Giving a hand job

I don't date often. A woman and I matched on dating app, we ended up bumping into each other in public, and we shared contact information and arranged for a date. When the time came I showed up to the restaurant and waited outside on the bench for her to show, but she ended up never arriving.
I wasn't angry, I managed to enjoy my time alone. I messaged that I was disappointed she didn't show but wished her well going forward. Figured my hands were wash my hands clean and that was it, but then she started messaging back saying it completely slipped her mind, she was incredibly sorry, and didn't see my messages until later. She's asking if I'll please forgive her and if we can have a do-over.
Her apology seemed sincere enough, but I'm conflicted about moving forward now. On one hand, I seldom go on dates and the idea of ending that experience on a positive note is nice, but on the other hand I have to figure that if she were truly excited about this date then it wouldn't have slipped her mind.
Figured I'd throw it out here and get a general feel for how much of a dealbreaker people see this as. We don't really have any prior history, so the emotional investment is very minimal at this point. Should I give this situation another go, or just walk away?

I’m pretty sure a vast majority of people here know about Jonak Toys. For those who don’t know, he’s a person who sells custom LSW clone trooper decals and UV products. Not much to say other than that, he’s just another LSW seller in the community. His products are good, great even, I’ve bought from him many times. But unfortunately, he has both a terrible community, and terrible shipping times.
Starting out with the shipping times, because there is a LOT to dive into with his horrendous community, and I want to save that for the end. They’re very inconsistent. At best, when I first ordered from him, my stuff shipped out in less than a week. It was a small order, only a few decals and blank bodies as I was starting out decaling. That was the only exception on shipping. And at worst, it took 4 MONTHS to get something I ordered in March. Yeah. Although, it might not be a turn off for some people as they’re patient and can wait a few months to get something. Cool, all the power to you. But the shippings not the worst part, it’s his discord community.
Cutting straight to the chase, it sucks. One of the worst discord servers I’ve ever been in. To start, the mods don’t do their job at all, and even encourage the bad behavior of all the members (with the exception of one mod, he’s actually cool, but he’s unfortunately not as active as the other sub-human mods). Furthermore, they’re very biggoted. Like, one time they were unironically spouting white supremacy talking points. Yikes. Also, they’re one of those people where they love “dark humor” that’s totally not bigotry. Like for example, this super funny joke from the server: “yeah the trans arc followed by the suicide arc”. Soooo funny, right? If that wasn’t bad enough, they will actively pick on members who are neurodivergent and call them slurs “because they’re annoying”, and it gives them pleasure in their sad, pathetic lives. I was a victim of their constant harassing and slur calling. I had my appearance mocked, my ex harassed, attempts to rig auctions and outbid me, talked shit behind my back (probably what they’re doing right now as they read this call out post. If you sub-human Jonak folk are reading this, hello.), and treated me like I’m subhuman, which is ironic, because they themselves are subhuman.
And don’t even get me started on how their toxicity affects other LSW discord servers. They’re like a plague on the entire LSW community, and Jonak has done NOTHING to stop this. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Nothing for all the bullying and harassment people like me have faced for being different and not complying with their bigotry, especially for those minors who were drawn sexually behind their back in Gartic Phone games. Yeah, you heard that right. They drew PORN of REAL people, who were also MINORS.
So yeah, don’t buy from Jonak until he gets his community and shipping times shit together. If you want an alternative for decals, try CMD or LSW customs. They’re much better people, but less quality products.
TL;DR: don’t buy from Jonak because his shipping times are slow, and his community is filled with subhuman white supremacist bigots who like to harass people and draw porn of them.

I know that on principle certain features will never exist in Nebula, but here are a few things that I wish did:

1. Some way to applaud particularly good vids. Maybe just a "like" button. I know better than to hope for comments, because that would instantly generate the same hellscape that YouTube is. But a little hand to clap would be nice!
   
2. I don't want an algorithm, but I'd love something like most digital libraries have with viewable topic metadata. Aside from just genre categories, I'd love it if there were clickable topics beneath the video so I could see everything about "Disney films" or "bicycles" or whatever.
   
3. This is a complaint I also have about YouTube: I don't care about how many hours ago the video was posted. Just give me a dang date/timestamp. PLEASE.
   
4. Better search function and faceting. I'd also love a way to facet by groups of creators, like "All videos about potatoes in the category of history" or "All videos about modern warfare by creators based in the UK" or some such. This would be a lot of work to implement, and maybe I'm the only one who cares. But it would be SO nice.
   

So, I graduated with a degree in criminal justice. I didn’t do an internship so I never got any work experience in that field. I’ve realized now that I don’t want to anything criminal justice related. I got a job working at a grocery store that I absolutely hate since I had to get a job somewhere for basic work experience. Now, I feel stuck. Going back to school wouldn’t be ideal for me since I don’t want to acquire more student debt. Plus, I already have a bachelors degree. As of right now I see no other options. I’ve looked at apprenticeships, but there are not many in my area and most of them are technical trades which would not suite me. Truth is I don’t know what I want to do in life. I’m 27 so I’m too old to not know what I want to do. All I know is I don’t want to work in retail my whole life. I feel like a failure and such a loser because I fucked up by not doing an internship in college. Right now I wouldn’t mind settling for an office job but I don’t know how to get one without any experience and I’m really bad at interviews. Can someone please give me advice on what I should do.

Ok, so I now I feel bad for Juelz. I think they’re all hurt people who have both done & had things done to them. No one has clean hands and they all have an agenda. Still think the Mic (and the nurse cause she has a very important job) is the worst though.

This really made my day.
She put me through hell.
She was comprehensive when my dad got terminally sick. She said nothing when I went on my 2 months medical leave. She was acting normal when I can back.
She was comprehensive about my absence as my father's health was declining.
And then... she told me I was incompetent, and that she wanted me FIRED... 2 days before the Christmas break.
I spend my last holiday with my father worried about my job because of her.
And then when we came back, she was hostile. She didn't give me a chance. I did everything right, tried to get every answer, and she would give me none.
Company policy is to put an "incompetent" person on a improvement plan, a detailed plan, elaborated by the boss and employee, signed by both, who give the employee 8 weeks to get better. She didn't. She tried to put me on a "action plan", that wouldn't be in my recorded to my file, that I wouldn't have to approve. With requirements like "Lead" and "Organize".
I made a list of everything I was doing in the week so she can see what I was working on. Her answer was "it's too long, I won't read that". Well... you put me on a plan. That's your job to supervise it now.
I went to HR to try to get a fair chance, with a real plan that I can actually follow and objectives that she can and will track.
Company policy is to fire on a monday morning. Never on friday. I was terminated a week later, on a friday morning, JUST BEFORE EVALUATIONS were due. She didn't want my evaluation of her to go to the higher management. Just like my "plan".
My dad died 3 days later. With all the grieve, I couldn't pursue any action. By the time I had recovered enough from losing my job and my dad, It was too late to pursue any legal actions.
For the past months I hoped there was something I could do. I debated so many time contacting her boss to tell them my story, but I wanted to be the bigger person and be over it. So I did nothing.
And today I learned she got fired. I really hope that it's because of what she did to me. She had been with this company for so long. That really makes my day. Now she worked in a shit job. Good for her. Sad for the employees.

/uw Part four is here! Here's part one, part two, and part three! This one's probably a little more unpolished than the other ones, but I hope that doesn't ruin it! CW: Death, blood. I made a render in blender, but it got the post removed! Take two!
/rw
The end of the book, thin as it is, draws near. The text is overwritten dozens of times, always with the same phrase: "IT WAS AN ACCIDENT". Same as the other pages, though, it's easy enough to look past the bad coverup job. History cannot be erased, after all.
...
When I arrived at the hospital, I was in bad shape. I had a fractured skull, a missing eye, a lesion in my frontal lobe, and I was in hypovolemic shock. They didn't think I was going to make it.
It was a miracle that I even woke up from my two-week coma, but it wasn't all perfect. From the moment I opened my eye(s), I didn't know where I was. I had to relearn everything. My name, my address, my identity... They were all gone.
It was as if I was a new man who'd been transported into a stranger's body. Everyone talked to me as if they knew me, but I couldn't say the same for them. Especially that drow, Eldred. He claimed we were childhood friends. Every day, he'd tell me stories of our history together, but they were stories I never wanted to hear. It felt wrong listening to him talk, knowing there was a man who knew more about me than I did.
The moment I was discharged, I fled to my apartment. I drew the blinds, locked the door, and cut off all contact from the outside world. I wanted to run away from it all, to start a new life, not some travesty of another man's life.
After a few days of my isolation, Eldred (presumably) got worried about me, and came knocking on my door. I didn't answer. I wanted nothing to do with him—or anyone, for that matter. He was a remnant of my old life, and I couldn't let him influence me.
A couple days later, he did the same thing. He offered some kind, reassuring words through the door and left. He did this again, and again, and again, for weeks. I was running low on food and supplies, so I was faced with a choice: leave my safe haven, or starve to death in my own home. I didn't like either option. Although... there was another way.
After 17 days of his repeated attempts, I finally answered the door.
"Ith!" Eldred cheered. "You... you really answered!"
"Yeah."
"So uh... Have you been doing alright?"
"I'm fine."
He looked over my shoulder. "Have... you not left the house?"
"Not yet."
"Jesus, Ithael..." He pulled me in for a hug, but I didn't react. "Do you, uh, need anything?"
"Could... you go to the market for me?"
He let go of me. "Yeah, of course! I'll... I'll be back!"
"Alright."
I slammed the door in his face. Just another echo of my old life, that's all he was... A few hours later, he knocked on the door again. I almost didn't answer, but then I remembered he had my groceries.
He exclaimed with clearly-forced optimism, "Heyyyy! Hope you've been alright! So, I was thinking, and... I was wondering if you wanted to do dinner together?"
"Not out there. Never out there. Here. Please."
"I figured you'd say that... so I got ingredients! I found this recipe for some pan-seared chicken in the library earlier, and it sounded really good!"
"...Alright." I took the bags from him and walked over to the kitchen. "Come inside."
"I, uh, was going to make it for you—"
"It's fine," I interjected.
I rummaged through the bags for the cookbook he talked about and flipped through the pages. It didn't look too difficult to make, but I wasn't sure how I knew that. This was the first time I had cooked anything, after all.
Assumedly hearing the pans clattering, Eldred wandered over to the counter, sitting down in a chair across from me. "Need a hand?"
"I'm alright."
"Are you sure? I mean, you were just—"
"Shut it," I commanded. I didn't mean to be so stern. What had come over me? I decided to brush it off. The recipe called for a diced onion... I needed a knife.
He slumped down in his seat. "Sorry... I, uh, got these books for you, by the way."
I glanced up from the cutting board. "...'Healing trauma: a guide for survivors'? And... 'How to cure amnesia'?" I scoffed. "If they could have fixed it, they would have, Eldred. It's incurable."
"We can't know until we try!" He strolled over into the kitchen, flipping to a bookmarked page. "See? This one here says—"
"It doesn't matter."
"Ithael... I'm here for you, man. I'm just trying to help—"
"And I don't care."
I focused myself back to the task at hand, ignoring his look of disdain. The room fell uncomfortably silent. I needed to fillet the chicken. I rummaged through the bags, trying to find—
"Seriously?" Eldred huffed. "I put in all of this work, and you just... don't care?"
"Never asked for it." Now, where was I? Right, chicken—
"That doesn't mean anything! Let me help you, you're clearly struggling!"
"I could manage without you." I continued to avoid eye-contact.
"Why are you so dead-set on pushing me out of your life?!"
"You were never in it to begin with, Eldred. I'm not the Ithael you knew."
"And who cares that you aren't?! Can't we still be friends?"
I tried to explain, "You're just a remnant of my past—"
"And that's an excuse to treat me like shit?! You know what?" He grabbed the books. "I'm done trying to fix you."
"Fix me?" I scoffed. "So I'm a problem, then? Something to be solved?—"
"You're twisting my words! Why... Why do you hate me?!"
"Face it: I'm a different person! Move on with your life, already!"
"What gives you the right to say that?!"
"Oh, what gives me the right?!" I waved the knife around a little too recklessly. "Were you just in a coma for two weeks? Did you just get thrown into a world that knows you better than yourself?! Where's your excuse, huh?!"
"...What do you want from me, Ithael?"
"I want you to get out of my life!"
Time slowed to a crawl as a deep pit formed in my stomach. I yanked my hand back like I'd touched a hot stove, and the knife... clattered to the floor. That look in his eyes... I'd never forget it. I had never seen a man so afraid before.
He grasped at his neck, his face turning pale as his hands soaked with blood. He fell to his knees, mouthing some words at me, but the only sound that came out was a sickening gurgle. He struggled to keep his balance as he fell flat on his face. His breathing grew labored and shaky as he lay there, a crimson puddle forming around his neck.
I knew that I should have gotten help, but, no matter how hard I tried, all I could do was watch. He cried onto the tiled ground, his breathing growing quieter and quieter, until he finally went silent.
What had I done?
...
It seems that he forgot to put any kind of warding spell on this newspaper clipping, as if he didn't expect anyone to get this far. Or perhaps he was too preoccupied with deceiving himself.
"As rumors regarding the disappearance of Eldred Wyndorn continue to circulate, the enigmatic Ithael Ralich opens a new therapist's office. In response to the whispers, Ithael states, 'There's a profound lack of support in this world, and every person could stand to have someone like Eldred by their side. I hope I can step up and fulfill a role he would have approved of.'
In other news, authorities are taking steps to curb the rising number of missing persons cases. Officials urge citizens to adhere to newly-instated curfew until the threat is solved, but claim there's nothing to worr—"

I live in a low income apartment complex, and we get inspected probably every 2 months at this rate.
Before the new management happened, even the maintenance man would have to give us a 24 hour warning before coming in, now the only warning we get is a knock at the door.
And the inspection letters are so vague. “Representatives MAY be entering your apartment. Beginning at 11 am.” Cleanliness requires me to have ALL the dust off the walls and ceiling, my cabinets and freezer organized, as well as my pets out of apartment. (They’re legal, just supposed to be restrained for inspection) but I suffer from agoraphobia so I have to find somewhere to go from 11 am to N/A where I can take my pets.
Not to mention I just fractured my ankle two days ago, and have a VERY important appointment about something else tomorrow, and start my new job on Monday, but I have to have the apartment up to standard on Friday. This is more of a rant than anything.
It just pisses me off how invasive my apartment is and how little the management actually helps with the residents considering my apartment manager FORGOT to turn in my re-leasing paperwork and so I had to do it all again because of her lack of organizations. I had to get my bank statements, pay stubs, explain EVERY transaction on my cash-app from the last six months and drop what I was doing to come in and sign papers at 3 random times.

Bodied General Radahns sorry ass last night and I feel at a cross roads. Running a StDex build & I haven’t used Summons for any fight just to prove to myself I’m him. For Radahn I went in with the idea that it would be no different. Once I got to the fight I saw signs that I thought were just messages but turns out they automatically summon NPCs without giving you the “would you like to summon this person yes or no?” Message first. The lore instantly connected in my head and I remembered this was supposed to be a group fight in the over all story so I said F it and summoned them all. He fell on my first attempt but a majority of that credit goes to the summons as they held aggro and I was just doing drive bys with Torrent practically untouched. I feel conflicted with this. General Radahn didn’t fall at the hands of a mighty warrior, he fell at the hands of MANY mighty warriors. In a way I feel like I cheated not only myself, but Radahn himself. The fight I’ve built up in my head since the start of my journey, washed by a few extra summons, became a joke. I wish there was a way I could redo the fight without NG+ to give him a proper solo send off. Fs in the chat for Radahn.

Hi guys, I'm 25 unemployed and I need a job. I would be glad to know where and how to find some legit opportunities. My curriculum isn't a good weapon sadly... At the moment I'm studying cybersecurity but I'm not looking for a job in this field yet because I know I'm not able to handle it, I just want a regular job because I can't find any opportunities where I'm living.
Recently I too a look at Telus and RWS, but I couldn't make Telus exam because it requires that you uses Google Chrome on your laptop, my "computer" is a Single Board Computer (arm64) and we don't have Google chrome for Linus + arm64 yet.
I will be trying RWS even though I heard people telling that they do not have a lot of jobs after you make the exams and everything.
So ye, I want some recommendations and I will be thankful if you give me some 👍

My (F21) boyfriend (M21) of a few weeks is very insecure and I have a feeling I am making it worse. When I first pursued him he actually accidentally rejected me due to insecurity because he couldn't imagine a woman like me would ever be interested in a man like him (so he thought I was making fun of him). I made it more clear that I really want him and now we're together but I know that he's feeling super insecure. When we kiss he oftentimes opens his eyes after and mutters something like "I can't believe you actually like me" or "I don't know what I've done to deserve you" and a few days ago I found him crying because according to him he doesn't deserve me and I'm apparently to good for him, which I don't get. I wanted him first. Still, I'm scared that this insecurity will destroy our relationship again and it's really not healthy at all so I want to help him get over it. I told him even though I like him no matter what that if he feels like he doesn't deserve me he can try to become a guy who he thinks he deserves me but I don't know if that was too harsh so I might have to try another approach .
From what I've gathered there are 4 main areas of insecurity for him. 1. Our social circles, 2. Our grades, 3. Our looks and 4. The romantic attention we get/our experience.

1. Our social circles: He is a pretty nerdy guy who is introverted to the point where I'm suspecting him to have social anxiety. He especially struggles talking to women. I'm pretty sure he was only able to talk to me since did most of the heavy lifting in terms of our early conversations and never stopped trying to get to know him. He has a small group of close-knit friends who he cares a lot about. They're like brothers which is really cute to me. The problem is that outside of that group of friends he is definitely less than popular, I think because he is socially awkward like that with a pretty peculiar sense of humour, which I like however.

My social life looks very different. I'm just as nerdy as him behind closed doors but since I had a pretty massive glow up people don't expect that from me. I'm fact outwardly I'm definitely someone in the popular crowd and I gotta admit- I got a pretty big social circle with four groups of friends, two of which are really close as well and I'm basically the centre of.
Whenever he and I are walking together and I have to greet someone again (which happens pretty often, especially on campus) he gets annoyed, especially when it's a guy. A little more than half of my group of friends are guys and I already made him aware that that's not gonna change since I've known most of them for years- still, he suspects almost every one of those to be interested in me which can be quite annoying. There have been some who confessed but that was before my boyfriend and I got together and I established clear boundaries with those. That's the first problem caused by insecurities.

1. grades and achievements: He is a smart man, a former gifted kid, It's a part of him that first caused me to be attracted to him, but the problem is- I as well was a gifted kid. We have lived very different lifes up to this point. He had a pretty relaxed upbringing while I spent my time growing up in debate competitions, dance competitions and participating in youth politics since my parents wanted to prime me for success. I think he has just always been the smart kid and at the beginning he was fully convinced that he was way smarter than me because I asked him to explain things to me since I like to hear him explain and he didn't think that someone like me would be able to have intelligent thoughts or something which he admitted was stupid of him and just based on stereotypes. Now that we spend pretty much every second day together he knows that I actually have a better GPA than him and that I'm according to him "more gifted than him" (which partially has to do with me being on the spectrum) he doesn't openly say it but I know it bothers him. As a formerly gifted kid myself I know how much it hurts when someone is better than you when the thing you were growing up was always just the 'smart kid'. He said that he wants to work harder so he can take care of me sometime in the future but knowing him I know that's only half of the story. Just like he started going to the gym more because at the beginning of our relationship I was stronger than him (Years of competitive dance, martial arts and just being a gym girl). He now is stronger than me again but he still talks about how emasculated he felt because of it.
   
2. Our looks: I was told I have pretty privilege and I got to admit myself - after my glow up I definitely felt how different people treat me now and I get quite a lot of attention now to the point where it's uncomfortable, especially since before my glow up I definitely wasn't as conventionally attractive and was also treated as such. I think my boyfriend looks good. He is cute. His lips are pretty and heart shaped and his eyeshape and lashes are to die for. He doesn't see that though. I know he's not everyone's cup of tea. I gathered so much when I told other people that we're dating but he's my cup of tea so that shouldn't matter. Even his friends teased him about his looks in comparison to mine when he told them and when he told me- I swear I was ready to explode. I try to give him compliments about his looks but he doesn't know how to accept them. He says I'm the only one who'll ever compliment him this way anyway so what's the point. My boyfriend says that when he first saw me he thought I was the most beautiful woman he's ever seen which is why he couldn't believe why I would keep on talking to him. I think being with me makes his insecurities about his looks worse because according to him an 'ugly guy' like him doesn't deserve a girl like me. I think that's bullshit. There is way more to a relationship than looks and I think he's cute and way too harsh on his looks.
   
3. Our romantic experience and the attention we get.
   

I am his first. The first girl he kissed, his first date, his first time holding hands, his first in general. He told me that before we met again he had given up on love- concluded that it wasn't happening for him and that after his parents passed on he should just follow them- and then I showed up again and made it obvious how much I wanted him. I feel so honoured to be his first but not getting any attention before me took a real toll on his self perception I think.
I am the exact opposite. Sure I wasn't in a relationship before him, I also was still a virgin and also never kissed anyone willingly but I get attention. I get asked for my number on the streets or in uni, I get asked on dates and I also went on dates before. I just never felt it. Where he feels like he doesn't get seen by women I feel like I only get seen as a piece of meat, as a love interest, a manic pixie dream girl or a sex object by men. I had so many bad experiences with that just being treated like a normal person by him (partially because he thought he didn't have a chance anyway) had me falling head over heels for him.
He feels insecure about the attention I get however, especially if it'd be men he perceives to be good-looking, successful or simply cool. He often mentions that apparently there were several guys in the friend group we met in that wanted to pursue me and he feels bad for them that he's the one who got me because he's just a 'bastard' in his own words. I think this is another one of the things that bothers him the most based on how often he mentions it. Whenever he finds out that a guy we know ever was interested in me I never hear the end of it. I even was asked for my number while he was right next to me and while in a conversation with him which is not only mad disrespectful but also made him really angry and caused his insecurities to skyrocket. I feel really sorry to make him insecure that way but I really can't control it. He also likes when I get really dressed up for dates and I like that too but whenever he sees the stares I get from men he seems to regret it.
All in all he seems to put me on a pedestal and seems to compare himself to not only me but also other men in my life though I don't want them. I only want him. He says it's suspicious how little is wrong with me, that I'm too good but that's not true. I'm possessive (which I'm working on), at least as competitive as him, all of the social skills he admires so much in me I trained myself to have since I'm pretty much lost in social situations. I can be quite clumsy and scatterbrained sometimes and when I get to talk about my special interests I won't stop for hours. I was training for discipline from a young age to the point where I sometimes don't sleep or eat enough to manage to do everything I planned. I am a perfectionist to an unhealthy degree and sometimes I feel like a robot who just has to function no matter what. I tried to show him, tell him all my flaws but no matter what he doesn't see them as flaws.
He for example sees all of the achievements, the medals my perfectionism brought me but not that I lost so much sleep and ate so little for extended periods of time when I was little that I just stopped growing.
I try to show him that I really like him. He is smart, witty, funny and even though he tries to hide it incredibly kind. He takes care of his friends, family and now me. I feel so safe around him and ...just like myself. I try to tell him that. I try to give him gifts, I try to spend as much time as possible with him and take care of him. Whenever he expresses his boundaries I try to comply (for example he dislikes when I show my cleavage when he isn't around so I stopped) but I feel like that's no use as long as that little voice in his head tells him that he's not enough and that he doesn't deserve me.
I just don't know what to do so that he finally sees himself the way I see him- a person who of course has flaws but is beautiful and kind and a person who deserves to be loved and I'm pretty sure I love.
Thank you for any advice. (And sorry for my English. English is actually my fourth language so I'm not as articulate in it as I would like)

Three year career nanny here. I started for my most recent family in April and I’ve been here a little over a month. I’ve encountered a new problem that isn’t something I typically deal with, that being NK and I are inside all day. When I say all day, I mean the full 8 hours I am there. I am perfectly fine to meet parents where they’re at and my job is to collaborate with them so everyone gets what they need. They don’t want me to transport him to any activities out of the house and as far as I know he doesn’t have any scheduled activities on a regular basis. Both MB and DB work from home. Typically, outside time is one of the staple activities I use, parks, splash pads, just walking in the neighborhood. I pride myself on being creative with what we have and we absolutely don’t need to drive anywhere to have fun. This is where it gets tricky. NK is turning two in June. He’s developmentally ready to do a lot. He’s tall for his age and very active, which leads to a lot of frustration when we are inside because I am constantly redirecting him. We have two “yes” zones but those are limited to his room (with minimal toys, mostly books) and the upstairs loft with most of the bigger toys and activities. When I started, the family’s current nanny was bringing her own daughter and it was a little chaotic to say the least. Everyone was under the assumption two kids under 2, with one nanny, and outings was a lot. Now that the dynamic has changed, I was hoping we would get to do more. At first the reason was they wanted to “get the backyard ready” and give him time to transition caregivers. Very understandable. When I suggested walks, MB said she wouldn’t want us to go alone until one of them had the chance to go with us a few times, also reasonable. However, that just never seems to materialize because they both need to be on work calls at 9. I know they typically take a short walk around the block as a family in the evening. Now that’s it’s getting hotter, the only reasonable time anyone wants to be outside is the morning, so I think they’ve been skipping evening walks. It can be over 100 when I leave at 5. We have gone outside in the back yard a few times within the last week, but there is no swing, nothing to play on or climb, not even a water hose. We have some chalk and bubble but those typically last about 5 minutes before he’s ready to move on. Even then, he wants to play with the grill and again I have to tell him no. We usually only last about 20 minutes because there’s just nothing that engages him.
I clarified with MB what temperature she thinks is too hot to be outside, I follow ISD rules which say 90+ degrees is usually the cut off. MB said nothing lower than 50 and nothing higher than 80. We are in Texas, summers here are brutal, and I always take necessity precautions when we do go outside, but there will seldom be a day where it’s under 95 realistically. We rinse and repeat the same thing everyday with little variation other than what is in my scope of control, like toy rotation and creating activities. And even then I have to ask and double check and ask because MB wants to source materials herself. We have weekly check-ins to see how everyone is doing. I’ve already brought up that outside time is a great way to add variation to routine, and how he might be acting out of frustration/boredom. Hell, I’m starting to get zoochosis myself. With a lot of my other kids my watch counts 10-12k steps a day, when I leave at 5 sometimes I’ll have less than 5k.
Is it really that unreasonable to want to bring him to a park within walking distance?

Am I wrong for screaming at my friend
I screamed at my friend for everything she’s done I guess
So my dad died five years ago( I was 13) and she’s always been kind of a bad friend . She was my best friend at one point and her parents took me in after my mom had to go stay at the hospital while my dad was dying .
I told her everything as it was happening and obviously I trusted her and she was all I had to be honest . She told me that “it was better this way that my dad is dying because it would be hard for him to get a job again “ and I was obviously angry .
I told her “ that’s not for you to say “ and she started crying . I was staying at her house and she was upset so I apologized and she said “ it’s okay “ . Now looking back , idk why I apologized .
I also found out that she went and told random people I wasn’t close with and didn’t talk to that my dad’s dead without my permission and publicized it so much . I don’t want people to know this about me and it’s my place to tell people .
I got her something for her bday and obviously I don’t give to receive and I value our friendship over gifts but she didn’t get me anything for my birthday .
Yes , she doesn’t owe me anything but at the same time we used to get each other gifts for years each year and she just stopped putting in effort the second she got a boyfriend ( who would make fun of me , call me ugly , make fun of my trauma , talks about women like objects ). He also talked about other girls having fat asses once INFRONT OF HER and she stayed with him despite that .
If she was financially struggling then obviously I don’t give a fuck if she doesn’t get me anything but she’s hella rich . Giant ass house , drives my dream car , an Audi . She didn’t even offer to get me anything after we’ve been friends for years . If our friendship was always like that then I don’t care if she gets me anything or not but she just stopped trying .
It’s been 5 years and she’s always been doing shitty insensitive stuff , getting with guys that treated me like crap and made fun of me , twisting narratives to people that don’t know me of why I stopped talking to her for a bit , be friending people that shit talk me in front of her and she doesn’t defend me .
So I screamed at her about everything for the past 4 years and yeah that’s what happened . She still cries at the grown ass age of 18 when people confront her about the shitty things she does.

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I honestly don’t even know where to start, I apologize if the timeline is difficult to follow.
My (30F) husband (30M) is currently a nurse. Two years ago, my husband, let’s call him Wayne, enrolled in a one year, accelerated nursing program at a university in our city. This was a super intense program that basically shoved four years of nursing school into one year. (The program is designed for people who already have an undergrad degree and have completed pre-reqs for the program) Wayne quit his job so he could focus all of his energy on the nursing program and pass the NCLEX. I was fully supportive of this and basically told him whatever he needed to do to study and feel prepared, I was game. I think it is important to mention that Wayne and I have been together for 15 years now, we are high school sweethearts.
During the first week of his program, Wayne met two other students and became friends with them. I will call them Bonnie (27F) and Gail (28F). The three of them became fast friends and quickly made a habit of studying together every single day for almost a year. They would take turns going to each other’s houses for study sessions. The majority of the time the three would be at our house because it was somewhat in the middle between their houses and the university. Since I worked during the day, they could study all day if they wanted.
I also really liked Bonnie and Gail. Eventually, we all became friends and Bonnie’s boyfriend, Dan (27M), and Gail’s girlfriend, Tanis (28F) would come over for dinners. Before anyone asks, I had absolutely no issue with Wayne befriending women or spending time with them. Wayne and I are best friends and have a very secure relationship. I trust him completely. Not to mention, Bonnie and Gail were also in relationships, so it was no big deal. Eventually, Wayne and Bonnie even helped Gail work through some of her relationship drama and helped her break up with Tanis. The get-togethers became smaller after that, because Tanis was gone and Dan was working more and couldn’t come.
Fast forward to graduation, Wayne and Bonnie decided that they wanted to work in the Emergency Department and Gail was going to work in a less intense area. Both Wayne and Bonnie got a job at the same ER and their shifts would be similar so they would be co-workers. We all thought this was awesome because that particular ER is in a tough part of town and they see a lot of level one traumas. It’s great that Wayne and Bonnie can “debrief” after shifts and vent to each other. Gail was forced to go on night shift, which was the opposite schedule of Wayne and Bonnie. Over the past year, Wayne and Gail haven’t really spoken. Wayne rationalized that they both got really busy and just lost touch. Bonnie still spoke regularly with Gail.
Around this time, Dan proposed to Bonnie! This was a long time coming and we were all very happy for them. Bonnie said that Wayne and I were definitely invited and it was going to be so much fun! The happy couple eventually told us that the wedding would not be in town, but take place in a state far away. Easily twelve to thirteen hours drive or a flight away. While that would be a lot of money for us, we said that we would do our best to come. Bonnie asked Gail to be a bridesmaid and we were super pumped because it would be like a small reunion! At this time, I found out I was pregnant!! We had been trying for a while and we were so happy. It would work out great because our baby boy would be approximately nine months old at the time of the wedding. Old enough that we could leave him for a day or two with my parents to go to the wedding.
Fast forward to last week. On Tuesday, Bonnie hand delivered Wayne our invitation to their wedding. I was able to request off work and we’ve been slowly saving money to travel for the wedding. On Friday, Bonnie pulled Wayne aside after their shift. Bonnie said that her and Dan had a really bad fight because Bonnie invited Wayne and I to the wedding. Wayne was very confused, why would Dan be upset that we were invited? Bonnie then said:
Since Wayne, Bonnie, and Gail met in nursing school, Gail has been under the delusion that Wayne was in love with her. Apparently, Bonnie and Dan would talk with Gail almost EVERY DAY and tell Gail that there was nothing between her and Wayne. Gail would insist that Wayne was in love with her. Bonnie would tell Gail that she was in the room when such and such happened and there was nothing that happened. As time went on, Gail started to badmouth me to Bonnie and Dan. She would say that I was manipulative and I was mean to Wayne, etc. Gail started saying that she needed to break up with Tanis because Wayne and her were going to be together. Eventually, Gail thought that Wayne was going to leave me to be with her. Bonnie and Dan continued to tell Gail that she was crazy and nothing was happening. When Wayne told them that we were trying for a baby, Gail started a whole other delusion that Wayne and her were going to have kids.
According to Bonnie, during one of our dinners when it was just the four of us, I said something that Gail then passed on to Dan. This was around the time of a school shooting where an AR-15 was used. For context, I was a teacher in an urban school district for five years. During those five years, I was in five lockdowns, one of which had an armed intruder. While I am not anti-gun, I feel very strongly about school safety and gun restrictions. Dan enjoys guns and owns an AR-15. He is also very passionate about gun safety. Gail told Dan that I said something to the effect of “anyone who owns an AR-15 has those children’s blood on their hands”. I can say with 100% certainty that I never said that. I am sure because that is a super unhinged thing to say and it would never come to my mind to say that. If anything, I would have said that AR-15s shouldn’t be so readily available to citizens and there should be restrictions in place so these tragedies don’t happen.
Regardless, Gail told Dan that I allegedly said this. According to Bonnie, Gail talked to Dan without Bonnie present and she was unaware that this conversation had taken place. Dan was very angry and hurt by what Gail said and chose to internalize his anger towards me. Apparently, Dan decided he no longer wanted to see Wayne and I and lied about his work schedule so as to not attend dinners with us. It was not until a couple months after this, that Bonnie invited Dan to dinner at our house and he said, “why would I spend time with those people after what they said?”. Bonnie was confused and then Dan told her what Gail told him. Bonnie told Dan that those words were never spoken and Gail was lying. By this point, Dan had convinced himself that I had said those things and didn’t believe Gail would lie.
When they graduated from nursing school and started working, they stopped hanging out as much because of their schedules. Gail took this as Wayne “ghosting” her and “breaking up” with her. Gail continued to bad mouth me and Wayne.
When Dan found out that Bonnie had given us a wedding invitation, he was livid. He felt that Bonnie went behind his back to invite us even though “we hurt him”.
When Wayne reiterated this to me, I was shocked. We had been completely in the dark about this whole thing FOR TWO YEARS. Bonnie had been acting like nothing was wrong. After almost every shift, Wayne and Bonnie talk on the phone. Not once has she even mentioned anything about this. Gail is still in the wedding party despite this. Dan still hates us.
Bonnie wants Wayne and I to be at her wedding and says, “she can’t get married without her best friend [Wayne] there”.
Firstly, Bonnie has lied by omission for two years. Frankly, I don’t trust Bonnie anymore. I am skeptical that we have all of the information and there isn’t something more at play here.
Secondly, I am offended that Dan would think that I said those things. And I’m shocked he would blindly believe Gail, especially after her delusions about Wayne.
Thirdly, why would I want to go to a wedding where Gail is a bridesmaid? Who is to say she doesn’t start something and cause a scene? Also, why would I want to spend thousands of dollars to travel to a wedding where I am uncomfortable? AND I’m leaving my baby?
While Wayne is as confused as I am, he still wants to go to the wedding. He has trauma-bonded with Bonnie through work and values her as a friend. While I understand this, I can not get over this. Bonnie is trying to talk to Dan and convince him that we are good people and Gail twisted everything. Honestly, after being left in the dark for two years, I don’t want to have to convince anyone that we’re innocent in this. If anything, we should be getting an apology from all parties.
Wayne and I are currently still waiting to hear from Bonnie about her “talk” with Dan and Gail. As of right now, 5/21, Gail is still a bridesmaid and Dan still doesn’t want us at the wedding.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? What would you do?

This happens every exam season. Every single time, twice a year I'm convinced I want to quit and just find some job at the zoo or some other place with animals because vetschool is just way too hard. Every time, up untill now, I pushed through and somehow remained in school. But it's getting harder. I've failed way too many exams. I've taken a gap year to retake them all and catch up and I barely used any of the extra time I got in that gap year. In the winter I finally passed pharmacology and the written part of toxicology. But I still don't have the oral part. I was supposed to take my pathology exam this Friday and I didn't even start studying. Pathology is a fricking hard subject and I'm thinking if doing it in two days? Hell no! But why haven't I studied last week? Why am I like this? I get up at seven or eight wanting to be productive. I do my morning routine, make breakfast, prepare for the day... And then I just fall back into doing nothing. And I keep doing nothing the whole day. Then I tell myself I'm gonna do it tomorrow and go to sleep. I don't know why I can't find any motivation in me. Or discipline. Anything at all to just get up and do it. I also have health issues that keep me distracted which is just a cherry on top. The problem is, I already gave so many years of my life to this. Even if I allow myself the option that it might just not be the right thing for me, I'm terrified of dropping out. I don't know what I'll do. I don't know where to find a job without a degree. The problem with vetschool is that you either end up being a doctor, or you end up without any academical title at all. If I quit, I'll be left with nothing. Literally everyone has some sort of higher education these days. Who will ever employ me? And what will I do? I never considered anything other than veterinary medicine since I was like 12. Helping animals is all I want to do. Spending time with them, taking care of them, nurturing them. I don't want to work in an office or a shop.
I guess I just really don't know what to do in general
Sometimes I just wish to skip this part of my life to when I'm 35 and everything is already somewhat settled. I have my degree, my job, a family, a house, a car, moderate amount of money to take care of all of that. Everything is in it's place and I'm just dealing with everyday struggles while my life has a strong base.
I hate this uncertainty. I hate being a student and having to take money from my parents to survive when I'm fucking 24. I don't want to live like this. My life has zero order and I'm not capable of giving it any.
Someone please help

Young Luke Is Sitting In The Car With His Mom They're Singing A Song Together
L: So Mom When Exactly Are We Going To Paris
M: In About 2 Weeks
L: Man I'm Sooo Excited I Always Wanted To Go There
M: Yeah I Am Too It's Said To Be The Romanti....
The Car Crashes And Luke Hits His Head And Is Knocked Out
He Wakes Up His Vision Is Really Blurry But He Sees A Truck Pulling Off
L: Wha... What The....Mom Mom Where Are You Mom!!!!
Luke Is Sitting At Home While The Police Is Talking To His Dad
A Day Later He Comes Down Stairs And Sees His Dad Crying
He Walks To His Room With His Friends
O: Hey You Ok
L: No I...I Wanna Find Out Who Did That To My Mom I Saw A Truck Leaving When That Happened
O: So What Do Think It Was
L: I Don't Know Might Have Been A Hit And Run Or Maybe It Was Planned I Don't Know But I'm Gonna Catch Whoever That Was
3 Years Later
L: Ok Bye Dad Love Ya
D: Bye Luk...
Luke Slames The Door
D:...Bye
Luke Runs Too School
Jack Gets Up And Walks Down Stairs And Sees His Mom Cooking And His Dad With A Beer In His Hand Sleep He Walks Outside And Walks To School
Owen Jumps Up And Runs Outside
M: Owe....
Owen Slams The Door And Runs To School
They All Meet Up
L: Yooo Owen What's Up Man
O: Hey Luke What's Up
J: Hey Guys
L: Hey Jack How You Been
J: I've Been Good
L: Hey You Haven't Been In School For 3 Days What Happened
J: Ooo Nothing Just Some Family Stuff
L: Oh Ok.....So My Uncle Said That The Base Is Gonna Be Finished Today So We Can Become Heroes Man
J: Seriously Ok I'm Ready
O: Yeah I'm Gonna Beat Up So Many Villains
They All Walk Into The School
Intro Start's
M: Ok I Know You Guys Must Be Confused Basically Nine Months Ago I Found A Metal Bat In My School And Thought WOW I Could Use This To Fight Crime Like I Always Wanted Too So I Asked My Uncle To Put Some Tech Into This Bat But Then He Offered To Builf Me A Base To Be In He's Rich And So I Asked My Best Friends If They Want In And They Jumped At The Opportunity And Well That's About It
Schools Done
Owen Is In His Boxing Club
Luke Is In The Tech Club
And Jack Goes Home
Later That Day
Luke Comes Home
L: Hey Dad Sorry For Earlier I Was In A Rush
D: That Ok So How Was School
L: Nice I Guess I Was Waiting On Something So I Didn't Really Do Anything In School
D: What Are You Excited For
L: Nothing Really Just Something Small
D: Oh Ok Then
Luke Runs Upstairs
Owen Runs In The Basement
And Jack Goes In His Room
Luke Goes In His Closet And Goes To The Base
They All Come Down At The Same Time
L: Wowww!!!!!
Luke Runs Over To The Suit
L: Woah All This Tech And Is This A Nano Tech Sword
Luke Hugs His Uncle
L: Thanks So Much
U: Your Welcome
U: Hey Owen You Still Practicing That Move I Told You About
O: Of Course
U: Jack You Still Using The Computer I Got You
J: Yep And Thanks For That It's Really Helped Me With My Detective Research
U: And Jack You've Mastered The Art Of.....The Bat
L: Ha Yeah As Much As I Can
U: Alright Then This Is The Official Base For QuantumStrike
They All Smile
U: And I've Got One More Surprise For You Guy's
L: What
U: Look
They Look And See A Truck
LOJ: WOW
They All Go To The Truck
L: Wow This Is Awesome
U: Go Inside
L: Um Ok
The Truck Door Opens
They All Look Shocked
They Walk Inside The At See A Base
L: What The How Is Thi Possible
U: It's A Mix Of Nano Tech Shape Morphing Technology Holographic Projection And Adaptive Exterior Panels
L: I Can't Believe This Is Real!
U: Alright Now Come Out
They All Come Out
U: Ok So It Can Also Be A House Inside For Just Chilling Or Anything Like That
L: What Man Your The Best Uncle Ever Thanks
U: No Problem Now I Gotta Go But Enjoy Guys
He Leaves
They Look At The The Armor's
L: So I Already Mine Is Gonna Be The One With The Bat So What Are You Guys Picking
O: Well I Like Hand To Hand Fighting More So I'ma Go With The That One
J: Already Well That Leaves Me The One With The Sword Which I Like Anyway
L: Ok Then Well We Picked I Wonder If We Will Meet Any Superheroes Out There
J: Hopefully
L: Ok Soo We're Gonna Go And Rest And After School We're Gonna Come Back
J: Alright Then See You Guys Tomorrow
L: Alright Then Bye Guys
O: See You Later
They All Leave
Owen Lays Down
Luke Goes Down Stairs
And Jack Goes To Bed
His Mom Comes In The Room
M: Hey Jack
J: Hey Mom
M: Dinners Ready
J: Ok I'ma Be Done In One Second
M: Ok
The Door Is About To Close
M: And Hey
J: Yeah
M: I Love You
J: I Love You Too
Owen Goes Down Stairs
D: Hey Owen
O: Hey
D: So What Do You Want For Dinner
O: Anything I Guess Doesn't Matter
D: Well..Ok Then Burgers It Is
O: K
His Dad Pauses And Turn's Around
D: Look Owen I Know This Divorce Has Been Hard On You But Please Work With Me A Little
O: Mabye YOU Should Have Worked On Your Relationship
D: HEY LOOK THAT IS NOT FAIR
O: WHAT'S NOT FAIR IS THIS MESS OF A LIFE A IM IN RIGHT NOW YOU KNOW WHAT IM NOT HUNGRY
Owen Get's Up And Storms Out
Jack Goes To The Kitchen And Sees His Dad
J: Hey Dad How Was Work
D: What Do You Think Terrible As Hell
M: Jake He Was Just Trying To Talk To.....
D: Did I Ask You What He Wanted
J: Sorry For Asking Dad
They Sit Down
She Gives Them Their Food
D: What The Hell Is This
M: A Burger Jake
D: I Wanted Steak
M: Well You Never Told Me That Jake
D: I've Been Telling You That For A Week I Work Everyday And I Can't Get Some Damn Steak
M: Jack Go Up Stairs
J: O..Ok
They Start Arguing
He Covers His Ears
J: Damnit!!!
He Goes In His Closet And Goes To The Base
J: Well Guess I'm Here Alone
He Looks At The Car
And Remembers The Inside Could Be A House
He Presses The Button The Inside Starts Transforming
He's About To Go In
U: Hey Jake Is That You
J: Y.. Yeah Sir Sorry I Just Needed Somewhere To Go
U: Oh You Ok
J: Yeah I'm Fine I'm Just Bored
U: You Wanna Train A Bit
J: Um Ok
They Start Training With His Sword
U: Ok Now Do This
He Swings The Sword
U: Now When You Swing A Sword Mostly Use Your Lower Back Torso And Shoulders
J: Ok Then
He Swings The Sword Better This Time
U: Ok Ok Good
J: Ok Thanks Sir
U: Wait One More Thing
J: What
U: Wanna See The Powers It Has
J: Yes!!
Luke Sits Down At The Dinner Table
L: Hey Dad
D: Hey Luke Soo I Made Burgers
L: Oh Thanks Dad
His Dad Sits Down And Gives Luke The Food
They Eat The Food
L: Ok Thanks Dad I'ma Go To Sleep
D: Luke Wait
He Turn's Around
L: Yeah Dad
D: Im Gonna Go See Your Mother Tomorrow And I Would Like It If You Would Finally Come With Me
L: No I'm Ok Dad
D: JAKE
HE Stands There
D: You Have To Go See Her Eventually
L: No I Don't
D: But Why
L: I JUST
He Stands There
L: Bye
He Walks Away
His Dad Looks Down
He Goes Up Stairs
And Cry's
The Next Day
They All Come To School
L: Hey Guys
O: Hey
J: Yeah Hey
They Go Into School
L: Hey Guys What's Up
E: Hey Luke
S: Hey Luke Can You Help
L: Yeah Oh Our Robot What's Wrong
S: He's Glitching When We Try To Make Him Walk
L: Oh That's A Easy Fix
He Fix's The Robot
S: Thanks Luke
L: No Problem
Owen Enters The Ring
O: Alright Who Am Training With
M: Me
O: Oh Mark Hey
T: Ok So Owen What's Your Strategy
O: Swing Fast
T: Ok Owen Swinging Fast Can't Be Your Only Sta..
Owen Swings And Misses
He Gets Punched And Falls
O: Damn
He Punches The Guy Twice And Knocks Him Down
The Guy Gets Up And He Tries To Hit Him Again But Gets Knocked Out The Ring
T: Oh
M: Oh Man I'm Sorry You Ok
O: Yeah Yeah I'm Fine Good Job Man
Jack Is Walking Through The School With His Earphones In And A Guy Pushes Him
He Looks Back
B: Oh Sorry
He Laughs And Walks Away
He Looks Down And Walks Into Class
They Leave School
L: Alright Team Let's Go
J: Hey Luke Can I Go To Your House Instead
L: Um....Ok
J: Thanks
They Go To Luke's House And Goes Upstairs
J: Where's Your Dad
L: Um He Went To See...My Mom
J: Why Didn't You Go
L: No Reason Jack Um You Ready
J: Um.. Yeah
L: Ok
Luke Goes Into The Closet Then Jack Goes
They Enter The Base
L: Hey Owen Where My Uncle
O: I Don't Know
L: Hmm Ok Well Let's Train A Bit
O: Alright
They Get There Weapons
U: Hey Everyone
L: Hey Unk
U: So You Guys Training
L: Yeah
U: Yeah You Guys Seen The News
L: Um No
Owen Turns On The TV
NR: Amazing Lightning Strike Has Defeated Another Dangerous Criminal
They Show Footage Of Him Defeating The Criminal
L: Wow Amazing
J: I Hope I Can Meet Them
O: Me Too
U: Speaking Of Lightning Luke
L: Yeah
U: You Wanna See What That Bat Can Do
L: Yeah Definitely
The Alarm Goes Off
They All Look
L: Well Guy's Looks Like Our First Mission Is Here Let's Go
They Suit Up And Walk To The Truck
L: Alright Let's G....
Luke Falls In The Car
L: Owww What The Who Turned The Inside Into House
J: Who Huh That's My Bad Sorry
L: Oh Why Were...Let's Go
The Truck Drives Into The City
They Get Out The Car And There's People Running
L: I Wonder Who We're Fighting
O: Luke Watch
Luke Get's Punched Into A Wall
L: Owww
Owen Tries To Punch The Villain But He Grabs Owen And Throws Him Into A Wall G my Jack Is The Only Person There
J: Gravity Grip
It Doesn't Work And He Gets Punched Into A Car
Him And Luke Tries To Hit Him Again But They Get Grabbed
They Try To Get Away But He's Not Letting Go
Owen Punches Him In The Stomach With A Giant Hand And He Hits Into The Bank
L: Nice Job
O: Thanks
J: So He Definitely Has Super Strength
L: Yeah.... Alright I'ma Take The Lead
He Walks Up To Him
The Villain Get's Up And They Both Stand There hu

 THE END 

I usually steer my party into dynamic social/political/violence jobs, which gives me a lot of chances to pull in their backstories and political drama into our missions. But I GM'd myself into a corner, and now the crew decided that their next job would be exploring an ancient tomb. The tomb is in an isolated part of the world and theoretically hasn't been touched for millennia. I'm trying to figure out how to make this interesting and not just a dry archeological dig.
We're playing in a homebrew world. There could be traps or weird technology or mutated monsters down there, I guess? I'm open to any ideas.

Background:
Married (F) with one child (M). I worked for my mother almost all my life. She had a business and I worked there until til I graduated from undergrad. She worked me to death y’all like from 6am-6pm making $1400 a month. From that she forced me to giver her $1500 hours very quarter for her house tax my dad didn’t do anything about it and mostly ignored me growing up (I thought he hated me) they made ALOT money on their lifetime.
When I was a kid they refused to help with anything so I walked to my second job before I could afford a car. They wouldn’t even drop me off. My mother always screamed at me and called me names…my older sister either picked on me or ignored me I had a horrible childhood.
They refused to pay for college so I used a credit card to pay for community college and then took loans for undergrad. But they told my sister she is free to either work or or go to school they’ll cover it. I met my now husband at 19 (the most beautiful human) we struggled a lot skipped bills when we could over to the next month it was really hard. When we had our son my parents gave us nothing and I know I’m not entitled to anything honestly I got used to doing everything on my own.
Present
Both husband and I finished graduate school and are very financially secure though our jobs and good decisions. Our kid attends private school we have a lot of savings bought a house in a HCOL area and are very happy and comfortable. My parents on the other hand never saved any money or made any sound investments. They were able to sell their house for a really good amount of money. From that sale house my mother did offer to pay off my student loan ($110K) and she did it was the first thing she ever did for me but I now know it’s because she wanted them to come live with us. We tried for a year that didn’t work. They were rude, took over our house and tried to test me like they did when I was 12.
They got an apartment in a retirement community and my brother is there with them, he doesn’t work and they give him money. They are now asking me for $1000/month to help because apparently house sale funds are low. I already pay the cell phone bill for all of them and if they need help my brother needs to get a job…my husband says he will do whatever I want to do as an extra $1K per month isn’t a big deal (we’re very blessed). But I don’t want to…I still harbor a lot of resentment about the way I was treated as a child/young adult. My mother was and still is incredibly rude, mean and selfish, my dad is still fucking selfish and my sister is lazy…so am I asshole because I don’t want to help them?
*I have a therapist

I don't really know where to start. It hurts a lot but it's a diffent kind of hurt it's a comfortable kind of hurt...
I went to movie theater with a friend, and during the movie she's was texting me, my phone was on silent so I didn't find out untill after.
The dreaded "I think we need to talk. Call me back when you have a moment." My chest started pounding, and hands shaking. All while trying to remain calm in front of my friend
Soon as I got into the car I called, small talk about the movie then she said "I don't know how to do this, I've never had to do this before, do I do this over the phone, I don't know"
I told her that it sounds like something we need to talk in person. She's worried about me being getting sick I told her that not to worry because this sounds important.
We sat their together, and talked, cried, smiled, for a very long time. We talked about if we're becoming toxic for one another, if we're what we need in our life right now, how we've grown, the way we mis/communicate, her feelings of still needing to heal, but without me, needing to work more on herself, and her traumas.
She went on about how much she hated herself, and where she's at mentally how depressed she's been, and how stuck she feels and relaizing that she's needs to work on herself to heal and figure out her traumas.
We talked about our cards, our storage units, the things we'll have to move and how we wouldn't be the people we are today without oneanother.
We hadn't really eaten so we went to our favorite diner one last time. There we reminisced about the past. Asked about our favorite memories, talked about books and shows. I took her back home and we sat in the car for a while, not wanting to leave each other's side, wishing that we could stay in the moment just a little longer. We knew that eventually she'd need to head inside, but we'd make jokes keep each other there.
Finally after a long while, we said "I love you" as she slowly headed back inside and headed a friend's to vent.
We've been together for 6 years and theirs been so much pain, joy, regret, struggle, family/ friends death, and growth that we've gone through.
It's the kind of hurt that although I miss her and although I love her, understanding that we can't always give what the other needs, and that it takes time to figure that out as an individual and how to communicate that need and for another to either learn if it's in their ability too.
Regarless this really sucks, but I understand...
TLDR: 6 Year Relationship ended. We broke up talking about our traumas, the past, and needing to heal as individuals.