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I believe I have been scammed (concert tickets)
2024.05.14 04:32 DueNefariousness7772 I believe I have been scammed (concert tickets)
I don't even know where to start with this. But please mind I am aware I did/was doing something risky and I am aware I fuqked up. So please, no haters. As time goes on this potential scam gets more complicated and I am so confused.
Anyways, I went into a FB group for Morgan Wallen tickets. I have been dying to go, and I figured I will take a look. I found this guy, who claimed he is a "ticket reseller agent" and that he has 4 tickets for every MW concert. I messaged him, he provided me with the ticket rate and info, and I asked him for proof.
His proof of tickets to me looked EXTREMELY legit. I messaged the moderator of the FB group and he said they were safe. I zelled him, and my payment was under review, and it eventually failed today.
I decided to proceed with Apple Pay since I was flagged on zelle since it was a new account on my end. I knew it was risky, I sent the money from APPLE CASH and it went through. THE STATUS stated that my transaction was complete. This is important to remember.
Time went on, and he was "figuring things out" on his end and that it was processing. A couple hours later the payment was canceled. I received no email regarding this, and I called Apple and they told me that this transaction went through and the recipient has it. They also told me that IF it was processing on his end, it would state that it is processing on my end. It was never processed on my end.
So, I told my concert ticket seller that on my end you have received my money and there is nothing I can do. I contacted the moderator about this and he said he will look into it and he said that "this is bad". I asked if there was anything I could do and he said he could have him arrested (??).
Then suddenly, the ticket sellescammer transferred the tickets to me. He did this out of "good faith" he said. But the email says I do not have access to add the tickets onto my ticketmaster. It says quote "Your ticket isn’t available to be accepted into your Ticketmaster account. Ticket to your event are on hold and not yet released. Because of this policy you won't be able to access your ticket directly into your Ticketmaster account. You should be able to accept your ticket transfer via button above as soon as they are released"
It gets worse. I received a text from "apple" that i will get refunded for my apple pay. I called apple again, and they told me there is no dispute under my transaction and they would never text me information like this.
I apologize for the wrong post. But this is so complicated.
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Anyways, I went into a FB group for Morgan Wallen tickets. I have been dying to go, and I figured I will take a look. I found this guy, who claimed he is a "ticket reseller agent" and that he has 4 tickets for every MW concert. I messaged him, he provided me with the ticket rate and info, and I asked him for proof.
His proof of tickets to me looked EXTREMELY legit. I messaged the moderator of the FB group and he said they were safe. I zelled him, and my payment was under review, and it eventually failed today.
I decided to proceed with Apple Pay since I was flagged on zelle since it was a new account on my end. I knew it was risky, I sent the money from APPLE CASH and it went through. THE STATUS stated that my transaction was complete. This is important to remember.
Time went on, and he was "figuring things out" on his end and that it was processing. A couple hours later the payment was canceled. I received no email regarding this, and I called Apple and they told me that this transaction went through and the recipient has it. They also told me that IF it was processing on his end, it would state that it is processing on my end. It was never processed on my end.
So, I told my concert ticket seller that on my end you have received my money and there is nothing I can do. I contacted the moderator about this and he said he will look into it and he said that "this is bad". I asked if there was anything I could do and he said he could have him arrested (??).
Then suddenly, the ticket sellescammer transferred the tickets to me. He did this out of "good faith" he said. But the email says I do not have access to add the tickets onto my ticketmaster. It says quote "Your ticket isn’t available to be accepted into your Ticketmaster account. Ticket to your event are on hold and not yet released. Because of this policy you won't be able to access your ticket directly into your Ticketmaster account. You should be able to accept your ticket transfer via button above as soon as they are released"
It gets worse. I received a text from "apple" that i will get refunded for my apple pay. I called apple again, and they told me there is no dispute under my transaction and they would never text me information like this.
I apologize for the wrong post. But this is so complicated.
2024.05.14 01:28 Mbrightmoon Small town gay/bi confusion. Get out or stay in?
Sorry if I ramble,
I 38 M have been out since i was outed at 15. My first serious boyfriend was when I was in highschool he was Bi and I was the first boy he'd ever been into, we were together for a long time, but should have broken up long before we did. it's been about 6 years and I still don't know what I am doing in the dating scene (as if there is one hidden somewhere in the cornstalk's) there are a lot of closets in my area but recently I met someone lets call him D M 30 a Bi male that says he's not out but has dated samesex in the past. our interests are the same and he is kind and empathic when we are together after the obligatory normal first small town gay interaction are time has been more romantic. He brings me sweet little presents and say things that melt my insecure little heart to mush. He has met my friends and knows they know I am gay and he's been affectionate with me around them, respectfully of course.
Now for the concerns first he only contacts me on snap I don't have his phone number and the one he gave me when I called a cab for him wasn't registered to his name. Now he could have just had them use a friends number to let him know he was there but idk. the other thing is we have a few points of contact online none have a lot of detail but a few indicated his last name, and when it came up in casual conversation and I said I think your last name is X he said it wasn't yet low there he is on fb with that last name and relations of the same last name. Now this could be internalized biphobia on his part It's only been a month.
I am want to know if we are real and he is growing into himself or if I am just the side piece of a DL for life guy. I don't want to be in this if there is no future and I am already having feelings, but if he felt like I did wouldn't I have a real phone number and a last name. How long should I give him so that I am respecting his out/in status while guarding my heart? advice would be great there is no handbook for this.
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I 38 M have been out since i was outed at 15. My first serious boyfriend was when I was in highschool he was Bi and I was the first boy he'd ever been into, we were together for a long time, but should have broken up long before we did. it's been about 6 years and I still don't know what I am doing in the dating scene (as if there is one hidden somewhere in the cornstalk's) there are a lot of closets in my area but recently I met someone lets call him D M 30 a Bi male that says he's not out but has dated samesex in the past. our interests are the same and he is kind and empathic when we are together after the obligatory normal first small town gay interaction are time has been more romantic. He brings me sweet little presents and say things that melt my insecure little heart to mush. He has met my friends and knows they know I am gay and he's been affectionate with me around them, respectfully of course.
Now for the concerns first he only contacts me on snap I don't have his phone number and the one he gave me when I called a cab for him wasn't registered to his name. Now he could have just had them use a friends number to let him know he was there but idk. the other thing is we have a few points of contact online none have a lot of detail but a few indicated his last name, and when it came up in casual conversation and I said I think your last name is X he said it wasn't yet low there he is on fb with that last name and relations of the same last name. Now this could be internalized biphobia on his part It's only been a month.
I am want to know if we are real and he is growing into himself or if I am just the side piece of a DL for life guy. I don't want to be in this if there is no future and I am already having feelings, but if he felt like I did wouldn't I have a real phone number and a last name. How long should I give him so that I am respecting his out/in status while guarding my heart? advice would be great there is no handbook for this.
2024.05.14 00:33 Wreckrew Wrecking [Krew] WvW Fight Guild Looking To Build Our Comp Is Currently Recruiting. NA-WvW
Wrecking[krew] is an organized fight guild who looks to push our team to the limit every time we step into WvW. We solely focus on outnumbered fights and look to improve nightly. We are currently looking to bolster our ranks to a nightly 20-25 man and are looking for players who truly want to improve and go against the top teams around.
Current Recruitment- 2 FB, 2 zerker warrs, 2 scrappers, 2 support scourges, 2 reapers.
Requirements
1.Discord/Mic
2.Guild raid builds(only need to use during guild runs)
3.Able to take constructive criticism
4.Somewhat active(we only run three nights a week) would like to see you at least two of those nights.
5.Two week trial period. See how we fit, get along and mesh together.
6.Keeping your weekly signup status going so we know who/what we have.
1.Record gameplay footage and ask for review for help
2.If you're on/around attend "off nights" to practice on your raid class to get a better understanding of your class/role.
WvW Raiding Schedule- We run Monday-Tuesday-Wednesday 8pm est-10pm est.
We are currently located on Crystal Desert server. If interested feel free to reach out to me in game or on discord. Discord: Hadan IGN: Hadan.2841
Check out our YouTube channel to see more of what we do
www.youtube.com/@wreckingkrew
Some videos from members
https://www.youtube.com/@wizardbro4336
https://www.youtube.com/@grapesofwrath5428/videos
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ngO2TK2-Hs
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Current Recruitment- 2 FB, 2 zerker warrs, 2 scrappers, 2 support scourges, 2 reapers.
Requirements
1.Discord/Mic
2.Guild raid builds(only need to use during guild runs)
3.Able to take constructive criticism
4.Somewhat active(we only run three nights a week) would like to see you at least two of those nights.
5.Two week trial period. See how we fit, get along and mesh together.
6.Keeping your weekly signup status going so we know who/what we have.
- Have some thick skin, We joke, we have fun and have a great time at other's expenses. If you cant handle some jokes find another home.
- Have arcdps. Healers/supports to have the healing plugin
1.Record gameplay footage and ask for review for help
2.If you're on/around attend "off nights" to practice on your raid class to get a better understanding of your class/role.
WvW Raiding Schedule- We run Monday-Tuesday-Wednesday 8pm est-10pm est.
We are currently located on Crystal Desert server. If interested feel free to reach out to me in game or on discord. Discord: Hadan IGN: Hadan.2841
Check out our YouTube channel to see more of what we do
www.youtube.com/@wreckingkrew
Some videos from members
https://www.youtube.com/@wizardbro4336
https://www.youtube.com/@grapesofwrath5428/videos
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ngO2TK2-Hs
2024.05.13 23:13 No-Map6818 How Language Influences Your Choices in Online Dating
When a dating app allowed users to mute specific words, phrases and emojis, singles quickly curated their lists. How did a few overused phrases become an “ick” for so many?
Being “fluent in sarcasm,” a love of tacos, an uncontroversial opinion followed by the words “change my mind.” These are a few well-trodden tropes of the online dating world, and there may be a linguistic explanation for why they don’t work on you.
The popular dating app Hinge added a new feature called Hidden Words this month. It allows users to hide the profiles of matches who use certain words, phrases or emojis in their messages.
Online singles were quick to express their eagerness to take advantage of a “mute” button for specific language that turned them off. “I wish I could mute the phrase ‘pineapple belongs on pizza,’” said Mitchell Allen, a 31-year-old in Toronto who uses Hinge and Bumble, and lamented a lack of meaningful connections on the apps. Mr. Allen said he would also mute any phrases relating to love languages and Myers-Briggs typology: “I don’t believe anyone who speaks like that lives in a universe of reality.”
Liking pineapple on pizza is innocent enough — but expressing it, according to much of the online dating world, is intolerable. And those using such clichés may not realize that they’ve consigned themselves to semantic purgatory.
All dating apps allow users to filter potential matches according to their age, gender and proximity (most also paywall other filters), effectively rendering invisible those who don’t fit the bill. But users’ enthusiasm for a filter according to word choice exposes just how specific their dislikes, or icks, can be.
Malia Griggs, a 34-year-old who lives in Brooklyn, N.Y., said that she couldn’t help being turned off by poor grammar, such as someone using the wrong “you’re” or “their” in a message or profile.
“I wish I could filter for punctuation almost,” Ms. Griggs said. She admitted that, while her dating coach had encouraged her to view habits like spelling and grammar as changeable, she continued to see both as a definitive sexual turnoff. “To me, it feels like you’re not taking the time to even read your own profile a couple of times, and we don’t have the same values. My values are grammar.”
Even if spelling errors and grammar aren’t holistic indicators of a person’s dateability, the best online connections are often forged by finding those who communicate through screens the same way you do.
This is often called “typographical tone of voice,” a phrase coined by Gretchen McCulloch, a popular internet linguist, to describe how online writing has come to contain the same social nuance as face-to-face interactions. It may follow, then, that glib statements such as “no drama” and “since apparently it matters” convey far more than those writing them realize — including an inability to read the (virtual) room.
“A lot of these cliché phrases, a lot of people take them to imply something else,” said Erika Ettin, an online dating coach in New York City. “‘No drama,’ for example, might be a euphemism for ‘Don’t bring up your issues to me because I don’t want to hear about them.’”
Having spent years swiping for her clients, Ms. Ettin said she wasn’t surprised to hear that daters could get the ick from an idiom.
“I mean, I could go on all day about the cliché phrases that everyone is sick of,” she said, listing off a series of generalizations of abundant variety — including “I like to go out” and “I like to stay in” — and the bizarrely pervasive love of tacos. “Like, OK, tacos are fine, but gee whiz.”
Adele Goldberg, a professor of linguistics and psychology at Princeton University, suggested that associating a simple phrase and the negative conversations that often follow it might eventually make the two synonymous in daters’ minds.
“This is basically priming,” Professor Goldberg said. “If you hear the word ‘apple,’ the commonly associated word ‘orange’ will also come to mind.” Using a word or emoji that had been primed to be associated with something else in recipients’ minds — like an eggplant emoji (apple) and a particular body part (orange) — was unlikely to pass muster, she said, even if the sender intended it innocently or ironically.
Ms. Ettin was skeptical that certain words could be divorced from their double-entendres on dating apps and was confident in banning a word like “oral” from exchanges. “I don’t think anyone’s talking about an oral report in the first message,” she said. “‘How was your oral report on Woodrow Wilson?’ I don’t think so.”
Reached for comment, a Hinge representative emphasized that Hidden Words was primarily a safety feature and a means of “giving people the agency to create personal boundaries around the types of interactions they want to have.”
But in a swipe-addled era that has increasingly led hopeful romantics to burn out, app users’ boundaries may be a barrier to interaction itself. Ms. Griggs would be happy never to see a profile referring to “The Office” again: “We’ve all seen it. Like, I don’t … it doesn’t even matter if it’s a good show anymore. Get a new show.”
How Language Influences Your Choices in Online Dating - The New York Times (nytimes.com)
What words/phrases would you add? I would add the words fit, cuddle, physical touch is my love language, just ask...
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Being “fluent in sarcasm,” a love of tacos, an uncontroversial opinion followed by the words “change my mind.” These are a few well-trodden tropes of the online dating world, and there may be a linguistic explanation for why they don’t work on you.
The popular dating app Hinge added a new feature called Hidden Words this month. It allows users to hide the profiles of matches who use certain words, phrases or emojis in their messages.
Online singles were quick to express their eagerness to take advantage of a “mute” button for specific language that turned them off. “I wish I could mute the phrase ‘pineapple belongs on pizza,’” said Mitchell Allen, a 31-year-old in Toronto who uses Hinge and Bumble, and lamented a lack of meaningful connections on the apps. Mr. Allen said he would also mute any phrases relating to love languages and Myers-Briggs typology: “I don’t believe anyone who speaks like that lives in a universe of reality.”
Liking pineapple on pizza is innocent enough — but expressing it, according to much of the online dating world, is intolerable. And those using such clichés may not realize that they’ve consigned themselves to semantic purgatory.
All dating apps allow users to filter potential matches according to their age, gender and proximity (most also paywall other filters), effectively rendering invisible those who don’t fit the bill. But users’ enthusiasm for a filter according to word choice exposes just how specific their dislikes, or icks, can be.
Malia Griggs, a 34-year-old who lives in Brooklyn, N.Y., said that she couldn’t help being turned off by poor grammar, such as someone using the wrong “you’re” or “their” in a message or profile.
“I wish I could filter for punctuation almost,” Ms. Griggs said. She admitted that, while her dating coach had encouraged her to view habits like spelling and grammar as changeable, she continued to see both as a definitive sexual turnoff. “To me, it feels like you’re not taking the time to even read your own profile a couple of times, and we don’t have the same values. My values are grammar.”
Even if spelling errors and grammar aren’t holistic indicators of a person’s dateability, the best online connections are often forged by finding those who communicate through screens the same way you do.
This is often called “typographical tone of voice,” a phrase coined by Gretchen McCulloch, a popular internet linguist, to describe how online writing has come to contain the same social nuance as face-to-face interactions. It may follow, then, that glib statements such as “no drama” and “since apparently it matters” convey far more than those writing them realize — including an inability to read the (virtual) room.
“A lot of these cliché phrases, a lot of people take them to imply something else,” said Erika Ettin, an online dating coach in New York City. “‘No drama,’ for example, might be a euphemism for ‘Don’t bring up your issues to me because I don’t want to hear about them.’”
Having spent years swiping for her clients, Ms. Ettin said she wasn’t surprised to hear that daters could get the ick from an idiom.
“I mean, I could go on all day about the cliché phrases that everyone is sick of,” she said, listing off a series of generalizations of abundant variety — including “I like to go out” and “I like to stay in” — and the bizarrely pervasive love of tacos. “Like, OK, tacos are fine, but gee whiz.”
Adele Goldberg, a professor of linguistics and psychology at Princeton University, suggested that associating a simple phrase and the negative conversations that often follow it might eventually make the two synonymous in daters’ minds.
“This is basically priming,” Professor Goldberg said. “If you hear the word ‘apple,’ the commonly associated word ‘orange’ will also come to mind.” Using a word or emoji that had been primed to be associated with something else in recipients’ minds — like an eggplant emoji (apple) and a particular body part (orange) — was unlikely to pass muster, she said, even if the sender intended it innocently or ironically.
Ms. Ettin was skeptical that certain words could be divorced from their double-entendres on dating apps and was confident in banning a word like “oral” from exchanges. “I don’t think anyone’s talking about an oral report in the first message,” she said. “‘How was your oral report on Woodrow Wilson?’ I don’t think so.”
Reached for comment, a Hinge representative emphasized that Hidden Words was primarily a safety feature and a means of “giving people the agency to create personal boundaries around the types of interactions they want to have.”
But in a swipe-addled era that has increasingly led hopeful romantics to burn out, app users’ boundaries may be a barrier to interaction itself. Ms. Griggs would be happy never to see a profile referring to “The Office” again: “We’ve all seen it. Like, I don’t … it doesn’t even matter if it’s a good show anymore. Get a new show.”
How Language Influences Your Choices in Online Dating - The New York Times (nytimes.com)
What words/phrases would you add? I would add the words fit, cuddle, physical touch is my love language, just ask...
2024.05.13 23:01 coolsmokey69 Should I bring up Condon and have him skip AAA? Or have him finish there and have him up at the start of next season?
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2024.05.13 20:26 RonnieWhite1974 CRP-Family Based case
I noticed that most CRP case under this sub is EB. Anyone has experience on CRP case under FB category? Our 485 case was interviewed in Nov 2023 and I was told everything looked good but "no visa availability" at the end of interview. Have to wait until PD becomes current. How long I should expect for a FB 485 case being approved after PD current/into a CRP status? Thanks.
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2024.05.13 19:03 Juil8991MC 84+ Player Pick SBC
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2024.05.13 18:16 Tymathee Best defensive player i've ever seen
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2024.05.13 05:23 Alarmed_Awareness962 Married but zero seggslife
Hi This is my first time to post here. Need to get this off my chest. As the title says: im married but zero sexlife. We live together but clearly not sexually attracted with each other. Last time we did it was 5 months ago and di pa sya natapos non. To add more information, i always initiated it. Do everything i can, but no response from him talaga lol.
As a woman who has needs i have a toy. I play with it as i please. Recently, this guy (my long time crush chatted me)
Havent met with him before but were just friends sa fb. We exchanged a lot of messages for long hours, got to know each other a little bit. He knows my current status and its clear to me that im just a friend to him and he respects me.
This morning i m@sturbated with the thought of him doing it w me. Right after i came i cried coz i feel guilty and the fact na ganito yung situation ko.
Yun lang. Im thinking of confessing this to him tonight even with a chance of risking our friendship.
Yes mahina ko sa tukso. Pls give advice as i need those para magising ako. But be kind too. I feel like this platform is an open space for everything.
Thanks!
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As a woman who has needs i have a toy. I play with it as i please. Recently, this guy (my long time crush chatted me)
Havent met with him before but were just friends sa fb. We exchanged a lot of messages for long hours, got to know each other a little bit. He knows my current status and its clear to me that im just a friend to him and he respects me.
This morning i m@sturbated with the thought of him doing it w me. Right after i came i cried coz i feel guilty and the fact na ganito yung situation ko.
Yun lang. Im thinking of confessing this to him tonight even with a chance of risking our friendship.
Yes mahina ko sa tukso. Pls give advice as i need those para magising ako. But be kind too. I feel like this platform is an open space for everything.
Thanks!
2024.05.13 05:19 Alarmed_Awareness962 Married but zero seggslife
Hi This is my first time to post here. Need to get this off my chest. As the title says: im married but zero sexlife. We live together but clearly not sexually attracted with each other. Last time we did it was 5 months ago and di pa sya natapos non. To add more information, i always initiated it. Do everything i can, but no response from him talaga lol.
As a woman who has needs i have a toy. I play with it as i please. Recently, this guy (my long time crush chatted me)
Havent met with him before but were just friends sa fb. We exchanged a lot of messages for long hours, got to know each other a little bit. He knows my current status and its clear to me that im just a friend to him and he respects me.
This morning i m@sturbated with the thought of him doing it w me. Right after i came i cried coz i feel guilty and the fact na ganito yung situation ko.
Yun lang. Im thinking of confessing this to him tonight even with a chance of risking our friendship.
Yes mahina ko sa tukso. Pls give advice as i need those para magising ako. But be kind too. I feel like this platform is an open space for everything.
Thanks!
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As a woman who has needs i have a toy. I play with it as i please. Recently, this guy (my long time crush chatted me)
Havent met with him before but were just friends sa fb. We exchanged a lot of messages for long hours, got to know each other a little bit. He knows my current status and its clear to me that im just a friend to him and he respects me.
This morning i m@sturbated with the thought of him doing it w me. Right after i came i cried coz i feel guilty and the fact na ganito yung situation ko.
Yun lang. Im thinking of confessing this to him tonight even with a chance of risking our friendship.
Yes mahina ko sa tukso. Pls give advice as i need those para magising ako. But be kind too. I feel like this platform is an open space for everything.
Thanks!
2024.05.13 05:07 Kindly_Setting4161 Mid Jan claims
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2024.05.13 03:52 mohamedAhmed11 Current Setup
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2024.05.13 03:05 strubisach UPDATE: OOP dodges a bride-shaped bullet. "The wedding hasn't even happened yet and everything's already a trainwreck"
I am not The OOP, OOP is u/lolfuckno.
This post was originally posted to weddingshaming.
There was already a BoRU post by u/autochthonouschimera, which didn't include the last update yet.
TRIGGER WARNING: cheating, child neglect, extreme entitledness, talk of abortion
MOOD SPOILERS: infuriating, confusing, frustrating
The new update at the bottom of this post has been marked with --- ---
Original story was posted on December 7, 2021
Okay, so this girl I know from high school is getting married. We're both 22, for reference. In our senior year of high school she got pregnant, with baby daddy A who will be referred to as Adam. Her super conservative parents kicked her out and she ended up moving in with a friend's family. She barely graduated high school. The only reason she did were because of the generosity and support of our teachers and students who volunteered to help her, which is how we met. We were in the same law class in the morning and she had the worst morning sickness that really affected her ability to be in class. So, I took extra notes for her, tutored her, and brought her her stuff if she hadn't come back by the bell. I wasn't the only one who did stuff like this for her and I know she really appreciates all the assistance we gave her. She had the baby a month after we graduated.
She'd signed up for a 911 dispatcher course for after high school because where we live it's a good steady job, with opportunity for certificates and promotions. But she didn't realize how intensive the course would be and had to drop out. She started working at a grocery store bakery, just until she had a better plan. Adam started an apprenticeship while working part time at a hockey rink, and proposed to her literally the day of her eighteenth birthday, and brought up marriage because "it's the right thing to do" (I don't really agree with that but this isn't about me) and she was always refusing.
She started cheating on him after a while (we're all 19 now), and eventually leaves him for another guy because... She's pregnant again and it is far more likely that this guy, baby daddy B who will be referred to as Brad, is the father of the child. Neither of them can afford lawyers so getting any kind of custody agreement is a mess, and then their parents got involved and they did 50/50 split (still not made official). She has the baby, that does turn out to be Brad's, and everything is okay for about nine months, when she finds out Brad has been cheating on her with his TA. Brad decides to pay child support but doesn't really want contact with the kid, only around holidays and one weekend a month for his parents' sake.
She moves back in with her parents (we're all 20 now) who only accept her back because there's grandchildren around. On the plus side, (when she's 21) she gets to take that year long dispatcher course, and passes with flying colours!
After working as a dispatcher for a year (we're all 22 now) she meets a police officer we'll call Chad, who's 26 and married... And Adam's second (?) cousin (I can't remember how they're related, just that Adam and Chad are related somewhat distantly). She has an affair with him (infidelity is super common among cops apparently). She gets knocked up, his wife divorces him, Chad proposes because "it's the right thing to do", she accepts, and her parents kick her out again for being a [insert expletive here], she moves in with Chad with her two kids. They've started planning the wedding, which... Given the background is something akin to a dumpster fire. Adam is LIVID. He was desperately in love with this girl and hasn't really recovered from what she did to him, and while she rejected his proposals years ago, she's accepted one FROM HIS COUSIN WHO PROPSED FOR THE SAME REASON HE DID.
Adam has basically made a call for loyalty in the family, dividing everyone one who should go, who should give money, etc plus they're having trouble planning anything because of COVID. Her parents have outright said that they're not going, along with half of her family, and her younger sister has been going around and sabotaging what plans they can make.
She has asked me to be a bridesmaid, I said that I couldn't because I live in a different province now, but the truth is, I do not want to be wrapped up in that clusterfuck in any way . I'm just watching the arguments and events unfold on social media because this is quite honestly the most entertaining thing I've seen all year. It's weird to me that she even asked because we're not friends, we never have been. We were friendly strangers in high school, I just helped her out for one class because she needed help and I could give it to her. I was just being nice. But based on how she turned out I'm just sad for her. Three kids in four years, and she's alienated so much of her friends and family because if her actions, and I'm torn between feeling sorry for her and putting my head in my hands.
EDIT 1:
First off, all of your comments are hilarious. Second, I'm going to answer some of the common questions.
We're from a city with over 400,000 thousand people, she just comes from the neighbourhood that is made of either bible thumpers or white trash, with no in between. But the high school we went to was in a completely different neighbourhood than that.
Our school had a pretty good sex Ed course, and they gave out free condoms and had resources to help girls get birth control, and they had programs in place for if students ever got pregnant/were going to be teen parents (they also had one of those classes with the dolls for girls who were high risk at teen pregnancy but she wasn't high risk so she wasn't in that class) I don't if BC just didn't work for her, or if she never tried it.
She started alienating her friends after the affair with Chad came out, because people weren't exactly jumping for joy that she'd broken up a marriage (Chad and his ex didn't have any kids, thankfully, so there were less obstacles). When people weren't immediately ecstatic for her she started getting very snippy, rude, and was "calling the bitches out" on social media for not supporting her new relationship or pregnancy. (Tbh I'm really worried about her health because having this many babies so close together is just not good for her health, mental or physical.) People are also worried that Chad will cheat on her "if he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you" and think she should avoid marrying him so that she can just leave him if it happens.
I'll give you updates as they come out, but so far it's just a lot of yelling on social media (mostly from her), some relatives slut shaming her, and people who are just really worried about her because, as funny as this is, this doesn't seem like healthy behaviour.
EDIT 2:
First off, I realized I never gave this girl a name. For the sake of clarity we'll call her Beth. I realize that I didn't mention this before, but all of these are fake names.
Second, to everyone commenting that Chad is at fault for his marriage breaking up, believe me I'm well aware of that. It is his ex wife and her family/friends who solely blame Beth. Chad is also older than her and has more life experience, so I do believe that he could potentially be taking advantage of her naivete. However, she is also an adult who is capable of making her own decisions and has chosen to make poor ones in the past.
Third, people who are upset that I'm posting this story here, claiming I'm humiliating her. She has been posting about this mess on every social media platform she has since they got engaged in July. She put this out there long before I did except she did so in front of friends, family, employers, and coworkers, as well as internet randos.
Fourth, despite getting engaged in July and attempting to start planning then, I was only asked to be a bridesmaid three days ago. I knew that there was a mess going on but I didn't really pay attention to it until she asked me to be a bridesmaid. I tried to ask what was going on, I said that she should talk to someone, but when she completely brushed me off I checked her FB and Instagram and found out about all of... This.
Fifth, I realized that I didn't really talk about how disastrous the wedding planning has been going, see here you go:
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UPDATE:
Hey everyone, so some stuff has gone down, and it doesn't look like it's over yet. Sorry, I didn't update sooner, but Rona came back with a vengeance and totally messed up plans with uni and family. Anyway, onto the update.
From the last update - 16th - Lots of ranting and chaotic wedding planning on social media, she found a dress and has decided she will get married while pregnant, they found a local wedding venue that is very lovely, but I'm shocked she's still trying to book stuff with all of their previous venue cancellations.
December 16th - Her little sister unblocked her to call her a s*ut and tell her that all her wedding plans were stupid. This resulted in a petty and entertaining facebook war until the little sis blocked her again on the 17th.
December 18th - Beth went nuts on social media because Adam had "kidnapped" their daughter, what really happened is that because courts are moving at a snail's pace due to COVID and Adam had reason to believe that their daughter was not safe living with Beth he decided to just... Not give her back. They don't have a custody agreement, and when Beth tried to call the cops they couldn't do anything because he was kinda right. There were dozens of videos on her various social media accounts of her ignoring their daughter, yelling at her daughter for crying or doing other things that toddlers do, it turns out that everything she needed was bought by Adam, food, diapers, clothes, toys, daycare (while it was open) etc. on top of the unofficial child support he was paying every month (which turned out to be $500 a month, a number I find ridiculous because Adam was already paying for literally everything) because she refused to buy anything for her daughter and insisted it was Adam's responsibility. Additionally, after the immediate post-birth appointments, Beth never took baby A to a doctor's appointment, she always deferred that to Adam. Baby A's pediatrician has NEVER met Beth. Beth even tried to get Chad to push back or intimidate him or something, but the local police where we live are under one hell of a microscope after a bunch of dirty cops got busted a couple of years ago. Basically, the cops, and the social worker they ended up calling, ended up saying there was nothing she could do until they get to court. The social worker tried to get her to go to therapy and parenting classes, but Beth refused and went on a fifteen paragraph long rant on Facebook about how she doesn't need parenting classes or therapy (she really, really does though) and called the social worker some choice words.
December 19-24 - Just a bunch of ranting on social media, calling everyone who doesn't enable or justify her behaviour cuss words, slurs, and a whole bunch of other horribly creative things. Also, both she and Chad are under investigation at work now, but she has no idea why. I'm gonna take this time to remind everyone that 99% of this info is coming from her public social media pages where her coworkers are friends and place of employment is listed.
December 25 - I am officially embarrassed to know this woman. I didn't go on her FB page until the evening cause I didn't want to deal with drama, first thing in the morning, on Xmas. In the morning she put on a very beautiful blue maternity dress, got Chad in his police blues, and baby B in a purple romper, and then live-streamed her and her family going to the courthouse to get married on Christmas day. (According to her Twitter, part of this was because their newest venue cancelled on them after COVID numbers spiked) Overall, a pretty tacky thing in my opinion because she stated plain as day, several times, that she intended her wedding anniversary to eclipse Christmas for her children because it's just "so much more special, you know?" (I am so glad that Baby B's grandparents are filing for guardianship) But here's the thing... The courthouse isn't open. Because of COVID for one thing, but also because it's Xmas and Canada has a predominantly Christian history. She proceeded to have a full meltdown, and when Baby B cried because, y'know, the kid's mom was screaming up a storm and scaring her, Beth called her a c*nt. Yup. So done with this bitch.
December 28 - I ran into her at a vaccine clinic cause we were both getting our booster shots. She didn't recognize me at first but one of my old bosses (cause I used to work at the hospital the vaccine clinic was in) called my name and said hi, so she came up to me after my old boss had left. We talked a bit while we sat down for the mandatory waiting period after getting the shot. She asked how I was but didn't even wait for me to respond before she started ranting and complaining about her life. I was just going to sit there until the time was up and then just politely make my exit, but when she started talking shit about her kids something inside me snapped. I just said "Do you even like your kids? Do you like being a mom?" She got pretty quiet for a second and then said "no". Idk, her voice and demeanour completely changed and we just sat in silence until our time was up. I said goodbye but it was really awkward.
December 31st (today) - I just looked at her feed and, this is such a shocking what-the-actual-f*** moment. She's thinking about giving up her kids. She went on about how recently she was asked if she liked her kids or being a mom, and how she realized that she didn't. She hates her children and blames them for ruining her life, and how she doesn't want to be a mom. I mean, nothing is official yet, but what the hell?!
I'll update as stuff happens now that I have the time, but this whole thing has been a big giant mess. Also, sorry for any formatting or grammatical errors, I'm not used to using Reddit on my PC.
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UPDATE
Okay, so, some stuff has happened and most of it's good? Also, the TL:DR for this update will be at the bottom
Jan 4th - Beth (and Chad) stopped posting on all social media. I was actually a little worried she died, I mean this woman posts everything short of her trips to the bathroom on IG.
Oddly enough, this got people messaging or interacting with her social media pages because she was usually the one to start contact, and that contact was usually yelling. No one heard from them and some people started to be like "should we call the cops for a wellness check?" Until Chad posted a status saying that they're fine but are "busy, please stop trying to contact us right now". Everyone listened but it was weird.
Jan 11 - I got a notification that Beth and Chad are active on social media again, but I didn't feel like drama so I didn't check out any of their posts.
Jan 12 (today) - she messaged me on FB asking me to be her MOH. She also kept going on about the resort in Cancun that she and Chad were looking to have their wedding at... This coming February. Omnicrom is really bad where we are, so no one should be travelling anywhere. I've actually had to delay my trip back to the province where I go to university. No one should be travelling anywhere.
Beth also found out that Chad was cheating on her with one of her co-workers and called the woman a "homewrecker" on FB tagged her, and posted the texts she found on Chad's phone. But Chad is the "love of her life" so she's forgiven him, but not the other woman. Which I find very hypocritical, considering how she and Chad got together.
She also sent pics of possible bridesmaid dresses and they are the most hideous dresses I've ever seen. I know that some brides do that thing where they want to look a million times better by comparison but this was just ridiculous. One of them looked like a partially deflated balloon with feathers strapped to it. She also openly admitted that she expected everyone attending to pay 3k, 2k would go towards that guest's stay at the resort and 1k would go to her and Chad and they will expected wedding gifts, so that they could get their room for free. Apparently, she talked to someone at the resort and if she got enough people to book their rooms she and Chad would get theirs for free. She also wanted the money to be given to her instead of directly to the hotel so that people wouldn't realize that she was taking 1k of their money. Beth sent me a pic of the wedding dress she wanted, and it's definitely a clubbing dress. If that's what she wants that's fine (and for the record I do think she would look great in it, Beth's (current) dream wedding dress ) but she wants all the guests to be dressed black tie. And she's already sent a list of unreasonable requests. Such as;
I was also just kinda weirded out because aside from the previous convo at the hospital and when she originally asked me to be a bridesmaid, we haven't spoken since high school. So I respectfully declined, stating that the virus and school were my top concerns right now. Then, I decided to check her socials to see if she'd posted anything. She had and everything was basically how it was before the hiatus... Except her kids are nowhere to be found. No "look at my cute baby" pics are kids crying in the background of her videos. Nothing. Though, based on her new pics of herself, she's given birth to baby C. I mean, she's definitely still recovering, but she also definitely had a baby and that baby is not on any of her socials, so when she responded to my decline with an attempt at guilting me to be her MOH, I asked her where her kids were. This was her response.
"Oh, I left them at the side of the road in our way home from the hospital those moochers could walk home lol"
I was like, please tell me you're not being serious (especially cause it looks like she had the baby days ago). And she replied "I was just joking you shouldn't be so serious all the time". Honey, you made a joke about child abandonment/abuse, you're not being serious enough. And then I finally got the update on the kids.
After learning all this my convo with Beth started to go down hill...
Beth: wait, did you actually think I would just leave my kids at the side of the road! I just didn't want to be a mom, but I wasn't a bad one
Me: Beth, I think that you've been through a lot of trauma in the past few years, and that it's gotten to you mentally and that you should speak to a professional.
(Of course, Beth has been a bad mom, but she does need mental health help and I wasn't going to convince her to get it, or to not tell at me, if I said that )
Beth: what? You think I'm crazy?!
Me: no. I think that getting kicked out as a teen because of a pregnancy and having your family actively reject you and try to sabotage you must have been very painful. Plus, pregnancy puts a lot of mental stress on women and you've had three in such a short time span, I just want you to take care of yourself and get what you want in life, and I think that will start with you taking care of your mental health.
Beth: what I want... IS FOR YOU TO GO STRAIGHT TO HELL! Beth then calls me every cuss word, expletive, and derogatory word she can think of one of the words she called me was a derogatory word about people from my ethnicity and my blood is boiling that she thought it was okay to say that to me.
So, I'm now on her hit list. She's been blowing up my social media all day, on her last FB post where she called me a slur she said that she still expects a good wedding gift from me. Yeah, no. So I've blocked her on everything, and I've decided to completely cut off contact. This will be my last update.
TL:DR - Beth went on a social media blackout for a bit, had baby C. Gave up all her kids, baby A is still with Adam, Baby B and Baby C are with a mutual cousin of Adam and Chad and baby B's grandparents have access. Chad cheated on her and she forgave him, but she probably shouldn't have. She's decided to have her wedding in a little over a month in Cancun and is expecting unreasonable things of everyone already. She asked me to be MOH I respectfully declined. I also suggested that she talk to a mental health professional because she's been through a lot in the last few years and she cussed me out, she also called me a derogatory name directed at people of my ethnicity and that was the final nail in the coffin. I'm now on her hit list. But her kids are safe and I have no interest in going to wedding so I'm cutting contact completely and have already blocked her on all my socials. I'm refusing to be involved with her anymore and will not be updating on the situation.
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--- EDIT - NEW UPDATE --- - JANUARY 25, 2023 - TL:DR AT THE BOTTOM
Hi, everyone, I didn't think I would be making another update, but here I am. I don't know if anyone will even care but whatever. I saw a YouTuber, Charlotte Dobre, do an entire video about this post on Facebook (which was funny, she did it well), [editor's note: here's the video in question and also: check out Charlotte Dobre's subreddit !] and got so nervous that Beth was gonna see it. Turned out, she's seen it and does not give a single damn, because as I pointed out, the majority of the info in this post came from her public social media. She also doesn't know who posted it (more on that in the update). I am still no contact with Beth and have no plans to change that anytime soon, but we have mutual friends who have told and shown me what's happened.
First things first, she and Chad did get married, but they eloped. According to all sources they are completely and utterly miserable though. Chad has proven to be and overall lazy and unfaithful husband, and Beth has really gotten into feminism (with a focus on reproductive issues) after she started using birth control, and Roe v Wade getting overturned (even though we're in Canada) really caused tension in their marriage. As it turns out, Chad thinks that abortion is murder and God created women for the purpose of making babies.
Beth tried to argue that not all women want or should be mothers using herself as an example, and then Chad went ahead and used her as an example of why women should be forced to have kids, because in the end she gave kids to an infertile couple. She didn't take that well and said that her entire life and future was ripped away from her and destroyed the second she got pregnant with baby A. Adam was never slut shamed or demeaned like she was, both at home and at school (which is a fair point, myself and many others were helpful and supportive but there were a lot of people who judged the hell out of her and said really nasty stuff) and that if she hadn't gotten pregnant she would've gone to college or university because she lost the general and financial support of her family with that positive pregnancy test. Chad has made a Tinder account. Beth was informed but it doesn't seem like she gave a damn.
So basically you could cut the tension with a knife.
And with her family, her sister came out as gay and cut off/has been cut off from their parents. But she's got a partial scholarship so she's doing okay. She and Beth are NOT on good terms but have met up and acknowledged that their parents messed them up by being religious nuts and their parents encouraged them to be competitive with each other and sabotage each other. Apparently their dad's motto is "competition brings out the best in everyone" (ugh). But they've talked and that's good enough for now.
Neither Beth nor Chad have custody or visitation of their children, which Chad is starting to regret because he's suddenly getting more and more into the church and religion. Chad talked to Beth about getting baby C back but Beth shut that down hard and warned the cousin who adopted baby C (officially and legally btw).
Beth started going to therapy after she and Chad got married, which makes me very happy and excited for her.
There was a rumour going around that Chad has a mistress and it took me a while to confirm, but it's true. He's cheating on her with a paramedic and she knows. Beth is fully aware. Idk if she plans to do anything about it or just continue to ignore it, but I hope she leaves his ass. I'm still not gonna talk to her, she crossed so many lines, but she's grown and improved a lot and her life would be a lot better without that sac of scum in her life.
Now, I have given a few details in my post that should've revealed my identity to her, namely her asking me to be her MOH. I have found out that she actually asked around 15 girls (including myself) to be her MOH, without telling any of us about the others because she was trying to get money from all of us and because her mental health has just been very bad and she needed help. And of those 15, 8 have been going to school out of province and of those eight we all had basically the same classes in high school. And apparently doesn't remember our discussion at the vaccination clinic and had major blow up with everyone she asked to be MOH. So she knows it's one of 8 people and reportedly has no interest in trying to narrow that number down. (Chad did the same thing with his groomsmen, but idk any of the numbers)
TL:DR Beth and Chad got married (eloped), are miserable, have zero custody or visitation with any of their children, Chad's cheating and Beth doesn't appear to care, Chad is super sexist, Beth is a feminist now, Beth's sister is gay and they've talked but not reconciled, Beth asked too many girls to be MOH for money and doesn't know the ID of who made this post.
Dear "Beth", if this post gets forwarded to you or somehow graces your phone screen, leave Chad. He's trash and you'll be much better without him in your life. And though I'm not willing to talk to you again because of your words and actions, I do wish for you to have a wonderful and happy life.
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There was already a BoRU post by u/autochthonouschimera, which didn't include the last update yet.
TRIGGER WARNING: cheating, child neglect, extreme entitledness, talk of abortion
MOOD SPOILERS: infuriating, confusing, frustrating
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Original story was posted on December 7, 2021
Okay, so this girl I know from high school is getting married. We're both 22, for reference. In our senior year of high school she got pregnant, with baby daddy A who will be referred to as Adam. Her super conservative parents kicked her out and she ended up moving in with a friend's family. She barely graduated high school. The only reason she did were because of the generosity and support of our teachers and students who volunteered to help her, which is how we met. We were in the same law class in the morning and she had the worst morning sickness that really affected her ability to be in class. So, I took extra notes for her, tutored her, and brought her her stuff if she hadn't come back by the bell. I wasn't the only one who did stuff like this for her and I know she really appreciates all the assistance we gave her. She had the baby a month after we graduated.
She'd signed up for a 911 dispatcher course for after high school because where we live it's a good steady job, with opportunity for certificates and promotions. But she didn't realize how intensive the course would be and had to drop out. She started working at a grocery store bakery, just until she had a better plan. Adam started an apprenticeship while working part time at a hockey rink, and proposed to her literally the day of her eighteenth birthday, and brought up marriage because "it's the right thing to do" (I don't really agree with that but this isn't about me) and she was always refusing.
She started cheating on him after a while (we're all 19 now), and eventually leaves him for another guy because... She's pregnant again and it is far more likely that this guy, baby daddy B who will be referred to as Brad, is the father of the child. Neither of them can afford lawyers so getting any kind of custody agreement is a mess, and then their parents got involved and they did 50/50 split (still not made official). She has the baby, that does turn out to be Brad's, and everything is okay for about nine months, when she finds out Brad has been cheating on her with his TA. Brad decides to pay child support but doesn't really want contact with the kid, only around holidays and one weekend a month for his parents' sake.
She moves back in with her parents (we're all 20 now) who only accept her back because there's grandchildren around. On the plus side, (when she's 21) she gets to take that year long dispatcher course, and passes with flying colours!
After working as a dispatcher for a year (we're all 22 now) she meets a police officer we'll call Chad, who's 26 and married... And Adam's second (?) cousin (I can't remember how they're related, just that Adam and Chad are related somewhat distantly). She has an affair with him (infidelity is super common among cops apparently). She gets knocked up, his wife divorces him, Chad proposes because "it's the right thing to do", she accepts, and her parents kick her out again for being a [insert expletive here], she moves in with Chad with her two kids. They've started planning the wedding, which... Given the background is something akin to a dumpster fire. Adam is LIVID. He was desperately in love with this girl and hasn't really recovered from what she did to him, and while she rejected his proposals years ago, she's accepted one FROM HIS COUSIN WHO PROPSED FOR THE SAME REASON HE DID.
Adam has basically made a call for loyalty in the family, dividing everyone one who should go, who should give money, etc plus they're having trouble planning anything because of COVID. Her parents have outright said that they're not going, along with half of her family, and her younger sister has been going around and sabotaging what plans they can make.
She has asked me to be a bridesmaid, I said that I couldn't because I live in a different province now, but the truth is, I do not want to be wrapped up in that clusterfuck in any way . I'm just watching the arguments and events unfold on social media because this is quite honestly the most entertaining thing I've seen all year. It's weird to me that she even asked because we're not friends, we never have been. We were friendly strangers in high school, I just helped her out for one class because she needed help and I could give it to her. I was just being nice. But based on how she turned out I'm just sad for her. Three kids in four years, and she's alienated so much of her friends and family because if her actions, and I'm torn between feeling sorry for her and putting my head in my hands.
EDIT 1:
First off, all of your comments are hilarious. Second, I'm going to answer some of the common questions.
We're from a city with over 400,000 thousand people, she just comes from the neighbourhood that is made of either bible thumpers or white trash, with no in between. But the high school we went to was in a completely different neighbourhood than that.
Our school had a pretty good sex Ed course, and they gave out free condoms and had resources to help girls get birth control, and they had programs in place for if students ever got pregnant/were going to be teen parents (they also had one of those classes with the dolls for girls who were high risk at teen pregnancy but she wasn't high risk so she wasn't in that class) I don't if BC just didn't work for her, or if she never tried it.
She started alienating her friends after the affair with Chad came out, because people weren't exactly jumping for joy that she'd broken up a marriage (Chad and his ex didn't have any kids, thankfully, so there were less obstacles). When people weren't immediately ecstatic for her she started getting very snippy, rude, and was "calling the bitches out" on social media for not supporting her new relationship or pregnancy. (Tbh I'm really worried about her health because having this many babies so close together is just not good for her health, mental or physical.) People are also worried that Chad will cheat on her "if he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you" and think she should avoid marrying him so that she can just leave him if it happens.
I'll give you updates as they come out, but so far it's just a lot of yelling on social media (mostly from her), some relatives slut shaming her, and people who are just really worried about her because, as funny as this is, this doesn't seem like healthy behaviour.
EDIT 2:
First off, I realized I never gave this girl a name. For the sake of clarity we'll call her Beth. I realize that I didn't mention this before, but all of these are fake names.
Second, to everyone commenting that Chad is at fault for his marriage breaking up, believe me I'm well aware of that. It is his ex wife and her family/friends who solely blame Beth. Chad is also older than her and has more life experience, so I do believe that he could potentially be taking advantage of her naivete. However, she is also an adult who is capable of making her own decisions and has chosen to make poor ones in the past.
Third, people who are upset that I'm posting this story here, claiming I'm humiliating her. She has been posting about this mess on every social media platform she has since they got engaged in July. She put this out there long before I did except she did so in front of friends, family, employers, and coworkers, as well as internet randos.
Fourth, despite getting engaged in July and attempting to start planning then, I was only asked to be a bridesmaid three days ago. I knew that there was a mess going on but I didn't really pay attention to it until she asked me to be a bridesmaid. I tried to ask what was going on, I said that she should talk to someone, but when she completely brushed me off I checked her FB and Instagram and found out about all of... This.
Fifth, I realized that I didn't really talk about how disastrous the wedding planning has been going, see here you go:
- they've had to rebook three times because venues and vendors kept cancelling when infection numbers got worse even thought their wedding was months away
- Beth has been flipping between having the wedding while she's pregnant saying she's proud of her bump, and wanting to wait until they're born because she feels fat, which is unfortunate because she's been breaking down due her insecurity on a public platform
- Beth is currently seven months pregnant
- Beth's great aunt was going to give her her wedding dress to wear (after she gives birth) but Beth's mom freaked and stole the dress from said aunt before Beth could get it and is now keeping it, the great aunt says she's too old to get in a fight and has shrugged it off
- Chad's immediate family is paying for the wedding and has been cut off by the rest of their extended family for 'choosing Chad'
- Beth's wedding colours are pink and green, which is usually a nice combo but the specific shades don't go great together, they're her and Chad's favourite colours, which is fine but she literally made a video talking about these colours for 14 minutes on her insta and both of her kids are just full on bawling in the background and she's ignoring them and she's gotten some flack for that
- Adam is finally settled into his trade and has now hired a lawyer and is trying to get primary custody and not allow his daughter to go to the wedding
- she's planning a zoom baby showebachelorette party and has sent out a registry and she's asking for crazy expensive things
- she's also set up a go fund me to help pay for a honeymoon and is making a lot of posts about how no one loves her cause the fund only has $1267 of the $20k she wanted
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UPDATE:
Hey everyone, so some stuff has gone down, and it doesn't look like it's over yet. Sorry, I didn't update sooner, but Rona came back with a vengeance and totally messed up plans with uni and family. Anyway, onto the update.
From the last update - 16th - Lots of ranting and chaotic wedding planning on social media, she found a dress and has decided she will get married while pregnant, they found a local wedding venue that is very lovely, but I'm shocked she's still trying to book stuff with all of their previous venue cancellations.
December 16th - Her little sister unblocked her to call her a s*ut and tell her that all her wedding plans were stupid. This resulted in a petty and entertaining facebook war until the little sis blocked her again on the 17th.
December 18th - Beth went nuts on social media because Adam had "kidnapped" their daughter, what really happened is that because courts are moving at a snail's pace due to COVID and Adam had reason to believe that their daughter was not safe living with Beth he decided to just... Not give her back. They don't have a custody agreement, and when Beth tried to call the cops they couldn't do anything because he was kinda right. There were dozens of videos on her various social media accounts of her ignoring their daughter, yelling at her daughter for crying or doing other things that toddlers do, it turns out that everything she needed was bought by Adam, food, diapers, clothes, toys, daycare (while it was open) etc. on top of the unofficial child support he was paying every month (which turned out to be $500 a month, a number I find ridiculous because Adam was already paying for literally everything) because she refused to buy anything for her daughter and insisted it was Adam's responsibility. Additionally, after the immediate post-birth appointments, Beth never took baby A to a doctor's appointment, she always deferred that to Adam. Baby A's pediatrician has NEVER met Beth. Beth even tried to get Chad to push back or intimidate him or something, but the local police where we live are under one hell of a microscope after a bunch of dirty cops got busted a couple of years ago. Basically, the cops, and the social worker they ended up calling, ended up saying there was nothing she could do until they get to court. The social worker tried to get her to go to therapy and parenting classes, but Beth refused and went on a fifteen paragraph long rant on Facebook about how she doesn't need parenting classes or therapy (she really, really does though) and called the social worker some choice words.
December 19-24 - Just a bunch of ranting on social media, calling everyone who doesn't enable or justify her behaviour cuss words, slurs, and a whole bunch of other horribly creative things. Also, both she and Chad are under investigation at work now, but she has no idea why. I'm gonna take this time to remind everyone that 99% of this info is coming from her public social media pages where her coworkers are friends and place of employment is listed.
December 25 - I am officially embarrassed to know this woman. I didn't go on her FB page until the evening cause I didn't want to deal with drama, first thing in the morning, on Xmas. In the morning she put on a very beautiful blue maternity dress, got Chad in his police blues, and baby B in a purple romper, and then live-streamed her and her family going to the courthouse to get married on Christmas day. (According to her Twitter, part of this was because their newest venue cancelled on them after COVID numbers spiked) Overall, a pretty tacky thing in my opinion because she stated plain as day, several times, that she intended her wedding anniversary to eclipse Christmas for her children because it's just "so much more special, you know?" (I am so glad that Baby B's grandparents are filing for guardianship) But here's the thing... The courthouse isn't open. Because of COVID for one thing, but also because it's Xmas and Canada has a predominantly Christian history. She proceeded to have a full meltdown, and when Baby B cried because, y'know, the kid's mom was screaming up a storm and scaring her, Beth called her a c*nt. Yup. So done with this bitch.
December 28 - I ran into her at a vaccine clinic cause we were both getting our booster shots. She didn't recognize me at first but one of my old bosses (cause I used to work at the hospital the vaccine clinic was in) called my name and said hi, so she came up to me after my old boss had left. We talked a bit while we sat down for the mandatory waiting period after getting the shot. She asked how I was but didn't even wait for me to respond before she started ranting and complaining about her life. I was just going to sit there until the time was up and then just politely make my exit, but when she started talking shit about her kids something inside me snapped. I just said "Do you even like your kids? Do you like being a mom?" She got pretty quiet for a second and then said "no". Idk, her voice and demeanour completely changed and we just sat in silence until our time was up. I said goodbye but it was really awkward.
December 31st (today) - I just looked at her feed and, this is such a shocking what-the-actual-f*** moment. She's thinking about giving up her kids. She went on about how recently she was asked if she liked her kids or being a mom, and how she realized that she didn't. She hates her children and blames them for ruining her life, and how she doesn't want to be a mom. I mean, nothing is official yet, but what the hell?!
I'll update as stuff happens now that I have the time, but this whole thing has been a big giant mess. Also, sorry for any formatting or grammatical errors, I'm not used to using Reddit on my PC.
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UPDATE
Okay, so, some stuff has happened and most of it's good? Also, the TL:DR for this update will be at the bottom
Jan 4th - Beth (and Chad) stopped posting on all social media. I was actually a little worried she died, I mean this woman posts everything short of her trips to the bathroom on IG.
Oddly enough, this got people messaging or interacting with her social media pages because she was usually the one to start contact, and that contact was usually yelling. No one heard from them and some people started to be like "should we call the cops for a wellness check?" Until Chad posted a status saying that they're fine but are "busy, please stop trying to contact us right now". Everyone listened but it was weird.
Jan 11 - I got a notification that Beth and Chad are active on social media again, but I didn't feel like drama so I didn't check out any of their posts.
Jan 12 (today) - she messaged me on FB asking me to be her MOH. She also kept going on about the resort in Cancun that she and Chad were looking to have their wedding at... This coming February. Omnicrom is really bad where we are, so no one should be travelling anywhere. I've actually had to delay my trip back to the province where I go to university. No one should be travelling anywhere.
Beth also found out that Chad was cheating on her with one of her co-workers and called the woman a "homewrecker" on FB tagged her, and posted the texts she found on Chad's phone. But Chad is the "love of her life" so she's forgiven him, but not the other woman. Which I find very hypocritical, considering how she and Chad got together.
She also sent pics of possible bridesmaid dresses and they are the most hideous dresses I've ever seen. I know that some brides do that thing where they want to look a million times better by comparison but this was just ridiculous. One of them looked like a partially deflated balloon with feathers strapped to it. She also openly admitted that she expected everyone attending to pay 3k, 2k would go towards that guest's stay at the resort and 1k would go to her and Chad and they will expected wedding gifts, so that they could get their room for free. Apparently, she talked to someone at the resort and if she got enough people to book their rooms she and Chad would get theirs for free. She also wanted the money to be given to her instead of directly to the hotel so that people wouldn't realize that she was taking 1k of their money. Beth sent me a pic of the wedding dress she wanted, and it's definitely a clubbing dress. If that's what she wants that's fine (and for the record I do think she would look great in it, Beth's (current) dream wedding dress ) but she wants all the guests to be dressed black tie. And she's already sent a list of unreasonable requests. Such as;
- all women must wear heels (for a wedding in the beach???)
- no one is allowed to have a baby or be pregnant (really?)
- girls must have longer than shoulder length hair, boys must have very short hair, only and inch or two long
- no one is allowed to be skinnier than her
- she will be providing diets for everyone attending based on how she wants us to look
- she and Chad must get bachelor and bachelorette parties both in Canada and in Mexico that need to be "fit for a king and queen" and both must be paid for but anyone but the bride and groom "cause that's just tacky"
- no unnatural hair
- no tattoos (you have five tattoos, Beth, and in the dress you want all will be on full display)
- no one is allowed to talk to her directly, they must speak through the MOH and BM
I was also just kinda weirded out because aside from the previous convo at the hospital and when she originally asked me to be a bridesmaid, we haven't spoken since high school. So I respectfully declined, stating that the virus and school were my top concerns right now. Then, I decided to check her socials to see if she'd posted anything. She had and everything was basically how it was before the hiatus... Except her kids are nowhere to be found. No "look at my cute baby" pics are kids crying in the background of her videos. Nothing. Though, based on her new pics of herself, she's given birth to baby C. I mean, she's definitely still recovering, but she also definitely had a baby and that baby is not on any of her socials, so when she responded to my decline with an attempt at guilting me to be her MOH, I asked her where her kids were. This was her response.
"Oh, I left them at the side of the road in our way home from the hospital those moochers could walk home lol"
I was like, please tell me you're not being serious (especially cause it looks like she had the baby days ago). And she replied "I was just joking you shouldn't be so serious all the time". Honey, you made a joke about child abandonment/abuse, you're not being serious enough. And then I finally got the update on the kids.
- Baby A is still with Adam, Beth signed away her rights
- Baby B and Baby C have been given to a mutual cousin of Adam and Chad who is infertile (tbh I didn't need that last tidbit of info or the three paragraph long rant about how God hates infertile women, I didn't even read all of it, I couldn't, and I didn't think that Beth could be so cruel to even think those things). I checked out the FB page of Baby B's grandparents and they're happy with their grandchild's new parents, it looks like the cousin and her husband and welcoming them to the family as another set of grandparents and will let them have access to B. So yay!
- One thing I do need to stress though is that because of COVID the courts in our areas are either moving at a snail's pace or closed, so none of this is "official" but Beth (and Chad) has signed paperwork and all that needs to happen now is presenting that to a judge.
After learning all this my convo with Beth started to go down hill...
Beth: wait, did you actually think I would just leave my kids at the side of the road! I just didn't want to be a mom, but I wasn't a bad one
Me: Beth, I think that you've been through a lot of trauma in the past few years, and that it's gotten to you mentally and that you should speak to a professional.
(Of course, Beth has been a bad mom, but she does need mental health help and I wasn't going to convince her to get it, or to not tell at me, if I said that )
Beth: what? You think I'm crazy?!
Me: no. I think that getting kicked out as a teen because of a pregnancy and having your family actively reject you and try to sabotage you must have been very painful. Plus, pregnancy puts a lot of mental stress on women and you've had three in such a short time span, I just want you to take care of yourself and get what you want in life, and I think that will start with you taking care of your mental health.
Beth: what I want... IS FOR YOU TO GO STRAIGHT TO HELL! Beth then calls me every cuss word, expletive, and derogatory word she can think of one of the words she called me was a derogatory word about people from my ethnicity and my blood is boiling that she thought it was okay to say that to me.
So, I'm now on her hit list. She's been blowing up my social media all day, on her last FB post where she called me a slur she said that she still expects a good wedding gift from me. Yeah, no. So I've blocked her on everything, and I've decided to completely cut off contact. This will be my last update.
TL:DR - Beth went on a social media blackout for a bit, had baby C. Gave up all her kids, baby A is still with Adam, Baby B and Baby C are with a mutual cousin of Adam and Chad and baby B's grandparents have access. Chad cheated on her and she forgave him, but she probably shouldn't have. She's decided to have her wedding in a little over a month in Cancun and is expecting unreasonable things of everyone already. She asked me to be MOH I respectfully declined. I also suggested that she talk to a mental health professional because she's been through a lot in the last few years and she cussed me out, she also called me a derogatory name directed at people of my ethnicity and that was the final nail in the coffin. I'm now on her hit list. But her kids are safe and I have no interest in going to wedding so I'm cutting contact completely and have already blocked her on all my socials. I'm refusing to be involved with her anymore and will not be updating on the situation.
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--- EDIT - NEW UPDATE --- - JANUARY 25, 2023 - TL:DR AT THE BOTTOM
Hi, everyone, I didn't think I would be making another update, but here I am. I don't know if anyone will even care but whatever. I saw a YouTuber, Charlotte Dobre, do an entire video about this post on Facebook (which was funny, she did it well), [editor's note: here's the video in question and also: check out Charlotte Dobre's subreddit !] and got so nervous that Beth was gonna see it. Turned out, she's seen it and does not give a single damn, because as I pointed out, the majority of the info in this post came from her public social media. She also doesn't know who posted it (more on that in the update). I am still no contact with Beth and have no plans to change that anytime soon, but we have mutual friends who have told and shown me what's happened.
First things first, she and Chad did get married, but they eloped. According to all sources they are completely and utterly miserable though. Chad has proven to be and overall lazy and unfaithful husband, and Beth has really gotten into feminism (with a focus on reproductive issues) after she started using birth control, and Roe v Wade getting overturned (even though we're in Canada) really caused tension in their marriage. As it turns out, Chad thinks that abortion is murder and God created women for the purpose of making babies.
Beth tried to argue that not all women want or should be mothers using herself as an example, and then Chad went ahead and used her as an example of why women should be forced to have kids, because in the end she gave kids to an infertile couple. She didn't take that well and said that her entire life and future was ripped away from her and destroyed the second she got pregnant with baby A. Adam was never slut shamed or demeaned like she was, both at home and at school (which is a fair point, myself and many others were helpful and supportive but there were a lot of people who judged the hell out of her and said really nasty stuff) and that if she hadn't gotten pregnant she would've gone to college or university because she lost the general and financial support of her family with that positive pregnancy test. Chad has made a Tinder account. Beth was informed but it doesn't seem like she gave a damn.
So basically you could cut the tension with a knife.
And with her family, her sister came out as gay and cut off/has been cut off from their parents. But she's got a partial scholarship so she's doing okay. She and Beth are NOT on good terms but have met up and acknowledged that their parents messed them up by being religious nuts and their parents encouraged them to be competitive with each other and sabotage each other. Apparently their dad's motto is "competition brings out the best in everyone" (ugh). But they've talked and that's good enough for now.
Neither Beth nor Chad have custody or visitation of their children, which Chad is starting to regret because he's suddenly getting more and more into the church and religion. Chad talked to Beth about getting baby C back but Beth shut that down hard and warned the cousin who adopted baby C (officially and legally btw).
Beth started going to therapy after she and Chad got married, which makes me very happy and excited for her.
There was a rumour going around that Chad has a mistress and it took me a while to confirm, but it's true. He's cheating on her with a paramedic and she knows. Beth is fully aware. Idk if she plans to do anything about it or just continue to ignore it, but I hope she leaves his ass. I'm still not gonna talk to her, she crossed so many lines, but she's grown and improved a lot and her life would be a lot better without that sac of scum in her life.
Now, I have given a few details in my post that should've revealed my identity to her, namely her asking me to be her MOH. I have found out that she actually asked around 15 girls (including myself) to be her MOH, without telling any of us about the others because she was trying to get money from all of us and because her mental health has just been very bad and she needed help. And of those 15, 8 have been going to school out of province and of those eight we all had basically the same classes in high school. And apparently doesn't remember our discussion at the vaccination clinic and had major blow up with everyone she asked to be MOH. So she knows it's one of 8 people and reportedly has no interest in trying to narrow that number down. (Chad did the same thing with his groomsmen, but idk any of the numbers)
TL:DR Beth and Chad got married (eloped), are miserable, have zero custody or visitation with any of their children, Chad's cheating and Beth doesn't appear to care, Chad is super sexist, Beth is a feminist now, Beth's sister is gay and they've talked but not reconciled, Beth asked too many girls to be MOH for money and doesn't know the ID of who made this post.
Dear "Beth", if this post gets forwarded to you or somehow graces your phone screen, leave Chad. He's trash and you'll be much better without him in your life. And though I'm not willing to talk to you again because of your words and actions, I do wish for you to have a wonderful and happy life.
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2024.05.12 23:39 ComprehensiveHabit46 Current Setup
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2024.05.12 22:24 Ok-Chipmunk8087 First time using an Esp32 and I get an exit status 2 error when uploading code to it.
 | I have attached the code I'm using, a screenshot of the error and a couple of pictures of the connected board. submitted by Ok-Chipmunk8087 to esp32 [link] [comments] Code: /********* Rui Santos Complete project details at https://RandomNerdTutorials.com/esp32-cam-video-streaming-web-server-camera-home-assistant/ IMPORTANT!!! - Select Board "AI Thinker ESP32-CAM" - GPIO 0 must be connected to GND to upload a sketch - After connecting GPIO 0 to GND, press the ESP32-CAM on-board RESET button to put your board in flashing mode Permission is hereby granted, free of charge, to any person obtaining a copy of this software and associated documentation files. The above copyright notice and this permission notice shall be included in all copies or substantial portions of the Software. *********/ #include "esp_camera.h" #include https://preview.redd.it/6qt997zn020d1.png?width=1118&format=png&auto=webp&s=e531f0bc38a7e070a6f87a80f8e6475d395faff4 https://preview.redd.it/lm6grwns020d1.png?width=3072&format=png&auto=webp&s=9d5852db0a259159e3a6ac40a9fae72d53b86353 https://preview.redd.it/4zgveflt020d1.png?width=3072&format=png&auto=webp&s=89e0af884be7405e424170ff741c7aeaa4e5f984 https://preview.redd.it/q9ib65ju020d1.png?width=3072&format=png&auto=webp&s=466fca7218633201b2d7019dd368e6782900c0db https://preview.redd.it/gmneacbv020d1.png?width=4096&format=png&auto=webp&s=a9e515b3d43e9b42a9bb7f6dc07a1cdcc3d6a468 https://preview.redd.it/pr71lkyw020d1.png?width=4096&format=png&auto=webp&s=d273945fdb0d70066ca9453f18e600c52b4217ae https://preview.redd.it/6vw2ipqx020d1.png?width=4096&format=png&auto=webp&s=911cc5c47bf8fb536c5414d6774b7ed1864c140f |
2024.05.12 18:51 CrazyCatLadyRookie Interesting Development; Maybe a Glimmer of Hope
A long time (male) friend reached out on FB recently and we had a great catch up conversation on Messenger. We first met several years ago - we trained (BJJ) at the same club. We socialized through club activities - going out to watch UFC, competitions, other informal get togethers with the group.
About five years in, he asked me out on a date which I declined as I was with my (then) fiancé. I guess relationship status was one of the few topics that surprisingly, never came up in conversation - and probably why I don’t know whether he’s ever been married. I do know he’s CF. But we stayed friends and there was nothing awkward about it. He was always kind, considerate, respectful and funny - we always had good laughs.
I do recall that he was very close with his sister and nieces - I guess they’re all grown up now! If he picks up the conversation again, I’ll be sure to ask after them. He’s not a social media hound - also a positive in my book- so I expect it won’t be for a while.
That’s all well and good because I’m not yet ready to embark on another dating relationship - I have things I’m working on in my life at this time. It was just really refreshing to have a stimulating, enjoyable conversation and I wanted to share with you. 😊
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About five years in, he asked me out on a date which I declined as I was with my (then) fiancé. I guess relationship status was one of the few topics that surprisingly, never came up in conversation - and probably why I don’t know whether he’s ever been married. I do know he’s CF. But we stayed friends and there was nothing awkward about it. He was always kind, considerate, respectful and funny - we always had good laughs.
I do recall that he was very close with his sister and nieces - I guess they’re all grown up now! If he picks up the conversation again, I’ll be sure to ask after them. He’s not a social media hound - also a positive in my book- so I expect it won’t be for a while.
That’s all well and good because I’m not yet ready to embark on another dating relationship - I have things I’m working on in my life at this time. It was just really refreshing to have a stimulating, enjoyable conversation and I wanted to share with you. 😊
2024.05.12 14:49 Prestigious_Hair7797 Xmp Profile is Different than Advertised
 | Bought gskill trident z5 but xmp is showing as 6400mt instead of 8000 😡 Asus apex encore 13900ks memory qvl is a go dunno whats wrong. submitted by Prestigious_Hair7797 to overclocking [link] [comments] |
2024.05.12 14:23 NoArmy315 App that sent notifications when friends on line(active) or open chat dialogue?
For fb messenger, wondering if there's any app that informs you as soon as your friend is active or open a chat/conversation window? I know you can see their status and last active time, but not sure if you can be informed? I asked because a bit weird that I opened a conversation window with a friend and there's a special sound but no sound when opening others... 🤔
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2024.05.12 11:32 TheCrustyCurmudgeon Why is last command not running?
**SOLVED!**: The solution (provided by u/ee-5e-ae-fb-f6-3c) was to limit the use of elevated priviliages and only apply `sudo` where needed. In my case, it was the clamscan command. Simply prefixing that command with "sudo" and running the script as normal user resolves the problem.
UPDATE: So the issue here is that Kate will not run as sudo. I need to run the script elevated, so how do I then open the log as a normal user? Any way to exit from elevated status within a script?
I have a script that creates a temp file with filenames, it then feeds that list to clamscan for scanning only files that have been modified. I'd like to open the log file with the application "kate" at the end of the script and then exit the existing terminal. It isn't working. The script runs the scan, but then just exits without opening the logfile. What am I doing wrong?
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UPDATE: So the issue here is that Kate will not run as sudo. I need to run the script elevated, so how do I then open the log as a normal user? Any way to exit from elevated status within a script?
I have a script that creates a temp file with filenames, it then feeds that list to clamscan for scanning only files that have been modified. I'd like to open the log file with the application "kate" at the end of the script and then exit the existing terminal. It isn't working. The script runs the scan, but then just exits without opening the logfile. What am I doing wrong?
#!/usbin/bash # CLAMSCAN RECENTLY CHANGED FILES # DIRECTORIES TO SCAN scan_dir="/home/" # TEMPORARY FILE list_file=$(mktemp -t clamscan.XXXXXX) exit 1 # LOCATION OF LOG FILE log_file="/home/clamweekly.log" # MAKE LIST OF NEW FILES if [ -f "$log_file" ] then # use newer files then logfile find "$scan_dir" -type f -cnewer "$log_file" -fprint "$list_file" else # scan modified in last 7 days find "$scan_dir" -type f -ctime -7 -fprint "$list_file" fi if [ -s "$list_file" ] then # Scan files clamscan -i -f "$list_file" > "$log_file" else # remove the empty file, contains no info rm -f "$list_file" fi # OPEN THE LOG FILE TO REVIEW AND CLOSE THE TERMINAL kate $log_file & disown exit
2024.05.12 04:35 Otherwise_Jicama5663 wtf pldt bulok
nawalan kami ng internet nung thursday. nagbblink ng red yung LOS light sa modem. nagtry kami i-contact yung customer service nila through phone pero hindi nagana telephone service namin kasi nga di gumagana yung modem. sa fb na robot lang sumasagot at kapag agent na ang kausap, biglang nagpapatay or binababa. nung nakausap na through fb messenger, nagconfirm lang sila na parang "ah, wala nga" sa line test daw. after non, nagbigay si agent ng number, ticket daw para macheck yung status ng complaint. may papapuntahin daw silang field tech. sunday na ngayon, may pumunta kaninang field tech, chineck lang yung mga linya at modem. tapos biglang sabi, di niya daw kaya, may papapuntahin daw siyang contractor, pero hindi ngayong araw na same day. tinanong ko kung kailan pupunta? sabi niya, di niya daw alam, di niya sure. in short, walang nangyare.
putangina niyong pldt kayo. kailangan ko ng internet kasi kailangan ko to sa trabaho ko. pero walang man lang nangyayare. sobrang basura ng customer service niyo.
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putangina niyong pldt kayo. kailangan ko ng internet kasi kailangan ko to sa trabaho ko. pero walang man lang nangyayare. sobrang basura ng customer service niyo.
2024.05.11 22:05 javiforevp usac 2024 AMA
Hi everyone!
My name is Javier Nunez-Verdugo (they/them) and I'm a current candidate for USAC External Vice President.
I wanted to post this ask-me-anything (AMA) thread as a way for any and all questions regarding this year's elections, how USAC generally operates as someone who has been involved these past 2 years, and more as they relate to our student body.
I'm going to also tag other candidate accounts that I know of at the BOTTOM of this post so that they can also share their experiences, insights, and offer some more community engagement if they would like <3 In general, please be respectful in the comments and let's not make this a stereotypical reddit experience for folks lmao
I'm also just going to share some basic resources in voting in this year's elections since they're taking a much more important spotlight this year with everything happening on campus and what is to come in this next year:
Vote in the 2024 USAC Elections: https://my.ucla.edu/directLink.aspx?featureID=20&goin=Y
Polls opened yesterday on MyUCLA and will stay open until Friday, May 17th @ 2PM! Graduating seniors are able to vote in these elections EXCEPT for those that graduated early :(
\*Note that you don't HAVE to vote for every position, although it is encouraged because USAC manages over $10 million in student fees and can do a lot for students in the form of advocating for better educational access, navigating administrative bureaucracy to bring y'all new resources, and even advocating to our State/Federal governments for increased funding for basic needs resources, putting students first in the legislation they pass, and so much more!*
Elections Board Website: https://www.uclaelectionboard.org/
This is the official hub for all things elections this year run by our lovely Elections Board.
Candidate Profiles: https://www.uclaelectionboard.org/candidates
Recommend checking these on desktop over mobile but these are a good starting point in getting to attach names to faces to the platforms the candidates for all 15 offices are running on. I recommend checking their campaign social media accounts for more detailed descriptions on platforms, who they are, and more!
What's Bruin Instagram: instagram.com/uclawhatsbruin
What's Bruin has been kind enough to film candidate introductions for every office in collaboration with Elections Board! They're a minute each and give you insight on how candidates present themselves and the platforms + priorities that they have for USAC next year should they be elected
Interacting with Candidates This Week
I know the status of in-person classes this next week is still a confusing one but candidates are set to flyer on Bruinwalk and around campus this Tuesday-Thursday 1:00 PM - 4:00 PM. This is a great way to get some campaign materials and see what candidates are really like in person as opposed to just seeing them via Instagram/other socials
For more information on USAC Elections, visit uclaelectionboard.org and its IG/FB social media platforms
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My name is Javier Nunez-Verdugo (they/them) and I'm a current candidate for USAC External Vice President.
I wanted to post this ask-me-anything (AMA) thread as a way for any and all questions regarding this year's elections, how USAC generally operates as someone who has been involved these past 2 years, and more as they relate to our student body.
I'm going to also tag other candidate accounts that I know of at the BOTTOM of this post so that they can also share their experiences, insights, and offer some more community engagement if they would like <3 In general, please be respectful in the comments and let's not make this a stereotypical reddit experience for folks lmao
I'm also just going to share some basic resources in voting in this year's elections since they're taking a much more important spotlight this year with everything happening on campus and what is to come in this next year:
Vote in the 2024 USAC Elections: https://my.ucla.edu/directLink.aspx?featureID=20&goin=Y
Polls opened yesterday on MyUCLA and will stay open until Friday, May 17th @ 2PM! Graduating seniors are able to vote in these elections EXCEPT for those that graduated early :(
\*Note that you don't HAVE to vote for every position, although it is encouraged because USAC manages over $10 million in student fees and can do a lot for students in the form of advocating for better educational access, navigating administrative bureaucracy to bring y'all new resources, and even advocating to our State/Federal governments for increased funding for basic needs resources, putting students first in the legislation they pass, and so much more!*
Elections Board Website: https://www.uclaelectionboard.org/
This is the official hub for all things elections this year run by our lovely Elections Board.
Candidate Profiles: https://www.uclaelectionboard.org/candidates
Recommend checking these on desktop over mobile but these are a good starting point in getting to attach names to faces to the platforms the candidates for all 15 offices are running on. I recommend checking their campaign social media accounts for more detailed descriptions on platforms, who they are, and more!
What's Bruin Instagram: instagram.com/uclawhatsbruin
What's Bruin has been kind enough to film candidate introductions for every office in collaboration with Elections Board! They're a minute each and give you insight on how candidates present themselves and the platforms + priorities that they have for USAC next year should they be elected
Interacting with Candidates This Week
I know the status of in-person classes this next week is still a confusing one but candidates are set to flyer on Bruinwalk and around campus this Tuesday-Thursday 1:00 PM - 4:00 PM. This is a great way to get some campaign materials and see what candidates are really like in person as opposed to just seeing them via Instagram/other socials
For more information on USAC Elections, visit uclaelectionboard.org and its IG/FB social media platforms
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2024.05.11 21:04 arzi42 Why Isn't Skyclad More Popular?
I've listenened to them since late 90s and been a fan since early 2000s, but compared to other bands of similar cult status, I feel like they're just not very popular. I know that they get mentioned here every now and then, but they don't have a sub, they don't have a meme group on FB like most bands, and I don't know that many people who are fans either. I've played them to a bunch of friends, obviously, but safe for a couple of exceptions, get met with polite disinterest.
I think it's fair to say that not many bands reach the lyrical genius of Martin Walkyier, the band originated a very popular subgenre of metal and used to be pretty prolific. So what gives?
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I think it's fair to say that not many bands reach the lyrical genius of Martin Walkyier, the band originated a very popular subgenre of metal and used to be pretty prolific. So what gives?