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I reconnected with my crush from 2018-2020 in March 2023, fell for him again, I confessed for the first time about it all in June 2023. For some context I'm INTJ. I'm very transparent about what I feel and I feel like he hides his emotions so much.
He confessed that he liked me in 2018, but he moved on in 2019 because he thought I didn't like him back. We fell for each other but didn't make it official though we acted like a couple because I was healing (from being cheated on in 2022) and I was honest about it. I started wanting commitment by February 2024.
In April 2024 he confessed that he had feelings for his girl bestfriend throughout 2022 because she was there for him after his breakup (when he got cheated on in 2021). However I wasn't comfortable as he didn't give me commitment because of him healing from her, he didn't confess it earlier. He told me they cut contact in February 2024.
Today we had our first date (meeting for the first time, when we were friends we never met each other), we were being all cuddly and I saw a text message from the girl bestfriend he claimed that he blocked. She said "How was the date?". Then he told me that his friends told her we went on a date. He showed me the chat that there was no flirting involved. After I went home I started complaining and he blocked her.
He paid for the date, he travelled a long way (12 hours) to meet me, he dropped me, he was sick, he did everything, and then this. Also he's been putting in a lot of effort since July 2023.
He promised me he's focused on me, he told me loves me and asked me out, we made the relationship official.
All I know is that he is 1000% better than my ex. For some context, I dated my ex from May 2021-December 2022. It was my first relationship and an extremely toxic one. He cheated multiple times, lied about everything, crossed my physical boundaries on a daily basis, talked down on me, controlled me and isolated me. There were 127 red flags and I was severely trauma bonded. We broke up and got back together over 18 times in a year. So compared to that, this feels like heaven, this guy replies to every part of the paragraph, there's genuine changed behaviour everytime I bring up something I'm uncomfortable with ever since last year.
I am not comfortable with his girl bestfriend. He said they never talk, he forgot to block her on snap and so now he did. But I feel something so uneasy. He said he had her blocked on instagram and whatsapp.

I reconnected with my crush from 2018-2020 in March 2023, fell for him again, I confessed for the first time about it all in June 2023.
He confessed that he liked me in 2018, but he moved on in 2019 because he thought I didn't like him back. We fell for each other but didn't make it official though we acted like a couple because I was healing (from being cheated on in 2022) and I was honest about it. I started wanting commitment by February 2024.
In April 2024 he confessed that he had feelings for his girl bestfriend throughout 2022 because she was there for him after his breakup (when he got cheated on in 2021). However I wasn't comfortable as he didn't give me commitment because of him healing from her, he didn't confess it earlier. He told me they cut contact in February 2024.
Today we had our first date (meeting for the first time, when we were friends we never met each other), we were being all cuddly and I saw a text message from the girl bestfriend he claimed that he blocked. She said "How was the date?". Then he told me that his friends told her we went on a date. He showed me the chat that there was no flirting involved. After I went home I started complaining and he blocked her.
He paid for the date, he travelled a long way (12 hours) to meet me, he dropped me, he was sick, he did everything, and then this. Also he's been putting in a lot of effort since July 2023.
He promised me he's focused on me, he told me loves me and asked me out, we made the relationship official.
All I know is that he is 1000% better than my ex. For some context, I dated my ex from May 2021-December 2022. It was my first relationship and an extremely toxic one. He cheated multiple times, lied about everything, crossed my physical boundaries on a daily basis, talked down on me, controlled me and isolated me. There were 127 red flags and I was severely trauma bonded. We broke up and got back together over 18 times in a year. So compared to that, this feels like heaven, this guy replies to every part of the paragraph, there's genuine changed behaviour everytime I bring up something I'm uncomfortable with ever since last year.
I am not comfortable with his girl bestfriend. He said they never talk, he forgot to block her on snap and so now he did. But I feel something so uneasy. He said he had her blocked on instagram and whatsapp.

Hey y'all, hope I can get some good advice here. 16m by the way
So some background. My parents divorced when I was 3. I lived with my mom and stepdad mostly, and only got to see my bio dad every other weekend, so we weren't close at all and I didn't really have a bond with him or anything. Then when I was 7 he went to prison for committing a violent crime while he was really high on his DOC at the time. He got out late last year
As I got older and more mature my mom has told me more things about my dad, since I didn't know much about his past or even him himself. Turns out he was kind of a troublemaker as a kid/teen and was a junkie in his late teens/early twenties and has had a lot of addiction issues on and off
Here's the catch. Last year, I got into drugs and alcohol pretty bad. Hard drugs, drank every night, that kinda stuff. When my mom found out she made me get help which sucked, and our relationship hasn't been the same since. She comments quite a bit that I'm a lot like my father, and other shit about how she can't trust me and once-an-addict-always-an-addict stuff. We fight a lot now
Long story short, a little over a month ago my mom and I were fighting and I told her I would rather live with my dad than her. The more I thought about that, the more I realized that was true. Since my dad got out the slammer he's visited several times, and I really like spending time with him. My mom has told me that he's a 'narcisstic asshole with sociopathic tendencies' but he's really a great guy, and he understand me better than anybody else. We're alot alike
I really do want to move in with him after he moves out of the sober living home he's at now, and my mom hasn't flat out said no or nothing. I told my dad and he was so happy he almost fucking cried. But my mom's being weird about it all and I just got to thinking that what if this is the wrong decision or something. I know this is what I want to do, and even though my mom and I aint got that great of a relationship anymore I don't wanna completely ditch her. And she's said in so many words that she would ditch me if I moved in with my dad
I guess I just want a second opinion. I know nobody can't really give a great answer without knowing every detail of this whole situation, but to be honest and truthful I just feel kinda confused about everything

Quick backstory I myself currently a 24 year old male is in some weird situationship with a 69 year old man. We first had become aqquinated when I moved to his city for college, I basically rented a room. We were strictly roommates until covid happened. With confinement happening we begun hiking together after work (we both started to work from home due to COVID). After two years of living with him I decided I wanted to branch off and get my own apartment to myself. We would occasionally visit me but that was it. Somewhere along the line I got into some hot water with my financial situation when my employer was becoming toxic and had to switch jobs. We assisted me in helping me with my rent for a few months. He said, "let me gift you this I only have so much time left I want to share it". Of course I accepted because I had no other choice (no family in the picture). A few months later he invited me on a vacation that he was going to pay for. We went and he said, "why don't you buy a home already? Now is the perfect time." My response was, "I don't have enough saved yet to make that jump." Of course he stepped in with open arms again and offered to pay my entire down payment and closing cost ($30,000). Now mind you this home is located 9 hours from where he currently lives. Of course we stay in touch and talk multiple times a week. He then calls me one evening and says, "guess what I just put an offer to buy the house across the street from you". At first I was surprised as he just purchased his new home and would be losing money. He stated that, "he can't stand to be away from me". At the time I didn't to much of it I guess or maybe I blurred it out. Come closing day on his new home he invites me and along the way he stated that he had asked the law firm to add me on the deed of the home. Again I accepted as it was a 700k home that was a golden start to my retirement in my head. His approach was, "I want to make sure you are taken care when I pass away". So fast forward to 2024 I am now almost 25 years of age and first made contact with him at 19 years of age. To another point I hate the area I moved to super rural and no city life. I am miserable and feel trapped everyday. He texts me everyday when are you coming over...and I wanted to add nothing sexual has ever came of any of this. He does request to hug me everything we see each other but not any forceful sexual things. I am planning on putting my house on the market next year but am scared he will want to follow me again. Any suggestions or am I just overthinking the entire situation?!

How to move forward with this relationship if I'm not comfortable with his girl bestfriend, breakup or not? (weird situation during first date)
I had the biggest crush on this guy since 2018 but I never confessed. In 2020 he dated his ex so I was forced to cut contact and I moved on.
I dated my ex (first boyfriend) from May 2021, and this current guy got cheated on in December 2021, I got cheated on by my ex December 2022. I reconnected with him in March 2023, fell for him again, confessed in June 2023.
He confessed that he liked me in 2018, but he moved on in 2019 because he thought I didn't like him back. We fell for each other but didn't make it official though we acted like a couple because I was healing and I was honest about it. I started wanting commitment by February 2024.
In April 2024 he confessed that he had feelings for his girl bestfriend throughout 2022 because she was there for him after his breakup. However I wasn't comfortable as he didn't give me commitment because of him healing from her, he didn't confess it earlier. He told me they cut contact.
Today we had our first date (meeting for the first time, when we were friends we never met each other), we were being all cuddly and I saw a text message from the girl bestfriend he claimed that he blocked. She said "How was the date?" . Then he told me that his friends told her we went on a date. I saw her text and it crushed me. I have been cheated on before and I need a lot of reassurance and emotional security or I won't handle it well. I cried about it to him and he immediately blocked her. He showed me the chat that there was no flirting involved.
He paid for the date, he travelled a long way (12 hours) to meet me, he dropped me, he was sick, he did everything, and then this. Also he's been putting in a lot of effort since July 2023.
20 minutes after the date I was crying at home because his girl bestfriend texted him, but he promised me he's focused on me, he told me loves me and asked me out, we made the relationship official.
All I know is that he is 1000% better than my ex. For some context, I dated my ex from May 2021-December 2022. It was my first relationship and an extremely toxic one. He cheated multiple times, lied about everything, crossed my physical boundaries on a daily basis, talked down on me, controlled me and isolated me. There were 127 red flags and I was severely trauma bonded. We broke up and got back together over 18 times in a year.
So compared to that, this feels like heaven, this guy replies to every part of the paragraph, there's genuine changed behaviour everytime I bring up something I'm uncomfortable with ever since last year.
Now that's it's an official relationship, I am not comfortable with his girl bestfriend. He said they never talk, he forgot to block her on snap and now he did. But I feel something so uneasy.

I had the biggest crush on this guy since 2018 but I never confessed. In 2020 he dated his ex so I was forced to cut contact and I moved on.
I dated my ex (first boyfriend) from May 2021, and this current guy got cheated on in December 2021, I got cheated on by my ex December 2022. I reconnected with him in March 2023, fell for him again, confessed in June 2023.
He confessed that he liked me in 2018, but he moved on in 2019 because he thought I didn't like him back. We fell for each other but didn't make it official though we acted like a couple because I was healing and I was honest about it. I started wanting commitment by February 2024.
In April 2024 he confessed that he had feelings for his girl bestfriend throughout 2022 because she was there for him after his breakup. However I wasn't comfortable as he didn't give me commitment because of him healing from her, he didn't confess it earlier. He told me they cut contact.
Today we had our first date (meeting for the first time, when we were friends we never met each other), we were being all cuddly and I saw a text message from the girl bestfriend he claimed that he blocked. She said "How was the date?" . Then he told me that his friends told her we went on a date. I saw her text and it crushed me. I have been cheated on before and I need a lot of reassurance and emotional security or I won't handle it well. I cried about it to him and he immediately blocked her. He showed me the chat that there was no flirting involved.
He paid for the date, he travelled a long way (12 hours) to meet me, he dropped me, he was sick, he did everything, and then this. Also he's been putting in a lot of effort since July 2023.
20 minutes after the date I was crying at home because his girl bestfriend texted him, but he promised me he's focused on me, he told me loves me and asked me out, we made the relationship official.
All I know is that he is 1000% better than my ex. For some context, I dated my ex from May 2021-December 2022. It was my first relationship and an extremely toxic one. He cheated multiple times, lied about everything, crossed my physical boundaries on a daily basis, talked down on me, controlled me and isolated me. There were 127 red flags and I was severely trauma bonded. We broke up and got back together over 18 times in a year.
So compared to that, this feels like heaven, this guy replies to every part of the paragraph, there's genuine changed behaviour everytime I bring up something I'm uncomfortable with ever since last year.
Now that's it's an official relationship, I am not comfortable with his girl bestfriend. He said they never talk, he forgot to block her on snap and now he did. But I feel something so uneasy.

Location: Florida
Please let me preface this with me stating that I am posting this for my father.
Long story short my mother has decided to leave the state and is threatening to sell the house they both owned at one time. While he did sign a quick claim deed, he still has his name on the mortgage. For the past 10 years he has been the one paying towards the house and living within it. At no point has she made a payment towards this home since they divorced 12 years ago. She is trying to claim she has the ownership able to get him kicked out of the house if she took it to court, and is now leveraging this by extorting monthly payments to her from him, on top of him paying the monthly mortgage bill.
Is there any possible way my father could win this if things ended up in court? Would it even be entertained in court? Are there any options to avoid having him kicked out if he stops paying the monthly 'extortion fee' my mother is asking from him?

I bought my house in SC in October 2021 with an FHA loan transferred from my original lender to Planet Home Lending. In September 2022, I got sick, which caused me to lose my job. I receive SS survivor benefits, so I do have a small income. I was optimistic that I would find other work when I was back on my feet, so I continued to make my mortgage payments on time. Unfortunately, I utilized credit cards for different needs when funds ran low, and in April of 2023, when I still did not have a job, I applied for forbearance with my mortgage company. At the time of forbearance approval, I had not missed or delayed any payments since I bought the house. I was approved for forbearance extensions, and then the mortgage company issued a notice to accelerate on 12/07/2023, with 01/07/2024 as the last day to pay the total amount owed. I spoke with someone in loss mitigation who advised me to fill out a homeowners assistance application on their website. I completed my application and uploaded all requested documentation to the online portal on 01/04/2024. I got a notice on 01/05 that, upon quick review, my application appeared complete and that I was protected from foreclosure proceedings while under review. On 01/22, I received a request for more documents and a due date 02/06 to prevent my application from being denied. I had all requested documents uploaded to the online portal by 01/23 and have a screenshot showing the exact time and date. I did not hear or receive anything from them until I was served foreclosure papers in February.
I was under the impression that they must let me know in writing if an application for assistance is denied. I called to find out the problem, and they claimed they did not receive my documents from 01/22. They did eventually quit, claiming they weren't received when I sent them the screenshot showing when everything was uploaded. In March, I was told that my application was going back to the underwriters for review so that foreclosure proceedings would be paused. Toward the end of April, I began asking about the possibility of taking advantage of the new Partial Claim and Loan supplement program that was being launched on May 1. I was denied the opportunity to speak with someone about it and told that no such thing existed. In my last two conversations with them, they admitted to me that foreclosure proceedings were initiated on 01/29, six days after I submitted everything and still one week before the due date. In my most recent conversation, I was told that the foreclosure was not filed wrongly because it was past the 01/07 deadline, even though I had a complete application submitted. I got a notice last week that a hearing will be on May 20. Recently, my parents found themselves able to invest in some property and are buying a house we will move into. I am open to a deed in lieu if I cannot find a cash buyer, but I want the foreclosure removed. I don't have the money to hire an attorney, but I believe they filed the foreclosure against FHA regulations, and no one there will take me seriously. If they are doing this to me, I'm sure they are doing this to others. I would appreciate any advice you can give me. Do you know of any particular place I should contact? Are there any exact sections of the FHA regulations I can reference? I just want this to be over with.
If you made it this far, thank you so much. I don't share this for pity, but I am a widowed single mother of 6, and I'm just really f*****g tired.

I bought my house in SC in October 2021 with an FHA loan transferred from my original lender to Planet Home Lending. In September 2022, I got sick, which caused me to lose my job. I receive SS survivor benefits, so I do have a small income. I was optimistic that I would find other work when I was back on my feet, so I continued to make my mortgage payments on time. Unfortunately, I utilized credit cards for different needs when funds ran low, and in April of 2023, when I still did not have a job, I applied for forbearance with my mortgage company. At the time of forbearance approval, I had not missed or delayed any payments since I bought the house. I was approved for forbearance extensions, and then the mortgage company issued a notice to accelerate on 12/07/2023, with 01/07/2024 as the last day to pay the total amount owed. I spoke with someone in loss mitigation who advised me to fill out a homeowners assistance application on their website. I completed my application and uploaded all requested documentation to the online portal on 01/04/2024. I got a notice on 01/05 that, upon quick review, my application appeared complete and that I was protected from foreclosure proceedings while under review. On 01/22, I received a request for more documents and a due date 02/06 to prevent my application from being denied. I had all requested documents uploaded to the online portal by 01/23 and have a screenshot showing the exact time and date. I did not hear or receive anything from them until I was served foreclosure papers in February.
I was under the impression that they must let me know in writing if an application for assistance is denied. I called to find out the problem, and they claimed they did not receive my documents from 01/22. They did eventually quit, claiming they weren't received when I sent them the screenshot showing when everything was uploaded. In March, I was told that my application was going back to the underwriters for review so that foreclosure proceedings would be paused. Toward the end of April, I began asking about the possibility of taking advantage of the new Partial Claim and Loan supplement program that was being launched on May 1. I was denied the opportunity to speak with someone about it and told that no such thing existed. In my last two conversations with them, they admitted to me that foreclosure proceedings were initiated on 01/29, six days after I submitted everything and still one week before the due date. In my most recent conversation, I was told that the foreclosure was not filed wrongly because it was past the 01/07 deadline, even though I had a complete application submitted. I got a notice last week that a hearing will be on May 20. Recently, my parents found themselves able to invest in some property and are buying a house we will move into. I am open to a deed in lieu if I cannot find a cash buyer, but I want the foreclosure removed. I don't have the money to hire an attorney, but I believe they filed the foreclosure against FHA regulations, and no one there will take me seriously. If they are doing this to me, I'm sure they are doing this to others. I would appreciate any advice you can give me. Do you know of any particular place I should contact? Are there any exact sections of the FHA regulations I can reference? I just want this to be over with.
If you made it this far, thank you so much. I don't share this for pity, but I am a widowed single mother of 6, and I'm just really f*****g tired.

Today is a special episode release! In addition to Ikoria we also have the first part of our initial Ajani Episode! For Ikoria we'll explore the wilderness of the plane as nightmares, and cats, and cat nightmares hunt and kill humans! Learn about the monsters that inhabit it and pretty much rule the roost (literally and figuratively)!. We cover the book Ikoria: Lair of Behemoths — Sundered Bond by Django Wexler. The story of the Planewalker Lukka, also part of our Strixhaven episode, and Vivian Reid, with her mysterious Arkbow.
In our Ajani episode we have a special guest, Angel, a long time friend of the hosts and one of our first listeners. We'll be going over, quickly, the first half of the story of Ajani. We will be doing a more in depth dive into his history and story, and made this episode as a prototype to future planeswalker episodes!
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5rIBDjaznq8nOcVU4vP95G
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1SrKZiZi9JKK56xOP4JKAR
The plane of Ikoria is a large continent divided into five, with the mixing of different mana and creatures indicating what region you’re in. Each of these regions are called Triomes, named for the three separate mana that makes them up. And each triome is home to a dominant species, and an apex predator. Just something to remember about the plane is that there are massive crystal formations everywhere.
Savai (RWB) is made up of grassy plains atop mountainous cliff faces and swampy subterranean tunnels. Its dominant species is cats and it is home to the apex monster Snapdax. It also has the largest human settlement on the plane, Drannith.
Ketria, (GUR), is made up of rivers and waterfalls that wind through crystalline rainforests and cascade down mountainsides. The dominant species is elementals and it is home to the ethereal monster Illuna.
Indatha, (WBG) is made up of swampy pools within lowland plains, dotted with uniquely shaped trees. The dominant species is nightmares and it is home to the death-dwelling monster Nethroi. It is also home to the city of Skysail, made up from people fleeing a nightmare attack from the city of Orn, which was destroyed. Skysail itself is made up of hundreds of large hot air balloons joined together.
Raugrin (URW) consists of volcanic mountains surrounding white-sand beaches along the coastline. The dominant species is dinosaurs and it is home to the existence-erasing monster Vadrok. It also has the city Lavabrink, a city built under lava flows that are controlled via canals, protecting itself via it’s inaccessibility.
Zagoth (BGU) consists of teeming rainforests with vast lily pools and swampy wetlands. The dominant species is beasts and it is home to the long-lived monster Brokkos.

So I had a one night stand with a woman about a year and some change ago. Im originally from NY I worked on the road, this person lives in Louisiana. Fast forward to this month I got served papers at my home in NY stating family court for child support. Took a paternity test and the child mine. So, with all that being said, I am willing, to pay child support. Im not trying to avoid it or dodge it or whatever. But my question is I do not any sort of contact with this woman or child ever. Not now not ever etc. is there any way I can file for some sort of “protection” or whatever from this woman texting calling sending me mail etc? Again. Just don’t want contact with this person. Im not married I don’t have other kids. I just don’t want to “deal” with this in the sense of taking emotional responsibility for this child etc. and before you come at me, I was put up for adoption when I was a child and turned out just fine so. It is what it is. Im very thankful for being adopted.

Today is a special episode release! In addition to Ikoria we also have the first part of our initial Ajani Episode! For Ikoria we'll explore the wilderness of the plane as nightmares, and cats, and cat nightmares hunt and kill humans! Learn about the monsters that inhabit it and pretty much rule the roost (literally and figuratively)!. We cover the book Ikoria: Lair of Behemoths — Sundered Bond by Django Wexler. The story of the Planewalker Lukka, also part of our Strixhaven episode, and Vivian Reid, with her mysterious Arkbow.
In our Ajani episode we have a special guest, Angel, a long time friend of the hosts and one of our first listeners. We'll be going over, quickly, the first half of the story of Ajani. We will be doing a more in depth dive into his history and story, and made this episode as a prototype to future planeswalker episodes!
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5rIBDjaznq8nOcVU4vP95G
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1SrKZiZi9JKK56xOP4JKAR
The plane of Ikoria is a large continent divided into five, with the mixing of different mana and creatures indicating what region you’re in. Each of these regions are called Triomes, named for the three separate mana that makes them up. And each triome is home to a dominant species, and an apex predator. Just something to remember about the plane is that there are massive crystal formations everywhere.
Savai (RWB) is made up of grassy plains atop mountainous cliff faces and swampy subterranean tunnels. Its dominant species is cats and it is home to the apex monster Snapdax. It also has the largest human settlement on the plane, Drannith.
Ketria, (GUR), is made up of rivers and waterfalls that wind through crystalline rainforests and cascade down mountainsides. The dominant species is elementals and it is home to the ethereal monster Illuna.
Indatha, (WBG) is made up of swampy pools within lowland plains, dotted with uniquely shaped trees. The dominant species is nightmares and it is home to the death-dwelling monster Nethroi. It is also home to the city of Skysail, made up from people fleeing a nightmare attack from the city of Orn, which was destroyed. Skysail itself is made up of hundreds of large hot air balloons joined together.
Raugrin (URW) consists of volcanic mountains surrounding white-sand beaches along the coastline. The dominant species is dinosaurs and it is home to the existence-erasing monster Vadrok. It also has the city Lavabrink, a city built under lava flows that are controlled via canals, protecting itself via it’s inaccessibility.
Zagoth (BGU) consists of teeming rainforests with vast lily pools and swampy wetlands. The dominant species is beasts and it is home to the long-lived monster Brokkos.

Today is a special episode release! In addition to Ikoria we also have the first part of our initial Ajani Episode!For Ikoria we'll explore the wildrness of the plane as nightmares, and cats, and cat nightmares hunt and kill humans! Learn about the monsters that inhabit it and pretty much rule the roost (literally and figuratively)!. We cover the book Ikoria: Lair of Behemoths — Sundered Bond by Django Wexler. The story of the Planewalker Lukka, also part of our Strixhaven episode, and Vivian Reid, with her mysterious Arkbow.
In our Ajani episode we have a special guest, Angel, a long time friend of the hosts and one of our first listeners. We'll be going over, quickly, the first half of the story of Ajani. We will be doing a more in depth dive into his history and story, and made this episode as a prototype to future planeswalker episodes!
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5rIBDjaznq8nOcVU4vP95G
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1SrKZiZi9JKK56xOP4JKAR
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The plane of Ikoria is a large continent divided into five, with the mixing of different mana and creatures indicating what region you’re in. Each of these regions are called Triomes, named for the three separate mana that makes them up. And each triome is home to a dominant species, and an apex predator. Just something to remember about the plane is that there are massive crystal formations everywhere.
Savai (RWB) is made up of grassy plains atop mountainous cliff faces and swampy subterranean tunnels. Its dominant species is cats and it is home to the apex monster Snapdax. It also has the largest human settlement on the plane, Drannith.
Ketria, (GUR), is made up of rivers and waterfalls that wind through crystalline rainforests and cascade down mountainsides. The dominant species is elementals and it is home to the ethereal monster Illuna.
Indatha, (WBG) is made up of swampy pools within lowland plains, dotted with uniquely shaped trees. The dominant species is nightmares and it is home to the death-dwelling monster Nethroi. It is also home to the city of Skysail, made up from people fleeing a nightmare attack from the city of Orn, which was destroyed. Skysail itself is made up of hundreds of large hot air balloons joined together.
Raugrin (URW) consists of volcanic mountains surrounding white-sand beaches along the coastline. The dominant species is dinosaurs and it is home to the existence-erasing monster Vadrok. It also has the city Lavabrink, a city built under lava flows that are controlled via canals, protecting itself via it’s inaccessibility.
Zagoth (BGU) consists of teeming rainforests with vast lily pools and swampy wetlands. The dominant species is beasts and it is home to the long-lived monster Brokkos.

i finished my freshman year living in a dorm and have moved into an apartment. i’ve been here about a month but brought my cat melon last week.
more context, she’s coming from my family home, which has her kitty friend, whiskey she is bonded with. we adopted them together but had to seperate as he is my brothers. (i know this is not ideal, im trying to take him but my brother doesn’t want me to.) our house was 3,500 sq ft and the apartment is 800sq ft. melon is doing okay adjusting, but i’m trying to change her feeding schedule time.
my family used to feed her at 5 am and 5 pm. this is not ideal for me as i cannot wake up early. i have been getting up for her to feed her, play a bit, then go back to bed, but if i try to push her feeding back any she gets very angry, loud, and i end up caving. i want to feed her closer to 8 am and 7 pm but i have NO clue how im ever gonna get there. any advice???

I'm 25, and I've been in the process of redirecting my career. This has taken a few months, but I've gotten pretty far in terms of my professional goals. Got accepted into my desired Phd. program for August.
I was working in the Education field from 21, but got fired as soon as I opened up about leaving my job at the end of the year (may 2024) to pursue graduate studies, so I was terminated immediately - it's a crazy story. Thing is I was jobless for a few months (up to December 2023), but I had to to earn money somehow, so I decided to get a job while I applied for school to begin in August.
I'm working in a call center. I can't say I hate it, but it's not my cup of tea. I struggle to get here every morning and struggle even more to not clock out early. I do pretty much nothing. I have been absent quite a few times and have not gotten in trouble. I feel like my coworkers notice I'm pretty much useless and do not care for this job, but no one seems to care or do anything? I'm definitely not a stellar employee.
I've begun to feel really bad about this recently. I don't wanna be an as***le or make it seem like I disregard the people who's career is this job - on the other hand, coming from a lower middle class home, I respect them -but I just can't even begin to pretend I'm interested; so this isn't a thing of "I'm above these people, I should be working elsewhere." Maybe I feel self-conscious, but I fear people just assuming this is me... but it's not! I'm just tired of having to do this thing I didn't want to do! I'm tired of being forced to be here or just starve (although, isn't that what all jobs are?).
Then part of my brain is like: "You're to old for this behavior", "you have to be mature and work hard and do the deed", but at the same time I realize my life's just beginning! This cavalier, "f**k it", irresponsible personality isn't a reflection of who I truly am or who I want to be, but the manifestation of the frustration I feel for this Kafkaesque situation I've been pushed into.
I don't know if I'm making any sense now, but I just wanted to let it out.

My whole life I've been shamed for having emotions by my friends and family. I have a toxic family who just hold me back. I have never opened up to another human in my life. It's suffocating. I constantly feel like I'm living this double life where at school I'm pretending to be okay but as soon as I get home I just vegetate for hours on my phone. I don't know how the fuck to build deep bonds with people, all I've ever managed to do in my whole life is create shallow friendships that end once school finishes. I'm sick to death of living the same day over and over again. I have autism, severe social anxiety and depression.

Long story. TW: drug use, sex, sexual abuse, domestic abuse, mental illness, addiction.
I'm 25F and I have two siblings, 27M and 22F. I have a half sister who is in her late 30's I believe, and she went NC with our dad many years ago. My parents are in their early-mid 70's now.
My parents were in their young adulthood in the 70's in California, so there was lots of drugs involved. I'm assuming that's how they bonded in the beginning. That and they both have edured horrible abuse. My dad was essentially beat by his parents with a belt until he was 18 for what I now realize was because he has autism/ADHD like a motherf'er and he was bullied in school. My siblings and I are all on the spectrum (none of us diagnosed officially but it's plainly obvious) and it was never ONCE mentioned by my father. One time he tried to tell me I have a sixth sense when I was young, that's about it. He has abstract beliefs that he has special abilities and is a reincarnation of Jesus, and that we all are part of his heavenly mission or some shit. Every time he would take a week off work growing up he'd spiral and go into drug induced psychosis and try to talk madness to us when we were way too young to understand why he was acting so much more weird than ususal. He's obsessed with biblical stuff and studies latin/ancient mythology to try and crack the code of the universe. I believe he became addicted to stimulants because as we know, stuff like amphetamines makes ADHD folk 'more productive ' and can sometimes 'relieve' certain symptoms. He has also smoked two joints a day pretty much my entire life. He's always had the same routine though, kept a steady job and provided the basics. I'll give him that. He's never had a friend over. Cut off his family aside from a couple of other backcountry type weirdos.
My mom grew up very rural farm in Tennessee and was abused by boyfriends, having married off at 16 to a much older man and then being estranged from her family. She has terrible PTSD and became physically disabled after falling at work.
She manipulated me very young to genuinely believe my father was a monster who molested my sister (untrue) and I genuinely took her side for many years before I realized I was just a pawn for her. She was an alcoholic during my childhood and when she had custody of us she'd just drag us along to her 'boyfriend's house and we'd just sit around unattended while she was getting drunk in another room. I had to witness sexual stuff too because she was drunk/gone she didn't care. Eventually we all had to move in with my dad full time because she lost the house she had that was from the divorce split. It sucked but at least our dad made sure we had dinner to eat and movies to watch.
She moved to the woods into the family cabin that she recieved during the divorce assets split. She was MIA for quite some time. Over the course of my young adulthood I began to recognize that my mother is paranoid schizophrenic. I personally became her golden child and was always told I was the easy one because I was a doormat and her therapist. She exposed me very young to horrible concepts revolving around sex. She was molested as a child so I think her obsession comes from that. She told me very young (like 6) that men want to have sex with me and rape me. She told me her stories of being molested and raped when I was way too young to handle it, in graphic detail. I believed her and I thought we had a special bond because she and I were 'so close' but it was fucked.
It reached a breaking point when she assaulted government fire cleanup crew on her property with bear spray. It was on the news and everything. I found out because my cousin sent me the news article with my mom's mugshot. To this day she believes they were out to get her and that they had a gun. She served time in jail but they let her go after realizing she's delusional. She moved back in with my dad a few years ago as she had no other choice. My dad was there to pick her up when she got out. She's completely dependent on him and it's a horrible situation. My dad just gives her weed to smoke and she stays home all day. Her car doesn't work and she never leaves the home, never speaks to anyone because she's lost contact with everyone years ago, and she has no desire to connect because she's convinced of all these conspiracy theories.
I never received care or attention. I needed extra guidance and still do, due to me being on the spectrum, but I received nothing. I had to just sit back and be a witness to their horror show, so I began to disassociate very young. I was diagnosed with PTSD with dissociative symptoms due to my own development of delusional beliefs during the peak of the chaos. I started work at 15 just to get out of the house on the weekends when my dad was home. I fell in love with a teacher at school, simply because he showed me attention (nothing sexual, just friendly and fun) and I tried to confess my crush over email and got in trouble. It was a huge wake up call for me that I am way more fucked up than I thought. I still became fixated on older men. I fell to substance abuse myself during late highschool and began dating men in their 30's, eventually moving in with one who was himself an alcoholic and abuser. I went through a phase where I met up with strangers online (not dating sites, weird stuff like 'seeking amateur model' type predators) and ended up having sex with them. Much much older men. I was very fucked up for a long time and in many ways still am.
I got out on my own at 22 and in the last few months have made the push to move about 40 miles away from my hometown, got a full time job as a mail carrier, and am now left with this super peaceful existence. However now that I'm at rest, all the horrid memories are coming up. I've been getting triggered and dysregulated for days, having flashbacks and crying for hours. It's been like this my whole life and I still find it really hard to try and forgive.
My brother is doing surprisingly well and is successful in his independence and career, put himself through college and all despite suffering from depression and having his own interpersonal trauma separate from our home stuff. My younger sister was groomed by a 50yr old man when she was around 14yrs old and she is still with him today. Hasn't worked a day in her life, fully dependent on him. Once again, never got help for her autism and I honestly don't even blame her for taking her chance to get the hell out of our house. Obviously in the beginning I was the only one trying to get this guy arrested as my parents were clueless and unable to do shit. Now we've all just had to kind of accept it, but it's sad.
I'm seeing my parents wither away into madness. My dad is still functional (he's always held his engineering job) but lives in fantasy land. He just bought more property in the forest but doesn't even think to try and get my mom mental help. He recognizes how bad she is but is convinced he can just talk her down if she ever gets amped up/manic. Holy shit it's exhausting to just simply witness their shit. I yearn so often to just close the door gently and say 'bye bye'. I have fond memories of them. I don't think they're bad people. They are so deeply wounded beyond repair, though. I'm still walking the tightrope trying not to fall off and go back into my darkness. I'm finally feeling stable and now it's just a matter of...okay, I'm safe now. I don't rely on them for a single thing now. So what's in it for me to keep in contact? Not much. In fact I think it would be in my favor to stop contact.
My parents are really good at guilt tripping. Anytime I've brought up my side of things they just say 'I don't remember that' or 'At least you weren't ____" playing the 'I had it much worse' game and 'I did everything for you' even though it was the bare fucking minimum, if that. We were neglected our whole childhoods.
I have concern that if I do it and they get sick or die that I'll have to live with the burden of knowing I could have done something. But really, what can I do for people who have made their choices to be fuck ups? I see no intentions of trying to get better from either of them. Even if they did a 180 and started trying, I'd still be sceptical and unsure whether I could ever feel comfortable around them ever again. Its almost too far gone to come back from, you know?
To this day I've tried the forgive and forget. I've tried the empathy thing. I understand they are hurt people. But the young girl in me is fucking angry and she wants justice. I don't want to make the mistake of doing it just because I want to hurt them. If I do this I need to remember it's for ME. How they might react is honestly pretty irrelevant because that's not what it's about. It's about taking my power back...to sound cliche.
This is only a quarter of the picture but I hope this lays it all out in a somewhat comprehensive way. Honestly anytime I actually start to explain this shit to anyone the answer becomes obvious, but I just need support to feel like I'm not being a terrible selfish person for considering this.
TLDR: Parents neglected me and my siblings because of their drug use and general disregard for how we would be affected by their behavior. They both experience psychosis and deny that they ever did anything wrong when confronted. I'm finally stable. Do I cut them off?

This is not my personal story, but of a close friend.
Friend (Carrie, 42F), has owned their own home for over 15years. They are the only owner on title. Carrie was in an on again off again relationship with this guy (Lenny, 41M). Lenny eventually moved into Carrie's home.
Carrie broke off the relationship and tried to get Lenny to leave, but he refused. Carrie, from the advice of police was told to obtain a peace bond. Carried applied for one, it was DENIED. Unfortunately for Carrie she left the decision letter out in the open and Lenny saw it.
The next evening Lenny calls the police and charges Carrie with assault. The police arrest Carrie. Carrie explained that she owned the house and Lenny should be removed. The police, based on the word of Lenny, agreed they were married and it was the matrimonial home. Carrie went to jail. Carrie was served a peace bond that she could not be within 100m of Lenny.
It took Carrie 4 months and $16,000 in lawyer and court fees to get an order from a judge that Lenny, indeed was not married to Carrie and had no rights to the home. He was ordered to leave in 2 weeks on a Friday by noon. Side note, I attended the court hearing (virtually) the judge straight up asked "Lenny are you married to Carrie." Lenny: "Not officially." (What an id10t).
Friday, 1:30pm, Lenny is still in the home. This time with his new gf, and her kids. Carrie arrives with a friend tells them to vacate. They call the police and charge Carrie again with assault. The police arrest Carrie, again. Carrie states arrest Lenny too, he's not supposed to be here. They do.
The crown refuses to proceed with the charges of assault against Carrie. The judge wants Carrie to go on probation. Carrie refuses, because she did nothing wrong. A future court date is pending. Because of this, apparently, the original peace bond against Carrie is still in effect.
Carrie works at a very popular wholesaler. Lenny and gf show up several months after the previous events. Carrie calls the cops and informs them, they are in my place of business - inform them to not be here during my shifts - here is my schedule. Cops reply, nothing we can do, it's a public place. 1 week later they show up again, they call the cops and state that Carrie made a gesture at them. Carrie gets 3 charges of breach of peace bond and is warned if it happens again she will be arrested and thrown in jail until the court proceedings, which are likely months away.
Someone make this make sense.

My closest friends are amazing and i love them so much. However, I've always had trouble keeping friends my age because I eventually begin to feel disconnected. I grew up in a way that really forced me to mature early, and I've also seen a lot to say the least. A lot that has made me an understanding person of others experience, but I believe drives my eventual disconnect.
The friends I have now are really not like any others I've had. I feel like I can talk to them about a few things, and also think our value systems align really well. We have similar opinions on many issues and they are all pretty level-headed like I am. But over the year their lack of experience or privilege has started to show and become bothersome. I mean that the way that navigate the world is through a privileged lens of having not experienced anything really crazy. They aren't very understanding people, and are really quick to morally grandstand based solely on their parents teachings and not their own experiences.
I've thought this for a while, but now that I've been on a trip with them for a few days, I'm finding I need personal space. It's been really exhausting to be around their toxic positivity (not the best word), and unrelenting eagerness for everything. The other day I kind of shut down at dinner because for this whole trip they've wanted to play random bonding games. Which i think is fine, but if every conversation (breakfast, lunch, and dinner) your asking me what my "happiest moment in life is?" like I just cant. I then decided to go out with other friends that night and honestly had an amazing time. Then when I got back home I basically told them all like "hey I need a day to myself and will not be going to the beach, I know I got quiet during dinner but need the day to deal with some things"--because I am currently facing homelessness :) Then one of my friends goes "I mean okay but just communicate that." IF that isn't what I was doing in that very moment...I then said back like something about how the shit I go through is stuff they don't have to deal with adn she was like what do you mean and I said i didnt care to talk about it .
This is just one example. But I think they have all very healthy approaches to life that work for them because they have been privileged enough to not recognize that the world isn't as simple.
I don't know it this makes sense, kind of a rant, but looking to feel less lonely in feeling disconnected from my age group. I'm getting ready to graduate from college and am just really hoping if there's a light somewhere in the friendship sphere. Thank you

When they start pulling away that’s a huge sign the discard is imminent. It doesn’t matter what reason they give for it, look at their actions. You can’t trust their words only their actions.
In my relationship experience with my gf, we were on and off for five years and cycled back over a dozen times. I’ve been hit with blind sided discards throughout the years. Usually the discards happened when I thought things were at their best in the relationship and we were having our most closest and intimate times together. I loved her but my heart had hardened over the years and it morphed into a challenge and experiment for me as I am very interested in human psychology. The last three break ups were all initiated by me after I saw set boundaries bulldozed through by her.
In the past, I would have lingered and waited for the axe to fall not believing she would or could actually leave. Now armed with all this hard learned experience, I prepared and waited for her next hoover. Sure enough she came back each time. Sometimes after much more added betrayal. Sometimes she would monkey branch, she would never admit to it but I would usually find out months or years after the fact. She was great at keeping secrets and sneaking around and telling lies. This last time was more of an experiment for me. Her trigger after the love bombing stage and first discard was sexual intimacy which invoked emotional intimacy. Usually right after an intimate encounter she would either start a nonsensical fight and use my reaction as a reason to leave or would just disappear and ghost.
I’ve struggled with does she only have an avoidant attachment style or is there a cluster B disorder also at play. I really think it is BPD with covert NPD traits combined with an avoidant attachment style forming a mental trifecta; a relationship disaster. I knew this last time wouldn’t work. A zebra can’t change its stripes.
She contacted me again to get back together again. I played hard to get trying to decide if I really wanted this or not. I demanded numerous boundaries be agreed to before I would agree trying again. I pushed her so far away, I thought she might just say never mind but when I saw her reaching her limit, I relented and accepted her back with many boundaries in place. I told myself if these were broke I was done and I would leave. One important boundary was being blocked on social media. She would always keep me blocked on FB and other platforms while we were in a relationship. I felt it was to shield her harem from knowing about me and me knowing about them and what she was doing. She kept other ex’s as friends on FB and actually went back to him after we broke up on two occasions.
I often wondered if we put off having sex could we build a stronger foundation and have a longer lasting relationship. I also didn’t want physical intimacy to cloud my judgement and give me false feelings of love. So we both decided to not be intimate right away and just date and put an emphasis on building a friendship and getting close with out sex. Things were great in the beginning. She was trying hard. She opened up in ways I had always wanted. Some of those were because of boundaries I set in the beginning. I got to meet her family and friends. I saw a lot of the same cluster B behaviors in others close to her and her family members from suicide to serial cheating, multiple and short lived relationships etc…
Slowly I could see the mental fatigue on her face. She began struggling about two months in. We decided to plan a weekend getaway and be intimate. I put down deposits on an Airbnb and made plans. She started an argument the week of the trip. Her issue was that I offered to bring her to my gym as a guest so we could do something healthy together and bond. She just thought that was the worst idea ever. During the argument she also told me she could be talking to someone else instead. She then kicked me out of her house. I thought that was the end of the experiment. In the past any conflict no matter how mild would have been reason enough for her to break up.
Low in behold, I was truly surprised, I woke up to a good morning text from her apologizing saying she was not running away and I was her person and she loved me. She stated she still didn’t feel comfortable going on the trip. I lost deposits. I later questioned her about who she was referring to she could be talking to instead. She said she never could have said that as it would have been mean to say.
Fast forward approximately two months later the old argument about the gym was brought up again by her. It didn’t get to the same level of being kicked out of her house. I kept my cool and just gray rocked her and didn’t react. I just affirmed her and said ok. It seemed to give her some relief and not escalate things. We decided to plan a weekend at a casino where we would spend the night. This went off without a hitch. We had a great time and we were very intimate and had great sex. Afterwards laying in bed enjoying the afterglow, she commented this was never our problem. I asked what was our problem, she said it was her running away. She promised to never do that again. The next day we went her parents house for Sunday dinner. Things were great, she seemed so in love with me. I was elated. We were walking into her parents side entrance when I noticed how happy she was and I commented someone looks like they are in love. She turned around and looked at me with the strangest face. Almost like fear. I was taken aback but didn’t say anything as we were walking into her parents house and then greeted everyone. It was like a switch had just flipped. She became distant and quiet. I didn’t see her again until the following sunday. She gave excuses about having to work a night shift that was at first going to alternate every other day to nightly. At the end of the week she invited back to her parents house for dinner. She still texted but I didn’t receive any phone calls and the texts contained less affectionate terms and only offered up I loves you’s only after I did first.
While at her parents house her mother asked if I was going to her birthday party the next night at a restaurant. I said I would love to but I didn’t know anything about it. She gave her mom a wtf look and then said let’s see how he acts first. Me and her mother both looked at each other and laughed. The next night I show up at her house to pick her and her teenage daughter up who had been committed for attempting suicide in the past for the purpose of going to her mother’s bday party.
Two days in the future was Valentine’s Day, I asked what restaurant would she like to go too. She was like I don’t won’t to go out and gave a reason as the restaurants would be to busy but after my persistent questioning she offered possibly a lunch instead and said she would let me know. I dropped it as she was getting visibly angered. This was totally out of character because she always liked going out to busy places where live music and beer was had. I said ok and we continued on to the party. We were at a restaurant and normally she sits right beside me thigh to thigh and she would keep a hand on my leg. That night she sat atleast a foot apart from me and never touched me the whole night. We barely even spoke. Every time I tried she was dismissive.
After dinner we went back to her house and she sat me down to tell me that she felt pressured to see me after work as she missed going to stores and felt rushed to get home to see me. I didn’t react and just offered a compromise and said I understood how about we schedule a date night then. She never responded and just dropped it. She then brought up the gym argument again. I didn’t respond to it. I told her I was her safe place and to just relax. My head was swimming with thoughts of here we go again. I leave soon after her telling me she was tired and I got my peck on the cheek and left early. I did not receive a good night text or ask if I made it home safely. I sent a good night message and fell asleep.
The next morning I wake to no messages which was very abnormal. I normally get good morning messages from her and I love you’s every day. I sent my normal messages and she responds back saying she needed that. But nothing more additional. I go through my day and get nothing else from her. Normally she sends texts all day long. Towards 4 pm I send a text from a gym and a selfie saying hi , I love you. She hearted the photo and said then said she was going to her mom’s house and sent me a selfie of her. She was all dressed up and didn’t look like she was just going to her moms. I was hoping to get an invite to come over. Nothing more came from her. I asked about her daughter as she had was dealing with possible Covid symptoms and I got nothing in response. I didn’t feel like going home so I went to the movies by myself. Sitting there I was thinking why am I putting up with this. I’m really not happy. I feel so alone.
I go to bed and send my normal good night texts. I wake up in the morning and I did not receive any texts. I decided to try calling her and all my calls were forwarded. I then check her Facebook and now see that I am blocked.
I remembered the boundaries I set and the purpose of the boundaries. The purpose was to respect myself and not be used by her again. I did not want to be hurt and abused by her again. With so many discards done in the past by her, I felt the discard was in full swing. I felt she was possibly cheating and the push back was her trying to create space to water a new infatuation. She had recently transferred to a new department within her company and was promoted and allowed to select people she wanted for her office. My gut was telling me she was talking to someone at work which would explain the recent late night hours.
I decided I needed to end the relationship. I sent her a break up text as she always ended it with me that way. Before that happened to me so many times, I never would have chosen to break up over text. But it did allow me to spell out everything I saw and what I felt. It contained my closure and reasoning in an attempt to make my own closure for myself because I knew she would not give any closure and also to hold her accountable. I ended the break up text with an open door and said if I’m wrong please explain. I will listen. Her response was “Wow you said enough.” “I’m done.” I replied “yep, I know”.
Her mother reached out and apologized and expressed regret. I told her everything. I felt vindicated. She said her and her husband thought so highly of me and hoped it would have worked. She did not know if her daughter was seeing anyone else. We have since stopped communicating but we remain friends on FB.
I credit the lack of sexual intimacy as the reason I was able to look at the relationship with sober eyes and step away when I saw the signs. The signs were abuse. They truly were. If you love a person you would never ask for space and give such a silly reason. Sex would have produced false feelings of love. I was able to look at the relationship objectively and I was actually not happy. My needs weren’t being met. I felt so drained and unseen. I didn’t feel loved. She loved the way I loved her but it wasn’t reciprocated.
I felt the need perhaps due to the trauma bond and the perceived betrayal to learn if in fact she had monkey branched in order to help me move away from her permanently.
I reached out to another family member and the ex she monkey branched to in the past. I explained the above information and I ended up not receiving any new information. Both told her I had reached out and her ex blocked me. My ex then sent me an email demanding I stop contacting her family and friends and further more she would be filing a protection order. I never received the order. My only regrets was reaching out to her family and her ex. It just gave her a reason to smear me and to tell everyone I’m nutty person.
I cant say I’m 100% hoover proof at the moment but I have started dating again. I don’t think she will come back again because I believe she feels I can’t be used anymore and furthermore I’m willing to reveal her bad deeds to her family and friends. I think she will choose to move on to a fresh target who does not know her and what she is capable of doing.

I have a very agressive chin, Dusty is a 2-3 year old chin my wife and i adopted from a previous owner. We've had him for about 4 months now and still can't touch him. I have 3 other chins, my oldest is 12 years old. The other 2 are a bonded pair. The room is 65 degrees F. (Or 18 degrees C). He gets the same food and treats as my other boys, has the same metal running wheel ( not wire frame). Plenty of willow sticks to chew and his cage is 32x32x50 in habitat space so there is lots of room to jump and climb. I figured out he is very food motivated and will take treats from my hand so that's a step in the right direction at least. Any time my hand is in the cage i get bit or he makes the sound they make when they don't like something and shows his teeth. Honestly i think he may have been abused in his old home, the agression he shows feels like more of a learned trait than the usual prey animal fear that chins have before they figure out their human doesn't want to eat them. Im looking for advice in curbing the agression would be great.