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2024.05.21 12:48 DesertTreasureII Kicked out by parents, instantly want me back. What gives?
Recently my nmother decided to kick me out because I held a boundary with her. I refused to pick her up from work because an issue I wanted addressed was not addressed, so I allowed myself to say no and not have to explain myself.
My nmom's response was to have my enabler dad come upstairs and say that they think it's best I find somewhere else to live.
Next day I throw away half of my possessions because where I'm going I won't be able to take them, and pack what little I had left into my suitcases and left. Thankfully I had somewhere to go, and I am wanted and safe there.
My parents watched me do this. Watched me throw away items that I deemed "non-essential" because they would have nowhere to go.
Next day I get a long message from my nmom saying it was her decision to kick me out (no duh) and that it wasn't an easy one. She spewed off about her abusive past and how I don't have it half as bad as she did and blah blah blah. The problem is she ended the message the way I knew she would "we are proud of you and we love you and we want you to come home."
They watched me pack up my life in an instant, and leave. I called that this was going to happen. Why do they do it? I just cannot understand. One second I'm being kicked out, I actually go and they instantly want me to come back.
They deployed my flying monkey brother when I didn't reply to the message. I've realised now after all this time I have to be careful what I tell him. So I kept shtum. I knew if I told him I don't plan on going back it would get worse, so I just said I don't know what I'm doing yet. I have no intentions of going back, though.
Anyone else experienced this? Anything else I should expect? I never thought my parents would do this to me, but I'm beginning to realise I don't know what they're capable of.
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My nmom's response was to have my enabler dad come upstairs and say that they think it's best I find somewhere else to live.
Next day I throw away half of my possessions because where I'm going I won't be able to take them, and pack what little I had left into my suitcases and left. Thankfully I had somewhere to go, and I am wanted and safe there.
My parents watched me do this. Watched me throw away items that I deemed "non-essential" because they would have nowhere to go.
Next day I get a long message from my nmom saying it was her decision to kick me out (no duh) and that it wasn't an easy one. She spewed off about her abusive past and how I don't have it half as bad as she did and blah blah blah. The problem is she ended the message the way I knew she would "we are proud of you and we love you and we want you to come home."
They watched me pack up my life in an instant, and leave. I called that this was going to happen. Why do they do it? I just cannot understand. One second I'm being kicked out, I actually go and they instantly want me to come back.
They deployed my flying monkey brother when I didn't reply to the message. I've realised now after all this time I have to be careful what I tell him. So I kept shtum. I knew if I told him I don't plan on going back it would get worse, so I just said I don't know what I'm doing yet. I have no intentions of going back, though.
Anyone else experienced this? Anything else I should expect? I never thought my parents would do this to me, but I'm beginning to realise I don't know what they're capable of.
2024.05.21 12:43 No_Pause8153 I (28M) got angry at a joke my girlfriend (29F) made last night during dinner and now things are back to being shaky between us.
Hi folks,
Longtime lurker and first-time poster here. I need a (relatively) unbiased perspective on something that happened last night with my girlfriend.
For context, things between us have been touch and go for the past two months. A combination of issues we had when we first started dating resurfacing and long-distance (she's been working out of the country since March but will be back in about ten days) has made it hard to soothe each other during such times.
Things yesterday were more than okay. Actually, they were great. The warmth that we had at the start of the year when she was still here was back. She was affectionate, loving, cracking jokes, smiling, laughing, etc. I felt great. We decided to prepare dinner together that night on FaceTime, and things were going stellar.
Until she was jokingly telling me to stop singing this one song that she hated and I told her "to relax" in a non-serious tone. I instantly went, "Oh shit haha I'm so sorry, don't take my head off," because I remembered how she hates it when someone tells her to "relax." She clapped back, saying, "Haha don't tell me to relax, I'll fucking punch you in the face." And that is when I got pissed.
I'm a sensitive guy. I always have been. It is something that has caused me a lot of anguish in my previous relationship because I can very quickly get upset about small things. For some reason, I've always had an issue with this kind of language in relationships. Violence. Do I think my girlfriend would actually punch me in the face? Of course not. But for whatever reason, I've always been hyper-sensitive to this kind of talk. I also despise it when anyone goes for my face in a joking manner, whether it's some rough housing with my dad or my friends, or my significant other jokingly giving me a couple of taps on the face.
I've never been physically abused in my life. My parents never laid a hand on me. I've never been physically bullied, either. So I really don't know where this aversion to physical or verbal jokes of this kind comes from.
I got a little pissed. I didn't shout, scream, or throw a tantrum. But I was visibly upset. She asked me why I was so pissed since she was clearly joking and said she would never actually punch me. I said I don't like that kind of language being thrown around even as a joke, to which she said, "Who hurt you?"
She went on to say that if this triggered a soft spot because of something that happened to me, I should communicate that to her. But I can't expect her to understand that if I've never told her. I said nothing happened to me. I've never been physically abused, so there's no "trauma" underlying it. It's just something I don't enjoy. No need to overanalyze it.
That sentence kicked my anger up a few notches. I guess reflecting on it, it felt invalidating. It frustrated me. I said, "Who hurt me? Do you really want to take it there? Is that how you want to handle this?"
I was pretty sure I knew why that sentence hurt me. I was in an emotionally abusive, toxic relationship for five years with a borderline narcississt. My girlfriend knows this. She knows how bad it was. And I guess the crass nature of the 'who hurt you?' comment reminded me of a time earlier in my relationship with my current girlfriend where we were having an argument and she said, "Do I have to treat you like shit to have you?" Which was a clear reference to my previous relationship. She has since apologized for that comment, after I told her how profoundly invalidating and wrong it is to say something like that.
The thing is. My girlfriend has a tendency to say things that come off as rude, hurtful, or invalidating when she's upset. And I think this whole situation triggered that fight or flight response after the 'Who hurt you?' debacle.
Back to the current issue....
I was flooded, so I told her I'd call her back after I've cooled off. I took five minutes to relax and then called her back. I apologized for my "overreaction" to her joke and explained to her that generally, I don't enjoy these kinds of jokes.
She went on to say that she finds me getting upset at something like this, to the degree that I did get upset, "kind of ridiculous."
I told her I understand. I said it was unfair to get roused up like that. I told her it's all water under the bridge now and I know she didn't mean anything she said seriously. I reiterated that I don't appreciate these kinds of jokes and that I don't think it's a big ask not to make them in our relationship. She agreed.
After we spoke about it, I couldn't shake the feeling that her telling me my reaction was "ridiculous" and me doubling down by saying it was "unfair" to her was, in reality, unfair to me, and invalidating for me.
Either way, it seemed like the damage was done, though. She was cold for the rest of the night while we watched something on Netflix. The jokey, smiling, sensual person that was there a few minutes ago was replaced by a cold, frustrated, avoidant person. Things were just lukewarm for the rest of the night. She was back to feeling super anxious about all the things we were going through and I was back to feeling like garbage. My anxiety was through the roof. My heart was beating like I was running away from a tiger. I felt sick to my stomach.
I wanted to beat myself up to a pulp. My internal monologue went straight into self-hatred mode. "Why are you like this? This is all your fault. Things were fine, but your sensitive, fragile ass just had to have a moment, right? You couldn't just enjoy the present moment. You couldn't take two seconds to calm your nervous system down before overreacting. Now she probably feels like she has to walk on eggshells around you. She probably thinks you're a baby. You're not a real man. A real man wouldn't throw a childish tantrum like this over a silly fucking joke. You just gave her the ick. You triggered her, and now she's anxious and feeling like crap, and so are you. You just can't have nice things, can you? You have to self-sabotage, don't you?"
I didn't give into the monologue. I took ten minutes to record a voice note to myself, speaking to myself as though I was a friend. I told myself that while I may have overreacted, I did the right thing by taking accountability and apologizing. I also reminded myself that what I had done was far from a "tantrum." I didn't scream, shout, break stuff, or name-call. I didn't blame her, hold it against her for the rest of the night, or stonewall.
The issue that I am dealing with and have always dealt with in these situations is the intense feelings of shame and guilt that come about after these moments. In addition, I feel like I can never truly validate my feelings. Sure, I recorded that voice note as an exercise to try to rewire that awful, abusive self-talk in my head, but I still felt like the whole situation was entirely my fault. I still sort of blame myself for how she is feeling now. I blame myself for disrupting a moment of peace and well-being in our relationship. And I also know that I am prone to self-sabotage, so that makes it even more difficult to find the middle ground between taking responsibility for my actions and validating my feelings.
Was I being extra? Was I really overreacting? Is my insecure attachment causing me to overanalyze or interpret my girlfriend's actions after the initial episode I had? Did she really invalidate how I was feeling by asking the "who hurt you?" question in a somewhat sarcastic way as well as telling me that it was ridiculous of me to get angry at such a thing? Was I really being unfair to her by reacting how I did? Is my nervous system just picking up on a pattern of invalidating behaviour and the anger after the 'who hurt you?' comment is a natural reaction to that? It is the morning after that situation, and I am feeling rather distant towards her. I feel almost sick in my stomach. As though I'm seeing a side to her that I shouldn't ignore. But again, I think as people with insecure attachments we have this tendency to either put people on an insane pedestal to which they will inevitably fall short of or label any behaviour as a 'red flag'.
I'm not looking for a pity party. I want honest opinions, please. If I was really in the wrong, I want to hear that perspective.
TL;DR:
Things have been touch and go with my girlfriend due to resurfacing issues and long-distance challenges. Last night on FaceTime, she joked about punching me in the face, which upset me as I'm sensitive to violent language. I expressed my discomfort, and she responded with a sarcastic "who hurt you?" This reminded me of a past abusive relationship. I took a break to calm down and apologized, but she called my reaction "ridiculous." She became cold afterward, making me anxious and self-critical. Now, I feel conflicted, wondering if my reaction was an overreaction or if her responses were invalidating. Am I overanalyzing due to my insecure attachment style, or is this a red flag? Seeking honest opinions.
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Longtime lurker and first-time poster here. I need a (relatively) unbiased perspective on something that happened last night with my girlfriend.
For context, things between us have been touch and go for the past two months. A combination of issues we had when we first started dating resurfacing and long-distance (she's been working out of the country since March but will be back in about ten days) has made it hard to soothe each other during such times.
Things yesterday were more than okay. Actually, they were great. The warmth that we had at the start of the year when she was still here was back. She was affectionate, loving, cracking jokes, smiling, laughing, etc. I felt great. We decided to prepare dinner together that night on FaceTime, and things were going stellar.
Until she was jokingly telling me to stop singing this one song that she hated and I told her "to relax" in a non-serious tone. I instantly went, "Oh shit haha I'm so sorry, don't take my head off," because I remembered how she hates it when someone tells her to "relax." She clapped back, saying, "Haha don't tell me to relax, I'll fucking punch you in the face." And that is when I got pissed.
I'm a sensitive guy. I always have been. It is something that has caused me a lot of anguish in my previous relationship because I can very quickly get upset about small things. For some reason, I've always had an issue with this kind of language in relationships. Violence. Do I think my girlfriend would actually punch me in the face? Of course not. But for whatever reason, I've always been hyper-sensitive to this kind of talk. I also despise it when anyone goes for my face in a joking manner, whether it's some rough housing with my dad or my friends, or my significant other jokingly giving me a couple of taps on the face.
I've never been physically abused in my life. My parents never laid a hand on me. I've never been physically bullied, either. So I really don't know where this aversion to physical or verbal jokes of this kind comes from.
I got a little pissed. I didn't shout, scream, or throw a tantrum. But I was visibly upset. She asked me why I was so pissed since she was clearly joking and said she would never actually punch me. I said I don't like that kind of language being thrown around even as a joke, to which she said, "Who hurt you?"
She went on to say that if this triggered a soft spot because of something that happened to me, I should communicate that to her. But I can't expect her to understand that if I've never told her. I said nothing happened to me. I've never been physically abused, so there's no "trauma" underlying it. It's just something I don't enjoy. No need to overanalyze it.
That sentence kicked my anger up a few notches. I guess reflecting on it, it felt invalidating. It frustrated me. I said, "Who hurt me? Do you really want to take it there? Is that how you want to handle this?"
I was pretty sure I knew why that sentence hurt me. I was in an emotionally abusive, toxic relationship for five years with a borderline narcississt. My girlfriend knows this. She knows how bad it was. And I guess the crass nature of the 'who hurt you?' comment reminded me of a time earlier in my relationship with my current girlfriend where we were having an argument and she said, "Do I have to treat you like shit to have you?" Which was a clear reference to my previous relationship. She has since apologized for that comment, after I told her how profoundly invalidating and wrong it is to say something like that.
The thing is. My girlfriend has a tendency to say things that come off as rude, hurtful, or invalidating when she's upset. And I think this whole situation triggered that fight or flight response after the 'Who hurt you?' debacle.
Back to the current issue....
I was flooded, so I told her I'd call her back after I've cooled off. I took five minutes to relax and then called her back. I apologized for my "overreaction" to her joke and explained to her that generally, I don't enjoy these kinds of jokes.
She went on to say that she finds me getting upset at something like this, to the degree that I did get upset, "kind of ridiculous."
I told her I understand. I said it was unfair to get roused up like that. I told her it's all water under the bridge now and I know she didn't mean anything she said seriously. I reiterated that I don't appreciate these kinds of jokes and that I don't think it's a big ask not to make them in our relationship. She agreed.
After we spoke about it, I couldn't shake the feeling that her telling me my reaction was "ridiculous" and me doubling down by saying it was "unfair" to her was, in reality, unfair to me, and invalidating for me.
Either way, it seemed like the damage was done, though. She was cold for the rest of the night while we watched something on Netflix. The jokey, smiling, sensual person that was there a few minutes ago was replaced by a cold, frustrated, avoidant person. Things were just lukewarm for the rest of the night. She was back to feeling super anxious about all the things we were going through and I was back to feeling like garbage. My anxiety was through the roof. My heart was beating like I was running away from a tiger. I felt sick to my stomach.
I wanted to beat myself up to a pulp. My internal monologue went straight into self-hatred mode. "Why are you like this? This is all your fault. Things were fine, but your sensitive, fragile ass just had to have a moment, right? You couldn't just enjoy the present moment. You couldn't take two seconds to calm your nervous system down before overreacting. Now she probably feels like she has to walk on eggshells around you. She probably thinks you're a baby. You're not a real man. A real man wouldn't throw a childish tantrum like this over a silly fucking joke. You just gave her the ick. You triggered her, and now she's anxious and feeling like crap, and so are you. You just can't have nice things, can you? You have to self-sabotage, don't you?"
I didn't give into the monologue. I took ten minutes to record a voice note to myself, speaking to myself as though I was a friend. I told myself that while I may have overreacted, I did the right thing by taking accountability and apologizing. I also reminded myself that what I had done was far from a "tantrum." I didn't scream, shout, break stuff, or name-call. I didn't blame her, hold it against her for the rest of the night, or stonewall.
The issue that I am dealing with and have always dealt with in these situations is the intense feelings of shame and guilt that come about after these moments. In addition, I feel like I can never truly validate my feelings. Sure, I recorded that voice note as an exercise to try to rewire that awful, abusive self-talk in my head, but I still felt like the whole situation was entirely my fault. I still sort of blame myself for how she is feeling now. I blame myself for disrupting a moment of peace and well-being in our relationship. And I also know that I am prone to self-sabotage, so that makes it even more difficult to find the middle ground between taking responsibility for my actions and validating my feelings.
Was I being extra? Was I really overreacting? Is my insecure attachment causing me to overanalyze or interpret my girlfriend's actions after the initial episode I had? Did she really invalidate how I was feeling by asking the "who hurt you?" question in a somewhat sarcastic way as well as telling me that it was ridiculous of me to get angry at such a thing? Was I really being unfair to her by reacting how I did? Is my nervous system just picking up on a pattern of invalidating behaviour and the anger after the 'who hurt you?' comment is a natural reaction to that? It is the morning after that situation, and I am feeling rather distant towards her. I feel almost sick in my stomach. As though I'm seeing a side to her that I shouldn't ignore. But again, I think as people with insecure attachments we have this tendency to either put people on an insane pedestal to which they will inevitably fall short of or label any behaviour as a 'red flag'.
I'm not looking for a pity party. I want honest opinions, please. If I was really in the wrong, I want to hear that perspective.
TL;DR:
Things have been touch and go with my girlfriend due to resurfacing issues and long-distance challenges. Last night on FaceTime, she joked about punching me in the face, which upset me as I'm sensitive to violent language. I expressed my discomfort, and she responded with a sarcastic "who hurt you?" This reminded me of a past abusive relationship. I took a break to calm down and apologized, but she called my reaction "ridiculous." She became cold afterward, making me anxious and self-critical. Now, I feel conflicted, wondering if my reaction was an overreaction or if her responses were invalidating. Am I overanalyzing due to my insecure attachment style, or is this a red flag? Seeking honest opinions.
2024.05.21 12:31 molty_insides217 might be narcissist parents. i just need others pov plzzzšµāš«š¤§!!!
just looking for other ppls perspectives maybe support idk idk what to do
~rant/vent~
šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
š¤¢they are both closeted RACIST and openly HOMOPHOBIC so you can imagine what they say/have said to me and about other ppl. shit makes me so AHHH. anyways.
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~rant/vent~
šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
š¤¢they are both closeted RACIST and openly HOMOPHOBIC so you can imagine what they say/have said to me and about other ppl. shit makes me so AHHH. anyways.
2024.05.21 12:26 guiltyofnothing āAh thank you for foreignsplain it to usā Drama in /r/Barcelona as users argue over a photo of anti-tourist graffiti
The Context:
/Barcelona is the main sub for the second largest city in Spain and the capital of Catalonia. Long a tourist hotspot, much of the local economy is driven by tourism.OOP posts a picture of graffiti in a park with the message: āTourist: your luxury trip my daily misery.ā [sic]
Users begin debating if this is a fair take, the effect of tourism on the city, and vomiting memes.
For ease of readability to a majority English-speaking audience, Iāve translated some comments from Catalan, poorly.
The Drama:
Is the graffiti expressing a selfish sentiment?What a selfish, shitty thing to say to someone trying to live their best lives and share a bit of the magic you enjoy everyday.[Continued:]
Love this comment! Not all tourists are bad.
Tourism is unsustainable.
So we should all just stick to the respective cities weāre born in? What a lovely, thriving, multi-cultural society thatāll end up in /s
Not all the cities have the same problems. Responsible tourism is a thing
Then why don't you vote for politicians that want to improve the situation?[ā¦]
Tourism tax, restrictions on how many people can visit a park/attraction per day, etc pp.
Instead you get nonstop whining on reddit. Or shared bicycles that can only be rented by Barcelona residents. Wow, good job! The tourism tax is at only 4-5ā¬ per night in Barcelona. Compare that to Berlin where it's a whopping 7% soon (which is usually way higher than 5ā¬).
Who did tell you who I vote for or what I do? [If you want we can talk face to face when you want clown]
Oh no, we got a badass over here. [I didn't say anything like that, of course you tourists are the problem if your head lacks intelligence...]
[It's very good to learn Catalan (good luck with what you have left to reach a decent level, I'm really telling you this with love) but don't put words in other people's mouths without knowing. There are many of us here who are fed up with the borderline situation that the city is living in and if you are a privileged person who doesn't get the slightest bit, I would at least ask you to have the decency to keep quiet when it's time to keep quiet]
No. We should stop travelling at the expense of the plane, the cities and the people's suffering. And locals should resist what makes their lives more difficult. In this case, a tourist model that hikes rents, contaminates and destroys the social fabric of the community displacing people and creating precarious jobs that provide no stability or value. Barcelona can be a great and fun place if you are staying here for a week, or if you are a remote worker that gets paid by a large firm with headquarters in Amsterdam. But that fun can be, and is, disastrous for other people. That search for sun and beach, of parties and stories uploaded to social media causes many problems for others. That's a fact. Non-sustainable tourism is what it is. Tourists and expats (high earning migrants) can be, individually, very nice and conscious folks. But the dynamics they are participating in are the cause of many problems for the city and its inhabitants.[ā¦]
[It's the market, friend.]
The problem isn't the singular tourist. The problem is suffocating hordes of tourists that treat your home like an amusement park or museum.Who are the users of the sub anyway?
Tourism can be a real economic win for a city, but it also has externalities that can kill the very thing that made it special if not kept in check. Barcelona is a great example of this.
I say this both as someone who loves to travel and who lives in a tourist hotspot.
I mean, there is not too much you can do about it besides a ridiculous tax, and that would be a little hypocritical if you love to travel, because traveling should be accessible to the majority of people.
It makes sense to me if you defend the free market, and you put the price on your city or whatever you want to do like a libertarian, but again,it is hypocritical when we see that the political party that won the elections do not like the free market or libertarian politics.
You can't have all.
Woooosh!
That's the sound of everything going over your head
Lmao, it is the definition of being a logical thinker and not being a hypocrite.
Oh sorry, it went so over your head, that you didn't even hear the whoosh.
You're talking politics when I was talking social and economic. So, not much of a logical thinker.
But it doesn't surprise me that Barcelona would vote that way. It's called the resource curse, and by now tourism will have all but killed all other industries. So yeah, they have no choice now. Which is exactly what I was talking about in my second paragraph.
Because 90% of the people answering are expats. They don't fucking care about locals, they mostly despise or ignore them. Most of them live in their own English ghettos, not even bothering about anything else that themselves.Is Barcelona dying?
Biggest load of horseshit Iāve read all day.
You live in fantasy land and itās really, really sad to see. I hope you open your eyes one day.
[How is your Catalan?]
[my Catalan is good. not that it matters]
Nobody ādespisesā Catalans. Every single person I know that has moved here is desperate to get involved with local culture, history and activities. They try their hardest to learn the language. They try their hardest to make more catalan friends.
Classic Reddit perpetual victim.
Barcelona is dying. Soon it will be an empty city, a shiny shell of what had once been alive and authentic. The locals can't face the rent prices, the gentrified shops and bars, we are forced to leave our neighborhoods and give up decent housing.[Continued:]
Looking at rent availability and prices - it is very far from dying.
Are you looking at the prices as a foreigner or as a local? Because wages in Spain for most of us are quite poor, so yes, it's really difficult to find decent housing with those prices
And yet people don't do anything like moving away meaning situation is still not that bad.It will only be expats and tourists here and the 10% rich Catalans in the end. Look at the most common local salary from locals in the city.
When things like that happened in my country - a lot of people emigrated for better work and things normalised at home too.
Economy has a way of fixing itself. No workers to serve tourists - higher wages or fewer tourists.
You're so close to understanding the root of the issue. Yet so far...
Yeah, it's all the fault of the 10% of evil Catalans. OK. Nobody else is responsable or can do anything.
Think a little bit harder. You can do it.[Continued:]
[You're enlightening, kid.]
I give you the answer because you're obviously struggling. It's the wages. Your salary is shit, and there's no excuse for that because you live in a rich region, of a rich country, part of a rich continent.
And once again, one of the greatest success of those profiteering is to turn people like you into the useful idiots by pointing the finger to people from your own social class: in this case, the Ryanair flying middle to low income tourists (yeah, far from luxury holidays), who are the majority of the people visiting this city. And with whom you have much more in common than you realize.
While prices have increased, as it did everywhere around the globe, Barcelona remains a cheap city. And that's exactly the reason why it is such a popular destination across the spectrum of tourists, and especially with low income ones.
So, if you really want to change something, start asking yourself why wages are so low in such a rich region. And at an individual level, negotiate (like I did) an income worth your efforts. And if it's still not enough, keep in mind that 80% of the properties are owned by locals.
You don't know shit about how I fight, or any people like me for a more fair society. Probably way more than you. But this post is about overtourism and touristification. I can care about multiple things and fight multiple fights.
Then this conversation is over, you don't have the intellectual bandwidth to understand something as simple as how low wages are linked to the problem you blame "the tourists" for. Also, if me, an immigrant from a poor Caribbean country, is able to live significantly better than you in a place where I arrived few years ago without speaking the language, ask yourself the right questions about your fighting abilities, and probably your life choices.
Lol you know shit about who I am, my life choices, or the money I earn. Your comment is funny.A user is crowned king:
I'm a socialist. I care about my family and friends, about people who had less oportunities than me. I despise people who only think about themselves, or fight only for themselves. The last part of your comment says a lot about you. Bye.
Sure, keep telling yourself that you're a socialist while defending a xenophobic agenda benefiting the ruling class. Like I said, useful idiots like you are what's keeping the system on its feet. Great work š
When your own city becomes overcrowded all the time and you canāt afford to live in the center because itās so expensive due to tourist/expats money inflating the market, it doesnāt matter how much money āthe cityā makes from tourism, your individual life is affected very negatively and you live worst off than with less tourism. Iām not even a local, but this is not hard to understand.[Continued:]
canāt really blame tourists for systemic issues
Erm, says who, you, the king?
If local wages are lower than abroad (not ideal but would be ok in its own, itās still better than my own country) but due to how attractive the weather and culture is, people from other countries with much higher wages flock here and destroy the market, either by paying much higher (making it impossible for locals) or buying properties to rent (know many who do this, buy something, live in it 3 months of the year, and rent to other expats the rest of the year) - whoās fault is? The locals? lol
then fight for wages, not tourists.
This is why the locals hate you lol
This is why I don't care bro.[ā¦]
[Photo of a beach]
What are you trying to prove? Iām not even a local, I just have more than a brain cell and understand why the locals blame the tourists, which is what was being discussed.
Nothing mate, I just really don't care who hates me. That is my day everyday at 11 am.
You care enough to have made now 3 comments that are totally irrelevant to what was being discussed.
āI donāt care. I swear. I promise! Let me show you that I donāt care. I really donāt care I swearā.
People working in tourism related jobs mostly work part-time, have no indefinido contracts and earn minimum wage. You can google that.What is misery?
Some people are getting rich by tourism, most people are just surviving in it.
But of course 'expats' and tourists who represent most of the sub members and not local or immigrant workers are going to upvote your out of touch comment.
Some of these people need it to survive though
Not the Airbnb owners obviously
I have an Airbnb and I need it to survive.
Get a job.
Misery is that your old neighborhood is full of souvenir shops and none of your friends even live there anymore.Whoās to blame anyway?
Shut the fuck up, Spain has one of the highest living standards in the world. Youāre mad because other people want to visit and have a bit of it in their shitty lives? Spain has it so damn good, the thing youre complaining about is literally a problem around the entire developed world and isnāt necessarily any worse or unique to Barcelona. Stop being so damn dramatic and accept that your āmiseryā is just you disliking seeing foreigners happy.
If you can afford spending hundreds of euros in partying and Airbnbs, why is their life so shitty? Leave your jobs and come work here as a server, try to rent anything with the minimum salary. Barcelona can be a paradise, but the tourist model is making it a hell for the majority.
Yeah, the market is being a problem for everyone everywhere. Now, people in Barcelona have to fight against the effects of the market in the city. As everybody should do in their home cities. A Barcelona for those who build their lives there, not for those who wish to consume and toss it.
Something tells me, me, a guiri, leaving my job and working in Barcelona makes Catalans even more mad than if I were just visiting.
And that something is in the room, here with us?
in fact if you live and work in Catalonia you are a Catalan. so this comment makes 0 sense at all.
Classic losers playing the victim card. Without tourism beautiful Barcelona's economy would be destroyed. But please keep blaming your shortcomings on others.
Barcelona was beautiful before tourism.
If you live in Barcelona, enjoy it. It is and will always be beautiful, and if you truly believe otherwise you are wasting the time you have in one of the worldās greatest cities. Times are tough, yes, but remember that people are also having tough times in the middle of nowhere, without any cultural outlets or ability to find likeminded people. Real estate greed is running rampant the world over, and hopefully it will not last.
Be a part of the solution, never travel again please. Just spend the rest of your life in Barcelona like a hermit. Otherwise you're a fucking hypocrite.
Hypocrite is thinking that tourism is good for the locals.
Ok great. Then be a part of the solution and never travel again. It hurts the locals. Been to London? Been to Berlin? Been to Italy? Greece? Cairo? Are you going to stop travelling and seeing the world? Everyone here knows perfectly well that you won't. It's just childish whining
The Flairs:
2024.05.21 12:23 molty_insides217 just looking for other ppls perspectives :) AMA 2
~rant/vent~
šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
š¤¢they are both closeted RACIST and openly HOMOPHOBIC so you can imagine what they say/have said to me and about other ppl. shit makes me so AHHH. anyways.
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šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
š¤¢they are both closeted RACIST and openly HOMOPHOBIC so you can imagine what they say/have said to me and about other ppl. shit makes me so AHHH. anyways.
2024.05.21 12:03 Prpl_Orchid14 A bittersweet EDC TW:Sexual Assault
I contemplated writing this all day but decided it might be helpful to someone else if I shared my bittersweet EDC 2024 experience.
This year was my second year at EDC, and despite a few negative experiences sprinkled throughout, I honestly had the time of my life.
Saturday, while I was sitting on the turf mound at Basspod VIP, I was assaulted. A guy, weāll call him Mo, had come up to where me, my wife, and my wifeās friend were sitting and started talking to my wife. They chatted briefly. Then, my wife returned to dancing, and Mo turned around talking to someone else.
A few minutes later, Mo tapped me on the shoulder and said, āYou and your wife look so good together.ā I replied, āAww, thank you so much,ā and returned to resume my head banging. Not even five minutes later, as I was zoned out, feeling the music and vibes, I felt something brushing against my back. It was Mo.
Now, I know itās nearly impossible not to brush up against other people, so I try to be super tolerant and understand that most people arenāt trying to be creeps; itās just close quarters.
But no sooner than I had moved forward a bit, I felt someoneās hand underneath my vest pouch fondling and massaging my breast. Initially, when I looked back, I was confused, but I realized that Mo was lying on his back and had reached his hand under my vest.
When I turned around like, āWtf are you doing?ā He threw his hands up and just started apologizing profusely. I tried to tell him to gtfoh and go someplace else because I didnāt feel comfortable with him behind me, but he just kept saying, āIām so sorry, Iām so sorry.ā
I don't know if my wifeās friend, sitting on my right, saw what happened, but I know she saw me fussing at this guy, trying to tell him to gtfoh. She didnāt say or do anything. Then, I told my wife, who had been talking with another couple, what happened, and that I had tried to ask him to go somewhere else because I didnāt feel comfortable with him behind me but that he just stayed there apologizing over and over. She asked if I wanted to switch seats with her or if I wanted her to do anything, and I just said no.
The boy was clearly faded; he had mentioned this to my wife, and I didnāt want to ruin anyoneās experience, so I just turned around and tried to shake it off. I knew this wasnāt the end, and I was ready.
Again, not even five minutes had passed, and I felt a hand grip my right shoulder. I hear Mo start saying, āIām so sorry, Iā¦ā but before he could finish, I turned around and punched him with probably the best right hook of my life. Or maybe it just felt that way because of how good it felt watching his body reel backward and seeing the anger rise in his face as the realization that he just got socked by a 5ā4ā 130 lb female set in.
As soon as I punched him, his friends came rushing in, pulling him back like, āHey, chill! Our friend is just really fucked up right now,ā blah blah blah. My wife turned to see the commotion and was like, āAye, the next time your friend puts his hands on my wife, heās getting beat tf up.āIn response, one of the friends said, āThis is my wife right here, so I understand,ā trying to tell us we needed to calm down. My wife told them basically, āNo, yāall need to get your friend because my wife was just about to cry when your friend was groping her breasts. Do you want to put your wife between him and my wife then?ā
Maybe they only saw him grab my shoulder and me socking him, but no matter how I try to justify it, there are so many things wrong with everything that happened. First, if I ever see a woman straight up punch a man TWICE her size, Iām immediately going to ask her wtf happened and if she is ok.
Second, this experience has taught me a lot. Itās been painful, mainly because it still boggles my mind that sexual assault is so quickly brushed off. Iām not expecting anyone to lay hands on someone for me, but a little solidarity would have gone a long way in that situation.
Iām annoyed it didnāt become a scene until I punched him. No one wanted to get up and stand up to this man after he sexually assaulted me in front of hundreds of peopleābut throw a punch and, wow, the outrage.
None of the friends asked me if I was okay or tried to take him far away from me. I understand my wife and her friend not stepping in too much in the beginning; it is a man who is bigger and likely stronger, and women are often afraid that worse will happen if they make a scene, but still. If we all stood up to him and forced him to leave after assaulting me, it would have felt a hell of a lot better than having to wait to be touched again so that I could physically handle it myself.
With that, my only request is that my fellow rave-goers, please donāt be a bystander or an enabling friend. If you see something, say something. Every conflict doesnāt have to be resolved by violence. Myself and even five other people standing up to Mo saying hey you need to leave or thereās gonna be a scene, would have likely been enough to pressure him to find somewhere else to be a creep. Instead, I had to sit with this man less than a foot behind me who had just fondled and groped my breast and waited for him to strike again to defend myself. Even after I hit him, he and his friends just stayed. Please be the friend that understands when shit has gone too far, and get your friend somewhere different if they are being a nuisance.
Itās a hollowing experience. After I punched him, though, I felt 10000000 times better. Iām saddened that thatās what it had to come to, but the actions of everyone around me indicated that handling it myself was the only option. Maybe everyone around was too fucked up to register what was happening; perhaps they thought it would be better if they minded their own business, I donāt know.
The best part, though, was that afterward, a guy with a bag of wooden fucks gave me one. He said I had zero fucks when I punched that guy, so hereās a fuck. That was genuinely the highlight of my weekend, and if anyone knows this zero fucks given guy, send him my appreciation.
Despite this interaction, I had the most incredible time for the remainder of my weekend. For this one jackass, hundreds of people were kind to me in small ways throughout the weekend. Shout out to all my Basshead headbangers and our new friends from New Mexico, Steve-O, and Alexis, who were ready to find Mo for a little āchatā after we told them what happened later that day. Although we didnāt take them up on the offer, thatās the kind of showing up that I appreciate. I canāt wait to see you all underneath the electric sky again next year.
TLDR: I was groped by a stranger, no one batted an eye, then I punched him, and suddenly, I need to chill. Please donāt be a bystander. See something, say something.
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This year was my second year at EDC, and despite a few negative experiences sprinkled throughout, I honestly had the time of my life.
Saturday, while I was sitting on the turf mound at Basspod VIP, I was assaulted. A guy, weāll call him Mo, had come up to where me, my wife, and my wifeās friend were sitting and started talking to my wife. They chatted briefly. Then, my wife returned to dancing, and Mo turned around talking to someone else.
A few minutes later, Mo tapped me on the shoulder and said, āYou and your wife look so good together.ā I replied, āAww, thank you so much,ā and returned to resume my head banging. Not even five minutes later, as I was zoned out, feeling the music and vibes, I felt something brushing against my back. It was Mo.
Now, I know itās nearly impossible not to brush up against other people, so I try to be super tolerant and understand that most people arenāt trying to be creeps; itās just close quarters.
But no sooner than I had moved forward a bit, I felt someoneās hand underneath my vest pouch fondling and massaging my breast. Initially, when I looked back, I was confused, but I realized that Mo was lying on his back and had reached his hand under my vest.
When I turned around like, āWtf are you doing?ā He threw his hands up and just started apologizing profusely. I tried to tell him to gtfoh and go someplace else because I didnāt feel comfortable with him behind me, but he just kept saying, āIām so sorry, Iām so sorry.ā
I don't know if my wifeās friend, sitting on my right, saw what happened, but I know she saw me fussing at this guy, trying to tell him to gtfoh. She didnāt say or do anything. Then, I told my wife, who had been talking with another couple, what happened, and that I had tried to ask him to go somewhere else because I didnāt feel comfortable with him behind me but that he just stayed there apologizing over and over. She asked if I wanted to switch seats with her or if I wanted her to do anything, and I just said no.
The boy was clearly faded; he had mentioned this to my wife, and I didnāt want to ruin anyoneās experience, so I just turned around and tried to shake it off. I knew this wasnāt the end, and I was ready.
Again, not even five minutes had passed, and I felt a hand grip my right shoulder. I hear Mo start saying, āIām so sorry, Iā¦ā but before he could finish, I turned around and punched him with probably the best right hook of my life. Or maybe it just felt that way because of how good it felt watching his body reel backward and seeing the anger rise in his face as the realization that he just got socked by a 5ā4ā 130 lb female set in.
As soon as I punched him, his friends came rushing in, pulling him back like, āHey, chill! Our friend is just really fucked up right now,ā blah blah blah. My wife turned to see the commotion and was like, āAye, the next time your friend puts his hands on my wife, heās getting beat tf up.āIn response, one of the friends said, āThis is my wife right here, so I understand,ā trying to tell us we needed to calm down. My wife told them basically, āNo, yāall need to get your friend because my wife was just about to cry when your friend was groping her breasts. Do you want to put your wife between him and my wife then?ā
Maybe they only saw him grab my shoulder and me socking him, but no matter how I try to justify it, there are so many things wrong with everything that happened. First, if I ever see a woman straight up punch a man TWICE her size, Iām immediately going to ask her wtf happened and if she is ok.
Second, this experience has taught me a lot. Itās been painful, mainly because it still boggles my mind that sexual assault is so quickly brushed off. Iām not expecting anyone to lay hands on someone for me, but a little solidarity would have gone a long way in that situation.
Iām annoyed it didnāt become a scene until I punched him. No one wanted to get up and stand up to this man after he sexually assaulted me in front of hundreds of peopleābut throw a punch and, wow, the outrage.
None of the friends asked me if I was okay or tried to take him far away from me. I understand my wife and her friend not stepping in too much in the beginning; it is a man who is bigger and likely stronger, and women are often afraid that worse will happen if they make a scene, but still. If we all stood up to him and forced him to leave after assaulting me, it would have felt a hell of a lot better than having to wait to be touched again so that I could physically handle it myself.
With that, my only request is that my fellow rave-goers, please donāt be a bystander or an enabling friend. If you see something, say something. Every conflict doesnāt have to be resolved by violence. Myself and even five other people standing up to Mo saying hey you need to leave or thereās gonna be a scene, would have likely been enough to pressure him to find somewhere else to be a creep. Instead, I had to sit with this man less than a foot behind me who had just fondled and groped my breast and waited for him to strike again to defend myself. Even after I hit him, he and his friends just stayed. Please be the friend that understands when shit has gone too far, and get your friend somewhere different if they are being a nuisance.
Itās a hollowing experience. After I punched him, though, I felt 10000000 times better. Iām saddened that thatās what it had to come to, but the actions of everyone around me indicated that handling it myself was the only option. Maybe everyone around was too fucked up to register what was happening; perhaps they thought it would be better if they minded their own business, I donāt know.
The best part, though, was that afterward, a guy with a bag of wooden fucks gave me one. He said I had zero fucks when I punched that guy, so hereās a fuck. That was genuinely the highlight of my weekend, and if anyone knows this zero fucks given guy, send him my appreciation.
Despite this interaction, I had the most incredible time for the remainder of my weekend. For this one jackass, hundreds of people were kind to me in small ways throughout the weekend. Shout out to all my Basshead headbangers and our new friends from New Mexico, Steve-O, and Alexis, who were ready to find Mo for a little āchatā after we told them what happened later that day. Although we didnāt take them up on the offer, thatās the kind of showing up that I appreciate. I canāt wait to see you all underneath the electric sky again next year.
TLDR: I was groped by a stranger, no one batted an eye, then I punched him, and suddenly, I need to chill. Please donāt be a bystander. See something, say something.
2024.05.21 12:01 Insomniakai I [M23] got into a FwB with my bestfriend [F23] What are the chances I can take this into something more?
Hi everyone,
I'd like to get this off my chest and ask for advice on things I may be able to do or even something to think about.
I'd also like to share a brief history of us for context.
We met about 5-6 years ago in Highschool and eventually became best friends, as far as I can remember. Our relationship has been platonic at least until 2 years ago which was when I think I've started having feelings for her.
I can't remember what changed, all I knew after knowing her for a while that I see something in her that I adore.
I chose not to say anything to for a while due to the fact that she was in a relationship. I respect relationships too much to become a problem or get in between of one because I've experienced first hand how it feels like when a 3rd party ruins a relationship.
Eventually they broke up and I mustered up the courage to confess to her how I felt. She was at a loss of words and didn't know what to say. I remember telling her that night she didn't have to say anything, just think it over. After a week or two, she asked me to meet her and she was quite drunk.
I might be wrong but I'm a firm believer of "Drunk words are Sober thoughts" just from experience of what people have told me while intoxicated.
She was a mess, but I wanted to be there for her. I remember she told me that she felt safe around me and if I do like her, then prove it.
It was very tempting but I did give her a kiss that night. She wanted to keep going and take it somewhere but I stopped it. It just didn't feel right and I didn't want to take advantage of her vulnerability.
We talked about giving it a shot and seeing where it leads to but unfortunately she spiraled down and got depressed and shut down all connections. We didnt talk for a while, next time we talked. I find out she was in a new relationship which of course sucked for me.
But I respect her decision. We started catching up and eventually she expressed that I was starting to become a problem with her current relationship as the bf doesn't like the fact with had a small history which I understand so I decided to back off because I would hate to be a problem in someone's relationship.
I got into a relationship of my own that lasted for about a year and my best friend and I didnt talk at all for that duration.
I got into a toxic relationship which pretty much controlled my social connections so going out after that relationship, I didn't have much friends to connect with and it was getting lonely.
I had no ill intentions and I reached out to bestfriend again, I just wanted my friend back. We started catching up again, all is good. I was even opening up to her all the shit I've been through from my previous relationship which a whole story of its own. I've compromised too much of myself, and it was never enough type of deal.
After a month and a half or so, I wanted to lay some boundaries given our past. As I came into some realization. I expressed to her that I don't think my attraction for her will change. My emotional and physical attraction for her is just a lot to simply just get over off. I told her that I will understand if she doesn't want to proceed being friends again because of this, but I can live with it as long as she's okay with it. I just thought it's something that should be said instead of keeping it in.
She thanked me for my honesty and after a week or so. She's been wanting to tell me about what she was going through but hesitant but finally decided to open up. She told me that she also broke up with her partner, just weeks/month apart after I ended mine due to same reasons, she had to get out of it.
I wasn't getting any ideas, and I just wanted to provide comfort and that's when things start changing.
One restless night, she was out drinking and I couldn't sleep and we started talking and she asked me to come at her friend's place where she was hanging out. I said sure, why not. But as soon as I came there, she was acting very different. More physical that she ever was towards me. We were sitting on the couch and she would lean on back on me and lean her head to either my chest or shoulders.
After they called it a night, we decided to hangout because she didnt want to go home yet. We hanged out and talked about a lot of stuffs and eventually talked about our friendship. She brought up that she never gave me the chance before because she was afraid of hurting me.
I told her that just sounds a lazy excuse, and Id rather risk getting hurt than not getting a chance with her.
On thing led to another, we were cuddling, I was embracing, providing her comfort and warmth. I tried preventing any sexual acts as I didn't want to take advantage of her current state, I tried to embrace her tightly and just give her comfort as she was having a rough time. But she's expressed to me how pent up she was and cant control herself around me.
I can only resist so much when someone is practically throwing herself at me.
After that, we officially became friends with benefits.
She's quite aware that my intentions with her is more than what we currently have. I do like this girl, a lot. But I've heard from people that we both practically doomed ourselves with our situation as it can only lead to either a long relationship or the friendship would be over once we meet someone else, as our new SO would most likely not be okay being close with FwB history.
Has anyone gone through this same thing and had a positive outcome?
Any advise or wisdom is definitely welcome, I apologize if I overshared too much details before I can get to the point, I just wanted to provide context. I'm happy to answer additional questions as well in exchange for your opinion.
submitted by Insomniakai to relationship_advice [link] [comments]
I'd like to get this off my chest and ask for advice on things I may be able to do or even something to think about.
I'd also like to share a brief history of us for context.
We met about 5-6 years ago in Highschool and eventually became best friends, as far as I can remember. Our relationship has been platonic at least until 2 years ago which was when I think I've started having feelings for her.
I can't remember what changed, all I knew after knowing her for a while that I see something in her that I adore.
I chose not to say anything to for a while due to the fact that she was in a relationship. I respect relationships too much to become a problem or get in between of one because I've experienced first hand how it feels like when a 3rd party ruins a relationship.
Eventually they broke up and I mustered up the courage to confess to her how I felt. She was at a loss of words and didn't know what to say. I remember telling her that night she didn't have to say anything, just think it over. After a week or two, she asked me to meet her and she was quite drunk.
I might be wrong but I'm a firm believer of "Drunk words are Sober thoughts" just from experience of what people have told me while intoxicated.
She was a mess, but I wanted to be there for her. I remember she told me that she felt safe around me and if I do like her, then prove it.
It was very tempting but I did give her a kiss that night. She wanted to keep going and take it somewhere but I stopped it. It just didn't feel right and I didn't want to take advantage of her vulnerability.
We talked about giving it a shot and seeing where it leads to but unfortunately she spiraled down and got depressed and shut down all connections. We didnt talk for a while, next time we talked. I find out she was in a new relationship which of course sucked for me.
But I respect her decision. We started catching up and eventually she expressed that I was starting to become a problem with her current relationship as the bf doesn't like the fact with had a small history which I understand so I decided to back off because I would hate to be a problem in someone's relationship.
I got into a relationship of my own that lasted for about a year and my best friend and I didnt talk at all for that duration.
I got into a toxic relationship which pretty much controlled my social connections so going out after that relationship, I didn't have much friends to connect with and it was getting lonely.
I had no ill intentions and I reached out to bestfriend again, I just wanted my friend back. We started catching up again, all is good. I was even opening up to her all the shit I've been through from my previous relationship which a whole story of its own. I've compromised too much of myself, and it was never enough type of deal.
After a month and a half or so, I wanted to lay some boundaries given our past. As I came into some realization. I expressed to her that I don't think my attraction for her will change. My emotional and physical attraction for her is just a lot to simply just get over off. I told her that I will understand if she doesn't want to proceed being friends again because of this, but I can live with it as long as she's okay with it. I just thought it's something that should be said instead of keeping it in.
She thanked me for my honesty and after a week or so. She's been wanting to tell me about what she was going through but hesitant but finally decided to open up. She told me that she also broke up with her partner, just weeks/month apart after I ended mine due to same reasons, she had to get out of it.
I wasn't getting any ideas, and I just wanted to provide comfort and that's when things start changing.
One restless night, she was out drinking and I couldn't sleep and we started talking and she asked me to come at her friend's place where she was hanging out. I said sure, why not. But as soon as I came there, she was acting very different. More physical that she ever was towards me. We were sitting on the couch and she would lean on back on me and lean her head to either my chest or shoulders.
After they called it a night, we decided to hangout because she didnt want to go home yet. We hanged out and talked about a lot of stuffs and eventually talked about our friendship. She brought up that she never gave me the chance before because she was afraid of hurting me.
I told her that just sounds a lazy excuse, and Id rather risk getting hurt than not getting a chance with her.
On thing led to another, we were cuddling, I was embracing, providing her comfort and warmth. I tried preventing any sexual acts as I didn't want to take advantage of her current state, I tried to embrace her tightly and just give her comfort as she was having a rough time. But she's expressed to me how pent up she was and cant control herself around me.
I can only resist so much when someone is practically throwing herself at me.
After that, we officially became friends with benefits.
She's quite aware that my intentions with her is more than what we currently have. I do like this girl, a lot. But I've heard from people that we both practically doomed ourselves with our situation as it can only lead to either a long relationship or the friendship would be over once we meet someone else, as our new SO would most likely not be okay being close with FwB history.
Has anyone gone through this same thing and had a positive outcome?
Any advise or wisdom is definitely welcome, I apologize if I overshared too much details before I can get to the point, I just wanted to provide context. I'm happy to answer additional questions as well in exchange for your opinion.
2024.05.21 11:59 GhoulGriin Best Cold Steel Zweihander
 | submitted by GhoulGriin to u/GhoulGriin [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/e8ggp1kw5r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=de98652dca6551ade905df740bd7029183caae05 Are you in search of the perfect weapon for your next outdoor adventure? Look no further than the Cold Steel Zweihander, a versatile and durable tool designed for both aesthetics and functionality. In this roundup article, we'll dive into the world of the Cold Steel Zweihander, exploring its features, benefits, and how it can enhance your outdoor experience. So, grab your favorite beverage and get ready to embark on the journey to discover this exceptional product. The Top 7 Best Cold Steel Zweihander
ReviewsšClassic Cold Steel Tanto Point Boot Knifehttps://preview.redd.it/m478jzbx5r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b12367a7d6b86bcd3295d155af2867a3d0fb7c77 As someone who often finds themselves in need of a reliable blade for everyday use, I've had the pleasure of testing out the Cold Steel Kobun. This lightweight Tanto styled boot knife is definitely a handy addition to have on hand. I was instantly impressed by its sharp, reinforced point that contrasts with the thin blades commonly found in other boots knives. One feature that stood out to me was the Kobun's deeply checkered Kraton handle. It offers an excellent grip, making the knife more secure in the hand. The cross section of the handle is also surprisingly thin, while still providing enough thickness to resist turning or shifting. Another notable aspect of the Kobun is that it comes complete with a Secure-Ex sheath. This sturdy sheath makes it easy to attach the knife securely to your belt, ensuring that it remains easily accessible whenever you need it. However, there was one downside that I discovered while using the Kobun. The default clip that was included with the knife was quite weak and didn't hold up well to everyday wear. I had to replace it with a Blade-Tech brand Tek-Lok belt attachment in order to ensure a more secure and reliable attachment to my belt. Overall, the Cold Steel Kobun has been a reliable and versatile companion during my everyday activities. I would highly recommend it to anyone in need of a durable and efficient boot knife for both personal and practical use. šVG-1 San Mai 3 Stainless Steel Cold Steel Oss Hunting Knife with Kray-Ex Handlehttps://preview.redd.it/jdowjmyx5r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=78a709fa57114775a39b5f8f7ccb165c44cd661d As a reviewer who has tried the Cold Steel Master Hunter, I can confidently say that it has become my go-to knife for various outdoor activities. One of the features that stood out to me was the comfortable, deeply checkered Kraton grip, which allows for long-term use without any discomfort. The broad, thin blade with a distinct taper provides exceptional cutting ability, edge retention, and ease of resharpening. However, one of the cons I encountered was the knife's tendency to be easily lost due to its minimalistic design. I also noticed that the blade occasionally required additional sharpening, despite its excellent edge retention. Nevertheless, the overall performance and durability of the Master Hunter make it a reliable and versatile tool for all your hunting needs. šCold Steel Trench Hawk Trainer - Practical, Durable, and Safe Tomahawk Traininghttps://preview.redd.it/w0y30oyx5r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=57823bfe9bf53383c5e2b4ea31c93567325da417 When I got my hands on the Cold Steel Trench Hawk Trainer, I was immediately impressed by its size and weight. The synthetic material felt surprisingly sturdy and authentic, making it perfect for learning the ropes without the danger of injury. Not to mention, it closely resembles the actual Trench Hawk, so every training session felt like a real-life scenario. However, the weight was noticeably lighter than the real deal, which might not be ideal for those looking for a more accurate experience. Overall, the Trench Hawk Trainer provided a safe and effective way to hone my skills, and I'd highly recommend it to anyone looking to up their training game. šCommercial-Grade Butcher Knife from Cold Steelhttps://preview.redd.it/yuyyasmy5r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d1a01934255fee49d6af53e79c86a5e3a84835a7 As a home chef, I've always been on the lookout for affordable yet high-quality knives. That's when I stumbled upon the Cold Steel Commercial Series Butcher Knife 8.0 in Blade. Impressed by the sharpness and durability of the blade upon first use, I knew that this knife could handle any heavy-duty task in my kitchen. One of the features that stood out to me is the ergonomic design of the handle. The Zy-Ex core adds rigidity, while the softer, food-safe Kray-Ex exterior provides a comfortable, non-slip grip. After hours of chopping vegetables and cutting meat, my hand never felt tired or overwhelmed. This is truly a game-changer when it comes to kitchen knives. However, the blade is quite heavy, which requires a certain level of force to wield effectively. For those with weaker hands or for tasks that don't require much pressure, this may be an issue. But, in my experience, the weight has been a welcome addition to the overall power of the knife. When it comes to sharpening, the cryo-quenched German 4116 Steel holds an edge remarkably well. I've used it extensively without any significant blade degradation. The knives also do not rust easily, a crucial factor when dealing with raw meat or wet conditions. Overall, the Cold Steel Commercial Series Butcher Knife 8.0 in Blade has proven to be a reliable addition to my kitchen arsenal. Its sharpness, durability, and robustness make it a worthwhile investment for both home cooks and professionals alike. šCold Steel Urban Pal: Lightweight Urban Survival Knife for Security in Today's Worldhttps://preview.redd.it/cm1mfi8z5r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cfb6e0279ac220f9abb87ef79fba9f4559fe0fd4 After carrying the Urban Pal for a month now, I can confidently say it's the ultimate companion for navigating the urban jungle. The blade is just the right size to tackle any task, while remaining small enough to fit comfortably in my pocket. The SecureEx sheath ensures my safety, keeping the blade out of reach when not in use, yet easily accessible when needed. One thing that stood out to me is the unique handle design, allowing me to really put my weight into the blade when needed. It's a feature I've never seen on a knife before, and it's a game-changer! The AUS-8A blade material also adds durability, as I've noticed it's less prone to chipping compared to other knives I've used. The weight of the Urban Pal is also a positive aspect. At just 0.70 oz, it's light enough to carry without weighing me down, but substantial enough to get the job done. I particularly appreciate the attached key ring on the sheath, making it easy to hang on my keychain or attach to my purse. However, I've also encountered a few minor issues with the Urban Pal. One concern is the blade's sharpness, as it tends to dull rather quickly. It's a simple fix with a sharpening stone, but it's something I hadn't expected from a knife at this price point. Another issue is the sheath design. While it's secure and well-made, it can be a bit bulky, which can make it difficult to carry if you don't want it to be visible. Fortunately, I've found that a quick switch to a smaller, more discreet sheath solves this problem. Overall, the Urban Pal is a fantastic product that's perfect for tackling everyday tasks in a busy urban environment. Its unique features and reasonable price make it a standout choice for anyone looking for a versatile, durable, and affordable pocket knife. šCold Steel All Terrain Chopper: Versatile Bushcraft Machete with Tough Steel Construction and Comfortable Carry Sheathhttps://preview.redd.it/d9b3lmsz5r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=327df24467ba802181b58e012a6680bf2669c1bf The All Terrain Chopper is more than just a bushcraft tool - it's a beast! . With its big wide slant-tipped fully sharpened blade, it's impressive how easily and quickly it cuts through almost anything, even laying waste to tall saplings with a single swipe. Despite its weight, the handle provides a strong grip, and the sheath ensures it's carried comfortably. The quality of this machete may differ depending on its production date, but the rumors of its indestructible nature were true. It's been a game-changer for many outdoorsmen and their wilderness adventures, making it a worthwhile investment for those seeking a durable and powerful cutting tool. šCold Steel Recon Hawk - Versatile Outdoor Survival Toolhttps://preview.redd.it/1roaansz5r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f3c988d5811a954e7dffb6faf6570aa67c9dc641 I recently got my hands on the Cold Steel Recon Hawk, and let me tell you, it's a beauty! This tomahawk boasts a 5mm thick leaf made of 65 m carbon steel, giving it a robust and sturdy feel. The 24 oz weight distribution adds a perfect balance that makes throwing it a breeze. Its 17 1/2 inch length comes with a comfortable 9 1/2 inch nylon wrapping handle, making it easy to grip and wield. The single-piece design, crafted by custom knifemaker Andrew Demko, ensures durability and strength. The axe also comes with a detachable articulated sheath that offers protection from the sharp edge. While I really like the balance and durability of this Cold Steel Recon Hawk, I've noticed that the hollow ground edge can be a bit fragile. It doesn't stick as well as some other throwing tomahawks. However, the balance and heft make up for it, and the axe is great for survival, escape and evasion scenarios or just a day of outdoor fun. Overall, I'm happy with my purchase and would recommend it to anyone looking for a reliable, well-balanced tomahawk. Buyer's GuideWhen considering a Cold Steel Zweihander, there are several essential factors to take into account. This comprehensive guide will walk you through the most important aspects to consider, helping you make the best possible purchase for your needs.Material and Constructionhttps://preview.redd.it/7ldghizz5r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a6bceb745d90ded7d243125baa1a0a632665d3b7 A key consideration when purchasing any blade is the material and construction. Cold Steel Zweihander swords are typically made from high-quality materials that provide strength, durability, and sharpness. Check the specifications of the blade you are interested in to ensure that it meets your requirements. Weight and BalanceThe weight and balance of a Cold Steel Zweihander are critical for its handling and long-term use. Generally, Zweihander swords are quite heavy, so be prepared to practice with a weight-lifting regimen or be dedicated to learning how to wield these large swords. Balance also plays a crucial role in the effectiveness and comfort of use, so ensure that the model you choose has a good weight distribution and balance to suit your needs.Handle Design and Grip ComfortThe handle of a Cold Steel Zweihander should provide a comfortable grip, enabling you to maintain control and precision during use. Be sure to check the handle design, size, and material for optimal fit and comfort. Additionally, consider the potential for impact and strike-through during use, which could impact the durability of the handle over time. https://preview.redd.it/s3v0psf06r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b637aa43835bbc8ef03946d1cc1ebcf3c764190b Maintenance and CareProper maintenance and care are essential to ensuring the longevity of your Cold Steel Zweihander. Clean the blade after use, oil the metal parts, and store it safely when not in use. This will help preserve the blade's sharpness and appearance while also extending its lifespan.User Experience and TrainingWielding a Cold Steel Zweihander requires a certain level of skill and experience. It is crucial to understand the blade's specific features, limitations, and techniques effectively to maximize its performance and safety. We recommend seeking professional guidance and training to become proficient in using this type of weapon.Budget and Pricinghttps://preview.redd.it/wmsy15z06r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5050fbe5b18db6c60e56e234c18f8fe54facc82c Finally, don't forget to consider your budget when purchasing a Cold Steel Zweihander. While some may be more affordable, others may come at a premium price. Determine your budget constraints and look for high-quality models within your price range to make the most value for your investment. By taking these factors into account, you will be better prepared to make an informed decision when purchasing a Cold Steel Zweihander. Whether you're a collector, a reenactor, or a martial artist, understanding the unique features, considerations, and general advice of this product category will enable you to select an ideal model for your needs. FAQWhat is the Cold Steel Zweihander?The Cold Steel Zweihander is a heavy-duty, one-handed sword designed for powerful slashing and cutting actions. It is crafted with a high carbon steel blade and features a hand-forged guard and hilt with a textured black grip. https://preview.redd.it/2dslwk016r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cd535e1a55f728c8e3043037e924d6d660a1c9a9 What is the Zweihander's intended usage?Designed for combat and self-defense, the Zweihander is primarily suited for close-quarters combat. Its massive size and weight allow for powerful slashes and cuts, making it an effective deterrent for potential attackers.What are the dimensions of the Cold Steel Zweihander?The dimensions of the Cold Steel Zweihander are as follows:
What is the construction of the Cold Steel Zweihander?The Cold Steel Zweihander is made of high carbon steel, known for its durability and edge retention. The blade is hand-forged, and the handguard and hilt are both made of steel. The grip is textured black for a firm and secure grip.Is the Cold Steel Zweihander suitable for beginners?No, the Cold Steel Zweihander is not recommended for beginners. Due to its weight, size, and potential for serious injury when used incorrectly, it is best suited for experienced sword users with proper training.How can I purchase the Cold Steel Zweihander?The Cold Steel Zweihander is available for purchase from various authorized retailers, online stores, and directly from the manufacturer. It is recommended to do proper research and compare prices to ensure you are getting the best deal.Are there any warranties or guarantees with the Cold Steel Zweihander?Yes, the Cold Steel Zweihander typically comes with a limited lifetime warranty. The warranty covers defects in materials and workmanship for the life of the product. If any issues arise, customers should contact the manufacturer or retailer for assistance.As an Amazonā¢ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.21 11:53 molty_insides217 vent/ seeking other point ov views.
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šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
š¤¢not to mention they are closeted RACIST & HOMOPHOBIC
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šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
š¤¢not to mention they are closeted RACIST & HOMOPHOBIC
2024.05.21 11:52 Stage-Piercing727 Best Cold Steel Trainers
 | submitted by Stage-Piercing727 to u/Stage-Piercing727 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/k2tg8lqq4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7b37709dd93c126f0a944f6ef03b1e232b7d3ab5 Welcome to our roundup of the best Cold Steel Trainers! In this article, we'll be taking a closer look at some of the top sellers in the market. From their design and functionality to their customer reviews, we've got you covered with all the information you need to make an informed decision. So, let's dive in and explore the world of Cold Steel Trainers together! The Top 7 Best Cold Steel Trainers
ReviewsšCold Steel Spear Head Trainer with Santoprene Handlehttps://preview.redd.it/74l2z45r4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a9b5aaa9a6acb485aa1175b548eb0519753baa85 When I first got the Cold Steel 92R95 spear head trainer, I was skeptical about how realistic and sturdy it would feel. But after taking it out of the box, I was pleasantly surprised by its construction. The spear head is made of Santoprene, a non-toxic material that's flexible yet strong enough to provide a realistic experience. While the 10 2/3 inch head length may seem intimidating at first, it's actually quite manageable. The 7mm edge thickness and 6.13 inches of blade length provide a balanced feel, allowing for smooth and precise movements. It even comes with a small base mount for easier attachment to a broom handle. However, the product does have some minor cons. Firstly, it's quite heavy, making it a bit challenging if you're not accustomed to holding it for long periods. Secondly, the flexibility of the spear head can sometimes make it feel a bit wobbly when in use, which may cause some safety concerns. Nonetheless, the Cold Steel spear head trainer is a great tool for training purposes. Its combination of safety, flexibility, and realistic feel makes it an excellent choice for those looking to improve their skills without risking injury. Just be cautious and make sure you're comfortable with the weight and flexibility before diving in. šCold Steel Rondel Rubber Training Dagger for Practicing Knife Skillshttps://preview.redd.it/dj3es6lr4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=96dd8101380d0c6e8cd2b96fc937953b8fd8c49b Training with a real dagger can be a dicey proposition, but Cold Steel's Rondel Rubber Training Dagger offers a safer alternative in a sleek, easy-to-handle design. The rubbery construction is perfect for honing your sword skills without the risk of injury, making it an excellent choice for all-level HEMA practitioners. The Rondel Rubber Training Dagger's blade feels solid in your hand while its knurled grip offers a surehold even with sweaty palms. The overall construction is well-balanced, and its rounded tips prevent accidental injuries. Additionally, the rubber blade is surprisingly flexible yet stiff enough to parry a blow, making it an excellent training companion for beginners and experienced practitioners alike. The 1-inch thick blade provides ample weight to mimic the feel of a steel dagger without being too heavy to swing around. Its 11.25-inch blade length and 17.13-inch overall length make it versatile enough for various techniques, from simple strikes to complex parries. The Santoprene handle offers a durable, comfortable grip, and it's easy to hold even when wearing gloves. While this dagger won't be a perfect substitute for a real one, its realistic heft and blade shape make it a practical and efficient training tool. Its affordability ensures that you can have one readily available for both yourself and your sparring partners, making it an excellent addition to your HEMA training kit. šCold Steel O Bokken: High-Impact Polypropylene Alternative to Traditional Bokkenhttps://preview.redd.it/26tqqlxr4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1e008e3fe13a8a4193ce7a2aaa2dc49a8bac98e1 I've recently started practicing martial arts, and one of the essential training tools I was recommended was the Cold Steel O Bokken. This synthetic sword has been a game-changer in my training regimen. The first thing that caught my attention was the molded-in high impact polypropylene grip. It provides superior grip and comfort, making it very easy to maneuver during sparring sessions. The sword's polypropylene handle is also very durable and resistant to damage, perfect for the intense nature of martial arts practice. One of the highlights of the Cold Steel O Bokken is its lightweight design. It's perfectly replicated the size and feel of a steel sword, while minimizing the risk of causing serious injury. The blade length of 30 inches and its 1-inch thick blade makes it an ideal choice for both beginners and more experienced practitioners. However, there are a couple of downsides I've noticed while using the Cold Steel O Bokken. Firstly, the blade's sharpness could pose a potential threat during practice, especially when you are using it with other people. Secondly, the hilt guard that comes with the sword is made from flimsy rubber, which tends to crack with age and usage. While it's not vital for the sword's functionality, it does affect its overall appearance. Despite these minor drawbacks, the Cold Steel O Bokken has been a reliable and essential training tool in my martial arts journey. I highly recommend it to anyone looking to enhance their practice sessions while minimizing the risk of accidents. šWhite Leather Hi-Top Sneakers by A-COLD-WALLhttps://preview.redd.it/3qjjn5ds4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4b93fa41dcc45c480a574f8cf8bdcfee18ca531d Over the past month, I've been rocking the A-COLD-WALL Luol High-Top Leather Sneakers in white. As a sneaker enthusiast, I appreciate the classic, timeless look of white canvas and rubber soles and was excited to see how these would fare in my wardrobe. The first thing I noticed is that these sneakers are true to size, providing a comfortable, snug fit. I also appreciate the sizing being mentioned as Italian, which made me feel like I'm rocking a European vibe. The round toe shape adds a touch of elegance while maintaining a comfortable fit. The Luol Hi Top Sneaker has a rich, raw edge construction that makes these kicks stand out. The padded reinforced ankle is a great feature, providing both support and comfort on long walks. I also loved the large blind debossed logo at the heel - it's subtle yet eye-catching. The ACW bracket logo debossed and printed at the toe box adds a touch of personal style. However, these sneakers aren't perfect; the laces may need some getting used to if you prefer a tighter fit, and the soles could be a bit more cushioned for added comfort during long wear. Overall, the A-COLD-WALL Luol High-Top Leather Sneakers in white are a great addition to any wardrobe. The classic style, comfortable fit, and unique features make this sneaker stand out from the crowd. šVersatile Magnetic Indoor Trainer with Craftsmanship and Ease of Usehttps://preview.redd.it/9n2amvps4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2fbdcbaccf0eae52ba2c7e04084a488803790b37 As a cycle enthusiast, I've tried my fair share of trainers, but the CycleOps SUPERMAGNETO Pro Trainer takes the cake. The power curve for every rider type and ride type in one trainer is a game-changer. I can easily switch between easy, road, interval, and mountain resistance curves to customize my workouts according to my goals. But what really stands out is the Flexible Power Curve Technology. It allows me to adjust resistance curves for a truly personalized training experience. I also love the easy adjustments for both ride and rider types. Plus, the Pro Series frame adds a touch of elegance to the trainer. However, there's a downside to every product. The setup process can be a bit tricky, especially if you're new to trainers. Also, the noise level might be a concern for some, as it's not the quietest trainer on the market. But overall, the CycleOps SUPERMAGNETO Pro Trainer delivers a smooth, effective, and versatile training experience. It's a sturdy, easy-to-set-up, and quiet piece of craftsmanship that makes indoor cycling an enjoyable part of the daily routine. šCold Steel Brooklyn Crusher Baseball Bat - Durable, Versatile Trainerhttps://preview.redd.it/2dfii66t4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d897eb1b41698800e24cb1ea1396b4d4f2e91de0 In my daily life, I've found the Cold Steel Brooklyn Crusher to be a game-changer. This nearly indestructible bat, made of durable polypropylene, stands true to its claim of never breaking, rotting, cracking, splintering, or fading. Its 29-inch length and two-pound, one-ounce weight make it versatile and perfect for various activities, such as competition, batting practice, and even at-home self defense. The synthetic polypropylene material also adds an extra layer of strength and durability. While using the Cold Steel Brooklyn Crusher, I've noticed both the positive and negative aspects of it. The most noteworthy aspect is its unbreakable nature, which instills confidence in the bat's performance. However, its weight might be a drawback for some users, making it a bit too heavy for casual use or for individuals who prefer a lighter bat. Nonetheless, it remains an excellent choice for those seeking a strong and reliable baseball bat for a variety of purposes. šUnbreakable Gladius Trainer Sword by Cold Steelhttps://preview.redd.it/1u7bd2ht4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=28bac2788b692e805bb140335df1e6073a86cabf Having had the pleasure of using the Cold Steel 92BKGM Gladius Trainer Sword, I can honestly say it's a fantastic training tool. The synthetic device, made of heavy-duty polypropylene, is incredibly durable and safe to use. Unlike the wooden swords of old, it won't rot, crack, chip, or splinter, providing you with a reliable training companion. Right off the bat, the sword's design and construction were impressive. With a blade length of 20-30 inches, a 9-inch handle, and an overall length of 31 inches, it closely duplicates the size, weight, and feel of a genuine sword. This feature allows you to train as you would with a real one, without the added risk of injury. The weight and balance of the sword are spot on, making it easy to handle. This is also due to its single-mold construction, which adds to its overall sturdiness. In fact, I was surprised at how solid and unbending it was. One of the key advantages of the Cold Steel Gladius Trainer is its cut resistance. It's designed to be remarkably stiff and resistant to blows, allowing you to train effectively without having to worry about it failing or breaking. Despite its robustness, the sword is surprisingly comfortable to hold. The 9-inch polypropylene handle is a good length, providing a firm and secure grip. The sword's overall balance and weight distribution make it a joy to handle. However, no product is without its minor drawbacks. While it's a terrific training tool for novices, it's not a perfect substitute for a "live blade. " The sword's rigidity might be a bit too much, making it less forgiving than a wooden sword. But that's a trade-off for the added safety it provides. The Cold Steel Gladius Trainer Sword is an excellent investment for anyone looking to improve their swordsmanship skills. With its durability, close-to-perfect replication of a real sword, and cut-resistant design, it's an indispensable tool for anyone on the journey to becoming a skilled swordsman. Buyer's GuideCold Steel Trainers are designed to help individuals build and maintain their self-defense skills. These trainers come in different forms, such as throwing stars, knives, and swords. Before purchasing a Cold Steel Trainer, it is crucial to consider several factors to ensure you get the most out of your investment.Material Qualityhttps://preview.redd.it/4fy5v0zt4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0f9b24f72784a0c8909e7c4c3db85526d28cc077 Cold Steel Trainers are generally made from high-quality materials, such as steel, brass, or tungsten. Look for trainers with a sturdy build and a durable finish. Quality materials will stand up to regular training and practice, ensuring your trainer lasts longer. Safety FeaturesSafety should always be the top priority when training with a Cold Steel Trainer. Check the trainer's design and construction for potential safety hazards, such as sharp edges or loose parts. Ensure the trainer has safety features, like a dull edge or a soft rubber tip, to prevent accidents during practice.RealismFor effective training, the Cold Steel Trainer should closely resemble the real weapon it represents. Look for trainers that have similar dimensions, weight, and balance to the actual weapon. This realism ensures that when you transition to using the real weapon, you will be more comfortable and better prepared.https://preview.redd.it/8vd4b2bu4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=36eaf2f75ff7c9f342da065da5f5e1ad044c7c9e Ease of UseYour Cold Steel Trainer should be easy to use and handle, regardless of your skill level. Trainers with appropriate weight and size can help in developing correct techniques and building hand-eye coordination. Make sure the trainer you choose is suitable for your level of training and that you are comfortable using it.Price and ValueCold Steel Trainers come in different price ranges, depending on their material, construction, and brand. While it is tempting to go for the cheapest option, it is essential to invest in a quality trainer that offers good value for your money. A high-quality Cold Steel Trainer will last longer and provide better training results.Choosing the Right Trainer for Your Needshttps://preview.redd.it/vjly5aou4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2a15df9c4dc4c32ec96612ba3eec05aec84d8efb Consider your specific self-defense training needs when selecting a Cold Steel Trainer. Think about the weapon you want to practice with and the level of difficulty you are comfortable with. By understanding your requirements, you can make a more informed decision when purchasing a Cold Steel Trainer. Maintenance and StorageTo keep your Cold Steel Trainer in good condition and extend its lifespan, proper maintenance and storage are crucial. Always clean your trainer after each use, and store it in a cool, dry place. If the trainer has any moving parts, lubricate them regularly to prevent rust buildup and ensure smooth operation.When it comes to Cold Steel Trainers, there is no one-size-fits-all solution. By considering factors such as material quality, safety features, realism, ease of use, price, and maintenance, you can find the perfect Cold Steel Trainer that suits your self-defense training needs and preferences. Remember, investing in a high-quality trainer will lead to better results and greater satisfaction in your training efforts. FAQhttps://preview.redd.it/2430e02v4r1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c36fde45c23c7f38e7dffc406769b5afbf558d7f What are Cold Steel Trainers?Cold Steel Trainers are a line of training swords developed by Cold Steel, a well-known manufacturer of edged weapons. They are designed to provide a real-life training experience for those interested in swordsmanship, martial arts, or just practicing swordplay.Why should I choose Cold Steel Trainers over other brands?Cold Steel Trainers are known for their high-quality craftsmanship and durability. They are made from materials that closely resemble those used in traditional swords, which makes them ideal for practicing swordplay techniques and developing proper form. Additionally, Cold Steel is a reputable brand with a long history of producing high-quality edged weapons, so customers can trust their products.What types of swords are available in the Cold Steel Trainers line?
Are Cold Steel Trainers suitable for beginners?Yes, Cold Steel Trainers are suitable for beginners. They are designed to provide a safe and effective training experience without compromising on the quality of the weapon. The safety features, such as blunt edges and rounded points, make them ideal for learning sword techniques and improving your skills.How do I maintain my Cold Steel Trainer?To maintain your Cold Steel Trainer, you should clean it after each use to remove any dirt or debris that may have accumulated. You can use a soft cloth or a mild cleaning solution to clean the weapon. Additionally, store your trainer in a dry place to prevent rust and other damage. It's also important to check the sword regularly for any signs of wear or damage and replace any parts that need repair.What is the warranty on Cold Steel Trainers?Cold Steel typically offers a lifetime warranty on their swords and training weapons. If you encounter any issues with your Cold Steel Trainer, you can contact the manufacturer directly to discuss a potential repair or replacement.As an Amazonā¢ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.21 11:51 Klutzy2627 AITA FOR GETTING MY BROTHER IN LAW'S SISTER AND HER FRIEND KICKED OUT FROM THE WEDDING
It was my cousin sister's wedding and we are Indians, so if you are Indian or know Indian friends/weddings, you know the drill - the daysss long wedding events, the heavy dresses and jewelry, and also, some serious family dramas.
My cousin and I are very close even if there is a huge age gap between us. Naturally, when her wedding came around I was very excited and I helped a lot with the planning and decoration and the food - literally everything. It was exactly as we have imagined her wedding to be like. Just perfect in every way possible. But again, it's a wedding. How is a wedding ever complete with a Drama Llama? So dear potato community, here is the tea.
The man that my cousin was marrying to, my current BIL, is an amazing man who has been with my cousin since their college days. They were friends in their college days and when they started working they joined the same company so they remained close to each other. Friendship turned into love and they decided to date and eventually get married. Both the families were informed and everyone was very happy with their decisions, except just one person. BIL's sister. She didn't have any personal problems with my cousin, her only issue was that her best friend liked my BIL, let's name this friend the 'idiot' (because she truly is an idiot and this is honestly the nicest word I can use for her).
When idiot found out that BIL loved someone else and is getting married, she went ballistic. She has been trying to get his attention for so many years and he didn't even turn towards her even for one day and he was being head over heels for my cousin. I understand her being upset, I have been a girl in love and in heartbreak too, but I wouldn't try to break someone's marriage because of my heartbreak.
Yes she tried to stop their marriage via BIL's sister. The two forged all types of absurd accusations on my cousin and tried to anonymously sneak in the accusations in means of messages from unknown numbers to my cousin's then future FIL and MIL, to emails and even letters delivered to their doorstep. My cousin was really stressed because she thought the FIL and MIL would think the accusations are true and would stop the wedding. I told her, "don't worry sisso, I am here." (add dramatic music here and imagine a cape on my back).
My cousin's father (my maternal uncle), me and my brother first went to the FIL and MIL to let them know that all of this was false and that my cousin is innocent. We asked them for some time and that we will find proof of who has been sending them those false news and will let them know of everything and then they are free to judge and make decisions from their side. We got the permission from them and decided to get to work immediately.
One thing I forgot to mention was that BIL used to live in his own house in a different state from where his parents lived after he got a job. Before this, my cousin and BIL used to live in one town and went to college together. Once they got their jobs, they both came to my city, BIL got his own house and my cousin came to live with me. His family came to live with him when he told them that he wanted to marry so they came help him with the wedding arrangements. What's unfortunate is that the sister also brought her best friend, the 'idiot', who was in love with my BIL since she was 15 and BIL was 17.
I mentioned BIL having his own separate house in a new town because it was important to mention. Both his sister and the idiot didn't know he installed security cameras in his house and that the camera was pretty well hidden so they couldn't have noticed either. We asked BIL if we can see the camera's recordings and we saw someone early in the morning at 4 am dropping a letter. Guess who it was... THE IDIOT!! We showed it to my cousin's FIL and MIL and they cross questioned the idiot about it and she was in tears and admitted to everything. She and BIL's sister apologized for everything. They were forgiven and it was a happily ever after... or so you thought...
Everything after that was pretty peaceful, all the arrangements were made and we are now at the wedding day. My cousin was really jumpy and on her toes at all times, she was panicking so bad about everything. My brother and I had to sit her down and talk her out of her panic. She however mentioned that she was scared that idiot might try to pull up some sick stunt to ruin her wedding day. I however told to her calm down cause I wouldn't let my precious angel's wedding get ruined. I have seen enough Charlotte's videos to know that we must always have a backup plan prepared in advance in situations like this. And so I did. I collected a lot of information and evidences and kept them in place in case they come in handy.
I had my suspicions that they would do something to mess up the wedding way before it even became a thought in my cousin's mind, so I did a little research about the two. Since we all belong from the same hometown, I got in contact with my friends who still lived in the town that my cousin and my BIL used to live in. I asked around about these two baboons and found out that BIL's sister had a boyfriend and has even slept with him. Premarital smex is a big no no here. As for the idiot, I found out that she was slowly getting BIL's sister into illegal substances and into becoming a call girl. Again, a big no no. And I think no parent in this world would want their child to do something that would end up in trouble for them and the child as well. I knew my cousin's FIL and MIL would be worried about their daughter and take actions immediately if I let them know of this. I would have told them this after the wedding was over anyway, but that would have been in private so no one else would know, but I guess the girls wanted something else.
Once the wedding ceremony started and the guests were all there, they were enjoying, everyone was having fun and giving their blessings to the new husband and wife to be. These two pain in the asses were going around and gossiping about my cousin to everyone. We noticed that, and we came up with a quick solution. I asked two of my male friends, who is very attractive to go and talk to the girls. However I told them to switch on their recorder and be with them no matter what. God bless my two friends, they did exactly what I told them without thinking twice. They came to me after an hour or so and told me what was going on.
The two girls were planning to ruin her wedding dress. When I tell you that shit was costly, IT WAS COSTLY. It was really heavy with all the heavy stone work that was done on the cream colored lehenga and if it was stained it would be ruined. We could not afford that in any cost. She was taking a glass of juice from the juice counters and tried sitting right behind the bride but I stepped in and told her to go sit behind her brother and that I would sit behind my cousin. She was trying so hard but me and my brother kept pushing her off and away from my cousin. Eventually she did manage to throw it but it accidentally landed on someone from the groom's side and she got scolded by her. While her grumpy face was funny to see, I still had enough because if that aunty wasn't there, it would have been my cousin. After the wedding was over and people were going to start taking the photos with the couple, I announced that me and my brother had some things to say. Initially we talked about the bride and the groom but then we shifted the attention to the groom's sister and her friend. We played the audios of the calls I had with her friends in the hometown as a surprise to the groom's sister. There were a lot of angry faces, some on the sister and some on me and my brother. I tried to explain, that had she and her friend not try to ruin my cousin sister's wedding dress, this wouldn't have been broadcasted to the entire wedding venue. I then called my two male friends and both of their faces was in gasps. Both of them pulled out their phones and I played the recordings on one of the phones, which explained how they were still spreading fake news about my cousin and also them planning to ruin my cousin's dress. We also got the video recording of them actively trying to throw the red colored drink on my cousin's dress.
Both of them got kicked out from there and weren't allowed to enter until the rest of the ceremony was over. Both of them stood outside, making attempts to convince anyone who would listen to them and let them in, but no one paid heed to them. Once everyone got home they were scolded badly and my BIL's sister kept screaming at me that I was so mean and rude to have their truths exposed to not just her family, but to every relative and friends who was there to witness the show. While my cousin was glad that I had her back and my brother is standing in support of me, my parents and some of our relatives think that it should have dealt within the family and shouldn't have been exposed to anyone outside of the immediate family members. AITA?
Note: I am so sorry if the post ended up being too long but I just wanted to give all the context that would be required to judge the entire situation and my actions as well. Also if something doesn't make sense just blame it on my sleepy head cause I wrote it in half sleep mode.
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My cousin and I are very close even if there is a huge age gap between us. Naturally, when her wedding came around I was very excited and I helped a lot with the planning and decoration and the food - literally everything. It was exactly as we have imagined her wedding to be like. Just perfect in every way possible. But again, it's a wedding. How is a wedding ever complete with a Drama Llama? So dear potato community, here is the tea.
The man that my cousin was marrying to, my current BIL, is an amazing man who has been with my cousin since their college days. They were friends in their college days and when they started working they joined the same company so they remained close to each other. Friendship turned into love and they decided to date and eventually get married. Both the families were informed and everyone was very happy with their decisions, except just one person. BIL's sister. She didn't have any personal problems with my cousin, her only issue was that her best friend liked my BIL, let's name this friend the 'idiot' (because she truly is an idiot and this is honestly the nicest word I can use for her).
When idiot found out that BIL loved someone else and is getting married, she went ballistic. She has been trying to get his attention for so many years and he didn't even turn towards her even for one day and he was being head over heels for my cousin. I understand her being upset, I have been a girl in love and in heartbreak too, but I wouldn't try to break someone's marriage because of my heartbreak.
Yes she tried to stop their marriage via BIL's sister. The two forged all types of absurd accusations on my cousin and tried to anonymously sneak in the accusations in means of messages from unknown numbers to my cousin's then future FIL and MIL, to emails and even letters delivered to their doorstep. My cousin was really stressed because she thought the FIL and MIL would think the accusations are true and would stop the wedding. I told her, "don't worry sisso, I am here." (add dramatic music here and imagine a cape on my back).
My cousin's father (my maternal uncle), me and my brother first went to the FIL and MIL to let them know that all of this was false and that my cousin is innocent. We asked them for some time and that we will find proof of who has been sending them those false news and will let them know of everything and then they are free to judge and make decisions from their side. We got the permission from them and decided to get to work immediately.
One thing I forgot to mention was that BIL used to live in his own house in a different state from where his parents lived after he got a job. Before this, my cousin and BIL used to live in one town and went to college together. Once they got their jobs, they both came to my city, BIL got his own house and my cousin came to live with me. His family came to live with him when he told them that he wanted to marry so they came help him with the wedding arrangements. What's unfortunate is that the sister also brought her best friend, the 'idiot', who was in love with my BIL since she was 15 and BIL was 17.
I mentioned BIL having his own separate house in a new town because it was important to mention. Both his sister and the idiot didn't know he installed security cameras in his house and that the camera was pretty well hidden so they couldn't have noticed either. We asked BIL if we can see the camera's recordings and we saw someone early in the morning at 4 am dropping a letter. Guess who it was... THE IDIOT!! We showed it to my cousin's FIL and MIL and they cross questioned the idiot about it and she was in tears and admitted to everything. She and BIL's sister apologized for everything. They were forgiven and it was a happily ever after... or so you thought...
Everything after that was pretty peaceful, all the arrangements were made and we are now at the wedding day. My cousin was really jumpy and on her toes at all times, she was panicking so bad about everything. My brother and I had to sit her down and talk her out of her panic. She however mentioned that she was scared that idiot might try to pull up some sick stunt to ruin her wedding day. I however told to her calm down cause I wouldn't let my precious angel's wedding get ruined. I have seen enough Charlotte's videos to know that we must always have a backup plan prepared in advance in situations like this. And so I did. I collected a lot of information and evidences and kept them in place in case they come in handy.
I had my suspicions that they would do something to mess up the wedding way before it even became a thought in my cousin's mind, so I did a little research about the two. Since we all belong from the same hometown, I got in contact with my friends who still lived in the town that my cousin and my BIL used to live in. I asked around about these two baboons and found out that BIL's sister had a boyfriend and has even slept with him. Premarital smex is a big no no here. As for the idiot, I found out that she was slowly getting BIL's sister into illegal substances and into becoming a call girl. Again, a big no no. And I think no parent in this world would want their child to do something that would end up in trouble for them and the child as well. I knew my cousin's FIL and MIL would be worried about their daughter and take actions immediately if I let them know of this. I would have told them this after the wedding was over anyway, but that would have been in private so no one else would know, but I guess the girls wanted something else.
Once the wedding ceremony started and the guests were all there, they were enjoying, everyone was having fun and giving their blessings to the new husband and wife to be. These two pain in the asses were going around and gossiping about my cousin to everyone. We noticed that, and we came up with a quick solution. I asked two of my male friends, who is very attractive to go and talk to the girls. However I told them to switch on their recorder and be with them no matter what. God bless my two friends, they did exactly what I told them without thinking twice. They came to me after an hour or so and told me what was going on.
The two girls were planning to ruin her wedding dress. When I tell you that shit was costly, IT WAS COSTLY. It was really heavy with all the heavy stone work that was done on the cream colored lehenga and if it was stained it would be ruined. We could not afford that in any cost. She was taking a glass of juice from the juice counters and tried sitting right behind the bride but I stepped in and told her to go sit behind her brother and that I would sit behind my cousin. She was trying so hard but me and my brother kept pushing her off and away from my cousin. Eventually she did manage to throw it but it accidentally landed on someone from the groom's side and she got scolded by her. While her grumpy face was funny to see, I still had enough because if that aunty wasn't there, it would have been my cousin. After the wedding was over and people were going to start taking the photos with the couple, I announced that me and my brother had some things to say. Initially we talked about the bride and the groom but then we shifted the attention to the groom's sister and her friend. We played the audios of the calls I had with her friends in the hometown as a surprise to the groom's sister. There were a lot of angry faces, some on the sister and some on me and my brother. I tried to explain, that had she and her friend not try to ruin my cousin sister's wedding dress, this wouldn't have been broadcasted to the entire wedding venue. I then called my two male friends and both of their faces was in gasps. Both of them pulled out their phones and I played the recordings on one of the phones, which explained how they were still spreading fake news about my cousin and also them planning to ruin my cousin's dress. We also got the video recording of them actively trying to throw the red colored drink on my cousin's dress.
Both of them got kicked out from there and weren't allowed to enter until the rest of the ceremony was over. Both of them stood outside, making attempts to convince anyone who would listen to them and let them in, but no one paid heed to them. Once everyone got home they were scolded badly and my BIL's sister kept screaming at me that I was so mean and rude to have their truths exposed to not just her family, but to every relative and friends who was there to witness the show. While my cousin was glad that I had her back and my brother is standing in support of me, my parents and some of our relatives think that it should have dealt within the family and shouldn't have been exposed to anyone outside of the immediate family members. AITA?
Note: I am so sorry if the post ended up being too long but I just wanted to give all the context that would be required to judge the entire situation and my actions as well. Also if something doesn't make sense just blame it on my sleepy head cause I wrote it in half sleep mode.
2024.05.21 11:48 SnooHabits754 How We Built Tweetlio and Are Aiming for $10,000 MRR - Do you think we can do it ?
Wanted to share our journey of building Tweetlio, our all-in-one solution for Twitter growth. Itās been a wild ride, full of ups, downs, and everything in between. Weāre gunning for $10,000 MRR at launch, and weāre even throwing in a sweet 50% discount for our early adopters here on Reddit. Hereās the story.
The first version? Total mess. Bugs everywhere. But we kept at it, fixing one issue after another. We reached out to anyone who would listen, trying to get feedback and users. It was exhausting, but slowly, it started to come together.
There were still setbacks. Our server crashed during a demo with a big potential client. Talk about embarrassing. But every failure taught us something, and we came back stronger.
We also thinking of giving on Product hunt the same offer and other place but still not sure. The Growth plan is of 99$
Thanks for reading, Reddit! If youāre looking to up your Twitter game, come check out Tweetlio. Weāve got your back.
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How It All Started
So there we were, drowning in Twitter chaos. Crafting tweets, scheduling them, engaging with our audienceāit was a full-time job. And letās be real, we were failing at it. One night, my co-founder and I were ranting about how tough it was to keep up. That's when the idea for Tweetlio hit us. A tool that does all the heavy lifting for Twitter? Yes, please!Building the MVP
We jumped in headfirst, coding like maniacs and surviving on coffee and ramen. Building Tweetlio wasnāt a walk in the park. We wanted it to write and craft tweets, schedule them, and even engage with followers. Oh, and letās not forget the 10,000+ viral tweet database we included to help users get more traction.The first version? Total mess. Bugs everywhere. But we kept at it, fixing one issue after another. We reached out to anyone who would listen, trying to get feedback and users. It was exhausting, but slowly, it started to come together.
Testing the Product Beta
Convincing people to try Tweetlio was tough. We got ghosted more times than I can count. But then we started getting some wins. Users were loving the auto-engagement features and the viral tweet database. Seeing tweets blow up and getting thank you messages felt amazing.There were still setbacks. Our server crashed during a demo with a big potential client. Talk about embarrassing. But every failure taught us something, and we came back stronger.
Building Our Community
The real magic happened when we focused on our community. We started holding virtual hangouts, sharing tips, and celebrating each otherās wins. Some of our beta users have been using Tweetlio to grow their followers by crafting new tweets from our viral tweet database and scheduling them for optimal times. Seeing their follower counts increase and their engagement levels rise has been incredibly rewarding.The Big Goal: $10,000 MRR
Now, weāre aiming high. Weāre gunning for $10,000 in monthly recurring revenue at launch. Itās ambitious, but we believe in Tweetlio. To sweeten the deal, weāre offering a 50% discount to our early adopters here on Reddit. You guys believed in us first, and we want to give back.We also thinking of giving on Product hunt the same offer and other place but still not sure. The Growth plan is of 99$
My Experience:
- Embrace the Grind: Building something great takes time and effort. There will be long nights and setbacks, but keep pushing.
- Listen to Feedback: Your users are your best resource. Listen to them, learn from them, and make improvements.
- Build a Community: Engage with your users and create a space where they can connect and share.
- Stay Resilient: Failures are part of the process. Learn from them and keep moving forward.
- Believe in Your Vision: If youāre passionate about your idea, others will be too. Keep that fire burning.
Thanks for reading, Reddit! If youāre looking to up your Twitter game, come check out Tweetlio. Weāve got your back.
2024.05.21 11:44 SnooHabits754 How We Built Tweetlio with GPT4o and Are Aiming for $10,000 MRR - Do you think we can do it ?
Wanted to share our journey of building Tweetlio, our all-in-one solution for Twitter growth. Itās been a wild ride, full of ups, downs, and everything in between. Weāre gunning for $10,000 MRR at launch, and weāre even throwing in a sweet 50% discount for our early adopters here on Reddit. Hereās the story.
The first version? Total mess. Bugs everywhere. But we kept at it, fixing one issue after another. We reached out to anyone who would listen, trying to get feedback and users. It was exhausting, but slowly, it started to come together.
There were still setbacks. Our server crashed during a demo with a big potential client. Talk about embarrassing. But every failure taught us something, and we came back stronger.
We also thinking of giving on Product hunt the same offer and other place but still not sure. The Growth plan is of 99$
Thanks for reading, Reddit! If youāre looking to up your Twitter game, come check out Tweetlio. Weāve got your back.
submitted by SnooHabits754 to ChatGPT [link] [comments]
How It All Started
So there we were, drowning in Twitter chaos. Crafting tweets, scheduling them, engaging with our audienceāit was a full-time job. And letās be real, we were failing at it. One night, my co-founder and I were ranting about how tough it was to keep up. That's when the idea for Tweetlio hit us. A tool that does all the heavy lifting for Twitter? Yes, please!Building the MVP
We jumped in headfirst, coding like maniacs and surviving on coffee and ramen. Building Tweetlio wasnāt a walk in the park. We wanted it to write and craft tweets, schedule them, and even engage with followers. Oh, and letās not forget the 10,000+ viral tweet database we included to help users get more traction.The first version? Total mess. Bugs everywhere. But we kept at it, fixing one issue after another. We reached out to anyone who would listen, trying to get feedback and users. It was exhausting, but slowly, it started to come together.
Testing the Product Beta
Convincing people to try Tweetlio was tough. We got ghosted more times than I can count. But then we started getting some wins. Users were loving the auto-engagement features and the viral tweet database. Seeing tweets blow up and getting thank you messages felt amazing.There were still setbacks. Our server crashed during a demo with a big potential client. Talk about embarrassing. But every failure taught us something, and we came back stronger.
Building Our Community
The real magic happened when we focused on our community. We started holding virtual hangouts, sharing tips, and celebrating each otherās wins. Some of our beta users have been using Tweetlio to grow their followers by crafting new tweets from our viral tweet database and scheduling them for optimal times. Seeing their follower counts increase and their engagement levels rise has been incredibly rewarding.The Big Goal: $10,000 MRR
Now, weāre aiming high. Weāre gunning for $10,000 in monthly recurring revenue at launch. Itās ambitious, but we believe in Tweetlio. To sweeten the deal, weāre offering a 50% discount to our early adopters here on Reddit. You guys believed in us first, and we want to give back.We also thinking of giving on Product hunt the same offer and other place but still not sure. The Growth plan is of 99$
My Experience:
- Embrace the Grind: Building something great takes time and effort. There will be long nights and setbacks, but keep pushing.
- Listen to Feedback: Your users are your best resource. Listen to them, learn from them, and make improvements.
- Build a Community: Engage with your users and create a space where they can connect and share.
- Stay Resilient: Failures are part of the process. Learn from them and keep moving forward.
- Believe in Your Vision: If youāre passionate about your idea, others will be too. Keep that fire burning.
Thanks for reading, Reddit! If youāre looking to up your Twitter game, come check out Tweetlio. Weāve got your back.
2024.05.21 11:44 molty_insides217 vent/ seeing other ppls pov from the outside
rant/vent
šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
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šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
2024.05.21 11:43 SnooHabits754 How We Built Tweetlio and Are Aiming for $10,000 MRR - Do you think we can do it ?
Wanted to share our journey of building Tweetlio, our all-in-one solution for Twitter growth. Itās been a wild ride, full of ups, downs, and everything in between. Weāre gunning for $10,000 MRR at launch, and weāre even throwing in a sweet 50% discount for our early adopters here on Reddit. Hereās the story.
The first version? Total mess. Bugs everywhere. But we kept at it, fixing one issue after another. We reached out to anyone who would listen, trying to get feedback and users. It was exhausting, but slowly, it started to come together.
There were still setbacks. Our server crashed during a demo with a big potential client. Talk about embarrassing. But every failure taught us something, and we came back stronger.
We also thinking of giving on Product hunt the same offer and other place but still not sure. The Growth plan is of 99$
Thanks for reading, Reddit! If youāre looking to up your Twitter game, come check out Tweetlio. Weāve got your back.
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How It All Started
So there we were, drowning in Twitter chaos. Crafting tweets, scheduling them, engaging with our audienceāit was a full-time job. And letās be real, we were failing at it. One night, my co-founder and I were ranting about how tough it was to keep up. That's when the idea for Tweetlio hit us. A tool that does all the heavy lifting for Twitter? Yes, please!Building the MVP
We jumped in headfirst, coding like maniacs and surviving on coffee and ramen. Building Tweetlio wasnāt a walk in the park. We wanted it to write and craft tweets, schedule them, and even engage with followers. Oh, and letās not forget the 10,000+ viral tweet database we included to help users get more traction.The first version? Total mess. Bugs everywhere. But we kept at it, fixing one issue after another. We reached out to anyone who would listen, trying to get feedback and users. It was exhausting, but slowly, it started to come together.
Testing the Product Beta
Convincing people to try Tweetlio was tough. We got ghosted more times than I can count. But then we started getting some wins. Users were loving the auto-engagement features and the viral tweet database. Seeing tweets blow up and getting thank you messages felt amazing.There were still setbacks. Our server crashed during a demo with a big potential client. Talk about embarrassing. But every failure taught us something, and we came back stronger.
Building Our Community
The real magic happened when we focused on our community. We started holding virtual hangouts, sharing tips, and celebrating each otherās wins. Some of our beta users have been using Tweetlio to grow their followers by crafting new tweets from our viral tweet database and scheduling them for optimal times. Seeing their follower counts increase and their engagement levels rise has been incredibly rewarding.The Big Goal: $10,000 MRR
Now, weāre aiming high. Weāre gunning for $10,000 in monthly recurring revenue at launch. Itās ambitious, but we believe in Tweetlio. To sweeten the deal, weāre offering a 50% discount to our early adopters here on Reddit. You guys believed in us first, and we want to give back.We also thinking of giving on Product hunt the same offer and other place but still not sure. The Growth plan is of 99$
My Experience:
- Embrace the Grind: Building something great takes time and effort. There will be long nights and setbacks, but keep pushing.
- Listen to Feedback: Your users are your best resource. Listen to them, learn from them, and make improvements.
- Build a Community: Engage with your users and create a space where they can connect and share.
- Stay Resilient: Failures are part of the process. Learn from them and keep moving forward.
- Believe in Your Vision: If youāre passionate about your idea, others will be too. Keep that fire burning.
Thanks for reading, Reddit! If youāre looking to up your Twitter game, come check out Tweetlio. Weāve got your back.
2024.05.21 11:36 AmISaucyEnough Girl Iāve been seeings friends donāt want me to go to their party.
Not sure if Iām doing this right but here we go. So I M21 have been talking to this girl F20 for a few months now, nothing really serious but we do vibe and get along pretty well. She has a lotta friends but the focus here are 2 guy friends. One of them she slept with about 4 months before we started talking, and he admitted he had feelings for her but she shut it down and as far as I know he lost feelings. The other one is guy #1ās best friend, and her and him actually did have feelings for each other and went on some dates, but he ended up telling her he didnāt want to continue dating. Recently I went to a party and meet guy #2, I had been to a couple before that with no issue. But at the party with guy 2 after he saw me with her his mood went from vibing to just sitting out side staring off into space. The next time they had a party her guy friends throwing it texted her ācome aloneā or ādonāt bring the guy youāre talking to.ā She said sheāll talk to them, but so far shows no sign of even bringing it up. Theyāve had 4 get togethers like this and I found out guy 1 took a picture of them sitting by each other and wanted to tag me in it. I donāt want to force her to do anything or push her to confront them but this is really starting to bother me to the point I stay up and canāt sleep. Iāve been cheated on before, my ex made friends with some dudes didnāt like me and she ended up having an emotional affair with one of them and this is making me feel the same way I felt before. I donāt want her to think Iām trying to come between her and her friends, but it feels like theyāre disrespecting me. Is there a way I can approach this or just abandon ship? Thank yāall in advance.
TLDR: talking stages friends donāt like me and tell her to not invite me out with her, itās starting to bother me and Iām not really sure what to do.
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TLDR: talking stages friends donāt like me and tell her to not invite me out with her, itās starting to bother me and Iām not really sure what to do.
2024.05.21 11:32 EcstaticWelcome7722 I had a really strange dream!
Several events occurred in a dream I had today. They always seem to be more memorable if I nap during the day. How would you interpret these events in my dream? In order of event (from what I recall):
1) I was in a stadium like building looking down at an arena with some farm animals inside. At the top where I was located was more of a bar. I noticed a man who I knew in real life, and once had a huge crush on, but avoided talking to because he is now married (irl and the dream) and I don't want to interfere. But he smiled and just stood next to me, which I liked.
2) Then, I was down in the arena area looking at animals when it started filling up with cold blue water. Presumably so some marine animals could come out. It filled up extremely fast and I got back up to the top where I was standing originally.
3) I saw a severely injured woman in a wheelchair with casts on her arms and legs seated at a table by the bar. A man was standing over her apologizing profusely. I was walking by an eavesdropping and I could hear her telling him how she would never forgive him for abusing her.
4) Then, it turned out that the woman was unable to speak due to her injuries and I was telepathically hearing her thoughts to the man. I wondered if the woman was even real, or if it was a spirit or ghost.
5) I then found myself led by "prison guards" to an area where they had a job for me. I thought I was in prison being given some labor to do. But then it turned out that they wanted me to help figure out what happened to the woman since she was telepathically speaking to me, and since I understood her, perhaps I could help.
6) I was led to a workshop full of tools, it looked like it had been ransacked. There was spray paint graffiti around and broken locks on cages for tools. I remember the number 30 and 3 repetitively painted on some cabinets.
7) Then, I felt drawn to ask about a particular electrical fixture on the ceiling. I asked what it was. They mentioned that the power to it had been cut off since before the incident. When they turned it back on, they realized that the power was connected to an alarm system that would have helped the woman in distress, so whoever turned it off might have been a part of the incident.
This dream just left me feeling strange. I'm a very skeptical person when it comes to things that can't be explained by science (telepathy). So the feeling of having some kind of power was frightening, for lack of a better word. I am also not someone who has suffered the kind of abuse that the women in the dream experienced. I don't often have conscious thoughts about these kind of situations. It was unsettling.
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1) I was in a stadium like building looking down at an arena with some farm animals inside. At the top where I was located was more of a bar. I noticed a man who I knew in real life, and once had a huge crush on, but avoided talking to because he is now married (irl and the dream) and I don't want to interfere. But he smiled and just stood next to me, which I liked.
2) Then, I was down in the arena area looking at animals when it started filling up with cold blue water. Presumably so some marine animals could come out. It filled up extremely fast and I got back up to the top where I was standing originally.
3) I saw a severely injured woman in a wheelchair with casts on her arms and legs seated at a table by the bar. A man was standing over her apologizing profusely. I was walking by an eavesdropping and I could hear her telling him how she would never forgive him for abusing her.
4) Then, it turned out that the woman was unable to speak due to her injuries and I was telepathically hearing her thoughts to the man. I wondered if the woman was even real, or if it was a spirit or ghost.
5) I then found myself led by "prison guards" to an area where they had a job for me. I thought I was in prison being given some labor to do. But then it turned out that they wanted me to help figure out what happened to the woman since she was telepathically speaking to me, and since I understood her, perhaps I could help.
6) I was led to a workshop full of tools, it looked like it had been ransacked. There was spray paint graffiti around and broken locks on cages for tools. I remember the number 30 and 3 repetitively painted on some cabinets.
7) Then, I felt drawn to ask about a particular electrical fixture on the ceiling. I asked what it was. They mentioned that the power to it had been cut off since before the incident. When they turned it back on, they realized that the power was connected to an alarm system that would have helped the woman in distress, so whoever turned it off might have been a part of the incident.
This dream just left me feeling strange. I'm a very skeptical person when it comes to things that can't be explained by science (telepathy). So the feeling of having some kind of power was frightening, for lack of a better word. I am also not someone who has suffered the kind of abuse that the women in the dream experienced. I don't often have conscious thoughts about these kind of situations. It was unsettling.
2024.05.21 11:31 Toteldejesus How octogenarian Cecile Guidote-Alvarez rushed to the beauty salon to tackle West Philippine Sea
On a rainy Saturday afternoon not so long ago when internet connection was fluctuating in most homes, the 80-year-old Cecile Guidote-Alvarez, widow of the late Senator Heherson Alvarez, carrying a mini iPad, hurriedly alighted from a three-wheeled pedicab Toktok and stormed her way into a popular coffee shop in a mall in Manila.
A senior citizen in panic mode, she told the stunned baristas sheās looking for a Wi-Fi connection because she was about to interview retired Supreme Court Associate Justice Antonio Carpio via Zoom.The coffee shop, a known world brand, has Wi-Fi exclusive to its employees, so the old lady was told to try other establishments. She went from one coffee shop to another only to be told the same, until a kind stranger led her to a well-known beauty salon with a free internet connection.
The lady salon attendant was very accommodating to the octogenarian, even typing the password on her IPad. Of course, she needed to avail herself of their salon services. Initially, she opted for a haircut, but since she needed to talk and hear clearly who she was talking to, she settled for a foot spa with pedicure.
āThey lowered the volume of the piped-in music, and since there were less customers because itās been raining all day, I was able to do my interview,ā Guidote-Alvarez said.
For the next half-an-hour, the hair dressers and manicurists working with their scissors, nail clippers and cuticle removers on their customersā hair and fingernails, listened to Carpio and Guidote-Alvarez discussed how Filipino fishermen and the Philippine Navy ships helplessly negotiate their ways in Scarborough Shoal amid the territorial disputes in the West Philippine Sea.
āThey were all very nice to me. I was able to finish my interview, with newly pedicured nails,ā she told The Diarist.
For those whoāve worked with Guidote-Alvarez, her steadfast, almost stubborn, nature to accomplish a task, is nothing out of the ordinary. She would improvise, find alternatives, call up friends and former students, wake them up from sleep, just to get things done.
But now, in her 80s, legally blind and nearly deaf, she has mellowed down.
Cecile Alvarez with her mentors, National Artist for Literature Alejandro Roces, Jr and Fr. James Reuter. SJ
In her twilight years, Guidote-Alvarez has been solely hosting the 57-year-old Radyo Balintataw on DZRH, one of the oldest radio stations in the Philippines, where she tackles a wide range of topics, from climate change, womenās health, theater, culture, dance, to current issues, apart from playing old recordings of classic radio plays she produced and directed, dating back to the late ā80s.
She shared with TheDiarist.ph how she started and continues to host one of the longest running advocacy programs on AM Radio.
Theater on TV
After founding the Philippine Educational Theater Association (PETA) on April 7, 1967, or exactly 57 years ago, Guidote-Alvarez thought of the need to expose PETAās members to television, so she started conceptualizing Balintataw, which in Filipino means the pupil of the eye, but in a larger context has something to do with having wild imagination, or what you might see if you have a third eye.
āI designed Balintataw as a bridge between cinema and the stage, where the youth being trained in theater skills can have a ready-made laboratory experience linked with the film and entertainment industry that would likewise have a natural on-the-job training and orientation regarding the theatrical discipline of working with a literary script, whether dramatic or comicānot the regular improvised script done on taping or copycat scripts from foreign themes,ā Guidote-Alvarez wrote in her yet-to-be published Memoir of a Freedom Fighterās Wife.
āA primary goal when I conceived PETA was to initiate and sustain artistic expression that draws meaning and power from the lives of the people, and sharing the literary gems with a greater number of audiences through a Broadcast Theater-Film Program with Balintataw on Channel 5,ā she added.
āNo matter how little the pay, at least it provided our local writers with a little honorarium. I sought permission for award-winning pieces of the Palanca Playwriting contest to be fleshed out to reach the masses. The much-awarded playwright Bert Florentino served as our literary manager, assisted by Mauro Avena. Eventually, Isagani Cruz took over when Bert left for the US,ā she wrote.
āWriters need exposure and encouragement through a regular TV performance that will give them a sense of achievement and inspire them to keep on writing with some kind of honorarium. I was glad Lupita Aquino (now Kashiwahara) agreed to be TV director and Robert Arevalo as TV host.
She got members of the PETA Kalinangan Ensemble to serve as stage directors. āThis is to undertake preliminary preparation with a rehearsal with the actors for character development and memorization and preliminary staging,ā she wrote.
Five months after PETA was founded, Balintataw TV premiered on Channel 5 on Aug. 19, 1967, coinciding with the Buwan ng Wika birthdate of President Manuel Luis Quezon.
The first play, whose title escapes her now, featured Armida Siguion-Reyna and Maria Eva āChingbeeā Kalaw. She employed photo journalist and award-winning photographedocumentarist/cinematographer, Romy Vitug, to work with her in filming outdoor scenes for Balintataw.
In the pre-Martial Law Balintataw, among those initiated into television were Lino Brocka, Elwood Perez, Nick Lizaso, Maryo delos Reyes, Mario OāHara, Joey Gosiengfiao, Behn Cervantes, and Frank Rivera.
Among the stage actors who crossed over to television were Lily Gamboa, Angie Ferro, Lorlie Villanueva, Jonee Gamboa, Joy Soler, Sherry Lara, Gardy Labad, Noel Trinidad.
Like with PETA, Guidote-Alvarez directed and managed Balintataw for five years. Because of Martial Law, she and husband Heherson went on exile in the US to escape a military shoot-to-kill order on Heherson, who was tagged as a subversive.
Post-Martial Law
Internationally acclaimed auteur Lav Diaz mentioned in several interviews how he learned writing radio and TV scripts in Balintataw.
This happened in the late 1980s, when the Alvarez couple returned from exile.
Despite its absence on the air in the Martial Law years, Balintataw was honored by Star Awards as among the 20 unforgettable outstanding broadcast programs in the Philippines.
āThis encouraged me to consider reviving Balintataw on TV. Another blessing was a FAMAS award for having an important role in the development of cinema recognizing Balintataw as a bridge for synergizing cinema with the stage, providing a pathway of entry of our PETA artists into film and for movie stars to consider enriching their experience by acting on the legitimate stage,ā Guidote-Alvarez wrote.
Though she didnāt return to PETA anymore because it had been surviving well and had its own set of officers led by Brocka, she just tapped some of its members for the return of Balintataw.
For 14 years, the Alvarez couple lived in the US as political exiles, shown here during a Ninoy Aquino Movement meeting. Cecile revived Radyo Balintataw upon their return in the late 1980s.
Channel 4 stint
āI arranged to revive TV Balintataw on Channel 4 in 1989. We began with a drama about a rebel returnee, title escapes me now, but I clearly remember it was written by Lualhati Bautista and directed by Maryo de los Reyes. We also had a good story series on the hazing of Lenny Villa, an Aquila Legis Frat neophyte,ā she wrote.
At the time, Heherson had been elected senator after having served as Agrarian Reform Minister and eventually Cabinet Secretary during the first year of the Cory Aquino Administration.
āWe were able to unravel the deadly hazing process from a fellow neophyte who broke the code of silence as we revealed graphically, acted the cruel process used. I had Jose Mari Avellana direct it. This presentation won all the awards. Lav Diaz was training with us and he started writing teleplays. We also had Nora Aunor in an adaptation of Bert Florentinoās The World Is An Apple, adapted by Frank Rivera, and I had Nick Lizaso direct.ā
Emmy Awards
Balintataw TV was selected as one of five soaps for social change recognized by Emmy Awards. The Philippines was one of five countries cited, with Mexico, India, Brazil and Kenya.
āThe nomination was made possible by the wonderful support from David Poindexter. It was a supreme honor for our country to be recognized in the Emmy Awards, to be cited among the five Third World countries using soap opera for social change.ā
Poindexter was a Methodist minister and TV producer who founded the Population Communications International.
Surviving on radio
āIn spite of the cry about how television can be deadening the minds of the people with copied themes with an eternal favorite love triangle story, there was really no funding for Balintataw,ā she wrote.
āSponsors would go naturally to the commercial stations where big stars were paid highly for the starring role. Balintataw may have substance but we could not afford payment of bankable stars,ā she added.
āFinancial stress forced me to drop TV and remain on radio because I didnāt want to kill Balintataw per se just because we didnāt have funds.ā
Creative classroom
āWe have focused on Balintataw as a creative classroom on the air. I was able to talk to Fred J. Elizalde of DZRH and the president of the network, Mr. Jun Nicdao,ā she wrote.
In the ā80s, the HIV/AIDS became a global epidemic and in the Philippines, the general populace was still clueless on how to deal with it.
āIn order to get funding, the first series I did was about the explosive news regarding AIDS in Asia. I got the DOH Secretary at the time, Dr. Juan Flavier, to act as himself, providing the data. It was easier to start off with an AIDS radio serial.
They did a minimum of 13 episodes to raise awareness about the disease.
āFrom then on, some of our television scripts we transformed into a radio version. DZRH provided us with our initial production staff, so we used some from the network and some of its resident artists and drama talents. Our time slots were changing but always coming after the long-running horror drama, Gabi ng Lagim.
āWe worked on the themes of overseas workers, the drug problem, corruption, aside from portraying contemporary and literary classics serving as social commentaries,ā she wrote.
Women playwrights
āWe dramatized the works of noted women writers and playwrights like Estrella Alfon, Genoveva Edroza Matute and Marilou Jacob, who is distinguished in being a founding president of Womenās Playwright International.
āApart from our PETA staple of writers, we involved young, upcoming and budding university and community theater groups.
āWe also had a lot of foreign plays, where we could feature theater festivals beyond borders. We could do Shakespeare, we could do Euripides but also the current playwrights in the Arab region we translated in our language.
āWe brought in Chinese contemporary plays, Malaysian, Indonesian and from other women writers from ASEAN member countries.ā
Virtual history book
āThe significance of Balintataw is portrayed as a virtual history book on audio as it unveiled events in the country. Radio is fresh, instant and up-to date,ā she added.
When the COVID-19 pandemic struck, Balintataw became Guidote-Alvarezās outlet and therapy. Having lost her husband on the second month of the pandemic, a widow cocooned at home, she began hosting it six days a week, learning how to use an iPad and interviewing via Zoom.
The word āBalintatawā has been associated with her name.
Visual artist and editorial cartoonist Benjie Lontoc in casual meeting told us how in his younger days, when AM Radio was a national past-time, he was surprised to hear a Filipino adaptation of No Exit by Jean Paul-Sarte. This was when radio was airing soap, fantasy adventures targeting housewives and children.
Another was the airing of Larawan as a radio play in the 1990s, with Guidote-Alvarez as the voice of Candida Marasigan.
Leopoldo Salcedo (left) as Manolo in a confrontation scene with Dante Rivero as Tony Javier in PETAās 1968 āLarawanā directed by Cecile Guidote-Alvarez. (Photo from PETA archives)
In the 1960s, she directed Larawan, the first Filipino adaptation of Joaquinās A Portrait of the Artist as Filipino for PETAās second season. It ran from December 1968 to January 1969 at the Raha Sulayman Theater at Fort Santiago in Intramural. In the cast were Rita Gomez (Candida), Lolita Rodriguez (Paula), Leopoldo Salcedo (Don Manolo) and Dante Rivero (Tony Javier).
Guidote-Alvarez has a funny recollection of the radio play. It was Nick Joaquin himself who told her years ago how his pedicurist suddenly started a conversation about Larawan.
Joaquin was relaxing on the barberās chair having a post-haircut pedicure and foot spa when the lady pedicurist asked him how the story would end. Joaquin was stunned because he didnāt want to be known in the barber shop as Nick Joaquin the famous National Artist for Literature, but just a regular customer.
āHe told me he almost fell out from the chair. He was a very private person and the pedicurist recognized him as the playwright,ā Guidote-Alvarez, laughing, told TheDiarist.ph.
When she was first diagnosed with breast cancer in 2000, she was given only three years to live. Itās been more than two decades since then. She has also conquered COVID-19 twice.
Over and beyond her work in theater and various advocacies, Guidote-Alvarez is among the few surviving practitioners of AM Radio broadcasting.
The beauty salon incident wasnāt a first for the octogenarian radio host. She occasionally went back there to interview guests and record her shows whenever Wi-Fi connections in her home fluctuated.
Despite all setbacks, man-made or otherwise, the steadfast Cecile Guidote-Alvarezās voice continues to be heard in this mass media platform in an era that knows mainly Spotify. As Joaquin wrote, āto remember and to sing, that is her vocation.ā
(Except Saturday, Radyo Balintataw airs daily on DZRH 666 Khz AM radio after āGabi ng Lagimā, and live streamed on radio.org.ph. Some episodes have been uploaded on YouTube.)
2024.05.21 11:29 throwRA_Rainbow7 Does he like me or am I tripping?
Ok for starters this is a throw away account since I know they have reddit and I DO NOT want them to see this. Also we are friends online! Don't judge I have a ton of friends in LDR š Anyways. I have no idea what to think and I feel like I can't ask my friends since we are all in a big friend group and I'm afraid they will tell him. Recently, I will call him G, and I have been getting close. I will also start by saying we have been friends since December. There was some drama that happened and he blocked the whole friend group. He ended up only messaging me about coming back and everything and now we are all friends again. Since then we have been getting closer. We were still some what distant but since my boyfriend and I started having issues he's become less distant (I should also note that my boyfriend and I have basically separated after an argument). We started talking a lot more and he even opened up to me about some personal stuff. A few weeks ago I showed him a friend of mine and he decided he liked her. I tried to set them up, but it sort of fell through. I hate to admit it but I'm happy it fell through. This led to us talking even more. We are very similar in music taste, thoughts, and movies. This is where I am now wondering if he likes me or if I'm tripping. He sends me music and songs he likes all the time. He also talks about movies and we even have a list we should watch (admittedly a lot with our friends but there are a few he thinks would be better suited for just us). We also just bought concert tickets together and plan to meet up after I said I wanted to go but had no one to go with. Anytime I talk about how I want to do things he always says how he would do them with me. How he would love to go do this or that with me. But when others mention it, he sort of shys away from the idea. We also stay up late, even after our whole friend group is gone. We play games together even though I'm bad. He sends me funny messages all the time now too. To the point where if he's laughing I know I'll receive the video. He also has apologized to me before about how he wants to not be as rude to me (we make jokes for sure towards each other) and how he feels it isn't right of him to do so. He also likes my Instagram notes and comments a lot on them. I know those reasons may not make it seem likely that he likes me but there are 3 specific instances that I think of. The first is when I was complaining about how I would be bored by myself at this thing I was doing. He said he wouldn't be busy at that time and I joked we would probably just talk in our group chat. He sort of laughed then started to stutter saying, "Well you know...You know...haha" And then said, "Well if you wanted..." and stopped himself. I don't know what he was going to ask. But we spent 2 hours during said boring event talking and he showed me his guitar and how to restring it. The second is the other day we were talking about movies. There is this movie he LOVES so much. We have regular movie nights with the gang and the other day it fell through. I said I was sad and wanted to watch the movie. He started to say "well you know...if you wanted" again. After some time of talking he nervous laughed and asked if I wanted to watch another movie with him just him and I. I agreed. We got off track as we usually do and ended up on the conversation of his favorite movie again. He then asked "We could watch [name of favorite movie] instead...together if you wanted to..". That brings me to my third scenario of the fact we watched the movie together by ourselves. I should also say he almost never stutters over anything and has no issues asking me to do xyz in games we play or to watch this video ect. Those 2 stuttering moments have thrown me off completely.ON TOP OF ALL OF THAT, we had movie night today and he turned his camera on and my god He has the most beautiful smile I've ever seen. His laugh is contagious as well. I almost want to be around him The most of all of our friends because he is so kind and has the best laugh. But his smile oh my god and his eyes. That's the first thing I noticed about him. I think I may have developed a crush on him. But do you all think he may have as well?
2024.05.21 11:24 IndependentDare924 Lucifer the Prideful.
 | The Fallen Angel by Alexandre Cabanel (1847) submitted by IndependentDare924 to LOTR_on_Prime [link] [comments] Say first, for Heav'n hides nothing from thy view_____________________Paradise Lost by John Milton (1667) The Fallen Angel by Alexandre Cabanel (1847) Is this the Region, this the Soil, the Clime,_____________________Paradise Lost by John Milton (1667) The Lord of the Rings: The Rings of Power (Season 2) - Teaser Oficial Prime Video |
2024.05.21 11:19 TeGoRE Issues analysis of the Automaton faction; Solutions, discussion, general awareness post
Introduction
Hello fellow Helldivers. My name is Elliot, alias TeGoRE, a player with 155 hours on the game and plenty of experience gathered from 3rd party sources, especially Reddit and YouTube. I primarily play on difficulty 7, so this post will be biased specifically towards that difficulty.As you all may know by this point, a lot of people are upset with the Automaton faction, its issues, balancing, bugs, etc. In this post I will be attempting to bring awareness to specific issues rather than asking for vague and general "fixes" the faction would need. I will also be referencing the other faction currently present in the game, the Terminids, as a point of comparison throughout the post.
"Fun factor" analysis; Loadout restrictions
I'll begin with what I believe will be the major point of discussion here. The automatons are just not fun. I understand this is a critical take, but please read before jumping straight to comments.Let's compare the "fun" factor of Terminids to Automatons here. The Terminids allow you to run pretty much any loadout, while still letting you have impact on the game. You can run pure fodder clear loadouts with light penetration primaries and support tools and contribute to the mission that way, allowing your teammates to clear the heavies with ease. You can also run pure heavy clear with big bulky primaries and anti-tank tools, still contributing to the mission by destroying any charger and bile titan that comes into sight hence allowing your teammates to shoot the other fodder present without being spat on by a 400 ton oversized shrimp or being charged at by a walking rock. With both loadout cases you can also bring stratagems or change out your primaries and other tools (secondary and grenade specifically) that will allow you to have at least some impact on the heavies or lights, respectfully.
The Automatons don't allow for such loadout variety, and considering all the nerf barrages we've been receiving it's obvious that loadout choices are quite restrictive when it comes to fighting automatons. When was the last time you ran flamethrower against the Automatons? Any of the guard dogs? Any other sentry besides autocannon, EMS mortar or maybe the rocket sentry? Gas or airburst strikes? Light penetration or non-precision primaries? You get my point.
The faction requires a playstyle too specific for the casual player. You need to equip high precision weaponry (AMR, Counter sniper, Dominator, etc.) or medium penetration weaponry (Liberator penetrator, Counter sniper, Autocannon, etc) alongside way too many anti-tank tools. Sure, you can bring fodder clear, but the only realistic fodder is the regular troopers or the strider unit. Maybe berserkers. Only reliable (not saying it's the only viable one might I add) fodder clearer would be the grenade launcher, maybe the arc thrower. Furthermore, once on the actual battlefield, you can't necessarily play aggressive. Jump into a pile of bots and you'll be jumping back out limb-by-limb. You have to stay in cover, picking enemies one by one, slowly advancing forward. Then get all your progress denied by a bot drop :^)
We can then conclude that one of the contributing factors to why the Automatons aren't fun is the fact that it's too restricting and too sluggish. Let's look deeper, and analyse why your loadout and playstyle get so restricted;
Enemy analysis, its' contribution to the fun factor
The enemy types of the faction just do not let you vary your loadout enough.Devastators specifically are the biggest issue. The regular devastator is well-thought out, a heavier bulkier unit with obvious weakspots and not too much firepower which could be compared to the hive guard in terms of mechanics. However, for the heavy devastator and rocket devastator, these are built to just bullshit you into dying. And good luck killing them if you have a light-pen weapon or generally don't have a longer-ranged or high-precision tool, as their primary body (excluding the abdomen) has enough HP to take three full counter sniper magazines (I do not know how a rocket devastator managed to do that, but it did) and just shrug it off. I don't think I need to talk about heavy devastators, they've been brought up enough... I will just briefly skim over it. They're too accurate. "Suppressive fire" does nothing to them. Their 70%-body-covering shield can eat anti-tank projectiles no problem. Sometimes a pack of devastators can be more devastating (badumtss) than a pack of hulks, depending on what devastators they are. If the "heavy" unit of a faction gets outperformed by common enemies, it's an obvious issue.
Another obnoxious enemy type is the berserker. As the name implies, they're a rage-crazed bot with only one directive: charge at you and kill you, no regard for its personal being. Which would be fine if they didn't have the health pool of a damn tank. One unit alone can eat an anti-tank projectile. And they typically spawns in packs of 4. Their weakspots don't even count as weakspots from what I can personally tell, shooting them in the head or the abdomen does about the same damage as just plain out shooting them. They're hard to kill at their core, and if they're backed up by support fire from the other enemy types behind them, you're pretty much helpless.
The rest of the enemy units are fine, in my opinion. They're well thought-out, with obvious counter-measure mechanics.
Hulks can be compared to Chargers. Heavy, tanky units at first, but mechanic rich enough to be an easy take-down once you figure out what you're doing. They have a giant heatsink which is where you have to shoot at regularly to take them out reliably. Not a weakspot might I add, just a point which you can shoot. Think Charger's butt. If you're a space cowboy shooting their tiny faceplate with anti-tank, or even medium penetration tools, can kill them as well. Lastly, just pumping them full of anti-tank projectiles (typically 2 rockets from any of the support weapons) will take them out just fine. There's other cool tricks you could pull off, such as throwing impact grenades between their feet, making them land behind the hulk, which would then take it out in 2 impact grenades if done right. Thermite grenades also deal a lot of damage to their legs, which can take them out too. Lastly, their arms can just be plain out shot off with the right tools. In conclusion, they are threatening at first, but once you use your brain to figure out its weakness, you're going to shrug them off.
Factory Striders are the Bile Titans of the Automatons. They are a bit less obvious but can still be handled decently well by a complete newbie. 2 miniguns on the front, shoot them off with medium penetration for easier kiting. Rocket the top cannon off for further success. Their big exposed abdomen is the obvious weakspot anyone can figure out. Shoot it enough and it'll die. For the more experienced, the front panel eye alongside the opening vents can also be points of advantage. Oh also can we talk about how they're a giant walking factory? Just bomb that bitch! 500kg, orbital precision strike, a regular airstrike, etc. It's a giant target just BEGGING you to throw stratagems at it.
Striders are simple as well. Big impenetrable front plate, completely exposed sides and back. A baby could do it!
Troopers are just fodder. Shoot 'em, they fall over.
Issue with dropships
If you played at least a few hours on the automaton front, you may know that the dropships can be shot down. However, when was the last time you saw that actually do anything?The explosion deals too little damage, only sometimes killing the trooper units it's carrying. The body of the dropship itself seems to do no impact damage on the automatons, but loves to damage the shit out of you. The automatons also don't seem to care when they fall down 50 feet. Especially dropships with tanks. Shoot them down at the highest point of their drop, tank flies down at crazy velocity, lands with literally 0 damage to itself, then the dropships smacks on top of the tank doing fuck-all to it.
Oh and you can't forget the fact that the debris is solid cover FOR THE BOTS. You can't shoot through it. They can. They can also walk through it, you can't. ??????????
Issues with Automaton-specific side objectives
I will only bring up the ones that have actual issues behind them. If it isn't brought up here, then I personally believe it is fine.- SEAF SAM Site
- Stratagem Jammer
- Mortar emplacement
Bugs (not the Terminid kind)
The faction is riddled with way too many bugs, which just suck the fun out of it. Bots shooting through obviously solid cover, bots seeing you from across the map / through cover and then calling reinforcements, their seemingly 50/50 resistance to explosive damage, then other misc bugs not worth addressing.This obviously drives people away. A terminid can't shoot me through a rock, I'd prefer fighting that terminid.
Conclusion of analysis; Solutions, final thoughts
The Automaton faction enemies & its mechanics at its core are fine, most enemies making complete sense. Most mechanics, while rich in function, are not very obvious. To play the faction well you need to invest some time into learning how it works. This deters the casual player back to the terminid front, which is a bit more brainless, requiring you just "hurr durr shoot bugs". Here's some solutions to consider:Rework the devastator enemy type, specifically its specialists types:
- The rocket devastators shouldn't be able to spam their rockets as much as they do. I'd much prefer a larger barrage with a longer cooldown.
- Heavy devastators shouldn't be pin-point accurate if you're not moving / moving slowly. They do spread their shots out if you're moving, but it doesn't contribute all that much, you will still most likely take at least some hits. They're carrying a machine gun and shooting it from their hip with seemingly 0 precision. How is it that accurate?
Please please please do something about berserkers. Lower their health pool. Maybe make the weakspots actually do something. Perhaps make them spawn less frequently if they're in the major enemy pool. Or, instead of that, make the packs smaller. They're a major ammo sink currently and by the time you're done killing them all the other enemies are already in your face.
Dropship crashes should actually do something. If I use up my support weapon's ammo to shoot down a dropship, I would want it to actually contribute to me destroying the bots, not just create a flashy explosion and extra 1-way cover for the bots.
SEAF SAM Site needs a rework of sorts. Make it always spawn on higher terrain, maybe buff its firerate (see actual SAM sites for reference), or keep the firerate as is if dropship crashes actually start doing something, instead improving its turn speed and lock-on speed. Primary issue is terrain though.
"oh yeah this spot is PERFECT for a SAM site!" said the seaf engineer after ordering it be built in a trench enclosed by cliffs from all 4 sides "what the hell is this" said the helldiver when stumbling upon it
Realistically speaking, the only people who perform well when fighting against Automatons are those who have tens of hours of experience on their belt alongside a team with similar skill level, using proper "meta" (god forbid) loadouts to properly counter the bot menace. The casual solo-queue player just crumbles.
Conclusion & Goodbyes
I may have missed some things, but I tried to grab everything problematic about the faction to the best of my ability. I will most likely not edit the post due to it already being gigantic. However any comments adding onto the post are obviously appreciated. :)If you're here to find a tl;dr, don't bother. No way in hell I'm summarizing 11.5k+ worth of characters. Just read the analysis conclusion.
If you're here after reading everything above, thank you. I hope this was a fun read and brought attention to why you might not be having as much fun on automatons, maybe made you realize what needs to be done in order to counter the currently sluggish faction. I just hope I helped in some way.
If you're a developer, thank you for creating an amazing game. I've been in love with Helldivers 2 since the very start (upon finding it reaching sky-high popularity), enjoying every hour of gameplay. But just like with any game, it has its flaws, and I hope these are properly addressed. The community has been asking for changes, and I hope my post brought awareness to it.
Buh-bye!!!
2024.05.21 11:17 RubberKut 202040521: Another woman i can't forget
 | Dear diary, (oeps, the date is: 20240521) submitted by RubberKut to TheBigGirlDiary [link] [comments] I was in a monkey in temple in Nepal, it was another festival and it was crazy busy. All kinds of happenings happened around me. The next picture i had to time really well, because there were all kinds of people walking around me, in front of me and etc. So the focus is a bit off, but what a powerful picture. I've never seen this before. Not with my own eyes. This woman.. she was praying as if her life depended on it, she had some serious issues, perhaps she was praying for a job, perhaps for her husband or her child. But she had real reasons to pray. Perhaps she was making amends, asking for forgiveness. I don't know.. She was doing this for a long time as well.. She stood up, lifted her hands up, looked at the sky, then her hands went to her head, and then went down to the ground, for 30 minutes or longer? I have no idea, but while i was there she was doing it. I've never seen so much devotion to a deity before. It's such an interesting country and culture. 9 out of 10 times i had no idea what's going on.. No idea what festival they were celebrating, no idea what she was doing and why. But it left an impression on me and i could sense her troubles, she had real problems and went to a god (they have millions of gods there) to help her with her problems. And look at the ground, the dirt, the plastics, the foulness of it all. That does surprise me of the locals.. how come, such a holy place (it is a temple) is filled with garbage. I could never throw my shit on the ground, especially because it's such a holy place. But the locals don't seem to mind, i find this very strange. I wish i could teach them and show them how beautiful it is where they are. It's a special place these people live in. I am surprised of how blind they are, the nature, the temples.. it should be handled with care and love. Those are magical places and it's easy to feel the magic of it all. Why not keep it clean? It just baffles me. I don't even believe in all those deity's, but even i know to keep it clean and treat those places with respect. Devotion |