Hello Reddit community! I’m engaged to an amazing man who is mildly autistic, which means he’s high functioning and can look normal. In the beginning of our relationship, it didn’t seem obvious as we were obviously in the “everything is perfect” phase.
My partner is a sensitive person and I also am. I noticed he needs more recovery time after an argument and that he’s constantly sulking. I am accustomed to his behaviour though, so it doesn’t bother me much.
However, fast forward we’re getting married soon and the stress of the wedding planning is getting to the both of us. I’m having problems with my father and vented to my partner. My partner is insecure as he’s still studying while I have a job, I am quite popular when he’s an introvert, I am considered quite knowledgeable due to my master’s degree. Due to my father’s horrid requirements that I have clarified to be stupid really, he shut down and started thinking that I deserve someone better. I communicated with him that he internalised a problem I am having with my father, and all I wanted was emotional support from him.
I thought I should be applauded for trying to communicate, even though my partner is extremely sensitive and I knew he would take it the wrong way. He texted me two days ago and he doesn’t want to talk to me and until now have ignored my messages. I didn’t send him a lot, just good morning and good night as we agreed to.
I’ve learned that autistic people can go non-verbal and are often overwhelmed. I’m just wondering how long until this no-communication period becomes unhealthy and suspicious? How long do I wait? How can I be more empathetic with his feelings? I’m neurotypical, but does that mean my feelings are less compared to his? All responses are appreciated!

URL: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/articles/parents-ultimate-guide-to-discord-2024
Title: “Parents' Ultimate Guide to Discord (2024)”
Author: Common Sense Media
Date Published: February 8, 2024
In today's digital age, Discord has emerged as a popular communication platform among children. It offers a place for children where they can connect and share interests. The app uses various forms of communication, including text, voice, and video. However, as with any social media, it is essential for parents to understand the potential benefits and risks that can come with it. The article, "Parents' Ultimate Guide to Discord," published by Common Sense Media on February 8th, 2024, provides a thorough look through of Discord's features and its impact on children.
First Media Key: Balance
In the book Infinite Bandwidth, the first media key emphasizes the importance of balance. When using media, It is important to have the virtue of temperance in order to maintain healthy media habits as “it ensures the will’s mastery over instincts and keeps desires within the limits of what is honorable.” (Gan, pg. 31). The article states that Discord can be a valuable tool for children to communicate and build a community with their peers as it “is a free app for mobile and PC that lets people chat via text, voice, or video in real time." (Common Sense Media, 2024). But, it is essential for children to balance their time on the app with other activities as Discord's features, such as chatting in servers, can lead to excessive use and detract from real-world interactions and responsibilities. With the ever growing use social media today, parents cannot stop their children from using apps for communication. Parents must be their children’s guide and example in learning to have a healthy balance of online and offline communication. So, parents must encourage their children to have temperance when using Discord so that they can still enjoy the app's benefits without it dominating or harming their lives.
Second Media Key: Attitude Awareness
When applying the second key of attitude awareness, prudence must be used as it “is the virtue that disposes practical reason to discern our true good in every circumstance and to choose the right means of achieving it.” (Gan, pg. 47). The article highlights the necessity of attitude awareness regarding the content and interactions on Discord. Children should be discerning about the communities they join and the conversations they engage in because “it's all user-generated, there's the potential for plenty of inappropriate content, like swearing and graphic language and images". (Common Sense Media, 2024). The article does a good job pointing out that while Discord has privacy settings and safety features, the open chat environment can expose children to inappropriate content and interactions with strangers. Parents must be their children's guardians, bringing awareness to the dangers of messages that could be sent to them. Parents should discuss with their children the importance of prudence, and help them learn to make good, wise decisions about who they communicate with and what they share.
Third Media Key: Dignity of the Human Person
The third media key centers on the dignity of the human person, which involves using the virtue of justice. Justice is an important virtue to have when using any form of social media as it “disposes one to respect the rights of each,” as well as, “promotes equity with regard to persons and to the common good.” (Gan, pg 62-63). Respecting the dignity of the human person means engaging in respectful, positive communication and avoiding harmful, negative behaviors. The article talks about the presence of both supportive and harmful interactions and that "Discord has privacy and safety settings that allow users to control who has the ability to send them direct messages or add them as a friend." (Common Sense Media, 2024). If not for these, children could receive harmful, or even dangerous messages. These features allow parents to protect their children and their dignity.
Fourth Media Key: Truth-filled
The fourth media key highlights the importance of truth. The virtue of fortitude is necessary for children to seek and uphold truth as it “strengthens the resolve to resist temptations and to overcome obstacles in the moral life” (Gan, pg. 79). The article explains that while Discord can be a good platform for talking to others by sharing knowledge and engaging in discussions,"There are several educational servers and as well as Student Hubs" (Common Sense Media, 2024). Discord can also be used to possibly spread misinformation and falsehoods as "Each server on Discord has both text and voice channels," and "You can share images, video, and GIFs on Discord" (Common Sense Media, 2024). Parents should encourage their children to lean on the virtue of fortitude to help them verify information and be cautious when using Discord.
Fifth Media Key: Inspiring
The fifth media key focuses on the inspiring potential of media, it “encourges us to expect the best from media” (Gan, pg. 94). Discord's communities and collaborative features can inspire children to learn, create, and connect with others who share their interests and help spread goodness and positivity. As previously mentioned in the article, Discord has educational servers and Student Hubs which “connects them with their classmates in a private server where they can create study groups and interest clubs." (Common Sense Media, 2024).
Sixth Media Key: Skillfully Developed
The sixth media key centers on the quality and creation of media. Discord's user-generated content varies widely in quality and appropriateness because “in this day and age, we all can be media-makers” (Gan, pg. 110). The article highlights the importance of properly managing children’s online environment in Discord. Children should be encouraged to join well-moderated servers that promote meaningful, positive interactions. This can easily be achieved with Discord as "Server owners can also set their own rules for what is or isn't allowed (for example, swearing or hate speech) and block from chat any users who break the rules." (Common Sense Media, 2024). Discord has also created many privacy settings and features "Family Center is a Discord feature that allows parents and caregivers to monitor their kids' activity on the app." (Common Sense Media, 2024), allowing Parents to help guide their children to use Discord thoughtfully and carefully. Discord has skillfully made it parents to monitor what their children are up to and who they are talking to, ensuring their safety online.
Seventh Media Key: Motivated by and Relevant to Experience
The seventh and final media key emphasizes the importance of creating an experience through media that appeals to children's thoughts and emotions. It inspires their actions and calls them to have the virtue of charity, which “is friendship and communion” (Gan, pg. 128). Discord follows this key through its features, where children can create meaningful interactions that resonate with each other. "Users also create private servers to chat with friends while they play together. For example, a team on Fortnite could create a private server on Discord to chat and strategize together" (Common Sense Media, 2024). Children can also form communities with each other around shared interests; "just about any topic is represented on Discord" (Common Sense Media, 2024). Discord is a great platform that motivates and is relevant to children. It enhances their real-world relationships and interests through communication and collaboration.

I’m an EA for a CEO who’s known to have a high turnover of assistants (found out after I got hired, cool!). My experience is mostly working with smaller companies and even though this one isn’t huge, it’s way more established than the others I’ve had. I’ve made it to 3 yrs and some months (a high accomplishment according to the OGs there) but I’m ready to jump out the window. It’s not the projects, and it’s not the team - I kick ass on them and I absolutely love everyone I work with. It’s just them! As a person! Constantly changing meetings which causes other leaders to completely change their own schedules which causes frustration and low morale. Super last minute flight changes, constant berating, very awful comments, calls and requests at odd hours and weekends and that’s just a bit! I don’t remember the last time I didn’t hear from them for an entire day. I ask for time off and there hasn’t been a week of vacation or a weekend away or a day off where I didn’t get a text or a call. We, as a company, travel a lot and recently they said they’re “independent” and just forfeited my travel but.. I’m up almost 24 hours straight attending to their needs while traveling internationally and then attending to the regular hour duties. Unable to use any apps or any tech appropriately so for example I send a message every morning with their daily calendar (yep, I also handle their regular calendar), or screen shot things like boarding passes. I feel like the help and it doesn’t feel great because on top of being a POC, it doesn’t really make me feel like this is an EA role with some personal work but it’s only PERSONAL work and some EA work. I’m told in my company I’m the one “with the most difficult job here” — I’m just tired of feeling like I’m not part of their team when not only am I the only EA right now so I help anyone and everyone but also for the fact that their meeting attendance has improved by 90% since I joined, but fuck that noise, I guess? On top of that I’m the office manager? Which was never on my scope of work - but hey! Jack of all trades here. No task too big or too small.. I’m just sad. So sad. I’m looking for a way out. I’ve eaten enough shit and it’s like I have bad streak with CEOs. I like my career, I like being helpful. My reviews are always great, I’ve made amazing friends, I just don’t know what it is! I just want to work with someone who will appreciate me and want to succeed together and not pay me pennies.
Thanks for reading…

Hello.
I applied to be a Movie Canvasser not too long ago.
I then got this text:
"Hello, sorry to bother you via text message. Do you like watching movies? Are you looking for a job? We need 100 people over the age of 20 to work as movie evaluators. You will only have to work for about 1 hour a day, there is no time limit and you can organize your time as you wish. Before you start, I will give you a free 30-minute training session. At the end of the training, you will be paid between $50 and $200 for the training, and you will be paid at least $200 to $700 per day, easily over $10,000 per month! If you're interested in learning more, please contact me on WhatsApp: +14044369279"
I then contacted the number on WhatsApp and noticed the profile pic was of a sexy woman. After introducing each other she said this:
"I recommend you to join this job and I can get 20% of your account commission. This is paid to me by the platform. It will not affect your income. Don't worry"
I didn't see anything fishy but I asked if we could talk on the phone to do the training. However she said she needed to talk through WhatsApp. When I asked if we could talk through the training she said
"There are many people who need this job now. I need to introduce them to work and training. I don't have time to call. I hope you can understand."
I decided that was okay. Then she sent the job description which is this:
"Our main job is to upload data for their (FilmAffinity) company's movie data optimization platform. The nature of this job is * freelance (non-technical, no experience required) *. The only requirement for you to do this job is to have a network device (mobile phone or computer).
As for work time and place, it is up to your own goals on your own time, which means you can work remotely without any restrictions (every day you can do it at home). The company's working hours are 11: 00 a.m. to 10: 59 p. m. eastern time. We can work at any time during this time. It only takes about an hour at most.
Do you accept the nature and working hours of this kind of work? If possible, I will continue to tell you more about the work."
She went on to explain this about the company:
"Our gross income is based on base salary and commission. However, this is not a fixed ratio. Because it depends on the more you do, the more you earn. The commission is our main income. The basic salary depends on whether you can upload data optimization every day. If so, you will get the basic salary. For example, if you upload data optimization for 5 consecutive days, you will get an additional 970USDT in addition to the commission.
Our salary payment method is daily salary and weekly salary. Complete the 2set task on the first day to get 20USDT salary. Complete the 2set task on the second day to get 30USDT salary. On the 3rd day, you can get 50USDT salary by completing the 2set task. Complete the 2set task on the 4th day to get 70USDT salary. After completing the 2set task for 5 consecutive days, you can get 100USDT salary and 700USDT weekly salary. Therefore, the salary for signing in for 5 consecutive days is 970USDT, and the salary for one month is 5820USDT, which is a fixed salary. (1usdt = $1)"
Something about this seems...fishy. But I don't exactly see where I'd be getting tricked out of my money so what do you think? Scam or not?

We adopted a female Torbie 6 months ago. She was around 5 months old when we got her.
Her description said she was super sweet and affectionate.
And she can be. However, she will not let us pick her up and she can be aggressive.
It's not that big of a deal except when we need to move her. For example getting her in the crate to get spayed and then getting and keeping the cone on her head, basically turned my entire house upside down for weeks on end.
We also have a small dog who is 12 years old. She wants to play with him, but he couldn't care less about her. So we decided to get her a playmate.
Three weeks ago, we adopted a one year old male tabby. He is the absolute sweetest cat.
He's an absolute pur machine who loves to be held and cuddle.
Even when he plays with his toys, he's so gentle.
We follow Jackson Galaxy's protocol for slowly introducing them.
For the first week or so, we let them smell each other's blankets .
Second week they were interacting with each other behind closed doors.
Then we let her see him while he was in the crate.
Then we eventually let him out and let them interact face-to-face.
At first, she was aggressive towards him, hissing and swatting and he did not fight back.
Now it seems that whenever we let him out of the bedroom, she wants to play with him, but then the play turns aggressive, and he winds up, fighting with her because he remembers that she attacked him a few weeks back.
To make a long story short – I know it's still early – i'm beginning to think they're never going to actually get along and I might have to choose between the two of them.
On the one hand, we got her first and so I feel like we owe it to her to keep her.
On the other hand, he feels like the perfect cat. He's loving affectionate and actually wants to be held.
Not sure what to do here.
Anyone else ever been in a situation like this? What did you do?

I don't know if it's OBS' problem or if its a bad capture card, I know the capture card will definitely not be 100% perfect as it was 10 bucks on Amazon.
CBR with 6000 bitrate, x264 (preferred over hardware), export to .mkv, ultrafast, 0 keyframe, "main" profile, Tune is (none), and I use Bicubic Rescale Output because that generally looks way better for some unknown reason.
Without the Bicubic rescaling pixels around the text look garbage and the image is very sharp but it's still there with Bicubic. Lanczos is a bit laggier.
The main problems I have here are weird and overly pixelated colours and I wish the preview (which is the method I use to see what's going on in my PS4 and record at the same time) had much better image quality and framerate equal to the final recording. I also want much less lag/visual discrepancy. Right now it is acceptably low but I at least want to enjoy playing while I record.
I use Krisp noise cancellation if that even matters here
Specs:
Intel i7-10510U (has Quicksync and dedicated encoders, found that x264 is somehow much faster and smoother)
16GB RAM, 512 SATA, Windows 11
I will upload both an example clip of the current settings (with Bicubic and all other bitrate, etc.) and a log file.
I want to know if I should return this crappy capture card or if there is anything I should tweak (I have no filters set on ANYTHING btw)
30fps is max FPS output of PS4 and looks smooth however the visual quality itself is not at all acceptable for YouTube.
Please help!
Logfile
Example Video
Excuse my skill issue in the gameplay.

I was just thinking today about how I was looking forward to middle school as a kid. Elementary school was so awfully boring, but I also didn't really have any real friends so that didn't help. Still though, the thing is that I spent a lot of time by myself and that involved watching a lot of TV. And I'm not from the US, I live in Europe, but the TV shows were all from the US. And they kinda gave me a really cool fantasy of what school was gonna be like after elementary school. And yeah I'm sure anyone reading this is gonna think that, well, of course it's not actually like on TV, TV is fiction. But trust me, this is gonna be way more disappointing than you think. But I mean, at least I wasn't bullied, most people just sorta left me alone instead, so I don't wanna act as if school must definitely be better in other places. It's just that, it was so boring.
Hmm where do I begin. Two things constantly said in these TV shows that left me confused, kids often talked about classes they take, consider taking and don't take. And kids often talked about "this person from my x class". This gave me the idea that, unlike in elementary school, I'd get to at least somewhat choose what classes I might wanna take. Not at all how it worked, at least not at the schools that were options for me at the time I went to middle school in the early 2000s, as far as I can tell. I say as far as I can tell cause it was never explained to me either, it was explained to my parents, so that they could maybe talk to me and figure what to do with me. Anyway, you either went to trade school, which was seen as a huge embarrassment to your parents cause you are an idiot that's probably not gonna do college, or for 7th and 8th grade you decide on one of two options; latin or modern languages. Both of those come with a certain set of classes, you can't not take any of them and you can't take any that don't come with it. My parents didn't put much thought in it, they were just told that since I did so well in elementary school I should go for latin, as that's what smart kids do. It doesn't come with many interesting classes to me, but to be honest neither did the other option. I would have much rather gone to trade school, which has a technical studies option too that would come in handy for college, but many people just didn't like having to say that their kid goes to the trade school. In fact, I had a few people in my group failing on purpose cause they told their parents they wanna go to trade school but were just not allowed, so they protested by failing. Anyway, the other thing that had me confused about that, all classes are taken with the same group. You're in a group of about 20 people, they all have the same classes cause you don't get to pick and choose, why not have them do every class together. I'm not sure if that's supposed to get the group to know each other better or something, but really the result is just that you really don't get to know so many people. If you don't like any in this group so much, well tough luck, everybody only hangs out with people of their own group. You weren't even allowed to sit with people from another group for lunch, they assigned you a seat at a table for your group. And you know, many of them are kinda the same. This school was just for those two options I mentioned anyway, which are for preparing kids to continue to college in the future, anybody wanting to do any trade or anything technical would be at a different school that focuses on those. Oh and also, not a single girl in our group, I didn't really care at the time but thinking back about it it does seem kinda weird to have years of middle school where all classes were boys only. Alright on to the next topic to pick. Hmm how about the whole thing with the activities at school they always have on TV. You know, clubs, sports, arts, dances, science fairs, even elections for something? Yeah I did totally wonder what my future school was gonna have. Which was nothing, in fact I went to three different schools from 7th to 12th grade and they all had nothing. It's just not a thing here I guess? There is not a single thing to do other than go to your set of classes that day and go back home. No special events of any kind either, just an occasional educational school trip. But certainly nothing that would make you meet any people with similar interests, or anything social at all really. Here's sorta how it works instead. You wanna do any of this, you sign up for it somewhere else and go there after school. Like my city did have a music school and a drawing school for example, so if you wanna go to a 2nd school on some days after going to your 1st school that day then you're free to do that. Of course it'll be with completely different people that you probably don't ever see anywhere else. I was in an unrelated sports team for example, we played a game on saturdays that is only attended by parents and practiced 2 hours after school one day in the week. And I never saw anyone on the team ever outside of those couple of hours per week. That's also one kinda problem with that isn't it, the kids learning music or drawing at those specific schools after their main schools probably got to show off the things they learned at times, but only fellow kids at those specific schools and their parents would ever know about it. They never get to show off the stuff they learned to kids at their main schools.
Here's a little short one for in between that is kinda odd, personal lockers. Nobody ever got their own locker, not at any of the three schools I went to. We just stuff all our crap in our backpack and bring it home. Then in the morning figure out what we need that day, and carry it all back to school in our backpack. In elementary school we had a desk at school with a little space for books, but from middle school you're not always in the same classroom so you get no desk with storage. Every classroom you go to you bring your heavy backpack with everything for that day in it.
This is getting really long already so here's my last one, the whole social groups and cliques thing full of stereotypes. Well, just having anything like that at all really. Because of the stuff I wrote earlier, but also some of the rules. Like I already said, you take every class with your group and sit at an assigned place with your group for lunch, you can't go find someone who likes the same stuff as you from outside your group. Except during one of the three breaks, two of those are 10 minutes and one is 30 minutes. During those, you can walk around outside and go talk to anyone you want. Of course they are all total strangers to you though as you have never seen them do anything anywhere, since there are no activities at school other than your classes. But here are some of the rules we had. No electronic devices, so you can't listen to or show anyone any music or play any videogames with anyone. I mean no phones either but almost all of those couldn't really do anything other than call and text at the time anyway. No 'distracting' hair, whether that is a weird style or having any part of it any color that does not appear natural in humans. No 'distracting' clothing either, but at least no uniforms. No tattoos or piercings of any kind, except earrings but one time an acceptable looking punk came in with a safety pin earring he did at home and that did not count as an allowed earring. Actually come to think of it, the punks were the only group. Everybody else just looked the same as everybody else. And these punks were just 4 people. We knew they were punks cause of their outfit, they pushed the boundaries of distracting. And sometimes too far, like with the safety pin. But they usually wore a flat cap, a denim jacket with a few punk patches and leather boots. Probably the coolest looking people at the school, mostly because I couldn't tell you what anyone else looked like now, I totally forgot everything except their face. Though I was also a bit of an exception. I was the guy with long hair. Not that anybody knew anything about me cause I didn't talk, but they did know me as the one guy in school with long hair. They couldn't really ban that as I don't think they could ban things for only one gender. But yeah, you only have the opportunity to talk to people not in your group during the short breaks, but how would you decide who to go talk to? You never talked to any of these kids, all you got is how they look, and they're barely allowed to change their look from anything default.
Alright I'm gonna end it here. I guess the conclusion is that if you make school as absolutely boring as possible then there is not gonna be as much trouble, I think that might have been the goal at least? Just come in, get your education that day, go home, no drama. Is that better? I wouldn't know, I haven't been to other schools of course. But I sure couldn't help but wish it had a little more going on like they did on TV.

About a year ago my first relationship ended, lots of things happened during it. Most of the relationship was good but there are just somethings that she had said to me that i just cannot get out of my head. For example, the thing i remember the most is when she told me i was disgusting for wanting to do anything sexual or having those thoughts. She was asexual but we were dating for about a year so i opened up to her about that part of me, i don’t blame her for having that reaction. Those types of feelings are not anything she could relate to having. I then got sexually assaulted a couple of months later and she ignored it? We never talked about it and when i would try she would avoid it. At that time i knew she had gotten assaulted/r worded in a past relationship so i thought it reminded her of that. Later after we broke up i found out she lied about the assault because she didn’t want to kiss me and she is now if what i was told is true not ace. I kind of put two and two together and realized it was just me. That hurt alot but I started talking to this guy and when i ended things i brought up to him that i was scared of my past relationship happening again. A close friend read the text messages when we broke it off and she sighed at me (in a loving way ofc) and told me that it wouldn’t happen again so i have no reason to worry. The more i think about it, the more i think im stupid for still being scared a year later of anything sexual with a real person. Im fine when it comes to anyone i dont know but idk when i think about having that connection with someone im dating it terrifies me. Am i stupid??? 😭

Hello, I have been looking everywhere for somewhere to post this because I wanted more opinions, so this is my first time here. I’ve been having some symptoms going on for almost a year now. I was wondering if people on here could help me & I didn’t get any objections to this idea from my other friends, so here we go.
About last year I was talking to a friend who I’m no longer in contact with about some childhood stories, my first day in preschool, a hospital trip, and something that happened during middle school where I heard some sort of very faint voice in my head that didn’t sound exactly like me (I talked to my therapist about it, she suggested it was probably a depression voice since I was hearing thoughts as if I was overthinking or having anxiety.) All three times I started to feel incredibly zoned out, feverish, & it was hard to think. It felt very intense and I’m unsure why, a few days later I was with some friends on VR Chat, I start complaining about how I feel like I’m dreaming, and my friend asks if I’m dissociating, I ask them to clarify if feeling like you’re dreaming can count as dissociation, and they said yes to an extent, I ask my other friends who experience dissociation a lot and they say yes overall.
A few days after that, me and my family go somewhere for my dad’s birthday, it went fine but my mom started talking to me about how I always had a high pain tolerance since I was younger, while we’re eating she asked me if something in my childhood felt normal to me (I won't specify what it was, but it was something medical related to helping me eat) I said yes, so this and my friend asking if I was dissociating made me want to talk to my therapist about it both dissociation and my childhood.
I had a therapy appointment shortly after that and I ask my therapist what counts as dissociation (my other friends have explained it to me, I just never thought to myself “hey I feel like that a lot.”) and she explained to me what does count as dissociation and then I realize “hey I’ve felt like this a lot, maybe even every other day.” I ask her if next time we can talk more about my childhood since I was in and out of hospitals a lot and experienced a lot of other things related to that, and she says yes.
Around now is when I start feeling a pressure in my head a lot, or just a slight pushing feeling in my head feeling like somethings pushing my forehead forward, that or something trying to pull me away.
Next appointment we talk more about my childhood and some other things like middle school, and dissociation, and how I probably do have a lower level of trauma mostly revolving around my medical history, (I don’t recall any abuse or yelling besides my father grabbing my arm sometimes and raising his voice a good amount, he’s better now, just issues with tone.) Like I said earlier I will not specify what it is entirely but up till I was around 3-4 I was horribly sick, vomited a bunch, and had needles poked in me a lot for blood draws, needed a good amount of surgery, was constantly severely swollen most of the time, & suffered a lot of severe pneumonia (though I was still in and out of the hospital a bit till up to 5-6 I believe.)
More context is that I’m in a smallish sized friend group (more than 7-8 people at least.) About 3 people of them were systems, at this point, all 3 said systems told me they suspected me being a system and have been saying a lot of the symptoms seem very suspicious, & my descriptions sound similar to their experiences before they themselves found out they were systems, another 2 systems joined our group later on and they thought the same thing, so that’s 5.
Sometimes when I wake up, I do hear something like “Hey (my name).” quite often (when I hear things it also seems most common when I’m with friends.) I start feeling like I’m losing control of my body, sometimes (an example is I remember playing another game and suddenly I felt incredibly zoned out and I had to “hold on” Is how I’d put it.) Very rarely I do hear things during the day even now (though I thought I’ve been hearing my name get called down as I mentioned earlier, hearing things more commonly I feel like when I’m around others, when nobody did call me in reality, or in a call I hear someone in my head speak sometimes I’ve felt like.) another example is when I was in a voice chat on Discord with my other friends and we were all jokingly arguing about how Maria was said and I swear I heard a faint “Mari-uh.”
There’s not much else, besides constantly feeling a bit disconnected from reality, my therapist doesn’t know too much about the topic of dissociation unfortunately so she can’t be too reliable, my family is trying to look for a psychologist for me, here are some other notes.
-I am genderfluid, sometimes it feels like when I shift genders I feel like my head is melting and there’s a bunch of pressure on it - when I change genders sometimes it feels like it’s triggered by looking at other certain characters from other media (for an example, one makes me feel masculine, one makes me feel feminine, and one makes me feel non binary.)
-Talking to other systems most times triggers my head to flare up, most of the time feeling like something is sitting there (my other friends have suggested it is dissociative barriers.)
I have tried talking to “Maria” a bunch of times before, but it seems more responsive to other people (people saying “hello maria” jokingly, other systems speaking, etc, & flares up at things like me being mean lightheartedly towards my friends, talking to certain other friends, & sometimes when I’m around my dad the pain/pushing feeling flares up.)
-I am very likely autistic, if that is important.
-I have been having elevated blood pressure for over two years now (my therapist has suggested it might be why some symptoms are happening, though I have been on a light dose of medication for a bit, soon to move to a higher dose.)
-I have maybe heard voices when I was younger than 8 though I only feel like that has happened, I’m not too sure about the memory itself.
-I am pretty sure I remember a few instances where I was younger and I have randomly blacked out (mainly during dangerous situations) to wake up somewhere completely different, I have also shut down a lot mentally when I was young and zoned out a bunch - though it is probably due to a bunch of sensory overloads but still thought I’d mention it.
Forever I’ve felt like I’ve gotten these short, small rushing feelings in my head, like something is rushing towards the front of my head (sometimes my vision gets a bit blurry) the short moments of that rushing feeling might’ve been spiking up with how often it has been happening lately.
-Another friend who is a system has suggested things could be active at night because other alters could be feeling safer at that time.
-While I did say "Maria" is more responsive to others rather than me, the pain does sometimes go away when I type out "Please make my head stop hurting" or if I ask for my head to stop hurting. It seems more consistent when I type it out rather than saying it aloud, and if it does work, then I feel like I zone back in a little, even if I didn't feel too zoned out to begin with. It feels more consistent if I use name “Maria” or sometimes other names too.
-I have spoken to my therapist about how my memory of my childhood feels jumbled, as if I can only remember random certain events and small pieces, it still feels like a lot of my memory is missing (an example would be I cannot remember 2nd-4th grade for the most part.) Though my therapist did say missing gaps like that was normal but I’m still not sure.
-If my age is important, I am a 19.
-I’ve always felt a small struggle with who I am as a person, or my identity (I am able to say I am myself, but I’ve always felt a slight struggle at the same time, or I guess an off feeling when seeing myself in a mirror.)
-Sometimes it feels like I’m able to change my emotions as if it’s on command, I’d be breaking down terribly and sometimes I can snap myself into feeling mostly okay, though I am unsure If this is just me repressing those emotions or not.
-The head pain or pushing/pulling feeling in my head sometimes starts when I wake up and is pretty bad for a while.
-Sometimes the pain or pushing/pulling feeling goes away when I'm around others or outside.
I am aware nobody on here can diagnose me as none of you are likely a professional, but I thought it wouldn't hurt to get secondary opinions. I believe that’s all, I just want more opinions. Whoever has read this and made it this far, thank you and please put your own input if you have any thoughts. I am aware I should get a professional for this kind of thing but as I said earlier, my family is currently looking for a psychologist for me, and my therapist doesn’t know too much about these things unfortunately, so I just want more opinions on it to see if I can get more help.

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I want to note that I have enjoyed the game quite a bit so far, but there are a few things I feel that make the game's replay value seem a bit lower than hades 1. I just want to start discussions here for the devs to look at and also see how other players feel about the game. This is a discussion and I hope that the devs don't take this as me dogging on them or anything like that. I think so far the gameplay is mostly great and very enjoyable. Except for the few things that I have noticed so far. Also MAJOR spoilers for the underground portion of hades 2
Edit: I just wanted to add here that this is my FIRST hades game. I have about 40 hours of hades 2 and 63 nights played and about 35 minutes in hades 1. The only other roguelikes that I have played that are similar to this are risk of rain 2, dead cells, and binding of Isaac. This stems from an entirely casual gamer that just likes challenges.

1. It feels like builds with specifically dagger and staff either go toward your attack + cast or special + cast. I have yet to find a build that doesn't just pump one of the skills or omega skills and is able to use all the other attacks well. Examples being staff with poseidon special just start forgoing the use of omega skills and attacks completely except for maybe omega cast on certain trash waves. Except unless you get an attack that deals a crucial debuff, then you use it exclusively to proc that debuff. Its very different from hades 1 where you chain skills together for maximum effect. My easiest example is the sword with how fluid it feels to use dash attack + atk + special combo. Allowing you to really get a lot of use out of all three of them. Although I admittedly haven't played as much as hades 1 to say much else about it. But at the very least it feels like to get the most out of your weapons you really do need to use everything I have used the bow and shield, but without any aspects so gameplay might change a lot with those. Whereas in hades 2, you often are missing damage output by using a special over an attack or vice versa. In addition to the fact that its often very difficult to chain attacks together. A good example of this is with daggers, if you go aspect of artimis, it feels REALLY bad to use specials since you usually want a parry into a big attack + 9 other high damage skills so you can get the most of your aspect. This usually means that you spec into your attack and then kinda forget about your special except for niche use cases like to stop an unarmored enemy from casting an ability or to apply a debuff or for random poke damage (which probably amounts to very little anyways). On the flip side if you go aspect of pan, you are usually specing into special. In which you probably get poseidon special for consistent reliable and high damage. Which means each special hit is doing its base damage 30 (? might be a little lower) plus poseidon special damage, which amounts to more dps than using any attack would give you plus you can dash special with it, so dash attack is kinda pointless as well. The big thing here is that due to aspect of pan wanting enemies to be in your cast you at LEAST still use your omega attack to close distance for extra damage and to safely get behind an enemy at the cost of 10 magick. But outside of that attack feels very bad to use. The staff is probably the biggest offender of this tbh. Staff with poseidon special immediately just become spam special till everything is dead. it doesn't really matter what you have on everything else, the only thing you might do is weave a cast to maintain your distance from enemies and sprint around for positioning. There really isn't any fluid combos most of the weapons have unlike say hades 1 sword (i have the most experience with sword from hades 1 and staff and daggers from hades 2, ive tried shield and bow from hades 1 and the rest of the weapons from hades 2, but don't have a win on them or just simply don't like their playstyles so I won't comment on them much as I may be biased)

Also I just want to put here, the cast ability is a bit too strong. The ability to essentially cut an arena in half or say "I'll deal with you guys later" Or just say no to melee enemies with a click of a button is a bit much when there is no limit to how many enemies you can restrain. The best example of this is in oceanus where there are rooms full of just spinny enemies and the player can simply throw an omega cast down and watch as they run to their deaths. The move trivializes just about every other melee enemy in the game and rather than fully rooting them should just slow them like they do with some enemies in Tartarus.
2) Weapon + 1 boon combo does WAY too much damage and is WAY too consistent even up to 10 fear
I don't know if it's just a me thing, but the player is able to hard sweep pretty much everything up to chronos with just one boon. Some boons in the game are simply too strong in their current form. Examples being poseidon special, aphrodite attack and special boons, demeter freeze, and any ability to fire or place your cast away from mel. These boons really make games pretty much unlosable up until Chronos who realistically is only a knowledge check (I'll come back to him later). Getting some of the attacking boons i mentioned earlier especially trivialize bosses up to Chronos, and certain weapon + boon combo, so you really are just looking for 1 boon ends up being an easy win. Specifically poseidon special + ANY staff aspect/aspect of pan and Aphrodite attack with any of the daggers. Or Aphrodite special with aspect of pan daggers. Not to mention if you get other outside defensive boons like the ability to just turn off projectiles while sprinting in any encounter or boss fight. And if you get something a bit more synergistic with said boon like a boon + hammer + weapon combo then you end up just blowing up bosses. More specifically aspect of momos + double moonshot + poseidon special, seriously why does this melt bosses so easily and realistically doesn't even need the aspect portion. Or aspect of pan + dagger circle attack (i just remember this by the +40% and 16 daggers description) + poseidon/aphrodite special. I have gotten 14m runs with JUST those two and the two resource gain boons from poseidon and weakness dash from aphrodite along with omega cast from apollo (i never used it because the cast animation for the omega cast took too long and i did more damage to just about everything if I just used my special, except for in oceanus, that area is just how well do you deal with many small mobs imo)
3) Boss fights It might just be me, but after about 60 nights. The boss fights have become very easy and is mostly a how fast do i blow up Chronos. I think its part of the player does too much damage with just one boon type of thing. But the boss fights mostly end up with going from spawning to first "test" or enrage or add spawn wave, to next one by the time you hit sirens. Even Hecate gets like this if you start with anything above epic for your main damage dealing attack or special (i havent really tried a omega cast specific build yet) The other issue I have is specific to Chronos. His fight is quite literally the biggest knowledge check in the game. Someone put it nicely in another post that Chronos is an accumulation of everything that you have seen getting up to Chronos. This is great game design. However, I have two issues when it comes to the difficulty of the boss's patterns. The first issue is p2's closing circle. The attack lacks visual clarity to what you are about to get hit with since the game initially associates dark blackness with death and bright circles with life. So naturally when you see the closing circle attack for the first time, the player's instincts are okay lets stay in this closing circle and avoid the dark damage dealing outside. But ends up taking damage anyways. The issue with this attack is that the game doesn't make it clear that its ONLY the edge that deals damage to the player and not the closing darkness. In fact its completely safe to dash through said ring and stay in the darkness even after the ring closes. Which was previously something that would instakill the player. Another thing is Chronos's attack pattern in p2. Not the full map attacks or the p2 specific attacks but the dash and slash attacks that chronos makes. In phase 1, after you get Chronos to <50% hp Chronos starts chaining multiple dashes and slashes together in a more "enraged" state. This continues before he enters p2. Truthfully this is the hardest part of Chronos p1 OR p2. This is because the window you get to deal damage to Chronos shrinks so you actually have to pick and choose when and where you deal damage lest you mistime something and dash into one of his trails, or get punished by a follow up dash or slash. When Chronos hits phase 2 he reverts to his p1 >50% basic attack pattern and only does 1 dash or slash. And also truthfully has MUCH more downtime between attacks or animations. So here's what I think should change for Chronos:

• Give Chronos p2 the <50% p1 attack pattern, he should be desperate to kill you and doing everything he can at this point. Truthfully he's almost easier to kill in p2 than he is in p1 with how many attacks of his that force him to stay still until the attack is over with like barely any attacks being sent toward you. It's like
• Give Chronos invulnerability when he does the instakill, Chronos shouldn't lose an entire test worth's of hp just because he put the safe spot on the side closest to you and/or reduce the time you have to reach safe spot by a bit, its VERY lenient. (If there is an atk speed increase to enemy fear that I forgot about and it affects this attack then it should be fine speed wise)
• And lastly, this one applies to most bosses, just give the bosses more health in general. They feel REALLY squishy even on max HP fear they feel really squishy.

Edit: clarification

I’ll apologize in advance because this is so long but I don’t know what else to do.
My mother (60F) and I (25F) have been bickering about small things surrounding my wedding since I got engaged in March. It started with chairs and escalated to the guest list.
My parents have these two friends, we’ll call them Alex and Demi, who I am not particularly fond of. These friends also have two adult children who I am also not that fond of.
Demi is an extremely nosey woman and has been texting my mom non stop since I got engaged wanting to know ALL details. She also keeps saying she’s “so excited for OUR kids” (her son also just got engaged) and went as far as to ask my mom if her son’s wedding date was okay with my family.
It should be noted my parents don’t speak very kindly of these people to begin with. So much so that my fiancé is confused of why this is such a big fuss. They also travel with this couple and see them weekly.
When I finally told my mom I didn’t want this couple or their kids at my wedding she lost it. My parents told me they would lose friends and that I couldn’t just not invite them. I dug my heels in on my decision because I feel like this is another thing I’m not being heard on.
Fast forward this weekend and I dug in yet again and drew a line in the sand that I didn’t want them coming. I told my mom I didn’t understand how they would lose friends when I don’t have relationships with these people aside from when my parents invited them over growing up. Not to mention I just don’t see adults ending “friendship” over a non invite.
My mom yelled at me first and then would barely speak to me until today when she told me she was “ready to talk” because I had asked her what was wrong over the weekend and she “couldn’t put it into words before”.
We were on the phone for an hour, she started by reading her “notes” that she had made that ripped me and my character to pieces. She called me ungrateful, disrespectful, and not compassionate for “picking and choosing” who gets to come to my wedding.
She also said I was being self centered by referring to my wedding as my wedding. To top it all off she told me I was extremely close to losing my relationship with her and my dad and that I should stop and think about how my decisions affect other people.
I was so hurt by this because we’ve only been disputing two things and I’ve been trying to be kind about everything else- design, seating, flowers, etc.
I asked for examples about the labels she gave me and tried to understand what she meant by them. She couldn’t give any and kept going back to the original issue of me not wanting this family at my wedding.
She also said while I was “good at setting boundaries” she felt I would never have any meaningful personal relationships because I lack compassion, the ability to be kind, and the ability to forgive.
She then threw in my face that one of my bridesmaids and I haven’t always gotten along and “if she can come then other people who want to support you should be allowed to as-well”.
I told her I was over it and that she can invite whomever she pleases but I pointed out that while I gave her a quote of 25 people as well as my fiancés mother, my mom did not adhere to it. She argued that my fiancés parents went over their quota as well and I had to correct her that they didn’t until we told them to because my parents had a list of almost 40 people.
She cried on and off the whole call. She did apologize but it always felt back handed (“I’m sorry you feel that way but you always say I’m a bad mom so I can’t help feeling this way”) I was very calm most of the call until the last 15 minutes where I couldn’t stop crying because I still can’t understand the ungrateful, no compassion, and disrespectful comments.
At this point she went back on her words and said it was “an isolated incident” because now it’s been resolved. She called it a thing of the past. She also demanded I apologize to her because she had already done so.
I had to correct her and say that I have been constantly asking for examples and a solution and apologizing. She agreed with that but ultimately would not allow me to recognize my own frustration without adding in that she “feels the same”.
At this point I couldn’t take it anymore. I told her I was done and asked if we could cancel the wedding. Unfortunately we’ve already signed a contract so we can’t. I love my fiancé but I cannot take this any more, I’m also not sure if I can move on past the things my mother said. Her and my father as well as my fiancés parents are paying for the wedding so I don’t think no contact is the option.
I need advice, anything is helpful. I’m in therapy and I do know my mother is a narcissist from my work with my therapist (my childhood is also another sore subject my mom hates talking about unless it’s all sunshine and rainbows). Honestly, I want to crawl in bed and never get out but I know that’s not an option. What do I do?

First, please pardon what may be a stupid question.
It has been several years since I have done any deep malware/virus repair, but back in the day I had a thumb drive full of tools, but those are lost to me now, along with a lot of my knowledge due to lack of use.
There was one program that I would use that would not install anything, but would run on the computer and output a text file of everything that was running on the computer. This was often used on the "boards" for help. Users would run this program, and post the results on the boards and people could review it and see if something was there that should not be.
I know with the last 5-8 years, the tools has changed, but I am looking for something like that now and I do not have the 1st clue what the old program was called or if it was "bought" by someone and integrated into their software or if something newebetter was released.
Google searches has produced A LOT of results, but nothing that rings a bell. So far "malwarebytes mbst support tool" is the only thing that looks same thing by description, but unsure if it does what I want.
Again, sorry for what may be a dated question and thanks in advance for any help.

Dr. Timothy McGrew came up with a way of filtering credible miracle claims from those not worth investigating. I believe Jesus' earthly miracles pass McGrew's filter.
D.--"D" is for "distance". Claims about events in a faraway land, without the presence of a chain that would preserve transmission, should not be worthy of investigation. However, the gospels were circulated within a lifetime of local eyewitnesses.
O. --"Opinions already established". Essentially, these are political, ideological, or religious justifications of a certain regime or attempts to maintain the status quo. In contrast, Jesus's miracles were sometimes specifically aimed at calling aspects of Jewish law into question. Jesus was very much a cultural revolutionary, dining with sinners and tax collectors.
U.--"Uncertain Events". If there are naturalistic theories available--fraud, trickery, the placebo effect, or simply spontaneous recovery with documented predecessors--these should be called into question. However, when we examine the gospel texts, numerous alleged miracles could not be reproduced by the best magicians today. What is more telling, however, is that the miracle accounts appear very tidy and direct, and served no obvious human motivations.
B.--"Belated Reports". If a miracle claim is made, for the first time, when any eyewitnesses would be dead, then those claims should be dismissed. In contrast, we have multiple lines of evidence for Jesus' miracles. Miracles were also mentioned casually in Paul's writings.
Additionally, compare the miracle accounts in Mark to any other gospel. Future writers were equally likely to take elements of the story away, as they were to add elements.
T. --"Trivial Miracles". These claims are usually about frivolous supernatural activity. The difference between "magick" and "miracles" is that magick is simply a display of power or a manipulation. In contrast, plausible miracles are "signs" at important juncture in religious history. That's very different from using dowsing rods to locate a lost pair of glasses.
S.--"Self-Serving Miracles". Fraudulent miracle workers will fake authenticity, but the rest of their life and behavior exposes them. For example, both Joseph Smith and Mohammed wanted political power and access to many women and girls. They also achieved celebrity status in their lifetime.
In contrast, Jesus' miracles were meant to bring about the Kingdom of God. The gospel writers could have focused on Jesus as a doer of astonishing deeds, but they do not. Often Jesus instructs recipients to keep the miracle a secret.
Moreover, unlike any pagan parallels, Jesus always combined teaching with His miracles. If He was objecting to holiness codes, He would lay His hands on an unclean person. Otherwise, Jesus lead a nomadic life and shows no interest in sexual gratification.
While Jesus acted in God's place, He also would frequently insist that He's doing it through the Father, and for the Father's will. Jesus advocated "The Kingdom of God", but it wasn't a violent revolutionary Kingdom. As He said to Pilot "my Kingdom is not of this world, otherwise my men would fight".
So, Jesus likely lacked every motivator for fraud. He had no interest in money, sex, having good reputation among religious leaders or commoners, or in gaining political power. Finally, Jesus was put to death for His claims--and although it's not admitted by the overwhelming majority, it's highly likely Jesus knew what was going to be the end result.

I have customized my install but I can't get an ISO to build. It seems this is some type of next level black magic as many posts for 22.04 mention isolinux which no longer exists! Any help would be GREATLY appreciated!
First I downloaded the ISO:
wget https://releases.ubuntu.com/22.04/ubuntu-22.04.4-live-server-amd64.iso
then extracted:
7z x ubuntu-22.04.4-live-server-amd64.iso -x'![BOOT]' -oiso
I have a known working user-data that I have been using on Ubuntu 20.04 so I copied that over.
I updated the grub.cfg:
sed -i 's---autoinstall ds=nocloud\\\;s=/cdrom/nocloud/ ---g' iso/boot/grub/grub.cfg
I pulled the info from the image:
user@pc:~$ xorriso -indev ubuntu-22.04.4-live-server-amd64.iso -report_el_torito as_mkisofs
xorriso 1.5.4 : RockRidge filesystem manipulator, libburnia project.
xorriso : NOTE : Loading ISO image tree from LBA 0
xorriso : UPDATE : 820 nodes read in 1 seconds
libisofs: NOTE : Found hidden El-Torito image for EFI.
libisofs: NOTE : EFI image start and size: 1024860 * 2048 , 10068 * 512
xorriso : NOTE : Detected El-Torito boot information which currently is set to be discarded
Drive current: -indev 'ubuntu-22.04.4-live-server-amd64.iso'
Media current: stdio file, overwriteable
Media status : is written , is appendable
Boot record : El Torito , MBR protective-msdos-label grub2-mbr cyl-align-off GPT
Media summary: 1 session, 1027543 data blocks, 2007m data, 946g free
Volume id : 'Ubuntu-Server 22.04.4 LTS amd64'
-V 'Ubuntu-Server 22.04.4 LTS amd64'
--modification-date='2024021623523000'
--grub2-mbr --interval:local_fs:0s-15s:zero_mbrpt,zero_gpt:'ubuntu-22.04.4-live-server-amd64.iso'
--protective-msdos-label
-partition_cyl_align off
-partition_offset 16
--mbr-force-bootable
-append_partition 2 28732ac11ff8d211ba4b00a0c93ec93b --interval:local_fs:4099440d-4109507d::'ubuntu-22.04.4-live-server-amd64.iso'
-appended_part_as_gpt
-iso_mbr_part_type a2a0d0ebe5b9334487c068b6b72699c7
-c '/boot.catalog'
-b '/boot/grub/i386-pc/eltorito.img'
-no-emul-boot
-boot-load-size 4
-boot-info-table
--grub2-boot-info
-eltorito-alt-boot
-e '--interval:appended_partition_2_start_1024860s_size_10068d:all::'
-no-emul-boot
-boot-load-size 10068
Finally, I tried so many edits of this my eyes are crossed:
xorriso -as mkisofs --grub2-mbr --interval:local_fs:0s-15s:zero_mbrpt,zero_gpt:'ubuntu.iso' --protective-msdos-label -partition_cyl_align off -partition_offset 16 --mbr-force-bootable -append_partition 2 28732ac11ff8d211ba4b00a0c93ec93b --interval:local_fs:4099440d-4109507d::'ubuntu.iso' -part_like_isohybrid -iso_mbr_part_type a2a0d0ebe5b9334487c068b6b72699c7 -c 'boot.catalog' -b '/boot/grub/i386-pc/eltorito.img' -no-emul-boot -boot-load-size 4 -boot-info-table --grub2-boot-info -eltorito-alt-boot -e '--interval:appended_partition_2_start_1024860s_size_10068d:all::' -no-emul-boot -boot-load-size 10068 -isohybrid-gpt-basdat -o ubuntu-autoinstall.iso -V 'Ubuntu autoinstall' new/
Here is the failure output:
xorriso 1.5.4 : RockRidge filesystem manipulator, libburnia project.
Drive current: -outdev 'stdio:ubuntu-autoinstall.iso'
Media current: stdio file, overwriteable
Media status : is blank
Media summary: 0 sessions, 0 data blocks, 0 data, 946g free
xorriso : WARNING : -volid text problematic as automatic mount point name
xorriso : WARNING : -volid text does not comply to ISO 9660 / ECMA 119 rules
Added to ISO image: directory '/'='/home/devops/iso/new'
xorriso : FAILURE : Cannot find in ISO image: -boot_image ... bin_path='/boot/grub/i386-pc/eltorito.img'
xorriso : aborting : -abort_on 'FAILURE' encountered 'FAILURE'
user@pc:~/iso$
It seems to be tripping on the iso image and I have tried every variant imaginable (including absolute paths when I know that the command should use relative).
Am I missing something? If I get this working, it will be my personal mission to send notes to the 100 or so sites that give examples with the corrections! LOL
I remember running into this maddening problem with xorriso in the past so I used this command for Ubuntu 20.04 but it no longer seems to support the newer Ubuntu (because of the missing isolinux).
[genisoimage ]()-quiet -D -r -V "ubuntu-22.04-autoinstall" -cache-inodes -J -l -joliet-long -b isolinux/isolinux.bin -c isolinux/boot.cat -no-emul-boot -boot-load-size 4 -boot-info-table -eltorito-alt-boot -e boot/grub/efi.img -no-emul-boot -o ../ubuntu-22.04-autoinstall.iso .
Thanks!

Sorry for the long post. I'm in need of some guidance...
Split from abusive husband last June. Since then he has been having our 3 children sleep over 2 nights every week. Today I have seen on a shared email address a drafted letter from his solicitors to have 50/50 shared custody - obviously attempting to get out of paying maintenance!
So up until 6 weeks ago our children would sleep over with him 2 nights a week (eldest refused as he's 15 and can make his own mind up).. originally I had a voice note from our youngest whilst he was in his care (11years old, autistic with severe allergies). This vn displayed my son having an allergic reaction - wheezing, tight chest and sore throat! My husband refused to answer my 6 phone calls.. I then sent him a text 'answer your ******* phone... is *** OK?' To which he rung me back stating 'yes he's ok I'm lying in bed with him now.. he's just a bit wheezy and has an itchy throat (prime examples of anaphylaxis)' I said on the phone to him 'he is probably having a reaction.. do you know how to administor an epi pen!?' To which he replied 'no haven't got a clue'. This all happened whilst I had gone away for the weekend and had no way of getting back in time...
The following weekend my ex 'moved' into his new flat (he's renting a place for the boys but lives with his new piece).. all 3 boys were excited to stay over in dadi's new flat. Long behold I had the dreaded phonecall not only off my eldest (15) but also off the middle child (13) balling their eyes out to come home because; 1. There was water pouring through the ceilings! 2. Daddy wasn't there and that they'd been left with Nanny (paternal grandmother) who was not capable of looking after them due to her previously 'attempting' to commit suicide after WE (myself and husband) had called her out on leaving our then 4, 3 and 1 year old to fend for themselves all day out on the streets! 3. There was no fridge or beds for them all.. just a dart board without darts!
That night I had to go pick my children up.. to which my husband and his mother slagged me off to our children. The following day I allowed the youngest to stay with his dad - the eldest 2 refused to see him.
When the youngest got home to me the next day, he disclosed that he was left in the flat for hours by himself and didnt know where his father was. This is a highly functioning autistic child with severe allergies! My friend happened to drive past the ex's flat that evening and noticed my husbands friend standing outside. When I questioned my youngest about this, stating 'oh it must have been nice to see ***** yesterday!?' He replied with 'oh yeah, the door bell rang so I ran down stairs to answer it, and ***** was there asking where Dadi was. But I couldn't tell him because I hadn't seen Dadi for a few hours!'
That week I sent the father of my children a list of what I expect of him inordered for him to have the boys over night again; 1. Sort your life out (I'm under the impression that he's on drugs - he's racked up 26k of debt since leaving, but all debt collectors letters still come to the 'family' home) 2. He makes the flat safe for our children (damp and leak). 3. He doesn't go against my wishes with his mother looking after them. 4. Our youngest actually has a bed to sleep in - he's been on a blow up bed since last summer, eventhough I have provided a double bed for the children. 5. He puts our children 1st - He now acts dad of the Year to his latest supply and her 3 children constantly sending them money (bank statements Still come here). 6. Pays back the £600odd that he owes me (he told me to go ahead and order the boys trainers and clothes and he would pay me back his share the following day).. nope a month I've had to wait for it, eventhough he knew I didn't have food or electric in the house for the boys that week, but he could pay £20 for his 'secret' phone to talk to his new piece!
The youngest has spent 7/8hours with his dad every Sunday during the day since.. the eldest 2 still refuse to see him. The only thing I have stopped is over night visits due to the welfare and concerns I have surrounding our children - eldest 2 are in therapy because of his abuse and manipulation tactics!
The last 6 weeks have been nothing but hell..I'm a single mum on UC, caring for my mother, bringing up my 3 boys and paying all the bills including the mortgage (his name is still on it). I have put maintenance up to £200 a week based off his £800 a week main income - he is also working 2 nights on top of this a week (the 2 nights he should have his own children).
Today I saw a drafted letter on our shared email address from the solicitors of my husband. In this email, it states that I have been aggressive toward their client and I'm withholding the children having contact with their dad unless he pays maintenance. Their dad rings and texts them every day.. the only thing I have stopped is over night visits - its down to them if they want to reply or not.
The letter also states that I should include the ex on a family app so that he knows what's going on with the children.. why do I have to organise a calender for him when he's included on spond and WhatsApp groups for the boys sports?
I have tried my best to encourage my children to see their dad.. I am under womens aid for abusive and sexual violence.
That's all I want is for the children to have a healthy relationship with their dad.. but still he tries to manipulate and control me through the children.
I am monitoring all texts between my children and their dad - he still tries his best to make me out as the bad guy, eventhough the eldest 2 can finally see what he's like.
So my questions are.. can the courts force the children to see their dad? What can I do to stop him from having 50/50 access? Am I being unreasonable with my list of what I expect of him with the children's welfare?

To begin with, I am self-aware and recognize that I have depression, which is messing with my head. Here's my situation: I had been friends with her for over 10 years before we started dating two years ago. Initially, I learned that she had mental health issues and didn't have a lot of friends, so I tried to help her. I believe she improved, and for about six months, everything was perfect. We talked late into the night, met often and related a lot
However, last December, I introduced her to my male friend, and they began talking a lot. At first, I was happy for her because she finally found a friend. But over the past few months, it feels like they talk to each other much more than she talks to me and they started meeting alone more often. She hides their chats when I glance at her phone, which is unusual since we don't typically hide our messages from each other.
When the three of us are together, I often feel like a third wheel. She seems happier and more talkative with him, and our late-night talks have stopped. We don’t talk as much as we used to, only about everyday things. A year ago she really enjoyed exploring, walking and doing outside activities with me, but now she says that she doesn't like that anymore and I feel like we're drifting apart. I feel like because of this I developed this depression. I've discussed my feelings with her, and she knows I'm struggling mentally, she said that she enjoys his company and that they are relating more. When I bring up that we are not texting as much she says that there isn't much to talk about and she prefers talking with me in person, but when we meet, we don't talk as much as before. She says that she loves me and we want to spend our lives together(we talk about this often to this day), and I believe her because we still talk for a bit and meet quite often, but there are days when for example she says she’s going to sleep but stays up chatting with him until 3 a.m. For now I think and hope they are only friends and I hope it stays that way, but from how she is acting you can imagine how it looks to me. I don't think this is the honeymoon period since we talked about it and we understood that we are past that a long time ago.
I'm not doing well mentally and i want to grow out of this because I've always been happy and I miss that. I’m hoping more mature and experienced people can help me figure this out since this is my first girlfriend and I don't have experience in this field. What can I do to bond with her more? Is this in my head and depression is just messing with my rational thinking? Why would she sometimes act so cold and uncaring? Shouldn’t your life partner be your best and number 1 friend? I want that to be the case, and it hurts to feel like I’m drifting apart with the person I want to spend my life with.