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Superheroes have only been around for about Six years now, emerging in the year 2015. Peter Parker is still enrolled at ESU at 21, Matt Murdock and Foggy Nelson only just started their new law firm in Hell's Kitchen after graduating from Columbia last year. The Avengers are currently operating out of the brand spanking new base the Impossible City, the FF are going strong at the Baxter Building with the She-Hulk temporarily taking Thing's place, Doctor Strange is Sorcerer Supreme operating out of the Sanctum Sanctorum in Greenwich, the Inhumans are still on the moon in Attilan, and The X-Men are diligently teaching younger students at Charles Xavier's School for gifted Youngsters... for now.
The FF and X-men, and plenty of Street-level heroes such as Spidey and DD debuted in Year One, with the Avengers following suit in Year Two. Though the heroes that formed the Avengers such as Iron Man, Thor, Hulk, Black Panther, etc. debuted in year one, they didn't form Earth's Mightiest Heroes until the frozen Captain America was discovered in Year Two, and then there came a day unlike any other. They operated out of Avengers Tower for the first four years, before it was eventually destroyed during an invasion by Ultron, resulting in them taking up residence in Ultron's former base the Impossible City, currently orbiting the Earth for the pst year. Current members are T'Challa (current chair person), Iron Man, Captain Marvel , Thor, Wonder Man, Beast, Scarlet Witch.
Hank Pym and Janet Van Dyne both perished in the struggle against Ultron with Scott Lang already having become the second Ant-Man, and Cap is off looking for Bucky at the moment with the aid of the Falcon.
Peter Parker grew up with his parents until he was about five years old and his parents died, resulting in him being sent to live with his mother's sister May and her husband Ben (they're relatively young only about 50 at the event of Peter becoming Spider-Man). He became best friends with Harry Osborn (and they have a healthy friendship, think Insomniac for their friendship) at around ten, and they both befriended Carlie Cooper (the love of this Peter's life) in freshman year of High School. Then of course, he got bitten by the genetically altered Spider, and selfishly attempted to cash in on his powers, before learning that great Power there must also come great responsibility at a terrible price. But here's the kicker ... Aunt May died instead of Uncle Ben, the robber being an affilate under Kingpin (while Fisk didn't order the murder, the killer still worked under him).
He is good friends with Johnny Storm and Bobby Drake, with the three of them meeting every once in a while at the Statue of Liberty. He also dated Jessica Jones for a while in this reality before she got her powers, eventually ending things just before college started. Meanwhile, Uncle Ben has opened up a boarding home for seniors in his house after Peter moved out for college. J. Jonah Jameson's reputation has been permanently ruined due to his involvement in the creation of The Scorpion, and the Spot to capture Spider-Man through illegal experimentation, which resulting in mass civilian casualties in the former's quest to gain vengeance upon Jonah including his wife and son, leading to Robbie becoming Publisher of the Daily Bugle as of Year Five. And Jameson becomes embittered, blaming Spider-Man for everything that ultimately leads to Jonah embracing the identity of the Spider-Slayer.
Carlie meanwhile has always dreamed of becoming a C.S.I like her father, before recently discovering that her father was involved in a police conspiracy against the costumed heroes, resulting in her turning him in. Peter and Carlie are currently together after a very long wait, and is it actually going rather well for our webhead. Norman Osborn has not yet become the Green Goblin, however Spidey still has plenty of enemies to keep him busy such as Doc Ock, Mysterio, Kraven, and Kingpin to name a few. (Also this is a bit of an aesthetic choice for me but in this reality Peter's webs are actually red instead of white in this reality).
Ben Reilly was created by Miles Warren in Year Four, before he managed to escape and was laying low in the city for a couple of months, and after teaming up with Peter to put a stop to the Jackel, departs for San Francisco to make a life for himself as the Scarlet Spider, with help from Peter who asked the FF to help set up his identity such as forging him a G.E.D, Driver's license, Birth certificate, Etc. Peter and Ben still keep in touch and consider each other brothers.
Twins Matt and Mike Murdock grew up raised by their father Jack Murdock after the death of their mother in a tragic accident that also resulted in Matt's blindness. Matthew had always obeyed their father's wish to be more focused on books and studying to make something of himself, while Mike rebelled and preferred the world of sports and popularity. However, after his blindness Matt secretly trained with Stick to sharpen his other senses, to Eventually when the twins were sixteen they went to view their father's boxing match for the championship title and Jack refused to throw the match against due to his sons' watching, determined to show them that "Their old man may be a loser, but he ain't no quitter." Immediately after the match he was gunned down by Wilson Fisk, before he became the Kingpin. After their father's death the twins dealt with in their own ways, Mike turned to grifting in order to support himself and his brother while in the foster system, while Matt grew determined to use his training to seek justice for his father, and to gain his law degree to fulfill his father's wishes for him.
The X-Men are still in Westchester teaching the gifted Youngsters. In this reality the New Mutants team serves as a junior varsity team for any young mutants hoping to become future X-men, sort of like the big dogs on campus. However within the year things will certainly get rather... firey if you catch my drift.
Current members of the X-Men are... Magik, Colossus, Storm, Wolverine, Psylocke, Iceman, Kitty Pryde, and Sunfire. (Also in this reality Nightcrawler takes Angel's place as one of the founding members of the X-Men.)
Current Roster for New Mutants: Armor, Pixie, Jubilee, Glob, Dust, Sunspot, and Triage.
While the big teams aren't reliably in New York due to their missions, the street-level heroes who are regularly in New York are, Spider-Man, Daredevil, Luke Cage, Iron Fist (the two already having formed Heroes For Hire in Year Three), superpowered P.I Jessica Jones, Moon Knight, and the recently emerged sixteen year olds Cloak and Dagger, having debuted about six months ago. They've all got beef with Kingpin, but none more so than Spidey and DD, with Fisk being considered both of their archnemeses .
Also Punisher's running around, only to get constantly beaten down by the other heroes, cause of his craziness.
As for the FF, the Secret Wars on Battleworld took place last year, with the Thing hanging back on Battleworld to explore the universe for a while after he shedded his rocky epidermis and (think Ultimate Marvel Ben Grimm) ,while She-Hulk has been filling his vacancy on the FF for the past year, and Sue and Reed are gratefully raising their twins Franklin and Valeria Richards.

Overall this is my first year in a regular highschool and yet im graduating in the end. Ive been homeschooled since covid so for like 3 years. I made friends that go to the school that im graduating too but it was a bad group of friendship and i thought they were good friends but turned out there toxic and fake. Thats a whole different story but after that friendship ended i was never the same because i thought i wasnt going to be alone anymore transitioning, i really trusted them i thought they were my forever friends. I turned to other people when i got into that school it was a new fresh start for me made alot of friends but more like aquantances, now not really close to anyone but im more of that person whos well known but doesnt really have anyone so i just go group by group when i get the chance to gather. But im really the one thats just there so that i wouldnt feel left out and that my ex friends would pick on me for being alone because one of them talked bad about me to everyone. i understand theres nothing wrong with being alone but i just got closer to alot of people really fast but that was very impulsive of me because im not really close or truly hangout with them like that like they would with other people. i feel like i forced it, in the inside i feel like such a loner and it makes me feel bad about myself which is why my social anxiety is so bad i dont know how to communicate i just go with the flow and basically feeling left out all the time. Im terribly shaking and about to cry thinking about walking on the stage to get my diploma. I did try to connect with others throughout the school year but something happend i couldnt cuz i had to take care of my mom at home every afterschool so i wouldnt have the time anymore. Attending grad would be very dreadful for me but i have to do it for my parents i dont have a choice its a family tradition. Im afraid that no ones gonna clap for me or they might think of me as a try hard in the school. Im just so anxious i feel like im not a normal teenager and i just want this to end i dont know what to do please help me i see everyone always laughing and smiling in the hallways with there friends or anyone and its something i cant even do anymore i cant communicate. Please give me advice on what to do moving forward and how to maintain myself in this event i dont know who i should stick to.

I’d like to start this off first by saying that we both have an agreement to tell each other if something weird happens to us. For example, a guy in my school tried to flirt with me, and I told this to him willingly. I asked him if he wants to know things like these ASAP (i.e. guys being weird around me) moving forward and he said yes, and promised to also tell me ASAP if other girls are being weird around him.
I also want to say that we made this agreement solid because one of my former best friends had a crush on him and our whole friend group kept forcing them together and tried to make him cheat MULTIPLE TIMES (by making them meet up) despite them knowing we were already in a relationship. No infidelity ever happened, but when he told me MONTHS LATER, I got upset as I felt like a fool that I was being all friendly and kind to our common friends, all the while I was being left out by these people, when he KNEW that this girl had a crush on him which was what caused the friction in the first place. Since then, he has cut them off and promised to be honest ASAP as a way to regain my trust after that betrayal. I asked him why it took him so long to tell me all of those things, and he was afraid I’d get hurt and leave him.
This also happened again when he saw one of the aforementioned friends in his school (they still study in the same school which is also why we made this rule). It took him until the end of the day to tell me what happened.
Last night, he suddenly remembered to tell me that 2 weeks ago, he cut off one of his friends for being weird around him. She was complimenting him personally saying that he was handsome and that he smelled good? This really upset me as 2 weeks ago I’ve already been highly suspicious as to why he wasn’t hanging out with his friends anymore. I asked him many times what was wrong and he gave me another reason that there was a friendship conflict between the others. Hence, he had many chances to tell me.
He told me that as soon as it happened, he already cut the girl off and blocked her everywhere and only talked to her for school purposes. But admits he was wrong for not telling me and insists that he forgot because of his ADHD. Is it overrreacting for thinking this is a dealbreaker? To be clear I’m not mad that other girls are flirting with him. I’m mad he takes a while to tell me. How do I stop being so upset and how can we fix this?
TLDR: My boyfriend frequently forgets to tell me when girls flirt/are being weird with him when he has promised to tell me ASAP as a way to regain my trust when our former friends tried to make him cheat on me and he didn’t tell me that he knew that one of those girls liked him. Is this overreacting for thinking this is a dealbreaker? The lack of immediate honesty by him — not other girls flirting with him. How can I stop being upset and how do we fix this?

Overall this is my first year in a regular highschool and yet im graduating in the end. Ive been homeschooled since covid so for like 3 years. I made friends that go to the school that im graduating too but it was a bad group of friendship and i thought they were good friends but turned out there toxic and fake. Thats a whole different story but after that friendship ended i was never the same because i thought i wasnt going to be alone anymore transitioning, i really trusted them i thought they were my forever friends. I turned to other people when i got into that school it was a new fresh start for me made alot of friends but more like aquantances, now not really close to anyone but im more of that person whos well known but doesnt really have anyone so i just go group by group when i get the chance to gather. But im really the one thats just there so that i wouldnt feel left out and that my ex friends would pick on me for being alone because one of them talked bad about me to everyone. i understand theres nothing wrong with being alone but i just got closer to alot of people really fast but that was very impulsive of me because im not really close or truly hangout with them like that like they would with other people. i feel like i forced it, in the inside i feel like such a loner and it makes me feel bad about myself which is why my social anxiety is so bad i dont know how to communicate i just go with the flow and basically feeling left out all the time. Im terribly shaking and about to cry thinking about walking on the stage to get my diploma. I did try to connect with others throughout the school year but something happend i couldnt cuz i had to take care of my mom at home every afterschool so i wouldnt have the time anymore. Attending grad would be very dreadful for me but i have to do it for my parents i dont have a choice its a family tradition. Im afraid that no ones gonna clap for me or they might think of me as a try hard in the school. Im just so anxious i feel like im not a normal teenager and i just want this to end i dont know what to do please help me i see everyone always laughing and smiling in the hallways with there friends or anyone and its something i cant even do anymore i cant communicate. Please give me advice on what to do moving forward and how to maintain myself in this event i dont know who i should stick to.

I know the title seems a bit childish, but I genuinely feel horrible for this. I have an older brother who I attend high school with. He has recently been using a pen, or weed, whatever the name for it is. He kept telling me that he had one, he would use it when he drove me and himself to school. He got caught, and my parents found out that I knew about it. My dad isn’t really the kind of person to do any parenting. He’s more like a friend who happens to be married to my mom. My mom has done a lot more for us in life, naturally she handles the parenting and scolding. She said that I should’ve gotten punished too for not saying anything or speaking up. About a week later, my brother had another one, and he (of course) told me. I felt guilty, I didn’t know what to do, whether to tell my parents or keep the secret. I ended up ratting my brother out (my mom promised not to tell him it was me). I already felt bad about snitching, but then he vented to me about being caught somehow. He talked with my mother and now he is refusing to go to college. My mom vented to me about how she doesn’t know what to do, she said she might kick him out but I never thought she would actually do it.
To make matters worse, not even two days later, my brother had another pen. I told my mom, mainly because I’m a bit tired of having to keep such a big secret. My mom asked me questions, as she did last time. They’re usually along the lines of ‘how did you learn about it’ ‘what did he say’ ‘what did you say’ etc.
After a short talk, she said that after graduation, when seniors walk the stage, he’s gonna pack his things and get kicked out.
I feel horrible. He’s my only brother, and the only one who can relate to the stress this family brings. He’s the only one I can vent to and not feel weird about it because he too has experienced what I go through. How am I supposed to survive without him?
What’s worse, he doesn’t know. He asked me why I was crying and I lied, I said I got in trouble for my grades. Did I ruin his life? Is it all my fault?
I feel guilty, and I have already cried twice about this, about to be thrice. I just wish he would stop using the pen. I don’t want his future to be ruined because of me or the pen.
How can I fix this? Can I even fix it?

This is probably a longer story than it really is, but I am just trying to give as much context as I can.
In grade 11, me (F16-17) and my ex-friend (F16-17) were best friends. For some context, we both became friends fairly early in high school. In my country high school is from grade 8-grade 12. I joined the high school in grade 8 from out of city, the high school is just closer to me than the one in my city, so I was a new kid. I made some friends in grade 8 as a new kid but those friendships did end in grade 9. Grade 9 is when my best friend, we'll call her Emily, transferred to the school. And we formed a friendship. Through grade 9 we had formed our own little friend group with 2 other girls, we'll name them Clara and Sabrina. It was the 4 of us through majority of high school. We would always text each other, always hang out after school, spend any break we had at school together and had as much fun as any girls in high school could have (minus the partying because my school is not a partying school).
Emily and I were the closet in the friend group, afterall we were pretty similar and come from similar backgrounds (We're both a type of asian). We both would be described as the smart kids. We both would end up getting high grades in all of our classes. In grade 9, when we met, she told the friend group her dream was to become a doctor like her parents were, so she studied extra hard in high school to keep her grades high. I, on the other hand, did not really have any specific dreams. I wanted to become a writer or even a lawyer (but was worried because I'm not the best speaker). Due to that, I never tried that hard at school. Like i care about grades, my parents cared a lot about me getting high grades, but I wasn't studying for anything. And with that I never really studied either, I would do my homework and pay attention in class and take pretty notes but I was not spending any real time after class to do work Which is something that Emily would do. She would spend hours and hours a day just studying. If she wasn't studying she would be doing some volunterring or some club stuff.
Fast forward to grade 11. Right from the beginning of the year something just felt odd about our relationship. She seemed distant. Which I chalked up to it being we were now considered seniors at our high school so she was starting to stress about universities already, but it was still whatever. My school worked in semesters, so for half of the year we would have 4 specific classes which would then switch to different classes in second semester. During first semester I didn't have any classes with any of my friends. I was just chilling in all of my classess and getting adopted into different group friends in those classes. I was always well-liked in high school, I was not a popular kid. But compared to all the smart kids in the school, I was deemed the nicest so because of that everyone would be nice to me and friendly (even though I know for some of them it was so they could get hw answers out of me, but they were still very nice to me).
During this time, my friends and I would make up plans to hang out. We always made it a point to hang out at least once a week outside of school. It was always after school, we would usually study, walk around or go to the mall. In our gc on insta we would always double check with one another on which days to do it. Clara, Sabrina and I would always talk in the gc and were always the ones initiating the plans. Emily was also in the gc but would rarely reply to anything. Any times we would make plans to hang out, Emily would either not reply (which would then lead us to asking her during lunch the next day if she was free, where she would barely talk) or she would just say no to all plans. The few times she would say yes, she would always cancel the day of. Which would be annoying, and Clara, Sabrina and I would talk amongst ourselves that we found it odd she would always cancel and never want to hang out outside of school, but we were like it's not that big of a deal. She could just be busy.
We then just ahead to my birthday. Now i have an early birthday and it falls around the time that we come back to school after the winter break. Now during the winter break, Clara, Sabrina and I formed a seperate gc as it would just be the three of us talking and making plans. We also always took so many pictures and felt bad about sending it into the gc with the four of us in it as we didnt want Emily to feel bad about not coming. So we figured it was better if we kept it seperate. But in the main gc, I just ask when is everyone free to do something small. I'm not really a birthday person. Since high school, all my birthdays include going to some cozy restauraunt with my 4 closest friends and just having a casual dinner. So I ask and everyone leaves their responses, including Emily. We decide on a day, it would be after school just a day or two after my actual birthday and we would be going to a restuarunt and an arcade nearby (I have strict parents so I really wasn't allowed to go out late or really go out anywhere far). The plan is made and everything is set. When the day comes for the dinnearcade, we all meet up by our lockers to go take the bus together.
The 3 of us are there waiting for Emily to come and she does just a few minutes late. That is when she tells us she can't come because she has a club meeting today, and she told us it was mandatory for us to attend. Now of course my friends and I tried to convince her to blow it off just this one time, but she was adamant about going. So, whatever. We say bye to her and start walking to the bus. While walking there we bump into a mutual friend, also waiting for the bus. She is also in the same club, so we confused why she was here. We do ask her, saying "hey isn't there something happening with the club today?" That is when she tells us there was just this small meeting recapping what had happened in last weeks meeting for the people who missed it. Meaning the meeting was not madatory at all, especially when Emily had cancelled our plans last week to go to this said meeting. Meaning she did sort of lie to get out of going to my birthday party. I of course was hurt by this. When she told us she had to go to the meeting, I didn't think much of it as I knew how much school mattered to her and how much doing this club stuff mattered. But she had the choice to come, and she decided to just blow me off. We went out and had fun and didn't bring the matter up with her. We figured it was just her caring a bit too much about school.
Anyways this whole cancelling plans last minute, ghosting the main gc thing happened more and more. It also got to the point where if I wanted to talk to her, whether that was through text or in real life I would always have to approach her first. As this carried on for a while, i of course was getting a bit annoyed about where this friendship was going.
We now get to Emily's birthday a month later. Now Emily decided to plan her birthday, very last minute. I am just pointing this out as i am not a person who can do spontaneous plans, one because i have this need to plan properly and two because I do have strict parents. So i can't just spring a plan on them the day of and expect to go. Which is something Emily knows. Anyways she makes the plan and i tell my mom about it to ask if i can go and she says yes. The day before, Emily then decides to change the plan entirely. We were going to go into downtown city (for context, it's roughly 2 hours transit from our neighborhood). I obviously had to ask permission as she wanted to stay out late which is not something my parents would like, so when Emily told us at lunch the change in plans, Clara, Sabrina I told her we had to double check if we can still go as we all have strict parents, but our extended friend group were all down to go.
After school, the four of us head into the bathroom, which is a toally normal thing for high school girls to do before we headed out. While there Emily then decides to start a fight with me about not going to her birthday, which hasn't happened yet. She starts yelling at me about how Im mad that she didn't go to my birthday and am not going to hers as revenge (I'll be honest, I kinda forgot she didn't go). And starts yelling at me about how I'm being a bad friend and frankly a b*tch. And when I say she is screaming at me, I mean there is the largest echo circling our bathroom as she yells at me. Now I'm just standing there, trying to reason with her. I'm just trying to explain to her that i didn't say i wasn't coming, i just needed to get permission to go, which is something that Clara and Sarbina said as well but Emily wasn't saying anything about them. She proceeded to just yell at me for a solid 5 minutes. Another girl did walk into the bathroom, saw Emily yelling and just left, which I feel bad about. I do not do well with someone yelling at me, so I just tell her that I'm leaving now and we can talk later. I practically run out of the bathroom and out of school. Clara runs up to me and says i can't go home feeling like this. I felt horrible, i felt like throwing up. So Clara makes it her job to cheer me up as Sabrina is trying to calm Emily down. Clara takes me to Mcdonalds, where we split a meal as that became a tradition of ours and she bought me ice-cream to make me feel better. We end up spending roughly and hour and half there before starting to walk back to our houses. I did feel a lot better and I was smiling. Clara didn't really say much about what happened as she knew it would upset me. She just said that Emily was being mean and left it at that. At some point during our walk, Emily calls Clara and starts screaming at Clara over the phone about choosing "my side". I only know it was Emily because I can hear her screaming through the phone and Clara is trying to be nice to her and say she was comforting her friend like a good one would do. Emily continues screaming and Clara just hangs up on her.
We don't talk about it. Now the next day, at school, is Emily's birthday. I feel so awkward. Because i'm still upset about what happened. When I see her, I'm not sure if I should wish her a happy birthday. I feel like I am owed an apology first. so i don't really say anything to her. and we don't really talk. Now we are in the same Chemistry honours class together and are lab partners. So we have to talk. I ask her, if we're going to talk about what happened. And she just says, no, it's my birthday. I just say really but she doesn't say anything after. So Im just like, fine, whatever. We spend the entire class in awkward silence, and I do not see her again the entire day. Even at lunch because she has a club meeting or something. Clara, Sabrina and I all agree that we don't want to talk about it. Clara got an apology text last night but she was still mad about being yelled at over the phone. Sabrina asked us if we wanted to know what her and Emily talked about yesterday but i said no. I was frankly too mad and knew if anything was said, I would be upset. Emily did not end up having a birthday party. and there is now an awkward silence between the 4 of us. it's like a horror movie, where the music is playing and you just know something bad is coming and you have to wait for it.
A few days later, I know i have to say something. I can feel that our friendship is hanging by a thread and I want my best friend back. So at lunch, while we're all sitting by our lockers I bring up the topic. I do not remember the conversation that took place. All I know was that Emily was practically screaming in my face, in front of all our friends (Clara, Sabrina and 5 of our other friends). Everyone is trying to get her to stop, but she keeps yelling at me. At some point I just start crying. Now this is the first time, that someone outside of my family, has ever made me cry. Its the first time I have ever cried at school too. The tears are flowing down my face as I just say "i'm sorry i cant do this" to the rest of our friends as i had off to the bathroom to calm down. Clara and one of our other friends rush off with me to try to calm me down and stop the tears. But they keep coming. I can't stop them and am now in the bathroom splashing my face with water and doing my best to wipe them all away. Clara, this other friend and i all have the same class next. So they have to literally drag me to class as I'm sort of paralyzed about whats happening. When we get to the classroom, everyone there, which was half of the class is looking at me and seeing my red, teared-up face. Our seats are at the very back corner of the classroom, on the very opposite side from the door. So i have to walk past the entire face as they all stare at me and wonder whats happening. the entire time im not really paying any attention. during little work periods in the class, my fellow classmates would walk up to me and ask if im okay. which i would say yes, i was even though i wasnt because what else could i say. I ended up powering through the rest of the day before going home and wonderign what to do.
In the secret gc, I text with Clara and Sabrina about what my next steps should be. They suggest we have an actual therapy session as a friend group to discuss if we even want to be friends at this point. I agree to this. I even start writing up my own speech I am going to tell Emily when i see her.
So I'm just going to jump ahead to whenever this happens. It's during lunch, outside on the grass field. I am calm, I know what to say and everything. I'm sitting there with Clara and Sabrina has to literally drag Emily out of school to come and talk. I kid you not. We have like an hour for lunch. It takes 20 minutes for Emily to finally show up. And she shows up like, "ugh what are we even doing here? im kinda busy" and just acts like there is nothing at all wrong. I start to calmly explain to her how ive been feeling the entire year. I do not remmeber the conversation. But what I remember talking about is how i feel like she's distant, she's always cancelling plans, im always the one texting her first, about how she gets mad at me for small little things, how she yells at me, etc. My whole speech was about how "i don't want to feel like sh*t for trying to continue this friendship". Because even after the first time she yelled at me, I just wanted an apology and we could move on and that didn't happen. And now Im just like I don't want to cry again and don't want my tears to come from someone who's supposed to be my best friend. She does argue her case in this. Her whole thing is how "i'm being clingy and annoying and controlling".
Now for her arguement, I think it should be known more about my persoanlity type. I am not the best people person. I have social anxiety and how that manifests in me is that i can't really talk to people that well. I don't know how to converse and get incredibly nervous to talk to anyone new. So when I do become friends with someone, I do latch on to them. I talk to them all the time, when i can, and they become my person. I think that is where the clingy party comes from. For the controlling/annoying thing, I can only chalk it up to me always texting her. Like i said, i would always have to be the one initating our conversations and plans. So our chats always look like 5 bubbles of text from me (because i am the person that types in multiple bubbles rather than one large text bubble) and her short responses. When it comes to plans, as I said i do not do spontaenous plans. I need to have them properly organized for both my parents sakes and my sake. I'm not someone who plans everything out minute by minute, I just need to know times and places. And if you are actually free.
Thankfully this time, Emily isn't yelling at me however she is talkimg a bit loudly. Now at this point we have spent 25ish minutes talking about this when she suddently gets up and says "i have to go otherwise i'll be late for my class and get in trouble". Which there is still 15 minutes before lunch ends. And her classroom is across the hallway from my next class with Clara. The walk from the grass field was literally 2 minutes. Our coversation wasn;t done. There was no convlusion and no real understanding on either part. So all of us get up as Emily starts speed walking and we all chase her. We're all telling her there is still so much time left, but she doesn't listen and still carries on. So then I say, "i don't want to be friends anymore if this is what it's going to be like". and she says "fine." and walks away. and that was the end of our friendship.
It was almost spring break and our friends were doing their best to navigate the situation. I think they believed we both needed time to cool down and we can all be friends again. However that didn;t happen. Emily and i agreed to be civil as we still had the same friend group but she never really hung out with us in the next couple days, or talked during lunch and that was it.
The two of us did not talk at all. The only times we did was in our Chemistry class, where she did the most un-civil thing ever. As I said we were lab partners. Anytime we had any lab, involing the microscope, I would always be the person doing the microscope work as Emily writes down the results of what I found. I would then get the numbers or obersations from her and add them to my worksheet as our teacher wanted us to work in partners but submit our own work. This one lab went off for too long and the bell rung. So as we are packing up quickly, I ask Emily for the numbers she wrote down. She said she's late for something and will send me the numbers later today. And I'm like fine. She never did. It was also a Friday so we went into the weekend and she never sent me anything. I did text her once on Saturday and another time on Sunday if she could send it. but she never replied and i just asked another classmate if they could send me their answers. If our teacher asked why did we as partners have different answers, I was going to tell him Emily wouldn't give them to me. He never did ask and that was the last time we really talked.
We then headed into spring break which ended up turning into the pandemic lockdown. Now I feel so bad when saying this, as i know this was a difficult time for so many people. But me as a 17-year-old high school studnet, loved the first few weeks of lockdown. I saw it as a mental health break as all the stuff that went down with Emily did in fact put me into a depression phase (I actually do have depression and i do end up in mini-phases where its really bad). The lockdown gave me time to breathe as it felt like i was holding my breath for so long and i could relax. Now in the fall, our school did a hybrid for our last year. Which was fine, it was weird but managable. Emily did not talk to me, Clara or Sabrina at all during our seniour year. We graduated and my friends and I had the best time we could under pandemic restrictions.
Current day, I (21) am now in university. Clara and Sabrina and I are as close as ever and have managed to keep our friendship alive and strong even 3-4 years outside of high school and while all attending different universities. We still hang out regularly (once every week or so) and text all the time. And would you believe it, Emily goes to my university. Remember, how I said she wanted to become a doctor. Yeah so her plan was to go to university in Toronto for some medicine thing. I don't really know. She didn't do that. Instead she stayed in our city and decided to do business instead. What am I doing, you ask? Also business. Now I know I can't claim a school, or a major or anything like that. But i can't lie, im a little annoyed that she decided to swtich her career path to the same as mine. Thankfully Ive only had one class with her and it was one of those big lecture halls so i didn't have to talk with her. Just seeing her tho reminds me of high school and i can feel my blood pressure rising and me sweating as all the nerves and stress come back.
Anyways Clara and Sabrina's birthdays are coming up. Their birthdays are within the same week so since high school, they've always just done one big combined party. The two of them are both really chill people, they are friends with everyone and anyone. So as their coming up with their birthday plans, they are thinking of their guest list and Emily is on it. Now, Clara and Sabrina did ask me beforehand if they could invite her. They do want to make sure I am comfortable. They both tell me that they don't really talk to her anymore, maybe once every 3 months or something. They also haven't hung out since high school. But for their 21st birthday they are thinking of inviting everyone from our high school friend group to have sort of a mini-reuinion. I am down for it, I do think i have moved on, in the sense that I know I do not want Emily in my life. I do tell them I will probably feel awkwad but I can manage for one night for their birthday.
As I'm telling my sister (F16) about Clara and Sabrina's party and who's coming, she asks me about Emily. She basically says if Clara and Sabrina are fine with inviting her, that means they have forgiven her for high school stuff, so am I not being a bit mean for holding on to my feelings? I am a person who believes there is no expirational date on any pain caused by a person. I should not have to "forgive and forget" a person, who has not asked for it and who caused me so much pain just because that is how the world has worked. But it go me thinking, am i being a bit rude?
So, two questions: AITA for what happened in high-school? (am i in the wrong for the friendship breakup) and AITA for not wanting to forgive her?
A FEW NOTES: (i'll add more when i think of it)
I have not spoken to Emily since grade 12. Not in person, not through people, not through text. We have had no contact with one another and i am fine with that. I do not want any relationship with her.
Clara and Sabrina are two of the sweetest people in my life. It does not hurt me at all they have the odd interaction with Emily at all. Afterall they do say its very minimal contact and the few times they have made plans with Emily included, they let me know well in advance, ask if its okay to invite her and all that. Each time I say its fine because I know Im in a good place to not feel bad.
I have never yelled at Emily. Nor have I ever spoken badly about her. With our mutual friends I might complain about the situation, but I never say anything bad about her. I should also say, Emily i don't think was well-liked. As I said the two of are good students, the smart kids, whatever else you want to say. However Emily is what would be described as a "teacher's pet" and does give off an arrogant vibe at times towards others. Some of my other friends/classmates would sometimes make comments about this to me, but i would always sort of downplay it. Like, oh that's not how she really is, she just cares a lot about school. A few times I would say the comments are harsh to some of the classmates. Her, on the other hand, has called me a controlling b*tch to several people. who have all told me about it. She did bad-mouth to quite a few people.
At some point in grade 11 (not really relevant to the main story, but might be part of the reason Emily's always made at me), but I was blamed for a rumour going around that Emily had a crush on this guy in our grade. Emily and I had to go to this one teacher's class for some notes or something. And in the class was this girl who I didn;t really like. So before we walk in I whisper to her, no one can hear, that "hey there's that girl i don't like". Emily then makes it so obvious that she is looking at this girl. And next to her is one of the popular boys in our class. Emily makes it so obvious that shes looking in his direction and does it a few times, that the rumour she likes this guy becomes a huge joke in our grade. She does not like this guy, never has liked this guy, but it is a joke that him and his friends carry on. This continues for the entire year, and Emily in our therapy session does mention this fact. She says its my fault that this joke has gone around. I don't see how.

I will refer to “friend group” as FG. Sorry for the long post, but I felt this info was necessary to the story. Also I’m reposting cause the other one got lost in the subreddit lol.
So, I have this friend, let’s call her A. We’ve known each other since middle school, but tbh we haven’t been the closest of friends until after graduation. I still think of her as a dear friend and don’t want to loose her, but to be clear, we aren’t as close as say me and my BF (best friend)
For context, we’ve been in the same friend group throughout all of middle and high school, which fizzled out after graduating. I’m not super heartbroken about the friend group falling apart because I’ve never really hung out with anyone outside of group meetups aside from my best friend (who was in the same group). None of them ever asked me to hang out, and me, being the person I am, assumed it was cause they didn’t want to, so I didn’t initiate to hang with them either.
After the FG graduated high school, we decided to go on a fun trip during spring break, where we’d stay 2 nights in an AirBnB. If I remember correctly, this was A’s idea, and the ppl that went decided on the location and activities. 6 ppl out of the FG decided to go. Me, my bff, A, two other friends, and a guy we’ll call B, who was the only male on the trip. I wasn’t really close with him but he was in the friend group and I thought he was okay, just not the type of guy I’d hang out with.
Anyway, in prep. for the trip, I decided to pay for the BnB and have everyone pay me pack on their own time (they all did). I also offered to drive since my dad allowed us to use his truck for the trip (it was big and we wanted to save on gas. I decided to pay for the gas since it was my families vehicle). Everyone contributed to the food and such (my bff bought a large dish that we would bring to avoid making dinner the 1st night), but the main person cooking meals was A (she made pork udon the first night with help, and French toast the last morning before we left. Everyone helped out with cleaning and such.) I thought the trip went really well, until I dropped everyone off when the trip was over.
Basically, A confided in me something that happened between her and B and we talked for a little while, with me trying my best to give advice or an opinion. (Keep in mind I’m not really qualified cause I’m basically celibate with how little experience I have, and don’t plan to have for a while). This was the first time in our years of friendship that she confided in me something super emotional for her. I felt that by trusting in me, I was shown that she actually cared about our friendship, and I was willing to put more effort into our communication. I wanted her to be okay, and naturally hung out with her whenever she wanted or when our schedules aligned.
Due to our increased time hanging out, I felt our friendship grew stronger, BUT not as strong on her part as mine. She was definitely a lot closer to the other ppl in the FG than me, and I learned later that she told everyone else about the situation within a few day-a week after we got back from the trip. Which made me feel like she only told me first cause I was the last one in the car. I don’t mind that per se but it still weighs me down I bit.
Onto the advice part.
After a few weeks (or perhaps closer to a month), A had a noticeable decline in her mental health, which I think I tried my best in helping with, meeting up and talking and such. But then she suddenly left the FG’s group chat, and then I sent her a text asking what was wrong, I got messages by another friend in the FG saying that A was leaving the friend group and that I was a main reason as to why. I can’t remember the exact circumstances as to her reasoning since it was a year ago, but I do remember that I didn’t respond to a text she sent earlier in the morning (I was going to class and forgot to respond, by the time I remembered it was deleted), and that was her “last straw.”
I was devastated by this. I thought “wtf did I do I’m an awful friend I have to try and make this right.” So I tried sending A a message in hopes she would grant me a response. I sent and unsent messages, trying to find the right message before just deciding to ask for a talk. I would’ve preferred face to face, but she called me, and I picked up. My emotions were high, and I was vulnerable, and scared, cause I was finally close to her as a friend and I was about to loose her over something as silly and forgetting to respond to a text. While on the call, she ranted that she was putting so much effort into all her friendships, only to not get anything in return. “I would give so much and for what? I’d ask you how you’re doing, every time there’s a thunderstorm, but when I need you you don’t respond.” (I’m pretty scared of thunder. Ik it’s irrational and some call it childish but i can’t really help it.) I tried to not cry while talking to her but I ending up breaking, telling her the truth that I’m scared of not being a good friend, that I don’t know shit about anyone and I feel they don’t care about me either. that “ill be better and I’m sorry.” Stuff like that. :/
A few days after, we met in person, she forgave me, and I swore I’d make sure to communicate with her more.
But that’s the thing. I tried, but I didn’t get much of a response back. I’d send memes, start convos, ask to hang out, and most of the time the texts would go unread. I knew she was busy with work and such, and then me living 30 minutes away (we live in a big ass city) makes it harder to hang out, but I couldn’t help but feel it might’ve been some sort of revenge? It just felt shitty, and I couldn’t help but think that she’s giving me a taste of my own medicine.
Then she responded and we hung out, and we didn’t really talk about anything emotional. Just basic stuff.
Then she started school again, and suddenly it was like she didn’t exist. I NEVER got a response to anything, even when her status said she was active on insta (main form of communication). She’s in a STEM major, which ik can be super demanding but, not even time to like a reel or send a quick message?? Our dm’s became a graveyard for unseen reels and lost messages from me about meaningless things. Eventually I stopped sending anything, thinking she just didn’t wanna hang out with me anymore.
Then I got a response saying she was on break, and because I’m me, I was happy and didn’t mention the months of ghosting.
Then she started school again, and it was the same process.
She finally ended her semester along with everyone else, and she’s finally connected to me again to hang out. (She texted everyone tho because my bff got the same message) I said yes because I wanna give her a chance, even though I’ve talked with my BFF and she told be things she found sketch about A. (Short of it is: A had a similar convo with BFF that she did with me about giving and not receiving (specifically during the trip A said she did most of the work), but BFF said she actually did contribute the the friendship and that the same stuff could be said for A, which I didn’t even think about till BFF and I talked about it, and now agree with. )
I really want to continue this friendship, but there are red flags that I’m seeing. How to I go about talking to her and mending the rocky relationship we have?
TLDR: I have an inkling my friend might be a little manipulative/toxic, but I don’t wanna loose the friendship. How do I fix this???
I try answering any questions on context to the best of my abilities. This is my first post on the subreddit.
Note cause I couldn’t find where to put it: we didn’t text virtually at all until after the trip and our talk about B. Even though I knew her since middle school our extent of convos were limited to the insta group chat.

When I graduated Temple University in 2021, I applied for nearly every English school in the Tokyo region and received a terrible amount of interviews / job offers. All the offers were of the lowest salary and benefits. (Something like only 170,000 yen / month for 36 hours a week located in Shibuya) I ended up going back to the US, but now I'm married with my long-term gf, I can go back on a spouse visa.
My native tongue is English and I basically sound like a Caucasian man if you couldn't see my appearance. I'm Taiwanese and almost always get mistaken as a Japanese person. I've heard that many other Asian applicants also experienced a harder time finding a teaching job in comparison to more foreigner looking individuals. Is this a common issue because English schools hire many teachers based on the typical "gaijin" appearances? (Maybe to engage the students more?)
I wanted to hear some opinions on whether this hiring preference/discrimination is real or not, because I don't want to prematurely assume it's about race/appearances. I genuinely want to try being an English teacher once I'm back in Japan job hunting.

Hello,
I've known my friend that i'll call C for almost 10 years now. One of her closest friend is also my best friend that i'll call L (we've both known him for almost 6 years now). C and L are both psychology students .
Barely more than a month ago, C met a guy i'll call K. He's also a psychology student in the same class as C and L. It was an instant crush. They were head over heels for each other.
The first few times I and/or L met K, everything was fine. However, the more time passed, the more K showed sign of bad jealousy. Now keep in mind L is a 100% gay dude with a boyfriend.
One of the first signs of jealousy was when K and L were over at C's appartment. C's appartment is quite big and she has a guest room were L often crashed during exam seasons to study with C. That time, K put some if his stuff in the guest room and L very obviously jokingly said "You're stealing my room😩?". K didn't show it immediately but threw a temper tantrum at C after because of that.
On another occasion, L talked with K about various things but some were about his friendship with C and things that happened in the past. They ended the conversation on a positive note saying they could maybe do some activities together without C as friends. K then went on and said to C that L confided to him that he was jealous of their relationship and basically nothing else during that conversation (???).
The worst happened during a night out between K, C and L and a random ass friend of K that i'll call R. They were out in the pub and everyone was a bit drunk except C that was apparently a bit more drunk than the others. At some point the discussion turned to the subject of L's current boyfriend. He is a recovering addict and is currently totally clean as of 6 months. He has some flaws but the fact he is an ex addict isn't one of them. Well for some fucking reason, C, K and R started absolutely trashing L's bf for the fact he is an ex addict (no other reasons). Psychology students btw.
Then at some point they were talking about studying for exams and L mentionned how smart C was because she always payed attention in each and every class and help him. For some reason C took it as something you shouldn't say out loud and asked L to not say it again (as if it was some kind of insult?). L thought she was weirdly joking and repeated just for C to act suddenly ultra sad, K to act like a white knight and berate him and R to borderline cry about how it was oh so terrible to grow up with everybody around you saying how smart you are(?????????????).
Near the end of the night out, C started having an "anxiety attack" and claiming that hers and L's relationship was toxic and that L was "emotionally dependent" on her. That she ALWAYS helped L and was always stressing about him. And while she helped him during the past years, it was things good friends do such as being emotionally there when a friend goes throu gh a bad breakup or help for studying (nothing hardcore like paying for things or sheltering for long periods of time for example). When L said he'll just go if he was her anxiety attacks trigger she said that if he left she'll "just feel remorseful about him once again". So he had to spend one more hour with C and K with K berating him for stressing her out and at one point had to wait 30 minutes in the cold while K and C were in K's apartment.
L was obviously in shock at how this night went and had a falling out with C the days right after. At the end they made up but C still didn't recognize a lot of things and defended a lot her bf (of barely one month btw).
During that small "peace period" L went over to C's apartment for studying and K had an anxiety meltdown because L was over and would be spending the night with her.
Some days after, right after exams they hung out and talked about how to apply their classes to their real life problems and people they knew. Mind you, K (and sometimes C) told L a good dozen of different ways that he was an emotional manipulator and psycho analyzed him during C's "anxiety attack" during their night out without really any substance behind all that. C said that K was probably the best person to apply their classes IRL. L just replied that he didn't share the sentiment. C and K didn't say anything right after but this made K have a meltdown off screen.
Then C spammed L the day right after accusing him of doing this out of spite and being immature for not accepting K's apologies (K apologies = C apologizing on his behalf for some things he said). It happened to also be on L's birthday... L refused to deal with any of this anymore especially on his birthday and just said it was better for him and C to stop talking and that he'll give her back some stuff he had at his apartment. This somehow escalated and K's sent vaguely threatening voice texts to L.
I skipped over a few things but this behavior is kinda unusual for C, especially claiming wild ass things out of nowhere about someone who's very close to her like that and also she uses some expressions we never heard her use before during those arguments. And while I don't really appear in this story 1. I'll probably have to act as a mediator in the very near future

1. I don't want to possibly lose a friend I've known since middle school because of some jealous dude that she has known for 1 month at best

Also K said himself once that he was "such a good manipulator" unironically in front of everyone. He's also the kind of dude to call himself a feminist but said "she's a woman, I could easily overpower her" about a girl he mildly disliked.
And after hearing the blatant L abuse and seeing how easily he gets frustrated and jealous and throws tantrums i'm also concerned for C's mental safety in the future.
How can I make her open her eyes when she herself kinda recognized he lied and at least said some hurtful things?
TLDR: C (a friend) and her bf K were weirdly mean to L (another friend). K is very jealous and was found lying about what L told him. He also often throws jealousy tantrums and tantrums in general. Pretty unusual for C to be mean like that to someone she's close with, especially saying out of nowhere their relationship is toxic. Pretty sure K is manipulating C to an extent and seeing how fast it's going I'm scared of losing her as a friend next but I really don't know how to get her to take a step back.

This is a vent.
Ignore this if you’re going through a hard time yourself.
I am in pain. I want it to go away, and I don’t know how.
In the span of 3 months, I have lost my great grandmother, I have broken my collarbone, I have injured my eye, I have taken finals for pre nursing, and now I am going to lose my dog tomorrow.
I am going to try and start therapy. I need it, I am incapable of coping with anything that has happened. I feel like I haven’t been able to properly mourn my Gram. I’ve been put under pressure with my job to pick up more hours. I am about to lose a dog that I’ve had since I was 7 years old.
I am in so much pain. I am a very emotional person, I have a hard time regulating my feelings and I tend to lash out in anger because I don’t have control of anything.
I’m not asking for an answer. I know what the answer is. I need to get professional help, probably medicated, and I need to just get over what’s happening. I just wish it was easier. I’ll probably delete this post in a couple hours because of my anxiety.
Losing a dog is like losing a family member. I haven’t had the time, due to stress from work, school, and friends/family to properly mourn the death of my Gram. She is the first person in my life who has passed away, and I’m having a hard time coping with it. Now I am going to lose my dog.
I’m tired, I’m angry, and I’m depressed. There is so much more I could put into this, like how I’ve been dealing with severe anxiety/depression for years and my drs can never seem to find an answer besides “here’s some medication that’s seriously going to fuck you up”. I had to take a break from the meds for a while, and felt like I wasn’t even existing. Just on auto pilot.
I’ll probably delete this soon. I just need a place to vent.

It’s a nice school, nice family. I have some family members doing another graduation and they’re wearing dresses, there aren’t any males going to that one.
I’m getting pressured to dress up to the same level by someone, but the person doing the pressuring is usually a few shades off of reality.
I don’t want to look like a bum, but I also don’t want to be the tone deaf idiot in a tux.
Nice black dress pants, black dress shoes and a nice polo? Button up dress shirt? My styles more casual, maybe dress shirt with rolled sleeves or something?
This is kind of important to me if you haven’t noticed, lol. And I’m asking the teacher sub because I figure you all have the best perspective with your experience.

Has anyone ever petitioned for academic forgiveness years later?
I finished nursing school with a 3.0 in May of 2014 at the ripe old age of 20. That Fall I enrolled in an RN- BSN program, my long term relationship turned abusive and I ended up fleeing to a different state with my son. I updated my professors about this the best I could I and I tried to finish the semester because I was beyond the drop date. Ultimately, I finished 3 of my 4 classes with a D and failed the 4th. The semester GPA was a 0.77
Fast forward, I finished my Bachelor’s degree in 2019 with flying colors and I’d really like to apply for graduate studies. The weight of this one semester is really impacting my overall GPA and the prospects of getting into a the graduate program I’d like.
So my question is, has anyone successfully been able to say “this is clearly not who I am or was a student, can we pretend like it doesn’t exist?” Is there a way to ask a school for forgiveness or to have the weight of this semester removed from my transcript?

Hello everyone, this would be my first official post on this subreddit, and I want to use it to explain how Natsuki Subaru changed me for the better. When I was in middle school things have change so much to me that I couldn't catch up with everyone around me whether grades, friends, or family I felt as I was stuck in a dark loop where I didn't know if I could move on with my life. Things went harder for me when I was in High School when covid had started appearing all over the news and had everything shutdown and we were forced to stay at home and hope this will go over soon. But soon turn to weeks and months and even a year that it made me feel a deeper hole than I could ever be. I didn't know if I even have hope left in me. But that is where he comes into place when I saw trailers for S2 of Re:zero. At first, I wasn't interested with it since I saw Subaru as a good-looking character that is just there to garners some clicks until I saw Mothers Basement Review of Re:zero. And it made me interested in watching it. When I first saw Subaru in action, he was weird, funny, and a bit embarrassing with his character but I know that he means well whenever he wants to save someone. Subaru made me realize more about myself especially when his character was talking to me, whenever he struggles and wants to do with every being of his power to save the people around them because he loves them which not many main characters are transparent with their emotions and wants. I understand with his love, his failure, and his dream where he just wants to be loved with the people he cares about. But above else what truly made me feel as I was a part of him is the dreaded episode where he was begging for Rem to take his hand and take the slothful way out and run from his problems, when she refused claiming that this is not what Subaru would do his mask shattered and we get to witness the ugly truth that has been hidden for so long. His self-hatred had poured liked molten lava as he swore up and down how despicable person he is, how he always makes excuses so that he doesn't have to do his best, and how disgusted that nothing about his existence has changed. When I saw that scene, it made me reflect on my self-hatred and how it feels to be in Subaru position, for a moment I truly felt how hopeless I was, but Natsuki Subaru realized that he cannot stop, he realizes he put too much effort with what he did, and he cannot abandon the people he cares about. But what truly hammers Natsuki Subaru as the greatest character in my eyes is during S2 when he was fighting Garfiel and quote "Whenever you think I want do it! I want to change! Thats where your starting line is". That quote had lit a desire in me that I didn't have in a very long time, fast forward to a couple of years and I am in a much better position than I ever been I graduate high school and doing well in college, granted not every day are great but whenever I feel cornered, I always think what Natsuki Subaru would do, and the answer is always clear, to win for another day. I hope you were all able to finish it to the end and see the gratitude for Subaru and the inspiration he gave me and how I will cheer for him to win his happy ending.

I’m namely thinking of close friends but feel free to add on to that if you want.
I’m in my late 20s and while I knew it’d be harder to keep in touch with people after college (especially since I moved out of state), I’m surprised by how little others seem to communicate compared to me. Part of it definitely could be that I’m just a chattier person. But I joke that if I send my friends a text, (for some of them) it’ll take 3-5 business days to get a response - regardless of whether it’s something serious, a funny TikTok, whatever. Personally, unless I have a really extenuating circumstance, I make sure I respond to everybody the same day they reach out to me, even if it’s to say “hey, I’m busy right now, I’ll get back to you!“
Or when I had COVID, for example. I like to be out and about so I was super bummed to be stuck in isolation. Reached out to my friends. One offered to play video games together but never followed through. Got a sentiment along the lines of “that sucks” from another two friends. But whenever my friends are going through something, I try to figure out what’s helpful to them and do it - whether it’s an Instacart gift card, a phone call (which is free), whatever.
And before anybody says “they’re busy“ – I have kept that rule throughout times that I have had a full-time job, side gigs, and grad school all at the same time. Out of my friends, I’ve got some who work a full-time job (no side gigs), a full-time student, and a SAHM. Yet they are all pretty similar in terms of communication.
And it’s not that these friends don’t care about me – I know they do because they show it when we do actually interact. Which makes this weirder in a way. Am I expecting too much? Is this what it’s like for everybody, or did I just happen to make friends with a slew of people who have completely different communication preferences to me?

I know, pretty fucking obvious. But knowing how bad it is and experiencing how bad it is are two completely separate things. I live in Texas, one of the shittier parts, and I personally am fortunate I’ve never been a victim of it. But seeing it happen to other people fucks me up. Some high school kids I used to work with all had the same adopted dad and he just got shot and killed last night. Around Easter a guy I graduated with went missing, his body turned up 2 weeks later. My senior year of high school someone got murdered in the bathroom. My grandma has been robbed. The list goes on and it is fucking terrible.
Leaving my hometown for college brought me out of that environment and I had a hard time adjusting. It seemed like everyone there was as happy as can be and I was in still in constant defense mode all the time. I hated everyone, I hated myself, had horrible grades, was self harming with suicidal ideation. Sorry for the rant but shit it’s a cruel fucking world. Crazy to think it used to be even worse.

Hi, I’m going to try to keep this short/not too specific but I’ve been in a relationship for a few years now with someone who’s a bit older than me (at this point in my life at least). We’re in a long distance relationship and we met during the lockdown. I was in my last year of high school when we started dating and he was in his mid twenties. At the time I didn’t think this was weird or anything and I also made a lot of promises to him back then and I thought I would like him forever. Now I’m in my early twenties and we’re still together but I’ve pretty much mentally checked out of the relationship. I don’t like having sex with him and I can’t picture us getting married or anything. Last year I tried to bring up how I was feeling, and I told him that I don’t think I’m going to be ready to move to another continent to be with him after I graduate college (these were our original plans). He got really upset and said that I had told him that’s what I wanted when I was 18. I just complied so he wouldn’t be upset anymore. I know I need to end things because it’s not fair on either of us but the thought makes me so sad because I do like him as a person and I like spending time with him and I’m also the only person he has, I worry it would be incredibly hard for him if I left. The part that makes this story worse is that I met a guy around my age and I think I’ve fallen in love with him, and I haven’t told him I technically have a boyfriend. I feel ashamed and worried.

This whole story may sound a little childish, but I still think about it all the time.
Back in middle school, I had this guy best friend, and we would always hang out. Everyone joked that we would date, but I knew he liked another girl, and I wasn’t really interested in him like that. But after a long bus ride home during a school trip, I fell asleep on his shoulder, and he fell asleep on me. We ended up dating for a bit and it was great, even as kids. But, he then started saying how he would be sure to change himself for me, that he wasn’t his best physical self for me. It made me nervous, and along with us spending less time together over the summer, and me knowing the fact he liked another girl just days before me, I “broke things off”.
If anything it wasn’t really a relationship lol, but at the time it was the only experience we both had. It was never spoken about in between us.
Fast forward to Highschool, we don’t really talk much. The “dating” most likely drifted us apart, alongside other typical highschool stuff. We almost dated again junior year, but thing’s didnt work. Senior year hits, and he’s been with a girl for almost a year by the end of the school year. As seniors do, we had a senior skip day and all got drunk at a lake. We are drunkenly throwing jokes at eachother, when I joke about me being an asshole towards him throughout highschool, and how I deserved some karma. He didn’t know what I was talking about and asked for an example of when I was mean to him, I couldn’t think of one on the spot. So he says: “how about the time you broke up with me without explaining why?”
I stopped dead in my tracks there. He had not once mentioned it, EVER. We ended up sitting down and I gave him a thorough explanation why I dumped him. We spoke against a rock for 2 hours. It was such a great reconciliation. Throughout highschool I was always bitter towards him for all sorts of reasons regarding our relationship. He gave me such a tight hug. In the car ride home, he gave me a look, and put his arm around me. I went woah, and put his arm back. I whispered in his ear, “I don’t mess with guys that have girlfriends.” He didn’t respond.
That night at home was hell for me. It was such a horrible time to finally patch things up. It was too late. He was with another girl, we were graduating, and heading our separate ways to live different lives. If only he was even a year earlier, things could have been so different for both of us.
Currently, I have a boyfriend of 11 months and he is still with the same girl. I love my boyfriend very much and I’m sure they’re very happy together as well. As stated when he put his arm around me, I would never come in the way of anyones relationship. I also thought it was tasteless he did that when he was taken. I don’t plan on changing anything with my current boyfriend. But I still think about how awful timing that was for us. All it took was a few drinks and knowing things would be ending soon for us to realize? Damn.

The latest example of a selfish objection to a much needed housing development (a 10-story development for students) includes members of a south Dublin tennis club claiming that pervs will be able to see their kids play tennis from above.
This may sound familiar because a nearby school board used the same excuse when objecting to the development of an old person's home.
Going by such a dumb standard, these people must think that no building taller than a couple stories should be built anywhere near a school, sports club or playground or anywhere were there may be kids about.
https://www.irishtimes.com/business/2024/05/16/south-dublin-tennis-club-slams-student-accommodation-plan/
'The submission stated that the club has a very significant junior membership ranging from five to 16 years of age. As in all sports clubs, it explained, Donnybrook has a strict protocol in relation to child protection and “the excessive overlooking that would be caused by this scheme may compromise our ability to ensure that these strict controls are maintained"..'
https://www.breakingnews.ie/ireland/dublin-city-council-refuses-planning-permission-for-ringsend-senior-living-scheme-1367269.html
' ...two-page objection lodged with Dublin City Council on behalf of the school's Board of Management, Ms Smith stated if planning permission is granted “residents and workmen will be able to look into our school-yard as well as into our school building - possibly taking photos and videos of our school children and staff”.

Hello! Asking on behalf of my sister, as some brief context, she is a J2 taking BCME, H3 Bio in JC. The UCAS has just opened and I’m helping her with some research but I am not sure about the whole process as I did not apply to the UK.
I have some questions, hope they don’t come off stupid, I would like to ask yall 🥹🥹

1. How does she submit her predicted grades (since she has not done her prelims yet) or does she submit them only in around late september? And does that mean she can only submit the whole application around that period? Do the JC1 grades matter (do they have to be input anywhere or do they only affect the predicted grades she will have to put?)
   
2. For the personal statement (i know of the one PS for all courses - she’s applying for Med for all), what are some ways she can stand out for her PS considering so many exceptional candidates? She has done her fair share of volunteering and work experiences + I think she had a stint with ASTAR for research. Does she require strong leadership skills/talents etc. that schools like NUS now consider (under ABAs) also?
   
3. (just to double confirm 😅) I checked the websites for most schools and interviews will mostly be held from December to Mar? Just to confirm, is this true?
   

Understand the deadlines are still some time away but if there’s anything for me to note, do comment/PM me! Am hoping my sister gets into her dream school and would like to support her in this application process 🥹🥹
Thank you everyone!

My mother called me abusive.
I recently finished school and moved back in with my family. My mother and I have always been very close, but returning home for holidays in the past few years made me realize I might need some distance from her. Despite these realizations, I often dismissed them as me being dramatic until I was back home again.
Our relationship has its complexities. For example, we repeatedly have discussions where I ask her not to share certain personal information with others, yet she acts like those conversations never happened. She also convinces me to share my emotions, promising to keep them private, only to later deny I ever told her anything when she breaks that trust. Despite knowing I shouldn't trust her, the periods of calm between these incidents always make me believe she's learned, though she never does. But we are also known as a duo and go everywhere together when times are good - or that we get it out. It feels like a cycle of fight, I tell her why I'm upset, she says okay (sometimes she will say ok I'll try harder) and we both move on. Until the next time it's ignored....
I realized I need to do something or I never will. Last week, after being called abusive has been my breaking point. I genuinely asked multiple people after this situation if I am inadvertently abusive and never realized it- it made me question myself.
Anyways, I was driving my mother to a Mother's Day celebration on Saturday (one day before Mother's Day) when I politely told her I didn't appreciate the timing of a comment she made earlier in the living room. For context, my mother has a rocky relationship with her parents. My grandfather, a car salesman, promised me a vehicle for my graduation, which I saw as a peace offering for him taking money out of my education fund his past wife set up for me (she passed almost a decade before I went to use the education fund and put it in my and his name, I guess so he could invest that money). My father does not like my grandfather and did not know about the car, he thought my grandfather was bluffing. My father upon first hearing this was concerned about the logistics and the implications of me accepting this car, so I had a private conversation with my mother regarding the car on Friday night when I found out it was happening.
Saturday, my mother brought up the car in front of my dad despite my request for discretion (my grandfather is not known for being 100% honest so I thought I was calling his bluff and if he was being genuine maybe he had changed and we could have a relationship). This led to a familiar argument about her not listening to me. As we continued to argue, she started screaming at me for being 'difficult.' I pulled over, refusing to drive while crying, and she accused me of being unappreciative of her parenthood sacrifices. In the heat of the argument, I echoed her past sayings back to her, pointing out her hypocrisy. Her response was then to accuse me of being abusive and manipulating her by me not being a 'happy person despite [her] parental sacrifices'. She referenced someone coming up to her asking her if she was okay after a public argument we had last summer, as evidence of my alleged abuse.
I was stunned. I asked for more examples, but she kept repeating that one incident and how a stranger had asked if she was okay. The stranger had also asked me if I was okay, but I had started walking out of that situation because I was heated and did not want to take it out on any passersby. She continued to scream at me, and I could do nothing but sob.
When we got home, I retreated to my room and cried for hours. My mother, on the other hand, took a nap and went to a comedy show for the rest of the night. The next day, she ignored me completely, even at breakfast on Mother's Day. I felt stuck, and was unable to visit my friends (who live 4 hours away in my university town) or my partner, who only lives an hour away from me but needed to be elsewhere to support a family related tragedy.
That night my dad who had only heard that I had insulted her after being screamed at for 30 minutes suggested I apologize, but when I explained she feels I am abusive, he seemed to understand - and went out to get takeout, which we enjoyed just the two of us that night. For context, him and my mother are still married and probably always will be. They may still love each other, but they haven't liked each other in over a decade.
My mother has since tried to make peace by cooking me food, and what feels like interrogating me about my life (i.e my dad told her I had a job interview yesterday so when she saw me this morning before I went to go help out an elderly neighbour with with their house chores, my mother grilled me about the interview and anything else she could think of that is new with me in the past week. I responded with as few words as possible to be polite instead of completely ignoring her but then she blew up and said she deserves to know more about my life because she is my mother. I just told her I was in a rush, did not have time for that BS, and left.) but obviously that will not mend our relationship. Despite everything, she is still planning our usual summer vacation, that just her, myself and my brother goes on. This vacation is also always 15-18 hour drive away so it's only me and her that take turns driving as my brother is younger and only has a learning permit.
On top of this, my grandfather is indeed giving me the car, but my dad is worried it's a way for my grandfather to try to stay connected to me and possibly manipulate me over. He is putting the car in my name and I think I can change the license plates out of his name so I think it's an easy fix to not be directly financially manipulated by him. My dad just knows him better than I do over the years, and I'm worried it will become a 'well do x for me because I bought you a car' but I think I could just say no in that situation. I'm torn between using the car to gain independence while I'm still here or if just moving out would be more economical and better for my mental health. The trouble is being a new grad, I am religiously applying to jobs but all the terms are 4-month contracts which makes it really hard to move to different cities with (upon the entry level job pay being terrible - I would really have to calculate on a per job pay, per location basis if I could afford rent + groceries + car).
I feel trapped and just don't know the best course of action. Seeking advice on how to navigate this situation. Happy to hear other's related experiences too and what they did.
*Please do not comment about how this generation doesn't work hard or respect their parents or such. This is the first time since I started working in childcare at 13 that I have not had a job. And honestly I don't even find those sorts of comments relevant to what I'm asking; I am just wondering other's experiences in the same boat and wondering if it's worth it to fix it with my mom and really just what people with similar experiences have decided to do for themselves in these situations.

I really need advice about my job. School, work and socializing have always been hard for me as I’ve had undiagnosed ADHD up until about a year or so ago plus home schooling/private schools up until sophomore year of high school. So sheltered + very closed minded religious upbringing + undiagnosed ADHD. It’s been a little bit over a year since I’ve graduated college and started my first professional job. I’ll have worked at this job for almost 8 months now. I’m very reserved and typically don’t speak very much but once a conversation begins I can be very talkative. I was especially reserved going into this job as I didn’t want to step on any toes or cause any issues. Initially, I really enjoyed my job as my first impressions were everyone was really nice and the environment wasn’t super competitive. They were very laid back during the training process. However as time has gone on I’ve noticed very “clique” like behavior from all the employees. I’ve been ostracized from the group as I haven’t spoken to them much at all and just mind my business/do my job. I notice frequently that most of the team speak negatively about others while they’re not around and I’m assuming that this has happened with me as well. My reason for this is I’m very frequently spoken to aggressively and disrespectfully. The one that really stood out was someone I had never worked with before raised their voice at me, in front of everyone, after I asked them a question. The question being, what level of priority was the task she was wanting me to do for her. Additionally, I have had this similar issues with my direct supervisomy trainer. I’ve frequently requested feedback about my performance from the head of my department and my trainer. The negative feedback I’ve received has generally been very minor things such as making sure to update my trainer on which tasks I’m doing/when I’m doing them but it’s generally very positive, like I’m doing great and that my quality of work is great as well. However, the past couple of weeks my trainer has become increasingly agitated when communicating with me which has happened several times since I’ve been here. Typically, this is because of something I’m doing wrong. Such as, asking too many questions or forgetting something. Usually I handle this by scheduling performance reviews with her and telling her where I think I’m going wrong and providing a solution and asking her for her opinion on it. I do this because she does not handle conflict well/being told that something she is doing is wrong and the only way I’ve found to reduce her agitation is to figure it out myself. The problem I’m having is that I can’t figure out what the issue is this time. The three things that happened during this time that she’s been agitated with me is: 1.) her workload increased 2.) my work load increased 3.) I was working from home due to sickness for a while. My biggest hunch is that she had an issue with the fact I was working from home. I have an autoimmune disease which causes a lot of unexplained symptoms/illnesses to pop up every now and then so it’s relatively frequent that I’m not in office. Maybe once a month? This was the longest I had ever been out though. She was constantly asking me questions about what was going on with me added with some snide comments. She is not who people report to about call outs, etc. so the questions and comments didn’t sit with me well. I answered them anyways to be polite. Eventually, someone who I had not told started asking me questions as well and ended up making jokes about my situation which I was very unhappy about. I’ve heard my trainer complain when people don’t come in office and often throw out comments about how they’re probably faking it or they’re being dramatic by not coming in. So I’m wondering if that could be it? I really don’t know what I’ve actually done to these people for them to act this way. I’ve not shared much information about myself if any at all really and haven’t been hateful. I don’t expect everyone to like me as a person but I do expect for them to be cordial and respectful. At least in a professional type of job. Please help me figure out how I should handle all of this. I don’t want to quit until I stay long enough to have enough experience on my resume. I want to also be clear, this is my point of view so it sounds like I’m not at fault but I’m not a perfect worker or person, I mess up in my job, I am very forgetful and take a bit longer than most to master things. Things I can say for certain is that I try very hard to be good at this job, I have been kind to these people, and I own up to my mistakes when I make them and apologize. Also none of my mistakes have costed the company money so I’m not messing up that bad. Yet lol. I don’t know anyone who works in “corporate” type of jobs so I don’t know who to ask for advice on how to handle this. The people I do know are at work and due to the clique situation I’m scared to talk to anyone about it as I’m worried it might backfire. Any advice is helpful, I’m very lost here and just want to fix the situation.

My sister will be finishing her degree in Midwifery this year (in her school Midwifery was now separated in BS Nursing and it takes 4 years to finish), now she wants to take Nursing after she graduates, is there any school here in the Philippines preferably in Luzon that has a lesser years to finish like 2 years at most? She will also try to work while studying as she will fund her studies. Please leave comments if you have a knowledge on this. Thank you so much.