Ever since the day my kid was born, the focus has always been on mom. How’s mom, what can we do for mom, is dad doing enough for mom and the baby. Ok fine, I stepped up as much as I could without falling over from exhaustion. It got to a point where I was falling asleep at the wheel and the swerving one ride made her realize and she made me back off dad duties a bit.
Fast forward 2 years:
I travel for work and am probably away 20-25 nights total throughout the year with 4 night stretches at a time max. Because of my travel I feel guilty and am made to feel guilty (indirectly) to be away from home any additional nights. So I don’t go to any social events and as such don’t have any friends besides a few school ones that live in various distant parts of the country and don’t get to see them anyway. When I am home/not working I do 100% of bed time routine and 95% of morning duties. My wife is free to go out during evenings and make plans whenever she wants which she does a few times per month. I take 100% care of the animals, typical guy allocated duties such as yard work, garbage, home maintenance is all me and we split laundry/cooking 75(her)/25(me) and she typically does all the cleaning because she “doesn’t like the way I do it”.
Because of that 75/25 these last couple weeks I was told that I am not capable of dealing with the toddler and keeping up with housework. She works in office 2x per week and takes him to daycare those days and I usually take him the other 3. She is getting a new male boss and was worried about our toddler making her late tomorrow to which I said not to worry and that I can take him. At which point I was “politely” informed by her that it’s the woman that does all the sacrifices and I simply wouldnt understand.
Well fuck me I guess then.
I feel defeated. Nothing is ever good enough any more. When I try to discuss that I am doing my part I get the typical “like what?”. I’ve tried providing examples and proof which simply gets dismissed. Or if it gets acknowledged, it gets forgotten about very quickly and the focus is returned on the things I’m not doing.
For the dads out there working your hands to the bone and losing sleep, I feel you. Sometimes our own families don’t give a shit about us and that will always be the harsh reality. At least they will think fondly of us when we are in the ground….maybe.

Male (22) and female (19)- I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 months now. Things were great, at first. More recently she has been very clingy.
For example, she’ll say things like “you don’t love me as much as i love you” and say that I don’t text her as much as I did in the beginning. I did take a back seat to texting, as I have a busy job and can’t be on my phone all the time. When I come home, I’m exhausted and usually make dinner and go to bed.
Recently we had sex and she said “remember how good it feels when you want to break up with me” even though I’ve never mentioned wanting to break up with her.
Even though I admittedly don’t text her as much as we have in the past, I still say ‘I love you’ almost 10 times a day, as I am reciprocating her… and she’ll get mad it if don’t say it back. One time I said “love you too” and she got upset and said that’s something I would say to my mom.
I’ve talked to my co-worker (older lady) about this and she said it sounds like she has some major daddy issues. Tbf, her dad wasn’t around much when she was growing up and had a pretty dangerous job (coal miner)
I called her clingy after I did not text her for 8 hours one day (me and friends went golfing) and she told me that I needed to apologize and had another thing coming…
AITAH? Or is she bat shit insane and if so how do I salvage this because I still actually like this girl
edit- although we dont text as much, I’ve had this conversation with her a couple times and try to explain that actions are bigger than words. I do my best to plan dates with her on my days off and when we actually see each other, everything is mostly great

Any pup name suggestions? The puppy distribution system apparently exists and I acquired what I believe to be an Anatolian Shepard. I work at a vet so he’s been cross posted and checked for a microchip with no claims yet. I put him on a plan today with all of his preventive care included so I guess he is mine now? I can’t wait for his DNA results to come back! 😅💕 Beans is super cute! Everyone so far has agreed on that name. I like the name Xander but my husband said absolutely not. I love outer space, plants, fantasy books and anything nostalgic (I’m a 90s kid)! Because I work at a vet I want a unique-ish name. Beans isn’t too common but I have seen it a few times! For example, Astro, Cosmo, Zeus, to common.

hello! so i have had some food aversion as a kid, and have heard about ARFID before but what kind of made me dismiss it is that my food aversions are fairly inconsistent now as an adult, and I am not really afraid to try new foods. I guess I am posting here to learn more and figure out if its possible ARFID since I am currently trying to follow a nutrition program and it has been a frustrating experience, despite just trying to consume more fiber and protein.
I do have ADHD and Autism, my problem is entirely that the "rules" around what my brain considers edible can change randomly at any given time. One day I could be perfectly fine consuming chicken and the next chicken is apparently poison and the thought of it makes me want to throw up. I also had a period of time as a kid where I had major issues with food and would eat very little, basically just bread and sparkling water whenever someone asked what I wanted. It also seems like if the food hasn't been tried its not in the brain's "database" so to say, and it cannot really label it as edible or not, which is why I do not seem to have issues with trying new foods.
This all makes meal prepping or planning extremely difficult as predicting these random aversions is basically impossible, for example I had 2 weeks where I was perfectly fine eating veggies and eggs for breakfast and now eggs are poison and the idea of eating them or just smelling them makes me sick. The randomised roulette of food aversion seems to be somewhat limited to proteins from my observations? I also have days like today where eating anything at all feels sickening, the idea of chewing and trying to swallow food at all makes me gag and I really do not want to eat because I want the unpleasant experience of gagging or throwing up. I do also have foods I consistently avoid due to texture mostly, but nowhere near as debilitating as this avoidance roulette.
So as I am extremely frustrated right now and seemingly only able to consume bags of mixed vegetable chips I make this post to try and figure out if it sounds like ARFID at all or should I keep looking for answers.

Feedback for casually competitive 2k list
Building a 2K list to play in tabletop simulator and eventually local play OTB. Not trying to win tournaments, but would still like to win games. Fairly new to the game, but watched a lot of Auspex Tactics videos for unit selection. List as follows:
Salamanders 2K (1990 Points)
Space Marines Salamanders Firestorm Assault Force Strike Force (2000 Points)
CHARACTERS
Adrax Agatone (85 Points) • Warlord
Apothecary Biologis (70 Points) • Enhancements: Forged in Battle (Change Hit or Save to a 6 once per turn)
Captain in Gravis Armour (105 Points) • 1x Boltstorm gauntlet 1x Power fist 1x Relic blade • Enhancements: War-tempered Artifice
Librarian in Phobos Armour (70 Points)
DEDICATED TRANSPORTS
Impulsor (80 Points)
OTHER DATASHEETS
Aggressor Squad (240 Points) • 1x Aggressor Sergeant • 1x Flamestorm gauntlets 1x Twin power fists • 5x Aggressor • 5x Flamestorm gauntlets 5x Twin power fists
Ballistus Dreadnought (140 Points) • 1x Armoured feet 1x Ballistus lascannon 1x Ballistus missile launcher 1x Twin storm bolter
Bladeguard Veteran Squad (180 Points) • 1x Bladeguard Veteran Sergeant • 1x Heavy bolt pistol 1x Master-crafted power weapon • 5x Bladeguard Veteran • 5x Heavy bolt pistol 5x Master-crafted power weapon
Eradicator Squad (190 Points) • 1x Eradicator Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Melta rifle • 5x Eradicator • 5x Bolt pistol 5x Close combat weapon 3x Melta rifle 2x Multi-melta
Hellblaster Squad (115 Points) • 1x Hellblaster Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Plasma incinerator • 4x Hellblaster • 4x Bolt pistol 4x Close combat weapon 4x Plasma incinerator
Inceptor Squad (130 Points) • 1x Inceptor Sergeant • 1x Close combat weapon 1x Plasma exterminators • 2x Inceptor • 2x Close combat weapon 2x Plasma exterminators
Infernus Squad (80 Points) • 1x Infernus Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Pyreblaster • 4x Infernus Marine • 4x Bolt pistol 4x Close combat weapon 4x Pyreblaster
Infernus Squad (80 Points) • 1x Infernus Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Pyreblaster • 4x Infernus Marine • 4x Bolt pistol 4x Close combat weapon 4x Pyreblaster
Infiltrator Squad (100 Points) • 1x Infiltrator Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Marksman bolt carbine • 4x Infiltrator • 4x Bolt pistol 4x Close combat weapon 1x Helix Gauntlet 1x Infiltrator Comms Array 4x Marksman bolt carbine
Land Raider Redeemer (260 Points) • 1x Armoured tracks 2x Flamestorm cannon 1x Hunter-killer missile 1x Multi-melta 1x Storm bolter 1x Twin assault cannon
Scout Squad (65 Points) • 1x Scout Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Boltgun 1x Close combat weapon • 4x Scout • 4x Bolt pistol 2x Boltgun 4x Close combat weapon 1x Missile launcher 1x Scout sniper rifle
Formations, Roles, and Plans:
Overall plan for most game is to hold the middle objective, one flank objective, and get the opponent to commit units to the other flank that I won’t really move against.
Scout squad infiltrating on a flank objective to force opponent to respond. Either maintain presence or go back into reserves and harass elsewhere.
Infiltrators with Phobos Librarian sitting home objective to screen against deep strikes.
Inceptors as my own deep strike unit/secondary scorer
Impulsor full of hellblasters (gang gang) to push into my primary flank objective. Aggressors + gravis captain following behind to become primary objective holders
2 infernus squads to push up on objectives as chaff/overwatch
Land raider redeemer pushing center objective with Adrax+Bladeguard to drop in and charge units in the center. Use land raider to screen other charges and provide over watch.
Ballistus Dread to follow into either center objective or flex to flank depending on who needs more support.
Eradicators led by Biologis in strategic reserves to then go monster hunting in turn 2. Lethal hits with the biologis and Forged in battle enhancement seems sexy.
Had 40 points left over so gave the gravis captain an enhancement to make him hit a little harder, but not a main gig really.
If you made it this far thanks for reading and would love your feedback. Vulkan lives!

I just started the A1 croatian course and so far it’s been mostly easy (mostly thanks to the limited croatian I already knew). But it seems that it’s progressing beyond what it’s teaching me pretty quick.
For example I’ve noticed a few activities/quizzes have you enter the vocabulary for certain things based on a picture, but the objects in the pictures are things that have not been previously presented and therefore I just have to google it.
Is this everyone else’s experience with this as well?

So I (20F) have known this girl, let's call her Em (fake name, 20F), for a whole bunch of years.
To be precise, we actually first met when we were little, but neither of us remembers it.
My mom has been friends with my "aunt" (not biological) since they were in high-school. As they grew older, of course, their families expanded. My aunt had three kids, who would be my cousins. Her mom's side of the family is from a another country that shares borders with ours. Her brother, who lives in said country, had 5 kids, four girls and one boy. We're unrelated. They're my "cousins" actual cousins.
Most of my family (this aunt and cousins included) live in another part of my country, so when I was a kid I used to go over the summer and stay most of it there to see everyone. It seems that when we were kids, we all hung out once, there's even a picture to prove it, but again, no one bellow age 25 remembers that.
Well one of those summers, when I was 14, I went to visit and went over to my aunt's for dinner. That's when Em and I kind of really met, and boy do I remember that.
We all said our hellos, and we sat down at the table, she was sitting across me. All night we made small talk, and I really liked her.
I was always openly gay, never really had a "coming out of the closet", since no one in my family cares. They've always been supportive of me. Her family, though, it's a different story.
Her siblings are great, and they're also cool about that, but her parents (specially her mom) are catholics (if I remember correctly, her dad or one of their uncles is a preist) soooo yeah we weren't really openly flirting at the dinner table.
But then, us young ones went away to play cards. She was playing against me, 3 vs 3, only this time she was sitting almost beside me.
The stolen glances, the grazing of hands, the little smirks. I remember the way she looked at me, like she didn't understand what or why she was feeling something, but she knew she was. She found me attractive, but with the not-really-but-just-met situation and her parents, we just stuck with that. I only saw her once again that summer, same thing, only for a whole day. And then back in my hometown as they were passing through to go back to their country
We exchanged numbers, and when we talked she confessed she liked me, a lot, but didn't know what to do in that moment. It was new to her, though that didn't really bother her much. I remember she said something along the lines of "It’s like I was so mesmerized by you and at the same time so confused that I just froze, but I would've kissed you if we had seen each other again, and if it happens I will".
Well, six years passed.
With not really the space or time to establish a relationship, and living in two different countries at that age kind of made it impossible and of course, naturally, contact faded and every once in a while we'd talk again as if no time had passed.
Eventually, she got a boyfriend, I had a few relationships two. Long term and serious on both accounts, but we never not talked at least a couple times a year (respectfully, of course).
I guess I never really stopped liking her, but it was more of a distant thing than anything else. Every time we talked though, it was great. We would catch up, open up about things we would otherwise keep quiet, etc. It's like we always gravitated back to each other, both in thought and in speaking terms (on both accounts).
Some time later, when she finished high-school, she followed her older siblings footsteps and moved to a city near mine to attend college, that was around a year or two ago.
She broke off her relationship a few months back, I did so too.
And a few days ago, I replied to a story she had uploaded on her insta and, well, here comes the best part.
We started talking, catching up, and I can't really remember why but the conversation eventually led to me saying I found her pretty. She replied it was mutual. I'll try to recall the conversation below.
"Wait, do you still like me after all these years?"
"Well, yeah, why wouldn't I?"
"I mean, we didn't see each other again, grew older and you even had a boyfriend, I thought maybe the feeling had passed for you"
"Yeah I mean I isolated myself a lot in that relationship, it sucked, but I never not liked you, nor forgot about you, it was just impossible"
"Well, it's not anymore. I still like you too, and I've been wanting this for years"
"So have I, I want to go see you"
I remember I told her that when I saw she had a boyfriend I didn't really wanna force or ruin anything cuz she seemed happy and I liked that, and she told me she would've left him in a heartbeat for me the second she'd known I still liked her.
We also talked about her family. She told me her mom actually found out about our little chat back in 2018 and got kind of mad, but Em told her to screw off and not go through her phone again, and that's the end of it. One of her sisters noticed then too, but just told her good for her and also never mentioned it again.
Then the same day I replied to her story, she was hanging out a while earlier with her older sister and a friend of theirs and eventually told them about me (her sister knew me, of course, but not how we actually felt about each other) since they were reminiscing about summers, told them she was still into me. That even after all those years I still caught her attention when I wandered my way into her head (and it's definitely mutual). She mentioned that although she had found other girls pretty, the only one that ever stuck out to her and really had her head-over-heels for, was me. I felt so flustered when she said that.
The rest of the conversation was one I'd never had with her. She told me she liked me, and what things. She thinks I'm pretty, she thinks I'm funny. Smart, talented, good. I honestly don't know if all of it is true but to hear her so talk about me that way, so starstruck, just like when we were 14, made my heart skip a beat. It was adorable. And then, well, it derailed into a more... uhm... mature conversation about plans we had for each other? If you get what I mean lol.
And that's where we are now. We're both having exams right now so we're planning to meet up next week when we're done.
IM SO EXCITED!
We miss each other, and we've wanted to hang out for ages. Not only that, but her now openness to be with me and enjoy it is so both refreshing and adorable. She calls me names, compliments me, tells me she wants me.
I never would've thought it would actually happen, not at least for a few more years. I also wouldn't have thought that shy girl I met would be so openly flirty with me, even on voice messages.
She's told me about a hundred times already how much she's wanted this, that's she's so glad it's gonna finally happen, that she's wondered what it's like to kiss me ever since she met me. That she wants all of me. Every last bit.
It's mutual, it's all mutual.
I feel giddy, excited, and I definitely feel wanted, and it's amazing.
Just wanted to rant about it and her, she's honestly amazing and beautiful. Kind, smart. Her accent drives me crazy and when she speaks her native language I literally feel weak.
Six years. Six years always thinking about each other (and many of those times it's like we mind-called each other beacuse we'd end up talking again). The girl I've had a crush on for the longest and never got, and we finally have the space, place and time to do it. This is it, it's our moment. And I definitely plan to enjoy every minute of it. She's worth it. So, so worth it.
Have a nice day everyone, Imma go talk to her lol bye

So I (20F) have known this girl, let's call her Em (fake name, 20F), for a whole bunch of years.
To be precise, we actually first met when we were little, but neither of us remembers it.
My mom has been friends with my "aunt" (not biological) since they were in high-school. As they grew older, of course, their families expanded. My aunt had three kids, who would be my cousins. Her mom's side of the family is from a another country that shares borders with ours. Her brother, who lives in said country, had 5 kids, four girls and one boy. We're unrelated. They're my "cousins" actual cousins.
Most of my family (this aunt and cousins included) live in another part of my country, so when I was a kid I used to go over the summer and stay most of it there to see everyone. It seems that when we were kids, we all hung out once, there's even a picture to prove it, but again, no one bellow age 25 remembers that.
Well one of those summers, when I was 14, I went to visit and went over to my aunt's for dinner. That's when Em and I kind of really met, and boy do I remember that.
We all said our hellos, and we sat down at the table, she was sitting across me. All night we made small talk, and I really liked her.
I was always openly gay, never really had a "coming out of the closet", since no one in my family cares. They've always been supportive of me. Her family, though, it's a different story.
Her siblings are great, and they're also cool about that, but her parents (specially her mom) are catholics (if I remember correctly, her dad or one of their uncles is a preist) soooo yeah we weren't really openly flirting at the dinner table.
But then, us young ones went away to play cards. She was playing against me, 3 vs 3, only this time she was sitting almost beside me.
The stolen glances, the grazing of hands, the little smirks. I remember the way she looked at me, like she didn't understand what or why she was feeling something, but she knew she was. She found me attractive, but with the not-really-but-just-met situation and her parents, we just stuck with that. I only saw her once again that summer, same thing, only for a whole day. And then back in my hometown as they were passing through to go back to their country
We exchanged numbers, and when we talked she confessed she liked me, a lot, but didn't know what to do in that moment. It was new to her, though that didn't really bother her much. I remember she said something along the lines of "It’s like I was so mesmerized by you and at the same time so confused that I just froze, but I would've kissed you if we had seen each other again, and if it happens I will".
Well, six years passed.
With not really the space or time to establish a relationship, and living in two different countries at that age kind of made it impossible and of course, naturally, contact faded and every once in a while we'd talk again as if no time had passed.
Eventually, she got a boyfriend, I had a few relationships two. Long term and serious on both accounts, but we never not talked at least a couple times a year (respectfully, of course).
I guess I never really stopped liking her, but it was more of a distant thing than anything else. Every time we talked though, it was great. We would catch up, open up about things we would otherwise keep quiet, etc. It's like we always gravitated back to each other, both in thought and in speaking terms (on both accounts).
Some time later, when she finished high-school, she followed her older siblings footsteps and moved to a city near mine to attend college, that was around a year or two ago.
She broke off her relationship a few months back, I did so too.
And a few days ago, I replied to a story she had uploaded on her insta and, well, here comes the best part.
We started talking, catching up, and I can't really remember why but the conversation eventually led to me saying I found her pretty. She replied it was mutual. I'll try to recall the conversation below.
"Wait, do you still like me after all these years?"
"Well, yeah, why wouldn't I?"
"I mean, we didn't see each other again, grew older and you even had a boyfriend, I thought maybe the feeling had passed for you"
"Yeah I mean I isolated myself a lot in that relationship, it sucked, but I never not liked you, nor forgot about you, it was just impossible"
"Well, it's not anymore. I still like you too, and I've been wanting this for years"
"So have I, I want to go see you"
I remember I told her that when I saw she had a boyfriend I didn't really wanna force or ruin anything cuz she seemed happy and I liked that, and she told me she would've left him in a heartbeat for me the second she'd known I still liked her.
We also talked about her family. She told me her mom actually found out about our little chat back in 2018 and got kind of mad, but Em told her to screw off and not go through her phone again, and that's the end of it. One of her sisters noticed then too, but just told her good for her and also never mentioned it again.
Then the same day I replied to her story, she was hanging out a while earlier with her older sister and a friend of theirs and eventually told them about me (her sister knew me, of course, but not how we actually felt about each other) since they were reminiscing about summers, told them she was still into me. That even after all those years I still caught her attention when I wandered my way into her head (and it's definitely mutual). She mentioned that although she had found other girls pretty, the only one that ever stuck out to her and really had her head-over-heels for, was me. I felt so flustered when she said that.
The rest of the conversation was one I'd never had with her. She told me she liked me, and what things. She thinks I'm pretty, she thinks I'm funny. Smart, talented, good. I honestly don't know if all of it is true but to hear her so talk about me that way, so starstruck, just like when we were 14, made my heart skip a beat. It was adorable. And then, well, it derailed into a more... uhm... mature conversation about plans we had for each other? If you get what I mean lol.
And that's where we are now. We're both having exams right now so we're planning to meet up next week when we're done.
IM SO EXCITED!
We miss each other, and we've wanted to hang out for ages. Not only that, but her now openness to be with me and enjoy it is so both refreshing and adorable. She calls me names, compliments me, tells me she wants me.
I never would've thought it would actually happen, not at least for a few more years. I also wouldn't have thought that shy girl I met would be so openly flirty with me, even on voice messages.
She's told me about a hundred times already how much she's wanted this, that's she's so glad it's gonna finally happen, that she's wondered what it's like to kiss me ever since she met me. That she wants all of me. Every last bit.
It's mutual, it's all mutual.
I feel giddy, excited, and I definitely feel wanted, and it's amazing.
Just wanted to rant about it and her, she's honestly amazing and beautiful. Kind, smart. Her accent drives me crazy and when she speaks her native language I literally feel weak.
Six years. Six years always thinking about each other (and many of those times it's like we mind-called each other beacuse we'd end up talking again). The girl I've had a crush on for the longest and never got, and we finally have the space, place and time to do it. This is it, it's our moment. And I definitely plan to enjoy every minute of it. She's worth it. So, so worth it.
Have a nice day everyone, Imma go talk to her lol bye

My mom was diagnosed with ES-SCLC in November. She had tumors on both sides of lungs, on her adrenal gland, and 12 tumors in her brain. She had 10 rounds of whole brain radiation at the beginning of January followed by 4 cycles of carboplatin/etoposide. She is also getting Tencentriq every 3 weeks. She had her 1st appointment following her treatment and the results were good, all tumors in her lungs/adrenal glands disappeared except for one that shrunk almost down to nothing. Her brain tumors shrunk and some disappeared. Her radiation oncologist suggested treating remaining lung tumor with radiation. Are there any options for brain Mets? Is it possible they will stay the same size from immunotherapy? Is the radiation still working? It all sounded like great news, but there didn’t seem to be a plan to tackle the remaining brain tumors. I realize the prognosis for ES-SCLC is grim, but anyone have any success stories for brain Mets not completely knocked out with radiation? I’m very happy she has more time with us, but curious if there was anything else that could be done with brain.

I'm reading "Wages of Destruction" by Adam Tooze and he seems to paint a convincing picture that debunks a lot of myths about the Nazis they successfully implanted in their enemies and exposes the unsustainability of the Nazi economy, using for example the fact that even the cheap "people's radio" was iirc worse than equivalent allied radios of a similar price, despite the name and attempts to claim otherwise, the Nazis were no socialist and German industry and magnates supported the regime, but it did have central planning of sorts, which makes me wonder, how much did Nazi interference hamper the German economy, discounting the unsustainability of rearmament, and how much could have the German economy have been improved, including weapons production, otherwise?

Here's what we want:

1. Minimal attachments (e.g., we loved the Nuna Mixx's ability to lay an infant flat without a bassinet
   
2. Super easy fold
   
3. Good for a Honda Fit and Subaru Impreza
   
4. Good quality
   
5. Will ideally handle infancy through toddler hood
   
6. Good tires that can handle Massachusetts winters
   
7. An ideal balance between the every day car stroller and people who like to walk a lot over mixed terrain (we know we might need to get a jogger eventually, but we're not Doona people for example)
   
8. Price point: we want food quality. We are gonna register for it in the hopes multiple family members share the gift. That said, if we buy the stroller and car seat ourselves, we'd like under $1200
   
9. Works with a car seat that can be moved between two cars without a base
   
10. Not ginormous. We're in shape but still.
    
11. Only planning on one kid so a double conversion doesn't matter.
    

We thought we were sold on the Nuna mixx but I just discovered all the issues with the footrest and toddlers. Now I've done a deep dive into the Nuna Demi and then Uppa Baby (which my husband tested and originally disliked). And I've looked at using a Thule for an infant. And I watched the stroller guy. And now I'm just confused. Please help this 21 week lady who randomly vomited today 🥲

rewatching again, up to season 6 where shawn had borrowed gus’ card to buy a weekend trip and he was selling stuff afterwards to pay him back.
but why was this really necessary?
im gona start with a tangent: patrick jane from the mentalist, was soo smart that gambling was a walk in the park, and he consistently made ridiculous money doing it.
now pj never really wanted/needed the money, and so it made sense he never really kept/used it, and he was never in any financial issues in the show.
i took the same mindset for shawn here, we have seen how his skills make him unfair at gambling and how he could easily win alot of money, but i can see that he has no desire for money and infact it would probably conflict with their need to constantly work cases which is what he wants to do so fair enough.
but then momey troubles arise, and he doesnt do anything to make money that i believe he easily could. personally i believe his character wouldve tried to get a load of money to win over juliet when he thinks its something she cares about.
and i know gambling probably isnt the best example as someone will say that the entire point of gambling is to make you think you have a good chance at winning before taking all your money (although i geniunly believe he practically couldnt be beaten (unless against people like him/pros))
however other examples are simply taking smarter jobs like im sure the billionaire he helped in the mental asylum would give him good cases or the other billionaires from before.
or he could invest in stuff or do anything that his skills help with

I'm in a complicated situation regarding my girlfriend and her father. My girlfriend has a serious chronic health issues best described as long covid. Her father has been largely absent in providing the care that she needs financially, emotionally and with administrative/life chores. I've stepped in to help and have been financially supporting her for several years. I've even stepped away from work for 6 months now because she needs 24/7 care. We are absolutely drowning.
Recently, I've had to call out her father for not stepping up to help, and a result of this is he has grown animosity towards me. My girlfriend and I need to leave our apartment because mold exposure is making her chronic conditions worse, and the only option available right now is for her to go to her father's because of financial reasons. However, her father has banned me from his house, and I play a crucial role as her caretaker. I can stay behind in the mold for now, I just need the ability to visit.
I'm gravely concerned that if anything were to happen to her while under my roof, her father might come after me with legal action, potentially suing me or even pressing criminal charges. He has a history of being lawsuit happy and has shown a tendency to pursue legal action in various trivial situations and straight up lying in these situations when he holds a grudge.
I often have to make judgement calls with things like medicines, hospitalizations, phone calls with insurance, and other things. There are no straight forward treatment plans with her conditions, and treatments often go off of feeling or strength that day, even for prescription medicine. What you have to understand with health issues like these is specialists are 6-9 month waits, and issues change hour by hour. We have no access for 24/7 consultation and I support her in her decision making process.
I'm not sure what this would constitute under the law or how to protect myself in my situation. I love her and want to give her everything she needs. Any advice or guidance on how to handle this delicate situation legally would be greatly appreciated.

The local TOS Specialist and Physio I've been to haven't been very helpful so I was planning to book with MSK Neurology. Does anyone have experience here or elsewhere with online treatment?

This wonderful script wouldn't exist if it wasn't for my bsf luna coming up with the idea, so all credit goes to her! And please when using this script do add her to the credits aswell!!!
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Summary: You two used to be best friends since you was kids, but overtime grew apart and now he loves beating you in everything, and everybody knows he hates you, just as you hate him. And to make matters worse, he always flirts with you, calling you "sunflower" even though he knows it annoys you. And now, thanks to his shenanigans, both of you are stuck in detention together. But he has a plan to make things more fun....
Script is here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1TzJdgEZRZQYBqKfqQRVFjIilhStlJ-OozIXUDriMGMU/edit?usp=drivesdk

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Will my hair still improve or at least get back to what it was after stopping Minoxidil for 3-4 months? How long will it take?
Is the Minoxidil causing more shedding to replace weaker hairs? Or did I really mess up by stopping in the first place?
I have been using Dutasteride once a week, derma roll once a week, Biotin daily, and used a compound spray daily (Finasteride, Minoxidil, Melatonin, Vitamin D) for over 2 years. In January one night I used the derma roll too deep and it resulted in excessive shedding the following days.
I told my family doctor what happened, but also expressed the frustration of the spray, making the scalp sticky, routinely only being able to use once a day instead of twice, I didn’t like that it had cost $120 CAD a month, I felt my hair gradually got worst bit by bit the past year and I wanted a hair transplant soon. My doctor recommended that I should stop taking the spray and just take Finasteride (1.25mg daily, split 5mg into 4s) daily and Dutasteride once a week to see what happens. Due to panic and uncertainty I agreed.
In March is when the shedding started to get worse again but I didn’t know if it’s still due to the derma roll mistake from a couple months earlier. I decided to see HairClub and had a consultation appointment with the manager of the building location. I explained the situation leading up to that point and she said that I should continue using the spray and the only other option is hair transplant but she didn’t recommend it yet due to my hair still in a good state at the time and my age. To be fair I always had my hair in a way that made it near impossible to notice hair loss unless it’s unkept or wet, but she was nice and helpful.
Unfortunately as April started the hair loss worsened again, I was forced to recede my hairline back as I am no longer able to make my hair loss unnoticeable. I hoped it wouldn't get worse but it has, and not only is the crown thinning but between the crown and the hairline is becoming a problem, neither areas were problematic before. What makes the situation more difficult is that due to another situation that financially got in the way, I am no longer able to afford the hair transplant until much later than preferred.
I started to take Minoxidil again a week into April but in tablet form (5mg), still taking Finasteride (1.25 mg) daily, added New Nordic Hair Gro vitamin twice daily (contains biotin and more), Vitamin D daily, Dutasteride weekly, Derma weekly, and 2% ketoconazole shampoo (though I’m scared to shampoo my hair). I haven’t used hair thickening fibers for my hair for years until these past 2 weeks. It’s getting to the point where I should start wearing hats.
I overtyped but I felt like venting. What’s most frustrating is that I had a plan for multiple things in my life only for things to fall out of control. I had saved and reserved money anticipating a hair transplant with only the hairline to worry about, then potentially years/decade down the road another transplant if necessary, now it’s inevitable that there’s more to be done. I gave up waiting years for a dermatologist and I tried reaching Hair Club a week ago but was unable to reach them and they still haven’t called back. I'm wondering if HC only does first-time-only consultations and follow up appointments isn’t what they do.
It’s now objectively clear that the Minoxidil in the spray was 100% working (or at least slowed down hair loss), I should have never stopped. I messed up consecutively with back to back mistakes, nothing is working, my worst fear of this type of hair loss came true after years of avoiding it, and now feel completely helpless not knowing what’s next…

Hey there!
I’m fairly new to the ins and outs of credit card points. My parents were never in the credit card for points game, so I’m going in pretty new to everything.
How many Ultimate Rewards points (ballpark) should i set as a goal for week long trip in Europe? I know this is very hard to predict, as different cities cost different things in different seasons but for this example, let’s say Paris or London (two expensive cities).
I would like to pay for 2 people for a week long stay. Flights and lodging being used for points. The ultimate goal is to fly business/first but economy will be fine. For hotel, not looking for a suite, but just a nice room to lay our heads.
I’m sitting at 115k currently and not planning to use them any time soon. Just curious what realistic goal I should aim for?

Building a 2K list to play in tabletop simulator. Not trying to win tournaments, but would still like to win games. Fairly new to the game, but watched a lot of Auspex Tactics videos for unit selection. List as follows:
Salamanders 2K (1990 Points)
Space Marines Salamanders Firestorm Assault Force Strike Force (2000 Points)
CHARACTERS
Adrax Agatone (85 Points) • Warlord
Apothecary Biologis (70 Points) • Enhancements: Forged in Battle (Change Hit or Save to a 6 once per turn)
Captain in Gravis Armour (105 Points) • 1x Boltstorm gauntlet 1x Power fist 1x Relic blade • Enhancements: War-tempered Artifice
Librarian in Phobos Armour (70 Points)
DEDICATED TRANSPORTS
Impulsor (80 Points)
OTHER DATASHEETS
Aggressor Squad (240 Points) • 1x Aggressor Sergeant • 1x Flamestorm gauntlets 1x Twin power fists • 5x Aggressor • 5x Flamestorm gauntlets 5x Twin power fists
Ballistus Dreadnought (140 Points) • 1x Armoured feet 1x Ballistus lascannon 1x Ballistus missile launcher 1x Twin storm bolter
Bladeguard Veteran Squad (180 Points) • 1x Bladeguard Veteran Sergeant • 1x Heavy bolt pistol 1x Master-crafted power weapon • 5x Bladeguard Veteran • 5x Heavy bolt pistol 5x Master-crafted power weapon
Eradicator Squad (190 Points) • 1x Eradicator Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Melta rifle • 5x Eradicator • 5x Bolt pistol 5x Close combat weapon 3x Melta rifle 2x Multi-melta
Hellblaster Squad (115 Points) • 1x Hellblaster Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Plasma incinerator • 4x Hellblaster • 4x Bolt pistol 4x Close combat weapon 4x Plasma incinerator
Inceptor Squad (130 Points) • 1x Inceptor Sergeant • 1x Close combat weapon 1x Plasma exterminators • 2x Inceptor • 2x Close combat weapon 2x Plasma exterminators
Infernus Squad (80 Points) • 1x Infernus Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Pyreblaster • 4x Infernus Marine • 4x Bolt pistol 4x Close combat weapon 4x Pyreblaster
Infernus Squad (80 Points) • 1x Infernus Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Pyreblaster • 4x Infernus Marine • 4x Bolt pistol 4x Close combat weapon 4x Pyreblaster
Infiltrator Squad (100 Points) • 1x Infiltrator Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Close combat weapon 1x Marksman bolt carbine • 4x Infiltrator • 4x Bolt pistol 4x Close combat weapon 1x Helix Gauntlet 1x Infiltrator Comms Array 4x Marksman bolt carbine
Land Raider Redeemer (260 Points) • 1x Armoured tracks 2x Flamestorm cannon 1x Hunter-killer missile 1x Multi-melta 1x Storm bolter 1x Twin assault cannon
Scout Squad (65 Points) • 1x Scout Sergeant • 1x Bolt pistol 1x Boltgun 1x Close combat weapon • 4x Scout • 4x Bolt pistol 2x Boltgun 4x Close combat weapon 1x Missile launcher 1x Scout sniper rifle
Formations, Roles, and Plans:
Overall plan for most game is to hold the middle objective, one flank objective, and get the opponent to commit units to the other flank that I won’t really move against.
Scout squad infiltrating on a flank objective to force opponent to respond. Either maintain presence or go back into reserves and harass elsewhere.
Infiltrators with Phobos Librarian sitting home objective to screen against deep strikes.
Inceptors as my own deep strike unit/secondary scorer
Impulsor full of hellblasters (gang gang) to push into my primary flank objective. Aggressors + gravis captain following behind to become primary objective holders
2 infernus squads to push up on objectives as chaff/overwatch
Land raider redeemer pushing center objective with Adrax+Bladeguard to drop in and charge units in the center. Use land raider to screen other charges and provide over watch.
Ballistus Dread to follow into either center objective or flex to flank depending on who needs more support.
Eradicators led by Biologis in strategic reserves to then go monster hunting in turn 2. Lethal hits with the biologis and Forged in battle enhancement seems sexy.
Had 40 points left over so gave the gravis captain an enhancement to make him hit a little harder, but not a main gig really.
If you made it this far thanks for reading and would love your feedback. Vulkan lives!

There’s this girl in my youth group she’s beautiful smart nice and we are friends. We get along well and have the same academic interests. But I don’t feel anything towards her.
My friends say she’s interested and I should go for it. I’m like nah, plus our families know each other and it would be messy and uncomfortable if things didn’t work out. And more importantly I just don’t feel that way for her. Ppl at my church a lowkey planning the weddin. But we are legit just friends.
I’m getting roasted cuz I don’t wanna have sex with her, and it must mean I go another way. Like who cares you can go for her do get mad cuz she likes talking to me

I (35F) want to leave my abusive husband (32M combat veteran) so badly but I don't know the best way to do it. I'm sorry this is so long but I'm begging for help, insight, any reassurance...
He says he used to have major anger issues but I never thought he would take them out on me. He has PTSD and a traumatic brain injury which makes his moods unpredictable.
I talked to his ex two days ago and she said he shoved her once, put his hands around her neck during a flashback, and also had a gun pointed at her during a flashback. He said they were engaged but she insisted they never were. She also said he was supposed to pick her up from the airport one time but he texted back saying he couldn't, because he wasn't sure if he was going to do something bad to her.
His abuse started when we moved in together while we were still engaged. I found out he had been on Onlyfans at the beginning of our relationship and just shortly before we got married... I was angry but I downplayed it and thought I could get over it. All it did was cause massive trust issues that have never healed and never will. He was subscribed to one of his exes and he also messaged one of the girls asking to meet just shortly after I stayed the week at his place for my birthday.
I spiraled mentally once the anger phase passed (severe depression and anxiety) and told him what I saw. He tried to deny it but when I said I knew his "pictures" he caved and said he wished I never told him and punched the headboard of our bed. He's my only source of comfort so I went to him countless times telling him I was still struggling with my trust issues and worried about whether he was still looking at other women, because he is subscribed to tons of women like that on Instagram and Tiktok. I started snooping looking for any evidence I could get so I could finally convince myself to leave him.
Everytime I confronted him about what I saw he made excuses and flew into a rage at me for snooping, screamed in my face, threw objects and furniture around (including our wedding rings and he broke my engagement ring in the process), punched walls, threatened divorce, demanded me to leave, or walked out without saying where he was going which made me call the police one time to look for him. I blamed myself because I was the one snooping and I told myself how would I feel if my partner constantly snooped on me? I blamed myself for everything and still kind of do. But he says it's his fault I'm like this and he just has to deal with the consequences.
Other times he says he has changed and it's my fault for getting in my head all the time, that my lack of trust is always so hard on him, and that my depression and anxiety are constantly dragging him down even though he says he's doing everything right to make me feel better. When I come to him to talk he usually sighs or treats it like a chore.
He says he beats himself up everyday for what he did and has apologized multiple times. But I never see any true regret. He told me "everybody else gets over their problems, why can't you?" He says he went through so much worse in the military than I have ever gone through and he got over his problems, so why can't I? That I need to "unfuck" myself and "everybody has depression."
One day when he came home I was feeling very low but he was in a bad mood already and he came at me, screaming that he's getting tired of me always being down and threatened divorce. I asked if he hated me and he looked at me and said in a really frightening way "if I hated you you'd be dead." That crushed me. Another time I got mad and said I was this way because of what he did to break my trust and he screamed at me multiple times to STFU, "waaah waaah waaaah you're always a Debbie downer" and threw in my face "you have no friends." He said he was done with the marriage but I talked him into staying because he has me so convinced the problem is me.
Other things... rough/forceful/demeaning sex... always saying "fuck you baby" in a cutesy way as a way to interact when we're doing our own things separately... slamming a controller down on my knee accidentally because he flew into a rage over losing a game... continuing to yell and saying he wasn't allowed to express anger even when I said it was scaring me... telling me once "I don't THINK I'd ever hurt you" (physically)... almost never helping with house chores and shopping... using me for money even though he makes more than I do with his disability payments... insulting my mother who helps us financially... trying to kick my cat one night when he couldn't sleep.
He's always so mean and critical of complete strangers when we go out and he acts like a macho narcissist who has everything figured out and he knows the right way about everything, like someone who is super opinionated to an obnoxious extent.
There's more but this is the worst of it all.
I read Lundy Bancroft's book asking myself if he's really that bad because 90% of the time he's good and loving. I know what I'm involved in and I know how much I've trauma bonded with him. But I've reached the point where I wake up every day in panic and despair knowing I'm still here and I want to get out. I already tried to leave before with a go bag and my cat but he talked me back. Some days I still try to convince myself the good times are worth staying for because I'm exhausted and I just want a good day for once. I've been miserable for months but I'm a pressure cooker now just waiting to blow. I'm falling apart.
I know I'm going to talk to a divorce lawyer and at least see if I have a case to have him evicted through a PFA. In that case he would be moving back in with his dad but he'd be close by. I could get the locks changed but I wouldn't put it past him to stalk me and try to hurt me (PFA or not -- he is suicidal anyway and has a lot of contempt for laws and the police), vandalize my car, or try to break into the apartment to hurt me or my cat. I don't even know if I would still be happy here where all these bad memories happened. And I wouldn't feel safe for myself or my cat everytime if I left the apartment.
The only other option is moving back in with my alcoholic narcissistic mother (my abusive alcoholic scizophrenic brother lives with her too) who doesn't know how to provide emotional support and hasn't been supportive at all throughout this marriage except financially. I would have to live in her garage, trust her not to let my cat loose if I go out, and make multiple trips back to my abusive husband still in the apartment to get all my belongings and furniture. He doesn't work, he's on school break now for summer so he's always here. I know I can get a police escort but they're not going to wait around for me to pack up the entire place. Almost everything is mine.
My husband might even just volunteer to leave and move back in with his dad like he has done before. I might not even need a PFA. I'm more afraid he'll try to hurt me if I actually get one versus if he just left by himself. I also don't know if he would offer to leave then just try to come back and hurt me before I could get the locks changed. The landlords constantly ignore the residents so I'd have to wait days or weeks for a lock change. Our lease ends next March.
I don't know what to do. All I want is to be by myself again with my cat in a safe place and it seems like no place and no escape plan I can come up with is entirely safe or secure. I'm at a loss but I can't keep living like this.