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Ya know hypermiling to me is just being aware of terrain elevations, intersections and upcoming and current traffic patterns. I brake less than 90% of drivers around me and adjust accordingly. When someone in front of me brakes I’m an appropriate distance away that I just let off the gas. It’s just so obvious but no one drives that way and yet they complain about gas prices. I use all the trucks line pulse and glide etc etc etc. but frankly hypermiling is more of a safe and less strenuous way to travel by car. When I travel long distances say from New Jersey to Florida, which is about 900 when I travel long distances say from New Jersey to Florida, which is about 800 miles, I will definitely be doing 75 80 85 mph at times when conditions are warranted. Then kick back in traffic and coast when that happens. It just boggles my mind when I could be traveling at 85 miles an hour and then I see traffic a mile up. I will slowly coast in and it boggles my mind people flying by me just to stop.

I thought the day would never come that I’d finally get over the loss of my best friend. We were friends from 8 years old until 27. My marriage fell into shambles and my husband pushed us into non monogamous relationships. It was hell but my best friend comforted me through it. She even was encouraging as I connected with a man I never should have but when he and I were to meet at a hotel and spend a week together her religious conviction took precedence. She told me how she felt and I listened but obviously felt that since I was an adult it was my right to choose my own path but she however decided to go behind me and tell her mother so she would then tell my mother and blow my world apart. My mother didn’t speak to me for a month afterwards and we lived next door.
It took a lot to forgive her for shoving me out of a closet she knew I didn’t even want to be a part of and permanently damaging my relationship with my family but I did forgive her and I tried desperately to connect with her. I ended that romantic relationship and eventually my marriage and had a new life with a new man just the two of us and was picking up the pieces of my life.
But all she did was leave me on read. Never answered. I was there for her grandfathers funeral still but finally I needed an answer. It had been two years since she decided for religious reasons to implode my life and outside of her grandfathers death she’d ignored me.
So I reached out and this was her reply:
JAN 27, 2021 AT 4:12 AM Me: Hey can I ask you something JAN 27, 2021 AT 8:09 PM Me: That answers my question then JAN 29, 2021 AT 2:06 AM Me: Do you still think of us as friends? JAN 29, 2021 AT 9:07 AM Me: If you don't I understand, I just want to know where I stand and I think any person deserves to hear that directly rather than just thru loss of connection. I did some things I'm not proud of and regret but you've never even given me the chance to tell you that. Every time l've tried to see you you've dodged the question entirely. I ended that ridiculous relationship a long time ago and straightened out my life. I wished I could have sat and talk to you face to face about all that but you've made it clear you didn't want to see me. So l just want a chance to tell you finally that the things I did that were wrong were almost immediately ended. I also want to know where I stand with you for real. If you don't want to be my friend anymore then l'll go but I deserve to hear that from you rather than assume it. JAN 29, 2021 AT 11:47 AM Me: I can see you're just going to leave me on read then. I will accept that as your answer and I'm sorry to see the 19 years we've had is over and even more so without an answer from you as to exactly why
15 days later FEB 12, 2021 AT 9:58 PM Her: My NAME, I'm sorry that l've only just been able to get back to you. I was very emotionally spent when you texted me because Sugar (her dog) has been in and out of the vet and ER for weeks for her health and I am very stressed with that. She is not doing well. I do believe that we are on very different life paths now. There is nothing wrong with life bringing change and I am very glad we had so many fun adventures together growing up, but, unfortunately, I don't recognize my childhood friend in the person I see you as now. I feel like it is best to move on and grow on our own separate paths. I wish only happiness and health for you and your family. I would like to apologize for not being more present during the times when you needed a good friend close by. I don't consider this a failed friendship. I wish you nothing but good for your future and I am sad to see it end in this way.
I didn’t have the words to reply to that message. She chalked up 19 years to “fun adventures”, we went to college together, she was my maid of honor, I was at the airport when she left the country for a year, she went with me and my family every summer to my grandmothers lake cabin. I tried many times after to contact her and was left on read until her father died then she needed me and I was there but after that I was back to being left on read and then after Sept 18 2021 she didn’t even read them anymore
On Dec 22nd 2022 I sent my final message which I then unsent and never tried again. I had been and would continue to regularly dream about her. Dreams of reconnecting finally but usually just about seeing her but she would not speak to or look at me. Those dreams haunted me and I just wanted them to stop.
I got married two months ago, I have my own place, I have custody of my son, I have a beautiful life that I fought through hell to get and I saw a post shared in another group this morning from someone completely left out of a girls trip and how broken hearted they felt. That was the first I’d even thought of my ex best friend since idk when. I realized then that I don’t think about her anymore.
So to my ex best friend I’d like to say, I don’t miss you anymore, outside of rare random updates from my mother who’s still kept at an arms length friendship with your mother I don’t even think about you anymore. I don’t wonder anymore if your husband got his visa or if you’ve decided to have a family. I don’t wonder if you got your own home or if your business ever took off. I don’t miss our yearly trips to my grandmothers lake cabin. I don’t wonder anymore why I was not even a part of your wedding when we were 26 when you’d been my maid of honor 4 years prior. You were the first person I called when I started contracting in labor with my son but he’s 8 now and doesn’t even know your name because I don’t speak about you anymore. I don’t care about you anymore and it doesn’t hurt anymore. I’m glad you’re not my friend any longer because you never truly were the friend to me I was to you. Yes there were many times you were not a “good friend” but I didn’t need a “good friend close by”. I needed my best friend and you were not there, not for much of the good or the bad unless I made the effort first. I look back now and can see how little there was to even really miss and I can thank you now for leaving my life. I’m glad you’re gone.
I have healed from you.

Hi I want to write something about Harry and Peter’s friendship, but I’m drawing blanks for what to write about. I prefer for it to be platonic and not slash. Anyone have any ideas?

Long post ahead so bear with me.
I’m 24F dating my 24M boyfriend for 4 years. Overall I’d say our relationship has been pretty good - no serious issues until now, all of our fights have been over his tendency to be moody or passive aggressive.
Some background information: I’m on the neurodivergent spectrum and suffer from depressive episodes, but I’m high functioning because I don’t want it to affect my professional life or anyone else but me. A side effect of that has been my tendency to isolate myself from everyone, which I’ve done for the majority of our relationship - sometimes I didn’t interact with anyone at all except for my family and my bf. I haven’t gone a single day in the last 6 years without any contact with him.
I realized that this wasn’t healthy so this year I decided to try and come out of my shell and build more friendships. It’s a bit hard but I’ve been working on it slowly, and one of my newfound friends was one of my bf’s friends, J (23M), as well - they had been friends for about a year at this point. We hit it off pretty well and as someone who’s really bad at friendships I enjoyed talking to J, but it was strictly platonic - nothing out of the ordinary, exactly like every friendship I have/have ever had. Please keep in mind I did not prioritize interactions I had with J or anyone else over ones I had with my bf.
While my bf initially really liked J, around the time we started becoming friends he started to sour on J until he eventually just started icing him because he didn’t like anything about him all of a sudden, and the only reason he could come up with was “J was annoying.” He also told me he found it “weird” that he chose to be friends with his friend’s gf (confused about that one because I met some of my closest friends through him/his circles). I reassure him that there’s nothing weird going on and my friendship with J is, once again, platonic. In all honesty, I also didn’t really think much of it because I didn’t find J to be annoying and my bf has had a pattern of disliking some of my friends for no apparent reason, even if he’d never talked to them. (My friends are all just goofy nerds so I never really got why.)
3 weeks ago my bf tells me he thinks J is trying to sleep with me but he has no evidence or thoughts to support this. I’m obviously shocked and once again reassure him that I’ve never picked up sleazy vibes from J and he’s never been inappropriate with me. I’ve had really creepy encounters before so I’m always hyperalert about these kinds of things and if I do get those vibes I shut them down immediately.
Onto the main clown show: last week my bf texts me angry that I’ve been lying to him and that I’ve been repeatedly gaslighting him into thinking my friendship with J was normal, but after a conversation with one of his other friends he’s convinced that he’s right and it’s inappropriate for J to be friends with me. Then he goes ahead and texts J to stop texting me and accuses him, amongst other things, of being a creep. To the surprise of absolutely no one, turns out this scenario that my bf created of J secretly trying to steal me away from him was completely false and J is both hurt and pissed about it. He tells him that he’s only ever thought of him as a good friend and he never had ill intentions towards me but he cannot in good conscience be ok with this and subsequently cuts both of us off.
For obvious reasons, I’m extremely pissed about this and we have a blowout fight over it, because turns out I don’t like anyone messing with my friendships like that and falsely accusing someone who’s done nothing wrong to you of being a creep is a shitty thing to do. He genuinely didn’t see anything wrong about what he did and “he did what he had to because he was desperate to get J out of my life and I left him no other choice.” He also told me that if he woke up to find out I did something to cause his friends to cut him off, he’d assume I had a good reason to do so and everything that happened with J was for the best. He screamed at me, accused me of being disrespectful and thinking of him as an insecure loser, called me a whole slew of hurtful things, that I’m disgusting and make him feel worthless and that he fucking hates me repeatedly. It overall just turned into a really ugly mess.
The next morning he was calmer and apologized for the hurtful things he said and that he didn’t mean any of it. He also admitted what he did was wrong, that he overreacted out of paranoia, and that he’s sorry he hurt J and ruined my friendship with him. He admitted that I was right, there wasn’t anything weird going on like he thought and he apologized for messing with my personal life.
The issue is I’m having a hard time processing all of this. First of all this couldn’t have happened at a worse time because I have a lot of personal issues going on that I’m incredibly stressed out about and he’s well aware of that. He’s also aware that I’ve always struggled with making friends, and now any urge I’ve had to do that is gone. I can’t get over him saying I make him feel worthless because I’ve dedicated so much and sacrificed so much to be with him and make him happy every way I could. I’ve never and still don’t prioritize anyone else over him. Having your boyfriend of nearly 5 years tell you he doesn’t trust you and despises you is also pretty fucking shitty because I’ve never done anything distrustful or been anywhere near as hurtful as he has been to me. His apologies sound hollow and lukewarm to me because at the end of the day, he got exactly what he wanted. And I’m left to suck it up and deal with it.
I don’t know what to do and I feel like I’m alone backed into a corner and I’m about to break with all the other things going on in my life. I’m sorry if this post isn’t very coherent but I’m a little tipsy right now. I just feel so violated and I’ve never felt more horrible or alone in my life than I do now and I’ve never not felt like that my entire life. I don’t know and can’t tell if I’m the one who messed up here and what I should do. Any advice, harsh or gentle is appreciated.
TLDR: bf incorrectly assumed mutual friend was trying to sleep with me and subsequently went nuclear on both me and friend. Am hurt and don’t know how or if I should resolve this.

I wanted to share a bit of my experience in trying to be better. Didn't know what flair to use so just chose the vent flair. Apologies if it’s a long read.
To sum it up, I think I finally reached a spot where I’ve found comfort in being alone, experiencing it as solitude rather than crippling loneliness.
To this day, I’ve always had trouble with both making friends and maintaining current friendships. I always put myself out of my comfort zone to both reach out to people and make conversations with new people or with current friends. Over time, I noticed that anyone I ever spoke to, whether it be with a current friend or with someone new, rarely returned the favor. I would always be initiating. No matter how much effort I would put in, it was never reciprocated. I’m never asked about my day, what I have going on in my life, or what I’m up to. Later on, I observed that the people in my life are simply not inclined to start conversations with me or initiate. It hurt. Quite a bit, too. What was I doing wrong? People hate me, for sure, right?
That was the wrong way to think, as that just places the blame on other people without considering what I could be doing differently. I learned something recently that’s otherwise probably obvious to most. People are going to be naturally inclined to talk to someone that’s sociable. Basically, anyone that’s good at making conversation, able to say the right things, take interest in what people have to say, and not make it awkward. If person A is more sociable and more approachable than person B, the no-brainer is to hit up person A first, over person B. Learning this, I tried my absolute hardest to change the way I conducted myself when talking to people, trying everything I could to be more sociable, in hopes that maybe someone would return the favor and reciprocate my efforts. Well, nothing worked. No matter how hard I tried, things were just going worse. I was getting ignored, people ghosted me, and current friends preferred to talk to other friends over spending time with me.
It hit me, right then and there. I realized that nothing I do is going to change how I am in other people’s eyes. I don’t think I will ever be someone that’s sociable, approachable, or interesting enough to talk to. People in my life will always have someone over me that they will be more naturally inclined to turn to. As rough as it felt, I learned that was perfectly fine. What I needed to do instead is be appreciative of what I do have, even if people don’t talk to me regularly or if people don’t reciprocate. If I had conversations with current friends, I appreciated them and enjoyed them. Even if 99% of my interactions with the people in my life are aired, I should be grateful for the 1%.
From there, I just diverted efforts to self-improvement, and for some reason I’ve felt less stress ever since. Don’t think I’ve ever felt more free. I’m working to improve my overall health, gymming frequently and watching what I’m eating. I’m taking up hobbies that I used to be interested in, like photography, to see how far I go. Also taking up new interests I’ve always wanted to explore, like music production and mixing. It feels good. I think I’m finally learning how powerful solitude can be, and it’s absolutely incredible. Yes, I will have some moments where I feel lonely, and that’s what I have to work on. Just gotta keep at it, yaknow?
Hope you guys are doing well. Take care.

get your white dress/black tuxedo on our wedding is tomorrow.
anyways hello everyone! i’m here looking for some connections and long term friendships etc i am into sports, music, fashion, theatre, reading, true crime and writing:)
i speak about 3 languages and currently learning another two i am pansexual as well if that matters a bit of a flirt so i apologise in advance 😭 not really into vc so if that’s something you like then i don’t think we would click we can trade selfies as well since i am comfortable showing my face
what i ask from you is don’t ghost or be dry, otherwise i will return the same energy anyways hope to hear from someone! age, gender and location doesn’t matter

Long story short - Several months ago I ended the only serious relationship I've (28m) ever had. We dated since high school, and we knew each other beforehand so it was like a friendship that turned into relationship situation. I didn't realize it at the time, but now looking at getting back out there I've realized it takes me a while to realize if I'm attracted to a girl enough to ask her out.
It seems like dating now is so based on physical attraction and getting to know someone after the fact. But for me it's like the physical attraction is enough to catch my eye, but is not my primary motivation and never enough for me to think about asking a girl out. It's only after I've gotten to know who she is/how she is as a person that I'm interested in asking her out.
Usually by the point I've realized I'm interested in a girl in that way, we've talked and gotten to know each other enough that we've crossed into the friends only territory and there's really no way of coming back from that. In retrospect, I realize this led to me having many problems in high school always crushing on my close friends who were girls.
I haven't really tried actively dating again yet, but I've already seen this pattern show up since becoming single again. I met a new coworker that got assigned to work on a project with me. This required talking at least an our a day. Initially our conversations were kinda slow, but after a while we just clicked and spent a lot of time getting to know each other. I just thought she was pretty cool, but after getting to know her more I realized I actually found her really attractive and thought about asking her out.
By that time, though, we'd been talking at least an hour or two per day every work day for at least 3 weeks. And when I finally started being a little flirty, she nicely gave me indications that she only saw me as a friend. Sure, I know that there may have never been an opportunity there. But it would be naive of me to think me not showing any indication in interest before 3 weeks of talking at least an hour a day didn't help land me in that friend zone kinda spot.
So I'm just wondering if I'm weird in this way and if this will cause me issues trying to date again?

this is a weird one. title is a bit bait-y on purpose, and I do apologise for that, but it sort of gets the point across with the none of the nuance.
sooo, allow me to add that nuance! and I’m so sorry for how long it’s going to be. I’m autistic and naturally really annoyingly verbose, and I get caught up trying to add context where it’s not needed. but I’m also stressed about this and it makes me ramblier than usual!
I’m trans. specifically a trans man, though these days I’m so comfy in myself that I don’t really care how other people perceive or gender me. I’ve had top surgery, been on T for nearly 5 years, etc etc. got all the “trans credentials”.
I’m also bi. or pan or just queer, whatever. I’ve dated everyone. cis women, trans women, various flavours of enbies, trans men - and cis men, which is the topic of discussion here.
I will preface this by saying that I have no horse in the “is genital preference transphobic” race. I have 0 preference, I don’t care if other people do, but rest assured it isn’t relevant to my issue here.
but I’m sort of stumped, right, because… what IS my issue? I don’t actually understand what’s going on here.
over the past 10 or so years I’ve been out as not-cis, I’ve dated a lot of “cis men”. a striking number of them have come out as transfemme, either during our relationship, or soon after it. it’s become more noticeable recently because the past two occasions that I had serious feelings for partners who I believed were cis men, both of them came out to me while we were together. and now I’m experiencing some serious feelings for someone I’ve started seeing, and I’m noticing some familiar signs.
I’m an absolute magnet for a very specific niche of person, apparently, and I seem to be key in their realisation of - or their acceptance of - their trans identity. that’s super flattering, of course. and confusing, and often quite hilarious, but it’s also… a bit difficult for me. it brings up some strange feelings. I can think of ten people off the top of my head that I’ve had this happen with, though only a few have impacted me, as I was still with the person at the time of their realisation/admission.
I should be happy when these partners come out to me. not only are we welcoming another number to our secret lil club, but I’m also gaining something new to bond with them over, something to have in common. and I’m sure everyone here knows that being trusted with someone’s first coming-out is the biggest honour in the world. and I do feel and believe all of that, of course, and yet every time this happens there’s this voice in my head that’s like…
“I don’t want you to be trans. I like you as you are, and I thought that was as a man.”
I know how horrible that is. and I think it’s even more horrible that this time I feel like I can see it coming and I’m experiencing a weird kind of dread and a sense of impending loss. I’m ashamed that I’m capable of thinking like this, but I don’t know what to do about it.
why does this pattern keep repeating, and why does it invoke this weird reaction from me?
of course, it could just be straight-up transmisogyny. I’m certainly not operating under the false premise that I, in being trans, have somehow become immune to socially ingrained ideas around trans women and femmes. it could absolutely just be this simple. but I suppose I don’t really understand if it is, because these feelings seem to be specific to this one scenario. it doesn’t seem to be that I’m just not attracted to trans women specifically — I’ve dated and definitely been attracted to trans women in the past. (“passability” and other bullshit like that has nothing to do with it either, people are hot to me regardless of what their transition looks like, so someone being very early in their transition wouldn’t somehow be this huge turn-off.)
this leads me to assume that maybe I simply want to be dating a man, at that given moment, and don’t like that she is not in fact a man, and that things are going to change. and I don’t know why that is, or what sense that really makes, for a bi person. and maybe my brain has a hard time recontextualising someone when their identity shifts? and it becomes extra hard when they’re really close with me in an intimate sense? because I don’t recall having this issue with platonic relationships. I’ve never “wished” for a newly out friend to not be trans. I don’t know!!
then we get onto another topic, which might be the smoking gun, or it might just be a side issue. regardless, one thing I’ve definitely noticed is that there are often subtle shifts in dynamic in my relationships with these partners when they begin exploring their gender. firstly, although I’m sure it’s not an entirely conscious thing, I’ve found that things are suddenly more gendered than they used to be. in a relationship that was initially ostensibly between two men, but which never really had any kind of gender roles or gendered dynamics involved, there is this subtle shift — wherein as she begins to lean much more “feminine” in all areas, I am expected to begin play-acting as more “masculine” than I am. I’m “the boy in the relationship” now. it’s never been said in these words, but in things that are asked of me within our relationship. and I understand her desire to do things differently in an effort to find what’s authentic to her new presentation and experience - but I suppose the problem for me is that I have always been authentic in our dynamic. I don’t want to alter the way I perform my gender in this relationship, I was comfortable with the way it was established. sure, I am a boy, but I have no interest in being boxed into gendered expectations that were not present before her transition. I wouldn’t want to be like that with a cis woman, or anyone else. I don’t like gender roles. but if someone I’m dating tells me that these changes would make them happier and more comfortable, why the fuck would I have an issue with that? it feels gross and selfish.
but then it gets even grosser and more selfish, because I think there might be an element of resentment present in the emotional labour that’s required to be the knowledgeable trans partner of a newly-out (or even closeted) trans person. I’ve felt myself become a guide and a therapist (or like a “transition mentor” lol) for my partner in the past, and I’ve really not liked that. especially in the last instance of this happening, wherein the relationship came to an abrupt and nasty end thanks to this new and confusing therapy-type dynamic.
I love being trusted with such important stuff and I love talking about gender, but there’s something I find very difficult about being this kind of support for a romantic partner.
so after all of this soul-searching, I’m still sort of just… stuck? what do I do with any of this? what do I change? why does this keep happening and how do I handle it better when it does? I don’t know. I’d really appreciate some discussion from fellow trans folks, or partners of trans folks. has anyone experienced anything similar? do you have any advice or suggestions for me? please be kind, I’m really trying to figure this out.
I know this is really really long and rambly and I do apologise for that, it’s even worse than I initially intended! thank you so much for reading (and even replying, if you do) as it means a lot!
TLDR: I’m a trans man who has weird complicated feelings about being a magnet for closeted transfemmes. I don’t know how to navigate this and I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings!

first of all, i wanna say i do feel really bad for grace as i’ve had sooooo many friends in the past ditch me for their boyfriends and it SUCKS. especially since grace uprooted her whole life to go to NYC with bri, literally door dashing on foot to try to make money lol.
anyways, what do you think grace is gonna do after the inevitable end to the podcast/their friendship? i’m guessing they may be required to continue for x amount of time due to barstool contracts however do you think grace will go solo pod? stay with barstool? possibly get cut from barstool or leave? move out of new york? go to LA or back to mass? or pull a christine sydelko and get off the internet

Hello, I’m a transfer student who was admitted to UCSB but haven’t received my financial aid award letter yet. I’ve already contacted the financial aid office and they told me that it’s of delays with the FAFSA application. Additionally, they told me they weren’t sure when I’d receive my letter.
I’m just wondering if any other transfers or incoming students are in this situation? I really what to go to ucsb, but I don’t feel comfortable committing without knowing how much aid I’ll receive.

I’ve heard about avoidant attachment, but didn’t fully know what behaviors and patterns it consisted of until getting dumped by one. I’m mostly secure but do have some anxiety.
We had a great relationship, or so I thought. He always needed more space and to recharge - that’s fine, we both work a lot and I don’t want us to get sick of each other. I didn’t pressure him or ever blow up his phone.
We were both affectionate, best sex, similar interests and values, hobbies, great conversation. He looked at me like I was the most wonderful woman he ever saw and said he couldn’t believe this was his life he said. We had only been together 3 months but no fights yet.
He had made me his girlfriend a little over 1 month after meeting and I felt safe enough to plan ahead and think on the future. I think I noticed him start to pull back when I invited him to meet friends on a camping trip and asked if I could join him for one this summer. He was pulling back and my feelings were getting stronger. I always had intrusive thoughts he would break up with me - but that was crazy, everything was going well and he would tell me he missed me.
I noticed the slight withdrawing more after a weekend getaway together and asked him if everything is ok. Of course it was he said - busy with work, getting ready for his camping trip. But I knew something was off. I had to talk to him when he got back. But instead he texted me he needed to talk about his feelings in our relationship and that he didn’t think we were compatible outside of sex. I had a feeling he was going to break up with me that morning.
I didn’t want to get dumped by phone, so I went over. It was such a change from the man i fell for. He was resolved to break up with me. When I asked how we aren’t compatible, he couldn’t really give me an answer. He said the feelings he should have for me aren’t there and whatever feelings he has are gone, aside from physical attraction. He had been thinking on this for a few weeks.
He said the usual: it’s not you, it’s me; you deserve better; you’re so beautiful and stunning, I’m surprised you haven’t been snatched up yet, etc. I didn’t even know it at the time, but this is his pattern - his longest relationship has been less than 7 months (we’re in our 30s). He doesn’t know how to form a bond or connection to someone and when he gets too close, he deactivates.
He got back onto the apps days after he ended it. Haven’t heard from him, he doesn’t watch my stories. I didn’t reach out except to send him a sweet text a week after to tell him I valued him and our time together, etc. I meant it but I was better off not sending it because I didn’t know he’s avoidant. I’m left with the feelings now and he’s shut off and after the next high with the next woman.
All that being said, he was always good to me. He treated me well, was affectionate even until the end, planned wonderful dates. I have no hate or ill will for him. I wish we could have just been friends tbh. I told him to get therapy when I was leaving and I hope he does for his own sake and for other women. Now I at least see the signs for any future potential partner.

I’m really hoping someone can help. I tried calling but it’s a robot you speak to and it won’t let me get to a human. So basically, we received I-797 notice of action approval notice - it stated that we have to send in an I-485 form and the notice and ship it in.
Directly on the letter it states “ this petition indicates that the beneficiary wishes to apply for adjustment of status to that of a lawful permanent resident”
Butttt we already submitted I-485 forms and biometrics, doctor documents, so on and so forth. We had just been waiting for the decision.
Then two days after we received that initial I-797 letter we received another I-797 stating the application was approved and stating she might be asked for biometric processing. Then the green card came in the mail the next day. Yay.
What I’m asking is do I still need to send the I-797 with the I-485 form filled out? I’m thinking it was sent out before the approval was fully done so it must be redundant. Because I logged onto the USCIS website and the case is closed and approved. So do they need further documentation? Or can I leave it as is?
Just need a bit of help as this is rather confusing.
Any help would be appreciated/ I hope it’s clear haha

Met this guy M35 through OLD, a little over a month ago, we had 5 dates. Slept with him on the last two dates and I didn’t sense anything off with our connection. Fast forward to yesterday when he reached out to me saying he sensed more of a “friendship connection” (?) between us and told me that I’m nice and lovely and he still wants to hang out and that he understands if that’s not what I’m looking for. I told him that I wasn’t interested in any friendship at all. He replied to me that it takes time for him to be certain about his feelings and that it’s not always black and white (whatever that’s supposed to mean). Didn’t reply to that.
Why would you want a friendship with someone you’ve dated (and slept with)? Do you think I’ve done something wrong? Never heard of this before.

I have a few late payments on credit cards they are only 30 days late I have tried contacting credit bureaus and the agencies itself no luck. Also have written goodwill letters and they have called me telling me that can’t do it. Should I just keep writing letters I’m so frustrated and not sure what to do. Any help is appreciated thanks!

So, I’ve got this little women’s fiction novel I’ve been working on for a few years. I think it’s ready to query, I’ve got a draft query letter, but now I’m stuck. I’ve got references to bdsm in both the novel and the letter. In the novel, these references are used to frame relationships and they are pretty significant to my protagonist’s story, but any specific acts are always handled with a very gentle touch. I've purposefully steered clear of anything that touches on erotica and no one is going to find any of my bdsm references anything other than (hopefully) intriguing. Can I, in good conscience, omit references to bdsm in my query letter? I’m concerned agents will see the reference in my letter and decline because, well, bdsm can take some interesting turns in a manuscript. On the other hand, it’s kinda significant throughout the novel because it frames one of the major relationships, so blindsiding an agent in my sample seems a bit unfair as well.
Thanks!