Taking lysine and arginine together
r/pansexual
2011.08.07 07:55 erikpdx r/pansexual
Welcome to /Pansexual! This is a place for all pansexuals to go and talk freely.
2014.06.17 21:04 The place for all your lever-lovin' needs
A subreddit for those that love Levers, and things that go bang, together. A place to enjoy Levers without competitive shooting taking it all over.
2012.07.04 17:36 thedazzler Discover Food Freedom in 30 Days!
The Whole30 is a 30-day elimination program co-founded by Melissa Urban in 2009. This subreddit brings together redditors that are taking on the Whole30 program, those that have completed one, and those that are considering it. Detailed information and program rules can be found on whole30.com.
2024.06.10 02:07 Deathspike 36 Masc Midwest man l 4 serious
Hello!
Please read the entire post as I won't be responding unless you do.
I'm a down to earth,somewhat smartass, career Driven dude from Iowa. I'm 36, 5'10, 190 blonde hair, blue eyes. Enjoy working out/weightlifting. I'm into video and board games, sports, movies, traveling. Discord is a must if LDR. I enjoy watching shows and spending time with my person. Verse mainly top, more dominant leaning. Don't have a huge dick, sorry size queens.
What I'm looking for! A fun, outgoing guy between 22-49 who has their shit together and is able to have a conversation. Open to most body types and looks as long as you take care of yourself. I will make requests of you.
Don't lead with a "Hey".... tell me something interesting about yourself, or have a post up. Include a pic G or Pg And I'll return the favor.
US/Canada only please and don't use your fucking alt like a pussy.
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Please read the entire post as I won't be responding unless you do.
I'm a down to earth,somewhat smartass, career Driven dude from Iowa. I'm 36, 5'10, 190 blonde hair, blue eyes. Enjoy working out/weightlifting. I'm into video and board games, sports, movies, traveling. Discord is a must if LDR. I enjoy watching shows and spending time with my person. Verse mainly top, more dominant leaning. Don't have a huge dick, sorry size queens.
What I'm looking for! A fun, outgoing guy between 22-49 who has their shit together and is able to have a conversation. Open to most body types and looks as long as you take care of yourself. I will make requests of you.
Don't lead with a "Hey".... tell me something interesting about yourself, or have a post up. Include a pic G or Pg And I'll return the favor.
US/Canada only please and don't use your fucking alt like a pussy.
2024.06.10 02:07 mjsmore33 Helped my former boss get fired
3 years ago I quit a job I loved because I couldn't stand the women in charge. They're were technically two agencies that worked together and both executive directors are horrible. It's well known among staff that they give themselves raises every year but refuse to give other people a raise. They do very little work yet take all the credit and will even publicly shame hard working employees
They held an hour long meeting after I told them I couldn't possibly add any more tasks to my schedule to tell me how horrible I was and claimed I wasn't getting my work done, that I was a liar, and that I needed to put more effort into my work instead of my personal life (I had just suffered my 3rd miscarriage and was getting a lot of testing done). I put in my notice 3 days later. Their data analyst was quickly able to prove that not only was I doing all of my work, I was actually inputting data for others. We had to input proof of everything we did
2 weeks ago I was having a casual conversation with my boss, who just happens to be the board president for one of the agencies. He asked me why I left and informed me that 3 years later they still haven't been able to fill my position. I told him the truth and and told him that I found it very odd that the board never did an audit because of seemed obvious that the directors weren't doing their job and fund weren't being handled properly. Well they did one last month and one director was unavailable because she went on a month long trip. She couldn't prove that she didn't misuse funds when it looked as though she did.
She was released last week after 25 years. Not only did the claim that she misused funds, but they also felt she was faking her timesheets since she couldn't prove what hours she worked, and they felt she was misusing her authority by making her employees come into the office while she supposedly worked from home
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They held an hour long meeting after I told them I couldn't possibly add any more tasks to my schedule to tell me how horrible I was and claimed I wasn't getting my work done, that I was a liar, and that I needed to put more effort into my work instead of my personal life (I had just suffered my 3rd miscarriage and was getting a lot of testing done). I put in my notice 3 days later. Their data analyst was quickly able to prove that not only was I doing all of my work, I was actually inputting data for others. We had to input proof of everything we did
2 weeks ago I was having a casual conversation with my boss, who just happens to be the board president for one of the agencies. He asked me why I left and informed me that 3 years later they still haven't been able to fill my position. I told him the truth and and told him that I found it very odd that the board never did an audit because of seemed obvious that the directors weren't doing their job and fund weren't being handled properly. Well they did one last month and one director was unavailable because she went on a month long trip. She couldn't prove that she didn't misuse funds when it looked as though she did.
She was released last week after 25 years. Not only did the claim that she misused funds, but they also felt she was faking her timesheets since she couldn't prove what hours she worked, and they felt she was misusing her authority by making her employees come into the office while she supposedly worked from home
2024.06.10 02:07 Impressive-Age509 House Manager / Companion Care
Hi Reddit!
I feel like this is a middle class finance problem. My Mom (76F) has mild dementia, which is starting to get worse after my Dad passed three months ago. We live together by circumstance and I really, really need help. I need help keeping an inventory of what groceries, pantry items needed. Grocery shopping, making and taking Mom to appointments, laundry. I don’t actually live with my Mom but have been for the last three months. She doesn’t want anyone coming in and bringing her coffee in the morning but at the moment that’s me and I cannot do it anymore. I also can’t keep filling her prescriptions, etc. it’s all too much on top of learning how to run a big house. My question is, has someone else hired a person who is more of a house manager and less of a caregiver? Also, what do they do during downtime?
submitted by Impressive-Age509 to MiddleClassFinance [link] [comments]
I feel like this is a middle class finance problem. My Mom (76F) has mild dementia, which is starting to get worse after my Dad passed three months ago. We live together by circumstance and I really, really need help. I need help keeping an inventory of what groceries, pantry items needed. Grocery shopping, making and taking Mom to appointments, laundry. I don’t actually live with my Mom but have been for the last three months. She doesn’t want anyone coming in and bringing her coffee in the morning but at the moment that’s me and I cannot do it anymore. I also can’t keep filling her prescriptions, etc. it’s all too much on top of learning how to run a big house. My question is, has someone else hired a person who is more of a house manager and less of a caregiver? Also, what do they do during downtime?
2024.06.10 02:06 jaycee0699 28[M4F] Australia/Online - Looking for a fun&exciting pocket connection.
Hey, looking for a pocket friend to have some.. or lots of fun with and build..
A connection between us that's more than just a few messages a day, I want long messages and deep conversations, I'm always available to talk, day and night. Replies may be slow when working but I'm always consistent. I want us to brighten up eachothers days, have us smiling at our phone and be excited waiting for eachothers messages, i want a slow build up over time getting to know each other and have us not wanting to leave each other alone, sext, be naughtt and dirty together, send double texts, cute messages when we are busy, voice memos, pictures, memes, flirt with eachother... all this n that.
To put it in short I'm looking for a woman who is;
•Fit, hits the gym, is attractive and confident, and takes care of herself. (As I fit 😉 this description also)
•Has time to get to know each other inside and out and learn eachothers needs and wants, not looking for something that lasts a week and then frizzles out. Something long-term with meaning is preferred.
•Good with communication, flirty, funny and down to sneak away for some fun once we build up that attraction.... Too much to ask for?.. probably.... But anyways
Please send me a reddit chat with a paragraph about yourself, your name, age, where you're from and the last song that you listened to. I'm from Australia but open to anyone from anywhere if we can make the time difference work.
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A connection between us that's more than just a few messages a day, I want long messages and deep conversations, I'm always available to talk, day and night. Replies may be slow when working but I'm always consistent. I want us to brighten up eachothers days, have us smiling at our phone and be excited waiting for eachothers messages, i want a slow build up over time getting to know each other and have us not wanting to leave each other alone, sext, be naughtt and dirty together, send double texts, cute messages when we are busy, voice memos, pictures, memes, flirt with eachother... all this n that.
To put it in short I'm looking for a woman who is;
•Fit, hits the gym, is attractive and confident, and takes care of herself. (As I fit 😉 this description also)
•Has time to get to know each other inside and out and learn eachothers needs and wants, not looking for something that lasts a week and then frizzles out. Something long-term with meaning is preferred.
•Good with communication, flirty, funny and down to sneak away for some fun once we build up that attraction.... Too much to ask for?.. probably.... But anyways
Please send me a reddit chat with a paragraph about yourself, your name, age, where you're from and the last song that you listened to. I'm from Australia but open to anyone from anywhere if we can make the time difference work.
2024.06.10 02:05 HealthyGuard9340 I fear I may be emotionally dependant on my boyfriend
Recently I started dating my now boyfriend and we have been really happy together for the last few months and our lifes are pretty great But the problem is I feel kind of abandoned when he takes too long to respond, either that or I feel like I said something wrong Other things that happen is when I am distracted drawing, gaming or something of that nature I get a big urge to check the phone like he sent me a message and I have to just finish this part and check the messages right after I personally dont think I am dependant in any way to anyone but this mix of anxiety and loneliness whenever he takes too long to respond is concerning me For a bit more context I usually did pretty well alone and didn't felt the need to talk at all and this is my first romantic relationship, in wich I am worried I might hurt him since we are both dumbasses with mental issues I would also say that while it affects me, it is not a active hinderance in my day to day activities, but it does get me down (Note english isnt my first language so pardon any mistakes)
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2024.06.10 02:05 cutielalotie If you think that keeping a cockatiel alone is nothing bad, then in my eyes you are a bad person.
Imagine you are born. Mom and Dad take turns cuddling and feeding you and your siblings. There are four of you. Within two days you have all come out of the egg and you cuddle a lot to keep warm. It feels nice not to be alone when Mom and Dad are not there. You are getting bigger and bigger and every now and then Mom hisses at a pink giant who is looking after you. One day you leave the nest and there are even more birds waiting for you! You are together all day, singing and watching what they are up to and you are very curious because you want to try out what the big ones do. Then, one day, one of the pink giants comes and puts you in a box. It is dark and you don't know what is happening. You are shaken up quite a bit and at some point a bright beam of light appears. The box is opened. You are put in a small cage. Everything is new. It smells different, it looks different, you are terrified of where you are. Your family is not there. no friends, no one you knew is with you. you are alone. only this pink giant looks after you. every now and then he is there and because you have no one else you play with him. sing, yes seek his company because being completely alone is not a better option. but sometimes the pink giant is not there. you are alone, you don’t want to be alone so you scream so he’ll hear you. But you have no other options because your locked up. Still alone. In this cage all by yourself, and maybe you’ll think back to the times when you could cuddle with your siblings. but that was so long ago that you no longer know what they look like. you only see the pink giant for a few hours every day.
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2024.06.10 02:04 Impressive-Age509 House Manager / Companion Care
Hi Reddit!
My Mom (76F) has mild dementia, which is starting to get worse after my Dad passed three months ago. We live together by circumstance and I really, really need help. I need help keeping an inventory of what groceries, pantry items needed. Grocery shopping, making and taking Mom to appointments, laundry. I don’t actually live with my Mom but have been for the last three months. She doesn’t want anyone coming in and bringing her coffee in the morning but at the moment that’s me and I cannot do it anymore. I also can’t keep filling her prescriptions, etc. it’s all too much on top of learning how to run a big house. My question is, has someone else hired a person who is more of a house manager and less of a caregiver? Also, what do they do during downtime?
submitted by Impressive-Age509 to caregivers [link] [comments]
My Mom (76F) has mild dementia, which is starting to get worse after my Dad passed three months ago. We live together by circumstance and I really, really need help. I need help keeping an inventory of what groceries, pantry items needed. Grocery shopping, making and taking Mom to appointments, laundry. I don’t actually live with my Mom but have been for the last three months. She doesn’t want anyone coming in and bringing her coffee in the morning but at the moment that’s me and I cannot do it anymore. I also can’t keep filling her prescriptions, etc. it’s all too much on top of learning how to run a big house. My question is, has someone else hired a person who is more of a house manager and less of a caregiver? Also, what do they do during downtime?
2024.06.10 02:03 Horsechick48 $Darth Tater - Your Key to Unleashing Inner Sith & Conquering Pump Fun and Solana
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Why choose Darth Tater?
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Website: https://darthtater.vercel.app/
TwitteX: https://x.com/DarthTaterSol
Telegram: DARTHTATERSOL
Contract Address on Pump Fun: GwNTz8AXiiXoTC2e3paa8KWf4TJoL12uw98iReXLNbhC
Get ready to embrace your inner Sith, escape the Matrix, and conquer the galaxy with Darth Tater! Join us now on Pump Fun to start your journey towards crypto success – let's ride this rollercoaster together!
2024.06.10 02:01 MindFloatDown From someone who joined Rec Room in 2017, please finally understand that Rec Room does not deserve to be “saved.”
 | As mentioned, I have played since 2017, and became disgruntled with it around 2019 - at that time I myself wanted Rec Room to “save” itself and its community, constantly campaigning for less creator focused updates, more VR innovation and other things that were trending at the time, nothing changed. I remember the uproar over screen mode integration, forcing teleport/walk/screen to all play together, the focus switch from RROs to player created rooms/updates and the dwindling release of actual RROs etc etc. And now today, teleport players, whether you love or hate them, have been completely locked out of the last three RROs. submitted by MindFloatDown to RecRoom [link] [comments] What I want my main point to be however is that Rec Room is a game that rakes in money constantly, through it’s players and sponsorships - and what do they give back? Creator focused updates that have absolutely nothing to do with the main player base, RRO’s that get released once in a blue moon then completely forgotten, and now this money machine of a company “can’t afford to continue designing free weekly items.” Honestly the best action you can take with this game is to stop playing it. They’re a completely shameless company engulfed in greed. |
2024.06.10 02:01 SvenSvenkill3 RANT: I'm sick of people with blatant agendas commenting on YT clips (etc), making ill informed and false accusations about the creators having an "agenda" and "bias" (etc), whilst unashamedly doing the exact same thing themselves and yet never having actually seen the rest of the source material.
Earlier, I was scrolling down the YT shorts in my feed and came upon this 42 seconds long clip from the BBC show, 'Blue Lights', set in Northern Ireland -- it's probably a good idea to watch that clip before reading the rest of this rant.
Now, I've actually watched both seasons of the show and was pleasantly surprised with how it is pretty damn good, especially for a police procedural show, with excellent direction, pacing and editing, smart and nuanced writing, good character arks and progression, and brilliant performances from the entire cast.
And so, as I read the comments on that YT short, I wasn't surprised but still amazed at the amount of idiots who clearly hadn't watched the show but still had the audacity and confidence to comment on it and use the clip to push their misogynistic agendas and all whilst simultaneously accusing the clip/show itself of having an agenda.
Comments such as,
"They care more about his wife than him"
Or,
"What’s with people automatically assuming men [sic] did something wrong?"
Or,
"The funny part is I know this was made by a woman as he is showing every signs [sic] a woman should be scared of including talking about how they look good in this situation.'
However, apart from the fact that the clip itself, taken on its own, doesn't in any way do anything that justifies or validates such comments, there are two undeniable facts that make such comments completely redundant and expose them for what they truly are (ignorant, assumptive, biased and with a clear agenda of their own):
1 - Before the clip starts, the two policewomen (called to the address because of reports of a disturbance) arrive on scene to find the front door wide open, and they can see through the door and adjacent front window that there has been a voilent disturbance of some kind, with a broken small glass coffee table in the hallway and pool of blood beneath it amongst the shards of broken glass, and a trail of blood on the floor leading deeper inside the house. And so the two policewomen pull out their batons and one goes into the house, following the trail of blood as she makes her way through the ground floor, while the other makes her way around the side of the house to the back yard (both of them calling out things like, "Police! Hello? Is anybody home? Is anybody hurt?"). They both then converge outside in the back yard to discover the scene we see in the clip, whereupon the blonde policewoman says to the obviously very inebriated man with blood on his arm and T-Shirt, "You all right? It's OK..." and then, as we see at the start of the clip, she asks him, "Is that your blood?" And THEN upon learning that he's burning his wife's clothes, she asks about his wife's whereabouts.
So yeah, the two policewomen demonstrably DO care about him AND his wife. There's no gender bias in their actions or the writing of all this whatsoever.
Oh, and side-note: the man's wife is fine and hadn't left him, and she appears on scene immediately after this clip ends, calling his name. "Gary! Gary!... What in the name of shite is going on here?" For it turns out that she'd merely stayed the previous night at her sister's place because, as we can see in the clip, her husband has serious mental health issues with alcohol, and he won't quit and/or seek help despite her pleas, and so she was simply completely and utterly exhausted with his shit and nursemaiding him every day for months and months, and she desperately needed just one night away.
Then, in a later scene inside the house, just after we see the wife finishing dressing her husband's arm wound, the blonde policewoman says to the wife, "I'm sorry, I have to ask you this, but has he ever hurt you?" To which the wife replies, obviously being totally sincere and completely honest, "God no. He's a good man. He'd never do that." And we learn that it seems his drinking escalated after he was let go as an English teacher and it's implied it was the drinking which made him lose his job in the first place, a job he absolutely loved ("The drink took everything from him"), and we even see a trophy, "Teacher of the year: Mr White" on one of their shelves -- and so, yeah, it's not as though this is some kind of two dimensional cliched misandrist plotline, you know? It's more nuanced than that. Indeed, in a later scene the husband/Gary/ex-teacheMr White is in the back of their police car and he talks about, "the stamp of nature" (which is the title of this episode), and the brunette policewoman explains to her blonde colleague that this phrase is from Hamlet and that, "It means... changing who you are is really feckin' difficult... But worth a try". For as I typed, this show is pretty damn good and far more nuanced than these right wing incels apparently could ever possibly understand.
2 - The show was created by two men who along with one female writer either collectively or individually wrote all the episodes. In fact, the actual episode this clip is taken from is solely written by one of those two men. I even pointed this out to one commenter who had replied to the second YT short comment I quoted above by answering that comment's question with this load of nonsense:
"Female writers, thats why theres two female officers on duty together, uk police tend to pair a woman w a man for safety n security reasons. [sic]"
However, his response to me replying to him and pointing out that this particular episode was actually written by a man was,
"And u think they have complete creative control of their work? anything aired on British tv nowadays is either pushing some sort of agenda or the writers are told what to make it about. cant make a "realistic" drama with no realistic features. [sic]"
i.e. he switched from there being fault/agenda on the part of "female writers" to some secret cabal in the BBC telling the writers what to write.
I also later pointed out to him that actually on mainland Britain and in Northern Ireland, women are NOT always paired with men and are often paired together, and there is no rule for or against doing so. Three hours later, he has yet to respond. What a surprise!
Anywhy, to conclude this rant: I see stuff like this ALL the time online: people confidently sharing skewed takes that aren't indicative of what is actually happening in the clip/video they're commenting on and demonstrating that they obviously haven't seen the whole scene/show/series/etc, and yet they STILL have no issue confidently and unfoundedly doing so and claiming there is some kind of "woke" agenda, etc, and all whilst pushing a sexist right wing agenda of their own.
It's absolutely mind-boggling and maddening.
submitted by SvenSvenkill3 to saltierthankrayt [link] [comments]
Now, I've actually watched both seasons of the show and was pleasantly surprised with how it is pretty damn good, especially for a police procedural show, with excellent direction, pacing and editing, smart and nuanced writing, good character arks and progression, and brilliant performances from the entire cast.
And so, as I read the comments on that YT short, I wasn't surprised but still amazed at the amount of idiots who clearly hadn't watched the show but still had the audacity and confidence to comment on it and use the clip to push their misogynistic agendas and all whilst simultaneously accusing the clip/show itself of having an agenda.
Comments such as,
"They care more about his wife than him"
Or,
"What’s with people automatically assuming men [sic] did something wrong?"
Or,
"The funny part is I know this was made by a woman as he is showing every signs [sic] a woman should be scared of including talking about how they look good in this situation.'
However, apart from the fact that the clip itself, taken on its own, doesn't in any way do anything that justifies or validates such comments, there are two undeniable facts that make such comments completely redundant and expose them for what they truly are (ignorant, assumptive, biased and with a clear agenda of their own):
1 - Before the clip starts, the two policewomen (called to the address because of reports of a disturbance) arrive on scene to find the front door wide open, and they can see through the door and adjacent front window that there has been a voilent disturbance of some kind, with a broken small glass coffee table in the hallway and pool of blood beneath it amongst the shards of broken glass, and a trail of blood on the floor leading deeper inside the house. And so the two policewomen pull out their batons and one goes into the house, following the trail of blood as she makes her way through the ground floor, while the other makes her way around the side of the house to the back yard (both of them calling out things like, "Police! Hello? Is anybody home? Is anybody hurt?"). They both then converge outside in the back yard to discover the scene we see in the clip, whereupon the blonde policewoman says to the obviously very inebriated man with blood on his arm and T-Shirt, "You all right? It's OK..." and then, as we see at the start of the clip, she asks him, "Is that your blood?" And THEN upon learning that he's burning his wife's clothes, she asks about his wife's whereabouts.
So yeah, the two policewomen demonstrably DO care about him AND his wife. There's no gender bias in their actions or the writing of all this whatsoever.
Oh, and side-note: the man's wife is fine and hadn't left him, and she appears on scene immediately after this clip ends, calling his name. "Gary! Gary!... What in the name of shite is going on here?" For it turns out that she'd merely stayed the previous night at her sister's place because, as we can see in the clip, her husband has serious mental health issues with alcohol, and he won't quit and/or seek help despite her pleas, and so she was simply completely and utterly exhausted with his shit and nursemaiding him every day for months and months, and she desperately needed just one night away.
Then, in a later scene inside the house, just after we see the wife finishing dressing her husband's arm wound, the blonde policewoman says to the wife, "I'm sorry, I have to ask you this, but has he ever hurt you?" To which the wife replies, obviously being totally sincere and completely honest, "God no. He's a good man. He'd never do that." And we learn that it seems his drinking escalated after he was let go as an English teacher and it's implied it was the drinking which made him lose his job in the first place, a job he absolutely loved ("The drink took everything from him"), and we even see a trophy, "Teacher of the year: Mr White" on one of their shelves -- and so, yeah, it's not as though this is some kind of two dimensional cliched misandrist plotline, you know? It's more nuanced than that. Indeed, in a later scene the husband/Gary/ex-teacheMr White is in the back of their police car and he talks about, "the stamp of nature" (which is the title of this episode), and the brunette policewoman explains to her blonde colleague that this phrase is from Hamlet and that, "It means... changing who you are is really feckin' difficult... But worth a try". For as I typed, this show is pretty damn good and far more nuanced than these right wing incels apparently could ever possibly understand.
2 - The show was created by two men who along with one female writer either collectively or individually wrote all the episodes. In fact, the actual episode this clip is taken from is solely written by one of those two men. I even pointed this out to one commenter who had replied to the second YT short comment I quoted above by answering that comment's question with this load of nonsense:
"Female writers, thats why theres two female officers on duty together, uk police tend to pair a woman w a man for safety n security reasons. [sic]"
However, his response to me replying to him and pointing out that this particular episode was actually written by a man was,
"And u think they have complete creative control of their work? anything aired on British tv nowadays is either pushing some sort of agenda or the writers are told what to make it about. cant make a "realistic" drama with no realistic features. [sic]"
i.e. he switched from there being fault/agenda on the part of "female writers" to some secret cabal in the BBC telling the writers what to write.
I also later pointed out to him that actually on mainland Britain and in Northern Ireland, women are NOT always paired with men and are often paired together, and there is no rule for or against doing so. Three hours later, he has yet to respond. What a surprise!
Anywhy, to conclude this rant: I see stuff like this ALL the time online: people confidently sharing skewed takes that aren't indicative of what is actually happening in the clip/video they're commenting on and demonstrating that they obviously haven't seen the whole scene/show/series/etc, and yet they STILL have no issue confidently and unfoundedly doing so and claiming there is some kind of "woke" agenda, etc, and all whilst pushing a sexist right wing agenda of their own.
It's absolutely mind-boggling and maddening.
2024.06.10 02:01 Brilliant_Example_58 Neighbor won’t close door and smokes cigarettes. Other issues as well
I’m a young woman. I live in an apartment building in Chicago. My neighbor is an elderly man who has lived in this building since before me (and I’ve been here 8 years.) He was always kind of weird and goofy, but seemed harmless until more recently.
During covid, I ran into him in the hallway, holding a mouse. He said it was his pet, and that he and his cats and the mouse all sleep together. The mouse was actively pooping in his hand while he was talking. It was bizarre and gross, but I was nice to him because he’s older and… idk, he’s my neighbor.
A few months ago, I got a creepy note at my door from him saying he wanted to “eat me up” with sexual implications. I told my landlord, she said they talked to him and that he was instructed no longer to talk to me. Since then, when I run into him, he acts like nothing happened and calls me “baby” and tries to get me to stop and talk to him. and I just try to ignore him and keep moving. One of those times he touched my back as I was walking away. I’m not necessarily worried for my safety around him (he uses a cane and again is super old) but it’s still really creepy and unsettling to know he’s down the hall from me and he feels like he is okay to try and touch me.
Lately, he has been keeping his door open ALL THE TIME. He smokes cigarettes inside and it makes the hallway reek. His cats end up roaming the hallways (haven’t seen any mice yet.) There is cat fur surrounding his door and it kind of smells like the cats have peed on the carpeted hallway. I have my own cats - one time, my cat ran out in the hallway to chase his cat and ran into his apartment. I then had to knock and enter his apartment, while he was laying in bed seemingly drunk and laughing that I was in there retrieving my cat. His apartment is abominally dirty. I feel really bad for his cats because it is not a good living condition for them.
I’ve reported the keeping of the door open several times now to my landlord, and they’ve even sent building management several times to “talk to him” and tell him to keep his door closed. He always ends up opening the door the next day. I’d confront him or close the door myself, but I’m honestly extremely uncomfortable interacting with him. He isn’t nice when he’s drunk, he’s screaming at random people on the phone (or maybe to himself) when he is, and I think he’s drunk majority of the time.
I don’t know what to do. The stench in the hallway is completely unhygienic, and I’ve been getting headaches and feel myself breathing in smoke every day because it’s seeping into my apartment. I bought a door blocker but it’s not working that well. I can keep reporting to the landlord each day, but I feel like they are at a loss right now. I’m definitely actively looking for a new place, but for now, are there any recommendations for how to handle this? I guess it’s probably something I can’t really do anything about besides continuing to take it up with the landlord?
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During covid, I ran into him in the hallway, holding a mouse. He said it was his pet, and that he and his cats and the mouse all sleep together. The mouse was actively pooping in his hand while he was talking. It was bizarre and gross, but I was nice to him because he’s older and… idk, he’s my neighbor.
A few months ago, I got a creepy note at my door from him saying he wanted to “eat me up” with sexual implications. I told my landlord, she said they talked to him and that he was instructed no longer to talk to me. Since then, when I run into him, he acts like nothing happened and calls me “baby” and tries to get me to stop and talk to him. and I just try to ignore him and keep moving. One of those times he touched my back as I was walking away. I’m not necessarily worried for my safety around him (he uses a cane and again is super old) but it’s still really creepy and unsettling to know he’s down the hall from me and he feels like he is okay to try and touch me.
Lately, he has been keeping his door open ALL THE TIME. He smokes cigarettes inside and it makes the hallway reek. His cats end up roaming the hallways (haven’t seen any mice yet.) There is cat fur surrounding his door and it kind of smells like the cats have peed on the carpeted hallway. I have my own cats - one time, my cat ran out in the hallway to chase his cat and ran into his apartment. I then had to knock and enter his apartment, while he was laying in bed seemingly drunk and laughing that I was in there retrieving my cat. His apartment is abominally dirty. I feel really bad for his cats because it is not a good living condition for them.
I’ve reported the keeping of the door open several times now to my landlord, and they’ve even sent building management several times to “talk to him” and tell him to keep his door closed. He always ends up opening the door the next day. I’d confront him or close the door myself, but I’m honestly extremely uncomfortable interacting with him. He isn’t nice when he’s drunk, he’s screaming at random people on the phone (or maybe to himself) when he is, and I think he’s drunk majority of the time.
I don’t know what to do. The stench in the hallway is completely unhygienic, and I’ve been getting headaches and feel myself breathing in smoke every day because it’s seeping into my apartment. I bought a door blocker but it’s not working that well. I can keep reporting to the landlord each day, but I feel like they are at a loss right now. I’m definitely actively looking for a new place, but for now, are there any recommendations for how to handle this? I guess it’s probably something I can’t really do anything about besides continuing to take it up with the landlord?
2024.06.10 01:59 Electronic_Mind9464 cactus in asphalt??
 | My sister got this from a nursery and they’re planted in some sort of asphalt looking substrate. This stuff is SOLID and stuck together like asphalt. I don’t even know how you could take these plants out if you wanted to or water them. Is this normal??? submitted by Electronic_Mind9464 to gardening [link] [comments] |
2024.06.10 01:57 ThrowRA7264971 27m and 27f struggling to split chores - how do we find a fair division?
We’ve been together for 3.5 years and lived together for about 7 months and we’re still trying to find out the right division of chores.
Currently, we recently decided I will do all grocery shopping and cooking and he will do all cleaning and taking care of the dogs. Cleaning wise, we are in charge of our own laundry and we both equally are in charge of unstacking the dishwasher and cleaning bedsheets. So his tasks then are dogs, bathroom cleaning, trash, emptying our robot vacuums, and mopping 1x a month.
With this agreement, i still actually do some cleaning. I am in charge of making the bed every day and cleaning of the dishes after I cook in addition to my share of laundry and share of dishwasher and bed sheet cleaning as mentioned above. He also occasionally will ask an adhoc task of me like today he asked me to fill up the dog’s water bowl.
I am okay with switching tasks on occasion or helping each other out in that way but I kind of feel like i do a fair amount more than him considering cooking is very time consuming. Most cleaning tasks are not daily where as meals are a 3x a day responsibility although to be fair he does fix his own breakfast so call it 2x a day.
I’m curious to hear how to other couples split their chores. At the end of the day I understand it will never fully be even but that’s fine but I think i get frustrated because my boyfriend often has stated he feels he does much more chores than me and usually does not say thank you for my cooking making me feel underappreciated.
I’d say there’s probably two issues we have is dividing the chores evenly but also showing appreciation for each other.
tl:dr need to find a better way of dividing chores and showing appreciation to each other
Would love any advice you can give!
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Currently, we recently decided I will do all grocery shopping and cooking and he will do all cleaning and taking care of the dogs. Cleaning wise, we are in charge of our own laundry and we both equally are in charge of unstacking the dishwasher and cleaning bedsheets. So his tasks then are dogs, bathroom cleaning, trash, emptying our robot vacuums, and mopping 1x a month.
With this agreement, i still actually do some cleaning. I am in charge of making the bed every day and cleaning of the dishes after I cook in addition to my share of laundry and share of dishwasher and bed sheet cleaning as mentioned above. He also occasionally will ask an adhoc task of me like today he asked me to fill up the dog’s water bowl.
I am okay with switching tasks on occasion or helping each other out in that way but I kind of feel like i do a fair amount more than him considering cooking is very time consuming. Most cleaning tasks are not daily where as meals are a 3x a day responsibility although to be fair he does fix his own breakfast so call it 2x a day.
I’m curious to hear how to other couples split their chores. At the end of the day I understand it will never fully be even but that’s fine but I think i get frustrated because my boyfriend often has stated he feels he does much more chores than me and usually does not say thank you for my cooking making me feel underappreciated.
I’d say there’s probably two issues we have is dividing the chores evenly but also showing appreciation for each other.
tl:dr need to find a better way of dividing chores and showing appreciation to each other
Would love any advice you can give!
2024.06.10 01:57 Sweet-Count2557 Caribbean Resort Water Park
 | Caribbean Resort Water Park Are you ready for a thrilling adventure in the Caribbean?We know what you might be thinking - water parks are just for kids. But let us assure you, these Caribbean resort water parks are not your average playgrounds.Get ready to experience heart-pounding slides, lazy rivers, and wave pools that will make you feel like a kid again.Join us as we explore the top water parks in the Caribbean, where fun and freedom meet.Let the tropical paradise be your playground.Key TakeawaysAtlantis Paradise Island in the Bahamas offers one of the largest water parks in the world, with high-speed thrills like the Leap of Faith waterslide and a lazy river with waves for an action-packed experience.Coconut Bay Beach Resort and Spa in Saint Lucia is home to the largest water park on the island, featuring thrilling waterslides, a quarter-mile-long lazy river, and additional amenities like a paintball course.Nickelodeon Hotels and Resorts Punta Cana in the Dominican Republic offers a water park done up in Nickelodeon's classic colors and themes, with water slides, splash pads, and a lazy river, as well as interactive games and character interactions with favorite Nickelodeon characters.Hilton Rose Hall Resort and Spa in Jamaica features the second-largest water complex in the Caribbean, with a 280-foot waterslide, a lazy river, three terraced pools for relaxation, and additional amenities like waterfalls and a jungle garden area for young guests.Atlantis Paradise Island, BahamasWe absolutely love the high-speed thrills of the Leap of Faith waterslide at Atlantis Paradise Island in the Bahamas. This unique water park experience is a must for anyone seeking an adrenaline rush. As we plunge down the nearly vertical slide, we can feel the wind rushing through our hair and the excitement building in our chests. The heart-pounding drop takes us through a clear tunnel submerged in a shark-filled lagoon, giving us a close encounter with these majestic creatures. It's a thrilling and unforgettable experience that truly sets Atlantis Paradise Island apart from other water parks.When it comes to lodging options, Atlantis Paradise Island offers something for everyone. From luxurious suites to comfortable rooms, there's a perfect accommodation for every traveler. The Royal Towers offer stunning views of the ocean and easy access to the water park, while The Cove provides a more exclusive and sophisticated experience. Families will love the spacious accommodations at The Reef and The Coral, which offer convenient access to the water park and other family-friendly amenities.No matter where you choose to stay, Atlantis Paradise Island guarantees an unforgettable vacation filled with unique water park experiences and endless adventure. So pack your swimsuit, grab your sunscreen, and get ready to dive into the excitement at Atlantis Paradise Island in the Bahamas.Coconut Bay Beach Resort and Spa, Saint LuciaLet's explore the thrilling water park at Coconut Bay Beach Resort and Spa in Saint Lucia, known for its exciting waterslides and quarter-mile-long lazy river. The water park at Coconut Bay Beach Resort and Spa is a paradise for water enthusiasts. With its exhilarating waterslides and a quarter-mile-long lazy river, there is no shortage of excitement and fun for everyone. Whether you're seeking high-speed thrills or a relaxing float down the lazy river, this water park has it all.To give you a better idea of the attractions at Coconut Bay Beach Resort and Spa, let's take a look at the following table:Water Park AttractionsAdditional Amenities OfferedThrilling waterslidesPaintball courseQuarter-mile-long lazy riverSpa and wellness centerWater playground for little onesMultiple restaurants and barsAs you can see, the water park offers a range of attractions to suit every age and preference. From the heart-pounding excitement of the waterslides to the serene relaxation of the lazy river, there is something for everyone to enjoy.In addition to the water park, Coconut Bay Beach Resort and Spa offers a variety of other amenities to enhance your stay. Whether you want to indulge in a spa treatment, try your hand at paintball, or enjoy a delicious meal at one of the resort's restaurants, there are plenty of options to choose from.Nickelodeon Hotels and Resorts Punta Cana, Dominican RepublicAt Nickelodeon Hotels and Resorts Punta Cana, Dominican Republic, get ready for a slimy and interactive experience like no other.The resort offers signature Nickelodeon sliming, where you can get covered in green goo just like your favorite characters on TV.Engage in interactive games and meet your beloved Nickelodeon characters while enjoying the swim-up pools and private plunge pools in select suites.Signature Nickelodeon SlimingAt Nickelodeon Hotels and Resorts Punta Cana in the Dominican Republic, there are a variety of interactive games and experiences offered along with the signature Nickelodeon sliming. These experiences are designed to make your stay unforgettable.One of the main attractions is the Aqua Nick Water Park, where you can dive into a world of excitement. The water park features unique waterslide experiences like the Slime Time Tower, where you'll slide through a tower of green slime. Additionally, you can engage in water balloon battles at the Splash Pad or float lazily along the winding Lazy River.Another highlight is the opportunity to interact with your favorite Nickelodeon characters up close and personal. From SpongeBob SquarePants to Dora the Explorer, you'll have the chance to take photos, get autographs, and even participate in interactive shows and activities with them.For those who enjoy poolside fun, there are a variety of games and activities to enjoy. From water volleyball to poolside dance parties, there's something for everyone to enjoy while soaking up the sun.Overall, at Nickelodeon Hotels and Resorts Punta Cana, the signature Nickelodeon sliming is just the beginning of the fun-filled experiences that await you. Get ready for a vacation filled with unique waterslide experiences and endless fun.Interactive Games and CharactersWe can enjoy interactive games and meet our favorite Nickelodeon characters at Nickelodeon Hotels and Resorts Punta Cana in the Dominican Republic. This resort offers a water park done up in Nickelodeon's classic colors and themes, complete with water slides, splash pads, and a lazy river.But the fun doesn't stop there! We can also participate in exciting water park activities and have character meet and greets with our beloved Nickelodeon friends. The resort provides a signature Nickelodeon sliming experience, adding an extra element of fun and excitement.With swim-up pools and private plunge pools in some suites, we can truly enjoy a freedom-filled vacation. Nickelodeon Hotels and Resorts Punta Cana is the perfect destination for families and fans of all ages.Swim-Up and Plunge PoolsWith swim-up pools and private plunge pools in some suites, we can enjoy the luxury of our own personal water oasis at Nickelodeon Hotels and Resorts Punta Cana in the Dominican Republic.The benefits of having a plunge pool include the following:Privacy: Plunge pools offer a secluded and intimate space where we can relax and unwind in complete privacy.Refreshment: Plunge pools provide a refreshing escape from the Caribbean heat, allowing us to cool off and rejuvenate.Convenience: With a plunge pool right outside our suite, we've easy access to a quick dip whenever we desire.The advantages of swim-up pools are equally enticing:Convenience: We can effortlessly step out of our suite and directly into the pool, without the need for stairs or elevators.Socialization: Swim-up pools create a lively and social atmosphere, perfect for connecting with other guests and making new friends.Relaxation: We can lounge in the water, sip on a drink from the swim-up bar, and soak up the sun all in one place.Now, let's dive into the next section about Hilton Rose Hall Resort and Spa in Jamaica.Hilton Rose Hall Resort and Spa, JamaicaThe Hilton Rose Hall Resort and Spa in Jamaica features a 280-foot waterslide and a lazy river for guests to enjoy. Nestled in the heart of the Caribbean, this resort offers a tropical paradise where you can indulge in a world of water fun and relaxation.As you slide down the towering waterslide, feel the rush of adrenaline as you plunge into the crystal-clear pool below. Or, take a leisurely float along the lazy river, soaking up the warm Caribbean sun and enjoying the gentle current.But the water attractions at the Hilton Rose Hall Resort and Spa are just the beginning. Immerse yourself in the natural beauty of the resort's waterfall attractions, where cascading water creates a soothing and picturesque backdrop. Explore the jungle garden activities, where you can wander through lush greenery and discover hidden treasures.Engage in outdoor adventures like zip-lining or take a stroll through the botanical gardens, immersing yourself in the vibrant colors and scents of the Caribbean flora.At the Hilton Rose Hall Resort and Spa, freedom is the key. Whether you're seeking an action-packed water adventure or a tranquil moment in nature, this resort has it all. So, dive into the excitement, embrace the freedom, and create unforgettable memories at this Caribbean oasis.Royalton Splash Punta Cana, An Autograph Collection Resort and Casino, Dominican RepublicAt Royalton Splash Punta Cana, An Autograph Collection Resort and Casino in the Dominican Republic, guests can experience unique waterslide experiences that are sure to thrill and excite. From a rollercoaster-style slide to a multilane water slide with high speeds, there's something for everyone in the family to enjoy.Along with these exhilarating water attractions, the resort also offers a range of family-friendly amenities, making it the perfect destination for a fun-filled vacation.Unique Waterslide ExperiencesWe absolutely loved the rollercoaster-style slide at Royalton Splash Punta Cana, it was a unique waterslide experience! Here are some reasons why we found it so amazing:Thrilling twists and turns: The rollercoaster-style slide at Royalton Splash Punta Cana took us on a wild ride with unexpected twists and turns. It was an adrenaline-pumping adventure that had us screaming with delight.Speedy excitement: This waterslide offered high speeds that added an extra level of excitement to the experience. We felt the rush of wind as we zoomed down the slide, creating a truly exhilarating sensation.Safety first: Despite its thrilling nature, the water slide at Royalton Splash Punta Cana prioritized water slide safety. We felt secure throughout the ride, thanks to the well-maintained equipment and safety measures in place.Now, let's delve into the family-friendly amenities available at Royalton Splash Punta Cana.Family-Friendly Amenities AvailableOur family thoroughly enjoyed the variety of family-friendly amenities available at Royalton Splash Punta Cana. From the moment we arrived, we were greeted with warm smiles and a welcoming atmosphere.The resort's water park attractions kept our kids entertained for hours on end. They couldn't get enough of the thrilling waterslides and the multilane water slide with high speeds. The splash pads and special water slide area for little ones were perfect for our younger children. And the wave pool, which ranks among the best in the Caribbean, provided endless fun for the whole family.In addition to the water park, the resort also offered a range of other family-friendly activities, such as kids clubs and interactive games. We truly felt like we were in a paradise designed for families.Beaches Turks and Caicos, Turks and CaicosBeaches Turks and Caicos, Turks and Caicos, offers a massive water playground, Pirates Island Water Park, with 45,000 square feet of slides, surf simulators, and lazy rivers. This water park provides endless family-friendly activities for everyone to enjoy.Here are some of the highlights:Thrilling Slides and Surf Simulators:Get your heart racing on high-speed waterslides that will leave you breathless.Test your surfing skills on the surf simulators and feel the rush of riding the waves.Relaxing Lazy Rivers:Take a leisurely float down the lazy rivers and soak up the Caribbean sun.Drift along the gentle currents and let your cares float away.Abundance of Family-Friendly Amenities:Enjoy a wide range of dining options and savor delicious meals together as a family.Dive into the numerous pools and splash around with your loved ones.Engage in exciting kids clubs and programming featuring beloved Sesame Street characters.At Beaches Turks and Caicos, you'll have the freedom to choose from an array of activities that cater to the whole family. Whether you're seeking thrilling water adventures or simply looking to relax and unwind, this water park has it all.Moon Palace Jamaica, JamaicaBut let's not forget about Moon Palace Jamaica, Jamaica, which offers a FlowRider Double wave simulator for surfing. This resort is a paradise for water enthusiasts, with a range of unique water activities that will satisfy even the most adventurous souls. The FlowRider Double wave simulator is a thrilling experience that allows guests to ride the waves and test their skills in a safe and controlled environment.In addition to the FlowRider, Moon Palace Jamaica offers a lazy river and a wave pool, perfect for those looking to relax and enjoy the water. The resort also provides water slides and splash pads for kids, ensuring that the whole family can have a splashing good time.But it's not just about the water activities at Moon Palace Jamaica. The resort also boasts top-notch amenities that will make your stay truly unforgettable. From the swim-up bar and poolside service for adults to the spa and golf course, there's something for everyone to enjoy.Whether you're seeking adventure or relaxation, Moon Palace Jamaica has it all. So why not dive into the waves, soak up the sun, and indulge in the luxury of this Caribbean resort? You deserve a vacation filled with unique water activities and top-notch amenities.Frequently Asked QuestionsAre the Water Parks at These Caribbean Resorts Included in the Cost of the Stay, or Do Guests Have to Pay Extra for Access?Water park facilities at these Caribbean resorts vary in terms of cost. Some resorts include access to the water park as part of the stay, while others may charge an additional fee. Guests should check with each individual resort to determine if the water park access is included or requires a separate payment.It's important to consider this factor when planning a vacation to ensure a seamless and enjoyable experience at the water park.What Age Restrictions Are in Place for the Water Parks at These Resorts? Are There Any Height or Weight Restrictions for Certain Slides or Attractions?Age restrictions and height/weight restrictions vary for the water parks at these resorts.While some attractions may have minimum age requirements for safety reasons, others are suitable for all ages.Certain slides and attractions may have height or weight restrictions to ensure the safety of guests.It's important to check with each resort for specific details regarding age, height, and weight restrictions to ensure an enjoyable and safe experience for everyone.Are Lifeguards on Duty at the Water Parks? if So, What Are Their Hours of Operation?Lifeguard availability and water park operating hours vary at the different resorts. It's important to check with each specific resort to get accurate information.The safety of guests is a top priority, so lifeguards are typically on duty during the water park's operating hours. These hours may vary depending on the resort and the time of year.It's always a good idea to familiarize yourself with the safety measures and rules of each water park before enjoying the attractions.Are There Any Restrictions on Bringing Outside Food or Drinks Into the Water Parks?There are no restrictions on bringing outside food or drinks into the water parks. At our resort, we believe in giving our guests the freedom to enjoy their favorite snacks and beverages while they've fun in the sun.Whether you want to pack a picnic lunch or bring your own refreshing drinks, you're welcome to do so. Just remember to clean up after yourself and dispose of any trash properly.Are There Any Specific Dress Code Requirements for the Water Parks? Can Guests Wear Regular Swimwear, or Are There Any Restrictions on Clothing or Accessories?Water park rules vary from resort to resort, but in general, guests are allowed to wear regular swimwear without any restrictions on clothing or accessories. However, it's always a good idea to check the specific dress code requirements of the water park you plan to visit.Some resorts may have guidelines about appropriate swimwear, such as no thong bikinis or swimwear with offensive language or images. Overall, the goal is to ensure everyone feels comfortable and can enjoy their time at the water park.ConclusionIn the magical world of Caribbean water parks, where adventure and relaxation blend seamlessly, unforgettable memories are made. Whether zooming down high-speed waterslides or floating along lazy rivers, the exhilaration and tranquility of these tropical paradises are unmatched.So grab your swimsuit and dive into the crystal-clear waters of Atlantis Paradise Island, Coconut Bay Beach Resort and Spa, Nickelodeon Hotels and Resorts Punta Cana, Hilton Rose Hall Resort and Spa, Royalton Splash Punta Cana, Beaches Turks and Caicos, and Moon Palace Jamaica.Get ready for the ultimate tropical getaway like no other. submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] |
2024.06.10 01:56 Strange_Package_7539 AITAH For not wanting to take my mom to the cemetery everyday?
My little sister passed away in April of this year and and buried the same month, ever since I've been taking my mom to the cemetery Monday through Friday and on weekends the whole family goes together. I wake up at 3:30am for work Monday through Friday and get off at 12:30 but recently I am getting off at 1:30 pm. when I get home she has me do chores like wash dishes clean the floors then we go to the cemetery at around 2 pm and stay till 6pm. by the time we get home im usually exhausted so i just shower eat dinner then go to bed. i cant have time to myself anymore like to just relax in my room or see my girlfriend bc this is my new schedule. on weekends we go hiking at 8am bc my mom wants it to be a whole family thing then we go to the cemetery from 12 to 4pm i cant even have a day to sleep in anymore bc when i ask for it my mom gets mad and says i cant do anything if i don't go with them. same thing for during the week. i ask for some time to do some of my things i want to do like go see my girlfriend one time during the week and she gets mad bc im ruining her plans and then says i cant do anything even on the weekend anymore if i do decide to follow through. its been really frustrating to say the least and today we went early in the morning so i had plans with my girlfriend but my mom said to make them till after the cemetery closes bc she needs me to take her and be there with her till the cemetery closes at 7pm. i let her know of my plans and mentioned that we already went all morning and wanted to see my girlfriend that i have not seen since last week on Thursday bc she was on a vacation with her family. AITAH for wanting some me time?
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2024.06.10 01:56 Bubbly_Day_4344 Sometimes I just want to scream
I'd like to think that for the most part I've stayed pretty positive about what my life is and will be for the foreseeable future.
Spent a considerable amount of time, money and effort to make a bbq event for my dad to go to with friends and family. We had an amazing time, he was glowing and happy. I had a couple of drinks and remember catching myself thinking, "Life isn't so bad ya know? I'm glad we have these moments still."
Cue today, he's just being a shithead. Demanding I take him to all of these different places that he can't verbalize (seriously, I can't determine if he wants to go to a car wash or a golf shop or a movie or a clothing store? It's all blending together and I started to drive to each one and he was just getting madder that I couldn't understand him and insisted I was going the wrong direction).
Now it's "we always go where you wanna go, and every time I ask you to do something you don't want to. You never do anything for me. You never take me anywhere. You never, You never. You Never."
I love my dad very much, but this is the first time I've started truly feeling really depressed and bitter over this situation. I've tried to stay positive for him. I've tried to have empathy that he's the one going through something unimaginably hard and that it's got to be terrifying for him. I know he doesn't mean to be a butt head some days, but man.
Feeling unappreciated. Having people come up and say "you're doing such a good job, you're doing the right thing, you must love your dad so much to do this, etc." and it just all made me feel empty. Every day as things get progressively worse, so freaking fast, I just feel a pit in my stomach and the life that I thought I'd have slipping away.
My dad will never walk me down the aisle. I'll probably never have kids. I'm barely keeping afloat so I know having a home of my own is out of the question. I'm noticing my memory is terrible now, repeating questions I've already asked and things of that nature. It sucks. This whole situation sucks. I miss my life and I miss my dad. Instead I'm stuck with someone who I know deep down appreciates me, but outwardly just treats me like shit all of the time.
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Spent a considerable amount of time, money and effort to make a bbq event for my dad to go to with friends and family. We had an amazing time, he was glowing and happy. I had a couple of drinks and remember catching myself thinking, "Life isn't so bad ya know? I'm glad we have these moments still."
Cue today, he's just being a shithead. Demanding I take him to all of these different places that he can't verbalize (seriously, I can't determine if he wants to go to a car wash or a golf shop or a movie or a clothing store? It's all blending together and I started to drive to each one and he was just getting madder that I couldn't understand him and insisted I was going the wrong direction).
Now it's "we always go where you wanna go, and every time I ask you to do something you don't want to. You never do anything for me. You never take me anywhere. You never, You never. You Never."
I love my dad very much, but this is the first time I've started truly feeling really depressed and bitter over this situation. I've tried to stay positive for him. I've tried to have empathy that he's the one going through something unimaginably hard and that it's got to be terrifying for him. I know he doesn't mean to be a butt head some days, but man.
Feeling unappreciated. Having people come up and say "you're doing such a good job, you're doing the right thing, you must love your dad so much to do this, etc." and it just all made me feel empty. Every day as things get progressively worse, so freaking fast, I just feel a pit in my stomach and the life that I thought I'd have slipping away.
My dad will never walk me down the aisle. I'll probably never have kids. I'm barely keeping afloat so I know having a home of my own is out of the question. I'm noticing my memory is terrible now, repeating questions I've already asked and things of that nature. It sucks. This whole situation sucks. I miss my life and I miss my dad. Instead I'm stuck with someone who I know deep down appreciates me, but outwardly just treats me like shit all of the time.
2024.06.10 01:54 Proof-Roll4038 Genuine friendships aren't defined by numbers
I just turned 21, and it took me 18 years to find myself with friends and a friend group. I've never had long-lasting friendships because connecting with others is something I've always struggled with growing up. When I got to college, I was finally able to meet great people, break out of my shell, and not be afraid to show my real self just to make friends. I graduated college a month ago, and although I'm leaving the experience with many friends, a lesson I learned is that you will know who your real friends are if they still keep in touch with you when you're physically separated.
It was my freshman year, the day I was leaving for winter break, and I had a friend who I had only known for a few weeks at the time (I met him through a mutual friend). As a kind gesture, we both told each other to stay in touch over the break before we parted ways.
That's how we became best friends.
Everyone else who said to keep in touch over the break never reached out until I saw them again after the break was over. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that--I was happy to see everyone again. However, out of all those people who tell you they will keep in touch when you're away, there is always going to be a certain number of people who will actually put effort into maintaining the relationship--it can be 5 people, 2 people, maybe even 1, and THAT'S OKAY. You don't need 100 people checking in on you all day because as long as there is at least 1 person who cares about you, you know that person is genuine.
Let's be real--if they wanted to, they would. If someone really cared enough to talk to you, they would put in the effort no matter how busy they are. It takes two hands to clap, so if you find yourself wondering why no one is reaching back even if you're doing the best you can to get their attention, it's probably because the other person doesn't want to connect with you any further than a surface-level friend--which is okay. You do not need to put all your eggs in one basket--you're not meant to be friends with everyone and not everyone is expected to like you either.
Two more winter, spring, and summer breaks later, the only person who maintained contact with me was my best friend. Why? Because we put EFFORT and TIME into each other. That one friend was all I needed to know that I have someone in my life who is genuine and will stay around even through the tough times, not the 100 other friends who you can have fun with temporarily and will forget about you down the line.
When you do meet that one friend, will you have disagreements? Yes. Will things get difficult? Yes. Will that same person still be there for you through thick and thin no matter what hardships you go through together? Absolutely. All it takes is EFFORT.
If you're someone struggling to meet new people and make genuine connections, I was there. It was really lonely and I thought all hope was gone--I didn't think I'd ever find people who understand me or will put effort into me, but it's not the end of the world because you are capable of finding at least one friend who will put the time into you and show they care about you, not just tell you--actions always speak louder than words.
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It was my freshman year, the day I was leaving for winter break, and I had a friend who I had only known for a few weeks at the time (I met him through a mutual friend). As a kind gesture, we both told each other to stay in touch over the break before we parted ways.
That's how we became best friends.
Everyone else who said to keep in touch over the break never reached out until I saw them again after the break was over. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that--I was happy to see everyone again. However, out of all those people who tell you they will keep in touch when you're away, there is always going to be a certain number of people who will actually put effort into maintaining the relationship--it can be 5 people, 2 people, maybe even 1, and THAT'S OKAY. You don't need 100 people checking in on you all day because as long as there is at least 1 person who cares about you, you know that person is genuine.
Let's be real--if they wanted to, they would. If someone really cared enough to talk to you, they would put in the effort no matter how busy they are. It takes two hands to clap, so if you find yourself wondering why no one is reaching back even if you're doing the best you can to get their attention, it's probably because the other person doesn't want to connect with you any further than a surface-level friend--which is okay. You do not need to put all your eggs in one basket--you're not meant to be friends with everyone and not everyone is expected to like you either.
Two more winter, spring, and summer breaks later, the only person who maintained contact with me was my best friend. Why? Because we put EFFORT and TIME into each other. That one friend was all I needed to know that I have someone in my life who is genuine and will stay around even through the tough times, not the 100 other friends who you can have fun with temporarily and will forget about you down the line.
When you do meet that one friend, will you have disagreements? Yes. Will things get difficult? Yes. Will that same person still be there for you through thick and thin no matter what hardships you go through together? Absolutely. All it takes is EFFORT.
If you're someone struggling to meet new people and make genuine connections, I was there. It was really lonely and I thought all hope was gone--I didn't think I'd ever find people who understand me or will put effort into me, but it's not the end of the world because you are capable of finding at least one friend who will put the time into you and show they care about you, not just tell you--actions always speak louder than words.
2024.06.10 01:54 AmIJustBeingABaby I can't get over the fact that I'm not my boyfriend's "first".
I started having a crush on my bf when we were both in 11th grade. We were both a year older than the other kids so we were already 18. Like every person who has a crush on someone, I started fantasizing about him. Holding hands, hugging, kissing and other things. He was running around my mind the whole time.
We were both part of a group of friends consisting of both girls and guys, so that's how I started getting to know him. I can't remember how we started talking about sex but in a conversation he said that he's not a virgin, which absolutely crushed one of my dreams. I wanted my first time to be with a virgin guy. I was a little surprised because he didn't really seem like the type of person to already have done something like that. He's very childish and didn't seem that interested in anything other than his friends and playing games. It honestly crushed me and made me rethink the whole situation.
We eventually started dating at the beginning of December 2021. Within the first week i asked him about the "not being a virgin" thing. (Yes, I know it's not really a good thing to talk about so early in the relationship). He told me that he wasn't a virgin but has only done it twice with only one girl in the past. He told me every last detail: why, how and where it happened. They never dated, they just had fun together. Those details ended up making me even more sad.
He ended up taking my virginity about a month later. After seeing a photo of this girl, it was clear that she had a more mature face than me and a more attractive body than me. You know, bigger breasts and hips. She was posing in the photos and it was clear that she wasn't insecure at all.
I was never insecure about my body. I was fine with my breast size and I don't see myself as fat, but I am insecure about my wide hips and masculine shoulders. After seeing her picture I always find myself comparing myself to her and I fear that my bf is doing the same, even though he has told me many times that I have a beautiful body and that he loves it.
I am not a seductive person. Any time I'm in the mood I won't initiate anything untill it's clear my bf is in the mood aswell. I read through messages between my bf and his friends. They were from a long time ago but he was telling them how much it turned him on when he and this girl were spooning and she would start rubbing against him. I was questioning weither he finds me boring since I don't try to be seductive at all. In short, she has a more open sex drive than me and I fear it's effecting how he feels about me.
Not only am I sad that I'm not his "first" because it crushed my dream, but it made me very insecure about myself and our relationship. Not being his "first" haunts me still and I feel even worse knowing that the girl who was his "first" is much more attractive than me.
He doesn't really like talking about her since his experience with her was a huge regret, but due to other events I fear he stills thinks about her.
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We were both part of a group of friends consisting of both girls and guys, so that's how I started getting to know him. I can't remember how we started talking about sex but in a conversation he said that he's not a virgin, which absolutely crushed one of my dreams. I wanted my first time to be with a virgin guy. I was a little surprised because he didn't really seem like the type of person to already have done something like that. He's very childish and didn't seem that interested in anything other than his friends and playing games. It honestly crushed me and made me rethink the whole situation.
We eventually started dating at the beginning of December 2021. Within the first week i asked him about the "not being a virgin" thing. (Yes, I know it's not really a good thing to talk about so early in the relationship). He told me that he wasn't a virgin but has only done it twice with only one girl in the past. He told me every last detail: why, how and where it happened. They never dated, they just had fun together. Those details ended up making me even more sad.
He ended up taking my virginity about a month later. After seeing a photo of this girl, it was clear that she had a more mature face than me and a more attractive body than me. You know, bigger breasts and hips. She was posing in the photos and it was clear that she wasn't insecure at all.
I was never insecure about my body. I was fine with my breast size and I don't see myself as fat, but I am insecure about my wide hips and masculine shoulders. After seeing her picture I always find myself comparing myself to her and I fear that my bf is doing the same, even though he has told me many times that I have a beautiful body and that he loves it.
I am not a seductive person. Any time I'm in the mood I won't initiate anything untill it's clear my bf is in the mood aswell. I read through messages between my bf and his friends. They were from a long time ago but he was telling them how much it turned him on when he and this girl were spooning and she would start rubbing against him. I was questioning weither he finds me boring since I don't try to be seductive at all. In short, she has a more open sex drive than me and I fear it's effecting how he feels about me.
Not only am I sad that I'm not his "first" because it crushed my dream, but it made me very insecure about myself and our relationship. Not being his "first" haunts me still and I feel even worse knowing that the girl who was his "first" is much more attractive than me.
He doesn't really like talking about her since his experience with her was a huge regret, but due to other events I fear he stills thinks about her.
2024.06.10 01:53 throwra_346356 Please tell me if I'm making the right decision or not. I (28F) packed up some of my stuff and moved back to my parents house impulsively after a huge argument with my (29M) Fiance. Does this relationship sound salvageable?
We've been together for 3 years, living together for 2.5. We had gotten into a huge argument that blew up. He was stressing out about the housing crisis, telling me that we NEED to buy a house ASAP because he predicts interest rates will keep rising. I told him I agreed, however, I would like to be married before buying a house with someone. He said we can't afford a wedding plus a house right now, and asked me to pick one or the other: a wedding or a house. It was pretty obvious which choice he wanted. I made a compromise with him that I at least wanted to be married on paper before we bought a house together, and he ended up agreeing with this. He also said that after the house, when we are more financially stable, we can have a wedding then, which I was fine with.
The next day, I had a change of heart and asked him if it would be willing to go on a celebratory trip together after signing our marriage papers, as a way to celebrate our marriage, without a wedding. I don't know why, but this set him off and he started ranting about how weddings are a waste of money, that it's just "pissing money away" and how stupid weddings are. I had to ask him multiple times to please stop ranting, that I got his point.
The next day, we got into it again, but this time it fully blew up. I asked him again if he was willing to go on a less expensive trip with me, again to celebrate our marriage after signing papers. (Note that he would only be covering his portion, I would pay for myself). I suggested a short road trip a small town near where we live. Again this triggered him and he got very angry to the point where we started raising our voices at each other. Each time I felt like he didn't want to spend any money to celebrate our marriage with me, I tried to compromise with him and lowered the stakes. It ended with me saying something along the lines of "I just want to do SOMETHING beyond just signing a few papers. We could go out for a nice dinner, or even if you bought me flowers, I'd be happy with that." Again, I don't know why, but this made him very angry and he said things like, "As if I never take you out for dinners and buy you flowers." At this point I was so frustrated that I said, "I'm asking you for CRUMBS and you can't give that to me. I just want the gesture that you care about celebrating our marriage." This blew up in my face because after I said that, we started yelling at each other, and he said things like "I'm making the financially smart decision to buy a house and secure a decent future for our children one day, and you don't trust my decisions." To which I replied, "what family? you don't have any kids yet. we should focus on making our relationship work right now." He ended it by saying "F*ck off" and then screaming "GET OUT OF MY FACE" three times because I was so stunned that I didn't move the first time he said it.
I want to add that I try very hard to never yell insults, curse, or negatively label him when we argue. I believe the purpose of an argument is to try to understand each other's POV. The worst thing I'll do is raise my voice.
After he screamed in my face, I left the house and went to my girlfriend's. Then I saw a text from him telling me that I may as well "pawn the engagement ring" because he won't tolerate this level of disrespect of me leaving the house without a word of where I'm going. (BUT HE DIDN'T ASK.)
This is not the first time something like this has happened, a few months ago I expressed to him that I was upset he had nothing planned for my birthday, and again, he blew up in my face and called me an effing psycho and said verbatim, "I'M NOT GOING TO CHANGE, IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, THEN FUCK OFF." I ended up leaving the house again that night and sleeping over at my friends house. We ended up making up and he apologized profusely and did end up planning something for my birthday.
We just talked this morning and he's extremely hurt that I moved my stuff out and slept at my parents house last night. We're not officially broken up yet, but I have a feeling that's where this is headed, because of me. And he said he's not willing to do therapy because he thinks it's a waste of time.
Did I do the right thing? Was this relationship salvageable? I'd appreciate hearing any stories that are similar to mine.
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The next day, I had a change of heart and asked him if it would be willing to go on a celebratory trip together after signing our marriage papers, as a way to celebrate our marriage, without a wedding. I don't know why, but this set him off and he started ranting about how weddings are a waste of money, that it's just "pissing money away" and how stupid weddings are. I had to ask him multiple times to please stop ranting, that I got his point.
The next day, we got into it again, but this time it fully blew up. I asked him again if he was willing to go on a less expensive trip with me, again to celebrate our marriage after signing papers. (Note that he would only be covering his portion, I would pay for myself). I suggested a short road trip a small town near where we live. Again this triggered him and he got very angry to the point where we started raising our voices at each other. Each time I felt like he didn't want to spend any money to celebrate our marriage with me, I tried to compromise with him and lowered the stakes. It ended with me saying something along the lines of "I just want to do SOMETHING beyond just signing a few papers. We could go out for a nice dinner, or even if you bought me flowers, I'd be happy with that." Again, I don't know why, but this made him very angry and he said things like, "As if I never take you out for dinners and buy you flowers." At this point I was so frustrated that I said, "I'm asking you for CRUMBS and you can't give that to me. I just want the gesture that you care about celebrating our marriage." This blew up in my face because after I said that, we started yelling at each other, and he said things like "I'm making the financially smart decision to buy a house and secure a decent future for our children one day, and you don't trust my decisions." To which I replied, "what family? you don't have any kids yet. we should focus on making our relationship work right now." He ended it by saying "F*ck off" and then screaming "GET OUT OF MY FACE" three times because I was so stunned that I didn't move the first time he said it.
I want to add that I try very hard to never yell insults, curse, or negatively label him when we argue. I believe the purpose of an argument is to try to understand each other's POV. The worst thing I'll do is raise my voice.
After he screamed in my face, I left the house and went to my girlfriend's. Then I saw a text from him telling me that I may as well "pawn the engagement ring" because he won't tolerate this level of disrespect of me leaving the house without a word of where I'm going. (BUT HE DIDN'T ASK.)
This is not the first time something like this has happened, a few months ago I expressed to him that I was upset he had nothing planned for my birthday, and again, he blew up in my face and called me an effing psycho and said verbatim, "I'M NOT GOING TO CHANGE, IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, THEN FUCK OFF." I ended up leaving the house again that night and sleeping over at my friends house. We ended up making up and he apologized profusely and did end up planning something for my birthday.
We just talked this morning and he's extremely hurt that I moved my stuff out and slept at my parents house last night. We're not officially broken up yet, but I have a feeling that's where this is headed, because of me. And he said he's not willing to do therapy because he thinks it's a waste of time.
Did I do the right thing? Was this relationship salvageable? I'd appreciate hearing any stories that are similar to mine.
2024.06.10 01:53 LogicalVariation741 I am so very itchy! Everywhere. So I hope this bath solution helps ...
It could be a medicine change. It could be hormones. It could be the fact that I think I may be allergic to my husband's off-brand sunscreen. All I know is I'm about to scrape off my skin with a flintzing knife and it's been like this for 2 weeks. I already have a doctor's appointment and they just said hydrocortisone (which I am using but I need more coverage). I see myself as more of a kitchen/bath witch so I'm trying this tonight.
Bath soak: Dried milk Dried honey (preppers are amazing. Taking a thing that will last forever and making it last more forever) Oatmeal Angelica (good for skin and anti inflammatory) Marshmallow root (anti inflammatory)
All this got blitzed together into a fine powder and I hope to all that is merciful this helps even for a bit.
Any other good things to toss in?
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Bath soak: Dried milk Dried honey (preppers are amazing. Taking a thing that will last forever and making it last more forever) Oatmeal Angelica (good for skin and anti inflammatory) Marshmallow root (anti inflammatory)
All this got blitzed together into a fine powder and I hope to all that is merciful this helps even for a bit.
Any other good things to toss in?
2024.06.10 01:53 Intelligent-Waltz471 Girlfriend going away for a few months
Been dating her for approx 4 months now..no problems no arguments sex good affection good, life is good with her and we have been making plans for future like going away and doing stuff together.. the only slight problem we have is she tends to overthink everything and I need to be careful how I word things..which is fine, as it's turned out relationship into a very open and honest one.
She moved to my area approx 3 years ago. Her home is around 600 miles away. Her dad has cancer and doesn't have long to live although he hasn't asked doctor how long and doesn't want to know either.
She wants to go back home and spend last few months of his life with him which I totally understand. Fully supportive of this in fact I'm encouraging her to do so. But obviously there is the topic of us to deal with. She's going to be 600 miles away. We are in a good place and she thinks we are too but I genuinely think we need to talk about our relationship during this period but unsure how to approach the subject while take her feelings into consideration and don't want to sound as if I'm a bad person here.
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She moved to my area approx 3 years ago. Her home is around 600 miles away. Her dad has cancer and doesn't have long to live although he hasn't asked doctor how long and doesn't want to know either.
She wants to go back home and spend last few months of his life with him which I totally understand. Fully supportive of this in fact I'm encouraging her to do so. But obviously there is the topic of us to deal with. She's going to be 600 miles away. We are in a good place and she thinks we are too but I genuinely think we need to talk about our relationship during this period but unsure how to approach the subject while take her feelings into consideration and don't want to sound as if I'm a bad person here.
2024.06.10 01:53 Plant-Daddy23 Please call me an Ahole.
An old buddy of mine named Alex, committed suicide a year ago now. And I still feel like I have no right to grieve him. We always went to school together, but never talked that much or had official introductions until graduating. Another friend of mine brought us together, making a group friendship that I felt was unbreakable. Yes, we were still young and had no idea how to go about life. But we all dealt with issues and set them aside while we hung out. We were always happy, in my eyes.
At this point Alex and his family were like my own. I was never at my own house, everyone was cool with me being gay, they fed me, and I would clean with them. I felt the family and that was all I wanted. There were things I may have noticed, like everyone was chill that I slept in Alex's bed. Nothing happened, I just saw it as sleeping. It's been so many years, idk who first suggested me to sleep there, but it wasn't me. I just felt safe, that I know.
My Father: (Some of us had jobs, I didn't. It was hard to get one early in a small town. This caused issues later when my dad kicked me out. And before I could move in with them, he already called my mom and had me moving cities away. You see, he divorced her after cheating, then married another woman. This woman tells him to dump me and they moved out of state. Upon long term damage to my personal family, we just acted like shareholders. "If you don't have a purpose, then you're out". He was a lot nicer than her, but him and I have had a phone call on birthdays only for 10 years now. The moment I mentioned car problems, for a car that I bought on my own, he sent me an empty glass terrarium kit for succulents. The gays would laugh at that one.)
My Mother: (I actually became very depressed, my mom wasn't the best person either. She was where all the anger came from in the family. Her bloodline made my brother into a rage machine that has to take lithium pills to be normal. Even when I didn't have a "partner" to live there with, I always tried to get some kind of roommate. I couldnt be left alone. I had to show my long term friends the damage being done and I've been treated like a joke over it. I tell you, this woman ruined every job I've had by rubbing her nose in it. It's one thing to tell your kid that he can eat from your food and he has to get his own. But to tell him he can't cook? Can't use your fridge, or your pantree, no stove, oven, toaster or even tv? I can't use the dishwasher or washing machine cuz I'll break it. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT THIS LADY NEEDS? Her 300lb butt needs my assistance, standing tall at 120lbs lean! I walked every single day to work in the arizona heat, and this lady wants rent, and any time I want something I have to pay for it, great lesson mom! You were getting money from me while YOU sat down. Thanks for teaching me to look for a way to bounce, cuz that's exactly what I did to everyone I ever loved!)
Next thing you know, I was 26, working a job I hated. It's the most money I ever made, but it wasnt enough.
I never knew he did it. I found out too late, way too late. His sister tried to messege me. I thought she was gonna give me crap again for not coming around. I found out 2 months later on Facebook, people posted memorial and I lost my mind. I can't explain how I felt. The inner shame of him leaving this world. I felt so wrong inside because of him, everything came flooding back. It's like memories after being drunk to me. What did I do? Where did I go? I went through every single thought in my head about him. I tried and tried to remember signs of his sadness.
No matter how deep I go I can only think of 2 times he did something suspicious.
On night before I left, we just laid down. There was no way he could've been asleep. It's was like 5 minutes. He rolled over and hugged me. I never hated it, I even accepted it. He'd never hugged me before and we'd been strong friends for at least a year. If anything were to happen I felt ready. But then he just stopped hugging me. It was like a minute? Okay. Confusing, but also never spoken of again... I think.
The second time, I wish I wasn't so wasted, we were just hanging out and I got dizzy, so we went for a walk. Already sounding gay lol I can't believe I didn't see it. He should've been louder! But he said everything he could to me without being embarrassed. We talked a little about his past, and how everyone gets through that. I did my best as a wasted person to give my bro the most loving advice. He was suddenly so sad, and my ass wasn't handling it right. I told him his knee injury wasn't gonna hold him back, and that his thought on failure were technically made up. Something on those lines. This was still like 8 years ago, sorry.
At 26, I'm not satisfied with life. I lived in the arizona room, paying insane rent to mom, still couldn't eat. I only ate at work to survive cuz she gave me little space. Here I am complaining about myself and I find out he offed himself in his new apartment. I guess there was a girl that broke up with him, but his family wouldn't tell me his actual reasons.
I tried telling his sister about the things he said to me and did. I told her I felt no negative feelings and I truly had no idea what he wanted. But something in her was different after she found out. She made sly comments, like, "you know what what's like". Her mom, who was my 2nd mom, glared TF outa me and said nothing. I had never seen such disgust from her and she walked away from me. I have spoken to any of these people since everything happened. Sis invited me to a memorial they were having, but I knew those eyes, I saw nothing good coming out of me attending. Acting like I'm family to them is dishonored to them, they treated me like family. I feel like I deserted them..
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At this point Alex and his family were like my own. I was never at my own house, everyone was cool with me being gay, they fed me, and I would clean with them. I felt the family and that was all I wanted. There were things I may have noticed, like everyone was chill that I slept in Alex's bed. Nothing happened, I just saw it as sleeping. It's been so many years, idk who first suggested me to sleep there, but it wasn't me. I just felt safe, that I know.
My Father: (Some of us had jobs, I didn't. It was hard to get one early in a small town. This caused issues later when my dad kicked me out. And before I could move in with them, he already called my mom and had me moving cities away. You see, he divorced her after cheating, then married another woman. This woman tells him to dump me and they moved out of state. Upon long term damage to my personal family, we just acted like shareholders. "If you don't have a purpose, then you're out". He was a lot nicer than her, but him and I have had a phone call on birthdays only for 10 years now. The moment I mentioned car problems, for a car that I bought on my own, he sent me an empty glass terrarium kit for succulents. The gays would laugh at that one.)
My Mother: (I actually became very depressed, my mom wasn't the best person either. She was where all the anger came from in the family. Her bloodline made my brother into a rage machine that has to take lithium pills to be normal. Even when I didn't have a "partner" to live there with, I always tried to get some kind of roommate. I couldnt be left alone. I had to show my long term friends the damage being done and I've been treated like a joke over it. I tell you, this woman ruined every job I've had by rubbing her nose in it. It's one thing to tell your kid that he can eat from your food and he has to get his own. But to tell him he can't cook? Can't use your fridge, or your pantree, no stove, oven, toaster or even tv? I can't use the dishwasher or washing machine cuz I'll break it. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT THIS LADY NEEDS? Her 300lb butt needs my assistance, standing tall at 120lbs lean! I walked every single day to work in the arizona heat, and this lady wants rent, and any time I want something I have to pay for it, great lesson mom! You were getting money from me while YOU sat down. Thanks for teaching me to look for a way to bounce, cuz that's exactly what I did to everyone I ever loved!)
Next thing you know, I was 26, working a job I hated. It's the most money I ever made, but it wasnt enough.
I never knew he did it. I found out too late, way too late. His sister tried to messege me. I thought she was gonna give me crap again for not coming around. I found out 2 months later on Facebook, people posted memorial and I lost my mind. I can't explain how I felt. The inner shame of him leaving this world. I felt so wrong inside because of him, everything came flooding back. It's like memories after being drunk to me. What did I do? Where did I go? I went through every single thought in my head about him. I tried and tried to remember signs of his sadness.
No matter how deep I go I can only think of 2 times he did something suspicious.
On night before I left, we just laid down. There was no way he could've been asleep. It's was like 5 minutes. He rolled over and hugged me. I never hated it, I even accepted it. He'd never hugged me before and we'd been strong friends for at least a year. If anything were to happen I felt ready. But then he just stopped hugging me. It was like a minute? Okay. Confusing, but also never spoken of again... I think.
The second time, I wish I wasn't so wasted, we were just hanging out and I got dizzy, so we went for a walk. Already sounding gay lol I can't believe I didn't see it. He should've been louder! But he said everything he could to me without being embarrassed. We talked a little about his past, and how everyone gets through that. I did my best as a wasted person to give my bro the most loving advice. He was suddenly so sad, and my ass wasn't handling it right. I told him his knee injury wasn't gonna hold him back, and that his thought on failure were technically made up. Something on those lines. This was still like 8 years ago, sorry.
At 26, I'm not satisfied with life. I lived in the arizona room, paying insane rent to mom, still couldn't eat. I only ate at work to survive cuz she gave me little space. Here I am complaining about myself and I find out he offed himself in his new apartment. I guess there was a girl that broke up with him, but his family wouldn't tell me his actual reasons.
I tried telling his sister about the things he said to me and did. I told her I felt no negative feelings and I truly had no idea what he wanted. But something in her was different after she found out. She made sly comments, like, "you know what what's like". Her mom, who was my 2nd mom, glared TF outa me and said nothing. I had never seen such disgust from her and she walked away from me. I have spoken to any of these people since everything happened. Sis invited me to a memorial they were having, but I knew those eyes, I saw nothing good coming out of me attending. Acting like I'm family to them is dishonored to them, they treated me like family. I feel like I deserted them..