F42/ 18 years work experience, undergraduate certificate-management, post grad certificate-finance and master degree-international relations.
I live in NYC and after my divorce, I moved and took a job in the neighborhood as an Executive Assistant with a small company, to be near home and school until my kids were old enough. I loved being an EA, the work load was hectic and demanding but I really thrived doing it and so did my Executive. ( I am also an EA, remotely and part time with an out of state organization- they love me so much and are offering me a full time but I am not ready to move to GA.) Youngest turned 7, so now it was time to find a bigger network and more challenging job and fast pace environment. I had my resume revamped by two separate resume writing entities, one of which was recommended through the NYC Dept of Labor (DOL). Sent it out and barely heard back anything and when I did, it was to shut me down.
I applied to no less than 300 jobs, via Indeed, Zip Recruiter and directly to companies via their careers page, keeping records of it all.
For instance, after 43 applications for Senior Exec Asst at a major bank (there were multiple departments requiring SEA and some Executives need 4 EA's) I had been sent rejection emails right away for 42 of those but I landed ONE interview, and they interviewed me to death (something like 5-7 rounds) I always interview very well, as I am very articulate with excellent communication skills and my personality is always a hit with interviewers. I met the entire team, the Hiring Manager was super excited to have me join the team, as were the other EA's and her last step (another interview) was to introduce me to the Executive himself but he was out of the country. I would meet him 'next week.' The leaving SEA said I had the right personality and accolades for the job and I would be perfect. Then, bam! Ghosted. Followed up and here comes the rejection email. I cried, honestly.
My job coach, whom I was working along with via DOL suggested my resume was too strong and I needed to 'dumb down' because I was already more qualified than the managers of most companies and this would be intimidating. I did not agree. I wanted to be compensated for my qualifications and experience. You can't punish me for not going to school and still punish me for going to school. I last did a Leadership Ethics and Corporate Accountability Completion Certificate with Harvard Business School Online, one of those things you do just for knowledge. She wants me to take that off too...It was 6 weeks and ONLINE!!!!!
I finally landed an EA job through an agency with a major transportation company. I am on payroll of the agency, and not the transportation company. The contract would renew annually on a need basis. Not secure but it was about $40k more than last job. This of course has no benefits whatsoever, except 5 sick days per year as mandated by NYC Laws, so high insurance costs are all borne by me. I have applied for in house jobs, and have had amazing interviews with transportation company but here comes rejection emails after the interviews and rejection emails without inviting me to interview. You would think it would be easier to hire me because you don't have to train me. Sigh. 22 applications, rejected straight off the bat.
This week, I applied for EA and Chief of Staff jobs, with pay ranges $120-$180k, I do not have high hopes. I am such a good worker though. Talk about organized, analytical, reliable and creative in thinking...my two current Executives are so pleased with me, as was the last. I had a sick day recently, and my Executive was telling someone, when I am not here, everything falls down.
I decided to seek a part time retail job, for evenings and weekends, (yes, Fidelis health insurance is killing me $650 per month, no vision, no dental and FYI the kids are not included on this plan, did I mention a $4,800 deductible?) I digress. Anyway, they have all rejected me, not one has invited me to interview! Not Target, not Burlington, not Marshalls, not TJ Maxx, etc! Not one interview! My friend at another retail company, where I was about to apply told me I needed to remove everything and leave it at High School Diploma.
WHAT IS GOING ON????
I need to hear from Hiring Managers, Managers, Recruiters and others with my experience.
Thank you.

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We had two pairs of rats, we planned to keep them together but they didn’t get along. Now we lost two of them, leaving two individual rats and of course I know it’s not good to keep them alone. The main problem is pebbles, who is really quite aggressive. He also attacked the other two rats when we tried to introduce them, which is why we’ve been keeping them separated. I am planning on getting him castrated now. So my questions are: - how good are the chances that it will help with his aggression? - do you think there is a chance that after the procedure we can put the two rats together? (The other one is the nicest boy in the world, he wouldn’t attack pebbles) or should we find the other rat a new home either way? - if we could try to put them together, how soon after the operation could we try? Obviously don’t want to risk pebble‘s recovery but also don’t want to keep the rats living on their own for too long. - if we can’t keep them together we would rehome the other rat, what would you do with pebbles though? He will have a huge cage by himself, but currently we can’t really play with him as he just gets angry and if we open the cage to let him free roam he just guards the cage door like a maniac and has no interest in coming out and exploring…
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Hi, I started a part-time assistant coach position at a public university in the US for the 2023-2024 year (I was a volunteer assistant for the 2 years prior). Before I started in August, I received an email from our head coach saying “Payment is approved! Our athletic director approved to pay you $5,000 per semester, totaling $10,000. Fill out the application below and we can get your paperwork moving along”. I then filled out this application (in the application itself though for the salary it said ‘salary varies depending on position’ since it is a generic application, not the specific $10k). As the semester went on, I coached as planned & received my $5,000 in 2 week increments. After this fall semester, I received emails stating “my contract has ended”, and when asking our head coach, she said this is typical when the semester ends for part time coaches, and that I will be “reinstated” when I start up next semester.
Next semester comes around, and I start working (coaching) as normal (it’s our offseason but we still practice 4 days per week and have scrimmages). After a few weeks of not recieving my pay, I ask our head coach, and she says that it will come, and that paperwork just needs to be completed. I still coach throughout the semester, but am not receiving my pay, and keep asking but am being told by her that it will come.
Finally in May, I asked again and am told that my papers are waiting on the athletic director’s desk to sign off. When I send him an email asking if there is anything else he needs from my end, he says “We will certainly be questioned if we pay you the same amount in the spring because your team had no competitions. When we have done similar for other sports, we have paid less for the non-trad season or in some cases nothing at all. Did you and our head coach talk about a fair pay for the Spring?”
I’m not sure what the final decision will be from the AD, but are they legally obligated to pay me the amount stated via email by my head coach before I started working, even though I technically never signed my name anywhere that mentions this $10k total, and the official contract I signed just said “salary varies depending on position”?
Not sure if I should bring this to court if they decide not to pay me at all for the spring semester. Thank you in advance for the help!!!

I am NOT OOP. Original post by u/ThrowRA-DNA in AmITheAsshole and Relationship_Advice
Long post, I have provided comments from original threads, these provide extra information however are not vital for understanding the post and can be skipped. Though, I recommend reading them as they provide more context. Your choice though.
WIBTA if I told my parents I know I’m adopted? - 22 April 2024
Hey people.
This is a long story, but I’m going to try and condense it as much as possible. Basically about 9 weeks ago my maternal cousin and I both completed an Ancestral/DNA test through one of the popular brands.
My parents are very against these DNA tests (I thought) because they don’t like the idea of giving your DNA to these companies and so have forbidden me from doing them in the past when I brought up the idea. Though, I now know the real reason they were against me doing it.
My cousin (James) got his results first and matched with loads of people saying my mother’s maiden name, as well as other names known within my mother’s family line.
I got my results about a week later and not only did I not match with my cousin, I didn’t match with any of my cousins matches nor did anyone share my mothers maiden name. My dad (and I) have an extremely common surname in my country -think “smith”- and I did match with a few people who shared that name but none were close matches, 3rd-4th cousins being the closest. So I’m just assuming it was because it’s a common surname.
James’ family know he’s done the DNA test and he’s shared the results however I have asked him to keep what he knows about mine between us for a while.
I learnt this about 2 weeks ago and have since come to the conclusion that I am adopted. At first this made me feel really upset, and I thought maybe the DNA tests were faulty but after researching, no I don’t think they are. I think I am just adopted. I have two younger brothers who are 11 and 9 who aren’t adopted because I remember my mom being pregnant with them. So I can’t understand why I was adopted.
I want to know tell my parents know about being adopted, I want to in some ways confront them and ask why they’ve lied to me for so long. But I also want to say I still consider them my only family. James thinks it’s a really bad idea, he says I should just keep it to myself because if I tell my parents I know I’m adopted it could have negative consequences on my relationship with my parents and also could get him into trouble with his parents because he bought me the DNA test and he is very close to my parents.
I’ve said I’ll just tell them I bought the test myself but he says they’ll know because he got his test so recently.
WIBTA if I ignored my cousin and confronted my parents about me being adopted anyway?
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No verdict flare, not sure why, but most comments seem to be NTA.

Some relevant comments:

Comment thread 1
Commenter:

I can't imagine what you must be going through, realising that you may well be adopted, through a DNA test.

OOP:

I’m 18, but I still live with my parents part time and I live at Uni halls the other time.

Comment Thread 2
Commenter 1:

Have the DNA test done with a different company to double-check results so that your parents can't claim that the first one is in error.

OOP

Yeah, honestly this is a good idea

Commenter 2:

It might be better to tell them about the existing results before you know what the real story is. Right now you're in a gray area, where you have some possibly mixed up information and you're genuinely just asking questions rather than confronting anyone. This gives them a chance to (very belatedly) do the right thing ... or not, which would also be illuminating in a way. You can always seek confirmation and drama later if necessary or desired.

Comment Thread 3:
Commenter

You matched with distant cousins, perhaps a family member fell pregnant at a young age and your parents stepped up as a young couple who were ready to have children?

OOP:

The thing is I don't 100% know they're related to my dad because of how common our last name is. It's likely (imo) that it's just some other people I've matched with that share our name.

Update

I (M18) found out I’m adopted through one of those at home DNA kits. I’ve matched with my biological mom (F33), but now I don’t know what to do. Do I message her or just pretend that this never happened? What do I say? - 4 May 2024
TL;DR at the bottom.
This is a long story, I’m going to try and condense it. I’ve spoken about it before on a different post on my profile if you want more details.
In the past I’ve spoken about wanting to do one of those Ancestry and DNA at home tests, but my parents (or who I thought were my parents) were always against them. They told me because they don’t trust those companies with your DNA, but I obviously know the real reason now.
A while ago my cousin and I decided to buy a test each and I completed mine in secret. I was shocked when not only did I not match with him when we got the results, I didn’t match with anyone who shared a surname with any of my family (except for some matches that shared my dad’s surname, but this is an extremely common surname in my country. Think “Smith” for the USA).
I thought perhaps the test was faulty or wrong, but after some researching I had my doubts that the test was faulty. But just in case I decided to do a second test, with a different company, just in case the first one was somehow wrong. This time I bought three tests, one I gave to my paternal uncle (he’s actually only a few years older than me despite being my uncle) and one I gave to my maternal cousin, and the last one I did myself.
We sent them all off and we got our results surprisingly quickly, about 10 days after we sent them off (yesterday night). But these tests confirmed my suspicions, I’m not related to my family.
And even more, I matched with a woman “49.8% DNA match, predicted parent/child”. Looked on her profile and she was born in 1991 meaning she would have been 15/16ish when I was born. She hasn’t been active on the app for over 6 months.
I’ve written out messages to her to send and then deleted them, I’ve contemplated just saying “hello” but haven’t had the courage to actually send it off. I also could just turn off matches and make my profile invisible, that way she wouldn’t see me if she logged back in again. I could pretend she doesn’t exist and that I never found this out. I have another mom out there that I know nothing about, it makes me feel so anxiously curious.
My parents never told me I was adopted, I feel utterly betrayed by them. I’ve resisted the urge to confront them about it since I got the results back from the first test, but now I know for certain I just want to smash my fists into a wall. I want to scream at them. I hate that they’ve kept this from me for my entire life.
Now the only people who know I know is my uncle and my cousin. I trust that they won’t say anything to anyone until I’ve spoken to people about it.
I feel so lost and confused. Should I message my biological mom? Or pretend she doesn’t exist and turn my profile invisible from her?
TL;DR:
Discovered I'm adopted via DNA kit. Matched with biological mom, unsure whether to message or ignore. Feeling betrayed by adoptive parents. Uncertain about confronting them. Feeling lost and conflicted.
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Some relevant comments

Comment Thread 1
Commenter:

I'm wondering if there is a possibility she did the DNA test as a vague hope that maybe one day you would use it as a tool to find her and reach out to her. Whether or not she did, the ball is in your court and I think it should stay that way until you are ready to deal with it. Reach out when you are ready. There is no real reason to rush right now, you have time.

OOP:

Yeah, I’m guessing that she did it with hopes that I would also do one one day. I mean, that makes sense. Otherwise you wouldn’t have made your profile public.

Commenter:

There are probably other factors as well, but I would bet you being able to find her was one of them, if not the only one.

Comment Thread 2
Commenter:

I gave a child up for adoption at around same age your bio mum was. Your parents are your parents. They shouldn’t have kept this secret from you, and I’m sorry you’re having to deal with that.

OOP:

My parents aren’t infertile because I have younger siblings and I remember my mom being pregnant with them.

Comment Thread 3
Commenter:

You've said that you can make your profile invisible to her temporarily? Then change that later? If so, I would do that.

OOP:

Yes, I’ve done this. I don’t want her to see my profile and thinks it’s an invitation to reach out. Or to get her hopes up that I’m actively searching for her so better she just doesn’t see it. Until I’ve decided what I want to do.

Update 2

Update: I (M18) found out I’m adopted through one of those at home DNA kits. I’ve matched with my biological mom (F33), but now I don’t know what to do. Do I message her or just pretend that this never happened? What do I say? - 8 May 2024
Hey people,
A lot has happened to me since my last post here, and before I start to explain I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who commented/replied to my OP. It was really helpful and I truly appreciate it. For full context read the other posts on my profile which discuss this situation further.
First things first, I decided to turn my profile private/invisible. I didn't want my biological mom (BM) to see that I had done a DNA test as an invitation to message me. I looked at her profile one last time and it still said "last online 6 months ago" or something like that, so she obviously doesn't check the app regularly. I wrote down information about her (first and last name, birth year, 'past' family names) in case in the future I lose access to the account or if I want to try to track her down and her account disappeared. Though I am hoping that if I do decide to have contact with her in the future, I will just be able to message her on the app. But just in case.
I "confronted" my parents about what I had found out, there was a lot of crying. Especially from my mom, but also from me. I told them how hurt I was that they never told me, and how much it has caused pain and anxiety to find this out on my own and feeling like I was unable to ask them about it.
They apologised to me, they explained to me that they wanted to tell me. They planned on doing it when I turned 8, but they 'couldn't go through with it' because they 'didn't want to hurt me'. They said every year they planned to tell me and every year they put it off. They told me they did it out of love for me, but also out of anxiety that it would change our relationship for the worse.
I explained to them that even if them telling me that I was adopted did hurt me as a child I would have had them there to support me through it. And that now I had found out on my own and felt like I didn't have anyone there to understand what I was going through. They took responsibility for not telling me and for the hurt it caused when I was now.
We hugged, we cried and we forgave each other. Even though I don't agree with them not telling me, I can understand their feelings and why they found it so difficult when I was younger.
After we had finished talking about it they asked me what I wanted moving forward, if I wanted to tell my brothers that I was adopted or just carrying on like nothing happened. I said I no longer wanted it to be a secret and that I wanted them to tell my brothers what they should have told me. I didn't want it to seem like a 'dirty' secret, but simply a fact of who I am and where I came from. I want it to be something celebrated, not feared to be talked about. I wasn't born into this family, but this is my family. And I feel so blessed that I was given the opportunity to become part of this family.
I asked what they knew about my BM, they said not much. They know that she was in foster care when she fell pregnant with me, and that she would have only been 14/15 at the time. She decided she didn't want to keep me but didn't want to have a termination and so I was put up for adoption and that she requested 'no contact' with me. I hope that the situation around my birth wasn't traumatic for her. I know this is a weird thought, but I hope she just got pregnant with me from another person her own age and that I wasn't a product of any abuse. That makes me sad to think about.
Sorry for the long post. Again thank you all for the help and advice you all gave me. I appreciate everything.
TL;DR: Made profile private to avoid contact from biological mom. Confronted parents about adoption, led to tears and apologies. They planned to tell me but couldn't. Agreed to tell brothers, no longer want adoption to be a secret. Grateful for my family. Biological mom was in foster care, gave me up for adoption at 14/15, requested no contact. Hopeful for her well-being. Grateful for support and advice.
END OF POST 3

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• MATH 0115 - 100%
• MATH 0130 - 100%
• MATH 0131 - 100%
  
• CHEM 181 - 99% (SAIT’s equivalent to CHEM 0115)
  
• CHEM 0130 - 100%
  
• PHYS 181 - 99% (SAIT’s equivalent to Physics 20)
  
• PHYS 0130 - 100%
  
• BIO 181 - 95% (SAIT’s equivalent to BIO 0115)
  
• ENGL 0130 - 95%
  
• SOSC 0130 - 98%
  

About Me
I dropped out of high school when I was in grade 11, but decided to finally come back to finish my schooling via Academic Upgrading at MRU almost a decade later! I completed my own upgrading this past Winter semester and will be applying to UofC for Engineering when applications open in the fall.
So I understand from personal experience how daunting it can be to overcome various academic challenges: whether they are from the perspective of being a mature student returning to school after many years away, a student with a learning disability and/or struggles with mental health, or just generally overcoming previous negative experiences with school. Due to this, I am incredibly passionate about helping other students “learn how to learn” and fall in love with learning, like I have!
Experience
My tutoring journey began when I was taking Chem 181 online at SAIT last summer. I started an online study group for some classmates and I to meet up weekly, which organically turned into informal tutoring sessions. I loved doing them - I really fell in love with it! I gained so much personal fulfilment from feeling like I was doing something to make a tangible difference for my fellow student’s academic success.
This inspired me to sign up as a Learning Peer in the PLP program when I returned to MRU in the fall, where I received formal training and valuable experience.
As an LP for MATH 0115 my first semester, I received excellent feedback in both my peer evaluation and from my learners themselves, along with a Learning Peer Award. I learned so much - I do my best to follow researched learning practices in my sessions, such as Varied Practice and Spaced Practice. I try to have my learners guide sessions as much as possible in terms of content and learning activities. I am passionate about receiving earner feedback regarding how I can improve. It is important to me that my learners to feel like our sessions are a productive use of their time.
In my second semester, I tutored groups in CHEM 0130 and MATH 0131 - along with taking some additional training through the PLP program. I improved as a tutor and received extremely positive feedback from my learners and in my 20-hour staff evaluation. I was awarded both a Learning Peer Award and an Outstanding Contribution award.
I have completed almost 50 session hours as an LP over the course of the 2 semesters, with nearly 70 total volunteer hours - which includes hours spent in training.
References In the PLP program, Learners can provide anonymous feedback for their LP during mid and end semester evaluations. Mine include:
“Kate has been absolutely wonderful, I wouldn’t be doing so well in my class if it weren’t for her”
“I feel like Kate is devoted to us and our improvement”
“I’ve had an excellent experience so far. Kate is doing a great job!”
“Kate is really thorough in going through problems and concepts step by step and explaining each in a more detailed way then we did in class.”

Looking for some advice here about my senior cat. I found out about a month ago that our 14 year old male cat has a hyper active thyroid, and kidney disease. It all started last fall, when he started to pee outside the litter box. We treated him for a UTI at the time, and then at least 2 more times over the winteearly spring. We did blood work in the spring to see if it would give us some answers about the reoccurring UTI’s, and that is when we found out about the thyroid and kidney issues. Since then, I have had him on thyroid meds, hills urinary care diet, and more recently an anti anxiety. He has had blood in his urine as well, which we had checked out immediately. There is no blockage, but his bathroom habits have significantly deteriorated in the past month.
We put him on the hills C/D diet, which he did not like at all. He is loosing weight, and laying in his litter box/revisiting it most of the day. We have decided that it’s his time to cross the rainbow bridge, but we also feel reservations about it.
I have not done x-rays to see if there are stones, but in truth, even if we did and found stones, I don’t think a surgery at his age would be the humane thing to do. I’m just looking for some advice and outcomes of other cats who have gone through the same health issues.
It’s been a rough week for all of us. I just hope I’m making the right decision for him.

Join me now, as we watch the Basham open their traps, and make total fools of themselves again!!
Drue and Gabe Making Fun Of Diabetes!
Gestational Diabetes is not something to take lightly, it isn't something to joke about or shame people for having. It is a life altering disease that THANKFULLY goes away after pregnancy, however, puts you at 50% higher risk for developing T2 Diabetes in the future.
Same goes for baby, they are at higher risk for suffering from obesity, T2 Diabetes and other related health problems! To sit there and giddily joke about this and be so casual and act like you don't give a care in the world shows once again how Immature and out of touch with reality these two really are.
Also the drink is gross. Drue, you're gross If that sh*ts "good" and "so yummy" then I can only imagine how sickly sweet she takes her coffee ....

I am expecting my first child in a few weeks and will be delivering via scheduled c-section. I have had abdominal surgery once before (hence the need for the c-section) and found the recovery to be rough (and that was without a newborn to take care of). My husband and I are trying to do everything we can to make our first few weeks postpartum go as smoothly as possible. I have talked to lots of other moms who recently delivered via c-section and have been reading through reddit threads about c-section recovery, what to expect the first few days of baby's life, etc. Our goal is to take things slowly and minimize chaos wherever possible.
My parents, who are retired and live 12 hours away, have been planning to come help out when the baby is born. I was grateful for their offer of support - we have room in our house to accommodate them, and they are still young and agile enough to be helpful. My mom is a complicated person; we have a close but complicated relationship I have spent much of my adult life learning to more effectively navigate. That said, I find her presence comforting when I am not well - she took care of me after my first surgery, and despite the pain I was in, I think back on that time really fondly. Moreoever, I loved the idea of my parents both being present to meet and spend time with my child (their first grandchild) at the beginning of his life. My mom offered that she and my dad would be available to help with laundry, cooking, and taking care of our two high-energy dogs. They proposed staying a few weeks.
As the delivery date nears, my conversations with my mom about the post-birth plan have become more and more tense.
Our first blow up was about my husband's and my decision to hire a night nurse to come five nights a week during the first two weeks postpartum. Hiring a night nurse was a significant expense for us, and it was a decision we made very carefully after talking to friends and co-workers who have recently had babies. We spent a ton of time researching and interviewing candidates before selecting someone we felt comfortable with. Our thinking was that the night nurse would be available to help during the nights she is here so my parents are rested enough to help during the day. I specifically hired the night nurse to start her shifts at 10pm, when my parents typically start getting ready for bed, and to leave at 8am, which is when my parents are usually having their morning coffee.
My mom seemed to take this decision very personally and didn't like that I would be taking advice, and seeking support from, anyone other than her. She accused me of "packing the house with people" and being overly concerned with planning for the worst-case-scenario. She also seemed to think that the night nurse made her obsolete. I explained that I am counting on her help and support during the day and want her to have time to rest. She said it was presumptuous of me to assume that she can't go a few weeks without sleep. She seemed to interpret our decision to hire a night nurse as a sign of ingratitude. "Why am I turning my life upside down if you are paying someone else to help?"
Her reaction really hurt and surprised me, but I tried to stay calm. I pointed out that my husband and I had already made a decision and that this was not a negotiation. I also pointed out that she seemed to be prioritizing her own feelings and was not listening to what I was saying WE need as we navigate this post-op recovery and transition to parenthood. She replied that she is allowed to have feelings. Still, the conversation ended with me in tears. My mom and I never revisited the conversation (my mom is not very good at repair and is loathe to apologize - plus, I don't think she thinks she has anything to apologize for).
Today, we got in another fight because my mom is insisting on bringing their dog with them when they come. This is the second time my mom has brought this up. My husband feels strongly that he does not want a third dog in the house because it will add unnecessary chaos. For context, one of our dogs gets overstimulated very easily and can sometimes be reactive to other dogs. When my parents visited with their dog for Thanksgiving, we had to watch our dog closely for signs of reactivity, give her breaks, etc. My parents' dog also barks more than either of our dogs, and my husband is concerned about the noise. However, we would like OUR dogs to be home with us so they can begin to acclimate to the new baby.
I communicated all of these concerns to my mom and offered a number of solutions, including 1. that we can find a local Rover or petsitter to watch her dog for the first week they are here, 2. that we can find a local Rover or petsitter to watch our dogs, or 3. that she and my dad can stay with their dog in a nearby Airbnb. My mom rejected all of these ideas and replied that we should medicate our dog if she is the one who is the problem. My mom refuses to consider a petsitter for her dog because the dog is a rescue with a history of abandonment, and she doesn't want the dog to feel like she has been abandoned again (note: our dogs are rescues, too, and we board them all the time). My mom once again accused me of micromanaging and clearly thinks my husband and I are being unreasonable. She said, "surely you can understand why I don't want to be without my dog."
I fully recognize that these are very trivial problems in the grand scheme of things, and that we are fortunate to have parents willing and ready to support us. That said, I am not sure how to proceed. My mom is, and always has been, emotionally immature in a lot of ways, but I never imagined she would be so difficult at such an important time. What worries me is not so much the substance of these disagreements, but her inability to put my needs above her own in the tender weeks after I give birth. I am not sure whether to cave and let her bring her dog (maybe she's right, and it will be fine!), or to hold firm, even if it means she and my dad don't come. I worry that asking them not to come will draw a line in the sand that will be difficult to come back from. At the same time, it feels like they are choosing their dog over their daughter and grandchild, which I find extremely hurtful. Part of me senses that this actually has nothing to do with the dog, or the night nurse, and is more about her own control issues.
What should I do?

When I think about my life I have no clue where I want it to go but I know somethings I want to do. Am I holding myself back? Are there people in my life who are bringing me down unintentionally? Am I surrounding myself with people and habits that are really just limiting my life experiences. Am I expecting too much out of life?
Well when I think about life and what could make me “realistically” happy I think maybe not stressing so much on where I wanna be. Or maybe even pursuing a dream career. I’ve learned so far that anything you wanna do that makes you money that allows you to live is gonna either A. Be uncomfortable most days or B. Require a good amount of discipline and in most cases both are these are the outcome.
I often day dream about seeing Japan and perhaps even living there. I find myself gravitating towards things that come from Japan for example, my car is Japanese , the game consoles I love and collect are Japanese and i tend to even lean towards Japanese foods , games/ art , shows and music. I feel like Tokyo is full of night life and neon signs , things in Japan seem so cool , advanced and convenient. But to me not in a bad way more like a way that encourages a better life style. I have a passion to try to stay mentally , physically and spiritually healthy. And from the outside looking in the Japanese culture seems to really agree with that too. I tend to find myself thinking logically and not really stressing on the little stuff. I’ve never met a Japanese person but from what I can tell it seems like within the culture life seems full. Well…at least most of the time. Because I understand the concern and problem in Japanese culture has been similar too and or over working/work life stress and depression but on the other hand it seems like after work many people tend to go out to eat or socialize. People are competitive care about their jobs , hobbies and family. People just seem more discipline.
Now before I continue. Let’s talk about what a dream careelife looks like to me. 1. My relationship with God is good 2. I am fit and in shape 3. My job is related to or flexible with my forever changing interest and need to adventure and learn 4. I work on more of my own time possibly owning my own brand or business 5. I invest my money in things that allow me to continue to travel or freely indulge in my passions of cars , fitness and life 6. I am motivated noticeably more than I was was in the past and my discipline is on point! 7. When the time is right I find myself finally settling down with a women that is physically attractive and mentally there for me So what can we do? Well I feel like I know but don’t at the same time. I work in an automotive shop making more money than I ever have with the chance to make more (40k annually at 20y old) which to me isn’t terrible but I feel like am I only doing this because it’s better than working at Walmart or am I doing this because I went to school for it when I didn’t really know what I wanted out of life, but to be a successful artist/entrepreneur? When I begin to feel lost in life I tend to day dream about Japan / Tokyo and I think hm Would life be better if I just started over but isn’t that sefish? I have a mom at home who’s blind she needs help my dad runs a business? My brother is 27 but he’s still family… is it selfish to want to leave and start over is this what God wants of me is it against his plans ? I mean he gave us free will and as long as we trust him we’ll be okay right !? I. Don’t. Know. When I lean on him and try to knock my bad habits I find myself distancing myself from almost everyone in my life. I go thru spells of unemployment because I feel like I need to gather myself and be alone make a plan and work on myself. Sometimes I do things like social media and it feels like it’s lined up with God or it doesn’t or my music doesn’t but producing music does, or making videos about travel seems fun making a channel based on finding the meaning of life or how to find your passion seems fun but according to religion it seems like the meaning of life is GOD and your passion should be GOD and all eyes on GOD and you will be okay and that sounds great it sounds okay and fine. But I’ve tried and tried and I’m confused I’m very confused. I need help and I do ask God for help , I pray I talk to older people to pick their brain and I come to a conclusion that feels fake I don’t ever really feel satisfied. I feel like I’m allowing people to create my life. My job selection and school career just felt very “people pleasy “ like oh I’m doing this because it would make my parents proud. But now I want my own life and have been creating it but I’m stuck with the consequences of my past decisions so I feel like I can only go so far. I feel stuck I feel nervous I feel worried about my future I’m worried that I won’t be satisfied And I even try to live as if God with take the wheel and then I snap into reality of my physical world and then start worrying am I going in the right direction is this God or is this me doing bare minimum? Am I fulfilling myself? Is that supposed to matter ? I need help. Please! 🙏🏼

Hi all, I am asking for insight here.
Issues in my relationship often look like what transpired last night.
Her (34f) and I (38m) are going to a music festival this weekend. We talked and agreed on a bunch of errands that we should do for this during the week. (She typically is more anxious about planning than me, so making agreements on what to do is prudent).
Now, I get off work first and get home first. When I got home, rather than start on any of the things around the house, I felt tired so I took a nap.
Her response when she got home about 30 minutes later was “you’re napping, we have so many things to do?!” To which i responded, “I know we do, but I felt really tired after work today.”
Her claim is that my response invalidates her feelings.
I feel that the way she approaches me is accusatory to begin with, and that I respond because I feel attacked.
What I would like to know is

1. is the way she is bringing up what bothered her healthy communication. If it isn’t, what would healthy communication in that spot look like?
2. is my response indeed invalidating her feelings? If it is, how can I respond better showing care for how she feels?

My sister is a seeming narcissist. Tons of history and it has begun to affect me recently. I would say that I am kind, and I really want to help her.
For the past 4 years she was in a relationship with a bigger(smarter) narcissist than her, he kept a secret relationship from her the entire time. She never really opened up to me about it, only really getting details from my mom and heard some things here and there. It did not end well.
She bought a house with this guy in 2022, since he left she has to pay the entire mortgage. Since then, her car got repossessed and she is in a new relationship. Now, she’s using my Mom’s designer Jeep Wrangler (she earned through elementary school teacher wage) because she threw a fit on her birthday after learning that she would get my old Grand Cherokee.
I’ve had to be in her life recently because there is nobody to take care of her lawn or her three dogs (she uses them as relationship weapons).
I expected to be compensated, 50$ a week, I have to Commute an hour to get here, I have to pay for the gas in the mower, I have to mow and weed whack in a specific way or she has a fit. I have to do more miscellaneous house/lawn work and she’s refusing to pay me.
This week, I had to take her dog to the groomer, she payed me for the upfront cost of the appointment, but of course forgot a tip for the groomer.
Also her boyfriend is taking her on a vacation, the 3rd one in three months. In order to do this, she would need to use my Grand Cherokee in order to drive 3 hours to an airport.
I went ahead and got an oil change for it, and arrived at her house with 50 miles left in the tank. I told her, and she became visibly pissed.
I said “Don’t give me that look, not like you would plan on paying me back at least 60$ worth of gas” (not to mention she drove 20,000 miles in 6 months without leaving the state before her car was repossessed)
She scoffed, “well it’s your car, didn’t you just go and fill up the gas can??? why wouldn’t you also fill up your car?!?”
“It’s not my vacation.”
Then she went all the way up until she left without saying a word to me, glaring at me.
As she leaves, her dogs cry, a familiar sight.
She acts like I am obligated to do everything for her: house care, dog care, lawn care, fill her gas tank???
These sort of feelings bring me here, how do I deal with a family member like this? Like I love her like family, but it’s like she doesn’t know what that means. She’s never tried to get to know me, just tries to boss me around. Someone like this I would typically want to try and avoid… but it’s family. Idk

Alright so, I started investing in my Roth IRA at 18 I just turned 19 in May and I still don’t have a full understanding of what I’m doing. Since I am on the younger side of investors I want to take advantage of being able to be more risky with my portfolio and putting the majority of my money into QQQM for their potential to bring back huge returns. However I am aware when the market goes down, my portfolio will drop significantly because of this. Since the top performing stocks in the S&P were mostly tech stocks, I’m betting on us advancing way more with technology & AI in the future and I’m ok with a temporary negative on my investment since I’m not planning on touching this money for 40+ years anyway. That being said, what are your thoughts on a 60% QQQM , 30% FXAIX , 10% SCHD split? Am I taking on too much risk? Would it be wiser to have FXAIX as my main position? A second option I’ve been considering is 50% FXAIX , 35% QQQM , 15% SCHD. any feedback will be appreciated! Thank you!

This is going to be a long one so I suggest sitting down and eating a snack lol. This honestly starts back from kindergarten when I first met my boy best friend (21M) who I'll call Joey to keep things private. Joey and I grew up together, we've lived across the street from each other for the past 15 years. I would say our friendship didn't start to pick up till the 4th grade. It was me, Joey, My brother (18M), Tom ( 21M), Diana (21F), and Joey's little brother (18M). Diana was my best friend the girl I hung out with everyday and spent all my time with, shared secrets with. Tom was that type of person to joey. Joey and I have always had some form of mutual crush towards each other and I honestly I believe it started in the 4th grade. Growing up our parents were best friends and to this day still are. So Joey and I spent a lot of time together, we would watch movies, go to the park, go on trips together, go to the the local community street and just hang out we spent all of our time together. The first time I told Joey I liked him was in 5th grade, I've always known I loved him, He was my first love, my first kiss, the first boy I cried about, the first boy who made me jealous although we never dated, there was a lot of first between us. Joey use to be really mean to me, would always make fun of me, constantly chase me, and just in general say mean things and always shut me down whenever I confessed my love to him. Everyone knew I liked him, I would never stop talking about it. Our friends would have us kiss during truth or dare or have us confess our love for each other. Thats just how it was growing up. In middle school is when things started to change and I started to get involved with other guys. It was nothing more than the middle school relationship, just people I liked. I can't remember exactly what summer it was but I believe it was 8th grade summer going into 9th grade when things between really started to pick up. During that summer our family went on 2 week long camping trip and joey and I got really close and he confessed his love for me, but nothing came from it and when we got back from that trip we shared our first kiss together during a scary movie we were watching at my house. After that there was nothing. I started high school and we really drifted apart. I remained with Diana and some other close friend while Joey made new friends and kept his distance. It was like that all of high school. But a lot happened during that time. I dated my first boyfriend who i broke up with within a year and I dated my second boyfriend who I broke up with 3 years ago. My second boyfriend is honestly the root cause to things getting messy. I started dating my second boyfriend at the end of 10th grade, and that summer I went on a trip and Joey and his family and some of my cousins. That trip joey and I flirted a lot, spent all our time together and just got really close. But when it was over it was if nothing had ever happened and I went on to continue dating my boyfriend. Without getting into too much details about my ex lets just say he was a horrible person who physically and mentally abused and manipulated me and basically turned me into the person I am today. He ruined a lot for me and he tore apart my friend group. Joey, Diana, and Tom all saw how much my ex was hurting me and they tried multiple times to get me out of the relationship but It just never really happened and things got messy. Joey continued to distance himself from me and Tom started to fill joey's mind with horrible thoughts about me which honestly really turned joey against me. The summer of 2021 is when I was finally able to escape my ex but the way it panned out wasn't good. My friends first tried to force me and joey to date even if It was as rebound, they used our history as an excuse to get me out of the relationship and well that didn't work. And a month later I tried to kill myself, I ended up in the hospital with 11 stitches in my wrist and lots of therapy. I ended up going back to my ex a few days later. Thats when I saw joey and tom distancing themselves and honestly they said some hurtful things to me. My now boyfriend is the reason I was able to leave the relationship. 3 days after I broke up with my ex, my best friend Diana got with him and yeah thats another story for another time. But basically to keep it simple after that happened they all left me and I was just left alone in pain with my now boyfriend picking up the pieces. Everything went well since then. I grew up and I really matured and got my life in order. But last week something unexpected happened. Joey entered my life again. I was at the bar with my parents when he arrived with his parents, I would be lying if I said I wasn't already drunk, But I was way drunk. And I got wasted even more after joey arrived. But we talked for hours that night and I found myself confessing my love for him all over again. And he started confessing his love and basically he had to carry me home cause I was wasted. I waited 10 years for this boy to tell me he loved me and now I don't know what to do. He went on to apologize for all the things that happened and how he was never there for me and he basically was just sorry. I kept asking him why he never dated me or why he never took the chance when I gave him chance after chance. And he told me he was jealous and mad at me for all the times I went out with other guys and he thought that I didn't genuinely care for him. I basically told him I felt like you constantly played with my feelings. Now I am in a relationship. A very loving relationship fully committed one too. We live together already. But after hearing joey's words and the things I said when I was drunk I feel so conflicted and have no idea where to go from there. Joey told me he would wait for me as long as he is still in love with me. He told me he's been in love with me for that past 14 years and that there's never been anyone else for him. He's never dated anyone the closest he's ever came to was me. My boyfriend knows some of the story he knows basically all the childhood drama and everything that happened, and he knows Joey is back in my life as a friend. I don't know if the love I had always had for joey is the same or if i'm acting based off old emotions. I don't want to hurt anyone but I know someone is gonna get hurt. And for more reference tom joined the marines and isn't really in anyones life atm and diana is getting her veterinarian license. Joey just graduated from college and is joining the army in 3 months. I am just focused on my career and planning out my future with my boyfriend. What should I do. Joey and I have talked a lot about just rebuilding our friendship and getting to know each other again because the last we talked like this was 6 years ago so we definitely have grown and matured since. I love my boyfriend but I worry I still love joey.
TL;DR! - To sum everything up my first love confessed he's still in love with my and is willing to wait for me as long as he loves me. I confessed I still loved him when I was drunk. But I am planning out my future with my boyfriend.

We have 3 cats, 1 is very overweight
We tried feeding them separately but the big one will fight and steal food from the others
We tried scheduled and rationed feeding, but if he doesn’t get all he wants he hides by the doors and tries to escape the house (we live next to a nursing home with a lot of cats/food)
We try to get him to exercise, but he isn’t very easily stimulated, doesn’t care for laser, most toys and seems unaffected by catnip
He’s also very lazy and asthmatic, I want to help him get healthy but I don’t know how 😔

When I think about my life I have no clue where I want it to go but I know somethings I want to do. Am I holding myself back? Are there people in my life who are bringing me down unintentionally? Am I surrounding myself with people and habits that are really just limiting my life experiences. Am I expecting too much out of life?
Well when I think about life and what could make me “realistically” happy I think maybe not stressing so much on where I wanna be. Or maybe even pursuing a dream career. I’ve learned so far that anything you wanna do that makes you money that allows you to live is gonna either A. Be uncomfortable most days or B. Require a good amount of discipline and in most cases both are these are the outcome.
I often day dream about seeing Japan and perhaps even living there. I find myself gravitating towards things that come from Japan for example, my car is Japanese , the game consoles I love and collect are Japanese and i tend to even lean towards Japanese foods , games/ art , shows and music. I feel like Tokyo is full of night life and neon signs , things in Japan seem so cool , advanced and convenient. But to me not in a bad way more like a way that encourages a better life style. I have a passion to try to stay mentally , physically and spiritually healthy. And from the outside looking in the Japanese culture seems to really agree with that too. I tend to find myself thinking logically and not really stressing on the little stuff. I’ve never met a Japanese person but from what I can tell it seems like within the culture life seems full. Well…at least most of the time. Because I understand the concern and problem in Japanese culture has been similar too and or over working/work life stress and depression but on the other hand it seems like after work many people tend to go out to eat or socialize. People are competitive care about their jobs , hobbies and family. People just seem more discipline.
Now before I continue. Let’s talk about what a dream careelife looks like to me. 1. My relationship with God is good 2. I am fit and in shape 3. My job is related to or flexible with my forever changing interest and need to adventure and learn 4. I work on more of my own time possibly owning my own brand or business 5. I invest my money in things that allow me to continue to travel or freely indulge in my passions of cars , fitness and life 6. I am motivated noticeably more than I was was in the past and my discipline is on point! 7. When the time is right I find myself finally settling down with a women that is physically attractive and mentally there for me So what can we do? Well I feel like I know but don’t at the same time. I work in an automotive shop making more money than I ever have with the chance to make more (40k annually at 20y old) which to me isn’t terrible but I feel like am I only doing this because it’s better than working at Walmart or am I doing this because I went to school for it when I didn’t really know what I wanted out of life, but to be a successful artist/entrepreneur? When I begin to feel lost in life I tend to day dream about Japan / Tokyo and I think hm Would life be better if I just started over but isn’t that sefish? I have a mom at home who’s blind she needs help my dad runs a business? My brother is 27 but he’s still family… is it selfish to want to leave and start over is this what God wants of me is it against his plans ? I mean he gave us free will and as long as we trust him we’ll be okay right !? I. Don’t. Know. When I lean on him and try to knock my bad habits I find myself distancing myself from almost everyone in my life. I go thru spells of unemployment because I feel like I need to gather myself and be alone make a plan and work on myself. Sometimes I do things like social media and it feels like it’s lined up with God or it doesn’t or my music doesn’t but producing music does, or making videos about travel seems fun making a channel based on finding the meaning of life or how to find your passion seems fun but according to religion it seems like the meaning of life is GOD and your passion should be GOD and all eyes on GOD and you will be okay and that sounds great it sounds okay and fine. But I’ve tried and tried and I’m confused I’m very confused. I need help and I do ask God for help , I pray I talk to older people to pick their brain and I come to a conclusion that feels fake I don’t ever really feel satisfied. I feel like I’m allowing people to create my life. My job selection and school career just felt very “people pleasy “ like oh I’m doing this because it would make my parents proud. But now I want my own life and have been creating it but I’m stuck with the consequences of my past decisions so I feel like I can only go so far. I feel stuck I feel nervous I feel worried about my future I’m worried that I won’t be satisfied And I even try to live as if God with take the wheel and then I snap into reality of my physical world and then start worrying am I going in the right direction is this God or is this me doing bare minimum? Am I fulfilling myself? Is that supposed to matter ? I need help. Please! 🙏🏼