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2024.05.15 03:28 Aromatic_Hippo_2474 WIBTA

WIBTA if I leave to stay with my dad in another state?
Hello guys I wanted to make this Reddit post so I can get people’s opinions or thoughts on this sort of thing. I wasabi raised in the perfect household just like everyone else. My mother and stepdad have always had a rocky relationship. They always used to fight 1-2 times a year and I know that’s not much but it is to me considering that whenever they argued it would always end in violence and my mom, me, and my siblings to stay over some relatives houses for a little while until things calmed down. I was sort of used to seeing things like this when I turned 6 that’s when it all started. The summer is coming up and the days are going by fast. I feel like I’m being isolated from my own family, it feels like they just want to use me for chores and nothing else. It’s not like I’m not smart, I have a 3.7 GPA at the moment and I am in the ninth grade. I feel like my mom is just pushing me away whenever they call me it’s either to do chores or to do them a favor. I always try my hardest but it feels like I’m never doing enough and when they try to console me when I look or feel down it feels like they are just forcing it so I don’t leave, my stepdad doesn’t know about me leaving for the summer tho. He probably would be either mad or sad about me leaving, I genuinely won’t be surprised if he does end up being angry since he used to get angry about a lot of things in the past. My stepdad and mom used to fight and when they did my stepdad would always put his hands on my mom and I always used to beat myself up because I couldn’t do anything about it. I would always cry myself to sleep knowing that I couldn’t do anything to help her since I knew I was too scrawny to do anything. But even after all of the trauma that my stepdad put me, my mom, and my siblings through she always ended up going back to him for what ever reason, I don’t even know why and whenever she did. I would always feel like I’m slowly losing my love for my own mother. I don’t know what to do I would just lay down on my bed question what do. I would contemplate on killing myself sometimes, thinking of just disappearing and not coming back without anyone knowing. But I knew that everyone would be devastated if I did, but I just don’t feel like I’m doing enough for anyone and I feel like a fucking disappointment who can’t do anything right, like I’ll always have flaws no matter how hard I try to overcome said flaws. So please, anyone please give me advice on what to do. I’m so confused and I don’t know what to do anymore. Please help
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2024.05.15 03:28 Ok_Patience_968 Are my boundaries with my mother too harsh?

I’m (25f) trying to rebuild my relationship with my mother (48 f) but it seems we always hit a snag because she has a hard time with boundaries. Some back story. My parents are divorced and have been for almost five years. My mother had an affair with a coworker and got caught because my sister (27 f) was on her iPad one day and saw text messages between her and this guy. This was seven years ago now. Anyway there was a lot of drama and I really believe our mom on some lever resents the fact that it was one of her kids who found out.
So my parents have been split up and she ended up living with this loser she was cheating with. I have told her repeatedly I will never accept him and never want to meet him. I think he’s trash and that’s the end of it.
My boundaries with my mother are that and I will not discuss my father with her at all. She tries to dig for details on what my father is up to these days and he’s told me that she’s no longer part of his life, their children are grown and he no longer needs to be polite in order to coparent with her. At some point my dad told her exactly what he thinks of her but I don’t know what that conversation was like but something tells me it wasn’t exactly pleasant.
But she pries anyway. She also wants details on my brother (20 m) who is the youngest sibling. Once he turned 18 my brother pretty much cut all contact with her and always says he doesn’t want anything to do with her. I feel caught between them because I know she’s his mother but he’s also told me he doesn’t want her knowing anything and he doesn’t want a relationship with her.
So I set these boundaries with her before we had brunch on Mother’s Day. I don’t want to talk about her boyfriend or whatever he is, I will not discuss my father and I really feel like when my brother is ready he’ll reach out so please don’t press me for details about him.
Well brunch wasn’t so great because she told me and my sister that she was heartbroken that my brother would come. My sister told her that at this point he’s an adult and no one can make him do anything. She wanted to know who my dad is seeing because apparently one of my uncles saw him out with a woman at a restaurant once.
She passed it of ass she’d be happy for him but I don’t know so I said my dad doesn’t really talk to us about this woman. I know a lot more than I let on and I’m sure my mom is aware of that but she just made a face and dropped it. So we are for a while but she started to talk about this guy.
My sister reminded her about our feelings about this guy we all hate for breaking up our family and we have no interest in hearing anything about him. She just pressed on that if we’d just give him a chance we’d really like him. No thanks. I also politely of we could just change the subject.
So my dad got a text from her on Monday that he’s dine a great job of brainwashing us against her. So he called me and asked what the hell happened on Mother’s Day. I explained to him and he didn’t seem to think we were out of line but he did say at least having dinner with her and this guy would go a long way to fixing our relationship with her and would make her happy. But I just can’t get over how badly she hurt our father and all of us by choosing this person over the family and life we all had. So am I (and my sister) being to harsh? Are our boundaries too much?
TL;DR: mom doesn’t want to respect the boundaries my sister and I have set with her. She keeps pushing the boundaries anyway.
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2024.05.15 03:28 princess_eros56 My mother loves my brother more than me

I [18f] and my mom [46f] used to get along really well when I was younger. I never had that “I hate my parents” phase like most of my friends did and I really enjoyed going shopping and going on little weekend trips with my mom. When I was 13 we discovered I had a gluten and dairy allergy so my mom worked really hard to help me find foods and really supported my diet no matter what. After my 16th birthday my mom quit buying me food and on my birthday made a normal cake saying “nobody is going to want to eat a gluten and dairy free cake” when all the years prior she had no problem making me birthday cakes the fit my allergy needs. So I never got a cake and my brother ended up eating all the birthday cake. Then I got my first job where I worked 5 days a week and only ate once a day on the days I worked because it was the only place I could get food. One day I went to my grandmas house and asked if she had any of my food (my grandma almost always accommodated for my allergies) she said she had one of my frozen pizzas in the freezer, we went out together and that’s when I told her my mom had quit buying me food. A whole fight broke out between the two and my mom started crying while my brother comforted her and my dad called me a spoiled brat. After that my mom bought me food on and off for 3 months until I started my senior year of When I was midway through high school I learned that my allergies had gone away from accidentally eating cheese that was on a burger. My mom seemed really annoyed and I started eating normal food. Recently me and my bf [19m] have been talking about moving in together. All of my friends and coworkers are super supportive and excited for me, but my parents just act like they want me out of the house. My older brother (we’ll call him Steve) has a swollen lymph node on his neck and has had to go to the doctor several times for last month and a half. At first I was really concerned about it, but after the doctors ruled out that It was nothing serious like cancer I realized he was ok. Well, Steve had gotten a temporary disability from his work, so that he’ll still get payed to just sit in his room all day. Meanwhile my parents fuss over him daily, my mom can’t have a conversation with me without him being the main subject and Steve has literally gotten away with throwing things at me and cussing at me while my mom doesn’t do anything. I tried bringing it up to my mom and she got mad at me saying that Steve is hurt and he could be unalived by his swollen lymph node and saying how they talk about me just not in front of me. I pretty much dropped it after that but my mom only continued talking about him more. A few weeks ago I had to report someone to the police for harassment and because she was causing a lot of stress in my life, when I told my mom she just shrugged it off acting like it was a normal thing to do every day. Steve is home everyday and my mom acts like she never sees him. Whenever he comes downstairs it’s always “hey Steve! How are you! What have you been up to?” Whereas I can be gone every day for 2 weeks and my parents won’t even bat an eye. Yesterday my boyfriend’s ex girlfriend came into my work and just watched me for an hour. I tried my best to ignore her and finished up my shift. When my mom got home from work I told her and she just brushed it off like it was nothing, but turned around and fusses over if my brother had eaten or not. Side note: my boyfriend lives almost an hour away so his ex had to drive a good 40 minutes just to get to my work I’ve been upstairs almost all day today, but I’m just so frustrated and I needed to get this off my chest, does anyone have any advice?
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2024.05.15 03:26 Advanced_Seesaw9335 Boyfriend blackouts and loses bodily functions

I’ve (27F) been dating my boyfriend (31M) for 10 months. He’s literally amazing and we’ve talked about marriage and eloping. I love him and his family. However, I’m worried about his drinking. His family is Irish-Catholic and they all drink hardcore. His mom does every night. My boyfriend mostly only drinks on the weekends. However, sometimes he drinks until he passes out while eating dinner or folding laundry. I’ve awaken to him urinating on the floor after a drunken night out. I even found a shattered glass on the floor while he was passed out. This past Saturday night he fell asleep on the toilet and I had to move him to the bedroom so his mom and sister could use the bathroom. He then urinated on himself (while I was in bed with him). Obviously he was embarrassed and frustrated with himself. He says this had happened to him when he was in his mid twenties. He has a DUI from about 5 years ago. Also a drunk and disorderly. His liver enzymes were elevated on a recent blood test. He says he doesn’t drink like he used to, but I don’t live with him so I only see what I see on the weekends. I’ve had conversations with him throughout our short relationship how we should slow down on drinking together. I’m not your drinking buddy, I’m your girlfriend. I even did dry January to show how I’m committed to this relationship. He only drank very little with me while I did that.
After the weekend, I told him that if he doesn’t shape up , I’m leaving. I told him that I don’t know why he’s letting something that caused problems in the past cause problems for him now. I told him that we aren’t in college anymore and please don’t pick alcohol over me. He agreed and said he will drink less. I’m reconsidering bringing him to my family’s Memorial Day party because that’s a big deal for me and his first time meeting my dad’s side.
As a Christian, I want to give grace, help, forgiveness but there’s a limit. I’m scared to death that I’m going to lose an amazing man. Any advice is appreciated.
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2024.05.15 03:25 Left_Astronomer6983 AITA for not wanting to spend time with my widowed dad’s girlfriend

About a year ago, my mom passed away suddenly and unexpectedly.
My mom always joked that my dad would bring a date to her funeral and sure enough, a female “friend” showed up to sit with him. It became obvious over the following weeks and months that they were in a relationship, although he tried to deny this for a long time. I actually suspect that they were involved before my mom passed away, as my dad has a history of affairs, the girlfriend has a history of affairs with other married men, and she had given him some expensive tools that she allegedly didn’t need anymore in years leading up to my mom’s passing. My dad doesn’t know that I suspect this and I haven’t said anything to him about it.
My dad almost immediately started bringing the girlfriend to public events like sports games and school events for my child and nieces/nephews. I expressed to my dad several times that while it was his choice to move on when he was ready, I personally was not ready to have a relationship with the girlfriend. At times, he will act understanding about this and then will continue to message about when we can all get together and when she can have contact with my child.
Just last weekend, I reiterated to him that I wasn’t ready for that level of contact and did not want her spending time with my child. Today, I learned that he had the girlfriend at his home while my child was there without my permission and knowing that I objected to this. I told him that it was not acceptable to have ignored my wishes. He is angry at me saying I am being ridiculous.
AITA?
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2024.05.15 03:24 Lizbian91 I won first prize in a YTV pokemon contest

(I also posted this in nostalgia)
I once won first prize in a contest through YTV. When i entered, i had no clue what first prize was, all I knew was I was after 3rd prize : pokemon silver for the gameboy! Well a few weeks passed and my mom sat me down and told me I had won FIRST PRIZE! It was a trip to Chicago to see Pokemon The Musical. HOW COOL IS THAT? So i ended up going, my dad took me and I also brought my best friend and my cousin! I did an interview for some news station and mentioned that I was originally after 3rd prize. Well when we got to the hotel in chicago, there were gift baskets.AND GUESS WHAT WAS IN THERE. YUP. POKEMON SILVER FOR THE GAMEBOY. It was a great experience, i even spent my 10th bday there (good timing or what?!).
Anyways i just wanted to share my experience as I was thinking about it today. Thanks for reading and thank you YTV! :3
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2024.05.15 03:21 WolfoftheAurora Am I Wrong For Getting Angry at My Father?

I (39) am an aunt to two beautiful kids: Michelle (almost 3) and Matthew (2 mos). The only thing is that I live about 5 hours away from them by way of the Trans-Canada highway, one way, and I don't feel safe driving, due to medical reasons, so I've never gotten my license. I also am on disability income assistance due to my health and I'm not able to work right now, making any sort of travel very difficult due to very little money.
When my niece was born, it was the height of Covid. My dad knew just how important it was for me to meet and hold her as an infant, as there's nothing like holding a beautiful, new life, but he didn't care and went to meet her on a business trip. I had no idea he went to meet her until he showed me the picture and I was extremely upset. He told me to "get over it." I didn't get a chance to meet her until she was around 1.5 years old. While it was still nice to meet her, obviously, the joy of meeting her as a newborn was long since passed. I've never forgiven him for it, he never apologised, but I had no choice but to move on.
We were going to meet him together over the Mother's Day weekend but my dad got sick and things had to be postponed.
As I was getting picked up by my stepmom this morning for an appointment, she told me that she and my dad (why she goes with him is beyond me as there's literally nothing for her to do) will be going out that way, where my brother lives, for my dad's work. I immediately figured out that they were also going to be visiting my brother and meeting Matthew and I was extremely angry. I wasn't yelling and screaming or using any kind of language, but I was angry. First my stepmom, after telling my dad that I would be angry about this, tries to skirt around the issue saying, "Oh, we haven't really decided..." then says it makes no sense to not drop in as they'll be driving right past them. She then carries on to tell me to grow up and that anyone would tell me that I'm acting the fool especially when I said they could skip visiting this once and we could go again later.
I called my dad and told him how angry I was. He told me that I have no right to tell him how to live his life and that I'm being a bully and that he does not take kindly to how I'm reacting.
My dad said in a text that I could try calling my brother and ask if I could stay at his place for the time that they're there but I don't know if I want to put him out like that. I want to meet my nephew, not impose. He then added I could come back in the rental truck with them or take the bus back and he doesn't care.
For a bit of context: my dad's been like this all his life and never took my late mom's feelings into account, and always did whatever he wanted and it left my mom feeling like crap more than you can imagine. When she passed away, my aunt, her sister, told me that my mom was even considering an annulment because of how he so often never cared about her feelings.
I love my dad and stepmom very much, but but this has hurt me and I honestly don't know what to make of it.
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2024.05.15 03:21 Regular-Bread1026 I need some opinions on this situation.

I am a 35 yr female with 3 kids and I’m currently living with the father of 2 of my kids. I really think I’m in a toxic relationship with a narcissist and I could use some opinions. I know that this can be a dangerous thing but the advice I get I feel is biased and I would love a fresh take. My bf is 43 yrs old. He works as an iron worker and has long unforgiving hours while I take care of the kids and work as well. He tells me his schedule does not allow him to take too much time off. When he is off he is at home and doesn’t want to go anywhere or do anything. I usually show up to events looking like a single mom. For the past 4 years we have gone on 1 vacation a year and that is camping and it’s all about what he wants to do fishing go to the lake doing the things he wants. My opinion means nothing on those trips. I better smile and pretend I’m happy or I just sit in the tent alone while he continues on with the trip. So I finally talked to him about 2 years ago and told him I’ve always dreamed of taking my children to California. That is our dream vacation. I grew up there as a child and lived there for ten years of my young life. Our financial situation is rough. For the most part we live paycheck to paycheck. We have never planned things together to be able to make this trip happen. Most of the time I miss out on things I’ve always wanted to do because I know he would be upset that he couldn’t do things but I realized I’m only hurting myself by not going and living life. I started doing things alone and without him. Because yolo. My cousin and his wife invited me to tag along to their trip to Cali. Knowing my bf couldn’t go I decided to go with them. I was planning on hiding it from my bf in fear of the attitude I would get from telling him I’m going without him. I feel conflicted. A part of me is sad that he is not going but the other part of me is loooonging for a break from him. We have an on off relationship. At the end of the day I’m taking this trip for my kids but also myself to heal my inner child. I have had a crazy past few years (Lost my grandpa and then my dad) and I’m struggling mentally and feel this trip is exactly what I need and the kids. My bf is making me feel like I’m the most selfish person on earth and that it is so wrong to go without him. But I have lost out on opportunities in fear of hurting his feelings. I also have never really done anything for myself since having children. Is it wrong for me to go and to be excited?
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2024.05.15 03:15 siriuslyyellow Games Like Hyper Scape?

So, I LOVED Hyper Scape. I was very bummed when Ubisoft shut it down. I'd love to know if there are any other games like it.
The features I loved the most were:
The closest I've found were VtM Bloodhunt (it's no longer having content made for it by the devs, is mostly filled with bots, and is still around but unfortunately dying a slow death) and The Finals (was disappointed the announcers were AI, not real voice actors, and that turned me off to the game). But both of those are not available on PS4, which is my main gaming system. I do have access to a PC and Steam, and to Nintendo Switch too.
If anyone has any suggestions, I'd love to hear them. Thanks in advance! 🤗🫡✨️❤️🥳🤩👑
Edit: Fixed a typo.
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2024.05.15 03:14 Simple-Lion2971 I hate my autistic littler brother

Im at my wits end, I don’t even know how my mother can handle. My rant is going to be all over the place, I’m sorry for that. I have an autistic little brother, he isn’t non verbal but he talks using simple 2-4 worded phrases. I love him, but it’s frustrating being around him. He always hits and kicks my mom, there are times where I just want to beat his ass for hurting my mom. My dad dosent do anything to help, we are a very traditional household where the men work and the women take care of the house. My brother gets everything he wants, zero consequences. He’s watching YouTube on the living room tv right now as I’m typing this after hitting my mom because the dog barked when I arrived home. I got yelled at causing the dog to bark, but no consequences on his end for his extreme behavior. I want to send my brother to home. My parents are old and when times comes my brother will have to be in my care. Personally I don’t want to care of my brother if this will be the future I have to deal with. This past weekend I want on a trip with my friends, my brother immediately kicked my legs and threw punches my way. All because I went on a trip without him. I’m tired, I just want to take my car, drive somewhere and jump off.
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2024.05.15 03:13 Tree_Of_Palm A (admittedly flawed) theory about the identity of Madame X, as well as an additional crack theory that I made while sleep deprived. (Spoilers for the entire game)

Ok this is gonna be a very long, rambling, and probably somewhat disorganized post, so please bear with me.
I'm sure other people have had this same idea as well, but I'm not subscribed to the rebornevo forums and I'm not very active on this subreddit either, so I don't know how frequently it's been discussed outside of the small number of times I've seen it on Twitter, which still was after I had the thought when I first played V12 years ago. Even if it is I still wanted to try and organize my thoughts about it and present all of the evidence that brought me to think this even without engaging much with the larger community.
To jump right into it, the theory that I've been subscribing to for a pretty long time and was very confident in (until realizing some flaws with it) is that Madame X is the incarnation of Nymiera from Maria(nette)'s now dead universe, which is likely the same universe that Clear, Kieran, and potentially the Thunder Warrior Tapu Koko are from. She was defeated by her universe's Indriad but somehow managed to escape with her life, albeit badly injured, and was effectively out of commission, which led to Indriad eventually being able to bring about Storm 9 which would eventually lead to the end the world. Nymiera then likely got help from either her world's Xara and Jean, or Clear and Kieran themselves to construct her suit and escape to the next universe.
There's quite a few reasons I have to think this. I feel like a ton of evidence from throughout the game supports the idea, and I've been making note of them for years at this point. This is gonna be a bit meandering, but it's really difficult to organize thoughts about a plot as complicated as Rejuv's even if you're focusing on only one character, so again please bear with me:
Essentially, the image I see with this is a Nymiera who became so disgusted at her own failures that she threw everything away, including her old identity, and and decided the best way to create a good world was to tear everything down and rebuild it herself, taking her belief in "The good of the many" to its furthest extreme and becoming a vengeful and bitter person in the process. She keeps "protecting" the Interceptor in hopes that their own quest will eventually guide them to resetting everything and destroying Karma for good.
However... in the process of thinking through this all over the last couple days, I realized several holes in this theory that I have to acknowledge, and keep it from really being an effective one.
First, if Nymiera is the avatar of Xerneas, then why is Madame X only ever seen using a Yveltal?
Second, the one aspect of Madame X's backstory story that she elected to reveal to us is about her mother. In her own words, "My "mother" was a weak individual who gave her life to protect me". Not only does Nymiera never hint at anything remotely similar this, but none of Adrest, Variya, or any of the files Adrest sends to Erin hint at anything even remotely close to this for Nymiera.
Third, which I think is the biggest issue: when we see Madame X's mask get broken by Sakitron at the pyramid, what little we see of her appearance doesn't exactly match up with Nymiera. What appears to be black hair could also just be a broken piece of her mask, her eyes are a bright red, and even though we barely see any skin, it visibly is not as dark as Nymiera's.
The first point is actually pretty easy to explain: the Yveltal is Indriad. Obviously we don't know how Indriad became a Yveltal, but there is precedent for shit like this happening and there's multiple hints towards it:
The other two though... I think more or less disprove the theory. Family-related trauma is already one of the game's biggest theme; if Nymiera had something related to her mother, it would have been made clear by this point. And there's just no way that I can think of to really justify the drastic difference in appearance between the two. I could simply handwave it and say "The differences in appearance are either a spriting error or a lighting thing with her helmet" and "We just haven't learned about Nymiera's mother yet", but both of those would just be copout answers to ignore.
I'm still confident that I'm onto something here and there is a connection between these two characters,
...so instead I came up with a crackpot theory that nonetheless I think has a nonzero chance of being true, although its much less liekly .
Madame X isn't an alternate universe Nymiera. She's an alternate universe Nim.
Is it a stupid assertion? Yes. But hear me out, starting with some of the more minor points:
There's three main reasons I think there actually is something here though: Nim's physical appearance, Madame X's "mother", and the reason Madame X needs her suit despite it making her weaker.
First: Nim's physical appearance is extremely similar to Madame X's under her mask. As Lorna, we can see that her pupils have a red hue very similar to Madame X's. Looking at both Nim's sprites and her official art, her skin tone is lighter than Nymiera's but still darker then most of the rest of the cast, which also lines up with the broken mask. Finally, assuming Madame X actually has black hair and that's not just a broken part of her mask in the sprite, Nim's hair is the same color.
Second: When Madame X mentions her "Mother", its quoted, presumably for air quotes. While it could just be her disrespecting her "Mother", it feels far more significant than that, like its moreso implying that whoever she's talking about wasn't her mother in the traditional sense. Madame X also states that the difference between her "Mother"'s sacrifice and the player's mom's sacrifice is that the player's mom's didn't matter; thus indirectly implying that Madame X's mom's sacrifice was important even if she looks down upon her mom for it. Assuming that Nymiera shares some connection to Nim- be it that Nymiera created her, Nim is her reincarnation, or something else- it's not unreasonable to think that Nim, after overcoming her memory issues, could view Nymiera as something of a mother figure, especially considering that Nim took her name Nymiera's because she felt a connection.
Third: The suit. There's a very obvious reason that Nim would need a suit to suppress her own power: to keep herself from draining the life force of her subordinates and stop her own Storm from getting out of control. It's a leap, sure, but it would explain why she needs a suit that actively inhibits her.
Why would Nim be doing all of this, and how would she become such a cruel and vengeful person? We see something similar happen to our own Nim through Clear's manipulation through preying on her fears and insecurities. Assuming bad enough shit happened to her, I could absolutely see an alternate universe Nim who lacked the support of characters like Aelita, Melia, and the Player going down this path.
Is this theory accurate? Probably not, but it was really fun to think about. I never fucking know what's gonna happen with this game which is why it's so fun to speculate about the absolute mess of lore that it has.
Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this massive ramble, it was fun to write and I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day!
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2024.05.15 03:11 Consistent_State_517 Anyone else had affectionate parents but no support?

My mom would often hug, kiss, and tell me she loves me, but would never support me emotionally. Any problem I had emotionally wasn't important enough for her. One time she attempted to help me during a breakdown that was building up for years at that point but her "help" consisted of downplaying my feelings and telling me that it wasnt something to be sad about. (For context the problem was that my cats were having bathroom issues and my parents would yell, throw pillows at my cats, hold their faces in their urine, and threaten to give them away, I was around 12-13). When my mom would get angry she'd get emotionally abusive (yelling, name calling, guilt tripping, etc.), but the situations I would usually bring upon myself. Those would only maybe last about a few hours though and after she'd go back to her loving self like nothing happened.
My dad was never loving to me. He's always quiet, stoic, and uncaring. I've never come to him about an emotional problem in my life. Emotionally he's a stranger to me. I could go days without speaking a word to him
I'm also queer and my household is severely LGBTQ+phobic. I often hear my parents or my grandparents discussing how they want to hit, kill, or watch my people burn in hell. This makes me feel like even when my mother tells me she loves me that she never really means it since if she knew who I was she's probably find me absolutely disgusting. Everytime they speak of LGBTQ people, I feel as if they're talking directly about me.
When the effects of this psycological warfare finally started taking its toll, my manipulative gf at the time encouraged me to get a psychologist. I knew the process would be more than it was worth but I felt like I had to for the sake of them, that my emotional burden was hurting them (and I mean it could have been I still can't tell the line between their manipulation, but I rarely tried to vent to them as it was my worst fear to burden someone with my problems). They also downplayed all my feelings, and they always required my attention which only exasterbated my parent's emotional abuse and neglect. The process of getting a psychologist was low-key traumatizing. I felt weak, and my parents were embarrassed of me. Soon after I lost my gf (good riddance) but I was still stuck with my parent's attitude. The psychologist still hasn't helped me enough for what I sacrificed for her. I regret the process.
This all makes me feel some imposter syndrome though, that since my mom is overly loving, I didn't actually go through emotional neglect or abuse. This type of behavior is generational, and most people I know haven't been affected by anything I have. It makes me feel weak and sensitive, which I've grown up learning was the worst thing anyone could be. I've learned to remain pretty emotionless around them to prevent them from mocking me or telling me how ungrateful I am (which would happen every single time I displayed a negative emotion). Does anyone else have a similar story?
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2024.05.15 03:10 valiqwe My mom's birthday passed and no one gave her anything

My mother's birthday was recently. I wasn't at home, I was at a contest with my teacher and some highschool classmates in another city. I recently came home and she told me that neither my father or my brother gave her anything. She was looking at me straight in the eyes for like 10 seconds so I can tell she was disappointed.
How tf can I fix this? It's a hard punch for me and for our relationship as a family.
It's not like she told me to do something, but I feel like I have to do something to fix this weird situation I have in my family.
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2024.05.15 03:10 lessadessa My mom died, my dad found a new woman six months later and completely forgot about me. I lost both my parents.

i haven’t even grieved losing my mom, my best friend, my shared spirit. after she passed i was calling my dad a few times a week to check on him and also because he was a support system to me too. after a few months he stopped answering my calls or he sounded annoyed when i called him. rushed off the phone. then he drops a bombshell on me about eight months after i lost my mom that he has moved in a new woman to the house i grew up in. the ground caved in under me. this past year has been hell and i can’t describe how much i’m hurting every single day. i hate this woman so much. she’s sleeping in my moms bed, the bed i used to fall asleep next to her in. she’s using my moms pots and pans to cook. she seriously just saw an opportunity to leech off my dad and took it. i hate them both so much i want to puke.
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2024.05.15 03:09 SexySnowBunny420 I HAVE EGGS! HELP..

I HAVE EGGS! HELP..
I noticed today when I got home from work that I have angelfish eggs! I am SO excited and would love to keep them alive if at all possible. Mom and dad or who I believe to be mom and dad are protecting the eggs well! I do have another male angelfish as well and some bottom feeders. First few pics are eggs and I believe mom is the striped and dad is the black. Last pic is of my other male angelfish. I would love any tips or helpful suggestions on how to keep them alive. I do have a 30gal I could get setup if absolutely necessary.
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2024.05.15 03:08 _squeeee Update To: Did I Fuck Up My Relationship With My Son?

Hi Everyone,
I read all your comments, your ridiculous and harassing DM requests, your advice, etc...I just can't get to them all so I'll just provide you guys with the following:
  1. I want to thank the ones who offered great advice and encouraging words of support and comfort. Instead of judging me or my son as if you all have known us for a long time - you all took the time to share your experience and how you all handled the situation, That was more helpful than anything.
  2. I want to applaud the great parents out there who think they know my son because they've been 19 before and were thrown out into the streets to fend for themselves so they think they can relate. We all can't relate to each others' experiences, not fully. Also, I'm sorry your parents did that to you but just because you "turned out okay" doesn't mean that everyone else will. Apparently, you all didn't turn out okay because you all left some really shitty comments like there's a one size fit all manual for parenting. And I hope your kids (if you have any) will turn out okay or have turned out okay with your type of parenting without any resentment towards you.
  3. I will not make my son move out of his home just for him to experience the ultimate struggle at the age of 19 - survival mode. Even though he's old enough to vote, go to war, be jailed for a crime - he is still a kid. We live in a HCOL area. You can't buy a townhome built in 1974 in my neighborhood for less than $450k. $20/hr is not even enough to survive here and actually live comfortably. He could move to a different county, but he drives to 3 different locations for work and the farther you are from those locations, the more you’re filling up your tank with gas and more time spent on the road. He is not going to find roommates as his friends who are also in CC are also struggling to make enough to even rent an apartment or be approved as all the properties here require that your income is 3x the annual amount of the rent. By kicking him out, it's not helping anyone. He'll just be homeless (ruin his credit) and come back. He might as well just figure out a budget and start squirreling away money to save up enough to move out. He is also transferring to a state school after CC and has brought up that he will not be living at home but live closer to campus.
  4. He is/was not a bad kid. He is not on drugs. Yes, his father was and is still present. We've been married for 20 years. My in-laws also have helped us raise our kids (we live very close - like walk to their house close) so they have also experienced the old school type of parenting without the beatings. He's respectful, can be thoughtful most times, and very caring. His attitude the other day is still unacceptable and was the wrong way to express his emotions and thoughts but I was also wrong in the way I responded. My son has never been in fights, have never been called to the principal's office for doing dumb shit most teenagers do. He usually has a good head on his shoulders. Cops have never showed up at my door because he was out doing something stupid with his friends.
  5. He works full time and goes to school full time because it's manageable for him. We have discussed that if doing both is too overwhelming, that he will cut back to working on a part time basis. But, for now, it's doable. He works from 6 am - 11 am. Gets home around 11:30 in the morning or goes straight to the CC for his in person classes. He also has online classes that he can do at his pace. He doesn't work on weekends so he can use that time to focus on his school assignments. He's also not your typical young adult who goes out every night to hang out with friends...he goes to work, school, gym, and home. Most of his friends are in school out of state playing D1 sports. As far as me thinking I know where my son is at all the time - I'm not just pulling this shit out of my ass - my family and I track each other through Life360. So I know where they are and where they've been and they can also see where I am and where I've been. And there's also Find My iPhone which we all share each other's locations. We all tend to misplace our phones in the house and we use it to make that annoying alarm sound.
  6. He's probably the smartest kid I know. He started taking AP classes in 10th grade and on. He took AP Biology, AP Calculus, AP Physics, AP ASL, and AP Statistics. By the time he was in 12th grade, he managed to get enough credits that he could do school half day, go home, and then go to the after care program where he used to work. For a kid, he was pretty good at time management. Better than me as an adult now. I have the time management skills of a carrot (I have ADHD). He graduated with a 4.5 GPA (due to AP classes weighed at 5.0)
  7. I'm not a perfect person nor a perfect parent. I'm learning as I go and doing the best I can with what I have. I may have fucked up sometimes along the way but I'm still a human being and we're all prone to fucking up. I've owned my mistakes and I strive to do better; not just for me, but also for my family.
  8. Yes, he's a dick like most teenagers. I was a dick when I was a teenager. Probably worse than my kids. But he's not perfect and I don't expect him to be. We consider ourselves lucky that he didn't turn out to be a delinquent who barely passed HS or addicted to drugs and alcohol.
  9. His lesson learned from this is that Mom & Dad aren't going to be around forever so might as well buckle up and enjoy the ride into financial literacy. He's going to start slow and figure out what works for him. We're not disowning him. No matter what, he's still our kid and we're going to move on from this and work something out so all parties are on the same page.
  10. My kids are spoiled but they're not brats. Yes, we overcompensated to make up for our crappy childhoods but they have mostly been grateful for everything they have and that they have a great support system. They know that they have a great support system - it took and is taking a whole village to raise my children. Most of our family is local and they have positively contributed to the people that my children have become. They're not sheltered like some of you have stated on here. They are very much aware of what is going on around them and that there are other who are not so lucky. They didn't grow up with a silver spoon in their mouths - they were just lucky to be born into a family with loving parents and extended family.
I know that was long but I hope I've covered everything. This was the first time he's ever been this disrespectful - so this is not a constant thing, this is brand new. Waters are still rocky so I'm not going to bring this up until I've figured out how to approach him with this situation and some time has passed. No matter how you look at it, he doesn't have the emotional maturity as a full grown adult with a developed frontal lobe and have lived through multiple life experiences.
However, we're going to treat him like the young adult that he is and instill in him that he is responsible for how his life is going to turn out now that we've passed the reins over to him. Raising my kids have been the most exhausting, draining, and confusing thing I have ever done in my life. I was only 22 when he was born - I was a young mother, a wife, a college student, and a young adult who had to figure out life (and I still am). I have no resentment towards him and my daughter because I had them so young. If anything, I'm grateful as I had to learn how to stand on my own two feet and learn how to make better decisions for their sake. They didn't choose to be born - I made that choice for them and I promised myself that they will always grow up knowing they were loved and cared for. And they are - deeply. But as I said, I had the support of family - my husband's family who welcomed me and helped me throughout this journey.
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2024.05.15 03:04 palekaleidoscope Daughter ended a friendship and it ended mine too and I have some feelings

My daughter, 10, has had a best friend Emma since kindergarten. Over the years my husband and I have become good friends with this Emma’s parents, too. We’ve hung out countless times as families and I thought we had found a great friendship all around. They’ve been great people to hang out with and have supported us in tougher times and I was really happy with making a new friend myself!
Over the past few months, the girls’ friendship has gone downhill and after a lot of tears and a lot of hurt they’ve pretty much ended their friendship. The end of their friendship was helped along by the fact that Emma has been bullying my kid, putting her down, being negative and mean and tried to pit a third girl against my kid in a bid for her friendship. Also this girl calling my daughter a bitch (truly!!!) and doubling down when caught. Emma’s mom messaged me to say that she didn’t think the girls should be friends for awhile because it was too upsetting for her daughter to be caught in the middle of a 3 person friendship and she just couldn’t stand to see her daughter sad. While I’m not claiming my daughter was perfect in their friendship, I know Emma was being awful and can be so stinging and hurtful to those around her and she was incredibly manipulative. And her mom didn’t even acknowledge that Emma was the instigator to all the drama so who knows what stories she was fed by her daughter.
My kid didn’t tell us almost anything Emma did or said to make her upset because she said she didn’t want to ruin the friendship us parents had. So she held onto this shitty treatment by her “best friend” for years! I’ve never felt like I failed more as a parent.
But where I feel like the most failed parent is that I’m just so sad I lost a friend, too. I know that might make me seem shallow or callous or self-centered and I know as a mom I’m supposed to protect my kid at all costs, and I think I have tried, but I’m mourning the loss of the friendship us adults had. I have so few friends to begin with and losing a mom friend that I have clicked with so well feels so shitty and I’ve been so deep in my feelings over it. My husband just brushes it off, he’s so blase about it and he frames it as “I’m protecting my kid and I don’t care about friendships”. He’s still talking to the dad and they’re still friendly. I’m just having a tough time. I’m sad my kid was in such a terrible friendship herself and I’m sad we ended up all losing.
I just needed to get this all out. I’m going to talk to my therapist but it’s honestly on the back burner to the other things I have been addressing, mental health wise.
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2024.05.15 03:02 CoriCampbell My Summary & Layout Of How Season 2 Of Winning Time Should Have Ended. And What I Would Have Wanted Out Of Season 3.

My Summary & Layout Of How Season 2 Of Winning Time Should Have Ended. And What I Would Have Wanted Out Of Season 3.
THE QUESTION:
“If Winning Time was still on what would you want to see happen next?”
MY ANSWER:
Season 1 of Winning Time consisted of 10 episodes. Season 2 consisted of 7 episodes. When I was watching on the night of the Season 2 Episode 7, I was shocked and utterly appalled at the fact they ended the show. On the worst cliffhanger you could possibly leave on. I was hoping for a little while that the whole situation was being done in order to use time as a marketing tool. In order to build just as much frustration in the fans of the show, as the characters in the show were experiencing. And I was hoping that they would announce a month later that there was actually 3 more episodes to be released. And I was hoping that those episodes would focus on the following 1985 season in which they won against Boston. Which in turn would be a perfect way to wrap up Season 2. As for future seasons of the show, here’s what I would have wanted…
Winning Time since day one has been an incredible show that has been able to balance basketball and story superbly well. I think it could’ve been wrapped up given a third season. In season 3 I would’ve like to have had 10 episodes covering events from 1985-1992. Here is a brief summary I wrote out, of how I would have each episode played out.
EP 1: The Rise
I think that episode 1 should focus primarily on Larry Bird’s perspective after the Lakers win in 85 and how he was hungry and went after another championship in 86. While in the meantime we focus secondarily on Magic’s relationship with Cookie. While also, starting to notice Kareem’s age. And I think it would be to the benefit of not having loose ends, revisiting briefly for one episode Spencer Haywood. And show that he is doing much better and during the events of Season 2 was getting his act together. This episode should also let us in on what’s happening with Buss’ lawsuit with honey.
(The plots for EP 2 and 3 are clumped together)
EP 2: Lucked Out + EP 3: Guaranteed Greatness
I think episodes 2-3 should be focused primarily on Pat Riley’s stride for greatness and expectation for perfection leading to back to back titles in 87 & 88. While showing the beginning of Pat Riley’s ego, and also addressing and finishing Dr. Buss’ divorce settlement filed against him by honey. This episode should also have Bird and Magic shoot the famous commercial that lead to them understanding one another and respecting one another. And have episode 3 end with Kareem starting to really feel the stress on his body.
EP 4: Watcha Gonna Do
Have the episode sorta montage through the 89 season with games against the pistons. It would be cool to show Kobe Bryant as a mop boy (which he was), and showing the bad boy Pistons being rough, tough, and winning the 1989 Finals against the Lakers. Leading to Kareem announcing his retirement.
EP 5: Riled Up
I think episode 5 should start with Kareem’s retirement, showing his evolution from silent to loving towards the fans of the Lakers. While focusing the episode primarily on Pat Riley’s ego starting to continue to grow just like Paul’s did in season 2. This episode should also show a disconnect between the team and Pat. And I think it would be wise for Jerry West to be the first to notice it and point it out. And to talk to Pat to try to settle him down in order to try to keep him from developing his ego and to stay humble. Magic tries to support Riley but also to tries to support the team.
EP 6: Slick Back
This episode should focus on how the disconnect is fully there between the team and Pat. Leading to the team losing the semifinals in 1990 and the team going to Jerry Buss and expressing that they love Riley, but they can’t take it anymore. Buss is sick to his stomach that he is in this situation again, so he calls in West and Riley to try and salvage this. However, Pat is oblivious to his part in the drama while being definitive in the team’s issues. Both West and Buss see this and know that Pat is to into his ego, isn’t focused, and can no longer coach correctly. Leading to his resignation at the end of the episode, and leaving Magic now in a state of aloneness and confusion.
EP 7: Sirius
This episode should reflect Magic’s aloneness and introduce a new coach to the show (Mike Dunleavy). Who marks another “Slowtime” era. Where Dunleavy just like Westhead before, gets rid of showtime in turn for his own system. And while it does work, it makes the game no longer fun and incredibly slow. Mirror that with the arrival of the Chicago Bulls a hungry ruthless team, lead by Michael Jordan. And end the episode with the Bulls winning the 1991 Season, and Magic feeling sick after the loss… literally.
EP 8: Immunodeficiency
The main focus of this episode is the revealing, the announcing, and the dealing with Magic’s Diagnosis of HIV. Remember the first shot of season 1 episode 1? I think the show should cut back to that scene but instead show us different shots of the doctors revealing the news to Magic. And then have him deal with it by including Cookie, West, calling riley, confiding in Kareem, telling his team, and revealing to Jerry Buss. All these scenes should be incredibly emotional and as real as it can be, in order for the audience to grasp the severity of the situation. The episode should end with Magic retiring as a player and having his number being retired, with thoughts swirling in Magic’s head of death and disparity. The overall episode and the future of Magic look bleak and hopeless. Until Magic speaks out at his jersey retirement ceremony and says the famous quote about playing in the Olympics, coming back one day to play, and to survive the HIV Virus.
EP 9: Concrete
This episode should start out with Larry Bird calling Earvin, to tell him he is sorry about the HIV diagnosis. Magic should let him know he appreciates it but he doesn’t plan on staying retired for long and that he will play with Bird again. And until he comes back, Larry needs to keep going for the both of them and keep on winning. Until Larry reveals that he doesn’t think he has that long left to play because of his back issues (a quick flashback cutaway to Larry pouring a cement driveway for his mom showing why Larry is having back issues). We then get a solum moment where the both of them recognize that they are two sides of the same coin and that they will always be there for each other. And that after all the battles and the rivalries, they are true friends. And I think that this phone conversation should cut back and forth between the rest of the episode which shows Magic getting rehabilitation and fighting the Disease. Eventually overcoming it, and ending the episode with Magic inviting Larry to Join him when he plays in the Olympics. Leaving the episode on an emotional cliffhanger.
EP 10: The Dynasty
We focus this episode on Jerry Buss’ struggle after Magic left and the emotional and financial mess he is in. It’s the 1991-1992 season and showtime has now become the Lake show with Nick Van Exell. However, this episode should barely focus on basketball and instead focus on the relationships between Jerry Buss and the people in his life. He talks with Magic and convinces him to coach. He has a meeting with Pat and they hash out the beef. The episode overall should be about Buss tying up all the loose ends left in his life, and trying to figure out how the Lakers can do better. Jeanie and Claire Comfort him and let him know that it is all gonna be alright because in the end they are a Dynasty, and they got a legacy that is just getting started. Buss towards the end of the episode sits in his office. While West picks up his mail in his office and walks into Buss. Folded magazine in hand, he is there to talk to Buss about something. Buss asks West if he’ll think it’ll ever get better. And West encourages Buss by telling him that it will. We cut to Magic walking towards Buss’ office, Jerry comes out with his mail and folded magazine making small talk to Magic. Until West realizes what Magic is about to do… he is about to resign as coach. West knows this because he’s done it before. After talking a bit more Magic shakes West’s hand and heads into Buss’ office. While buss sits down opens the magazine and it is a Sports Illustrated issue featuring Shaq at LSU, hinting at the future. Magic then enters Buss’ office and reveals he doesn’t want to be the coach anymore. And Jerry understands, now having enough time to accept that showtime may be over. But WinningTime for the Lakers will never truly end. And before Magic leaves to clean out his coaching office Jerry says “You know you always got a home here Earvin, your family!” Earvin responds with a nod and we close in on Buss. We cut to Magic cleaning out his office. He walks out with boxes of his stuff. Until he notices on his old locker booth his Jersey is hanging up. We then cut to Jerry on the court drinking a bottle of alcohol staring up at the banners and the retired numbers, he then lays back in the middle of the court he closes his eyes with a smile of joy in a silent arena. Until we hear someone walking on the court. It’s Magic with the jersey on a coat hanger and his boxes in hand. Jerry sits up while Magic offers him to a game of pick up, and we close out on them playing basketball. And finish on a wide shot where Jerry scores on Magic. The two of them hug, while picking up the bottle of alcohol and screaming in victory. Cut To Black…
So yeah that is my synopsis for what a season 3 of Winning Time would look like. I know there is way more characters in the show that have plot threads. But this summary was just a bare bones attempt at laying out a way to end the show in a perfect way. And I think that in order to end the shows major characters in a satisfying way there are a lot of points that would need to be touched upon that are featured in this summary.
I ahead of time apologize for the lack of Jerry Buss’ character arc and plot threads, I just off the top of my head can’t think of, or know of any other drama/plot threads his character could go through after the Honey situation. I hope you guys liked my summary and hope it contributes to the fan base of Winning Time.
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2024.05.15 03:01 Aqua_Amber realizing my mom doesn't care that much

im kinda just looking for sympathy considering this happened literally like 2 seconds ago and my breath is still catching. anyway i burnt some chicken after my mom went to work for like 8 hours and i know it's a really bad thing to come home to after so long, she asked me to make it for her and i know she's been struggling with her new job, and it hardly even hurts now so it wasn't even like anything new or anything i wasn't used to, so i think my reaction came from not having that kind of reaction in so long
she came home today in a bad mood and she asked me if i really burnt the chicken. i said yeah and i'd already been crying for a bit and waiting in fear knowing she's gonna come home and see, and she did exactly what i expected her to 😭 she started grabbing at my hair and yelling and hitting and throwing her work stuff at me, but today i did something weird for myself and i started yelling back and crying about how i was sorry and i didn't mean it and that i was trying so hard and that i just made a mistake (im a little old for this but it was my first time making chicken without help, and im already notoriously a bad cook lol) and back in my room i was already thinking, "maybe this will make her feel bad for me" since she was abused (duh) and im sure did similar things that warranted the same reaction. but she didn't care and she yelled over me, and after the fact was yelling through the room about how i'm never going to be a good wife and that i don't do anything for her and that she has useless people in the house.
(some hating on my mom rn but) i don't understand why she thinks she's entitled to sympathy whenever she's hurt or upset, and literally this One Time she cried that it hurt her more when she hit me like what. i just don't get it. i don't get how she can ask me for sympathy when she cries (i give it to her) but she watches me scream cry at her to stop hitting me and doesn't do anything about it. when i was younger i hardly had any sympathy for anyone including my mom and she'd tell me im devoid of empathy and like um i wonder why 😭 she's always talking about how awful her life is and i know. i know how bad her life is. but she never thinks about how im dealing with it especially since we're dealing with the same things??
still, i'm always going to feel bad about it because i know she's right, she doesn't have good help, and that's why she's like that. she would be nicer if i just did better. no matter how many times she yells at me or hits me i still end up doing the same things wrong, and i try to fix my mistakes but i end up making more mistakes anyways. she does everything for me and she buys me nice things and takes me out, she's doing everything to make me happy even though we have no money and family problems, and i know it sucks doing all that and coming home to a child that can't cook or clean right and who should be old enough to do it after so many years, who isn't that good at anything that can actually help, who doesn't do things unless they're asked to
im sitting in my room typing this out and i'm trying to calm down a bit. she's outside talking to my dad and she doesn't seem guilty just still angry... though she might be a little bit since after she processed what i was yelling, she stopped hitting me and just started strictly yelling instead. im not really sure if this is the right subreddit to talk in but i don't want to make my friends deal with me and i just wanted to tell someone even if its to a bunch of strangers online. might delete tomorrow
edit: added stuff lol
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2024.05.15 03:01 magnus0033lego Question regarding transit...

Hi there! I have been living in Fargo, ND since February 2024 and I am curious as to what the area is like for transit.
I use Lyft to get to and from work but I am also close enough to work to where if I absolutely HAD to walk I could, I live in Village West and I want to ask about this:
Does Lyft/Uber cover ALL of the Metro Area? Like West Fargo, Fargo, Moorhead, and Dilworth? Or are there specific transit options for that like taxis or busses? Or is the coverage for Lyft/Uber just on the North Dakota side of town.
I've heard all about the minimum wage news in Minneapolis-Saint Paul and I heard things about Lyft/Uber from drivers who drive for either 1 or both rideshare apps, I've heard that Uber is more spread out and more accessible and more available in Moorhead-Dilworth than Lyft but I also heard that you can get from Fargo to Moorhead with Lyft but you cannot get from Moorhead back to Fargo using Lyft. But I also heard that Uber is more expensive than Lyft and I also heard that taxis are VERY pricey.
Does anyone have insight on what the transit options and prices are like going within Fargo-West Fargo and going from WF/F to MH/DWTH and back as of May 2024? So far all the sources I've been reading are from 2020-2022 and early 2023 and I want the latest insight on what it's like, I've only been to Moorhead once during the time I've lived here and that was when my dad and mom drove me to Fargo to move me here and my dad took me to Moorhead to visit some pawn shops.
Any help and any insight from the wonderful community on this topic is greatly appreciated! Thanks again! ;)
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2024.05.15 02:59 PyroAwl Boomers and Illness

Let me preface this by I am usually strictly a lurker and occasional commenter, HOWEVER, this week has been horrendous and my moms boomer friends and family are just. Grrr. I want to rant.
Last thursday my grandfather passed away. This Sunday (Mother's Day for ya'll in the know) my adoptive father suffered a stroke. (Happy mother's day mom!)
Yesterday he's in the hospital obviously being put through the ringer to determine all the things they pay doctors to determine. (How bad it was? I assume. I was not there). Now my parents are right at the end of boomers (61 & 63 years old) as are all their friends. The difference being behavior.
My adoptive dads sister is a horrible woman (please call her Karen), she has zero children, has no idea how to behave around children and was a teacher to children for who knows how long (I dont image the kids have fond memories of her) and yet insisted I could not inherit anything from my adoptive dad because I was not biologically his. Currently she is on a warpath because mom did not tell her about dads stroke (she tried calling her, she did leave a voicemail when she couldnt reach Karen). Except, shes making it about her - and is now calling everyone else and bitching about it. Cool. One of the people she called was a mutual friend of my parents.
This friend texts my mom and asks if he can come see dad. Mom says no. The tests theyre doing require dad to not be distracted, lights off, etc (again Im not there, all I know was it involved doing brain scans and asking questions). Guess who showed up? Friend. Mom had litterally just told this man that he could not come visit and he shows up at my dads hospital room. I have no idea how he knew what hospital, much less what room. Meanwhile hes all butthurt he cant talk to dad.
When mom, my husband and I were having dinner later she was telling us about this I actually said "You do know most people in my generation and younger would die before they assumed they could show up somewhere - especially a hospital room - unannounced right?" (Hubs and I are youngish millenials at 32). Mom actually agreed.
Like where the heck do they get off just showing up at someone's potential deathbed like that? Ya'll are barely friends.
TLDR; Boomers randomly showing up uninvited to my dads hospital room after he had a stroke are the worst.
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2024.05.15 02:59 uwu-hehe i’m 19 and it’s over for me

i’m 19 in turning 20 in december and i feel like im falling behind. all my friends are finishing their second year of college and im just working at a thrift store making minimum wage like 25-30 hours a week. i tried taking a semester in 2022/2023 but i was in an abusive relationship which affected me really bad and in september of 2022 my mom and me had a big fight and then my mom and dad almost got divorce, and i got really depressed and couldn’t get up to go to classes. and i paid it off but im just like so stressed out right now. i have nothing im passionate about in i used to be passionate about being a park ranger or working in the environmental field but i just like am not motivated and it sucks so bad. i recently started being medicated and im hoping that this feeling goes away, i really don’t know what to do. i don’t really have any hobbies. it feels like life is over for me. i feel like im still the same person i was when i was 16 and it just sucks so bad. does anyone have any advice????
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