Tried my best to cut it short 🙏🏼 I(f25) met, and was then soon after courted by a sophisticated man who turned out to be a big deal in my country and was at the height of his honor as his establishment was having a big national launch at that particular time.I knew non of this at the time. We’ll call him John. So John inevitably got my number since my company was largely responsible for supplying his establishment and I was thrown headfirst into handling our business with them. And really it took no more than 2 conversations for him to make his interest known. And like any other loyal girlfriend, I let my partneboyfriend(m25) of 7 yrs, call him Chris, know of John’s advances to which he, Chris gave me ‘permission’ to keep talking to John as that’s all it was at the time; business talk with random flirtations on his side and Chris was almost always part of the conversations from my side(John wasn’t aware of Chris at the time).. We, Chris and I would respond to John’s messages together and sometimes even have a giggle over his corniness… And don’t y’all judge Chris, he allowed this to happen because he was/is fully secure in our relationship and trusts that my heart is his, and that I would never leave him with anyone else. Which truly is the case even now.However, eventually, the conversations became just mine and John’s alone. We had so much in common and he really was the kind of man I had envisioned myself ending up with. We talked every day and sometimes till late night, and Chris would watch me smiling while texting. Then the inevitable happened, we fell for each other. HARD
It was two weeks in and since we’d only ever seen each other in a work setting, John and I had been discussing how nice it would be to see each other outside of work. It didn’t take long and as fate would have it(we are both believers in fate), the perfect scenario for us to finally meet, arose that same weekend. I felt like I had known this man for years at this point, so I wasn’t even big excited, I was just moderately looking forward to seeing him as if again… That feeling didn’t last for too long, because as soon as he arrived at the agreed meeting spot and got out of his car, a white luxury car, wearing a black top my weakness when worn by a man.
I had not noticed this about him before, since I had only seen him in his work overalls, but he was quite buff man with a very delectable height, and he looked like he had waited all his life to see me and the way he pulled me in for a hug proved just as much. We spend some time(though barely) together that night, drinks and conversations flowing. If I wasn’t sure before, then, after that night, I knew for a fact I was in love with John. And no, nothing happened further than just some lip locking, he was a real gentleman and I consider myself to be a lady of standard. But like all good things this too had to come to an abrupt end when I finally came to, and realized it was the early AMs and my partner and our child had been waiting for me to return home (over 30 missed calls and messages from my partner and sister, as this was very unlike me). To say, Chris was very upset by the time I was dropped off from the night is an understatement and from the texts on my phone he quickly gathered where and with whom I was.
An argument ensued and Chris gave me an ultimatum- it was either him and the life he had together or John. Of course I chose Chris and I really wish it had been that simple, but I also had undoubtable connection and feelings for John.
And here lies my problem. To that point, John and I had never really figured out what exactly was going on between us. However , we were both mildly, infuriated at the sudden surge of feelings we had towards each other, both being parents of one, cohabiting with our partners whom we were fully committed to. I hate to be long-winded, so let me know if I should make another post with a conclusion/update?

today would’ve been the 19th birthday of a good friend whom i really miss. in around july 2021, i made a friend in the grade above me (i was a rising sophomore and they were a rising junior) kinda by accident, and we became really close. because of lockdown and online school, we only met once irl but it was as though i’d known them all my life. i didn’t really have friends in school at the time, so having them there was really comforting. we bonded over our childhood experiences, interests and similar traumas. i knew i could talk about anything with them bc i feel they were one of the few people who really understood me - and i hope they felt the same way too. they died by suicide in february 2022 aged 16. while they’d been struggling with their mental health for a long time, it was also a massive shock as i was also suicidal at that time, and everything got so much realer. i couldn’t talk to my family about it (long story) or anyone at school, so i just bottled my grief up for around a year but i sometimes wrote letters to them about how i miss them. we weren’t friends for very long but i feel like there’s a hole in my heart.
i still miss you terribly and i think about you every day. i’m sorry the people around you let you down and didn’t show you that life was worth living, i wish i could’ve been there more. just know that i love you, and i’ll see you when i get there 🤍

Hope this kind of post is ok. I have my back done by Big Meas who’s out in Ohio (I’m in ny). Dude is the lettering king. Is there anyone in the New Jersey area that’s comparable? I would love to go back out and get more work done by Meas but when you add in the flight, hotel, food, work, the whole trip, it becomes a killer. And this would be a much smaller piece. Hoping there is someone more local that’s just a drive away.

I apologize in advance for the detail but I want to provide nuance to get the best advice possible:
My boyfriend who I have been with for 3 years and have been living happily with unfortunately suffered from a bleed in his brain last month and had to have emergency brain surgery. He is now recovering in the hospital and at first things were pleasant with his parents (whom I’ve never met). His mother then let me know she didnt agree with homosexuality and asked me to stay away from the hospital. Additionally, I let his siblings come into my home to get clothes for him and they went through my things and found a letter from our neighbor who me and my bf both don’t get along with.
In this letter, this neighbor, who is very old and mentally ill, wrote us a letter after my bf and I had an argument and amongst a bunch of other crazy things claimed I had threatened my bf in the argument which is 100% untrue. The siblings found this letter in my drawer, took this letter from my home and are now trying to use it to paint me like I’m some bad person.
After this happened, I let my bf’s brother know that because of the letter situation, I no longer feel comfortable with them in the home and if they would like to take my bf’s belongings (he is going back to live with them while he recovers) they would need to do it on the last day of the month after I have moved out and I had already arranged for his closest friends to pack his things. The brother became hostile and said I dont have a choice in the matter. I didnt see the issue with my original arrangement because I was trying to avoid a confrontation but the father of my bf then reached out to my landlord and produced a durable power of attorney for my bf. How they lawfully obtained this POA is beyond me because 2 days before it was signed, the brother told me my bf was still having cognitive issues and you must be mentally sound to sign a POA.
I had emailed my landlord letting her know of the situation and when I had arranged for his stuff to be picked up. then she let me know that she arranged with the father to let them into my home this weekend claiming that the POA gives them the right to enter. I have seen the POA and nowhere on there does it say anything about entering the principal’s (my bf) and my home. Additionally I spoke to the police department and they told me the landlord does not have the right to allow a POA to enter without my consent. Our lease also does not have any provisions about letting people in during a situation similar to this.
I will be consulting an attorney tomorrow but I just wanted to know what my rights as a tenant are. I have no intentions of withholding my bf’s property, nor do I intend to damage or keep any of it, I just don’t want it to be collected while I am still living in the home as I do not want a confrontation or to escalate the situation. As far as I know, my bf is not far enough in his recovery to give any sort of consent because that is the excuse they’re using to isolate him from me and all of his friends so I’m not sure how he can authorize them coming when they please. I just wanted to know what rights I have as a tenant occupying the space because I feel like the parents are just trying to strong arm me rather than cooperate or propose an alternative date for me to approve. Does my landlord really not have the right to give then access to my place despite having a POA that makes no mention of entering his (our) premises? All it says in any reference to a living space is “Real estate transactions”. Any advice would be very helpful as this situation is stressing me out as I just want peace and for this family to stop trying to push me around.

I 21F have known this guy also 21M for 7 years from high school. He had a crush on me in school, I had a boyfriend at the time and didn’t take an interest in him.
Last year I bumped into him and we started talking. This year I stated that I wanted something serious(relationship) and he agreed by saying he also wanted a relationship,couple dates go by and I ended up sleeping with him.
( He bought me a expensive-ish necklace for my birthday and had been calling me “my love” for a short time)
For 2 weeks he was dry , unresponsive with short answers. I believe that he has been with another girl, perhaps prettier than myself because of his lack of interest since then.
For whatever reason , I feel used , exposed and angry (sadness/confusion/anger)
I don’t know if I should seek revenge or allow him to walk away even though I was intimate/ vulnerable with him.
What should I do?

Me (23 F), I’ve asked myself for a few years if I might be poly or not, I’ve always had sexual relationships in the past with multiple people but every single relationship was very “superficial.”
months ago I met my current boyfriend, let’s call him Egg, and my first love (25 M), we met one night and we talk like ever before and we both stated to be polyamorous. Before I met him he got out of a 4 years mono relationship and he always wanted to try to have a poly relationship so did I.
we get together, happily, with an open poly relationship, he start seeing this girl, which I have met few weeks later and they start to date for a few weeks, only sex tho. lately after one month I start seeing again this “couple”, let’s call them Bacon and Pancake, that I used to date months ago before before meeting Egg, I decide to write them again because I wanted to date other people like my partner did, and we all start to hang out and date individually and together as a triad, nothing more than sex from my point of view.
Everything okay until I start having serious anxiety attacks thinking of him with other girl. I struggle with anxiety a lot, I’m working on it and I did in these last few months.
The other day after sleeping with Egg I start having bad anxiety knowing that he will have a date soon with another girl, let’s call her Tuna. We talk over and over about it and I know that it’s one of those things that I have to work on it. After crying and talking, Egg asked me to close the relationship, so not seeing other people anymore exept me and him. At first I was shocked because I never have expected this from him and I said no at first because I don’t want him to force himself to do something he doesn’t want to do. After some more crying and reassurance from him saying that this is what he wants or he wouldn’t have said it we have decided to stop seeing other people for a few months and see where this will lead us, and ofc eventually open the relationship again.
We are both discovering who we are, if we are poly or not, what we like and what we don’t. I don’t know if it’s the right decision but I feel that it’s the right decision for us now.
I’ve talked about with Bacon and Pancake and they took it bad at first but completely understood the reasoning behind it. Egg will talk with Tuna as well this week.
I don’t know if this makes us fail as a poly couple or people trying to understand themselves and getting out of mono mindset, but I feel great to not be left alone with my anxiety All I know it’s that it’s my first serious relationship and my first love, and this somehow changed everything I was sure of

So almost 3 months ago, I had an anonymous Instagram account. Feeling desperate for love, I started commenting under posts, that I need someone to talk. One account (girl) replied to me. Had a little chat followed by sexchat. I thought it was just a one time thing. Got her text next day and we started chatting normally and flirting over next 3-4 days. Got to know that we belong to same caste. We started dating, exchanged photos and videos and eventually found each other compatible to each other. Some of you may think it could be a guy but I made sure that wasn't the case. Exchanged phone numbers also and used to talk for 3-4 hours a day on call. Experienced my first love and we were already thinking about our marriage.
But, how could everything go so smoothly? On Holi, she was having severe headache and went to doctor. Listening to symptoms, doctor said she has 95% chance of brain tumor. She told me this after 2 days. We both were shocked and she was almost broken from inside. Reports confirmed she had last stage of brain tumor and only few months left. Thinking about my future, she told me to break up, but I resisted saying I will be with her till the very last moment. We had disagreements over this, she started ignoring me so I get convinced to break up but I stayed with her. On 8th April, she got hospitalised and stayed there for about 4-5 days. I wasn't sure if I will talk to her again or not. For context, she lost her parents about 5 years back in a car accident. She only have her elder sister and her fiance in her family, and she was the one who kept updating me about her situation, through her phone only. During her stay in hospital, this condition really got her bad. She started forgetting stuffs but she remembered me. She came back home on 13th April. I really wanted to go meet her in her city but couldn't go due to some circumstances.
This wasn't the only problem she was dealing with. Another huge problem was her ex boyfriend. They both broke up about 1.5 years ago and it was his wish. She begged for her to stay but he left. I got to know from her cousin firstly and then from her, that her ex used to abuse her physically even during their relationship and even after that. And the most shocking part was she didn't even told her sister about that. My blood was boiling on hearing that but I couldn't do anything and felt so helpless. Eventually, I told her sister about this but this kept happening even after this. She tried to protect her but her ex found a way to still hurt her. Finally, I convinced her to talk about this to her sister and she talked but still they took no action. Then, one day she went to her ex's sister's function even after I told her not to, but she still did cuz she was invited. And the worst thing happened. He raped her there. She was broken inside. I was hurt too. In that moment of anger, I broke up immediately, but soon realised I shouldn't have done that and I was the only one she trusted. Told her we are not done yet and I am here for you. I don't want to remember that event but this really boiled my blood. She told her sister and finally they went to his home and told their family. He was beaten finally but that mf deserved much worse. Their family were apologising so they didn't took any legal action. Even after going through all this, she still talks normally.
Two days back, her sister told me to break up with her and it would be better for both. I couldn't understand how it would be better for her. I know she won't be able to live without me and hence, I didn't want to do. She said she wanted her sister to live this phase alone which is her best phase. She told if we won't do if ourselves, she will interfere and everyone will get hurt. Hearing all these, I decided to break up but still stay as a friend whom she can confide. For context, we broke up twice before but cuz of having short term memory loss, she forgot and I knowing her condition so convinced myself to be in relationship. I never had any problem to be with her. So we broke up that night. She got too sad, even I got. but we handled ourselves. But the next day her sister with her fiance went to goa leaving her alone at home. I don't know what she thinks and she even care about her or not. She don't feel like sleeping at night so I used to talk regularly so she don't feel alone and even talked yesterday. I don't know if she remember about our break up or not.
I feel like this incident will stay always with me and I don't know what will happen. Kitni bhi ziddi ho yrr but hai to my first love. I badly want her to stay forever. I want to marry her and give her all the love she deserves. I want her to be happy always. I want to feed her food from my own hands. I want to care for her. I want to make her sleep when she have headaches. I want to hug her, kiss her forehead. I just want to be with her forever. I LOVE HERR. I would have fought with the whole world for her, but this cancer and distance really fucked us😭😭

So almost 3 months ago, I had an anonymous Instagram account. Feeling desperate for love, I started commenting under posts, that I need someone to talk. One account (girl) replied to me. Had a little chat followed by sexchat. I thought it was just a one time thing. Got her text next day and we started chatting normally and flirting over next 3-4 days. Got to know that we belong to same caste. We started dating, exchanged photos and videos and eventually found each other compatible to each other. Some of you may think it could be a guy but I made sure that wasn't the case. Exchanged phone numbers also and used to talk for 3-4 hours a day on call. Experienced my first love and we were already thinking about our marriage.
But, how could everything go so smoothly? On Holi, she was having severe headache and went to doctor. Listening to symptoms, doctor said she has 95% chance of brain tumor. She told me this after 2 days. We both were shocked and she was almost broken from inside. Reports confirmed she had last stage of brain tumor and only few months left. Thinking about my future, she told me to break up, but I resisted saying I will be with her till the very last moment. We had disagreements over this, she started ignoring me so I get convinced to break up but I stayed with her. On 8th April, she got hospitalised and stayed there for about 4-5 days. I wasn't sure if I will talk to her again or not. For context, she lost her parents about 5 years back in a car accident. She only have her elder sister and her fiance in her family, and she was the one who kept updating me about her situation, through her phone only. During her stay in hospital, this condition really got her bad. She started forgetting stuffs but she remembered me. She came back home on 13th April. I really wanted to go meet her in her city but couldn't go due to some circumstances.
This wasn't the only problem she was dealing with. Another huge problem was her ex boyfriend. They both broke up about 1.5 years ago and it was his wish. She begged for her to stay but he left. I got to know from her cousin firstly and then from her, that her ex used to abuse her physically even during their relationship and even after that. And the most shocking part was she didn't even told her sister about that. My blood was boiling on hearing that but I couldn't do anything and felt so helpless. Eventually, I told her sister about this but this kept happening even after this. She tried to protect her but her ex found a way to still hurt her. Finally, I convinced her to talk about this to her sister and she talked but still they took no action. Then, one day she went to her ex's sister's function even after I told her not to, but she still did cuz she was invited. And the worst thing happened. He raped her there. She was broken inside. I was hurt too. In that moment of anger, I broke up immediately, but soon realised I shouldn't have done that and I was the only one she trusted. Told her we are not done yet and I am here for you. I don't want to remember that event but this really boiled my blood. She told her sister and finally they went to his home and told their family. He was beaten finally but that mf deserved much worse. Their family were apologising so they didn't took any legal action. Even after going through all this, she still talks normally.
Two days back, her sister told me to break up with her and it would be better for both. I couldn't understand how it would be better for her. I know she won't be able to live without me and hence, I didn't want to do. She said she wanted her sister to live this phase alone which is her best phase. She told if we won't do if ourselves, she will interfere and everyone will get hurt. Hearing all these, I decided to break up but still stay as a friend whom she can confide. For context, we broke up twice before but cuz of having short term memory loss, she forgot and I knowing her condition so convinced myself to be in relationship. I never had any problem to be with her. So we broke up that night. She got too sad, even I got. but we handled ourselves. But the next day her sister with her fiance went to goa leaving her alone at home. I don't know what she thinks and she even care about her or not. She don't feel like sleeping at night so I used to talk regularly so she don't feel alone and even talked yesterday. I don't know if she remember about our break up or not.
I feel like this incident will stay always with me and I don't know what will happen. Kitni bhi ziddi ho yrr but hai to my first love. I badly want her to stay forever. I want to marry her and give her all the love she deserves. I want her to be happy always. I want to feed her food from my own hands. I want to care for her. I want to make her sleep when she have headaches. I want to hug her, kiss her forehead. I just want to be with her forever. I LOVE HERR. I would have fought with the whole world for her, but this cancer and distance really fucked us😭😭

So almost 3 months ago, I had an anonymous Instagram account. Feeling desperate for love, I started commenting under posts, that I need someone to talk. One account (girl) replied to me. Had a little chat followed by sexchat. I thought it was just a one time thing. Got her text next day and we started chatting normally and flirting over next 3-4 days. Got to know that we belong to same caste. We started dating, exchanged photos and videos and eventually found each other compatible to each other. Some of you may think it could be a guy but I made sure that wasn't the case. Exchanged phone numbers also and used to talk for 3-4 hours a day on call. Experienced my first love and we were already thinking about our marriage.
But, how could everything go so smoothly? On Holi, she was having severe headache and went to doctor. Listening to symptoms, doctor said she has 95% chance of brain tumor. She told me this after 2 days. We both were shocked and she was almost broken from inside. Reports confirmed she had last stage of brain tumor and only few months left. Thinking about my future, she told me to break up, but I resisted saying I will be with her till the very last moment. We had disagreements over this, she started ignoring me so I get convinced to break up but I stayed with her. On 8th April, she got hospitalised and stayed there for about 4-5 days. I wasn't sure if I will talk to her again or not. For context, she lost her parents about 5 years back in a car accident. She only have her elder sister and her fiance in her family, and she was the one who kept updating me about her situation, through her phone only. During her stay in hospital, this condition really got her bad. She started forgetting stuffs but she remembered me. She came back home on 13th April. I really wanted to go meet her in her city but couldn't go due to some circumstances.
This wasn't the only problem she was dealing with. Another huge problem was her ex boyfriend. They both broke up about 1.5 years ago and it was his wish. She begged for her to stay but he left. I got to know from her cousin firstly and then from her, that her ex used to abuse her physically even during their relationship and even after that. And the most shocking part was she didn't even told her sister about that. My blood was boiling on hearing that but I couldn't do anything and felt so helpless. Eventually, I told her sister about this but this kept happening even after this. She tried to protect her but her ex found a way to still hurt her. Finally, I convinced her to talk about this to her sister and she talked but still they took no action. Then, one day she went to her ex's sister's function even after I told her not to, but she still did cuz she was invited. And the worst thing happened. He raped her there. She was broken inside. I was hurt too. In that moment of anger, I broke up immediately, but soon realised I shouldn't have done that and I was the only one she trusted. Told her we are not done yet and I am here for you. I don't want to remember that event but this really boiled my blood. She told her sister and finally they went to his home and told their family. He was beaten finally but that mf deserved much worse. Their family were apologising so they didn't took any legal action. Even after going through all this, she still talks normally.
Two days back, her sister told me to break up with her and it would be better for both. I couldn't understand how it would be better for her. I know she won't be able to live without me and hence, I didn't want to do. She said she wanted her sister to live this phase alone which is her best phase. She told if we won't do if ourselves, she will interfere and everyone will get hurt. Hearing all these, I decided to break up but still stay as a friend whom she can confide. For context, we broke up twice before but cuz of having short term memory loss, she forgot and I knowing her condition so convinced myself to be in relationship. I never had any problem to be with her. So we broke up that night. She got too sad, even I got. but we handled ourselves. But the next day her sister with her fiance went to goa leaving her alone at home. I don't know what she thinks and she even care about her or not. She don't feel like sleeping at night so I used to talk regularly so she don't feel alone and even talked yesterday. I don't know if she remember about our break up or not.
I feel like this incident will stay always with me and I don't know what will happen. Kitni bhi ziddi ho yrr but hai to my first love. I badly want her to stay forever. I want to marry her and give her all the love she deserves. I want her to be happy always. I want to feed her food from my own hands. I want to care for her. I want to make her sleep when she have headaches. I want to hug her, kiss her forehead. I just want to be with her forever. I LOVE HERR. I would have fought with the whole world for her, but this cancer and distance really fucked us😭😭

This is a throwaway since my boyfriend knows my reddit account. I just found out that my boyfriend of 10 years cheated on me back in February and lasted for about 4 days. Unfortunately, he deleted his Telegram account (the one he used to talk with his other woman) so I didn’t get to see the messages. He was talking inappropriately with another woman with her sending nude pictures to him. He said there were inconsistencies in the pictures like different sizes of her chest, different colors of her nipples and so on. He even claimed to have reverse image searched it and said that the pictures were from some Chinese version of OnlyFans. I still love him and I am desperate to save our relationship.
How do I check if this is true? Should I believe him? What do I even do?

Hello, first post here.
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now. It started off as all these things do, he was sweet, loving, kind and listened to every word I said.
Over time it became apparent that he had struggles of his own and eventually those struggles got taken out on me. Sometimes I look at my relationship and think it is not so bad, but then I remember that he calls me names, makes me feel stupid all the time, makes me have panic attacks by screaming in my face or shouting at me, he threatens to kick me out of my home all the time, he follows me from room to room to continue, shouts at me in public, humiliates me by abandoning me and acting out at family events.
I met a coworker I instantly connected with on a friendship level. We would text every day and it was flirtatious sometimes, but we always kept things platonic. That was until my boyfriend told me he wanted to dump me and then things got more emotionally intense with the coworker.
A week after my boyfriend said he wanted to dump me he went back to his old ways of pretending it did not happen. Calling me beautiful again, telling me he loved me and getting upset and sad with himself for screaming at me.
I now find myself unable to stay away from the coworker who is kind, smart and likes me for who I am. Whilst also wanting so badly for my relationship to work out. I have told the coworker the situation but he still seems to continue with the level of conversation that we had since my boyfriend 'broke up' with me.
I don't know what to do, but I feel sick with guilt and I don't want to lose the coworker as a friend but I feel it is all a mess. I'm also just exhausted from my relationship and feeling like I am walking on eggshells in my own home.

I’m in a bit of a bind and could really use some advice. Recently, I secretly joined an EMT school, and I’m loving it. The course runs on weekends—8 hours on Saturdays and 9 hours on Sundays. My goal isn’t to make a career out of being an EMT, but to get certified so I have more job options once I graduate college. The problem is, I’m terrified of my parents, especially my dad, finding out.
Here’s the background: My dad can be very imposing and always tries to impose his opinions on me. We’ve had several family psychologists and psychiatrists tell him he’s in the wrong for the way he treats us, but it doesn’t change anything. Typical narcissist behavior. I knew I wouldn’t be able to find a course that didn’t conflict with my time at home, so I’m running the risk of being asked where I’m going.
Lying isn’t an option for me because if they get suspicious, they will investigate and find out, which would make things infinitely worse. Here are the reasons why I’m so scared of telling them:
Reason 1: My dad grew up poor and worked his way up to financial success. Anything he considers “lower class,” he immediately puts down. For example, my little brother started fixing iPhone screens in high school, and my dad chastised him, calling it a “poor people job.”
Reason 2: My dad takes it personally if I don’t come home for lunch. He sees it as a personal slight, even when I have classes or am hanging out with friends. Recently, he told my other little brother how sad he gets when I don’t come home for lunch, making it all about him.
Reason 3: If you strongly disagree with him, he applies the silent treatment. He once stopped talking to my sister for 6 months over a fight about her boyfriend. He also cut off my little brother (the one who fixed phones) from money, gas, and family outings because he took a gap semester to focus on his business.
I’m terrified of becoming the black sheep of the family. I’ve battled depression before, and I’m scared of falling back into that dark place if my dad reacts badly. If he finds out I’m missing lunch for EMT school, he’ll take it personally, think it’s beneath me, try to force me out of it, and, if I refuse, stop talking to me and cut me off financially and emotionally.
I feel stuck and don’t know what to do. How can I approach this situation without causing a major family conflict or jeopardizing my mental health? Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.

I F20 am having a falling out with my M21 boyfriend. He has been given an offer from two friends that they will have a room coming available in their house across the country. When I say it’s across the country, I mean it is 10 states away from me and a 6 hour flight. My boyfriend has always wanted to live on the west coast where as I have liked living in the midwest/south. I understand these are online friends he is quite close with and the town is exactly like he has always wanted. Small, Cold, and on the water. He has started off asking me if i think we should move in. He promises they are nice people. He shows me how beautiful the town is on google and tells me we would be paying cheap rent in a beautiful home. He says if i do not like it after 2 months we can go back home. He says it wouldn’t be till late august. I told him, i would have to think more about it as it is a big jump.
Let me say I don’t really know either of the roommates, I know of them and i know their names. that is it. I have grown up in my current town my whole life, i have traveled before. but i do have family here that i am attached to, and i have many friends i’ve known since i was a toddler. My boyfriend recently moved in with me 2 years ago all the way from New York. It’s a little far. He has been in many different states and has visited many different countries. I am only at the start of my adulthood and so is he. He has made it clear he doesn’t want to stay in our town as it offers nothing for him. I find comfort and safety in my town, i know i have friends and family that will be there for me or to spend time with. since he has been here h has made his own friends that he recently hangs out with. He doesn’t have a good relationship with his remaining family. My family has become his own. They welcomed him in when he had close to nothing. I love my boyfriend but I told him I am scared of such a jump. I personally don’t think i’m financially or mentally ready for such a change. He is aware i have extreme anxiety and depression, he has been good to me. He didn’t take my opinion well, we ended up telling my mother of the plan to get a proper grown ups advice and opinions on it, she said it could be good for me but we would have to be a team. I agree with her. She thinks he is quite tunnel visioned on the subject out of excitement.
After i told him i had given it more thought and i wasn’t sure i wanted to, he blew up at me. saying how much he hates everything around him and if it weren’t for me he would’ve bought a van and traveled the world. I asked him if i was given the same opportunity would he come with me, he said no, he explained our views are different and he wouldn’t want to live near the hot southern beaches. I felt sad to hear that. i couldn’t find how this was fair. I told him i loved him enough to try this out and go with him if given the two month agreement, he went back on his word and said he couldn’t promise me he would come back with me if i didn’t like living there. he said he would stay because he already knows he would enjoy it. honestly i felt lied to, i asked him how we would continue our relationship if i were t go back alone and he said he couldn’t promise anything but he would most likely break things off.
I feel broken, i feel as if our relationship could already be over. he knows i love him too much to leave this behind and that i will have to come with him even if i don’t want to. I told him i will come if it means keeping our relationship but now i ask myself, is this what i want? to leave everyone behind for a dream i don’t have? he says his mind is made up and he will go with or without me.
please give me advice, i am in pieces.

A few days ago my boyfriend said that he will never come to meet me in India, he is going to settle in US forever but he wants me to be in his life.we love each other so much but the problem is we are not going to be together in future . When I asked about our relationship, he said that we are in a mutual relationship. He asked me, can't we live together in the present?I don't have any problem but what about my feelings, my emotions . if we don't have any further together then how can I keep myself happy with him now. I see everywhere that everyone in a relationship wants that they marry their life partner whom they date and live together it's their dream but why my boyfriend don't understand that ? We separate now but we both wants each other in our life but my heart say it's ok now but at the end my heart will be broken when he left me what I do then or is it possible that he changed his decision may be it's possible but he told me very clear that we are not going together in future?
I don't understand what should I do, how can I make him understand that I want us to be together in future. if anyone has any idea, you can suggest me.

A lot of people online give this ending shit for “going all Hollywood” but tbh I think it puts the exclamation mark on Clyde’s point. Would a smash cut of Hitman style kills over the next month one by one be cool yeah but after the first 2 realistically everyone else would leave the country. Also he’s in jail he needs Nick to watch people he loves die but won’t touch his family bc he can’t bring himself to do it to someone else. Is it my favorite ending no, is it bad maybe, does it ruin the movie? No.

Hi friends.
Sorry for the long post lol.
I've (25 F) been with my boyfriend (27 M) for 3 years, known him for 7. I've always known he has OCD and I know the details of all the times his OCD has ruled his life in the past.
When we started dating, his OCD was minimal and it didn't really affect our lives. About 2 years ago, I started to notice that it was getting slowly worse, and he was starting to struggle more and more. I suggested therapy but he brushed it off and was clearly in denial that he needed help. Over the course of 18 months, things got worse and worse. He began to live in a state of near constant anxiety, and due to his extreme fear and panic, I regularly got snapped at. Clothes had to be washed multiple times, there were corners of his flat I wasn't allowed anywhere near, food I prepared got thrown away, and there was one time he tried to get me to wash my deceased dad's jumper (he passed away 16 years ago and I have a couple of his jumpers that I don't wear, I just keep and try not to wash too frequently for sentimental reasons). When we moved in together, there were bags of things all over the flat that I wasn't allowed to go through and unpack. We ended up just cramming bin bags of his things in various corners of the place because he couldn't touch them and I didn't want them sat in the middle of the living room. Throughout this time, I was still regularly accidentally doing things wrong by touching things I didn't know he perceived as contaminated, resulting in him snapping and even shouting at me. It's important to add that while all of this was going on, I was having weekly EMDR therapy sessions for C-PTSD, so I was struggling with my own mental health and actively putting in immense amounts of effort to heal. I have since mostly recovered.
It wasn't until September last year that I couldn't take it anymore and told my boyfriend I would not renew our tenancy and I would move out if he didn't get back into therapy. After months of begging and helping him find a therapist, he finally got into therapy in January of this year, 18 months after I initially suggested it.
Unfortunately, my boyfriend was not honest with his therapist, and she was under the impression that his OCD was minimal and he just needed a bit of help. He put a wall up with her and then complained that he wasn't getting better.
About 2 weeks ago, I reached a new point of desperation. I found myself dreading my boyfriend's return from work because half of the time he would bring a black cloud into our flat with him. I found myself avoiding him, staying quiet around him, shrinking myself down around him, all in fear of setting him off and getting snapped at. I've also found myself losing empathy for him and losing my temper with him. I used to be so patient and calm and do everything I could to help him, but now I'm so exhausted and so fed up of his constant anger, I can't cope. We don't do date nights anymore, and I've found myself turning away from him in bed and sitting on the other end of the sofa when we watch TV in the evenings.
I finally reached out to his sister and met her for lunch last week. She's not only very aware and experienced with my boyfriend's OCD, but she's also got 2 psychology degrees and has been working in mental health since graduating. I don't know why I didn't go to her sooner, but she's helped lessen the burden on me and is meeting up with my boyfriend once a week. She's also been there for me to talk to if I'm stuggling or don't know how to manage a situation. My boyfriend and I also wrote letters to his therapist so we could accurately describe how bad his OCD is without him putting a verbal wall up, so now she is aware and is going to modify her approach with him and has also suggested some extra coping mechanisms. My boyfriend has also spoken to a doctor and is increasing his medication ever so slightly just to see if that helps.
All of this sounds great, right? Sounds promising. But I am so exhausted. I am so burnt out. My boyfriend's sister just messaged me to check how I am and I burst into tears. I'm not currently working (job market is hellish) so I'm home all day. I try to do nice things for myself (I go running, I read, journal, meditate, play animal crossing, etc.) as well as doing all the cooking and cleaning, but I just feel like a shell of a person. I just started crying when I got into bed last night and I don't even know why. I wake up miserable and exhausted every day.
What do I do? My boyfriend has just started getting a significant amount more support and help but we won't see any changes for a little while as these things take time.
Leaving him is not on the cards because 1) I don't want to and 2) that would just make him even worse and I will not cause him pain when he is already suffering.
Thank you in advance and I'm sorry this is so long. I hope you're all having a lovely week so far <3

Two years ago I moved to a new city (a huge one) in order to complete my master's degree. I am living with a roommate I have known since my bachelor's degree and I have been making many friends along the way, enjoying the local college life, parties and events. As we are almost done with our studies and our tenancy agreement is about to expire, recently I was invited to look for a new house together with my current roommate and some friends. Before, I used to think at my college years away from home as a "it was fun" chapter of my life that was intended to have an end, with me moving back to my hometown as its conclusion: I do miss the people from there, my friends and my beloved boyfriend. I also love my family very much (I couldn't have gone to college without them) and I feel they could use a hand, since my parents have to take care of my disabled sister and my old grandmother. But of course I'm not moving back out of guilt: my goal would be of finding a job in my place of birth and save enough to live together with my boyfriend in the countryside near my hometown; in the meanwhile I would live with my parents again. The thing is, when I told everyone I intended to go back home, people seemed really surprised, like a lot. Even if no one judged me (and even if they did ... who cares lol) they wouldn't see the reason why I will soon "sacrifice" the "freedom" a metropolitan area gives you. Even my own mother offered to pay my rent in the new apartment because she doesn't want me to lose my college friends. So here I am asking: is moving back with your parents in your 20s the weirdest thing ever? Did any of you have the same experience or thoughts?

This is a throwaway since my boyfriend knows my reddit account. I just found out that my boyfriend of 10 years cheated on me back in February and lasted for about 4 days. Unfortunately, he deleted his Telegram account (the one he used to talk with his other woman) so I didn’t get to see the messages. He was talking inappropriately with another woman with her sending nude pictures to him. He said there were inconsistencies in the pictures like different sizes of her chest, different colors of her nipples and so on. He even claimed to have reverse image searched it and said that the pictures were from some Chinese version of OnlyFans. I still love him and I am desperate to save our relationship.
How do I check if this is true? Should I believe him? He seems sincere when he was apologizing. What do I do?

Hi Reddit,
I'm a 35-year-old female, and I’ve had a close and supportive friendship with my best friend, "L" (female, 33), for nine years. Recently, our friendship has become strained due to her boyfriend, now fiancé, who disapproves of me.
I've been married for 11 years, which is not conventional. My husband and I are very supportive of each other and have different interests, so we don’t hang out often except for certain activities. His job also makes our days off different. We’ve had some rough times, but we’re working through them, and no matter what we are always looking out for each other and never stop each other from doing what we love.
Because of my chill, open lifestyle, and bubbly personality, L's fiancé views me as a negative influence on her. even thou i know her way before he did.
Her boyfriend has made derogatory comments about me, which she only mentioned after I pushed her to tell me what was wrong. L and I usually spend much time together because we work together and sometimes go to the gym or grab food after work. On weekends, we do other activities like beach or horse riding, and I had no issue with him joining us. However, after a few times when he joined us at the beach, where I met friends for football and paddle boarding, he started criticizing me and my driving skills and the routes I take. Soon after, he stopped coming with us, and L started acting weird. Eventually, I discovered he had called me a “hoe in an open relationship.” and claimed I did not respect my husband or myself because I was too friendly and attract men, which he thought would ruin his relationship with L.
This situation led to a heated discussion and a temporary break in our friendship. I needed to reconnect with myself, especially because she was always fighting with him whenever she was with me, making me feel like a burden. After a months, I felt okay and resumed communication with her, explaining why I needed a break. However, we significantly reduced our activities together (her choice i guess).
L tried to mend the situation by encouraging my husband and me to socialize with them, hoping to show our positive qualities as a couple. My husband refused after learning about her fiancé’s disrespectful behavior. Honestly, I wasn’t ready to socialize with a hater, either. Her fiancé’s controlling behavior goes beyond his opinions of me. He discourages L’s interests, like singing, and displays other red flags that she seems to overlook (which me & others has motioned) to which she fired back that we are not supportive.
Despite L’s efforts to defend our friendship against her fiancé’s attempts to drive a wedge between us, he wanted her to choose between him and me. She claimed she tried to keep everything that mattered, but I was wrong. After our break, we were good for the next six months, even though we didn’t hang out as much (4 times). Whenever we did, she would fight with him and leave early or without saying goodbye, just leaving a message.
My birthday was approaching, and every year as a tradition, L and I have dinner together to celebrate before having a party with other friends. Two weeks before my birthday, I asked her to attend dinner on Friday or Saturday which my husband was to plan for us, she agreed. Two days later, she asked to confirm if it was happening and where. I said I would let her know once my husband confirmed the plans (this is very normal as i inform her always 1 day before). She kept asking the same question daily, which was unusual for her. Finally, she admitted that her fiancé wanted to leave the city for a few days and needed to know if our plans were confirmed. I canceled so she could go with him, but they didn’t go at the end. and that didn't feel great for me.
A week before my birthday, I asked her and other friends to keep their Sundays open for a pool brunch my husband was planning for us. Everyone, including L, confirmed, and she even added, "Count me in +1," assuming I’d be okay with her bringing her fiancé. I was mad but decided to let it go for her. A few days before the event, she messaged me saying she might be unable to come because she had a minor surgery and couldn’t swim. I was shocked she hadn’t mentioned the surgery before and asked why she didn’t tell me. She replied that she didn’t have to tell me everything and that I didn’t need to come. I was mad and asked if it was because of him. She yelled, accusing me of not understanding how much I hurt her by taking a break and moving on, while she didn’t.
She blamed me and our friends for not being supportive, even though we had helped her in the past. For example, she lived with my husband and me for almost a year rent-free when she was jobless only for 2 months. Her fiancé had issues with most of our group despite our welcoming attitude. She kept making excuses and gaslighting us for not being there for her since she got serious with this guy. I listened and asked how I could make things right. She dared to say "I needed to apologize for taking a break to care for myself and moving on while she didn’t". I calmly refused to apologize for taking care of my mental health, knowing how much I had worked on myself. If she wasn’t okay with that, it was her issue.
She tried to be nice the next day, realizing she messed up, but I was a bit cold with her as I didn’t expect her to say those things, especially knowing how much I cared for her and what I had done for her. The day before my birthday, our friend supposed to pick her up before picking me up. When I came down, she wasn’t there. I asked my friend if she was coming, and he said no. I messaged her, asking if she was coming or not. She said yes, but later, as her fiancé wasn’t ready. We went ahead, and three hours later (the brunch is for 4 hours), they finally showed up. Her fiancé didn’t say a proper hello and started complaining about wanting to sit at a table instead of the poolside beds we had booked. Despite arriving three hours late, she had the nerve to ask me to move to accommodate him. I refused and suggested they sit at the table if they preferred.
I saw them arguing a few times, and she kept coming back and forth between the beds and the table. When dessert was served, I decided to join them at the table to be the bigger person. Her fiancé picked up his phone and didn’t speak to anyone. When he decided to leave, he gestured for her to follow him and walked away without saying goodbye.
That was the last straw for me. She seemed okay with his behavior as if it is normal, and there was no way we could convince her that he was mistreating her. I messaged her, saying I didn’t blame him but blamed her for ruining my day and trying to force us to adjust our boundaries for him. She didn’t acknowledge my message. And the next day, she sent me a message to remove my brother’s car from her parking (the car had been parked there for two years without issue). I removed the car and stopped all communication with her and blocked her everywhere. we work with each other, so we are keeping professional.
FYI: This guy has told her in a message that I saw accidentally. Quote his exact message: "you don’t deserve to be a mother if you associates with this people (AKA - any of us), as we have no values and brings only shame and “cockroaches” to her perfect relationship.
I am disappointed and feel sorry for wasting so much time and effort on someone I never knew, apparently.
I want to make sure that i will not look back. hence am asking advice if you think i wronged her in any way?

Let me start by saying, i was sa’d as a child for many years by my father so i’ve struggled with mental health my whole life. before i got sick i was in a really good place mentally. probably the best i’ve been in my life. It started out as burn out. i was running my step dads company for him while he was out of state running and different business. so i was big boss, i could push around 1.5k lbs pallet of product and throw 50lbs boxes around like it was nothing. i started getting really sick and my step dad told me to stay home to “focus on my health” that same day he was training my direct employee on my job. i quit and went back to what i love doing, taking care of children. i was already sick and it was too late. by month 1 i was calling out because i spent every morning hugging the toilet. i ended up being evicted because my step dad decided to sue me saying i took “important documents” when i left. knowing i didn’t and knowing i didn’t have money to fight it. i lost my job (because i had to move, my job was very understanding about me searching for health answers) and my apartment. during that time i lost all of my weight. i’ve always struggled to keep my weight up and seeing how low i am now is so detrimental. i’m 98lbs on a bad day 103.8lbs is the highest i’ve been able to get since i’ve been sick. i went to countless doctors many i’m sure who didn’t believe me. i’m still unmedicated 11 months later even though i have been diagnosed. my last cardiologist said the holter monitor isn’t good enough and that i HAVE to do a tilt table, problem being all tests WERE 6 months out until one hospital stopped preforming TTTs without explanation meaning it’s now over a year out. The POTS clinic near me wants $7,700 upfront for an 8 day program, which i can’t pay and they don’t accept ANY insurance.
all of that to say, i’m really really struggling daily with the pain, my new disabled life. i cry almost everyday thinking about how peaceful it would be to not be in pain. i dont have a plan and i doynt plan to commit. but the thoughts are so loud and it’s different because before its just my feelings in my head but now it’s physical pain i cant get rid of. last night my boyfriend admitted he thought about leaving me when i gave him the option when i got sick and for some reason that hurt me even more, i’m just spiraling. i don’t know who else to turn to because i can’t hear “it’s going to be okay” anymore. especially when any second im awake im in pain.

Well choni I woke up and saw your stroll down memory lane. #1 colt noticably had a cyst on his face in every photo in his birthday card beg video. You're a piece of crap mother to let that go for 7-8years! #2 Ryan had beautiful furniture and rugs an decor. The evolution of farm dey tew is quite crappy. You really spruced up the place with the dirt, boogers and dirty laundry and lets not forget 16 thousand letters. No matter what you post over and over to save face, you are a terrible person and mother. You said you took a break from social media but anyone who knows you, knows thats a lie. Facebook is social media as well as the Instagram lives are social media just so you know , so no zamboni you didn't take any breaks. You were probably told by ryan to take a break from tik tok,we know this was not your choice. True crime page didn't pan out? Because thats what you tried last week. You are a disgusting vile person and your children and animals deserve better.

3 I caught your comment to skyzone claiming you go several times a week. I spat my tea. Lady poor cash gets more exercise running the isle of carlie c's for cupcakes or Walmart for letters . You could visibly tell he has not done that foam pit ever. And was so red in the face you should be ashamed for overloading that kid that way. And the clencher posting colt grabbing himself to potty. You love posting their most vulnerable moments. You know by snooping here and comments on your page you have the most unsavory following.

So my story goes I had a friend for two years who lived next door. We had feelings for each other and she’d come and hang out with me most of the week after work or other projects. She dated someone and I took back my feelings and he came to live at the house and we remain friends for that year,
after they broke up, she came back to my world and spend more time with me and then at some moment she began to undress and sit patiently next to me as we explored a bit of foreplay.
I asked her. I’d like to kiss her and she accepted and we made very passionate love that night , in the following days we juggle between friendship and feelings and then over the three months we got quite close but she was leaving to go to another country and in that time she was arranged to meet someone who they’ve been having conversation over the phone,
a little bit confused I continue to engage with this woman who is my friend who we had a very understanding Connection and clear communication or should I step away?
There was a few signs that gave me that possibility that she was either not feeling anything or it was just platonic However on our way down before I said I would take it to the airport.
We spent more time together. I met her family and we journey closer again in the feelings of making love and exchanging words. now we never had been in a relationship status more situationship knowing that she was going to Costa Rica , and possibly going to meet someone else there as she was going away for six months she left her stuff in my house and she said that she would not see anyone when she’s there.
I kinda did not believe that but I had to accept as I was giving her a lot of my attention more than she was giving me. I started to sense and perhaps maybe I’m just being used and that her previous partner who I knew well also felt this with her and she was not being honest.
When that came she was feeling nervous and I asked her. Why are you feeling nervous? She said it’s because I am falling in love with you and I can’t do that.
I need to go away and don’t want to make this difficult for myself then I mentioned what about those other times she mentioned? Why do you think I was pulling away? It’s because I did not want to get attached and I did not want you to get attached because I’m going to Costa Rica
she made that very clear and that she wanted us to enjoy our time but keep it in a level of friendship.
I accepted but as she left I grew a deeper feelings and I was growing deep in the language of love using our pet names that we gave for each other , I wondered why however she never asked me to come to Costa Rica. I was capable of doing so I started to think. Maybe the other man was also the back of her mind and she had a possible connection with him over the conversations they had
providing her with a safe note to somewhere to stay as well as more financially secure than me two months later I sent her a call telling her I missed her.
I loved her and she replied. Hello Friend I have met someone now and and what turned into a friendship is blossoming into something more and now we are journey together love and light.
In that moment I had a freak out and mentioned to her well. Why didn’t you tell me it Was growing into something more weeks before why now …,
Her reply was because we were not boyfriend. girlfriend
She didn’t feel like she had to tell me anything about this man
I was well. We were just together for the last few months plus we were exchanging on the phone.
I don’t mind that you met someone but I don’t feel you really let me know in a thoughtful way for I had feelings she replied. I respect you had feelings
I was taken back by her wording as I was not really feeling the connection that we had before and the communication was poor and she always said she valued communication deeply. I felt like she was not been living up to that word so I text her again telling her well I don’t feel like you have communicated very clearly and almost feel like you’ve shut that down
Again she replied and her perspective. She did communicate Cleary in the beginning that she just wanted to be friends valued or friendship and and not meant to be hurtful. And that was it from there.
the classic response
I did the silly approach by Textung her. I loved her and all that jazz I realise there’s not much more I could do so I blocked her and removed her from Instagram and she was upset saying why did I do that? I told her because I don’t want to see someone I cared about in love being with someone else in the texting and so On it will suck .
just clearly putting up some of my boundaries she felt a little bit upset that I could not see this as a friendship and asked if she would take her things. I replied. You’re welcome to keep her things here and we’ll see each other later throughout the life enjoy your timing Costa Rica have fun and be well and I will see you again I’m sure and things have gone quiet.
Unfortunately I went on her Instagram to reconnect with her and I saw the love exchange with another man and from that point I’ve been working on myself trying to realise that perhaps there could be something more for us in the future or just to walk away from this ,
because it is a difficult situation for me right now seeing them in a romantic situation together or imagining them being together and myself struggling in a space where was spending a lot of time with her so what should I do in this situation? Should I just keep it as friendship and keep it open for possibility in the future if she takes comes back or do I just step away and just move on with my life and not worry too much about it and just remain friends?
It’s a bit confusing because I do feel quite deep for her and it’s quite upsetting that she doesn’t feel the same way at least I don’t feel she does cause she’s in Costa Rica having fun great job and she’s met someone fresh
part of me that the relationship was a rebound and the reason she didn’t want to go deeper within this type of relationship is that she may have felt she needed this time and place to go to Costa Rica just to let go of her story that was quite hurtful for her here and I also remind her of that story .due to the location I live ..
it’s been a month now and she did not text me