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Albion Online

2013.03.03 17:03 NanoCube Albion Online

Subreddit of Albion Online, a full-loot sandbox MMORPG published by Sandbox Interactive. Here you can find all things related to Albion Online, from official news and guides to memes.
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2012.11.08 13:49 stoneforger Elite Dangerous

The official unofficial subreddit for Elite Dangerous, we even have devs lurking the sub! Elite Dangerous brings gaming’s original open world adventure to the modern generation with a stunning recreation of the entire Milky Way galaxy. Here battles rage, governments fall, and humanity’s frontier expands – and you can impact it all. Welcome to the definitive massively multiplayer space epic.
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2011.04.30 18:00 pedro19 PC Master Race - PCMR: A place where all enthusiasts of PC, PC gaming and PC technology are welcome!

Welcome to the official subreddit of the PC Master Race / PCMR! All PC-related content is welcome, including build help, tech support, and any doubt one might have about PC ownership. You don't necessarily need a PC to be a member of the PCMR. You just have to love PCs. It's not about the hardware in your rig, but the software in your heart! Join us in celebrating and promoting tech, knowledge, and the best gaming, study, and work platform there exists. The Personal Computer.
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2024.05.17 01:48 Negademus Blade Show Funds

Good Afternoon KS!
Selling some lesser used/leftover knives in order to fund possible purchases.
Boilerplate:
Yolo is king. I'll take a yolo in here over a chat/message haggling.
These are Spyderco seconds, while they are technically 'new' knives, there are slight blemishes and issues that caused Spyderco QC to fail them, and there is no warranty with these knives. I'll be listing what I have found wrong with each knife. There is a chance I've missed something, but please note that these almost always come with small imperfections.
None of these issues affect the quality of the blade, some are small cosmetic issues(edge bevels not matching, snails, etc.), some are small mechanical issues that can be adjusted(tight pivot, favoring one side, etc).
I take Paypal F&F, do not put any notes(this will result in an immediate refund). I'm not taking other payment sources just to keep everything centralized.
I try to ship same or next day, assuming payment is sent. Feel free to chat or message me with any questions/concerns. I will try to get back to you asap.
I ship all single knives in a black bubble mailer, USPS Ground Advantage. If you want me to upgrade shipping, let me know before payment is sent and I'll adjust accordingly.
https://imgur.com/a/6WVGK5d
Platform Model Price Quantity Pictures Notes/Issues
MANIX 2 EX MANIX 2 FDE PLN OD GR G10 CTS 204P $190 pending sale https://imgur.com/a/vlnGaEo Edge bevel/color quality
Shaman SHAMAN KNIFE JOKER EXCLUSIVE $260 1 https://imgur.com/a/T8ce8qH Edge bevels
YoJumbo YOJUMBO PLAINEDGE BLACK G-10 $125 2 https://imgur.com/a/rgkwLGY Edge bevels, lockstick
Native 5 EX NATIVE 5 PLN WHITE FRN CPM REX 45 $135 1 https://imgur.com/a/zyYyl9K Edge bevels
PM2 EX PARA MILITARY 2 PLN G-10 BLK CPM-CRUWEAR $160 2 https://imgur.com/a/79UvPG3 Edge bevels, Snails on G10
EX PARA 2 PLN WHARNCLIFFE BLACK G-10 CPM S30V $145 1 https://imgur.com/a/m5hf1qg Edge bevels, Light lockstick,
EX PARA 2 REC $170 1 https://imgur.com/a/HhF4Bw6 Color quality on blade. Light lockstick. Small snails
Koenig Arius M390 with NFR Pattern $1,200 1 https://imgur.com/a/kpdL72I Light snails on show side and clip from carry. Pictured to the best of my ability.
CJRB Pyrite - Ti Model $50 1 https://imgur.com/a/2f0z5TY Snails on show side. Pictured
Donuts Elementum 1 $100 1 https://imgur.com/a/hoEHyni NiB
Mini Korvid $100 1 https://imgur.com/a/ek4jiaQ NiB​
I also have the below non Knife items available for sale.
Non Knife Items Apple Airpod Pro Gen 2 CASE ONLY $60 1 https://imgur.com/a/2rK9Okz Bought off Facebook for a friend, and he couldn't get his airpods to sync up. I don't use apple products, so I couldn't tell if this was user error or the case.
Galaxy Watch 4 $100 1 (In main picture) Personal Galaxy watch, comes with charger(not pictured) and box(if I can find it). Good watch, just upgraded.
BSW Friday the 13th exlusive pen $450 1 (in main picture) NiB BSW Exclusive pen. Only 20 made.​
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2024.05.17 01:46 Danielator36 Purdue to Chicago Flight: Photos, Video, and Review!

Purdue to Chicago Flight: Photos, Video, and Review!
I took the first airline flight from the Purdue Airport to Chicago with a friend yesterday, so I figured I'd post some photos, a video, and a review here!
Special Southern Airways Express Purdue livery
At LAF:
Since it was the first flight, we got to the airport ~60 minutes before our 6:20 AM flight. Judging by emails and calls from the airline, they usually just require arriving 30-45 minutes before the flight. You check in at the airline desk, and then wait nearby until they open TSA for your flight.
(Side note- Parking is $5 per day, but there's also a free lot for ABC permits.)
Purdue is building a new terminal next door, but it was still cool to see the renovations to the current one. The waiting area has some newly redone seats, general Purdue marketing decor, and vending machines nearby. Southern Airways also has free coffee for passengers, which was nice to see.
Pre-TSA Waiting Area
Pre-TSA Vending Machines
~20 minutes before departure, TSA opened. It was just like any other airport (including accepting pre-check!), except it took all of us ~3 minutes total! There's then a small waiting area, and airline staff opened the 'gate' for us to board just a minute or so after going through security.
Boarding was quick, and everyone was assigned a seat based on weight.
Flight:
Heading towards Runway 10
We took off at 6:18 AM, and had a pretty uneventful ~1 hour flight to O'Hare. These flights seem to usually be ~45 minutes, but we had a bit of a longer route because of traffic/weather.
Rainy day in West Lafayette
We arrived in Chicago right on time- pulling into the gate at exactly 6:25 AM local time. All Southern Airways Express flights arrive and leave out of gate F4 in Chicago's terminal 2, which is pretty well-located for connections.
N958SP amongst the United gates
Final Thoughts:
Full disclosure- I used to email airlines recommending that they fly to LAF when I was in elementary school, so these flights are very much a dream come true for me.
Regardless, I was honestly impressed with how comfortable the plane was. The seats have way more padding and legroom than normal economy seats, and the large windows make for great views. I also found all the airport and airline staff to be super nice and excited for these new flights, and the small planes make it a much more personal, relaxed experience. On our way back, everyone for the flight arrived to the gate area ~1 hour before our scheduled departure, so our pilots ended up just flying us back way early- I found that really cool, and something you'll probably only experience on a small flight.
As someone who visits Purdue/Greater Lafayette regularly, I'm really excited that this'll be an option going forward. I always have a connection when I fly to IND anyway, and the traffic and long shuttle ride out of ORD makes connecting into LAF a much better option for me.
Cabin
Feel free to ask any questions, and I'll do my best to answer them!
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2024.05.17 01:44 OR-HM-MA91 Fart walk?

Idk if this is more question or rant. I was just watching Facebook reels and there was a one where an older woman was taking about how her and her husband take a short “fart walk” after dinner. She goes on to talk about digestion, gas and all that. I CAN’T FART WHEN I WALK! WHY!?
Let me explain. I have IBS C and have as long as I can remember. I also regularly get severe gas with it. Painful gas that will not come out. Walking and standing up makes the pain worse. I’m talking doubled over in pain. I have to lay down. That’s when I pass gas. It happened all the time to me as a child. I experienced it today. I had to work, I couldn’t call out. I’m a substitute teacher so spent a lot of time standing and walking. I was in absolute misery and couldn’t pass one single toot. When I got home I went straight to bed and laid down. Almost IMMEDIATELY I let out the BIGGEST fart and felt significantly better. Why does this happen? Does it happen to anyone else? All the advice about gas issues seems to include walking/movement as a way to help it pass but I’m the complete opposite.
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2024.05.17 01:43 SaucySurgeon AX15 rebuild

AX15 rebuild
In a few weeks I plan on dropping my transmission to replace the clutch so since I’m down there and it has 240k miles I figured I might as well do a rebuild. I’m getting a new clutch, slave cylinder, flywheel, and this kit shown above. Are there other things I should do or replace since I’ll have everything torn apart? Any weird specialty tools needed or a part that commonly goes out that would go unnoticed for a time? Open to any suggestions
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2024.05.17 01:35 Krakenlicks After years of talking through text, I M38 finally met her F31 in person and since then we've yet to really connect. how should I broach the subject?

Me (M38) and lets call her Amy (F31) worked together for a few months, I then left a toxic relationship and moved back home over 800 miles away. about a year later we briefly reconnected. I had always liked her and been attracted to her but since we were both in relationships there was nothing between us other than friendly banter at work. over a year after i had left we re-connected on social media. we had fun conversation and she gave me her number. this led to a few long Face-time calls and more chats, sending funny gifs and cards at Christmas which at a certain point stopped. I was disappointed but due to distance i let it go. about a year later she reached out again which led to a similar experience. then a few months later she reached out again because she was going for a promotion at work I had recently gotten myself. we talked about it and i gave her encouragement and then once again, there was radio silence. It hurt a bit more this time but, again, i let it go. I had oddly enough gotten a sweet Christmas card from her but she didn't respond to my thank you text. Then this year she reached out a final time. Turns out the whole time we had talked and stopped and talked and stopped, she had a partner. She had stopped those other times out of respect for him but they had broken up recently AND she had gotten the promotion so she wanted to thank me and apologize. From there it started again, the calls, the texts all of it. We eventually got to the point where we told each other we liked the other. That she had had a crush on me back then but nothing had happened. She was so complimentary about my looks and personality and I always felt that what she said and felt was real and strong, I also tried to express I felt the same way. since then we've texted almost everyday, talked about anything and everything, sent each other funny posts all of the good stuff. This led to her inviting me to a party for work in a few months, which as crazy as it seems, I said yes to. Then as time passed and we expressed frustration about not being able to see each other and i threw out the idea of meeting halfway for a weekend. She was enthusiastic, as was I. Well shortly before the date we were to meet up i sensed a bit of distance, but she let me know it was nothing and was sorry, and continued to be enthusiastic up to the day. Well last week was the day. We met and spent about 16 hours together, we had lunch and diner, visited a weird museum and stayed in a cool airBNB. we slept together, which i admit was not my best work due to nerves and well probably age on my part but we were sweet with each other and i was happy to finally get to be around her after all this time. Well since we've been back in our respective homes, the texts have been close to non existent. Ive reached out several times and gotten little to no response, and when i did it was short and did little to easy my anxiety about the situation. As of now the Work party is still on the books but I'm questioning it now. Ive spent the last week racking my brain trying to figure out if i did something wrong or if something is wrong with me to cause such a shift, almost 180. I guess I'm just asking what do people think i should do or what others thoughts on what may have happened. Im planning on just asking if something is off or if theres anything causing a distance or if I'm just overthinking because, as i have mentioned above, i was in a very toxic relationship and have strong trust issues surrounding words vs actions.
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2024.05.17 01:35 waycoon Docker not using proxies within Python script.

I'm facing an issue where my Python script using the requests library work fine outside of Docker. But inside Docker it doesn't seem to use the proxy to make the request. It also doesn't throw any errors.
Found just this post which seems to have the same issue but no responses unfortunately. I couldn't find anything else at all regarding this issue. Can't imagine I am the only since my setup is fairly simple as well. I have also tried adding the proxies as ENV variables, but that also didn't work.
Dockerfile:
FROM python:3.11 WORKDIR /app COPY . . RUN apt-get update && apt-get install -y ca-certificates openssl RUN pip install --no-cache-dir -r requirements.txt ENV HTTP_PROXY="http://USER:PASSWORD@HOST:PORT" ENV HTTPS_PROXY="http://USER:PASSWORD@HOST:PORT" ENTRYPOINT ["python", "main.py"] 
Python
import requests def proxy_request(): proxies = { "http": "http://USER:PASSWORD@HOST:PORT", "https": "http://USER:PASSWORD@HOST:PORT", } response = requests.get('https://httpbin.org/get', proxies=proxies) print("Status:", response.status_code) print("Content:", response.text) 
Again, outside of Docker the response return the IP of the proxy. However, inside Docker it returns my own IP.
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2024.05.17 01:33 Slow-Boat-5106 A girl on the shore, the two couple kissing in the end (chapter 20)

i'm just done reading a girl on the shore, very cool manga but i'm still questioning, are the couples who kissed in the end Isobe and the girl who he met at the coffeshop? i really need to know...
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2024.05.17 01:32 novelpuckhead AITA for holding a grudge against my ex-bestie for longer than our friendship was?

This is probably a longer story than it really is, but I am just trying to give as much context as I can.
In grade 11, me (F16-17) and my ex-friend (F16-17) were best friends. For some context, we both became friends fairly early in high school. In my country high school is from grade 8-grade 12. I joined the high school in grade 8 from out of city, the high school is just closer to me than the one in my city, so I was a new kid. I made some friends in grade 8 as a new kid but those friendships did end in grade 9. Grade 9 is when my best friend, we'll call her Emily, transferred to the school. And we formed a friendship. Through grade 9 we had formed our own little friend group with 2 other girls, we'll name them Clara and Sabrina. It was the 4 of us through majority of high school. We would always text each other, always hang out after school, spend any break we had at school together and had as much fun as any girls in high school could have (minus the partying because my school is not a partying school).
Emily and I were the closet in the friend group, afterall we were pretty similar and come from similar backgrounds (We're both a type of asian). We both would be described as the smart kids. We both would end up getting high grades in all of our classes. In grade 9, when we met, she told the friend group her dream was to become a doctor like her parents were, so she studied extra hard in high school to keep her grades high. I, on the other hand, did not really have any specific dreams. I wanted to become a writer or even a lawyer (but was worried because I'm not the best speaker). Due to that, I never tried that hard at school. Like i care about grades, my parents cared a lot about me getting high grades, but I wasn't studying for anything. And with that I never really studied either, I would do my homework and pay attention in class and take pretty notes but I was not spending any real time after class to do work Which is something that Emily would do. She would spend hours and hours a day just studying. If she wasn't studying she would be doing some volunterring or some club stuff.
Fast forward to grade 11. Right from the beginning of the year something just felt odd about our relationship. She seemed distant. Which I chalked up to it being we were now considered seniors at our high school so she was starting to stress about universities already, but it was still whatever. My school worked in semesters, so for half of the year we would have 4 specific classes which would then switch to different classes in second semester. During first semester I didn't have any classes with any of my friends. I was just chilling in all of my classess and getting adopted into different group friends in those classes. I was always well-liked in high school, I was not a popular kid. But compared to all the smart kids in the school, I was deemed the nicest so because of that everyone would be nice to me and friendly (even though I know for some of them it was so they could get hw answers out of me, but they were still very nice to me).
During this time, my friends and I would make up plans to hang out. We always made it a point to hang out at least once a week outside of school. It was always after school, we would usually study, walk around or go to the mall. In our gc on insta we would always double check with one another on which days to do it. Clara, Sabrina and I would always talk in the gc and were always the ones initiating the plans. Emily was also in the gc but would rarely reply to anything. Any times we would make plans to hang out, Emily would either not reply (which would then lead us to asking her during lunch the next day if she was free, where she would barely talk) or she would just say no to all plans. The few times she would say yes, she would always cancel the day of. Which would be annoying, and Clara, Sabrina and I would talk amongst ourselves that we found it odd she would always cancel and never want to hang out outside of school, but we were like it's not that big of a deal. She could just be busy.
We then just ahead to my birthday. Now i have an early birthday and it falls around the time that we come back to school after the winter break. Now during the winter break, Clara, Sabrina and I formed a seperate gc as it would just be the three of us talking and making plans. We also always took so many pictures and felt bad about sending it into the gc with the four of us in it as we didnt want Emily to feel bad about not coming. So we figured it was better if we kept it seperate. But in the main gc, I just ask when is everyone free to do something small. I'm not really a birthday person. Since high school, all my birthdays include going to some cozy restauraunt with my 4 closest friends and just having a casual dinner. So I ask and everyone leaves their responses, including Emily. We decide on a day, it would be after school just a day or two after my actual birthday and we would be going to a restuarunt and an arcade nearby (I have strict parents so I really wasn't allowed to go out late or really go out anywhere far). The plan is made and everything is set. When the day comes for the dinnearcade, we all meet up by our lockers to go take the bus together.
The 3 of us are there waiting for Emily to come and she does just a few minutes late. That is when she tells us she can't come because she has a club meeting today, and she told us it was mandatory for us to attend. Now of course my friends and I tried to convince her to blow it off just this one time, but she was adamant about going. So, whatever. We say bye to her and start walking to the bus. While walking there we bump into a mutual friend, also waiting for the bus. She is also in the same club, so we confused why she was here. We do ask her, saying "hey isn't there something happening with the club today?" That is when she tells us there was just this small meeting recapping what had happened in last weeks meeting for the people who missed it. Meaning the meeting was not madatory at all, especially when Emily had cancelled our plans last week to go to this said meeting. Meaning she did sort of lie to get out of going to my birthday party. I of course was hurt by this. When she told us she had to go to the meeting, I didn't think much of it as I knew how much school mattered to her and how much doing this club stuff mattered. But she had the choice to come, and she decided to just blow me off. We went out and had fun and didn't bring the matter up with her. We figured it was just her caring a bit too much about school.
Anyways this whole cancelling plans last minute, ghosting the main gc thing happened more and more. It also got to the point where if I wanted to talk to her, whether that was through text or in real life I would always have to approach her first. As this carried on for a while, i of course was getting a bit annoyed about where this friendship was going.
We now get to Emily's birthday a month later. Now Emily decided to plan her birthday, very last minute. I am just pointing this out as i am not a person who can do spontaneous plans, one because i have this need to plan properly and two because I do have strict parents. So i can't just spring a plan on them the day of and expect to go. Which is something Emily knows. Anyways she makes the plan and i tell my mom about it to ask if i can go and she says yes. The day before, Emily then decides to change the plan entirely. We were going to go into downtown city (for context, it's roughly 2 hours transit from our neighborhood). I obviously had to ask permission as she wanted to stay out late which is not something my parents would like, so when Emily told us at lunch the change in plans, Clara, Sabrina I told her we had to double check if we can still go as we all have strict parents, but our extended friend group were all down to go.
After school, the four of us head into the bathroom, which is a toally normal thing for high school girls to do before we headed out. While there Emily then decides to start a fight with me about not going to her birthday, which hasn't happened yet. She starts yelling at me about how Im mad that she didn't go to my birthday and am not going to hers as revenge (I'll be honest, I kinda forgot she didn't go). And starts yelling at me about how I'm being a bad friend and frankly a b*tch. And when I say she is screaming at me, I mean there is the largest echo circling our bathroom as she yells at me. Now I'm just standing there, trying to reason with her. I'm just trying to explain to her that i didn't say i wasn't coming, i just needed to get permission to go, which is something that Clara and Sarbina said as well but Emily wasn't saying anything about them. She proceeded to just yell at me for a solid 5 minutes. Another girl did walk into the bathroom, saw Emily yelling and just left, which I feel bad about. I do not do well with someone yelling at me, so I just tell her that I'm leaving now and we can talk later. I practically run out of the bathroom and out of school. Clara runs up to me and says i can't go home feeling like this. I felt horrible, i felt like throwing up. So Clara makes it her job to cheer me up as Sabrina is trying to calm Emily down. Clara takes me to Mcdonalds, where we split a meal as that became a tradition of ours and she bought me ice-cream to make me feel better. We end up spending roughly and hour and half there before starting to walk back to our houses. I did feel a lot better and I was smiling. Clara didn't really say much about what happened as she knew it would upset me. She just said that Emily was being mean and left it at that. At some point during our walk, Emily calls Clara and starts screaming at Clara over the phone about choosing "my side". I only know it was Emily because I can hear her screaming through the phone and Clara is trying to be nice to her and say she was comforting her friend like a good one would do. Emily continues screaming and Clara just hangs up on her.
We don't talk about it. Now the next day, at school, is Emily's birthday. I feel so awkward. Because i'm still upset about what happened. When I see her, I'm not sure if I should wish her a happy birthday. I feel like I am owed an apology first. so i don't really say anything to her. and we don't really talk. Now we are in the same Chemistry honours class together and are lab partners. So we have to talk. I ask her, if we're going to talk about what happened. And she just says, no, it's my birthday. I just say really but she doesn't say anything after. So Im just like, fine, whatever. We spend the entire class in awkward silence, and I do not see her again the entire day. Even at lunch because she has a club meeting or something. Clara, Sabrina and I all agree that we don't want to talk about it. Clara got an apology text last night but she was still mad about being yelled at over the phone. Sabrina asked us if we wanted to know what her and Emily talked about yesterday but i said no. I was frankly too mad and knew if anything was said, I would be upset. Emily did not end up having a birthday party. and there is now an awkward silence between the 4 of us. it's like a horror movie, where the music is playing and you just know something bad is coming and you have to wait for it.
A few days later, I know i have to say something. I can feel that our friendship is hanging by a thread and I want my best friend back. So at lunch, while we're all sitting by our lockers I bring up the topic. I do not remember the conversation that took place. All I know was that Emily was practically screaming in my face, in front of all our friends (Clara, Sabrina and 5 of our other friends). Everyone is trying to get her to stop, but she keeps yelling at me. At some point I just start crying. Now this is the first time, that someone outside of my family, has ever made me cry. Its the first time I have ever cried at school too. The tears are flowing down my face as I just say "i'm sorry i cant do this" to the rest of our friends as i had off to the bathroom to calm down. Clara and one of our other friends rush off with me to try to calm me down and stop the tears. But they keep coming. I can't stop them and am now in the bathroom splashing my face with water and doing my best to wipe them all away. Clara, this other friend and i all have the same class next. So they have to literally drag me to class as I'm sort of paralyzed about whats happening. When we get to the classroom, everyone there, which was half of the class is looking at me and seeing my red, teared-up face. Our seats are at the very back corner of the classroom, on the very opposite side from the door. So i have to walk past the entire face as they all stare at me and wonder whats happening. the entire time im not really paying any attention. during little work periods in the class, my fellow classmates would walk up to me and ask if im okay. which i would say yes, i was even though i wasnt because what else could i say. I ended up powering through the rest of the day before going home and wonderign what to do.
In the secret gc, I text with Clara and Sabrina about what my next steps should be. They suggest we have an actual therapy session as a friend group to discuss if we even want to be friends at this point. I agree to this. I even start writing up my own speech I am going to tell Emily when i see her.
So I'm just going to jump ahead to whenever this happens. It's during lunch, outside on the grass field. I am calm, I know what to say and everything. I'm sitting there with Clara and Sabrina has to literally drag Emily out of school to come and talk. I kid you not. We have like an hour for lunch. It takes 20 minutes for Emily to finally show up. And she shows up like, "ugh what are we even doing here? im kinda busy" and just acts like there is nothing at all wrong. I start to calmly explain to her how ive been feeling the entire year. I do not remmeber the conversation. But what I remember talking about is how i feel like she's distant, she's always cancelling plans, im always the one texting her first, about how she gets mad at me for small little things, how she yells at me, etc. My whole speech was about how "i don't want to feel like sh*t for trying to continue this friendship". Because even after the first time she yelled at me, I just wanted an apology and we could move on and that didn't happen. And now Im just like I don't want to cry again and don't want my tears to come from someone who's supposed to be my best friend. She does argue her case in this. Her whole thing is how "i'm being clingy and annoying and controlling".
Now for her arguement, I think it should be known more about my persoanlity type. I am not the best people person. I have social anxiety and how that manifests in me is that i can't really talk to people that well. I don't know how to converse and get incredibly nervous to talk to anyone new. So when I do become friends with someone, I do latch on to them. I talk to them all the time, when i can, and they become my person. I think that is where the clingy party comes from. For the controlling/annoying thing, I can only chalk it up to me always texting her. Like i said, i would always have to be the one initating our conversations and plans. So our chats always look like 5 bubbles of text from me (because i am the person that types in multiple bubbles rather than one large text bubble) and her short responses. When it comes to plans, as I said i do not do spontaenous plans. I need to have them properly organized for both my parents sakes and my sake. I'm not someone who plans everything out minute by minute, I just need to know times and places. And if you are actually free.
Thankfully this time, Emily isn't yelling at me however she is talkimg a bit loudly. Now at this point we have spent 25ish minutes talking about this when she suddently gets up and says "i have to go otherwise i'll be late for my class and get in trouble". Which there is still 15 minutes before lunch ends. And her classroom is across the hallway from my next class with Clara. The walk from the grass field was literally 2 minutes. Our coversation wasn;t done. There was no convlusion and no real understanding on either part. So all of us get up as Emily starts speed walking and we all chase her. We're all telling her there is still so much time left, but she doesn't listen and still carries on. So then I say, "i don't want to be friends anymore if this is what it's going to be like". and she says "fine." and walks away. and that was the end of our friendship.
It was almost spring break and our friends were doing their best to navigate the situation. I think they believed we both needed time to cool down and we can all be friends again. However that didn;t happen. Emily and i agreed to be civil as we still had the same friend group but she never really hung out with us in the next couple days, or talked during lunch and that was it.
The two of us did not talk at all. The only times we did was in our Chemistry class, where she did the most un-civil thing ever. As I said we were lab partners. Anytime we had any lab, involing the microscope, I would always be the person doing the microscope work as Emily writes down the results of what I found. I would then get the numbers or obersations from her and add them to my worksheet as our teacher wanted us to work in partners but submit our own work. This one lab went off for too long and the bell rung. So as we are packing up quickly, I ask Emily for the numbers she wrote down. She said she's late for something and will send me the numbers later today. And I'm like fine. She never did. It was also a Friday so we went into the weekend and she never sent me anything. I did text her once on Saturday and another time on Sunday if she could send it. but she never replied and i just asked another classmate if they could send me their answers. If our teacher asked why did we as partners have different answers, I was going to tell him Emily wouldn't give them to me. He never did ask and that was the last time we really talked.
We then headed into spring break which ended up turning into the pandemic lockdown. Now I feel so bad when saying this, as i know this was a difficult time for so many people. But me as a 17-year-old high school studnet, loved the first few weeks of lockdown. I saw it as a mental health break as all the stuff that went down with Emily did in fact put me into a depression phase (I actually do have depression and i do end up in mini-phases where its really bad). The lockdown gave me time to breathe as it felt like i was holding my breath for so long and i could relax. Now in the fall, our school did a hybrid for our last year. Which was fine, it was weird but managable. Emily did not talk to me, Clara or Sabrina at all during our seniour year. We graduated and my friends and I had the best time we could under pandemic restrictions.
Current day, I (21) am now in university. Clara and Sabrina and I are as close as ever and have managed to keep our friendship alive and strong even 3-4 years outside of high school and while all attending different universities. We still hang out regularly (once every week or so) and text all the time. And would you believe it, Emily goes to my university. Remember, how I said she wanted to become a doctor. Yeah so her plan was to go to university in Toronto for some medicine thing. I don't really know. She didn't do that. Instead she stayed in our city and decided to do business instead. What am I doing, you ask? Also business. Now I know I can't claim a school, or a major or anything like that. But i can't lie, im a little annoyed that she decided to swtich her career path to the same as mine. Thankfully Ive only had one class with her and it was one of those big lecture halls so i didn't have to talk with her. Just seeing her tho reminds me of high school and i can feel my blood pressure rising and me sweating as all the nerves and stress come back.
Anyways Clara and Sabrina's birthdays are coming up. Their birthdays are within the same week so since high school, they've always just done one big combined party. The two of them are both really chill people, they are friends with everyone and anyone. So as their coming up with their birthday plans, they are thinking of their guest list and Emily is on it. Now, Clara and Sabrina did ask me beforehand if they could invite her. They do want to make sure I am comfortable. They both tell me that they don't really talk to her anymore, maybe once every 3 months or something. They also haven't hung out since high school. But for their 21st birthday they are thinking of inviting everyone from our high school friend group to have sort of a mini-reuinion. I am down for it, I do think i have moved on, in the sense that I know I do not want Emily in my life. I do tell them I will probably feel awkwad but I can manage for one night for their birthday.
As I'm telling my sister (F16) about Clara and Sabrina's party and who's coming, she asks me about Emily. She basically says if Clara and Sabrina are fine with inviting her, that means they have forgiven her for high school stuff, so am I not being a bit mean for holding on to my feelings? I am a person who believes there is no expirational date on any pain caused by a person. I should not have to "forgive and forget" a person, who has not asked for it and who caused me so much pain just because that is how the world has worked. But it go me thinking, am i being a bit rude?
So, two questions: AITA for what happened in high-school? (am i in the wrong for the friendship breakup) and AITA for not wanting to forgive her?
A FEW NOTES: (i'll add more when i think of it)
I have not spoken to Emily since grade 12. Not in person, not through people, not through text. We have had no contact with one another and i am fine with that. I do not want any relationship with her.
Clara and Sabrina are two of the sweetest people in my life. It does not hurt me at all they have the odd interaction with Emily at all. Afterall they do say its very minimal contact and the few times they have made plans with Emily included, they let me know well in advance, ask if its okay to invite her and all that. Each time I say its fine because I know Im in a good place to not feel bad.
I have never yelled at Emily. Nor have I ever spoken badly about her. With our mutual friends I might complain about the situation, but I never say anything bad about her. I should also say, Emily i don't think was well-liked. As I said the two of are good students, the smart kids, whatever else you want to say. However Emily is what would be described as a "teacher's pet" and does give off an arrogant vibe at times towards others. Some of my other friends/classmates would sometimes make comments about this to me, but i would always sort of downplay it. Like, oh that's not how she really is, she just cares a lot about school. A few times I would say the comments are harsh to some of the classmates. Her, on the other hand, has called me a controlling b*tch to several people. who have all told me about it. She did bad-mouth to quite a few people.
At some point in grade 11 (not really relevant to the main story, but might be part of the reason Emily's always made at me), but I was blamed for a rumour going around that Emily had a crush on this guy in our grade. Emily and I had to go to this one teacher's class for some notes or something. And in the class was this girl who I didn;t really like. So before we walk in I whisper to her, no one can hear, that "hey there's that girl i don't like". Emily then makes it so obvious that she is looking at this girl. And next to her is one of the popular boys in our class. Emily makes it so obvious that shes looking in his direction and does it a few times, that the rumour she likes this guy becomes a huge joke in our grade. She does not like this guy, never has liked this guy, but it is a joke that him and his friends carry on. This continues for the entire year, and Emily in our therapy session does mention this fact. She says its my fault that this joke has gone around. I don't see how.
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2024.05.17 01:32 Beginning_Vanilla609 Review: Rise of Kyoshi by FC Yee is bad.

Kyoshi book 1 is the epitome of ‘a meeting that could have been an email’. Its book that should have been a graphic novel. A story that should have been a wikipedia page.
SPOILERS, though I am saving you the read.
TLDR: The story telling is mediocre, and the story would have been just as compelling as a bullet pointed list of story facts. It flubs, glosses over and skips all portions of story that would have required any amount of clever writing or skill. The story is comprised of cringey tropes. This book will not sit among the original series in the annals of history. It sits below Korra and just above M Knight’s film adaption and the disgraceful Netflix reboot.
First, the idea of there being immense trouble identifying the Avatar is a good plot point. Having Kuruk’s team find and teach the next Avatar and have opposing ideals is also a good plot point. Yee also describes the martial arts okay enough, but this is an inherent obstacle when turning highly visual source material into text. This concludes my praise.
Yee tells, but doesnt show. Show more teambuilding and friendship between Kyoshi, Rangi and Yun. They only come together once in the same room to hang out before the main conflict happens, and its a superficial scene straight out of an 80s slasher movie. They come together solely to ‘show’ them being a team as they hang out and exchange banter. This is the first of Yee’s pseudo-“show, don’t tell”. It appears like the story is showing us something, but it is still telling us. It is characterized by vapid, juvenile writing in a scene that is largely inconsequential to the story.
Make the misidentification of the Avatar weigh on each of them and test friendship. Show her being found by Kelsang. The jump forward 9 years is jarring and leaves logic way behind. If she was raised by Kelsang, why didnt he finish testing her as the Avatar? Why did he take pity and raise her after traveling the world and seeing other homeless children? Why didnt she give back the clay turtle relic? Kyoshi is abandoned when she is old enough to remember being abandon, but doesn’t remember where she got the turtle. This line is another example of pseudo-show. Why don’t we dont get any insight into the moment she is abandon? We do not know any of these things. Including these scenes in the book would have made it longer, but its the juiciest piece of the character development. The length of a book is largely forgivable if it is captivating. This is like if you order a burger and they only bring you a bun and a slice of bib lettuce. Its missing the most crucile part.
Show Yun being incorrectly identified as the Avatar. This scene has to be so interesting. There is nothing in the book about this at all. This seems like another artful dodge around having to write something clever, and that tends to be difficult.
Show Kyoshi’s Avatar state. ‘Blacking out’ is not a mysterious way to tell stories. Its a cop out of writing something the author finds difficult. Also, a character can black out and not remember doing something AND the author can still describe it as it happens to the reader. Choosing to ommit more juicey story speaks more to the writers lack of confidence in their writing.
The fans and helmet of her parents are forced clumsily into the story at the height of the inciting incident. They could have been introduced any time. For example, when Kyoshi connects with her parent’s old crime ring and they could be presented to Kyoshi as relics of the group’s deceased leaders. Instead they are introduced to the reader by Kyoshi dropping her luggage and they fall out in the rain and mud. It reads like a scene that is meant to be a story board for a cartoon or comic.
We dont get any insight into Kyoshi’s parents being dead or alive. Kyoshi doesnt seem to ask anyone either. Why? Seems like a reasonable question.
Kelsang realizes Kyoshi is the Avatar when she does some improv poetry that happens to be Avatar Kuruk’s favorite poem? That was the best idea you got?
Kyoshi has a sky bison named PengPeng? Find a new method of transportation, the flying bison had been done before. Pengpeng is also only used as transportation. She doesnt have any personality like Momo and Appa. Total strikeout.
When something new develops that is supposed to surprise the reader, like Kyoshi’s mother being a disgraced airbender, Yee doesnt show this. This is explained away in a moment of dialogue like “once upon a time, this happened.” Then the plot moves on. And what motivation did she have for keeping this from Kelsang? Maybe they knew each other? They are both airbenders who have killed before, which is significant in the fiction. This could have been an opportunity to connect characters and create intrigue. But we only learn this at the end of the book for no reason.
Love between ATLA characters is subtle in the show. Katara and Aang will end up together and we know this implicitly. Sokka loves his friends, particularly Toph, because of the actions we see him take to help her. Rewatch the show, you will see what I mean. However this is not a major plot point that is touched on each episode. Zuko and Mei are together but they are pulled apart temporarily by character motivations. It skips the filler and gets right to the interesting part. However in Kyoshi book 1, love between Rangi and Kyoshi is vapid and foreshadowed from the first pages. Lets set lesbianism aside, its not the issue. The issue is that this love story is not compelling chiefly because we are told they care for each other but are only shown this in the back half of the book on a surface level. Even when we are shown these things, its not believable. The characters act like teenagers do in 2024 America, not like how teenagers would act in a world coming off the heels of a 100 year war. The characters are young, but they have roles, careers, and the responsibilities of adults. This stems from the same problem Yun has with Kyoshi and Rangi. We don’t see them becoming or being friends. We are told they are friends. Thats it.
This connects to Rangi’s character being ambivalent and emotionally indistinct. Rangi is played as a tough, no nonsense soldier that is hired as Yun’s personal bodyguard, the most important job next to being the avatar yourself. But her expressions of love are juvenile and childish. In one scene she is scolding Kyoshi on her duty toward being Avatar then in the next she acts playfully excited like an American weeb teenager when Kyoshi bends water for the first time. Rangi is poorly written and has poor motivation to her Avatar duty. She contributes nothing practical or technical to the story but love interest. If she is a child prodigy badass that earned the job of protecting the Avatar, she should act like it.
Hei Ran, Rangi’s mother, does nothing consequential to the plot. Why have this character? It is stated she knew Avatar Kuruk. The least she can do is bring it up more.
AND FINALLY, Kyoshis character is very opposite from who we see in ATLA. Obviously this is to show growth, but the timid Kyoshi inexplicably switches to confident and intimidating Kyoshi without any growth, then switches back to timid again. We know kyoshi as a tall, confident, matter of fact, powerful bender who sees no difference between murdering Chin the Conquerer and letting him fall to his death. But here we see a still tall, but petulant teen. She is afraid of her bending. She is inconsistently overconfident. She is squemish about murder. Perhaps the growth occurs in book two, but then again change is gradual. We should see some examples of change now. She grew up a homeless street urchin. She needs to act like it.
Yun struggles with his bending but also keeps smiling and acting like everything is ok. This trope is exhausted to death by anime. We do not see a human side of Yun. He is not tortured by the training or the fatique of not being able to bend fire or the pressure and expectation of being Avatar. He just smiles and flirts with Kyoshi. He also asks her to go with him to a peace treaty signing with pirates all because he wants to have her there so he feels loved. But this thinly disguises the fact the author needed a reason to have her at the signing so she can earthbend and save everyone. Take Rangi, your apointed body guard.
Yun returns at the end of the novel as a deus ex machina and kills Jianzhu in an admittedly badass way. 10/10. However, Yun is dead, reappears as a ghost, then earth bends. The possibility of this within the fiction is near zero UNLESS FC Yee is trying add to the lore of spirit magic and bending. To that I say “Learn to be a better writer first.”
Kirima is an okay character. We traditionally see water benders as good guys, but she is a tough leader of a gang of criminals. Again we are told that, not shown. 5/10. Mid teir.
Wong is a worse comedic relief than Sokka. Where Sokka learns to become a leader from a close minded sceptic and redeem this quality, Wong is indistinct from any other background earth bender. He eventually becomes Kyoshis earthbending teacher and he starts to fill out a teacher role but is still indistinct. Up until this time, he carrys no air of educator at all. Remember, he’s a pirate criminal. This turn of character seems to come from the team learning that Kyoshi is the Avatar, something she kept secret. But Wong is the only one who changes their behavior based on this. Meeting the most important person in the world doesn’t effect them, I guess. Doesn’t seem reasonable.
Lek is a kid that idolizes Kyoshi’s parents, but acts out like a toddler when she speaks poorly of them. I am left feeling disatisfied by a criminal outlaw that throws tantrums when someone speaks ill of their pseudo mommy and daddy. Lek is poorly written as a rival to Kyoshi, if if fact that was Yee’s intention. You see it in their banter and interactions. Lek is killed by a poison that only incapacitates all others effected. It was like the author needed him to die real quick and didnt know how to do it, but also didn’t want to rewrite the chapter.
Now is a good time to mention that characters can be annoying to other characters, but they should not be annoying to the reader. Doing this is a form of self sabotage. Its like serving up raw eggs for breakfast on purpose and calling it art. You just wouldn’t do it.
Lao Ge is poorly written too, despite being an interesting character idea. Lao is meant to be Kyoshi’s spiritual leader in this story. He leads her to the ancient technique of prolonging ones life with spirit magic. But this man reads like an embarassing drunk uncle that no one responds to when he speaks. He acts like he’s cool, wanders off constantly and returns covered in blood to a group thats asks no questions. Criminals still ask questions. In fact, they are more paranoid on account of being criminals. For example, there is a scene where they leave without him and realize they forgot him and have to go back. This scene amounts to nothing. Why was it in the book? Whoops, he’s also a master assassin. We are told this over and over but never see it in action. Boo. Don’t suggest violence. Show us violence.
Why is this group of criminals still together anyway? They lost their leaders, Kyoshi’s parents. Wouldn’t the find new jobs? Thin the herd. Theres too many characters.
Jianzhu acts more suspicious after he is identified as the villain which is a trope found in childrens television to remind children he is bad now. The fact it is here insults the readers intellegence. His villain motivations are not explained well. Does he care more about identifying the Avatar than his lifelong friend Kelsang or the life of the innocent? Also, a villain doesnt need to kill someone to be identified as the villain but youll find that trope here too. Clever writing can remedy this all the same. He does do cool evil guy things, but they are explained after the fact instead of showing him coniving these schemes and putting them into action. His death is awesome, but his final confrontation with Kyoshi is not spectacular. There is no final battle like one might expect. He the one that ghost Yun kills.
It is unclear if this book is meant for a YA reader audience or the adult audience that watched ATLA as kids. The story is grittier, bloodier and violent with explicit deaths and torture. All the while bearing a sheen of squeeky clean Nickelodean dialogue and unfunny humor that has an obvious limit. The book says they swear, but the exact words do not show up in dialogue. Characters are impaled and gored, but the 3rd person narration takes breaks from descriptions of this for quippy commentary on the things happening. Who says these things? Kyoshi? But its in third person. This clashes with the perspective and shows indecision on the part of the author.
The perspective is stuck between 1st and 3rd. 1st serves better for the YA audience where Kyoshi might think these quippy things to herself or have thoughts that help the reader understand context better. 3rd person would serve the adult audience better with a matter of fact telling of the story. Maybe even change between characters in some chapters and fill in some of these gaps. Instead the book strattles the line between these two perspectives and suffers greatly. You have humorous commentary and scene descriptions coming from the same source. It breaks immersion when the reader is stuck wondering who is telling the story.
YA is an oversaturatedand flawed genre anyway. Its almost designed to trick teens into thinking they are reading adult books.
Yee includes too many comparisons, similies and analogies. Each one is meant to create world building, where the text compares a creature in the ATLA world to a situation at hand. But they start coming up too often in the back half of the book. This also seems to rise in frequency as descriptions get vaguer. It felt like Yee lacked the proper lexicon to describe what was happening as the story approached the end. Analogies should be used to explain difficult things, not just thrown in recklessly.
One moment sticks out from this book that reminds me of ATLA. While Yun and Kyoshi are silently trying to meditate before Jianzhu summons a spirit to finally identify the correct Avatar, the two teens speak for a second. Eyes closed, Kyoshi whispers “You know what would be funny? If neither of us were the Avatar.” This captures elements of friendship between the two kids, character humor, and SHOWS these two still care for each other no matter what happens next. Yun’s response isn’t even remotely appropriate, memorable or clever. The opportunity is a total loss.
Another moment of total loss and tonal dissonance is when Kyoshi, Rangi and the convicts go to a hidden secret criminal town that is described as being so cut throat, you don’t even look at people in the eye. Just then the group sees two men collide after turning a blind corner and drop their stuff. Page 224. They exchange appologies, act very polite, and depart. (This is told to the reader, not shown with appropriatly funny dialogue). Lek then explains the two men will meet tonight on the challenge grounds and fight to the death. However, that night at the challenge grounds, you don’t see those characters; a total whiff on Yee’s part. Instead you read about one man bludgeoning another man to death with barehands in pure gladitorial bloodsport. This scene shows the whimsy of ATLA, the gorey violence that Yee wanted and his befuddled attempt at writing something that blends the two.
All of this leads me to conclude the book is for a YA audience, which is unfortunate because ATLA was for everyone; YA, adult and children. It is a children’s show that adults can find a surprising amount of depth and humor in. Yee’s doesn’t hold a candle to the writing of Aaron Ehasz.
The argument that this books is allowed to be bad because its for kids falls apart for the same reason. The expert writing of Aaron Ehazs in ATLA is what imortalizes it to this day; the dialogue, the characters, and the story. ATLA is a kids cartoon by which all cinema and television are compared. This is simply not on that level.
When this level of integrity is left to be followed up by an author with one previously published work, underdelivery should be expected. Kyoshi book 1 is FC Yee’s second published work and it shows. I would be interested in learning more about FC Yee’s past unpublished experiences in writing and qualifications.
So again, this book is like a meeting that should have been an email. The story is not “worth the read”. The historical facts are more valuable. For example, telling someone that Kyoshi’s dad is a pirate earthbender and her mother is a disgraced criminal airbender is a total surprise and sparks good speculative conversation. But the way the novel presents this information is clumsy and ignorant of how rare these circumstances are within the fiction. These historical facts are just as compelling when read on the Avatar wiki page, negating the necessity for a book in the first place. I think this is symptomatic of writing a prequal too. We know enough about Kyoshi to be interested in her character, so the facts about her should be presented interestingly with art and showmanship.
This book leaves me with the sneaking suspicion that most of what FC Yee knows about writing was learned from anime, a genre so polluted its not worth even sifting through to find quality content. Hot take, I know.
His other books on Genie Lo (2017, 2020) are teen dramas with ‘the chosen one’ trope, as the summaries suggest. That must be why that shows in this book. Maybe FC Yee can only write one type of book.
Yee is also not an author by trade. He said in an interview that he works in mobile gaming as the guy who makes “everything less fun by adding stuff to the game you have to pay for.” He went to college for Economics, or so I read on his wiki page.
His book publisher proposed the two book series idea to Nickelodeon, it was not a matter of the creators carefully hand picking a writer. He also only worked with Mike DiMartino. In his interview, he says he did not work with Bryan Konietzko and never even mentions Aaron Ehasz. I believe this is to the great detrement of the story.
I’ve heard that people really liked this book. However, I wonder if that is genuine affection or the same kind of denial Star Wars fans had when the Phantom Menace came out. I draw this parallel because my father was that person. He recomended this book to me and gave it high praise in the same way he did when Phantom Menace released.
The fans, my father and myself included, are starved for any canon ATLA material. Feeding the fans undercooked meals is no way to make a fanbase grow. The ATLA fanbase already got food poisoning from M Knight’s movie. It recovered, but at a cost. I hate to think what might happen after the Netflix show and the animated movie of adult Aang.
I understand that Yee was a fan of the material. In fact, he and I share the same favorite character. So know that this is not an attack on a fellow fan of ATLA, I simply believe Yee is not the man for this job. Avatar deserves better than to be relegated to a YA novel lost in a sea of overproduced assembly line YA content. Avatar deserves a better writer. Save your fine cutlery for fine dining, don’t use polished silver to eat fast food.
To end, I leave you with this: if you want more Avatar content, gather some friends and play the Avatar rpg by Magpie Games. It is the most fun I’ve had in the ATLA world since I was a kid. If you play it right, you get that same sense of magic you got back in 2005 when Book Water came out.
Below is a link to an interview with Yee.
https://thenerdsofcolor.org/2019/07/15/from-fan-to-avatar-writer-f-c-yee-on-developing-the-story-of-avatar-kyoshi/amp/
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2024.05.17 01:30 downbythemountain r/smallenginemechanics, where we rev up more than just engines!

Are you a small engine mechanic looking to share your work stories and expertise? Or perhaps a hobbyist eager to push the limits, from carburetor rebuilds to chainsaw porting? Maybe you’re a consumer with questions about fixing or maintaining your small engine equipment? Whatever your interest, smallenginemechanics is the place for you!
In our community, you’ll find:
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2024.05.17 01:30 Novus0bvio Constantly Warned for comments.

Constantly Warned for comments.
Instagram seems to be using self-managed AI data processing to filter out messages relating to the discussion of God or the idea of one.
In order to prove a trend, we need to collect some data from other users on warnings they’ve received, to find correlation with the content being restricted.
The reason you should join me in fighting this is because Instagram/Facebook is not the only one. Everyone is, because they are. It will not stop and you all know it, that’s why everyone is so freaked out with AI, because of its ability to control our behaviors and our environment.
If you want to have a voice, and want to have a platform to force companies like Instagram to the negotiating table, to have explainable and ethical AI frameworks and to keep more power over your data… then please consider voicing something here.
I am working on a project that is open for collaboration to give people a platform to truly speak with leverage to the companies, systems, and ideas that now control us and our ecosystems. It is 0BV.IO/US and I am 0BV.IOSLY the Founder of this.
Let me know if you have any questions! I’m here to discuss answers. My answers, your answers, and the answers the companies give us.
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2024.05.17 01:30 Mission-Ad-2042 How do I (20F) discuss with my friend (20F) that I’m worried about our friendship because she acted Toxic?

I will refer to “friend group” as FG. Sorry for the long post, but I felt this info was necessary to the story. Also I’m reposting cause the other one got lost in the subreddit lol.
So, I have this friend, let’s call her A. We’ve known each other since middle school, but tbh we haven’t been the closest of friends until after graduation. I still think of her as a dear friend and don’t want to loose her, but to be clear, we aren’t as close as say me and my BF (best friend)
For context, we’ve been in the same friend group throughout all of middle and high school, which fizzled out after graduating. I’m not super heartbroken about the friend group falling apart because I’ve never really hung out with anyone outside of group meetups aside from my best friend (who was in the same group). None of them ever asked me to hang out, and me, being the person I am, assumed it was cause they didn’t want to, so I didn’t initiate to hang with them either.
After the FG graduated high school, we decided to go on a fun trip during spring break, where we’d stay 2 nights in an AirBnB. If I remember correctly, this was A’s idea, and the ppl that went decided on the location and activities. 6 ppl out of the FG decided to go. Me, my bff, A, two other friends, and a guy we’ll call B, who was the only male on the trip. I wasn’t really close with him but he was in the friend group and I thought he was okay, just not the type of guy I’d hang out with.
Anyway, in prep. for the trip, I decided to pay for the BnB and have everyone pay me pack on their own time (they all did). I also offered to drive since my dad allowed us to use his truck for the trip (it was big and we wanted to save on gas. I decided to pay for the gas since it was my families vehicle). Everyone contributed to the food and such (my bff bought a large dish that we would bring to avoid making dinner the 1st night), but the main person cooking meals was A (she made pork udon the first night with help, and French toast the last morning before we left. Everyone helped out with cleaning and such.) I thought the trip went really well, until I dropped everyone off when the trip was over.
Basically, A confided in me something that happened between her and B and we talked for a little while, with me trying my best to give advice or an opinion. (Keep in mind I’m not really qualified cause I’m basically celibate with how little experience I have, and don’t plan to have for a while). This was the first time in our years of friendship that she confided in me something super emotional for her. I felt that by trusting in me, I was shown that she actually cared about our friendship, and I was willing to put more effort into our communication. I wanted her to be okay, and naturally hung out with her whenever she wanted or when our schedules aligned.
Due to our increased time hanging out, I felt our friendship grew stronger, BUT not as strong on her part as mine. She was definitely a lot closer to the other ppl in the FG than me, and I learned later that she told everyone else about the situation within a few day-a week after we got back from the trip. Which made me feel like she only told me first cause I was the last one in the car. I don’t mind that per se but it still weighs me down I bit.
Onto the advice part.
After a few weeks (or perhaps closer to a month), A had a noticeable decline in her mental health, which I think I tried my best in helping with, meeting up and talking and such. But then she suddenly left the FG’s group chat, and then I sent her a text asking what was wrong, I got messages by another friend in the FG saying that A was leaving the friend group and that I was a main reason as to why. I can’t remember the exact circumstances as to her reasoning since it was a year ago, but I do remember that I didn’t respond to a text she sent earlier in the morning (I was going to class and forgot to respond, by the time I remembered it was deleted), and that was her “last straw.”
I was devastated by this. I thought “wtf did I do I’m an awful friend I have to try and make this right.” So I tried sending A a message in hopes she would grant me a response. I sent and unsent messages, trying to find the right message before just deciding to ask for a talk. I would’ve preferred face to face, but she called me, and I picked up. My emotions were high, and I was vulnerable, and scared, cause I was finally close to her as a friend and I was about to loose her over something as silly and forgetting to respond to a text. While on the call, she ranted that she was putting so much effort into all her friendships, only to not get anything in return. “I would give so much and for what? I’d ask you how you’re doing, every time there’s a thunderstorm, but when I need you you don’t respond.” (I’m pretty scared of thunder. Ik it’s irrational and some call it childish but i can’t really help it.) I tried to not cry while talking to her but I ending up breaking, telling her the truth that I’m scared of not being a good friend, that I don’t know shit about anyone and I feel they don’t care about me either. that “ill be better and I’m sorry.” Stuff like that. :/
A few days after, we met in person, she forgave me, and I swore I’d make sure to communicate with her more.
But that’s the thing. I tried, but I didn’t get much of a response back. I’d send memes, start convos, ask to hang out, and most of the time the texts would go unread. I knew she was busy with work and such, and then me living 30 minutes away (we live in a big ass city) makes it harder to hang out, but I couldn’t help but feel it might’ve been some sort of revenge? It just felt shitty, and I couldn’t help but think that she’s giving me a taste of my own medicine.
Then she responded and we hung out, and we didn’t really talk about anything emotional. Just basic stuff.
Then she started school again, and suddenly it was like she didn’t exist. I NEVER got a response to anything, even when her status said she was active on insta (main form of communication). She’s in a STEM major, which ik can be super demanding but, not even time to like a reel or send a quick message?? Our dm’s became a graveyard for unseen reels and lost messages from me about meaningless things. Eventually I stopped sending anything, thinking she just didn’t wanna hang out with me anymore.
Then I got a response saying she was on break, and because I’m me, I was happy and didn’t mention the months of ghosting.
Then she started school again, and it was the same process.
She finally ended her semester along with everyone else, and she’s finally connected to me again to hang out. (She texted everyone tho because my bff got the same message) I said yes because I wanna give her a chance, even though I’ve talked with my BFF and she told be things she found sketch about A. (Short of it is: A had a similar convo with BFF that she did with me about giving and not receiving (specifically during the trip A said she did most of the work), but BFF said she actually did contribute the the friendship and that the same stuff could be said for A, which I didn’t even think about till BFF and I talked about it, and now agree with. )
I really want to continue this friendship, but there are red flags that I’m seeing. How to I go about talking to her and mending the rocky relationship we have?
TLDR: I have an inkling my friend might be a little manipulative/toxic, but I don’t wanna loose the friendship. How do I fix this???
I try answering any questions on context to the best of my abilities. This is my first post on the subreddit.
Note cause I couldn’t find where to put it: we didn’t text virtually at all until after the trip and our talk about B. Even though I knew her since middle school our extent of convos were limited to the insta group chat.
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2024.05.17 01:29 Ovaz1088 Before COVID, I didn’t think there were serious issues with the childhood vaccines, but now, like many, I’ve come to question that assumption. This excellent article examines each one and identifies which are more likely to harm than help our children.

Pierre Kory, MD MPA
What are the risks and benefits of each vaccine? The COVID-19 vaccines have provided a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to answer this question.
At this point, I believe that all vaccines can cause harm frequently enough that the harm must always be considered when evaluating the vaccine. For this reason, I always feel very torn on what to do when people ask me to provide them with a way to protect themselves from the harms of a vaccine they have to get (note: the two best approaches I know of are taking a lot of vitamin C beforehand, and doing whatever you can to strengthen your zeta potential).
This is because regardless of what you do, you will still always have patients who are harmed by taking the vaccine, and I hate being complicit in what happens. To this point, I have had times where I repeatedly warned a patient against vaccinating where I felt they were at risk of an adverse reaction, and they had one anyway, and then they suffered a permanent complication and I was left having to try to help them get better.
I also believe that natural immunity is always superior to vaccine immunity. For this reason, I believe that the correct approach to handling almost all diseases you can vaccinate against is to accept the inherent risk of getting it as an unvaccinated individual and be familiar with what treatment protocol you need to implement if you got the infection so that you can clear the infection and develop natural immunity. Just imagine how different the world would be now if we had followed that approach instead of suppressing every single treatment for COVID-19 and mandating a deadly and ineffective vaccination on the population.
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2024.05.17 01:29 NondescriptUser415 How to end this vicious cycle

Yes, I’ve been to therapy. For many years, on and off but to no avail. Well, I can think back to times we’ve discussed personal problems and tendencies ad nauseam but I can’t seem to do the opposite. For example, I know I have an issues maintaining communication with new friends (lost all my old ones) but I have no idea what to say so I end up just racking up the count of lost/alienatedfriends. I also know I’m supposed to be consistent or show up for people but sometimes things just didn’t occur to me or I don’t feel like it. Looking back, that’s literally just life. Not everyone feels like doing things all the same but you do it because that’s what you’re supposed to do. I feel like common sense always escaped me my whole life. Now I’m scared to even make a move.
I’ve always had issues with friends/associating with people. The weird thing is, I look “normal” (please take this the way I mean it because it is what it is). I’m not ugly (although my insecurities tell me I am) but I’m not like some super attractive individual either. I’m normal. So people are not discriminatory to me in any particular way not are they giving me pretty privilege. I make friends easily because I can ask those basic questions and I smile and whatever but I have no idea how to maintain and nurture friendships. Sometimes my depression hits me and I retreat and isolate. New friends/people in general don’t want to listen to negative things like long term depression and I don’t want to talk about it either because they can’t help me anyway. But what are we talking about then? After I ask what’s going on in their lives, it’s like what next? You know that quote about small minds discussing people, average minds discussing events, and great minds discussing ideas? Well, it turns out I have lots of ideas but I don’t take action so all my talk just seems like, well, talk. So I stopped doing that. Aside from asking about people’s previous and upcoming weekend plans, what do you even talk about?
My family is quite recluse and socially inept so I think I get it from there. I also have a tendency to speak negatively and stray into asking/talking about other people. I think it’s cultural but since stopping that I feel like I literally have nothing to say. Unless I’m talking about myself, which I realized I used to do a lot of but I’m trying to be less self centered. Some people get away without talking about themselves at all! How do they do it? Yeah I know the trick to ask others about themselves but it’s not Hoover dam, so to speak, it’s not this endless river of conversational content. Also, some people just don’t want to talk too much about themselves. Then I go into more deep questions and people get annoyed or put off because it feels like I’m prying. I never know the right thing to do or say. Or people talk about plans they have with other people but I feel like all my friends have other closer friends haha so what the heck am I supposed to do.
I really want to get married but I also can’t imagine having to talk to the same people every day. Won’t you run out of things to talk about? Part of me feels I should just create a routine that doesn’t involve other people so I’ll stay busy and not notice how alone I am. It’s weird, in college I could never keep a consistent friend group and even as an adult in religious communities I can’t seem to either. At a certain point, you get too old to be friends less and it’s a major red flag. The sad thing is I long for friends so badly, I stalk other people’s bridesmaids photos and pics that include friendships of ver 15 years or from college and I’m just sad. I wish I had know the rule to just pick your people and stick to them. I would just run out of things to talk about and just switch to the get to know you phase I had mastered. I want to settle down — in friendships and with a partner. At the same time, I give up trying and would rather just scroll on fb or IG and watch other people live their lives. It’s cute! Cute baby, nice wedding, cool pic of sunset. 👍🏽 I personally have been on many hikes, traveled a few places, but how many times can you watch the sunrise? See a beach? Say, “wow, that’s beautiful!”
This post is a bit ranty sorry for not editing down but I’m sick of keeping this all bottled up I’m just sick of waking up and experiencing the same miserable day over and over. I know God is supposed to be my number one and I won’t find real joy until that happens but I’ve been Christian my whole life and that peace is not yet found. I just don’t get life. I’m kinda just over it but God hasn’t called me home yet so I feel like I’m just wandering.
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2024.05.17 01:25 silentfox2012 M3 MacBook Air for learning to code?

I know this may seem like an obvious answer, but I'd feel better asking just to be sure since I'm still in my return period juuuuust in case. I bought a 15" M3 MacBook Air with a 512GB SSD and 16GB of RAM. My primary reason for purchasing is that I finally want to take the time and teach myself how to code, starting with Swift. My question is, should this be plenty of computer for this purpose, or should I possibly have gone with a Pro due to the extra cooling?
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2024.05.17 01:23 Key_Armadillo3807 Should I quit my dream?

I'm 27F and grew up working as a model/actor but when I got to my teenage years, I started growing womanly curves and the industry booted me out like I had never existed. It made me feel awful about my body, which led to YEARS of eating disorders, especially anorexia. At my worst I would starve myself for 3/4 days, sometimes would end up in hospital because of it.
Fast forward to my mid 20s and the modelling industry has changed, so I thought my curvy body finally had a chance to be accepted again and started applying to modelling agencies. Within a week I had an offer for a 2 year modelling contract and I was BEYOND thrilled. Modelling has always been my number 1 dream in my life, I spent my childhood flicking through Vogue hoping that one day I'd be one of those girls.
I've been modelling now for three years and this industry is killing me. Every casting or audition opportunity I get, makes me so excited at the possibility of 'maybe this is the job that will put me out there' and I come home feeling hopeful. To only be faced with rejection a few days later.
I've done some really cool modelling work but I'm not as big as I wanted to be, and often feel like I'm not good enough to model. Like I'm not as good as everyone else around me.
This BIG and famous modelling agency in my city wanted to sign me 2 years ago but unfortunately I already had a contract with this smaller agency so I politely declined but said I'd love to be signed with them once my contract expired. For 2 years I held onto the dream that as soon as I signed a contract with that agency, then my dreams would become a proper reality. I thought they'd want me again, but I was wrong. I have just applied to work for them and within a day received a very dry email saying 'unfortunately we wouldn't be looking to offer representation right now' and I'm in tears.
This industry is killing me, it started in my teenage years when I was made to feel like I didn't matter because I wasn't stick thin. And now in my late 20s I've worked SO HARD to make this dream a reality but honestly it feels more like a nightmare than a dream.
Now I'm left with this nagging feeling that I need to quit modelling in order to be happy. I'm not like the other models, I'm really down to earth, love being a goblin in the forest, and being kind to others. I don't see myself as the model type, but the little girl inside of me who used to dream of being in vogue is still very much alive and I don't know what to do about it all.
I'm exhausted, feel like absolute horseshit and that I'm never going to be attractive enough to "make it" in the modelling industry. And I just hate how it makes me feel, it's so unhealthy and fucks with my mental health big time.
So the big question is - is it time for me to quit pursuing modelling?
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2024.05.17 01:21 Informer_Snow664 Serge Del Mar aka Serge Gil, and SPTV

Link to earlier post.
Before getting into the meat of this post, it needs to be remembered that the ex-Scientologists named here are actual victims of the Church of Scientology. Nothing in this post is meant to deny that fact.
However, let's remember too, those being attacked by Aaron Smith-Levin and their new brand of Scientology-style attacks, are also victims of Scientology.
The cruelty directed at Mike Rinder, Claire Headley, Tony Ortega, Chris Shelton, Leah Remini, Stefani Hutchinson, the Aftermath Foundation and those who speak out against SPTV's excesses are not justified. There has been a strain of "both sides" about this. Defending oneself against slander is not the same thing as initiating slander, which is how this all started. Telling the truth in response to SPTV creator attacks is not the same thing as a Fair Game campaign against them.
It doesn't bring me any joy to write these posts, but these things need to be known because the number of distortions and fabrications coming out of the SPTV creators is reaching a fever pitch and it needs to stop.
My earlier two posts focused mainly on Chrissie Bixler, Jane Doe 1 (from the Masterson trials) and Aaron Smith-Levin, all of whom have been working together in a tight, hidden conspiracy to attack anyone who could expose them or their agendas, and/or anyone who opposes their slanderous and vicious attacks. They are in fact acting as Scientology does, following L. Ron's directions to hunt those people down and attempt to ruin them.
Unfortunately, the SPTV cabal is not just these three mentioned above. There are others who have also jumped on this bandwagon of Scientology-like attacks. From the outside, none of these people's "content" is any different from what the Church of Scientology produces through its STAND League and other OSA-front group social media accounts. If OSA had a video channel, it would look almost exactly like SPTV.
So let's take a look at Serge Del Mar, formerly known as Serge Gil. If you Google "Serge Gil" you will find photos of him hanging around with the Mastersons and other VIP Scientologists as recently as November of 2014 at an art exhibit Serge participated in. This was while he was still in the cult, of course, but it sure is odd that he never mentions this.
Funny too that this group of "innocents" all have taken to going after whistle blowers who are out, and not admitting to anything they did while they were Scientologists and Sea Organisation members. Serge becomes visibly and loudly unhinged over the idea that Mike Rinder was once the head of OSA and therefore "must know" every single secret and crime ever perpetrated in Scientology. Yet he claims perfect innocence when it comes to his Scientology history. But how is that possible when he perpetuated Scientology's abuse on children in a much more direct and forceful way than Mike Rinder ever could: Serge audited children and was apparently paid handsomely for it. Auditing is, of course, Scientology's warped and twisted idea of counselling.
In this article from Tony Ortega, it reads: "In his Facebook post, Serge talked about the horror of having men admit to having sex with children, and being instructed to get even more information from such confessors, who were then simply charged even more [money] to 'handle' their paedophilia.
"We were made to sit in that Fort Harrison hotel day in and day out interrogating people to see what they had done. Our interviews were always closely watched [and] monitored by several ‘terminals.’ All the CSes [case supervisors] and tech ‘executives’ became willing in colluding and becoming 100 percent complicit with this sexually inappropriate environment for any one under the age of 18."
"Self-confessed paedophiles could just magically ‘address’ this behavior with auditing — all the while you were looking at ways to monetize at every opportunity' he says, accusing Scientology executives of looking for ways to turn confessions into more auditing and more money."
So who were these paedophiles and why aren't they being reported to the police? Why is Serge not talking about them? Why is he instead negating what he did and laughing about it in live streams with Nora, where they forgive and forget easily when it comes to their own bad behaviour in the cult. How come they get a free pass but no one else outside of SPTV does?
Serge engages in hypocrisy at a level that would put politicians and cult leaders to shame.
Recently, Serge added Leah Remini's name to his hit list by claiming Remini told him that she wanted nothing to do with helping children of the Sea Organisation. He actually said that about the woman who produced an the documentary series which gave Serge and the other "Scientology children" a voice on an international stage, something none of them were able to accomplish on their own.
Some facts from the past need to be brought forward.
First, it was Leah Remini who was trying to help all of the ex-Scientology "kids" to help find legal representation. This was the group Serge Del MaSerge Gil proclaimed he was the leader of, saying he was the "voice of many." He claimed he would be bringing the clients and the documentation to Kent's law firm.
Remini was introduced to Brian Kent by A&E. Right after the end of the Aftermath's finale, Kent's law firm was the only one willing to take on this massive case. Is A&E now going to be attacked by this group? Where are the tweets directed at A&E? Not that I am suggesting that. It is just to prove the facts here are consistently twisted to suit this group’s goal and it has nothing to do with exposing the crimes committed by Scientologists and Scientology.
This is about getting anyone who isn’t them.
Second and more importantly, it was Serge who then ran with this and gathered claimants for this case, and it was Serge that then introduced them all to Kent's firm. Christi Gordon was also working on this case. It was a noble effort. Leah, Serge and Christi did not do anything wrong,but somehow now Leah is a bad person for having tried to help.
Obviously, no one was aware at that time of what the future would hold for Jane Doe and Kent. No one still knows what happened with these cases - because Serge Del Mar was the ringleader. No mention of this from Alex the silly Wabbit. No mention of this from anyone. And obviously once Kent's law firm was hired, Leah and Mike would not have been privy to any privileged information about the cases.
Then Aaron and crew claim they uncovered this alleged crime committed by Kent? Kent isn’t being accused of crimes of child molestation, or of rape. He is being accused of unethical behaviour with an adult victim - and yes, that is bad enough. But it was Jane Doe in this case that had to summon the courage to file a confidential complaint. Aaron and his gang didn’t uncover and report anything. What they did do was compromise a bar investigation; they took credit for something they had nothing to do with. This is simply despicable behaviour. How this group has completely fabricated the facts of the investigation is beyond me.
They didn't even talk to the person who filed the complaint against Brian Kent. They were too busy stabbing her in the back, compromising her identity and forwarding a confidential document. Aaron conveniently didn’t mention this was a confidential investigation and document when he read it out to his audience. That's how Aaron makes a living.
Anyone continuing this story and celebrating these people are only doing so for other reasons that have nothing to do with the Jane Doe in this case. It is not only unfortunate that Jane Doe in this case had been harmed by Kent, but now these SPTV creators are harming her and her investigation too.
As a Scientology "activist," every action Serge claims he has taken against Scientology has been a major failure. If you step back and look at his track record, Serge has not accomplished a single thing against his former “church” of any significance, unless you count minutes of time shouting into a microphone at highest-ever decibels as 'activism.' It's not. It's just shouting into a microphone. He constantly claims that he has receipts, lawsuits are imminent, but with nothing forthcoming it sure seems as though Serge Del MaSerge Gil is nothing more than a con man looking for clicks for which he can profit.
Even more strangely, Serge's first attempt at fame was spending many years attacking former high-ranking Sea Organisation member Debbie Cook. Remember her? She was the one who got more people out of Scientology with her blistering 2011 New Year email than any former member before her. Debbie Cook was a whistle blower. And Serge seems to be going after those who did/do the work and are OUT of Scientology - excluding himself of course. Why not expose the crimes they covered up while they were in the cult? Aaron tearfully admitted to committing his own heinous crimes once, but somehow he is instantly forgiven.
Serge's criminal complaint against Scientology in Florida went nowhere and the investigation was dropped due to a lack of evidence. In fact, Serge told lies in his police filing, such as claiming that there are tunnels underneath The Fort Harrison Hotel (Scientology’s Clearwater Florida location) which are used to traffic Scientology children.
These days he goes on and on about "the hotels" where supposedly children are kept as sex slaves, a claim so preposterous even ex-Scientologists are fed up with hearing it.
Serge Del MaSerge Gil has promised to bring lawsuits against Scientology and continues to disseminate that he "has receipts" but again, not once has he ever been able to produce a shred of evidence or anything real. His incompetence and ineffectiveness are obvious, which is why the only way he can remain in the spotlight is to attack inwardly against the people who are getting the real work done.
For Serge (and the rest), it's the spotlight that is important, not the actual work.
Serge, Aaron, Chrissie Bixler, Jane Doe 1, Mike Brown, Miriam Francis, Nora Aames and the following are on a campaign to destroy their own credibility in the real world. One can only wonder if they are also getting a kick-back from Scientology.
Liz Gale has seemingly banished herself after being exposed and has all but disappeared, which of course is being blamed on RindeRemini/Hutchinson.
Christie Gordon too has disappeared from the SPTV Foundation board. Why hasn't she spoken up? Isn't she part of the crew demanding others own what they did? Why hasn't she done so when it comes to her own group's activities?
Joey Chait who was on board for the SPTV fake foundation, is now off too and no one knows why.
What has the Aftermath done? Helped people to get out of Scientology. That is the work.
What has SPTV Inc. done to help victims of Scientology? How about showing it? I have previously asked for evidence of any effective work and have yet to receive a response.
It's time for Serge (and the rest) to put up or shut up. If he or anyone in this group has real evidence of Scientology crimes, he has a solicitor and he can file a lawsuit in civil court or he can go back to the Clearwater Police and show them evidence of the crimes committed against him.
I'm not saying that crimes were not committed against Serge by others when he was in the Sea Org. But screaming into a microphone for hours isn't how to bring Scientology to justice. Screaming at law enforcement who have no idea what he is talking about with Flag and children is not helping anyone, nor is stalking and harassing Scientology's attorneys while Leah Remini's hearings are going on.
It looks an awful lot like the SPTV crew are trapped in some kind of victim complex and are high-conflict personalities.
So instead of more name calling, if Serge (or anyone in this group), "has receipts" that show that Mike Rinder is a criminal who is knowingly covering up his crimes in Scientology, produce them or shut up already. Rinder handed over his OSA documents. Aaron, by the way, took those documents under false pretenses, promised not to forward them and then did with the intent to harm Rinder and others. So instead of attacking Mike Rinder (the whistleblower here), where are the questions to the FBI for not acting on them? Where is the outrage for the documents that are authored by OSA personnel that are still in Scientology?
Personally, I'm sick of watching this crazy train go on and on without end just so some former Scientologists can try to appear altruist and inflate their egos for profit. Aren’t you all sick of the noise?
More to come.
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2024.05.17 01:19 NondescriptUser415 Unable to pinpoint issue

Yes, I’ve been to therapy. For many years, on and off but to no avail. Well, I can think back to times we’ve discussed personal problems and tendencies ad nauseam but I can’t seem to do the opposite. For example, I know I have an issues maintaining communication with new friends (lost all my old ones) but I have no idea what to say so I end up just racking up the count of lost/alienatedfriends. I also know I’m supposed to be consistent or show up for people but sometimes things just didn’t occur to me or I don’t feel like it. Looking back, that’s literally just life. Not everyone feels like doing things all the same but you do it because that’s what you’re supposed to do. I feel like common sense always escaped me my whole life. Now I’m scared to even make a move.
I’ve always had issues with friends/associating with people. The weird thing is, I look “normal” (please take this the way I mean it because it is what it is). I’m not ugly (although my insecurities tell me I am) but I’m not like some super attractive individual either. I’m normal. So people are not discriminatory to me in any particular way not are they giving me pretty privilege. I make friends easily because I can ask those basic questions and I smile and whatever but I have no idea how to maintain and nurture friendships. Sometimes my depression hits me and I retreat and isolate. New friends/people in general don’t want to listen to negative things like long term depression and I don’t want to talk about it either because they can’t help me anyway. But what are we talking about then? After I ask what’s going on in their lives, it’s like what next? You know that quote about small minds discussing people, average minds discussing events, and great minds discussing ideas? Well, it turns out I have lots of ideas but I don’t take action so all my talk just seems like, well, talk. So I stopped doing that. Aside from asking about people’s previous and upcoming weekend plans, what do you even talk about?
My family is quite recluse and socially inept so I think I get it from there. I also have a tendency to speak negatively and stray into asking/talking about other people. I think it’s cultural but since stopping that I feel like I literally have nothing to say. Unless I’m talking about myself, which I realized I used to do a lot of but I’m trying to be less self centered. Some people get away without talking about themselves at all! How do they do it? Yeah I know the trick to ask others about themselves but it’s not Hoover dam, so to speak, it’s not this endless river of conversational content. Also, some people just don’t want to talk too much about themselves. Then I go into more deep questions and people get annoyed or put off because it feels like I’m prying. I never know the right thing to do or say. Or people talk about plans they have with other people but I feel like all my friends have other closer friends haha so what the heck am I supposed to do.
I really want to get married but I also can’t imagine having to talk to the same people every day. Won’t you run out of things to talk about? Part of me feels I should just create a routine that doesn’t involve other people so I’ll stay busy and not notice how alone I am. It’s weird, in college I could never keep a consistent friend group and even as an adult in religious communities I can’t seem to either. At a certain point, you get too old to be friends less and it’s a major red flag. The sad thing is I long for friends so badly, I stalk other people’s bridesmaids photos and pics that include friendships of ver 15 years or from college and I’m just sad. I wish I had know the rule to just pick your people and stick to them. I would just run out of things to talk about and just switch to the get to know you phase I had mastered. I want to settle down — in friendships and with a partner. At the same time, I give up trying and would rather just scroll on fb or IG and watch other people live their lives. It’s cute! Cute baby, nice wedding, cool pic of sunset. 👍🏽 I personally have been on many hikes, traveled a few places, but how many times can you watch the sunrise? See a beach? Say, “wow, that’s beautiful!”
This post is a bit ranty sorry for not editing down but I’m sick of keeping this all bottled up I’m just sick of waking up and experiencing the same miserable day over and over. I know God is supposed to be my number one and I won’t find real joy until that happens but I’ve been Christian my whole life and that peace is not yet found. I just don’t get life. I’m kinda just over it but God hasn’t called me home yet so I feel like I’m just wandering.
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2024.05.17 01:18 MannerNo7000 Dutton to slash migrant intake, ban foreign property buyers

Dutton to slash migrant intake, ban foreign property buyers
Opposition Leader Peter Dutton has vowed to slash permanent migration by a quarter to 140,000 a year, cut refugee arrivals by a third, and ban foreign investors and temporary residents from buying established homes for two years, in an attempt to free up 100,000 properties. Saying he was more interested in “restoring the dream of homeownership” than the interests of pro-migration big business, Mr Dutton said he would cap the “excessive numbers” of foreign students at metropolitan universities to alleviate pressure on the rental market. He would also “enhance the integrity of the student visa program” by introducing a tiered approach to fees to stop students from gaming the system.
Loading “We believe that by rebalancing the migration program and taking decisive action on the housing crisis, the Coalition would free up more than 100,000 additional homes over the next five years,” he said in his budget reply speech on Thursday night. The reduction of the permanent migrant intake from 185,000 to 140,000 would take the metric to its lowest level for 20 years, amid continuing labour shortages that threaten to keep inflation high. It would remain at that level for two years, rise to 150,000 the year after and then 160,000 the following year. The humanitarian intake, currently at 20,000, would be reduced to 13,750 and there would be a two-year ban on all foreigners buying existing housing stock. ‘The dream of homeownership’ “The usual CEOs and big businesses may not like this approach,” Mr Dutton said of his migration cuts. “But my priority is restoring the dream of homeownership. “We will ensure there are enough skilled and temporary skilled visas for those with building and construction skills to support our local tradies to build the homes we need.” There would also be measures to enable pensioners and foreign students to work more hours to help offset any labour shortage. In a shout-out to corporate Australia, the opposition leader confirmed that if elected, he would unravel “the hostility and complexity” in Labor’s industrial relations laws, which executives say have dampened productivity and increased the costs of doing business even further. “For example, we will revert to the former Coalition government’s simple definition of a casual worker and create certainty for our 2.5 million small businesses,” Mr Dutton said. The Coalition would also extend the value of the instant asset write-off scheme for small businesses from $20,000 per eligible asset to $30,000. Mr Dutton confirmed that a Coalition government would not proceed with Labor’s production tax credits for critical minerals and hydrogen but instead create favourable fundamentals for the miners. “We will not force large firms to spend more than a billion dollars a year policing the emissions of every small business they deal with – as Labor is trying to do,” he said. “We will condense approval processes and cut back on Labor’s red tape, which is killing mining, jobs and entrepreneurialism. “We don’t need to give out billions of dollars of taxpayers’ money to get mining projects started. We just need a pro-mining mindset.” Mr Dutton also pledged to dip into law and order, traditionally the domain of the states, following rising community concerns about crime and domestic violence that are now showing up in federal polling. Uniform knife laws Under knife laws that would be uniform across the country, police would be given the power to stop and search using detector wands. There would also be laws to limit and restrict the sale of knives to minors and dangerous individuals. Mr Dutton announced plans to create legislation on new offences that would criminalise the use of carriage services for family or intimate partner violence, and toughen bail laws as they relate to family violence for these offences, where a presumption against bail would apply. He would also target online crime by making it a criminal offence to post criminal acts online, and those convicted would be banned from using digital platforms and liable for up to two years’ imprisonment. “As a father of three children who all grew up in the digital age, I’m troubled by the material our children are exposed to,” he said. To help mitigate against workforce shortages caused by the migration cuts, Mr Dutton said he would announce measures to encourage more people to work more. He would further increase the amount older Australians and veterans could work without reducing pension payments by tripling the existing work bonus from $300 per fortnight to $900. Those in Australia on student visas would be able to work an extra 12 hours per fortnight. This week’s federal budget forecast net overseas migration to fall from 395,000 this financial year to 260,000 in 2024-25. Foreign students are the key driver of this number and, in the budget, Labor baulked at a hard cap. Instead, the minister would be empowered to cap the number of foreign students in each of the 1400 institutions that enrol them. If they wanted more, they would have to build more student accommodation. In Australia, there were 768,113 international students between January and October 2023. That was a 29 per cent increase compared with the same period in 2022, when the number totalled 594,027. During question time, in anticipation of Mr Dutton’s speech, Prime Minister Anthony Albanese warned of the consequences of cutting immigration too hard. “We will limit international student numbers at the same time we know we have skills shortages in our economy so we’re ensuring that our migration settings are meeting Australia’s needs in areas like nursing, aged care and construction,” he said. “The opposition should be clear about where their cuts will come from and what it means for business and for our economy.” Phil Honeywood, chief executive of the International Education Association of Australia, said further moves to cut arrival numbers were misguided. “The sector has been waiting for the Coalition to show their level of support for our beleaguered industry,” he told The Australian Financial Review. “Now we know just how anti-international students the alternative government intends to be. “If elected, they would destroy hundreds of quality education providers and eliminate thousands of associated jobs.” Phillip Coorey is the political editor based in Canberra. He is a two-time winner of the Paul Lyneham award for press gallery excellence.Connect with Phillip on Facebook and Twitter.Email Phillip at pcoorey@afr.com
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2024.05.17 01:18 manusensei164 After Internship Offer Letter How difficult is CPT Approval ?

Asking for a friend. He goes to a school where some of the ISSO staff is not super helpful or informative. However, he has received an offer letter for an internship. His potential employer has not asked him about his VISA status or if he will need sponsorship in the future since the application was primarily a face to face interview and that question was not asked. Days after the interview my friend got an offer letter asking for him to accept and that after signing they would then being "onboarding steps" and "verification of authorization to work in the US".
My friend wants to know if the following CPT approval process is difficult and if there is still potential for his employer to reject him. He also wants to know if there is anything he can do or prepare to mitigate his chances of a rejection or to move the process forward. He has already done the obvious steps of emailing his academic advisor as well as his ISSO he is just seeking other sources of input as he awaits their responses.
Thank you for your help and input, I will forward your advice to him.
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2024.05.17 01:18 GuriJohns Susato Mikotoba

One of the age-old questions of the Internet that still persists to this day is one with many layers. It confounds the jobless, strikes fear into the hearts of those with multiple Reddit accounts, and makes even the seasoned interactive text-heavy visual and audio lawyer entertainment enjoyer question if the truth is worth seeking: “SO I JUST HAD THIS SHOWER THOUGHT, RIGHT, SO LIKE WHAT IF TGAAA 7 TOOK PLACE WHEN WOROLD WAR 3 IS HAPPENING, LIKE COOL, Y’KNOW, AD THEN THE GAME IS ABOUT WHO DIES LIKE IN MY LEAST FAV GAME Danganronpa: Trigger Happy Havoc? so who dies in the game, guys :BrushelSmile:? Aaaaand ‘Post!’”

No, I’ll actually be honest: these days, I have no clue what anybody online or otherwise has had to say about this series in damn near half a year if not more. I no longer give a fuck about having a stake in anything Ace Attorney unless it’s an actual release that I can judge for myself at this point. I’m well and truly over the period where some of my most crushing sadness was motivated by not everybody liking the thing I like enough, and that’s exciting. But it also means the end of this rankdown will be like the end of a very long, laborious era in itself. So as a special treat, consider this following cut not just dedicated to Susato, but to many of the women in her role across Ace Attorney history.

The core reason why Ace Attorney might just have an assistant problem is more of a byproduct of the series’ formula than anything else, and no, it’s not because of any interchangeable similarities in each of their characters per se. It’s more about how, especially in comparison to the male protagonists of each game, the arc of their woman assistants is generally muted almost to the point of being treated as afterthoughts. Both Athena and Rayfa, simply by virtue of having arcs with allusions to their stories being present elements that are worthy of focus throughout their respective first appearances instead of only being mentioned in the eleventh hour, are characters that represent a huge step forward for a series for which this should ideally equate to a small step. However, like as not, for much of their appearances, these assistant characters typically end up filling a role, intentionally or otherwise, as stand-in mothers, sisters, or girlfriends for Ayana more than actual characters, the emotional struggles of Maya and Trucy in particular only ever being deemed relevant towards the end of the final cases of AA1, T&T, and AJ. But just take a timeout for a second, because as much as I’ll continue to speak on this issue further, let’s not be unfair: it’s worth noting that “the series formula”, places men in a similar but more escapable conundrum.

The terms and conditions for defining what constitutes a “filler case” is not universal, but it’s very easy to see what would be considered a “main plot case”, and thus what could be “non-essential” for a given AA main plotline to function. But from a character progression standpoint, each male character that has been slated to have a massive character-defining arc receives the vast majority of that development over the course of a single case each, and any exceptions are rare. AA1 Edgeworth in 1-4, Phoenix in 2-4 & 3-5, Godot in 3-5, Apollo in 6-5, Ryunosuke in TGAA2-5(??), etc. Obviously character-defining moments will mostly be in the finale and of course there’s brief instances of foreshadowing to set up the background for each of these developments, but because so much is weighing on the final cases to do all sorts of heavy-lifting, the protagonists themselves can feel like real deadweight on a case-by-case basis until they very suddenly have a story where their specific presence as characters matters (particularly Phoenix’s role in 3-2 and 3-3, as well as Ryunosuke throughout much of TGAA2, stick out as examples for me where playing as them feels like going through the motions). I highlight this to suggest that, despite the fact that final cases may be exceedingly long, the assistants are not the only characters competing for relevance in the surprisingly tight window of these final chapters. The difference, however, is as I’ve already stated: the protagonists largely are given greater opportunity to have their conflict be foreshadowed, lightly or otherwise. A brief flashback to Phoenix’s class trial and a few sentences about his resulting personal conviction in 1-2 informs his character early and presents an incident to be expounded on later whereas Maya is left with an sudden and just as abrupt inferiority complex and overt depression arc for all of one case, and 5 hours of her continued presence elsewhere never presents anything about her inner world that’s deeper than the surface level (despite her supposedly having that depth). Only one of these arcs from AA1 is out of nowhere and could be reasonably described as an afterthought. The disparity between the relevance and tasteful treatment of the protags’ stories as opposed to their assistants’ has subtly existed since the series inception, so as the subject finally pertains to Susato herself, the actual truth I intend to divulge here is that this gap has become the widest it’s ever been, and at the perfect time for it to suck the hardest.

The Naruhodo bloodline may have a family allergy, but what is expressed about Ryunosuke’s life and journey in Great Ace Attorney: Adventures gives him one of the richest internal progressions of any lawyer, each case being an essential, valuable experience in defining how he thinks about his profession and who he will become. Ryunosuke provides a generally strong point of view to see each case from, meanwhile, with the exception of her reaction to Kazuma’s death and yet again a sudden inferiority complex to occupy the distant background of the final case, I could be fooled into thinking that Susato doesn’t have any interiority at all. Cut to the second game, and even in a different circumstance where Ryunosuke himself feels as though he’s playing second fiddle to more interesting characters, even when the Mikotoba history is more paramount to the plot itself this time, Susato’s presence once back in England is made even more concerningly irrelevant – her father coming from behind and almost stealing her thunder entirely. It’d be staggering for this character that tries to symbolize the new outreach of women’s rights at the turn of the century into someone so easily removable if it wasn’t so unsurprising. Anyway, what’s important is she’s nice and has a real job, unlike you.
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2024.05.17 01:13 Late-Catch-5011 (VERY IMPORTANT!!!) Answer my survey for an English class Research Paper

Hi guys,
First of all, if you are not a part of Gen-Z, please don't take the survey. My research has to do with Gen-Z only.
I'm asking that you all take my survey for a paper that I'm writing for my English Class. I need to get a good grade on this, so please help me out :) Please. I beg u. Take my survey.
The Survey is about the relationship between Gen Z and Short Form Videos.
If you don't know what short form videos are, short forms videos are short little videos that range from a few seconds to under three or four minutes.
Popular platforms that have short form videos are Tiktok, Youtube, Instagram, and Facebook. The reason I am gathering data is because my research question is on how short-form videos affect members of Gen Z.
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