'0(i'm not adding anything like some guys do). i like to think i'm kind, respectful and try to help wherever and whenever i can. no matter how heavy or light the problem is.
I'm looking for someone who compliments or matches my personality. i tend to prefer older girls but age is just a number and that's why we go from 18 and up untill we can't count anymore. location is not impirtant, if we click and wanna go beyond LDR when the time comes we fix that problem then.
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I'm a (soon) 22 year old swedish guy. on the lookout for a relationship. i have been single for quite a while now. a long while acually. and it feels terrible i'm not gonna lie. i feel very lonely and giving/taking affection on a daily basis is something i miss alot.
so what more about me than the fact that i'm 21. I don't really look the part but i'm acually quite a nerd, i love fantasy and sci fi stuff. reading, writing, gaming. all of that are hobbies i like. I also recently picked up Warhammer 40k if you know what that is. i also exercise on a regular basis and i keep myself in good shape. that's also something i value in others, maybe not exercise to lose weight but keep your body healthy.
for looks i'm blonde with short hair. next to no facial hair since i think i look horrendous in it. green eyes, white skin. pretty tall standing at 6'0(i'm not adding anything like some guys do). i like to think i'm kind, respectful and try to help wherever and whenever i can. no matter how heavy or light the problem is.
I'm looking for someone who compliments or matches my personality. i tend to prefer older girls but age is just a number and that's why we go from 18 and up untill we can't count anymore. location is not impirtant, if we click and wanna go beyond LDR when the time comes we fix that problem then.
2024.05.14 18:35 I_AM_YOUR_MOTHERR Is there ANY conceivable way to tell a colleague that they need to control their body odour without it being awkward forever after?
Title.
It's a person I enjoy being around (just not too close) and don't want to lose the workplace friendship/banter, but they do stink. Most of the time it's not an issue, but if we have to share a space, it's quite unpleasant.
They are also from a very different culture, so I don't know if I would be acting insensitive or even offensive
If I myself smelled bad, I would be thankful if someone told me (has happened during puberty, albeit at school, not work), and I'm comfortable because one of my closest friends works with me, so I know I can rely on her if there is something wrong. But if it wasn't her, just a random amicable colleague, I would be incredibly embarrassed
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It's a person I enjoy being around (just not too close) and don't want to lose the workplace friendship/banter, but they do stink. Most of the time it's not an issue, but if we have to share a space, it's quite unpleasant.
They are also from a very different culture, so I don't know if I would be acting insensitive or even offensive
If I myself smelled bad, I would be thankful if someone told me (has happened during puberty, albeit at school, not work), and I'm comfortable because one of my closest friends works with me, so I know I can rely on her if there is something wrong. But if it wasn't her, just a random amicable colleague, I would be incredibly embarrassed
2024.05.14 18:35 National-Bluebird165 Urobuchi and Love That Wanted To Be Seen
Spoiler for every Uro works
I think one of the thing that people describe Urobuchi works and relationships as Twisted. Madoka being the poster child of the "Toxic girlfriends" but maybe because I am Killer 69 I think its trying to say Love that want to be acknowledged of course I am not the only one who observe this heck for some it may be no shit sherlock observation but to me it really become compelling when we see theme of Love that wanted to be seen is in almost every Urobuchi work. Kariya in Fate Zero , Ruili in Kikokugai and Cal in Phantom Of Inferno , Saya from Saya No Uta ... This is a VN subreddit so I will not talk about Kariya but Ruili , Saya , Cal I would focus on them.
I don't remember much from Saya No Uta since i saw it from a very very very young age and haven't re read it since then but I still remember Saya was lonely throughout her life for first time through Fumenori Saya form relationship she found someone to cry with , She found someone to love with and spend her final moment with .... I think most beautiful aspect about Saya I feel was that lonely girl for first time feel something essentially she was in the basement for most of her life she must be isolated. I remember how sad she was before she meet Fuminori she wanted to be loved she must wanted to be someone who belong to someone and she found it through Fuminori.
Ruili and Cal are different from Saya I feel like in case of Saya through her loneliness I am assuming she wanted to be loved. The case here ain't like that Ruili wanted Tauluo/Cal wanted Reiji this make some scenes really fucking hilarious especially in Kikokugai.
Since Liu Haojun is visiting to doll Ruili talking so fucking kindly to her so gently to her but inside that man is burning like really burning he is bitter about Taoluo that not only he fumble the bag but unintentionally ntr him. Like Kikokugai with hindsight is story about bag forcefully coming so main character don't fumble it again ..... Just kidding ..... or am I 😈. I think though before we get to Ruili it's kinda necessary to talk about Liu Haojun cause beside me joking about this scenario he kinda represents the theme of love that wanted to be seem , he in fact represents that too painfully. He did all kind of monstrous action and become a villain because of love , That is really painful but kinda beautiful.
Anyways back to Ruili I do think that ending scene is really beautiful a sick twisted controlled world where love that was never seen becomes acknowledged it was Madoka rebellion 11 year before it happen. I think the twist at Kikokugai ending isn't for everyone to put it kindly but maybe I am fucked in head that was really beautiful to me. The lover that wanted to be seen force the other person who have strong feelings but is kinda blind to it to see the actual love at the end is in that paradise. Ruili force her love by making Taoluo travel hell so he could see it she demand blood , she demand flash , she demands everything from him so he could become one with her.
Last one is my personal favourite from Phantom Of Inferno obviously Cal have her own route where her love was legitimately recognized .... but I like my messy Urobuchi so my favourite moment from Cal happen at end of Phantom Of Inferno. Cal is pathetic to put it bluntly she learns the reason why Reiji left her cause he thought she was dead but she is angry because he is blind he didn't see her love. She feel she is abandoned cause her love was never seen. So in her final moment when she fights him she lost to him and Reiji kill her and when Reiji kill her he is crying for her and that to her the love was really recognized and it was always there she is happy to know that in her final moment of her life and that my friend is beautiful. It's simple but it's the most effective one out of everything we see who Cal is someone who lost people who care for her twice she lost the people whom she loved and never realize what Dynamic of relationship they have she is just bitter a lost child who is hurt. Like this is not explanation but I do feel like she age herself to charm Reiji again I could be 100% wrong ... but yeah one of the best scene in Phantom Of Inferno is Ruili walking around on streets of Tokyo just being bitter that her love was never recognized that scene really hits with hindsight.
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I think one of the thing that people describe Urobuchi works and relationships as Twisted. Madoka being the poster child of the "Toxic girlfriends" but maybe because I am Killer 69 I think its trying to say Love that want to be acknowledged of course I am not the only one who observe this heck for some it may be no shit sherlock observation but to me it really become compelling when we see theme of Love that wanted to be seen is in almost every Urobuchi work. Kariya in Fate Zero , Ruili in Kikokugai and Cal in Phantom Of Inferno , Saya from Saya No Uta ... This is a VN subreddit so I will not talk about Kariya but Ruili , Saya , Cal I would focus on them.
I don't remember much from Saya No Uta since i saw it from a very very very young age and haven't re read it since then but I still remember Saya was lonely throughout her life for first time through Fumenori Saya form relationship she found someone to cry with , She found someone to love with and spend her final moment with .... I think most beautiful aspect about Saya I feel was that lonely girl for first time feel something essentially she was in the basement for most of her life she must be isolated. I remember how sad she was before she meet Fuminori she wanted to be loved she must wanted to be someone who belong to someone and she found it through Fuminori.
Ruili and Cal are different from Saya I feel like in case of Saya through her loneliness I am assuming she wanted to be loved. The case here ain't like that Ruili wanted Tauluo/Cal wanted Reiji this make some scenes really fucking hilarious especially in Kikokugai.
Since Liu Haojun is visiting to doll Ruili talking so fucking kindly to her so gently to her but inside that man is burning like really burning he is bitter about Taoluo that not only he fumble the bag but unintentionally ntr him. Like Kikokugai with hindsight is story about bag forcefully coming so main character don't fumble it again ..... Just kidding ..... or am I 😈. I think though before we get to Ruili it's kinda necessary to talk about Liu Haojun cause beside me joking about this scenario he kinda represents the theme of love that wanted to be seem , he in fact represents that too painfully. He did all kind of monstrous action and become a villain because of love , That is really painful but kinda beautiful.
Anyways back to Ruili I do think that ending scene is really beautiful a sick twisted controlled world where love that was never seen becomes acknowledged it was Madoka rebellion 11 year before it happen. I think the twist at Kikokugai ending isn't for everyone to put it kindly but maybe I am fucked in head that was really beautiful to me. The lover that wanted to be seen force the other person who have strong feelings but is kinda blind to it to see the actual love at the end is in that paradise. Ruili force her love by making Taoluo travel hell so he could see it she demand blood , she demand flash , she demands everything from him so he could become one with her.
Last one is my personal favourite from Phantom Of Inferno obviously Cal have her own route where her love was legitimately recognized .... but I like my messy Urobuchi so my favourite moment from Cal happen at end of Phantom Of Inferno. Cal is pathetic to put it bluntly she learns the reason why Reiji left her cause he thought she was dead but she is angry because he is blind he didn't see her love. She feel she is abandoned cause her love was never seen. So in her final moment when she fights him she lost to him and Reiji kill her and when Reiji kill her he is crying for her and that to her the love was really recognized and it was always there she is happy to know that in her final moment of her life and that my friend is beautiful. It's simple but it's the most effective one out of everything we see who Cal is someone who lost people who care for her twice she lost the people whom she loved and never realize what Dynamic of relationship they have she is just bitter a lost child who is hurt. Like this is not explanation but I do feel like she age herself to charm Reiji again I could be 100% wrong ... but yeah one of the best scene in Phantom Of Inferno is Ruili walking around on streets of Tokyo just being bitter that her love was never recognized that scene really hits with hindsight.
2024.05.14 18:35 IncognitoFriend567 Essay tips for a sensitive topic
Hi there.
I have to write a 5-page essay, excluding the cover page, abstract, and the references page for a college class. It is about a sensitive topic (Illegal Immigration in the US). I am really good at essays, but this topic is making me feel nervous because I need to focus on the bad things...
Is there something you all think I need to include on it?
Any advices would be appreciated!
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I have to write a 5-page essay, excluding the cover page, abstract, and the references page for a college class. It is about a sensitive topic (Illegal Immigration in the US). I am really good at essays, but this topic is making me feel nervous because I need to focus on the bad things...
Is there something you all think I need to include on it?
Any advices would be appreciated!
2024.05.14 18:35 Saint_Bastion_ There’s only so many ways I can tell you “that isn’t my job” before I snap. Today I snapped.
I’ll try to keep this simple and short as possible but there is some explaining required.
My IT department does not support printers in my company beyond basic installation and making sure they’re connected to the network. This is because every god d*mn company has settings and configuration menus and processes for their products arranged in their own specific ways and we have too many issues to worry about then those printers.
For the CEOs Admin department of my company, they have a new copier and scanner they have purchased. A few weeks ago, I set up the printer, it was connected to the network 👍 my job is done, people can print and scan.
The reception for the CEOs department called me today asking for someone to be on sight. When I asked why, she said it was because she said the vendor technician was visiting to enable an auditing feature. I told her that we don’t support that, but apparently the vendor insisted an IT rep be there so for ease of mind I went.
The vendor was able to square away things on the copiers no problem, but there was a step that involved making sure every user connected to this printer copier enable a setting within printing preferences so that the copier recognizes the jobs received as approved. The receptionist insisted I learn this process so I can show others, and I told her no, we don’t support it.
USUALLY, I’m a nice guy, and will do it anyway. But when the printers were first set up I got in trouble for something similar with another feature they wanted enabled that I worked on. My boss very explicitly told me in the future not to say yes.
Fast forward to today- I’m setting boundaries, and informed her the CEO and my boss already designated someone in their office to be the person to learn this process and help people with it, but she kept arguing with me. She was giving me sass. She accused me first of not doing my job, then said why does the person in their department not get two paychecks for doing IT and their normal role.
Finally, I snapped, and said “I’m going to go. I’m not explaining my job to you.”
As I started to walk away, the receptionist said “you did explain your job” to which I responded “yet you’re not understanding it”.
I think I’m going to get reported by her and maybe in trouble because it’s the CEO admin receptionist not a normal one. But I couldn’t help it. I can only tell you so many times, previously and today, that this isn’t my job. I guess today I snapped.
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My IT department does not support printers in my company beyond basic installation and making sure they’re connected to the network. This is because every god d*mn company has settings and configuration menus and processes for their products arranged in their own specific ways and we have too many issues to worry about then those printers.
For the CEOs Admin department of my company, they have a new copier and scanner they have purchased. A few weeks ago, I set up the printer, it was connected to the network 👍 my job is done, people can print and scan.
The reception for the CEOs department called me today asking for someone to be on sight. When I asked why, she said it was because she said the vendor technician was visiting to enable an auditing feature. I told her that we don’t support that, but apparently the vendor insisted an IT rep be there so for ease of mind I went.
The vendor was able to square away things on the copiers no problem, but there was a step that involved making sure every user connected to this printer copier enable a setting within printing preferences so that the copier recognizes the jobs received as approved. The receptionist insisted I learn this process so I can show others, and I told her no, we don’t support it.
USUALLY, I’m a nice guy, and will do it anyway. But when the printers were first set up I got in trouble for something similar with another feature they wanted enabled that I worked on. My boss very explicitly told me in the future not to say yes.
Fast forward to today- I’m setting boundaries, and informed her the CEO and my boss already designated someone in their office to be the person to learn this process and help people with it, but she kept arguing with me. She was giving me sass. She accused me first of not doing my job, then said why does the person in their department not get two paychecks for doing IT and their normal role.
Finally, I snapped, and said “I’m going to go. I’m not explaining my job to you.”
As I started to walk away, the receptionist said “you did explain your job” to which I responded “yet you’re not understanding it”.
I think I’m going to get reported by her and maybe in trouble because it’s the CEO admin receptionist not a normal one. But I couldn’t help it. I can only tell you so many times, previously and today, that this isn’t my job. I guess today I snapped.
2024.05.14 18:35 CawfeePig I have an incredibly nerdy question about how reruns are updated...
Bear with me, because this question will probably take some brain power to understand, but I really want to get to the bottom of this so I can understand how TAL does reruns.
First, some info on how I listen... I started listening to TAL in college (around 2007) through my local public radio station. This was usually when I just so happened to be driving on a Saturday when it was on. I really fell in love with it, and somewhere around 2014, I started listening in the dedicated app. This made it easy to track which episodes I'd heard.
At some point, I realized the app wasn't doing a great job of tracking what I'd heard. If I'd checked an episode as heard and then it became a rerun, it would unmark it when that episode moved back to it's original place from the top of the list. Because of this, I started a spreadsheet to keep track of which episodes I've heard and just started listening in Overcast with my other shows.
This is what I've been doing for a long time now. I usually just listen when a new episode comes out, but if it's a rerun, I will check my spreadsheet to see if I've heard it before, and if not, I will listen and check it off.
I recently realized I can download episodes from the website and upload them into Overcast very easily. So, I am finally going to try to fill in the gaps and listen to every episode I've missed (which is quite a few).
My question about reruns... This is something I've been trying to wrap my mind around for years but have never understood. When a rerun comes on the show, they will sometimes give it a brand new episode number. When this happens, it seems like they go back to the original episode and put the OG year in parenthesis. For example, they've done this TWICE with "Fiasco!," so now there is "61: Fiasco! (1997)," "510: Fiasco! 2013," and "699: Fiasco!" This is a little messy, but at least it makes sense and it's easy to cross reference to see what sections are new.
I'm sure some of you know where I'm going with this...
OTHER times, they will do a more conventional rerun, where the episode maintains its original number but it seems like certain sections of the rerun have been updated. The intros, for example. I'll start a rerun, listen to Ira do his intro for a while thinking it was from the OG episode, and then he will say something like, "we originally aired this in..." and I'll realize the entire intro is new.
It seems like when these reruns eventually fall back to their original places in the archive, they maintain the new intros. Sometimes I think it's just the introduction while other times they add additional context or updates after certain stories. Is this the case? Will a rerun episode always be updated in the archive? In other words, is there no way to hear the original intros to these episodes? The intros are lengthy sometimes, and I'm curious what Ira recorded back when they originally aired.
And what about the outros? These seem to be updated too. What about his little Torey Malatia jokes? Are those all re-recorded in the updated reruns? Does he actually change the jokes?
This all seems so inconsequential when I write it out like this, but a big appeal of listening to old episodes is hearing them in their original context. I'm in my 30s, and I wasn't even 10 when this show started. There is something cozy about listening to old radio, and now I'm curious if the original versions of the reruns are being preserved in any way.
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First, some info on how I listen... I started listening to TAL in college (around 2007) through my local public radio station. This was usually when I just so happened to be driving on a Saturday when it was on. I really fell in love with it, and somewhere around 2014, I started listening in the dedicated app. This made it easy to track which episodes I'd heard.
At some point, I realized the app wasn't doing a great job of tracking what I'd heard. If I'd checked an episode as heard and then it became a rerun, it would unmark it when that episode moved back to it's original place from the top of the list. Because of this, I started a spreadsheet to keep track of which episodes I've heard and just started listening in Overcast with my other shows.
This is what I've been doing for a long time now. I usually just listen when a new episode comes out, but if it's a rerun, I will check my spreadsheet to see if I've heard it before, and if not, I will listen and check it off.
I recently realized I can download episodes from the website and upload them into Overcast very easily. So, I am finally going to try to fill in the gaps and listen to every episode I've missed (which is quite a few).
My question about reruns... This is something I've been trying to wrap my mind around for years but have never understood. When a rerun comes on the show, they will sometimes give it a brand new episode number. When this happens, it seems like they go back to the original episode and put the OG year in parenthesis. For example, they've done this TWICE with "Fiasco!," so now there is "61: Fiasco! (1997)," "510: Fiasco! 2013," and "699: Fiasco!" This is a little messy, but at least it makes sense and it's easy to cross reference to see what sections are new.
I'm sure some of you know where I'm going with this...
OTHER times, they will do a more conventional rerun, where the episode maintains its original number but it seems like certain sections of the rerun have been updated. The intros, for example. I'll start a rerun, listen to Ira do his intro for a while thinking it was from the OG episode, and then he will say something like, "we originally aired this in..." and I'll realize the entire intro is new.
It seems like when these reruns eventually fall back to their original places in the archive, they maintain the new intros. Sometimes I think it's just the introduction while other times they add additional context or updates after certain stories. Is this the case? Will a rerun episode always be updated in the archive? In other words, is there no way to hear the original intros to these episodes? The intros are lengthy sometimes, and I'm curious what Ira recorded back when they originally aired.
And what about the outros? These seem to be updated too. What about his little Torey Malatia jokes? Are those all re-recorded in the updated reruns? Does he actually change the jokes?
This all seems so inconsequential when I write it out like this, but a big appeal of listening to old episodes is hearing them in their original context. I'm in my 30s, and I wasn't even 10 when this show started. There is something cozy about listening to old radio, and now I'm curious if the original versions of the reruns are being preserved in any way.