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Hi Riddit,
I'm reaching out because I've recently made a significant mistake that I fear may have jeopardized my future, and I'm struggling to cope with the aftermath.
To give some context, my family does not have high expectations; it's more about the challenges I face due to my vision and the energy I expend in school. My uncontrollable emotions often make it difficult for me to feel like I deserve to be part of this family.
During the first three hours of reflection, I found myself spiraling into dark thoughts, including thoughts of how I do not deserve this amazing family or my parents. While no one in my family has directly expressed disappointment, I can't help but feel this way given the support and time my parents have invested in me.
In the subsequent five hours, I decided against self-harm, realizing that it was a rash decision and I needed to wait. I'm facing potential consequences like expulsion or suspension, and I feel like I keep alternating between doing well and then messing up in a matter of months. I'm struggling to gather my thoughts and emotions.
On top of this, my mom is currently in the hospital, which adds to my stress and emotional turmoil. I'm waiting to talk to my dad later about the situation, hoping for some guidance and support.
I'm making a conscious effort to refrain from self-harm during this challenging time and focusing on activities that bring me joy and comfort.
I want to make it clear that I'm not justifying my actions—I know what I did was wrong. What I need right now is support and guidance. I feel lost and unsure about how to proceed.
I'm hoping for the best and plan to provide updates weekly on my situation. I feel like I've disappointed my family, and I struggle to match up to their expectations. Whenever things start going well for me, my emotions seem to get the best of me.
Please, if anyone has advice or words of encouragement, I would greatly appreciate it. I'm open to suggestions on what steps I can take next to navigate this difficult situation.
Thank you all for listening.

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I (22F) exercise about 4 times a week (for at least 45 minutes), and even on days that I don’t work out I average about 7,000 steps a day from walking around campus. I’m not on any kind of diet but I try to make healthy choices, it’s not like I’m having dessert every day and I usually skip breakfast. I’m not super skinny but I’m at a healthy weight. My mother is very concerned with diets and weight loss. For my entire life she has been pushing this agenda.
Today she brought up a “fitness program” her friend did that was amazing and “gave him six pack abs.” She asked if I would be interested in trying it. I do enjoy trying different workout classes, so I asked for more information. From her elaboration, I garnered that it wasn’t a workout class and was more so a combination of personal training plus working with a nutritionist, where you take pictures of everything you eat to show the nutritionist, analyze why you chose to eat those things, get a personalized diet plan, etc. She then offered to pay for me to join this program.
I was not interested. I don’t fuck with food restriction or food guilt at all. I don’t want to track everything I eat or analyze those choices. Food is one of my favorite things in life. Grad school and my new job are stressful enough and I’m not taking away something that brings me joy. I also used to religiously calorie count (losing 30 pounds in a few months) and I don’t think it was good for me— I felt okay but my girlfriend at the time said my behavior reminder her of her brother who was hospitalized for an eating disorder, and convinced me to stop calorie counting.
I sort of flippantly said to my mom that I wasn’t really interested in doing any “food tracking eating disorder shit”, which I admit was maybe a childish way to describe the program she had pitched. My mother got really offended and upset, saying how rude it is that I wouldn’t even consider it, and that she was doing a nice thing by offering to pay for something so expensive for me (apparently it’s like $4000). I feel bad because she was offering to do something nice for me maybe I should have heard her out more. She was clearly upset the rest of the night and I overheard her complaining to my dad about it. I just knew immediately that this was something I would HATE doing, and weight loss is not important enough to me for me to commit to something like that. If it was just a workout program that would be one thing, but any kind of diet or food tracking is a no go for me. And I kind of feel like if it’s so important to her then she should pay to do it for herself, not force it on me (she’s always complaining about the weight she’s gained and her old clothes not fitting). AITA for the flippant way that I reacted to her offer?

At some point in the not-so-distant future, I will release a book that I am working on. It is tentatively entitled Take Care, Caretakers. I like the title; however, I’ve been taken with the verbiage in many social media circles that prefer the term “Caregiver” over “Caretaker.” The differences seem semantic at first glance; however, upon closer consideration, there is something generous in “caregiver,” while something seems selfish in “caretaker.” Give versus take seems like a plain and literal difference.
As I’ve been writing through this 122-Day Writing Challenge, I’ve adopted the term caregiver over caretaker. I am starting to question that now. To say we are givers highlights the inherent problem many of us find ourselves in. We are chronic givers to a fault. Giving is not just the only thing (action) we know; it’s often the only thing (action) we feel comfortable and confident doing. We are prime candidates for co-dependency, self-loathing, and an overall sense that we lack value. After all, our society shows little regard for those who give care. Don’t believe me? Just look at our broken systems in pre-K education, geriatric care, and nursing homes. “They” say there are not enough workers to fill those jobs. Does anyone care to guess why that might be?
It is time for the givers of the world to start taking. Taking credit for the work we do. Take ourselves seriously because no one else will until we do it first. It is time that we change the paradigm of only giving care. Yes, we give care, but we don’t give ourselves away in the process. We take the joy, the gratitude, and the growth that is there for us in our work. We take our boundaries seriously and take the necessary steps to enforce those boundaries when necessary.
The work we do is special and specialized. There are many professional caretakers: nurses, teachers, therapists, clergy, etc. And there are even more caretakers who are volunteers–usually unwitting family members who are drafted into this service. But for many of us, this service is a life-changing gift we cannot trade, no matter how much we wish we could.
So, I stand by my original verbiage: “Take Care, Caretakers.” I stand by it because I am declaring it as a challenge.

So me and my girlfriend, both 17, have finally hit our 1 year 'anniversary'. Even better, it was on our junior prom a few days ago. Anyways. I want to preface this by saying I'm an insecure, overthinking person so please don't throw any extremes in the replies. And sorry for the long post and possible confusion, there's just a lot on my mind
About a week ago, I'd say Tuesday, she started being very very distant. Me and her would talk literally everyday for hours unless it's during her period, I always understand and support her the best I can. She started talking to a group of guys she met of fortnite(12yo to our age). She's been playing with them from after she gets home until really late at night. We text, but the "conversations" either span over a whole day with hour long gaps between replies or she just sends tiktoks and that's it. I said something about it and she said she's sorry, so there's that, but she still did it everyday. I don't ever expect her to reply immediately, but for the times where I respond instantly, I never understand why it takes hours to get back.
It feels like the only times I've talked to her since last Tuesday was when she was super tired in the morning during school and on prom. I don't mean to be mad or upset but I just don't understand. I know that she likes to make friends which I've always been fine with. It's just the fact that she's more or less prioritized them over her boyfriend so easily after just a week.
Even worse is that I don't know how to word how I feel without making her upset. We finally talked today about a few small things, I didn't know how to bring up everything like here, and she told me that everytime I've confronted her about something that bothered me she cried after. I don't ever say anything mean, but I can be passive aggressive over text which is why I hate texting in the first place.
The one thing that kept irking me was that she'd randomly start talking about all of them for super long for no reason. Whenever she did that I just turned myself off so I don't hear it. Not because I don't like that she's happy, but because I genuinely don't care. They are people I don't want to meet or even become friends with them, and that's not her fault. Even during the whole call, she was just playing with them, even after asking me and having me wait to play with her even though we never played. And at the end of the call, she said she's gonna shower and sleep. She said that at 10:30, its almost 12, and she was still playing with them. Yes, I know it's petty even to check that, but it's these tiny little things that get to me.
My biggest question is, am I even allowed to feel anything about this? Am I the bad guy for feeling a certain way about her and friends? Should i just let this play out? Im not trying to make her seem like the bad guy either. My biggest fear is being that controlling/jealous/possessive person, and I feel like that's what I'm tilting towards for feeling this way.

I want a faithful, fun, kink curious, intelligent, attractive, younger lady, open to explore safe sexy real romance that may blossom into intoxicating love. I seek my misses to devote my kisses and some of the best parts of my mind and body, caring, sharing, exploring, holding hands, hugging, making out, making love, creating mutual mind-body bliss. As lustful as I may seem, I feel casual stuff is unsatisfying, risky and leaves one feeling empty. It also seems disrespectful, almost saying someone isn't worthy of more. Why settle for less than the best lover, a deeply, fully satisfying, close friend, partner, even long term or falling for each other if it feels right. I want us to look forward to spending time together, where pleasing is my passion, in and out of the bedroom. It'd be fun to learn and try healthy practices together, exercising, hiking, cooking, massaging, meditations, finding ways to form deeper mental and physical bonding. I'd be curious to try home spa things while having wine, adding in sexy pleasures, like edging, giving oral, suckling you while you're receiving head to feet massages, while you're being pampered with hair, head, face and body skin care moisturizing and mask treatments. Or maybe naked full body massages while we roll around in coconut oil.
I'm mostly mellow, chill, and can be silly with a sarcastic dry sense of humor. I'm white, attractive, in good shape, with grey blue eyes, thick wavy brownish hair, no children, kind of low key edgy artist musician looks that cleans up well. I like to exercise regularly, so it would be nice to try partner stretching, massages, workouts. I want to share in stimulating, creative experiences, appreciation of nature, cultures, arts and architecture around Los Angeles and SoCal. I like to be very affectionate with my lady, while indoors and out, where and when possible for hours at a time, fully satisfying each other. I can take charge, teaching, being patient, learning your favorite thigs, and I can also switch roles, letting you be in control. I'm open to get rough, yet be romantic, as I enjoy giving, praise kinks, sexy talking, edging, oral, filling my lady with love. I go for slim petite with big real curves, up to a very healthy, fuller figure, pinup model type, with other sexy features I'll explain if we chat. I like straight to wavy-curly hair, longer or shorter cuts, but open to whatever. I like a lady who is comfortable to wear little to no makeup around me, who has youthful natural beauty. I'm not into the obvious lip-injected look, enhanced, fake body parts. I'm not anti-makeup, a winged eyeliner and some classic eras beauty styles can look hot. I know my post is saying and asking for a lot, but why not.

I started a new job a few months ago that promised 30% commissions plus tips, job ad stating $250-500 per day.
I’ve was a groomer for a very long time. I did take a break for about 7 years, but I had 10 years under my belt. Vet care experience, as well, so a combined 15 years of experience handling & grooming animals.
This seemed too good to be true based on my experience, but it was mobile, and I’ve heard that it pays very well. I also researched mobile positions in this area after I saw that ad, and they all seemed to promise about the same, so I thought - why not?
I live about an hour away from the “office,” but my plan was that if it worked out, I would move closer. The area she lives in, where the van is parked, is a bit more expensive than where I am, but if I was really making that kind of money, it’d be worth sticking it out for a few months, driving two hours to and from work, and getting home extremely late to my kids until we could move over the summer. I am a single widow with four kids.
At first, it was wonderful and I was making exactly that. She only has one van, but I was getting 4-5 dogs a day on average, with a few 6 dog days in there. Great tips. 30% of paid services. She told me 30% went to her, and 40% to the business.
Then one day she sent me a text with an “oops! 🫣” and said she’d accidentally been overpaying me. She was supposed to be taking out some other business expenses before calculating my commissions. This would essentially remove about 10% of that commission (though she still considered it 30%).
Now I know that most mobile groomers charge a mobile fee to cover cost, but I’m pretty sure it’s not 10% of services rendered. I stuck around because I really liked the job, but it didn’t sit well.
I saw a pretty drastic decrease in pay.
I understand her position. I truly do. But it doesn’t make sense for me to continue to work there if it’s no longer a viable option for me to move closer due to not enough pay. The new pay is something I could make in a local salon weekly working normal hours instead of all the extra driving hours, etc.
So I brought this up to her today. And I hadn’t made my mind up yet what I wanted to do. But she said a couple things that really upset me.
“I went out on a limb to hire you knowing you lived far away.” “What do you expect me to pay, 100K a year?”
So…like…I feel like I’m a pretty experienced groomer with a lot to bring to a company. She graduated her grooming course at the end of last year and bought a van, so I’ve got a bit under my belt to add to a company. Her clients rebooked me like crazy, and I heard, “they’ve never looked so good” on a very regular basis. It was nice to hear that and know I’d retained my skills.
So to feel like suddenly I’m a charity case instead of an experienced groomer who has been waking up at 5:30 every morning to get my kids off and get to her place by 7:30 and work 10-12 hour days, help grow her business, really upset me. I’ve been busting my ass for this person to help her create a lifestyle. I don’t want to work for someone who views me like that.
As for the 100K, that was never an expectation. However, she boasted about being able to make that kind of money with her company, and that’s where my initial pay was leading and would allow me to move closer so I could have a better work life balance. She also promised $250-500 per day in her job ad. And I signed a 30% commission contact.
So I quit. After those statements, I decided I would definitely quit, and I can find a local salon to work at where I may never make the kind of money she promised, but at least I’ll be close to my kids and not working insane hours.
But now I feel terrible. I feel like I’ve abandoned her. I know it was my choice to try this out. I did not put in a two week notice because the schedule is so intense, I won’t have time to look for another job while working the last two weeks. I feel like my time would be better served going door to door at salons and getting my completely neglected home back in order.
If I have to go back to remote corporate work to make the kind of money I need to survive and care for my kids, I will. But I truly do love grooming, and I really wanted this to work.
Am I in the wrong? Did I expect too much? I just can’t rest with this.

I (22F) exercise about 4 times a week (for at least 45 minutes), and even on days that I don’t work out I average about 7,000 steps a day from walking around campus. I’m not on any kind of diet but I try to make healthy choices, it’s not like I’m having dessert every day and I usually skip breakfast. I’m not super skinny but I’m at a healthy weight. My mother is very concerned with diets and weight loss. For my entire life she has been pushing this agenda.
Today she brought up a “fitness program” her friend did that was amazing and “gave him six pack abs.” She asked if I would be interested in trying it. I do enjoy trying different workout classes, so I asked for more information. From her elaboration, I garnered that it wasn’t a workout class and was more so a combination of personal training plus working with a nutritionist, where you take pictures of everything you eat to show the nutritionist, analyze why you chose to eat those things, get a personalized diet plan, etc. She then offered to pay for me to join this program.
I was not interested. I don’t fuck with food restriction or food guilt at all. I don’t want to track everything I eat or analyze those choices. Food is one of my favorite things in life. Grad school and my new job are stressful enough and I’m not taking away something that brings me joy. I also used to religiously calorie count (losing 30 pounds in a few months) and I don’t think it was good for me— I felt okay but my girlfriend at the time said my behavior reminder her of her brother who was hospitalized for an eating disorder, and convinced me to stop calorie counting.
I sort of flippantly said to my mom that I wasn’t really interested in doing any “food tracking eating disorder shit”, which I admit was maybe a childish way to describe the program she had pitched. My mother got really offended and upset, saying how rude it is that I wouldn’t even consider it, and that she was doing a nice thing by offering to pay for something so expensive for me (apparently it’s like $4000). I feel bad because she was offering to do something nice for me maybe I should have heard her out more. She was clearly upset the rest of the night and I overheard her complaining to my dad about it. I just knew immediately that this was something I would HATE doing, and weight loss is not important enough to me for me to commit to something like that. If it was just a workout program that would be one thing, but any kind of diet or food tracking is a no go for me. And I kind of feel like if it’s so important to her then she should pay to do it for herself, not force it on me (she’s always complaining about the weight she’s gained and her old clothes not fitting). AITB for the flippant way that I reacted to her offer?

Last of my favorite coaches left my studio and now I just kinda wanna quit too… Started with a handful of faves at certain times and now there’s none… Anyone else deal with this a lot? I know it’s still the same classes and you can still get a workout regardless but it definitely makes a huge difference who the coach is-for me at least. Super bummed. 🫤

Hi Fat Friends,
Using a burner account for obvious reasons. I am trying to get feedback on our budget to see if we are missing any big categories or oveunderestimating some things. I have tried to compare it to our actual expenses from the last two years and the numbers here are a little higher than our actual spending since this has estimated items like Health Insurance, home maintenance, new car, etc. that are either covered by work or annual portion of estimated spend that would only happen once every few years. We are a couple in 50’s who would like to get out of the rat race in 1-5 years based on how the numbers work for us. A little about us:
Two adults (50M and 49F) and 2 kids living in a VHCOL area – One kid has graduated and starting a job this year, and the other is in college and hopefully will be independent in 4 years. Their college expense is not included in this budget. I would like your feedback on a few items:
1. Feedback/Critique our budget – are we missing any major categories? Are we oveunder estimating any costs? Unfortunately with Mint shutting down, I only have access to the last 2 years of detailed actual spend so feedback from other fat friends will be super helpful. I have broken down the spending for a few categories into Base vs. discretionary spending. The idea is that in case of a market downturn, we would shift to Base spending only. I plan to use “Vanguard Dynamic Spending” as a withdrawal strategy when we FIRE
2. Target net Worth - Based on this spend, and given that the mortgage and property Tax does not need to be inflation-adjusted plus the mortgage rolls off in 22 years, how much do you think we need in investable net worth? I do not think we have enough invested NW right now to FIRE and I would like to get feedback from the community on what would be your comfortable number for someone to retire with this budget to see how far we are. I am intentionally not listing our NW to avoid influencing your candid response to this question.
Here is our projected budget:
CategorySub CategoryCost - BaseCost - Disc Home/BillsMortgage$69,960.00 Property Tax$33,000.00 Home Insurance$4,156.00 Electric + gas$3,000.00 Water$2,400.00 Gardner$2,400.00 Pool$2,000.00 Home Cleaning$3,000.00$1,500.00 Home Maintenance (estimate)$23,000.00 Internet/Phone$300.00 FoodGroceries$10,400.00 Dining Out$10,400.00$10,000.00 TransportationCar Payment (replace every 7 years)$8,571.43$8,500.00 Car Maintenance$1,200.00 Fuel$2,000.00$2,000.00 Car Insurance$4,000.00 Health CareHealth Insurance$24,000.00$10,000.00 Medications$600.00 Doctor and medical services$3,000.00 InsuranceLife Insurance$2,000.00 Long Term Care$2,000.00 Umbrella$600.00 Personal CareClothing$1,200.00 Other Shopping$6,000.00 Hair Cut etc.$6,000.00$3,000.00 Travel/Vacation$30,000.00$30,000.00 Misc.$6,000.00 Gifts$6,000.00$6,000.00 OthersEntertainment/Parties$5,000.00$10,000.00 Hobbies$6,000.00$6,000.00 Person 1 Disc$6,000.00$6,000.00 Person 2 Disc$6,000.00$6,000.00 Total$290,187.43$99,000.00 Total Withdrawl (20% Tax)$348,224.92$118,800.00

Hey there!
I’m an 18yo Male from Australia and I’d love to get some ideas on what I could do to get ahead, start early and be in a better spot in my 20s ect.
I’ve only done some small investing on crypto (nothing serious) and in all honesty probably have lost more than I’ve made. That said, I’m currently in uni, I’m a disability support worker and I make just under $70,000 a year comfortably (before tax).
I’m not that big of a spender and only buy food or go out with mates every now and then so I can easily save over $5000 a month. Now, here is where i’m not entirely sure what the best use of this money should be. I’ve recently just been investing into Cardano (its currently at 68c - 75c AUD, its ATH is $4ish) but i’m not sure if this is a good use of my money. I don’t keep much just sitting in my bank as the interest is not really worth it (I don’t think!).
I am more than capable of looking into things and getting a good grasp / opinion on ideas myself but I’d love to know if anyone has any advice / their own opinions (maybe im doing something wrong).
Let me pick your brains!!
Thanks for reading :)

Hello cat friends!
Here is a little about my cat Holly

• Sex: Female
• Breed: American Medium Hair
• Age: Almost 9
• Weight: 7 lbs
• Spayed or neutered: Yes

History:
I adopted Holly from my grandmother in late January 2024, after my grandfather passed. She could not physically take care of Holly. I didn't know too much about Holly's medical history. My grandmother didn't have many records and the vet she used to take Holly to, didn't have old records because I guess they changed ownership or whatever. My grandparents fed Holly whatever was affordable, mainly Friskies wet food. Apparently these GI issues have been going on for some years.
Food causing issues added GI issues... maybe...???
The vet I took Holly to recommend Purina EN (wet food) since it is meant for GI issues and is high in protein. That way Holly could at least get some nutrition. She was on that for about 1 1/2 months. But didn't see improvement in her GI issues. As of April 27th, 2024, I slowly started transitioning Holly onto Hill Z/D (wet food) to see if a hydrolyzed diet would help.
Holly gets about 1 1/4 of the 5.5oz cans a day.
Week 1: giving her 25% new food with 75% old food. Week 2: 50% new 50% old. However, as over week 2, I've noticed her vomiting seems to be a bit better, but the diarrhea has gotten worse. Holly seems to really like the food, but I don't then it's liking here. I keep a detailed spreadsheet that tracks her bowel movements, vomiting, urination, and other things. Prior to the start of the transition she was having, on average 1 diarrhea a day and 0.5 vomits a day (this is over a recorded 39 days. I got each average by dividing that number of diarrheas or vomits by the number of days). During the transition, she is at an average of 1.41 diarrheas a day and 0.1 vomits a day (over a 17 days period).
I did notice that Hills Z/D is a lot higher in carbs compared to the other foods she was on. So I'm wondering if the carbs are playing a part in some of this. Also, there has been an uptick in her flatulence.
Food Transition Question:
Am I transitioning her too quickly? Most of the answers I found online were showing transitioning to a new food over 10 - 14 days. So I decided to go slower and do 25% increments every 7 days. But, since I've seen some increase in diarrhea while on 50% new 50% old, I haven't increased to 75% new. I'm still at 50% new and 50% old. Should I maybe go back to 25% new and 75% old for a few more weeks?
I am going to ask the vet as well, but I also like to hear from experience of others.
I appreciate if anyone answer any responses that could be helpful.

I’m mainly doing village quests in rise for now and I have a lot of energy at the start but lose it gradually over the quest until I have half of what I started with. Is that just a normal thing? It’s really annoying

So we had a starting base that kinda got out of hand and now we don't know what to do with it because we don't have enough room for stuff but we have too much stuff to move base location before we finish the game, I'm also worried that when we grow big it'll break the whole thing, will that happen?

Hey everyone,
Been racing since 2015, but only started getting serious last year completing all events in the UK finishing up with an Ultra at Pippingford.
Started accruing a decent number of trifectas, getting my x2 etc.
I come to finish my first trifecta of the year last weekend (had an amazing time, sunny too!) And I'm told that the x2, x3, x4 is not for a lifetime achievement, but only for the calender year.
I remember seeing a table/ list of contents that outlined each trifecta multiplier and the rewards that come with it, but for the life of me I can't find a thing...
I love Spartan events, but their online presence and support is pretty damn awful.
Any help would be greatly appreciated, see you all at the next one.

It’s actually weird because it wasn’t my intention to think about it but during the past few weeks my friend asked me a question and now I started noticing I’m evil.
My friend asked me what I would do if i had superpowers and I chose teleportation because it’s fast and looks scary if you’re determined to perfection . The problem is that I planned everything I would do if i actually had the powers , and it always involve terminating specific people and targets ( murder ) . And they’re not good people for the record and they actually deserve it but I don’t want to say because I’m speaking “ hypothetically of course “ .
I don’t regret having such thoughts and if i had the chance i know what i would do, because i have my reasons.
So ladies and gentlemen am i evil because i want to do such terrible things with this huge responsibility?!
And does knowing that I’m doing it for good reasons Change your perspective on my actions no matter how ugly they can be?! And they ARE good reasons I guarantee that.
And just in case if you’re wondering, I’m a sane man and never suffered from any mental problems.

I’m finishing midnight horizon right now and I’ll have read all phase 1 besides children’s books and a few filler things. I listened to tempest runner on a road trip and it was amazing. I really want to listen to another this Friday but probably won’t have finished this one by then. I don’t care about spoilers, connecting the dots is the fun of it to me. Will I be fine starting with it?

I am a little baby programmer. I started playing with home assistant and dabbling in python basics, and I mean basics. 30 years ago I was a CS major but switched to another field and never looked back. My brain didn't work in code. But code is now closer to how smooth brains like mine work so I'm back.
Here's what really brought me back. I am an airline pilot. At work we have a horribly written tool where we can post the trips we were assigned and comment what we are looking for. So say I want to trade my three day DTW MKE for a HNL OGG LAX four day trip, any day of the month I'm legal. I can post my trip and what I'm looking for, but the person who has my dream trip and wants DTW for some unfathomable reason has to dig through everything to find it, and usually won't. We are missing out on so many good trades. (obviously it gets more complicated as we dig down but I think it can be simplified).
I know AI/Software could really assist with this and honestly, I'll probably never have the skills to make this happen, but I want to try and at least learn some stuff for funsies.
So chatgpt wrote me a basic script in python and now I'm installing python on my machine to play with it. One of my favorite creators said she has learned all the skills she has as a result of wanting an end result. She doesn't always reach that result but ends up learning a great deal and creating something else amazing, so I'm embracing that philosophy.
I would love some basic guidance, ideas, thoughts, on how to proceed. For example, obviously this is going to need to be webbased or better yet an app at some point. I'm android forever, but aviation is strongly iWorld. I know this is a very broad question but I'm sure some of you skilled suckers are already thinking, "Oh she's gonna need to think about this or that" or "She should just stick to flying" :D
Appreciate brainstorms and feedback! I'm having fun with this so far!

Me and my friend, Jessie have been friends for a few months. And during those few months, she's definitely earned the spot as my best friend. Me and her are also in a friend group which consist of four other girls. I love them all equally, just Jessie holds a different spot in my heart y'know? The only problem is that I don't think I'm Jessie's "best friend." I don't really mind that but the girl she considers her best friend, is my other friend, Chloe. Me and Chloe have been friends longer than anyone else in the group. But Jessie and Chloe are closed than anyone else in the group too. When I just hang out with both of them alone, I find myself being left out and I feel like a terrible person because of it. For example, we were on a school bus together and the three of us are in a seat. I'm on the outside, Jessie in the middle, and Chloe is by the window. On the way to school, Jessie puts her hand above her and lays it on the top of the seat in front of us (if that makes any sense), making a small barrier between me and her. She turns her body to Chloe whilst her hand is on the top of the seat. I try to engage in conversation, but her and Chloe are already in one. I just sit there in silence as they continue on. Jessie takes her phone out with the hand that isnt on the seat and records Chloe and her alone, and taking a snap of her. And I'm not trying to make that a big deal, but I mean c'mon. Along with all this, we have a holiday world trip for our school and our friendgroup is going minus one person. Which gives us a total of five girls, and that's an odd number. And for some reason, Jessie likes to make that a big deal and freak out over it and says she's only riding with Chloe because "she doesn't want to get left out." And in my opinion, thats stupid, but I don't argue with her. The trip is this Thursday, and the night of Jessie is spending the night at Chloe's. Chloe and I have been friends for over a year, but never once have we ever hung outside of school. So it just makes me wonder what makes me so different from Jessie y'know? Another thing is that I told Jessie we should have a sleepover with Chloe so it's the three of us. Then she immediately says no and asks me why not the whole group. At that point I didn't take the whole group in consideration and also it would probably be impossible for the six of us to even have a sleepover because I mean, there's six of us yknow? And then Jessie suggests that we should have a sleepover of me, Chloe, Jessie, and our other friend, Ash. I love Ash and I think that's a great idea, but I also just want a sleepover with Chloe and Jessie too. I want to confront the two of them about it, but I don't know how. Any advice? Also am I in the wrong for feeling this way?

hello friends! i have a problem with my system and im wondering if you could help me, i just bought my second Sonos set for my office ( amp, beam and sub mini), the thing is that i hooked up the devices with the beam using the amp as my surrounding speakers (in-ceiling sonos speakers). The problem starts when i try to play something, it does sounds but only in the beam and in the sub, the amp also does show connected but it doesn't play anything in the speakers. the weird thing is that if i detach it from the beam as in his own group it does reproduce the sound
does anyone know what could be wrong ? thank in advance !!

I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, I’m new to Reddit and just wanted to see if there was any advice available since I seem to be hitting road blocks on every thing I seemed to have attempted.
I 30(F) was speaking to a man online for around 7yrs from Sweden, the relationship became sexual at some point and images were exchanged. He then decided to randomly cut off contact. Said he no longer wanted to speak and things were obviously not meant to be which I was totally understanding about, a week or so later I started receiving post to my family home with the explicit images that I had shared with him, to make it worse they were addressed to my father. He knows I come from a strict religious family and how many issues this could cause potentially endangering my life due to the honour aspect of it. I tried to catch these before anyone else did until he also started sending to my father’s workplace where I used to work and my previous colleagues viewing these images. My old boss is also a family friend who tried to hide it once he saw this guy had scrawled my name on the printed image due to him fearing for my life. He writes on each ‘I miss these or I miss you’ something along these lines and add different return addresses and names each time, only pays for them in cash. Though the post office he sends them from are around 5mins from his house each time. These have carried on for months and I’ve spoken to both UK and Swedish police, they have taken him in spoken to him, taken his electronics and even some evidence they found in his apartment. But apart from this it seems to be a waiting game as he continued to post even after he was taken into the police station, it has been passed to U.K. to conduct another statement for extra details since Swedish police are unable to do this over call/videocall. Ive tried to find lawyers or anyone who can help with any advice or anything further I can do but seem to come to dead ends with the U.K. side since they don’t have people specialising in Swedish law. I’m not sure what the next steps are and if I need someone to be with me for this statement or if there are any helplines available.
This has my life on pause where I’m afraid to leave my house before the post gets here or go into work unless I have paid to have post stopped each week. It’s had a massive impact on my mental health with me also having to take time off work and I’m unable to involve any family member or any friends around me due to the fear of judgement or being seen differently. Any advice would be welcome