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2024.05.29 04:46 Then-Mulberry-2761 Random Girl Thinks I’m “Jake”
This story started about a month ago. I was at work and got a text message saying I was being invited to a “Microsoft Teams” group chat. Let’s call the person inviting me Sarah, just for privacy purposes. It says in the chat that I’m named, “Jay.” She says “Hello” to me and is basically speaking to me through this text thread, but I assume on her end she was on Microsoft Teams. The conversation basically goes like this:
Sarah: Hey
Me: You have the wrong person, I’m not Jay.
Sarah: Are you Jack? Sarah (1 minute later): ?????? Sarah (5 minutes later): ????
Me: I am not the person you're looking for! I do not know any of these people.
I then read the automated messages above our chat more thoroughly and realized I could’ve just typed “#exit” to leave the chat instead of senselessly arguing with this girl. So I did lol. Silly ole me. But oh no! It does not end there. I few weeks go by with no word from Sarah. I had forgotten about it all, until I get another message saying I was added to a Microsoft Teams chat by the SAME person.
Sarah: Are you Jay?
By this point, I figured maybe the reason she was so persistent was because of something important. She must’ve been part of a company or school project and was having issues finding the right person. So, I decided to make a Microsoft Teams account and speak to her and thoroughly explain I’m not Jay. Don’t ask me why I did this. I’m overly nice I guess and just wanted to help. And something told me she would try to reach out in other ways if I didn’t respond. (Spoiler alert, I was right.)
I made the account and basically told her I am not Jay. I’ve had the same number and email since I was 10. She has the wrong number. And that I didn’t even have a Microsoft Teams account prior to our convo. I was as nice as I could be cause I didn’t know the situation. I told her to check with Jay on another form of social media so they could get started on whatever she was contacting him for. Turns out, she wasn’t part of a group project or a company at all. Apparently, some guy gave her his number at a mall. (This number turned out to be my number.) And she was reaching out to him for romantic reasons. She was using Microsoft Teams cause she didn’t have a phone. (I’m leaving out specific details to protect her identity.) After that we ended the chat and I figured that was it. WRONG!
I was hanging out with my boyfriend the other day when I get a call from a random number. I answered it and frowned at the question the person asked on the other line. “Hi, is this Jay?” I sighed and replied, “No, this is not Jay. Same girl from before. I would probably give up on that one girlie.”
She said, “Okay.” and hung up. Before I could even block the number, I get a call from the same number again. My boyfriend looked pretty annoyed so he picked up the phone and said, “Hello?” I could hear her on the line, “Hi, is this Jay?” He was not as nice as I was, “No, this is not Jay. Stop contacting this number.” She hung up without another word and I blocked the number. I’m glad he did that, it seems this girl is not giving up and really wants to find Jay. And it seems she wasn’t taking me seriously when I was all nice… Considering she’s tried 4 separate times in the span of a month. And allegedly she’s only met him once. She is persistent I’ll give her that. She probably will use other means to contact me or should I say “Jay”. I’m just gonna block at this point. I tried being nice and that went nowhere lol. Hopefully that’s the end of it. I kinda doubt it though.
Thanks for reading!
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Sarah: Hey
Me: You have the wrong person, I’m not Jay.
Sarah: Are you Jack? Sarah (1 minute later): ?????? Sarah (5 minutes later): ????
Me: I am not the person you're looking for! I do not know any of these people.
I then read the automated messages above our chat more thoroughly and realized I could’ve just typed “#exit” to leave the chat instead of senselessly arguing with this girl. So I did lol. Silly ole me. But oh no! It does not end there. I few weeks go by with no word from Sarah. I had forgotten about it all, until I get another message saying I was added to a Microsoft Teams chat by the SAME person.
Sarah: Are you Jay?
By this point, I figured maybe the reason she was so persistent was because of something important. She must’ve been part of a company or school project and was having issues finding the right person. So, I decided to make a Microsoft Teams account and speak to her and thoroughly explain I’m not Jay. Don’t ask me why I did this. I’m overly nice I guess and just wanted to help. And something told me she would try to reach out in other ways if I didn’t respond. (Spoiler alert, I was right.)
I made the account and basically told her I am not Jay. I’ve had the same number and email since I was 10. She has the wrong number. And that I didn’t even have a Microsoft Teams account prior to our convo. I was as nice as I could be cause I didn’t know the situation. I told her to check with Jay on another form of social media so they could get started on whatever she was contacting him for. Turns out, she wasn’t part of a group project or a company at all. Apparently, some guy gave her his number at a mall. (This number turned out to be my number.) And she was reaching out to him for romantic reasons. She was using Microsoft Teams cause she didn’t have a phone. (I’m leaving out specific details to protect her identity.) After that we ended the chat and I figured that was it. WRONG!
I was hanging out with my boyfriend the other day when I get a call from a random number. I answered it and frowned at the question the person asked on the other line. “Hi, is this Jay?” I sighed and replied, “No, this is not Jay. Same girl from before. I would probably give up on that one girlie.”
She said, “Okay.” and hung up. Before I could even block the number, I get a call from the same number again. My boyfriend looked pretty annoyed so he picked up the phone and said, “Hello?” I could hear her on the line, “Hi, is this Jay?” He was not as nice as I was, “No, this is not Jay. Stop contacting this number.” She hung up without another word and I blocked the number. I’m glad he did that, it seems this girl is not giving up and really wants to find Jay. And it seems she wasn’t taking me seriously when I was all nice… Considering she’s tried 4 separate times in the span of a month. And allegedly she’s only met him once. She is persistent I’ll give her that. She probably will use other means to contact me or should I say “Jay”. I’m just gonna block at this point. I tried being nice and that went nowhere lol. Hopefully that’s the end of it. I kinda doubt it though.
Thanks for reading!
2024.05.29 04:45 Zinetti360 Rage and feelings of humiliation after a match
I do believe this post will me quite similar to another one made in this subreddit a few years ago, but still, I want to share my thoughts and vent a little: https://www.reddit.com/truegaming/s/hjDXpFtN8t
I really wish I was more chill with competitive games. I like them, a lot, even more while playing with friends, but this attitude I have towards them even keep my friends away from me sometimes.
I wouldn't say I don't have fun when I simply lose - I actually don't have fun when I lose while feeling humiliated, which happens quite often. These feelings actually hurt a lot. That's why I often rage playing videogames, even with friends, or complain a lot everytime about what's happening.
I don't get how to have fun just by playing it. For me, competitive games is about being at least competitive enough that you can put up a fight. When that doesn't happen I feel like shit. In my mind it's simply a competition to show who's better, and if the other player wons, it means I'm worse than him, and I'm pretty sure he felt great about kicking my ass.
Sometimes I get so lost into this thinking, that I start to just keep throwing myself at the same player every time, to see if I can at least kill him and get my revenge, even if I die I lot in the process. Obviously, more often that not, that doesn't work and I just keep losing. Even so, I keep going, because I WANT to kill him and have my pride back, because I know he's feeling good about killing me.
I get so stressed and I complain so much that, as I've already said, some people even stop playing with me. I don't blame them, but it still feels terrible. And then I start to think a lot of things: how I keep doing the same mystakes, isolating myself from my friends, getting stressed for dumb reasons, at the same time that I feel terrible for being so incompetent at the game.
Again, I don't mind losing, but I do mind feeling humiliated, when I lose so badly I don't know how I could've done anything differently. When I feel personally like shit for losing so badly, and feeling that I didn't even have the chance to begin with. I simply don't get how a game can be fun if the only thing you get is your ass beaten, every match.
I've been like this for years now, I've been seeing a therapist and taking anxiety meds, but this still feels terrible. In fact, as I was writing this, another friend told me they no longer want to play competitive games with me.
I'm almost crying right now, holy fuck.
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I really wish I was more chill with competitive games. I like them, a lot, even more while playing with friends, but this attitude I have towards them even keep my friends away from me sometimes.
I wouldn't say I don't have fun when I simply lose - I actually don't have fun when I lose while feeling humiliated, which happens quite often. These feelings actually hurt a lot. That's why I often rage playing videogames, even with friends, or complain a lot everytime about what's happening.
I don't get how to have fun just by playing it. For me, competitive games is about being at least competitive enough that you can put up a fight. When that doesn't happen I feel like shit. In my mind it's simply a competition to show who's better, and if the other player wons, it means I'm worse than him, and I'm pretty sure he felt great about kicking my ass.
Sometimes I get so lost into this thinking, that I start to just keep throwing myself at the same player every time, to see if I can at least kill him and get my revenge, even if I die I lot in the process. Obviously, more often that not, that doesn't work and I just keep losing. Even so, I keep going, because I WANT to kill him and have my pride back, because I know he's feeling good about killing me.
I get so stressed and I complain so much that, as I've already said, some people even stop playing with me. I don't blame them, but it still feels terrible. And then I start to think a lot of things: how I keep doing the same mystakes, isolating myself from my friends, getting stressed for dumb reasons, at the same time that I feel terrible for being so incompetent at the game.
Again, I don't mind losing, but I do mind feeling humiliated, when I lose so badly I don't know how I could've done anything differently. When I feel personally like shit for losing so badly, and feeling that I didn't even have the chance to begin with. I simply don't get how a game can be fun if the only thing you get is your ass beaten, every match.
I've been like this for years now, I've been seeing a therapist and taking anxiety meds, but this still feels terrible. In fact, as I was writing this, another friend told me they no longer want to play competitive games with me.
I'm almost crying right now, holy fuck.
2024.05.29 04:44 lil_tink_tink TIFU by getting my boyfriend a life-like stuffed animal of our cat that passed away.
My boyfriend had a cat that was 22 years old and recently passed away. It was his first pet as an adult. Whenever a pet of mine passes I do a photo album and some other memorial gift.
This cat was so important to my boyfriend so I thought it would be nice to buy one of those stuffed animals that looks like your pet. So I put the order in and it takes like two months but it finally showed up.
I was super excited to see him open it up and we had friends over so I thought we could all see it for the first time. When we get it out of the packaging we all go quiet.
There is this uncanny valley look to the stuffed animal. It looks very close to our cat, but something just isn't right. Almost like it is a taxidermy version of her.
I break the silence and say how weird it looks and everyone agrees. He jokes that he appreciates the gesture but maybe stick with the photo albums going forward.
We put it up on a shelf in our bedroom next to her ashes and continue on with hanging out with our friends. At one point in the night I go to grab a hoodie out of our room and catch a glimpse.of the stuffed animal out the corner of my eye and my heart drops. It was like seeing a ghost and I almost screamed.
I collect myself and then go back to our friends and make a joke about how it startled me. Then I head to the bathroom.
A few moments later I am back in our bedroom and the stuffed animal is gone. I haul my ass back to my friends and my boyfriend and see they have these evil grins on their faces. I already know what's going on.
I start asking where the stuffed animal is at as we all are laughing to the point of tears. We all enjoy a little dark humor and I knew they were hiding it to scare me.
My boyfriend goes, "Idk what you are talking about about."
I just let it go and we continue with the night. Later when I go to change in my closet I walk in to see the cat eye level to me and I scream at the top of my lungs. I immediately grab it and run into the other room and everyone is in tears. We're all dying laughing at how easily I'm spooked.
My boyfriend goes, "This is your punishment for spending so much money on something so creepy."
The weekend has now turned into a game of trying to scare me shitless with this stuffed animal.
Never again. 🙅♀️
TL;DR: I bought a life-like stuffed animal of our dead cat that is creepy, and now my boyfriend is hiding it around the house like a possessed doll from a horror movie.
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This cat was so important to my boyfriend so I thought it would be nice to buy one of those stuffed animals that looks like your pet. So I put the order in and it takes like two months but it finally showed up.
I was super excited to see him open it up and we had friends over so I thought we could all see it for the first time. When we get it out of the packaging we all go quiet.
There is this uncanny valley look to the stuffed animal. It looks very close to our cat, but something just isn't right. Almost like it is a taxidermy version of her.
I break the silence and say how weird it looks and everyone agrees. He jokes that he appreciates the gesture but maybe stick with the photo albums going forward.
We put it up on a shelf in our bedroom next to her ashes and continue on with hanging out with our friends. At one point in the night I go to grab a hoodie out of our room and catch a glimpse.of the stuffed animal out the corner of my eye and my heart drops. It was like seeing a ghost and I almost screamed.
I collect myself and then go back to our friends and make a joke about how it startled me. Then I head to the bathroom.
A few moments later I am back in our bedroom and the stuffed animal is gone. I haul my ass back to my friends and my boyfriend and see they have these evil grins on their faces. I already know what's going on.
I start asking where the stuffed animal is at as we all are laughing to the point of tears. We all enjoy a little dark humor and I knew they were hiding it to scare me.
My boyfriend goes, "Idk what you are talking about about."
I just let it go and we continue with the night. Later when I go to change in my closet I walk in to see the cat eye level to me and I scream at the top of my lungs. I immediately grab it and run into the other room and everyone is in tears. We're all dying laughing at how easily I'm spooked.
My boyfriend goes, "This is your punishment for spending so much money on something so creepy."
The weekend has now turned into a game of trying to scare me shitless with this stuffed animal.
Never again. 🙅♀️
TL;DR: I bought a life-like stuffed animal of our dead cat that is creepy, and now my boyfriend is hiding it around the house like a possessed doll from a horror movie.
2024.05.29 04:44 ThrowawayRoblox87728 My 16th Birthday Sucked and I Don’t Want To Be Happy
I posted about this on my profile a while back, but my 16th birthday absolutely sucked. I’m mostly back online now, so I guess that’s good, but damn, I don’t feel happy anymore, and I don’t want to. I put on a fake smile each day.
I can’t really talk to anyone about it. There’s always this “oh, mental health awareness” movement but then when people try to talk about it, you get shoved away. The only reason they care is because it interferes with their lives. I need to clarify I’m not depressed or anything, I filled out screenings last week at my annual checkup, but it still sucks.
I’ve felt really sad lately though. I’m sad that all my friends get to experience their 16th birthday, a milestone birthday, normally, while mine went down the drain, and I will never have that experience or be this age again. I don’t wish malice on them of course, but I hope someone out there gets it. Christmas went a similar way, so now I’m dreading that too this year. Every time I seem to be happy, something always comes along and ruins it. I’m scared to relax and be happy, to the point I actually feel GOOD when I’m stressed out in some way.
My parents are acting like it was no big deal, and are trying to act all normal, especially my dad. I feel like a background character in the lives of others, like if I were to die tomorrow not much else would change. My dad can never accept he‘s wrong, he says that I cannot “outshine the master” with any form of criticism, and then they happen to wonder why I’m so distant from them and don’t trust them with anything. I don’t want to be around them, it’s literal poison yet all my needs are being met. It’s so loving but so toxic, and I have such a weak heart that is too loving and forgiving of other people. I feel so dirty when they try to give me a hug or high five, like I’m laying in a pile of mud.
I’m not being abused physically, but damn I’m tired. I made a plan previously to travel around Christmas and my birthday in the future to make up for it, but I‘m never getting that time back, so there’s no point. I’d only be doing it to remind myself of my past sadness anyway. And I don’t know how I’m going to be able to afford to move out when I’m 18 given current trends. My own parents have said such horrible things to me that I can’t just move on from, saying that I’m a monster who leeches off other people, and that I am not welcome at their funerals. The only reason they want me to be successful is so that if they die early, I can take custody of my little sister. And then they boast about how they are so much better than their parents because they don’t resort to physical beatings. Granted, I’ve said horrible things too, but I was either a little kid or had horrible things said to me first.
On the subject of that, I hate the thought of my birthday so much now. The thought of someone making me a cake or saying Happy Birthday to me makes me cringe back to the prehistoric era. I’m absolutely dreading my 17th birthday, and I just simply wish there was a button to skip that entire week. I wish my family, my friends, and society collectively forgot about my birthday. I’m even contemplating deleting all my birthday and Christmas photos from the past, so I don’t have to look at them.
I love coding and making things, but even that just feels depressing now. I can’t really make anything as that’s not allowed too much after how my 16th birthday went, so I just don’t want to make or even think of anything at all. And when I do get the chance, I just feel like shutting it down and going to bed.
I just want to feel loved unconditionally. I just want to be able to embrace someone in a warm long hug, cry in front of them, and not have it be used against me down the road. I don’t want therapy (imo it’s thousands of dollars for a talk buddy who nods their head and gives generic bs) but I just want to be able to trust someone with my deepest thoughts. But everyone I’ve ever trusted either betrayed me, abandoned me, or used it as ammo in an argument.
I recently reconnected with my old best friend from childhood after nine months after he betrayed me for a girl, and it just doesn’t feel the same. It feels amazing, yes, but it’s like something is missing.
I’m just simply tired and don’t even know what to say anymore. I have so much to say but not the words to do it. I see this as the start of a new life, one I’m not seeking to alter in any way. I’m not looking for input or commentary, but I’ll go clinically insane and perhaps take my stress out on others if I don’t channel it somewhere.
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I can’t really talk to anyone about it. There’s always this “oh, mental health awareness” movement but then when people try to talk about it, you get shoved away. The only reason they care is because it interferes with their lives. I need to clarify I’m not depressed or anything, I filled out screenings last week at my annual checkup, but it still sucks.
I’ve felt really sad lately though. I’m sad that all my friends get to experience their 16th birthday, a milestone birthday, normally, while mine went down the drain, and I will never have that experience or be this age again. I don’t wish malice on them of course, but I hope someone out there gets it. Christmas went a similar way, so now I’m dreading that too this year. Every time I seem to be happy, something always comes along and ruins it. I’m scared to relax and be happy, to the point I actually feel GOOD when I’m stressed out in some way.
My parents are acting like it was no big deal, and are trying to act all normal, especially my dad. I feel like a background character in the lives of others, like if I were to die tomorrow not much else would change. My dad can never accept he‘s wrong, he says that I cannot “outshine the master” with any form of criticism, and then they happen to wonder why I’m so distant from them and don’t trust them with anything. I don’t want to be around them, it’s literal poison yet all my needs are being met. It’s so loving but so toxic, and I have such a weak heart that is too loving and forgiving of other people. I feel so dirty when they try to give me a hug or high five, like I’m laying in a pile of mud.
I’m not being abused physically, but damn I’m tired. I made a plan previously to travel around Christmas and my birthday in the future to make up for it, but I‘m never getting that time back, so there’s no point. I’d only be doing it to remind myself of my past sadness anyway. And I don’t know how I’m going to be able to afford to move out when I’m 18 given current trends. My own parents have said such horrible things to me that I can’t just move on from, saying that I’m a monster who leeches off other people, and that I am not welcome at their funerals. The only reason they want me to be successful is so that if they die early, I can take custody of my little sister. And then they boast about how they are so much better than their parents because they don’t resort to physical beatings. Granted, I’ve said horrible things too, but I was either a little kid or had horrible things said to me first.
On the subject of that, I hate the thought of my birthday so much now. The thought of someone making me a cake or saying Happy Birthday to me makes me cringe back to the prehistoric era. I’m absolutely dreading my 17th birthday, and I just simply wish there was a button to skip that entire week. I wish my family, my friends, and society collectively forgot about my birthday. I’m even contemplating deleting all my birthday and Christmas photos from the past, so I don’t have to look at them.
I love coding and making things, but even that just feels depressing now. I can’t really make anything as that’s not allowed too much after how my 16th birthday went, so I just don’t want to make or even think of anything at all. And when I do get the chance, I just feel like shutting it down and going to bed.
I just want to feel loved unconditionally. I just want to be able to embrace someone in a warm long hug, cry in front of them, and not have it be used against me down the road. I don’t want therapy (imo it’s thousands of dollars for a talk buddy who nods their head and gives generic bs) but I just want to be able to trust someone with my deepest thoughts. But everyone I’ve ever trusted either betrayed me, abandoned me, or used it as ammo in an argument.
I recently reconnected with my old best friend from childhood after nine months after he betrayed me for a girl, and it just doesn’t feel the same. It feels amazing, yes, but it’s like something is missing.
I’m just simply tired and don’t even know what to say anymore. I have so much to say but not the words to do it. I see this as the start of a new life, one I’m not seeking to alter in any way. I’m not looking for input or commentary, but I’ll go clinically insane and perhaps take my stress out on others if I don’t channel it somewhere.
2024.05.29 04:43 Far-Season-5083 My son is behind, I don’t know what to do and his father won’t help
My son is 4 years old and started preschool in the fall. I was working day shifts from 6am-3:30 or 4:00 and my son’s father wasn’t working so he would take him to school in the morning; we also live across the street from each other which is super convenient. Things were going great until Christmas break ended. After the break, his father’s car broke down and he was unable to drive him to school. I suggested that he walk him to school but he refused, claiming that the school was too far and he would be too tired despite him not working. For 2 months my son would sit in the house playing on his tablet for hours until I got home because his father didn’t want to entertain him. I personally have no problem with my son having a tablet but I never wanted him to be on it for long periods of time. The rule at my house is 1 hour on school nights and 2 hours on the weekend, he spends most of his day outside on the weekends anyway. However, his father allows him to do whatever he wants and doesn’t monitor what he watches. As soon as I get home my son comes and gets dressed for the first time all day and goes outside to play with his cousins who have just gotten out of school. I would cook and get him into bed by 9. I don’t only throw blame on his father because I know that I’m at fault as well because I wouldn’t work with my son on his reading in writing but in my defense I was exhausted from work.
I say all this to say that my son is behind in school and I don’t know how to help him. He started going back to school in March. The other kids in his class are writing their names and can recognize letters but he can’t do any of that. I recently went on medical leave so I am at home all day with him and I try to help teach him. His teachers don’t have time to help him catch up and always say that he isn’t a good student. I’ve bought work books,flash cards, and even customized print outs of his name for him to trace. I tried out learning videos on YouTube like Blippi and Ms. Rachel but he shows no interest and would rather use his tablet to play games. He doesn’t like any educational shows and will only watch shows like Pj mask and other things that I think are too overstimulating. I am struggling to get him interested in learning. I know that consistency is important and I work on it everyday but I can’t control what he does at his dad’s house and I definitely can’t keep him from going there without causing problems. However, he has no interest in helping his son because he’s says that he’s tired after work and doesn’t want to be bothered. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Please if you have any tips on how I can teach him to recognize letters and engage in learning I’d greatly appreciate them!
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I say all this to say that my son is behind in school and I don’t know how to help him. He started going back to school in March. The other kids in his class are writing their names and can recognize letters but he can’t do any of that. I recently went on medical leave so I am at home all day with him and I try to help teach him. His teachers don’t have time to help him catch up and always say that he isn’t a good student. I’ve bought work books,flash cards, and even customized print outs of his name for him to trace. I tried out learning videos on YouTube like Blippi and Ms. Rachel but he shows no interest and would rather use his tablet to play games. He doesn’t like any educational shows and will only watch shows like Pj mask and other things that I think are too overstimulating. I am struggling to get him interested in learning. I know that consistency is important and I work on it everyday but I can’t control what he does at his dad’s house and I definitely can’t keep him from going there without causing problems. However, he has no interest in helping his son because he’s says that he’s tired after work and doesn’t want to be bothered. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Please if you have any tips on how I can teach him to recognize letters and engage in learning I’d greatly appreciate them!
2024.05.29 04:42 FullofSeoul The reason for the Korean hate towards Eunchae: A targeted attack (and insight into Korean students)
Hello, FEARNOT passing by. I was lurking on the lesserafim where there was a post about how Eunchae in particular has been getting an alarming amount of hate and expressing concern.
In that post, I noticed that people kinda brushed passed the controversy of her teasing high school students as a non-issue (which, don't get me wrong, it definitely is), but I'd like to provide some cultural context because it was this specific moment that garnered the most hate for her among Korean kpop stans. Coachella doesn't even come close.
I want to explain why her comments generated so much outrage, and in particular, how her words were taken out of context and purposely made to sound so much worse.
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**The Situation (and the context)**
On a [3/17 Weverse ~11min](https://weverse.io/lesserafim/live/3-115327263), Eunchae made a bit of a joke where poked fun at students having to get up early, saying that "That must be hard~ I had to do that too at one point too~~" and the conversation then continues onward with the other members about how difficult it was to get up that early during their student days.
This was combined with [another live on 9/07 ~27min (though the context starts a few minutes prior)](https://weverse.io/lesserafim/live/3-132041098) with Kkura. In it, the two of the discuss conversations with their non-celebrity friends. Boomer Kkura tends to just talk or text, which surprises Eunchae, since she almost always prefers to facetime instead (don't worry Kkura, same). Kkura mentions that the first thing she asks her friends are, "you haven't gotten married yet right?" whereas Eunchae says that her friends have been recently talking about becoming high school seniors. That topic closes with Eunchae talking about a recent conversation she had video call she had with her close friend, who complained that she had to get up early, upon which Eunchae teased her and says, "I start at 11 tomorrow! Hella lucky~"
Maybe a bit of a crass joke in the first clip, but nothing too major, right?
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**The Attack (and the twisting of facts)**
This is where the usual suspects come in: Twitter.
Disclaimer: I'm going to be completely honest here. I don't follow Pann or FMKorea or all the other niche online communities except since the HYBE/MHJ situatio, but while researching this topic, I searched Eunchae's name on both sites to see how the situation unfolded (I can't really search theqoo very well because that site has the worst user-friendliness I've ever seen).
The situation blew up on **March 15th** (as far back as I can find), with [this Twitter post](https://x.com/chonnong_s/status/1768666838953771322) blowing up and a Pann post ([now deleted, restored w/ Wayback](https://web.archive.org/web/20240316113504/https://m.pann.nate.com/talk/372248533)).
(Note, regarding the deleted Pann post, it was referenced in this [YouTube video
](https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Hy4fINd3BME) by one of those trash drama Youtubers and had 150k+ views at the time of their video)
There were also some pretty weird posts on Pann around this time, [nitpicking her response in an EASY interview to say she thinks LSF was successful](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372255969) and spreading twitter posts of private documents to prove that she didn't get accepted to Hanlim (I will not be sharing this one.) Many comments at that point on Pann are still quite sympathetic to Eunchae, with the top comments defending her and telling the twitter bitches to go away (although the doxxing post still got 600+ upvotes and 300k+ views)
After this though, the narrative began to change, combining the clips above and turning it from Eunchae teasing students, to Eunchae teasing **High School Seniors**. And things began to take a huge shift.
After this began to spread, [March 23rd](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372282377), comments started to become more negative (example posts on [March 17th](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372257704?)) and [March 23rd](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372282377)).
Alright, I can hear you saying, students, high school students, so what?
---
**Korean Seniors and the Suneung**
If you're at all familiar with Korean culture, you know where I'm going with this.
The Suneung is the Korean equivalent of the American SAT, except it is so much more than that. If I had to explain it, the Suneung is your entire life. Imagine your college application, except screw your class grades, your extracurriculars, your letters of rec, your essay. The only thing that really matters is your SAT score.
It is a huge deal. The entire nation [BBC article](https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-46181240) falls silent on the day of the Suneung. Stores close, construction stops, traffic is redirected, the stock market opens late. On the day of the Suneung, there are no flights.
It happens 1 time a year. Just once. If you miss it or get a bad grade, you repeat a year just to get a chance to retake it.
And high school seniors carry all of that stress. They are studying for a test that is the culmination of their entire education and determines their entire future. There are many, many stories of students falling into deep depression, even after doing well on the Suneung, because studying for that test consumed them to the point that they don't know what to do after it's over. These students study in excess of 15 hours a day, from 7am to 10pm.
You do not touch high school seniors, ever. There is a saying that even parents tiptoe around their kids once the test date nears.
Also, keep in mind that the primary demographic for kpop are young adults. People that are in school, preparing for this test that they will eventually have to overcome. Some of those people might be repeating a year (or two or three or four) while studying for that test.
And so, when the narrative shifted from Eunchae teasing a close friend about having to get up early to Eunchae making fun of High School Seniors for having to get up early, things turned ugly quick.
And then Coachella happened. And then MHJ opened her big mouth. And you guys know the rest.
---
So that's my little story. I hope this provided some insight as to why it seems like the hate for Eunchae seemed so particularly loud on the Korean side, and how she suddenly switched from nearly universally loved to the opposite.
In conclusion, fuck Twitter yo.
P.S. Is this post worth posting on the kpopthoughts subreddit? I'm split because it provides context, but also this has kinda flown by international eyes and I don't really want to accidentally add fuel to the flame. LSF and Eunchae have it hard enough as it is.
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In that post, I noticed that people kinda brushed passed the controversy of her teasing high school students as a non-issue (which, don't get me wrong, it definitely is), but I'd like to provide some cultural context because it was this specific moment that garnered the most hate for her among Korean kpop stans. Coachella doesn't even come close.
I want to explain why her comments generated so much outrage, and in particular, how her words were taken out of context and purposely made to sound so much worse.
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**The Situation (and the context)**
On a [3/17 Weverse ~11min](https://weverse.io/lesserafim/live/3-115327263), Eunchae made a bit of a joke where poked fun at students having to get up early, saying that "That must be hard~ I had to do that too at one point too~~" and the conversation then continues onward with the other members about how difficult it was to get up that early during their student days.
This was combined with [another live on 9/07 ~27min (though the context starts a few minutes prior)](https://weverse.io/lesserafim/live/3-132041098) with Kkura. In it, the two of the discuss conversations with their non-celebrity friends. Boomer Kkura tends to just talk or text, which surprises Eunchae, since she almost always prefers to facetime instead (don't worry Kkura, same). Kkura mentions that the first thing she asks her friends are, "you haven't gotten married yet right?" whereas Eunchae says that her friends have been recently talking about becoming high school seniors. That topic closes with Eunchae talking about a recent conversation she had video call she had with her close friend, who complained that she had to get up early, upon which Eunchae teased her and says, "I start at 11 tomorrow! Hella lucky~"
Maybe a bit of a crass joke in the first clip, but nothing too major, right?
---
**The Attack (and the twisting of facts)**
This is where the usual suspects come in: Twitter.
Disclaimer: I'm going to be completely honest here. I don't follow Pann or FMKorea or all the other niche online communities except since the HYBE/MHJ situatio, but while researching this topic, I searched Eunchae's name on both sites to see how the situation unfolded (I can't really search theqoo very well because that site has the worst user-friendliness I've ever seen).
The situation blew up on **March 15th** (as far back as I can find), with [this Twitter post](https://x.com/chonnong_s/status/1768666838953771322) blowing up and a Pann post ([now deleted, restored w/ Wayback](https://web.archive.org/web/20240316113504/https://m.pann.nate.com/talk/372248533)).
(Note, regarding the deleted Pann post, it was referenced in this [YouTube video
](https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Hy4fINd3BME) by one of those trash drama Youtubers and had 150k+ views at the time of their video)
There were also some pretty weird posts on Pann around this time, [nitpicking her response in an EASY interview to say she thinks LSF was successful](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372255969) and spreading twitter posts of private documents to prove that she didn't get accepted to Hanlim (I will not be sharing this one.) Many comments at that point on Pann are still quite sympathetic to Eunchae, with the top comments defending her and telling the twitter bitches to go away (although the doxxing post still got 600+ upvotes and 300k+ views)
After this though, the narrative began to change, combining the clips above and turning it from Eunchae teasing students, to Eunchae teasing **High School Seniors**. And things began to take a huge shift.
After this began to spread, [March 23rd](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372282377), comments started to become more negative (example posts on [March 17th](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372257704?)) and [March 23rd](https://pann.nate.com/talk/372282377)).
Alright, I can hear you saying, students, high school students, so what?
---
**Korean Seniors and the Suneung**
If you're at all familiar with Korean culture, you know where I'm going with this.
The Suneung is the Korean equivalent of the American SAT, except it is so much more than that. If I had to explain it, the Suneung is your entire life. Imagine your college application, except screw your class grades, your extracurriculars, your letters of rec, your essay. The only thing that really matters is your SAT score.
It is a huge deal. The entire nation [BBC article](https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-46181240) falls silent on the day of the Suneung. Stores close, construction stops, traffic is redirected, the stock market opens late. On the day of the Suneung, there are no flights.
It happens 1 time a year. Just once. If you miss it or get a bad grade, you repeat a year just to get a chance to retake it.
And high school seniors carry all of that stress. They are studying for a test that is the culmination of their entire education and determines their entire future. There are many, many stories of students falling into deep depression, even after doing well on the Suneung, because studying for that test consumed them to the point that they don't know what to do after it's over. These students study in excess of 15 hours a day, from 7am to 10pm.
You do not touch high school seniors, ever. There is a saying that even parents tiptoe around their kids once the test date nears.
Also, keep in mind that the primary demographic for kpop are young adults. People that are in school, preparing for this test that they will eventually have to overcome. Some of those people might be repeating a year (or two or three or four) while studying for that test.
And so, when the narrative shifted from Eunchae teasing a close friend about having to get up early to Eunchae making fun of High School Seniors for having to get up early, things turned ugly quick.
And then Coachella happened. And then MHJ opened her big mouth. And you guys know the rest.
---
So that's my little story. I hope this provided some insight as to why it seems like the hate for Eunchae seemed so particularly loud on the Korean side, and how she suddenly switched from nearly universally loved to the opposite.
In conclusion, fuck Twitter yo.
P.S. Is this post worth posting on the kpopthoughts subreddit? I'm split because it provides context, but also this has kinda flown by international eyes and I don't really want to accidentally add fuel to the flame. LSF and Eunchae have it hard enough as it is.
2024.05.29 04:41 Low_Construction_757 My boyfriend doesn’t treat me the best, but I’m gaslighting myself
Ok before I even start, I don’t need there being any a**holes in the comments that will just say the obvious or be very judgmental. I need real genuine answers.
To try to summarize this, I met my boyfriend 3 years ago this month, it started off great then quickly took a toxic turn after 3 months in. We were on & off since then. I have never met his parents or family in general, & have only met a few of his friends. He’s never posted me nor even posted a hint of me. Has even gone to the extent of cropping out my hand from his story once. I will say I have mental disorders , such as BPD, severe anxiety etc that has put a toll on me in this relationship to the point that I became toxic & insecure & jealous. I was very unhealed and hadn’t put in the work to change so it was a constant back & forth battle w him as he was just as bad if not worse than me. His excuse for not taking me serious, making me his, introducing me to his family was that I am toxic & we can’t go more than a month w/o breaking up. He is very toxic himself & has said the most disgusting things to me during fights as well as cheated on me physically, been in a whole other relationship secretly. I have made mistakes but none that amount to his mistakes. I have a snappy attitude w him, I’ve messed up in the beginning (which what I was referring to in the beginning of this paragraph) such as, keeping tinder & getting advice from my very first ex on a number of occasions. (Which I know wasn’t ok) him and I were never official. We talked about exclusivity, but he never wanted to make me his. Hence why I kept my options opened. Till this day he uses all of that against me as if he hasn’t done me dirty 10x worse. I have had my faults, with an attitude problem w him, & other small immature things social media wise, Ex. When a guy would slide up on my stories, I’d say Ty but never would I continue the convo. But stuff like that adds up I’m aware. I have had my fair share of toxicity. I know I’m not innocent, but I can say that I’ve never done anything detrimental like he has. Never to the extent he’s gone. We broke up for almost half a year & just recently a month ago came back to one another. I have grown significantly, I’m not nearly as toxic or anxious as I once was, I’ve changed, I’ve put in the work, & it doesn’t seem like he has. He makes excuses as to why he can’t give me affection, or love Almost like he withholds it from me. Every time I bring something up that’s bothering me, he flies off the handle. He has an anger problem. Always has. Every time I bring up me meeting his family he gets so mad & says it’s bc of me. Bc he needs to know I’ll be here for the long run. But I’ve proven myself time after time that I’ve changed & can be better. I do everything I can for him. I cook, clean, feed his dogs, take them out & try to be a good support system for him as best I can. I’ve tried showing him I’ve grown & only want and adore him. I’ve tried loving him more and more and it’s never enough. I’ve matured and he’s even said that himself recently. He’s treated me like dog shit in the past, I won’t go into description mode,but now he’s treating me better, he just gets so angry if I bring anything up at all that bothers me, he calls it “bitching” “complaining” even if I approach him the right way instead of yelling or being combative. His excuse for not giving me affection or love was that he has a fight coming up (he’s an mma fighter) & is anxious and nervous & can’t give me that love rn. He got so mad. I’m just confused. He gives me the silent treatment & wants to end things over every argument.
So I guess what I’m asking is do I deserve this bc of my mistakes ? Is he right for this? Is he telling the truth about not wanting me to meet his family bc of our past toxicity? I’m gaslighting myself on & off, telling myself that I need to put up w this bc I’ve made mistakes too, & that I need to keep proving to him that I’m worth it & keep putting up with this?. Like I need to stick w it bc I owe him that. Idk how to explain it. I’m just so lost. He makes me sad & idk whether to stick it out or leave. I know I’m not perfect or innocent. That’s why I’m stuck.
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To try to summarize this, I met my boyfriend 3 years ago this month, it started off great then quickly took a toxic turn after 3 months in. We were on & off since then. I have never met his parents or family in general, & have only met a few of his friends. He’s never posted me nor even posted a hint of me. Has even gone to the extent of cropping out my hand from his story once. I will say I have mental disorders , such as BPD, severe anxiety etc that has put a toll on me in this relationship to the point that I became toxic & insecure & jealous. I was very unhealed and hadn’t put in the work to change so it was a constant back & forth battle w him as he was just as bad if not worse than me. His excuse for not taking me serious, making me his, introducing me to his family was that I am toxic & we can’t go more than a month w/o breaking up. He is very toxic himself & has said the most disgusting things to me during fights as well as cheated on me physically, been in a whole other relationship secretly. I have made mistakes but none that amount to his mistakes. I have a snappy attitude w him, I’ve messed up in the beginning (which what I was referring to in the beginning of this paragraph) such as, keeping tinder & getting advice from my very first ex on a number of occasions. (Which I know wasn’t ok) him and I were never official. We talked about exclusivity, but he never wanted to make me his. Hence why I kept my options opened. Till this day he uses all of that against me as if he hasn’t done me dirty 10x worse. I have had my faults, with an attitude problem w him, & other small immature things social media wise, Ex. When a guy would slide up on my stories, I’d say Ty but never would I continue the convo. But stuff like that adds up I’m aware. I have had my fair share of toxicity. I know I’m not innocent, but I can say that I’ve never done anything detrimental like he has. Never to the extent he’s gone. We broke up for almost half a year & just recently a month ago came back to one another. I have grown significantly, I’m not nearly as toxic or anxious as I once was, I’ve changed, I’ve put in the work, & it doesn’t seem like he has. He makes excuses as to why he can’t give me affection, or love Almost like he withholds it from me. Every time I bring something up that’s bothering me, he flies off the handle. He has an anger problem. Always has. Every time I bring up me meeting his family he gets so mad & says it’s bc of me. Bc he needs to know I’ll be here for the long run. But I’ve proven myself time after time that I’ve changed & can be better. I do everything I can for him. I cook, clean, feed his dogs, take them out & try to be a good support system for him as best I can. I’ve tried showing him I’ve grown & only want and adore him. I’ve tried loving him more and more and it’s never enough. I’ve matured and he’s even said that himself recently. He’s treated me like dog shit in the past, I won’t go into description mode,but now he’s treating me better, he just gets so angry if I bring anything up at all that bothers me, he calls it “bitching” “complaining” even if I approach him the right way instead of yelling or being combative. His excuse for not giving me affection or love was that he has a fight coming up (he’s an mma fighter) & is anxious and nervous & can’t give me that love rn. He got so mad. I’m just confused. He gives me the silent treatment & wants to end things over every argument.
So I guess what I’m asking is do I deserve this bc of my mistakes ? Is he right for this? Is he telling the truth about not wanting me to meet his family bc of our past toxicity? I’m gaslighting myself on & off, telling myself that I need to put up w this bc I’ve made mistakes too, & that I need to keep proving to him that I’m worth it & keep putting up with this?. Like I need to stick w it bc I owe him that. Idk how to explain it. I’m just so lost. He makes me sad & idk whether to stick it out or leave. I know I’m not perfect or innocent. That’s why I’m stuck.
2024.05.29 04:41 DrCalm 26 / GMT+2 /PC - LF friends to make a tight-knit friend group ^-^
Hiii everyone, my friend and I are looking for new people to play games with and to make a tight-knit friend group where we support eachother and spend time with eachother ^.^. We are variety gamers and we tend to jump between games we like so thats going to be a trend within this group. Also a plus is if you are talkative because we are a shy bunch and take our time getting to know people. We dont do horror or gory games with very specific exceptions, and we dont really play multiplayer FPS games (too much competitive spirit for our taste and toxicity). We are looking for open minded and chill and nice people (lgbtq+ friendly is a must). We are bit of completionists but also enjoy chill gameplay and we play for fun. We dont mind if anyone would be new to the games we already play since we are more than happy to introduce people to them. We tend to take our time with most games, take in the sights and explore, no rushing ^.^. Need people who have plenty of time to play games too since we play a lot and our sleep schedule can be all over the place.
We are also pretty heavy into MMORPGs so playing those is a must (even if we play them "casually" content wise, we tend to invest a lot of time into them, especially our main 3)
Sample of games we play atm:
Guild Wars 2 - an MMO where we achiev hunt, do open world stuff mainly and collect appereances etc. Its kind of our main game we always return to, especially for ingame events. Currently on a break after playing it a lot.
WoW - (currently on semi-break) where we also collect stuff, we like m+ (we plan on doing keys in next xpac, maybe some this last season too if we can find people) otherwise we do similar things as we do in GW2. We may or may not also try raiding in the game but it will highly depend on people around us and how new xpac ends up being since we are waiting on that one the most with all the QoL and so on.
FFXIV - Returned for current events and to catch up with the story to be ready for next xpac, we plan on playing for first month or two fully to experience launch and depending on how much fun we have with classes (new ones + old) and if we find friends to play with, might do Extreme trials but otherwise we are very casual, mostly playing game for all the casual content and a bit of socialising (since emotes in this games and characters are on point)
Grounded - one of the exceptions of somewhat horror games, we love this game and are itching to play it (we played it a lot) but we would like to have one to two more people to play it with for more fun and new experience
Minecraft - we also love this game and I run a private server for my friend and I and for whoever plays with us. Just like with grounded we are missing people to play it with for more fun, we have it lightly modded with mods we chose to enhance the vanilla experience + add some more fun things (like Twilight Forest). We take our time in here since we like to chill and do whatever we want (including just taking in the sights of the game)
Terraria - We played countless hours of base game and would love to have more people to play with, since my friend and I played over 400 hours together and we want to have fun with more people.
Rotwood - super fun roguelite game (we also like hades 2)
Stardew Valley - a little overwhelming but super cute game that has potential, we have not played it much yet
Overcooked 2- fun little game to play every now and then, makes us laugh a lot
We really like cute games too, like Slime Rancher 1,2, super auto pets etc. and games like Hollow Knight (our fav gave more or less) which unfortunately are not multiplayer, but gives a good idea of what other kind of games we like and are open to playing more than what we currently play.
DM me here if this caught your interest and sorry for the long post but I like being thorough so people know what they are getting into =^-^=
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We are also pretty heavy into MMORPGs so playing those is a must (even if we play them "casually" content wise, we tend to invest a lot of time into them, especially our main 3)
Sample of games we play atm:
Guild Wars 2 - an MMO where we achiev hunt, do open world stuff mainly and collect appereances etc. Its kind of our main game we always return to, especially for ingame events. Currently on a break after playing it a lot.
WoW - (currently on semi-break) where we also collect stuff, we like m+ (we plan on doing keys in next xpac, maybe some this last season too if we can find people) otherwise we do similar things as we do in GW2. We may or may not also try raiding in the game but it will highly depend on people around us and how new xpac ends up being since we are waiting on that one the most with all the QoL and so on.
FFXIV - Returned for current events and to catch up with the story to be ready for next xpac, we plan on playing for first month or two fully to experience launch and depending on how much fun we have with classes (new ones + old) and if we find friends to play with, might do Extreme trials but otherwise we are very casual, mostly playing game for all the casual content and a bit of socialising (since emotes in this games and characters are on point)
Grounded - one of the exceptions of somewhat horror games, we love this game and are itching to play it (we played it a lot) but we would like to have one to two more people to play it with for more fun and new experience
Minecraft - we also love this game and I run a private server for my friend and I and for whoever plays with us. Just like with grounded we are missing people to play it with for more fun, we have it lightly modded with mods we chose to enhance the vanilla experience + add some more fun things (like Twilight Forest). We take our time in here since we like to chill and do whatever we want (including just taking in the sights of the game)
Terraria - We played countless hours of base game and would love to have more people to play with, since my friend and I played over 400 hours together and we want to have fun with more people.
Rotwood - super fun roguelite game (we also like hades 2)
Stardew Valley - a little overwhelming but super cute game that has potential, we have not played it much yet
Overcooked 2- fun little game to play every now and then, makes us laugh a lot
We really like cute games too, like Slime Rancher 1,2, super auto pets etc. and games like Hollow Knight (our fav gave more or less) which unfortunately are not multiplayer, but gives a good idea of what other kind of games we like and are open to playing more than what we currently play.
DM me here if this caught your interest and sorry for the long post but I like being thorough so people know what they are getting into =^-^=
2024.05.29 04:41 bnesmithmi Consolidated Feedback about MoP: Remix (Please share your thoughts too!)
Hi everyone, there's a lot of tension around Remix and it's shortcomings, and I'd like to both consolidate feedback I've heard, as well as take a moment to appreciate the good things about Remix. Positive constructive feedback is just as important as negative constructive feedback, and there is a place for both in these types of discussions. Thank you for your time!
What Worked for Remix:
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What Worked for Remix:
- Remix has so much potential, and could/should become a staple for limited time events with other expansions using the information we have now.
- Reusing old content in a limited time event gives players a ton of stuff to do without requiring an excessive amount of developer resources. It also gives new players a chance to explore old content, and veteran players a chance to reminisce.
- This type of event is exactly what we need during the downtime between the current expansion and the next.
- Allowing players to more easily acquire rare or grindy collectibles long after an expansion released is great. Adding brand new collectibles is excellent, too! (The chicken backpack is top-notch)
- Using Remix as an alternative way to level characters before the next expansion, while getting players together to do it together, is brilliant.
- Being able to run dungeons, scenarios and raids even while not max level is great so that players can play together regardless of how long they've played Remix.
- Adding incentives to level alts, such as bonus Bronze when you reach level 50/60/70, is great, and there should be more incentives like those to keep the event populated throughout it's runtime (and worthwhile when it's over).
- Infinitely scaling power can be very fulfilling, if done correctly. It was a huge appeal for Remix to begin with!
- One-shotting bosses is fun (albeit a little cheesy), but only if everyone can participate.
- Keeping things simple with one currency in the form of Bronze is good, as long as acquisition rates are proportional to time/effort spent.
- Allowing players to fly immediately, giving players 36-slot bags and making inventory management largely trivial is excellent and should be standardized if Remix is to return.
- Prismatic gems are great as an additional layer to power progression and add choice in how you want to budget your stats.
- Cogwheel gems giving you access to other mobility tools from other classes is fantastic!
- Meta gems are fun and flashy, even if some are (much) better than others.
- Tinker gems are extremely cool and flashy, and the diversity in gems is great.
- I think it's safe to say that most people were extremely interested in the premise of Remix. If appropriate changes can be made to the game mode, should Remix return in the future, I think people will really look forward to it again.
- Power scaling is wildly disproportionate to player level and gear level. As you level up, you begin to be proportionally weaker to how you were doing 10 levels ago.
- Fresh level 70 characters are dramatically weaker and squishier than they should be in instanced content.
- Item level upgrades are way too expensive, and because they use the same currency as mounts, toys, etc. you often have to choose between power or collectibles in an event that wants you to have both.
- Gems are great as mentioned earlier, but they are burdensome without an add-on.
- Cloak power is not quite as account-wide as people were led to believe, and the account-wide scaling that does exist is underwhelming.
- Players who took advantage of frogs and similar grinds received so much Bronze that even with hotfixes, they are impossibly ahead of other players in terms of item level upgrades. Even with the cloak rollback, the power disparity is practically unchanged. My understanding is that most people don't care that players exploited the frogs, they just care that they will probably never catch up to them.
- Power scaling as you level up needs to be adjusted. You should feel like you're getting stronger as you level up, not weaker.
- Item upgrade prices should be dramatically reduced, and going forward there should be a second currency for just item level upgrades so you don't have to choose.
- Some sockets (particularly Tinker gems) should be equipped and managed differently, such as the old Glyph UI or in similar fashion to the Narcissus add-on.
- You should be able to trade gems account-wide. It's odd that you can trade them to other players, but you can't mail them to alts.
- Cloak power for alts should be completely account-wide for same-level characters. As it stands, two level 70 characters on your account do not fully share their cloak progression. Also, '+% Experience' should change to '+% Bronze' while you are level 70.
- Better oversight on potential farm spots before Remix launches, and quicker action being taken to prevent such a disproportionate gap between "froggers and non-froggers".
2024.05.29 04:40 Recrelator Serious question about suppressing men in the future
l really wanted to ask this thing here that I was thinking about for a couple of weeks now, I assume most of you here are familiar with the man vs bear thing that's been going on in every social media, and the whole "all men are gRapists", So I wanted to ask do any of you guys believe that in maybe 10 or 20 years from now the government or any other organization or radical feminism ideology will actually force young male students in schools to take pills to lower their libido so "they don't turn out to be gRapists in the future"? I mean I know it's kinda crazy but... If this anti male hatred continues and with the radical feminism agenda being pushed by the government and social media, and society as a whole I really don't think it's ENTIRELY impossible to see something like this happen, I mean obviously it's not gonna be exactly like how I described it but like some sort of suppressing men, because I also read an article about a really big political member from the UK that tried to pass a legislation that said men should have a curfew for specific hours of the day so women can feel safe, obviously it didn't pass, but I'm genuinely starting to worry about these types of things, so what do u guys believe?
(Also English is not my native language, sorry for any mistakes)
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(Also English is not my native language, sorry for any mistakes)
2024.05.29 04:39 Bubbly-Kitty-2425 Sick and depressed
Well after 4 years I managed to catch Covid. I tested positive Friday, so I’ve been home avoiding humanity. Trying not to spread the germs. (I’ve literally been shut up in my room since Thursday night.)
Yesterday was my birthday, I didn’t do anything unless you count gather trash, because I wanted it to go out. Didn’t want it sitting an entire extra week. I also mopped my bathroom floor after spilling cough medicine and did a single load of laundry. My bf says since I could do all that I should have been able to see him. (If I didn’t do it there is no one else who could!) I didn’t because I don’t want him sick. So he basically ignored me yesterday. Last night I broke down crying because I can’t hug and hold my cat. (I stay away from even my animals when sick.)
Today I feel like my temper is so short, the sound of my father’s walker (I take care of him) or his blaring tv or him coughing is driving me nuts. Or the fact he won’t cover his mouth! I almost have snapped at him for that. On top of that my anxiety and depression are acting up so bad. Idk if covid has any effect with that but each day it’s getting worse. Today I’ve cried several times. Just breaking down. I feel so alone, like nothing matters and no one cares. I know it’s my depression, but it’s really bad. My temper is getting so short I am afraid to even be around people. The smallest thing and I wanna shout! I feel like I’m on edge a ticking tomb bomb. Like I’ll either end up hurting myself or yelling and saying something that could hurt someone else.
I have like zero friends that are not online friends and if I had called my bf to come over I feel like he would somehow turn it into sex. Or I would end up loosing my temper for no reason and we would fight. Honestly I’ve hardly heard from my bf this entire time. I realize he’s not even asked one time how I am feeling.
I guess I just needed to rant to get it off my chest. Thanks for reading.
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Yesterday was my birthday, I didn’t do anything unless you count gather trash, because I wanted it to go out. Didn’t want it sitting an entire extra week. I also mopped my bathroom floor after spilling cough medicine and did a single load of laundry. My bf says since I could do all that I should have been able to see him. (If I didn’t do it there is no one else who could!) I didn’t because I don’t want him sick. So he basically ignored me yesterday. Last night I broke down crying because I can’t hug and hold my cat. (I stay away from even my animals when sick.)
Today I feel like my temper is so short, the sound of my father’s walker (I take care of him) or his blaring tv or him coughing is driving me nuts. Or the fact he won’t cover his mouth! I almost have snapped at him for that. On top of that my anxiety and depression are acting up so bad. Idk if covid has any effect with that but each day it’s getting worse. Today I’ve cried several times. Just breaking down. I feel so alone, like nothing matters and no one cares. I know it’s my depression, but it’s really bad. My temper is getting so short I am afraid to even be around people. The smallest thing and I wanna shout! I feel like I’m on edge a ticking tomb bomb. Like I’ll either end up hurting myself or yelling and saying something that could hurt someone else.
I have like zero friends that are not online friends and if I had called my bf to come over I feel like he would somehow turn it into sex. Or I would end up loosing my temper for no reason and we would fight. Honestly I’ve hardly heard from my bf this entire time. I realize he’s not even asked one time how I am feeling.
I guess I just needed to rant to get it off my chest. Thanks for reading.
2024.05.29 04:39 SlimeSpree Review with pics! Library of Slime/Pink Sugar Slimey/Oh my Slime/Lime Slime co.
 | Today a look at four slime stores. Let's go! submitted by SlimeSpree to Slime [link] [comments] The Library of Slime https://preview.redd.it/ben8h6qut93d1.jpg?width=2769&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b183e6946cb0f465ddd29bd309821ae1527c472d A wide range of prices from £4-12 depending on size and they also do bundles. The sizes range from 2-6oz. Beautifully designed waterproof labels. The box was very well packaged with foam peanuts to protect the contents and the utterly stunning glass slime jars had nice honeycomb cardboard protectors around them. Even the charms were beautifully packaged with one being in a little canvas bag. Included was a mini lemon hand towelette (what a great touch!) a card telling me my packaging is eco friendly (lovely to know) and a cute bookmark care card with a super sweet note on it. Upon unpacking, I found that Eliora (the head librarian 😁) had including an incredibly thoughtful gift in the way of delicious, high quality chocolate from a little company that shares my name! In the note it was mentioned that this was especially ordered just for me on account of being the first international customer 🥲 I was so deeply touched by this! It says a lot about the customer service and just how much care is put into customer satisfaction and enjoyment. The library/book aesthetic of the entire web-store and the slimes/jars is just spectacular. I have so much appreciation for slime stores who clearly put so much thought and love into everything they do, it really is a magical experience. One thing I love about slime is how it affords us the ability to turn our thoughts off and indulge in something that taps straight into our primal pleasure center, allowing us to leave the stresses and responsibilities of the world for a while. The library theme and how beautifully it’s all pulled off ramps that experience up for me. All I’ve done so far is open the box and I already feel like I’ve taken a trip to a whimsical bookstore in some Harry Potter-esq universe! 😆 I think they may also be the only slime store to use glass jars which makes them feel very high end.
I was worried I may have a struggle getting this slime out the jar but it slipped out into my hand nice and politely. It was a tiny bit sticky at first but a couple of puffs of activator sorted that out completely. The slime was very dense and super stretchy. It was very resistant but also very elastic and bouncy with no ripping. As you stretched you could feel the sand brush across your fingers but there was very little in the way of sand fallout. This has some unreal crackly sizzles when you inflate and then squeeze it. The crackles just keep coming and coming the more you squeeze. It does inflate a lot calling for a second jar for the excess. The packaging is stunning and, equally, so is the slime!
These look like real potatoes, they're utterly uncanny!! https://preview.redd.it/sytwljg8v93d1.jpg?width=1356&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2e8054f16d8493babc8fa4a78b4329fa76f221b0
https://preview.redd.it/yi940tvgv93d1.jpg?width=5854&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=965de6ae379ae8e06ed4e26f5dea98d5798e9a1f Every slimer has to try the Library of Slime at some point as it’s such a special and surreal experience! The essential oil scents were some of the classiest and most nuanced I have experienced, the textures are super entertaining, interesting and well made. I absolutely adored the clay potatoes which were mind bendingly realistic! The mini book charms are an amazing touch. This store really blurs the lines between art and sensory product. I have a love/hate relationship with the glass jars. On one hand they are very beautiful and make the product feel so special, it wasn’t hard to get the slime out of them in the least. On the other it is harder to get the slime back in the jar. I was having issues with air pockets and the narrower mouths. Of course it inflated a fair bit so usually I just put them in new jars of my own but I loved the aesthetic of the library jars and really wanted to get some slime back in there. I very tied because I wouldn’t want the library to swap to plastic but the glass does make things tricky. All in all I can’t wait to see what's in the next restock and had SO much fun visiting the library's beautiful and profoundly whimsical little world! We are always seeking for a new and novel experience when it comes to slime and this provides just that! 9.9/10 ............... Pink Sugar Slimey £11-13 for 7oz. Came very well packaged in super cute pink heart and white foam chips. Included is little organza bag with care card, activator and delicious lychee hard candy. The labels are not waterproof.
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Before and after the topper.
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https://preview.redd.it/ewdm2mv4x93d1.jpg?width=8288&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0761c38c0cfc7a00d67c92bc46dca6ba32d75806 These are some of the most incredible and utterly delicious scents I have come across on my slime spree, they go so well with the themes which are all so well thought out. Clearly, a lot of love and attention go into these slimes. Personally I found them to be a little on the loose side and a bit tricky to activate. It can be hard to ascertain whether this is by design or due to the warmer weather now we have hit the summer months. I always go for the fastest international shipping to minimise issues with melting and the slimes go in the fridge for 15-30 minutes prior to play. I am very much on board with Momo, Pilot, OG and others who slightly overactive their slime to avoid this. While I enjoy the odd jiggly slay, I prefer my slimes to be on the more holdable side so this is something I will keep in mind in future with Pink Sugar. Nonetheless these scents were spectacular and the thicker textures lovely! Waterproof labels would be a strong preference of mine, I did manage to get slime on one or two of these labels while photographing and that is always a real shame. 9.1/10 ...... Oh My Slime (Singapore) Came with borax, a care card and a couple of candies. Slimes come in 6 or 8oz for between around $10-14. The jars have anti leak inner caps which is a great shout. I hate opening the box to discover slime leaks and this keeps things so much tidier! The labels are nicely designed and waterproof.
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https://preview.redd.it/y9n2nia8y93d1.jpg?width=1348&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=69c8470ea11d9e386050a390051eb708d169d2e6 https://preview.redd.it/rffvecaay93d1.jpg?width=2890&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=54bdd9e9d7528acb8968775d854c2943637a622e
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https://preview.redd.it/wdhxrcoly93d1.jpg?width=5937&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b5952870a91b47b249631fe7353859df8b24ed2c This was a pretty disappointing experience, more so than anything because the themes were great, the charms gorgeous, the colours and scents really beautiful and I could tell the textures were well made and at some point gorgeous. It would have been less disappointing if the quality of the slimes was low and the scents/aesthetics mediocre. I would have understood if all the slimes were all the way in one direction or the other activation-wise but it was super weird to get one perfect slime (water slime no less, a typically temperamental texture) and the rest either totally deactivated or wildly over-activated to the point of being unstretchable. In light of this I am really scratching my head over giving Oh My Slime a rating that fairly represents their concoctions. I just got done reactivating slimes that arrived with me in a liquid state and it took a good 12 hours for them to settle into the consistency I like. Personally hate touching totally melted slime, it really gives me the ick which is amongst the many reasons why I have no wish to make my own slime. I keep my slime in a chiller so this is not typically an issue I commonly have as I go in with activator long before they turn back to glue. I would reactivate some of my favourites if they melted down slightly over time but I just lost heart for these sadly. I hear from a friend that their slays and clays are much better. On this occasion 6/10 on account of the great water slime and all the other redeemable factors such as jars/designs/excellent scents but I only had one slime I could play with out of the whole batch so I don’t think I will return with any enthisiasm. MAYBE for another thick water slime. ............ Lime Slimes Company Comes with care card and Borax. Waterproof labels with a lovely aesthetic. The jars are 8oz and priced from £12.15 to £15.39. Link to my previous review here.
Other than the tackiness, it was a nice and puffy, inflatable snow fizz with plenty of soft sizzles, soft finger, pokes, and soft pops. https://preview.redd.it/4vrlogvrz93d1.jpg?width=5827&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=95baa8b8379cf8b040c355770b4dbfe4203fbe74
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I don’t much like judging a slime that I have reconstituted nearly from scratch as it’s hard to know if it’s as the creator intended. That having been said, it is a very nice, creamy thickie with medium gloss. Lovely to pop and full of crackles. It has tiny bits of red flocking in it for a very pretty strawberry pulp effect. Top left is how it arrived. Top right is where I managed to get it to with activator (still sticky by rippy.) Bottom left is after it rested overnight. Much better but still not quite as great as my previous Oui which I bought a month ago (an up to date picture of that on the bottom right.) I am so tied over Lime Slimes. I love their scents and themes and when they are good they are great. However, this is not the first completely liquified slime I have received from them and it very much spoils the experience for me. Reading your reviews on this sub I see that I am not alone in having this issue with them but it seems to be quite hit and miss. I know they come from California so I would hazard a guess that the issue happens during shipping due to the heat, I doubt these left them in this condition. I always pay for the fastest international shipping to prevent this issue occurring and most slimes arrive with me in 2-4 days. The only completely melted US slimes I have received have been from Lime Slimes, I’ve never had anything more than a slightly tacky surface that calls for a squirt of activator from other US companies. Once again, I can only reiterate how much I appreciate it when a slime leaves a store a little over-activated! I hate rating slimes which are melted as it’s not really a representation of what the creator intended. I do love Lime's Oui line when not melted and may chance buying another one if a particularly interesting scent is released when mine dies but, ultimately, I won’t be returning to Lime Slimes Co. with any gusto, which is a real shame. I really feel drawn to them as I really love the themes, presentation, aesthetic and scents generally. However, it’s a very important factor to me that I receive my slimes in a play-ready condition as I hate having to reactivate them (to a texture that may not be quite right) and the feeling of sticky mess on my hands 6.5/10 ......... Thank you for reading! I'll be back soon to review Audeez and more Mythical Mushbunny, Rodem and Momo! Feel free to give me a follow so you don't miss the review 🩵😊 |
2024.05.29 04:39 dafrog84 Feelings of not belonging anywhere
So I've (39F) been dating a really nice person (50m) july will be a year. In this year he has invited me and my kids to church many time with him and his mother. His mom will not save us (my family) a seat then he will say no your going to sit with us (to his mom).
Well last weekend they have his niece (14f) with them. We get to church shortly after them, they were walking in as we were parking. My boyfriend asked for his mom to save our seats. She only saved one, but we would need 4. When we got to where she was sitting, his mom says i can sit somewhere else as this was a family outing. My boyfriend says no you move down. It's the same song and dance. Then they reluctantly scoot down when done moving, the niece looks right at me gives me a dirty looked followed by an eye roll. This was seen by me and my two kids. I tell my boyfriend we feel like a third wheel and not welcome in the family dynamic. My boyfriend tells me his niece would never do such a thing. My kids and i left, we went to a different church. I've cried myself to sleep every night since. I already have issues and feeling inadequate and not belonging. My boyfriend does a great job on his part to make me feel like i belong. But his mom has had it out for me since day one, she will always say something about my husband. Which i haven't been married to anyone in 3 years. She then goes on a rant about the Bible and how i should still be married and let her son be. This woman wants me to get back with a man who beat on my kids and i for years. now she has her granddaughter treating me like dog crap. I don't want to be disrespected by some little girl who can't have nice clothes because she cuts the shorts till her but and front are showing. Mind you i keep all this to my self on how she dresses. She has no respect for me or my kids. She has stolen from me, so i stated i don't want her left unattended in my house, that was the only thing i had said. This little girl also assaulted me with a salad fork last summer. Like for real stabbed me 6 times this was in December of last year. I feel like i want to just brake things off with my boyfriend because i can't handle this child. My boyfriend and i leave for a vacation here soon, we have been planning since last August everything is paid for as we had saved for this and planned it to a T. Idk if i should just break things off before hand or use this opportunity to let him know what it is doing to my mental state of having to deal with the disrespect from his mom and niece. The rest of the family is great btw.
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Well last weekend they have his niece (14f) with them. We get to church shortly after them, they were walking in as we were parking. My boyfriend asked for his mom to save our seats. She only saved one, but we would need 4. When we got to where she was sitting, his mom says i can sit somewhere else as this was a family outing. My boyfriend says no you move down. It's the same song and dance. Then they reluctantly scoot down when done moving, the niece looks right at me gives me a dirty looked followed by an eye roll. This was seen by me and my two kids. I tell my boyfriend we feel like a third wheel and not welcome in the family dynamic. My boyfriend tells me his niece would never do such a thing. My kids and i left, we went to a different church. I've cried myself to sleep every night since. I already have issues and feeling inadequate and not belonging. My boyfriend does a great job on his part to make me feel like i belong. But his mom has had it out for me since day one, she will always say something about my husband. Which i haven't been married to anyone in 3 years. She then goes on a rant about the Bible and how i should still be married and let her son be. This woman wants me to get back with a man who beat on my kids and i for years. now she has her granddaughter treating me like dog crap. I don't want to be disrespected by some little girl who can't have nice clothes because she cuts the shorts till her but and front are showing. Mind you i keep all this to my self on how she dresses. She has no respect for me or my kids. She has stolen from me, so i stated i don't want her left unattended in my house, that was the only thing i had said. This little girl also assaulted me with a salad fork last summer. Like for real stabbed me 6 times this was in December of last year. I feel like i want to just brake things off with my boyfriend because i can't handle this child. My boyfriend and i leave for a vacation here soon, we have been planning since last August everything is paid for as we had saved for this and planned it to a T. Idk if i should just break things off before hand or use this opportunity to let him know what it is doing to my mental state of having to deal with the disrespect from his mom and niece. The rest of the family is great btw.
2024.05.29 04:39 BroForceTowerFall Love for the Borderline
You, the embodiment of beauty and enigma, captivated my heart from the moment we met. Your jeweled eyes held galaxies within them, drawing me into your enchanting world where you were my everything. Somehow, you craved all of my body and soul, as the Sirens craved Odysseus. You were my duchess, and I was your man.
We didn’t know that we could pull the threads of our time apart. The intensity that drew us together eventually became the force that pulled us apart. In public, I was your Achilles; at home, I was merely his heel.
You convinced me that you were a damsel in distress, shackled by the morals of your family. When I whisked you away from them, my heel became all you could see. Your depression was yours to bear, but affected me so deeply for long, that they became my burden. You wanted all of me, my constant attention and adoration most of all. With so many burdens of perfection, how could I always keep my eyes on you?
You found your favorite tool for the seasons. Love and joy for Summer and Winter, the threat of divorce every Spring and Autumn. Each threat was an explosive planted at my foundation. I began to pull away. Each time, you cut another thread of our connection. You hated that I couldn’t adore you with every ounce of my being at every moment. I was willing to do anything for you, to give you the life you dreamed of, but it was never enough to fill the void you felt inside.
I hated transitioning from your lover to your caretaker, but I didn’t know how else to save you from yourself while protecting my idea of love and passion. The woman I adored, who once brought light to my life, slowly became a shadow of herself, consumed by her internal battles—and blocked the light in me that she treasured most of all.
You knew every pore of my heel by the end, every fear. I trusted you as Hafiz trusted his god. When you left, you inflicted every wound that I ever feared. For months, you let me blame myself for everything I could and more.
I thought too much about how you exited stage left instead of right. You would have let me torture myself forever. You never would have told me about him if I hadn’t guessed. You told him a similar story—you were a damsel in destress, and I was your captor. How could I blame him for believing your same beautiful performance I fell for?
I never thought I could become nothing to you. Just a resource, a reason that drives you through the your own ‘Prodigal Child’ story that you treasured so dearly. Who do you want to be there waiting to hug you at the end? You suddenly find my arms revolting. You will waste your beauty and our treasures until you must return, broken, to the embracing arms of the very father you ran from. You know the path you are creating will be filled with turmoil; take the shortcut for everyone's sake, my Gemini.
How can I get closure from a cryptic prophetess? How can I hold onto the memory of the girl I fell in love with? How can I see her instead of the stranger that left me in the most cruel, cold, cowardly way? How can the girl who made me laugh overshadow the girl who laughed at my tears? How can the girl who shared our dreams wake me from this nightmare she crafted?
I may rise like a Phoenix, but you stole half my ashes. Will you ever give them back?
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We didn’t know that we could pull the threads of our time apart. The intensity that drew us together eventually became the force that pulled us apart. In public, I was your Achilles; at home, I was merely his heel.
You convinced me that you were a damsel in distress, shackled by the morals of your family. When I whisked you away from them, my heel became all you could see. Your depression was yours to bear, but affected me so deeply for long, that they became my burden. You wanted all of me, my constant attention and adoration most of all. With so many burdens of perfection, how could I always keep my eyes on you?
You found your favorite tool for the seasons. Love and joy for Summer and Winter, the threat of divorce every Spring and Autumn. Each threat was an explosive planted at my foundation. I began to pull away. Each time, you cut another thread of our connection. You hated that I couldn’t adore you with every ounce of my being at every moment. I was willing to do anything for you, to give you the life you dreamed of, but it was never enough to fill the void you felt inside.
I hated transitioning from your lover to your caretaker, but I didn’t know how else to save you from yourself while protecting my idea of love and passion. The woman I adored, who once brought light to my life, slowly became a shadow of herself, consumed by her internal battles—and blocked the light in me that she treasured most of all.
You knew every pore of my heel by the end, every fear. I trusted you as Hafiz trusted his god. When you left, you inflicted every wound that I ever feared. For months, you let me blame myself for everything I could and more.
I thought too much about how you exited stage left instead of right. You would have let me torture myself forever. You never would have told me about him if I hadn’t guessed. You told him a similar story—you were a damsel in destress, and I was your captor. How could I blame him for believing your same beautiful performance I fell for?
I never thought I could become nothing to you. Just a resource, a reason that drives you through the your own ‘Prodigal Child’ story that you treasured so dearly. Who do you want to be there waiting to hug you at the end? You suddenly find my arms revolting. You will waste your beauty and our treasures until you must return, broken, to the embracing arms of the very father you ran from. You know the path you are creating will be filled with turmoil; take the shortcut for everyone's sake, my Gemini.
How can I get closure from a cryptic prophetess? How can I hold onto the memory of the girl I fell in love with? How can I see her instead of the stranger that left me in the most cruel, cold, cowardly way? How can the girl who made me laugh overshadow the girl who laughed at my tears? How can the girl who shared our dreams wake me from this nightmare she crafted?
I may rise like a Phoenix, but you stole half my ashes. Will you ever give them back?
2024.05.29 04:38 No_Literature_9785 I need some advice.. 28M and 27F. She had. secret lover behind my back. Is there anyway to fix the relationship ?
Im 28 M and she is 27F. We started dating in early 2017. I was a single dad when she met me and we clicked right away. Unfortunately I didn’t have proper boundaries set with my babymomma which caused my relationship with my new gf to become difficult and stressful. I did set boundaries and I was showing her that I was focused on her and my kid and no one else. We were good for a while. About two years went by and at this point we are together like she is my girl my rock my partner. Unfortunately her and I did have problems. We would argue over simple stuff and we both had some anger issues we were working on. At the end of 2019 she chose to take a break and left me but not really left me. Her and I would still go and spend everyday together after she made her choice to take a break. So that kinda messed with my head and in my heart I knew I wanted to be with her so I did whatever I could to be with her. She felt the same way but she put restrictions on me. I wouldn’t be able to hug her or hold her hand. She would tell me we aren’t together remember that. Even on new years we spent it together I went for a new years kiss like how we did the year before but she refused. It was my first time dealing with something like this. So I chose to just keep it going hopefully one day her and I get back together. She’ll see that I’m working on myself ti be the very best version of me for her. Fast forward to march of 2020. She is having me drop her off earlier and earlier at her house. Then one day I went on. Her instagram. I trusted her so I wouldn’t check her stuff. But this time I did I checked her tagged photos and right there was a picture of her with some guy hugging and kissing. Caption read” Loml❤️” I lost it. I called her she didn’t answer I told her I knew what was up and that she had a new bf. I told her thanks for lying and making me think I’m the problem. Her response was “I’m not doing this right now. I’m going ti block you”. She called me the next day asking if we could talk. Of course I went and talked to her. Before I knew it. Her and I were hanging out like normal again. Except this time I would drop her off early and we were back to having sex. She would still go and be with the other guy at night but during the day she was with me. That lasted till may when her guy found out that she was still hooking up with me and spending all this time with me. They broke up and her and I got back together. Crazy so far right.? It gets crazier. Fast forward a year later to my 26 birthday , we are still together. We live in our house we have two cats and very stable financially we had just came back from our first vacation. Things were great except for that day we celebrated my birthday and I was working the night shift so I took her to her moms house for her to visit and I would pick her up after. She gets out the car and leaves her phone. I notice right away but she’s already inside. Her phone receives a notification. It’s a Snapchat , I thought it’s her best friend then I look it closely and see it’s just a face emoji. I immediately open it and it was a guy she had been talking ti behind my back. And not only was she talking to him but they were having full on sex talks and nudes where sent and saved. I saw it all. She was calling him names like babe or daddy or papi. I scrolled all the way as much as I could. It stretched all the way back to 2017. Then I realized this kid was the one that she would tell me she was talking to but as friend and nothing more. She told me this 2018. I was naive and trusted her. She came in the car for her phone but instead I showed her what I found out. She said it was all fake and none of that meant anything to her. Clearly at this point I know she’s lying even more but I still chose to work things out. We did work things out and remained together. But now I have trust issues that I’m working past. Fast forward to 2023 October to be exact. We broke up because we were having financial issues and our anger was getting a bit out of hand. But we still saw each other every single day after that. About a month in she began to act differently. She would not let me touch her iPad while to switch to new shows to watch or to scroll on YouTube for us to watch anew video or whatever we wanted to watch. I would call her out on her behavior and tell her she is acting sneaky. She denied and denied said I was tripping. Okay so at this point I know something is up. That’s when she gave me the phone I had bought her back after she got herself her own phone. I get the phone and decided to download Snapchat and instagram. And before I could even blink I see that the phone saved her login info. I had two choices look through her stuff or erase it not invade her privacy. I chose to look through her snap first and right away I see 5 different guys Snapchating with her. At the very top was the guy she had been talking to since 2017 the same guy I caught her up on my birthday. She was planning a vacation to go see him. The guy is stationed in Tokyo he’s a marine. She was telling me she was going to Mexico. But in reality she was leaving to Tokyo and I just had to be ok with it. She gave me a blowjob literally the day I confronted her about it. She was leaving to spend valentines week with him. And she did leave. When she came back she tried to talk to me but I was in shambles. My heart was broken. eventually I gave in and said yeah let’s hangout. Before I knew it we were spending everyday together again and we were behaving like a couple again. But then came reality hitting me hard. I was using her iPad earlier this month and I went on her calendar to figure out a date for us to go on a trip. When I opens the app I saw may 31st listed as Tokyo trip. She was leaving once again at the end of the month and wouldn’t be back till June 7th. My world once again came crashing down. She said sorry but was still going and she tried to say she is doing it because she wanted to travel. It’s all bs on my mind because her and I could’ve traveled anywhere we wanted to. Now it’s the week of her leaving and she tells me that when she comes back we’ll work on being together again. I know it sounds like I’m an idiot and rightfully so. My actions of taking her back over and over have made it be ok for her to do this. I’m confused and pretty messed up in the head that I don’t know what to do or how to handle any of this anymore. Is it better to just leave and work on myself without her anymore or stay and wait for her ?
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2024.05.29 04:38 teddyan I(29F)recently found out that my bf(29M) has been constantly seeing his ex situationship during the first few months of our relationship. How do I rebuild the trust in our relationship?
I am in a tough spot right now. I moved in to my boyfriend’s apt 3 months ago(I don’t pay rent). I graduated in December and I’m currently looking for a job right now so I can’t afford my own place.
History: I met my bf on a dating app and have been going out with him since June of last year. He said he’s never been in a relationship before and hasn’t been serious with anyone. It started as something casual but he wanted sexual exclusivity from the very beginning. It was great. We went along well and I enjoyed spending time with him. He asked me to be his gf in September and since then I stopped going on dates with other people. I understand that he might be seeing other people before this but nothing romantic or sexual. Since then, things have been going really well between us and I even started considering him to be the one (He said I’m the one for him and asked me if I would meet his parents sometime in the future). We do everything together, my friends like him and I’ve met most of his friends too. Although it did seem a bit soon, we’ve been on vacation(domestic and short) twice and it was great knowing how compatible we are. He is also the most supportive bf, he has been helping me look for a job and he assures me when I’m feeling burnt out with job hunting. His love language is acts of service and he will do anything if it makes me happy. I was in a very secure and happy relationship, or I thought so.
Fast forward to now: I had my doubts from a message he sent his best friend back in October(he showed it to me by mistake) and I decided to snoop around. It was the worst mistake ever. I don’t know how to feel cause it made me feel like everything is a lie. I didn’t go through his messages so I don’t know the details, but I know enough that he had a gf/situationship and he was still going out with her, at least till November. I also know she has blocked him. I brought it up with him (the text he sent his friend) and asked him why he was seeing other people and he straight up lied to my face. Maybe he was nervous and didn’t want to ruin what we have right now but I feel like he was gaslighting me during the whole conversation. He said he was seeing her till October but just for coffee and the whole conversation is just her berating him about his looks/job(private equity) and telling him how many guys she’s seeing at the moment who is better than him. I couldn’t tell him that I know for sure he went to dinner with her several times because of the way I found out. She also visited his apt till November but idk how frequent because we’ve been hanging out almost everyday at that point and I also had some of my stuff at his place. For context, he had told me before he went to Europe for work + vacation by himself last January (before I met him) but I found out that he actually went with her. Right now I want to focus on my job search and don’t want to deal with any of this(possibly leaving him and finding a new place to stay). Idk how to move forward. A part of me feels I should just forget I ever found out anything and continue focusing on my job search. I did consider leaving him but I can’t afford to do that rn because of my priorities. Is something like this forgivable? Also, is it worth bringing this topic up again? I know it’s been a while but it’s bothering me how he lied to me throughout our relationship. I just want him to admit to it.
TLDR: I(29F)recently found out that my bf(29M) has been constantly seeing his ex situationship during the first few months of our relationship. I don’t know to rebuild the trust in our relationship.
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History: I met my bf on a dating app and have been going out with him since June of last year. He said he’s never been in a relationship before and hasn’t been serious with anyone. It started as something casual but he wanted sexual exclusivity from the very beginning. It was great. We went along well and I enjoyed spending time with him. He asked me to be his gf in September and since then I stopped going on dates with other people. I understand that he might be seeing other people before this but nothing romantic or sexual. Since then, things have been going really well between us and I even started considering him to be the one (He said I’m the one for him and asked me if I would meet his parents sometime in the future). We do everything together, my friends like him and I’ve met most of his friends too. Although it did seem a bit soon, we’ve been on vacation(domestic and short) twice and it was great knowing how compatible we are. He is also the most supportive bf, he has been helping me look for a job and he assures me when I’m feeling burnt out with job hunting. His love language is acts of service and he will do anything if it makes me happy. I was in a very secure and happy relationship, or I thought so.
Fast forward to now: I had my doubts from a message he sent his best friend back in October(he showed it to me by mistake) and I decided to snoop around. It was the worst mistake ever. I don’t know how to feel cause it made me feel like everything is a lie. I didn’t go through his messages so I don’t know the details, but I know enough that he had a gf/situationship and he was still going out with her, at least till November. I also know she has blocked him. I brought it up with him (the text he sent his friend) and asked him why he was seeing other people and he straight up lied to my face. Maybe he was nervous and didn’t want to ruin what we have right now but I feel like he was gaslighting me during the whole conversation. He said he was seeing her till October but just for coffee and the whole conversation is just her berating him about his looks/job(private equity) and telling him how many guys she’s seeing at the moment who is better than him. I couldn’t tell him that I know for sure he went to dinner with her several times because of the way I found out. She also visited his apt till November but idk how frequent because we’ve been hanging out almost everyday at that point and I also had some of my stuff at his place. For context, he had told me before he went to Europe for work + vacation by himself last January (before I met him) but I found out that he actually went with her. Right now I want to focus on my job search and don’t want to deal with any of this(possibly leaving him and finding a new place to stay). Idk how to move forward. A part of me feels I should just forget I ever found out anything and continue focusing on my job search. I did consider leaving him but I can’t afford to do that rn because of my priorities. Is something like this forgivable? Also, is it worth bringing this topic up again? I know it’s been a while but it’s bothering me how he lied to me throughout our relationship. I just want him to admit to it.
TLDR: I(29F)recently found out that my bf(29M) has been constantly seeing his ex situationship during the first few months of our relationship. I don’t know to rebuild the trust in our relationship.
2024.05.29 04:37 ImAMonkeyyy My uncle is crazy (has cte) and my grandmother is going cenile
I was just thinking about how my grandmother has been treating me. She hints at accusing me of being a psycho murderer. It’s all because my uncle is in her ear and taking bad about me and painting me in a bad light as revenge for calling out their shitty behaviour. A few months ago I was visiting them (my uncle often sleeps at his moms/my grandmothers house for some reason) and he was yelling about how his boss isn’t paying him enough money and saying that he wants to go and take his gun out and threaten him or maybe even kill him. This isn’t the first time he’s done this either. He’s ranted about killing others before too, or just threatening them by pulling his gun out and slamming it on their desk to show that he means business or something. This time in particular I watched him pace his moms kitchen and intimidate his mom into being kind of quiet while she cooked dinner for us. I thought “oh maybe after he eats he’ll calm down”. But nope, I watched him eat a plate of food and then push it away from him like a spoiled child, and then continue talking that way. I contacted my grandmother afterwards and mentioned this stuff and she said “oh he’s just mad because his pay is coming in late and he’s really broke right now” My grandmother is an enabler. It’s up to her children to decide to grow up on their if thats what they want, otherwise she’ll always be there to enable them and their bad behaviour. The next week I went over and was upset about some of the people who harmed me in my life. My uncle tells me “I find the best way to deal with these kinds of people is to just kill then with kindness. Just be nice to them and they won’t know what to do” and I told him I didn’t want to hear any of that from him because just last week he was yelling about killing people. He kinda looked away from me and looked at his mom with his head down and said “only some people…”
Now whenever I talk to my gram she hints that she doesn’t want anyone in her family to ever kill anyone and one time she brought up hannibal lecter to me, almost as if she was insinuating that I’m a sick psychopath like him. I’m sure this is because my uncle is telling her stuff like that he thinks I’m a psycho or something. He’s just mad because I called out his bullshit. And I said that his mom is an enabler. So it’s like he’s trying his best to mess with me.
He already ruined the relationship with me and my gram by getting jealous all the time. We were cooking great meals last year and it pissed him off and he got really jealous. He woukd downplay our dishes that we made and then when he tried copying me I watched him yell at his mom and kick her out of her own kitchen so that he could cook a really shitty macaroni and hamburg dish. He’s an imbecile. But my gram is too cenile to see through any of this.
I have a feeling that he’s going to try to sabotage my career if it starts taking off. In which case I’m going to go to the police and tell them that he’s a dangerous guy and shouldn’t be allowed to have any weapons. And I’ll tell his boss that he was talking about killing him. I know how it sounds, your probably thinking that I should do that now anyways. But I think he’s just going to flip out and go psycho if I do that, and it might bother my grandmother. But maybe thats the right thing to do. Maybe I could somehow put in an anonymous tip, telling them how he’s been acting adn to warn his boss that someones making threats to his life.
I feel like talking to my gram and saying that I won’t be talking to her from now on for tge rest of her life because of how she’s been treating me and accusing me of everything and ony listening to my uncle. She probably won’t care. But I feel like telling her how my uncle has been acting and warning her that if he does anything to mess with me and my future then I’m going straight to the police and his boss and telling them everything.
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Now whenever I talk to my gram she hints that she doesn’t want anyone in her family to ever kill anyone and one time she brought up hannibal lecter to me, almost as if she was insinuating that I’m a sick psychopath like him. I’m sure this is because my uncle is telling her stuff like that he thinks I’m a psycho or something. He’s just mad because I called out his bullshit. And I said that his mom is an enabler. So it’s like he’s trying his best to mess with me.
He already ruined the relationship with me and my gram by getting jealous all the time. We were cooking great meals last year and it pissed him off and he got really jealous. He woukd downplay our dishes that we made and then when he tried copying me I watched him yell at his mom and kick her out of her own kitchen so that he could cook a really shitty macaroni and hamburg dish. He’s an imbecile. But my gram is too cenile to see through any of this.
I have a feeling that he’s going to try to sabotage my career if it starts taking off. In which case I’m going to go to the police and tell them that he’s a dangerous guy and shouldn’t be allowed to have any weapons. And I’ll tell his boss that he was talking about killing him. I know how it sounds, your probably thinking that I should do that now anyways. But I think he’s just going to flip out and go psycho if I do that, and it might bother my grandmother. But maybe thats the right thing to do. Maybe I could somehow put in an anonymous tip, telling them how he’s been acting adn to warn his boss that someones making threats to his life.
I feel like talking to my gram and saying that I won’t be talking to her from now on for tge rest of her life because of how she’s been treating me and accusing me of everything and ony listening to my uncle. She probably won’t care. But I feel like telling her how my uncle has been acting and warning her that if he does anything to mess with me and my future then I’m going straight to the police and his boss and telling them everything.
2024.05.29 04:36 lavalj91 My girlfriend's parents are asking us for money to help them financially
Sorry for the title that does not say much about the whole situation, but here it goes... (tl;dr at the end)
My girlfriend and I purchased her parents’ home in the city two and a half year ago. They sold us the house at a favorable price for $440K (say, 25% below market value) for two main reasons.
First of all, they were going into (semi-)retirement in their early-mid 50s, and their dream was to go live the rest of their lives up north in their chalet. They wanted peace of mind and did not want to rent the house or have anything to do with it anymore. It was assumed that they (or at least one of them) would still be working, albeit much less stressful (and lower paying) jobs.
Secondly, at the time, my girlfriend and I had relatively modest salaries and we lived in a small apartment basically throwing money out of the window, and they wanted to give us a chance to own our first home, for which we are very thankful for.
However, because we both had below average salaries, the banks would not grant us a mortgage as high as we needed to purchase the house. Therefore, we discussed this with her parents, and we verbally agreed that we would get a mortgage as high as we could ($360K), and we would have to pay off the difference of $80K over time to them without any pre-established deadline, and we wouldn’t have to pay anything on the short term.
Eventually, after a year in the house, we all discussed this again, and agreed that we would be comfortable “reimbursing” them $800 a month.
This was going well for a year, but then they started running into money troubles… I don't believe it was related to any specific event, they just realized over time that their savings were running out much faster than expected, and my girlfriend’s father was the only one with an income during those two and a half years, and that’s with an erratic schedule… so he asked us to help him financially without telling his wife.
At first, he asked us if we could give him $5K while he was waiting for the busy season at his job to start, which we agreed to do. Then a month and a half later, he asked us again for an additional $5K because the season was not as busy as he expected, and we also accepted… and then two months later (yesterday…), he asked us for $4K because he had to go to the vet urgently for one of his cats who had to have surgery to save her life… it was agreed that the amounts we pay him will go against our debt.
But now, I am a bit lost on what to do…
On one hand, during those two and a half year, my partner and I are at a much better place financially, as we both almost doubled our salaries. We also have a good amount leftover at the end of each month, but not enough to continue paying him an additional several thousand dollars like this every 2 months…
On the other hand, this is still money we owe them and we intend to honor the repayment over time... We never signed anything on that $80K, no established deadline, etc. They also have many expensive “toys”, like a pontoon and another boat, snowmobiles, four wheelers, etc. most of them being fairly recent, and costing them quite a bit of money on insurance, maintenance, etc.
We could technically ask for a loan at the bank for the $60K that is currently remaining and give it to him, but… we got our mortgage at a bit under 2% interest rate, and with today’s rates I suppose it would be between 6.5% to 12%... at best, that would mean paying 2x that amount over the course of 25 years…
Also, while I do not know the exact amount they have, I believe they have money in their RRSP but they refuse to take it out, as their “real” retirement is in 7-8 years… Then again, his wife does not know anything about this precarious situation to this day. I believe he’s too proud to tell her that they have financial problems.
tl;dr : my girlfriend and I currently owe her parents $60K without any pre-established deadline following a verbal agreement when we purchased their house (we also have a mortgage). We agreed to pay them $800 a month, but my girlfriend's father asked us twice for an additional unexpected $5Ks since the beginning of the year, which we paid him... His wife doesn't know anything about these additional unexpected amounts and their precarious financial situation, and I am unsure how to proceed as he now asks us to pay him another $4K, which is hard financially on us...
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My girlfriend and I purchased her parents’ home in the city two and a half year ago. They sold us the house at a favorable price for $440K (say, 25% below market value) for two main reasons.
First of all, they were going into (semi-)retirement in their early-mid 50s, and their dream was to go live the rest of their lives up north in their chalet. They wanted peace of mind and did not want to rent the house or have anything to do with it anymore. It was assumed that they (or at least one of them) would still be working, albeit much less stressful (and lower paying) jobs.
Secondly, at the time, my girlfriend and I had relatively modest salaries and we lived in a small apartment basically throwing money out of the window, and they wanted to give us a chance to own our first home, for which we are very thankful for.
However, because we both had below average salaries, the banks would not grant us a mortgage as high as we needed to purchase the house. Therefore, we discussed this with her parents, and we verbally agreed that we would get a mortgage as high as we could ($360K), and we would have to pay off the difference of $80K over time to them without any pre-established deadline, and we wouldn’t have to pay anything on the short term.
Eventually, after a year in the house, we all discussed this again, and agreed that we would be comfortable “reimbursing” them $800 a month.
This was going well for a year, but then they started running into money troubles… I don't believe it was related to any specific event, they just realized over time that their savings were running out much faster than expected, and my girlfriend’s father was the only one with an income during those two and a half years, and that’s with an erratic schedule… so he asked us to help him financially without telling his wife.
At first, he asked us if we could give him $5K while he was waiting for the busy season at his job to start, which we agreed to do. Then a month and a half later, he asked us again for an additional $5K because the season was not as busy as he expected, and we also accepted… and then two months later (yesterday…), he asked us for $4K because he had to go to the vet urgently for one of his cats who had to have surgery to save her life… it was agreed that the amounts we pay him will go against our debt.
But now, I am a bit lost on what to do…
On one hand, during those two and a half year, my partner and I are at a much better place financially, as we both almost doubled our salaries. We also have a good amount leftover at the end of each month, but not enough to continue paying him an additional several thousand dollars like this every 2 months…
On the other hand, this is still money we owe them and we intend to honor the repayment over time... We never signed anything on that $80K, no established deadline, etc. They also have many expensive “toys”, like a pontoon and another boat, snowmobiles, four wheelers, etc. most of them being fairly recent, and costing them quite a bit of money on insurance, maintenance, etc.
We could technically ask for a loan at the bank for the $60K that is currently remaining and give it to him, but… we got our mortgage at a bit under 2% interest rate, and with today’s rates I suppose it would be between 6.5% to 12%... at best, that would mean paying 2x that amount over the course of 25 years…
Also, while I do not know the exact amount they have, I believe they have money in their RRSP but they refuse to take it out, as their “real” retirement is in 7-8 years… Then again, his wife does not know anything about this precarious situation to this day. I believe he’s too proud to tell her that they have financial problems.
tl;dr : my girlfriend and I currently owe her parents $60K without any pre-established deadline following a verbal agreement when we purchased their house (we also have a mortgage). We agreed to pay them $800 a month, but my girlfriend's father asked us twice for an additional unexpected $5Ks since the beginning of the year, which we paid him... His wife doesn't know anything about these additional unexpected amounts and their precarious financial situation, and I am unsure how to proceed as he now asks us to pay him another $4K, which is hard financially on us...
2024.05.29 04:36 RiverProfessional911 Worn out from trying
I'm just worn out. I feel like I have all the difficulties of a relationship with none of the benefits. Divorce would be too messy and expensive, I'd still have to support him and he would be even more difficult from afar. He isn't kind and doesn't love me. He finds a way to ruin my birthday and holidays. I think he gets guilty that he forgot or didn't do anything for me so he'll find a way to start a fight so he can be off the hook.
Bedroom life is completely dead. I used to try and initiate things but he would always make comments about how he didn't like something so my confidence went out the window. Yes, he has low T and has been taking meds for it for years with no change but increased anger and irritation. He doesn't initiate anything at all. He refuses therapy either individually or as a couple. Says he doesn't like me and won't hang out with me.
I'm so close to cheating, if I wasn't so self conscious I think I would. I went on a work trip and in my head I thought 'I could do anyone I wanted and he wouldn't know.' It took all my self control not to do anything. Ugh, I want so badly to be wanted, to be in a good relationship and to be loved.
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Bedroom life is completely dead. I used to try and initiate things but he would always make comments about how he didn't like something so my confidence went out the window. Yes, he has low T and has been taking meds for it for years with no change but increased anger and irritation. He doesn't initiate anything at all. He refuses therapy either individually or as a couple. Says he doesn't like me and won't hang out with me.
I'm so close to cheating, if I wasn't so self conscious I think I would. I went on a work trip and in my head I thought 'I could do anyone I wanted and he wouldn't know.' It took all my self control not to do anything. Ugh, I want so badly to be wanted, to be in a good relationship and to be loved.
2024.05.29 04:36 Sea-Print2057 AITA for choosing my happiness over my mom?
I decided to do an colorguard last year which took up a TON of time and driving for my parents since we live 15-ish mins away from the school. Our band is pretty good as well, which kind of made things worse as we made it to finals most of the time in competitions. I’ll be honest, I forged her signature on the form last year because I wasn’t sure how to ask her and kind of just said I was going to do guard without informing her of the dates because she’d say no. I know that was wrong on my part looking back.
I asked to do it again this upcoming year for senior year and she was adamant about her no and told me if my dad can take me it’s up to him. He’s a truck driver and isn’t here most the time however but has been able to take me for our training/camp this week.
I know i’ll need her rides later on and she isn’t willing to help, but also won’t let me get a car or buy my own. We’ve always had issues but this obviously will only drive us further away from each other. We’ve never been on good terms for more than a week, and I know it’s selfish but i’ll pick my happiness over fixing our relationship because that won’t work.
Guard is the only things that’s truly helped with my depression and i’m actually good at something for once and she doesn’t want me in it. P.S please don’t call me a selfish brat, this is the first time i’ve ever chosen myself and I deeply care about others most the time.
Edit: It’s not about rides, according to her it’s about me learning my lesson. I’ve literally never gotten anything big I wanted like this from her. And she won’t let me drive until after HS. I truly understand it’s difficult for her, but she makes everything a sob story and about herself. I can’t live with anymore it’s exhausting for her and I.
AITA for choosing my happiness over my relationship with my mom?
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I asked to do it again this upcoming year for senior year and she was adamant about her no and told me if my dad can take me it’s up to him. He’s a truck driver and isn’t here most the time however but has been able to take me for our training/camp this week.
I know i’ll need her rides later on and she isn’t willing to help, but also won’t let me get a car or buy my own. We’ve always had issues but this obviously will only drive us further away from each other. We’ve never been on good terms for more than a week, and I know it’s selfish but i’ll pick my happiness over fixing our relationship because that won’t work.
Guard is the only things that’s truly helped with my depression and i’m actually good at something for once and she doesn’t want me in it. P.S please don’t call me a selfish brat, this is the first time i’ve ever chosen myself and I deeply care about others most the time.
Edit: It’s not about rides, according to her it’s about me learning my lesson. I’ve literally never gotten anything big I wanted like this from her. And she won’t let me drive until after HS. I truly understand it’s difficult for her, but she makes everything a sob story and about herself. I can’t live with anymore it’s exhausting for her and I.
AITA for choosing my happiness over my relationship with my mom?
2024.05.29 04:35 crackfan666 first time having sex
So a bit of a TIFU story for you guys so a few weeks ago I met this girl from tinder and she was OK looking and absolutely DTF I mean absolutely Down she was dirty talking me n shit over Snapchat
I'd never even tried to have sex before so obv I didn't have condoms so I went to the store and bought the spermicidal lubricant kind thinking I could kill two birds with one stone like what if I make her pussy dry by drinking my water too fast or something and also I definitely wanna kill all the sperms
so I got her on the couch we're watching some dumb Shit Netflix comedy she's resting on the left side of my chest n can obv feel my heart beating heavy I see her look down at my hard dick in my pants so I get to work makeout for a bit then she starts blowing me
It's going good she's blowing me and my dog is in the corner watching and he starts moaning and yelping so I grab a the pillow I was resting on and throw it at him and yell "stop being a faggot" which sorta killed the vibe
So I was like "yeah we should prob just fuck" and she agreed so she's standing by my bed and I have to tell her to take her fkn clothes off and get on there like she didn't know what to do and I'm naked with my socks on trying to hide my ass hair from her while also looking in my sock drawer for my condoms I bought earlier
Now I'd never put a condom on before so I took the condom n put it on best as I possibly knew how
I fucked her for a good 30 mins cause I'm a beast and i was straight slamming her head into my bed board finally I orgasmed n then we went again but I didn't get off the second time n had to jack off in the bathroom
So all is well she leaves I say see ya. Then I looked up a vid on how to put on a condom because I thought maybe mine was too tight or something while I was fucking, and my heart absolutely sank.
I put the condom over my balls and not my penis. I thought you were supposed to tie off your balls so the sperms couldn't leave and go down your penis. It all made sense. I was sorta iffy about the lubricant I was like what am I supposed to do swipe the line off with my fingers and apply it to my dick by hand, and that's what I did while fucking the girl. I would swipe some lube from the condom around my ballsack and put it on my penis.
So that was almost a month ago and then just other day when I was pissing it burned real bad and when my piss hit the water it looked like those nature docs where they go into murky water n the soot gets kicked up and thrown everywhere when a fish goes by. Went to the doc n he said I have clap and got me a medication
Not only that but I get a message from the girl on tinder saying she's pregnant n thinks it's probly mine and that she really wants nothing to do with me because I fuck like I "hate women" whatever that means lol
Anyways that's an update on my life
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I'd never even tried to have sex before so obv I didn't have condoms so I went to the store and bought the spermicidal lubricant kind thinking I could kill two birds with one stone like what if I make her pussy dry by drinking my water too fast or something and also I definitely wanna kill all the sperms
so I got her on the couch we're watching some dumb Shit Netflix comedy she's resting on the left side of my chest n can obv feel my heart beating heavy I see her look down at my hard dick in my pants so I get to work makeout for a bit then she starts blowing me
It's going good she's blowing me and my dog is in the corner watching and he starts moaning and yelping so I grab a the pillow I was resting on and throw it at him and yell "stop being a faggot" which sorta killed the vibe
So I was like "yeah we should prob just fuck" and she agreed so she's standing by my bed and I have to tell her to take her fkn clothes off and get on there like she didn't know what to do and I'm naked with my socks on trying to hide my ass hair from her while also looking in my sock drawer for my condoms I bought earlier
Now I'd never put a condom on before so I took the condom n put it on best as I possibly knew how
I fucked her for a good 30 mins cause I'm a beast and i was straight slamming her head into my bed board finally I orgasmed n then we went again but I didn't get off the second time n had to jack off in the bathroom
So all is well she leaves I say see ya. Then I looked up a vid on how to put on a condom because I thought maybe mine was too tight or something while I was fucking, and my heart absolutely sank.
I put the condom over my balls and not my penis. I thought you were supposed to tie off your balls so the sperms couldn't leave and go down your penis. It all made sense. I was sorta iffy about the lubricant I was like what am I supposed to do swipe the line off with my fingers and apply it to my dick by hand, and that's what I did while fucking the girl. I would swipe some lube from the condom around my ballsack and put it on my penis.
So that was almost a month ago and then just other day when I was pissing it burned real bad and when my piss hit the water it looked like those nature docs where they go into murky water n the soot gets kicked up and thrown everywhere when a fish goes by. Went to the doc n he said I have clap and got me a medication
Not only that but I get a message from the girl on tinder saying she's pregnant n thinks it's probly mine and that she really wants nothing to do with me because I fuck like I "hate women" whatever that means lol
Anyways that's an update on my life
2024.05.29 04:35 testarosaa I hate living with my best friend. Don’t know how to tell her. Would love advice.
Bear with me… this is a doosey. I’ve been living with my best friend (just the two of us) for about 4 years now, but the last year especially I’ve just gotten so fed up. We live in a 3 bedroom home that my family owns, I pay utilities and she pays around $500 in rent with utilities included into that cost. I have two cats who I’ve built a Catio for outside, all the furniture in the main parts of the house is mine, and virtually every resource I bring into the house is treated as communal.
Now here’s where I’m losing my mind. I clean the house on a daily basis, never leave a dirty dish in the sink, and try to organize something or do a house project at least once a week.
My roommate on the other hand, cleans maybe once a month, always leaves piles of dirty dishes for days at a time, and makes messes around the house that I’m left to clean. I have had many conversations with her about how it’s hard on me, which always go the same: she says she’s going through a hard time, and will try better… things get better for about a week, and then it’s back to square one. I’ve tried not cleaning up her messes, or doing any of her dishes… but she doesn’t care, and lets the mess accumulate until I can’t take it anymore and feel forced to clean, or until I yell at her about it and she angrily picks up.
Whenever she’s out of town, the house gets progressively cleaner and cleaner, until I’m living in a spotlessly maintained house… but when I leave, I always come home to huge messes everywhere.
Additionally, my boyfriend and I are long distance. So I spend every other weekend at his house a few hours away. I have offered countless times to hire a cat sitter to take care of my cats while I’m gone, but she always refuses and says she can handle it/ it would be weird if someone else came into the house while she’s home. However when I come back, the litter boxes are always overflowing, my room is covered in litter, plates of cat food are left all around the house, and sometimes there’s even vomit or cat shit that hasn’t been cleaned up.
Lastly, She’s been going through some really tough times personally (a bad break up with her abusive ex partner, health issues, etc.) and my heart really goes out to her for what she’s been going through. But when shes upset, she becomes extremely passive aggressive, defensive, and also just plain rude sometimes. This was already an issue before, but it has gotten exponentially worse this past year as she’s been going through especially hard times. When I try to express how her demeanor makes me feel, she gets even more defensive and insists she has a right to being grumpy in her own home… which, while I understand… I have a right to feel like I’m not always walking on eggshells.
I’m at a loss at what to do…we are basically sisters at this point. I highly value our friendship, and I never want to leave someone without housing or kick her out as I feel like that would certainly ruin our friendship. However… it’s my family home, I feel constantly disrespected, and no amount of conversations has made a lasting difference. I think we are incompatible as roommates in many ways, and I don’t know how to have that discussion without making her feel attacked or like I’m kicking her out. In many ways, I do love having her as a roommate… we have movie nights, great conversations, and even have dinner together a few nights a week…
Any advice would be super appreciated, as I just don’t know where to even begin at this point.
Thank you for reading!!!
TLDR: my best friend and roommate of 4 years is a slob and no amount of conversations has made a difference. I don’t want to kick her out, but I’m losing my mind.
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Now here’s where I’m losing my mind. I clean the house on a daily basis, never leave a dirty dish in the sink, and try to organize something or do a house project at least once a week.
My roommate on the other hand, cleans maybe once a month, always leaves piles of dirty dishes for days at a time, and makes messes around the house that I’m left to clean. I have had many conversations with her about how it’s hard on me, which always go the same: she says she’s going through a hard time, and will try better… things get better for about a week, and then it’s back to square one. I’ve tried not cleaning up her messes, or doing any of her dishes… but she doesn’t care, and lets the mess accumulate until I can’t take it anymore and feel forced to clean, or until I yell at her about it and she angrily picks up.
Whenever she’s out of town, the house gets progressively cleaner and cleaner, until I’m living in a spotlessly maintained house… but when I leave, I always come home to huge messes everywhere.
Additionally, my boyfriend and I are long distance. So I spend every other weekend at his house a few hours away. I have offered countless times to hire a cat sitter to take care of my cats while I’m gone, but she always refuses and says she can handle it/ it would be weird if someone else came into the house while she’s home. However when I come back, the litter boxes are always overflowing, my room is covered in litter, plates of cat food are left all around the house, and sometimes there’s even vomit or cat shit that hasn’t been cleaned up.
Lastly, She’s been going through some really tough times personally (a bad break up with her abusive ex partner, health issues, etc.) and my heart really goes out to her for what she’s been going through. But when shes upset, she becomes extremely passive aggressive, defensive, and also just plain rude sometimes. This was already an issue before, but it has gotten exponentially worse this past year as she’s been going through especially hard times. When I try to express how her demeanor makes me feel, she gets even more defensive and insists she has a right to being grumpy in her own home… which, while I understand… I have a right to feel like I’m not always walking on eggshells.
I’m at a loss at what to do…we are basically sisters at this point. I highly value our friendship, and I never want to leave someone without housing or kick her out as I feel like that would certainly ruin our friendship. However… it’s my family home, I feel constantly disrespected, and no amount of conversations has made a lasting difference. I think we are incompatible as roommates in many ways, and I don’t know how to have that discussion without making her feel attacked or like I’m kicking her out. In many ways, I do love having her as a roommate… we have movie nights, great conversations, and even have dinner together a few nights a week…
Any advice would be super appreciated, as I just don’t know where to even begin at this point.
Thank you for reading!!!
TLDR: my best friend and roommate of 4 years is a slob and no amount of conversations has made a difference. I don’t want to kick her out, but I’m losing my mind.