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I'm a beginner and very frustrated. Kindly help me out. I'm trying to replicate my Thesis in LaTeX which was originally written in Microsoft Word. My university does not provide a LaTeX Thesis Template. Forgive any mistakes. This my first post here.
I want to replicate the format as shown in the images below in latex:
For the abstract (frontmatter elements) I wish to have a chapter heading that looks like this (font size 14):
Fig1
For the rest of the chapters i.e., chapter 1, chapter 2 etc. I wish to have the formatting as shown below: Fig2
Finally, I wish to have my table of contents look similar to this (no problem with slight variations). The TOC must not create a blank page above it and continue with the roman numbering: Fig3 Desired list of tables format:
Fig4
Note: I have kept the frontmatter in a separate folder and used the \include command to load in in the main.tex file. My codes are given below:
This is the preamble segment
%-----------------------------------------------------------
%Page and font setup

\documentclass[12pt]{extreport}
\linespread{1.5} %Line spacing 1.5
\usepackage[a4paper, margin=1in]{geometry} %Applied to whole document
\usepackage{times} %Sets main font Times New Roman
\usepackage{anyfontsize} %Use anyfont size in latex
\def\blankpage
{
%\clearpage%
\thispagestyle{empty}%
\addtocounter{page}{-1}%
\null%
\clearpage
} %macro definition used to insert a blank page without affecting the page numbering. (/blankspace)

%-----------------------------------------------------------
%Page orientation, columns and paragraphs

\usepackage{lscape} %Used to make specific pages vertical.
\usepackage{pdflscape} %Used to make specific pages landscape.
\usepackage{multicol} %Enables multiple columns
\usepackage{parskip} %Adds vertical space after paragraph and removes the indentation of the paragraph

%-----------------------------------------------------------
%Graphics

\usepackage{svg} %Can take svg files
\usepackage{graphicx} %Adds figures/graphs
\graphicspath{
{E:/Programming/LaTeX/Thesisproject/Figures/Title_page}
} %Can add multiple paths

%-----------------------------------------------------------
%Tables in document

\usepackage{tabularx} %Used to make column space = line width

%-----------------------------------------------------------
%Tables of contents formatting

\usepackage{titlesec} %Format chapter headings
\usepackage{titletoc} %Alternate headings for TOC

\newcommand{\setupname}[1][\chaptername]
{
\titlecontents{chapter}[0pt]{\vspace{0ex}}
{\bfseries#1~\thecontentslabel:\quad}{\bfseries}
{\bfseries\hfill\contentspage}[]
} %This line of newcommand creates a new style of TOC similar to that of Microsoft Word

\renewcommand{\contentsname}{Table of Contents} %Changes the default Contents style to 'Table of Contents'

\setcounter{tocdepth}{2} %increases TOC number in Contents
\setcounter{secnumdepth}{4} %Enables sub-sub-sub sections i.e., (1.1.1.1.1)
%This is the main body
%-----------------------------------------------------------
\begin{document}
\include{FrontmatteTitlepage1}
\include{FrontmatteTitlepage2}
\include{FrontmatteTitlepage3}
\include{FrontmatteTitlepage4}
\include{FrontmatteCertification}
\pagenumbering{roman} %begins roman page numbering from here
\include{FrontmatteAcknowledgement}
\include{FrontmatteAbstract}
\tableofcontents
%List of tables will go here
%List of figures will go here
% include list of abbreviation segment
\setupname
\chapter{This is the first chapter}
\pagenumbering{arabic}
\setcounter{page}{1}
\section{title}
\subsection{sub-secion-title}
\subsubsection{sub-sub-section}
\setupname
\chapter{Annexure}
\pagenumbering{Alph}
\setcounter{page}{1}
\end{document}

Would it be possible to add functionality to send text *straight into a new clipping via the Share > Nihongo button?
Currently I’m reading web novels, manga, and blogs (like pixiv fanboy). I’m running into the “wall of text” problem where I want to isolate and study paragraphed content, so I want to send some lines of text from the following sources:

• 1-2 paragraphs of text from a web page > share > bang right into clippings without multiple steps
  
• from a manga I can use “Live Text” in Panels Comic Reader, and select multiple speech balloons and get 3-4 lines of text in context and share as above. It’s the same workflow as in Photos but you’re reading in-book and can switch back and forth between Nihongo.
  

Live text has gotten really good with distorted and vertical text like in manga recently, so 80% of the timeI want to send this text to clippings and glean some vocabulary to study decks.

• The above works really well with “slide over” where Nihongo would be hidden and then “come out” when text is shared. (Aside that this works REALLY WELL with shared images from Panels, and yes for kanji compounds like ご褒美 Nihongo OCR beats Apple live text)

I can do this via copy and paste but it’s too many steps. Also there’s another app that has a workflow like this, and it’s kinda nice. BUT I want to see this in Nihongo clippings and build vocabulary from there.
Please upvote / consider this if you think this is a good idea. I’d really like it for web novels and manga….

Hi everybody, i’m not really a car person so apologies in advance for anything stupid i might say and for the super long backstory!
My situation: - I’m looking to get a car mainly for regular commutes (I anticipate a commute of probably 25-40 miles a day) and don’t need or want anything fancy. - I mostly care about fuel efficiency and not having to worry about a car payment, but I want a car reliable enough for the foreseeable future and that will last me at least 5-10 years. - I will probably start working later this year in the Fall, but don’t expect to have much disposable income for the next few years because I have a lot of student loans to pay back first.
My friend is selling their car (2018 Nissan Versa SV) and asking for $5000. - 81k miles - my friend bought it used from a dealership in 2020 at 45k miles - transmission was replaced in 2021 (at 53k miles) under warranty - 2 large, cookie-sized areas of paint peeling on front bumper - my friend has all the maintenance records since 2020 and took REALLY good care of it
After bringing this up to my parents, they felt fine purchasing the car and paying the $5,000 for me but wanted to make sure it was a good idea, considering Nissan’s reputation.
I understand that Nissan cars are known for having unreliable transmissions, however after researching, I was under the impression that as long as you take really good care of it and replace the transmission fluid every 30k miles, it should last. Is this true, or is it too much to hope for?
Because my parents are hesitant, they are now suggesting that I wait until I start working to purchase a new car, and that they’ll contribute $5,000 in the form of a down payment on the new car instead. Either way, they’ll help me with $5,000, so it’s up to me which way I want to go. If I were to go ahead with this option, I’d probably end up getting the 2025 Toyota Camry Hybrid.
At the end of the day, I want to pick the more financially responsible option for my specific situation and be able to pay off my hefty student loan as quickly as I can while also being able to LIVE. My partner and I seem to be in agreement that just buying my friend’s used car is the better long-term investment at this stage in my life. But what would you do?

hey all!! i'm currently a rising junior in ecology, thinking about going for a MS in ecology or a similar field after i graduate (maybe not directly after). i have some idea of what i should do to make myself more competitive for grad school applications, but i wanted to get some second opinions. i'm first gen, so no one else in my family has even thought about grad school. here's some info about me already, if that helps:
academics: - 3.4 gpa (did well freshman year, had a rough year this one though), lowest grade in a major-specific class is a B (i did retake it tho, and got an F the first time) - Honors program - psych minor, possibly going to minor in a creative field as well
extracurriculars: - e-board member of a creative club at my school - TA for a freshman class - RA - research shadowing program / preparation for McNair scholar, with plans to get more into research/develop a project in the fall - marine bio classes/program this summer
should i take the gre?? should i be getting more into volunteering with organizations in my field, or something? thanks in advance!

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I am using rest_framework_simple_api_key in my production application on python version 3.9 .
On running command

python manage.py generate_fernet_key 

as given in doc(djangorestframework-simple-apikey) i am getting File "C:\Users\DELL\anaconda3\lib\site-packages\rest_framework_simple_api_key\models.py", line 15, in class AbstractAPIKeyManager(models.Manager): File "C:\Users\DELL\anaconda3\lib\site-packages\rest_framework_simple_api_key\models.py", line 16, in AbstractAPIKeyManager def get_api_key(self, pk: int str): TypeError: unsupported operand type(s) for : 'type' and 'type'
On Searching I got reason is i am getting error is The error TypeError: unsupported operand type(s) for : 'type' and 'type' is caused by the use of the int str syntax for type hinting, which is only supported in Python 3.10 and later versions.
I can't change my python version as it is in production so I came across solution monkey patching then i got this article https://medium.com/lemon-code/monkey-patch-f1de778d61d3
my monkey_patch.py file:

def patch_get_api_key(): print("*********************************EXE****************************************") """ Monkey patch for AbstractAPIKeyManager.get_api_key method to replace the type hint. """ from typing import Union def patched_get_api_key(self, pk: Union[int, str]): try: print("Patched get_api_key method") return self.get(pk=pk) except self.model.DoesNotExist: return None print("Before import") import rest_framework_simple_api_key.models as models print("After import") models.AbstractAPIKeyManager.get_api_key = patched_get_api_key 

I added code in my apps.py file:

# myapp/apps.py from django.apps import AppConfig class MyCustomAppConfig(AppConfig): default_auto_field = 'django.db.models.BigAutoField' name = 'roomroot' def ready(self): """ Load monkey patching. """ try: from .monkey_patch import patch_get_api_key patch_get_api_key() except ImportError: pass 

and called it in manage.py file:

def main(): """Run administrative tasks.""" settings_module = "roomroot.deployment" if "WEBSITEHOSTNAME" in os.environ else "roomroot.settings" os.environ.setdefault("DJANGO_SETTINGS_MODULE", settings_module) from roomroot.monkey_patch import patch_get_api_key patch_get_api_key() 

by running command for generating generate_fernet_key i am getting error:
python manage.py generate_fernet_key *********************************EXE**************************************** Before import Traceback (most recent call last): File "F:\Abha\Room_Reveal\Backend\roomroot\manage.py", line 27, in main() File "F:\Abha\Room_Reveal\Backend\roomroot\manage.py", line 14, in main patch_get_api_key() File "F:\Abha\Room_Reveal\Backend\roomroot\roomroot\monkey_patch.py", line 18, in patch_get_api_key from rest_framework_simple_api_key.models import AbstractAPIKeyManager File "C:\Users\DELL\anaconda3\lib\site-packages\rest_framework_simple_api_key\models.py", line 15, in class AbstractAPIKeyManager(models.Manager): File "C:\Users\DELL\anaconda3\lib\site-packages\rest_framework_simple_api_key\models.py", line 16, in AbstractAPIKeyManager def get_api_key(self, pk: int str): TypeError: unsupported operand type(s) for : 'type' and 'type'
My question is using patch to do resolve this error is good idea? Also I tried calling my patch_get_api_key() in setting.py file still getting type error.

First and foremost I want to say that I actually like Rachel as a character. The worst thing a character can be is boring and Rachel Berry is anything but boring. This is more of a critique of the show written around her. I saw an old post about how past season 1, Rachel (and Finn but to a lesser extent) don’t work as pov protagonists. With the show as written, I agree. But while that post came at the subject from a psychological perspective, I'm coming at it from a writing perspective. And to do so, I'm going to be comparing Rachel to another Fox show’s main character who I feel is the same archetype as Rachel but written much better, Malcolm from Malcolm in the Middle. They are both gifted, driven and have an ego the size of canada. But the reason why I root for Malcolm while I get annoyed by Rachel is because of what the respective shows ask us to do: Glee asks us to root for Rachel while Malcolm in the Middle asks us to watch Malcom try to survive his crazy family.
Season 1 Rachel is the best for her character. We see and are constantly reminded how she is treated by the popular kids, how she is barely tolerated by her fellow glee clubbers and most importantly she is allowed to just be unlikeable. Which she is. Past season 1 they take that all away from her. She’s still unlikeable but it’s framed to be endearing. Besides Santana and sometimes Brittany, she isn’t treated badly by the club. And from what I remember, the bullying from outside of the club stops for her. The show still asks us to root for her but she has no real obstacles for the remaining 5 seasons, no obstacles that last more than a handful of episodes. Scare off a new recruit, completely forgotten by next episode. She chokes at a college audition, she gets another shot and gets in. She throws away her dream job that she dropped out of college for to pursue a tv career that fails, six episodes later she is offered another broadway role and accepted back into college. There is nothing to root for because we know Rachel will get her way in the end. Now I will give them some credit for the pezberry feud. How that started in “frenemies”, they framed Rachel as in the wrong but once again a few episodes later, we’re supposed to side with her?
Now I don’t know how many of you have watched Malcolm in the Middle so I’m going to give you the overall premise: the everyday adventures of Malcolm, who is a genius, navigating life with his very dysfunctional working class family. Now from the very beginning we are never really asked to feel sorry or root for him, we’re just asked to be along for the ride. And the ride is him or his family getting in his way. Why I feel like this works for this show is that the writers know that Malcolm is the protagonist, not the hero. Malcolm is petty, egotistical, shallow, selfish and despite being a genius, never listens. The vast majority of episodes end with him losing or at best coming out neutral. Either a kid from school will get the best of him, he’ll just fuck it up for himself or a family member will out smart him (more on one particular member latter).
So why does one show get it right and the other wrong? There could be a few reasons. First and foremost, glee was originally a movie that was stretched into half a season of tv. They kept it interesting for the second half of season 1 when it came to Rachels character but past that, there isn’t much for her to do besides succeed. And I don't care even if your character is the most likable person on the planet, which she most definitely is not, your character has to take real L’s (which you can do since glee is largely episodic within any given season). But i think the main reason is the writers didn’t know what character they were writing. When the character Quinn comes up, I routinely hear how the writers wanted her to be an unlikeable, evil person but Dianna brought humanity to her and ruined her. I don’t think that's the case, no shade to Dianna as she killed it as Quinn but any actress worth their salt would have done the same thing. Quinn is a very human character as written. I think the writers had an idea in their head for their characters but refused to let those ideas grow along with the show so we got clashes between what the story was trying to tell us vs what the characters were doing and no character suffered the most from this than Rachel. I feel they were going for an Annie from Community or Lesley Knope from Parks and Rec type character. There is a lot of overlap between those three characters but what Rachel doesn’t have that the other two do is an underlying understanding that people matter more than your talent.
Now I didn't write this just to bitch about Rachel, I also want to offer solutions. But seeing as glee has ended a while ago, these solutions won’t do much to help the show but it might help another writer not fall into these pitfalls. The easiest would be to just make the show about the glee club instead of Rachel and Finn featuring the glee club. A lot of the problems with these characters come from overexposure. But if you insist on Rachel being the lead, you could have her actually lose and it sticks. At the end of season 3 it would have been so much more interesting if they switched Finns and Rachel's stories. Rachel sacrificed everything for her dreams, what would she do if she didn’t get into NAYDA and had no path to stardom? The solution I fall on the most is giving her an antagonist, maybe multiple. I always thought it would be fun to have her feud with a different member of the unholy trinity for the first 3 seasons. She needs actual obstacles to overcome and they would provide unique challenges to her. One of the reasons Malcolm works is because he has an antagonist that gets the best of him 90% of the time, his mom Louis. Louis may not be as book smart as Malcolm but she routinely out smarts not just him but also his brothers. She comes out on top so often that you can’t help but root for Malcolm to win at least every once in a while against her. But it also works because she loves him and is trying to do what's best for him. Slight spoiler for the series finale of Malcolm in the middle, a show that ended over a decade ago. After making him turn down a job that would have had him living a life of luxury, he is pissed at her. After a ton of bs (literally) he asked her why she did it. She goes into a speech about her goals for his life and how he needs to finally realize that being the smartest person in the room isn’t the most important thing in life. It was perfect. At some point during the show, someone should have given a similar speech to Rachel. Imagen how impactful it would have been during episode 100 if Finn (had tragedy not struck) sided with Santana during the feud and told Rachel she needed to grow up and realize that being the most talented person doesn’t mean anything if no one likes you or something to that effect. But anyway these are my thoughts on the writing for Rachel. Feedback and discussion is welcome.

Don't hold your breath
Everyone keeps expecting me to do something by holding thier breaths, but I mainly stay strong and keep to my own values, needs and wants. I want to live my life the way I want to live it and not be controlled by others. Sometimes others expectations of me are just damn right impossible and that's the thing with expectations, they are the catalysts for disappointments. My friend expected me to one day turn into a bird and he held his breath up until I turn into an actual bird. I told him not to hold his breath but he did. He eventually collapsed to the ground but was still holding onto his breath and eventually died.
Then I had my parents expecting me to rule another planet in the universe, and I told them how stupidly impossible that was. They wanted me to one day rule a planet all to myself with statues made of me. They then held thier own breaths and will only let go until I managed to rule a planet all to myself. I begged them to stop but they kept on holding thier breaths, even to the point they had both turned to a different colour. They died and I tried to make them breath but they just wouldn't do it.
Then I had two police officers expecting me to one day murder someone that simply doesn't exist and I explained to them how that would be impossible. How can you murder someone that doesn't exist, and the two police officers held their breaths and this time I simply didn't care. If they wanted to hold their breaths for something impossible then it was on them and when the two police officers died while holding thier breaths, an idea came to me. Everyone has potential to create babies and by killing someone you also kill thier potential children that don't exist yet.
So I had started watching a man who had tried to commit suicide but failing multiple times, and then the fifth time he handcuffed himself to a tree and threw away the key. Then he started to regret his decision again and was screaming for help and when he saw, he begged me to help him let him go. I didn't help him and watched him die. Then the two rotting decaying police officers came back to life as I had completed their expectation.

Don't hold your breath
Everyone keeps expecting me to do something by holding thier breaths, but I mainly stay strong and keep to my own values, needs and wants. I want to live my life the way I want to live it and not be controlled by others. Sometimes others expectations of me are just damn right impossible and that's the thing with expectations, they are the catalysts for disappointments. My friend expected me to one day turn into a bird and he held his breath up until I turn into an actual bird. I told him not to hold his breath but he did. He eventually collapsed to the ground but was still holding onto his breath and eventually died.
Then I had my parents expecting me to rule another planet in the universe, and I told them how stupidly impossible that was. They wanted me to one day rule a planet all to myself with statues made of me. They then held thier own breaths and will only let go until I managed to rule a planet all to myself. I begged them to stop but they kept on holding thier breaths, even to the point they had both turned to a different colour. They died and I tried to make them breath but they just wouldn't do it.
Then I had two police officers expecting me to one day murder someone that simply doesn't exist and I explained to them how that would be impossible. How can you murder someone that doesn't exist, and the two police officers held their breaths and this time I simply didn't care. If they wanted to hold their breaths for something impossible then it was on them and when the two police officers died while holding thier breaths, an idea came to me. Everyone has potential to create babies and by killing someone you also kill thier potential children that don't exist yet.
So I had started watching a man who had tried to commit suicide but failing multiple times, and then the fifth time he handcuffed himself to a tree and threw away the key. Then he started to regret his decision again and was screaming for help and when he saw, he begged me to help him let him go. I didn't help him and watched him die. Then the two rotting decaying police officers came back to life as I had completed their expectation.

I've been dealing with a laundry list of problems that stem from injuries and burn pit related conditions from Afghanistan. It got to the point where it was time to get it checked out. Lower back pain may be overlapping with other conditions being looked at. I was diagnosed with sciatica years after an injury but no MRI were done and Im not sure if X-rays were done back then.
At the time of MRI, I had some symptoms of sciatica but they are no were near when I ran or exercised. I stopped running about 5 years ago due to pain. I got the call from the doctor saying results reflect normal wear and tear for my age. I have a couple EMG coming up. Rheumatology wants me to do a MRI for SI joints. bilateral Hoffman and wing scapula.
I'm just trying to get an idea if this MRI results may show some any signs of sciatica when not aggravated by running or exercises. Should I consider an MRI in the future when Sciatica symptoms flare up when its aggravated by running?

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Similar height and alignment.
Marrow signal within normal limits.
No gross abnormal marrow infiltration.
Conus and the visualized thoracic cord normal in signal. No definite cord edema.
Chronic degenerative changes.
Posterior disc bulges, most pronounced along L5-S1, measuring approximately 3 mm AP with small annular fissure.
No definite large posterior disc herniations causing high-grade spinal canal stenosis. Spinal canal patent.
Facet arthropathy.
Foraminal narrowings, most pronounced along L3-4, L4-5 and L5-S1, minimal to mild. Consider correlation with electrophysiologic exams.
Impression:
Chronic degenerative changes as described.

I’m in my third year of my MA, it’s in sociology related field. My undergrad degree was in the fine arts. I was really intrigued by an MS in forensics science but I didn’t qualify with prerequisites. The university I attend now has a program which helps students get all their prerequisites and even get a certificate after taking a few classes (it’s a bit more intensive to get the students into the main program)
But I’m already on year 3, statistics took me a while to understand, but I was also considering a JD because I took some law adjacent classes… and I partially love the idea of dental hygiene (dentist would probably prove far too long of a path)
My intent is to finish off my degree and try to work in the field but I feel discouraged as my internship hunt hasn’t been going too well, and I’ve worked in unrelated fields.. just wanna know if anyone’s in a similar boat

i am using this platform to find some peace from all these stuff in my head i was was a good student untiil i was in the 4th grade but now i am an idiot only because of my stupid daydreaming what too do ???????????????/💟😭😭😭😭😭

I want to leave this here and move on with my life.

I was sort of tortured when I was a child by my father. Honestly, I don't even know if it can be considered torture or if it was just abuse. Since I was 8, my standard punishment for any misdoing was standing on my knees for a long period of time. And he would randomly come and check if I am standing on my knees and not cheating by sitting down. If I did, he would yell or kick me. When I was 10, my mother left the family (for a good reason, I have to say), things got only worse from there. He would beat me with a belt, usually it would start with my butt, but he would hit anywhere really. One time, I couldn’t physically take it anymore, I tried to run away begging him not to hurt me. He chased me around the apartment, made me trip, and just kicked the f out of me. The thing about him is that tears would only fuel his rage. He would forbid me to cry because he couldn’t stand it. It would drive him mad, and he would continue beating me with his fists or stomping on me with an animalistic expression on his face.

When I didn’t want to eat the breakfast he made for me, he threw an empty water jar against the wall next to where I was standing. The jar completely shattered, and he ordered me to walk toward him through the kitchen. I was barefoot, and I asked if I could at least go get my socks. He just told me to walk toward him through the kitchen. I had to walk, stepping on shattered glass, to eat that breakfast. There was nothing in the world I feared more than my father. I was absolutely terrified of him.

When I was 11, one night I couldn’t sleep because of the upcoming parent-teacher meetings. I went to the kitchen and was seriously thinking about taking a knife stabbing him in the throat while he slept. I had received bad grades that quarter and feared what he would do to me. The only reason I didn’t go through with that idea is because I was afraid he would wake up from me stabbing him and he would kill me first. Looking back, I realize how fucked up it is that the reason I reconsidered was because I was scared of being caught in the act, not because of the act itself.

Parent-teacher meetings were the most miserable experiences in my life. They were announced ahead of time so I had a few days to imagine what would happen this time. When he went, I would place a crucifix of Jesus, get on my knees and pray, crying and waiting for him to come back. I didn’t even really believe in God or anything like that. I guess I just wanted to be saved. But I had no one I could turn to, so I did the only thing I could. I prayed for hours until he came back. Sometimes he would return angry and yelling as he entered the door. Sometimes he would come stoically, telling me to fetch the belt and wait for him in the living room while he goes to the bathroom. I don’t want to bother with telling what usually followed.

When my mother left, I also started to get bullied in school. They would do what bullies do, beat me, take my stuff, extort money, etc. So from 5th to 9th grade, I don't know how many times I have been beaten up. Over 1000 for sure and that's not an exaggeration. I was beaten up in school multiple times a day, go home to have a few hours of peace. And after that my father would come and beat me again. Then I go to sleep just to repeat the same thing the next day. I gave up. I never fought back and just accepted the beatings. I feel like that was the moment my soul died.


When the bullying started, I shared with him what was happening to me at school. He yelled at me and basically shamed me. After that, I never really sought help from anyone, as I thought being bullied is something to be ashamed of. I have to say the way he was raising me has greatly contributed to me being bullied in school. I was never allowed to make my own choices, to an absurd degree. During puberty, he would forbid me to shave that black baby hair on my upper lip. I was very afraid of disobeying him, so I had to go to school with that while people made fun of me. I never did any “stupid” teenage stuff. It’s almost like I had no rebellion phase and ended up never growing up. Usually, kids from families like mine are prime candidates for underaged drinking and trying drugs, but somehow, I missed even that. I really regret not being able to be a normal teenager.

I lived like that for 5 years, then switched schools and started living with my mother. But it was too late. Idk maybe it’s because no one ended up protecting me. Countless number of people saw me getting beaten and yelled at on the streets and public places by my father, not a single person helped. In school everyone just ignored the abuse. Even my mother didn’t protect me. I ended up hating everything. I hated people. I wanted to be left alone. I become very withdrawn and hateful. After that it was oblivion. Years spent completely isolated from society.

I am in my 20s now. It took me a couple of years to fix myself and my life. I don't hate people anymore. I have enough experience to see that not everyone is out to get me. For the most part, I would say I've gotten over most of it. I would be lying if I said I don’t want to have a father figure in my life, at least someone who would just nod in approval of what I do and give me a pat on the head. But I realize my main problem now is dwelling on the past. I need to move on. I ended up never telling anyone about what I went through. I just want to get this off my chest.

Is my choir teacher creepy?
There is a male choir director at my school who is gay. This is an important detail throughout this story. I am a part of the 9th grade treble choir which is separated from the boys by a period. I have discused some of the following behavoirs with my mom and she agrees that they are weird.

• He is really close with the 9th grade boys.
  
• He treats them vastly different from the girls choir, (ex. He says how much he hates 9th grade girls and that they’re always trouble, yet has no complaints of the rowdy boys!)
  
• Without asking for permission will hug the guys randomly whenever he feels like it. (I’ve talked to my guy friends and many are uncomfortable, also has barely ever shook a girls hand)
  
• He needlessly touches them and is way more physically active with them, like touching them and making them dance while during the girls period he just sits in his office.
  
• While recruiting for next years choirs (which have declining return rates in the 9th grade for a reason that he has no idea about) he would take specific guys and talk to them for 15+ minutes while only having short discussions with the girls. With the guys he would talk to them for multiple days spanned, while with the girls only talked to each of them once.
  

Theres a couple things that are less promaniant that I don’t feel the need to mention but those are his behaviors towards the guys class. I’m a girl so I could be reading this wrong but guy friends have said how they are uncomfortable so idk.

Hi, I wanted ask for a second opinion if using Proxmox makes sense for our server setup.
We are a small AI research lab with a growing number of servers that we use for training and simulation. The machines are mainly consumer grade PC with Nvidia GPUs and running Ubuntu server.
The machines are being managed manually through SSH. We would like to move to a batching system (such as Slurm) however in order to facilitate easy scaling, we thought of adding all the servers to a Proxmox cluster.
Each node would then run a VM with a PCI passthrough to the GPU and a Slurm instance. If we then scale to more nodes, it should be very easy simply cloning a VM.
In addition, we can use some of the servers to also host our other resources (db, website, etc etc)
Would this be a valid approach? Is there some limitations that I am not aware of? Is Proxmox going to introduce significant overhead? (If I understand correctly, the cost of virtualization should be quite negligible)
Thank you.

Any and all perspectives help more than you know. I don’t have anybody to really talk about this with so any guidance is appreciated. It’s a lot to read, I might yap but with reason
I’m 19 years old and have just finished my spring semester of college. I went to a big college out of town, my main financial aid fucked me over so I had to switch at semester to my home state’s university. Anyway, this year was kinda tough for me lost a couple family members & my boyfriend had it rough, lost his best friend and dad within a few months of each other. Then we find out I’m pregnant. I wasn’t sure what I really wanted but didn’t get to make a choice, I miscarried sometime later. It was hard so I went back to hometown & finished semester online while staying with boyfriend until I needed to move my stuff out of dorm.
My boyfriend is 19 and we’ve been together a year & a half, but known each other since middle school. We dated in 8 grade until he had to move out of state, he moved back & we started hanging out again. My circle is small & I don’t really make/have any friends but he’s my best friend. Even if we wouldn’t have chose to date after he came back to town, ik we would’ve been good friends. My family liked him or seemed to at least, especially my mom.
It’s well known in my family that my mom and I just don’t get along. She kept me quite literally locked away as the Cinderella child until I left. I could only do things if she wasn’t in a bad mood/something didn’t need cleaned/ a child didn’t need to be picked up/dropped off. My friends in high school never invited me ANYWHERE lmao but after a while I figured out it’s easier to just deal w it rather than push back harder. I didn’t know how to use a crosswalk until I was 14 lmao I was so sheltered sorry ANYWAYS, I turned 18 and it was like I had a brand new mother until her fear of me leaving wore off.
Long story short, the summer before I left for college (last summer) my mom & I got into a fight, I didn’t have anywhere else to go so I moved in with boyfriend. My mom did the absolute most, almost got me fired from my job & ambulance ended up being called from how much of a tantrum she threw. It was so ridiculous that she refused to tell anybody what happened when people asked because she said it’s too embarrassing for her.
Just like that, she flipped. My boyfriend had a rough upbringing which she knows some stuff about. She took that and twisted the narrative to make him seem like some sort of charity case that took advantage of her generous & good graces. She calls him the hungry kid who hangs out w her daughter behind my back. He’s no longer allowed at her house lmao just out of spite. He never said a word to her or about her when she had the worst to say about him, he never was disrespectful or showed up to the house either so idrk why she said that. Even when I moved out & she drained my entire savings I had worked for since I was 15, he never said anything bad about her just that i was going to be okay & he’s gonna help me figure it out. Not only that but she shunned me for a long time, refused to talk & look at me after I moved out. My little brother was 5 and didn’t really understand but my mom didn’t try to explain or kid proof it, just let him scream, cry, & claw at my legs whenever I’d leave the house to go home. I felt incredibly guilty & like I had to compensate so I’d stress out & make sure to see her and my siblings every single day till I left for college.
If you’re still reading thank you sm.
Fast forward to today, I went to college finished my semester and am back in my hometown. Over breaks in college I’ve stayed at my moms cause she expected me to and her & I’s relationship has gotten so much better with distance. Between her and boyfriend, they were my biggest support especially with the miscarriage. But the only conversation they’ve had is when him and I went to talk to my mom in person when I found out I was pregnant. Not sure where she stands with him idrc but I’m sure she probably hates him more since we did technically make her worst fear as a mother come true.
Im living with her now mainly cause I don’t want to be isolated again & i physically cant deal with the debilitating anxiety and guilt every day, I wanted to try to focus on healing & resting before I start classes in the fall. Boyfriend’s family situation is getting v challenging for him, hes gonna get a place regardless. I really just want a space where I’m not feeling constantly overstimulated & I miss living with him a lot honestly. We make the best team & it’s so easy with him. I catch myself getting so excited looking at furniture even from the thrift or think ab cooking meals w him or decorating. I miss him making breakfast for me before I wake up and folding laundry together and grocery shopping. He’s paying 6 months rent in advance so that I won’t have to worry about getting enough hours & can enjoy summer and actually rest. Both of us independently have a pretty thick cushion to fall back on too just in case. So finances aren’t a problem I think?
My mom isn’t too keen on the idea. I think she doesn’t want me to make the same mistakes she made, which I understand because I was also there when she was left with half of every pair of shoes she owned, I mean he took literally half of everything. Even in the case that we do break up and then I’m stuck with an apartment with my ex and have completely fucked myself over, at least I was able to make my own mistake for the first time and learn from it? Idk what to tell my mom or how the conversation should go. I don’t wanna be shunned again but then again I’ve never once been able to just do something and justify it with “it’s my life”. Idk, advice/thoughts/bullshit/opinions please please help. Have a blessed day, thank you. I appreciate your time & input more than you know, I don’t have anybody to bounce ideas around with.

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My mom is 67 and has had various bfs since her and my father divorced 25yrs ago. Her bfs have always been a little bit odd. My mom is very codependent and will stick with something even when its not working.
This bf, she has been dating for five years. When they met, he first gave me the ick because my mom was not interested in him and he wouldn’t give up on pursuing her. The way he won her over is by contacting a mutual friend of theirs and convincing that friend to pressure my mom into going out with him.
At that time, he drank a lot and was very obnoxious always needing to be the center of attention and talking over everyone. I initially assumed his personality defects were largely from alcohol consumption, and anxiety and insecurity from being very overweight. My mom was able to convince him over the last few years to join a diet program which he was very successful on and to quit drinking after a DWI. This is all great however, his personality defects have only seemed to grow stronger with time. In addition to being self-centered, loud, obnoxious and a know it all, his problems with anxiety and OCD have only gotten worse overtime. He lives with her and seems to have complete control over her house hold and what happens there.
I appreciate that he helps her with cleaning and chores at home but he contributes and no way financially to her mortgage or bills. He works for himself selling insurance and seems to be not super successful but also has no strong drive to be. My mom who has been wanting to retire has not been able to because she is seemingly supporting him and has been trying to work overtime to fix his business problems.
When she has had health issues he goes in to complete denial that anything is wrong with her in a very aggressive way. Arguing at the hospital when she had artery surgery complications and leaving for work while she was having a stroke. He maintains that he is deeply in love with her, and he would do nothing to hurt her, but he seems completely unwilling to deal with any difficult emotions.
My sister, and ICU nurse, is currently in charge of any medical related reality regarding my mother or any future decisions that may need to be made. One of our main concerns is that he has proposed to her and has been pressuring her to get married for the last two years. She originally maintained that she would never do this legally, but it seems that he has worn her down with time. He recently began bragging to me that they are going to elope and we would find out about it on Facebook after the fact. It seemed like a jab at the time because he probably has some idea that we are not in support of this. But it also seems somewhat disrespectful to have your children and family find out that you got married via Facebook. The biggest concern is that he would have control over her finances and medical decisions if this were to happen which we envision would be a future battle

So, first this is a throwaway, because I don’t want this on my main acc. I’ll apologise ahead of time for the long post. It’s a long story!
This all happened a Long time ago, we’re talking 15+ years but I still think about it all the time and need some advice as it’s currently affecting my ability to give 100% to my relationship.
I’ll start by saying I (40f) was s**** a**** when I was younger, and I’m only recently coming to terms with the shame that brings and the mental health issues it obviously carries. Which is likely why I’m only now beginning to dissect it all and in effect re-live some of the issues from time to time.
I met my now husband (42m) when I was 18 and he was 20. I was living with my parents at the time but had been homeless for a year prior to avoid some pretty sketchy scenes at home which I don’t want to go into but relate to my current mental health issues.
We had a close relationship with his brother “Jeff”, but his then gf “Tanya” was forever making it quite obvious she had ideas on my then bf. They’re around the same age. His younger sister “Laura” also happened to be Tanya’s best friend and actively encouraged this.
Whenever we would all get together for family bbqs, parties and other events involving drinking, Tanya would flirt outrageously with my now husband. He would entertain it and play along. Whenever I broached the subject as being inappropriate they would all just say they’re like brother and sister, and I’m sick for thinking otherwise. Given my background, I took this on the chin and tried to get over it. Every time, like a fool. Obviously this didn’t stop, and I began to feel like she would take things up a notch and do things on purpose because she knew things would wind me up and my now husband and I would then argue. Things like telling me she picked the wrong brother, sitting on his lap, answering the door in sexy nightwear when she knew we were coming over, you get the idea! (I’m quite outspoken and would call her out on it fairly often. Only to be gaslighted by my husband again and told I was inappropriate). He wasn’t blameless in this. They would have tickle fights and banter and generally laugh far more than he and I would when we were together. My husbands family would often tell me she was inappropriate but they all said there’s no way my husband would ever cheat on me. They said she was trying to wind up Jeff (his brother) who wasn’t really bothered by any of this, because he was cheating on her regularly and their relationship was really volatile. Her flirting only got worse when we all had children (I know, stupid move) and I’d continue to call him out when she was flirting because although he was no longer flirting back, he wasn’t putting a stop to it (he said he didn’t notice she was). Eventually, things became so bad when the four of us met it was causing quite volatile arguments and I put my foot down with an ultimatum. This is some 7/8 years in, and we had children together so he picked me and even stopped speaking to his brother as well. Not long after we all stopped speaking, we booked our wedding. She then booked hers, FOR FIVE DAYS BEFORE OURS. This was annoying but nevertheless, we weren’t speaking, so no big loss and we went ahead regardless.
Looking back now, I feel like I never should have stayed with him at the early stages and I should have put my foot down and left immediately, but I loved/love him. I was also only 18/19 & some part of me felt like I was competing and didn’t want to lose (stupid, I know) I also really loved when we were on our own and had no extra company around.
I’m now coming through the other side of therapy, I now know what gaslighting is and I’m really angry with him because it’s now glaringly obvious that that’s what was happening to me at the time. I’m so angry that he didn’t put her in her place and draw a line immediately when the inappropriate behaviour occurred and I raised my concerns.
Tanya and Jeff broke up a while ago, lo and behold she was cheating on him, too (with multiple men) and Jeff didn’t like a taste of his own medicine when he found out. None of my husbands family now speaks to Tanya and Jeff has remarried. It’s been probably 9 years since Tanya has been in our hometown but I still can’t shake the feeling something happened. When I broach the subject with my husband he tries to reassure me nothing happened and apologises for not stopping it earlier, but I still can’t fully believe him. It’s stupid because it’s ages ago but it still pops up in my thoughts often. I just can’t prove anything. Or can I? Do I message Tanya and ask outright? She technically has nothing to lose now, but I don’t know if I could trust her not to use it as ammunition to spark a relationship back up with my now husband.
I don’t know how to stop being so angry about everything that occurred and it’s eating me up. Has anyone been through anything like this before? How did you get through it? Did you resolve it? I honestly don’t know if I can live with this as my past in our relationship. I think im just riding it out for the kids at the moment but it’s hard to tell because my brain and emotions are in a blender.
TLDR my husband used to flirt and say it was just friendly and now I’m realising I was justified in being angry and should have left him at the time