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To: The girl I met in the office, 7 years ago.
2024.05.15 20:55 princessofgenovia93 To: The girl I met in the office, 7 years ago.
Hi. I know you're here, so hello to you kung mabasa mo to. Oo, wag mo na ioverthink. Ikaw to.
We met 7 years ago. You were this shy girl who kept to herself but would always be game to joke around and banter. It became a challenge to me na patawanin ka every shift, kahit sa maliliit na bagay lang (as a harcore people pleaser). Hindi pa kita crush non, but something just drew me into your atmosphere. Fast forward to 2 years later, we ended up sitting beside each other almost every night and I got to know you more. I think the first time I realized I may have a crush on you was when you asked for my playlist, kasi sabi mo you liked the songs that were playing.. and unexpectedly, kinilig ako. Ang babaw, I know. But music is my language. It's the easiest way to my heart and my soul. I was in a relationship then, and I found out later that year (dahil ginawa mo kong 3rd wheel HAHAHA) that you were also seeing someone. Kaya hanggang parinig lang ako sa IG.... until 2022 came, I was single, you were single, and we started hanging out ng tayo lang dalawa.
I never assumed they were 'dates' since we never really talked about it. Delulu ako pero hindi ako asumera hahaha but yeah, I enjoyed your company. I still do. And I know first hang out pa lang natin, you mentioned it already -- na you're not looking for love, you don't even know if you still believe in love or if you ever will, and that you have trust issues because of your ex -- and I respect that greatly. Kaya kahit talagang hulog na hulog na ang lola nyo, hindi ako umamin... not until araw ng kalayaan the same year.
Hindi ako makatulog at sobrang kabog ng dibdib ko for some reason. I felt like I had to say it. It was literally like vomit -- hindi mo kayang pigilan pag andyan na. So umamin ako. Pero I made sure not to pressure you or anything, kasi you also mentioned you hate people with the 'savior-complex' and I wasn't trying to be. I just felt what I felt and I needed you to know. I figured whatever happens, it's always better to let people know they are being admired and appreciated simply for existing -- kasi sa totoo lang, wala ka namang ginawa or sinabi para umasa ako. I did that all on my own. But you're an amazing person. Sa dami ng pinagdaanan mo, you're still here. Most people would have given up - but you didn't. And now, you're a confident motherfucker who gives no shit and protects her peace above all -- and I love that about you. And I don't want to take that away from you.
Ang gusto ko lang, ma-cuddle ka, makinig sa mga kwento mo, misadventures mo, mga nangyari sayo on your trips.. Kaso wala eh. After I confessed and you didn't say you felt the same, I took that as a no and just forced myself to be content na friends lang talaga tayo. Masaya naman ako as your friend, but I feel like I'm selling myself short if I say na okay na ako dito forever lol sabi nga ni Snoh Alegra, 'I don't want to kiss you, I just want to feel you' GANON pero gusto din kita ikiss hahahaha but yeah, parang malabo eh kasi pakiramdam ko either hindi mo ko type or we don't want the same things... I know na I'm confused rn kasi I never really asked you if you felt the same -- but come on. Ako na nga nag first move eh, sundan mo naman??? hahahahaha jk it's okay. Tanggap ko ng baka nga hindi mo ko gusto.
Hindi ko din alam bat ko to sinulat.. para lang malabas ko siguro. I'll try harder to move on and get over you, pero no promises. Knowing myself - isang text mo lang I'll keep coming back to you until may ilaunch ka ng jowa or something. Iiyak ako at mag lalasing BUT know that I will genuinely be happy for you when that day comes. Ofcourse, sana ako yon. Pero kung hindi, ayos lang. Basta wag ka na sanang matakot sumugal ulit. I promise you hindi lahat ng tao kagaya ng ex mong gago.
P.S if mabasa mo to and tang ina naghihintayan lang pala tayo, gago mag message ka na ayain mo ko magkape tapos pag nag yes ako sabihin mo 'okay. that's a date!' GANON! Mahirap ba yon?? HAHAHAHAHA eme
fin.
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We met 7 years ago. You were this shy girl who kept to herself but would always be game to joke around and banter. It became a challenge to me na patawanin ka every shift, kahit sa maliliit na bagay lang (as a harcore people pleaser). Hindi pa kita crush non, but something just drew me into your atmosphere. Fast forward to 2 years later, we ended up sitting beside each other almost every night and I got to know you more. I think the first time I realized I may have a crush on you was when you asked for my playlist, kasi sabi mo you liked the songs that were playing.. and unexpectedly, kinilig ako. Ang babaw, I know. But music is my language. It's the easiest way to my heart and my soul. I was in a relationship then, and I found out later that year (dahil ginawa mo kong 3rd wheel HAHAHA) that you were also seeing someone. Kaya hanggang parinig lang ako sa IG.... until 2022 came, I was single, you were single, and we started hanging out ng tayo lang dalawa.
I never assumed they were 'dates' since we never really talked about it. Delulu ako pero hindi ako asumera hahaha but yeah, I enjoyed your company. I still do. And I know first hang out pa lang natin, you mentioned it already -- na you're not looking for love, you don't even know if you still believe in love or if you ever will, and that you have trust issues because of your ex -- and I respect that greatly. Kaya kahit talagang hulog na hulog na ang lola nyo, hindi ako umamin... not until araw ng kalayaan the same year.
Hindi ako makatulog at sobrang kabog ng dibdib ko for some reason. I felt like I had to say it. It was literally like vomit -- hindi mo kayang pigilan pag andyan na. So umamin ako. Pero I made sure not to pressure you or anything, kasi you also mentioned you hate people with the 'savior-complex' and I wasn't trying to be. I just felt what I felt and I needed you to know. I figured whatever happens, it's always better to let people know they are being admired and appreciated simply for existing -- kasi sa totoo lang, wala ka namang ginawa or sinabi para umasa ako. I did that all on my own. But you're an amazing person. Sa dami ng pinagdaanan mo, you're still here. Most people would have given up - but you didn't. And now, you're a confident motherfucker who gives no shit and protects her peace above all -- and I love that about you. And I don't want to take that away from you.
Ang gusto ko lang, ma-cuddle ka, makinig sa mga kwento mo, misadventures mo, mga nangyari sayo on your trips.. Kaso wala eh. After I confessed and you didn't say you felt the same, I took that as a no and just forced myself to be content na friends lang talaga tayo. Masaya naman ako as your friend, but I feel like I'm selling myself short if I say na okay na ako dito forever lol sabi nga ni Snoh Alegra, 'I don't want to kiss you, I just want to feel you' GANON pero gusto din kita ikiss hahahaha but yeah, parang malabo eh kasi pakiramdam ko either hindi mo ko type or we don't want the same things... I know na I'm confused rn kasi I never really asked you if you felt the same -- but come on. Ako na nga nag first move eh, sundan mo naman??? hahahahaha jk it's okay. Tanggap ko ng baka nga hindi mo ko gusto.
Hindi ko din alam bat ko to sinulat.. para lang malabas ko siguro. I'll try harder to move on and get over you, pero no promises. Knowing myself - isang text mo lang I'll keep coming back to you until may ilaunch ka ng jowa or something. Iiyak ako at mag lalasing BUT know that I will genuinely be happy for you when that day comes. Ofcourse, sana ako yon. Pero kung hindi, ayos lang. Basta wag ka na sanang matakot sumugal ulit. I promise you hindi lahat ng tao kagaya ng ex mong gago.
P.S if mabasa mo to and tang ina naghihintayan lang pala tayo, gago mag message ka na ayain mo ko magkape tapos pag nag yes ako sabihin mo 'okay. that's a date!' GANON! Mahirap ba yon?? HAHAHAHAHA eme
fin.
2024.05.15 15:14 YellowCoffeeCake71 Kailangan pa ba ng Annulment of Marriage?
Context: Husband and Wife were married 20+ years ago sa Pilipinas by Civil union. Had 1 child na ngayon ay nasa legal age na din. Husband went to US early in their marriage for work. Wife was of course left with the kid. It came a time na nagkaproblema si Husband sa US na delikadong mapauwi sya sa PH na ang tanging paraan lang para makapag-stay sya doon ay magpakasal sa isang US citizen. Long story short, may napakasalan si H so nakapag stay sya doon. Eventually, nasira na nga ang marriage nila ng kanyang wife sa Pilipinas.
After some time, naka kuha na ng green card si Husband. Meaning may full rights na sya as American Citizen. Ang ginawa ni Husband (now Ex-Husband), he filed DIVORCE laban kay Wife (now Ex-Wife) na nasa PH. Legal papers were sent from US to PH para sa mga settlement tulad ng child support at custody (dahil that time minor pa si child). Also, when checked sa portal ng US state na yun ang names, nag aappear nga naman ang name ni Filipina Ex-Wife sa divorce documents.
Now the dilemma: Happy na din si Ex-Wife sa bago nitong kinakasama si New-Partner. Almost 20 years na din naman since nagfile at naapprove ang US divorce with Ex. Wala din naman sila balak magpakasal kaya hindi big deal ang legal documents o negative cenomar ni Ex-W. Pero Luckily, nakakuha ng job offer si New-P sa Australia kung saan pwede nyang sana sa Visa application ang family. Alam naman na allowed ang de facto partner visa for their type of relationship. Pero dahil Divorced lang naman si Ex-W ng kanyang Ex-H na US citizen, pero hindi naman napawalang bisa ang kasal sa Pilipinas.
Questions: May bisa ba ang US Divorce papers to prove na wala nang bisa ang kasal ni Ex-W kay Ex-H? Matuturing ba na “de facto partner” and status ni Ex-W kay New-P para sa AU visa application? May kailangan pa bang gawin si Ex-W para ipa-annul ang kasal nila dito?
Salamat po sa sasagot.
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After some time, naka kuha na ng green card si Husband. Meaning may full rights na sya as American Citizen. Ang ginawa ni Husband (now Ex-Husband), he filed DIVORCE laban kay Wife (now Ex-Wife) na nasa PH. Legal papers were sent from US to PH para sa mga settlement tulad ng child support at custody (dahil that time minor pa si child). Also, when checked sa portal ng US state na yun ang names, nag aappear nga naman ang name ni Filipina Ex-Wife sa divorce documents.
Now the dilemma: Happy na din si Ex-Wife sa bago nitong kinakasama si New-Partner. Almost 20 years na din naman since nagfile at naapprove ang US divorce with Ex. Wala din naman sila balak magpakasal kaya hindi big deal ang legal documents o negative cenomar ni Ex-W. Pero Luckily, nakakuha ng job offer si New-P sa Australia kung saan pwede nyang sana sa Visa application ang family. Alam naman na allowed ang de facto partner visa for their type of relationship. Pero dahil Divorced lang naman si Ex-W ng kanyang Ex-H na US citizen, pero hindi naman napawalang bisa ang kasal sa Pilipinas.
Questions: May bisa ba ang US Divorce papers to prove na wala nang bisa ang kasal ni Ex-W kay Ex-H? Matuturing ba na “de facto partner” and status ni Ex-W kay New-P para sa AU visa application? May kailangan pa bang gawin si Ex-W para ipa-annul ang kasal nila dito?
Salamat po sa sasagot.
2024.05.15 11:46 anuna_pilipinas nanay prob
Hi magrant lang. I have a boyfriend (28) going 4 months na kami tho matagal ko na syang kilala kaya super comfy ko na sa kanya. 1st bf ko rin. Malapit na bday ko (turning 26) so gusto ko magplan mag out of town kami ni bf kahit 2 nights lang para magunwind narin. Ang kaso mukhang di approved ng nanay ko 🥲 kesyo masyado pa daw maaga para mag ganun kaming dalawa lang and mas okay pa daw kung may kasama kaming tropa. Nagegets ko naman pov ng nanay ko di ko lang gets bat need p may kasama? Like ang dali magsinungaling sabihin madami kami pero ayaw ko kasi ng ganun 🥲 Di naman strict parents ko hahahaha at alam ko rin naman limitations ko kaya naffrustrate tuloy ako. Sa side ni bf okay lang sa kanya kahit uwian kami ako lang talaga kasi gusto ko magunwind talaga 😭
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2024.05.14 20:30 manic_pixie_dust The Kito Family
 | Anyone familiar with this Digital Creator? For context, Kim Enson-Lowry is a half-Filipina, half-Turkish/Cypriot (ata) who was raised in England. She used to work as a TV Producer for major networks in the UK. That’s where she met her husband, Tom Lowry who’s a TV Director. They have three kids and moved to the Philippines last year. Kim can speak fluent Tagalog because of her mom and her husband can speak Tagalog, too. submitted by manic_pixie_dust to ChikaPH [link] [comments] If I remember correctly, I bumped into their YT channel pre-pandemic. 2018 siguro yun tapos mag-boyfriend-girlfriend pa lang sila noon. Anyway, ang gaan ng vibes nila kaya madami may gusto sa channel nila. Tapos since andito nga sila, Tom flies for work every now and then. Say yung project nila is in Africa, lilipad sya dun and will stay for weeks to a month. Parang ganun ata. Anyway, kanina I saw their YT post saying na they will be saying goodbye to YT soon. The reason wasn’t disclosed, though I have a feeling na may problem sila since yesterday merong IG Story si Kim na parang inspirational message for people going through some challenges. Parang sabi pa na the universe daw takes something out of your life to make room for a better one, ganun ang gist. Tapos last post ni Tom sa IG March 2024 pa, wala rin Mother’s Day greeting for Kim kahit IG story. Di pa naman nya pinapalampas ang mga ganitong okasyon. Iniisip ko busy siguro pero nag-like naman sya sa mother’s day post ni Kim for her mom. Tapos sa isang vlog wala si Tom sa thumbnail. Parang feeling ko tuloy there’s trouble in paradise. Naalala ko naman yung Us the Duo dahil dito though sana mali kutob ko. Di na rin kasi ako updated sa kanila so baka kayo dito alam nyo. P.S. Not sure about the flair but yeah… |
2024.05.14 16:32 NegativeBeginning593 Peace of mind
Hi! wanna rant lang saglit - so kahapon nag-away kami ni GF dahil work experiences ko na 5years. Then all of a sudden, biglang naging sarcastic yung mga replies nya na with "po" at the end which sounds very rude to me.
Sa sobrang badtrip ko - natulog ako at hindi ako nagbukas ng socmeds since last night. Ngayon nalang ulit while typing this then nag-message sya if kung nakauwi na ba ako? I replied naman pero while the conversation is going on - bigla ko nalang nasabi na gusto ko ng peace of mind like para walang distraction sa work para tuloy-tuloy ako since 100+ yung mga tinatwagan ko per day pero most of them are ringing lang. Sinabi ko na kahit sa gabi nalang tayo mag-usap kapag weekdays. Aba! nag-hysterical, tinanong nya ako kung ayaw ko na daw ba sa kanya? distraction daw ba sya? Like wala akong sinabi na mga ganun bagay - gusto ko lang makapagfocus sa work during working hours pero parang hirap pa ata sya ibigay sakin yon. May weekends naman para mag-usap kami. Ang haba-haba ng pinagsasabi na simple lang naman ang hiling ko. Nakakaurat lang isipin na that should be understandable kasi we're both young adults pero mas ahead ako ng 2years sa kanya. Tas sasabihan ako na "selfish" kaya ko daw gusto na sa gabi nalang mag-usap.
Susumbatan ako na, nagmamakaawa nalang daw sya na para sa atensyon ko like ngayon lang naman ako nagkaroon ng tasks na ganito kadami jusqo. Di ko magets kung bakit hindi nya ako maintindihan sa simpleng paliwanag like need ko pa i-breakdown na parang need lagi ng detailed explanation. Ang nakakatrigger is nakipaghiwalay pa para daw makuha ko yung peace of mind na gusto ko. Dati kasi sa work ko - lagi kami magkausap kasi wala ako halos ginagawa kumbaga para lang akong guard na nagbabantay ng tao pero office work pa din. Dati kasi nakakapag-usap kami while working pero since promoted na ako so yung workload ko is nadagdagan na din. Sobrang daming beses na nag-attempt na makipaghiwalay sya sakin dahil lang sa sobrang insecure nya sa sarili nya. Pinababayaan ko lang then after a day magme-message na ayusin daw namin kasi di nya daw ako kaya mawala. Hindi ko din sya magets sometimes - sobrang gulo ng takbo ng utak. Simple lang naman gusto ko is makapagfocus sa work ng 9hrs w/ lunch.
P.S: Kami pa din pero hindi ko sya kinakausap kasi magka-aaway pa din kami
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Sa sobrang badtrip ko - natulog ako at hindi ako nagbukas ng socmeds since last night. Ngayon nalang ulit while typing this then nag-message sya if kung nakauwi na ba ako? I replied naman pero while the conversation is going on - bigla ko nalang nasabi na gusto ko ng peace of mind like para walang distraction sa work para tuloy-tuloy ako since 100+ yung mga tinatwagan ko per day pero most of them are ringing lang. Sinabi ko na kahit sa gabi nalang tayo mag-usap kapag weekdays. Aba! nag-hysterical, tinanong nya ako kung ayaw ko na daw ba sa kanya? distraction daw ba sya? Like wala akong sinabi na mga ganun bagay - gusto ko lang makapagfocus sa work during working hours pero parang hirap pa ata sya ibigay sakin yon. May weekends naman para mag-usap kami. Ang haba-haba ng pinagsasabi na simple lang naman ang hiling ko. Nakakaurat lang isipin na that should be understandable kasi we're both young adults pero mas ahead ako ng 2years sa kanya. Tas sasabihan ako na "selfish" kaya ko daw gusto na sa gabi nalang mag-usap.
Susumbatan ako na, nagmamakaawa nalang daw sya na para sa atensyon ko like ngayon lang naman ako nagkaroon ng tasks na ganito kadami jusqo. Di ko magets kung bakit hindi nya ako maintindihan sa simpleng paliwanag like need ko pa i-breakdown na parang need lagi ng detailed explanation. Ang nakakatrigger is nakipaghiwalay pa para daw makuha ko yung peace of mind na gusto ko. Dati kasi sa work ko - lagi kami magkausap kasi wala ako halos ginagawa kumbaga para lang akong guard na nagbabantay ng tao pero office work pa din. Dati kasi nakakapag-usap kami while working pero since promoted na ako so yung workload ko is nadagdagan na din. Sobrang daming beses na nag-attempt na makipaghiwalay sya sakin dahil lang sa sobrang insecure nya sa sarili nya. Pinababayaan ko lang then after a day magme-message na ayusin daw namin kasi di nya daw ako kaya mawala. Hindi ko din sya magets sometimes - sobrang gulo ng takbo ng utak. Simple lang naman gusto ko is makapagfocus sa work ng 9hrs w/ lunch.
P.S: Kami pa din pero hindi ko sya kinakausap kasi magka-aaway pa din kami
2024.05.14 10:03 jejeje8819 Help! Kelangan ba bayaran ng pinsan ko ang apartment na tinitirhan ng asawa nya na gusto makipaghiwalay sa kanya?
Good afternoon po at sorry for the lack of a better title. Just want to inquire ano pwede gawin namin. Naaawa kasi ako sa sitwasyon ng pinsan ko, sobrang depressed na kasi di nya alam gagawin. Wala kasi syang alam sa batas at sa rights nya.
Nakatira sila sa apartment na pagmamay-ari ng aunt ng wife nya(P). Two weeks ago after nila mag-away, pinalayas na si pinsan at dun sya tumira kasama sa mother niya. Dala nya sina kids A and B (gusto ng mga bata na sa kanya sumama, even yung isang stepdaughter gusto rin sana sumama kasi pabaya yung nanay at palaging nag-iinom).
Aware si pinsan na kailangan nya magsustento sa mga bata. Pero ngayon, nag-insist si wife nya, P, at Q na bayaran yung apartment kung saan nakatira si wife nya kasi daw pamilya pa rin. Sinabihan din sya nina P at Q na wala syang madadala sa mga anak nya kasi dapat daw sa nanay. Today, ipapa-barangay daw ang pinsan ko (wala pa kong balita if natuloy).
Additional info. Tricycle driver si pinsan at yung linya (ruta) ay owned by P and Q. Kinuha nila yun sa pinsan ko kaya hindi nakapag-biyahe and pinsan ko yesterday. In short, wala na syang trabaho.
Ito po questions ko.
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Cousin (Male, married, in his 40s, tricycle driver) Wife: walang work, with 2 kids from her 2 exes Kids ni cousin: A(m,10), B(f,8), C(m,3) Aunt ni Wife (P) Asawa ng aunt ni wife (Q)Hindi na nagkakasundo yung cousin ko at yung wife nya. May times na pinipisikal sya ng asawa nya pero di sya makalaban kasi takot sya ma-barangay at makulong. Ilang beses na rin sya pinapalayas ng asawa nya sa bahay nila kung saan siya ang nagbabayad.
Nakatira sila sa apartment na pagmamay-ari ng aunt ng wife nya(P). Two weeks ago after nila mag-away, pinalayas na si pinsan at dun sya tumira kasama sa mother niya. Dala nya sina kids A and B (gusto ng mga bata na sa kanya sumama, even yung isang stepdaughter gusto rin sana sumama kasi pabaya yung nanay at palaging nag-iinom).
Aware si pinsan na kailangan nya magsustento sa mga bata. Pero ngayon, nag-insist si wife nya, P, at Q na bayaran yung apartment kung saan nakatira si wife nya kasi daw pamilya pa rin. Sinabihan din sya nina P at Q na wala syang madadala sa mga anak nya kasi dapat daw sa nanay. Today, ipapa-barangay daw ang pinsan ko (wala pa kong balita if natuloy).
Additional info. Tricycle driver si pinsan at yung linya (ruta) ay owned by P and Q. Kinuha nila yun sa pinsan ko kaya hindi nakapag-biyahe and pinsan ko yesterday. In short, wala na syang trabaho.
Ito po questions ko.
- May laban ba sya sa mga kids nya (A and B)?
- Obligasyon ba nya bayaran ang rent sa apartment plus utilities na tinitirhan ng asawa nya (kasama ng asawa nya si kid C)?
- Ano po ang minimum sa kelangan nyang ibigay para sa mga bata? (Percentage ng kita nya)
2024.05.14 08:06 Numerous_Okra_3883 Sa cheater ko na ex: Thanks for hurting me
Hello, kamusta kayong lahat? Medyo mahaba po itong ikukwento ko sainyo. Tungkol sa ex ko na 4 years kami (Tawagin nalang natin syang W). By the way, I am 24F and 25M naman sya. Nagkakilala kami nung college, same school magkaibang course nga lang. Nagmatch kami sa T 🔥- dating app kasi pinatry ako ng mga kaibigan ko eh ako uto-uto tapos di ko naman expected. Sa una syempre masaya kami. Hindi ako kagandahan pero sya chinito na maputi. Idk nga ano nagustuhan nya saakin eh.
During our 1st year na magbf/gf, okay naman sya. Siguro kasi 1st bf ko sya. Hindi pa ako marunong ng mga redflag redflag na yan noon kasi first time. Puro lang kasi ako crush crush nung college. In short bulag ang ate mo kasi inlove. Unang napapansin ko sakanya na akala ko normal, nahihiya sya na makita ng mga blockmates nya na kasama ako. Hindi naman ako ganun kapangit. Tapos naman napansin ko pag nasa mall kami napapalingon sya sa girls yun talaga nagalit ako sabi ko nakaka-bastos sa part ko eh ako marupok pinatawad.
Nung nagpandemic na, nagstart na sya mag-iba ng ugali. Meron pa akong nadiscover meron syang addiction sa p()rn. Yung 365 days nakailang ulit sya kasi nakita ko sa history ng account nya. Nadismaya ako kasi hindi ko alam na meron syang ganun side kasi nung mga previous years okay naman sya or baka bihira kami magkita kasi busy sa schoolworks? Nangungulit din sya magpasend ng video ko or pictures na nud3s pero ayoko talaga nagagalit sya bina block nya ako. Akala ko normal na tampuhan yun redflag na pala. Naalala ko pa nanunuod kami TV lumabas si Ms. Catriona Gray sa isang show sabi nya saakin "Kung ganyan kaganda GF ko buntis agad yan sakin ihi lang pahinga. Joke lang" nagtaasan balahibo ko sa sinabi nya sabi ko "G@go? Ano ba sinasabi mo? Saka sa itsura mong yan papatulan ka nyan?" sobrang inis ko kasi sakanya kaya ganun sinabi ko.
2021, una akong nagka-work saamin. Actually for experience lang kaya ako nag apply bilang JO kahit 6k sahod sabi ko okay lang wala pa naman ako ginagastusan. Kaya simula nung nagwork ako spoiled sya sakin, food, damit, or anything na request nya na afford ko binibili ko kasi mahal ko at tanga ako eh. Dumating sa time na nakaipon sya ng marami kasi binibigyan ko sya 500 or 1k depende sa budget ko monthly yan. Kada lumalabas kami sabi nya wala sya pera edi ako na naman taya pero marami sya ipon ayaw lang gumastos naintindihan ko ulit yun kasi alam ko wala sya work and nagrereview for board exam. Hanggang sa napapansin ko lumalala ang mga luho na umabot sa point nagka-utang utang ako mabili lang gusto nya at takot ako maiwan diba ako si tanga?
2022, dito na gumuho mundo ko. Mid-July right after my birthday I noticed na merong active reactor sa posts nya sa FB. I stalked the girl, hubadera and single mom. Nagduda ako and kinausap sya. Sabi ko "Hi kilala mo si W****?" Grabe kabog dibdib ko kasi alam ko something is wrong I can feel it. Sabi nya yes we're fubu. Grabe as in grabe gulantang ko nanlamig talaga ako di ako makapagsalita nakaramdam ako ng pagkahilo. Sunod sunod na iyak ko. Hindi ako nagkamali sa pagdududa ko. Sabi ko "I see kelan pa?" sinabi nya date and yun yung time na panay hingi sya sakin ng pera it turns out pang check in nila ni single mom and sabi ko "GF nya ko 4 years na kami" di nya raw alam na may GF ang sabi raw kasi "single na 2years ago".
Kinalma ko sarili and nagpasalamat pa sa honesty ni single mom. Chinat ko bf ko and sinabi ko lahat sakanya and ginaslight pako at nagalit na walang katotohanan lahat na sinabi ni single mom. Tinanong ko sya "bakit mo nagawa yun?" sagot nya sakin "Eh kasi nagsasawa na ko sayo." I'm so confused and lost di ko na alam. Durog na durog ako, I mean lahat ng kabaitan, pagmamahal binigay ko, suporta lahat and eto lang ipapalit saakin?
I ghosted him pagod na ko ayoko na. Blocked sa lahat ng soc med, deleted his number and started to move on sabi ko sa sarili ko tama na. After a month, narealize ko isang araw lang pala ako umiyak na malala, kasi kami palang nagmomove-on na ako. Hindi ako natrato ng tama, puro pala ako beg ni isang regalo wala ako natanggap sakanya. Gabi-gabi ko sya iniiyakan nung college bukod sa acads. Puro trauma dinulot nya saakin at problema and hindi ko narealize kasi mahal na mahal ko sya. Nung nakawala ako sakanya parang nawalan ako tinik sa dibdib naging peaceful tulog ko. Mr. Mechanical Engineer napatawad na kita, I'll take it as a blessing hindi ako marunong magtanim ng sama ng loob. Niligtas ako ni Lord sa kagaya mo. And ngayon, I'm so contented na sa buhay ko masaya na ako. Nagagawa ko na mga gusto ko. And si single mom? Last na balita ko sakanya ka-date nya yung classmate mismo ni Ex ko.
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During our 1st year na magbf/gf, okay naman sya. Siguro kasi 1st bf ko sya. Hindi pa ako marunong ng mga redflag redflag na yan noon kasi first time. Puro lang kasi ako crush crush nung college. In short bulag ang ate mo kasi inlove. Unang napapansin ko sakanya na akala ko normal, nahihiya sya na makita ng mga blockmates nya na kasama ako. Hindi naman ako ganun kapangit. Tapos naman napansin ko pag nasa mall kami napapalingon sya sa girls yun talaga nagalit ako sabi ko nakaka-bastos sa part ko eh ako marupok pinatawad.
Nung nagpandemic na, nagstart na sya mag-iba ng ugali. Meron pa akong nadiscover meron syang addiction sa p()rn. Yung 365 days nakailang ulit sya kasi nakita ko sa history ng account nya. Nadismaya ako kasi hindi ko alam na meron syang ganun side kasi nung mga previous years okay naman sya or baka bihira kami magkita kasi busy sa schoolworks? Nangungulit din sya magpasend ng video ko or pictures na nud3s pero ayoko talaga nagagalit sya bina block nya ako. Akala ko normal na tampuhan yun redflag na pala. Naalala ko pa nanunuod kami TV lumabas si Ms. Catriona Gray sa isang show sabi nya saakin "Kung ganyan kaganda GF ko buntis agad yan sakin ihi lang pahinga. Joke lang" nagtaasan balahibo ko sa sinabi nya sabi ko "G@go? Ano ba sinasabi mo? Saka sa itsura mong yan papatulan ka nyan?" sobrang inis ko kasi sakanya kaya ganun sinabi ko.
2021, una akong nagka-work saamin. Actually for experience lang kaya ako nag apply bilang JO kahit 6k sahod sabi ko okay lang wala pa naman ako ginagastusan. Kaya simula nung nagwork ako spoiled sya sakin, food, damit, or anything na request nya na afford ko binibili ko kasi mahal ko at tanga ako eh. Dumating sa time na nakaipon sya ng marami kasi binibigyan ko sya 500 or 1k depende sa budget ko monthly yan. Kada lumalabas kami sabi nya wala sya pera edi ako na naman taya pero marami sya ipon ayaw lang gumastos naintindihan ko ulit yun kasi alam ko wala sya work and nagrereview for board exam. Hanggang sa napapansin ko lumalala ang mga luho na umabot sa point nagka-utang utang ako mabili lang gusto nya at takot ako maiwan diba ako si tanga?
2022, dito na gumuho mundo ko. Mid-July right after my birthday I noticed na merong active reactor sa posts nya sa FB. I stalked the girl, hubadera and single mom. Nagduda ako and kinausap sya. Sabi ko "Hi kilala mo si W****?" Grabe kabog dibdib ko kasi alam ko something is wrong I can feel it. Sabi nya yes we're fubu. Grabe as in grabe gulantang ko nanlamig talaga ako di ako makapagsalita nakaramdam ako ng pagkahilo. Sunod sunod na iyak ko. Hindi ako nagkamali sa pagdududa ko. Sabi ko "I see kelan pa?" sinabi nya date and yun yung time na panay hingi sya sakin ng pera it turns out pang check in nila ni single mom and sabi ko "GF nya ko 4 years na kami" di nya raw alam na may GF ang sabi raw kasi "single na 2years ago".
Kinalma ko sarili and nagpasalamat pa sa honesty ni single mom. Chinat ko bf ko and sinabi ko lahat sakanya and ginaslight pako at nagalit na walang katotohanan lahat na sinabi ni single mom. Tinanong ko sya "bakit mo nagawa yun?" sagot nya sakin "Eh kasi nagsasawa na ko sayo." I'm so confused and lost di ko na alam. Durog na durog ako, I mean lahat ng kabaitan, pagmamahal binigay ko, suporta lahat and eto lang ipapalit saakin?
I ghosted him pagod na ko ayoko na. Blocked sa lahat ng soc med, deleted his number and started to move on sabi ko sa sarili ko tama na. After a month, narealize ko isang araw lang pala ako umiyak na malala, kasi kami palang nagmomove-on na ako. Hindi ako natrato ng tama, puro pala ako beg ni isang regalo wala ako natanggap sakanya. Gabi-gabi ko sya iniiyakan nung college bukod sa acads. Puro trauma dinulot nya saakin at problema and hindi ko narealize kasi mahal na mahal ko sya. Nung nakawala ako sakanya parang nawalan ako tinik sa dibdib naging peaceful tulog ko. Mr. Mechanical Engineer napatawad na kita, I'll take it as a blessing hindi ako marunong magtanim ng sama ng loob. Niligtas ako ni Lord sa kagaya mo. And ngayon, I'm so contented na sa buhay ko masaya na ako. Nagagawa ko na mga gusto ko. And si single mom? Last na balita ko sakanya ka-date nya yung classmate mismo ni Ex ko.
2024.05.14 05:04 lunarelaie hi advice or consult po need fory cat
 | hi po!! kung may mga veterinary doctors man pong makabasa or any person po na knows p ang pwedeng igamot sa pusa na nanghihina please help po!! submitted by lunarelaie to catsofrph [link] [comments] i have my 2yrs old cat his name is dungis napulot ko kasi sya sa basurahan ( dungis is puspin btw) masigla naman sya wala syang sakit actually pero kasi nung lumipat kami ng bahay dito sa bulacan napapansin kong parang ang tamlay tamlay nya then the other day mas lalo pa po syang nangayayat at parang natutumba tumba po nag search po ako sa YouTube for alternative med po para don and Dextrose powder po daw para sa mga case nya after weeks po mas lalo syang nanghina student palang po ako at walang pang pa vet 6pm po madalas hapunan nila then nung tinawag ko po sya wala sya and hindi po sya nag rerespond ilang hrs po tumagal nakita ni mama yung pusa sa tabi ng washing machine. then napansin na po ni mama na nangingitim at nag mumuta na si dungis(my cat) na which is hindi naman po sya ganon kahapon pinainom ko po sya ng dextrose powder my question is itutuloy tuloy ko parin po ba syang painumin ng dextrose powder? o ano po kaya ang maari kong gawin para kaka survive sya o may mas mabisa pong gamot sakanya na pwedeng ipainom? wala po kasi akong pampavet since student palang po ako salamat po🩷 |
2024.05.14 04:19 laufeypink Why is my mother treating me like this?
Hi po, I just wanna share/rant my experience with me and my mom. Long short story my mom hates me and she likes my kuya. Alam ko na yun since bata pa and tanggap ko. My parents are separated nung bata pa ako. Lumaki ako with my grandparents since yung mom ko is an OFW, while yung father ko walang pake samin namay pake? lol. Pinatigil ako ng mama ko this sec sem (I’m an arki student) kase ginastos ko yung pera for tuition fee (1K) the reason why ginastos ko bcs hindi ako pinadalhan ng father ko for my school materials which is hindi naman bago. And I already told my mom na hindi nanaman mag bibigay ng pera si papa kase wala syang pera and need niya bumili for his maintenance. But ayaw niya ako bigyan kase naka budget na lahat. But I need materials for my plates and materials for others subs so no choice ako. Nung nalaman niya na kulang ng 1k yung pang tuition fee ko kase ng sumbong yung kuya ko. They decided na mag stop ako. I was so devastated that time, and they only send me 500pesos for 4days for my allowance. Nag reklamo ako kase hindi kaya ng 500 for 4days. And I need a laptop nung midterm to final exam kase mag ddigital na kami but hindi nila ako binigayn. My mom told me na maghanap ka nang paraan problema mo na yan. So I asked help for my friends and blockmates. Kaso di talaga kaya ng time kase mahina yung wifi sa campus and they also need it. Well ofc bagsak ako sa subject na yun kase hindi ako nakakapasa ng project. Hiyang hiya ako kase wala akong laptop during our exams kase photoshop yung exam namin nung midterm and prelim. Nang matapos na yung semester umuwi nako samin dala2 lahat ng gamit ko and nalaman ko na binilhan pala ni mama si kuya ng brand new laptop for next sem. And until now hindi niya ako binibigyan ng allowance for my needs. (like deodorant, foods, or kahit skincare man lang) lahat ng attention niya na kay kuya. And ang dami niyang order sa online na dumadating sa bahay puro mga branded clothes and bag. Sinabihan na siya ng tita ko na dapat yung mga binibili mo na mga gamit dapat kay anak mo yan.
P.S. sorry for the grammar and typo na iiyak kase ako while typing this and wala pakong tulog. Thank you for reading.
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2024.05.14 04:16 Unfair-Reality6689 What are your thoughts sa friend na bukambibig ang pagkatalo in front of people who have experienced worse than that?
After competition, nagsama-sama kaming magfi-friends para magcatch up since hindi kami magkakasama sa isang section (magkakalaban kami sa competition).
‘Yung section ko kasi ngayon, walang napanalong competition pati ‘yung batch ng section namin last year. Kaya gusto sana naming i-prove na kaya naming manalo. Sobrang tagal na kaming nagc-crave sa title na “champion”. Sobrang tagal na naming gustong manalo. Pero hindi nangyari.
Ang pag-uusapan sana namin sa time na ‘yon ay ‘yung mga nakakainis during practices. Pero ang sabi ko, kulang ang time at kung p’wede bang sa call na lang kami mag-usap. That time kasi parating na ‘yung sundo ko in an hour and i think hindi talaga sapat ‘yung isang oras para pagchikahan ang mga nangyari. Ang daming topics na biglang pumapasok that time.
Now the problem is ‘yung buo naming pagsasama, puro pagkatalo nila ang bukambibig niya sa harapan naming “talunan”. We were all laughing and may pasingit-singit pa rin na ayaw nilang matalo, na dapat sila ‘yung nanalo. Sinasabi niya ‘yan sa harap naming talunan at sa harap ng nag-champion. Tapos noong sinabi ng friend ko na kaklase ko na parang ang insensitive na niya kasi pagkatalo na lang ang sinasabi niya sa harapan namin, eh we’re supposed to be having fun, ang sagot niya eh ini-invalidate daw namin feelings niya.
Sabi pa niya, “Kasalanan ko bang hindi niyo binigay ang best niyo para manalo?” na-trigger kami ng friend ko sinabi niya kasi anong karapatan niya eh wala naman siya habang naghihirap kami? Sabi niya, “Hindi niyo kasi alam kasi wala naman kayong pinapatunayan” so sinasabi niyang talunan na lang talaga kami?
Like, okay, gets ko na sad ka sa nangyari pero ‘wag naman sa harap naming nakaranas ng mas malala. Siyempre sinasabi na lang namin na “Hindi namin goal ang manalo, goal na lang namin ang makapagperform nang masaya” to comfort ourselves. Pero sino’ng hindi goal ang manalo, ‘di ba?
Wdyt, is the friend really insensitive for talking nonstop about defeat or dapat nakinig na lang kami kahit sobrang sakit sa part namin na ni minsan hindi nanalo?
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‘Yung section ko kasi ngayon, walang napanalong competition pati ‘yung batch ng section namin last year. Kaya gusto sana naming i-prove na kaya naming manalo. Sobrang tagal na kaming nagc-crave sa title na “champion”. Sobrang tagal na naming gustong manalo. Pero hindi nangyari.
Ang pag-uusapan sana namin sa time na ‘yon ay ‘yung mga nakakainis during practices. Pero ang sabi ko, kulang ang time at kung p’wede bang sa call na lang kami mag-usap. That time kasi parating na ‘yung sundo ko in an hour and i think hindi talaga sapat ‘yung isang oras para pagchikahan ang mga nangyari. Ang daming topics na biglang pumapasok that time.
Now the problem is ‘yung buo naming pagsasama, puro pagkatalo nila ang bukambibig niya sa harapan naming “talunan”. We were all laughing and may pasingit-singit pa rin na ayaw nilang matalo, na dapat sila ‘yung nanalo. Sinasabi niya ‘yan sa harap naming talunan at sa harap ng nag-champion. Tapos noong sinabi ng friend ko na kaklase ko na parang ang insensitive na niya kasi pagkatalo na lang ang sinasabi niya sa harapan namin, eh we’re supposed to be having fun, ang sagot niya eh ini-invalidate daw namin feelings niya.
Sabi pa niya, “Kasalanan ko bang hindi niyo binigay ang best niyo para manalo?” na-trigger kami ng friend ko sinabi niya kasi anong karapatan niya eh wala naman siya habang naghihirap kami? Sabi niya, “Hindi niyo kasi alam kasi wala naman kayong pinapatunayan” so sinasabi niyang talunan na lang talaga kami?
Like, okay, gets ko na sad ka sa nangyari pero ‘wag naman sa harap naming nakaranas ng mas malala. Siyempre sinasabi na lang namin na “Hindi namin goal ang manalo, goal na lang namin ang makapagperform nang masaya” to comfort ourselves. Pero sino’ng hindi goal ang manalo, ‘di ba?
Wdyt, is the friend really insensitive for talking nonstop about defeat or dapat nakinig na lang kami kahit sobrang sakit sa part namin na ni minsan hindi nanalo?
2024.05.13 19:56 laufeypink Why is my mother treating me like this?
Hi po, I just wanna share/rant my experience with me and my mom. Long short story my mom hates me and she likes my kuya. Alam ko na yun since bata pa and tanggap ko. My parents are separated nung bata pa ako. Lumaki ako with my grandparents since yung mom ko is an OFW, while yung father ko walang pake samin namay pake? lol. Pinatigil ako ng mama ko this sec sem (I’m an arki student) kase ginastos ko yung pera for tuition fee (1K) the reason why ginastos ko bcs hindi ako pinadalhan ng father ko for my school materials which is hindi naman bago. And I already told my mom na hindi nanaman mag bibigay ng pera si papa kase wala syang pera and need niya bumili for his maintenance. But ayaw niya ako bigyan kase naka budget na lahat. But I need materials for my plates and materials for others subs so no choice ako. Nung nalaman niya na kulang ng 1k yung pang tuition fee ko kase ng sumbong yung kuya ko. They decided na mag stop ako. I was so devastated that time, and they only send me 500pesos for 4days for my allowance. Nag reklamo ako kase hindi kaya ng 500 for 4days. And I need a laptop nung midterm to final exam kase mag ddigital na kami but hindi nila ako binigayn. My mom told me na maghanap ka nang paraan problema mo na yan. So I asked help for my friends and blockmates. Kaso di talaga kaya ng time kase mahina yung wifi sa campus and they also need it. Well ofc bagsak ako sa subject na yun kase hindi ako nakakapasa ng project. Hiyang hiya ako kase wala akong laptop during our exams kase photoshop yung exam namin nung midterm and prelim. Nang matapos na yung semester umuwi nako samin dala2 lahat ng gamit ko and nalaman ko na binilhan pala ni mama si kuya ng brand new laptop for next sem. And until now hindi niya ako binibigyan ng allowance for my needs. (like deodorant, foods, or kahit skincare man lang) lahat ng attention niya na kay kuya. And ang dami niyang order sa online na dumadating sa bahay puro mga branded clothes and bag. Sinabihan na siya ng tita ko na dapat yung mga binibili mo na mga gamit dapat kay anak mo yan.
P.S. sorry for the grammar and typo na iiyak kase ako while typing this and wala pakong tulog. Thank you for reading.
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P.S. sorry for the grammar and typo na iiyak kase ako while typing this and wala pakong tulog. Thank you for reading.
2024.05.13 18:45 HolidayAssist3233 Anong chika sa BI na to? Nirepost ni Sophie Albert. Possible kayang sila to ni Vin Abrenica??
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2024.05.13 11:20 dadamesirable ABYG for thinking that they shouldn't forgive her?
I have a boyfriend and he's one of the breadwinners of their family. Sobrang mapagbigay niya na bahala nang walang matira sa kanya basta mabigyan niya pamilya niya. I have no problem with that naman. I'm so proud of him pa nga because of that.
Then there's this younger sibling of him na babae, still in highschool and a minor na parang favorite niya among his siblings kasi mabait, masipag, matalino. Halos lahat ng kailangan nung kapatid niya binibigay niya kahit minsan inaaway na din siya ng family niya kasi dagdag gastos lang. He's giving her all the support she needed basta promise na dapat wag muna mag boboyfriend.
Until such time na nalaman nilang may boyfriend na si girl. Galit na galit ang boyfriend ko but I calm him down saying na pagkatiwalaan nalang yung kapatid niya na hindi gagawa ng hindi maganda. He listened to me naman and instead na pagalitan niya ang kapatid niya, he just hugged her and gave advices and reminders to her. The girl cried promising na wala siyang gagawing ikakagalit ng kuya niya. At that time pinayagan na siyang magboyfriend.
By the way, that sister of him is closed to me. Minsan saakin siya nagsheshare ng mga bagay bagay and madalas siyang nagpapatulong sa academics niya. Kaya ko din pinakalma si bf na wag na pagalitan si girl kasi nagtiwala din ako sa kanya.
Then one night, midnight rather, I was awakened by my phone ringing because my boyfriend called. He told me that his older sister told her na narinig daw niyang nag usap yung kapatid nila and his boyfriend saying na delayed daw si girl ng one month. The boy also said na nilabas naman daw niya. I swear guys, I cried because that's the first time I heard my boyfriend cried that hard. He felt so betrayed. Ilang araw siyang walang tulog at kain nun. Kung di ko pa ibablackmail na di rin ako kakain di pa kakain ng konti. Kailangan niya pang malasing para makatulog siya at di na rin siya nakakapagtrabaho ng maayos. But you know what's worst? My boyfriend was blamed by his family for what happened. Lahat sila nagsabi "kasalanan mo to. Masyado mong kinunsinti"
I'm not the kind of girl na nangengealam sa problema ng iba pero that time I was really angry to them(pero sinarili ko lang galit ko) . Sobrang iyak ng boyfriend ko dahil sa betrayal na ginawa ng kapatid niya tas siya pa sisisihin? Like paano nila nasabi na kinunsinti ehh todo advice pa nga boyfriend ko dun sa bata. Masyado lang nagtiwala yung boyfriend ko sa kapatid niya. Iba naman yung nagtiwala sa kinunsinti kasi ang kinunsinti ehh alam mong ginagawa nila yan at hinahayaan mo lang. Kailangan ko pang sunduin yung boyfriend ko at dalhin dito sa amin para lang makapagpahinga and thanks G! Nakatulog siya ng maayos sa bahay namin. Ayaw niya sanang umuwi muna sa kanila kasi baka may magawa siyang hindi maganda sa bata pero pinilit niyang umuwi.
I'm so proud of him kasi kahit sobrang galit at sakit na nafeel niya ehh di niya pinagbuhatan ng kamay yung kapatid niya. Nasigawan lang. Todo iyak yung kapatid niya. Pinapalayas siya ayaw niya and nagpromise siya na makikipaghiwalay na sa boyfriend niya. After nun naging okay na sila.
But after 1 week may nag add friend sakin new account. Ang name pa ng account is combination ng name ng kapatid ng boyfriend ko at ng boyfriend niya. Then profile picture is picture nila na magkayakap pero nakatalikod si girl. Their cousin also told my boyfriend na magkasama pa rin sila always sa school at di naman daw naghiwalay. I know wala akong karapatang magalit pero yun yung nafeel ko that time. He betrayed his kuya for the second time. She promised na hihiwalayan niya tas hindi pala niya ginawa. Her phone was confiscated by their father at di namin alam kung saan siya nakakuha o nakakahiram ng phone para magamit niya.
Then right now, she made another account(iba pa dun sa ginawa niya kung saan niya ko inadd) and added her kuya with a message na, "hi kuya, kumusta" . I deleted it. It's making me irritated na nangungumusta siya with the fact na she betrayed her kuya again dahil di niya tinupad promise niya.
I don't want my boyfriend to forgive his sister and give her support again while the girl still doing the things that her kuya doesn't want her to do.
P. S. I'm not perfect. Don't bash me. I also have my fair share of mistakes before. Ang concern ko lang ay yung boyfriend ko. Ayoko lang maulit yung nangyari dati na sobrang iyak niya dahil dun. And also, ayokong sinisisi siya dahil di naman kasalanan yung ginawa niya.
P. P. S. My boyfriend told me to forget everything that happened. I said yes.
I think AYG for thinking that they shouldn't forgive her kasi iniisip ko na baka isipin ni girl na she can do anything she wants good or bad. Papagalitan siya pero iiyakan niya lang and boom! Okay na ulit. Iniisip ko ma baka kung ganun ganun lang di magtatanda yung girl at uulitin niya rin lang.
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Then there's this younger sibling of him na babae, still in highschool and a minor na parang favorite niya among his siblings kasi mabait, masipag, matalino. Halos lahat ng kailangan nung kapatid niya binibigay niya kahit minsan inaaway na din siya ng family niya kasi dagdag gastos lang. He's giving her all the support she needed basta promise na dapat wag muna mag boboyfriend.
Until such time na nalaman nilang may boyfriend na si girl. Galit na galit ang boyfriend ko but I calm him down saying na pagkatiwalaan nalang yung kapatid niya na hindi gagawa ng hindi maganda. He listened to me naman and instead na pagalitan niya ang kapatid niya, he just hugged her and gave advices and reminders to her. The girl cried promising na wala siyang gagawing ikakagalit ng kuya niya. At that time pinayagan na siyang magboyfriend.
By the way, that sister of him is closed to me. Minsan saakin siya nagsheshare ng mga bagay bagay and madalas siyang nagpapatulong sa academics niya. Kaya ko din pinakalma si bf na wag na pagalitan si girl kasi nagtiwala din ako sa kanya.
Then one night, midnight rather, I was awakened by my phone ringing because my boyfriend called. He told me that his older sister told her na narinig daw niyang nag usap yung kapatid nila and his boyfriend saying na delayed daw si girl ng one month. The boy also said na nilabas naman daw niya. I swear guys, I cried because that's the first time I heard my boyfriend cried that hard. He felt so betrayed. Ilang araw siyang walang tulog at kain nun. Kung di ko pa ibablackmail na di rin ako kakain di pa kakain ng konti. Kailangan niya pang malasing para makatulog siya at di na rin siya nakakapagtrabaho ng maayos. But you know what's worst? My boyfriend was blamed by his family for what happened. Lahat sila nagsabi "kasalanan mo to. Masyado mong kinunsinti"
I'm not the kind of girl na nangengealam sa problema ng iba pero that time I was really angry to them(pero sinarili ko lang galit ko) . Sobrang iyak ng boyfriend ko dahil sa betrayal na ginawa ng kapatid niya tas siya pa sisisihin? Like paano nila nasabi na kinunsinti ehh todo advice pa nga boyfriend ko dun sa bata. Masyado lang nagtiwala yung boyfriend ko sa kapatid niya. Iba naman yung nagtiwala sa kinunsinti kasi ang kinunsinti ehh alam mong ginagawa nila yan at hinahayaan mo lang. Kailangan ko pang sunduin yung boyfriend ko at dalhin dito sa amin para lang makapagpahinga and thanks G! Nakatulog siya ng maayos sa bahay namin. Ayaw niya sanang umuwi muna sa kanila kasi baka may magawa siyang hindi maganda sa bata pero pinilit niyang umuwi.
I'm so proud of him kasi kahit sobrang galit at sakit na nafeel niya ehh di niya pinagbuhatan ng kamay yung kapatid niya. Nasigawan lang. Todo iyak yung kapatid niya. Pinapalayas siya ayaw niya and nagpromise siya na makikipaghiwalay na sa boyfriend niya. After nun naging okay na sila.
But after 1 week may nag add friend sakin new account. Ang name pa ng account is combination ng name ng kapatid ng boyfriend ko at ng boyfriend niya. Then profile picture is picture nila na magkayakap pero nakatalikod si girl. Their cousin also told my boyfriend na magkasama pa rin sila always sa school at di naman daw naghiwalay. I know wala akong karapatang magalit pero yun yung nafeel ko that time. He betrayed his kuya for the second time. She promised na hihiwalayan niya tas hindi pala niya ginawa. Her phone was confiscated by their father at di namin alam kung saan siya nakakuha o nakakahiram ng phone para magamit niya.
Then right now, she made another account(iba pa dun sa ginawa niya kung saan niya ko inadd) and added her kuya with a message na, "hi kuya, kumusta" . I deleted it. It's making me irritated na nangungumusta siya with the fact na she betrayed her kuya again dahil di niya tinupad promise niya.
I don't want my boyfriend to forgive his sister and give her support again while the girl still doing the things that her kuya doesn't want her to do.
P. S. I'm not perfect. Don't bash me. I also have my fair share of mistakes before. Ang concern ko lang ay yung boyfriend ko. Ayoko lang maulit yung nangyari dati na sobrang iyak niya dahil dun. And also, ayokong sinisisi siya dahil di naman kasalanan yung ginawa niya.
P. P. S. My boyfriend told me to forget everything that happened. I said yes.
I think AYG for thinking that they shouldn't forgive her kasi iniisip ko na baka isipin ni girl na she can do anything she wants good or bad. Papagalitan siya pero iiyakan niya lang and boom! Okay na ulit. Iniisip ko ma baka kung ganun ganun lang di magtatanda yung girl at uulitin niya rin lang.
2024.05.13 00:05 Alternative_South_67 Daya: Taming and Cultivating Life and its Potential
 | submitted by Alternative_South_67 to magicbuilding [link] [comments] Overview: Left to right Context: This is the magic system Daya of "The Worlds under the Emerald Canopy". The worlds can be of different sizes and inhabit vastly different and extremely dangerous ecosystems with many different races/species. Each world is represented by its Daithos, a lifeform standing at the top of the food chain, much like a Kaiju able to terraform the planet on a whim. Each world represents a leaf on the Emerald Canopy, each connected by cascading branches of green Daya. The sun is actually a giant orb of crystallized Daya, called a Dayite, out of which each branch grows into endless space. To describe Daya in very short terms: It is an omnipresent life essence imbuing everything with magic, manifesting itself as supernatural biological traits. Individuals ought to put themselves in a journey of self-discovery to understand the nature of themselves and their Daya, which would make them stronger. By giving humans the ability to tinker with biology itself, they are able to extend the definition of their identity, able to step outside of the confinements of human nature, and manifest it in form of biological enhancements. I tried to nail a biopunk-esque feel to it, giving humanity the ability to sort of act as pseudo-bioengineers. Imagine the game Monster Hunter but with more magic and possibilities. Humans civilization is only a small part of the world(s), and its eager to explore them in full. The humans only understand magic to some extent, some of it still a mystery to them. They mistake the color of Daya as some form of evil or good expression, when in reality it just depicts the (im)balance and health of the environment/individual. They also don't know what the ultimate goal of cultivation really is, they have just found methods to more or less improve their wellbeing with like meditations and so on. I try to make it all very mysterious for them and the reader. Feel free to ask me anything or to leave some feedback! ((Sorry for the repeated postings, having some trouble with it...)) |
2024.05.12 21:49 EPHYM0RPHY Panganay si Nanay
Hello. I just really need to vent out, and feel free to give me an advice but please do avoid "criticisms" because that is not what my troubled mind is needed right now. Sobrsng mahaba ito but if u could bear with me :)
I'd like to tell you about my Mama. Si mama siya lang yung napagtapos nina inay at itay (grandparents). Kaya guess what? Nakatatak na sa utak niya na tungkulin niyang tumulong sa mga kapatid nya dahil "siya lang ang may kakahayan." That she's the only one capable dahil sya lang ang may stable job. Si mama never siya nagmissed tuwing occassions -sa kanya lagi malalaking gastusin/ambag; she rents the place, pays for everyones accomodations, and/or foods. Wala kang maririnig na reklamo mula sa kanya. Why? Dahil sanay siya, and gusto niyang tumulong sa pamilya niya. Each and every "sahod" na marereceive nya lagi sya may bigay na material na bagay sa mga pamangkin and/or sa mga kapatid(8) niya (ages 30-50 na may kanya kanyang pamilya na din) especially sa youngest nila (30M)
Kaso lang.. Nastroke si Mama. Si mama na maingay, di na makapagsalita. Si mama na gala, di na maihakbang ung mga paa niya. Si mama na malakas kumain nangangayayat na. Hindi nya na manguya pagkain niya. Luckily I didn't have to stop schooling para maalagaan siya dahil kasagsagan ng online classes and asynchronous learning noon. I had to bathe and change her clothes/diapers right after magsagot, then feed her while having lunch myself tuwing break time namin of 30 mins. Never ako nandiri sa kanya, and I never will. But di ko maiwasang mag isip why I'm doing it. Ginagawa ko lang ba to as "utang na loob" kay Mama dahil ginawa niya rin para sa akin to nung bata ako? Or am I doing this out of my love for her? (Do tell me what you think about this din po)
Nastroke si Mama. Pero bat ganun? Ung mga kapatid niyang "tinulungan" niya di siya matulungan ngayon? Don't get me wrong. Hindi ko po nilalahat ung mga siblings niya. BUT some of them are. My tita (younger sister ni mama) bought her some fruits and kasama niya si inay, I saw them crying habang kausap si mama na nakangiti lang, then they prayed for her recovery habang hawak nila kamay ni mama. Now onto the main problem ko po. Dumalaw naman yung youngest bro ni Mama. Wala siyang dalang kahit ano. Ni hindi niya kinumusta si mama, tinitigan niya lang. Guess what? Binawasan niya pa yung mga dala ng bumisita kay mama that day. During her recovery, hindi muna nakakapagbigay ng "tulong" si Mama sa kanila. Hindi ko alam kung bawi ba to or what but after her recovery dumagsa bigla ang "may xtra k b dyan?" "pahingi nmn-" "bigyan mo nmn muna-" NI HINDI PA NAKAKALAKAD AT NAKAKAPAGSALITA NG TUWID SI MAMA.
Kaya naman si mama, bumalik na sa trabaho niya miski hindi pa siya fully recovered. Tinanggap siya ng supervisor nila magwork dahil he pitied her. San nalang kami dudukot ng pang kain and baon to go to school? Keri naman masustain ni ate and papa(stroke survivor din) ang pang araw araw namin, "paycheck to paycheck" kumbaga, kaso di matiis ni Mama na di tumulong sa kapatid niyang bunso na nakabuntis at need ngayon ng pera para sa pangsngsnak and pagpspakasal nya sa nabuntis niya.
Now after mamuhay ng paycheck to paycheck, thankfully unti unti n din nagrecover ang finances namin. Kahit 2 na sila mama and papa na need ng maintenance ngayon, at least they can go back to their normal lives na without being hindered "too much" ng physical disabilities nila. But nagulat kami dahil bigla nalang pumapayat na uli si mama and medj sumasakit ang ilang parts ng body nya, kaya binalik namin ang physical therapy niya every day, and ako namsn sng nagmamassage at night. Not until nslaman ko ns tinitipid nya psla sng maintenance niya. For what? PARA MAY MAITULONG SA YOUNGEST BRO NYA NA MAY SARILI NG TRABAHO PERO SA KANYA PA HUMIHINGI NG BAON. I also found out ns everyday na pala humihingi ng pang ulam ung pamilya nila ksy mama. KAYA PSLA SABAW LANG INUULAM NI MAMA SND DI NIYA KINAKAIN UNG MGA MEAT AND VEGGIES FOR HER, PARA AYUN SNG MAIBIGAY NIYA SA KSPATID NIYA. Pati pambaon ng anak nung girl (anak from ex bf) sa kanya din inihihingi. Ultimo pambayad sa mga clearance snd pampamedical nila kay mama sila humingi, tapos si msms di maksbili ng sarili niyang gsmot. How ironic diba?
Hanggang sa hindi na ako nakapagtimpi. Nung gsbing yon, nanghingi nanaman sils ng pang ulam at baon nila sa trabaho st bson na rin ng anak nila sa school bukod p ung meryenda nubg bunso nila (real anak nung bro ni mama). Kaya naman nung nabasa ko ung chat ns yun, dinala ko ung isang kalderong ulam na panghapunan dspat namin at saka ilang balot ng lava cake st dinala lahst yon sa bahay nila. Nagkataong wala ung kapatid nya at may bata kaya hindi ko nagswsng ilabas ung mga sama ng loob ko sa kanilang matagal kong kinimkim! At ang nasabi ko nalang ay "Last nyo na yan ha? Inaraw araw nyo na si Mama. Pati pambaon ng buong pamilya nyo kanya na. Maawa naman kayo please!" I know, ang anti climatic haha. Then lumabas ako and di mna ako umuwi dahil di ko mapigil luha ko sa galit. Then nspansin ni Inay dahil compound yung bahay nila snd narinig niya pala yung sigaw ko. Sino raw yung kaaway ko? Kaya nag open up ako sa kanya, thinking that she'll understand and help mama. But guess what? Sabi niya "Hayaan mo nalang kasi Mama mo ang may kayang tumulong eh" Nagpantig yung tenga ko. Saksi siya sa hirap ni mama nung nastroke sya. Matapos niya marinig mga pinaggagawa kay mama nung kapatid niya, ano? "Hayaan mo nalang-" ayun ang masasabi niya? Why did u shed tears nung nastroke sya? Was it because wala nang tutulong sa bunso niyo kapag hindi gumaling si mama? Paano naman si Mama? Si mama na panganay na mas kuba pa sayo dahil siya ang pinagpasan mo ng mga responsibilidad mo. Di ako nakaimik agad ...
"Inay. Anak mo rin si Mama-"
then biglang pumasok yung isa pang bro ni mama na puro online sabong at utang din kay mama. Pauwiin na daw ako. Chinat nya psla si mama nung nagpunta ko dun at nag iiyak. And pag uwi ko, ayun, nagpang abot nanaman kami.
Alam nyo ba, si mama ang nagpaaral sa bunso niysng kspatid. Kaso di sya nskatapos. Di siya nskatapos di dahil kinapos si mama, di siya nskatapos dahil nagbulakbol siya at naging tambay sa mga com shop. Pero binaliwala ni mama yung mga pinagpagursn niyang pera pang tuition nun. At dahil nga hilig nya sa comp shop, pinakiusapan ni mama yung kapatid ni papa para bigyan ng trsbaho yung kapatid niya na tungkol sa computer. Ksya nsman nagkatrabaho siya. Kaso ano? Hindi na pala pumapasok sa trabaho, kesyo may nsrsrsmdsmsng ganito ganyan, hanggsng ngayon sa bago niyag trabaho ayan lagi dshilsn. Samsntslsng si Mama na pipilay pilay maglakad sy nstitiis tumayo ng ilang oras para makapagtrabaho araw araw nang walang mintis? Tapos siya na walang kapansanan sipunin lang ay tetengga nslang buong araw at manghihingi ng kung anu ano kay Mama na nagsusumikap?
"Ako lang kasi ang nakatapos sa amin-" " Wala pa kasing suwerte yung kapatid ko nak-"
Gusto kong sabihin na wala talagang suwerte. Na yung pagtatapos niya? Pinagsikapan niya yun. Yung oportunidad niya makakuha ng magandang trsbaho? Nakuha niya yun kasi hinasa niya yung sarili niya at naghanda para dun. Gusto kong magalit kay Mama, pero naaawa ako kay mama. Akala ko binti ang problema, pero bakit pati sa mga mata niya may mali na? Hindi niya ba makita o nagbubulag bulagan siya sa mga pananamantalang ginagawa sa kanya ng sarili niyang kadugo?
Ang bait ni Mama... kaya nakakainis si Mama. Nakakainis makita siyang sinasamantala ng sarili niyang pamilya. Nakakainis na sa tuwing kinakausap at pinagsasabihsn namin siya tungkol dito sumasama ang loob niya. Nakakainis kasi di niya makita na kailangan niya unahin tulungan sarili niya bago ang iba. Nakakainis na kinampihan niya ang nanay niyang hinahayaan lang siya. Paano ko ipapaintindi sa kanya ang mga ito ng hindi sumasama ang loob niya? Nagiging kalaban bigla ang trato niya sa amin dahil pinipigilan namin siyang "tumulong" sa kapatid niya. Mahal ako ni Mama, at mahal na mahal ko siya. Pero bakit sa tuwing ito ang usapan ay nskakalimutan niyang anak niya ako at kami ang mga taong habang buhay ay nasa panig niya?
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I'd like to tell you about my Mama. Si mama siya lang yung napagtapos nina inay at itay (grandparents). Kaya guess what? Nakatatak na sa utak niya na tungkulin niyang tumulong sa mga kapatid nya dahil "siya lang ang may kakahayan." That she's the only one capable dahil sya lang ang may stable job. Si mama never siya nagmissed tuwing occassions -sa kanya lagi malalaking gastusin/ambag; she rents the place, pays for everyones accomodations, and/or foods. Wala kang maririnig na reklamo mula sa kanya. Why? Dahil sanay siya, and gusto niyang tumulong sa pamilya niya. Each and every "sahod" na marereceive nya lagi sya may bigay na material na bagay sa mga pamangkin and/or sa mga kapatid(8) niya (ages 30-50 na may kanya kanyang pamilya na din) especially sa youngest nila (30M)
Kaso lang.. Nastroke si Mama. Si mama na maingay, di na makapagsalita. Si mama na gala, di na maihakbang ung mga paa niya. Si mama na malakas kumain nangangayayat na. Hindi nya na manguya pagkain niya. Luckily I didn't have to stop schooling para maalagaan siya dahil kasagsagan ng online classes and asynchronous learning noon. I had to bathe and change her clothes/diapers right after magsagot, then feed her while having lunch myself tuwing break time namin of 30 mins. Never ako nandiri sa kanya, and I never will. But di ko maiwasang mag isip why I'm doing it. Ginagawa ko lang ba to as "utang na loob" kay Mama dahil ginawa niya rin para sa akin to nung bata ako? Or am I doing this out of my love for her? (Do tell me what you think about this din po)
Nastroke si Mama. Pero bat ganun? Ung mga kapatid niyang "tinulungan" niya di siya matulungan ngayon? Don't get me wrong. Hindi ko po nilalahat ung mga siblings niya. BUT some of them are. My tita (younger sister ni mama) bought her some fruits and kasama niya si inay, I saw them crying habang kausap si mama na nakangiti lang, then they prayed for her recovery habang hawak nila kamay ni mama. Now onto the main problem ko po. Dumalaw naman yung youngest bro ni Mama. Wala siyang dalang kahit ano. Ni hindi niya kinumusta si mama, tinitigan niya lang. Guess what? Binawasan niya pa yung mga dala ng bumisita kay mama that day. During her recovery, hindi muna nakakapagbigay ng "tulong" si Mama sa kanila. Hindi ko alam kung bawi ba to or what but after her recovery dumagsa bigla ang "may xtra k b dyan?" "pahingi nmn-" "bigyan mo nmn muna-" NI HINDI PA NAKAKALAKAD AT NAKAKAPAGSALITA NG TUWID SI MAMA.
Kaya naman si mama, bumalik na sa trabaho niya miski hindi pa siya fully recovered. Tinanggap siya ng supervisor nila magwork dahil he pitied her. San nalang kami dudukot ng pang kain and baon to go to school? Keri naman masustain ni ate and papa(stroke survivor din) ang pang araw araw namin, "paycheck to paycheck" kumbaga, kaso di matiis ni Mama na di tumulong sa kapatid niyang bunso na nakabuntis at need ngayon ng pera para sa pangsngsnak and pagpspakasal nya sa nabuntis niya.
Now after mamuhay ng paycheck to paycheck, thankfully unti unti n din nagrecover ang finances namin. Kahit 2 na sila mama and papa na need ng maintenance ngayon, at least they can go back to their normal lives na without being hindered "too much" ng physical disabilities nila. But nagulat kami dahil bigla nalang pumapayat na uli si mama and medj sumasakit ang ilang parts ng body nya, kaya binalik namin ang physical therapy niya every day, and ako namsn sng nagmamassage at night. Not until nslaman ko ns tinitipid nya psla sng maintenance niya. For what? PARA MAY MAITULONG SA YOUNGEST BRO NYA NA MAY SARILI NG TRABAHO PERO SA KANYA PA HUMIHINGI NG BAON. I also found out ns everyday na pala humihingi ng pang ulam ung pamilya nila ksy mama. KAYA PSLA SABAW LANG INUULAM NI MAMA SND DI NIYA KINAKAIN UNG MGA MEAT AND VEGGIES FOR HER, PARA AYUN SNG MAIBIGAY NIYA SA KSPATID NIYA. Pati pambaon ng anak nung girl (anak from ex bf) sa kanya din inihihingi. Ultimo pambayad sa mga clearance snd pampamedical nila kay mama sila humingi, tapos si msms di maksbili ng sarili niyang gsmot. How ironic diba?
Hanggang sa hindi na ako nakapagtimpi. Nung gsbing yon, nanghingi nanaman sils ng pang ulam at baon nila sa trabaho st bson na rin ng anak nila sa school bukod p ung meryenda nubg bunso nila (real anak nung bro ni mama). Kaya naman nung nabasa ko ung chat ns yun, dinala ko ung isang kalderong ulam na panghapunan dspat namin at saka ilang balot ng lava cake st dinala lahst yon sa bahay nila. Nagkataong wala ung kapatid nya at may bata kaya hindi ko nagswsng ilabas ung mga sama ng loob ko sa kanilang matagal kong kinimkim! At ang nasabi ko nalang ay "Last nyo na yan ha? Inaraw araw nyo na si Mama. Pati pambaon ng buong pamilya nyo kanya na. Maawa naman kayo please!" I know, ang anti climatic haha. Then lumabas ako and di mna ako umuwi dahil di ko mapigil luha ko sa galit. Then nspansin ni Inay dahil compound yung bahay nila snd narinig niya pala yung sigaw ko. Sino raw yung kaaway ko? Kaya nag open up ako sa kanya, thinking that she'll understand and help mama. But guess what? Sabi niya "Hayaan mo nalang kasi Mama mo ang may kayang tumulong eh" Nagpantig yung tenga ko. Saksi siya sa hirap ni mama nung nastroke sya. Matapos niya marinig mga pinaggagawa kay mama nung kapatid niya, ano? "Hayaan mo nalang-" ayun ang masasabi niya? Why did u shed tears nung nastroke sya? Was it because wala nang tutulong sa bunso niyo kapag hindi gumaling si mama? Paano naman si Mama? Si mama na panganay na mas kuba pa sayo dahil siya ang pinagpasan mo ng mga responsibilidad mo. Di ako nakaimik agad ...
"Inay. Anak mo rin si Mama-"
then biglang pumasok yung isa pang bro ni mama na puro online sabong at utang din kay mama. Pauwiin na daw ako. Chinat nya psla si mama nung nagpunta ko dun at nag iiyak. And pag uwi ko, ayun, nagpang abot nanaman kami.
Alam nyo ba, si mama ang nagpaaral sa bunso niysng kspatid. Kaso di sya nskatapos. Di siya nskatapos di dahil kinapos si mama, di siya nskatapos dahil nagbulakbol siya at naging tambay sa mga com shop. Pero binaliwala ni mama yung mga pinagpagursn niyang pera pang tuition nun. At dahil nga hilig nya sa comp shop, pinakiusapan ni mama yung kapatid ni papa para bigyan ng trsbaho yung kapatid niya na tungkol sa computer. Ksya nsman nagkatrabaho siya. Kaso ano? Hindi na pala pumapasok sa trabaho, kesyo may nsrsrsmdsmsng ganito ganyan, hanggsng ngayon sa bago niyag trabaho ayan lagi dshilsn. Samsntslsng si Mama na pipilay pilay maglakad sy nstitiis tumayo ng ilang oras para makapagtrabaho araw araw nang walang mintis? Tapos siya na walang kapansanan sipunin lang ay tetengga nslang buong araw at manghihingi ng kung anu ano kay Mama na nagsusumikap?
"Ako lang kasi ang nakatapos sa amin-" " Wala pa kasing suwerte yung kapatid ko nak-"
Gusto kong sabihin na wala talagang suwerte. Na yung pagtatapos niya? Pinagsikapan niya yun. Yung oportunidad niya makakuha ng magandang trsbaho? Nakuha niya yun kasi hinasa niya yung sarili niya at naghanda para dun. Gusto kong magalit kay Mama, pero naaawa ako kay mama. Akala ko binti ang problema, pero bakit pati sa mga mata niya may mali na? Hindi niya ba makita o nagbubulag bulagan siya sa mga pananamantalang ginagawa sa kanya ng sarili niyang kadugo?
Ang bait ni Mama... kaya nakakainis si Mama. Nakakainis makita siyang sinasamantala ng sarili niyang pamilya. Nakakainis na sa tuwing kinakausap at pinagsasabihsn namin siya tungkol dito sumasama ang loob niya. Nakakainis kasi di niya makita na kailangan niya unahin tulungan sarili niya bago ang iba. Nakakainis na kinampihan niya ang nanay niyang hinahayaan lang siya. Paano ko ipapaintindi sa kanya ang mga ito ng hindi sumasama ang loob niya? Nagiging kalaban bigla ang trato niya sa amin dahil pinipigilan namin siyang "tumulong" sa kapatid niya. Mahal ako ni Mama, at mahal na mahal ko siya. Pero bakit sa tuwing ito ang usapan ay nskakalimutan niyang anak niya ako at kami ang mga taong habang buhay ay nasa panig niya?
2024.05.12 19:02 flamingoenergy Naturn off ako sa family ng bf ko
I’m 27F and my bf is 26M both working na. 10years na kami but not yet engaged. Nag-uusap naman kami about sa future and he said na ako na ang gusto nya makasama habang buhay.
ABYG kung naturn off ako sa parents ng bf ko? At sa other siblings na rin nya. Open naman sakin si bf na hindi sila mayaman. May work papa nya pero mama nya walang work. Pangalawa sya sa magkakapatid and the rest of his siblings ay nag aaral pa.
Kanina humihingi sakanya ng 1k papa nya sa gcash pang gas saw papunta sa work. Tapos humihingi mama nya gcash skanya para sa Mother’s Day daw. Binigyan nya sila. Pag walang maibayad sa bills at kapag kulang ang pang tuition fee ng mga kapatid nya sakanya humihingi magulang nya.
For me okay lang naman magbigay sya kasi may work naman at pamilya nya yon. Pero nahihirapan sya kasi hindi naman malaki ang sahod nya at may sariling bills din syang binabayaran.
Na-turn off ako sa pamilya nila dahil nung naginstallment sila ng 50k worth na appliance, ang sabi ni bf hati hati silang 3 para sa monthly billing, pero dumating yung point na sya nalang ang nagbabayad. Nung naospital sya, walang mailabas ng magulang nya para sa surgery nya, pati remaining hospital bill at pinangbibili ng gamot pera ni bf. Nung isang araw nagpapabili sakanya ng turnilyo para sa bubong na binili ni bf para sa bahay nila, kinukulit sya ng mama nya na bumili ng turnilyo (less than 100 lang ata to) o mag-gcash ng pambili, kasi wala ‘daw’ silang pambili.
Mahal ko siya at sya na rin ang gusto ko makasama habang buhay, pero nasstress ako pag naiisip kong ganon yung lifestyle ng magiging inlaws ko. Hindi sila marunong maghandle ng pera at sometimes asa sa anak. Natatakot ako na kapag mag asawa na kami eh ganon parin ang situation. Ngayon I’m telling him na mag ipon na kami for our future pero parang hindi p nya kaya dahil nakaasa pa ang pamilya nya sakanya.
What should I do? Pano ihahandle ang ganitong problema?
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ABYG kung naturn off ako sa parents ng bf ko? At sa other siblings na rin nya. Open naman sakin si bf na hindi sila mayaman. May work papa nya pero mama nya walang work. Pangalawa sya sa magkakapatid and the rest of his siblings ay nag aaral pa.
Kanina humihingi sakanya ng 1k papa nya sa gcash pang gas saw papunta sa work. Tapos humihingi mama nya gcash skanya para sa Mother’s Day daw. Binigyan nya sila. Pag walang maibayad sa bills at kapag kulang ang pang tuition fee ng mga kapatid nya sakanya humihingi magulang nya.
For me okay lang naman magbigay sya kasi may work naman at pamilya nya yon. Pero nahihirapan sya kasi hindi naman malaki ang sahod nya at may sariling bills din syang binabayaran.
Na-turn off ako sa pamilya nila dahil nung naginstallment sila ng 50k worth na appliance, ang sabi ni bf hati hati silang 3 para sa monthly billing, pero dumating yung point na sya nalang ang nagbabayad. Nung naospital sya, walang mailabas ng magulang nya para sa surgery nya, pati remaining hospital bill at pinangbibili ng gamot pera ni bf. Nung isang araw nagpapabili sakanya ng turnilyo para sa bubong na binili ni bf para sa bahay nila, kinukulit sya ng mama nya na bumili ng turnilyo (less than 100 lang ata to) o mag-gcash ng pambili, kasi wala ‘daw’ silang pambili.
Mahal ko siya at sya na rin ang gusto ko makasama habang buhay, pero nasstress ako pag naiisip kong ganon yung lifestyle ng magiging inlaws ko. Hindi sila marunong maghandle ng pera at sometimes asa sa anak. Natatakot ako na kapag mag asawa na kami eh ganon parin ang situation. Ngayon I’m telling him na mag ipon na kami for our future pero parang hindi p nya kaya dahil nakaasa pa ang pamilya nya sakanya.
What should I do? Pano ihahandle ang ganitong problema?
2024.05.12 18:43 thispersonlovescats The final letter, I'll never send.
(May 12, 2024 - 11:17 PM)
I hope you never find this.
hi E----, it's me again., si migs. If you don't remember who that is, I'm the guy who courted you, who gave you letters and poems, who you called your "human diary". And I know it's been a while, antagal na rin nating hindi nag-uusap, hell antagal na rin kitang hindi nasusulatan ng letters. But this is the final letter, I'll ever dedicate to you and I hope you never find this. Actually matagal ko na tong gustong gawin, I could just never face the truth dati. The naked truth na takot akong bitawan ka.
Pero dati na yon, I'm all good and I've actually moved on na rin. Heck, di ko na nga talaga to dapat gagawin pero something came up and here I am.
I'm letting you go.
I know haha, it's quite ironic na ngayon ko lang nasabi 'to sayo kahit na ako yung nagsabi ng "please, let me go". It's hilarious and yes I admit medyo nakakalito (believe me kahit ako na confuse as to why ako ganito non). But naked truth, you were very hard to let go.
One, you're fucking pretty. Your pictures, your voice, your mindset, everything about you was beautiful, and maybe it was just infatuation or maybe obsessed lang talaga ako sayo.
Two, you were everywhere, nung time na blinock kita, which was 8 months ago (damn), I couldn't smile for weeks. Because everything beautiful reminded me of you.
It fucking sucks to be a poet, because it shed light to the truth of the saying that "you could never really appreciate beauty once you lose the person you love" and that's true because I loved you. When you were gone, I saw you everywhere, I saw you in sunsets, in flowers, in the clouds, even in songs, all I could think of was you, anything beautiful tol, nandun ka. And I couldn't enjoy anything for weeks kasi nga maaalala lang kita. I couldn't even enjoyn reading kase nung nakabili ako ng libro, I printed some of your pictures (photocard size) and used it as bookmarks, kase photocards talaga bookmarks ko. So for months talaga di nagalaw mga books ko and once I started reading them again, BOOM mukha mo, ang ganda, shet tiklop nanaman.
Three, you were my home. I've come to associate that term with you, ever since you recommended me that song on facebook. "oh home, let me come home... home is wherever I'm with you." Rest, solace, comfort, I found that in you. And as we got to know each other more, I found the freedom to become myself. Which is why I always felt safe whenever it was you. And likewise rin sayo, as you said noon.
But why I'm letting you go is because I realized that I didn't deserve the treatment you gave me. Throughout the time na nililigawan kita, I always felt alone. During that time I was always trying to rationalize why I felt that way and what I could do to fix it. But you can't rationalize emotions, you feel them. And that was my mistake kase I bottled it up but it eventually broke through me, then it broke me. I tried to communicate that naman, but nothing really changed, and lumala lang. Kaya yeah.
I'm done looking at it through rose colored glasses.
As you can see medyo nahirapan talaga akong mag move on kasi whenever I thought of you, all I could remember was the sweet moments natin, even if we had few. Never the sleepless nights, never the breakdowns, not even the times that I apologized because I was hurt that you couldn't have time for me. Listen I understand it now, how hard it is maging senior high. And I tried to understand it then. It's draining and minsan talaga nakakawalang gana makipag usap sa tao. But I tried naman, I adjusted, you know that. Saan ka man comfortable, sige dun tayo. Once a week nalang mag usap? sige goo.
I thought I knew what price I was paying but, that gradually crushed me. How I would update you throughout my day, fucking send 14 messages na may mga paragraph pa, only for you to reply with 4-6 messages, sometimes none. And yeah idk why but ako pa rin yung nag a-apologize nung time na yon. Maybe it's because of how I was brought up, but I considered it my fault that I was feeling that way.
I'm done apologizing.
Did you know that this letter has had about 7 drafts already, throughout different times I tried to write this final letter and I always gave up after the first paragraph. Wanna know why? Because in all 7 letters, the most recurring words were "I'm sorry".
"I'm sorry if you felt like you were responsible for my feelings" "I'm sorry I was hurt" "I'm sorry that I became a burden on you"
I always felt so bad after attempting to write this letter then, it was like having a knife to my neck. Well I'm done with that already. I'm done apologizing for things I shouldn't be.
Listen I'm not mad at you, I don't hate you, nor am I asking you for an apology. You're not obligated to do that to me. It's okay. We don't have to apologize to one another, I've forgiven you and I'm choosing to move on na. Not for you, and especially not for love, but for me.
How could you.
I just wanna address the whole telegram thing, cause I feel the need to. It was just a little insensitive kasi nga we weren't on the best of terms nung time na yon. Yun yung nag pa block ka sakin. And yeah you know naman what we were going through. Medyo nagulat lang ako na you just talked to me like that, so casually. I was hurting and healing at the same time pero damn. tas sinabi mo pa yung "kung tayo, edi tayo" line and that seriously fucked me up. Kase at the time I was trying to give up on that na, cause I thought you did too. Pero yeah, now I've given up on that na, I hope u do too.
(Also I told u non sa pasko mo ko ichat ulit kasi I wasn't ready to talk to you again that time. Pero you stood me up, so yeah, fun christmas.)
Move on too.
I know this may seem late but move on too, although I think you already did judging on your replies sa sayout ( i don't remember typing that, so it must be someone else). But yeah move on na rin and give up on the idea that we'll ever meet and be together. Kase I've given up na. I've grieved losing you long enough. I hope that you move on, find someone new as well, and hopefully see that person in your future. Good luck sa future mo, I hope you pursue engineering, whatever you choose to do, you have my support, as your friend.
P.S. I found God
Well more like he found me again, nung time na nililigawan kita, I was distant from God for reasons beyond you, pero I still had a little amount of faith. Kahit distant ako non I prayed for you on two or three seperate occasions, one of which (namention ko na to sayo) was on the same week I considered being an atheist. Back then I was asking God for a sign if you were the one and he never gave me one pero pinilit ko kase kaya yeah. Then, I would've turned my back on God's plan if it meant I would be with you. But now balaka jan I'm walking with the man who saved my soul. And same thing happened with this girl I like sa church. Man 10/10 talaga siya but prayer ko lang for the girl is "your will be done Lord". And I guess 'di talaga will ni Lord kaya I surrendered it to God, but man she's so pretty.
yun lang, oh and ang ganda ng buwan tonight.
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I hope you never find this.
hi E----, it's me again., si migs. If you don't remember who that is, I'm the guy who courted you, who gave you letters and poems, who you called your "human diary". And I know it's been a while, antagal na rin nating hindi nag-uusap, hell antagal na rin kitang hindi nasusulatan ng letters. But this is the final letter, I'll ever dedicate to you and I hope you never find this. Actually matagal ko na tong gustong gawin, I could just never face the truth dati. The naked truth na takot akong bitawan ka.
Pero dati na yon, I'm all good and I've actually moved on na rin. Heck, di ko na nga talaga to dapat gagawin pero something came up and here I am.
I'm letting you go.
I know haha, it's quite ironic na ngayon ko lang nasabi 'to sayo kahit na ako yung nagsabi ng "please, let me go". It's hilarious and yes I admit medyo nakakalito (believe me kahit ako na confuse as to why ako ganito non). But naked truth, you were very hard to let go.
One, you're fucking pretty. Your pictures, your voice, your mindset, everything about you was beautiful, and maybe it was just infatuation or maybe obsessed lang talaga ako sayo.
Two, you were everywhere, nung time na blinock kita, which was 8 months ago (damn), I couldn't smile for weeks. Because everything beautiful reminded me of you.
It fucking sucks to be a poet, because it shed light to the truth of the saying that "you could never really appreciate beauty once you lose the person you love" and that's true because I loved you. When you were gone, I saw you everywhere, I saw you in sunsets, in flowers, in the clouds, even in songs, all I could think of was you, anything beautiful tol, nandun ka. And I couldn't enjoy anything for weeks kasi nga maaalala lang kita. I couldn't even enjoyn reading kase nung nakabili ako ng libro, I printed some of your pictures (photocard size) and used it as bookmarks, kase photocards talaga bookmarks ko. So for months talaga di nagalaw mga books ko and once I started reading them again, BOOM mukha mo, ang ganda, shet tiklop nanaman.
Three, you were my home. I've come to associate that term with you, ever since you recommended me that song on facebook. "oh home, let me come home... home is wherever I'm with you." Rest, solace, comfort, I found that in you. And as we got to know each other more, I found the freedom to become myself. Which is why I always felt safe whenever it was you. And likewise rin sayo, as you said noon.
But why I'm letting you go is because I realized that I didn't deserve the treatment you gave me. Throughout the time na nililigawan kita, I always felt alone. During that time I was always trying to rationalize why I felt that way and what I could do to fix it. But you can't rationalize emotions, you feel them. And that was my mistake kase I bottled it up but it eventually broke through me, then it broke me. I tried to communicate that naman, but nothing really changed, and lumala lang. Kaya yeah.
I'm done looking at it through rose colored glasses.
As you can see medyo nahirapan talaga akong mag move on kasi whenever I thought of you, all I could remember was the sweet moments natin, even if we had few. Never the sleepless nights, never the breakdowns, not even the times that I apologized because I was hurt that you couldn't have time for me. Listen I understand it now, how hard it is maging senior high. And I tried to understand it then. It's draining and minsan talaga nakakawalang gana makipag usap sa tao. But I tried naman, I adjusted, you know that. Saan ka man comfortable, sige dun tayo. Once a week nalang mag usap? sige goo.
I thought I knew what price I was paying but, that gradually crushed me. How I would update you throughout my day, fucking send 14 messages na may mga paragraph pa, only for you to reply with 4-6 messages, sometimes none. And yeah idk why but ako pa rin yung nag a-apologize nung time na yon. Maybe it's because of how I was brought up, but I considered it my fault that I was feeling that way.
I'm done apologizing.
Did you know that this letter has had about 7 drafts already, throughout different times I tried to write this final letter and I always gave up after the first paragraph. Wanna know why? Because in all 7 letters, the most recurring words were "I'm sorry".
"I'm sorry if you felt like you were responsible for my feelings" "I'm sorry I was hurt" "I'm sorry that I became a burden on you"
I always felt so bad after attempting to write this letter then, it was like having a knife to my neck. Well I'm done with that already. I'm done apologizing for things I shouldn't be.
Listen I'm not mad at you, I don't hate you, nor am I asking you for an apology. You're not obligated to do that to me. It's okay. We don't have to apologize to one another, I've forgiven you and I'm choosing to move on na. Not for you, and especially not for love, but for me.
How could you.
I just wanna address the whole telegram thing, cause I feel the need to. It was just a little insensitive kasi nga we weren't on the best of terms nung time na yon. Yun yung nag pa block ka sakin. And yeah you know naman what we were going through. Medyo nagulat lang ako na you just talked to me like that, so casually. I was hurting and healing at the same time pero damn. tas sinabi mo pa yung "kung tayo, edi tayo" line and that seriously fucked me up. Kase at the time I was trying to give up on that na, cause I thought you did too. Pero yeah, now I've given up on that na, I hope u do too.
(Also I told u non sa pasko mo ko ichat ulit kasi I wasn't ready to talk to you again that time. Pero you stood me up, so yeah, fun christmas.)
Move on too.
I know this may seem late but move on too, although I think you already did judging on your replies sa sayout ( i don't remember typing that, so it must be someone else). But yeah move on na rin and give up on the idea that we'll ever meet and be together. Kase I've given up na. I've grieved losing you long enough. I hope that you move on, find someone new as well, and hopefully see that person in your future. Good luck sa future mo, I hope you pursue engineering, whatever you choose to do, you have my support, as your friend.
P.S. I found God
Well more like he found me again, nung time na nililigawan kita, I was distant from God for reasons beyond you, pero I still had a little amount of faith. Kahit distant ako non I prayed for you on two or three seperate occasions, one of which (namention ko na to sayo) was on the same week I considered being an atheist. Back then I was asking God for a sign if you were the one and he never gave me one pero pinilit ko kase kaya yeah. Then, I would've turned my back on God's plan if it meant I would be with you. But now balaka jan I'm walking with the man who saved my soul. And same thing happened with this girl I like sa church. Man 10/10 talaga siya but prayer ko lang for the girl is "your will be done Lord". And I guess 'di talaga will ni Lord kaya I surrendered it to God, but man she's so pretty.
yun lang, oh and ang ganda ng buwan tonight.
2024.05.11 23:23 snufflesoul Napanood mo ba to mom? 🤭
 | Anyway, naalala ko lang na kumukuha ng recipes si Kath sa tiktok kse dumaan to sa feed ko today. submitted by snufflesoul to KathDenShippers [link] [comments] Or, baka pinagluto ka na nya? 🥰 P.S Ang pogi naman ni A talaga 🫠 gawa ka pa po ng ganitong videos para ifollow kna ni mom sa tiktok 🤣 |
2024.05.11 19:33 No-Business-7355 Kwentador daw ako sabi nila
Hi guys, yung parents ko po kasi, hindi talaga nila ako na-appreciate like ako na nga yung halos gumawa ng mga gawaing bahay dito sa amin tapos yung kapatid kong lalaki ay wala lang, chill² lang, barkadista tapos mga hating gabi na hindi pa nakakauwi dahil kasama ang mga barkada. Kahit ganyan ginagawa ng kapatid ko, wala akong narinig na masasakit na salita galing sa parents ko pero kapag ako minsan tinamad sa mga gawaing bahay tapos magrereklamo ako na utusan nyo naman ang bunso nyong anak, ang dami kong naririnig na masakit na salita, kesyo "kwentador daw ako", kesyo "magsisisi daw ako kapag wala na sila dito sa mundong ibabaw". Alam nyo guys? Matagal ko nang ramdam Ito eh, Yung feeling na hindi nila ako na-appreciate sa kabila nang mga ginagawa ko para sa kanila at may mga panahon pa na kahit masakit tiyan ko ay ako pa rin ang maghuhugas ng pinggan. Lastly, yung mga pagkakamali ko sa buhay ay palagi nalang isinusumbat sa akin at may one time pa nga na isinumbat ko sa bunso kong kapatid yung pagkakamali niya, dala ng pagod, ayun tinadyakan ako. Ni minsan hindi ko nga sinasaktan yan pero siya kung maka tadyak parang hindi ako older sister nya.
P.S. Hindi po talaga ako nakakalimot basta ganito na mga happenings in my family. Please give me your thoughts about my experience. Thank you!
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P.S. Hindi po talaga ako nakakalimot basta ganito na mga happenings in my family. Please give me your thoughts about my experience. Thank you!
2024.05.10 22:10 VincentDemarcus Are concerts found in the Bible at this point? This is just a laughing stock I’m sorry 🙂. FYM 138 Concert
 | They really made a concert out of this. I just can’t stop smacking my face. Is this celebratory deed even found in the bible. submitted by VincentDemarcus to exIglesiaNiCristo [link] [comments] This is out of touch from the ordinary rule of remembering leaders. You don’t have to go this far to justify your cringiness. 😂😂 |
2024.05.10 11:59 crazybanana_1291 I (32F) and my girlfriend (27F) have been together for more than a year. I told her that we should just live together but she declined.
My GF and I are working in the same company. (different department, different building - hatid sundo ako everyday) We've been together for more than a year now and that's our routine everyday.
As a backgrounder. We met during our training days (getting to know and dating stage nmin). But after training na-assign ako sa main office dito sa metro and provincial office naman sya. We lost communication. Nagkaron sya ng girlfriend almost 2 years din sila, but they broke up. We got intouch, and nalipat sya sa main office here sa metro. We started dating again and eventually naging kami. 1 year together na rin kami working here in the city. We are not legally introduced to both of our families.
I live alone in my rented condo. My girlfriend lives with her closefriend(college friend) and 3 other co-workers (condo sharing).
I asked her 3x to be exact na "mag sama nlng tayo" not really live in (pero parang gnun na rin😅) but co-living/condo sharing with her closefriend.
1st time: On our 4th month working here, it was our common friend that suggested na we should live together na lang and i said "oo nga noh?" That's why i asked her. But she declined. Jokingly she said "di ko pwedeng iwan si closefriend baka ma depress loner yun eh". Inintindi ko.
2nd time: On our 8th month working here, it was my sister (who knows our relationship) told me "sabihan mo girlfriend mo na sa condo mo nalang tumira para may kasama ka". Thats why, i asked my girlfriend given na may basbas kami ng elder sister ko. I told her "dito ka na lang daw tumira sabi ng ate ko". But then again she declined. This time medyo seryoso yung usapan namin. Nahihiya daw sya sa ate ko and the fact daw na alam kong hindi nya pwede iwan si closefriend.
(she cant leave her closefriend kasi 1.loner yun; 2.wala gaanong friend; introvert; 3.si GF lang yung maasahan/masasandalan nyang friend; 4.problematic si closefriend nya (both family and financial); and 5. dahil dyan sa no. 1 to 4, feeling ni GF sya yung mkakasave sa misery ng closefriend nya na as if pag wala sya sa tabi nya ay baka mahulog sa depression yung situation. Inintindi ko.
3rd time: More than a year working here and same routine. For the 3rd and maybe the last time. Indirect ko nang sinabi sa knya...(because i want to know kung ano plano nya or kung merun nga ba talaga syang plano) I told her na aalis na ako sa condo. Mag condo sharing na lang ako with my other co-workers.I need to make tipid and para may kasama ako. She agreed. And nag open din sya na they're planning din na umalis sa condo sharing nila kasi dadating yung boyfriend ni closefriend (na magwo.work na din sa metro malapit sa workplace namin). And told me, "maghanap na lang tayo..isama nlng natin si closefriend, malapit na dumating bf nya at naghahanap ng matutuluyan".
And I'm like 🤔, so kaya lang pumayag yung girlfriend ko sa magsama kmi kasi dadating yung bf ni closefriend nya and they need a bigger space (deep inside masakit🥺). But still i said "Sige" inisip ko na infavor din nman sakin.
Months have passed and wala manlang ka effort effort na maghanap ng new unit for us. Malaman laman ko na lang, yung closefriend nya nagdecide pala na wag nlng lumipat kasi magastos and nagtitipid daw sila🤣.
So all this time...yung desisyon ng closefriend nya ang nasusunod and wala talaga sya plano for us. Now i know. Sad🥹
But then again, i give it the benefit of the doubt na maybe wala syang plano for us together kasi hindi pa sya open sa family nya about our relationship. Na parang malaking issue sa kanya ang "live in"🥹. Feeling ko, fast pace ako sa relasyon nmin and hindi sya makasabay. Yung gusto kong i-level up yung relasyon namin pero mentally and emotionally not ready pa sya (?).
I love her, pero sa pinapakita nya sakin, parang plateauing yung relasyon nmin.
I will wait kung kelan sya magiging ready.
That's why, I'm considering the na magpatransfer sa provincial office namin (2-3 hrs away from the metro). It's not a career advancement for me but an educational advancement. Sa province..lower position, (free food and accommodation, malaki ang matitipid😅) but less workload. Given less workload, I can continue my post grad education. Sa main office kasi, as in wala talaga akong time para makapag aral, puro trabaho. Yung tipong pwede na akong maging tagapagmana😆).
Tama lang ba na iwan ko muna sya for now and chose my studies? In that way makapag isip sya at matutong gumawa ng mature na desisyon para samin dalawa.? Am I being too pushy about us living together?
To somebody out there who experienced the same or yung mga mentally matured dyan.. I need help and advice please😭
P.S. I'm afraid na baka lamunin ako ng goals ko. Schooling.Board exams. Masterals. Career. Baka mawalan ako ng time sa kanya.
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As a backgrounder. We met during our training days (getting to know and dating stage nmin). But after training na-assign ako sa main office dito sa metro and provincial office naman sya. We lost communication. Nagkaron sya ng girlfriend almost 2 years din sila, but they broke up. We got intouch, and nalipat sya sa main office here sa metro. We started dating again and eventually naging kami. 1 year together na rin kami working here in the city. We are not legally introduced to both of our families.
I live alone in my rented condo. My girlfriend lives with her closefriend(college friend) and 3 other co-workers (condo sharing).
I asked her 3x to be exact na "mag sama nlng tayo" not really live in (pero parang gnun na rin😅) but co-living/condo sharing with her closefriend.
1st time: On our 4th month working here, it was our common friend that suggested na we should live together na lang and i said "oo nga noh?" That's why i asked her. But she declined. Jokingly she said "di ko pwedeng iwan si closefriend baka ma depress loner yun eh". Inintindi ko.
2nd time: On our 8th month working here, it was my sister (who knows our relationship) told me "sabihan mo girlfriend mo na sa condo mo nalang tumira para may kasama ka". Thats why, i asked my girlfriend given na may basbas kami ng elder sister ko. I told her "dito ka na lang daw tumira sabi ng ate ko". But then again she declined. This time medyo seryoso yung usapan namin. Nahihiya daw sya sa ate ko and the fact daw na alam kong hindi nya pwede iwan si closefriend.
(she cant leave her closefriend kasi 1.loner yun; 2.wala gaanong friend; introvert; 3.si GF lang yung maasahan/masasandalan nyang friend; 4.problematic si closefriend nya (both family and financial); and 5. dahil dyan sa no. 1 to 4, feeling ni GF sya yung mkakasave sa misery ng closefriend nya na as if pag wala sya sa tabi nya ay baka mahulog sa depression yung situation. Inintindi ko.
3rd time: More than a year working here and same routine. For the 3rd and maybe the last time. Indirect ko nang sinabi sa knya...(because i want to know kung ano plano nya or kung merun nga ba talaga syang plano) I told her na aalis na ako sa condo. Mag condo sharing na lang ako with my other co-workers.I need to make tipid and para may kasama ako. She agreed. And nag open din sya na they're planning din na umalis sa condo sharing nila kasi dadating yung boyfriend ni closefriend (na magwo.work na din sa metro malapit sa workplace namin). And told me, "maghanap na lang tayo..isama nlng natin si closefriend, malapit na dumating bf nya at naghahanap ng matutuluyan".
And I'm like 🤔, so kaya lang pumayag yung girlfriend ko sa magsama kmi kasi dadating yung bf ni closefriend nya and they need a bigger space (deep inside masakit🥺). But still i said "Sige" inisip ko na infavor din nman sakin.
Months have passed and wala manlang ka effort effort na maghanap ng new unit for us. Malaman laman ko na lang, yung closefriend nya nagdecide pala na wag nlng lumipat kasi magastos and nagtitipid daw sila🤣.
So all this time...yung desisyon ng closefriend nya ang nasusunod and wala talaga sya plano for us. Now i know. Sad🥹
But then again, i give it the benefit of the doubt na maybe wala syang plano for us together kasi hindi pa sya open sa family nya about our relationship. Na parang malaking issue sa kanya ang "live in"🥹. Feeling ko, fast pace ako sa relasyon nmin and hindi sya makasabay. Yung gusto kong i-level up yung relasyon namin pero mentally and emotionally not ready pa sya (?).
I love her, pero sa pinapakita nya sakin, parang plateauing yung relasyon nmin.
I will wait kung kelan sya magiging ready.
That's why, I'm considering the na magpatransfer sa provincial office namin (2-3 hrs away from the metro). It's not a career advancement for me but an educational advancement. Sa province..lower position, (free food and accommodation, malaki ang matitipid😅) but less workload. Given less workload, I can continue my post grad education. Sa main office kasi, as in wala talaga akong time para makapag aral, puro trabaho. Yung tipong pwede na akong maging tagapagmana😆).
Tama lang ba na iwan ko muna sya for now and chose my studies? In that way makapag isip sya at matutong gumawa ng mature na desisyon para samin dalawa.? Am I being too pushy about us living together?
To somebody out there who experienced the same or yung mga mentally matured dyan.. I need help and advice please😭
P.S. I'm afraid na baka lamunin ako ng goals ko. Schooling.Board exams. Masterals. Career. Baka mawalan ako ng time sa kanya.
2024.05.10 05:59 IcedTnoIce Mothers who had unnecessary caesarian deliveries
Malapit na ang mothers day, hil sa mga fellow mommies esp. sa mga na-cs.
May napanuod din kasi akong documentary sa yt about sa tumataas na dami ng unnecessary CS na ginagawa lang ng mga doctors para sa P PP.
First time mom ako & 5months postpartum via CS. Laking pasalamat ko at healthy kami ni baby at mejo nakaka recover na ako. Pero hanggang ngayon iniisip ko parin na kaya ko sana i-normal delivery pero ini stat CS ako ni ОВ.
Jan 1 kasi ang EDD ko, holiday season. Dec 27 pinapunta na ako ni OB for checkup sabay inadmit narin bigla at ininduce. 8hours ako nag labor pero nauwi din sa CS dahil maliit daw ang daanan at hindi magkakasya si baby. Nabigla lang ako sa pangyayari lahat dahil di ko rin naman alam ano ang ieexpect dahil first time ko. Tatlo kaming buntis na patient ni doc sabay sabay that day. Yung isa scheduled CS tapos kami naman nung other one is both induced nq nauwi sa CS.
Iniisip ko baka pinag sabay sabay kami ni doc para wala na syang intindihin na baka may emergency na manganganak habang holiday ng Dec 31-Jan1. Nagsisisi ako. Ang daming complications ng CS, major operation ito sa katawan natin. Restricted tayo sa maraming bagay. Nagsisisi ako baka kasi sana kaya naman pala i-normal delivery.
May ganito din po ba sa inyo? Ano po thoughts ninyo? へ
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May napanuod din kasi akong documentary sa yt about sa tumataas na dami ng unnecessary CS na ginagawa lang ng mga doctors para sa P PP.
First time mom ako & 5months postpartum via CS. Laking pasalamat ko at healthy kami ni baby at mejo nakaka recover na ako. Pero hanggang ngayon iniisip ko parin na kaya ko sana i-normal delivery pero ini stat CS ako ni ОВ.
Jan 1 kasi ang EDD ko, holiday season. Dec 27 pinapunta na ako ni OB for checkup sabay inadmit narin bigla at ininduce. 8hours ako nag labor pero nauwi din sa CS dahil maliit daw ang daanan at hindi magkakasya si baby. Nabigla lang ako sa pangyayari lahat dahil di ko rin naman alam ano ang ieexpect dahil first time ko. Tatlo kaming buntis na patient ni doc sabay sabay that day. Yung isa scheduled CS tapos kami naman nung other one is both induced nq nauwi sa CS.
Iniisip ko baka pinag sabay sabay kami ni doc para wala na syang intindihin na baka may emergency na manganganak habang holiday ng Dec 31-Jan1. Nagsisisi ako. Ang daming complications ng CS, major operation ito sa katawan natin. Restricted tayo sa maraming bagay. Nagsisisi ako baka kasi sana kaya naman pala i-normal delivery.
May ganito din po ba sa inyo? Ano po thoughts ninyo? へ