I (20F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for just over 2 years. The problem I'm about to describe resurfaces occasionally and I finally want to talk about how to handle it. I have a high sex drive, it's rare that I'm not in the mood and most of the time it would be because I'm genuinely sick or so tired i can't keep my eyes open. My boyfriend on the other hand is not horny as often as I am. What I mean by that is that he's often too tired to engage sexually and rather just wants to cuddle. I don't particularly have a problem with that because I know how it feels to feel pressured into sex as I didn't have a high sex drive in previous relationships. To sum it up I'd say we have sex 1-2 times a week and sometimes we don't sleep with each other for a maximum of 2 weeks. That of course frustrates me but I would never want to make him have sex with me. The times we do engage sexually are always initiated by him. And that is my problem. Whenever I tried to initiate or asked him if he's in the mood he declines saying he doesn't feel like it. I struggle to process this rejection as I would claim I'm quite pretty and hot (he also tells me this regularly) and I can't find a reason why a man in his 20s wouldn't wanna f*** his girlfriend every given opportunity. We like our intercourse and talk about it afterwards how we enjoyed it and what we particularly liked so it also doesn't get boring at all. So that's the 1st thing bothering me: why is my sex drive so much higher than a man's? I always read about how men want to have sex practically all the time and their girlfriends are the ones rejecting. The 2nd thing is why do we nearly only have sex when he wants to? I get rejected when initiating and never get to decide when fun times happen. Sometimes I want to make him feel what I feel and reject him out of spite but when the moment comes I'm so thirsty for intimate body contact that I don't want to do it anymore because why stop something I want just to be petty. Maybe someone can tell me that that's perfectly normal and/or how to handle the rejection better because I don't want to be grumpy/mad just because my boyfriend is not in the mood

Note: I am posting this for a coworkefriend. He knows about this thread changing my life so he wants to hear your judgement about something he has been agonizing over all morning. I gave him my opinion but I guess I am just one woman. I hope this is allowed he does not have Reddit. For reading comfort I will write in I form as he told it to me.
TLDR: I told my girlfriend she often has bad breath and to see a doctor about that on a day she was already feeling down and now I think I am single again.
I 34M have been with my girlfriend 31F for 7months. She is honestly the best and she makes me happy. We never had a fight before and we pride ourself in open honest communication.
Yesterday she stayed over at my place and was feeling down on herself. She has a bit of anxiety and a high pressure job. She had a spell of some mistakes and bad performances that haunted her. She told me she felt like she was letting everybody down and failing. However she had one silver lining. She had a feedback session with her team member who had been under performing and they took some difficult feedback she had for them to heart and thanked her for her honesty. She was happy that went well.
Triggered by the conversation about feedback I also had feedback for her. For a while I have been noticing bad breath. Not terrible but I am pretty sensitive to smells. I tried to figure out the cause so I could help her. But she has perfect teeth, hygiene, doesn’t smoke or eat junk food. As I couldn’t figure it out I assumed it must be a medical issue.
So I told her she often has bad breath and if she is okay with us seeing a doctor about it.
Her heart just broke before my eyes. I apologized that it might have been bad timing on my part. She said that it was okay and thanked me for my honesty… but it obviously was not okay. I saw her fighting back tears. When I asked her if I hurt her she said yes but that she is not angry as it was not my fault that her breath was bad and knowing my sensitivity to smells she felt bad I had to deal with it.
She got very quiet and I asked what the problem was. She said I just gave her another reason to hate herself today and this is the first time anyone ever said this to her. She never felt insecure about it but now wonders when her breath smelled… like all the time? Every moment? If she was the “ bad breath lady” at work. She said she felt gross, worthless. I tried to tell her I love her anyway and kiss her but she didn’t want to be touched especially not kissed.
She went upstairs to brush her teeth and I heard her cry. She climbed into bed with me later but not wanting to cuddle or to be touched.I felt her shaking and crying quietly. We are very physical people so not touching or holding her felt really weird. This morning she got up really early and sneaked out. She usually kisses me goodbye before she goes but she just went. She took most of her stuff. Not even sure if she just broke up with me? I have been trying to figure out how to handle this. She has send me no text and I don’t know what I could do or say. I just don’t understand what happend.
AITAH? Or is she just over reacting?

Hello,
My girlfriend has recently flown through Helsinki airport however a very special and personal zippo lighter of hers has been confiscated. This really is a shot in the dark but by any chance would someone be able to pick it up in her name and deliver it to the Netherlands? The airport says that it can not send a package and we are unable to go to Finland.
Thank you in advance

I’m (23M) with my girlfriend who I’ve been dating for about one year. Recently, something horrific happened, and I’m not sure how to navigate it.
My girlfriend, who has always been a bit of a wild child, gave my 8-year-old nephew a line of cocaine while she was at my parents house. She didn’t think anything would happen and thought it would be a harmless. Unfortunately, he overdosed and had to be rushed to the hospital. He’s currently stable and showing signs of improvement, but the doctors say he suffered brain damage and might have trouble learning in the future.
My girlfriend is absolutely devastated and deeply sorry for what she did. She’s been crying nonstop and genuinely seems remorseful. However, my family is furious. My brother (23M) and my parents (54F and 60M) are demanding that I break up with her immediately. They don’t believe she deserves another chance after such a reckless and dangerous act.
I’m torn. I love my girlfriend and believe that people can make mistakes and learn from them. My family’s anger is completely justified, and I don’t want to cause any more pain or division.
I don’t know what to do. Should I break up with my girlfriend as my family demands, or try to support her through this and work on rebuilding trust? Has anyone been through something similar or have any advice on how to handle this situation?

So I love my girlfriend very much but there’s this thing she does that really messes me up.
As an ftm/ftnb, I hate my thighs and hips more than anything else on my body. Sometimes I would mention this, and she would often say “but you’re beautiful” or “no one really judges other people’s thighs all that much” in an effort, I think, to comfort me
But the fact is I DONT like the way my body is, and I think it’s a legitimate and understandable thing to feel (I literally went to a liposuction surgeon only to be told that most of my hips and thighs is bone structure that can’t be changed no matter what), and by dismissing my dislike of my own body, I feel like gf is dismissing the legitimacy of my dysmorphia
That’s the best way I can put it into words anyway. I don’t even know how to talk to her about this.

’m (23M) with my girlfriend who I’ve been dating for about one year. Recently, something horrific happened, and I’m not sure how to navigate it.
My girlfriend, who has always been a bit of a wild child, gave my 8-year-old nephew a line of cocaine while she was at my parents house. She didn’t think anything would happen and thought it would be a harmless. Unfortunately, he overdosed and had to be rushed to the hospital. He’s currently stable and showing signs of improvement, but the doctors say he suffered brain damage and might have trouble learning in the future.
My girlfriend is absolutely devastated and deeply sorry for what she did. She’s been crying nonstop and genuinely seems remorseful. However, my family is furious. My brother (23M) and my parents (54F and 60M) are demanding that I break up with her immediately. They don’t believe she deserves another chance after such a reckless and dangerous act.
I’m torn. I love my girlfriend and believe that people can make mistakes and learn from them. My family’s anger is completely justified, and I don’t want to cause any more pain or division.
I don’t know what to do. Should I break up with my girlfriend as my family demands, or try to support her through this and work on rebuilding trust? Has anyone been through something similar or have any advice on how to handle this situation?

Hi folks,
TLDR : doing well financially after hustling away all my youth but feel terrible now, what next?
Disclaimer : I am sure some may call out my shallow behaviour and that's ok, but I would sincerely request some genuine suggestions, if possible.
Background : I am 26,M, Indian...moved to Dubai 2 months ago in search of a better life (financially and otherwise) I have hustled (not in traditional sense, but studied hard...kept my head down and did well to earn an MBA from the best institute in India...we call it IIM in India), landed a great job in Dubai, moved here with the aim of figuring my life here...(Doing well, make north of 50k AED per month in Tech)
You know as they say, money can't buy you class...well, I relate to that too much! I've always been from a humble family and while I completely acknowledge my background, I feel I should now embrace the life that I'm blessed with where I am relatively positive that I'll do good in life from here on. But, when I look in the mirror, all I see is an unhealthy, sincere salt of the earth(nothing wrong in that, except for the unhealthy part ofcourse :p) and that I am not even reaping the benefits of all the support Ive gotten by my family and my hard work to reach to this point. I have no girlfriend, no friends (home or in Dubai), and I don't even know how to dress elegantly and be presentable (im sure, there are loads of stuff that can be done to change that) I got me a great set of perfume, groom my hair and beard every second week and try to wear "hip" clothes but it all pales in the common world and I kind of, feel very uncomfortable and under confident.
I know I sound like a "wannabe", but I am sure there are better ways to live and be presentable and confident! One obvious aspect of gymming to gain confidence is something that I'm working on already, but what else?! Too shy to go to a meetup (even with my colleagues....let alone a group of strangers), too busy to spend time on anything during weekdays (my employer works the employees very hard so hardly get any spare time...)
There's definitely something that I can do to improve my personality, charm and life situation in general, isn't it?!

I (26M) recently discovered that my girlfriend (24F) might still be in contact with her ex, and I'm not sure how to approach the situation. My suspicions arose on her birthday when she got excited about a call from a work colleague. Given my history of being cheated on, I was already sensitive to such things. Later, I saw an Instagram notification from her ex on her phone, increasing my concerns.
When I asked her when she last spoke to him, she claimed it was before we started dating. However, I checked her phone and found they had been interacting intermittently over the past year while we were together. Their interactions included liking stories and brief "how are you" messages.
What really concerned me were a few messages where she initiated conversations, saying she missed him and wished he were at an event we attended together. She explained this as a cultural way of speaking from his country. They also mentioned meeting up when he visited our city, though she claimed these were just empty agreements they never followed through on. Another message had her joking about starting an OnlyFans account due to AI taking over, to which he responded non-flirtatiously.
When I confronted her, she accused me of invading her privacy and said this was traumatizing for her. She also claimed her ex was depressed and that she was just trying to cheer him up when he posted worrying stories. Their relationship lasted seven months and supposedly ended because they didn't have much in common, though I suspect it might have been because he moved away. She always spoke kindly of him, which adds to my suspicions.
After our first fight, she said we should only discuss this once and that I should trust her. Not wanting to hurt her, I was willing to believe her. However, before we slept, she deleted all the texts between them as well as a message to a coworker she had described as flirty, where she commented on a story saying it was a thirst trap and he repeatedly called her "pitchoune." The next day, I couldn't get it out of my mind. When I questioned her, not about deleting the messages or the coworker, she got angry, saying I was being hot and cold and that I didn't want her to talk to any men (which I hadn't mentioned). She then left the house.
During that time, I decided the evidence I saw wasn't damning enough and that deleting her texts with her ex was irrelevant because I believed I saw everything. As for the coworker, the text was in French, which I don't fully understand, so maybe it was okay. We talked things out, but now I don't feel okay seeing her texting or just being on the phone raises my heartbeat. She also started badmouthing the coworker, which didn't sit right, and I don't know what to do.
I'm really struggling to understand if I'm overreacting or if my concerns are valid. She lost her virginity to me, so I feel like cheating should not be in question. Any advice on how to handle this would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: I found out my girlfriend has been texting her ex and a flirty coworker behind my back. She claims it's harmless, but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if my concerns are valid. Looking for advice on how to handle this.

Hi folks,
TLDR : doing well financially after hustling away all my youth but feel terrible now, what next?
Disclaimer : I am sure some may call out my shallow behaviour and that's ok, but I would sincerely request some genuine suggestions, if possible.
Background : I am 26,M, Indian...moved to Dubai 2 months ago in search of a better life (financially and otherwise) I have hustled (not in traditional sense, but studied hard...kept my head down and did well to earn an MBA from the best institute in India...we call it IIM in India), landed a great job in Dubai, moved here with the aim of figuring my life here...(Doing well, make north of 50k AED per month in Tech)
You know as they say, money can't buy you class...well, I relate to that too much! I've always been from a humble family and while I completely acknowledge my background, I feel I should now embrace the life that I'm blessed with where I am relatively positive that I'll do good in life from here on. But, when I look in the mirror, all I see is an unhealthy, sincere salt of the earth(nothing wrong in that, except for the unhealthy part ofcourse :p) and that I am not even reaping the benefits of all the support Ive gotten by my family and my hard work to reach to this point. I have no girlfriend, no friends (home or in Dubai), and I don't even know how to dress elegantly and be presentable (im sure, there are loads of stuff that can be done to change that) I got me a great set of perfume, groom my hair and beard every second week and try to wear "hip" clothes but it all pales in the common world and I kind of, feel very uncomfortable and under confident.
I know I sound like a "wannabe", but I am sure there are better ways to live and be presentable and confident! One obvious aspect of gymming to gain confidence is something that I'm working on already, but what else?! Too shy to go to a meetup (even with my colleagues....let alone a group of strangers), too busy to spend time on anything during weekdays (my employer works the employees very hard so hardly get any spare time...)
There's definitely something that I can do to improve my personality, charm and life situation in general, isn't it?!

I (M18) have been with my girlfriend (F18) for 7 months. We met during orientation at our college in May of 2023 and were talking until September, when we got together. About a month ago my girlfriend brought up the fact that she was talking to someone else during (a couple weeks before) the time that me and her were getting together. She told me that her and this guy never fucked, just kissed and hung out. Well today, she confesses that her and this guy were fucking, and that she would sometimes come over and get fucked by me right after. She says this happened for about a week in September. I found this very weird, as she told me during that time that I was the only one that she was talking to and getting with me so soon after dealing with a whole other person is just strange to me. She claims that she cut him off once we became official, but I found that hard to believe. I asked her ex friend about the timeline of my girlfriend’s situationship, and her friend informed me that my girlfriend was fucking this guy from September until October, which is obviously not a week. My girlfriend still is denying this. I don’t know who to believe. Is it unreasonable for me to feel like it’s weird that she went from fucking someone else at the same time as me to telling me she loved me and wants me forever in just a few days? If what her friend is saying is true, that means my girlfriend was actually cheating on me during our relationship, which is most definitely a dealbreaker. Also the lying about him for this long just makes me lose so much trust in her. I have begun to second guess myself and our entire relationship because of it. Part of me wants to end the relationship, but another part of me still loves her and I don’t want to lose her. Am I being too harsh? Am I unreasonable? What should I do in this situation? Should I leave her? I really need help this has been a lot for me to take in.
TLDR:
My girlfriend lied about fucking her situationship that was before/during the beginning of our relationship. Friend says it was during our relationship. Don’t know what to think of the situation, it makes me feel weird. What should I do?

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So, basically, everything started 2 years ago when I moved to a new house in another city to finish my major in IT. In this republic where a lot of students live (8 at the time), my best friend and I went to live there. Upon arriving, I met this female (21), let’s call her S. We started talking and getting intimate even though she seemed like a good person. However, things happened and I tried to get away from her. But since she is crazy and we live in the same house, that did not work too well. She would do things like lock me in the house with her and hide the key, send her grandma to my house asking me to get with her, and all kinds of messed up things that I’m not writing here (if you want to know, ask in the comments).
It was basically more than a year like that. We were not in a relationship or anything, but that did not matter to her. Everyone at the republic knew but no one ever spoke about it and chose silence, even my best friend. I felt kind of bad because when he needed me, I was there for him. I tried to talk to him but he would always change the subject and did not like to get involved.
It was a year and a half like that. I literally would sleep from 2 am to 12 pm, wake up, go to college, and then come back at 11:00 pm so I wouldn’t interact with her. So, I started talking to a girl at my college and followed her on Instagram (I think that was my mistake where I am now). She followed me back. At first, I was really not looking for a relationship or anything, but I really liked her. She was a cool friend. But S did not like that, not even a little bit. How do I know that? I always was low profile. I did not like posting any photos on social media and all of that. My Instagram does not have a profile pic as well and I did not use it until recently, so I know that if I followed someone new, she would know.
So, after that, things kept going and I was not speaking to her. I had two best friends, one lived with me and the other one lived in my city. So, we used to gather at my place every Sunday and do something. It would come, he and his friends. One day we were talking and this best friend of mine showed his cellphone to this other friend with messages from her. I know that because this friend used to message a girl even though I was already talking to her. And when he showed the message to this other friend (let’s call this one L, he is going to be important later), he looked at me and said “you are screwed” and then we changed the subject.
So, for the next month, I kept my normal life as normal but she and my other friend (let’s call him F) started acting suspicious with her. I tried believing him and pretended I was blind and did not give a damn but he would always make things for me which he did not used to do. He started changing things in his life like going to college all day which was a thing I used to ask him to do so I wouldn’t stay all day by myself in college. He would talk about friendship a lot. I would also reply normally and then I felt like he was being an asshole and got mad at him and stopped talking to him so he would understand that I would do what he was doing (mainly the reason was I would not do that to him). And once she said all of my friends were assholes (she was right in here at least). So, going forward, I would speak to him but if he needed something or talked to me, I would respond normally but was still mad because of all of my friends, he was the one I trusted the most. He acted as if nothing was wrong which I felt he was at the time.
Then one day we were at the basketball game and he said to a lot of teammates that I stopped talking to him and he did not know the motive. So, on Sunday at my house with my friend L, he asked if I was not talking to F. I said that we are kind of in the middle of a fight but if they wanted to call him, they could. Then L said he would not call him since we were not on good terms And then I said okay, and after that, he asked what the reason was. I told him the story, saying I was mad because I felt like F was manipulating me. L believed that my friend F was a good guy because he has a girlfriend and all (he betrayed her after 5 years of relationship with his neighbor, which I knew and L did not, and I did not tell him of course, I ain’t no snitch). So, days passed and it was the birthday of S’s cousins, which I used to go to in previous years, so it was planned (she and her cousins are very close) because his birthday this time was at a public place, in a bar to be more exact. After getting there, I had a surprise because she was with another guy at a table, so everyone got mad at me because “I fought my best friend because of her”.
So, one day after that, my “friend” L said everything to his friend (I’ll call this one Y). So, Y and her had a past together and he did not like her at all. He was my friend too, we’ve known each other for the past 8 years. And then this friend got mad at me as well and everyone started making jokes and all, and I said okay, maybe I was wrong and went to talk to F. I called this other friend to go with me at the time because we used to live together in the past and he grew up together with us. When we arrived at his place, he asked us to wait. So, when he arrived, we started talking. I said I would never do something to mess up his life and he said that everything I thought to be true was only things from my head (as if I was crazy). He said sorry for doing something I did not do and asked if we were alright, and then I said no, we were not. I asked him to come to my house the other day and he came but acted as if nothing was wrong. We talked, joked around, and he went away. I still did not understand, but something was off.
So, days come and everyone on the chat group started wishing I was dead every day, which I felt bad about, not gonna lie. And then the break from college came to an end and I got back to college. But when getting there to play basketball, everyone was acting strange with me. I’m kinda skinny, well I’m way too skinny (I weigh 88 pounds) and they were guarding me with everything they had. I did not understand why, but I quit and went home. The other day, I called my friend F and asked him if he told something to them and he said no, I did not say anything, and then went away. After that, I started asking myself what happened, which messes you up when everyone refuses to talk to you. So, I stopped going to college for a month and when I came back to college, everyone in the college was looking at me with disdain. A lot of them would look away when they saw me. I did not notice until I got to the classroom. When getting there, I chose my place and sat.
So, in this class, there is this girl (I’ll call her C). You know, from when I started college, I ain’t going to lie, she was my first passion. I used to go and wait for her bus to come and take her home and all of that, so she would not go alone at night. But then came the pandemic and we did not talk anymore (mainly my fault). So, coming back to the classroom, she got up and then looked at me. I would not say disgust, but like kinda mad at me, but I did not understand at the time. So, I asked this friend for his water bottle because I forgot mine and when I got up to go to the drinking fountain, he said you can right there, do not need to go anywhere. I did not understand what he was saying but did not give a damn because he is a really good friend, he kinda helped me. And then she got up again. I, knowing her, knew she was trying to tell me something but did not know what. Then this friend (I’ll call him P) asked me to tell the professor why I did not come to his class for almost a month and I said okay and went to talk to him. I said, while everyone was listening, that I did not come because somethings were happening in my life and then he said it’s okay. I went back to my place and at the end of the class, I went out to the bathroom and when I came back, my things were on the ground, which I did not notice why at all. And then this guy came to me and asked if those things that were on the ground were mine. I was making a group with this girl since when the professor asked if someone wanted to make groups with me, they all said no. The professor even asked like that “Why? You guys don’t like him?” I did not understand why as well and just laughed. So, this girl that was making a group with me, when I came back from the bathroom, asked me to take photos of the papers. I said that it did not need to and then she insisted and I said okay and took the photo. When I got home, I was looking at the photos of the papers and I saw a photo I did not remember taking. It was the legs of someone which I assumed took my cellphone and took it. I kinda went into my head thinking what caused this issue. And then I remembered something I told F a while ago because he knew about this girl from the past. So, one day I was in the classroom with She also got up and went to fill her water bottle. I asked her to fill mine as well, but when doing that, I kind of got up and she thought I would go with her, but I did not. :( When she came back, she sat at her chair and lied down, which made me feel bad because I like her. She did not come the next week and the next, she was sitting behind me. She had her bottle on the chair and then I asked her, ‘Can I take your bottle?’ She said, ‘For what?’ I took it anyways and filled her bottle, came back to class, and gave it to her. She said thank you and I told F about this situation, which I thought was the reason.
Then, the other day in the classroom, I came back because there was a misunderstanding and she did not come. I thought she did not want to talk to me and I did not come for the next 2 weeks. Then, I came back on test day and like always, I sit at the same place in the classroom and she knows that, so she sat close to me on the day, which made me happy. Her friends would come every so often and pretend like they would kick my backpack. She got angry at them, looked at them, and they stopped. Then, after that day, I do not know what she said, but everyone treated me normally with no issues and I could come back to college.
So, until here, I have a clue or other about what happened, but I still needed to know who would say something like this to mess me up. Then, I remembered Y because every time something would happen, he would post something on Instagram. When I came back to play basketball in my city, everyone was treating me like crap and then everyone was saying to me that Y was my rival. I did not care that much, I thought they were joking. Then, one of his friends asked if he could sleep in the republic with my mattress and I said, ‘Yes, you can.’ Days later, Y on the group chat asked this friend of his if things went all right and then he responded saying, ‘Yes, everything went all right.’ (He probably slept with S on my mattress.) So, I started asking why he would be so mad at me and something came to my head.
So, Y’s father died of cancer and one day, F and I were at his house. When we were getting out, F looked away and passed this door without looking. Then, I came behind him, looked at the room, and it was Y’s father. He could not talk because his cancer was on his tongue. I looked at him and gave him a thumbs up and he did the same to me. Then, out of his house, I asked F why he would look away in that situation and he said to me, ‘I can’t even look because I pity him.’ Then, I said I would not pity him because I would not like people to pity me. But what F said to him was something different and he believed it. Then, he started threatening, not directly of course, and saying things to all the city like I used to have this friend when growing up and he went to jail because he killed somebody. I told this thing that happened to my friend F that when we were young, 10 years old to be more exact, he kissed a girl I used to like and then I went home and started crying. I said that, but if I remember, in that house, the room where S stays, she can hear us and she probably told Y.
Then, I went to my friend who killed someone’s house (his mom sells food, I buy there since I was a kid). After getting there, I bought my food and when going home, his brother and his friend got up on a motorcycle and passed very close to me as if they were telling me something. I did not understand why as well, but after some time, I understood. So, he is probably not stopped until I’m dead or he kills me and since everyone believes him, I can’t do anything. So, I ask, what can I do in this situation?"

I (22f) matched with a guy Sam (26M) on facebook dating (friendship setting) recently. We exchanged instagrams and started DMing a lot. A few days later we started texting and he asked me to hangout. He suggested we go bowling together, just us, so we did. He doesn’t have a car right now so I picked him up and we went, then hung out back at his house. It felt very much like a date. Since then, he’s been texting me everyday. He met all my friends last weekend. Last week, he was having a hard day and called me crying to come over so he could have someone there for comfort. We’ve only known each other for 3ish weeks, and I just am confused because it seemed like he just wanted to be friends initially since we matched, but we’ve been texting daily and his actions seem like he’s interested. And I’m definitely interested, he’s really cute. I guess I just am not sure if he genuinely just wants to be friends, or is he testing the waters for more. He hasn’t tried anything yet but he’s definitely flirty. It’s even more confusing because I know he’s often hanging out with another girl, he says they’re not together but they seem to be together quite often. I’ve just never randomly struck up a platonic friendship with a man like this. Unsure what to make of it.

"So, basically, everything started 2 years ago when I moved to a new house in another city to finish my major in IT. In this republic where a lot of students live (8 at the time), my best friend and I went to live there. Upon arriving, I met this female (21), let’s call her S. We started talking and getting intimate even though she seemed like a good person. However, things happened and I tried to get away from her. But since she is crazy and we live in the same house, that did not work too well. She would do things like lock me in the house with her and hide the key, send her grandma to my house asking me to get with her, and all kinds of messed up things that I’m not writing here (if you want to know, ask in the comments).

It was basically more than a year like that. We were not in a relationship or anything, but that did not matter to her. Everyone at the republic knew but no one ever spoke about it and chose silence, even my best friend. I felt kind of bad because when he needed me, I was there for him. I tried to talk to him but he would always change the subject and did not like to get involved.
It was a year and a half like that. I literally would sleep from 2 am to 12 pm, wake up, go to college, and then come back at 11:00 pm so I wouldn’t interact with her. So, I started talking to a girl at my college and followed her on Instagram (I think that was my mistake where I am now). She followed me back. At first, I was really not looking for a relationship or anything, but I really liked her. She was a cool friend. But S did not like that, not even a little bit. How do I know that? I always was low profile. I did not like posting any photos on social media and all of that. My Instagram does not have a profile pic as well and I did not use it until recently, so I know that if I followed someone new, she would know.
So, after that, things kept going and I was not speaking to her. I had two best friends, one lived with me and the other one lived in my city. So, we used to gather at my place every Sunday and do something. It would come, he and his friends. One day we were talking and this best friend of mine showed his cellphone to this other friend with messages from her. I know that because this friend used to message a girl even though I was already talking to her. And when he showed the message to this other friend (let’s call this one L, he is going to be important later), he looked at me and said “you are screwed” and then we changed the subject.
So, for the next month, I kept my normal life as normal but she and my other friend (let’s call him F) started acting suspicious with her. I tried believing him and pretended I was blind and did not give a damn but he would always make things for me which he did not used to do. He started changing things in his life like going to college all day which was a thing I used to ask him to do so I wouldn’t stay all day by myself in college. He would talk about friendship a lot. I would also reply normally and then I felt like he was being an asshole and got mad at him and stopped talking to him so he would understand that I would do what he was doing (mainly the reason was I would not do that to him). And once she said all of my friends were assholes (she was right in here at least). So, going forward, I would speak to him but if he needed something or talked to me, I would respond normally but was still mad because of all of my friends, he was the one I trusted the most. He acted as if nothing was wrong which I felt he was at the time.
Then one day we were at the basketball game and he said to a lot of teammates that I stopped talking to him and he did not know the motive. So, on Sunday at my house with my friend L, he asked if I was not talking to F. I said that we are kind of in the middle of a fight but if they wanted to call him, they could. Then L said he would not call him since we were not on good terms And then I said okay, and after that, he asked what the reason was. I told him the story, saying I was mad because I felt like F was manipulating me. L believed that my friend F was a good guy because he has a girlfriend and all (he betrayed her after 5 years of relationship with his neighbor, which I knew and L did not, and I did not tell him of course, I ain’t no snitch). So, days passed and it was the birthday of S’s cousins, which I used to go to in previous years, so it was planned (she and her cousins are very close) because his birthday this time was at a public place, in a bar to be more exact. After getting there, I had a surprise because she was with another guy at a table, so everyone got mad at me because “I fought my best friend because of her”.
So, one day after that, my “friend” L said everything to his friend (I’ll call this one Y). So, Y and her had a past together and he did not like her at all. He was my friend too, we’ve known each other for the past 8 years. And then this friend got mad at me as well and everyone started making jokes and all, and I said okay, maybe I was wrong and went to talk to F. I called this other friend to go with me at the time because we used to live together in the past and he grew up together with us. When we arrived at his place, he asked us to wait. So, when he arrived, we started talking. I said I would never do something to mess up his life and he said that everything I thought to be true was only things from my head (as if I was crazy). He said sorry for doing something I did not do and asked if we were alright, and then I said no, we were not. I asked him to come to my house the other day and he came but acted as if nothing was wrong. We talked, joked around, and he went away. I still did not understand, but something was off.
So, days come and everyone on the chat group started wishing I was dead every day, which I felt bad about, not gonna lie. And then the break from college came to an end and I got back to college. But when getting there to play basketball, everyone was acting strange with me. I’m kinda skinny, well I’m way too skinny (I weigh 88 pounds) and they were guarding me with everything they had. I did not understand why, but I quit and went home. The other day, I called my friend F and asked him if he told something to them and he said no, I did not say anything, and then went away. After that, I started asking myself what happened, which messes you up when everyone refuses to talk to you. So, I stopped going to college for a month and when I came back to college, everyone in the college was looking at me with disdain. A lot of them would look away when they saw me. I did not notice until I got to the classroom. When getting there, I chose my place and sat.
So, in this class, there is this girl (I’ll call her C). You know, from when I started college, I ain’t going to lie, she was my first passion. I used to go and wait for her bus to come and take her home and all of that, so she would not go alone at night. But then came the pandemic and we did not talk anymore (mainly my fault). So, coming back to the classroom, she got up and then looked at me. I would not say disgust, but like kinda mad at me, but I did not understand at the time. So, I asked this friend for his water bottle because I forgot mine and when I got up to go to the drinking fountain, he said you can right there, do not need to go anywhere. I did not understand what he was saying but did not give a damn because he is a really good friend, he kinda helped me. And then she got up again. I, knowing her, knew she was trying to tell me something but did not know what. Then this friend (I’ll call him P) asked me to tell the professor why I did not come to his class for almost a month and I said okay and went to talk to him. I said, while everyone was listening, that I did not come because somethings were happening in my life and then he said it’s okay. I went back to my place and at the end of the class, I went out to the bathroom and when I came back, my things were on the ground, which I did not notice why at all. And then this guy came to me and asked if those things that were on the ground were mine. I was making a group with this girl since when the professor asked if someone wanted to make groups with me, they all said no. The professor even asked like that “Why? You guys don’t like him?” I did not understand why as well and just laughed. So, this girl that was making a group with me, when I came back from the bathroom, asked me to take photos of the papers. I said that it did not need to and then she insisted and I said okay and took the photo. When I got home, I was looking at the photos of the papers and I saw a photo I did not remember taking. It was the legs of someone which I assumed took my cellphone and took it. I kinda went into my head thinking what caused this issue. And then I remembered something I told F a while ago because he knew about this girl from the past. So, one day I was in the classroom with She also got up and went to fill her water bottle. I asked her to fill mine as well, but when doing that, I kind of got up and she thought I would go with her, but I did not. :( When she came back, she sat at her chair and lied down, which made me feel bad because I like her. She did not come the next week and the next, she was sitting behind me. She had her bottle on the chair and then I asked her, ‘Can I take your bottle?’ She said, ‘For what?’ I took it anyways and filled her bottle, came back to class, and gave it to her. She said thank you and I told F about this situation, which I thought was the reason.
Then, the other day in the classroom, I came back because there was a misunderstanding and she did not come. I thought she did not want to talk to me and I did not come for the next 2 weeks. Then, I came back on test day and like always, I sit at the same place in the classroom and she knows that, so she sat close to me on the day, which made me happy. Her friends would come every so often and pretend like they would kick my backpack. She got angry at them, looked at them, and they stopped. Then, after that day, I do not know what she said, but everyone treated me normally with no issues and I could come back to college.
So, until here, I have a clue or other about what happened, but I still needed to know who would say something like this to mess me up. Then, I remembered Y because every time something would happen, he would post something on Instagram. When I came back to play basketball in my city, everyone was treating me like crap and then everyone was saying to me that Y was my rival. I did not care that much, I thought they were joking. Then, one of his friends asked if he could sleep in the republic with my mattress and I said, ‘Yes, you can.’ Days later, Y on the group chat asked this friend of his if things went all right and then he responded saying, ‘Yes, everything went all right.’ (He probably slept with S on my mattress.) So, I started asking why he would be so mad at me and something came to my head.
So, Y’s father died of cancer and one day, F and I were at his house. When we were getting out, F looked away and passed this door without looking. Then, I came behind him, looked at the room, and it was Y’s father. He could not talk because his cancer was on his tongue. I looked at him and gave him a thumbs up and he did the same to me. Then, out of his house, I asked F why he would look away in that situation and he said to me, ‘I can’t even look because I pity him.’ Then, I said I would not pity him because I would not like people to pity me. But what F said to him was something different and he believed it. Then, he started threatening, not directly of course, and saying things to all the city like I used to have this friend when growing up and he went to jail because he killed somebody. I told this thing that happened to my friend F that when we were young, 10 years old to be more exact, he kissed a girl I used to like and then I went home and started crying. I said that, but if I remember, in that house, the room where S stays, she can hear us and she probably told Y.
Then, I went to my friend who killed someone’s house (his mom sells food, I buy there since I was a kid). After getting there, I bought my food and when going home, his brother and his friend got up on a motorcycle and passed very close to me as if they were telling me something. I did not understand why as well, but after some time, I understood. So, he is probably not stopped until I’m dead or he kills me and since everyone believes him, I can’t do anything. So, I ask, what can I do in this situation?"

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I am 25F and currently pregnant (my first baby, so lots of anxiety about it for us both). My fiancé is 30 years old, male.
My fiancé bought us a house and we currently live in it. It’s in a rural area which means lots of privacy and distance from neighbors. We only have one neighbor really.. everyone else is far. This neighbor isn’t very close but he’s the closest one and the only one we’ve talked to. He is in his early 40s and has a younger wife around my husband’s age. He does not have kids but he has big dogs.
Since we recently bought this place we were waiting for spring and nicer weather to do some renovations outside. This includes perimeter fencing since there’s obviously some ways the big dogs keep getting into our property.
Which brings me to the issue. The dogs. I have a fear of dogs. I love dogs and animals but I got bitten by a dog when I was a kid and so I’m wary of them, even if they’re cute. I need to take my time and softly approach them. I’m cautious in my interactions. Dogs off leash unnerve me. It doesn’t mean I don’t love dogs. One of the reasons we moved here is so we can have one of our own.
Twice already the dogs scared me while I was outside on my property. I complained to my fiancé and he talked with the neighbor. Then it happened again..
My fiancé wasn’t home. The dogs ran at me. The neighbor was attempting to recall but they didn’t listen to him. I thought the dogs were going to jump on me. I was so scared I couldn’t even move my body. The dogs barrelled at me but didn’t attack me or anything. One ran past me.. so close like he was going to slam into me but he didn’t and then he just kind of circled me and started sniffing me and seemed friendly. I calmed down a bit. My neighbor apologized and I was so shocked I just kind of breathlessly went with his apology.
The same day I told my fiancé and he was very mad (since he had talked to the neighbor about it in the past).
And that same night the dogs were in our yard yet again. They set off the motion detector lights in the back and I told my fiancé I see them. My fiancé went outside and fired his gun (warning shot, not at them)
I didn’t hear the full conversation because my fiancé wasn’t talking loudly, I could only hear the neighbor who ran over yelling at my fiancé. My fiancé said he basically gave him a warning/made a bit of a threat because the neighbor hasn’t taken the issue seriously.
The neighbor retaliated by making a police report about it. The police came and talked to us, mostly my fiancé .. but nothing happened. They checked firearms registration and stuff.
Was this an AH move? I’m feeling uncomfortable because now the neighbor has a vendetta against us. When I went for a walk, (I have to pass by his house to get onto the trail), he kept staring at me. I could feel his stare, and then he made a rude remark about how I should be careful because coyotes will eat me in there (the trail) since my bodyguard isn’t around to protect me. And if I see a deer it isn’t really a deer. Whatever that means. Basically he is super sour about the warning shot.
I feel like my fiancé scared him that night because maybe in that moment he thought one of his dogs got shot. The dogs are like his kids. I feel bad. And I hate the hostility and animosity in the air. I’m very emotional lately lol so it could also be that.
I didn’t say anything to my neighbor’s comment, I pretended I couldn’t hear with my earphones in.
TLDR— my neighbor’s 2 big dogs keep coming into our property. I’m pregnant and I’m scared of dogs. My fiancé talked to the neighbor about it but it kept happening so one night my fiancé fired a warning shot with his gun and the neighbor got upset. My fiancé made a threat to the neighbor during this interaction and the neighbor made a police report. Neighbor hates us now. I feel like my fiancé started a neighbor war.

I went to HITC day 1 (5/11) and was in the vip section. I was with my friends in the middle of the crowd towards the front during Wave to Earth’s performance. But I had to use the bathroom so I squeezed my way out and saw this really cute Asian guy who was wearing a race car bomber jacket and had one earring on. I wanted to ask for his ig or something but I really had to use the bathroom so I left and came back hoping I’d see him again. I actually did since he was standing in the same spot with a drink in his hand. It was hard to go up to him with the crowd pushing us. I was also scared to ask with all these people around us. He and his friends then moved away so I kind of gave up and called my friend so I can go back to where we were standing. I did film his face a little before aggressively pushing my way towards the front…I wanted to show my friends this guy that looks a little like Lin Yi and Cai XuKun (I’m sorry but he was just really good looking 😭). I was also scared that he might say no to me in front of so many people. So I left thinking maybe I can ask him later. But after Gidle performed, everyone left so fast and I couldn’t find him anymore. I’m regretting it so much now for not asking him when I had the chance to :(

There's this cute girl (18F)in my(19M) PE class at college who I noticed has tried to have more contact with me for the last few meetings. We are also at end of our semester (1 meeting left). The signs are as follows: -often tries to get close to me whenever in a crowd - bumps into me a lot -Often asks me questions -tries to make me laugh at her jokes -laughs at my stupid ahh jokes -often accompanies me to tasks. Such as when I was tasked to get a basket alone from the equipments room she would say "I can help you with that" then we'd go together.
Do you think she likes me? I kinda find her cute so I wish she does haha

There's this cute girl in my PE class at college who I noticed has tried to have more contact with me for the last few meetings. We are also at end of our semester (1 meeting left). The signs are as follows: -often tries to get close to me whenever in a crowd - bumps into me a lot -Often asks me questions -tries to make me laugh at her jokes -laughs at my stupid ahh jokes -often accompanies me to tasks. Such as when I was tasked to get a basket alone from the equipments room she would say "I can help you with that" then we'd go together.
Do you think she likes me? I kinda find her cute so I wish she does haha

I've been streaming as a Vtuber for nearly 4 years now. I'm not really that big, only just hit 1K at the end of last year, and very very slowly gaining followers. Ever since I wanted to start vtubing, I had actually always wanted a 'smol' vtuber model, or what some people describe as 'loli'. Not for any weird or sexual reasons, but because I always love small and cute characters. I never did it though because back then (and I guess still now), people are still very accusatory of those that have loli vtuber models, even if they aren't even sexual in any nature.
I have been thinking of saving up, and have talked to an artist I've gotten a lot of design from to help make me my smol model design I've wanted for so long, and want to save up to make it a reality in the future, maybe even as my new perm model. Thing is, even though I'm more assured of myself, I still feel hesitant about it because logically, the only opinions that would matter are that of my community and my friends, who have known me for so long. I'm still scared of what the community will say or do if I make the change, and I just want to have a model that i feel more comfortable with, as I've always given off a 'little sister gremlin' vibe by others, and I want to finally embrace what I have wanted to be since the beginning.
Is it bad to still worry or be scared about what the general public, and those that know me, will think about me changing? Will people think I'm just clout chasing or something, even though they don't know me as a person? It's always a worry, in the back of my mind, but I just want to have fun and be happy in a form I've always dreamed of and wanted to be.
TLDR: Been vtubing for 4 years, didn't do a loli model like wanted due to potential backlash from community back in 2020. Now getting a design to start, but still worried; would like advice or opinions about the step taking.

Author’s note : Everything’s free to use and monetize or paywall as you wish, just remember to credit me please. As I’m not a native English speaker, you can feel free to make slight changes to make it better, as long as it doesn’t change the whole story of course.
Summary, listener’s perspective : Your partner went grocery shopping a long time ago and you’re calling them to check up on them. Apparently a lot of things happened and stressed them a little too much, but they got help and they’ll finish it to prove to you they can handle it.
[ ] = stage directions
** = sound effects
[The speaker is at the supermarket wandering around, feel free to put crowd sounds, riding the cart etc… through all the script]
*Phone ringing\*
Uhm… Hello? Who is this?
You should be mistaken, I don’t have a girlfriend.
Yes. That’s my name. How… Oh. Wait. Did I… ?
Ah fuck…
Yes, we’re fine Ma’am. Don’t sound so worried.
I understand but…
Ma’am…
Oh! Shut up for a minute!
Too many questions. So, I don’t know. I guess we’re shopping since I have a cart in front of me and we seem to be… In a supermarket..
Yeah, so why are you asking if you already know we were supposed to go grocery shopping!
Whatever… No, I don’t know which one… They’re all the same honestly… Let me walk around to see if I can identify something…
[Speaker is walking around for a few second without saying anything]
…
[Speaker is stopping, they tone changed]
Hello?
Hi baby!! How are you doing? Why are you calling? Or did I call you?
Oh you did? Why?
Yes, it’s me. What’s wrong?
Oh… Really?
I’m sorry. But it’s fine, I promise.
I know baby but…
Why do you want to come? I can do this!
No I mean alone! I prepared a list and all, I can’t forget anything!
Uhm… wait.. Let me search for it…
[Speaker is searching in their bag]
Where did I put it…
Damn..
[Speaker is getting quieter]
…
[Back to the first tone of voice]
Ok. Ma’am. I don’t know where we are, really.. But it’ll be fine. We’re just going to finish this and go back home.
A list? Yes, I have one in my hand, it’s alright, please calm down.
I know, I can sense them around, they’re not far. It’s alright.
Oh god…
Ok… Toilet paper… Sexy…
Where is that…
[Speaker is walking again, searching for the stuff on the list]
Uhm… Ok, there we are… That’s done and then some soap…
Well, I’m staying with you on the phone because you seem completely panicked. So I’m showing you we got this.
Look… I don’t know what exactly happened that triggered it… But we’re alone in a big space full of strangers. Doing something important. I’m guessing that it’s a lot of stress for them and they needed me… It’ll be alright though.
Yeah, of course they’ll tell you they can do it. I’m sure they believe they can. And I’m sure they wanted to impress you and make you proud. But sometimes it’s fine to ask for help too.
Not like that! You don’t have to come, I’m here now. I got this. You don’t even know where we are. And you’re not going to come with your car. Have you not seen the price for gas?
I might not be around often but I keep an eye on the news.
Why do we need so many strawberries?
Uhm… I’m taking bananas too, I like that better.
[Speaker is getting quiet again, just walking]
…
[Change of tone, back to the partner one]
Baby? Are you here?
Yes, it’s me, I’m back. How did the cart fill itself?
Who?
Ohhh… But.. I could have.. I can do it!
I… There was this lady… She was searching for something and asked me. I didn’t know… I don’t know this place very well…
I don’t know why I didn’t go to the usual place!
Oh wait… They were out of gas! To put on the car. Did you see the price now?!
Oh… ok…
They might have seen it then… Yeah… I guess.. It was stressful because I didn’t know what to do. Where to go.. To get it.
Oh. I continued driving for a while… Because I… kinda froze. And I couldn’t park to look with the gps where to go… Well.. I could have! But.. Brain was silly and I couldn’t do it..
After a while I saw a sign for another supermarket and I followed it. I guess that’s where I am now.
What’s that noise?
Baby! It’s alright! You don’t have to come! I can do it! Especially if I’m not alone anymore. I mean.. I have help, we’ll do this!
I swear! There are not many more things on the list anyway. We can do this!
Wait… Why are there bananas here? I don’t like them. I’m going to put it back.
[Speaker is walking back to the fruits to put the bananas back!]
Alright. That’s done. So what’s left?
Some juices… It's on the other way. What else? Eggs, butter…
Ok! Let’s go!
It should be around here… Yes, got it! Then… That shouldn’t be far…
[Speaker is switching again]
…
Uhm… What the hell… Why am I here… What’s on the list? Eggs… How many… Hey! Ma’am? Still here?
Good, how many eggs do you want?
Alright, I got them.. What’s left? Juices… It’s on the other side… Wait! Where are my bananas!
I don’t care if they don’t like them! I do! I front sometimes! I can have things I like too! That’s not cool to only think of themselves!
I mean… That’s a fair point… But… I can’t know when I’ll be here! I’m here now.. And I want bananas…
What if I just took 1 or 2? Not too much, won’t be expensive!
Thank you, you’re kind. Crazy. But kind.
Have you not seen how you reacted earlier?! You *are* crazy!
I told you we’re fine. I bet they told you too. Have a little faith in us.
Yeah yeah… I understand… But honestly, we’ll tell you if it was that bad. We’re handling it quite well so far. Yes, a moment was overwhelming. And I had to come. But now we’re doing well.
Oh by the way! How do we pay? By card?
Do you know the code? In case that’s me in front when we’re at the checkout…
Alright, noted.
No not really, like in my head.
Really girl… I can memorize 4 digits!
Alright, alright… Give me a minute..
[Searching in the bag to get a pen and a piece of paper]
…
[Back to the partner tone]
I’m listening…
Uhm…. Baby, I know the code of my own card… Why do you want me to write it down?
Oh… Well, I just have the juices to get now. I think it’ll be fine.
Yeah… I’ll write it down anyway, just in case. I’m putting it on my right pocket, ok? You’ll tell them if they’re here and search for it?
Thank you baby. And…. I’m sorry about this… I wanted to do this…
I don’t know… To prove I’m capable..
I know. I am but it was just… A little too much I guess… I don’t think it would have happened if I could have gone to our usual place…
It’s alright though! I’ve got the juices! I have everything now. I’m going to the checkout and I’m coming home.
I’ll have to hang up while I’m paying.
Yes, I’ll call you back right after.
I promise. You’re the one who will call me if I don’t anyway!
Yeah, if you have to that means it’s probably not me on the other end…
But I’m not far away, baby, I’m not leaving. It was just too much for one time…
Oh yes, I’d love that! Thank you!
Yes yes! I’ll hurry up!
Love you too baby!

Last week my girlfriend and I made a plan for this coming weekend, I asked her which day works for her and she said "hmmmmmmm....Saturday?" So I said "okay great"
Now skip forward a few days further and we had the usual hot and cold behaviour, I gave her space and yesterday she came back with all kinds of cute texts and so I reciprocated and eventually she said goodnight and conversation ended.
This morning I wake up to a text saying "maybe ill show you this weekend :p did we say Friday or Saturday and can it please be Friday?"
I'm 99.9% sure she knows we said Saturday.
I have flip flopped on this exact issue before several times because she has asked ahead of time and usually in a more respectful manner....yet I have also been quite forceful about which day we will be seeing eachother too at times.
I am very tempted to say "no let's stick to Saturday"
As I am actually a bit annoyed that she obviously wants to go do something else with other people and thinks she can just shift plans with me instead. I just don't want to appear controlling or needy either...
I think even if I resolve the issue, it just feels disrespectful that she is even asking.... what do you guys think?