So, English is not my first language even though I had studied it for years now, so, any grammatical error, please be excused. I also want to point out a few things up, this story is LONG, as it says on the title, we’ve been together for almost a decade, so there’s a lot of things to patch up, also, I’m not trying to paint him as the bad guy nor myself as the good guy, just trying to let it all out because there’s some details I cannot say to everyone I know, so it’s better for me to just talk about it with internet strangers, also, I don’t know if this place has a limit of characters, so if it has, it’s going to be some parts long.
So, to start this, I (27 F), broke things with my bf (26 M) Alan (Not his real name) after we’ve been together for little less than a decade because I was just so fed up with everything we lived together, not having the strength to even try and give this another go as he wanted us to. A year before meeting him on my last school year I was s*xually Ass*ulted by a man that I met on a park where I used to go dancing, not only that, but he made me believe that I was okay with what happened (I was sixteen and he was 21, here the age of consent is not until the 18th mark), he made me believed that I liked it, and made me believe that no one would ever believe me if I ever decided to report it, so I didn’t, but obviously it got me a pretty bad scar.
I met Alan one year later, his friend group was friends with my friend group, so in school we kinda merged together and he was a good guy, a great guy even, he always had something nice to say about me and he never blamed me for being scared of a group of people so anytime I wanted to buy something on the school market, he did it for me until he tried to make me come across my fear and was just behind me as I was approaching the big group gather on the market trying to make me feel confident enough to buy things by myself, after that we became closer and closer until one day I went with my friend group to recess with his friend group, but he wasn’t there, I asked one of his friends and he told me that he wasn’t feeling right and was still on the classroom, so off I went and looked up for him, we talked for a while and then he thank me for listening to him and not bug him with the “guys don’t cry”, that made us even more close to eachother and we started something, not a relationship, but a situationship from mid July to late November, when I graduated from school (He had one more year to go), on my celebration date, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes, I made him meet my family shortly after and I met his.
He was a part-time gamer, and the first straw was that he believed that I would made him choose between his games or me, but no, I didn’t, even so, I asked him to teach me how to play so we could play together, I was not good, at all, but I was just glad to be on his hobbies, little did I know that would be one of the reasons I broke things off. We had fights and arguments because he was a competitive type of guy on this online games and, because I was bad at them, we usually lost games because of me, it took us a lot of work to find a solution, he had to put down some bars, because it was not healthy, also the first “or else” that he made me aware of, was when I told him that I needed him to express his emotions to me, but he took it as “Show emotions or I’m leaving you” which wasn’t the case, but worked up just fine.
Some years passed and… You remember what I told you about the year before meeting Alan? Well, we couldn’t get intimate in that way and I had to sit him and explained what happened, he was supportive and we didn’t do it after our four year mark, but again, he wasn’t as supportive as I recall, he usually push over it and only stopped moments before I got a flashback of what happened. But that one time that we did it, I remember it well, I started crying out of emotion because I finally overcame my fear, but after we finished, he stood up, we cleaned ourselves and he made me get ready because he didn’t want to be late to a friend’s birthday. Speaking of intimacy, he had a really big drive and I didn’t, but every time I tried to say “no”, he got all frustrated so I started initiating moments after I saw him like that so I could brush that feeling off of him, our intimacy was like that until just months before our breakup.
Now into another thing, I have always work, even when I was still at school, I’ve always worked to get my things, I’m not good at saving money, but I work my butt off, so when he started to gain interest on a particular expensive game, we usually used his mother credit card and the one paying it was me, he said that when he worked he bought things for us, but… This is the thing about it… He only worked 5-6 months in all of our relationship, sure, he went with his father some times to do some work, but he didn’t even saw that money because it went directly to a gaming console for himself, so in years that we’ve been together, he worked 5-6 months and the rest was payed from myself and he still took his time working as a sort of argument against me.
Now, one time, when I was on the university, a random classmate just suddenly kissed me and I was in shock, so in shock that I didn’t kissed him back, nor could I stop him, but when he went for a second one, I backed out and I went to my boyfriend crying because I thought I was cheating on him because someone kissed me and I explained every detail to him, but the guy dropped off from college, so I never saw him again and then, another day, I was in the subway and encounter my ex boyfriend while he was, actually, coming back home after his own studies, I ignored him for the most part, but he actually asked politely to let him talk to me, so we went to a public park and he actually just wanted to say sorry because he cheated on me with his ex girlfriend while he was with me, we didn’t do anything besides me listening to him and giving him the closure he was searching for, we did not stay in contact, I just said to him that it was not something that I keep on mind to this day, but if it made him feel better, I would accept his apology and then we parted ways, everything I did and said I made my boyfriend aware of and he was such in a panic that one of his friends actually went to his house and they talked shit about me because I dared to let my ex ask for my forgiveness. Those are the only two time that I recall I made him feel insecure, two times and that’s it and he wasn’t letting any of those things go any time we got into an argument.
I remember one time we actually parted ways for some days and I kissed a girl, a girl that I have liked for a very long time and only then I figured that she actually liked me back, but I was stupid enough to not go for her, and wait for this guy for us to get back together and I actually told him everything, I know I shouldn’t do it, because it would only made him feel like on the edge, but by that time I felt like it was better to come clean about everything, he knew everything about me, it was only fair that I keep it like that. But then he got jealous everything I said I was talking to her in a friendly way (he never was banned from looking into my phone) and now I understand that his jealousy was not that unfounded, because I kissed this girl while we were separated.
There was numerous times when I wanted to break things with him, but he always managed to made me come back to him, one time we were walking on the sidewalk and I told him how I felt and that I was thinking about breaking up, he got on the ground, took a piece of glass and tried to h*rm himself, but I stopped him and we never talked about it again. Another time I was home, not at work because I was injured and we had a phone fight, not breaking up, but making it subtle, then a couple hours after that I received another phone call from an Unknown number, telling me that he almost threw himself on the subway and, Injured as I was, I went to get him and Uber us to his home.
I had to make two limits for him, I didn’t want him to call me before checking if it was possible for me to talk on the phone, unless it was an emergency, of course. And that I didn’t want him to go to my home unannounced, because he did it too much and he did not respect those boundaries until there was yet another conversation about breaking up and just then, he stopped doing it. He also lied to me one time when he went to the bus stop at freaking 7 am with the excuse of “I just wanted to get some air” and the proceeded to talk to me all the way about his problems and follow me to my workplace, and then he had the audacity to get mad when I told him I couldn’t stay longer because I had to get to work, just when we finally broke off he came clean that he was, obviously, trying to get a hold of me and not “Trying to get some air” as he tried to make me believe. I even started to go to my destinations by other means because I was afraid I would encounter him in every corner that I usually go to.
One of my college friends started a relationship with one of his friends and now that we broke things off, neither of them talk to me, so I am not sure what sort of fairytale he told them in which, he obviously was not in the wrong at all.
I am not asking if I was the AH here, nor asking if I should talk to him again, I am pretty confident That I shouldn’t, I just wanted to vent, thanks for anyone who would read this loooooong story. Cheers.

So my ex girlfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago. basically right after new years, the reason behind the break up was her depression. We were together for only roughly 3 months but we were really good friends about 1.5 - 2 years prior. After I asked her out we were really happy and then she suddenly fell into a pit and we ended up breaking up. We ended it on good Terms of course and stayed friends.
(to mention is that she is taking antidepressants now and is definitely doing better than before)
For a few months now we text or call on a daily base and she always tells me about her day and sends me cute outfit selfies when she goes to a concert or stuff like that. I recently asked her about our current situation and that it is for BOTH of us very unclear and complicated and that I would like to talk with her about it. She told me that she needs to be happy and needs time to focus on her own first before we try or not try again.
I dont really know how I should feel about this because I kinda feel fooled or something like that. ( i dont know any other word since im not native english lol) when we meet with friends we are always sitting or laying besides each other and almost cuddling together.
I really want to be with her again but I also have the feeling that she will definitely find someone else in this time and that she just wants to stay friends with me then. But I dont think that I could handle that. I know i should or need to accept it if its happening but I dont know.
she threats me like her boyfriend but at the same time she tells me she needs time to focus on her self.

Sorry for grammar, I’m just really mad. And English is not my first language.
Before I will start my melt down, I want to say that the art was tasty, kudos to Rachel, every panel was a chef kiss.
I want to go full Chris Hansen on RS and tell her “Take a seat”. Why would she even give Apollo the right to say something during Persephone's monologue?
I’m so mad that she was so EASY on punishment for men when THEY are the main reason for the whole sh_t show that is happening. I’m not saying it in a way that “all men are bad”, their negative traits and actions were an allegory for main traits of toxic masculinity (abuse of “inferior”, misogyny, competitiveness even among family members, glorifying of power). This is why I liked Hades in the beginning, he was all that. Persephone was acting (as a character) as antipode to him when there was some building up for his growth. But then Persephone turned into Hades’s sugar baby, because it’s easier to move on with a story when you don’t have to work on difficult aspects of your character.
Hades was at the same level with Apollo in the beginning of the story. The only difference? Hades was hiding his negative traits under power and wealth, playing into the gentlemen thing. And only because of age, because he has more instruments to hide it than Apollo.
Well, Hades didn’t change at all. After all. Only became gentle and started opening about his feelings, but, that’s all.
About other “villains”. I hate that both Cronus and Apollo were depicted as scared and sorry at the end. I will explain why. When villains are depicted remorseful of their actions, it means that there was some part of them that was right at some point. Like you know, Magneto, for example. A genocide survivor who was driven to kill many people himself, but was stopped. At some point of his journey, he took a wrong turn. That’s why his remorse make’s sense. Cronus and Apollo, on the other hand, are just two negative and dangerous aspects of toxic masculinity, who took embodiment in God form (in comics). They were dehumanized and depicted as pure evil. Why do we give them very human reactions when they have nothing good in them that can make them sorry?
Now, to resolution of the conflict with Apollo. Pepe, honey, take a seat. Persephone had much more intense dialogues with innocent women. One of them was turned into a plant. Because Pepe got mad. Can you feel me? At first, I was thinking that maybe I’m thinking too much, but RS is REALLY forgiving to men who did the most evil things in the story, one got his cheeks clapped and was dissolved AND FORGIVEN, the other got silent treatment and a panic attack. She could at least turn him into a plant or a tree as a reference for Daphne, but no, MF sobbed a little and fell on his knees.
When he was answering her, I wanted to cry. I still feel like crying. It’s so wrong. There was no rage. There was only a panic attack and MF got dialogue options like in an angst novel or something. You know, when one really f_up, but they still love MC, and they really care that they f_up? It’s a toxic writing but, still… She did nothing to punish him, she did nothing to reclaim her “power”. She just shushed him and said, “go tell others what you have done”.
I hate that RS gave Apollo dialog. Because for the first time, Persephone had all right to suppress him with power, but he still got a say.
RS builds this absolutely horrifying characters, just to turn their boss fight into a few sobs and “sorry”. Cronus should have died without acknowledging that he was wrong. He was the embodiment of toxic masculinity, he should have been wiped as he was - a horrible man who wouldn’t let his delusions go even in the face of death. Apollo should have been tortured by Persephone, not given a panic attack and few sons. Why am I sound so bloodthirsty? Maybe because Persephone was threatening a girl with a knife? Maybe because she turned her boyfriend ex into a plant? For a very long time? Maybe because she’s capable of rage? So why she used said rage on innocent people while forgiving the one that turned her life into hell?

My boyfriend broke up with me these days and I feel devastated, it wasn't due to my rocd, but rather due to circumstances in our lives. I still love him very much and these days I was managing to deal well with Rocd to the point of realizing that I loved him more and more, despite my doubts. I wanted to form a group to talk to, and I managed to get over the breakup (I'm suffering a lot despite the fact that we're still friends).
Sorry for my English, I'm Brazilian and still studying the language.

Maybe I’m late to learn this, but I didn’t realize they had built a bit of a portfolio of voice acting.
I was watching Overlord english dub and got to season three with the party of side characters “Foresight.” The girl came in and I was like “dang that sounds like Lindsey. Pretty cool.” Then I listened to the leader and boyfriend’s voice and I was like “wow that also sounds like Michael. What a weird coincidence that the couple sounds like an RT couple. Weird how things like that happen.”
I then looked it up and was shocked. It’s actually just them. I didn’t realize Michael had been in shows like fairy tale, one piece, and Attack on Titan too. Lindsey didn’t have anything listed past Overlord and RWBY but still my perception was genuinely shaken.
Good for both of them!

Hi guys! Using a throw away because I think HD uses Reddit. For context, I'm an American au pair for a family in Germany with two kids, 7 and 4, and have been here since January. This'll be a bit of a long post, and I suppose I'm looking for an answer to this question: Should I see if the "grass is greener," so to speak?
I want to start this out by saying I know I am very spoiled when it comes to my HF and the privileges they afford me. This opportunity has been truly incredible. For objectivity, here are things my host family has provided:

• More monthly allowance than legally required
• A credit card to buy my own groceries, toiletries, and any other necessities I want
• A very flexible schedule
• Paid for my language class
• Allowed my family and friends to stay in our home when they came to visit me
• A room with a private bathroom and separate entrance
• Access to the home gym
• Paid for 1/3 of my plane ticket here

All of this I deeply appreciate and am sure not to take for granted. Now, here are my responsibilities:

• Prepare the children for school and kindergarten (wake them up, get them dressed, prepare breakfast, prepare lunch boxes, pack their bags) and bring the younger child to kindergarten
• Keep the kids' room tidy
• Wash the kids' laundry, then fold it and put it away
• Vacuum common areas
• Pick up the younger child from kindergarten
• Make snacks and provide entertainment until HM gets home
• Make dinner 1-2x per week (for the whole family)
• Prepare the children for bed (pajamas, bottle for younger child, read books)
• If a child is sick or has the day off from school, I am to keep them entertained all day

Per my contract, I should be working no more than six hours a day, but I often work more than that, especially if I do my housework while the children are away. I also have language class for three hours, three days per week, and try to balance my own social life and taking care of my own space in addition to my work responsibilities. I find that it has by no means been easy. Here are some of the difficulties I have faced:

• Working more hours than contracted, as aforementioned
• Tantrums. The younger child has them frequently and the older child has them occasionally. I have been hit, kicked, scratched, bit, and screamed at. It has improved a little since I arrived, but I still deal with them almost daily.
• The younger child is still not potty trained, and wears diapers.
• The older child lies to his parents about things I have done or said, like saying I allowed him to paint on the couch, watch TV, or have sweets. He also often ignores me.
• I am never given a schedule, so I mostly guess what needs to be done each day. HD has gotten angry with me on a few separate occasions because I have not completed something I was not asked to.
• HD is not engaged with his children and has a short fuse. He doesn't pay attention to his kids and often passes them off to HM or to me, even when I'm not working. He prefers to be on his phone or playing video games.
• HD has sworn at me and raised his voice out of anger. He has also implied that my job is not real work, and that it is easy.
• My needs have gone unmet on multiple occasions. For example, once I was reprimanded for wanting to be on time to my language class. On another occasion, my shower was not working and for two weeks I asked for it to be fixed, until I ended up fixing it myself (the door was broken).
• Homesickness– I miss my friends, my family, and my hometown a lot, and that has made dealing with these struggles a lot more difficult. This is embarrassing to admit, but I have been crying often.

My boyfriend lives nearby and there is a family that has offered to rematch with me. They offered all of the perks my current HF offers, for less work– my primary responsibility would be speaking English with their older child, who is 11. Of course, I enjoy the work and would still offer to take on more work, including cleaning and cooking. My boyfriend knows this family and says they are very sweet, respectful, and laidback. They also live close to him.
I'm nervous about the prospect of rematching, but I have to admit the offer is enticing. Should I take the risk and put in the time/effort rematching requires, or stick around with my current HF and hope things get better, even though they have not improved since I arrived? Has anyone been in a similar situation? I'd love words of encouragement and wisdom. Thanks!

I personally own an english pear & fresia and I love it so much! I’m thinking of getting a fragrance for my boyfriend as part of his graduation gift but not sure what scent I should look into getting for him. We’ve been to sephora together and he really liked the citrus scents. I think he liked one of the citrus scents (lime basil & mandarin in particular) but we’re thinking of getting a home diffuser in that scent, so I have to find another scent. I’m open to other brands too!

(I’ll brag a lot because it’s important in the story ^)/ english in not my 1st language
Background:
Hello! (Female)
So right now Im studying at the top engineering university in the world (computer science + engineering). I have a high self esteem, I understand that there are better people than me (different disciplines/ look/ money and stuff) at different stuff and all but I just know that Im great even tho Im not the best. I have a high/very high iq (I was tested 2x) + I was described as a person who is highly self conscious about herself and the world that we live in + straightforward (dont think its true tho hahs). I had a rough life - really (I made peace with it), Im from a small shitty place. I have a chronic pain. I dont have idols, I just respect people when I value them or their opinions. I rarely value people’s opinions due to poor argumentation. I dont follow people, or do things just because everybody does it.
Examples:
I switched to home schooling when I was 15 because I was not spending time at school efficient enought. My parents were agains so I had to convince them, then did psychology tests to prove Im capable.
I stopped eating meat when I was 14 - agains everybody again. The reason: moral values that I had at the time.
I was part of various associations that I researched from political sides to environmental and related to computer science.
I was organising protests at the camps I attended because people wanted me to sacrifice my independence.
I have high level of understanding social rules and I dont respect them sometimes since I just dont care but I know how people feel about it hahs. I know when people are sad, what to do when they are upset about something. I know how they feel when they look at me (most of the time). Im quite pretty + funny + I care about people a lot, not feelings but logical thinking tho - I dont want to waste my time on shallow friendships
I have quite a few friends right now (~5, they really like me (we spend usually 6-8h together)) and a boyfriend. My friends are quite weird (some of them)/ eccentric. I just hang out with them 1:1, since I find only deep conversation even interesting. They care about me: I mean; when Im sick they offer to bring me medicines, they make me food and we just hang out together.
Now; I have big problems with having deeper connections since I usually care more than anybody else. I dont enjoy life that much, I have some hobbies to add some flavour to it like: learning Chinese and weird different stuff.
E.g. with my boyfriend I dont really feel many hedonic emotions I just want to be committed because I chose him so I care. He says he also cares a lot but not to the point I do. I want him to care about me more than he cares about himself. He tries, when I tell him that. I just dont want to ask about it. And its like e.g. he offers me the last piece of chocolate but he doesnt mean it - you can sense it. Its not always what he is doing but how. He is not understanding me on a deeper lvl. And usually people just dont. And I know an example is bad, but there are others like: not being interested in my chronic disease, not helping me with this.
I dont know how I should feel that I care so much about it and if its even possible to find somebody who would care about me like this taking into account how rare high eq/ iq people are.

• I dont want to have a normal life, I want to have friends and a partner who is making my life different. Like: lets live in Indonesia 3 months and work for some cool company there, then lets start a dynasty. Maybe on Saturdays we speak only Chinese.

I’m just doing a lot of non conventional things, and I want to have people who propose some. Since right now they just join, sometimes. And I know I’ll meet some people like this by just living, but I lack the fact that they are not part of my life right now.
Im afraid that people like this barely exist, I dont know where to meet them. Im part of many associations; still hard, I feel like I dont belong.

Hey there! :3
I'm putting myself out there to find a potential boyfriend (age range 27-40ish). Doesn´t have to be in germany. I'm a loyal, introverted but energetic German girl who loves to draw and sing in her free-time. I can be shy and anxious ( I tend to overthink things a LOT lol) at times but once I´m comfortable with you I can be very bubbly :3
I´m ca 172 cm tall and normal/slim build (would like to exchange pictures once I´m comfortable) also wear glasses and have long pink/blonde hair, green eyes, pale skin. My friend would say I´m conventionally attractive (Though i´ts weird to write it cause it feels arrogant lmao) Also good to know: I´m not a big fan of children, and dont want them either C:

What I like:

-Anime: My favourites would include: Ancient Magus Bride, Monster, Full-Metal Alchemist Brotherhood etc.
-Vocaloid: I like deco*27, Maretu & circus-P and more~
My favorite songs are changing all the time but here are examples:

• Better off worse - circus P,
• Iyaiyayo - Maretu,
• Otome dissection - Deco\27*

But I also listen to other music (Like English covers of vocaloid songs) and my favorite band is mother mother (Little pistol is my fave song)
-Everything kawaii: Cinnamoroll is my fave! And I also dress cute and feminine & my room is a colourful "wonderland" :D
My favorite colours would be everything pastel, but mostly light pink.
-Games: Of course I also play sometimes. The games that I enjoyed the most were Sims 2 , Stardew Valley, Animal Crossing, OMORI & more <3
-Drawing: I love creating art, especially of my own Original Characters (That I can talk about for forever hehe)
-Singing: Is also one of my favorite hobbies <3 I try my best to cover the songs that I love, just for fun tho~
On a more personal note, I want to be upfront that I have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). This means I need more validation than most and can sometimes fear abandonment. It's important to me to find someone who is patient, understanding, and can make me feel secure and loved.
Big turnoff: smoking, drugs, and heavy alcohol use.
So If you:

• Are looking for something serious
• Share some of my interests
• Are kind and patient
• Are older than me

...then I'd love to chat! Feel free to send me a DM and tell me a bit about yourself.
-Bonus points if you have a beard! Love them owo
Also: How do you actually get to know people? XD It´s hard lol

Hello guys,
I want to share few incidents of my mom to me and understand what is happening but before that I will tell you a little bit of myself so you understand me!
I’m in my 20s and I was always the black sheep for speaking my truth and not choosing to agree with what I disagree. In my family (my parents divorced when I was 6) I was always the one who defended others (my loved ones especially my mom and older sister) even if that put me in danger (I will explain later what I mean with danger). — I was a good student but gave up in 2nd year of middle school out of depression and anxiety due to multiple family and personal reasons. At high school the first two years I was doing again better and I was great in Computer Science, Biology, Ancient Greek and English, but in the last year I was depressed again because my best friend left me for a toxic boyfriend (who later told me I was right) plus my already family issues so I graduated with poor grades (15/20, which in 0-10 rates would be 7,5). I didn’t go to any university, now i want too. — After that I left my life behind and for 3 years I didn’t really do things in my life because I got sick from severe psychosomatic disorder which led to have pains in every organ of my body without doctors be able to helping me, I became agoraphobic and isolated myself for 2 years, now thank God I can go to places. Nobody believed me. Now I’m trying to get back on my feet but fate challenges me. — As a woman I feel very bad for my mom because her life is a struggle but at the same time as a daughter I feel left in the cold and extremely depressed from her, and she doesn’t get it.
So here are few incidents with my mom to me:

1. Never believes in my dreams. She might express a good word when she feels like it and then she comes back to tell me that I can’t succeed and that my luck is bad and that the reason I was born was for bad reasons which have been in my subconscious mind now and I seem to attract bad life my whole life.
   
2. She doesn’t believe that anybody can like me romantically. If I tell her that “I sense that he likes me” she makes a disgusting face and says “you? U look like a kid. Nah” and if I tell her that “I don’t feel attractive” she says “you’re not, you have baby face you’re cute in ur own way, but it’s not attraction” and I’m like dude the way you explain it hurts.
   
3. If I don’t agree with her, I’m a loser or it means I want war with her when all I want is to express myself. I remember things she have done or said and tells me this never happened and it leads me to think that I’m losing my mind.
   
4. She doesn’t mind embarrassing me in front of the public even if I tell her “low your voice they are looking at us”, for example: She went to buy a phone once (she doesn’t treat herself either we are not well financially so this happens rarely) and she wanted an iPhone but there wasn’t available so a good Samsung one was available. I told her it’s not the same but if she really needs a new good phone that can endure in time she can take it. She did. Then blamed me for not being apple brand. Then I told her I will go to the bus to leave for work and that we will discuss it later. She came to the bus station where 20 people where tourists and non tourists, and she started yelling at me in front of everyone that I’m a bad daughter and that I don’t care for my mom which made me red out of shame. One of my colleagues was behind me drinking cofeee, I think she saw it all.
   
5. If I tell her that I don’t like something she does or that she crosses my boundaries, it means that I’m being a diva to her
   
6. She doesn’t mind making large noises when I’m sleeping. I think I have misophonia form this, I can’t stand noises when I’m trying to relax. I have told her about that that maybe it’s because of anxiety. She doesn’t care. My sleep is always interrupted it’s been years since I had a good sleep because of that. Most of the time I wake up with tachycardia because of the shock I get. And when I wake up angry she blames for sleeping. Blaming just works for her
   
7. If we disagree or I complain about something (not out loud) and we are on the streets walking she will walk in front alone and ignore my existence or act like I’m a zombie. Today we went out me her and my sister and I told my sister in front of her that I’m done of her behavior and that I’m already sad with my life and I can’t tolerate any more of this situation because I’m tired. She started saying that I’m a liar and two faced. Then my sister left, and we were walking home and she was walking alone and I told her “mom? Wait” to walk with her. She started acting like she can’t hear me and a man looked at me confused. I felt ashamed. Then she started running away from me like I was a criminal or something. Another guy looked at me like I was some type of monster who was chasing her. I felt so disgusting.
   
8. Everybody has their own relationship with god universe etc, right? And she has too, to her eyes her is the chosen one. But when I try to speak about my omens and the signs I receive she acts like I’m strange, if she is in a good mood she laughs but you can see in her face feeling weird.
   
9. When I’m with her I hate myself. I hate my voice. My face. Everything. I don’t know why but in her orneece I hate myself.
   
10. When I was younger I defended my mom to her family (her family sucks too) and my dad. This often resulted in them physically and emotionally abusing me because they hated a child telling them that they mistreated my mom. I told my mom about it years after. Her answer was “you didn’t do anything at all, you were supposed to do that, don’t act like a hero” yeah and you were supposed to make me feel safe lol
    
11. When we fight she often says “at least I like men” I have told her that I might be bi I’m not sure but like why u use that against me?
    
12. I feel embarrassed to talk for god to her even though she is a believer
    
13. She always says that she is my luck and that without her I’m luckless and that in general in my own I can’t make it
    
14. She doesn’t care about my health that much. She never believed me for my disorder even the neurologist told her “she is sick emotionally, she is sad and she is hurt and her body shows it without physical evidence which is challenging for her age, she is supposed to live life and now she is like this” my doctor also told me that “it’s like you have cancer but you don’t but you suffer like you do the only difference is that you’re not dying which to someone with cancer like this this would be a relief but you are alive” and my mom was like “yeah you’re mentally ill” no I’m sad. Sadness hurts like hell. After few years now she has some health issues and phychosomatic symptoms too. I try my best to give her advices and tell her from my experience and all she says is “shut up u don’t know anything” and I tell her “I suffered three years from it” and she simply ironically laughs. My sister started having psychosomatic symptoms too and I told her that you all have me, I didn’t have anyone and she feels like shit but idk.
    
15. She idolizes my sister and always says to the people that “my older daughter is something else, this one (me) is our problem”
    
16. If I isolate myself because of sadness she calls me sick and says that “I’m dark”
    
17. She says I’m violent , I’m not. She says I’m schizophrenic, I’m not. She says I might end up in jail. All these because my face looks like my dad. My dad has signs for all of these and she thinks I’m him. I want to do good to the world, I want to be married and have healthy kids. I want to be remembered for humanitiran spirit, I’m not like my dad and I’m not delulu, my dad is. Also both of my parents are victim mindsets, I don’t.
    
18. If I’m good with my sister she is angry and says “it’s 2 vs 1” for example if I say something and my sister agrees then we are plotting against her wtf. If we fighting then she tools my sisters side.
    
19. If I try to grow more and become more serious or mature to my opinions etc she cringes and says “why you act like an old lady?” Also she calls me a grandma and says “my soul is too old” and that “I’m boring” (nobody calls me a boring except her and tbh I know I’m not
    
20. She says I’m dependent to her and when I show signs that I want to leave she is like “no we are 3 women alone u can’t live on your own away from us” and when I stay she makes me regret for being born
    
21. She often says that my dad was right that he didn’t want me to be born and that I was really an accident she should have taken abortion
    
22. She judges everything I do even the smallest things
    
23. She curses me all the time. Telling me that I should suffer 10x than her for simply being me and that “even God is bored with me””
    
24. If she does a favor to me it will be mentioned to every fight and if I do to her it will be dismissed
    
25. She doesn’t even know my favourite colors
    
26. I’m always the burden and I’m the one who is being blamed for everything. If my sister gets sick, it’s my fault. If we missed the bus, its my fault. If the earth crushed with Jupiter it’s my fault.
    
27. I regret every goal I told her I want to accomplish
    
28. If someone played with me to her it means that my intelligence is low, not that my age comes with naivety.
    

So many more.. I even feel bad for telling my truth . I love her but I’m so done of her. I want healthy connections where I can be myself. Being with her feelings like eggshells.

Hello !!!
Sorry English is not my first language and I am writing this on my phone , hopefully I don't mix Italian and English while writing.
This story is from a few years back , One of my two best friend at the time was getting married, we were a group of 7/8 friends all our boyfriends were friends since middle school/ high school and played in bands together, this how we met each other.
One day we were over at my house and while there one of the girl, lets called her Maria started asking let to the future bride Anna (not her real name) about the wedding and said the all the girls in our group should be her bridesmaid, at the time I was the closest person to Anna, and I knew the she didn't want to have any bridesmaid, just a MO (me) and the groom would only have a BM.
Put on the spot she felt she couldn't say no , as she didn't wanted to upset any of the girl.
We went dress shopping al together with the bride, everyone was happy , seamed like the bridesmaid thing was turning out to be a pretty good choice.
I over the next few months help the bride with several aspect of the weeding and she was getting really excited as the day grew closer.
The weekend before the wedding I organised a bachelorette party for Anna , she didn't want anything fancy or complicated, she said that a dinner and some drink would make her happy, I followed her desire, we out for dinner at a very nice restaurant eat good food had a nice time, we agree that we would split between us girl the cost of the wine and anything that the bride will order and we will individually pay for our food, there were 12 of us at dinner we order 5 bottle of wine (90$ a bottle).
This is a high-end restaurant, so to make it simple and avoid any discussion there we agreed the I would pay for my meal and bride plus the wine and after I will divided the between us and will pay me back.( I payd almost 700 $) ,we leave all is good.
We god to a cocktail bar after, here is where started to go down hill very quickly.
Out of nowhere Maria started to talk with another girl let's call her Julia, about a music festival that we went to the month prior, Julia wan't at the festival but her fiance ( Julia was getting Married just a few months after)
Julia and Maria weren't particularly close the knew each other for about a year at that time ( Maria was the last to join our group,), Maria proceed to tell Julia that her boyfriend while at music festival sfiffed a (substance the we will be left unnamed) off another guy "appendix" , everyone heard keep in mind that three of the girl that were at the becelorette party were friends of the bride that we never met before and she said that so loud the even people at nearby tables heard her.
Julia just stand up and walked outside, I followed her try to cam her and also make her aware that the story wasn't true the guys while at the festival said that as joke while drunk, Maria heard overheard part of the story, and decide thought he was true.
Julia preferred to leave anyway and went home ( I absolutely understood her)
While I was walking back in the bride walk out crying said the Maria rouined her party, and made everyone uncomfortable, that she was mad and upset and she wanted to leave as well.
The night ended there, we all went home with a mix of anger and disappointment.
Fastfoward to the wedding day, we all bride included got ready at my house, the weeding was in park so there wasn't a place to get ready there and my home have plenty of space.
Maria spent the all time complaining that my dress was attracting to much attention and that was bigger and fancier than her. ( we all were dresses that were the same color each of us chose is own stile, she pick a satin floor lenght gown, , my have a tulle floor leght gown so it was more voluminous, Keep in mind that we all went dress shopping together so she saw my dress prior and didn't have problem with it)
During the photos after the ceremony she kept getting upset the when took photo I was put beside the best man , or we took some pictures me and BM with bride and groom., she went as far as complain to the photographer about it and said to him that was treating like a was the MO while I wasn't. The photographer said that he was doing was the braid and groom wanted and he wasn't hearing any complain from them.
She complain about My speech ( It was too long, and too personal made her look ridiculous because she didn't know the bride as much as me, me and the bride had been friend for 5 years at this point , she has been around for 10 months) She didn't like the she wasn't sitting by the bride, and many other things that I don't even remember.
After that our group kinda fall apart everything become a series of : if there is ....... i am not coming. Do you rally still talking to.... . I don't want see ........ ever again.
Me and the bride still friend to this day, not as close but still friends, I still very close with one other girl the was one of the bridesmaid , the other girl I very very rarely see them , and we are not close at all...
I forgot to say only ONE of the girls ever give me back the money the own me, I was out about 550 dollar at the end.

Edit: DO NOT message me a simple hi or hello, with no information about you, Put some effort in to your message like i have, come on. Day+Attempt#187
Hello everyone, Thank you for taking the time to read, I know its long, I know - I know. But its worth the read, Trust me. I appreciate you immensely.
Here's a bit about me,
My name is Jay, I live on the East coast of the US. I'm looking for love - like everyone else on here.., but you may not believe or even be doubtful that I've never had a GF before with me being 26, but its true. I'm simply just not willing to "be with" just anyone and I'm very picky. I want us to be a match, more than just have similar things in common.
One thing I have always been told is that I'm a "Real Catch, I'd be extremely lucky to have someone like you" - WELL THEN TAKE ME. I'M FREE. LOL.
About me:
Physically -
~I'm a semi-tall guy, around 5'10.
~I'm thin but muscular.
~I have dirty blonde/ brown hair.
~Changing colored eyes.
~A voice nice enough to melt all your safeguards and get right into your heart and weak spots.
~I do not have any tattoos or piercings. Though I would like to get some eventually.
If you'd like to see a picture of me just ask and I'll show you - IF I may see you as well, I simply just don't want a picture of me out there for anyone to see.
-If there's anything else you'd like to know just ask.
Otherwise -
~I do have 3 pet bunnies I would be more than happy to show you, they are extremely cute.
~I'm a very honest and down to earth guy.
~I'm very patient and easy going.
~I'm very curious and inquisitive. I will try to ask everything I can to learn all about you haha.
~I'm Very VERY Kind & Caring, I will probably ask how you are feeling a bajillion times a day, simply out of care for you.
~I can get pretty clingy, and will always want your attention and to be talking with you. If i have someone im interested in i wont want to talk to anyone else🤷‍♂️
~I'm very trustworthy - you can confide in me, and entrust your deepest secrets and I wont tell a soul.
~I'm a HUGE hopeless romantic, im old fashioned and will always try to impress you.
- I'm, a BIG softie even though I may look a smol bit intimidating, but I'd do just about anything to see you smile or laugh. And yes.., I do mean anything.
~I'm a big goof - I will get up to some silly shenanigans ALL the time, I will crack dumb jokes and send you memes and tik toks just to make you happy, even if its from across the room I'd wait to see your reaction lol.
~I'm extremely loyal, and would never even think of cheating.
~I will cook for you, and clean up too, even around the house, I'm very self productive and don't ask for much. Just don't forget to kiss the cook.
~I'd also love to just cuddle up and watch a movie or read a book together, anything to get us closer. Id try to take you out on dates whenever possible haha. I have a million SUPER romantic date ideas I have but have never had anyone interested enough in me to take out. Here's your chance ;)
~I will always want to share stuff I find interesting with you, and try to share every moment of every day with you. I'm not looking for someone who can only talk for a small amount of time, I want someone who's willing to put in all the effort I put into them back into me, it goes both ways. If I'm "with" someone you are my TOP priority nobody and nothing else would be. You would be the only person I'd truly want to talk to, so rest assured I would NEVER cheat, even more so because no one is interested in me - Hence why I'm here hahaha.
I'm sure there is more to me than this snippet but I cant think of more at the moment haha, so get to know me and find out more about me.
Some of my interests are: Engineering- I'm a nerd. I admit it. I love being technical and hands on, I love building things. All kinds of things, from furniture, machinery, and reverse engineering anything I find. I love learning how things work and trying to improve things.
Music - I prefer music with a very fast pace, or with some very meaningful lyrics I can relate to. I love to sing along to music and songs that have a deep meaning behind it I can sympathize with makes it all the better. Some bands I like are: Bad Omens, Beartooth, Demon Hunter, MIW, I9K - The list goes on. I'm a bit of a metalhead unfortunately.
TV Shows & Movies - I love watching shows, and I'd love to stream some shows and have some E-dates with you, to get to know you, or if you are close to me, maybe we could do it in person. Some shows I like or more of the Fantasy/Sci-Fi, Comedy, Action, stuff like: National Treasure, Halo, BattleBots, Rick and Morty, AHS, Anything Marvel or DC, The Witcher, Wednesday, The Sandman, The Magicians, The Umbrella Academy, ETC.
Gaming - Yes yes I know, Basic guy likes basic stuff. But gaming has been a thing for me since forever. I know most of you wont care or want to hear that, but I'll leave out the specifics on this part unless you are interested in that, MEGA Bonus points if you are.
Here's a lists of Cons to dating me-
~I'm not Ryan Reynolds. Disappointing, I know.
~I will fight you on what goes on pizza lol.
~I'm not rich.., Yet.
~I can't pronounce Worcestershire.
~I'm slightly forgetful, but with good reasoning.
~(Not really a con but- some might disagree) I still have ALL of my firsts, Do with that what you will c:
~I've got an endless pile of love and affection and no one to give it to! What a dilemma! Help me fix it?
Other than that I'll save the rest for a bit more of getting to know each other.
Here's a bit of what I'm looking in you:
~Preferably someone with lots of free time, and loves to chit chat. I'm seriously not interested in getting 1 message a day. Though I understand people get busy, I personally am not willing to try to learn about you and form something with 7 responses a week. Effort gets reciprocated and I appreciate the time you put in me.
~Physically: -I’m not personally attracted to anyone who’s “curvy/ chubby”, I apologize. Not a shallow thing, I just dont have the attraction chemical in my brain for that, I’m sorry. -If you’re shorter than me, thats a plus to me. -I love dimples, if you have those when you smile, bonus points 😊 - I’m not sure what else to put.., but as for nsfw wise find out😂
~I'm a sucker for a different accent other than American, and if you have an Posh English accent you have already won my heart.
~I'm also only really looking for someone within the ages of 18-35. I don't want anyone old enough to be my mom lol.
~I'd prefer (But not a must) people NOT on the other side of the world, as other time zones SUCK. I don't expect to find anyone who also has never had a boyfriend either, but that would be a real plus. I also don't mind a LDR, but I don't want that forever. But it gives us time to get to know each other.
But as for attributes I'm looking for in you:
~Someone who is above all else very very Loyal and would never cheat.
~Someone who is Honest, and will tell me the truth over a little white lie.
~Someone who is Kind & Caring, who'd constantly check on me, and accept me for who I am & help me improve day to day.
~Someone who is trustworthy, and I can count on to keep my secrets safe, or even just help me remember things.., I do tend to be somewhat forgetful.
~Someone who is very Patient and wants to see me succeed and will help me do so, just like I would help you. Even if its small day to day things, I would appreciate your company ANY time.
~I want a partner who is Affectionate, can reciprocate, and loves to snuggle and talk about their day, and what their interests are, and what makes them happy.
~Someone who can admit they get clingy or overprotective is a bonus.
~A partner with good communication is key, if something wrong we have to be able to talk about it.
~A partner who likes to game with me or at least watch me play would be a plus but not a requirement.
~Someone with a good sense of humor and like to joke around, I am a big goof after all and I love to joke around. Sending memes is always appreciated and good to cheer people up too!
~I'd prefer someone with the same music taste, but not a requirement, Plus if you wouldn't mind if I send you love songs occasionally that's a bonus, or sending me some back haha.
~Being willing to voice call is a must, Texting forever is not the way to go. I have to know what your voice is like haha, later on we can video call if you are comfortable with that. I prefer chatting on Discord because Reddit messages of any kind I'm sure you know are unreliable and sucky in general. So please send me your discord if you have one :)
~I would LOVE to see picture of your pets if you have any. Bonus points if it includes your beautiful self haha.
I'm sure there is more I'm looking for but I cant think of it right now haha, I will have to edit this when I think of it.
Please tell me about you as an opener! I told you a good bit about me, now its your turn haha.
Tell me some things like -
~What's your name?
~Where are you from?
~How old are you?
~What are your hobbies / interests?
~What about my post interested you?
~Where is my TV Remote?!
~Selfie? Pet pics?
~Hit me with your best joke or meme :)
~What's your favorite candy?
I'd LOVE to get to know you, and see where things go.
But yeah, I know it was long I'm sorry haha. Send me a message and lets get to know each other! :)

I found photos of my boyfriend's dick in his photo trash, his excuse: he uploaded it to a Tumblr porn blog, should I believe him? Everything is confusing and I don't know if these photos cover up something else
MY English is not good sorry.
My partner was acting strange, distant and cold, he was hiding his phone and this alerted my instincts.
I know it was wrong and I'm not here to be judged, but because of his attitude I had to investigate on my own; I checked his phone and in the photo trash I found 2 photos of his package, he never sends photos of this type to me.
They were very explicit photos, I didn't know how to confront him and I didn't tell him I checked his phone, first I told him to be honest and tell me if he was seeing or texting with someone, his response was: no, I'm not doing anything wrong, then he offered to give me his phone to "confirm that he was not doing anything wrong", which make it worst because he told me this looking at my eyes and swearing he was not doing anything bad.
When I showed him the photos, he got very nervous, his explanation was that: he was bored, he took those photos and uploaded them to a Tumblr blog where people share their nudes.
I asked him to show me the blog in order to confirm that he did indeed upload them, he said that he had deleted the blog, which made me even more suspicious that it was an excuse and he was actually sending someone…
He had no way to prove he uploaded them, so my reaction was to suggest to end the relationship as soon as I said this he knelt down and apologized, he offered to attend psychological therapy and offered to do couples therapy, he said that he even wanted to formalize the relationship.
I think he said and did all this in order not to lose me, but even so, I did some research and Tumblr does not allow sexual photos of genitals (from what I know), anyway, if I uploaded them to reddit or Tumblr or another platform, what is the purpose of uploading their nudes? Maybe privately message someone? there are many questions

1. Does the blog exist? If so, he would have shown it to me but his excuse was "I deleted it." 2. the possibility of having sent someone (sexting) in one of those Tumblr, Reddit or dating apps, who knows.. 3.He has an exhibitionism fetish, even so, these are things that should be talked about between a couple.
   1. Why if it was a simple blog he offers to attend psychology therapy and couples therapy.

Is all confused, maybe is something more
I will never know what he was doing with the photos, but there are no good intentions.

So, while listening to a reddit-stories compilation about Karen's on YouTube I suddenly remembered that I myself have a story to tell you.
Some context is needed for people who do not live in Germany: you are supposed to be mindful about your noise levels after 22:00/11pm, no loud noises or music, no drilling and so on
Plus: I know this Karen for many many years, since I came to Germany with my family as a kid at the same time she did with her family, was even great friends with her son throughout kindergarten and elementary school. She usually is kind and friendly towards me, as I am to her (plus all that be respectful towards elders stuff in our culture), but she can be quite moody and rude sometimes when she has a so called "bad day"
Well, on to the story: as fate would have it, we always lived in near proximity to each other, now (and at the time this story happend) she lives right above me our the apartment complex (for the German speaking folk: Mehrfamilienhaus)
This story is happening in 2019 I and my ex boyfriend had our friends over, so it was two couples playing cards, drinking some wine and listening to music quietly, not disturbing anyone. But I and the others could clearly hear that she had some sort of family gathering with her noisy grandchildren over, loud music, bangs and really loud voices - especially when they went on their balcony to have a smoke.
I always try to keep the peace and wasn't about to go up and tell them to be more quiet, as we didn't care and had company over ourselves, so not about to be sleeping, plus it must have been a friday or saturday, I believe. So we went on to enjoy the company of our friends. Their family gathering/party went on and on, getting louder and louder and it was getting later an later. We went on to play board games and were quite (you have to take my word on this one, but I promise you, we were).
Then at circa 01:00/1 am I heard her sons and their families leave. They were, again, quite loud at the stairwells (German: Treppenhaus). But again we didn't mind and soon it quieted down. Mind you we are still quiet and played our boardgames as I hear the most aggressive and loudest knock on my door, my ex was questioning who would knock at such a time in such a manner, our friends had big eyes, never having experienced the joys of an apartment complex. So I went over, looked though the peephole and saw, you guessed right, the Karen.
I open the door, greet her and politely ask if there was a problem, only for Karen to shout at me in full volume how much of a disturbance we were, that the party I had in my home was to much for her and her husband who were now trying to sleep for hours (lol, sure). Sounding like I had some sort of X-Factor type of party in my apartment. Me wanting to keep the peace tell her we were only two couples playing boardgames, but we would still be even more quiet and apologise for disturbing her.
She, having a power trip of some sort tells me: "You and your 20 people in there better be! Because I am not shy to tell your parents how much of a rude party girl you are!! And then they hopefully will ground you for a month or better even more!"
Yes sure, let's call my parents obout their daughter in their 20s about a small get together she has. Ok Karen.
I wish I had something snarky to say in that moment, but sorry to disappoint you dear readers I hadn't. So, she went up and closes her door with a bang. And while I am closing this door after this bizarre encounter it clicked for me, she was in full makeup and in a bathrobe, with even her outfit for the evening underneath (everyone who wears makeup knows you would never go to sleep like that or in a dress lol), so beside her and family being super loud and stuff she didn't even try to make her fabricated story believable. I chuckled a little and went in to enjoy my company and to tell them about Karen. Some people just love to act that way I guess?
Btw my mom had a really good laugh with me the next day about Karen. 5 years later still grounded because of that incident lol
PS: Sorry for formating and/or grammar mistakes I am on mobile and English isn't even my 3rd language. Thanks for reading and good luck with all those Karen's you might encounter. Stay safe out there lol

TL;DR: I'd been chatting with a guy for about 3 weeks, and we went out for a date twice. I've been thinking about how he'd be alright as a partner, but still contemplating about how long before I make "us" official.
I (21F) have had no boyfriend since birth, but I've had experiences with romance, like situationships, but nothing exclusive.
Now there's this guy who's been love bombing me and had been asking me to be in a relationship with him, but I flat out refused and told him that he's going way too fast and that we barely know each other. He seemed to understand where I'm coming from and I noticed how he stopped love bombing me from that point onwards.
We've been chatting for nearly a month now and he genuinely seemed to be a great person and I'm interested where this is going. We've also met twice and we'll be having a dinner date later this week as well. But with that in mind, I'm just worried that it took me way too early to decide that I can have him as my partner when it hasn't even been a month yet. I realized that I'm a bit conservative, but I'm not comfortable making it official when it's only been like 3 weeks or something. At the same time, I'm also thinking how he might think that I'm not really interested because I'm taking so long to proceed with the relationship and end up giving up on me.
I've decided that maybe at least a couple of months before I bring up the topic of committing, but what do you guys think? I wanted to get some insights from others about how long they usually take before deciding to be in a relationship with someone. Maybe throw in some tips as well with how to discern if he's worth a shot or something?
P.S. Sorry about my english, I'm too lazy to fix up any grammatical error cuz it's the middle of the night and I'd been overthinking about this too much lol.

Making friends in Dubai can be quite challenging, especially for expats. Although English is widely spoken, I've personally found it difficult to connect with others. I tried using the app "Hey Vina" to meet new people, but the lifestyles of most women I met there—centered around clubbing and drinking—didn't match my own preferences. Although I have made some acquaintances, differing schedules often prevent us from meeting often. As a woman with a boyfriend, I'm really looking for girlfriends with whom I can truly click.

I has my first ever serious boyfriend on my second year if highschool ,young i know,he was a new guy who moved from his hometown to ours ,Long story short we started dating and yeah he treated me badly ,gave me lots of trauma,cheated on me,manipulated me,ghosted me,hot n cold and basically treated me like a rug and a place he goes back to after playing with other girls,at first i cried and like that. Now the question is have i finally moved on?like FULLY? because yeah i don't love him anymore actually i feel annoyed even just hearing his name,iam happy for him and his new girl and i do wish he treats her better but why do i feel angry everytime i think about him? is it bcs of a guilty fact i still like him? but like no if he asks me to come back to him i'd rather not ,but i can't seem to date anybody else properly because i feel like if someone has even one thing that reminded me of him to them is i feel like they will do the same thing my ex did.
ps. sorry for the bad grammar or spelling iam writing this about to sleep,really tired and english is my second language lol.

I has my first ever serious boyfriend on my second year if highschool ,young i know,he was a new guy who moved from his hometown to ours ,Long story short we started dating and yeah he treated me badly ,gave me lots of trauma,cheated on me,manipulated me,ghosted me,hot n cold and basically treated me like a rug and a place he goes back to after playing with other girls,at first i cried and like that. Now the question is have i finally moved on?like FULLY? because yeah i don't love him anymore actually i feel annoyed even just hearing his name,iam happy for him and his new girl and i do wish he treats her better but why do i feel angry everytime i think about him? is it bcs of a guilty fact i still like him? but like no if he asks me to come back to him i'd rather not ,but i can't seem to date anybody else properly because i feel like if someone has even one thing that reminded me of him to them is i feel like they will do the same thing my ex did.
ps. sorry for the bad grammar or spelling iam writing this about to sleep,really tired and english is my second language lol.

This story requires context, so bear with me. I (25f) make good money for my age and position, and am also putting myself through a masters program. One thing I’ve always loved and enjoyed is clothes and style; I dress sort of edgy-clean, if that makes sense. I love sales- I normally shop at places like Hollister, American eagle, and Garage clothing, but also Marshall’s and Target. Not cheap but not extremely expensive, and I care about how I present myself so I put a lot of thought into my clothes. I’m also horribly allergic to nickel, which a lot of silver jewelry contains, so ever since I was little I’ve only ever worn gold. Gold is expensive, so it’s taken me a long time to accumulate a collection of gold jewelry that I really love and matches my style. My boyfriend has never ever made me feel the way he suddenly has in the last week. He also has a very set style (which I love in a man). He dresses in only black and white and his style is very “alternative x cyber punk”, and I love it, but he mainly wears sweatpants and a hoodie, nothing crazy or over the top. We recently went on a vacation to a very expensive and wealthy area of the world, and there were a lot of luxury brands stores there. Throughout the week that we were there, he had suddenly dropped on me that he absolutely despises the color gold. He hates gold jewelry, the whole lot. I felt a little bad about that but I wasn’t going to be able to change that for him and didn’t want to, so I ignored it. I wanted to pop into the luxury brands for a bracelet, but I didn’t want to spend a fortune. This city’s first language was French and I am fortunate enough to speak French, so I tried to help my boyfriend with translations in the first store, Prada, but he was hellbent on speaking slang and difficult-to-understand/translate-English with the poor sales woman. He wound up purchasing an $800 tee shirt, which isn’t like him, but I supported it, though I was getting annoyed with how he was speaking to the woman who didn’t speak much English, saying things like “that’s sick” and me having to retranslate that into a compliment. She wound up gifting me a very expensive bag at the end of the interaction, she was so sweet. He wound up asking me not to translate again, because he said that it was easier to pretend to be rich in stores like that if you just spoke English to them, not matter how difficult. I didn’t totally understand but it was very clear that he was embarrassed by my translating, so I didn’t do it again. Next we went into another luxury store, Dior, and I was looking at jewelry this time. I liked these rope bracelets but he wanted me to try a gold choker. It was extremely thick and flashy and had “DIOR” in big letters across my throat, and I’m not a flashy person, so I wasn’t interested. His response was “you should get a necklace at least, you don’t own any nice jewelry”. I ignored that comment even though it hurt, and bought the bracelet I wanted, which came as a set, one black and one white. A few days later, we were going back into the city to shop and get dinner with his family. I wore a white and pink dress, so I wore the white bracelet, and he was wearing his new tee. He asked why I wasn’t wearing the other bracelet and I said because it didn’t match, and he told me to just give it to him if I was going to waste it. I ignored that as well, and we left for town. When we got there, he noticed I was wearing my Calvin Klein purse, and got upset, asking why I didn’t wear the Prada bag that the woman had gifted me. I hadn’t worn it because it was absolutely massive, like I probably could have curled up and gotten inside of it, but he said I should have worn it because it was nicer than my purse. Next, we went into Louis Vuitton, and I was not shopping for myself at this point. He picked up a pair of sunglasses and clearly liked them, but they were also extremely flashy, and GOLD. I pointed that out to him and he said “what? I love gold.” Which caught me off guard, so I told him that he’d made me feel bad all week about my gold jewelry but now he was purchasing gold sunglasses, and he said “it’s different. I hate gold jewelry, not sunglasses” ah, as if that makes sense. He buys the sunglasses. I’m not going to lie and say I liked them- they were tacky and I’m pretty sure they were women’s sunglasses, but whatever. He took them out to wear almost immediately, and wouldn’t stop staring at the box or taking them off to stare at them, which at this point was making me feel weird and awkward. Next, he bought a very expensive ($2.2k) bracelet, but I sort of blacked out for that interaction because I was so upset about the gold comments. When we got to dinner, he spent the entire time talking about how much money he’d spent on his new things, and made everyone pass around the sunglasses. He proceeded to wear all of those items on the plane back home, and when he finally put the sunglasses back into his backpack, he opened the bag repeatedly throughout the flight to “look at the sunglasses again”. It was annoying. I thought the brand snobby stuff would end when we got back home and back to normal, but yesterday we went to target and after I’d looked through the clothes, I asked him if he’d like to look as well and he scoffed at me and said “no, I won’t wear target clothes.” And I said “I wear targets clothes, you should be careful about insulting me” and he said “true, but you’re not boujee.”, I got upset and told him he wouldn’t be able to tell the cost of anything that I owned if he tried because I’m not obnoxious and flashy, and he told me I was causing a scene, which I was, so I let it go. Now, we have another trip coming up in a few weeks that we haven’t booked the flights for, and this is where I’ve gotten very insulted and angry. He’s suddenly saying that he won’t fly economy and sit in the normal seats, that he wants and deserves business class or pods. I think it’s a waste of money for the short flight, and also my father has offered to pay for my seat because the trip is special for me. My boyfriend said that it’s not his fault if me and my dad want to be cheapskates, and he’s not sitting with the cheap people. I warned him that my father will be really upset if he leaves me by myself on a flight on purpose like that, and he laughed and said he can’t help us from being so cheap. I have since told my dad about this predicament, and he is livid. He’s extremely protective of me when it comes to airplanes and trips (he particularly hates the city we are flying to) because he travels frequently and has witnessed a lot. I haven’t told my boyfriend that my dad knows yet, but he’s going to catch hell from my dad when we go to book the tickets, and I’m not sure if I did the right thing by telling my dad ahead of time. Throughout these last few days, he’s kind of hinted that my clothes and jewelry embarrass him for not being very boujee or luxury, and I’m not even really sure what to do here. AITA for not upgrading my flights and embarrassing my boyfriend?

(i apologize for my spelling its a strugle for me,also i practice the occult mainly witchcraft wich is brought up in this post,also english isnt my first language so the grammer might be a lill fucked)
so me(M) and my mom arnt the best of friends,but we stay out of eachothers ways most of the time.(not showing ages or names cuz my mom watches charlotte and i dont whant to be found out)
i was busy on my phone carful not to maick my mom angry(she has a short temper) i was just chating with my friends i then hear her yelling at me for somthing i walked out and she was yelling at me for forgeting to do somthing(this was a while ago so iv forgoten) i began cleaning up and she walked in holding my phone i got scared cuz i was chating with my boyfriend and i didnt tell her i was dating anyone luckily it turned off and she was to drunk to actualy figure out the password she then put it on the table and whent to the bathroom
,i took my phone from the table and sat on my bed after i did whatever it was i forgot to do,she then runs in and grabs my phone and throws it to the ground,AND IT SHATTERS INTO PIECES, to this i get angry but know it wont help to say anything,she then does this smugg face like she did somthing important,to calm down i sit by my alter(a place were i practice and keep my occult stuff) and she flips expecting me to be crying most probably and she does the unthinkable and THROWS all my stuff on the alter onto the grownd and i flip out yelling and screaming at her ,she starts to cry and calls my dad(my parents were never married i was a acident), i end up saying that my step mom was a better mom who never made me feel like shit(i still stand by this as she hasnt apologized for anything as of late)
the next few weeks is just me looking for the few things she actualy took from the space and returning it (iv found everything and my alter is back in its former glory) i then get struck with an idea we have a lot of meat in the freezor so i taick out a couple peaces of meat and hide them in her room ,proceeding a whole month of her trying to find the source of the smell (she still hasnt found them cuz iv been replacing them when they stop smelling) she is searching for a dead rat in the roof as im writing this and i still hvent gotten a replacment from my parents but im just glad to be left alone for once.

So me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months and we have a complicated past.
-The backstory-
So this all started around December of 2022, I saw this really cute guy walking around my college campus and managed to get his snap and started talking to his casually. We were just talking until February when I got a message from a girl in his class who I’ll call Beth. Beth messaged me saying she thinks the guy she’s talking to is also talking to me so we started comparing snaps he’d send us and it was literally the same snap. So we confront him a week later and he pushes Beth out and begs for me back to which I being the delusional person I am believed he was genuinely trying to be with me. I was wrong.
We started dating two months after that at the end of April, we dated for about a week before I noticed him messaging a person called Bubs on his phone. I asked him about it and he said it was his cousin and changed it to her name which I’ll say is Mary. Now it was a more specific name than Mary so I searched in his instagram followers and low and behold there she was with him plastered over her page and a date with a heart in the bio. So ofc I tell her about it and basically he chose her and left me alone, at this point my mental health was probably at its lowest due to other factors not just this. So I start prioritising myself over the next four months to which they are still together.
It gets to September and I get a message from him asking how I am, I had recently gone through a breakup and this was his excuse to talk to me. He complained that she went of to university and had cheated on him and that he felt terrible for what he did to me and wanted to be friends, I still had some residual feelings for him so I said yes. She cheated on him again and they broke up, he was on the bus messaging me about it and I met him at the bus station in my pjs and made sure he was okay. A couple weeks of talking on the phone every night and messaging all day I decided to trust him again. And we’ve been together since.
Now this is where things for me have changed, about a month ago he broke up with me out of the blue blaming it on stress from college and his parents and work to which he chose to leave me to resolve that stress. It didn’t last the weekend before he called me crying begging for me back. I’m a very firm believer in you are only friends with the opposite sex if you find them attractive which I know some people may disagree with. Since then he’s been closed off and takes his phone with him everywhere which he didn’t used to do. Then he’s started talking to this girl called Amy who he apparently met in his English class and she’s this skinny blonde girl whereas I’m a more built ginger. His best mate who I hang out with with my boyfriend has said they’re just friends but this has only accounted for one of the four girls.
When I spoke to him about how it made me uncomfortable especially now she’s the top of his best friends list he told me it’s not a big deal and it doesn’t even matter and I’m thinking too much of a little thing. I got drunk the other night and started a small argument about it again and he asked why I was so bothered to which I replied I’m not the one with a history of cheating. I know I was slightly out of line to say that to him but I don’t think it’s wrong and he refuses to not talk to them.
Am I in the wrong to ask him to remove them and not talk to them, I’m also a believer in if he’s going to cheat he will find a way but this just makes me extremely uncomfortable especially when he told his ex girlfriend that I was just a friend.

I am a M18, I go to school and have some friends. I live with my parents. I have struggled since 2021 with mental issues I think. I went to a therapist for unrelated issues and found out i might have depression but I got no more help, I later on thought I was just making it up and i tried to forget it. But last year I had a messy breakup with a girl, she cheated on me with a lot of guys and in the beginning I didn't do anything about it (she had done it since 2021) and I just kept everything down and said nothing to no one. But last year I got a new friend whom talked me into standing up for myself, and so i broke up with her. But I didn't know if I was happy and I started to feel alone and sad so i eventually got a new girlfriend. But this year I found out that she didn't love me the same way I loved her and that she still wasn't over her ex boyfriend, and she still said that she loved him which made me even more sad but I still kept it down because I don't think it's worth a fight. This has led to a situation where i don't feel "sad" I just feel empty and worthless, and this has also made it difficult to concentrate and my grades are starting to fall, which makes my parents angry and I feel like a burden to them, so all I'm saying is that I want to talk with someone and maybe someone would care.
Sorry for bad English it isn't my first language, and sorry if this isn't depression or anything serious