Cute things to say when u miss ur new boyfriend

This is kind of a long post, so I truly appreciate anyone's help who is patient enough to read through this. I am seeking career advice and suggestions.
I work for a larger to medium sized regional property management company as an assistant property manager. This company has portfolios all over the southeastern US and I am moving from NC to SC. My current home will be about 2 hours from the home we recently closed on. My current site would be about 1.5 hours each way from our new home.
Currently I work on 2 properties that total about 165 units. They are about 15 minutes from eachother. I have expressed interest in a transfer, since the commute would be 90 minutes each way. I am also not moving in to our new home for about a month.
Our regional manager got me connected with a PM in SC who is working on a lease-up. From what I heard, lease-ups can be very challenging and they do not have a very good work-life balance aspect. To me, a work-life balance is very important, especially since the home that my wife and I purchased, will require some work before we can move in in next month.
I did hear that you get a lot of commission at a lease-up property, but I am still contemplating how I feel about the "potential" of good commission vs the certainty of a difficulty of a work life balance. I also head the PM say some things that came across as red flags, such as this position has a lot of turnover and that the previous person left because they wanted a better work-life balance.
Personally, I do not mind, waiting out to see if a more reasonable transfer opportunity is available. I would prefer to be at a property that will allow me to truly grow at my own pace. I also do not want to work multi-sites, since that is what I am dealing with now and I am not a fan. This lease up position being brough to my attention is yet another multi-site job.
I have expressed some concerns about my hesitations of a lease-up and I was also given feedback regarding my performance when I was onsite to help out at this lease up location. I came across nervous or flustered, which is natural when you are not familiar with things.
At this point, I am leaning more towards staying where I am at for another month and then when I am ready to move in to new home, I will bite the bullet on the 90 minute commute until someting better comes up. That is where my thoughts are at now...
Has anyone experienced a similar situation or dealt with lease ups? What do you guys think? Feel free to PM too. Thank you again for your help with this stuff!

my boyfriend keeps being disrespectful towards me I (F22) been with my boyfriend (M21) for a year now and as of lately it’s been rocky. If you look at the second previous post on my profile this is not the first time something like this has occurred so let me describe what happened this time. So i’m at my boyfriend’s house and his mother was throwing a mother’s day party. When I came I bought his mom a beautiful flower bouquet and some balloons and heartfelt card and also a min cake. She loved it and went downstairs to chill. We’re down there for a good hour and a half and he’s cuddling/ laying on me. So this new ice spice song came on and I showed it to him. When I showed him the song I said that I personally didn’t like it and that she isn’t that great of an artist. He instantly started defending her which caused us to go into a full on debate on ice spice and other female artists who are more talented and don’t get the same recognition as her. It was like he was nearly brained washed trying to defend her. (He was laying fully down on the couch with his head on my upper legs and I had my hand on his chest)
He kept trying to debate with me on my person option until it got to the point of where I checked fully out of the conversation and stopped replying. This enraged him and he threw my arm away from him and a really rude way. After he did this it hurt my feelings so i moved my legs so that his head would be laying on the couch. After I moved his head he kept trying to forcefully make me put my leg back but i refused because of how rude he was acting and then I continued to be on tiktok like we were before this big debate started. Then he snatched my phone away from me (if you read the previous post he did this before but the last time he turned off the tv while i was watching it and as a result i picked up my phone which he snatched out my hand and went away with it )
This time I tried to remain unbothered and this went on for a while too. Mind you after he snatched my phone he picked up his phone and started playing it. So after acting unbothered i snatched my phone back from him and tried to get back to what we were doing before, which was being on our phones. After I got my phone back he said “well if you’re just going to be on your phone you might as well..” and I said “go home ?” and he said yea (I honestly thought he was joking and was going to say jk or something) but when I noticed he was serious I got up and collected my belongings and went upstairs he was leading me out (side note: his mom catered food for the party and I wasn’t hungry when I first got there so they told me to pack a to go plate for later which I did) As I get up stairs I grab my purse and say goodbye to everyone and that “(my boyfriend name) is running me out of here” in like a joking manner.
Then I circle back to grab the plate that I had made then he snatched the plate out of my hand and kept me walking out the door. As I was walking out I wished everyone a happy mother’s day again and hugged his mom (she was at the front door) and kept walking down the stairs and then his mom asked him “aren’t you going to walk her out ?” and and he said “no” and slammed the door. That absolutely crushed me, I couldn’t believe how hurtful he was being to me. So I just got into my car and as I was putting my seatbelt on he appeared saying that his mom “made him” walk me out and I replied “thanks” then he asked if i was mad at him to which i replied “no” (I just couldn’t believe he would even ask me this as if he couldn’t see how upset I was)
At this point im over the disrespect, the first time this happened we talked about it and he made a promise that he was going to work on it. I don’t know if it’s worth it anymore I don’t want to be with someone like that. He’s normally a very sweet and caring person idk why he has these sudden switches sometimes but it honestly is starting to take a toll on me.
I blocked him after I got home because of how upset he made me feel and he keeps reaching on different socials blaming me for the whole situation ! With a mix of saying he was sorry and that i am the rude one and that he doesn’t understand why im “doing all of this” im honestly tore between my feelings and my moral values :/ (This was a long story so I appreciated anyone who made it this far)
TLDR; i’m over my boyfriend’s constant disrespect towards me and not sure what i should do next

My mother always liked my sister more than me. When we had a disagreement, I was always the one asked to compromise. When I was unhappy with something my sister did, my feelings were always dismissed. She always let my sister talk to me however she wanted, she was never reprimended when she was rude to me, but I'll get reprimended if I try to defend myself. She often allowed my sister to borrow my belongings without asking me... the list goes on.
It sucked, but now we're both in our 20s, and it's getting so much worse. Now my mom is always unhappy with how I interact with my sister. If I talk to my sister, my mom "doesn't like my tone", if I don't talk to my sister, she thinks I'm being rude. Same for my sister's friends and boyfriend.
Once my mom went to a appointement to the bank with me, since she knows a lot more about finances than me. She talked about my sister during the whole thing, and went on a loooong rant on the bank not giving my sister proper information when she needed it. The banker kept sending me pitiful looks, it was embarassing.
She let my sister use my car while I was on a trip without telling me. I had to come back earlier and found out my car wasn't at my parent's house. Now, a few months later, she denies it and says she asked me. I'd never have trusted my sister with my car.
All 3 of us went to a bigger city to do some shopping, and my mom acted like I was a burden during the whole day. I was screamed at when I asked to go to a specific shop because "there wasn't enough time". I was ignored most of the time or treated like an annoyance, while my sister could take all the time she wanted to look at products or try clothes. And on our way back we got stuck in traffic and my mom allowed my sister to smoke in the car even though she knows I can't stand the smell.
During family dinners, I can't pause for even a second while talking to my mom. If I do, she will start a conversation with my sister immediatly. When I tell her I wasn't done talking, she says "oh I thought you were finished". Most of the time, it wouldn't make sense to stop there, obviously there was going to be an end to whatever I was saying.
There are more examples like that. I talked about it to my mom but she keeps denying having a favorite. My dad, my grand mother, and even my sister told her, but she insists that she doesn't have a favorite. Also, my sister seems to enjoy it and often takes advantage of it, which is not helping.

I don't really know whether to call this AITA, WIBTA, or petty revenge, but it's a fun story. Also, it is a little long, so I apologize. I (F18), am in my first year of college. I have stayed friends with a group of 4 other girls since age 16 when our friend group founded. I haven't been as close to them recently, but I'm wondering if I'm just over reacting. (BTW, I went an all girls school, so no boy drama).
When I was 16, I was new to my school. It wasn't a super welcoming environment and I was quite unpopular. Introducing Eliza. She calls herself my first friend, but I was actually originally friends with a girl who is insignificant in this story. I clung to Eliza in my first 5 months at school, as I was scared and had never been new to a school before. After a while, Eliza informed me that another girl, Venom, thought I was "stealing her away". I was pretty shocked. However, I starting hanging out with her less and less.
Venom wasn't the only one. Willa, another friend of Eliza was also jealous of me. I was partnered with her for a group project, and we got along quite well. By 2/3 of the way into the school year, we had chosen to sit together in snack, meaning we would have to see each other each day for 15 minutes for a month (we got pick our seats but after we picked, we couldn't move). After the first month, we always chose to sit together. I remember Eliza approaching me and asking if we were friends. Not too long after, SIX formed. This was our friend group name, though there was only 5 of us.
When the friend group formed, I mostly knew of Alex by reputation. She was kind, caring, shy, and in all ways the opposite of a high school mean girl. She was also very smart. The friend group formed because we all loved writing, mystery, violence, and fun. We immediately became close knit, something I didn't realize was so toxic until this year. I remember when we started letting people in it caused drama and Willa said "It's better just the 5 of us." We became so close because we came together to start an etsy store together. Anyways, either right before SIX founded or right after, I was partnered with Alex by the same teacher who started me and Willa's friendship. We bonded and I really enjoyed her company.
By the end of 11th grade, I had a close knit group and people who I believed cared about me. I haven't mentioned the fifth one yet, but nothing significant happened between us until this year. We most hung out of nesecity.
12 grade was mostly uneventful. In fall, SIX disbanded, as Alex though running a business was too dramatic and hard for seniors. We stayed friends, but it marked the end of an era in our friendship. Next, I will go over all the toxic encounters I have had with these people from 12 grade and the start of college, as well as why I dumped them and my petty revenge.
Eliza:
She tends to be distant and uses information to manipulate and show favor. Stills, she is overall the best in the group. She could easily be manipulating us all. She's also jealous when I talk to anyone not in SIX. Like all my "friends" she always took Mary's side in every argument.
Willa:
She said "If I wasn't friends with you, no one would like you." She also told me she uses all her friends. She also uses information to manipulate and show favor. She is jealous when I talk to anyone not in SIX. and of course, she always took Mary's side in every argument
Alex:
She set too high of an expectation of perfection. She gossips about Willa and Eliza to me. She also lied to my face about something, which made me question if she was lying about other things. She never cared when I was upset or sad and never asked if I was ok. No surprise, the queen of perfect also always took Mary's side in every argument.
Mary:
We became friends by gossiping about how annoying Alex is and stuff. She is very judgy and we never got along well. She was going through a lot but never saw that I was going through similar things.
Okay, so that was the backstory. I apologize again for how long it was. It all came out when we were going to a party this year. On the bus I was texting a friend from before I went to the school I met them at. She had heard all my concerns because she doesn't know these people and when I told her I was sitting next to Eliza and Willa she said "They're such bitches." she quickly unsent it and said "I hate them for being so mean to u", but the damage was done. Willa saw the text was really mad and upset. However, we moved past it and Mary and Alex stole mt hair ties. I chased them around, though I was actually annoyed and just wanted my things back. I got one back and then took one of Mary's until she gave mine back. She yelled at me because Alex had taken mine and I told her that they had hidden it together nad she could give it back. Five seconds later, she's so sad because she just wanted it back, and we are screaming at each other. Alex comes to ask me my side of the story and says "Oh don't worry Mary isn't mad at you, she just feels bad for you because everyone hates you." and "Oh I should leave, I don't want Mary to be suspicious I'm talking to you." I laughed both of these of but was actually pretty hurt. I went home soon after and I haven't talked to Mary or Alex since. Both of tried to contact me but I haven't responded.
Ok so recently I had an idea. I need to know if it's too petty. So I mentioned we all like writing. All of us (except Willa) have been writing a story that is 80 ish pages now. I haven't written on it in a while because I wanted to give Mary and Alex space but recently I noticed that the characters are based on us. I, of course, am the villain. It isn't based on real events so it's not like things I've done, just a girl with my name being evil. I noticed that I'm the owner and I'm wondering if I would be justified to remove all of them from it. I know it's evil, but they treated me badly and even my friend, who showed me a lot of ways I'm in the wrong in the past said that I should do it. I know it would be evil, but I want some kind of revenge. Would it be worth it? Any other times I'm in the wrong that I haven't noticed? Please let me know.
TL;DR:
I have been friends with a group of 4 girls since age 16, but I haven't been as close to them recently. I experienced different forms of toxic behavior with each friend in 11th and 12th grades, including their always taking Mary's side in every argument. We got into a petty argument about when I took back her hair ties from Mary and Alex after they stole them. Mary also said everyone hates me. So, am I justified in removing them from a story they have been writing together because they feel that they have been portraying me as the villain? I am considering this as a form of revenge for being treated badly by my friends. I am also seeking feedback on any wrongdoings I may have committed in this story.
Thank you so much for reading!

I have two google sheets representing SKU (UPC), they are the same thing for this purpose numbers for products along with inventory from two different warehouses.
Im trying to combine the sheets into one sheet where it says "SKU" (or UPC), and a column for inventory at warehouse 1 and a column for inventory at warehouse 2.
Warehouse 2 has a bunch more SKUs that Warehouse 1, so when I line them up next to each other and sort by greater to smaller, it doesnt add up obviously because there are a bunch of missing ones.
How can I do this, merge these two sheets into one viewable doc to see my warehouse inventory from 2 places next to one another, based on matching the SKUs, and skipping the SKUs it doesnt find as a match?
I do not want to add the inventory together. Thank you!
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Long time lurker on this sub. First time posting here. I see that a lot of people aren’t vibing with the lyrics to this album, but there are several songs that really resonate with me. I will agree that these new lyrics aren’t as metaphoric, but they still hit me right in the feels. I really like this album and just wanna share some positivity. Here are some of my favorites so far:
CODE BLUE
When you lost the pain That became your truth Who is it you are babe Who will you turn into
(This taps into a fear for anyone who has dealt with depression or addiction. The problem becomes such a part of your identity that you don’t even know who you’d be without it. Who are you when the pain is gone and it no longer defines your existence?)
OVERTIME
You told me that you wanted me I told you you were brave
(Ugh, I felt this one right in the heart. I’ve felt this so many times before)
GHOUL
How could I stand corrected if I’m my only teacher? Why should I save my soul if I never get to keep it? Not getting any warmer but I’m reaching. Will I ever even know it if I become my demons?
(This is the painful dialog of someone dealing with trauma/mental health. Very relatable for anyone who has ever felt lost in the hopelessness of a mental health crisis and you’re not sure if you’ll ever make it to the other side again)
RABBIT RUN
Fuck being king It’s such a seasonal thing They love you for a day Before the first but after the 28th
(I feel this. I think she’s saying it sucks to be at the top because the love doesn’t last)
RABBIT RUN
She says Queen is a band Or an identifier She don’t believe in The State
(I love the clever use of the word “queen” in 3 different ways)
RE-ENTRY
I’m losing touch in your backseat Roll down the windows hold hands and breathe deep Honestly Mom I never thought I’d feel a pain this strong I can relive it but you won’t let me.
(Honestly this song is just so emotional to me. I sense that something traumatic is happening to her - shes losing touch with reality in the backseat of her mom’s car, and she’s leaning on big breaths, fresh air, and her mom to bring her back to herself. I listened to this on Mother’s Day and basically sobbed bc there are too many times my mom has saved me from myself)
I think this album has a lot to offer, even if it’s pretty different from the old stuff. Hope there are some others that agree. If you don’t, that’s ok. But please try to keep this thread positive for those fans that are enjoying this music journey so far.

SOOOO let me start off with, the reason I'm confused is bc it doesn't make any sense. SO A Month ago I had a Retreat RC with a tooth on top ( endo did the retreat) then I had a tooth pulled that already had a root canal/crown just last week ( last Wednesday), it was also a back top tooth#2, I have been doing salt Walter rinses amd finished my Antibiotics on Saturday. ( it was my 3rd round of Abx my 1st round Amixocillin 7 days was 2 weeks before my Retreat bc my dentist said it may have been a sinus infection bc xrays showed NO INFECTION, went to Endo he started the Retreat with a drain and put Medicine in and sealed it up put me on my (2nd Round Antibiotics ) Keflex for 7 days, then 3 weeks later went back to finish up Retreat root canal, everything went awesome, but he let me know that my back top tooth #2 which had crown/rootcanal was loose and had a crack he could see on the x ray but I had already had a bad taste coming from it which I had already told my dentist, and he said it looked fine and it was probably from the one that was being retreated which he had said that it didn't have any infection ( it was infected based on what endo said, but My Dentist informed me that Endos can see more bc of their equipment, although my Dentist done a xRay that went all away around my head and he had stated he could see everything) so I had called my Dentist to make an appointment to have crown took off to look at it, but then with rge Money adding up so quickly I said let's pull it bc Endo said by what he saw it probably needed pulled and he was correct, it was decayed pretty bad, it's been less than a week it was pulled, but before they pulled it 4 days before I was put on a (3rd round of Abx Amoxicillin 9 days, [it was for 10 days but dropped my bottle and 3 of my pills got soaked] ) went had #2 extracted so far so good, THEN THIS MORNING HAPPENS!!!! Getting to my question, so sorry.
So I brushed my teeth and I have been noticing that bottom tooth # 30 which has also had a root canal with a crown just a couple years ago by my Dentist, has been sensitive and been told that is normal and since I have had the top extraction just 5 days ago I have noticed it is sore maybe from the pressure of biting on guaze trying to get bleeding to stop from the extraction ( I was bleeding for 8 Hrs pretty heavy)I'm not sure, ANYWAY then I noticed a hard Bump that was the color of my skin it was just a Hard bump with NO white on it like a pimple, but it was hard so I called my Dentist they said to come in at 12PM only 3 hrs away, so I was in the car before going in and I pulled the side of my mouth to look at it and pulled tight and then I tasted a salty taste,, ( the pressure from pulling the skin to look at it must have popped it) didn't see anything but BUMP GOT SMALLER, as I'm walking into my Dentist, x ray was done with a visual exam , ( no tapping of teeth or cold/hot sensitivity test just visual and xRay) was glaced at for maybe 10 seconds when I showed him where a very tiny bump remained (bc my dumb butt had to look at it and mess with it before he looked at it, so it popped amd went down quickly)and he gets up takes gloves off and said no sign of infection , so I asked what it was and the taste I explained to him once again, he said IDK I see nothing, he then says maybe a Mucosa Gland but not sure bc nothing is there, I asked if he could see where it was leaking, he said no signs of infection, I remind him I was told the same when I did have infection when he sentt me to the endo. So I felt embarrassed and so stupid and felt so small bc I felt he just didn't believe me bc his tone, didn't even explain anything to me, so abt 6 hrs later it's coming back slowly, amd I called my detist office again to let them know the bump is returning amd sometimes I taste a salty taste,the office staff called me back amd said he said he could put me on anorher round of antibiotics( 4th round) just in case it is an infection or gum boil, or it may just be a mucosa cyst ( i thought cyst didnt drain?)I reminded them I had just finished a 9 day ABX ( my 3rd round) not even 48 hrs ago, then I told her I wanted to ask him questions bc I never had a " Abcess/ Gum Boil/Mucosa Cyst, but he literally was in that room with me MAYBE 1.5 MINUTES, she asked me what would I need to know, I then changed the subject amd asked what should I do going foward, Their Amswer since I'm" denying" My 4th round of Antibiotics within a month and a half was to see if it keeps coming back, maybe wait a month or so, touch base if any significant change and go from there. I asked if maybe I should go to an oral surgeon for them to glance at it. I was told no , I couldn't get a referral let's just wait and see, I explained to them if IF it's an infection I would take my 4th round of Antibiotics but he said it wasn't an infection this morning , amd I asked twice as he was walking out if he was sure it wasn't t an infection, he stated NO It isn't, then while walking down the hall I asked him one more time if he was sure it wasn't an infection he said NO, if it was am abcess it would show up on xray. He then stated real loud NOTHING NOTHING Is there and IF something Appears call us, I felt so small. But I did call, and I still have NO ANSWERS after paying $110.00 today for NOTHING!!!! I also have Crohns so being on alot of Antibiotics cam really mess me up, amd ir it's truly not an infection you don't need an Antibiotic, or so I thought. So I said and explained all that, to ask, is it possible to have a "Gum boil" without any infection? The hard Bump is not right under tooth #30, it's more over we're #29 ( but #29 is gone just empty space) so it's way down on gums Like where your inside cheeks go down and meet ur gums, I hope I'm explaining that right, anyway again it's not right up under tooth #30 I would say if #29 was there it would be under that tooth all the way down past gums where gums meets ur cheeks. ( when I'm home I may be able to get a picture to explain better) but again #30 has been sore and hurting off and on since extraction again I thought it was from me bitting down on that guaze all those hrs, I had alot of pressure on them, but before that I had explained to them that it was sensitive to sweets, amd some colds was told it was normal, so again here are my questions!!
What could it be if it isn't infection?
Should I get a 2nd opinion?
If it's an abcess , are abcess hard to leak out, does it take alot to pop am abcess? ( again there was no white pimple looking bump or any blood or pus that leaked out it was just clear n salty, amd the color of bump was the color of my gums)?
How fast do abcess fill back up if it's an infection amd would it hurt and could u see where it leaked or popped fluid from? Would it look like a sore after it pops? ( mine hasn't filled all the way up as it was this morning but i can tell it's coming back, it's slow.
Should I take another 4th round of Antibiotics without knowing it's a true infection?
I have spent $2,800 in the past Month and half, and I'm so scared I'm gonna have to lose another tooth bc I can't afford another Retreat, and I'm scared my dentist doesn't really care or maybe just doesn't know, but being told to wait it out, if it's am abcess wouldn't that be dangerous? I hope I explained amd to anyone that cares to explain anything to me abt what you think my Dentist is thinking please explain to me bc I don't even know. All I l ow to do, is wait and see what happens. And was told to try to wait atleast a month. THANKS and GOD BLESS!!!!

Hey, I (19f) went to a university party last week, its a kind of party that starts a 10 p.m and ends with the morning, we go to dance, kiss and drink, it was open bar (those kind of partys are pretty commun in my country). Since I was planing to stay there until the end I wanted to enjoy the most, so I drank a good amount of alcohol, enough to get me completely drunk at the middle of the party but to be sober by the end of it, I figured out it was going to be ok because I planned it, and I was with my friends, I'm the shy kind, so I needed the alcohol to become more outgoing and relaxed. Anyway, until the middle everything was going wonderfully well as planned, I was dancing, talking to everyone, really having my time you know and I've kissed plenty of the people that I was willing to including a friend that we will call Kevin, Kevin and I have being friends for about a year and a half, not the closest type but he helped me in some difficult times and used to say he would aways be there for me, I used to trust him with all my heart because he had proved more than once that he was the reliable kind, I think it's important to address that we, in fact, had something physical a couple of times, but not anything in the romantic side, just two friends helping with each other's needs, I also kissed a guy that I've met at another party a week prior, let's call him Steve. At some point at the party I realized that my phone was missing and immediately started to panic, I've forgotten it in my back pocket and someone just toke it, I went running to the security and warned them about it but they said there was nothing that could be done since I didn't see the thief, by this time the friend that I went with to the party, we can call him Theo, found me and started to help me calm down along with Steve that had also found me, I was literally having a major panic attack because I had just finished paying for my phone and everything I had was on it. Theo than received a call from other friend of his telling that someone had drugged him, I told Theo that I was fine and he could go help his friends, after all it seemed more of a emergency than just a missing phone and a panic attack, with this I ended alone with Steve, I decided then that it would be more effective if I went to inside of the party and warn everyone that I knew about my phone and to search for me if they found it, so I did it, as I crossed the party more drunk and more desperate I became, I warned Kevin and his friends group and then I spotted my ex with some old friends of mine that I don't keep contact anymore, I truly didn't want to bother but at this point I was completely freaked and thought that the more people knew about my phone bigger were the chances of getting it back, so I approach them and told what happened and that I was getting really drunk, I also asked my ex to text my mom so she could track my phone (she had my location), they didn't pay much attention and a girl told me to recompose my self gave me a water ticket, since they weren't really open to my presence I left to get the water and sit outside of the party again, keep in mind that the whole time Steven were by my side and clearly bothered with me talking to everyone. Outside a girl and I boy, friends of Kevin I assume, started taking with me and asking what happened, I told the whole story again and my panic just increased alongside with it the alcohol finally hit with all its strenght and I realized I couldn't remember where I lived or even my mom's number, I realized that I was completely waisted, without a way to communicate, alone, surrounded by completely strangers, one of then, Steven, even made it clear earlier that he wanted to have intercourse with me, even though he had being respectful with me (even if clearly bothered) I was still afraid, after all I was still a girl alone in a party. I decided then that I should ask Kevin for help since I've known him for what a consider a long time and I truly trusted him, I ignored Steven protests and went back to the party search for Kevin, when I found him he was with a girl but I figured a friend in clearly danger would be more important than kissing a stranger, so I asked him if he was drugged or drunk, he said no to both questions, so I asked if he was sober enough with he said he was, I looked around and saw that Steven was still behind me so I grabbed Kevin's arm and started to pull him somewhere else and said that I really needed his help (keep in mind that he knew about my phone and I was with a look of completely terror in my face) Kevin them pushed me with the arm that I was grabbing him, not strong enough to hurt me, but enough to scare me (I am a really petit girl and Kevin is really strong and almost 6'7) and said that he didn't want me, that was my breaking point, I started crying and shaking as he walked away from me, a girl that I suppose was friends with him saw this and came to my help, I explained to her about my phone, that I was drunk and scared and that Kevin had helped me in situations like this before, she nodded and went to talk to him because she believed that he misunderstood me, but when she came back she said that he told her that was just a "crazy girl that he never saw in his life", oh man those words were like knives in my heart, and are still hunting me, I were helpless. I did the only thing that I could think at the time, asked the girl to stay by my side since I didn't want to be alone with Steven and went to talk with my ex and my old friend group, I pushed a girl aside and told her everything and how scared I was, she immediately took me to the other people and said they needed to help me, again, nobody gave that much of importance, I said that my ex knew were I live and maybe could help, so they called him and he asked if I still lived in ***** , I said I couldn't remember because I was too drunk and they started to get inpatient and said they would call my mom to come and get me than, I freaked out (my mom let me do anything since I don't die or don't bother her) and started asking them to please not call her, cause I knew it would just cause more problems and she probably wouldn't even help, other girls in the group said that then they could do nothing to me, nobody disagreed with her and they kind just let it aside, Steven just said to me go with him and nobody protested so I left, feeling that I didn't really had a choice. Outside of the party Steven's friends were still waiting for us, I returned and started crying again, feeling abandoned and betrayed, they tried their best to get me to say were I lived but soon they saw that I couldn't talk anything that would make sense in that moment, so they calmed me down and stayed with me till I was sober enough, the girl that I've just met was a Saint, she got really protective and didn't let any man come close to me, when I was finally able to inform my address they (Steven, this girl and the other friend of his) took me home, it was around 4 a.m when I got home, I was a mess, all the feelings came like a wave, I cried myself to sleep and since then I've been a disaster, sure I'm that I lost my phone but what really hurts me is what happened after this, I can't wrap my mind that completely strangers were more worried about me than my friends and people who once had a important role in my life, matter of fact I kind understand my ex and his friends, I was a really shitty girlfriend back then, even though they having a reason don't make it hurt less, but Kevin?? I've never done anything bad to him, never being anything but a good friend, why would he do thus to me? I just want to text him and ask why, sometimes I want to course him because I'm so mad, he didn't even bother to write a text asking if I was okay the next day, nothing, he just keeps seeing everything I post in silence, I feel so hurt, so depressed, so angry, I feel that I'm on my lowest since everything.
Ps: just wanted to say sorry for my bad grammar, English isn't my first language and I'm literally shaking while I write this, I'm truly a mess

I'm kinda stuck with a bunch of stuff and have no idea what to do. I don't know if I'm missing things for those particular puzzles or if I just can't see the answer like for themotherfucking grass scanpuzzle. I tried running through the entire map again with the UV light as soon as I found it but it still brought me to some parts I'm confused about.
I would appreciate it if you could give me hints or directions without being too specific if possible.

• Double doors with no reception? You can control them from the other room with the remote but of course you need to be between them when you change it - and there's no remote reception there.
• Smileys that is for sure a code, but I don't know where to find the puzzle piece that tells me how to connect which music notes with the smileys.
• Egg inside the Kangaroo area that has no apparent secret passages? I searched everywhere inside the kangaroo room with UV light, remote, yoyo, bouncy ball... Didn't find no secret nook or cranny.
• Bouncy ball? I have found absolutely no use for it except to distract the dogs - and the disc is better anyway.
• This area divided by glass next to the room you can reach through the bubble fish maze. I have found the secret room next to it but I can't figure out how to reach that other part with the water.
• The "mama cha" item I found in themotherfucking grass scanpuzzle? It doesn't look like it appeared in my inventory and I have no idea where to see it or use it. I've seen other people have found some kind of tamagochi thing but I haven't seen it anywhere yet...
• The numbers on the clock are something I absolutely have no idea what they mean and just assume they will become part of a later puzzle.
• I know the locked door inside the house is meant to be opened after having found all the eggs, so I know I have to wait for that

This is my inventory at the moment and these are all the eggs I found which I'm not missing many. Thanks in advance!

Dear M&M,
This is a list of what the nasty "JE"rk has done to me over decades. Now I'm writing this out bc I would like you to know how he has manipulated and hurt me throughout my life. Mostly, to show you that he went to extremes bc my love for you was all encompassing. When he would put me under hypnosis I wouldn't relent. I wouldn't stop loving you. And he beat me up for it. Look, my sweet M&M, I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything. Or that you have to love me. No, I just want to clear the air finally. To bring truth to what was done. You deserve that. You went through so much as well. And I would love to keep this kind of stuff private but he took that away and im left to tell the world our story so you can at least know i never gave up on you. Bc a part of me knows you never gave up on me. Also, if anyone reads this I'm healed enough to talk about everything. Don't be sad for me. I'm a super resilient person at this point and mentally tough.💪
So here it goes ok, things that happened to me that he did:

1. He raped me along with other men.
2. He told me never to say anything or he would kill me and hurt you.
3. He said he would break us up if I said anything.
4. Later, after he was appointed the investigator of the gang rape he took me and used hypnosis and torture, so as to keep me from telling the truth.
5. Him and his buddies took me to a room to discuss how they were going to destroy "evidence" which was me. Someone mentioned "get her to kill herself". So JE used hypnosis and he almost succeeded except I was found on time. It was clear he needed me to appear crazy and suggested everything that happened was bc of my past. It was part of the script I was supposed to say.
6. It became clear you wanted justice and didn't know who JE really was. He had to block my memories by taking me to a hotel where he used torture and hypnosis at the same time. He repeatedly raped me at the hotel. After several weekends I lost all conscious awareness of who you were M&M. You would appear and I wouldn't know your name or that we had a relationship.
7. He constantly blocked you and the investigation and turned it around on you, M&M.
8. He used hypnosis on me to say you sexually assaulted me. I was being questioned in the same room that JE and the other men raped me. My supervisor was getting tired of waiting around bc I kept telling them, "He didn't do anything wrong. "... once my supervisor left, JE brought out the gold chain (hypnosis) and recorded me saying you sexually assaulted me.
9. At this point, I was trained with the hypnosis, but I fought hard for you. JE also used hypnosis on other women, and they wrongfully accused you as well under hypnosis.
10. He made sure to continue to degrade me to my supervisor, and I got a "15" bc he insisted I was out of line for what happened between you and me..(SMH).
11. He took possession of all my paperwork and destroyed everything connected to you, M&M. He destroyed every memory of us and every picture. He destroyed "US."
12. He did various things to other women I'm not going to mention here.
13. He made up lies about my past to use and weaponize against me and you, or suggest it was for my protection he went to this extreme.
14. All communication between us both was severely compromised. I never received anything from you. He would make me dictate letters and write them out under hypnosis.
15. He forwarded all my mail to his home.
16. He has been monitoring my online activities since online became a thing.
17. Through hypnosis, he was able to manage to get me into relationships that destroyed my self-esteem and worth even more so. This, bc he knew you were waiting it out. Even this last time with my ex-husband. Relationships I would have never entered, but he intervened.
18. He kept me from my Gd.
19. Throughout the time he took possession of me, he painted himself as my boyfriend to others so that they wouldn't believe he was part of the gang rape or that he was continuing to rape me.
20. I was hypnotized to play a role and pretend that I wanted to be with him. That I loved him, etc.
21. People found out so he put more pressure on me and really did such a number on me mentally that I would never know you M&M (not getting into how he tortured me to lose all conscious awareness of ever knowing you M&M)
22. He's most likely kept recordings and records of this as he plays for life since what he did was catastrophic. Too many people found out the truth. I have my mind and voice back, which is the real truth.
23. He intervened with any success I could have had from going to grad school, including failing a class, gre,... having to leave prestigious work positions bc I didn't know why I was severely suffering from ptsd... bc part of the script is keeping me down. Too much clout, and he won't be believed if I succeeded professionally. PHD etc.
24. My kiddo dude... this one kills me. I was kept down so much that I hardly had the strength to fight anymore.
25. I was never going to remember you, but I did... and I'm so very grateful 🙏 now. Bc I know what love really is. I have that, at least.

There's a lot more, but that would be longer, and this is loonngg..
So dude, that's some of it. I'm just sad that I can't really discuss this in private with you bc he has compromised so much of my communication with you. The goal was for me to never know you or that I loved you so that I could clear your name and tell the truth of what was really done to us both.

there’s just always something I have to put off good things for.
even as a girl with my period cycle. usually the 11 days before my period I am so irritated and moody. so basically take away 1/3 of what’s left of my life to that.
especially the first day of my period aka today I am EXHAUSTED from bleeding. and people say see a doctor but I don’t wanna go on birth control. I genuinely believe I am just healthily experiencing the full range of human emotions bc I find it healthier to experience than pushing it down.
but it’s just a reality of life that at the most u are genuinely feeling happier than usual less than 50% of the time. cuz u can’t be relatively happy more than that or it loses meaning.
but yeah my period day 1 no memories are ever made. i’m literally just recharging. it’s 6pm and i’ve barely moved from my bed.
youth u can go crazy and have fun and get drunk a lot for a couple years without it hurting ur future or health too heavily. I had that. but at some point it starts feeling meaningless and empty, even tho it felt like everything for years.
now i’m past that stage and rather set up a good future than meaninglessly throw away my future to temporarily forget my pain.
I mean I will plan something fun sometime soon. i’m just also exhausted from my first week of my new job.
so much of life, if lived healthily on my terms, is recharging, or doing “boring” things that set myself up for a better future (working out, doing things to save money, making healthy food, etc).
idk. i’m 23 and life is scaring me bc I feel like my years of genuine carefree joy (basically the first 2 years of college) are over and the rest of my life is bleak adulthood with 3-10 events of genuine fun a year if that. idk.
I feel like i’ve already met every kind of person. I met hundreds of new ppl at my job already and they didn’t even feel like new people to me. they all remind me of someone from the past. I feel like nothing in life can really be that exciting anymore and that makes me feel meh.
I can’t even enjoy crushing on people. bc fun crushes are never long term healthy. and I don’t feel like investing energy into something that will eventually not work out and hurt to lose.
idk what life is anymore but I might make food and maybe that will make me feel better.
i’m not wearing makeup and don’t feel like interacting. sure I will feel better and more refreshed tomorrow, but it is just so much to maintain basic health and rest. idk how ppl do it. I feel a little more stable than I did at 21 y/o, but a lot less excited about life. i’ve felt this was basically since my breakup when I was 21.
idk. i’m just reflecting. please don’t tell me im depressed. I don’t think I have a disorder, everything I feel and the logic behind it is pretty valid. I do still find joy in life I just feel like the realness of life is hitting me more as I am a 23 year old and as I get older. idk. I wish I could have a fun healthy exciting love story that lasted happily till old age. but everyone says don’t look for happiness in love so I get overwhelmed with what that means and don’t even try at all.
I have sm more to say but I kinda want my food and am kinda tired. I hope I feel better tomorrow. my period is just really heavy and exhausting today.

My LDR BF and I have been dating for around 6 months. We have known each other in person for years but he moved away. He is my first ever BF.
I have generally been a lonely person for a long time as I have always had trouble making friends. The only friends I had as a kid were a couple of guys in middle school but HS I was completely friendless, and it still affects me. After a couple months into my BF and I’s relationship, I realized I needed to make an effort to get actual social life as I cannot always rely on one singular person to always be available for the sake of socializing and having some more company, and I felt like I was getting overly attached to him to the point where it started to affect my mental health (especially when he wasn’t available).
I decided to try to make some friends on my college’s Discord server and I got a couple new friends eventually. An important note, however, they are guys. But they cannot replace how I feel towards my BF in any way. We just had similar interests and got along fairly well.
I would sometimes play video games with them and chat about college with them, however it has become hard for me to keep up with everyone and balance out my relationships. I was happy but I also felt overwhelmed, and I would sometimes cancel plans to play video games and tell them that I’ll be gone for a couple hours whenever I need some time to myself.
I would still talk to my BF, but because of my new social life it definitely was not as much as it used to be.
I’ll admit our time chatting and FaceTiming reduced. I apologized to him for that, but there were still times when I cancelled plans with my BF not because I was doing things with my friends but because I wanted to decompress from all the back-and-forth texting with others when I needed a mental break from socializing.
I would also like to note that my BF often texts in just a few words and is just simply a dry texter, so communicating can sometimes be a challenge since it’s hard to tell how he’s feeling through text. There was a time when I was gaming with friends and he asked what I was doing, I told him I was playing with friends, he said alright, and a few hours later we had an argument about how I wasn’t there for him. It’s just part of his nature to not express his feelings when he needs something.
I also understand how he feels with me being friends with guys. Another time when I told my BF about how I was playing video games with my friends, he said something like “go play with your boyfriend or whatever.” I don’t want to undermine his discomfort, but in retrospect I did not want to stop socializing with them, and I also allowed him to hang out with his female friends. As this topic came up more and more I began to consider leaving these friends and trying to find female friends, but my emotions were clouding my thinking.
I blame myself for not being able to balance my social life and relationships I honestly feel like a piece of shit for making him feel abandoned and left in the dark.
My BF told me what I did was human trash.
We had an argument last night when he said that. I wasn’t in a good mood to begin with. I told him I will stop talking to my friends, after which I impulsively messaged my friends saying that we can’t talk anymore due to personal issues. Now I regret it and I don’t know what to do. I told my BF that I miss my friends, and the conversation became a question on whether he is right for me if I still feel lonely while dating him. He also told me that he would have no reason to find new friends while in a relationship and only keep his old ones.
I tried to let him know that I’m trying to improve and that we need to improve on communication. I’ve apologized more times than I can count but what makes this difficult is how little he expresses his feelings and, though texts me a reasonable amount, usually responses the minimal word count even if I send him paragraphs of messages. I get that some people are like that, but it’s difficult to understand what’s going on in his head.
While I feel that I had a reason for doing what I did, I don’t know if it was a good reason or not.
I feel so shitty right now for doing what I did and not balancing my relationships the way I should. And I truly feel guilty. My BF told me that if I did what I did again, he’s out.
How can I reconcile with my BF while somehow getting my friends back?

I used to watch this guy years ago and was subscribed to him on YouTube. I appreciated his simple takes on tool care, knife & axe sharpening, best knife blade shapes to get a splinter out, etc. Stuff like that. When he started preaching I’d just hit the next button, same thing when he would pull his guns out. Over time I watched him less and less as he became more and more righteous. Eventually, I unsubscribed and he just seemed to go away from my online experience until this week.
He showed up in a YouTube short with his water meter valve stick and bolt cutters explaining how the Filthy Gubment will shut off your water, none of it made any sense. I started investigating further just to see how far this guy sunk. Next video short I saw was him explaining how to stop the robots with rope in a completely dorky new look and get up, to me looked like a South Park character. Then another video short on guys who don’t wash their Jean jackets (so not ruin the deep rich dark blue color)and put them in the freezer to kill the bacteria.
I read the Rolling Stone article and thankfully I missed the videos where he showed how to make a bomb, the UN helmet tips, the video where he’s drunk bashing women and all the other bullshit like that.
I’ve watched so many people on YouTube go from nothing to complete douche bags throwing cash at everything that was simple in the beginning and became materialistic, but seeing this dork’s anti-gubment angle is a new one to me.

Read the TL;DR if you don’t read anything else.
Before all the context, I’d like to establish that I have already decided to not break up or end any friendships so please do not suggest that as it’s not even an option. I don’t need any help deciding a course of action, I just need help with my own emotions as well as the lack of said emotions.
Context for what happened:
Two nights before I was told, we were all hanging out as usual with my bf (I’ll call him D) at his house and I was having a rough time with anxiety so I went to bed first. It was about 3am when I went to sleep in mt bfs bedroom on the main floor and so they stayed up because they were still pretty awake. I was asleep the whole time. I was told that D and my best friend (I’ll call them S) fell asleep on the upstairs together. I assume it was in a spooning position? Anyway, D told me that he half-woke up to petting S’s back (something he does with me too when we co-sleep) and it turned into nudging, then cuddling up, then D feeling S up, which became neck kisses and grinding from S which ended up with D rubbing S’s clit which he then abruptly became fully awake and went downstairs to crawl into bed with me.
I then awoke in the morning after about… 3(?) hours of sleep and had breakfast, then went back to bed after S left for work. The rest of this first day since it happening was a bit pff but I am fairly oblivious at the beginning of being exposed to an “off atmosphere” or “tension” of any kind so I didn’t notice D feeling weird until S came back from work and they acted like normal (very big-sibling-little-sibling energy) so I suspected literally nothing. The rest of that day was both of them trying to figure out if the other remembered anything and when we all went out for an errand I had to make, food, and groceries, and when we got to the grocery store S stayed in my car but I had to come back to the car due to my anxiety flaring tf up. I asked to be left alone but S got out of the car and I attributed it to them taking my request as literally as possible. I then sat with my anxiety until I calmed down and the two of them returned. They had addressed the situation between themselves in the store. Everyone was definitely feeling off but I didn’t really know the why for anyone but myself. S left immediately after I drove back to D’s place. They ended up parking in a nearby school parking lot and sobbing to W about it before they were able to head home.
Until the next morning when I was told, I genuinely didn’t think much of anything due to the immense amount of anxiety I had been having. I went to sleep early and D tried to stay up for his sibling night ritual he has with his siblings. He joined me in bed about a half hour into the morning they were watching together. This morning he essentially told me what I’ve written down.
Context for the next day discussion:
I haven’t felt anything I’d consider as emotional distress or pain, even when I was told. I only felt really sad over potentially losing the four-player stardew co-op D and I had with S and their long-distance bf (I’ll call him W) I was only briefly sad about it though. Anyway, after comforting D through his confession and the huge emotional anguish he was in, I headed to S’s place to do the same for them. S and I talked about having a discussion with the three of us with W on a video call on S’s phone. D agreed when I proposed this idea so I drove S over to D’s house.
I’d say the discussion went very well. They decided to not just end their friendship straight up and to try and move on from the incident with mine and W’s encouragement. I’m satisfied with this decision. W has agreed as well.
Context for S and D’s dynamic:
S and D have basically become best friends after D and I helped S through a super duper rough time in their life several months ago. S and D both see each other as one of their best friends (D said S is his best friend while S told me D is definitely one of their top best friends) and S felt that the “correct thing to do” was to full stop their friendship with D, despite not wanting to lose that bond in the slightest. D didn’t want it to seem like he was trying to change S’s mind so he didn’t reiterate his feelings to stay friends from when he expressed them in the store.
I relate to S’s attitude as I also felt that I wasn’t feeling the “correct” emotions. But for me, I was super glad to not be upset at all as when I am deeply upset, I tend to struggle with handling said emotions and am oftentimes rendered unable to function due to this. I’m working on it with my therapist, don’t worry. (Btw I’m writing to Reddit as my next therapy appointment is still several days away, I’m gonna bring this up to my therapist, don’t fret)
Further context that I feel is important:
D feels the worst he’s ever felt and I can tell. Neither of them cry… ever. So for them to both respectively sob for an extended period of time as I held them was a new experience for me but I was told I was doing a great job comforting (I’m typically awful at comforting anyone lmao) I am a deeply empathetic and intensely emotional person so I feel the yucky feeling they both said they felt but I don’t feel anger or any betrayal or anything.
Additionally, I have never been in this position before and I’ve already decided and explicitly expressed that I don’t consider it to be cheating. W agreed with me too. We didn’t consider this cheating due to the lack of: * Any true intent/desire * Any deception or secrecy, * Any full on sexual intimacy, oral or penatrative * It happening more than once
Aside from that, the clear intense and incessant guilt, shame, sadness, etc. that they both feel from it all is proof enough that they didn’t want it, didn’t mean it, and regret it deeply. Both myself and W don’t exactly feel betrayed as it was addressed, confessed, and resolved as soon as circumstances allowed it to be. It’s definitely weird feeling so… nonchalant about it all? I’m usually the most sensitive and emotional person in the room at any given time so it’s a foreign experience all together.
D expressed to me that he never even thought the situation to be possible but I mentioned that he’s very inexperienced and seems to have just not known himself as much as he thought he did. I’m his first ever romantic relationship and his first sexual partner too and he’s unconsciously felt me up in his sleep to the point of intercourse several times before.
They each deserve the other’s friendship and during our resolution discussion they both expressed that they didn’t want to just abandon their bond. I wholeheartedly agree and support the decision to mend the torn dynamic as best as possible. I fully believe that I would be absolutely devastated if I wasn’t able to play the new stardew update with the three of them… or any other video games or group activities, really lol. I don’t do well with big and sudden changes like that.
What im asking for advice on:
I have not been upset by this at all and I’m extremely relieved that S and D are healing their wounded friendship. However, I’ve been feeling yucky and it keeps I guess building on itself so I’m feeling yuckier and yuckier as more and more time passes and in top of all that… I think I feel… turned on by one of the details of the incident??? I would attribute this to my past and long ended courtship of S from when they and I first became friends.
I don’t really feel shame about it but I’m not sure how I will treat any future physical intimacy I have with D with this… visual in my mind now. How do I even address that with him??? Do I address it with him????? I am not one to hide or take anything to the grave so I don’t know if I can’t address it at all.
TL;DR: title essentially says it all but note that I’m NOT ending ANY of my relationships with them (so PLEASE don’t comment if that’s all you want to advise me to do) and I’ll be bringing this all up in my next therapy session but since that is several days away, I’d basically just like help on what is described in the paragraphs of the “what I’m asking for advice on” section of my post.
I just don’t understand how to help myself deal with or handle the weird/inconvenient emotions I do feel about all this so can y’all offer any insight to this?

My best friend of over 20 years + I had an intense fight on the phone last week. It certainly has not been our first fight but it was (in my opinion) the worst that we've had so far. Things have been good between us lately, we hang out and have fun together. We call each other on the phone and share tons of stuff about our lives with each other, both good and bad. We joke and laugh over text about things together.
Last week my best friend called me and immediately I could tell that they were having a rough week. They mentioned at the beginning of the call that they were having a challenging week at work and their romantic partner who has previously dumped them twice came around with a gift trying to make amends which was really confusing for them. I listened and offered advice and support + generally let them vent. The conversation shifted towards discussing a creative project that we have been working on together for about 6 years. For some dumb reason, I mentioned that I thought they were being "tweaky" and that it might not ever get done. I still feel that way, but I can see now how that was a cheap shot on my part considering how much of an emotional week my friend was having.
It escalated into a yelling match on the phone and that phone call went on for 4.5 hours. I kept trying to get off the phone but they insisted that we work it out. Eventually, the call ended and we didn't speak for about a week.
In that time, I sent a short email apologizing for what I said on the phone about the "tweaky" stuff and saying that I wanted to set a new boundary where I could be allowed to exit a yelling match until we were both more calm.
I got a return email. It was 35 pages long. It went into extreme detail about all of these things that I've done in my life that were problematic for my friend. They brought up romantic relationships of mine from 10+ years ago and my fears of COVID during the pandemic. They brought up a lot of stuff about my money habits, even breaking down what they thought that I spent this past year and speculating (incorrectly) about how much money I have in the bank. Their main point with all of this was to show me what a mess I am even though I've been in therapy for 3 years and am currently in a good live-in relationship and no longer afraid of COVID.
I do admit to dumping a ton of drama on them over the years with relationships and also admit to being terrified of COVID pre-therapy. All that stuff was problematic for them. But I've worked hard on myself with two therapists the past few years and I'm in a much better place. Also we've talked about all of that and I've apologized. It's not the first time that they brought it all up, which is why I started therapy in the first place. I thought that we were past all of this stuff and none of it was related to our actual fight this week.
Side note on the money stuff that they brought up: I've loaned them thousands of dollars in the past and even recently they asked to borrow more money from me when they were laid off, but somehow are still taking me to task on my money habits?
Basically, it's incredibly painful, but I don't feel like I want to be friends with them anymore. I don't think it was cool to bring up all this stuff from my past (that I've worked on fixing) and throw it in my face just to seemingly try to hold a position of superiority over me in a fight that wasn't related to the issues that they brought up.
Also the keeping track of my money thing is weird and creepy to me.
I feel like I won't be able to tell them anything personal in the future if we do stay friends out of a fear of it being used against me at a later date. So to me, the trust feels like it has been broken.
Also, I've never sent a laundry list to someone in a fight, like is that even cool to do at all? It feels punitive like I'm being punished or something.
For what it's worth, I didn't call them names or cuss at them in the emails but they cussed a bunch at me in their email and called me an a**hole.
Am I overreacting to end a 20+ year friendship because of this?

Hey everyone,
I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.

The primary purpose of X4 for me was mounting it on my motorbike as a 'dash cam'. I couldn't really find any yt reviews of motorbike bundle, but I think it was only natural to buy it in my case. Before I bought it I quickly scanned the contents of said bundle, however didn't put much attention what's there and oh boi, how furious I was when it actually arrived. So what I actually got:

1. Invisible stick. Sounds good, but at the time I was buying the camera that stick was included even without the bundle, so I guess I didn't really get it with the bundle, it just comes with camera.
   
2. Motorbike clamp. This is the only item I'm happy with. It's all made out of metal and holds well to the handle bar even on triple digit speeds.
   
3. This is when fun starts. I got some rubber condom that I can put over the camera when I'm not using it as the thing completely covers the lenses. I was more than sure I'll get the new lense protectors not some piece of rubber. You know, I bought motorbike bundle. I think it's only common sense to include something that will protect my camera while riding, not when it is in my pocket. I hope I won't offend anyone, but who the fuck needs it to begin with? I literally can't think of any valid scenario when would you want to put it on your camera especially that you are getting...
   
4. The case. When I opened this one I literally felt like insta360 came to my house, put dick in my mouth, cum on my face, cleaned their dick on my t-shirt and told me that I'm free to leave. The case that I've got with my motorbike bundle can store the camera (so far so good) with the black condom on (is anyone really putting the rubber on camera, then put it in the case, then in protected backpack and then jumping into that inflatable ball allowing you to roll without hurting yourself?). Second pocket is dedicated for the stick, just not the one I got with the bundle! It's for some shorter and thicker version of it! Really!? Fortunately it gets even better, because there is 3rd hole and that hole is for... Fast charger for 3 batteries that I also didn't get in my motorbike bundle!!! What the actual fuck!? Who decided it's a great thing to include the case with a bundle that (except camera) has no items that can fit in said case!? What a marketing genius was it!?
   

To summarise, I spent extra £100 on a bundle that includes one useful item that you can buy separately on insta360 website for £40!
Update: I just went on insta360 website to check how much the clamp on its own is and had a look at that motorbike bundle once again and saw that I actually should get the protectors as well, so they simply didn't send me them! Tomorrow I gonna message them about this and we will see what they gonna say as I did buy the camera good 3-4 weeks ago...

I (34m) have not had a close relationship with my grandmother on my father's side for many years.
While there are several things I could point to, I think the main reasons are she some of the time looks at me, acts like, treats me like I'm still a little boy and in some respects does things that give the impression she expects to have the same relationship we did when I was a child and doesn't know what a relationship between a grandmother and 34 year old man should look like.
This may sound odd but whenever I am around her, I feel like she NEEDS energy from me.
In an attempt to paint a better picture of her, she loves the world of Disney, and in many ways, acts like/thinks real life should reflect the happy, loving, world that Disney characters and their stories exist in.
I've made it very clear over the years that I do not like when she tells the whole family stories about something cute that happened when I was a child, or when she professes her love for me to the family or when she randomly tries to hold me hand, pet my arm, hug me, all like I'm a child.
She has continued to do these things throughout the years, not respecting my boundaries. She doesn't seem capable of seeing me as an adult. I have continued to pull away more and more while trying to be cordial.
There are other things as well that rub me the wrong way but I'll stop here.
I will admit I'm not the warmest person in the world. Maybe it's a me thing, maybe I'm wildly cold hearted but being around her makes me want to withdraw. As additional context, multiple family members have issues with her as well.
This past weekend, at a family event, she got drunk, and started professing how much she adores me, which I just tried to ignore because I don't like when she does that. She then got up from her seat at dinner and came over to me basically begging for a hug. Maybe I should have sucked it up and appeased her but I had had a few drinks and decided I wasn't going to entertain it and ignored her.
My father called me the next day calling me out about this, saying that I was rude, mean, I humiliated her, and that I need to look at myself as a man and he doesn't understand why I don't like his mother. I initially was calm and told him he's entitled to his thoughts and feelings but once he called out my manhood I raised my voice and told him that his mother endlessly needs my energy and she always does this and I'm not doing it anymore. The call ended with him saying that he's not yelling at me but that I have no right to disrespect her, be mean to her, that it's his mother, and I should think about things. I just said ok a few times and he asked, "that's all you have to say?", to which I said yes.
Is this all in my head and I'm just an utter piece of shit for acting like this with my grandmother? Is she in the wrong for continuing to ignore boundaries of mine and being unable to have an adult relationship with me?
It's been many many years of feeling like this and this uncomfortable dynamic. Is there any way to repair this? How so? Should I even repair this?
I guess with my father, it might be best to tell him that this is why I've acted this way towards his mother all these years, but I'm not sure he'll understand that I feel like she needs my energy and attention and that makes me withdraw. Not sure there's another way to make up with my father but open to suggestions and advice.

I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, I’m new to Reddit and just wanted to see if there was any advice available since I seem to be hitting road blocks on every thing I seemed to have attempted.
I 30(F) was speaking to a man online for around 7yrs from Sweden, the relationship became sexual at some point and images were exchanged. He then decided to randomly cut off contact. Said he no longer wanted to speak and things were obviously not meant to be which I was totally understanding about, a week or so later I started receiving post to my family home with the explicit images that I had shared with him, to make it worse they were addressed to my father. He knows I come from a strict religious family and how many issues this could cause potentially endangering my life due to the honour aspect of it. I tried to catch these before anyone else did until he also started sending to my father’s workplace where I used to work and my previous colleagues viewing these images. My old boss is also a family friend who tried to hide it once he saw this guy had scrawled my name on the printed image due to him fearing for my life. He writes on each ‘I miss these or I miss you’ something along these lines and add different return addresses and names each time, only pays for them in cash. Though the post office he sends them from are around 5mins from his house each time. These have carried on for months and I’ve spoken to both UK and Swedish police, they have taken him in spoken to him, taken his electronics and even some evidence they found in his apartment. But apart from this it seems to be a waiting game as he continued to post even after he was taken into the police station, it has been passed to U.K. to conduct another statement for extra details since Swedish police are unable to do this over call/videocall. Ive tried to find lawyers or anyone who can help with any advice or anything further I can do but seem to come to dead ends with the U.K. side since they don’t have people specialising in Swedish law. I’m not sure what the next steps are and if I need someone to be with me for this statement or if there are any helplines available.
This has my life on pause where I’m afraid to leave my house before the post gets here or go into work unless I have paid to have post stopped each week. It’s had a massive impact on my mental health with me also having to take time off work and I’m unable to involve any family member or any friends around me due to the fear of judgement or being seen differently. Any advice would be welcome

Begin rant:
I read X-Men in the 90s, I got a ton of backissues back then, and I ended up having hundreds of comics that I still have today. I got out of it a couple of times, when Age of Apocalypse came along, I thought they really cancelled all of the main series, and I was pretty upset. A few years later, I found out that was only temporary, so I started collecting again until around the time of "The New X-Men" which had poor art, bad storylines, and they killed some of my favorite characters like Colossus and Psylocke.
I was really excited for X-Men 97, until I saw the first trailer...... where it had Gambit riding Wolverine like a lawn mower and charging his claws.
That was one of the dumbest scenes I had ever seen, something that a 10 year old would come up with, and they actually animated it. In that retcon they gave Wolverine super strength so a 6'5'' man could stand on top of him and it didn't phase his running, and they gave him invincibility so his claws exploding didn't hurt him at all.
From what I can tell the whole series is like that, power retcon after power retcon, story retcon after story retcon, fanboy after fanboy going "nO thAt's bAdaSS." One of the reasons the X-Men was interesting is that they didn't just keep on giving them new powers back in the 70s-90s, sure it happened occasionally, but most of the time it was finding new ways to use their powers. Like when Colossus fought Juggernaught, Juggernaught gets him into a hold, and to escape Colossus reverts to his smaller human form to slip out and then changes again. They didn't do this stand on a running Wolverine b/s.
I had a discussion in another form of I thought of one of the stupidest things they could do and I said "next, since Cyclops can now push himself back with backblast, they will have him flying around like Banshee", and a user responded "that sounds pretty badass". I didn't even know how to respond to someone liking the stupid idea I proposed.
BACK IN MY DAY.... there would have been a bunch of letters to Marvel appearing in X-Mail saying "STOP DOING THIS STUPID STUFF", but now days there's a mindless cult following eating every stupid retcon up like it's the most brilliant thing ever.
The only good thing I can see that came from that series was it actually got me interested in X-Men again. Now with all the digital comics, I can actually go back and read stories that I couldn't buy back in the day.
End rant.

First off, please excuse my profile name, I started this account before transitioning and just haven’t gotten around to starting a new one.
For context I, 38 transfem, started my transition a little over 2 years ago and I have recently been reflecting on many of the things I missed out on in my youth, since I only recently started living my truth. My wife, F41, has been amazing throughout my self discovery.
One of the things I realized I missed out on was going to queer spaces like clubs/bars and all the potential interactions that can come with that.
I got the idea for a date and ran it by my wife. The idea is for us to go to a lesbian bar separately and then “meet” and flirt with each other and “see where things go from there”. She was willing to give it a go once we move next month and get settled.
I was talking to my therapist and told her my date idea. She was supportive but posed one question. “What would you do if you were approached by another woman before your wife could approach you?” Im not a confident person when it comes to my looks and the thought never even occurred to me that anyone else would even want to approach me. I told her that I would probably get very flustered and have no clue what to do.
When I talked to my wife, she said that we could try to figure out ways to navigate it in advance and would still be open to the date idea if I am.
I’m at a loss. On one hand I still like the idea, but I would hate the idea of making my wife jealous or feeling like I’m leading someone on.
I’m looking for advice on this. Is this a bad idea? If we go through with it how could I navigate things if someone approaches me?
By the way I did have my wife read this before I posted it.