I installed the app recently after close to 3,5 years. Back then it was normal, that when you have matches, the Woman had to make the first step. But nowadays, i have plenty of matches, where i also have the opportunity to write the first message. Not with every match, but with some.
Then i asked this one girl, why she didnt text first, her reply was "Why should i lol". Isnt this the point of this app?

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I texted someone, blocked him, then unblocked im and texted with him again. When I tried to download all messages, I hot only the newest ones.
I chose to fownload the data from the last 3 years so its not the timing.
I also got the chats with other people I've blocked, so it just seems very odd and I need those chats URGENTLY.

My boyfriend and I are both 30. We met last year, Aug30 and dated for months and became official on January 1st. A little background lang, I live alone in a condo and he visits me daily when we were just dating pa until we became official. So, last year when we were just dating pa(not official) I clearly remember this day when he visited me at my place, it was the coronation day of Miss Universe yung nanalo si Ms. Nicaragua. So I borrowed his ipad kasi I can put it at the table kasi may stand instead of phone na hinahawakan lang tapos that time I was watching live sa Fb, so i sent the link from my phone to his messenger so I can just watch it directly sa ipad. While I was watching sa ipad nya hindi kasi naka full screen. Na noticed ko lang sa right side parang may suggested na mga profile like except from his mom and dad’s profile meron then 1 person dun always suggested which is si (ex) pala kasi like sa right side ng screen parang like recommended talaga yung profile like( “ex commented to, ex like..”) yung mga ganyan. That was the day I found out na ex nya pala yun. Kasi pansin ko din si fb kung sino ang profile na vinisit mo palagi mag aapear talaga sya mostly sa profile mo like “yung shortcut”.. Out of curiosity, i visited her profile and saw that she’s already in a relationship, and I knew the guy from a previous company. So, mas na curious pa ako then when you try to search kasi sa fb makikita mo history sa “recent searches, visits” at that time nakita ko na my bf still visits his ex’s profile once i a while maybe 3-5x since the day we started seeing. I just told him after ng Ms. U, na “I think I know na sino ex mo, is it (name) noh? He didn’t deny naman and just ask n how did i know, and i just casually said na because sa fb mo sya ang top suggested profile together with your mom and dad, meaning you always visit their profile, that’s it. I didn’t ask anything na.
Then maybe a month or so, we were open to giving access to our phones. One day, while I was browsing some photos, android kasi phone nya so medyo daming albums, meron like “google photos”, so when I went to click it, meron dun another gmail account with more photos, so while I was scrolling, i saw a photos of them, and when I returned the phone I intentionally left it to the photos and did not bother to exit so para when he open he would know that I saw the photos. I did not confront him or anything just waited for him to say something pero wala. Then a few days after I went to check the photos again, the other account was logged out na. I asked him, bakit na logout yung ibang account and he said wala daw sya ginalaw at wala nman daw ibang acct, i told him anong wala nakita ko pa nga photos nyo ng ex mo sa acct na yun sabi nya hindi naman nya ni logout. So ayun, i just dismissed it.
Fast forward, we rarely check each other’s phones na. We had disagreements, away bati in our relationship just like a normal couple but never this. So just this Monday may 13th. I decided to check his gallery. I saw some retrieved old google photos na sa album nya. So I when checked the account I saw the other account na login na ulit, so I opened it and saw their photos again. So while he was lying down, I just casually said, wow “grabi yung glowup ng ex mo ngayon, like ang layo2 before grabi sobrang puti na” Pero without looking up, he said “yeah, because at that time dami nyang nilalagay sa face nya kaya daming sugat2. Like, hello is that the right thing to say to your gf? Instead of saying, sorry hindi ko pala na delete yung photos because this or that or why i I decided to keep it. He also insisted he didn’t see the photos and I was like how come you knew exactly which photos I was referring, also yan nga una nag aapear eh when you opened that account. I continued to browse the photos and he was looking as if proud na proud pa. He let me continued making side comments and until I saw video nya he was calling her ex their endearment. Then I said, “sus gusto nya palang endearment ****, ako ang dami ko ng sinuggest like baby, babe, love to the point na ginawa ko ng friend, bro and brader, kaya ayaw iba pala ang gusto, kaya pala hanggang first name basis pa rin tayo. Sana all, pati sa mga photos nyo ikaw mismo nag tatake directly pero tayo ni walang halos photos, buti nlang talaga hindi ko din pinipilit mag take tayo ng photos” tapos defend pa saying hindi naman ako ang gusto ng tawagan sya naman” I got annoyed and added more side comments saying na maybe ganyan talaga pag nasa tamang tao, mas nag go-glow naalagan natin ang selves natin, baka cgro we both look stress because we’re not at the right partner. Kaya siguro palagi mo vinisit ang profile ng ex mo kasi di kapa naka move on or maybe ng hihiniyang ka because she’s so happy with her partner now, traveling together.. Between, our argument he said “do you know when was that(referring to the photos) and what we’ve been through?”, “I don’t care about them kung anong gingawa nila and he keep shouting at this point, I’m trying to remain calm because nakakahiya sa neighbors ko kaya even if want to shout back I can’t, instead I sinabi wag ka mag scandalo dito, hindi mo ito place, hinaan mo boses mo”.. He calmed and took his phone put of my hand and deleted the photos. When he did, sinabi ko oh bakit mo dinelete nayiha kapa, kanini proud na proud kapa. He just stood and left. I went to msg him and showed him a screen recording of deleting all our photos and said this how easy to delete photos, it’s less than 1 minute and he should delete our photos too. I also told him that we need to talk in the morning . I have so many questions. He said he’ got diarrhea so we video call, and it turned to argument again, he said shouted at me and cursed me a lot like big time! I never had a partner who cursed me before so i felt attacked and very disrespected like i never expected that it would come from a partner, haven’t heard from him not even sorry. So yesteday, I messaged him saying “Was it worth it? Worth it ba yung pag shout and pag cursed mo sakin over your past? Not even sorry or proper explanation. Ito pala gusto mo style disrespectful and bastos. Then I’ll give it back to you” right after sending the message I blocked him.
Did I overeact or valid yung ginawa ko? Sa true lang gusto ko gumanti ng insults and hurtful words, pero na realized ko na sayang sa oras but if he ever come to my place, feel ko, makapagbibitaw din talaga ako ng insults

Heya, so I made a rough outline for what I'd like the poster to look like. However seeing as how Word doc loves to cuck me and refuses to allow me TO ROTATE A GODDAMN TEXT BOX, I think I'll leave it to you talented ladies and gentlemen who can manhandle a document/design software.
I suppose just post your suggested designs on this sub, there doesn't necessarily need to be an *official* poster. The main goal is to get more students in here to help each other out, as this sub has helped me in an innumerable amount of ways, especially in getting a more cohesive perspective on how the university and its faculty function.
As for requirements of the poster, just have some questions that pose to fulfill needs that can be met through this sub. If you'd like to give it a go please message me and I'll send it through (Reddit doesn't allow for file upload on posts). I've transferred it to a google doc so that also works if a file can't go through.
So uh, yeah, gaze upon my trashy attempt, and please for gods sake, find a good font. I got second-hand embarassment from using comic sans. The QR code in the middle simply links to this sub (I promise its not a rick roll). Once we start getting some solid designs going, I'll start printing and sticking em up around campus (and feel free to do so yourself).
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I recently left my abuser but for some reason I'm afraid to go completely no contact. He texts me dozens of times a day with the usual plea for a second chance and promises to change, and while I ignore most of them, I'm afraid that it will set him off if I ignore him completely. Some of his messages include him recounting childhood abuse to which I'll respond that I'm sorry nobody protected him. I know I shouldn't respond at all, but I feel bad ignoring him when he says something like that. Does anyone have any advice for cutting communication in a way that minimizes any potential reactiveness? I have reason to believe his behavior will escalate when he realizes that he is actually losing me for good.

So my gf (22f) and I have been dating for almost 6 months and about 3 months ago we decided to get a apartment together bc we were both tired with living with our parents and now I know it was way to soon to move in together. She had a job at a hospital prior but quit bc she had issues with the doctors being jerks. Before we moved in together she got a job working at a urgent care but that lasted about 2 weeks bc she said she just didn't have the motivation to go back. Well I helped her get a job at the business my mom works at since she is one of the higher up people there. It was a good position as an assistant manager and she was making more then she was before, well about 3 weeks into the job she was complaining that the manager keeps giving her extra work, she told me she wants to quit but she's going to wait until she has another job lined up and she will do a 2 week notice, well I got home from work one day and she was home so I gave her a kiss and went to the bathroom and that's when she decided to text me that she quit her job. Of course I was upset bc now she has no income when she agreed when we first moved in that we would both pay half which is $730 each and I would cover the other bills since I do make more then her. I told her she should apply where I work bc we have different departments she could do that's easy but she has a medical assistant degree and refuses to do anything that doesn't have to do with her education. Now it's been almost 2 months since she quit so I'm paying all the bills and having to work a lot of overtime so make sure everything is paid and it's causing my anxiety it gets worse then it already is. When I told my girlfriend that I'm super stressed with everything her response to that was to say "just don't be" Things are getting weirder bc now she's always wanting to look at my phone and my messages and whenever my phone goes off she wants to know what it was. She was on my phone bc she was supposed to be getting us a discount on our Internet bill bc she had food stamps but instead she went thought all my Facebook messages. She goes up to me and says that she's concerned bc she knows I was texting my ex while we were talking, we weren't even dating at that point so I asked her to show my the messages so she scrolls all the way down my messenger and shows me a text exchange between my ex and I where it was me saying why I don't have feelings for her bc at the time my ex was trying to get back together but I was saying no. I asked my girlfriend if she even read the texts and she tells me "no I only looked at the date" so she didn't even care what the conversation was about, she just didn't like the fact that my ex and I talked at that point in time. She will get mad at me if I go to the store without her or if I decide I go for a drive alone she gets mad. She wants to be by my side all time time and even gets mad when I go on my computer on the weekends which is the only time I go on it. I made the mistake of making a joint bank account with her so she will buy something and just says "it's our money" I just don't know what to do at this point and when I do bring up my concerns to her she will either flip it to make me sound like the bad guy or if she says something that actually upsets me she just says "I was joking". What should I do?
TLDR: My gf won't get a job that isn't a medical assistant and now I'm stuck paying all the bills and having to work crazy hours just to survive.

Management at Ralph’s turning a blind eye to seggsual harassment of employees is unacceptable. I experienced this firsthand during my time working there from my senior year of high school through my freshman year of college. Despite applying at 17 and having a working permit, I was told by a co-manager that I would only be hired once I turned 18. After finally being hired (Ralph’s in the Greater LA area) I was subjected to inappropriate comments and behavior by this co-manager, Mattias. He made me feel uncomfortable by commenting on my appearance and making inappropriate jokes about female customers. He even went as far as scheduling his lunch break to coincide with mine, so he could make more inappropriate remarks in the break room. He would send me text messages containing the same inappropriate comments he would make in person. At that time, I struggled to assert myself and knew no other way to respond besides awkwardly laughing. This behavior quickly escalated to him orchestrating situations where my shift ended during his lunch break and insisting on giving me a ride home, despite me normally walking. On one occasion, he pulled up beside me on the road and demanded that I "get in". Although the first time he did this he eventually dropped me off, he later texted me implying that I should be grateful for the ride and the additional hours at work. The next instance was truly unlike any before. I found myself in a situation where events unfolded rapidly and unexpectedly, causing me to freeze in place. It was a feeling of inevitability, as if I had no choice but to endure. Each time I managed to evade his advances, he would penalize me by reducing my hours or cutting my schedule for the following week. Instead of intervening to help someone clearly in a vulnerable position, other managers in authority as well as other employees whos worked there awhile chose to bully me and unfairly label me as flirtatious. They wrongly assumed I was to blame for his inappropriate behavior, despite the significant age difference between us. It is disheartening that individuals in their 40s and 50s would engage in such behavior towards someone as young as 18. These same individuals were aware of his actions towards others, yet chose to remain silent. One incident I was shocked did not get him reprimanded was when infront of everybody, he pulls me into his office, one of the only places without cameras, and locked the door. Inside, he was groping me, unzipping his pants asking for oral. Thankfully a floor manager came banging on the door, banging! And when he finally opened the door, they just laughed and the floor manager said “wtf man” and chuckled. I knew then nothing was going to happen. The cashiers, baggers, and other people witnessed this and nothing happened other than more bullying my way. Even the store manager knew this was happening and she would tell people “she’s a flirty one”. I wish today I had spoken up because I know with 100% certainty I wasnt the first or the last. He now works at a different grocery store that is higher end, and he is now the store manager - I would not be surprised if this is something he has continued to do.

Hi, I am not sure how to properly post stuff here. So please feel free to tell me to make adjustments. Reposting it since previous post told me to add something at the later part of the post.
I'll cut it short.
Mali ba na masaktan ako at magselos ako sa isang artista?
My girlfriend and I went to a local event in my GF's hometown. The town Mayor paid celebrities to come into town and do some performances, that type of stuff.
One of the male celebrities, for his performance, asked girls to be on stage and perform with him. He saw my girlfriend and he grabbed her to come with him to stage.
Instinctively, I tried to stop it, but seeing my girlfriend very eager and happy to join, I decided to let it be and she went up on the stage with the guy celeb.
At the start, they were just asking simple questions to lighten up the mood etc. But things started to get uncomfortable for me yung sa dance part na. It was sexual, or at least it looked liked and felt like that to me.
They were intimately looking at each other, the guy was hugging her from the back, with his face on her neck while they were dancing, and then the guy made her turn around and carried her (like dawn zulueta type of thing), while touching her legs, and to top it all off, after the dance was over, the guy gestured to take off his jacket and belt to indicate na he was horny "in a fun and laughable way". Overall, I was very uncomfortable, parang natulala nalang ako at nanginig sa galit, and the cheers from the audience made me dizzy. They were having fun, they were all entertained, kinilig silang lahat. Except for me, I was there, on the point of breaking down. And the worst part of it all? All those intimate and sexual stuff they did, my girlfriend looked very happy and comfortable doing it.
So she went back to our seat, and then her and her girl friends were shrieking na para bang kinikilig silang lahat. She was very happy and proud of what she did. She tried to talk to me and my friends teased us na "lagot ka pag-uwi", I just smiled and went to my phone, preventing tears from dropping.
Fast forward, the event ended and we got home. I confronted her about it, we had an argument and I told her about how disrespected and uncomfortable I felt. She got mad and told me na all of it was just for fun, for entertainment purposes lang daw. Sabi pa niya "ano gusto mo gawin ko? bumababa sa stage at maging KJ?" She told me na I was being OA kasi nga bakit ko daw pagseselosan ang artista na "hindi naman kami magkakatuluyan nun". I was mad, but I was not vocal enough about it kase I was so drained. Ang sakit lang, kasi she was very proud of what she did, she posted it on her facebook semi bragging about it, and the way she responded to the comments and replies felt like it was one of her greatest achievements in life.
Nakikitulog kami sa parents niya that time, but I decided to leave her that night, I just waited for her to fall asleep and I got out of bed and drove 4 hours back into my hometown. I left a message for her and decided to block her right after.
I felt so lost, and what's worse is that, all of her friends, in which na kasama namin sa event messaged me days after that I am being silly and being unreasonable, and even her family is justifying her actions saying na it's not a valid reason for a break-up.
Side note, I am paying for all their bills sa family nila, (internet, water, house, groceries and even medication maintenance) , siguro that's part of the reason why they are telling me to stick with her through the end and pagusapan muna ang lahat, it may seem unrelated to the topic on hand pero di lang kasi mawala sa isip ko na out of all the things I am doing for them, I don't event get a single ounce of respect.
Sorry guys, ako ba talaga ang mali?
Ako ba yung gago for ending things with her right away? Unreasonable ba talaga na nagselos ako sa artista?

May store kami sa shopee that offered free shipping during a campaign, and sobrang mura nung benta namin parang tig 5 lang. Tulong kasi namin yon sa kandidato na sinusuportahan namin last election. So dahil nga free shipping, nag negative yung balance nung seller account.(Totally my fault, di ko na anticipate yung influx ng bibili)
Logically, inisip ko noon na okay sige negative today, bayaran ko kaagad to, magsesend ako ng pera sa shopee pay account ko. Lo and behold kinabukasan pagka bukas ko ng app, banned na yung buong account.
Lahat ng devices ko, iPad, PC, Laptop, Phones na naka login si Shopee naka hardware ban. Meaning, kahit ibang account i login ko, may ban message na lumalabas.
As a person na nagtatrabaho sa customer service and tech support, syempre ni document ko talaga lahat ng error messages, ban message and communication sa Shopee support.
Pano ko ngayon ifu fulfill yung mga orders ko? Pano ko ngayon mababayaran yung negative balance (450+ yata) Pano ko ngayon babayaran SPAYLATER ko?
So I reached out to shopee. Sa hotline, email and in app chat nakigamit ako sa account ng partner ko. Lahat sila may scripted ban messaging lang or sinasabi mag reach out ako using the account of concern. Eh banned nga??? This went on and on for more than 2 months. Tawag rin sila ng tawag, pero pag sinasabi kong naka ban yung account di ako makabayad, wala silang resolution na mai provide. Puro we will reach out soon lang sinasabi. Hinihingian ko sila ng account number to send the payment, pero walang maibigay. In-app daw dapat gawin.
Sa sobrang bwisit namin, nag stop na kami gumamit ng Shopee non. Consequently, damay rin yung side hustle namin. Pero hindi pa tapos. A few weeks after, may biglang kumatok sa bahay namin. 5 people who are looking for me. Mga representatives pala ng isang credit/lending corp na balak ako singilin personally.
So syempre ako naman wala akong takot dahil I exhausted all means on my end to resolve the issue. I talked to their main goon and told him na hindi po ako maka login, tapos etong si koya mo, napaka passive aggressive, pinagbibintangan ako na ino off ko raw yung wifi namin kaya di maka login. At that point, nag iinit na ulo ko dahil sobrang hassle nung ginagawa nila, and they are accusing me of that. Habang chinecheck pala namin yung devices ko, nagpi picture sila without my permission sa harap ng bahay. But at the end of the day, hindi rin nila nakuha pakay nila dahil nag try ako mag login sa cellphone mismo nya para manahimik na sya, and may ban messaging pa rin.
Ayun lang, I'll never ever give a dime to Shopee ever again.
ps. sa pumunta sa bahay namin na pinagbibintangan ako na pinapatay yung wifi pag naglo login sa app, napaka bobo mo po. Di ko alam bakit di mo ma recognize yung wifi icon sa ipad kahit universally recognizable naman yon 🥴

Me (F 20) and my gf (F 20) we've been together for almost 2 years na, mejo LDR din kami pero madalas naman kaming magkita kasi yung madadaanan namin papunta sa campus namin halfway lang. Lately this year lang, madalas syang magtampo or magalit over what you would call "mababaw na dahilan". Disclaimer lang, im not downplaying her feelings, i know magkakaiba tayo ng level ng sensitiveness and issues sa mga bagay bagay and i respect that pero some of her reasons are just beyond my level of understanding. Here are some of them: (im trying my best to relay them na hindi one sided ang dating so bear with me)

1. she joked about how i always play or hangout with my friends sa umaga kung wala akong pasok (i update her naman from time to time) and that i always talk to her pag gabi lang, she told me na baka hindi ko na raw sya gusto and all that and i responded "i still love you, i just have a life". she was fuming mad and told how offended she was, she kept telling me how could i say that to her and how inappropriate of a joke that was. ako naman i said sorry pero i kept explaining na that's not how i meant it naman, na i just mean it as is.
2. she randomly messaged me at night "what if you're losing me", so naki sympathize nako sinabi ko na pag may arguements kami, i feel that way rin sometimes pero i don't let that feeling dictate me naman what to do. sabay sabi nya na "wow, ouch so im losing you na pala? sakit naman nyan" tapos sabi ko na "didn't u just told me na im losing you" sinagot nya ako ng "what if lang naman yon, ikaw im losing you na pala"
3. panuorin daw namin yung final episode ng fav nyang kdrama ng sabay, i told her na wag nalang kasi gusto ko mag usap pa kami. later that night nakatulog na sya so im left wide awake at night, i decided na panuorin na yung final episode. kinabukasan habang mag kasama kami pinapanuod nya yung final episode sa phone nya tapos i told her na napanuod ko na nga kagabi, she was mad ulit sakin, it became a huge argument bakit hindi ko sya kasabay manuod ng last episode na yon when she's literally watching it on the phone na before even knowing na napanuod ko na, di nya rin naman ako inaya ng time na yon manuod ng sabay sakanya
4. me, my bff (her cousin), and her has a GC, so nung nag away kami ng dad ko, dun ako nag kwento sa gc namin cus i didnt wanna always repeat yung mga kwento ko so i decided dun nalang para both nila makita ng sabay. she got mad ulit kasi bakit daw sa gc ko lang sinabi, sana sakanya daw muna ko lumapit, i told her na gusto ko rin kasing ikwento dun nga sa pinsan nya na best friend ko rin, sabi nya pinili ko lang daw yung kung anong convinient w/o thinking about her feelings
5. pauwi na sya, galing kami sa mall kasi kumain, she kept insisting na wag ko na raw sya ihatid so i told her "sige na titignan nalang kita, di mo rin sure baka nakasunod ako sayo" nagtuloy tuloy na sya sa pag tawid pero di ko na sya sinundan, maya maya may tumawag saking kakilala ko, nung nakita kong nakatawid na sya at tuloy tuloy lang pag lakad, sumigaw nalang ako ng "ingat!" saka ko hinabol ung kakilala ko para magsabay nalang kami pauwi. paguwi ko sobrang cold nya sakin, saka inamin na nagalit sya kasi "hinayaan ko" raw sya hindi ko manlang daw sya hinatid, nagsorry ako at kinwento ko sakanya na may nakasalubong akong kakilala ko at saka sya naman ang nag insist na wag ko na syang ihatid, tinanong ko rin sya anong pwede kong gawin para di na maulit pero sinasagot nya lang ako ng "wag na" tapos galit na galit parin sya sakin. hindi ko manlang daw sya tinawag para ipakilala don sa kakilala kong nakasalubong ko. i made her feel like a random person daw.

just last night sinabi nya sakin na nahihirapan na daw sya magsabi sakin ng tampo nya kasi kada mag sasabi raw ako palagi akong may rason or explaination at totoo naman, lagi kong dinedefend agad yung sarili ko pag alam ko naman sa sarili kong wala akong nagawang mali. i just feel exhausted na talaga sa mga ganitong away na sobrang liit lang naman tapos biglang lumalaki ng sobra, i admit mabagal din akong maka pick up ng mga cues kung ano bang dapat gawin kaya feeling ko ako rin yung gago kasi dapat tinatanggap ko nalang ung mga galit nya sakin instead na idefend ko yung sarili ko. ano bang pwedeng gawin sa sitwasyong to?

Hello everyone at UTD! I have graduated and have been a member of RadioUTD for a quarter of my time here (one year). I would like to describe what it was like working as a DJ in RadioUTD. I am not here to paint a pretty picture.
There are a few aspects that benefited me. It let me know what it was like to work and have responsibilities. It let me know how to talk about music and how to arrange playlists. It taught me how to be more punctual to be on time for my set. Since you cannot swear on broadcast, I being a dirty mouth learned how to express myself when I need to quit yapping foully. This was multiplied thirteenfold as I had around 13 sets in the course of my time there. I also learned to market myself on my own, though I don't think I was very successful. I really have no way to tell. I also learned how to mix music with a DJ controller. It was a very supportive group I found, and although I am still rather bad at music mixing, I have had some good moments. I also got to play in the DJ fest where all the other DJs could listen.
But there are a few things that prevented me from signing up at the get go. My family never really liked my taste in music, and always ridiculed me for it. In the campus tour RadioUTD was mentioned, but we walked into the student union, and top 40 music was playing, I did not realize it at the time but I assumed that that was RadioUTD's music stream. Seeing the DJ work with his back to the glasswall headbanging, that glass wall kind of made him look like he was doing some awesome mix but I just couldn't hear it, and that I wasn't allowed to go in that room.
The only thing that urged me to sign up was Marco Frescas, (he was featured in Mercury). I heard there was a DJ festival and listened through his set and thought maybe RadioUTD was cool and worth doing a shot.
The last thing I'd like to say is that RadioUTD is weak. What do I mean by that? Mercury and AMP make their opinions, print it, and distribute it on receptacles across campus. To access RadioUTD, you must search up the website, then go to the streaming site, then be at the right time for someone to speak. The website is mentioned nowhere. It would be preferable if there was a QR sticker on each of the AMP/Mercury receptacles for UTD TV and RadioUTD to get atleast some mention that it exists. This is not a radical idea and quite simple to implement.
But for RadioUTD to be truly as strong? Have speakers around campus that play the streams. Put up posters promoting RadioUTD (They don't do that). Make the DJ booth face the window and make the window weak so that the DJ can actually talk with passersby. There is no way to tell who is listening, and how many people are listening, which leads to us not putting as much effort in our playlists or talking breaks as we'd like. We have something called boothing, where we book out the plinth to play music for an hour or two 3 times a month. The chance of someone who wants to hear this passes by is so incredibly low. Since the plinth stage has to be checked out in advance, it is a gridlock of what is possible. It is a shame to see people outside of UTD on the plinth asking you to register to vote almost every day but almost never see my organization out there playing music for the people. I was told that there was boothing opportunities available for the finals scream, but it was cancelled. Our organization tends to defer out of anything that doesn't seem safe and as a result it makes us even more unknown. The DJ Fest aforementioned was not promoted and almost got canceled. As a result everyone except Marco who was closing the set, had basically no audience outside of RadioUTD.
I know this will never happen, and as a result, few people will actually apply to make a change, and as a result of that, RadioUTD will remain relatively obscure. I hope this post wakes up people within RadioUTD and drives them to make a change, and also inspire others to join RadioUTD. If anyone is from RadioUTD and I am making any errata, feel free to correct me in the comments below. I'd like a discussion.
Also if y'all got any cool songs please message them to me or drop 'em in the comments too!

Hello,
I am feeling a little lost and distrusting. I don't know if my therapist is stable and ibe just spent a year opening up to the wrong person. I am someone that heavily relies on logic and science, and it's very important to me that I see my therapist as a reliable, centred human being that I can trusts counsel and process.
I have had 2 therapists: 1. my first: was via a specific charity for survivors of male sexual abuse (one of my experiences as a hetro sexual male). She went AWOL on me from nowhere after I opened up a lot about my life. She was cheap as it was via a charity. I will elaborate on my personal situation below, but as I learn more about myself, I understand how horrendous this is to do to a patient. I have a very small circle and almost no family. Luckily, I'm pretty resilient.

1. My second (current): because of above experience and inability to find therapists prepared to do 'in person' at the time; I picked the most expensive therapist I could find, hoping it meant they were the most credible and qualified (I also live in Central London).

My experience with my 2nd therapist is what I really want to explore.
Firstly, I should acknowledge and state I am a judgemental person - though I've got better through therapy. She has tattoos over her arms and hands and I immediately judged this. Is this person a 'stable person'; is she someone reliable, well balanced etc.
Over time, I have built a very strong relationship with her. She 100% cares about me. I trust her. She is strong and pushes back, makes me question things, holds me to account. But most of all - she cares about me. She will occasionally cry during sessions when I bring up memories and it feels like I have someone who cares about me.
I have had some concerns. For example, I have (very embarrassing) addiction to porn and I explain I think this is very bad for you and the mind, and she does not think porn is an issue - it's a great experimental tool, at least if I've understood her correctly.
Major concern: - she is occasionally flaky with appointments. She will cancel (with very short notice) and apologise - normally 'I've woken up sick'. Last week, I turned up for an appointment and she said 'I'm away - I did tell you last week'. (I don't remember this but it COULD have happened). She then rescheduled this weeks session. Just before today's session, at 5am (I wake at 3am most days!) she messaged me the following incomprehensible text. It's like she's on drugs or drunk?!
Her - 5am: (link requesting my live location). Text reading: flights destined
Me - 5:03am: sorry, flight is delayed?
Her - 5:07: due to you x red family death
Me - 5:09: sorry, I'm not following.
Me - 5:38: I'm assuming I'm not to come to therapy today?
I am now hugely concerned I am in the counsel and advice of the wrong person, I have invested 100 hours of time, work and trust, thousands of £.
I would really appreciate peoples thoughts.
Some context about me: I am a 30yr old male. I have a myriad of 'trauma' but am mentally okay, more so challenged in life through the effects of my trauma and the behaviours.

• grow up in an abusive home with mum and dad (separated). Mum not available much (but very loving), worked all hours. Dad was chronic alcoholic, typical abusive parent.
• both parents died in traumatic circumstances.
• was a victim of sexual abuse (rape) by a male in my early 20s. Was drugged in South America.

I am successful (societal belief): run a multi million £, highly profitable co that I founded, with 30 employees. I am rich and financially fortunate. My upbringing built me for resilience. I left school at 16, was a degenerate gambler.
I have been explored for CPTSD, but I almost certainly don't have it. I have learned through therapy my primary issues are: - extremely damaged and detached inner child. - low self esteem. - complete numbness of my emotions from very early - loneliness - comfort and seeking of toxic relationships - never feeling like I am enough. I'm perceived to be the most giving, kind person but the reality is I'm seeking affirmation from others to feel better about myself - I just survive everyday fine, but I am worried I will die having not lived.

I want to know if I should stop talking to her and move on or continue to hang out..?
Is she just playing hard to get?
We met at work in January of 2024 and immediately hit it off. We only spoke to each other while we were at work the first 2 months. One day in march I decided to invite her to the dog park with some friends. She said yes. I gave her my number on a piece of paper and told her if plans change Monday LMK. She ended up canceling the dog park plans but asked me to hang out the next day. We ended up going to get tacos together it went really well. We have continued to hang out once or twice a week since. I started to catch feelings for her and I decided to disclose this to her. It felt only natural because all of the signs were there that she feels the same. I decided to call her and tell her that I like her. Her response was I can't be with someone that doesn't have a relationship with God. I asked on that phone call if I did have a relationship with God what then? She responded by saying she would consider it. Then she invited me to church with her which was the next day. I said yes. We have been going to church together since. (I went to church most of my childhood. Due to a demanding work schedule and life in general I grew apart from that lifestyle.)
Since that phone call I havnt mentioned dating but we continued to hang out one on one and do activities that most people consider intimate/romantic. A few examples are stargazing, long walks with the dogs and picnics in the park.
Fast forward to yesterday. I took her to a really beautiful park that has an awesome arboretum. After we were done checking out the plants we found a spot to have our picnic. The picnic went really well. We were laughing and smiling at each other the whole time. Towards the end of the evening, I decided to ask her if she would go on an actual date with me. Her response was, "I will get back to you on it." She texted yesterday evening once we were back from the park and Thanked me for such a good time at the park .Today she has texted me a couple times. I have not responded because of the whole situation. The messages have had nothing to do with our conversation. Please be kind. I am trying to have a relationship that is as healthy as possible for both parties. Thanks in advance!

Feeling a bit raw after a recent breakup. I had been seeing this guy for a little over two months, and things seemed promising. We were still in the getting-to-know-each-other phase, but I was genuinely happy and believed we were on the same page. Plenty of cute "can't wait to see you" texts and such. We even made tentative plans for the future. He has many qualities I admire in a partner, so when things started to shift, I was blindsided.
It all came to a head this past weekend when I realized that our dynamic had changed. What was once multiple hangouts per week had dwindled to once or twice a week, in the past two weeks and I realized that I was the one initiating plans. I initially chalked it up to him being sick and his mom visiting, but after a few days of this pattern, I couldn't ignore the imbalance. I guess this was the first sign that something was wrong but I guess I was just in happy dreamland before I put the pieces together.
I decided to confront him about it, expressing my hurt over his recent lack of interest in spending time together. That's when he brought up his concerns: he felt something was missing, and he couldn't gauge my enthusiasm for him. This caught me off guard because I felt I had been showing my interest in various ways, I was VERY physically affectionate and we would both initiate texting at a somewhat equal rate (he maye did a bit more) .
However, he had a different perception. He mentioned feeling my affection was "lackluster" and even went as far as to say some of it felt "masculine-coded," which made him uncomfortable. He mentioned one time when I came up from behind him and hugged him and a time we were cuddling when I shifted his body so his head was on my chest. I found this strange since I've always seen physical affection as gender-neutral and enjoy expressing it in various forms with my partners.
He also brought up the topic of sexual intimacy, claiming I didn't seem as interested as he was. This wasn't the case; while I do take a bit of time to get sexually comfortable with new partners. We'd had conversations about what we both like in bed and were on the same page. Anyway, I said I was glad to know his feeling and was more than happy to up the sexual ante. If my partners tell me they'd like me to do more of something, I'm more than happy to give it a shot.
What frustrated me most was that he never explicitly raised these concerns before our conversation. We could have addressed them together if given the chance. He said he had been really horny that day and wanted to send me an explicit text but didn't know how it would be received. At this point, I told him that I didn't want to force him to be with me, but I really liked him and found him really hot and felt the issues could be solved with more communication. We even ended the conversation on a seemingly positive note, including some sexting afterward.
Then today, after some flirtatious messages, he called and essentially ended things, reiterating his feeling that something was missing. We revisited our previous conversation, and he reiterated feeling my affection was lackluster and uncomfortable due to what he perceived as "masculine-coded" gestures. He also mentioned feeling like I wasn't receptive to deeper conversations about our relationship, which left me confused as I felt content and didn't have concerns that warranted deeper conversations. If he had wanted to initiate those conversations, I would have been receptive.
I'm rereading this and feeling kind of pathetic. When you read it, I guess it's clear he was losing interest. I guess I was just hoping it would come back because I did really like him. I have been actively trying to work on my communication skills, but I am hurt because I feel like this guy didn't communicate, and then when he finally did, it was too late. I want people to feel like they can talk to me about issues; I'm not just some cold, lackluster person. It hurts and concerns me to hear that I come off unenthused and not interested/willing to have deeper conversations. I guess if he had wanted to communicate, he would have, and he chose not to. Just wanted to get this off my chest.

Feeling a bit raw after a recent breakup. I had been seeing this guy for a little over two months, and things seemed promising. We were still in the getting-to-know-each-other phase, but I was genuinely happy and believed we were on the same page. Plenty of cute "can't wait to see you" texts and such. We even made tentative plans for the future. He has many qualities I admire in a partner, so when things started to shift, I was blindsided.
It all came to a head this past weekend when I realized that our dynamic had changed. What was once multiple hangouts per week had dwindled to once or twice a week, in the past two weeks and I realized that I was the one initiating plans. I initially chalked it up to him being sick and his mom visiting, but after a few days of this pattern, I couldn't ignore the imbalance. I guess this was the first sign that something was wrong but I guess I was just in happy dreamland before I put the pieces together.
I decided to confront him about it, expressing my hurt over his recent lack of interest in spending time together. That's when he brought up his concerns: he felt something was missing, and he couldn't gauge my enthusiasm for him. This caught me off guard because I felt I had been showing my interest in various ways, I was VERY physically affectionate and we would both initiate texting at a somewhat equal rate (he maye did a bit more) .
However, he had a different perception. He mentioned feeling my affection was "lackluster" and even went as far as to say some of it felt "masculine-coded," which made him uncomfortable. He mentioned one time when I came up from behind him and hugged him and a time we were cuddling when I shifted his body so his head was on my chest. I found this strange since I've always seen physical affection as gender-neutral and enjoy expressing it in various forms with my partners.
He also brought up the topic of sexual intimacy, claiming I didn't seem as interested as he was. This wasn't the case; while I do take a bit of time to get sexually comfortable with new partners. We'd had conversations about what we both like in bed and were on the same page. Anyway, I said I was glad to know his feeling and was more than happy to up the sexual ante. If my partners tell me they'd like me to do more of something, I'm more than happy to give it a shot.
What frustrated me most was that he never explicitly raised these concerns before our conversation. We could have addressed them together if given the chance. He said he had been really horny that day and wanted to send me an explicit text but didn't know how it would be received. At this point, I told him that I didn't want to force him to be with me, but I really liked him and found him really hot and felt the issues could be solved with more communication. We even ended the conversation on a seemingly positive note, including some sexting afterward.
Then today, after some flirtatious messages, he called and essentially ended things, reiterating his feeling that something was missing. We revisited our previous conversation, and he reiterated feeling my affection was lackluster and uncomfortable due to what he perceived as "masculine-coded" gestures. He also mentioned feeling like I wasn't receptive to deeper conversations about our relationship, which left me confused as I felt content and didn't have concerns that warranted deeper conversations. If he had wanted to initiate those conversations, I would have been receptive.
I'm rereading this and feeling kind of pathetic. When you read it, I guess it's clear he was losing interest. I guess I was just hoping it would come back because I did really like him. I have been actively trying to work on my communication skills, but I am hurt because I feel like this guy didn't communicate, and then when he finally did, it was too late. I want people to feel like they can talk to me about issues; I'm not just some cold, lackluster person. It hurts and concerns me to hear that I come off unenthused and not interested/willing to have deeper conversations. I guess if he had wanted to communicate, he would have, and he chose not to. Just wanted to get this off my chest.

i’m so bored and tired, but i feel like i can’t really sleep. we should call and talk bark random stuff. you can pick the topic or not. just message me with your discord and i’ll add you, but if you wanna text a little first that’s cool too. don’t let me sleep alone, i get so scared!!!

Shortly after Final Fantasy VII hit the gaming world in 1997, Cloud Strife’s howls of grief at the loss of his beloved companion Aerith Gainsborough were echoed by droves and droves of fans. These echoes gathered in swarms, reaching the developers in the form of petition signatures, each begging the makers of the game to allow Aerith’s resurrection. Though these prayers remained unanswered —until now—, there soon came more protests: this time, fans pleaded with the developers to consider making a remake of the original game. Both of these wishes were met with considerable derision, with large chunks of the fandom calling the requests delusional— which is why the Final Fantasy world had to prepare for another meteoric hit when the Remake project was finally announced in 2015. With Kitase, Nomura, Toriyama, Nojima, Uematsu and more of the original developers at the helm, along with longtime FFVII fan-turned-developer Hamaguchi, the Remake trilogy was met with great expectations. These were nevertheless surpassed, though one aspect of the trilogy’s first entry seemed to thoroughly puzzle some and enrage others. Far and wide, the resounding questions were “What are these Whisper things?”, “Why is Cloud having visions unrelated to Nibelheim and Zack?” and “Why and how in the hell did Zack survive?”
Friends, I believe the answer lies within this post. Welcome to my literary-analysis-based theory on the Remake trilogy’s most important and most secret plot point: Cloud’s hidden mission. I want to make this fun and suspenseful to read, so I will write my analyses in the same order and manner in which I encountered them while putting my theory together. You will be reading what initially sparked my curiosity, the path I took while researching for answers, the conclusions I made every step of the way, and only then will you read my theory, after which we’ll try and apply it to the Remake trilogy so far and see if it fits! I want you to experience the rollercoaster that I did when digging through SE content to bring you this post. Thank you so much for waiting for and anticipating this analysis, and I do hope you read every word to soak in every last bit of Clerith you can get. I also hope it’s really fun and touching for you (I cried at least once making this)! Let’s embark on our adventure through the compilation, other FF games and real-life events to find out what the Remake project is truly all about and anticipate the events of part 3.
N.B.: Please be aware that I have never seen this theory navigate online, so I have no idea if anyone has ever come up with a similar hypothesis. The big reveal I’m building toward might be something you’re already aware of or suspected. In that case, I hope this post doesn’t disappoint you if you’re one of the lovely people who requested it! At the very least, it will provide you with valuable literary and musical analysis, a ton of evidence you haven’t considered yet, and hopefully, entertainment too!
WARNING: Please be careful with the censored spoiler text, because I'll be referencing other FF games in this analysis and I don't want to ruin anything for you! Obviously, this analysis contains spoilers for the entirety of the FFVII compilation. Additionally, if you're not a fan of Clerith and you've stumbled upon this post, please stop here. I would hate it if something I worked on and posted made you angry, so please don't read this analysis. I have only good intentions and I just want everyone to enjoy the FFVII world as much as they can.

I. Groundwork: The Remake Timelines Theory

Before I take you on this ride, we must lay down the framework of the Remake Timelines Theory. In this section, we’ll be reviewing the general consensus of theorizers within the fandom on timeline/multiverse shenanigans, with some added specifications on my part. Please keep in mind that because the timeline mechanics are kept quite vague by the devs, there might be certain inaccuracies in my iteration of the timelines theory. Thankfully, these potential variances won’t have any effect on the legitimacy of the theory I’ll be presenting to you in this analysis.
I. a) Sephiroth’s Plan
The premise of the Remake trilogy is widely thought to be the result of post-OG Sephiroth attempting to succeed where he failed in OG. There are six key points we need to keep in mind to understand how this was possible.
I. a) i. Sephiroth in the Lifestream
Firstly, it’s important to remember that Sephiroth is dead and located in the Lifestream before OG even begins, and remains that way for almost all of OG's duration. He is only able to operate in the world of the living via his/Jenova's control over the living Sephiroth clones. In the OG timeline then, Sephiroth is sent to the Lifestream by Cloud twice: once before the game takes place on the night of the Nibelheim incident (pre-OG), and a second time during the final battle against Sephiroth (disk 3, chapter 3). During the long period between the Nibelheim incident and Sephiroth’s rebirth at the Northern Crater (disk 2, chapter 2), he exists in the Lifestream. After his ultimate defeat (post-OG), he returns there for good.
II. a) ii. Sephiroth Unintegrated
Secondly, because he is full of hatred and unyielding determination, Sephiroth’s spirit cannot become one with the planet. After both occasions where Cloud kills him in OG, Sephiroth retains his individual will and the memories of his lifetime, remaining a separate entity in the Lifestream. He says so himself in Nojima’s Advent Children prequel novel On a Way to a Smile:

“[Sephiroth] could sense the Lifestream trying to erode his spirit— the memories of his former experiences, thoughts and emotions. If he allowed himself to be taken into the current, the being he once was would soon disseminate and disappear amongst the spirit energy cycling around the planet. [He] thought this unacceptable. The planet was to be his to rule, and to become a part of that system would be nothing short of defeat” ("Lifestream Black 1").

Combined with Bugenhagen’s basic lesson on planetology (FFVII OG, disk 1, chapter 19), this excerpt provides interesting information on how the Lifestream normally works. Usually, when a life returns to the planet, its individuality (personality, will, consciousness, memories, etc.) is stripped away. The trappings of a soul’s former lifetime are progressively dissolved so that all that is left is the spirit itself, ready to integrate into the Lifestream. This way, soul energy can be “recycled” by the planet to animate new lifeforms in a sort of reincarnation process. The erasure of one’s memories in the Lifestream is necessary for the creation of a brand new life, poised to make its own memories: the slate must be wiped clean, so to speak. Sephiroth’s sheer hatred for and desire to dominate the planet is enough to keep him from undergoing this process.
It is also thought that Sephiroth cannot be integrated into the Lifestream because he was conceived with the use of Jenova cells in vitro. Given that so much of his consciousness and genetic makeup originate from an alien life force, it is impossible for him to become one with the planet.
Regardless of the reason, it is precisely this persisting individuality in death that allows Sephiroth to meddle in the world of the living during the post-OG events of Advent Children, as explained to us by post-OG Aerith in On a Way to a Smile:

“[Aerith] had sensed a different presence within the Lifestream cycling around the planet. It was the vehemence of a strong will, one that would never join with the planet. She knew this consciousness. It was [Sephiroth]. A merciless spirit hidden behind a beauteous wall. That spirit was now operating from within the Lifestream. [She] sensed that he was planning to exert his influence to the surface of the planet“ ("Lifestream White 1").

I. a) iii. The Lifestream Beyond Time
Our third point is that the Lifestream has existed for as long as the planet, and has therefore touched every part of its history— including, of course, the events of OG. On that account, one could think of the Lifestream as atemporal. Considering this, it is possible for a spirit in the Lifestream to communicate with or even travel to the past, provided the necessary circumstances and/or abilities. For instance, the Aerith that appears in Cloud’s resolution scene in Remake (chapter 14) is commonly considered to be a post-OG Aerith, appearing to him from the future to try and dissuade him from falling for her. This time-defying event is made possible by the fact that post-OG Aerith’s spirit has access to the atemporal Lifestream because she's deceased. In my view, this explains why she dissolves into green light (Lifestream visual cue) at the end of the resolution scene (5:19-5:45). This is not time travel per se, but it is a manner of communication unobstructed by the one-directionality of a linear timeline that only spirits can perform.
I. a) iv. Sephiroth Beyond Time
What we’ve covered so far amounts to our fourth point. Please familiarize yourself with the graph below before you continue reading. Refer back to the graph when you encounter text in bold.
The Remake Timelines Theory: FFVII OG Timeline
As we discussed in section “I. a) i.”, Sephiroth is dead and located in the Lifestream for the duration of the green arrow and beyond point D: in the context of the OG timeline, he can only ever be considered “alive” during the period highlighted in purple. In section “I. a) ii.”, we asserted that Sephiroth retained his individual will in the Lifestream, enabling him to exert his influence on the world of the living by manipulating his clones on the surface. In section “I. a) iii.”, we covered the atemporal nature of the Lifestream, which allows post-OG Aerith’s spirit to communicate with her past, living self thanks to her Cetra abilities. Now, I will explain to you how Sephiroth was able to do virtually the same thing, albeit his lack of Cetra blood.
To the characters of the story and a fully immersed first-time player of OG, the timeline above was not always an established series of events: when they first started playing FFVII OG, the player began at point B, with nothing existing beyond it. It is only as the player moved Cloud forward that the black, arrowed timeline was drawn, accumulating lived events (or points) in Cloud’s wake. The picture you see above is only available to Cloud and to the player with hindsight. All this to state the obvious: at point B, Cloud could not know what would occur, say, at point C.
During the period highlighted in purple, Sephiroth was “alive” again, accumulating new memories on the surface of the planet and adding them to his consciousness. When he entered the Lifestream for the second time at point D, he brought these memories with him. Simply put, after returning to the Lifestream at point D, Sephiroth remembers what happened during the period highlighted in purple. However, given that the Lifestream exists beyond time, upon Sephiroth’s consciousness’ return to the Lifestream at point D, his newly acquired memories were also made available to him at all points on the green, double-arrowed line— including point A, before the OG timeline even begins at point B. So while it is true that Cloud cannot know what will occur at point C if he is only at point B, Sephiroth indeed knows what will occur during the period highlighted in purple when he is only at point A. While a living, pre-OG Aerith would be able to receive post-OG Aerith’s spirit’s knowledge through the Lifestream thanks to her Cetra powers, Sephiroth has no need for this ability. The fact that he resides in the Lifestream for practically the entire FFVII OG timeline renders the limitations of time irrelevant: as far as the FFVII OG timeline is concerned, Sephiroth exists beyond time itself.
In summary, after point D was first encountered in OG, pre-OG Sephiroth (in the Lifestream) is made aware of his eventual defeat, and begins plotting an alternate path to victory. This time, with the benefit of hindsight, he will do things differently: we experience his "second” attempt at FFVII as the Remake trilogy.
I. a) v. Sephiroth Against Fate
Of course, the Whispers stand squarely in Sephiroth’s way. This leads us to our fifth point, which Remake Ultimania describes better than I ever could:

“According to Red XIII, who gained knowledge through his contact with Aerith, ‘The Whispers are drawn to those who attempt to alter destiny’s course and ensure they do not’ […]. It would appear that what the Whispers deem to be ‘fate’ is the original story of Final Fantasy VII” (section 08 “Secrets”, “Newly Arisen Mysteries”, “What Is the Goal of the Elusive Whispers?”, page 733).

OG’s plot line is the fated timeline, and the Whispers are tasked with its preservation. They prevent alternative paths from even beginning to branch out from the OG timeline, which poses a problem for Sephiroth: he cannot win FFVII if his destiny is to lose it.
I. a) vi. Sephiroth and the Multiverse
Consequently, our sixth point is that Sephiroth must dismantle the mechanisms of fate before he can even try to accomplish his dreams of godhood.
As Sephiroth explains in chapter 14 of Rebirth, “the planet encompasses [an ever unfolding] multitude of worlds”, and these “[new worlds are born] when the boundaries of fate are breached.” Since the Whispers uphold the “boundaries of fate”, a world in which Sephiroth’s evil plans succeed can only emerge after the Whispers have been defeated. Otherwise, destiny will continue to protect the OG plot line by preventing any significant deviations. Consequently, before the party vanquishes fate, the Remake timeline and the OG timeline are one and the same: before chapter 18, Remake Barret is OG Barret, Remake Tifa is OG Tifa, Remake Hojo is OG Hojo, etc. After the defeat of Destiny, the OG timeline is no longer protected by fate: there are now an infinite number of timelines or worlds, including those we see glimpses of in Rebirth: Remake Barret is no longer necessarily OG Barret, Remake Tifa is no longer necessarily OG Tifa, Remake Hojo is no longer necessarily OG Hojo, etc. Perhaps this is why Aerith gives the party the following warning at destiny’s crossroads in Remake:

“[This] is the wall of destiny. If we go through it… if we go beyond it… then all of us will change, too” (FFVII Remake Material Ultimania Plus, VA script notes, “Destiny’s Crossroads”).

I. a) vii. Sephiroth’s Plan
Now that these six points have been elucidated, we can compose a solid hypothesis on how Sephiroth plots to win FFVII.
After gaining knowledge of his eventual demise (disk 3, chapter 3), pre-OG Sephiroth began thinking of what he must do in Remake from the Lifestream. First, Sephiroth must antagonize the Whispers in the initial stages of the OG timeline. He accomplishes this by commanding his clones to commit acts that drastically violate the fated timeline, engendering plot-line deviations that the Whispers must course-correct. The most extreme example transpires in Remake’s chapter 17 when the Sephiroth clone in President Shinra’s office kills Barret, forcing the Whispers to restore the fated plot line by coming forth and reviving him. The Whispers react to Sephiroth’s prodding by rushing in to protect fate, their efforts culminating in the protective wall of destiny that surrounds Midgar in chapter 18.
Secondly, after he’s created an opportunity for a battle against the Whispers, Sephiroth must convince the party to seize it and beat fate for him. After all, a mere Sephiroth clone is probably no match for Destiny. This second step is accomplished in Remake’s chapter 18 when Sephiroth successfully tempts Cloud to breach the boundaries of fate. Now that destiny is no longer a limitation, worlds deviating from the OG timeline can finally emerge; Sephiroth has a chance at victory.
The steps Sephiroth plans to take going forward are unknowable at this stage, but we do get more hints in Rebirth’s chapter 13. At the Temple of the Ancients, Sephiroth reveals a part of his plot:

“Sephiroth: My fragmented mother, these errant worlds... All shall be one again.
Aerith: The ‘Reunion’…!”

It seems Sephiroth eventually plans to merge the worlds created by destiny’s defeat in Remake’s chapter 18. My guess is he hopes to achieve godhood in part 3 and consolidate all diverting worlds into a single timeline protected by destiny once more— only this time, his victory will replace the ending of OG as the destined outcome. If he succeeds, Sephiroth’s Black Whispers will likely replace the planet’s Whispers as the arbiters of his desired fate.
I. b) Aerith’s Intervention
But Aerith can’t let this slide unchallenged!
We know that before chapter 18 of Remake, while the OG plot-line is still protected by fate, Aerith has knowledge of its future. This is insinuated by certain slips of the tongue: for instance, when Aerith reveals she knows Cloud is a mercenary upon meeting him for the second time in chapter 8, just like she knows Tifa will ask her to retrieve Marlene at Seventh Heaven in chapter 12. In the run-up to Remake, post-OG Aerith's spirit likely sensed Sephiroth planning his second try at FFVII in the Lifestream. She’s been able to anticipate Sephiroth’s plotting in the Lifestream before, namely in the context of Advent Children:

“[Aerith] had sensed a different presence within the Lifestream cycling around the planet […]. It was [Sephiroth] […]. That spirit was now operating from within the Lifestream. [She] sensed that he was planning to exert his influence [on] the surface of the planet” (On a Way to a Smile, "Lifestream White 1").

If you’re wondering how Aerith was able to maintain her individuality in the Lifestream like Sephiroth, On a Way to a Smile provides the following explanation:

“[Aerith] was an Ancient, which explained how she was able to maintain her individuality even within the Lifestream. If she so wished she could become part of the planet at any time, but [she] thought it too early for that just yet” ("Lifestream White 1").

It is thought that, as a countermeasure to Sephiroth's scheming, post-OG Aerith’s spirit used the atemporal nature of the Lifestream to inform her past, living self (pre-OG Aerith) of this new threat to the planet. Because the Cetra can commune with spirits, pre-OG Aerith would have been able to receive post-OG Aerith’s message from the Lifestream without a problem. Essentially, pre-OG Aerith received post-OG Aerith’s memories of the fated OG timeline. As a consequence, pre-OG Aerith embarks on the OG timeline with knowledge of the fated future that demands she give her life: the player experiences this version of her in Remake.
Be that as it may, it’s unclear how much Remake Aerith is aware of. You would think she’d be completely opposed to defeating, destiny since it protects the planet, but Aerith shows ambivalence toward the idea instead. Had she gotten a clear message from her future self that she must keep fate intact, she would not have allowed the party to enter the battle against fate in chapter 18. She doesn’t seem to know what the Whispers are the first time she encounters them either. Regardless, what’s important is that the Aerith seen in Remake is the result of pre-OG Aerith receiving knowledge from post-OG Aerith via the Lifestream.
I. c) Ambiguity: Memory Transfer or Time-Travel?
There remains an ambiguity pertaining to the Aerith we see in Remake and the question of time travel. What I’ve described to you in section “I. b)” is post-OG Aerith's spirit transferring her memories to her past self through the Lifestream. However, it’s possible that post-OG Aerith’s consciousness used the atemporal nature of the Lifestream to inhabit her living OG body instead, effectively time-traveling. There is no evidence to outright refute either explanation, since the gaps in Aerith’s memories of the OG plot-line in Remake can be explained in both cases. For instance, in a memory transfer scenario, it’s possible that post-OG Aerith only communicated the most essential information to pre-OG Aerith. On the other hand, in a time-travel scenario, one could interpret the following quotes as proof that the Whispers are progressively erasing Aerith’s memories of OG as Remake advances:

“Aerith: Every time the Whispers touch me, a piece of me falls away” (FFVII Remake Material Ultimania Plus, VA script notes, “Aerith Speaks”)
“At any rate, Aerith is perplexed at how, like a flower being scattered, something inside is being taken away by the Whispers and lost to her” (Toriyama in FFVII Remake Material Ultimania Plus, VA script notes, “Aerith Speaks”, “Scenario Staff Q&A - Answered by Motomu Toriyama”).

This ambiguity is completely irrelevant to Sephiroth’s situation in Remake, as we established in section “I. a) iv.”.
The specifics don’t matter nearly as much as I’m impressing upon you by explaining all these little alternatives. Simply keep in mind that: regardless of why, the Sephiroth and Aerith we see in Remake know the events of the OG game because they have acquired this knowledge from the future, and the events of Remake occur squarely within the OG timeline until the Whispers are defeated in chapter 18.
So there! That’s my iteration of the Remake Timelines Theory! I hope I’ve made it clear in your mind, or at least clearer. Now that we’ve established the widely theorized premise of the Remake trilogy, we can get into our theory on its hidden premise.
II. My Initial Curiosity
My theory first burgeoned upon going through Remake for the second time. I noticed something strange going on with Cloud, something that could not be explained by the Remake Timelines Theory. Key moments in Remake Cloud’s experience of the OG timeline (aka, everything before chapter 18) stuck out to me as strange and mysterious, and certain inexplicable audiovisual cues struck me as hugely significant. It was upon watching the tear fall from Cloud’s eye during my second go at chapter 8 that I knew I had to look into this.
At the very end of Remake’s chapter 8, Cloud watches Aerith walk away from him, humming happily into the night air as she sets off to lead the way to Sector 7. According to the VA script notes, “his heart skips a beat” and watching her walk away provokes a sudden “anxiety” within him. Triggered by the familiarity of the sight, a strange sensation overcomes Cloud:

“[There’s a] close-up shot of Cloud’s fingertips (they’re tingling). He presses them to his temples (his eyes are burning). A trickle of tears quickly rolls down from the eye hidden behind his hand” (FFVII Remake Material Ultimania Plus, VA script notes, “A Midnight Ambush”).

If you’re clever, you’ll recognize these lines as a reference to the speech Cloud makes in OG following Aerith’s death at the City of the Ancients (“My fingers are tingling. My mouth is dry. My eyes are burning!”) (disk 1, chapter 28). In this small moment in chapter 8 of Remake, Cloud experiences a flash of the profound grief he is destined to feel upon Aerith’s fated death.
Many players immediately recognized the composition of this scene: the blue-greenish air, the straight path Aerith heads down, the sight of her walking away itself… this moment closely resembles Cloud’s Sleeping Forest dream of Aerith in OG, wherein Cloud and Aerith’s very last words are exchanged (disk 1, chapter 25). Toriyama, codirector of the Remake project, comments on this scene thusly:

“It’s possible these similarities […] cause a memory of the future to be called forth in Cloud” (FFVII Remake Material Ultimania Plus, VA script notes, “A Midnight Ambush”).

The language used by Toriyama here is strange in both the English translation and the Japanese original: the term “memory of the future” makes no sense. One cannot remember things they haven’t already experienced, so why did Toriyama use the word “memory” to describe a "future" event? Couldn’t he have simply said that Remake Cloud experiences “visions of the future” rather than “[memories]”?
Cloud experiences a few moments like these throughout the game. These pseudo-premonitions are just as markedly exclusive to Remake as the Whispers are. I did not want to dismiss them as a foreshadowing device the devs included just to elicit emotional reactions from OG players; I felt they were more important. And thus began my digging! My mission was initially to figure out what these “[memories of the future]” (MOTFs) could signify… I had no clue it would turn into what I’m writing right now.
II. a) Each MOTF and Its Context
I began by finding every one of Cloud’s MOTFs so I could better understand them.
MOTF 1 occurs in chapter 2 on Sector 8’s Loveless Street, when Cloud sees Aerith struggling against the Whispers. The VA script notes reveal that even though this is only his first time seeing her, Cloud recognizes Aerith’s face:

“Recognizing Aerith’s face causes Cloud to experience [a hallucination]. Sephiroth is suddenly standing between him and Aerith” (FFVII Remake Material Ultimania Plus, VA script notes, “Encountering Aerith”).

Sephiroth then taunts Cloud with words that, according to the script notes, “[live] inside of Cloud's heart”: “You can’t protect anyone. Not even yourself”. Cloud should not recognize Aerith’s face at this point in the OG timeline, nor should he associate it with not being able to protect people.
MOTF 2 occurs in chapter 3, at the plaza in front of the Sector 7 slums support pillar. Cloud experiences a MOTF of the plate falling, which is fated to occur at a much later point in chapter 12. The Whispers float near him, “watching Cloud alertly as he sees a vision of the future” (FFVII Remake Ultimania, section 08 “Secrets”, “Newly Arisen Mysteries”, “What Is the Goal of the Elusive Whispers?”, page 733).
MOTF 3 occurs in Aerith’s church at the start of chapter 8, when Aerith mentions that her mother’s materia is “not good for anything at all”. Triggered by the mention and sight of the White Materia, Cloud’s fourth MOTF takes the form of a vision: he sees quick flashes of the materia falling into the lake of the Forgotten Capital and Aerith holding her hands together in prayer. These are evidently visions of her death in OG (disk 1, chapter 28).
MOTF 4 is the one we first discussed, occurring at the very end of chapter 8 as Cloud watches Aerith walk away from him to lead the way toward Sector 7.
MOTF 5 occurs in chapter 13 shortly after the Sector 7 plate has fallen on the slums. Cloud tells Barret that Marlene is safe at Aerith’s house, and they begin heading there. As Cloud thinks about Aerith, the VA script notes describe the very next moment as follows:

“Cloud: Tifa, you know anything about the Ancients?
Tifa: I’ve heard of them before, but…
Barret walks on ahead, showing little interest in the topic.
Barret: Read a book on planetology and they’re sure to come up. They’re a tribe that cultivated the planet a real long time ago. Used to talk to it. That sort of stuff.
Cloud: That must be why the Turks were after her.
[Psychic] interference starts up.
[Cloud has a] flashback of Sephiroth from five years ago, after learning of his ancestry at Shinra Manor […].
Sephiroth [(in flashback, voice tinged with madness)]: Within my veins flows the blood of the Ancients. I am the rightful heir to this planet!
The flashback ends and Cloud looks lost in thought. The interference starts up once more. Cloud makes agonized sounds. When he opens his eyes, Sephiroth is actually standing before him.
Sephiroth: You failed again— failed to protect [her]*.
Cloud is startled. He shrinks back. Tifa watches what’s happening. The other two can’t see Sephiroth. All they see is Cloud acting frightened.
Sephiroth: But loss will make you strong. […] Isn’t that what you want?
With that, Sephiroth departs.”

*Sephiroth does not use a gendered pronoun here, because the grammatical structure of the original Japanese sentence doesn’t necessitate it. I've seen some debate as to whether the proper translation is “her” (Aerith, who’s just been kidnapped), or “them” (Jessie, Biggs or Wedge, who have seemingly just died). I believe Sephiroth was referring to Aerith for a few reasons. First, Cloud’s hallucinations of Sephiroth always appear as a response to whatever he is perceiving or thinking about at the moment. At this point in the scene, Cloud has been thinking and talking about Aerith for some time, and not about Jessie, Biggs or Wedge. The Sephiroth hallucination must therefore be referring to “her” rather than to “them”. Secondly, Cloud was never tasked with “[protecting]” Avalanche, but he was in fact tasked with “[protecting]” Aerith as her bodyguard back in chapter 8: it makes far more sense for Sephiroth to be referring to Aerith when he speaks about someone Cloud “failed to protect”. Finally, FFVII Remake Ultimania describes this piece of dialogue as “[Sephiroth aiming] these profound words at Cloud, who not only failed to prevent the tragedy in the Sector 7 slums but allowed Aerith to be abducted” (Sephiroth’s profile in section 01 “Character & World”, “Impressive Words”, page 29): the specific mention of Aerith here seals my decision to translate the line with the pronoun “her”.
Contrary to Sephiroth’s words, this is the first time in Remake that Cloud “[fails] to protect [Aerith]”, and he hasn’t “[lost]” her either— not yet, at least. So why use the words "again" and "loss"? This fifth MOTF must be similar to MOTF 1, in that Sephiroth is referring to Cloud’s guilt surrounding Aerith’s death in OG.
MOTF 6 occurs in chapter 17, in Aerith and Ifalna’s old room at Shinra HQ. The Whispers swarm Aerith as she tells the party earnestly that she wants to do everything in her power to help her friends and the planet: according to the script notes, it is at this very moment that, “for some reason, Cloud feels his chest constrict tightly” (FFVII Remake Material Ultimania Plus, VA script notes, “Aerith Speaks”). In the corresponding cutscene, this unpleasant physiological reaction to Aerith’s words makes Cloud glance down at his chest with a confounded frown. This physical response to her speech about wanting to fulfill her duty to the planet implies that Cloud somehow knows deep down that saving the world will cost Aerith her life.
At this point, I noticed that five out of the six MOTFs Cloud experiences in Remake are triggered by and/or revolve around Aerith specifically, the one exception being a MOTF of the Sector 7 plate fall. One could actually argue that this MOTF revolves around Aerith too, considering the plate fall marks the first time Aerith is taken away from Cloud since reuniting with her in the Sector 5 slums church. This is more than plausible, as MOTF 5 proves that in the wake of the Sector 7 plate fall, Cloud’s main concern is Aerith (see section “II. a)”). How fitting is it, then, that the merc of few words’ longest uninterrupted piece of dialogue in all of Remake is:

“We found an underground Shinra lab where they've done human testing. This wasn't the first time and it won't be the last. I know these people, and I know they're never gonna let Aerith go. She's the last living Ancient on the planet. Think about what that means to Shinra's scientists. Especially to that son of a bitch Hojo. We're all just numbers and meat to him—“ (Remake, chapter 13).

Cloud would’ve gone on too, had Elmyra and Tifa not stopped him.
At this juncture in my research, my questions were only stacking up. What are these MOTFs? Why is Cloud the only one experiencing them? Why do all of them implicate Aerith? What did the devs hope to accomplish with their inclusion in the game? What do they mean for Remake’s story? But most importantly:
II. b) What Does Cloud Know?
The first assertion we have to make is simple, yet essential: the only reason Cloud would experience MOTFs is that whatever’s triggered them is significant to him in one way or another. Some part of him must recognize his triggers for them to be triggers at all. It’s clear he doesn’t consciously understand the meaning of his MOTF triggers, just like his Jenova triggers: for example, Cloud doesn’t know why Zack’s name causes him to experience psychic interference, but it sure does. We as players know Cloud’s MOTFs are hinting at Aerith’s fated death because of our awareness of OG, but as a character navigating the OG timeline, Remake Cloud shouldn't even be unconsciously aware of Aerith’s eventual death in the slightest! Whatever the nature of the MOTFs, it’s essential to understand that if Cloud “[recognizes]” Aerith’s face the first time he sees her, it must mean some part of him knows Aerith’s face in the first place. If this recognition triggers a hallucination of Sephiroth telling Cloud he “can’t protect anyone”, it must mean some part of him knows he was once unable to protect Aerith. The same goes for every other MOTF: subconsciously, Remake Cloud somehow has memories of the OG timeline. Most interestingly, it looks like he either only has OG memories related to Aerith, or like his OG memories of Aerith are simply the only ones prominent enough to trigger his MOTFs. Why and how does Remake Cloud have memories of OG, and why are they so focused on Aerith in particular? What does he know?
When examining a situation with no explanation, it’s wise to examine similar situations that have already been explained. Maybe the mystery of Remake Cloud’s MOTFs will become more approachable if we consider the cases of the only other Remake characters who seem to know the future: Aerith and Sephiroth. Remake Sephiroth knows the future of the OG timeline because his consciousness exists beyond time in the Lifestream, while Remake Aerith likely obtained her knowledge of the future from post-OG Aerith’s spirit via the Lifestream. But what about Cloud? Where does his weaker, fragmented knowledge come from?

I just set up a new Samsung S24 for my mom and used SmartSwitch to trasfer her texts. The transfer stopped, so I restarted it. Now all her texts show as doubled. I've tried clearing cache, data, restarting... only option was to set Samsung Messages as the default. Is there any way I can clear the Google Messages app and start over without deleting her texts?

Hi, I am not sure how to properly post stuff here. So please feel free to tell me to make adjustments.
I'll cut it short.
Mali ba na masaktan ako at magselos ako sa isang artista?
My girlfriend and I went to a local event in my GF's hometown. The town Mayor paid celebrities to come into town and do some performances, that type of stuff.
One of the male celebrities, for his performance, asked girls to be on stage and perform with him. He saw my girlfriend and he grabbed her to come with him to stage.
Instinctively, I tried to stop it, but seeing my girlfriend very eager and happy to join, I decided to let it be and she went up on the stage with the guy celeb.
At the start, they were just asking simple questions to lighten up the mood etc. But things started to get uncomfortable for me yung sa dance part na. It was sexual, or at least it looked liked and felt like that to me.
They were intimately looking at each other, the guy was hugging her from the back, with his face on her neck while they were dancing, and then the guy made her turn around and carried her (like dawn zulueta type of thing), while touching her legs, and to top it all off, after the dance was over, the guy gestured to take off his jacket and belt to indicate na he was horny "in a fun and laughable way". Overall, I was very uncomfortable, parang natulala nalang ako at nanginig sa galit, and the cheers from the audience made me dizzy. They were having fun, they were all entertained, kinilig silang lahat. Except for me, I was there, on the point of breaking down. And the worst part of it all? All those intimate and sexual stuff they did, my girlfriend looked very happy and comfortable doing it.
So she went back to our seat, and then her and her girl friends were shrieking na para bang kinikilig silang lahat. She was very happy and proud of what she did. She tried to talk to me and my friends teased us na "lagot ka pag-uwi", I just smiled and went to my phone, preventing tears from dropping.
Fast forward, the event ended and we got home. I confronted her about it, we had an argument and I told her about how disrespected and uncomfortable I felt. She got mad and told me na all of it was just for fun, for entertainment purposes lang daw. Sabi pa niya "ano gusto mo gawin ko? bumababa sa stage at maging KJ?" She told me na I was being OA kasi nga bakit ko daw pagseselosan ang artista na "hindi naman kami magkakatuluyan nun". I was mad, but I was not vocal enough about it kase I was so drained. Ang sakit lang, kasi she was very proud of what she did, she posted it on her facebook semi bragging about it, and the way she responded to the comments and replies felt like it was one of her greatest achievements in life.
Nakikitulog kami sa parents niya that time, but I decided to leave her that night, I just waited for her to fall asleep and I got out of bed and drove 4 hours back into my hometown. I left a message for her and decided to block her right after.
I felt so lost, and what's worse is that, all of her friends, in which na kasama namin sa event messaged me days after that I am being silly and being unreasonable, and even her family is justifying her actions saying na it's not a valid reason for a break-up.
Side note, I am paying for all their bills sa family nila, (internet, water, house, groceries and even medication maintenance) , siguro that's part of the reason why they are telling me to stick with her through the end and pagusapan muna ang lahat, it may seem unrelated to the topic on hand pero di lang kasi mawala sa isip ko na out of all the things I am doing for them, I don't event get a single ounce of respect.
Sorry guys, ako ba talaga ang mali?
Ako ba yung gago for ending things with her right away? Unreasonable ba talaga na nagselos ako sa artista?

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