So the weirdest thing happened yesterday. It's most likely something totally explainable, and no big deal, but it's really bothering me because I'm not able to find a way to explain it myself. And I have been Digging! For a awhile with no luck. I was hoping someone with law enforcement experience could fill in the blanks for me.

 My boyfriend and I were in a small town about a half hour from where we live. He was driving even though his licence is invalid at the moment because I had a migraine. We went through an intersection, and for whatever reason my tailpipe randomly emits a huge cloud of thick white exhaust, just one big poof that's it. Apparently there was a cop behind the car behind us, because he followed us about a mile to our work where we were picking up supplies. He never turned on the emergency lights, he just pulled in behind us, and in a very friendly manner asked us/informed us about the smoke. We thanked him, he got in the squad and left. Like 5 minutes later, we were loading up and he comes pulling back in, approaches my boyfriend, and states correctly "Mr. So and so, you don't have a licence" and then asks us about 300 questions no joke about just everything. During this he mentions my name, but no one gave it to him. Although incorrectly as he had my married name and I went back to my maiden a few years back. After this, surprisingly, he gives us a knuckle bump and cut us free no ticket. (Thank you!!!!!) 

Anyway, how the sam heck, did he know our names like that ... When my vehicle is in my mother's name. He never asked us for ID. I can assume he ran the plates, got my mom's name, but how would her driving record link me let alone the guy i date? We have different addresses, different last names...
I looked up his criminal history there wasn't anything big or bad or anything I wasn't aware of. So it's not really that I'm paranoid he's potentially that recognizable to law enforcement.... He's not that good of an actor. I'm more so just like.... How was he able to figure out who we were like that so quickly following....some kind of paper trail that is really obscure or something idk?
He and I did get pulled over and our names ran at the same time a few years back but it was involving a different matter not involving driving & they ended up letting us go. So maybe we are listed in their records as associates??? Maybe? Still unconnected to my mom in every way tho that I can think of.
I know it wasn't someone at the store we were at, the owner wasnt really aware what was going on at the time. They wanted to call and raise heck with them for harassing us and I was like no no. He was just doing his job. Maybe a little too good but hey that's whatever. A matter of perspective. He let us go and even better was respectful and reasonable. Can't ask for more than that but especially when technically the legalities have you breaking someone's statute.
His demeanor didn't change from friendly curious at all from the first encounter to the second except maybe just going from informative to more inquisitional.
Anyone have any ideas? What else could he have been accessing? You don't think he would have gone off and started Facebook "stalking" do you? If so then he would have had my maiden name not my married name. My page doesn't list him as in a relationship or anything cheesy like that.
TL:DR got stopped by a psychic officer maybe? Magically knew who we were somehow.

I have been trying to create a fort where a dwarf I select becomes a necromancer (I like the no sickness and immortal kind of thing for a noble of sorts, I was thinking of making my baron/duke an elf and the next more powerful noble (a court mage of sorts) a necromancer. but as I created a world with only 1 dwarven civ, 2 years since creation (I like the idea of being at the start of the world) the only artifacts are the slabs that tie the demons ruling the goblins to their place.
I want to create an artifact Slab or Book with the secrets of life and death so that they become necromancers (i tried cheating with gm-editor but couldn't find a way)
I found this code to create a Slab with the secrets of life and death, but it does not make my dwarves to become necromancers (tried becoming and adventurer and went back to the fort and i couldnt use it either) Tried modifying it with gm editor (and somehow there is a field there where you actually select the secret of life and death and as an adventure can use it now) but in fortress ode still no use, I was told that it is because it needs to be an artifact (I tried causing a lot of moods so that maybe one of the moods creates a slab to add the secret using gm-editor, hundreds of times did not give me any slab).

local material = 'INORGANIC:ADAMANTINE' function getSecretId() for _,i in ipairs(df.global.world.raws.interactions) do for _,is in ipairs (i.sources) do if getmetatable(is) == 'interaction_source_secretst' then if is.name == 'the secrets of life and death' then return i.id end end end end end local pos = copyall(df.global.cursor) if pos.x <0 then error('Please place the cursor wherever you want to spawn the slab.') end local m = dfhack.matinfo.find(material) if not m then error('Invalid material.') end local slab = df.item_slabst:new() slab.id = df.global.item_next_id df.global.world.items.all:insert('#',slab) df.global.item_next_id = df.global.item_next_id+1 slab:setMaterial(m['type']) slab:setMaterialIndex(m['index']) slab:categorize(true) slab.flags.removed = true slab:setSharpness(0,0) slab:setQuality(0) slab.engraving_type = 6 slab.topic = getSecretId() slab.description = 'The secrets of life and death' dfhack.items.moveToGround(slab,{x=pos.x,y=pos.y,z=pos.z}) 

So my question is, is there a way using dfhack to actually create an artifact as desired (similar to the gui/create-item thing, they say that there is a function that looks for a reaction of a mood in process and then instead of doing whatever the dwarf wants you can design the object, but that does not work yet) or at least make them spawn in the world, worst case ill send the military squad to retrieve the artifact.
and another unrelated question, is there a way to add a deity to a dwarf relationship? I know that there a re scrits that hel you marry any dwarf you want and it appears in relationships, but as there are times when I have dwarves with no deity at all, I would like to lets say force my dwarves to worship a deity if they are the leader or a mason or something.

My mom ordered something from torrid and had it sent to my old address. She noticed that is was the wrong one when they sent the email saying it was shipped. I immediately tried to log into ups to change the address but it kept taking me in a loop to sign up for ups my choice - I already have an account. I have literally spent the last 3 days going in circles with the website and AI chatbot. I reached out via text to support tonight and they told me that they can’t do anything about it and I should reach out to the sender. Torrid customer support has responded to me and said that since it’s been shipped and is at a UPS distribution center it is no longer their problem. The customer support member has since ghosted me for over an hour. What are my options here? All I want is for my package to be delivered to me.

Honestly, not sure if this is the right sub but wanted to vent and ask people who might have more experience in these matters. I don't want to put this load on anyone in my life.
As the title says, an ex-friend that I've been in no contact with put me as next-of-kin, in his inpatient psychiatric hospital.
I don't want to say too much about his condition, because it's not my story and honestly I don't know how much is true so I want to keep this post-factual and objective as I can. I will put * when I type my feelings or perspective.
There were a few incidents last year, but we had a major falling out a few months ago when he was making odd accusations. I realize that it might have been his mental illnesses but *honestly it just got too much and i reached my break point.
TLDR version, we stopped being friends and I've blocked him on all socials.
2-weeks ago: Got a call, from his hospital (They did call his ex-wife too) and I politely said I didn't want to speak about him and that we have been NC for months. I don't know anything about his condition and I'm not interested to know.
last week got an email from new address saying"We aren't family anymore, and we are done" ect. I promptly blocked it, without responding. *because to me we stopped being family when he said he didn't want to be friends with me multiple times....over multiple events.
Today, got called again. I mentioned the previous call, no contact. I asked why they called me again. He put me as "next-of-kin". The lady asked if she could just know when we "broke up", so I told her we didn't "break up" and that we were just close friends until last year when he started having mental health issues.
*She sounded a bit surprised by this so I'm not sure what he told them, and I don't think I want to know anymore. I don't want to care anymore.
I asked her to take me off the list and told her I didn't want to be contacted again.
**Now, I'm sitting at work and my mind and emotions are in a bit of turmoil. I know I did the right thing for my mental health but part of me feels guilty for not "being there". I'm trying to remind myself that he is not my responsibility...and I can't "save him" even if I want to. I do not have the bandwidth or the energy to "help" him in any way or support him through his mental health issues anymore.
**Part of me is angry that he gave them my number to the hospital when he knows we are NC. It feels manipulative like he is trying to get a reaction and using the hospital for it.

I am a middle-level manager. I have a newer, very strict boss who likes things done a precise way, so I find myself checking in on my own staff very often to make sure they’re keeping up with their work per my boss’s deadlines because I don’t want to give the impression that I am not a strong manager.
One of my employees consistently deflects and gets defensive when I point out things that aren’t being done within a certain time frame.
The thing is, she’s been in this role for 2 years. She knows what her duties are, and her responsibilities have significantly dwindled within the last 6 months due to our department automating and streamlining internal processes. There’s hardly any work to do in her position right now, certainly not 8 hours worth compared to what she used to be responsible for…so I do have an expectation that her remaining tasks are done daily and to their fullest extent. She even vocalized in a 1:1 recently that the work seems slow. I’ve spotted a few times over the last month or so where she misses things, leaves tasks unfinished for over a week, etc.
She always has an excuse as to why, or will flat out say I am mistaken and insists she is doing everything on time even when I show her proof that she is not. This has lead me to following up with her via email and constantly checking in on her or reminding her what to do because I don’t trust that she is remembering/ completing all of her current tasks. Ive realized there’s been instances where I’ve felt the need to question her on things even when I know I should probably let it go and see how she performs on her own. I should have more faith that she can handle things because she used to be one of my strongest team members, but her work doesn’t demonstrate that anymore.
Am I being a micromanager? If so, how can I approach this better?

I'm a 20 year old and I live with my mother. My parents are divorced and I know nothing about my father's side of family as I was very young when it happened. My father is from a "low caste" (as they call it) and my family had not approved the marriage but my mom still got married and lived separately for sometime. My father was abusive towards my mother and was a drunkard. He had a wife about whom he had not told my mother. My mother stayed there for a while and then eventually decided to leave. My mother's family gave their reaction.. they said things like, "we told her and she didn't listen. She deserves that." My mother took me and we lived in a rented place for years. It was just me and her. There was no one to take care of me while she was in office and so she would leave me at my friend's place. I would stay there as soon as I got back from school or when I had holidays. Finally years later, when I was 7 or 8, my mother took me to see her family. I remember the look in their eyes. They didn't even bother if I was there (they = my mother's 1st younger sister. She had 3 sisters). I could not understand what they were talking about so I don't remember. I was very naughty and stubborn back then. I was a revolting kind of kid and I did receive some lessons from my mother to make things straight. But as time went by, I went to visit the grandparents and my uncles. They were nice. I had one more aunt (my mother's youngest sister) who lived abroad, I met her as well. Now idk why but whenever I made a mistake or something they would indirect bring up my father. They would say things like "you are his daughter afterall." Even if I had just made a small mistake. At first I didn't feel anything but looking at my other cousin brother, they didn't say anything to him even if he made a mistake. I used to envy him and kind of felt left out. I used to go to a boarding school and so I only came back home for my vacation. There were no phones allowed there so when I got home, I would listen to music, dance, watch movies and videos. My family members would give me a "you are too much. What is she even doing her" kind of look to me every single time. I would visit my grandparents place and I would always feel left out. Maybe I was just expecting too much from them. Now I was a teenager when things got worse. I had an argument with my mother once and my first aunt (let's call her aunt A) Aunt A called my other aunt (the abroad one.. let's call her aunt B) aunt B and told her all nonsense. You know when you tend to make things bigger, you mix up all kinds of spices and what not just to make that a big issue.. that is what my aunt did. Aunt B called me and scolded me for no reason because of all the other additional things Aunt A had told her. This happened a couple of times. My mother got sick and had to go to Delhi for treatment and Aunt A went with her. The other family members took me in that time and would help me get to my hostel, bring me home for holidays and took care of me. My cousin brother's mother was also sick a few months earlier but she had returned home. One morning I told my grandmother that I wanted to talk to my mother but she refused so I took the phone secretly and called my mom. She said she had reached and told me not to worry. But when my other family members found out that I had called my mom, they all started scolding me. "Your cousin brother is a god-like kid. He never called or asked for his mother. While you, you have the behaviour of your father. You will eat your mother alive someday." I was 9 or 10 years old then.
I got into high school and the same thing happened. I would have a little argument, Aunt A would eavesdrop our conversation and add things up and say it to Aunt B. Aunt B would come home for festivals and would scold the hell out of me. She would compare me with all the other kids in the area and especially my cousin brother. One time I had opened a Facebook account and they found out. They literally stalked me account and called my mother and told her that I had only men in my friend list. She said, "Your daughter does not have a pure blood. She is her father's daughter afterall. She is impure and I know she is up yo something bad." (Basically she tried to tell my mom that I would hook up with boys just like my father had married his wives). Time went on and they said what not. "We are your family only till your mother is alive. After that you go do whatever you want." "If you do this, if you do that, remember we are not your family. Don't call us that time." If they heard me sharing my problems with my mother, they would say "You are going to kill your mother. She is sick because of you." One time I was separating my old and new clothes and my mother was also there sitting in the sofa near me. I was tossing of my old clothes near the door so that it would be easier but then the next day after my classes I got a call from Aunt B. She told me that I had done the most terrible thing ever. Someone told her that I threw my clothes at my mother's face. She said "I love my sister (my mom) but seems like you will never love her." I was so done. She also blamed me for talking bad about my other cousins when I hadn't even done that. I used to joke with my mom saying that she cares for my younger cousins way more when I am away in hostel. But that thing took a turn. Still they tell me a lot of things. "You are showing your father's behaviour" this one is the most common one. I am a short-tempered, stubborn kid and I accept it. I could be at fault, too (and I do apologise for that). They call me "Kami", this might be a very communal thing to bring out, but yeah, it's basically what you call a SC if you are in a Nepali community. They sometimes use it to mock people as well. My family does that. I don't want to feel like way and try to be as optimistic as possible, but it is like that because for the same mistakes that are made by my other cousins, they never said anything. Every mistake, every situation, every argument, I am the bad guy. Why? Because my father who left years ago, when I couldn't even remember his face, was a drunkard, cheated on my mom and hated my mom's family because they did not like him and I am his daughter. The only person with a different title/surname in the family. What should I believe? Is it verbal abuse? Or? Please, someone tell me.

I'm a 20 year old and I live with my mother. My parents are divorced and I know nothing about my father's side of family as I was very young when it happened. My father is from a "low caste" (as they call it) and my family had not approved the marriage but my mom still got married and lived separately for sometime. My father was abusive towards my mother and was a drunkard. He had a wife about whom he had not told my mother. My mother stayed there for a while and then eventually decided to leave. My mother's family gave their reaction.. they said things like, "we told her and she didn't listen. She deserves that." My mother took me and we lived in a rented place for years. It was just me and her. There was no one to take care of me while she was in office and so she would leave me at my friend's place. I would stay there as soon as I got back from school or when I had holidays. Finally years later, when I was 7 or 8, my mother took me to see her family. I remember the look in their eyes. They didn't even bother if I was there (they = my mother's 1st younger sister. She had 3 sisters). I could not understand what they were talking about so I don't remember. I was very naughty and stubborn back then. I was a revolting kind of kid and I did receive some lessons from my mother to make things straight. But as time went by, I went to visit the grandparents and my uncles. They were nice. I had one more aunt (my mother's youngest sister) who lived abroad, I met her as well. Now idk why but whenever I made a mistake or something they would indirect bring up my father. They would say things like "you are his daughter afterall." Even if I had just made a small mistake. At first I didn't feel anything but looking at my other cousin brother, they didn't say anything to him even if he made a mistake. I used to envy him and kind of felt left out. I used to go to a boarding school and so I only came back home for my vacation. There were no phones allowed there so when I got home, I would listen to music, dance, watch movies and videos. My family members would give me a "you are too much. What is she even doing her" kind of look to me every single time. I would visit my grandparents place and I would always feel left out. Maybe I was just expecting too much from them. Now I was a teenager when things got worse. I had an argument with my mother once and my first aunt (let's call her aunt A) Aunt A called my other aunt (the abroad one.. let's call her aunt B) aunt B and told her all nonsense. You know when you tend to make things bigger, you mix up all kinds of spices and what not just to make that a big issue.. that is what my aunt did. Aunt B called me and scolded me for no reason because of all the other additional things Aunt A had told her. This happened a couple of times. My mother got sick and had to go to Delhi for treatment and Aunt A went with her. The other family members took me in that time and would help me get to my hostel, bring me home for holidays and took care of me. My cousin brother's mother was also sick a few months earlier but she had returned home. One morning I told my grandmother that I wanted to talk to my mother but she refused so I took the phone secretly and called my mom. She said she had reached and told me not to worry. But when my other family members found out that I had called my mom, they all started scolding me. "Your cousin brother is a god-like kid. He never called or asked for his mother. While you, you have the behaviour of your father. You will eat your mother alive someday." I was 9 or 10 years old then.
I got into high school and the same thing happened. I would have a little argument, Aunt A would eavesdrop our conversation and add things up and say it to Aunt B. Aunt B would come home for festivals and would scold the hell out of me. She would compare me with all the other kids in the area and especially my cousin brother. One time I had opened a Facebook account and they found out. They literally stalked me account and called my mother and told her that I had only men in my friend list. She said, "Your daughter does not have a pure blood. She is her father's daughter afterall. She is impure and I know she is up yo something bad." (Basically she tried to tell my mom that I would hook up with boys just like my father had married his wives). Time went on and they said what not. "We are your family only till your mother is alive. After that you go do whatever you want." "If you do this, if you do that, remember we are not your family. Don't call us that time." If they heard me sharing my problems with my mother, they would say "You are going to kill your mother. She is sick because of you." One time I was separating my old and new clothes and my mother was also there sitting in the sofa near me. I was tossing of my old clothes near the door so that it would be easier but then the next day after my classes I got a call from Aunt B. She told me that I had done the most terrible thing ever. Someone told her that I threw my clothes at my mother's face. She said "I love my sister (my mom) but seems like you will never love her." I was so done. She also blamed me for talking bad about my other cousins when I hadn't even done that. I used to joke with my mom saying that she cares for my younger cousins way more when I am away in hostel. But that thing took a turn. Still they tell me a lot of things. "You are showing your father's behaviour" this one is the most common one. I am a short-tempered, stubborn kid and I accept it. I could be at fault, too (and I do apologise for that). They call me "Kami", this might be a very communal thing to bring out, but yeah, it's basically what you call a SC if you are in a Nepali community. They sometimes use it to mock people as well. My family does that. I don't want to feel like way and try to be as optimistic as possible, but it is like that because for the same mistakes that are made by my other cousins, they never said anything. Every mistake, every situation, every argument, I am the bad guy. Why? Because my father who left years ago, when I couldn't even remember his face, was a drunkard, cheated on my mom and hated my mom's family because they did not like him and I am his daughter. The only person with a different title/surname in the family. What should I believe? Is it verbal abuse? Or? Please, someone tell me.

Hi all
I've been an oculus consumer since the release of the 1st dev kit (DK1) back in 2013. Then a few years later I bought the Oculus rift and a few years after that bought a Quest and then made the upgrade to the Quest 2 when that launched.
Im feeling like a fool right now cause I have spent not only thousands of dollars on hardware but also software during my time.
Last week someone hacked my Facebook account while I was asleep. They managed to somehow get pass my 2FA, email and text security measures. In the hour or so they were in my account, Facebook noticed something was going on as whoever was in my account was doing it from overseas, I'm based in Australia.
Facebook has ended up deleting my account which in turn deleted my meta account thus washing away all the purchases I've ever made.
I have tried contacting meta to get my account back but they say I breached community guidelines (was not me it was the hacker) and cannot reinstate my account.
I'm so disappointed that it's come to this. The fact that everything had to be linked to one account and then suddenly destroyed while asleep. Thousands of dollars burned away.
While I walk away from this experience incredibly pissed off and sad, I will say that the oculus hardware was always amazing. Every headset I've used over the 10+ years from oculus have been life altering when consuming entertainment.
From now on I will no longer be buying anything from meta. I will continue to recommend it to friends and family with the harsh recommendation to make a separate meta account to avoid my outcome.
Another victim of not owning your digital library.

My order shipped on April 17, and their policy says, “Items must be mailed back to us or returned in-store within 30 days of your shipment confirmation email.” If I mail it tomorrow on the 15th, would I still get a full refund? Or does it need to arrive to them by the 17? If that is the case, I will overnight it because I’m returning a $800+ order 😭 why I didn’t read the policy before I procrastinated, idk lol

I was scrolling on Instagram reels today, and if you know anything about that, people in the comments can be really nasty. Basically I got to a video about a Christian couple saying ‘when you’re waiting till marriage but your wedding is tomorrow’ and they’re all excited. I opened the comments and it was FLOODED with atheists saying ‘take this post down’ ‘how stupid’ and the ones that stuck out to me most were ‘you need to find out before you get married if you are actually sexually compatible’ and ‘I couldn’t imagine marrying someone just to find out we’re not sexually compatible’
Note: I don’t know much about sex aside from the basic biological/physical aspects.
But in my opinion I think this is quite invalid. First of all, if you’re both virgins, how are you supposed to already have a preconceived idea of what you are compatible with? And if you’re devoted to God and are willing to wait till marriage, which many aren’t, isn’t there a good change God will reward the couple with good intimacy? And doesn’t good intimacy come along with your love for the person? I feel like the idea of ‘sexual incompatibility’ just comes from people who either gained standards through porn, or from previous partners and feel like they need to make sure who they are marrying can do the things they’re used to seeing/doing.
I don’t think sexual incompatibility is really a thing to be honest especially if you are learning together your likes and dislikes. I don’t know I just think that idea is just based on people used to having sex wanting to get it in a specific way? I don’t think waiting until marriage can really have consequences like that?
What do you think?

tl;dr: Security isn’t always a dead end. I never wanted it, but I’m in the middle of an amazing career in it.
My dad was a cop. I had every intention to follow in his footsteps, maybe more. I dressed up as a Secret Service agent for Halloween in sixth grade. That was back when you could take fake guns to school. What I thought I really wanted was a career in federal law enforcement by way of local law enforcement.
Spoiler alert: that’s not what I do 20+ years later, and I’m glad for that.
My first job out of high school was that of a part time security guard. I worked Friday-Monday, varying shifts, for a company that would quickly get absorbed by one of the world’s largest contract companies. My first fortune came from the fact that my company was contracted by a Fortune 500 company in my small hometown, and I was assigned to their World Headquarters as a “corporate security officer.”
My first day on the job was June 20, 2001. Less than three months later, the whole industry changed. Obviously.
I worked that job to pay my way through community college.
✅Accomplishment #1.
Because I wanted to go federal, I needed a bachelor’s degree, so I quit and went to college full time. Luckily, my “experience” afforded me a chance to keep working private (contract) security jobs while working on campus jobs to pay my bills. I now have a B.S. in Criminal Justice.
✅Accomplishment #2.
I still wanted to be a cop. I have always had a strong desire to help people, especially when they’re at their most vulnerable. Year after year, I tested for some of the most competitive departments in the US. One of the most competitive and progressive at the time, somewhere in Wisconsin, I made it to the Chief’s interview one year. I wasn’t hired. I know I should’ve been, and I know I would’ve done amazing thing for that community, but I wasn’t their guy, and the fact is, I’m better off for it.
I tested for police jobs for 5 years. All the while, I worked the private sector to pay the bills. Then, one day, I got an email from LinkedIn.
Subject: “Here Are Some Jobs You May Be Interested In.”
Two jobs stood out. One was a security director position at a hospital outside of Cleveland. The other was the same at the historical home of one of the most influential men in American history. I landed one of them.
In retrospect, I wish I had gotten the hospital job. There’s a lot of money in healthcare. We, as a country, are terribly unhealthy. The future of healthcare is a bright one. Brighter than the past, which is what the other job offered.
But today, 12 years later, I’m not in healthcare, and I’m more successful because of it (I think so, anyway).
Today, I’m regarded as an expert in my field (not healthcare), and on top of my salary and benefits at one of the nation’s top institutions in my field, I also make money from consulting in private security for corporations and institutions of all sizes.
I’ve never forgotten where I came from and how I got here. Front-facing teams - like so many of you - have the hardest jobs. And you get paid nothing to do it. Sadly, that’s the industry. I don’t like it, but I don’t control it.
What I do control, I advocate for. I wish it was more, though.
All I want to say tonight is that, for those of you who are dedicated and sincere in this job, your work is appreciated and noticed. I was you, I am you, and I’ve succeeded because of it. And for those of you here who are just trying to get paid, I respect you. That’s where I started, and there’s nothing wrong with that. What I hope is true, and what I am mindful of everyday, is that you get what you put into it, like most other things in life. If you take pride in your work, it will be noticed, eventually. Maybe not by your current employer or your next, but eventually it will be seen. Don’t ever feel committed to your employer because they are, in most cases, not committed to you at all.
By the way, since I’ve found success in security I have been offered jobs in law enforcement, at the local and federal level. All of my “dream jobs” were made available to me. The fact is, they can’t afford me now. I make more money and have far more flexibility - and success - in the private sector than I ever would in the public side. Sand most importantly, I get to partner with LE to support their mission and help protect people. They can come to my facilities anytime for free coffee, meeting space, events, training, or anything else they need. That fills my cup, knowing that I still play a role in public safety, even if I’m not wearing a badge.
So don’t stop trying if this is what you believe in and want to do. I know my path and story won’t be available for everyone, but you should try if you have a passion for helping and protecting people.
And if there’s anything I can do to help you on that path, please PM me.
✅accomplishment #3: success for me, and orhers.

1. To the people that took classes where they donated free As with voluntary finals, grade your own work, grading outstanding work, etc. I feel bad and good for you because you are getting good grades but the education you paid for is ruined. I think the strike was a double edged sword for these people's academics.
   
2. The admins are currently in the process of administrating nothing into this university. I don't know how they can even be called an "administration" if all they administer is letters about graduate strikes that don't do anything for anyone/explain how they are still underpaying graduate workers.
   
3. I like some of the BU Today emails but I think I have around 2000 of them stacked up in my email, mostly unopened.
   
4. Rescheduling/moving of course offerings. Idk why they did it man but they moved one of my courses, that I already registered for, in the middle of finals week to days and hours that no longer worked for me so now I can't take that course anymore 😩
   
5. The elevators/escalators at Warren were and probably still are unfixed. To my knowledge most elevators at warren do not have floor lights working. Also, two B tower elevators were not working for a whole semester. The long escalator going down hasn't worked since Fall 2023. The toilet by B tower needs Piza Tower levels of continuous renovation.
   
6. During finals week all dining halls shut after 3 pm when I needed their high quality food for mere sustenance
   
7. Most CDS floors require you to work quietly which is good for some people but it seems very anti-argument/anti-brainstorming/anti-vocal. I'm not saying an officer shows up if you are not quiet but it still seems limiting in some sense.
   
8. This is kind of a me thing but instead of building CDS I think bu should have secured their ENTIRE campus on this side of the Charles River.
   
9. Protests were tame at BU compared to other universities. I think one reason for this was the fact that BU does not have enough "grass". I do not consider BU Beach, whatever that thing is in front of COM, the shrubbery near the green line, or the trees on the sidewalk grass. This campus is literally a concrete hell, all stone no grass. I believe the city painted the bike lanes green to hypnotize us into seeing more grass around campus.
   
10. Have a lovely summer everyone
    

Hello. I have had the same therapist for 25 years. I started seeing her when I turned 20 and I’m 45 now and she is in her 60s. I was sexually trafficked during childhood and when I escaped I got in contact with her almost immediately through a friend.
She and I have spoken two times a week almost every week for most of my adult life. I don’t have any family and she’s been very much like a mother to me and I have told her that many times. She says it makes sense I would feel that way and she has felt motherly feeling towards me as well. That said, she keeps a complete boundary as a therapist. I know nothing of her life. She doesn’t even tell me where she goes on vacation or anything and out of respect I never ask her.
She will be retiring eventually and while she said she’s not planning to retire at all I am thinking about it more and more. We live one of the biggest cities in the country so it’s very unlikely I will ever see her after she retires. I’m going to ask her if I can keep in touch with her once she retires when I see her next but I do feel a bit nervous.
Does anyone know how common is it for a therapist to keep in touch with a client after retirement?
If you have (or may in the future) kept in touch with a client or therapist which way do you keep in touch? Is it mostly email?
How often do you have contact?
Would there be anything that a former client should avoid doing in this situation?
Thank you in advance for any thoughts you might feel like sharing.

Ok, so we have been married for 9 years, together 10. Since the beginning I had told him what I wanted in a relationship and I was very honest about it. No lying, if interested in someone else, just say so, openly talking about past hookups/relationships. After some dating time, I found out he had been lying about a lot of shit. I decided to dig and found more bs that he had told. He stated he won't do it again and blah blah. This has continually been happening over these years. I've forgiven and come to the conclusion that he just can't be honest. Recently he had been on his phone too much. I asked him and he said that he has been texting his sister (he does text/talk to her a lot) one time I noticed it wasn't the texting app. I checked his phone when he was busy with something else and had actually left his phone (usually attached to his hip) and he had been talking to some random guy from another country, but he lied about. I've noticed that he lies a lot about dumb shit. I told him he needed mental help because he just lies about dumb shit he doesn't need to when he can just be honest and tell it how it is. I speak my mind and have since the beginning. He also had a job where he had an apt in a city 3 hrs away and was gone every other week. I found out he had been emailing some guys from Craigslist but he stated that he never did anything...do I believe him..? when he lies about miniscule things...I've put up with this for a long long time but I feel like I've lost respect for someone that says he loves me but is a liar...like Do you even know what love is? I am his first relationship as he had only had plenty and I mean plenty of hook ups before me. And he was going to dump me after a few dates but I didn't let it happen...sometimes I wonder if I would have been better off without him since I don't trust him at all...

For a not short time im trying to wrap my head around how to create a truly statically generated svelte(kit) website stored on S3 with periodical rebuilds using AWS Lambda.
Use-case:

• 5000+ pages (so build can be really long)
• content changes once per week (at most, so SSR seems stupid and CSR slow and costly to run API)

I dont even know if it is good idea in general. But i want to avoid amplify and vercel (Vercels ISR is tempting) and make it work using only aws resources.
I have multiple possible routes.
1, Using lambdas in parralel. In short i imagine two lambda functions.
First would fetch all data from database and create a JSON structured output(s) into some temp folder in S3. It would be split into multiple JSON files to prevent longer build times than 15 minutes and 1GB RAM which is maximum execution length and size. (lets say maximum 100 pages per generating lambda). Then for each file call a second lambda.
Second lambda will download associated JSON file and render all needed pages using the data and upload all pages on S3. As a side effect of paralerization, some of css/js files would be generated multiple times, but should have same hash in name (so they will simply overwrite ?)
After all pages are rendered and uploaded to S3, CDN is invalidated and everything works.
This is probably doable with custom build script using svelte/compiler showcased here
2, Basically the same using code pipeline whitch has the same problem as far as i know
Probably next optimization would require some smart algorithm to re-render only pages, that the database change influences.
It woud be best to create it as an adapter, but impossible since i dont know about any way to run sveltekit build process in lambda

I got assigned an assembly task that consisted of 8 swivel chairs that pays out $88. Pretty easy stuff, especially if I do them all at once, assembly line style. I give my usual greeting, say the job looks straightforward and ask when the boxes are arriving. Client says the boxes are already there, job is straightforward, 4 chairs 4 desks. I say the invoice is for 8 chairs, no desks. I tell her I'll have to get in touch with support and see if they can update it. I look up the desks and they are around $37 each to assemble.
It's after 8pm, so support isn't working. Bot says they will send an email. No email. I get on chat first thing in the morning. 3 hours later the client messages and asks if she should cancel and rebook. I say there's 10 days until the assembly date, so there's plenty of time. I also mention that support usually takes 6-8 hours to reply. Then I tell her a cancellation for any reason will negatively impact my metrics. She cancels 10 minutes later. Support replies 5 hours after that.
Is there a better way to handle this situation?

I’m sorry if this is stupid, and I don’t understand gender, and it’s such a quiet and intimate thing, especially when it balances on physical presentation…
I’m female by physical sex. But I crave masculinity so so bad, I want to identify with masculine terms, it brings me a great joy. When I’m inebriated on anything, half the time I go into this “gender hole” and start craving the male gender with enormous intensity, I have this major freakout with my friends and try to “come out” to them. Last time it was genderfluid.
But I like my physical body! I don’t really have that strong of a desire to change it. I’m scared of surgery, especially if I don’t crave it that much.
I’m also ok with presenting feminine often. My friends say that I tend to have a more androgynous vibe anyway, which makes me very happy.
I guess it’s just that based on physical presentation I don’t FEEL “genderqueer” or whatever the terms are it’s just a feeling inside me that is so very strong but very few will ever know aside from like 3ish people closest to me.
I feel like the trans-y feelings are so fucking obvious sometimes, like I’ve been repeating the same things to my best friend for about 7 years now, but I also feel so invalidated because I don’t know, I just don’t feel enough.
I don’t feel comfortable telling the public world what my complicated feelings about gender are. I present as female and I quietly dance in the joys when someone adorns me with masculine adjectives. I work in an industry that prefers me to be feminine and beautiful rather than a gender mess. I have to conform to the traditional world for my career (as most people do, I suppose).
I guess being genderfluid would be the best solution? But I also don’t feel validated in calling myself that. I don’t know what I am and it should be ok but I feel so lost sometimes, it’s a very strange feeling that I feel like I can’t explain at all, but there’s definitely weird gender feelings :(
Sometimes I get the feeling maybe I will wait a few decades and then truly want to try to transition.

okey so I have passes, but its not that common in Norway. So my subs and tippers are getting their cards blocked and stopped to save them from scammers. legit asking them "do you know who hixxi from passes is????" I tried to email help senter on passes but they dont awnser. Do you have any tips on other SFW sites to post content on? Fansly (i googled) is for adult content, and i dont want to be associated with OF bc the reputation. So plz. If you know any other sites where norwegian banks wont say you a scammrr (for fucking 5$?!) plz reach out.

Hey y'all, as the title says, I am wondering if I should submit my TMDSAS Application (Texas schools) in May before I retake my DAT in early July?
My current DAT score: 16 BIO, 17 GC, 14 OC, 19 PAT, 21 RC, 18 QR, 16 TS, 17 AA
Obviously I know it is low and I am planning for a retake. Also, I have a 3.3 GPA, 3.0 Sci GPA.
I have strong extracurricular activities being a D1 student athlete with plenty of shadowing and volunteer hours.
My application is essentially complete and I would like to submit as early as possible , but I don't want schools to immediately reject my application due to my low DAT scores even though I am indicating a retake in early July. I've read I can email schools and notify them of my DAT retake, but I am just afraid of my email and application getting lost in the pile. Should I apply now as early as possible or wait until I retake the DAT?
TLDR: Should I submit my application before my DAT retake or wait until I retake DAT?

After watching the video, I knew there's going to be a discussion of the unfair line distribution. So I camped on this subreddit waiting for that. I read everybody's written thoughts and grouped them. 1. There are those who voiced out their concern about the unfair line distribution. These people wouldn't have said anything if this was not the case, but it is. I'm not gonna wait for the loml to have the least line to understand them. So I see where they're coming from. Especially if it's a known fact that this is not the first time that it's happened. There's no excuse. 2. There are those who are trying to invalidate the concerns of no.1. That's not the way to go folks. It's their right to express their feelings and we have no right to disallow them of that. Unless of course they cross the line, then we fight. 3. There are those who are trying to douse the flame by focusing on the good things(e.g., Gehlee killed the choreo). I appreciate you all. 4. There's me. Please tell me I'm not alone,lol. I have not responded to a comment I didn't like, I've just been reading. I didn't like the unfair line distribution as well for all valid reasons. I was thinking of the possibilities as to why that is that case(i.e., "what if this or that member was sick?","what if they didn't have enough time?"),but in reality, I was just lying to myself as a way to cope. I tried to put myself in the situation of members with the most lines(top4) and thought I'd definitely be concerned of the members who had the least line and barely has any line(bottom4). I'd be concerned of how they'd feel, and how it's going to affect their confidence. I'd also be concerned of how their fans are gonna take it, and how it's going to affect our support group from here on. After all, we are U&iS, and I'm just a member of it. I'd need all my members if I want to continue this journey. So, kudos to Eli, Gehlee,Yoona, and Ko-chan for giving it their all in that performance, despite having much less time to shine. Saranghae!
I'd finish my thoughts by saying that we all are fans of U&iS(in this sub atleast), albeit having our own bias. I understand that most of us are upset, but please don't take it on other members and their dedicated fans. As a filipino, and as a fan, I'm certain Eli and Gehlee wouldn't want me to do that. I'll continue to support the loml and her members. Peace to everyone!