Pain in top left of back

Noticed a lot of people struggling to get call backs or responses on Indeed. I started my search at the start of May and have gotten interviews at warehouses, hotels, and even the Royal Caribbean, I applied kinda jokingly. My experience is ranching in middle and HS, running a warehouse in the summers in HS as well, 3 years of lifeguarding with one being the head pool supervisor. 9 months as the houseman at a Hilton hotel, the step above housekeeper. I've gotten interviews for over half my applied jobs, and the most brought up thing is my ranching experience. Fencing, working; cattle, goats, sheep, longhorn, zebras!!, several deer species, and more, heavy equipment operation, direction skills, and long hot days in the sun are the main take aways from that. I was the HS kid every old head had to come fix their computer, leaky pipe, help cover their 6 million pounds of silage, dredge their sheep etc. Granted my town had 1800 people and my graduating class was 36. I have since moved to college and live in a city with ~250000 people. My references are those exact old heads who likely answer, if jobs even call references still, with, "Who Aidan? oh that hard working sum bitch was the smartest kid I ever knew! Watcha wanna know?" Kinda sidetracked but felt it was relevant. All in all. "Put what sticks out" seems kind of redundant to say, but what I've experienced in interviews in that they are most interested in someone who has had a steady job history, does what the 'average' person doesn't, and a history is mentally/physically intensive jobs, at the entry level anyway. Where you can get that experience? I am willing to bet serious money a farmer outside your town/city would pay you extremely well to ride his side-by-side around his fields picking up rocks and sticks. They understand simply being out in the Sun is one of the most physically taxing things you can do, especially at their older age. I did this my first semesters of college for 20/hour doing 20 hours a weekend. That's just a specific example, but things always need to be done at these types of places and generally, as long as you do what you're told and supposed to do, you're left to yourself and can work at your own pace whenever. Finding 'contract' labor like this is the key to sticking out in this swamped jobs market. If you don't want to hang around small farming towns looking for work, they are all in Facebook groups just find someone looking for help or that looks busy and ask if they need help with anything around the place. "I am not familiar with this type of work but I can be taught anything and am willing to put in the work to learn" is all it takes almost anywhere to be given a chance at least.

About a week ago I had to call the cops on this tweaker outside my building. Dispatch called said they were a min away. I had to go downstairs of my building and talk to the cop. When I saw him I was immediately attracted to him. He asked me basic questions about the guy and then he started to ask me questions of if I liked living at my apartment and such (it’s a brand new luxury apartment). We kind of hit it off and then he said “do you want me to text your number and give you updates on the guy” and I said sure. I kind of knew where this was going. So anyway we texted me telling me the guy left and if he came back to call this number. Long story short we have been texting ever since. He’s super cool but his number isn’t from an iPhone. I only know his first name and tried looking up his number and it comes back at USA mobility wireless. We were hitting it off over text and update to today, haven’t heard from him in over 24 hrs… someone give me your POV!! Thanks!!! lol

I don’t know what to do about this. I don’t want to be angry, but I am. I have multiple different bone, muscle and ligament conditions and nerve damage in my legs because of that for context.
My sister lives two hours away for college and had our mom, dad, and myself drive down to her and pick her up because she get a pinched nerve in her back and couldn’t deal with it. This happened on Thursday, I had to try to find people to cover for me at work so I could take the day off to help my mom as she get extremely nervous on long car rides, I don’t drive at the moment and we had to bring my sisters car down with us.
But now she is staying in my room which is pretty normal for when she comes down but keeps getting out of the cot she has to stay in my bed all day, rearranging all the stuff I keep up there for when I have to sleep certain ways due to pain, get everyone to wait on her every need, take only one of the three pain med my parent went to my grandparents to get for her, and act like an over all baby about it.
All of that is annoying but the thing about this whole mess that makes me so mad is the fact that at times when my nerve pain was so bad I would keep my legs iced and bandaged to try and help with the feeling and got to the point I was crying in my bathroom at night while rubbing my legs so hard they bruised just to wear down the nerves enough for me to wrap them back up and go back to bed. Doing all this while still doing my physically demanding job and doing as many of the house hold chores as i could as we live on a farm and our mom had just gotten mouth surgery. She yelled at me many times about faking it and just not wanting to help out while I was home. Making sly comment about how i couldn't be in that much pain if i was still going to work when i love my job and it was one of the only escapes I had from the constant fighting with her.
I just want to scream at her for how small and worthless she made me feel while I felt like I was going to chop my legs off for even a bit of relief.
How do I stop myself when she is around me all the time and my mom says that its fine and we just need to give her time to heal and maybe she'll understand a bit more but I don't think it will. It didnt help my mom understand when she had to go to PT for her neck from and injury messing with a condition we did know she had. I was there to with a dislocated shoulder. But my mom got better and seemed to forget the pain had even been there by the time her PT was over.
This will change nothing. How do i not hate her? How do I try to forgive or forget when she's wailing about a sliver of the pain I go through? Am I a bad person for not feeling sympathy for her? Like she kinda disseveres it after some of the shit she's put me through. How do i feel better about this for myself when even looking at her makes me angry?
Sorry for the rant and mistake it’s 3:00am and I just can’t anymore.

Here's a badly drawn picture from what I remember of it ^{^} (the first level)
Platform : PC
Genre : cooking game where you ran restaurants/cafes
The camera was angled to one top corner of the cafe where you could see the entire place and the counter where customers stopped.
Estimated year of release : probably the late 2000s? I'm not sure but definitely before 2015
Graphics / Art style :
It had a cute cartoon-y type artstyle and it was colourful from what I remember
The customers would stop at the counter and you could see the street outside where people would be walking up and down the side walk (the side walk is where the customers stood) and the road had cars on it I think and you could see the outside go from day to night as time progressed.
One of the restaurants was at the beach and there was another at the ship. In the ship one I remember there was a hanging board in the middle of the room with a fish on it.
I think the menu where u switched restaurant locations, like which one you wanted to go to, was in2d?
Notable characters : I'm pretty sure the game had a story where you inherited the restaurant line from your grandparents or aunt, so those are the only character I remember. You played a girl. The beginning of the game had a cutscene where you got a letter or call from the grandparent/aunt about how they want you take over the chain since they were moving away from the area.
Notable gameplay mechanics :
I remember there being a timer on the top left corner of the screen that showed you how much time you had till closing hours. It was just a ticking clock. I think there was a conveyor that bought buns and stuff to make burgers/sandwiches. There were coffee and (maybe) milkshake machines that you could upgrade and buy new flavors of.
You had to find the Ingredients from the cabinets and stuff and put them together on a plate to serve the customers before they left. The customers had a patience bar I think it was hearts. Sometimes customers would come in groups and sometimes solo.
You upgraded to new restaurants eventually.
Other details : I played this when I was very young and didn't pay attention to the names of what I played. I remember being addicted to this game but now I seriously can't find even a single picture of it anywhere.

(17F) and my sister (21F) have gone through alot of bad times with our mother making it worse, I will give you a run down of what my mother is like, she is quite aggressive and no matter what you do to please my mother, whether you're being there for her when she's sad even though you're struggling too or doing whatever she tells you to do, she will call us disrespectful and rude. So the week before mothers day (Im still in school) I had some important exams and needed to study for them but I noticed my mum was okay so I continued doing my own things until she approached me on Friday and told me "You're disrespectful, call your sister and leave." ( my sister moved out and because of my mother) And she left me after that so i asked her whats wrong and it carried on all night, Saturday was fine but Sunday my mum forced me to go to church with her and I only went because its mothers day then i cleaned the house gave her flowers and chocolates, then my sister came over and gave my mum some chocolates and we left because i had a doctors appointment for personal reasons, so we did that and my mother threw a huge tantrum instead of politely for us to come back and told me off for wanting a check up? I obviously went home later and layed down because I was exhausted but my mum came into my room and said "Get off you a$$ and do the dishes, you don't live here for free" so without complaining or nothing i did the dishes like she wanted, then she started insulting me saying rude things to me l will not say here but I just agreed with everything she said and allowed her to insult me until she got angry that I didn't react and grabbed a mug and smashed it onto the floor so l went to leave because it scared me but she blocked me from leaving and told me "pick up the glass before you think of doing anything" so i did. Then when i was about to leave because i was scared she took my phone off me so i took my wallet and left and luckily for me my boyfriend (17M) was waiting for me and he called my sister for me and i left to hers to be safe. So AlTA for leaving? Any suggestions on what i should do?

I mean, both teams have had their highs and lows this season, but now it's crunch time, and every game counts.
On one hand, you got the Celtics, with Tatum leading the charge like a boss. The dude's been on fire lately, dropping buckets left and right. Plus, you can't ignore their solid defense. But then again, the Cavs have been surprising everyone. Sexton's been stepping up big time, and their chemistry seems to be clicking at just the right moment.
I've been flipping back and forth on this one. I mean, the Celtics have the experience, but the Cavs seem hungry as hell. It's gonna come down to who wants it more, I guess. So, what do you think? Who's gonna come out on top in this showdown?

Hello everyone,
I was vegetarian for 9 years, starting due to moral reasons after watching many graphic documentaries.
I’ve recently started eating meat again a few weeks back, solely for two reasons:
-I started to believe it is not my responsibility to fix the broken in the world, that includes accepting wearing fast fashion and animal tested products. -Humans are designed to eat meat, I cannot punish myself for that.
With these beliefs in my brain, I have been having existential thoughts. I no longer struggle with the morality of eating animals again, however, I now have thoughts pertaining to “humans are designed to be morally incorrect” “Humans are bad” “Humans cause pain and destruction in this world” “Even if humans can do good, ultimately, there is more harm that humans do to other living creatures”.
I have been pessimistic, slightly sad, and thinking to myself “what is the point?”.
Previously as a vegetarian: A lot of my trust in people was ultimately thinking that some were capable of not harming other living creatures.
Now with my two new beliefs and eating meat again: My new mindset is that I can be good to other humans and live a fulfilling life, but I kill and bring pain to other living things with my diet, and I am designed to do it.
It’s depressing to look at myself in the mirror and others around me, and to actively understand that we are all supposed to participate in bringing great pain to other creatures, even if it’s the circle of life.
I accept that it is natural to eat animals. - I am struggling to find a way to trust humans, believe we are “good”, or spin our nature in a positive way.
Have you ever felt this way? Is there a solution to switch this mindset?

I don’t know what to do about this. I don’t want to be angry, but I am. I have multiple different bone, muscle and ligament conditions and nerve damage in my legs because of that for context.
My sister lives two hours away for college and had our mom, dad, and myself drive down to her and pick her up because she get a pinched nerve in her back and couldn’t deal with it. This happened on Thursday, I had to try to find people to cover for me at work so I could take the day off to help my mom as she get extremely nervous on long car rides, I don’t drive at the moment and we had to bring my sisters car down with us.
But now she is staying in my room which is pretty normal for when she comes down but keeps getting out of the cot she has to stay in my bed all day, rearranging all the stuff I keep up there for when I have to sleep certain ways due to pain, get everyone to wait on her every need, take only one of the three pain med my parent went to my grandparents to get for her, and act like an over all baby about it.
All of that is annoying but the thing about this whole mess that makes me so mad is the fact that at times when my nerve pain was so bad I would keep my legs iced and bandaged to try and help with the feeling and got to the point I was crying in my bathroom at night while rubbing my legs so hard they bruised just to wear down the nerves enough for me to wrap them back up and go back to bed. Doing all this while still doing my physically demanding job and doing as many of the house hold chores as i could as we live on a farm and our mom had just gotten mouth surgery. She yelled at me many times about faking it and just not wanting to help out while I was home. Making sly comment about how i couldn't be in that much pain if i was still going to work when i love my job and it was one of the only escapes I had from the constant fighting with her.
I just want to scream at her for how small and worthless she made me feel while I felt like I was going to chop my legs off for even a bit of relief.
How do I stop myself when she is around me all the time and my mom says that its fine and we just need to give her time to heal and maybe she'll understand a bit more but I don't think it will. It didnt help my mom understand when she had to go to PT for her neck from and injury messing with a condition we did know she had. I was there to with a dislocated shoulder. But my mom got better and seemed to forget the pain had even been there by the time her PT was over.
This will change nothing. How do i not hate her? How do I try to forgive or forget when she's wailing about a sliver of the pain I go through? Am I a bad person for not feeling sympathy for her? Like she kinda disseveres it after some of the shit she's put me through. How do i feel better about this for myself when even looking at her makes me angry?
Sorry for the long ranty post and mistakes it's 3:00am and im on my phone.

Here is a TRUE Haunted House Story that a gentleman by the name of “Kenneth” emailed to me last week. This is one creepy story. 😬 I hope you enjoy. 🫶
Story by - “Kenneth”
I’ve been living in a house that is very haunted for the better part of 53 years. I guess you can say that, I grew up here. And lived here my entire life.
And I’ve made a happy home for my wife and daughter here as well. At least we try to make this a happy home. We’ve experienced things that are so bizarre you’d almost think that we were crazy for even talking about them.
Nevermind the things I’ve heard and seen in this house while growing up.
While I would love to talk about everything that has happened here, I would like to tell you about how it all started for me when I was seven years old. It's actually the very first incident that I encountered while living here.
The house was built in 1875. It’s been remodeled throughout the years to keep up with modern times, but it still rests on the very foundation it was built on.
This house… as I’m writing this, I can hear footsteps creaking above me on the second floor. This is an all day thing. But we’ve learned to live with it. While growing up here, and being the only child, my parents already knew about the house being haunted. But they tried sheltering me from it. Meaning, if I heard something strange, my father or mother would say something to the likes of…
“Oh honey, those damn pipes again. We need to call the plumber.”
Or if there were footsteps creaking on the floor boards they would blame the flooring for being very old. I would hear scratching all throughout the walls and ceilings. All sorts of strange and bizarre sounds.
But this incident, this day, changed everything. And I remember this day, or rather night, as if it happened yesterday.
It was around 11:00 at night. It was a school night. And I was asleep. But something woke me up. I heard a voice whisper in my right right ear…
“We can’t let them get away.”
My eyes slowly opened up and I laid there for a moment. I called out for both my mother and father and looked over at my bedroom door but it was shut. I flipped over to my side and fell back asleep.
I heard this voice loud and clear. I know I did. But I think my brain was telling me to ignore it. Well, that was just the beginning of it. Because a few moments later it decided to really stir things up with me…
“Boy… HELP THEM THEY’RE BURNING ALIVE!”
I jumped out of bed so rapidly and even peed myself as I ran to my parents bedroom. My parents both looked at each other and then looked at me like they knew something but didn’t want to tell me. They gave me the old mumbo jumbo and told me that I was having a bad dream. My mother got out of bed. Got me fresh pajamas and socks while I cleaned myself up.
Peeing yourself at seven years old isn’t fun. Especially when it’s a raspy old scary voice shouting that someone’s burning alive in your bedroom while you’re sleeping.
My mother asked if I wanted to sleep with her and my father in their bed after that. You bet your ass I did. I hopped in that bed quicker than a fox chasing a rabbit. I was a small boy for seven. And both of my parents were average sized too, so, I fit right in there.
Alright… Here is where it gets very, very scary. If this doesn’t scare the socks off of you I don’t know what will. And before I continue, the voice that I heard? We think it’s the original owner of the house. Without giving away too much information about my home, the very first owner of this home…
He was an evil man…
We’ve heard stories about him torturing animals, killing them, and then taxiderming them, scattering them all throughout the house like his own little museum of horror.
Throughout the years I would experience more voices, more scratching on the walls and ceilings. Eventually my parents wound up telling me that the house was haunted by a creepy man with an evil past. And we lived with it. We were never physically harmed by it. It was more of a nuisance than anything.
That all changed on the night I brought my wife home to begin a life here with me.
We’re high school sweethearts. So, she knows about this place. She stayed here overnight plenty of times before we got married. But on the night she moved in, it wasn’t happy at all.
I’ll never forget the hour and minute. It was 2:27 in the morning. We were both asleep. My wife woke up first because she felt something tugging on her arm. She then woke me up and told me what she felt. This was the first time in all the years anyone has ever been physically touched by this spirit. This had never happened before so it was quite a shock to me.
And after being awake for about a few minutes or so, our bedroom door slammed shut! Our blanket was pulled away from us and thrown across the room. And we heard heavy footsteps as if someone was walking across the roof!
It was as if the house was coming to life.
In all my years of living here, I have never seen this much activity. Yet alone in one single night.
After the blanket got pulled away from us and thrown across the room things finally seemed to calm down. And the entire house was ominously quiet.
Too quiet…
But then a dark black shadow decides to grace us with its presence by moving along the walls in the bedroom and fading into nothingness. My wife and I did not move from the bed during all of this. We were terror-stricken. And then a foul odor begins to come from underneath the bed followed by a sonorous growl that vibrated underneath us.
By this point it felt like something grave was about to happen and I had to do something. Or at least I had to try. I grabbed a hold of my wife’s hand and told her to be brave and to not fear this thing. Because that's what it wants. It wants to scare us out of our home and we can’t allow that to happen. But we mustard up the courage to face this evil spirit and began reciting the Lord’s Prayer.
The bedroom door slammed again and again, four times consecutively. With steady growls underneath the bed, but we stood our ground. Praying to the almighty to help and asking him to show this spirit to the light.
A raspy old voice then shouts from underneath the bed.
“Get out!… Leave my house!”
And I said…
“No! If you're stuck here like you’ve been all these years, then you’re going to have to learn to live with us. In peace or war. Because this is my house now. Not yours. You're dead! Leave already! Go! Go with God. And Go into the light.”
After 10 minutes of praying and arguing with this thing. It all just seemed to come to a pass. I wiped the tears of fear from my wife’s eyes and embraced her painful shivers.
I, too, was frozen over by the horror that leveled us during that night.
And nothing of that magnitude ever occurred again. And our home stood silent for a while. For a year to be exact. Which was very peaceful. The voices and scratching on the walls and ceilings, footsteps and disembodied voices eventually returned. But it doesn’t bother us at all. We pay it no mind.
Doesn’t bother my daughter. Not my wife nor I. We’ve just learned to live with it.
I know that must sound strange. But this is my home. Our home. And we intend to keep it that way.
Thank you, Kenneth Sr.
Disclaimer: This story is not to be used in any other way other than reading, sharing your thoughts on it, and enjoying the creepy thought of living with a Poltergeist/Ghost in your home. 👻
The content producer has this story copyrighted and protected by the Library of Congress/Copyright Office.
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i've had manifested things for a while like a dream job, great live and all. but when it comes to sp, im still new. so, im in no contact my sp for like 6 months. we do had a complicated situationship back then and things just going dry and we become so distant. she ghosted me and go full no contact. thats when im manifesting her back to come back to me and text me back or something. already had this full mindset that ''she always coming back, im already with her, she miss me and all''. its like robotic affirmation and of course i've ignoring all the old story and fight we had, and i've done assuming good things and using also the 'benefit of the doubt'. its makes feel easy too. and just a week ago. i had this intuition or gut feeling because, honestly i do miss her and kinda worried about her. so i tried to get her info from her friend, but thats when things going fast. my friend surprisingly text her immediately and my sp respond them kindly and is completely fine (or at least, she looks fine). that makes me had this courage and i got the gut feeling like everyone, universe, and god is telling me to just text her already. so im breaking the no contact. but the thing is, she did respond me but she is giving me this cold reply. i've been expecting that if she did already just forget or lost feeling to me, she would completely giving me a dry text or just this friendly respond like nothing happened between us. but she give me this cold answer like she is mad at me and sounds like she is having a grudge on me. i asked her how she doing and tell her that im worried and i care for her but she still giving me this cold and angry reply. we ended up having a small fight and in the end, i just said ''thanks for the talk, it means a lot'' and let them be again. but it does left me with this hurt and shocked feeling like, the circumstance between us goes worse (i still dont know why she is mad, because i didnt do anything wrong).
i've feel like is this the right way? or my intuition is wrong? did i mess it up? right now, im gonna do is just keep presisting. thank your for listening guys, hope you have a great day.

I am going through the most terrifying emotional experience that I am sure is a Narcissistic collapse. I'm terrified, constantly.
Something happened while I was involved with 2 guys, back in October. One day something snapped in my brain and I saw the actions from my whole life with this horrifying clarity. I saw myself, as if I was in a movie. Moving from guy to guy. Replacing one source of supply almost immediately with another. Since I was 15 I traced back dating people back to back with no real similarities in their personalities at all. They were just, there. They pursued me and I just go with it. I thought it was BPD because of the immense emotional pain that accompanies a break-up but this collapse has confirmed its deffo NPD or co-morbid. That intense emotional pain is always dissipated as soon as I've found a replacement.
I always prided myself on being a 'good person'. Thats how I've always presented myself in the world. The nice, shy pretty mixed race girl. Clever, mysterious. People have always been intrigued by me, mistaking the internal void for some kind of depth of character.
I've never had many interests really so I made books and reading my entire personality. Right now I have no interest in any of that. I just miss the person I pretended to be that allowed me to function in society.
I've behaved horrendously and lost all sources of supply. Some of them, good genuine people. i cant face anyone. I cant look anyone in the eye, I know they can see the darkness in my eyes.
I can't function. I can't work, barely wash, never have an appetite. I've lost the place I was living. I've lost everything and I am totally unmasked and everyone around me feels uncomfortable, i can sense it. I turned to my mother which only confirmed to me why i am so, so broken. My family are dysfunctional and they operate without the self awareness of who they are. i dont blame them, being self aware feels like a death sentence.
I desperately want to die but I'm terrified of non-existence. Every second is pure hell. I go to sleep in a panic and wake up in utter terror and dread. I cant believe who I am. I cant live being this monster. I feel I will never, ever recover.

I (26F) have been seeing this guy (27M) for a couple of months. We met years back through mutual friends. He recently reached out and it led to hanging out, flirting, and to going on dates. Since the beginning, he always paid for everything even when I offer, and he is very gentlemanly. We texted frequently and called. I felt great chemistry and attraction to him and his demeanor.
However, he doesn’t directly communicate with me when it comes to his intentions and feelings even though I’ve been as transparent and honest as possible on my end. Since transitioning to a new job, he’s become very busy as it’s a demanding position and I’ve noticed the texting dwindled down to one a day. I’ve asked to call but that was ignored, and he doesn’t initiate calls anymore. He still took me out on a date and everything was fine in person, but when we’re apart it feels like all the warmth that was given to me is pulled away and I am left in the cold.
The first time I thought he needed space was because he drew distant after we established we were talking, but he asked if I was mad at him so I was under the impression he cared. The second time he pulled away was right after a really great date in which he became cold after expressing how excited he was to see me again. He said he was just busy after I told him I don’t mind ending this if he was just keeping me as an option. He never clarified what his intentions were but just said he understood and still tried keeping the conversation going. I put a lot of effort into making sure his effort is reciprocated when he does show it.
I’ve communicated that I don’t care if we can’t text as frequently and I just wanted consistency and effort which he showed for a little bit. I finally got him to communicate a bit more and he said he just wanted to take his time with things, and implied that a relationship was not his priority at the moment.
I’ve teetered between waiting to see what happens or taking what he’s shown me at face value, and I think I’ve decided I’ve had enough. This is the third time I’ve felt this push-pull dynamic and I am tired, even though I do like him a lot, think he’s a genuinely good person, and am very physically attracted to him. However, his actions make me feel like I’m being kept at arm’s length or as a backup option. I usually feel secure with myself and my relationships but my anxiety has been at a high. I went through one of the roughest periods of my life recently and he did not have the capacity to be there for me or ask how I was doing. I don’t see a point in putting more effort for someone if they aren’t someone I can lean on or build trust with.
I don’t know if it’s right to end this by ghosting. I think he is a good person, and just unavailable but I think if I bring up that I have a problem again, this will either end with a sour taste (I still want to be friends) or I’ll get strung back into this unhealthy dynamic. I also feel bad if I ghost because he’s opened up to me about his childhood trauma already despite saying he never opens up to people and this has led me to care about him. I also don’t know if he would care if I ghosted. How should I handle this?

Billion dollar four-building State office complex with 1 million square feet of office space officially opens on Richards Blvd in Sacramento. Complex will house 8 State agencies. Complex has gym, restaurants, and child care center, hoping to entice State workers back into the office.
Of the 518,000 total population in Sacramento, 107,000 people work for the State, 20% of the total population. 60,000 State workers have left downtown Sacramento to work from home. 75% of all State workers primarily work from home, according to SEIU.
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My (32 M) bf and I (31 M) have been together for 6.5 years. We decided back in 2018 that we wanted to keep our pasts in the past, so we agreed on blocking certain people (mostly exes). There was this guy (let's call him John) that was friends with my bf who he said was a TERRIBLE influence on him. (Like, multiple DUIs by his mid 20s, would use my bf to drive him around everywhere since he didn't have a license, pressuring my bf into heavily drinking when he didn't want to, etc.) Since John always mentioned my bf's ex and since he was such a bad inflience, we agreed on him not talking to him anymore and blocking him.
Never once in our 6.5 year relationship have I ever asked to look at my bf's phone, nor have I stooped at it either. However, we got into a pretty big fight the other day, and for some reason I just had this feeling, and I asked him to look at his phone. The look on his face was definitely full of panic. After looking, I found that he not only had been talking to John for the last 3 years, but he even had him under a fake name, and it was obvious he was deleting texts that either mentioned his ex or something he didn't want me knowing about. When I questioned my boyfriend, he admitted that he had unblocked John 3 years ago and had been deleting texts so they wouldn't show up at the top of his messages, that way I would never accidentally see them.
AITA for being mad about this? I personally don't think they had anything going on, but it's more about me thinking that if he hid texts under a fake name for this many years that he could do it again in the future, under worse circumstances.
Also, he "apologized," but it wasn't genuine, as I could tell he only apologized for getting caught.

Last week in a post-deleted by the OP, there was discussion about how there is no point in stockpiling antibiotics and any attemps for lay people to practice any form of health care in a widespread grid down disaster.
Myself and some colleagues wrote: Survival and Austere Medicine https://corom.org/survival-austere-medicine/ . We are slowing working on a 4th edition with some new material and minor corrections - but it is taking longer than we thought!
But I thought given the above post, I would take the opportunity to post the introduction - which address the "why bother" question for a major long-term grid down situation. Apologies for the formatting and length
"There is a sense, when considering the issues around survival medicine practice, that everything is overwhelming, that it is impossible for lay people to provide a high level of medical care and maintain a high level of population health.
We don’t think this is the case at all. We believe that intelligent lay people with some basic medical knowledge, skills, and equipment can deliver high quality health care. While it is obviously impossible for lay people to safely and competently deal with every medical problem, and there remain many complicated diagnoses requiring equally complicated or technologically advanced treatments, for 80- 90% of the health problems afflicting humanity, simple things done well are all that is required to preserve life and limb and help alleviate suffering.
Consider the following:
1. Remote Medicine Practice:
Below are the results of one of our author’s experience in the provision of health care in various remote and austere locations (some third world, some first world) to nearly four thousand people over a cumulative 30-month period (spread over 18 years) – with more data there are few minor changes from the 2005 2nd edition, but the list is essentially the same – which is interesting. The record keeping was a bit unreliable at times, but the following summary is reasonably accurate.
Top 20 presentations (representing > 95% of consultations):
1. Minor musculoskeletal injuries - ankle sprains most common, included many minor fractures which didn’t require more than diagnosis and simple care
2. Upper respiratory tract infections
3. Allergic reactions/Hay feveAnaphylactic reactions/Rashes
4. Minor open wounds – included a mix of lacerations needing closure, many needing
cleaning and advice only, and some infected wounds
5. Gastroenteritis/Vomiting/Diarrhoea
6. Mental health problems
7. Sexual health/Contraceptive problems
8. Skin infections/Cellulitis
9. Dental problems
10. Abdominal pain - 4 confirmed acute appendix (2 treated with IV antibiotics and
subsequent delayed appendix removal / 2 required evacuation) + 1 gangrenous gall bladder. Many were "no cause found". Of the remainder with a clear diagnosis the most common were renal or biliary colic)
11. Fever /Viral illness
12. Chest infections
13. Major musculoskeletal injuries (fractures/dislocations)
14. Asthma
15. Ear infections
16. Urinary tract infections
17. Burns – mostly partial thickness within the realms of management in the environment the
patient was in. Several required evacuations. Several required rehabilitation due to location and sub-optimal initial treatment.
18. Chest pain
19. Syncope/Collapse/Faints
20. Early pregnancy problems
Major trauma was uncommon but was seen including several fractured femurs and a dozen cases of multi-system severe trauma resulting in a mix of in-country surgery and evacuations
Top 12 prescribed drugs (representing >90% of medications prescribed):
1. Paracetamol (Acetaminophen)
2. Loratadine (and other assorted antihistamines)
3. Diclofenac (and other assorted antiinflammatories)
4. Combined oral contraceptive
5. Flucloxacillin
6. Throat lozenges
7. Augmentin (Amoxycillin + clavulanic acid)
8. Loperamide
9. Nystatin (and other antifungals)
10. Hydrocortisonecream
11. Ventolininhalers(Salbutamol/Albuterol)
12. Morphine
What is of note here is that the clear majority of problems dealt with are simple and straight forward – there is still potential for serious consequences but there is scope for a well-informed lay person with a basic knowledge and access to a reasonable collection of reference books to provide reasonable care. Equally the vast majority of medication prescribed are from a very narrow well defined list – despite the fact 1000’s of drugs are on the market – the list of core lifesaving or comfort preserving ones is relatively brief.
2. Why children die
The World Health Organization (WHO) has identified the following conditions as having contributed to >75% of worldwide deaths in the under 5-year age group (in no particular order):
Pneumonia Pneumonia is an infection of lungs. Prevention of this condition is somewhat limited – although good nutrition, clean and warm housing, and a reduction in the exposure to respiratory irritants (smoke) all can help. However, the most common bacteria which cause pneumonia are frequently sensitive to penicillin – which is discussed later in the book and can be produced in a low-tech environment.
Diarrhea Death from diarrhea (dehydration) is almost 100% preventable with appropriate use of oral rehydration therapy. Dirty water or poor food handling causes much diarrhea – this can be virtually eliminated by proper hygiene practices and care with drinking water.


Pre-term delivery While we are limited in the direct interventions available in an austere environment to mitigate this problem contributing factors to early labor are young age, malnutrition, smoking, poor maternal health, so there is scope for indirect intervention based on optimizing mum’s health and environment. For babies who are born prematurely the necessities of life are warmth and breast milk. With attention to detail for both things, it is possible for infants as young as 33-34 weeks to survive without high-tech intervention.
Malaria. Prevention is better than a cure, knowledge about clearing stagnant water, mosquito nets and long sleeved clothes can significantly reduce the risk. Equally quinine is derived from the bark of the Chincona tree and the Chinese have been using the herb, Artemisinin, effectively for the treatment of Malaria for years. So, while not as easy to treat or prevent as diarrhea, there is still scope for significant reduction in death rates in low-tech ways.
Blood infection Blood infection or septicemia is rapidly fatal. The ability to intervene depends on the cause of the infection and antibiotics available. Broadly, infections causing septicemia can originate from the skin, the lungs, the kidneys or bladder, and the abdominal contents. While specific treatments for these may be lacking in an austere environment – all have prevention strategies and basic low-tech treatments that can be lifesaving when applied appropriately.
Lack of oxygen at birth Of these problems, this is the one with probably the least scope for impact. Unfortunately, even if foetal distress is detected during labor (with heart beat monitoring or signs of distress like meconium), without the ability to deliver the baby quickly options are limited. That said, a caesarian section is not a massively complicated operation (and discussed in Chapter 10), and in parts of the third world is performed by trained lay people with safety and success.
Measles Again, there is limited scope to intervene directly with the disease. Measles is always around and while vaccination reduced the incidence of epidemics, sporadic cases still occur. In the absence of vaccinations epidemics of measles every few years will be inevitable. There is however some scope to minimize the spread during an epidemic with isolation and respiratory precautions during outbreaks. While some of the serious neurological complications are unavoidable in a
Prevention is better than a cure, knowledge about clearing stagnant water, mosquito nets and long sleeved clothes can significantly reduce the risk. Equally quinine is derived from the bark of the Chincona tree and the Chinese have been using the herb, Artemisinin, effectively for the treatment of Malaria for years. So, while not as easy to treat or prevent as diarrhea, there is still scope for significant reduction in death rates in low-tech ways. small number of patients, basic care such as maintaining hydration can also prevent complications such as dehydration.
Neonatal tetanus The prevention of neonatal tetanus is easy. You don’t let the site where the umbilical cord attaches to the baby get dirty. It is as simple as that.
HIV/AIDS Prevention of maternal infection is the key to prevention of infection of newborns. The steps required to prevent exposure to the HIV virus are widely known: abstinence (not undertaking sexual activity), monogamy (maintaining a single sex partner rather than multiple) and if neither is a palatable option, then safe sexual practices.
Most the conditions above have an element of either preventability or the ability to be treated to some degree in an austere environment and significant improvements in mortality and morbidity can be made.

3. The greatest advances in medicine
Several years ago the British Medical Journal ran a poll trying to identify top medical advances of the last 200 years. The following is the top 12 from that poll:
Sanitation 1st Antibiotics 2nd Anaesthesia 3rd Vaccines 4th DNA 5th Germ theory 6th = The oral contraceptive 6^th = Evidence based medicine 8th Imaging 9th Computers 10th Oral rehydration therapy 11th Smoking cessation 12th =
Just as with our discussion above about the causes of childhood deaths, this list is introduced to show just how much impact a very basic health care knowledge can have in terms of optimising health in a post-disaster or austere situation.
Of the biggest advances of medicine in the last 200 years, between 7 to 9 (depending on your knowledge and available resources) of the 12 can be applied to care in a austere situation. In particular, the knowledge of sanitation, germ theory, oral rehydration therapy, and simple manufactured antibiotics and anaesthetic agents all have the potential to be able to be continued to be applied in a post-disaster situation and to continue to contribute to a high quality of low-tech health care. In the same way that we can substantially reduce childhood death rates in a low tech post-disaster situation, we can still continue to have access to some of the biggest advances in medicine even at the end of the world.
4. Surgery in the third world
A non-specialist surgeon working at a isolated bush hospital in Papua New Guinea published his experience of Emergency Surgery over a 14 month period (similar articles have been published with similar data):
Emergency Surgery 243
Tendon repair 33 Open orthopaedics 32 Dilation and curettage 31 General surgery 29 Incision and drainage 26 Laceration repair 26 Obstetrics 23 Manipulation under anaesthesia 15 Urology 15 Gynaecology 9 Ear, nose and throat 2
Emergency anaesthesia 243
Ketamine – spontaneous breathing 166 Local anaesthesia 33 Ketamine – ventilated 16 Spinal anaesthesia 12 Propofol / thiopentone 10 Epidural 5 Epidural / GA 1
The point of this reference is to help illustrate what someone can achieve in primitive conditions with no formal surgical training and no dedicated anaesthetist. We are not suggesting that the average layperson can safely practice to this extent or breadth of surgery, but it does demonstrate that a non-surgeon can achieve much. It also shows that most anaesthetics for surgery in an austere situation can be done under local or ketamine anaesthetics.
Why this is relevant?
Each of these four references gives you insights, one way or another, into low-tech austere health care. First, it gives you an insight into the likely clinical problems that you may see in a survival situation, and how much can be dealt with in that sort of austere environment. Second, it demonstrates how medically speaking it is the small things and simple knowledge which save lives and some of the biggest killers can be mitigated with these relatively low level interventions or strategies.
In our opening summary – “Medicine at that end of the world”, we describe a pretty bleak medical reality post-SHTF. Will million’s really die from lack of access to modern heath care as we have alleged?
The short answer is yes – many will die much sooner than they otherwise would have, from disease and injury, which currently are not immediately fatal. But the answer is not nearly that simple nor bleak. The reality is that while cancer, diabetes, malnutrition or serious injury may claim many of its victim’s sooner than with today’s health care, most health problems can be treated or mitigated to a degree in a low- tech environment, with a narrow range of medications and interventions – including some cancers, non- insulin requiring diabetes and many major traumatic injuries.
Most medical problems are relatively mundane and not life threatening. Truly catastrophic problems in medicine are fortunately rare. You should focus on learning and preparing to deal with the common problems, and doing common procedures well, and you will save lives, and possibly also improve the quality of those lives.
There will be a significant change to health care but with knowledge and some preparation it isn’t quite as dire as many (including our own opening paragraph) predict. "

If we are batting first at guwahati
Tkc / Kunal rathore( turning pitch) Jaiswal Samson Parag Dubey Jurel Powell Ashwin Boult Chahal Sandeep
Impact sub - nandre burger in place of jurel /kunal/tkc
Bowling 1st Tkc Jaiswal Samson Parag Jurel Powell Ashwin Boult Burger Chahal Sandeep /Avesh khan
Impact sub - Donovan or hetmeyer in place of Chahal
What all we are lacking in last 2 3 games which we lost summarized :-

1. Slow start in powerplay, openers either playing slowly or throwing their wickets in hesitation to play big shots .
   
2. Poor bowling at the end , also boult and chahal not being that effective as they were earlier in the season . Need to bring burger back and give 1 or 2 over to parag .
   
3. Lower order heavily dependent on foreign players who can't slog with equal effectiveness against spin , either one of sanju or parag need to play till the end to have a settled batter who can hit spinners out of the ground while Powell, dononvan can smash pacers.
   
4. A shift in momentum from that 1ball loss against srh .Need to play positively with intent . Otherwise match vs kkr can be a knockout match If lsg wins 2 of their remaining matches .
   
5. Either one of the openers , middle order and a lower order batsman needs to be aggressive with intent like all the top 4 teams have (kkr has narine , salt), (, srh has sharma , head ). If we need to be there in top 2and also want to win in playoffs.
   

As I seem to be one of the lucky few who received my new Queen Rock Montreal UHD with its packaging mostly intact and discs both playable, here is a comparison of the framing, colours, and editing of four official home video versions.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWw1c39lyhI

• Top-left: 2001 4:3 DVD
• Top-right: 2007 16:9 Blu-ray. Wow, these colours are even worse than I remember.
• Bottom-left: 2024 4:3 UHD (SDR)
• Bottom-right: 2024 4:3 UHD (HDR, tone-mapped to SDR) This looks pretty similar to the SDR, so I guess I picked roughly the right tone-mapping settings?

This confirms what I'd expected/hoped, that the 4:3 “full frame” version of the new release is the easy winner in terms of visible area. It has the more or the same amount included on all sides compared to both of the older editions. That said, sometimes all you gain are empty spaces. Other times you get a more complete picture of one of the band members, and I think the film is that much better for it.
You may notice that the 2007 and new Queen Rock Montreal versions have some extra crowd shots, partially or entirely replacing shots of the band which were in the older We Will Rock You releases.
As QPL have previously stated that none of the unused footage exists, I presume these were just lifted from elsewhere in the film.

I need the otolaryngology medical community’s help, as many physicians have been stumped by my situation. Admins, please read before deciding to delete. I am not a medical professional, but I possess a unique situation that cannot seem to be resolved by the medical professionals available to me. I am not sure how to phrase this without breaking the subreddit’s only rule, so I will try to express it in a manner oriented to my obsessive curiosity to understand my (undiagnosed) condition.
 
For starters, I have no credentials to confidently say anything I am about to; some of it may even be jargon or irrelevant, but I will try my best.
 
Eight years ago, I weighed around 285 lbs. I began an exercise routine that caused me to lose about 20 lbs within a short amount of time. During this period, I developed persistent discomfort in my left ear. I noticed the discomfort after visiting my aunt, where there was a 500’ elevation difference. When I came back home, my ear would not pop. Over the course of a week or so, the ear pressure eventually equalized, but everything sounded muffled.
 
This led me to my first ENT visit. The ENT didn’t really give me much time, and paired me with an audiologist who determined my hearing was perfect. After hearing the unfortunate news of no diagnosis, I asked why I have to pop my ears to hear consistently. I was brushed off and told to see a TMJ specialist. The TMJ specialist told me I’m fine.
 
This is where my independent research began. I determined that my “popping” was actually me forcibly equalizing the pressure in my Eustachian tube by repeatedly moving my jaw. I went to an in-network ENT. This ENT took offense to my self-diagnosis of Eustachian Tube Dysfunction (ETD) and told me my issues were allergy-related. I was referred to their allergy department and put on immunotherapy shots. After completing my treatment and reaching maintenance, my issue persisted.
 
Frustrated, I looked online for the highest-rated ENT in my state. This doctor did not accept my insurance, so I decided to pay out of pocket to get the issue resolved. This doctor’s niche was rhinoplasty, and he was the first (and so far last) to give me the time of day. He performed a nasal endoscopy and a CT scan of my sinuses. Both tests revealed nothing of use. He noted I have a slightly deviated septum, but not nearly enough to cause any of my symptoms. However, he did note the sinuses on the side where I’m experiencing discomfort were inflamed. His diagnosis was chronic sinusitis. I was prescribed Azelastine 0.1% (137 mcg) nasal spray (an antihistamine). I used this medication for about a year in conjunction with Flonase, but nothing changed.
 
Once again, I sought out a different ENT. This ENT also took offense to my description of symptoms because I used medical phrasing (ETD). After a brief consultation, I was told once again that my symptoms were allergy-related. I went back on allergy shots, reached maintenance, and once again the issue persisted.
 
At this point, I gave up and didn’t bother refilling my prescriptions or finishing my shot treatment. Over the course of a year or two, I developed a severe sinus infection that went several months untreated. It came to the point where I was unable to breathe out of my nose at all, affecting me to the point my family members became concerned, as now there were comorbidities (such as sleep apnea). I eventually saw a pulmonologist who made it clear I needed to see an ENT and get my sinus issues fixed.
 
Thinking that maybe if I stuck with the same ENT and followed the trial and error process, I went back to the last ENT I saw. I was diagnosed with a sinus infection and prescribed medication. For the first time in months, I was able to breathe again after excreting from my nose what looked like petrified mucus. With this small victory, I returned to the same ENT and expressed my frustrations. I passionately described the location of my discomfort and explained that I believe the Eustachian tube problems I’m having are not the issue but a symptom of something else. I explained that I feel a mass or some sort of inflammation in my throat and mentioned the inflammation found by the previous ENT who performed a nasal endoscopy.
 
That was a mistake. After expressing my frustrations, I was diagnosed with "globus hystericus." Initially excited to finally have an explanation and a treatment plan, I was disheartened when I was told he could no longer assist me and suggested involving different medical professionals. When I got home and googled my new diagnosis, I realized he was referring me to a psychologist. Needless to say, I didn’t return.
 
Unable to accept my new reality, I resorted to more independent research. Before I even say this, I want to strongly express how much this improved my symptoms. Mewing, changing my tongue posture, and stopping mouth breathing drastically improved my Eustachian tube pressure over the course of a year. Using a jaw exercisegum daily also significantly reduced my ear pressure issues. Although the discomfort was reduced, it was not fully resolved. Sometimes I’d use a massage gun on my jaw, chin, bridge of my nose, head, and neck, which helped with mucus and provided temporary relief, especially lower in my neck near my chests, this seems to what felt like drain mucus/fluid. I am 120% able to the breath better after, but the “mass” still felt present.
 
After a while, my circumstances relocated me to a different state, giving me a new opportunity to finally resolve this. I saw a new ENT, and I gave the full rundown of my symptoms and history. I mentioned every medical ailment, bad habit, and quirk I have ever experienced. I mentioned my frequent regurgitation from overeating, how sometimes ground beef or rice seems to get stuck somewhere in the back of my throat, how I sleep on the side where I’m having discomfort, and how I pick my nose in the morning. I also mentioned that I can feel when my ears are producing wax and can remove hot wax with a Q-tip in real-time. I mentioned having tubes as a kid (as I mentioned to every ENT). This ENT diagnosed my issue as being caused by the acid in my regurgitation irritating my sinuses. I was prescribed Omeprazole 40 mg. I took this for a while but realized it was a bandaid on a bigger issue. I needed to prioritize my weight and eating habits.
 
I eventually started measuring my portions and eating slowechewing my food better, which fully resolved the regurgitation issue. However, I still occasionally get food stuck somewhere in my throat and definitely stuck in my soft palate. I have had my tonsils and adenoids removed when I was a toddler, but I can’t help but wonder if something grew back and is trapping food (I assume this would show in a CT scan).
 
As of recently, my latest symptom is hairs coming from the back of my mouth. Initially, I thought they were beard hairs, but after the fifth or sixth time, I became fully certain that single strands of hair are coming from the side of my mouth where I’m experiencing discomfort. I can replicate this over a long period of repeatedly opening my jaw (like I have Tourette’s) in an effort to equalize the pressure in my ear. I did some research, and it sounds like it could be a million different things. So once again, I have an ENT appointment coming up.
 
Now we’re caught up. I started to about a year ago still use the nasal spray and Flonase daily, and I even have a tablespoon of raw local honey. I have ZERO allergies. My ear pressure has progressively gotten worse over the past month, with the frequency of hairs increasing due to my constant need to open and close my mouth for pressure relief. I am not sure what to even tell this new ENT. I need experts to help me navigate the landscape of this condition.

TLDR: I own a share if freehold flat and the other freeholder lives abroad, is incapacitated and has no next of kin, just a legal representative appointed by a government organisation in the country she lives in. I need to sell my flat and extend the lease but two years in I have got nowhere in getting the deeds signed. What can I do?
Hi Housing UK readers,
I wanted to see if you had any fresh ideas on how to approach this situation I find myself in.
I purchased a flat in 2011. The flat is one of two in a Victorian conversion. Both flats are self-contained.
I am the sole registered leasehold proprietor of flat B and have been living in the flat since 2011.
Miss X is the sole registered leasehold proprietor of flat A, and has owned the flat since 2001. The flat is being rented as Miss X retired abroad in 2006.
Miss X and I also both own a share of the freehold, which is split 50/50.
I’m in contact with Miss X for a few years after I buy, but all admin relating to building management is dealt with by her estate agents and she defers any discussions to them.
Fast forward to September 2022. I need to sell my flat as I want to move to a different city, and have some debt I need to pay off. The flat is listed for sale in late October 2022.
There are 84 years left on the lease for both myself and Miss X. I reach out to Miss X to inform her of my plans and that I will need her signature for the various deeds, and that we should extend the lease. The email bounces back and her phone line is disconnected.
I contact the estate agents who manage flat A. They have also not heard from Miss X for a while, I can tell they know more, but they are unwilling to share any details. In a tactical move, I list my flat for sale with them too, to try and get their help with Miss X (a whole other hilarious side story). I am repeatedly assured by them that the situation with Miss X will not hinder the sale of the flat (a huge lie).
March 2023 I finally find some buyers (with another agent) and start the conveyancing process, including extending the lease and transferring the freehold.
May 2023. After chasing Miss X’s estate agents for weeks, I discover that Miss X is now incapacitated and hospitalised with dementia. Miss X has no partner or children, no next of kin and no legal representation in the UK. She is under the care of a government agency in the European country she resides in. A lawyer employed by the agency, let’s call him SP, has been appointed as her legal representative and is in contact with the UK estate agents. SP sends documents to verify his status to the agents, who confirm legitimacy via their lawyers. SP is very hard to reach, rarely answers emails or his phone.
I find a solicitor specialised in property law to help me navigate this situation. As Miss X is not deemed “absent”, the solicitor suggests that it’s best to try and resolve this with the appointed legal representative (SP), as any other legal routes available for absentee freeholders through UK courts wouldn’t apply (as we know where Miss X is). I explain the situation to SP, he talks to a judge and informs me he lacks capacity to make decisions about the leasehold and freehold matters without court / judicial approval in his country.
SP also asks for help with gaining access to Miss X’s UK bank account. All rental income from her flat in the UK is being transferred to a UK bank account via the estate agents. I share information on obtaining power of attorney in the UK and suggest it would be best to appoint a lawyer in the UK to help with all matters.
November 2023. After several months of backwards and forwards with SP to try and find out exactly what legal documents the judge wants to see in court, under his guidance my solicitor produces papers, documents and evidence, we get them translated, postilled and posted. SP is confident the judge will be happy and grant permission for signatures.
The documents make it clear that the authority being sought for SP to sign the leasehold extension and transfer of freehold are in no way prejudicial to Miss X and in fact extending the lease would add value to her property should she decide to sell in future.
A court date is set 3 months later. Sigh. More waiting.
I lose my buyers (understandably).
February 2024. The court date arrives. The judge rejects the request for permission for SP to sign papers on behalf of Miss X. It’s not fully clear why this is rejected. After speaking to SP it seems that the judge now wants SP to obtain access to Miss X’s bank account before moving forward. I am surprised that no progress has been made with that.
I go back to my solicitor. Now that we can show that steps have been taken to locate Miss X and get the deeds signed by her legal deputy without recourse, they suggest that we can apply to court in the UK to have another trustee appointed to sign the transfer and deed, and suggests appointing counsel to make the application to UK courts, which should be “run of the mill”. We choose a barrister, the situation is explained, documents shared, and I’m given a 3 week timeframe for papers to be produced for court.
In the meantime we connect SP to a solicitor in the UK who can help with obtaining PoA, as no progress has been made with that yet.
A few days later the barrister gets in touch, more bad news.
Under TLATA, there would be a breach of trust if all required consent from the current trustees was not obtained, so it is not sufficient to just add another trustee, Miss X would need to be replaced as outlined in the Trustee Act 36(1). However under the Trustee Act 36(9), where a trustee lacks the ability to perform their function, no new trustee can be appointed without consent from the Court of Protection. I am informed that making this application to the CoP is lengthy, costly and risky. The barrister says it would be faster and safer to wait for SP to obtain the relevant permissions.
We reach out to SP again to see what progress has been made. None. Some documents need to be translated and he is unwilling to pay for the translations (it seems their organisation has no money). We offer to pay now and be reimbursed once access to Miss X’s money is granted.
We are now almost half way through 2024 and coming up to 2 years into this situation.
Is it really possible that legally these are my only two options?

• going to the UK courts at great expense in a process that has been called “risky and lengthy” by the barrister.
• Waiting for SP to sort out PoA with no guarantee that the judge will even grant permission for the deeds to be signed (again risky and lengthy)

I know I can try and sell my flat without the share if freehold and with a short lease, but this will affect its value and the short lease especially will be a problem with mortgage applications.
Any different ideas on how to approach this? Seems so absurd to me that currently I can’t sell something that is mine, due to a situation I didn’t create!
There are many more twists and turns to this story but I have left them out as this is long enough. Also I do not have a legal background or am a housing expert so apologies if some of the language I use is incorrect.
Reddit, help!