Hi guys. Making another shot at this. Cut prices on a few things because I'm just running out of room for storing my new builds. Order multiples and I may cut you a deal.
This post is mostly for people interested in buying, but I love a trade! If you're interested in trading see my latest post in /letstradepedals. I post there every other week, usually on Tuesday. I got non-DIY stuff in the trade post, too.
What I got for sale is hand-built stuff that I made, mostly relatively unique or heavily tweaked designs built on vero or point to point. Many are housed in upcycled tins, a few in hammond boxes. I've also got small practice amps built inside whatevers that you can crank up and enjoy at low volumes. They all run on standard 9v pedal power.
PRICES DON'T INCLUDE SHIPPING -- I ship USPS priority using pirateship.com, so expect shipping to be between $5 and $15 depending on how close you are to Tennessee. Would prefer to not deal with international shipping, but if you want it bad enough to pay for it, I'm game.
I accept Paypal or Venmo.
MOBILE USERS: There are 4 columns in the table below: Name, Price, Links, and Notes. If you don't see all 4, scroll over or ask for more info.
Fuzzes

Name	Price	Links	Notes
Bazz Me Fuss You #1	$90	PIC DEMO	A bazz-fussified perversion of the Escobedo push-me-pull-you, featuring controls for octave and volume. This is the first unit I've built using my own custom PCB. Housed in a painted 125B with top jacks.
Space Fuzz	$80	PIC DEMO	This is a Hollis crash sync fuzz that I souped up with an LFO to modulate the filtesync frequency. Really wild flangery/phasey type gated fuzz sound. At the right settings you can get some octave-down effects as well. Housed in a ~3.5 inch square game tin reinforced with recycled plastic. Pretty pleased with this build.
SwirlFuzz	$75	PIC DEMO	Modulated octave fuzz prototype. It's an octave fuzz, but you can switch on an LFO to modulate the octave amount. Controls for Rate, Depth, Gain, and Volume, plus switches for waveshape and mode (Normal/Octave/Modulated). In a circular tin reinforced with recycled plastic.
Big Green Fuzz for Attractive Bass Players	$75	PIC Demo	Like my bazz-me-fuss-you circuit, but with a big muff tone stack, a clean blend, and optional clippers for more compression. Housed in a big round tin reinforced with recycled plastic and designed specifically for attractive bass players. Unattractive ones may not really gel with this.
Creature from the planet Chyowngg	$65	PIC Demo	Prototype of a unique fuzz I've been developing that I call the Chyowngg fuzz. It's a 2-stage octaver that gives a bright synthy tone with a distinctive envelope (hence the name). You can toggle each stage from octave to non-octave mode for a variety of interesting timbres. Also has a tone control, but the tone control is before the octave stages so it results in interesting behaviors depending on the switch settings. It's in a tin meant to be painted like an alien, though some say it looks more like a triceratops.
Baller Fuzz	$60	PIC DEMO	Another Bazz-Me-Fuss-You build with an added BMP-style tone control. In a slightly beaten-up heart-shaped basketball tin. Y'all ready for this?
Wiff Spwinkles on Top	$45	PIC Demo	This point-to-point fuzz lives in the same neighborhood as the Harmonic Percolator, but has a few differences. I altered the way the gain knob works, and added a switch to toggle bass cut. It's housed in an ice-creamity welly tin.
Dumbo's Bazzrite Fussrite	$40	PIC Demo	A bazz-fussified mosrite fuzzrite circuit I cobbled together in point-to-point wiring style. Housed in a little Dumbo puzzle tin with GLITTER! Controls are for balance (kind of tone-cum-gain) and volume.

Drives, Distortions, and Boosts

Name	Price	Links	Notes
Bronze Drive	$85	PIC Demo	This is a point-to-point, transistor based overdrive I designed based loosely on the Davisson Easy Drive. Good for low-gain crunchy tones and plenty of output volume on tap if you want it for a boost. Tone circuit is like a BMP stack but with a mid hump instead of a mid cut. Housed in a painted 125B with top jacks.
Copper ZenerMorph Drive	$65	PIC Demo	This is an experiment in zener diode clipping. Nice crispy drive that gets beefier as you turn up the gain, lots of good edge-of-breakup tones to be had. Housed in a decorated tin reinforced with some plastic.
GOOST	$65	PIC	A simple JFET boost vaguely based on the Runoffgroove Fetzer valve. Switch toggles bass cut for a treble-boosting sound. Point-to-point build housed in a small tin reinforced with recycled plastic.
B is for Beast	$55	PIC DEMO	This fun little drive/boost consists of two cascading MOSFET gain stages with optional clipping in between. It goes from clean and loud to massive wall-of-gain distortion nicely. Controls for gain, clipping, and volume. In a small heart-shaped tin about 4in by 4in.
Shining Hope Drive	$40	PIC Demo	Differential mirroring drive, gives a kind of overdriven-mixer-channel distortion. Controls for gain, tone, and volume. Housed in a star-shaped Christmas tin.
Green Sparkler Boost	$35	PIC	Just an Escobedo Duende JFET boost built point-to-point in a sparkly little round tin. Gives a little gain and a bit of warmth to the tone.

Non-Dirt

Name	Tier	Links	Notes
Gift of Chykka Wakka	$65	PIC DEMO	First build of an all-transistor envelope filter I designed. Built point-to-point style and housed in a little giftbox tin reinforced with recycled plastic. Controls for Q and Sweep, switch toggles envelope smoothing.
Vortex of Funk	$65	PIC DEMO	Second build of the Chykka-Wakka circuit, this one features attack, Q, and range controls. Built point-to-point and housed in a painted tin.
BZZZ BOOP BEEP	$50	PIC DEMO	A basic square wave oscillator on a momentary switch. Can go from bzzz to boop to beep with a sweep of the big knob. Also has tone and volume controls, and a 3-way switch for different decay amounts. Use it to simulate a spring door stopper or dying cow. Or bleep your foul-mouthed frontman. Or mess with the sound guy. Or send Morse code to the bar. I dunno. Housed in a painted tin reinforced with recycled plastic.

Little Amps

Name	Price	Links	Description
Ample iMank	$65	PICS DEMO	This is a Runoffgroove Ruby Amplifier built into this old multimedia speaker enclosure designed to look like an old iMac. Glows blue when you turn it on. It runs from a standard 9v pedal power. It's not terribly loud, nor terribly clean, but if you dig the classic mac vibe it might be fun. Controls for gain and volume, and a power switch on the back.
Nosy Amp	$75	PICS DEMO	Another solid-state amp based on the Ruby amplifier, housed in a repurposed bookshelf speaker. This one actually has pretty decent volume, even on 9V (can run on 12V as well for more), and can stay clean while getting loud enough for a quiet jam with friends.
Fleur-de-Lis Amp	$90	PICS DEMO	A tiny bookshelf speaker turned into a practice amp. This one features a class D power amp for lovely cleans, and a custom designed discrete preamp that gets punchy & crunchy when cranked. Runs on 9V but pretty loud nonetheless.

That's all for now. I just keep building and building, though, so there'll be more.

https://www.reddit.com/BlackWomenDivest/s/LblFAdLySC
I confided in you all about a relative pushing his kids on me to raise and stealing my childhood. I have to tell you the rest, this uncle often yelled at me, was argumentitive, aggresive and made me cry as a child, made me feel inadequate and he causes issues for the mammy aunts who prop up his son who thinks he is great thing since sliced bread.
His son has manipulative, kicked me in my head, commented about my body and often has this fake , mean spirted demenor , he often told me Im ugly and only asked me to play my video games, he often copied whatever I did or if I went somewhere he wants to go too and watched me sleep one time. If i said no he got angry or implied i dont love him anymore. From the time he was born i gave him love but he treated me like nothing and followed his sisters disgusting behaviour and the mammies who talked and gossiped about me. Ever since he was born its when I fully saw I was nothing to these people only for my services/ what I can do. When he told me these things it was like youre older so you need to act mature or youre too sensitive.
Now I am currently no contact and we dont really talk.
His dad has been in trouble with people as long as i remember, my aunt had to bail him out, these mammy aunts CAPE for him. No one protected me when he made me cry I told her to stop giving him money but she was like family first. Now karma. Is catching up with all of them and she doesnt get it. STOP CODLING AND EXCISING BM BEHAVIOUR, THEY NEVER CHANGE.

I'm a retired business owner, and having sold two companies myself, I know a thing or two about being an owner. Trust isn't easily earned in our world, i will dig in your background, run your website on fraud checkers, and seek multiple opinions before I even consider a deal. If you're new to this, targeting folks like me can be a nightmare, especially if you've only been at it for a year or so. Which we know as business owners is nothing, the shit didn't even hit the fan just yet (wait an you'll see).
So here I am, the person I'm describing. I started Openfair because retirement isn't "la vie en rose", IT'S PRETTY FUCKING BORING. So, I decided the best thing I could do is to get back at it, by helping people share my suffering (EXITING WITH A LOT OF CASH IN HAND AND NOTHING INTERESTING TO DO WITH ALL THE SPARE TIME) even making little percentage on each successful exit, pretty evil right? 😂
I tried some basic marketing here and there, and even hired some folks to push my M&A strategies and techniques on entrepreneurial communities.
They fucked up real bad, and then got permanently banned .... i laughed my ass off, because it reaffirmed my belief that real business owners aren't easily fooled, and if there wasn't no shortcuts then, there isn't any now, you can't fake your way into this community with mediocre content.
That's why I decided to take matters into my own hands, even though it is a really bad idea to be this involved if you're planning to exit eventually, but nowadays it all seems related to having a personal brand and all that other nonsense of smiling and looking so happy constantly on short video formats explaining your version 2.999 website/app that actually provides value but no one cares about (yet).
This post is for me to say, reddit wins, authenticity wins, and this community is definitely a solid community with a strong bullshit/wanapreneurs detectors, show your face, and use your own fingers to type, no owner, or rational client will ever trust you, if you're hiding behind people, you yourself can't trust fully.
Cheers to you guys! and thanks for teaching me a lesson.

TL;DR - I would count on her Sig LC getting changed again, because it and Fall of an Aeon (Herta shop LC) are pretty close to equal damage-wise. If the V3 LC goes live, E1 >>> S1.
Details: new sig LC goes down to 476 base attack, has 60% BE, and now increases break damage from the user only. Aeon has 523 base attack, increases Atk by 64% when fully stacked (pretty trivial on FF and will be up after her second real damaging attack).
This has some interesting effects in calcs - assuming 5-6 attack rolls on gear (pretty reasonable, given base rolls count as 1), aeon has ~800 more attack than Sig, which directly translates into 80 BE. That leaves you up 20 BE on S1 Sig. You also get a small damage boost on normal damage sources; I have the net effect of those two things about 7% up on S1 before the other passive is considered.
Assuming her new personal break damage is ~40% (this is a guess from looking at previous calcs with HTB, but should be in the ballpark), the damage boost from the extra rider on the LC leaves it up…slightly under 3% on Aeon. That is terrible value for the pulls.
Note that this doesn't consider the speed debuff, which is pretty cool and worth something, especially if it lets you forego a sustain.

Title. Take for an example Wind-up Zenmaines,

If this face-up card on the field would be destroyed, you can detach 1 Xyz Material from this card instead.

Or something like lead-yoke. Would this count as an effect? an opponent tried to use triple tactics on me because of the detach

I’ve been reading up on squares & oppositions. And I’d love to hear about everyone’s experience with complete squares to their chart or complete oppositions (as it relates to their sun/moon/rising). ADDITIONALLY, anyone here a Sagg Sun/Pisces Moon/Taurus Rising OR Virgo Sun/Gemini Moon/Taurus Rising (if you are do you find any challenges between your square sun & moon placement?)

Hello everyone
I messed up and started taking FF again after I had quit for the first time. I originally started taking FF soon after I quit drinking as a means to replace that social lubrication function of alcohol, so of course it snowballed from there. I had no idea what I was getting myself into and very quickly fell into drinking 3-5 a day for a few months until I got a litany of health issues and an insane amount of credit card debt. I ended up quitting because it was destroying my relationships (moody, acting insane), my eyes looked so sunken in, my skin looked awful, and I was getting near constant UTIs and horrible urinary retention which I attributed to the kratom. It nearly destroyed my relationship in another way because my boyfriend had his own stint with kratom before I knew him and warned me about it, so something I felt like I had a handle on soon got out of control and I was hiding it from him and so reasonably he was very upset with me. I fucked around and found out. He forgave me, and I spent a week being dope sick and feeling like death and afterwards I never felt better.
Fast forward to now...
I was going through a major episode and felt like my relationship was over and I decided fuck it, I'd rather drink one of these guys instead of having a drink. I just wanted to feel better and I felt so so guilty about it. Obviously I couldn't have just one, it's so habitual, and I'm back in the thick of it. I haven't had the pee problems this time, but I have been hanging out at a kava bar almost every day and got a bad bout of kava dermopathy (crocodile skin) and have had to slow down on that but obviously can't stop FF cold turkey and still be able to go to work, do daily tasks, etc. I need 3-4 days blocked off in order to overcome this and away from my boyfriend to be able to handle the withdrawals on my own without raising any red flags. I feel so guilty.
I mention the dermopathy because my newest condition that I suspect is related to these little shits is styes, which I suspect is kava related this time rather than kratom related based on the limited research I've done. Something about the kavalactones. I've never had a stye in my life, and now all of the sudden after my dermopathy had begun to clear up, I got like 5 styes stacked on top of each other on my left eyelid. My boyfriend popped them despite my pleas to let them be and sort themselves out but I am glad he did, because the relief was unimaginable. My eyelashes were getting caught in it too, making me wonder if it was even an ingrown eyelash, but I dunno anymore... because just as I thought this awful week and a half of having a painful, swollen eyelid was over, I began to get them in my other eye, and another one is cropping up on my under eye of the original eyelid. I feel so depressed and ugly and frustrated and in pain.
I really suspect that it's these fucking FFs, but wondering about y'all's experience and if this has happened to anyone else. Thanks for letting me vent. I know what to do, I just have to find the right timing. Looking for support and others' experiences. Thank you <3

Before I go on, I have to confess, I feel embarassed for posting this. It feels like I'm weird for not having anyone to call friends, but it's the truth.
Never really had a friend group, due to being overly sheltered and socially anxious growing up (yeah, even up to my mid-20s) but I did my best to fix my life. It's gotten much better now, but it would be even better with a safe group of people I can grow and learn with.
Strictly SFW. I already have a partner, and we are very, very happy and content with our bond. She has tried to introduce me to some of her friends, but their bonds are already strong (many inside jokes and old stories I can't relate to, etc.) and I would like to have my own circle for independence and so I can also have people to introduce to her. Yes, she knows my situation and she's tried to help! I just also want to help myself :)
If nothing else, at least it's a good way to practice social skills :) I'm not too proud to admit I need the practice.
About me: - Introverted, but will do my best to contribute to the conversation - Interested in many things, but I will admit I know next to nothing about sports. Happy to be educated tho! Always wanted to learn more about soccer. - Relatively fit, but not a gym-goer (work outs at home) - Not much time to play anymore, but I game sometimes - Nagtatagalog rin naman po ako haha :) - A member of the alphabet mafia (LGBT+) so if this offends you, just scroll away - Working, but would rather the conversation not just be about our jobs / professional lives - I have a dog, but also enjoy cats
About you: - Around late 20s to early 30s, as I think we'd have more in common - Honest about your intentions (SFW only please!) - Willing to have an actual conversation (not just random hi's or hello's) - Just be a decent person, I guess?
We can chat on Discord first, then if we jive, we can grab a chill coffee, snack or a drink within the QC, Manda, or BGC area.
Thanks for reading! I hope you have a great day ahead.

https://youtu.be/IEUqLL8J4gI?si=X--iRe17I8i7cuVA
A lot of interest context of Japanese history and culture, culminating in a subtext and metaphor of rebelling against western society (Christianity and Capitalism, including - but not limited to: Ancient Chinese influences on Japanese tradition, Sakoku, Gunboat Diplomacy, and The Meiji Restoration, Baburu Keiki, and the Lost Decades) and how the lost decades in Japan are a microcosm and precurser of global late-stage capital and the reverence of the dollar symbolized as "the new god promising prosperity but delivering ruin."
Lots of economic talk I feel a bunch of us can relate to coupled with the cultural carrots and sticks that drive complacency in such a system that leads to its people burning out, socially isolate, not start families, etc. All tied up in the metaphor of the insurmountable task of killing a diety.

I’m still a relatively new season ticket holder (2018)
Just curious how long it to some of you to move up to the 200s. I’ve only been able to creep up a few rows every year

Hello...again. I'm still crusading with everything that has helped me live (mostly) Chiari symptom free for many years, and the next idea I want to share is uncomfortable. It won't feel good to read but if you think it doesn't relate to you I promise you--it relates to everyone and anyone who has a chronic condition or is sick in any way.
Little info about me:
Type 1 Chiari, 20mm. Diagnosed 2016; surgery was offered but not taken. My primary symptom was/occasionally is debilitating head pain from strain/pressure.
Links to my previous posts on the subject:
Living Well With Chiari - Without Surgery
Take a Life Inventory
Reducing Triggers
Improving Overall Health
Now...
Don’t hate me for asking, but…what do you get out of being sick?
No one consciously likes being sick. No one longs for the skull-splitting pain that can accompany a Chiari malformation. No one relishes dizzy spells and nausea and eye sensitivity and poor coordination or the other twenty dozen symptoms that our doctors may or may not take seriously, that there may or may not be treatment for, and that may or may not rule our lives BUT with every illness there is always some kind of advantage.
At my worst, Chiari was the BEST at getting me out of things. Excruciating pain excused me from everything. Family gatherings, friend parties, work events…cleaning the house, taking care of myself, or doing anything other than watching TV and drinking wine. I didn’t have to do SHIT. Because I couldn’t. And the Chiari was permission to give no fucks what anyone else wanted or needed or how they felt about my withdrawal from life. It was the ultimate get-out-of-jail-free card.
I mean, I was miserable…but I was basking in that misery.
I was in so much pain I couldn’t think about how to live better. I couldn’t worry about such things as my weight or the future of my writing or how filthy my floors were. I was barely living. And it was awful.
It was also a way out.

i was a sick person.

To my core, that was me: SICK. I didn’t realize how bad it was until my husband—who never gets a cold—complained of a virus and my internal dialogue went something like this: What? He thinks he’s sick? What a laugh! He’s not sick. NOBODY is sick like me.
I owned illness above all else. I hated it, but it was MINE. Every coughing fit, every spike of head pain, every wall I stumbled into, every night I cried myself to sleep. Being sick was who I became.
And I would never get well until I stopped being a sick person.
The Chiari had its sneaky tendrils snaked into every facet of my life, like we were woven together in a most elaborate tapestry of illness and pain. To begin healing, I had to untether from it. I had to separate myself from every Chiari strand until every fiber of my being was free.
If it sounds metaphorical, it’s not. It’s literal and simple (though seldom easy). Every time Chiari became a thought or an excuse, that was my cue to change the dialogue. For example, when I was contemplating changing jobs, I remembered my brief stint as a bartender in 2011 and immediately my brain said: I can’t do that anymore; what if I have a coughing fit behind the bar? Limiting beliefs running rampant in my brain needed to get shut down and rewritten into something more supportive, like: I would love to work with animals or in nature. That’s the kind of job I should be looking for!
In that kind of rewrite, I’m not denying that I might encounter pain or discomfort, but I’m choosing not to let pain or discomfort be the focus or run the show. Instead of looking at what I don’t want to experience, I’m putting my attention on the things that I do.
More than changing my thoughts, I had to stop using Chiari as an excuse to get out of living…and everything else…which meant showing up one minute at a time in all the places that I used to avoid, being present with all the people and situations the Chiari had shielded me from.

if i wanted to live without its pain, i also had to live without its protection.

Now, it’s true that there are plenty of legitimate physical limitations that accompany illnesses, Chiari included, but the problem comes when you talk yourself out of anything and everything because of them. I could get out of bed, I just chose not to. I could show up in life, I just chose not to. I could write a book or clean my house or have a kid…I just chose not to.
Or, rather, the Chiari chose for me.
Pandering to Chiari’s whims wasn’t limited to thoughts. It was in every decision I made, every choice to live small, every act to hide and shut down. It was in the purse that I carried (will it fit a water bottle to stave off a coughing fit?), the places that I went (can’t go there, the air in that store is guaranteed to tickle my lungs), the way I spent my time (I can’t visit those friends…I’ll have too much fun and want to laugh and laughing hurts so my head so much), and plans for the future (how can I have children when I can’t even take care of myself?).
Untethering from Chiari took work. And it’s still ongoing. Most of the ways that I have used Chiari to limit myself have been eradicated. My life, as a result, looks vastly different than it did in 2016 at the height of the pain. Today I’m a stay at home mom with a son, I have energy, I take Zumba classes, I write every day, my fiction has been produced by podcasts, I spend time outdoors every day, I laugh (sometimes it still hurts), I go into stores (sometimes) without bottles of water, I don’t drink wine every night (I don’t need to), and I’m free from the anxiety and depression that was once as crippling as the head pain that I only seldom experience. I am living.
If there’s one strand that I haven’t untethered from yet, it’s the fear around getting sick. I am terrified of being around sick people. I can’t even blame COVID, though it certainly contributed to the anxiety. I don’t know if I’ll ever be comfortable with someone coughing in my vicinity, knowing how bad it will hurt my head if I catch whatever they’re hacking up, and I don’t know if it’s necessarily a bad thing to keep my distance when I know someone is sick (I mean, shouldn’t we be doing that anyway?) but I’m trying to be less afraid. Or, at least, I’m trying to be less of a jerk about it when that fear takes over and people don’t understand why their cold is literally my kryptonite.
What I don’t do is use Chiari as an excuse to get out of living. I show up every day in every way and life keeps getting better. Bigger. Chiari Free.

I have my visa interview coming next week. I have got a great scholarship and everything, but I have an aunt who lives in the US. My aunt went there legally with her husband who got Diversity Visa, and she is a citizen.
So, in the Ds-160 question asking for immediate relatives, I ticked No. After that another question popped up which was only a Y/N question asking do you have any other relatives ?
I chose yes there, but I am seeing people saying that would affect my visa. How true is this guys ? Please help me out. Will they ask in details about my aunt during the interview ?

Hello my fellow vegans, so I’m looking to update a resource I have on my social media sharing good vegan/vegan related documentaries. Right now it has dominion, earthlings, speciesism the movie, land of hope and glory, forks over knives, game changers, and cowspiracy. I made the list back in 2020 and haven’t been keeping up with new releases. Are there any new documentaries that have come out or documentaries I missed that are related to vegan ethics/farming/plant based diets being good for health/the deleterious environmental effects of animal ag that may make good additions? Thanks!

Hi all, hoping somebody can steer me into the right direction. Here are some demographics about myself first!

• 5’8
• 170 lb
• Blood pressure stays around 108/68
• A little bit elevated cholesterol according to my lipid panel test done this year but have changed my diet dramatically since then.
• No family history of cardiac events
• Yes family history to elevated cholesterol and blood pressure

I am a 24 y/o male who has been experiencing chest pain particularly in the sternum location just in the middle of the chest for months, on and off not constantly. The pain is usually best described as if somebody is pushing their thumb into my sternum. Sometimes it’s sharp, but that’s rarely. The pain sometimes also branches out to the side of the sternum both left and right side usually not at the same time usually one side or the other.
I’ve mentioned this to multiple doctors before and of course since it’s pain in the chest they ran lots of tests (thankfully) I’ve gotten EKGs, blood tests to check for troponin, and D-Deimer, x-rays, I was then referred to a cardiologist who’s done multiple tests too. He’s done am echo, stress test, stress echo, holter, and even did a calcium CT scan. All came back unremarkable, he’s mentioned time he has no worries about my heart. I’ve had all these tests done within the last few months. Which I am extremely grateful for. It subsided for a few weeks probably even a month or two but now the pain comes back. it started back up three days ago. And I’m just confused what can be causing this?
I’ve gotten hit by a car when I was riding my bike back in 2019 so I was given a diagnosis of costochondritis but some physicians seems to butt heads about it and say it doesn’t last that long, and some say it can be chronic and come intermittently and have “flare ups” due to certain factors. I’ve received differential diagnosis of GI related issues as well. I’m just confused on what’s going on, I don’t want to keep being the boy who cries wolf and run for help every time I get these chest pains.
I work a desk job sadly so I feel like my posture could be a little bad? I try my best to get up and move around though, and to stretch as well.

So have to head up the North later in the week for a part that An Post rejected 3 times
Will do a bit of shopping whilst I'm there, but just wondering apart from the obvious (drink and paracetamol), what can you only get up North?
On my list already is:

• Senior dog food (can't get it as easily in supermarkets here)
  
• Chicken and Ham Paste (an elderly relative loves the stuff)
  

Anything else I should add?

Something I've (34M) struggled with recently is the the balance between meeting/accepting someone where they are at and having the grace to allow each other to rebuild and grow, versus having certain standards met upfront.
I've been dating someone (31F) for just over a year, and I've made a point of taking things slowly to allow ourselves the space to grow as individuals. We both came out of long term relationships prior to meeting; I moved back to a city where I have roots after living away with an ex, and she moved here from another country with a long term partner who she subsequently decided to break up with. I don't think she had much time between that break up and dating, so I definitely thought it was important to take it slowly, partially for my own benefit too while I was re-settling. Our relationship has been very much "take it slow, get to know each other, enjoy each others' company".
She's pretty, intelligent and we generally have a good time together. She accepts me for who I am and there has never been any drama. However recently it's concerned me that what I've initially assumed as side-effects of "figuring things out" are actually genuine personality traits that might cause problems, and it's tricky to spot the difference. She often comes across as a bit passive when making decisions, and perhaps isn't as passionate or enthusiastic about things as I'd like. She also has a fairly small network here, and I worry about the future support required if building a family (both of our parents live out of the country). However I do get that it's hard work to move into a new phase in life, and it's okay to not know exactly what you are doing with life right now. She isn't needy or dependent on me, so that's not really the issue, in fact she seems quite content - it's just I'm maybe not feeling as inspired and challenged as I'd like, you know?
I suppose what I'm wondering is how can you tell the difference between a temporary result of life circumstances and an inherent personality trait? Is she just temporarily unable to flourish? How can you be sure you don't sleepwalk into something, but also that you don't throw away something good due to impatience? I'm very aware this is also a "me" thing.
Has anyone related to this? Is this just a case of giving it more time to try and work towards a place where we are both satisfied, or does it sound like an emerging long-term incompatibility?

I remember reading an article a very long time ago saying that George Lucas originally wanted Starkiller’s love interest (Juno) to be his cousin, but the game developers weren’t too keen and rewrote them to be unrelated.
Well I randomly remembered this article and went to search for it, except suddenly I can’t find any mention of it ANYWHERE. I vividly remember reading about it, but there’s nothing I can find online that even suggests they were originally intended to be related. Am I going insane? Did George Lucas scrub it from the internet? Please tell me someone else remembers this and I didn’t just dream it up