Cheer up text messages

I (38f) met someone from an app (40M) a couple months ago. We had a few dates that went really well, and had daily exchanges, even if only one or two. Then it suddenly slowed down. I told him that it didn't seem as though he was interested, and wished him good luck. He said he is interested, he just has been really busy (he works in the airline industry) and has a child. I understand being busy and unable to use your phone when you're flying a plane all day, for 3-5 days at a time and then needing to just unwind at the end of the day. He asked to call me one day not long after and we discussed it all. He said he is not a huge communicator, including texting. Which would make somewhat sense of our previous in person interactions. In person he is still attentive and it's not an issue. I am definitely more talkative than he is I was out of the country for about a week and a half, he did reach out a few times while I was gone and asked if I made it, how my trip was going, and if I made it back. And to see if we could meet up if I got back that day. Wanted to meet up, but stupid flight delays and I wasn't back until the next day- and he had his kid. A very sweet Happy Mother's Day message from him. And then we each had our parents coming in to town to visit. And nothing initiated since then. He will respond when I text him every time though, and ask about me or something in my life. We have exchanged 3 sentences each in the last two weeks. I'm old enough to understand that interest isn't always directly connected through texting/phone communication, but also am at an age where I understand mixed messages is a message itself. He does keep saying he wants to get together again, and our schedules suck together, especially with our kids. I hate coming off as clingy/needy and wanting to ask if he is still interested again, but at what point do I just write it off and assume it's clearly lost interest? Or that he will text when he wants to plan another date? I also don't need all day texting, but two weeks seems like beyond reasonable. Anyone else dating an airline captain and have communication "issues?"

I (38f) met someone from an app (40M) a couple months ago. We had a few dates that went really well, and had daily exchanges, even if only one or two. Then it suddenly slowed down. I told him that it didn't seem as though he was interested, and wished him good luck. He said he is interested, he just has been really busy (he works in the airline industry) and has a child. I understand being busy and unable to use your phone when you're flying a plane all day, for 3-5 days at a time and then needing to just unwind at the end of the day. He asked to call me one day not long after and we discussed it all. He said he is not a huge communicator, including texting. Which would make somewhat sense of our previous in person interactions. In person he is still attentive and it's not an issue. I am definitely more talkative than he is I was out of the country for about a week and a half, he did reach out a few times while I was gone and asked if I made it, how my trip was going, and if I made it back. And to see if we could meet up if I got back that day. Wanted to meet up, but stupid flight delays and I wasn't back until the next day- and he had his kid. A very sweet Happy Mother's Day message from him. And then we each had our parents coming in to town to visit. And nothing initiated since then. He will respond when I text him every time though, and ask about me or something in my life. We have exchanged 3 sentences each in the last two weeks. I'm old enough to understand that interest isn't always directly connected through texting/phone communication, but also am at an age where I understand mixed messages is a message itself. He does keep saying he wants to get together again, and our schedules suck together, especially with our kids. I hate coming off as clingy/needy and wanting to ask if he is still interested again, but at what point do I just write it off and assume it's clearly lost interest? Or that he will text when he wants to plan another date? I also don't need all day texting, but two weeks seems like beyond reasonable. Anyone else dating an airline captain and have communication "issues?"

I am in a tough spot right now. I moved in to my boyfriend’s apt 3 months ago(I don’t pay rent). I graduated in December and I’m currently looking for a job right now so I can’t afford my own place.
History: I met my bf on a dating app and have been going out with him since June of last year. He said he’s never been in a relationship before and hasn’t been serious with anyone. It started as something casual but he wanted sexual exclusivity from the very beginning. It was great. We went along well and I enjoyed spending time with him. He asked me to be his gf in September and since then I stopped going on dates with other people. I understand that he might be seeing other people before this but nothing romantic or sexual. Since then, things have been going really well between us and I even started considering him to be the one (He said I’m the one for him and asked me if I would meet his parents sometime in the future). We do everything together, my friends like him and I’ve met most of his friends too. Although it did seem a bit soon, we’ve been on vacation(domestic and short) twice and it was great knowing how compatible we are. He is also the most supportive bf, he has been helping me look for a job and he assures me when I’m feeling burnt out with job hunting. His love language is acts of service and he will do anything if it makes me happy. I was in a very secure and happy relationship, or I thought so.
Fast forward to now: I had my doubts from a message he sent his best friend back in October(he showed it to me by mistake) and I decided to snoop around. It was the worst mistake ever. I don’t know how to feel cause it made me feel like everything is a lie. I didn’t go through his messages so I don’t know the details, but I know enough that he had a gf/situationship and he was still going out with her, at least till November. I also know she has blocked him. I brought it up with him (the text he sent his friend) and asked him why he was seeing other people and he straight up lied to my face. Maybe he was nervous and didn’t want to ruin what we have right now but I feel like he was gaslighting me during the whole conversation. He said he was seeing her till October but just for coffee and the whole conversation is just her berating him about his looks/job(private equity) and telling him how many guys she’s seeing at the moment who is better than him. I couldn’t tell him that I know for sure he went to dinner with her several times because of the way I found out. She also visited his apt till November but idk how frequent because we’ve been hanging out almost everyday at that point and I also had some of my stuff at his place. For context, he had told me before he went to Europe for work + vacation by himself last January (before I met him) but I found out that he actually went with her. Right now I want to focus on my job search and don’t want to deal with any of this(possibly leaving him and finding a new place to stay). Idk how to move forward. A part of me feels I should just forget I ever found out anything and continue focusing on my job search. I did consider leaving him but I can’t afford to do that rn because of my priorities. Is something like this forgivable? Also, is it worth bringing this topic up again? I know it’s been a while but it’s bothering me how he lied to me throughout our relationship. I just want him to admit to it.
TLDR: I(29F)recently found out that my bf(29M) has been constantly seeing his ex situationship during the first few months of our relationship. I don’t know to rebuild the trust in our relationship.

[35M] need help determining if a coworker [34F] likes me or not, and if I should pursue further. We work together in a office setting. The interactions I have had left me guessing if she is interested or not, feels forced to oblige, etc.
Our discussions have been primarily about anime or video games, but anything about personal topics (hobbies, weekends) or interpersonal dynamics get a bland response from her. She tends to be verbose (oversharing?), PC in her responses with tons of puns, but she doesn't initiate. The texting last for about two hours. It honestly feels like I am talking with chatgpt.
She is overly generous at work (gives candy and pain meds), doesn't emote much, doesn't like certain food textures, or go outside, fumbles sometimes, stares at the one who is speaking, talks seldom at work (after she gave me her number) and has intense periods of focus on a task.
At home, she just stays inside with her cats, draws, writes, watches anime, and plays video games.
As of late, I asked her to hang out, which she gave me her number. She was slightly annoyed throughout, saying she has things to do, but 'wasn't too cruel to allow for some hangout time'.
I ended up with cold feet because of the mixed messages and told her so, which she didn't know how to respond to (via text). She proceeded to reassure me that I shouldn't get cold feet.
Recently, I chatted with her and it is as if the previous didn't even happen. I am totally in the dark on how she sees me. Anything will help, thank you.

Hi guys. I currently use ChatGPT to generate images for YouTube videos, it works great however it takes a while to do.
I tried automating this with the API, however it does cost quite a bit and sometimes as you know it outputs images with nonsensical text.
I was wondering about even hiring a part time assistant to simply paste prompts into ChatGPT to generate images, regenerating them as necessary if there’s something messed up like nonsensical text.
I feel like it may even cost less than using the API and it would have the added benefit of having a human being able to regenerate the image if something is wrong
Of course there is the 30 messages per three hours limit but that may delay things by max one day which probably isn’t a big deal?
Is this a reasonable idea? Or am I delusional?

I and my ex-best friend, M, met not too long ago. We immediately clicked, and I just knew we would be the best of friends from the day I met him. I used to struggle with trusting men due to past trauma. When we exchanged socials, he would often flirt with me, and I’d flirt back. We both knew we were joking, but it was nice to have someone by my side that I could love platonically and trust. I opened up to him about my trauma, my exes, and my problem with self-harm. He’d always comfort me, and I’d be there for him too. He had a couple of shitty ex-girlfriends. One of them commented on his post, wanting him back, and we both played a joke on her, saying we were dating. I opened up to him about a lot of things, and he did too. We were there for each other, and it felt so nice. He would always send me cute stuff, and we’d do cute stuff together, like a couple. I’d always apologize after venting, and he’d say it was okay, but I really do believe it wasn’t; maybe I was too much for him to handle. Maybe that’s how I messed up. I really tried not to be too much for him, as I know no one likes that. I had a bad start today, and he asked if I was okay. I broke down and told him that I had relapsed and that I was such a mess. He told me I didn’t deserve more pain and that I was good enough. He cheered me up, and it was good. That was until a couple of hours ago, when I asked for a picture of his face. I just wanted to see him. I didn’t think I’d make him uncomfortable. He said he would send it, and then he blocked me. I texted him, saying that I was sorry, and he hasn’t even opened it. He blocked me on everything else. I told him I had trouble trusting men. Maybe he left because he was uncomfortable, or maybe because I was too much. I believe it’s both. Last time I checked his account, he still had my initials in his bio. I really thought I could trust him. I’m just so hurt. I cried nonstop and even had serious thoughts. I opened up my heart to him. Maybe I was just another fling. I hope he talks to me again.

Hiya! Basically as it says in the title, I’m just looking for a friend that I can text with and talk to about whatever! I’m willing to text and talk about anything. If you’re interested in me, here’s a few things about me:
1) Im a little shy, but can be very goofy once I warm up to you. Concentrated ball of silliness. 2) Im a civil engineer! Going to be studying electrical engineering soon too. 3) Im a big fan of board games. Sidereal Confluence is probably my favorite; it’s a trading game. 4) As of recently I’ve been an avid reader. I read a lot of visual novels, and I am currently reading Twig by Wildbow. 5) I’m trying to learn how to cook!
If you’re interested in talking, just send me a message with your age, gender, and a fun animal fact!

I had a man who loved me. It was Christmas Eve when I asked him out, expecting a quick no but I knew I would have regret not telling him for the rest of my life. He didn't respond for almost 20 minutes and I thought I lost him. Then I was met with screenshots of him talking to his brother about me and how he had feelings for me. He and I talked for so long that we nearly missed our family events. When we were together, my life finally seemed like it had a purpose. Making him happy. He would call me his forever partner, his soul mate, and we'd talk for hours every day about things like when we could move in together and have a family in the future. Me and him connected so well, I haven't ever been so close to anyone in my life, and I've been through several relationships, maybe it had something to do with us having autism and the same interests. Over time he became really dependent on me and I let myself slip into doing the same thing. I know that thus far, these behaviors are probably really weird for a relationship and things seemed to be moving too fast, but I didn't care, he made me feel amazing. His friend group that I had to hang with was toxic to say the least, I tried telling him that maybe he should find better people but he insisted that he wanted to be there because his brother was there. The negativity eventually got to me though and I began to slowly fall apart and lose my confidence. My whole day became reliant on him and if he wasn't happy I wasn't either. The problem was that he was the same way.
Months go by and he admits something to me that scared me. He cuts himself and he planned on taking his life on Christmas before I reached out to him. I did everything I could to make him feel comfortable and safe. For a while, it worked. Then May came around. May was the toughest month we ever had. We had our final exams in May, and both of our birthdays came around. By some cruel ploy of the universe, neither of us could be there for each other's birthdays due to work and family screwing us over. Things were off to a bad start. Later down the line, I found out my dog I've had since I was a boy has cancer and has to be put down soon. I also had my wisdom teeth pushing in but in extreme pain even though I was told there'd be no impactions, then I found out that I had no insurance... I started feeling weak and abandoned. The same morning he messaged me about how therapy went and said he was going to get testosterone to help affirm his gender. I didn't know much about it at the time but it scared me because not only did he say he wanted biological kids but he had a huge problem with body dysmorphia and I thought that the second puberty would have pushed him over the edge. I never told him no but I said it was a bad idea and that we should have waited until things were more stable and we had a clearer vision of our life. At least that's what I tell myself, maybe I really am this horrible that I'd tell him that so that way I can strip him of his identity and because he needed me for validation, I could withhold it until I got something I wanted. Well he obviously didn't take it well and took a night to himself. I then started repeating the words people from that group said to me, calling myself names and saying that I was horrible as a partner. Which made it worse because he said it felt manipulative and I didn't let him have his emotions. The next day I sent a "heartfelt" apology where I said that I was supposed to make him feel safe and supported and make a place for him, and he caved and accepted the apology. Later that night I got a call from him, black-out drunk where he said some super out-of-character things for him, sexual things. I was into it but he was at a friend's house so it's not like we could have acted on it. He promised that we'd do something later that day. Later that day though he was actually working doubles and I didn't know until I repeated to him what he said while drunk. He didn't believe me. I was in a bad situation and just said you know what, I'll handle myself. Later that night he called and we played a game like we planned to do but he seemed cold and distant. I asked what was wrong, he said nothing. He gets an "emergency call from a friend" which I later find out was him trying to get away from it and talk to his brother who tells him to break up with me. He did. I didn't get a chance to say goodbye and only found out through his brother that I triggered PTSD that I didn't know he had about someone who had done... Awful things to him in the past.
I took days without eating and sleeping and finally reached out for help like I should have done, to begin with. I started improving myself, lying and saying that it wasn't me, slowly regaining my confidence, and I took people's advice. Just to note that I've been through four relationships and never were they this hard, even one that lasted 4 years. After three days, I get a call from him in the middle of the night, begging me to take him back. I almost didn't because I didn't want to hurt him again but I was just so excited for him to be in my life again, that I said yes and apologized, and told him about all the efforts I've been making to turn my life around. He called me his and I called him mine... But his siblings didn't agree and yelled at him for it. We slept over the phone and I finally got more than an hour of sleep. I woke up and we said we loved each other and got to work. Then he texts me. Saying that it was selfish to do that and he wasn't ready for a relationship. That he just wanted to be friends instead because he couldn't handle me not being in his life. I insisted that if we talked we had to start at least dating again because I can't handle watching someone else do what I promised I'd do for him. But he said he'd think about it. By the end of the day, I called him back crying and saying that I really couldn't suppress my affection for him. I asked him if it was easy for him and he said no. I asked him if he still loved me, he said yes. I asked if we were still soulmates... No. I asked if there was even a non-zero percent chance he might see us being together in the future. He said no. I cried so hard, it was probably the weakest I ever felt. I said I was sorry for what I did and that I was awful and he tried reassuring me that I was a good person, but good people don't do this, especially not to those they love. We both said sorry for almost an hour, just not wanting to say goodbye. He told me I made him feel invincible, untouchable, loved, cherished, and worthy. He said he wouldn't be able to move on, and I said that I'd wait for him if he ever felt like he could forgive me. He said not to do that to myself. He thanked me for being the first person to ever truly love him, then he said goodbye.
I'm awful. I took something so beautiful and destroyed it. I made the only person who ever loved me feel like they could never move on and I destroyed their confidence. I hate being in a world where we don't share our first kiss, a home, a family. I know I'm overdramatic and a bitch and it's my fault so I shouldn't be upset about it but I can't help it. We were supposed to be a team.

I want my Ringtone to play any time I get a text message with a specific keyword but I can't figure out how to do that. I tried to create a Bixby quick command, but when it runs, it just opens up the list where a person can change their ringtone, it doesn't play anything.

Today, I 29f noticed the passenger seat in my car was further back that I keep it. So I mentioned it to my boyfriend 27m "why is the seat so far back"? His excuse was the headrest was blocking the window. I let him use my car for work. I was the last one in that seat lastnight because we had gone out and he likes to drive. I keep the seat far back as is. He had never had a problem with me sitting in it and blocking anything. So that ended in a huge fight. Last week he texted me that he was on his way back to the shop, he works on a military base. I checked his location and he was already off base. So that was a lie. Then a few weeks ago, I noticed he was following some random girl on instagram. I asked about her and he told me he has known her since middle school. Ok cool. Then he goes and deletes her. Thats suspicious to me. We are both from Massachusetts and moved to a new state 7 months ago. I was freshly out of a 2 year abusive relationship and I didnt want to date. I moved back in with my mother at that time. Then this guy slides in my dms. we had a alot in common. But I strictly told him I want nothing to do with relationships. Then I get kicked out of my house because my neighbors made up a bunch of lies about me about parties in the yard and having random guys over which was insane. All I did was work, stay inside or go out with my friends. I never brought anyone home. My bf said I could stay with him. So I did because I had nowhere else to go. He had a friend in nc that said we could come down and stay with him. We figured ok, its cheaper down there and we can get a house. Mind you, all this was happening so fast when I didnt even want to date. I felt thrown into this. Now Im so traumatized from my ex. Im not happy and I dont know what to do. We live in an apartment now and I just want to get back to mass. I keep kicking myself in the ass because I knew better. I should have ignored his messages. I would still be at my job that was decent pay and living my life stress free. I need therapy foreal😂 what would you guys do?

Hiya! Basically as it says in the title, I’m just looking for a friend that I can text with and talk to about whatever! I’m willing to text and talk about anything. If you’re interested in me, here’s a few things about me:
1) Im a little shy, but can be very goofy once I warm up to you. Concentrated ball of silliness. 2) Im a civil engineer! Going to be studying electrical engineering soon too. 3) Im a big fan of board games. Sidereal Confluence is probably my favorite; it’s a trading game. 4) As of recently I’ve been an avid reader. I read a lot of visual novels, and I am currently reading Twig by Wildbow. 5) I’m trying to learn how to cook!
If you’re interested in talking, just send me a message with your age, gender, and a fun animal fact!

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Hi all! Firstly congratulations on making it to ANOTHER Wembley final! Last Saturday it would have been 11 years to the day since you were last here!
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We are a fantastic match day pub & one of the few to show the games live! We hosted many Dortmund fans in 2014 & cannot wait to do so again!!! We are Wembley’s best kept secret & absolutely live to support & get involved with the action!
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So.. we are a family run, traditional, no nonsense community boozer in Wembley. It’s a 20 minute walk from the stadium, located perfectly away from the crowds & chaos!
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10 years ago when you were last here was by far the craziest I’ve seen Wembley! I would imagine a good few here last time will remember the place. We pride ourselves on having the best atmosphere and being Wembley’s best kept secret!
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Just wanted to let yous know we are here, lot cheaper & less crowded than basically anywhere in Wembley, showing the game & not charging entry. We’re waiting with open arms.
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I have a brother in law who has been emotionally abusive throughout his marriage to my sister. We found this out within the past year when she shared audio recordings of him harassing her, berating her and other family members including myself and my boyfriend. She was going to divorce him but ended up getting back together with him.
He is now threatening to take my boyfriend and I to small claim courts over a book he let my boyfriend borrow last year. The book is worth $30 and he has been sending my boyfriend multiple PayPal and Venmo requests for the amount of money that the book costs with harassing and threatening messages included.
He then tried sending us money which we never accepted with the message “you must mail the book. No excuses will be tolerated. I will be hiring a lawyer to handle this matter further”. He has never tried texting or calling. I tried talking to my sister about it but she said she wants no part in being involved with it and is defending him.
We ended up mailing the book through certified mail but now he is trying to claim he can win a case against us in small claims court for the “interest” he calculated in the time he spent “waiting for the book to be mailed”. I know this is weird. He’s such a nightmare but I just want to know my rights over this. Thanks 😅

The Accomplice ending is, to me, peak Persona. After all the blood, sweat, and tears you side with Adachi and help him get away with two murders. That tops Makoto's Jesus moment in terms of how metal it is (Evangelion and lots of other Japanese media use Jesus metaphors so it's hardly unique).
It made me wonder though, Adachi calls you and tells you to pick up if he calls. Which begs the question, what happens if he calls and Yu is in the bathroom or somewhere he can't answer? Does Adachi hunt him down and murder him too? Does he leave a message or text to call him back? Is he threatening? Or does he present himself as all business?

I keep having dreams of you. I'm tired of seeing your name pop up on those text messages - that surprisingly I could read in my dreams - telling me that you're not okay. I want to keep asking if you're okay.
But I know I can't force you to tell me you're not okay.
I know it's not my place and I know you don't have to tell me you're not okay or give me all the details you'd rather me never hear.
I just wish I didn't keep pressing for a response, fully knowing the answer would be silence or "I'm okay". I wish I knew what I was doing so I could make sure I wasn't making you step away.
You don't need me nor want me around. Maybe you do.
I don't want to assume things anymore. I want an answer so badly. No matter how many times I tell myself to stop or to drop you, I can't.
You can go back on your words, but I refuse to leave you behind until you tell me to leave.
I wish I wasn't always so anxious of your well-being. It's not my responsibility.
I hope at least my next dream about you will tell me to go away. Maybe then I'll feel like I'm unwanted.
I hate being the kind of person where I won't leave someone alone until they tell me to or that I feel so used to the point of mental and emotional exhaustion. I'm so tired yet I refuse to give up.
I just want to give people a chance. I know I shouldn't. I know I should leave people alone. I know I should stop thinking about you and wanting to still be around you. I know I shouldn't date or love you. I know all of this, yet here I am begging the universe to give you back to me. Even though you don't belong with me. Just writing this makes me feel guilty for wanting you.
I hope I can heal from you and the others. I hope one day, I can feel comfortable hearing your name and just hoping you're okay and eating well instead of wanting you to tell me you're okay and eating well.
I've stopped crying over it. This wound will heal.
Get home safely. Drink water and eat good food. Have fun and enjoy your experiences. Have a good birthday. I'll keep you in my heart. Friends, situationship, or strangers. I am deeply sorry I'm like this.

I have been NC with my Nfather for about 2 years. In January my husband died, he tried to contact me at that point but I simply told him not to contact me again and spoke to my uncle (who is extremely LC with my NFather) and asked him to relay that my NFather was not 'invited' to the funeral. My uncle obliged and he did not show up.
He did text my 16yo daughter and he messaged my MIL on FB and attempted to reach out to one of my SsIL. They all told him that it was not the time to hassle with such things and to respect our privacy.
So last week he completely went off the rails. He texted and called my 16yo daughter screaming abuse at her including saying that her 'behavior' lead to her father's death (she's been a bit of a wild teen, we've been working on it but that did not cause pneumonia and sepsis). I reached out to my brother told him to get a handle on his father and explained what all was going on, he said he was having some sort of mental health crisis and that he's fixated on seeing my younger daughters (11 and 9) I said absolutely not, he's unstable and unsafe right now. Even if I weren't NC I would not allow him near my children.
He then began posting stuff on FB (my 19yo son sent screenshots to me from an annon account) saying that I'm abusing my children. Saying "LadyNutBar, I'm gone. Let the kids outside" he texted my MIL saying that she needs to deal with me because of how I'm treating my children.
My MIL is beside herself dealing with all of this. Her and my FIL take my younger 3 (11, 9, 6) once a month while I work for a whole weekend so I'm pretty sure she'd notice if they were being mistreated.
I honestly cannot figure out what in the hell he's even talking about. They're not 'outside' my home between 7am and 4pm because they're in daycare while I work. Then the come home, play outside for a bit while I cook supper, come inside, eat, go back outside maybe for 30 minutes or so then back inside to get ready for the next day and in bed by 8pm (wake up is 6am) they have absolutely everything they need, most of what they want, they are clean and fed healthy meals every night for supper. I do not physically discipline them ever, they see a dr if they're sick and once a year for check ups, the see the eye dr annually and the dentist every 6 months.
I've been getting my feet under me to parent solo since January but I'm managing. My house is as clean as can be expected with 7 people living here.
He texted my MIL again last night saying she's selfish for what is happeneing to the kids and she still cannot wrap her mind around it. She flat out told me if she ever suspected the kids were being mistreated she'd speak up but they're healthy and happy and doing well in school. All 3 of their teachers reached out to me at the end of the year to tell me how well the kids did with everything and how they're able to share about their Daddy and are happy and respectful kids most of the time. So pretty sure they're not being abused. I cannot figure it out.
It's freaking me out, I don't want to traumatize my kids by having CPS in the house...not that I'm worried about anything but still, it's more stress that I do not need to deal with currently.
Should I call the police? My daughter blocked his # and he texted a couple times from spoof numbers but has been quiet for the last few days.
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sorry that got long it all is a freaking mess.

OKay. I'm gonna get hate for this BUT CAN WORLD SEND ME A CUTE NERD I WANT ATTENTION AND NEED SOME MORE PEOPLE IN MY LIFE!!!
LIKE FUCK I"M EASY. I am so easy to please. literally all you gotta do is text me everyday and hang out with me .IT CAN EVEN BE ON DISCORD. Like bruh. got a game you're playing? great.let me sit on discord voice chat (video preferred) and watch you basically stream it to specifically me. got some code you need to work on? GREAT I"M A GREAT RUBBER DUCK and I have experience in coding so you can send the code and we can see who gets it fixed faster. NEED TO TOUCH GRASSS? GREAT let's go to the farmer's market on Saturday and get some kettle corn. I AM EASY TO PLEASE. I dont' need your money, I don't need gifts. I dont 'need fancy dinners. FUCK TAKE ME TO MC DONALDS!!! I love myself some chicken nuggets from there. and we can share a big thing of fries. Literally just include me in your day and I'll be perfectly happy. Give me a phone call after that one big game you were playing with your friends. or even let me just sit and cheer you all on. text me about the most random shit. I"M SO FUCKING EASY. I'm so easy. we can even do long distance! as long as we texting all day every day I'm fucking satisfied.
I'm at a point in my dating career where I wanna be like "maybe I should just look for open relationships" or at lest offer cause clearly I'm not enough by myself. So like. yeah. I'm only high maintenance cause I need a lot of attention. But like if my boyfriend is an introvert... I'll get it If he needs to take a few hours to recharge. I have a best friend who I recently hung out with and we went to the mall and I completely forgot that they get such and anxiety and oversimualtion from malls. I thought iw as going to be staying til the evening but once I remembered that I was like "aw hell no I aint' staying longer. they need some decompressing and just dropped them off, got my stuff and left. no questions ask. NO retaliation. so yeah.
Idk. I also say specifically a nerd cause apparently I'm into nerds (it took me a long time to accept that but they all do look the same or have teh same aspects). I'm so easy to please. maybe not in bed, But I'm easy to please emotionally.
something I loved bout discord boy was that he would constantly text me and we voice chatted a TON. and like that was satisfying enough. cause it was HIM. I liked him. I wanted him. He was CUTE. Bro needed a camera though cause I missed out on looking at his face. (we only talked on discord and hung out once). When I dug up an old screen shot of his bumble profile, I literally paused, looking at him and got sad cause I remembered then and there how cute I thought he was. Like fuck. FUCK. I swear if that girl he's talking to now isn't giving him what I was missing, then I"M GONNA BE PISSED. cause even though he left me for her, I still want him to be happy. I still miss our voice chats. I still miss the plans we made. We were gonna watch movies together and would talk about how we would do it. and I was so excited. cause it mean I got to spend time with him in person. and I really wanted to spend time in person. so that bitch better be giving him that time in person like she wasn't before he met me. SHE BETTER BE. also better be listening to him talk about the games he's playing. tease him about wanting to marry Andrea instead of the other chick from his game in space. LIKE BE GIVING THAT BOY SOME SHIT. she also better see that hot wheels car collection. cause like I never got to see it.i only heard about it. He had like 200 hot wheels. damn. ALSO BETTER BE GETTING THAT BOY OUTTA THE HOUSE. I got him to ONE farmers market and Kroger. He needs to touch grass.... my dear, he wanted to go out with you so badly. SO GO OUT WITH HIM HE NEEDS TO TOUCH GRASSS!!! even if it's front lawn grass. But like take him to target.take him to Walmart. Also make sure he's not stressed about living with his dad or needing to help his dad a lot. AND OMG tell him he's cute. CAUSE HE IS!!! HE IS. AND GOD DAMNIT USE THE FUCKING SEXY TIME PLAYLIST HE HAS. PLEASE. HE NEEDS TO USE THAT ONE DAY. OMG. AND GOD DAMNIT follow him on Spotify. he has no followers what so ever. And listen to his 200 song playlist all the way through, he'll listen to each and every song with you. DO THAT SHIT. DO IT. I couldn't do it all cause he didn't actually want me but now that he has someone he wants, DO IT. PLEASE.
augh I just realized I might not over be discord boy lol. He was the nerdiest guy I talked to. I wish I had been able to take him out on a date. like a real one. lol. whatever. Sucks to suck.
I'm also fucking annoyed that the guys I'm into I never stand a chance with. praying to god he doesn't find this but there's this a YouTuber I follow and I only really follow with him and his community cause I think he's cute and sweet. but like.... lets hope he doesn't see this cause he's gonna be weirded out if he finds out.
augh. nerds are so underrated when it comes to dating. I think I'm lucky that I'm attracted to them. But also unlucky cause I'm not good looking enough or something. idk. AUGHHHHHHHH Fuck my life. I need to go take my meds.i'm signing off.

My boyfriend (18M) and I (18F) have been together for 7 months now and we are each other's first relationship. We are both college students and are currently on summer break. I am only working one part time job, and he is working 2 part time jobs, taking night classes, and training to be a firefighter as well. Obviously, he is really stressed, and I feel like it is starting to impact our relationship. Earlier today, we were having a nice date together and it was going perfectly fine until we got back to my house. We had made plans for later in the week to see each other but had nothing set and stone. When we got back to my house, I got a text from my manager to work on the day we planned to hang out. My shift will end at 5, so I asked him if it was fine for us to hang out after my shift since I never get scheduled and I need the money. He told me no, nothing will be open, there will be nothing for us to do, and that he will be tired anyways because his shift at one of his jobs ended at 2. I had thought this was a bit odd but ignored it and we went and hung out in my room. He was being quiet the whole time, not reciprocating any affection I was trying to show him, wouldn't even entertain me when I was trying to cheer him up, and swatting my hand away when I tried to tickle him (we tickle each other all the time, more him tickling me than me tickling him). Eventually he left my house, and I had other things to do. He texted me when he got home saying that he was sorry and that he is stressed and that he still wants to see me. I forgave him, talked to my mom about it, and she said that he was probably having an off day. But these off days are becoming more normal than I would like.
Last week we had a date together and it was great until we got to his house to hang out at after. He fell asleep immediately with his back to me and not even touching me. I felt invisible, ignored, and a bit upset so I started to gather my stuff to leave. Something that I think is important to take note of is that I just started birth control pills, and it has been making me a bit more reactive and sensitive than normal. He did not want me to leave his house in that state because I was on the verge of tears. I told him how I felt ignored and he kept apologizing and beating himself up over it and I told him it was okay. I left, started sobbing immediately, he went inside and also started sobbing. I had to pull over into a local park and cry because I was in no state to drive properly. I called him 6 times and left voicemails while I was crying but he never picked up because he was also sobbing. I left the park I was in after about 20 minutes and he called me while I was driving but I did not pick up, he called me again when I got home (we have each other's locations on) and cried on call together. He, again, told me that it was because he is so stressed.
I don't know what to do, I want to be more accommodating to the amount of stress he is under, but I hate the way that he is making me feel because of it. I want to be a good girlfriend and help him as much as I can, but I feel that I've been crying and getting upset every time I see him. I have let him know many times that I want to be a rock for him, I want to listen to him, and do anything I can to alleviate any stress in any way I can. Does anyone have any advice on what to do?
Sorry for any grammar or spelling errors, I am just stressed :(
TLDR my boyfriend is stressed from his busy schedule, and I hate how his behavior from the stress is making me feel and I do not know what to do

Disclaimer: I don’t usually post on Reddit but this has really been on my mind recently, pls let me know if I’m posting this in the wrong place.
My ex (M21) and I (F21) were together for two years and friends for years before that. Three days before Valentine’s Day last year, he spent the whole day with my family and I, at the end of the night as I was walking out to my car I asked him what was wrong, he told me he was breaking up with me. I asked why and he said to me “you did nothing wrong, I still love you but loving you feels like a chore right now.” My heart absolutely shattered. After we cried for a bit he said “I love you, I’ll text you when I get home”.
I have to see him atleast once a week because our lives are very intertwined in our community. I will say he was having a rough situation that no 20 year old should have to deal with (a sick parent, they are doing better now thankfully!) and for the longest time I excused his behavior for that but I also realized he wasn’t treating me right for a while and even worse now obviously. I have so many stories and details about our relationship and what has happened since the breakup that I am open to including if asked in the comments, but I’ll just wait till they are asked.
He pretty much avoids me at all cost and is only cordial and makes small conversation if necessary. He almost always avoids eye contact and is cold. Except on random days where he makes too much eye contact with me when I talk and I become confused because of the look he gives me. Until recently…
Starting two months ago he came up to me in our shared community event that I see him at each week and he said to me in person “you look really good today”, and also the week before he texted me saying “I hope all has been well for you”. Ever since then there has been a pattern of him texting first and occasionally me texting first in relation to what they originally sent, but then they avoid me in person or stop texting randomly and become cold again. Then they’ll text again and it’s the same cycle over and over. Every time I begin to feel okay they text me and I’m spiraling again. It took me a long time to realize it wasn’t my fault, it was very detrimental to my mental health. But a part of me still wants and loves them. Last week after avoiding me like the plague as usual they texted me “how’d your finals go?” And me being me, I responded. We ended up sporadically texting back and forth the whole week and he sent some messages that could be friendly/flirty but not too obvious. And at one point they responded with something that didn’t have a cue to respond to like “yeahhhh”, so I left them on read. The following day they texted me again asking about a movie I just saw , and asking questions about things I was doing throughout the day. Then they stopped texting me again. It’s been 2 days now of nothing.
What do I do? I don’t understand why he keeps doing this to me. I hate that I’m being used probably, but there is that part of me that just hopes he wants me back. What do yall think? I’m sorry I know this is a lot but this was me trying to summarize it lol.

I’m Australian footy = football My (F23) ex (M25) and I were together for 4 months and we met on one of those dating apps. I thought he was perfect. At the start of the relationship he was always talking about me being pregnant especially after a long spicy night… but I never wanted kids.
Month 2 is where things started to get rocky and now after talking to friends and family I realised I was being mentally abused the entire time. We were always fighting and he kept accusing me of starting fights and not letting things go but the only time I remember starting a fight was when I had an emotional breakdown one weekend.
Some back story … it was boys night weekend … (yes I know but I wasn’t invading their space. All of them for weeks kept inviting me but I said no until that morning where my ex convinced me to come along for the weekend). So while I knew my partner was going to spend time with the boys watching the footy I was prepared for that. I had my phone to keep me busy. Here’s where the issue starts. The week before I found out I had cancer in my cervix and uterus which was caused by too many hormones (birth control) and other factors. So in my defence the thing I needed the most was my partner because I was emotionally unstable. I never once cried in front of him up until that moment. Not even when I told him I had cancer. Through the weekend, I probably spent not even one hour with my ex in a decent conversation. we went to the car shop to get something for his car He was working on and when we got back he spent three hours working on his car while I went and played with his nephew (4yrs). When my ex was done with his car, all the boys went for a swim and I continued playing with his nephew for another two hours before the footy started. Not once had we spoken to each other since that morning. When the footy started it was already night time so I grabbed my dinner and sat down next to him on my phone. Still no conversation but I didn’t expect much. When the footy was done, we all went inside to watch a movie and one of his brothers accused me of taking all his time away because it’s boys night. I had barely seen my ex the entire day and I spent most of the day playing with his son so for him to accuse me like that, I felt attacked. So we had a big fight. I told him he can pay me for looking after his son the entire day because I’m not a babysitter. My ex knew I hated kids. And to his defence he was on my side during this fight with his brother. After watching a movie we all went to bed. My ex and I did the nasty and went to sleep. We didn’t even talk. The next morning he wanted to watch some movies but decided to put on 2 movies I voiced verbally that I didn’t want to watch. You can imagine how seedy I’m starting to feel at this point. Halfway through the second movie, his mum comes home, we say hi. She goes outside to spend time with her partner. After about 15 minutes my ex says he’s going outside to grab a beer. Imagine my shock when the movie finished and he still hasn’t come back inside. I went to the bedroom and had a moment to think and try and calm myself down. He did come in and check on me and I told him I just need a moment but I want a hug. His response was “it’s too hot in here. I’m going back outside!” So I told him I was going to leave in a moment then. He just walked off. This was the start of my breakdown. I packed my things and walked outside and he asked where I was going. I flat out said “I told you I was leaving and you ignored me and walked away” He walked me out to the car and then asked if I was alright. I said no and I broke down crying. I’m talking full ugly crocodile tears, gasping for breath, non vocal emotional breakdown. While he gave me hug… as pitiful as it was … still appreciate the gesture. He said he loved me and before I could even breath in let alone say anything he’s pushing me away said “ fuck this get your shit together I’m done!” And walks away from me. Didn’t even check to see if I was alright. When I got home … if I got home … nothing. This is the only thing Ive brought up let alone fight about. This was our first big fight. Many more to happen like him accusing me of cheating. Me being “emotional” and that I was the one to always start the fights because I asked if he wanted kids ?… I thought it was a yes or no question but it turned into a fight and him accusing me of starting a fight… that was our entire relationship really. My self esteem killed and arose many insecurities because of him.
About 3 months after we started dating I confessed I wanted a kid with him and I was ready. He has a habit of blocking me after fights and expects me to chase him up to fix things and I stupidly always did because I wanted things to work. He told me he no longer wanted kids but if it happens it happens. This is where the mental abuse was really bad. My family and friends didn’t like him but I still wanted to make things work. We had a major fight and broke up. He blocked me and like my naive self I still tried to get hold of him after everything. After a couple of weeks he said he wanted to fix things up. I invited him over and we had a talk and one thing led to another… We had dinner and he had a fight with my parents and things got pretty heated. Many things were said on both sides but what really topped it was when he threatened my entire family. I kicked him out of the house and he called me childish.
The next morning, I messaged him again asking what last night was about. he said I “had issues and I need to fix them. I am not mentally fit for him. He’s a grown adult and only wants happiness, not a hormonal child.”
A couple days ago my friend and I took our monthly test. Her hoping she is positive and me hoping I’m negative. Imagine our shock when we find mine positive. After the shock wore off, i Messaged my ex to let him know but my text never got delivered which means he blocked me again.
I’ve gotten to a point that I’ve tried so hard to contact him every time in the past to fix things, so right now I really can’t be bothered. I’ve sent my message to let him know but that’s as far as things go on my side. My friend says I’m valid in my feelings but my family says I should try harder to contact him to let him know because he’s the father.
I always told him that if anything happened to us and we had kids, he would still be able to see them but after him threatening my family, how do I know he’s not gonna threaten our child too? I’m only 6 weeks along and everything is still new. I’m done with him and want him out of my life but it doesn’t mean the feelings aren’t still there. I don’t want our child to turn out to be someone like him. I might not even carry to full term due to my health and the cancer, but for now this is my baby and as far as I’m aware, I’ve tried to tell him but I’m done. I’ve put myself through so much with him already that I’m not going to risk my already unstable pregnancy.
So AITAH for not trying harder to tell my ex he’s going to be a father?