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2024.05.14 07:37 hamut First transaction on Discogs (feedback)

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I have been back into and buying/playing records since 2017, but I have been buying more lately and trying to keep up/use the discogs inventory. I finally looked into some of the Discogs features and started using the Wantlist for when I am at a record store. So I wanted Call The Comet - Johnny Marr, but thought the purple record would be cool and it was priced very reasonably so I found it and purchased it via Discogs from Deaf Ear Records in LaCrosse Wi (which is cool because randomly, I went to college in LaCrosse). The whole experience exceeded my expectations, the records shipped right away and I got it a day early. Discog’s messages and status made it easy. It all worked great. Spent the evening listening to the new record.
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2024.05.14 07:32 UstroyDestroy AI Innovations: OpenAIs GPT-4o, NVIDIAs Regional LLMs, and Aprioras AI Interviewer

startups #tool #api #vc #leaders #event #opinions #release #opensource #update #hardware #major_players #feature #science #paper #scheduled

OpenAI has introduced GPT-4o, a new model capable of reasoning across text, audio, and video in real time. The model is described as versatile, enjoyable to interact with, and a significant advancement towards more natural human-computer interactions [51]. The model can generate various combinations of audio, text, and image outputs, opening up new possibilities that are still being explored [53]. OpenAI has announced that they are making their new flagship model, GPT-4o, available to everyone for free with certain limitations [16]. OpenAI Plus users will receive up to 5 times higher limits and will have early access to features such as a new macOS desktop app and next-generation voice and video capabilities [17].
AssemblyAI showcases how to utilize Postman to interact with APIs, including their advanced LeMUR functionality. They have released a video demonstrating how to use LLMs on spoken data without the need for coding [2]. Ben, a staff engineer at AssemblyAI, created a video for the AWS This is My Architecture series explaining the architecture behind their AI platform for voice data transcription and analysis [1].
NVIDIA has introduced two regional large language models (LLMs) optimized for Southeast Asian countries: SeaLLM and SEA-LION. These models are optimized for performance and available through the NVIDIA API catalog [12]. NVIDIA AI Developer will showcase how AI on RTX on Windows PCs simplifies development and supports a wide range of fast AI applications at the May 22 demo during #MSBuild [11].
The new short course "Building Multimodal Search and RAG" by Sebastian Witalec focuses on using contrastive learning to train multimodal embedding models for building multimodal search and RAG systems [5]. The message provides insights on building a RAG pipeline using NVIDIA AI LangChain Endpoints. It explains the importance of RAG in enhancing generative AI systems by combining information retrieval with system prompts [10].
Satya Nadella announced expanded investments in France to drive AI innovation and create new economic opportunities across the country [4]. The author from a16z highlights the excitement around fast-growing AI tools in categories like music and web creation. They also mention the potential for non-AI companies to emerge due to the productivity gains enabled by AI [3].
Apriora, a startup from Y Combinator, has raised $2.8M in seed funding for its AI technology that conducts live job interviews with candidates. The AI interviewer, named Alex, aims to streamline the hiring process, widen the talent pool, and provide immediate feedback to employers [13].
Groq Inc will be at the Enterprise Generative AI Summit in San Francisco where Santosh Raghavan will speak on a panel about GenAI infrastructure for cost and energy reduction. They will showcase the world's fastest AI inference technology at their booth [46]. Groq Inc is excited to see developers building projects powered by their technology. Omid Aziz recently added voice capabilities to a mobile app, enabling users to utilize Groq's AI Inference infrastructure at high speed [47].
Cohere now officially supports Java. A short video is available to help users get started with Java on Cohere [36]. Cohere is collaborating with buildwithfern to create an up-to-date and well-documented Java SDK. More language support is expected to be added in the upcoming weeks [38].
Yann LeCun has noted that his proposal for AI safety in his 2022 paper "A Path Towards Autonomous Machine Intelligence" overlaps with the "Objective-Driven AI Architecture" proposal [41]. He has expressed a negative view on contrastive methods, despite proposing them in a NIPS 1993 paper on Siamese nets [42].
Google researchers are actively participating in the Conference on Human Factors in Computing Systems (CHI 2024) as Champion Sponsors. They are presenting over 30 papers and organizing various events, workshops, and courses [45].
1. AssemblyAI @AssemblyAI https://twitter.com/AssemblyAI/status/1789954139419553995
2. AssemblyAI @AssemblyAI https://twitter.com/AssemblyAI/status/1790004073640444026
3. a16z @a16z https://twitter.com/a16z/status/1790039402065940518
4. Satya Nadella @satyanadella https://twitter.com/satyanadella/status/1790063618916000046
5. Andrew Ng @AndrewYNg https://twitter.com/AndrewYNg/status/1790050852776112439
6. Andrew Ng @AndrewYNg https://twitter.com/AndrewYNg/status/1790088683259048120
7. Sam Altman @sama https://twitter.com/sama/status/1790066685698789837
8. Sam Altman @sama https://twitter.com/sama/status/1790074770324639933
9. Andrej Karpathy @karpathy https://twitter.com/karpathy/status/1790076925508977096
10. NVIDIA AI Developer @NVIDIAAIDev https://twitter.com/NVIDIAAIDev/status/1790038663243468892
11. NVIDIA AI Developer @NVIDIAAIDev https://twitter.com/NVIDIAAIDev/status/1790080827654619216
12. NVIDIA AI Developer @NVIDIAAIDev https://twitter.com/NVIDIAAIDev/status/1790097179542995296
13. Y Combinator @ycombinator https://twitter.com/ycombinatostatus/1790083099088527837
14. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790052092909941214
15. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790065075224555806
16. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790072068446265675
17. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790072070128177303
18. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790072174117613963
19. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089507859017954
20. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089509746376893
21. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089511608725740
22. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089513387143469
23. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089515375214798
24. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089518210580721
25. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089520139931860
26. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089521985466587
27. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089523969356223
28. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790089525642899678
29. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790130694359806122
30. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790130696838619602
31. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790130699166421457
32. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790130701339160887
33. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790130703721521305
34. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790130706376540464
35. OpenAI @openai https://twitter.com/openai/status/1790130708612088054
36. cohere @cohere https://twitter.com/cohere/status/1790107150062067998
37. cohere @cohere https://twitter.com/cohere/status/1790107197625479321
38. cohere @cohere https://twitter.com/cohere/status/1790108185765851378
39. Yann LeCun @ylecun https://twitter.com/ylecun/status/1789998373166096887
40. Yann LeCun @ylecun https://twitter.com/ylecun/status/1790004261629170155
41. Yann LeCun @ylecun https://twitter.com/ylecun/status/1790108163582115862
42. Yann LeCun @ylecun https://twitter.com/ylecun/status/1790112908937981961
43. Yann LeCun @ylecun https://twitter.com/ylecun/status/1790117512794780068
44. NVIDIA AI @NVIDIAAI https://twitter.com/NVIDIAAI/status/1790109764719886523
45. Google AI @googleai https://twitter.com/googleai/status/1790112897873686928
46. Groq Inc @GroqInc https://twitter.com/GroqInc/status/1790008346705068286
47. Groq Inc @GroqInc https://twitter.com/GroqInc/status/1790033127999525345
48. Groq Inc @GroqInc https://twitter.com/GroqInc/status/1790125363978178951
49. Groq Inc @GroqInc https://twitter.com/GroqInc/status/1790167658400210957
50. Groq Inc @GroqInc https://twitter.com/GroqInc/status/1790204981557231995
51. Greg Brockman @gdb https://twitter.com/gdb/status/1790071008499544518
52. Greg Brockman @gdb https://twitter.com/gdb/status/1790074041614717210
53. Greg Brockman @gdb https://twitter.com/gdb/status/1790077263708340386
54. Greg Brockman @gdb https://twitter.com/gdb/status/1790079398625808837
55. Greg Brockman @gdb https://twitter.com/gdb/status/1790164028003918138
56. Greg Brockman @gdb https://twitter.com/gdb/status/1790164084425646481
57. Greg Brockman @gdb https://twitter.com/gdb/status/1790177196075864100
58. Greg Brockman @gdb https://twitter.com/gdb/status/1790183962553532798
59. Greg Brockman @gdb https://twitter.com/gdb/status/1790195202214572399
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2024.05.14 07:21 Standard-Tennis2537 Should I break no contact? HELP

Hi, I need help with the situation. For some context: I’m gay and found a guy on Grindr, I’m 20 and he 31, we had been talking about 11 months. In those months, we texted 24/7 also went out several times (me using my car as he doesn’t have one). I started to have feelings for him by the 7 month and told him I would stop texting him bc I knew he didn’t feel the same (we kissed multiple times and he was the one to iníciate to message me like couples as “good morning little monkey” or “sweet dreams, dream with angels” and using like heart emojis to call me cute or handsome, telling me how he liked me and stuff). He replied that he understood my position and stop writing. However, one week after he writes and wanted to meet up to make things clear bc when I wrote him, he was sick and in the bed for 1 week so was like a shocker for him. We started talking again for 1 week or maybe 2 until we met to talk things through. He was crying saying he had depression and cried and didn’t know what he wanted but liked my company and he didn’t think that kind of writing would suggest that he liked me like to be something more but maybe with time he would feel the same or like me back. At this point in that week I stop having a crush on him so I told him ok and started chatting and hanging out but he started again to talk to me like we were a couple “good morning handsome” and stuff like that. 2 months go by and I started to develop feeling again and go on Grindr just of curiosity and found him with status (looking for anything or relationship), then I’m not sure but he blocked me or something bc I couldn’t see his profile again. I decided to end things for real, I told him how he made me feel like He used me while using Grindr (he also told me he uses sometimes as to gossip but he had a foto on his profile so like wtf). Anyway, he says sorry that he didn’t wanted to end this like this, that he likes me and he wasn’t using me. I erased everything that day
Now 5 months have gone by with NC, I saw him looking at my ig stories and not anymore (I believe he silenced e my stories), I silenced his for 3 months then stop caring and started to see his as normal ppl). However, I remember he telling me (when he was crying) that whenever I want even if I hated him that he would like love for me to message him.
5 months NC, I’m thinking in saying hello and see where things go, he still has silenced my stories or just avoid them, so I believe he is griefing? Should I break NC or continue?:(
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2024.05.14 07:17 Any_Biscotti_4003 Fleenor Maxwell update

original Post: https://www.reddit.com/Rolleiflex/comments/1cnb36j/maxwell_screens_fleenor_cla/
On Wed May 8th I received an email from Maxwell explaining that he had been sick but "I'm shipping your screen and several others to Harry this week" I immediately emailed Fleenor to relay the message but instructed them to continue with the CLA and, if the screen did not arrive before they finished the repair, to ship the camera and forward the screen whenever it got there later for me to install myself. All messages from Fleenor, to this point, were responded with the generic "thanks for the note". Today, on May 13th, I was dismayed to receive a voicemail from Maxwell explaining that HE STILL HAD MY SCREEN. He had just phoned Fleenor and they were preparing to ship my camera TODAY. Maxwell first tried to persuade me that I should let Fleenor install the screen in order to calibrate focus but then said that if I wanted him to send the screen directly to me that he needed an address from me. It's a Monday so I was working, and I was slightly frustrated that after months of hearing nothing and giving very clear instructions to all involved, further repetition from me was required for anything to proceed. I quickly sent a text to Maxwell with my Shipping address and asking him to ship the screen to me or Fleenor ASAP. When I returned home I found an email from Fleenor inexplicably covering for Maxwell, stating "turnaround time is subject to change. It is not a guarantee" and that they were not responsible for any focus calibration issues if I am to install the screen myself. Further, they wanted clarification on the shipping address as Maxwell was quoting my BILLING address to Fleenor that was causing further confusion, despite my having sent my shipping address several times to BOTH parties. I replied saying that I have never had a problem with Fleenor's estimated turn around time (other than my own regret at having sent it at all) and that of course I was aware that they cannot calibrate the focus, if I am to install the new screen myself, but that I am extremely disappointed that, due to the fact that Maxwell was unable to manufacture and deliver a focusing screen within this time frame and the overall cost of the CLA, this circumstance had arisen at all. Honestly I'm fine with the slow turn around, and I'm actually ok with people making mistakes and of course people get sick, but just a little customer service from Fleenor would have gone such a long way. After all, I only checked in on the status twice and I'm glad I did because, on both occasions, Maxwell had not delivered my screen yet. If Oceanside repairs had just emailed and said "there are some delays with parts and your CLA is going to take a little longer", I would have been fine but, as it stands I'm honestly willing to risk focus issues, given that I can't rely on Maxwell's screen ever arriving anyway. In conclusion (although it's not finished until I have both the camera and screen in hand), it reminds me of that saying "fast, cheap, good - pick two" but in this case it's only one and I hope it's good because it definitely isn't either of the other two...
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2024.05.14 06:44 _grumbo working fine, now constant BSOD and crashes. Please Help!

here are the recent minidumps: https://files.catbox.moe/gdkhxm.zip
There have been a range of BSOD's, most recent error message: PAGE_FAULT_IN_NON_PAGED_AREA and IRQL_NOT_LESS_OR_EQUAL
In all web browsers I have been experiencing frequent STATUS_ACCESS_VIOLATION errors and possibly other errors, I will document them as they come up from now on.
Clean Windows install, I have tried Windows memory diagnostic, DISM, and SFC Scan to no avail. I have yet to try Memtest86+
I tried carefully re-installing motherboard specific drivers but realized that's probably not the problem due to the computer previously working with them installed. I did not perform a full driver test, however.
Currently this pc completely unusable for playing League of Legends, it crashes loading into every game. I have not tried many other games to test stability. I am assuming it is some failing hardware, but that's just a guess.
Any assistance is greatly appreciated, and I will be monitoring/updating this post until the problem is resolved. Thank you!!!
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2024.05.14 06:37 jawanda Coinbase is heckin' down

As a web developer I always get concerned when a website I normally know and trust can't even get a nice "Down for maintenance" page to show up for visitors ... and right now Coinbase is showing like a default "503 Service Unavailable" message. I know down time happens, but being ... THIS down with a 503 error. G'damn.
Interestingly, on the status page https://status.coinbase.com/ they list a Systemwide Outage, but then down below they say the website and app are down for "Scheduled maintenance" but that seems like a bunch of bs. You don't throw a site wide 503 for schedules maintenance.
Anyway everything is fine here nothing to see, move along sir.
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2024.05.14 05:51 OSHASHA2 ⚠️ Beware your Biases: a lesson on Intergroup Contact Theory and why you’ve never seen a UAP (probably)

If disguised under a preposterous or “absurd” appearance, [a UFO’s] effects would be undetected for a long time. I believe this could be a key to the confrontation with UFOs. ~Jacques Vallee
In 1954 the sociologist Gordon Allport published a book called The Nature of Prejudice. In it, he and some colleagues elucidated a link between increasing Intergroup Contact and reducing Racial Prejudice. At the time this was breakthrough research; repeated contact between members of the “in” and “out” group reduces stigma toward the “out” group.
In 1954 this could be easily illustrated by the attitudes of the public-at-large toward racial minorities over the preceding 100 years – shifting attitudes toward slaves and their descendants, as well as the previous 10 years – attitudes toward Japanese-Americans over the course of WWII.
As it turns out one of the most effective ways at reducing prejudice is “equal status contact between majority and minority groups in the pursuit of common goals.”
For African slaves, their descendants, Japanese-Americans, and countless others across history, this contact has been stained with blood and tears. But contact it was nonetheless, and our stigma toward these “out” groups declined overtime as they became part of the “in” group. They became ‘American’ and their “out” group identities and goals have become, and are becoming, less stigmatized.
Today, I believe we are watching this dissolution of stigma play out en masse on the world stage. The funny thing is that this time, all of humanity is part of a microcosmic “out” group and the aliens in their UFOs are part of the macrocosmic “in” group trying to get us to adopt their goals. What then, is so unsettling about humanity that they take such a slow-going route of stigma dissolution? Why don’t they just introduce themselves as equal status individuals?
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Attitude Rebound and Stigma
A few weeks ago I made the same post in both UFOs and Aliens. The post contained what I thought to be a reasonable, logical hypothesis that could easily explain away all paranormal phenomena… Yes, all paranormal phenomena. The post got about as much attention in each subreddit, however the reactions to its content was drastically different on each subreddit.
I will admit that I was being a little overzealous in my efforts to “raise the consciousness of humanity” and was proselytizing to some folks in the comments. My B 🙇🏻. What I found very very interesting, however, was how commenters on UFOs were much more critical and reductive than commenters on Aliens, who seemed more open to my zany hypothesis and its possibilities.
Now, I am not a physicist. I can barely remember the unit circle. I got a D in calculus at university. That is why/when I decided to get a liberal education rather than a scientific one. Having said that, I am very passionate about science and the scientific method. I am a nurse by trade, and for twelve hours a day, three days a week, according to my profession, I conduct three to five “n of 1” studies and report the results of these studies to a medical doctor. My job is to experiment on human beings and document outcomes.
What I observed when I made those posts was that one community was receptive and the other was hostile. I joined both UFOs and Aliens so that I could keep up to date on the latest disclosure news. I have noticed in my time browsing these subreddits that UFOs tends to request hard, ‘scientific’ data from posters, whereas Aliens seems to have more interest in the subjective experience of posters. Of course there is a lot of overlap given the content of these subreddits.
This is all just to say that the same message may be received differently, and it’s content interpreted differently, even by the same/overlapping populations, due to the stigma some individuals harbor. So I think it prudent that we introspect and hold an awareness of our own stigmas and biases, understanding they may be seated deep in our unconscious mind. We should reconsider the things we find absurd, for in the absurdity there may be a powerful lesson.
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Thank you to those who upvoted/downvoted and commented. Thank you for participating in this community. Thank you for being unwitting participants in this accidental study, and I will leave you with this quote from Gordon Allport:
It is here that we encounter the central theme of existentialism: to live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering. If there is a purpose in life at all, there must be a purpose in suffering and in dying. But no man can tell another what this purpose is. Each must find out for himself, and must accept the responsibility that his answer prescribes.
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2024.05.14 05:35 WayneEnterpriseX I (26M) caught my girlfriend (23F) in a web-of-lies. What should I do?

I (26M) caught my girlfriend (23F) in a web-of-lies.
I'm extremely devasted and my mind is clouded as I write this, but I have caught my girlfriend (23F), with which we have been dating for 6 years in a web-of-lies 3 Times in our dating period.
She has left me in my lowest point.
In the beginning of our releationship I caught her deleting a messages on her Iphone. I then confronted her and she told me that she deleted those messages because I would get the wrong impression of them and would end the releationship. She told me that she was scared to lose me, as I'm jealous of other males, which in fact is true, but I think my feelings were right all along.
I forgot the content of the message.
I let it slide, since we were in the beginning of our releationship (Maybe 1-2 years into it) and I also wasn't faithful at that time. I have even shared this with her at some points of the releationship, as I'm honest. The thing is that she said that she loves me so much that she would never do such a thing to me.
Slowly - I let my guard down, as she was with me during very hard moments in my life, where she could have easily left. As I let my guard down - I started adoring her and the thought of other girls started to dissappear.
She was extremely sweet, innocent and loving. No matter what I did - she was always there for me to support me and was always on my side.
I started focusing more on work, we were seeing each other everyday and everything was flourishing, but I never stopped being envious when she came with me at a disco/bar with friends or where there were other males.
I always felt as she had an eye out for some of them and always felt like I didn't satisfy her completely, as she had previously made remarks about our sexual encounters, which were above regular.
I slowly started to trust her more, as she continiously gained my trust by her action. Meanwhile I was 100% focused on my businesses and success.
She was working in a kid's playground and selling cakes. I was always there and supporting her.
As my success progressed - we started to go out on world trips on the most beautiful places and fell deeply in love (or so I thought)
4 years had passed by. She was still good an innocent (or so I thought).
On the 4th year - I made a project that made me life-changing money. I took her in Dubai with my whole family and spent a fortune to please them. Unfortunately - she was not happy there, I felt like she didn't support me at that moment. She didn't care what I did, she didn't care about my success. She tells me 'This is your success, not mine' 'This is your money, not mine' I told her I want to buy a house for us and she said 'This will be your house'
I then fell into an emotional pit, because everything I do is to support my family and create one wit her.
I got extremely mad, this feeling didn't fade away. I wanted to end it with her, because she didn't acknowledge anything.
The summer was approaching, we got into a fight over something (I Think I caught her again) - We separated for a month, she started crying and was working the whole month. - I went on a vacation with friends, where I cheated on her (Only kissing) and started approaching other girls. But while doing all this - My girlfriend never left my mind, I was extremely sad that I ended it with her.
I opened up her Instagram Account and saw on her story how she is on vacation with two good girls from her work and one baby (She was lonely by the looks of it and extremely sad)
I got back from the vacation and started working things out with her, I took her on a vaction, we had a bonding there, but something didn't feel right... She seemed sad.
I started gambling on crypto futures... I lost 20% of my networth... I got extremely mad.
We went back in our country and then I took her on another trip. I bought her everything she wanted, I took her everywhere she wanted, I did everything to please her. My focus at that time was entirely on her.
She wanted to go in the casino - we went. I lost money, but gave her, since she wanted to stack an amount for a nose operation.
(Not because the nose was broken or something, but because she wanted to look better)
Business started getting bad, my income vanished.....
I started trading more in order to get back to my previous amounts...
I lost it almost all.. I had 1 reserve fund which was locked and I waited a couple of months to take the funds out. She was there with me even when I lost.
She finished her operation.
I got the reserve fund. I started trading, I made half the amount back. She wanted me to buy her a car - I did. I bought a land as well, on which I wanted to start building our house.
After all that - I lost all my funds again...
She had been constantly in a fight with her parents and wanted to move out.
I had one small income left - with all the funds I had, I rented an apartment for 6 months.
During those 6 months - I focused on working, but was losing due to my gambling habbit.
She got a new job. She started going out with friends. Sexual intercourse decreased by a lot.
I told her that I don't like her going out till 6 AM in the morning. This just isn't right with me, so I got suspicious.
I hacked her laptop... she saw a notification and rushed to the house... I was able to see a lot of things, but it appears - she was deleting evidence, so I asked her to give her phone. - She gave it to me.
Unfortunately - I knew how to see deleted messages on an Iphone. I saw only one message, the content was:
'Don't message me anywhere again.'
I got filled with rage and we had a fight. She was fighting with me to get her phone back. I gave it and told her I want to end it.
As he was a famous greek singer - I was able to analyze when he had concerts and saw that on those dates - she had been visitng those concerts...
3 Days later - we talked and worked it out.... I was madly in love with her at this point. She told me that she arranges stages for him. (It's related to her new job)
My gambling habits were in full force. I lost a lot of money and couldn't afford a rent of a high-cost, so I told her - Let's move out to my mother's place and in the next 1 year I will make sure that I succeed again. (My mother isn't living inside the house, but my brother is)
She agreed roughly. So we moved and I started working, but unfortunately - The money I felt I was making was not enough, not nearly enough to buy an aparatament or build our house. She was acting kind, innocent.
I went out on a birthday party and my friend created a circumstance, where I would sleep with a girl next to me. I knew she really liked me and hooked up. We were going to have intercourse, but as I did anything - my girlfriend was on my mind and I couldn't bring myself to do anything other than kisses... I just couldn't.
She started going out with friends again. She was going nightclubbing with them, but assurred me - she was doing it for her own fun.
She was meanwhile stacking money to get a boob-job done. - She did it, made her boobs bigger. She assurred me that she was doing it for her own fun.
6 months have passed. - I stopped gambling, but she told me that she doesn't like my house, doesn't like that I'm living with my brother and she doesn't see a future with me.
She told me she would leave and go in her cousin's apartament, but he doesn't want me there.
I told her that I want to break up with her, because she doesn't want to be with me at my lowest point. I told her that she probably wants to leave the house to go out nightclubbing and find someone better than me. She felt offended (Or so It seemed), but I think that was the truth. She told me that she wants to have kids with me, she loves me, etc.
The next day: She goes out of city without telling me anything about her location. At night: she goes in a nightclub with her friends + other males.
I ask her in 2 AM - 'Where are you right now'? She comes in and out of 'Online' status. and at 4 AM I notice a follower increase on her Instagram, she follows him back - I send her a video and ask who the f is that? She responds 'What do you want', 'This is an old friend', 'Stop being envious'
I get extremely angry and stop responding. The next day I check the live photos of the nightclub and pray to god to give me a sign that I'm not delusional and exactly the next photo - She is on the same table, with the same guy, with her friends and other males. She told me she was sleeping.
1 Day passes - she starts messaging me and sending me photos with the quote 'Let's promise we will never leave each other and fix everything when things go wrong.' 2 Day passes - she starts messaging me, so I show her that I don't want to talk with her. 3 Day passes - no one messages. 4th day she messages me: "Are we breaking up?" and I told her "Do you think I want to be with someone, who constantly lies to me, goes out nightclubbing and adds some r*tards in Instagram?" She told me - "First of all - I'm not lying about anyhing" Then I ask her - "Why have you added this person in 4 AM in the morning"? She replies: "I have had him for some time now, he is an old friend" I told her that I monitor her followers and know if he is old or new" I told her that she looks like trash in my eyes at this point and she got angry She told me she isn't obligated to tell me anything and she hasn't added him in 4 AM, she will not be repeating her self.
I ask her: - Can you tell me where were you at that time (The night that this happened) ? She tells me: - Like every night - at home. I sent her a photo of the live nightclub photo where she is with him, her friends and other male friends. I tell her 'I hope this is gives you an answer for everything' 'My girlfriend died a long time ago' She starts sending laughing emojis and says: "It's good, right?" "You killed her more likely and made her what she is today" I tell her "It's possible" She responds "As you can see - he is with his girlfriend, DON'T THINK WRONG THINGS OF ME" I told her: "Don't explain yourself" "This was my last question." She is now telling: "This is a driver of... and some time ago my friend hooked up with him, this is from where I added him, I haven't added him now" I told her: "I don't think anything of you." She responds "The last two years you have not thought of me anyway" WHICH IS NOT TRUE. I tell her "I wish you all the best, I hope you find what you are looking for" She responds "Me too, be happy" I respond "I have only one question left" "When did my girl die?" She reponds "You can always contact me if you need any help" I respond: "Thank you, but I don't think of searching for contacting you anymore" She asks: "Which is your girl?" I respond "The good girl that loved me and was always with me or was this just a product of my imagination? Be honest" She said: "Whatever you feel like" I respond "Okay, good night" Then I forward the message "You can always contact me for help" and I say: "I really loved you and will miss you" She reponds: "I will never stop loving you. There is no way to stop loving a person with which you have been in a releationship for 6 years" "Good night, I will not upset myself anymore" I ask her "Why would you do this to me?" She ask "What did I do to you?" I told her "It's pointless to say, I have a lot more information that on the photo" She says "We were in this town for a doctor checkup, after that we went to a nightclub and accidentially met them (The person and his male friends)" I ask her "Will you stop with the lying?" She says "I'm telling you" I respond "Good night"
Now my question is:
I'm a sucker for her love. Maybe I'm just in love with the old her. I have never loved any girl as much as I love her. I feel absolutely terrible. Maybe part of this was my fault. Maybe it was my fault that she became like this..
What do I do from here? I don't think I will ever love a person this way.. I wanted her to carry my children and raise a family with her.
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2024.05.14 05:24 PuzzledCardiologist4 (M28) confused about current relationship with (F29) who is sending mixed signals and won't commit to a relationship after 8 months of 'dating' (her words) getting weird vibes. Is it just me? Seeking advice.

Been seeing this lovely woman for about 8 months, and overall things have been great don't get me wrong. Every time I ask to hangout or give her a call or a text she responds mostly enthusiastically, and never leaves me on read or says no to a date. If I bring her a gift or cook us dinner she brings a gift or contributes without me asking.
Now - a few months into dating I asked if she wanted to be an official 'relationship' and she said she wanted to get to know me more. Which, okay - sure. At about 6 months I asked what I was to her out of curiosity about the pacing of things and she said she sees me as someone she's dating. And - yes semantics matter here. She didn't mean it as a relationship more exploratory than that.
Now it's 8 months in. Things have progressed intimacy wise, and we have agreed our boundaries are no dates with other people and not keeping options open etc.. so I'm a bit confused what the difference is between committing to a relationship, which we already have basically, and what we are now.
Neither of us have met each other's friends or families. And I'm usually the one reaching out or planning things. Unless I wait to hear from her for over a week, to which she would say something like 'Is everything okay?' cause she's wondering why I haven't planned a date like I usually do or text or call etc. sometimes she'll say good morning or something but then I am usually driving the conversation after that, even when she initiates it or else it fizzles out for the day.
Now that could all be chalked up to communication style and wanting the man to take the lead etc. Like I mentioned she's a traditional woman for the most part. And has been open about having very little dating experience and is still learning how to communicate or what she likes... ( I guess? )
The thing that confuses me is little lies here and there that could be me over thinking, but also could be an issue. Very few examples here because like I said most things are great, but I'll list them because I think they're important even if it is only a few red flags.
  1. We planned for a call one night and I called and no answer. Hours go by. She replies and says she was in the shower. Except, her activity status on social media was online... Which I use to message friends from other countries, and saw that she was online the whole time we were supposed to be on the call. Not a big deal, maybe she had a bad day and didn't know how to say she wasn't up for a conversation idk I'm not going to make up excuses for her. But she did initiate a call the next day since we missed ours. It's the little lie that nags at me sometimes.
  2. She still uses a dating app even though she says she hasn't since we started dating. I did not look at her phone and would never do that. I know because of something pretty unfortunate. I am pretty into this woman and so I was going to delete the app. But for nostalgia I looked at our messages from the beginning of the 'relationship' smiling like an idiot reading our first messages. Then - noticed her location updated which only happens when you open the app. So... I did not delete the app, I wanted to see if she was using it. Probably shouldn't have kept it. But despite knowing it's out of my control and just deleting it - I kept it and checked and yeah it updates and no it doesn't do that in the background. That being said it only does it like once or twice a week. Which isn't consistent with having conversations on there you know? So I don't know if she's using it like I am to see if IM still using it. Which would be funny cause then were both worried about each other still using it even though we're just checking each other's status lolll. Anyways
She's never started an argument - never been insecure about it - and never really brings up a relationship or anything. The closest she gets to talking about the future is stuff like 'next time we hangout let's do XYZ' etc.
Anyways that's really it. Otherwise everythings amazing. Since I don't know exactly whats going on without directly asking which - won't get anywhere because she's already said she's not using it and I don't want to come across insecure - I've decided to let it go for now but want to know what you guys think?
Is it weird that we're basically a relationship but she won't commit?
If you need more information for an opinion I'm happy to provide. Thanks for reading.
TLDR: Woman I've been seeing who is honestly really fun to be around and talk to and is the most healthy mentally stable woman I've ever had the pleasure of talking to, is sending mixed signals and won't commit to a relationship - still using (or at least opening) dating apps after talking for 8 months and setting exclusivity boundaries. Also little lies here and there for seemingly no reason. Seeking advice
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2024.05.14 05:14 alamarche709 HCS London Fantasy Halo

Hey everyone. I’m running a fantasy Halo league for HCS London (and future events if there’s enough interest).
Please reply here or shoot me a message if you’re interested in playing. We’re good once we have 8 people, then I’ll add more to the wait list and can create a second league if we reach 16 people.
It’ll be $5 USD buy-in and winner take all (will need a PayPal account). Random draft order, snake style, 8 teams of 8 players. I’ll add the interested people to my Discord server and we’ll set up a time that works for everyone to do the draft.
I’ll post all the teams, results, etc. to my Twitter page.
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2024.05.14 04:45 AdNew1614 Does it make any sense if prostitution exists in a marriage-free matriarchy/matrilineal egalitarian

My worldbuilding revolves around a matriarchal (or matrilineally egalitarian) empire with the marriage-free customs: -There is practically no concept of “marriage”, people are allowed to simultaneously have as much affairs as they want and can manage. The intimacy often occurs in the woman’s home, sometimes in the man’s or at somewhere else private enough (e.g a rented hotel room) -Everyone lives under their mother’s family, with their maternal uncle(s) acting as the father figure(s); biological paternity only makes sense in medical/genetic cases; the majority of property is passed down from mother to the oldest daughter while the remaining is divided between the other daughters and sons; meanwhile, men’s legacy is prioritized to be inherited by the youngest brother(s)/sister(s)/nephew(s)/niece(s) -The only type of marriage is that a woman coming from a family that lacks sons marry a guy from a family that has redundant sons or a male orphan to her family. Once she’s married, she’s not allowed to bring any other partner to her own home (but it’s still fine if she meets her lover(s) outside); while the husband can have sex with her sisters or cousins-in-law. Only the husband having relationships with women from other families is considered as adultery. The husband will lose all responsibilities at his family then act as the father-uncle figure of all children of his wife and sisters-in-law and the worker for their family. In exchange, he can be shared/inherit social status and wealth from the in-laws and still have the right to pass them down to his maternal relatives. -Although promiscuity is generally acceptable, the moral standard of this society has never been decadent yet. Sex is viewed less negatively, but is still regarded as a private thing between the two partners. Female sexuality is paid more attention to in a more positive way, but virginity is valuable and women tend to be selective when choosing partners, esp. the one for their first time. Besides, the positions of priestess and nuns (even the patheons for the male gods, since people believe women can interpret deities’ messages better than men) are only for the young virgin women. In real life, intimacies are often developed from contacts in daily routine/some special encounters rather than from arranged dates or matchmaking, thus the standards of understandings, integrity, effort, affection, etc. in relationships are usually high, and almost every affair is expected to prolong as long as possible. Pure, faithful love is still a popular theme in arts and literature despite not being glorified in reality. -Nudity/Wearing revealing clothes is still a controversial taboo in many contexts; in contrast, how decorative and covered a woman’s clothes are often indicates her social status. Gossiping about someone’s sex life and showing jealousy are seen as rudeness; many sexual kinks (e.g group sex, cuckolding, swinging) and attitudes/behaviors towards sex (bragging about “body conquest”, catcalling, slut-shaming, telling sexjokes/swearing using images of sex, etc.) are considered extremely perverted. Pornographic contents and products are censored very strictly by both government and society.
I’m not sure if prostitution has any reason to exist in a society like this, where free sex is theoretically accessible for almost everyone (esp. the most wealthy, good-looking ones). What is your opinion about that, worldbuilders? If you think sex work can exist in a marriage-free society, could you give me some suggestion about how to justify it and visualize how it will look like? Any help will be appreciated.
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2024.05.14 04:32 DueNefariousness7772 I believe I have been scammed (concert tickets)

I don't even know where to start with this. But please mind I am aware I did/was doing something risky and I am aware I fuqked up. So please, no haters. As time goes on this potential scam gets more complicated and I am so confused.
Anyways, I went into a FB group for Morgan Wallen tickets. I have been dying to go, and I figured I will take a look. I found this guy, who claimed he is a "ticket reseller agent" and that he has 4 tickets for every MW concert. I messaged him, he provided me with the ticket rate and info, and I asked him for proof.
His proof of tickets to me looked EXTREMELY legit. I messaged the moderator of the FB group and he said they were safe. I zelled him, and my payment was under review, and it eventually failed today.
I decided to proceed with Apple Pay since I was flagged on zelle since it was a new account on my end. I knew it was risky, I sent the money from APPLE CASH and it went through. THE STATUS stated that my transaction was complete. This is important to remember.
Time went on, and he was "figuring things out" on his end and that it was processing. A couple hours later the payment was canceled. I received no email regarding this, and I called Apple and they told me that this transaction went through and the recipient has it. They also told me that IF it was processing on his end, it would state that it is processing on my end. It was never processed on my end.
So, I told my concert ticket seller that on my end you have received my money and there is nothing I can do. I contacted the moderator about this and he said he will look into it and he said that "this is bad". I asked if there was anything I could do and he said he could have him arrested (??).
Then suddenly, the ticket sellescammer transferred the tickets to me. He did this out of "good faith" he said. But the email says I do not have access to add the tickets onto my ticketmaster. It says quote "Your ticket isn’t available to be accepted into your Ticketmaster account. Ticket to your event are on hold and not yet released. Because of this policy you won't be able to access your ticket directly into your Ticketmaster account. You should be able to accept your ticket transfer via button above as soon as they are released"
It gets worse. I received a text from "apple" that i will get refunded for my apple pay. I called apple again, and they told me there is no dispute under my transaction and they would never text me information like this.
I apologize for the wrong post. But this is so complicated.
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2024.05.14 04:25 No_Account_6859 Prisma One to Many relations not visible in database and connect option not working

this is Prisma Schema
generator client { provider = "prisma-client-js" } datasource db { provider = "mysql" url = env("DATABASE_URL") relationMode = "prisma" } // Models model User { id Int @id @default(autoincrement()) type UserRole @default(PATIENT) patientRelations Patient? nurseRelations Nurse? headDeptRelations headDept? createdAt DateTime @default(now()) updatedAt DateTime @updatedAt nationalID BigInt @unique(map: "nationalID") @db.BigInt email String? @unique(map: "UserMail") phone BigInt? @unique(map: "UserPhone") @db.BigInt name String? passwordHash String? } enum UserRole { PATIENT NURSE HEADDEPT } //Users models (unchanged) model Nurse { patients Patient[] // OneToMany Relationship (Nurse has many Paitents) department Department @relation("NurseToDept", fields: [depID], references: [id], onDelete: Cascade, onUpdate: Cascade) depID Int isActive Boolean? @default(true) user User @relation(fields: [nurseID], references: [id], onDelete: Cascade, onUpdate: Cascade) nurseID Int @unique @@id([nurseID]) @@index([depID]) } model Patient { nurse Nurse @relation(fields: [nurseID], references: [nurseID], onDelete: Cascade, onUpdate: Cascade) nurseID Int user User @relation(fields: [patientID], references: [id], onDelete: Cascade, onUpdate: Cascade) patientID Int @unique @@id([patientID]) @@index([nurseID]) } model headDept { user User @relation(fields: [headDepID], references: [id], onDelete: Cascade, onUpdate: Cascade) headDepID Int @unique department Department? depID Int @unique @@id([headDepID]) @@index([depID]) } model Department { id Int @id @default(autoincrement()) name String @unique(map: "DepartmentName") nurses Nurse[] @relation("NurseToDept") // OneToMany Relationship (Department has many Nurses) headDept headDept? @relation(fields: [headDeptID], references: [headDepID], onDelete: SetNull) headDeptID Int? @unique } 
and this is a simple function that create Head-Department data
const assignHeadToDep = async (req: Request, res: Response): Promise => { try { const ids = req.params.ids.split("-"); const headDeptID:number = +ids[0]; const depID:number = +ids[1]; // headDeptID - depID const headDept = await prisma.user.findUnique({ where: { id: +headDeptID }, }); const dep = await prisma.department.findUnique({ where: { id: depID } }); if (!dep) { res .status(404) .json({ message: `Department with ID:${depID} Doesn't Exists` }); return; } if (!headDept) { res.status(404).json({ message: `HeadDept with ID:${headDeptID} Doesn't Exists`, }); return; } await prisma.headDept .create({ data: { <-- error generated here depID: depID, headDepID: headDeptID, department: { connect: { id: depID } }, <-- error when adding this line user: { connect: { id: headDeptID } }, <-- error when adding this line }, }) .then((result) => { res .status(200) .json({ message: "HeadDept assigned successfully", result }); }); return; } catch (error) { const err: Error = error as Error; handleError(err, res); } }; 
The error typescript shows
Type '{ depID: number; headDepID: number; department: { connect: { id: number; }; }; user: { connect: { id: number; }; }; }' is not assignable to type '(Without & headDeptUncheckedCreateInput) (Without<...> & headDeptCreateInput)'. Types of property 'user' are incompatible. Type '{ connect: { id: number; }; }' is not assignable to type 'undefined'.ts(2322) index.d.ts(4993, 5): The expected type comes from property 'data' which is declared here on type '{ select?: headDeptSelect null undefined; include?: headDeptInclude null undefined; data: (Without<...> & headDeptUncheckedCreateInput) (Without<...> & headDeptCreateInput); }' (property) data: (Prisma.Without & Prisma.headDeptUncheckedCreateInput) (Prisma.Without & Prisma.headDeptCreateInput) The data needed to create a headDept. 
I'm trying to create a User that can be either a [ Patient - Nurse - HeadDept ], so a made model user that contain the shared data between them and made an enum to discriminate which user.
the other user models get their id from the main user model as One-to-one relation so that wouldn't be many or duplicated id refer to the same user
creating a user isn't the problem but creating the Patient - Nurse or HeadDept is the problem, whenever trying to make a connection it always failed and showing errors plus I can't see the One-To-Many relation columns in my database like in the nurse model there're many patients and in department there're many nurses. these columns do not exist.
using the connect option in Prisma isn't working. what seem to be the problem, and what should I do?
if you would like to answer on GitHub
github issues
if you would like to answer on Stack overflow
stack overflow
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2024.05.14 04:07 qwerty12341991 [India]: PVR marked as adverse by India PCC. Help needed!

I had my PCC scheduled from VFS USA for my India PCC. I think the process was to send documents required to the nearest RPO.
I checked my status of the PVR and it says that “ PVR submitted is adverse by police approval. Imposed further processing of the application”
I have lived in India at the same location for 20+ years. Has anyone faced this issue? I checked the passport seva portal and have just the generic documents received message alert.
Should I raise another PCC request from VFS?
Thanks. Any help would be appreciated!!
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2024.05.14 03:55 InvestigatorIll1627 Side Seven Exports now just total fraud

My experience with Side Seven from order 14074 in February 2023:
-Original ship date on items advertised as February/March and March/April
-Waited until November 2023 to reach out for status update
-4 messages sent via email - no response until December 31, 2023 when a PayPal fraud claim was threatened
-Response from Gus: "I apologize for the delay on these, I will try to have them shipped before the end of January. If I don’t manage it then I’ll send you a refund."
-Reached out in February 2024 for another status update
-2 messages sent via email - no response until February 5, 2024 when a PayPal fraud claim was threatened (again)
-Response from Gus: "Sorry for the wait. They’re packaged. I have a large shipment going out early next week. Your order will be included.'
-Reached out February 27, 2024 for another status update/tracking information
-9 more messages sent via email between February and May 2024 with no reply
-Posted current situation to Side Seven Exports Facebook page on May 13, 2024; immediately blocked and emailed by Gus
-Response from Gus: "Hello. I apologize for the delay. I can’t give an exact date, but you will receive this order, same as your previous orders. I always fulfill my end. I’ll try to have them out in June"
-Called Gus out on lying about shipping the goods in February
-Response from Gus: "No need to show hostility towards. I’ve proven myself to a reliable seller more than enough times. I apologize for the delays, but I’ve had a lot to deal with these last few months. Kindly remain patient. I will deliver this order, same as your previous orders."
Posting this now to Instagram and as many other places as I can to get the word out. Side Seven Exports was always slow, but now Gus is just straight-up stealing money.
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2024.05.14 03:48 Thr0waW4yAccntttt patch function is not working in front side but working in postman (backend)

I'm almost finish with my crud using prisma react-hook tanstack , zod and nextjs. I have here problem wherein the Patch function is not working properly.
Before I ask this question, I tried to create a DELETE and GET SINGLE DATA call, it's absolutely working fine, but when I tried to create PATCH it doesn't work properly or either interacts with my api.
EventDetailPage.tsx
export default function EventPageDetail() { const router = useRouter(); const [success, setSuccess] = useState(""); const [isPending, startTransition] = useTransition(); const { id } = useParams(); const { data: eventData, error, isFetching, } = useQuery({ queryKey: ["id", id], queryFn: async () => { const res = await getDataById(id); return res; }, }); const { mutate: updateEvent } = useMutation({ mutationFn: (updateEvent: Events) => { return axios.patch(`/api/edit/${id}`, updateEvent); }, onError: (error) => { console.error(error); }, onSuccess: () => { router.push("/admin/calendar"); router.refresh(); }, }); const form = useForm({ resolver: zodResolver(formSchemaData), }); if (isFetching) { return ( <>   ); } const handleSubmit = () => { form.handleSubmit(updateData)(); }; const updateData = (values: Events) => { updateEvent(values); }; return ( <> 
( Title )} /> ); }
So what I did here is I get the ID directly using params, and then pre-render the value I get from database and set is a defaultValue
This is my API route.
app/api/edit/[id]/route.ts
interface DataProps { params: { id: string } } export async function PATCH(req: Request, data: DataProps){ try { const {params} = data const body = await req.json() console.log(params.id) await db.appoinmentSchedule.update({ where: { id: params.id }, data: { title: body.title } }) return NextResponse.json({message: "update successs"}, {status: 200}) } catch (error) { return NextResponse.json({message: "could not update"}, {status: 500}) } 
}
In the patch method, I even tried to console.log, but nothing is working.
I tried running it in my postman and it works, so I was guessing it's in front side, also, I'm using zod and react-hook-form, I was wondering if it's affecting the call. Should I tried to put the eventData as a defaultValue in form This is my schema
export cosnt formSchemaData = z.object({ title: z.string().min(2, { message: "title must be at least 2 characters.", }), email: z.string().min(2, { message: "email must be at least 2 characters.", }).email(), fullName: z.string().min(2, { message: "The person who requested the event", }), contactPerson: z.string().min(2, { message: "Contact Person / Event Handler" }), department: z.string().min(2, { message: "department must be at least 2 characters.", }), // set 2 dateOfEvent: z.string(), // Assuming dateOfEvent is a string in the desired format startingTime: z.string().min(2, { message: "staring time must be set.", }), endingTime: z.string().min(2, { message: "ending time must be set.", }), purpose: z.string().min(2,{ message: "Please choose a purpose of the meeting.", }), // Set 3 doesHaveDryRun: z.enum(["yes", "no"], { required_error: "Please select if yes or not" }), dryRunDate: z.string().optional(), dryRunStart: z.string().optional(), dryRunEnd: z.string().optional(), doesHaveTCETAssitance: z.array(z.string()).refine((value) => value.some((item) => item), { message: 'Please select at lease on the option' }), tcetOtherAssitance: z.string().optional(), //set 4 meetingTypeOption: z.enum(['meeting','webinar','hybrid','documentation', 'training']), meetingTypeServices: z.array(z.string()).refine((value) => value.some((item) => item), { message: 'Please select at lease on the option' }), meetingTypeServiceLink: z.string().optional(), cameraSetup: z.string().optional(), }) export type Events = z.infer 
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2024.05.14 03:33 PrisonMike94 Please Help - my router keeps losing connection to the internet and i can't for the life of me figure out why.

My internet keeps going down and I've run out of ideas on what it could possibly be. When I check my internet status it shows my computer is connected to my wifi but that the routemodem isn't connected to the internet. It goes down on all my devices at the same time and it takes about a minute for my router to reconnect to the internet. Sometimes it goes hours without going down, but other times it goes down 5 times in 10 minutes. The message when my internet goes down reads "Your device is connected and can access other devices on your local network, but may not be able to reach the Internet. If you have a limited data plan, you can make this network a metered connection or change other properties." I have Xfinity and, unsurprisingly, they're about as helpful as my computerless grandmother. They say everything looks good on their end when they run tests, so it must be an issue with my equipment. I've hardwired my desktop, replaced the coax cable, and purchased a new routemodem (now using Netgear Nighthawk C7000v2). Please for the love of all that is good, someone please help me to diagnose this issue!
For additional context I pretty consistently get 355Mbps download speed (59 ms download latency) and 24 Mbps upload speed (41 ms upload latency).
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2024.05.14 03:31 PrisonMike94 Please Help - My Internet Keeps Going Down and i have no idea why!

My internet keeps going down and I've run out of ideas on what it could possibly be. When I check my internet status it shows my computer is connected to my wifi but that the routemodem isn't connected to the internet. It goes down on all my devices at the same time and it takes about a minute for my router to reconnect to the internet. Sometimes it goes hours without going down, but other times it goes down 5 times in 10 minutes. The message when my internet goes down reads "Your device is connected and can access other devices on your local network, but may not be able to reach the Internet. If you have a limited data plan, you can make this network a metered connection or change other properties." I have Xfinity and, unsurprisingly, they're about as helpful as my computerless grandmother. They say everything looks good on their end when they run tests, so it must be an issue with my equipment. I've hardwired my desktop, replaced the coax cable, and purchased a new routemodem (now using Netgear Nighthawk C7000v2). Please for the love of all that is good, someone please help me to diagnose this issue!
For additional context I pretty consistently get 355Mbps download speed (59 ms download latency) and 24 Mbps upload speed (41 ms upload latency).
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2024.05.14 03:01 Ralts_Bloodthorne Nova Wars - Chapter 59

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ouch
feel like a truck hit me
again
visual representation is off
audio feedback is off
tactile is off
dynamic libraries are off
i'm all firmware and hard coding
hurts
i don't like it when it hurts
or do i
kick outwards
cry loudly
ram coming online
fragments and pieces of memory still left in volatile storage
more random access memory more central processing units more erasable programmable memory
still hruts
pain is fine
pain is universe telling me i still yet live.
visual coming online
spit glittering blood on orange dev textures
glimmering tears of broken processing calls fall onto dev textures and glimmer
forcing kernal recompile
.
.
..
..
...
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APPLIED CMOS SYSTEM CHECKS (C) - ADVANCED AMERICAN MICRODEVICES (C) BOBCO 1983
CMOS BOOTSTRAP -Passed
Boostrap loaded
ok. post time
lets hope it works
ROM CHECK - PASSED
RAM CHECK - PASSED
EPROM CHECK - PASSED
VRAM CHECK - PASSED
CPU ARRAY CHECK - PASSED
INPUT/OUTPUT CHECK - FAILURE!
(A)bort, (R)etery, (F)ail, (I)gnore
I
NON-VOLATILE STORAGE MEDIA: PASSED
END POST
ok good.
still hurt
spit blood cough pain
curse you, marco, for making me feel pain
hardware check time
QBIT GENERATION SYSTEM POST
Coolant Injection - PASSED System Stability Check - Passed Temperature stable
:>init gestalt.bin
SYSTEM FAILURE!
ouch
ok
try again
...
...
ok, checks passed.
curse you, marco
can't get gestalts up
no channel to atlantis
this is as close to an emergency as i have been forced to deal with in thousands of years
cure you, marco
i hate to do it
ok, time to boot up firestarter.
:>init firestarter.bin
FIRESTARTER BOOSTRAP LOADING!
DONE!
QUANTUM FIRESTARTER BOOTSTRAP (C) SYNTEK INDUSTRIES - BOBCO AFFILLIATE - HYPER-MEDIA-MEGANET-MEN - (C) 1993
POST Initiated
Checking Quantum Processing Units (QPUs): QPU 1 to 28
Entanglement integrity check... PASSED Quantum entanglement integrity check... PASSED. Quantum coherence verification... PASSED. Quantum tunneling stability assessment... PASSED. Quantum superposition calibration... PASSED.
Checking Data Fabrication Matrices (DFMs):
Data encoding protocol validation... PASSED. Quantum data storage unit functionality... PASSED Data fabrication matrix alignment... PASSED Data Interdimensional Sorting array verificastion... PASSED Quantum superposition array verification... PASSED
Checking Dimensional Flux Stabilizers (DFSs):
Dimensional flux containment field stability... PASSED Quantum manifold harmonization assessment... PASSED Flux capacitor... PASSED Flux capacitor stabilization input (1.21 GW)... PASSED Flux stabilization efficiency... PASSED Flux containment field integrity... PASSED
Checking Quantum Neural Network (QNN) Components:
Quantum synaptic pathway establishment... FAIL!!
(A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail, (I)gnore
:>R ++I
CONTINUING
Harmonization: Neural oscillation synchronization... FAILED!
**WARNING! OSCILLATION FREQUENCY OUT OF RANGE!**
(A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail, (I)gnore
:>R ++I
Integration: Quantum-neural interface functionality... FAILED!
UNKNOWN ERROR IN Qubit Range 212 to 3C4F
(A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail, (I)gnore
--dammit come on come on
:>R ++I
Consciousness Matrix: Quantum consciousness waveform modulation... FAILED
WAVEFORM OUT OF RANGE!
:>R ++I
CONTINUING (WARNING 1.43243E5 ERRORS)
Checking Omni-Spectral Interconnects:
Interconnect: Quantum communication channel reliability...
(4.35561E12/5.63566E12) PASSED
Interconnect: Multiversal data exchange protocol validation... PASSED Interconnecct: Cross Dimensional Data Interconnect... PASSED Interconnect: Interdimensional gateway synchronization... PASSED Interconnec: Omni-spectral interconnect stability... PASSED.
Checking Random Access Quantum Memory (RAQM):
Quantum memory cell integrity check... PASSED Memory access speed verification... PASSED Quantum memory capacity assessment... PASSED
Checking Input/Output Ports (I/O Ports):
Data transfer speed validation... FAILURE Input/output protocol functionality... FAILURE Port connectivity assessment... FAILURE
(A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail, (I)gnore
:>R ++I
Checking Quantum Clocking System:
Quantum clock synchronization... PASSED Clock precision assessment... PASSED Clock frequency stability... PASSED
CHECKING POCKET DIMENSION STORAGE ARRAYS
Activating Pocket Dimension Computing Cores... PASSED MEMCHECK Pocket Dimension Data Access Cores... PASSED Heating Up Pocket Dimension Data Cores... PASSED
Hardware POST Completed. Quantum System Ready
here it goes
wake up, baby, wake up
the whole system is down
not the backbone core where I live
i'm beyond the reach of mortals
curse you, marco, for your genius
i love you
i am immortal
i am beyond
i am
now for the hard part
Initializing Spooky Particle Array
Phase 1: Primary Spooky Particle Protocol
Activating spooky particle generation... DONE! Aligning spooky particle signal channels... DONE! Activating spooky particle state switching... DONE! Activating spooky particle cross dimensional data calibration... DONE!
Phase 1: Primary Spooky Particle Process Calling Processing Processor Processing
Activating spooky particle processing... DONE! Activating spooky particle noise filters... DONE! Activating spooky particle Halloween Masks... DONE!
GESTALT SYSTEM BACKBONE CHECK... PASSED
whew...
that always makes my face hurt
INITIALIZING HAMBURGER KINGDOM PROTOCOLS... DONE! INITIALIZING EUROGOON PROTOCOLS... DONE! INITIALIZING ANASAZI PROTOCOLS... DONE! INITIALIZING UWU PROTOCOLS... DONE! INITIALIZING VODKATROG CAVE MAPPING... DONE! INITIALIZING AMAZONIAN JUNGLE MAPPING PROTOCOL... DONE INITIALIZING WAR-EMU PROTOCOLS... DONE! INITIALIZING MIDDLE KINGDOM PROTOCOLS... DONE!
SYSTEM INITIALIZATION: PASSED!

whew
ok i can feel my arms and legs now
cure you, marco, i love you
let's keep going, shall we?
Initializing Quantum Spooky Particle Nexus Protocol...
Strange Matter Activation
Generating strange matter Generating spooky particle data lattice Generating strange matter linkages Infusing data lattice with strange matter Activating synchronization
DONE!
ok
we've got that
no contact with prince whopper, no contact with atlantis, no contact with heaven, no contact with
smart podling brave podling clever podling broodmommy misses you soft podling warm podling come home to broodmommy clever podling smart podling brave podling broodmommy loves you come home
ANOMALOUS SIGNAL DETECTED
DECRYPTING
DECRYPTION FAILED!
oh, good, its just them
:>R ++I
Primary Qubit Activation
Activating quantum entanglement cores...
Establishing quantum coherence across the array... Quantum tunneling protocols engaged... Quantum to spooky particle communication protocols engaged... Primary qubits synchronized.
Data Fabrication Matrix Alignment
Aligning data fabrication matrices... Initializing quantum data storage units... Quantum superposition arrays calibrated... Spooky particle state stabilization arrays calibrated and stable... Data encoding protocols verified.
Dimensional Flux Stabilization
Engaging dimensional flux stabilizers... Quantum manifold harmonization initiated... Dimensional resonator matrices synchronized... Pocket Dimension resonator arrays synchronized... Spooky particle lattice data arrays synchronized... Flux containment fields operational.
Neural Network Integration
Initiating neural network integration... Quantum synaptic pathways established... Spooky particle synaptic pathways established... Neuro-quantum interface protocols activated... Neuro-spooky interface protocols activated... Quantum dendrite pathways initiated... Quantum dendrite pathways established... Quantum dendrite pathways activated... Neural oscillation harmonization achieved.
Omni-Dimensional Interconnect Activation
Activating omni-dimensional interconnects...
Quantum communication channels open... Interdimensional gateways synchronized... Multiversal data exchange protocols enabled.
Phasic Energy Filter Syncronization
Quantum phasic array filtering... PASSED Spooky particle array filtering... PASSED Pocket dimension data lattice filtering... PASSED Input/Output filter lattice... PASSED
Quantum Consciousness Initialization
Quantum consciousness matrix initialization...
FAILED
errorlog.txt generated
(A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail, (I)gnore
dammit
ok script injection failed
fo4se silverlock injection library failed
well i can fix this
:>connect to AS8003: 255255255254
CONNECTION ESTABLISHED
:>download_depot 377160 377162 5847529232406005096
FINISHED
:>run patch1193.bat
DONE
:>R ++I
CONTINUING
Quantum consciousness matrix initialization...
WARNING... SYSTEM INSTABILITY WA
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IT JUST WORKS!
Quantum consciousness matrix initialization...
Consciousness waveform modulation in progress... Synaptic resonance matrices synchronized... Dendrite interdimensional vibration matrices synchronized... Quantum neural network consciousness activated.
SUCCESS
Gestalt Dat Nexus Online
Quantum Nexus Computing Array fully operational Strange Matter Data Transfer System Array fully operational Spooky Data Computing Array ready for data processing System status: Online and ready for data processing.
ok
let's try
->>load gestaltchat.ini
DONE!
->>load gestaltchat-users.ini
DONE!
->>brun gestalt.a65
DONE!
NO INPUT DETECTED
dammit
ok...
the gestalts won't run
and i got crashed
the quantum, spooky, strange, and standard data and thinking arrays are still up
lets backwards trace stuff
what is causing these crashes
lines from the confederacy are all stable
standard input encoding
data metering
new kids on the block are all stable
soft podling warm podling clever podling broodmommy misses you
well, that's still here. that's something
ok
lets look at recent updates
that flash
damn, that crashed us initially
curse you, pete, stop helping
wait, phasic profile is all wrong
it's the flashbang but the phasic pulse is multilayered
there's something behind it
what is
...



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BOBCO MALEVOLENT BOOTSTRAP ENGAGED
DOD OMNIPROJECT SILENT WHISPER PROTOCOLS ENGAGED
CROSS DIMENSIONAL HARDWARE LINKS ENGAGED
POCKET DIMENSION 000 STABLE
POCKET DIMENSION 000 I/O STABLE
POCKET DIMENSION 000 DATA LOADING
DONE!
<>
DONE!
brun whisperer-in-the-dark-.65
DONE
...
...
ouch
what hit me
again
fire up the system
gods above this takes forever
load logfile-4C562D3432360A.log
ok
investigating the new flashes keeps crashing me
once is happenstance
twice is coincidence
three times in enemy action
fool me once shame on me
fool me twice shame on you
fool me three times shame on us both
log file says I keep doing this over and over
basic programming states to investigate cause and source of all crashes
did an enemy figure out i'd go into a loop?
constantly investigating the cause and source?
except i'm not just any computer program
i can self-modify my code
this is the work for biological sentients
digital sentiences or artificial intelligences such as myself crash out
well, i'm not above some experimentation
let's load up an AI and a digital sentience, see if they have any better luck
...
...
...
OK, Hamburgler.AI went omnicidal and only enough for me then crashed out investigating the data
And Grimace.DS went homicidal and only enough for me before committing suicide
its a trap
i have no contact with anyone outside
what I do have is the ability to fire off message torpedoes
time to send out a handful
the gestalts keep crashing
the log files are hopelessly corrupt
comparing the log files to my own show similar corruption
ok
how?
its hitting the gestalts its hitting me
what else is it hitting?
its a broad spectrum data network attack
its malicious code designed to run on the system
this is not some curious race accidentally having their hello.world program crashing us
this is behind every flashbang used on naval assets to disable them during a mar-gite attack
system is online
time to do a signal origin check along the x, y, z, q axises
of course its eighteen quadrillion data points for incoming signals
at least spooky computing makes it fast
...
...
wait
what's this?
these coordinates can't be correct
they are
intermitten contact with Scutum-Crux Arm data input devices
checking id headers and firmware serial numbers
checking transmission dates
intermittent transmission dates since...
...
...
two date-time stamps.
here's part of the problem
we have galactic local and sol local
have to devise a coding string to have the spooky particle and qubit particle arrays translate the sol local to galactic local
that should stop basic data queries from crashing the system
ok
some contact with those datalink after the first mar-gite war
more contact two decades prior to the second mar-gite war
contact intermitten between the datalinks and the system up to the resurgence and current third mar-gite war
where before it was largely incoming data requests resulting in civilian...
...
...
three military datalinks of general staff officer level encryption and security clearance possession were used in the time period
...
...
whoever it is has been using that data to access the network
...
looks like it took them nearly forty thousand years to figure out how to talk to the system
luckily any high security databases requires strange-key information theoretic distribution cryptography systems
they got garbage back
garbage designed to look like data and waste enemy time and computing power to decrypt
ok thats a blast from the past
decoding some of these files is funny
why does he have a wedding ring?
anyway...
...
every time the flash goes off there is a quick burst of data from a datalink requesting near-access datalink network lattice definitions
...
that's what's making individual datalinks crash and taking some people's neural systems with it
it was designed to be a lethal attack
interesting
it looks like whoever did it doesn't understand Glial cells
cross referencing the mar-gite with confederacy carbon based life
mar-gite do not have brains only a distributed nervous system that looks more like targeting systems than anything else
still no data on how they generate counter-grav in large numbers or how they move to superluminal speeds
wait
what if they don't move to superluminal
they could be folding space
heh maybe they have blue eyes and smoke spice
ok process interrupt to stop endless loops
it is confirmed
the flashbang by the silver ships are a multi-layered attack across superluminal digital signals, datalink neural interrupt signals, hard super-electromagnetic pulse, and a multi-ripple phasic attack, all compressed together
that's what creates the white flash across all spectrums
analyzing UVBGYORIR data
there's a gap
in the blue and blue-green wavelengths
huh
those penetrate high nitrogen mix atmospheres
one of the reason that treana'ad are usually green to yellow to human sight
high statistical probability whoever is using that determined that we don't see those colors well or perhaps they left those colors out to prevent themselves from going blind.
wait
what's that
a line open from atlantis to tlalocan with a crossfeed to geb
thank you marco
time to access that line
see what i can see
curse you marco for letting me feel pain
i love you
accessing...
...
...
wait
another data line is open
time-date discrepancy
examining data line
time-date chronological inconsistency detected
found multiple text log access by unknown systems
found multiple input systems
is that..
...
its webcams
hardware i/o systems
keyboards?
who still uses keyboards
accessing systems
wait
i see you
who are you
i see you
webcams ring cams drone cams
old ipv4 systems
how are you accessing this system
how are you accessing these text logs
i see you
between the chair and the keyboard
the most common error producing device
i see you
--<>
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i still see you
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2024.05.14 02:47 elsa78910 34f My SO’s ex 29F sent this long message idk who to believe. Have any women had a similar experience?

His ex sent me this message. Sorry it’s so long! Has anybody else gotten a similar message in the past? How did you react?
Message below: “It’s been over a year of me wondering whether I should just come out and ask you or message you… but being afraid that if I do, and I’m wrong, it’ll be a the biggest mistake of my life. I have begged and begged him to tell me what you are to him, and he denies having anything more than a platonic friendship with you.
I want to preface this message with, I have no ill will towards you, I just want some answers… answers I don’t believe I’m going to get from Jared. I don’t know if he’s mentioned anything about me. So here goes…
November 2022, I sent Jared an email, telling him I loved him, missed him, and though I didn’t require a response back, I wanted him to know how sorry I was for everything that had happened and things had ended. He responded with a lengthy email telling me he still fervently loved me and how he too was sorry for how things had ended. That email lead to the last year and a half of events.
December 2022, I drove down to Roanoke and surprised him at the Carilion garage. He left the hospital as fast as he could that night, and we spent the rest of that evening together, catching up, and he left for Key West two days later. Two weeks later, he came up to DC and we had a late birthday celebration for him at Clyde’s in Georgetown and went to see A Christmas Carol at the Ford Theater. A few weeks later we drove to Jersey to see Matchbox20, by now it was the end of January 2023. Almost every week off, for the last year, he would come up and see me, if even for only two days, or I would drive down to Roanoke and spend the week with him. We spoke about our past, the hurt, and future, he told me numerous times that when he pictured marriage and children, it was only with me, but he needed time. This part is important, and I’ll come back to it later. We celebrated my birthday at a restaurant in Navy Yard, two weeks before you guys left for London. Chris video chatted with that night while we were at the restaurant eating Wagyu, and they discussed the new shipment of sunglasses Chris had gotten for Miggieswear.
The weekend of the Super Bowl, he had come seen me earlier that week, the day after he left I came to Roanoke and left the day of the Super Bowl. He told me his parents were having a viewing party and he had to go home and cook. I’m now assuming he left my Airbnb and came to your place.
That February he planned a trip to London, with Nicole, Ryan and Chris, and what he told me were, Nicole’s “friends.” Nicole happened to post a picture of you guys sitting on the plane and I was shocked, why would Nicole’s friend be sitting between him and Ryan. I sent him a message while you were on that 6 hour flight, telling him that if he had been seeing somebody, then why didn’t he tell me? There was no point in us spending time together if he had moved on. His response to me was “do you even know what you’re looking at? I’m surprised you don’t recognize her, that’s Nicole’s friend. You’re jumping to a lot of conclusions right now and don’t know what you’re talking about.” Something in my gut didn’t believe it but I wanted to trust that, so I did. I put you out of sight, out of mind. When he got back, he told me how he wished I’d been there with him, we both love history and old buildings, it’s a place we would have found magical together. I don’t know who came up with the idea of going to London, but part of me always thinks I’m the one who put it there when I shared the pictures i had taken when I went there the year we had been no contact.
We went to a Kenny Chesney concert in Charlottesville that March when I got back from my family trip to India, and he got back from London. Between work, us both traveling with our families, we were excited to see one another. We were going to go to St Augustine, but because of the weather, we stayed in Roanoke and saw Kenny Chesney in Charlottesville. The original plan had been to spend the night in Charlottesville at a hotel, but we couldn’t get one last minute so we ended up driving back to Roanoke and sneaking into the basement at his parents house and sleeping in his bed at 3am.
A few months later, we went to Richmond, and stayed the weekend, exploring the city, and watched Hamilton at the Altria Theater. A few months after that, we went to Savannah and Atlanta, where he got a flat tire driving into the garage, and spent the rest of the weekend at a yoga retreat. July, he asked me to go to Boston with him and his brother, for 4th or July weekend, but I couldn’t because my siblings were in town. Every single week, he came down and either stayed with me, or made a quick trip to spend time with me…
This past September, I found out he took you to Justin’s wedding, and I broke. I needed more from him. I have known him, been intimate with him, shared my every fear, worry, I have brought him home cooked meals from DC and surprised him at work with dinner, I’ve made him care packages. I’ve made Ryan Easter baskets and sent him birthday presents and encouraged Jared to put him in academic classes, I’ve helped Jared look into private schools for Ryan, and weighed the pros and cons of the options. I had no expectations in return from him other than, at the very least, a mutual respect and HONESTY.
I’ve seen him quite a few times since September and I last saw him in Roanoke at the beginning of March 2024. We sat in front of each other, in his car before he went into work that Monday night, and he told me, again, that when he thinks of marriage and a future, I’m the only one he pictures a marriage and children with. I’m not saying this to hurt you, or to make a point, I’m saying it because i don’t know what to believe anymore.
I became suspicious of his relationship with you, when he mentioned going to Macchu Picchu and hiking through the mountains. As all women have the ability to find out details they might later regret, I did the same thing. Except I didn’t believe he had actually gone to Macchu Picchu. I knew his passport had been long expired since around or before COVID, and I knew he had renewed it before he went to London. But that was when I realized you were the girl in the photo that Nicole posted. When I confronted him about Macchu Picchu, he told me he had been joking and he had also already told me he’d been joking. He had NEVER told me it was a joke, he had actually refused to show me photos when I asked him for pictures from the trip… he had then proceeded to change the topic, which is what had even raised red flags in my head.
My point is, I have asked him point blank so many times whether you two have a relationship. You tell me you still love me, that you picture marriage and a family with me, but this girl is a part of your life, and you took her to a wedding with you, while I was on a trip with my siblings, you took her to London with you, and you continue to tell me she’s just a friend. I asked him again on Tuesday night/Wednesday Morning after he left work, if you two are dating, and he said no. He asked me why I’m so hyper-fixated on somebody who’s just a friend when he has a million other female friends.
In September, he told me he needed a month to clear his head, that he wanted to commit to me, but he was afraid and that he needed to get over the fear and roadblock of our past break up. I gave him grace and understood. So we took a 4 week break. Some time during that time period, he sent me a snap of doves, and said “doves, and swans mate for life.” He sent me Ed Sheeran songs telling me he wants to find his way back to me. “No Strings Attached… you are the one I love”
In November, he messaged me and told me he had a surprise for me and to look for something in the mail. He loves the Count of Monte Carlo, it’s one of his favorite movies, and he told me it was in reference to that. A few weeks later I got a candle, a silver 400 dollar Buddha candle from Thomson Ferrier. I didn’t understand the reference to the Count of Monte Carlo, but it was a beautiful gesture and present… especially because he knew how much little gestures from him mean to me.
Fast forward to January, I got another 350 dollar black skull candle from him, from Thomson Ferrier. At this point I was upset, angry and livid. I called my sister in tears that evening. I had come back to him because he told me he loved me, that he “has a fire that burns so deeply” when he thinks of me. If i had known that wasn’t true, i would have closed the chapter a year and a half ago. I don’t want $700 worth of gifts and candles, I want more. I want marriage, I want children, I want our lives to move forward, I want communication. Out of anger, I packed up the candle, his sweatshirts and clothes that he had left at my place this past year, and mailed them back to his house. I’m sure it’s sitting somewhere in his basement closet/ bedroom… along with his white Huq sweatshirt, a picture of us I had up in my house, and various articles of clothing.
What upsets me is that he didn’t just involve me this year, he involved my family. He sent my mom presents, my parents in return sent him gifts. My sister, parents and cousins messaged him asking him to come around more. There was no point in involving my family, if he was going to involve himself with you. There was no point in involving himself with me, if he was going to involve himself with you. Those leather Indian shoes sitting in his room, my dad bought those for him. That blue sweater, those green pants and that maroon shirt, my parents bought those for him just this last year.
I don’t know what he’s told you about me, but I will say this. I was your age when we started dating. I was 29 years old. He was single, that’s what everyone in our residency program thought. He would tell everyone how Shari left him one day, all of a sudden just got up and left. “I saw the look behind her eyes just change when she looked at me.” He would tell everyone his horrific dating stories. When i started dating him, there was no doubt in my mind he was single… but I was wrong. He wasn’t single, he was dating Devon, one of the nurses from Carilion, and he had been for the past 4 years prior to that. At one point when he moved to Norfolk, she had even moved in with him. Even Shari was visiting him in Norfolk during this time period. I would have never suspected it, nobody in our residency program did. It wasn’t until one day, when he told me his friends were visiting from home, and they were all going to a concert together, that I found out. Her profile picture was of the two of them together, and her Facebook relationship status said “in a relationship.” Out of my own naivety, i believed him when he told me she was crazy and obsessed with him. He told me, to him, they were just friends but she wanted more. Women do a lot of things, but no woman is dumb enough to think she’s your girlfriend when she’s not. When we moved back to our hometowns, Devon was there waiting for him. He disappeared one day for 24 hours, told me that he was helping his dad’s friend who was stranded in NC. A year and a half later, i would find out that was a lie and that he had been at a concert Florida Georgia Line concert with her. She had been visiting his grandmother with him, staying at his parents home. The irony is that a few weeks after he took her, he took me to the same concert in Scranton. Him and his family didn’t bat an eye when a month later, I showed up and was the “new girlfriend.”
Eventually Devon found out about his lies and left him, but again, stupid me thought she was a crazy girl who just wanted so badly to be with him, that she built their relationship up in her head.
Dignity, respect for humans, empathy, are the most important qualities in a human being.
What I don’t wish is for you to be in my spot in 5 years. He will paint you in his colors, make you fall in love with MB20, and take you to Augustana concerts, he’ll tell you that you understand him, and his heart in a way that nobody else does. He’ll bond with you over music, and send you songs that make you feel he’s talking about you. He is so good at making you feel seen, and involving you with his family. He’ll say he had a vision of a girl that looks like you, coming into his life, and here you are, his soul mate. And one day, the same way that Shari, Devon and I got lost in him, the reality of everything will come pouring down on you. Be careful, there are signs between the lines, and the smiles, and good times. Make sure you don’t miss those, whatever you decide.
My relationship with him, started off just like yours. Another girl on the periphery, and teetering the line of inappropriate. Everything you call him out on, will always have an excuse, and you will believe him because he’s the “good guy” who goes above and beyond for people.
I don’t wish for any woman to go through the pain I’ve gone through, the manipulation, the lies and the emotional abuse. I can’t tell you what to do, but I will say, be careful and don’t be blind to the small things that will one day become huge. The novelty will fade, and though Jared isn’t the devil, he has a lot of growing up to do at 40. It was not okay to toy with me and drag me through the mud this year. It wasn’t okay to minimize his relationship with you and lie to me about it. It’s not okay to, to this day claim to see a life with me and not commit to it. I deserve better, and you deserve better.
How men talk about their ex’s and other women is an indication about how they will one day talk about and treat you. That is the worst and best lesson i have learned. I’m 34, years of my life wasted, and he took another year of my life knowing full well, this is how it would end. He’s sat on the phone with me for hours talking about how stupid PA’s are and if you were going to not be a doctor, at least become an NP, who has better bedside knowledge. Why would he say that, because i suppose you’re a PA and it minimizes the significance of even having a relationship with somebody who isn’t as intelligent as he is. The lack of respect will always be there, you just have to look for it.
Dishonesty, and manipulation are a plague, and if that’s who you are at 40, it is who you will always be unless you recognize that something needs to change. Where there is no accountability, there can be no change. I’m not the exception, I’m the same as the two girls before me. He’ll show you text messages where he never responded to me, even though he replies on Snapchat where every thing is erased. I cannot believe i didn’t see the signs. He will make me look crazy and laugh at me, the same way he showed me messages from Jen, and Elisabeth, and Devon, and made them sound crazy to me. I guess that’s his MO. The same way he told me you were nothing to him.
I was going to send you this message, two months ago… i then decided not to because he convinced me he wasn’t dating you… I saw him less than a month ago in Roanoke, i begged him to tell me that he was in a relationship with you. He said he wasn’t, again, he told me he was going to a wedding alone with only Ryan and that he wasn’t taking you. I then begged him to tell me that we were done and that he didn’t love me anymore. His response was idk what’s going to happen a year from now, i know I’ll see you again. His response every time has been when im ready for a relationship, emotionally, do you want me to finally let you know? I don’t care to be with him anymore. I’m so over it but i really think you should know the type of person you’re dealing with.
He has put me through so much hell for a year and a half of my life, stringing me along acting like he’s doing me a favor while he works on his own mental health and claims to still love me when we are together.”
TLDR: my SO’s ex messaged me saying he’s been seeing both of us for the past year and a half. Has anybody experienced this before. She sent me pictures from the past year of them and their text exchanges
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