New-ish to this site as a viewer and first time poster, but truly there is absolutely no one else I can think to turn to for advice. Well over year ago my(28M) Fiancé(Mary 28F), who I was with for nearly a decade, and I broke up just 3 months before our wedding(story for another time, just for context). There was a lot of crying and screaming and begging me to take her back but in the end I stood my ground. We eventually reached a point where, even if not friends, we were able to coexist happily without breaking up any of our friend groups.
All this to say staying strong was the best decision I ever made because a few months after, I met Maya(24F) and our first anniversary is coming up in July. We met at my local gym and she says for her it was love at first sight and I will always be grateful for how persistent and bold she was in pursuing me and winning me over. She's absolutely stunning looking, in great shape, she has a more alt sense of fashion that I love and she's the closest thing to living sunshine I've ever met. It wasn't as if I didn't find her attractive at first but there was one problem I had reservations about that has now become an active wedge in an otherwise perfect relationship.
I'm 6'5" and she's 4'11".
Despite my feelings at first of that being a bit too much of a gap to overcome she finally won my heart after convincing me to attend my first ever AX with her last year to do some couple's cosplays. We shared a hotel and left the con as an official couple and the past year with her has really opened my eyes to how far out of love I had fallen with my ex and what it feels like to meet your soul mate. It barely even took half a year before we were both confidently saying "I love you" and we've been living together for 2 months. But I wouldn't be here if there wasn't a problem and unfortunately there are two glaring ones and I'd really appreciate insight on either or both.
First: Mary, my ex-Fiancé
It was obvious she was jealous when I first started bringing Maya around to parties/events but remained very cordial aside from a single incident where she got too drunk and texted Maya some very boundary crossing things leading us both to block her. She seemed to go through a bit of a mental breakdown, I won't say it was about me but I've heard some rumors from her friends. Thankfully, we didn't catch too much backlash from her before she ended up moving to a different city and everything was peaceful. Out of no where starting a little over a month back she has gone on a rampage to try and ruin our relationship by spreading rumors. She doesn't appear to have moved back but regardless she has gone off the deep-end spreading lies to anyone who will listen including:

• Maya is lying about her age, she's secretly in high school and lying so I won't be seen as a creep.
• Maya and I were secretly together for months before her and I split up(I had never even seen her before).
• The fitness page Maya used to post(very PG-13) thirst traps on was a front her being a prostitute.
• And the most disgusting one... She used to find loli porn on my computer and that's the only reason I'm into Maya. Even setting aside how vile the part about me being into CP is, I hate how paranoid it's made Maya about the way people see her. Despite just being short and having a more petite build is there's nothing about her face, style, appearance or personality that remotely reflect anything in Mary's ramblings.

Myself, many friends, and even my own mother have reached out begging Mary to get some help but aside from an incoherent email about how I was just a disgusting pervert who just wanted something "younger and tighter than her" she's shown no signs of self awareness and is only getting worse. It's terrible to say that we're blessed by how unhinged she sounds because only the dumbest among us have given her an ear and they've all swiftly been put in their place. Even so I can tell how harshly it's effecting Maya's confidence and how she sees herself as a part of my life and I will never forgive Mary for that.
Considering she's across the country I don't foresee any problems with her threatening Maya but I can't risk letting it get to that point, what can I do?
More importantly what can I do to help support Maya and make sure she knows this has nothing to do with how I feel about her?
Next: The size difference
To any guys and girls who have been in similar relationships please impart your wisdom on this one. We get weird looks, we're used to it. There was even an incident we both still laugh about where an Aritzia employee waited until I was up buying her something to approach and ask if she was safe or if her parent's knew where she was(to the employee's credit we love girls supporting girls). The problem is our physical compatibility. I'm not p*rnstar big but I'm a bit above average for someone my height, she is by no means a size queen and it's become pretty limiting for us. We have to go through a lot of foreplay to make sure it's not causing her any discomfort and even then I have to be pretty gentle and limit ourselves to a lot of the more basic positions. We both have a thing for quickies but that's become a complete non-option other than just limiting ourselves to 3rd base. If this was the limits of our intimacy I would still be happy with her for the rest of my life but if anyone has advice on how I can better adapt, please share it. Especially considering the situation above I want to make sure she never feels as though I'm limited by her or unsatisfied, I just want to make sure I'm doing everything I can.
Is this truly just how it is?
Are there other positions or methods or anything that could help us?
TL;DR How best do you support your new partner who's being slandered by your crazy(term not used lightly) ex? What are some of the best ways for couples with a large size difference to overcome the contrast?
(PS - if the formatting is a little off I did all this on my phone so I apologize.)

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Hello Guys,
I am looking for (an) Online-Friend(s). Actually it wouldn't matter if you are tall or not, I guess. For friendships it doesn't matter. I just would like to have a Tall Friend somehow. Would like to chat regularly, about nonsense, laughing, fouling around, sharing thoughts, deeper mindests, etc. Knowing that I can reach out and you listen and You knowing I will listen to you.
Maybe even admiring you a lot, like kind of a cheerleader(?), trying to smooth bad vibes or making you feel better again.
I know that sounds weird and I am quite sure, that there won't be an answer to this post, I guess... also because the tall guys are always out of my league.
To my person: I am 30 years old from Germany. I am a kind of more silent person, I can talk a lot, but all over I don't think much about myself. I don't think I am really good in anything. I think of myself as being very supportive towards other persons, trying to show them what great people they are. I try to be friendly and kind to anyone, trying my best in this case. But all in all I don't want to hurt anyone, also because I know how it feels to be hurt by others...
I am working in the social field. I love to read books and to cook & bake. I like to listen to music and watching series or movies. Also like animals and plants and natures.
I have brown hair and brown eyes, wearing glasses, average body, not sport, not chubby. If you wanted to know that. I am 6 ft btw, so if you are much raller, would be nice, but... yeah as I said... Tall Guys are actually playing in leagues over me...
Thank You for reading this and maybe hear from you soon
much Greetings 🌿

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/article/2024/may/26/refugee-lilian-seenoi-barr-braves-racist-abuse-northern-ireland-first-black-mayor-derry
Lilian Seenoi-Barr will make history on 3 June when she receives the chain of office at Derry’s guildhall and becomes Northern Ireland’s first black mayor.
It will be the culmination of a personal and political journey that began in 2010 when she arrived as a refugee from Kenya and became part of the region’s growing multi-ethnic identity.
The milestone has prompted pride in Northern Ireland and Kenya that a woman with Maasai roots will represent the city of John Hume and Derry Girls, but it has also raised concern about Seenoi-Barr’s safety
Because not everyone is cheering. Far-right activists including the US conspiracy theorist Alex Jones have used her elevation to peddle the notion that Ireland, north and south, is being “invaded”. She has received death threats and racist abuse.
“To have your life threatened is not a good feeling when you genuinely just want to serve the people of your city,” the incoming mayor said in an interview. “People are absorbing populist information that is quite loud. It’s kind of like every single problem that exists in the north of Ireland or across Ireland has been caused by immigrants.”
Seenoi-Barr’s symbolic breakthrough at Derry and Strabane district council has coincided with a backlash against immigrants and refugees on both sides of the border and a row between London and Dublin over asylum seekers entering the republic via Northern Ireland.
“I don’t think I would have ever been elected in Derry if people were hostile but if you look at reports of hate crimes [across Northern Ireland] we do have racism,” she said. “If you talk about housing pressures, the scapegoat is immigrants. The collapsing NHS, the scapegoat is immigrants. Lack of school infrastructure, the scapegoat is immigrants.”
Over the past year, police recorded 1,353 racist incidents and 839 racist crimes, the highest figure since records began in 2004-05.
The Social Democratic and Labour party (SDLP) councillor said she felt safe in Derry but had become more security-conscious since doing a six-week “self-defence” course that included running, weight-lifting and threat assessment. “I hated it at first, but then I began to feel strong and enjoyed it,” she said.
Seenoi-Barr, 42, did the course earlier this year at the request of relatives in Kenya who became alarmed after an anti-immigrant riot in Dublin last November. She happened to be in the Irish capital at the time and received death threats after calling the chaos xenophobic terror.
Threats resumed in April after the SDLP chose her to become mayor under a rotating system with other parties in Northern Ireland’s second city.
Jones tweeted to his 2.3 million followers that the World Economic Forum – a bogeyman for the far-right – was installing “invaders” as mayors in Ireland, just as it had in London. Many abusive posts on X appeared to come from accounts in the Republic of Ireland. Police in Derry arrested a 30-year-old man on suspicion of harassment and threats to kill.
Immigration and diversity in Northern Ireland have increased since the 1998 Good Friday agreement, albeit from a tiny base. The 2001 census recorded 14,300 people, or 0.8% of the population, as belonging to an ethnic minority. By 2021, it was 65,600 people, or 3.4%.
Intimidation was deterring some “good politicians” from challenging hate-mongers, said Seenoi-Barr. “It is the fear.” But threats from “keyboard warriors” would not stop her leading the council, she said. “This city has given me so much, it has given me a family, it has given me a safe environment, it’s given me friends and it’s given me a home, so all you really want to do is give back.”
Far-right animosity reflected a longstanding UK government policy to create a “hostile environment” for illegal migration, with Rishi Sunak’s Rwanda deportation plan its latest incarnation, said the new mayor.
The result is that refugees who are fleeing persecution and migrants such as doctors and nurses who sustain the NHS are lumped together and demonised, she said. “The message is ‘we don’t want people who are different to be coming here’.”
Seenoi-Barr grew up in Narok in southern Kenya. Her father was a doctor and her mother ran a business. Seenoi-Barr attended university and is proud of her “beautiful, vibrant” Maasai heritage, but not the traditions of early marriage and female genital mutilation, which she campaigned against, and superstitions about disability. To shield her son, who is autistic, she moved to Northern Ireland in 2010, she said.
In 2012, she founded an advocacy network, North West Migrants Forum, that now has six staff and 50 volunteers. She married a local man and joined the moderate nationalist SDLP in 2015. Its leader, Colum Eastwood, persuaded her to run for council in 2018. She lost the 2019 election, was co-opted in 2021 and held the seat in a 2023 election.
When she was selected as mayor, two SDLP councillors, Jason Barr and Shauna Cusack, quit the party in protest, saying the process was undemocratic. The SDLP defended the appointment but apologised for poor communication.
Seenoi-Barr said she favoured constitutional change in Northern Ireland, but only after careful planning and engaging with unionists. “I’m all for a united Ireland but I do believe we need to unite our people first.”
Relatives from Kenya will be at the guildhall for what she hopes will be a joyous ceremony. “I have 14 siblings. We always said that we were a Catholic family, even though we are not.”

Hello everyone. I am 24 year old living in the midwest and I am looking for new friends to talk with. I want to get to know all of you people as well as share things about myself. I welcome everyone as long as you keep it friendly and clean!
I am 420 🌿 and lgbt 🏳️‍🌈 friendly!
Im a introverted kind of person who generally prefers to stay indoors but im trying to be more social and get over my fear of the outside 🙃 especially since I live in such a beautiful state. I enjoy lots of music but my favorite genre is metal and im always looking for new music to listen to and share. I have spotify and im down to share playlists!
Im down to talk about whatever. Whether its your day, about yourself, your plans or anything else you got going on.
Hope to talk to yall.

I’m a feng main, i love him. And i have to admit, they overturned him this game. But oh well. That’s all. What are your thoughts? I’ve been playing him since T6 and I’m personally happy but also have second hand embarrassment from all my friends who rage and complain about feng players. I remember when he wasn’t a tier and was considered a Jack of all trades but wasn’t considered broken or OP. Sucks that harada has him as his favorite character but alas…..

Hey everyone,
I’m looking for some advice on planning an adventure trip and could use your expertise!
Background:

• I will be in Vietnam with a group of friends from beginning of April for 20 days in, 2025.
• I'm flying from Amsterdam and have some flexibility with my travel dates either before or after my Vietnam trip.

Options:

1. Nepal (After Vietnam):
   • Dates: April 21st to May 4th
   • Cost: Approximately €1,500 for flights (Ho Chi Minh City to Kathmandu, and Kathmandu to Amsterdam).
   • Activities: Primarily interested in hiking and experiencing the local culture. I love exploring off-the-beaten-path destinations and prefer less touristy places. I want to immerse myself in the natural beauty and rugged landscapes of Nepal.
2. Nepal (Before Vietnam):
   • Dates: March 21st to April 2nd
   • Cost: Similar to the after-Vietnam option for flights (Amsterdam to Kathmandu, and Kathmandu to Hanoi).
3. Laos (After Vietnam):
   • Dates: April 21st to May 4th
   • Cost: Approximately €800 for flights (Ho Chi Minh City to Vientiane, and Vientiane to Amsterdam).
   • Activities: Interested in hiking, exploring lush green landscapes, and experiencing the local culture. I'm drawn to the serene environment and would love to visit less touristy areas and immerse myself in the natural beauty of Laos.
4. Laos (Before Vietnam):
   • Dates: March 21st to April 2nd
   • Cost: Similar to the after-Vietnam option for flights (Amsterdam to Vientiane, and Vientiane to Hanoi).

Preferences:

• I love nature and want to be very active with lots of hiking.
• I'm looking for off-the-beaten-track destinations and want to avoid overly touristy places.

Questions:

• Which destination would provide a more fulfilling adventure experience: Nepal or Laos?
• What are some must-see places and off-the-beaten-path hiking trails in either Nepal or Laos?
• Are there any specific tips or recommendations for solo travelers in these countries?
• Given my preferences and budget, would you recommend any other destinations that might fit better?

I’d really appreciate any insights, tips, or personal experiences you can share. Thanks in advance for your help!

I've always been eager to defend human rights, and in the past, I supported and felt sympathy for Palestine. However, recently, I find myself feeling numb to the suffering of Palestinians. While I don’t think it’s right for them to suffer or for people to be killed, and I genuinely wish the war would stop, I feel no emotion or urgency to join social media activism to voice my support for Palestine, even if it’s just to follow the trend.
One major reason for my detachment might be the religious aspect of the conflict, often framed as Muslims versus Jews in my Muslim predominantly country. I belong to neither group, but I live in a predominantly Muslim country where conservative Islamic views are pervasive. I've experienced or witnessed oppression from conservative Muslims, and this has influenced my feelings about the community and the conflict as well. The strong religious narrative in my environment makes it hard for me to separate my personal grievances from the broader issue of human rights in Palestine.
Another significant factor is my identity as a gay person and Muslims attitude towards gay rights. Many Muslims I know who support Palestine also support anti-LGBTQ+ laws. They loudly advocate for human rights for Palestinians but are silent or even hostile when it comes to LGBTQ+ rights, unless they are gay themselves. This double standard makes it difficult for me to feel genuine support for their cause when my own rights are ignored or opposed by the same people who are asking for solidarity.
Many Muslims in my circle who are vocal about Palestinian rights don’t extend the same support to other human rights issues that don’t align with their religious teachings. For instance, I didn’t see the same level of outrage from conservative Muslims during the riots in Iran over hijab laws or conflicts within the Muslim community. They say, "You don't have to be Muslim to support Palestine, you just have to be human," but they don’t apply the same logic to LGBTQ+ rights or other human rights issues.
The only time I felt compelled to post about Palestine was to highlight the experiences of queer Palestinians in Gaza. I feel my empathy is more focused on issues that intersect directly with my own experiences and identity.
While I am aware that many gay individuals support movements like "Queers for Palestine," I find that these supporters often lack firsthand experience of what it is like to live in a Muslim community that shares the same anti-gay sentiments as many Palestinians. I have seen videos of Palestinians expressing homophobia even when they were informed about "Gay for Palestinians."
I have many friends who supported both causes yet I feel like I can't talk to them with the situation now without being judge as a bad person. I’m reaching out for advice from others here on Reddit. How can I work through my feelings and develop a more inclusive perspective on the conflict in Palestine? How do I build empathy and support for a cause when I feel my own rights are being ignored by those I’m supposed to support? Any thoughts or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.

So we made a modded Anarchy server...
The Official Resurgence server is now live and open to the public! 24/7 Raiding, PvP Allowed
IP: play.mcresurgence.com
Here we aim to deliver an almost full Anarchy experience, without the draws backs of hacks/dupes or cheats.
*FRESH WIPE 04/04/2024* (END DIMENSION WIPES MONTHLY)
We have reached a milestone of 15+ active members in game through the day and we have 40+ in our discord, some looking for a team/others looking for action so test out your knowledge and skill in the battlefield! Help us continue to grow and show your support in our discord by saying "hi" or introducing yourself as we're sure you'll fit in here.
*PvP/Raiding focused, Tech/Automation/Guns/War and magic to even out the odds in the battlefield!\*
Steps to joining:

1. Through the "CurseForge Launcher" search "Resurgence" and download the appropriate modpack (Resurgence - Combat evolved) or click the link https://www.curseforge.com/minecraft/modpacks/resurgence-combat-evolved
2. Launch the "Resurgence combat evolved" modpack once your download has completed
3. Navigate to the multiplayer menu and add our IP! 'play.mcresurgence.com'

\Minecraft version 1.12.2\**
https://www.curseforge.com/minecraft/modpacks/resurgence-combat-evolved
\Vote for us\**
https://www.curseforge.com/servers/minecraft/game/official-resurgence-anarchy/vote
*Our official discord\*
https://discord.gg/etrSQ5Rxnp
\ World border is now 7K x 7Kin all dimensions\**
\THIS CHANGE IS SCHEDULED FOR TONIGHT 04/08/2024\**
Adventurers get to set foot on soil unexplored and see what our Lush new biomes have to offer!
We begin our tests in the private server balancing a new mod highlighting "Questing" These balances will take us some time to complete (Balancing items can be tricky and our server owner personally optimizes bulky mods that wouldn't perform the best normally on sloweolder computers (will expand the map in new ways if necessary with increasing player count)
War... War never changes... We invite you to join us in a tech driven magical world filled with guns, dark arts and community! Help tare it apart or strengthen it. Whether you're solo or have a group of friends join us for some of the fun.
Mod list: Thaumcraft 6, Ender IO, Tinker's, Forestry, Better Bees, Thermal expansion, Tech Guns, Redstone Flux, ProjectRed, Extra Utilities 2, Buildcraft RF, AE2 wireless, Applied Energistics, and more mods catering to a war-like experience. (150+ mods to choose from)
Resurgence is intended to equip players with the choice to play however they want. Have fun alone building and destroying, or join other players in an all out war in PvE or PvP!
With this pack, we hope to bring a balanced experience to players who want to work for their weapons, embrace their creativity, and use critical thinking to build the most efficient automated systems.
There is no /sethome or /tps this is to prevent easy map travel and encourage tech gurus and witches who've mastered the dark arts to use their creativity to navigate these hurdles *Beds are valuable\*
We have /spawn enabled to give players a hotspot for PvP / Social interaction *Not all players want their competition so consider it a crutch! (Only use it if you know how to get out but don't worry our fresh spawns will have a chance at the action too)*
DISABLED ITEMS/FEATURES:

• Slime boots + sling (these combined allow players to travel too fast)
• Rapier (Deals magic damage and 1 shots players for 0 crafting time)
• EnderIO Armoweapons that (allow players to teleport instantly)
• Staff of traveling (Allows players to teleport instantly)
• Journeymaps ability to track/view players (Use your eyes)
• These are removed to bring balance and skill to the game when it comes to PvP

I'll see you all out there! good luck on your quests, progression and becoming the strongest on the server
we hope you enjoy the Resurgence of machinery and future combat in Minecraft!

Mistakes such as misspelling your name, entering incorrect passport information, or submitting incomplete documents while submitting your Vietnam e-visa application will prevent your Vietnam order from being granted.

1. Failing to upload qualified documents (portrait photo and passport bio page) for Vietnam e-visa on Vietnam Immigration official website
This is one of the very common mistakes that make your Vietnam e-visa application hang in the government system for too long for approval. The correct format of + Portrait photo: good quality, without glasses, no tank top, facing toward the camera. Cropping the image from your passport page and upload it is unaccepted. + Passport bio page photo: good quality, full page shown including the full ICAO LINES. Vietnam e-visa is granted on regular passport only. Emergency passports, travel documents are not used to apply Vietnam e-visa.

2. Providing incorrect personal information on Vietnam e-visa application

Filling incorrect personal detail(s) is one of the common mistakes people make when applying for a Vietnam e-Visa. To our experiences, applicants often make mistake(s) in: • Full names: It is crucial to ensure that the spelling and spacing of your full name match the ICAO line exactly.
It is compulsory that you must write your complete full name which includes your Surname and your Given names. Many people just write down their names incompletely and this causes delays in processing Vietnam e-visa. Even if your Vietnam e-visa application is granted, you will be declined to check in the flights or cross the borders to enter Vietnam due to mismatch information between your passport and Vietnam evisa. • Date of birth: the correct format is DD/MM/YYYY • Passport number: the whole passport number appears on the passport should be shown • Expiry passport date: it requires the exact date to be shown Once again, all passport details need to be exact letter by letter, number by number in order to guarantee your entrance into Vietnam.

3. Choosing the wrong visa validity, visa type on Vietnam e-visa application

A Vietnam e-visa at the moment is good for up to 90 days single/ multiple validity. Duration of your Vietnam e-visa is granted base on your request for Valid from--- to on the e-visa form. Many people would misunderstand that the visa only starts at the time they physically enter Vietnam and last for minimum of 30 days. Completely wrong!
Pay attention to your Vietnam e-visa validity carefully, entering Vietnam before or after its duration is prohibited. Next, choose correct Vietnam e-visa type whether it is single or multiple entry. If you plan to re-enter Vietnam, it is best to take multiple entry visa. Otherwise, you have to obtain another single entry visa for next time.

4. Missing intended temporary residential address in Viet Nam in Vietnam e-visa application form

These days, quite often Vietnam Immigration sends request to applicants to supply their full address in Vietnam. It is best to mention name and detail address of your first accommodation in Vietnam (hotel name + its exact address). In case you have not booked any places, take an expected address from agoda.com or booking.com and put into the required field.

5. Including children into your Vietnam e-visa application even though they have their own passport

Each individual applicant who has their own passport must apply for their own E-visa. If parents include their kids on their Vietnam E-visa application even though kids have their own passports, children will be declined to take the flight due to no visas. We – Vietnamvisavoa – has encounter circumstances in which parents included their children into their visa application (as it has a part saying: “Under 14 years old accompanying child(ren) included in your passport). However, it is only valid if your child(ren) is included in your passport. Please read the instruction on Vietnam E-visa application carefully to avoid any hassles.

6. Your Vietnam e-visa is declined as you are still residing in Vietnam

For quite a few applicants, they get this message via email from Vietnam Immigration. This means that Vietnam e-visa is granted to foreigners who are residing abroad. If you submit your Vietnam visa request while you are still staying in Vietnam, it will be declined. For that reason, you should only submit a new Vietnam visa request once you are not in Vietnam.

(Just for clarity I am autistic and the person has ADHD and autism, I’m mentioning this now as it will be important later on). For context, from the end of 2021 to March of 2022 and the end of 2022 to May of 2023, there was this person in my friend group who would constantly try to make me feel horrible, in a group chat I would attempt to talk about my interests (mostly focused on my chemical romance, video games and other random things at that time) and she would constantly tell me that no one cared about what I was into just so she could talk about what she liked. She constantly had a go at me for simply sending images or videos of things I found funny or interesting and she’d say ‘it takes up my storage so send links instead’ I was sending videos that were less than a minute long so it would’ve been a few Mb at most. She would constantly try to gaslight me into thinking I was the problem in every situation, I also want you to keep in mind that the group chat was dead because of all the arguments and apparently the friend group was falling apart (it wasn’t at the time) guess who got the blame for that. She also used her ADHD and autism as an excuse for all her shitty behaviour.
Eventually I snapped and cut all ties with her, she stayed with the friend group for a bit but left as she realised nobody actually liked her.
Recently I decided to form a band and write a song about her as I thought it would be a good thing to get that story out there as it could give something many people can relate to and it’s overall a great song lyrically.

I have a friend who I’ve known for a few years. We met in person slightly before the pandemic began and kept in touch via text over the next few years because we lived in different countries. We have similar interests, chatted almost everyday and shared a lot of personal things.
He is charismatic, intelligent, witty, always smiling, and I feel like I’m giving more than he is. I have given him money when he was unemployed, brought him chocolates that were difficult to find and even traveled to another country to see him and I make it known that I care about him and want to strengthen our friendship. He doesn’t seem to reciprocate.
Well there’s more: he was away for a few months and just returned a few weeks ago, but he didn’t tell me which day he was arriving and didn’t make plans with me when he arrived.
He said he wanted to hang, but it was very vague. We tried to get together this past weekend, but he “wasn’t feeling well,” and now he’s leaving again tomorrow for a short trip, but will be back in a week or so.
Our last text message exchange was from a few days ago and he hasn’t told me if he’s feeling better and if he wants to meet before he leaves on his trip. I know I could text him, but why does it always have to be me?
I feel like I’m not priority in his life and he doesn’t care about me as much as I do. If I traveled to a city where a good friend lived, I would have let them know right away and made a plan to see them especially after being away for a few months.
Should I be open and honest about how I feel and talk to him? My friends tell me to move on and let it go, but I feel like not communicating is worse and will make me become bitter and unhinged.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Guys I will be appearing for 2025 UPSC CSE. It will be my first time giving this exam and prepration as well. I decided to opt for sociology optional but after discussing it with my professors they convinced me to opt law as my optional and when I saw PYQs the questions were basic direct and easy. Therefore I finally decided to opt law as an optional. My background- I am 23 yr old LLM (constitution). Done both BBALLB and LLM from reputed NLUs, had few not so good placement offers that i didn't take, I have an online coaching from my friend which he left midway so coaching content wise I am sorted. Won't give more that 3 years to this exam. Want to study from home in the mountains. Have no issues in leaving everything for this exam even my phone. Can dedicate 8-10 hrs everyday.
I have few questions from the seasoned veterans of this exam.

1. Can I prepare for this exam from home without missing out on anything? I have online coaching of someone who isn't using it and money wise also no issue i can stay and enroll in coaching anywhere.
2. Should I take Convertias's evaluation service? Otherwise I have no way of getting my answers checked.
3. I am extremely weak in maths so CSAT is one of the biggest concerns in my long list of concerns any advice on this?
4. Should I take Law optional coaching and if yes, which one should I take? Defacto or Rau's? Coaching because some of the important subjects i didn't understand and learn properly during covid time( online classes and exams).
5. ONE OF THE BIGGEST QUESTION I HAVE- " DO REALLY NEED TO STRUGGLE MAKE YOUR LIFE DIFFICULT TO CLEAR THIS EXAM? LIKE I DON'T KNOW IF I AM SOUNDING RIGHT BUT DO I NEED GIVE MYSELF UNNECESSARY HARDSHIPS WITHOUT ANY REASON? Because every elder in my family wants me struggle, struggle, struggle then only I can clear this exam. But honestly in my opinion after reading the syllabus, PYQs and listening to topper talks I have deducted that it is a simple exam with a lot of compitition. In this case a person have more resources will have an edge over non resourceful person so why does my family want me to struggle i beyond my understanding.

Currently active duty military but I’ll be leaving in a few months and I’m trying to get my post-military life squared away. Already been accepted into university and I’ve been apartment hunting for fun for a while now. I have a few questions:

• How does the whole apartment renting process work exactly from “hmmm this looks like a good place” to actually moving in and settling down?
  
• How trustworthy is Facebook Marketplace?
  
• Life hacks, tips and tricks, etc. for first time renters? I already know a few like taking pictures of everything prior to moving in but what else is there?
  
• I plan to own guns. Any tips on how to secure these?
  
• Things I should consider when apartment hunting?
  
• How does GI Bill and VA disability factor into apartment hunting? I heard that some leasing agencies are kind of wary about vets using the GI Bill since our MHA/Military Housing Allowance isn’t consistent, what with us not getting paid during the summers if we’re not actively taking classes.
  
• When is the “best” time to actually move into a new apartment, especially for university/college students?
  
• My plan is to live with my family for a couple months to maybe a year tops before moving into an apartment. Would this be a good timeline for me to reestablish myself back home, focus on school, and get back into the groove of being a civilian? Or would it be better for me to move out of my family’s house ASAP?
  
• Should I get a roommate? I have a friend back home who voiced the idea that he’d be open to being roommates. On one hand, he’s my friend and we vibe really well, plus it’s an extra person who can help out with rent. On the other hand, after having spent the past 3-4 years living with other people, I wanna have my own private space where I’m free to live as I please.
  

My question is what should I do in this situation because I'm completely lost and I don't want to lose her? I've been accused of always looking at other girls. How do I stop her from thinking I want other females validation.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for around 9 months now and this issue hasn’t been anything new. 4 months into the relationship she began accusing me of staring and every-time I try to explain myself or deny it, she tells me I’m lying or asks why I do it. It’s starting to make me feel depressed because she tells me that it makes her feel ugly or that she has to find herself because of my actions. I even started looking at the ground or anywhere else but in the direction of people to not make her feel shitty. I never really cared or worried about my partner glancing or even looking at guys. I know what’s mine is mine so I don’t feel the need to worry. Only recently I made it a big deal whenever I notice she looks at another guy and she gets really sad when I don’t accept her apology or denial of it. I really wish she did that whenever I tried apologizing, but it seems like only she’s able to apologize and it feels really shitty. Just today we walked by the pool and there happened to be girls e and she acted like I chose to walk that way because I wanted their attention… I just really wanted to avoid the other direction because there’s someone who stares at her and she stares back. It felt so shitty because she started to speed walk and I felt so embarrassed because she completely ignored me. When I got the chance to explain myself and deny it she just wanted to leave home and didn’t want to hear it. I bursted out crying and it felt shitty because she acted like I was being emotional to be manipulative. She even mocked me by saying I’m the type of person to cry if I were to be caught cheating. All she says is it so hard not to stare or why do I have to try not to stare :/ It’s starting to make me feel depressed and honestly what am i supposed to do. What am I doing wrong, I’m not staring at anyone I only seek my girlfriend’s validation. Even when I’m alone and out with friends I know I belong to my girlfriend. I’ve never cheated or ever have.
What am I supposed to do I feel so confused she even accused me yesterday of fixing my posture to look good for a girl :/ that girl is my cat washers daughter who is at most 16… that made me feel so digusted especially when she said when someone fixes there posture after seeing someone they’re attracted to them. I literally only asks who she was because she looked unfamiliar to everybody I know from apartments. After that I completely about her existence. Her logic is always I know what I saw and that she’s not stupid. I don’t know what to do I really love her, but why does it feel like I can never do anything right. Literally everything I do is questioned it feels so shitty :/ What should I do? Am I not doing enough to make her feel wanted or good about herself? What can I do to make her know i m not staring at other girls because im not?
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Am I the only one that literally is disgusted by pictures of themselves taken by others? When my friends take a pic or vid of my face, I literally feel like I look deformed, and I get extremely upset the whole day or multiple thinking of why do I look like that. I’m literally extremely scared of a camera,in the mirror I think I look good or ok. I don’t know what to believe, I really don’t know how I look like. It gets to my brain that sometimes I want to not exist anymore or be another person. Will therapy help me with this?

So, I never really post things like this but I just want people’s opinions on this. I was playing WCUE just chilling, trading and that. This troll comes up to a group of us and is pretty much just trying to get a reaction out of us, calling us names, making remarks on our morphs etc. My friend says to this troll “calm down, man” to this troll. A mod ends up joining the server and is “correcting” my friend and accusing her of being transphobic and assuming someone’s gender. I stepped in and tried my best to inform the mod that my friend did not intentionally assume the gender of this person and I informed them that the person in question was a troll. They did not seem to care. They repeatedly told me to not get involved. They then called for another mod. There was now 2 in the server. I spoke to the second mod and asked why did it take two of them to resolve an issue or “transphobia” which wasn’t even happening. The mod then told me this was a serious matter. I then questioned them saying was racism, trolling, heat rps not a more important matter to attend too. That there had been reports sent out on these reasons but somehow it took two mods to attend a ridiculous accusation of transphobia by the simple phrase “calm down man”. Most people in the server did agree with me. I never said anything degrading or harmful to this person, but my friend and I got a 4 week ban reason? transphobia. The mod gave me their “head of staff” user on discord. I later found out it was a fake name. I really do believe this person abused their power to ban people. It was really unfair. I did report this person but i doubt there’ll be any action taken on this. What are your opinions on this?

Hello
English is not my first language so I apologise in advance and this happens in Norway. Little bit of back story: Me (F) and my partner (M) live in Norway a small village connected to a town. We aren't Norwegian but my partner lived here longer then I did, I moved here to live with him. We know literally no one here, we only have each other and that's not for the lack of trying, we tried to make friends ect but it never work. We simply don't fit in, we are THE utlendinger (foreigners) . Everybody here knows each other since their childhood. So they have a social connection ect.
The problem is parnert works in a school canteen an is being bullied and insulted by his coworker ( Let's call her UB) . As in UB punches him in the arm pushed him into the table,s calls him dumb or javla utlender ect. We have reported it, follow arbeidstilsynet instructions ect. The school was "dealing" with it, but nothing changed they only talked to both parties and that was it. They still pretend they are working on it a year in.
They had in person meeting and UB said my parnert is the problem he is aggressive and she is scared of him. He would never do that in the 6 years I have known him he is the calmest person I know. He would never get physical.(My partner is a taller men and she is a small fat old woman.)
They seem to not take my partner seriously and take UB side. He asked for cameras in the kitchen, denied. He had written down stuff she said to him pictures of how UB violates health and safety violations and still nothing. UB know nothing about hygiene in the kitchen or food regulations! He has all the certification to work in a kitchen....He feels like he is being treated as the problem and it is taking a massive toll on him. Mentally he is just exhausted causing him severe insomnia depression and anxiety. We just doesn't want to go to work.
Sadly we are unable to find a new job for him in the near vecinity, and we cannot move because of a house mortgage. When we got stuck because of corona.... We but a bit in corona hit he lost his previous job but we couldn't take are bid back. But the job provides great pay and benefits too. We cannot afford a lawyer because of the mortgage and other financial struggles. I'm at wits end. I don't know what to do I'm really worried about my partner he isn't the fun smiley man I meat sometimes he is more then a shell with a bad mood from work.
Any advice?
There might be a lot on grammar mistakes I writing this on the phone at work. I'm sorry.

What scares me 33 F, is that I enjoyed 15 years of freedom without my mother to build my life, experience so much joy and love, only to feel suffocated by the thought of her living in my city again for 20 years until I am in my 50s. Do I have to wait that long to experience freedom again? I wish I had other mother figures in my life. I guess I could keep contact as long as my stepfather is around. But I don't want to feel like a terrible person who cuts off their mother. They are here on an extended holiday now and trying to find my freedom in the everyday is hard. Even if I see my mother who is here for only for a couple of hours a day, I feel hatred. I cannot accept her. I just don't like her as a person. I realise that I don't owe her anything, but I love my stepfather. I hate that she made so many sacrifices to suffocate me. Perhaps a superficial relationship could work. Smalltalk, collegial, polite. I don't want to let her in. That is my choice and my boundary. That's the price to pay for disregarding my boundaries. I cannot forgive her because she cannot see her wrongdoing. Because she did her best. But she also disregarded countless mentors trying to show her that she was controlling me. Teaching me that the world is a dangerous place, that my own ideas and wants are ridiculous - certain clothes or particular friends. That the pop music I liked was trash. That only what She feeds me is healthy, putting me on countless stupid diets during my childhood. Showing more love when I achieved things than when I tried and failed. Using my achievements to boast to others, making me feel used. So much meddling. Trying to get me to break off in the middle of a professional photoshoot. Trying to ruin my engagement by warning me not to get married. Trying to get me to break off a holiday by telling my half brother not to let me go with him. Just showing me a general distrust in the decisions that were mine to make. That felt controlling. Like crossing the line. Not trusting me. Stating her opinion when it was uncalled for. People were constantly telling her that she needs to let go. She couldn't. Desperately hanging onto the idea of making me successfull. She was depleted and in survival mode. Always chasing the fantasy of a better life. And blatantly ignoring the good infront of her. She had a loving partner, but called herself alone? Stayed home all day - what did she even do all day? I don't really know her. I was always ashamed that the little money she got was from a disability pension by pretending to be depressed. Maybe she was? She wanted a better life for me, but didn't want to work to pay rent. That didn't align with my values. My stepfather always told stories of his life, was patient and listened. Tried to teach me to handle my emotions. Trusted me. Let me be. I played music to escape. I tried modelling to get out. More or less successfully. I left the house a lot as a teenager. Needed to move to get the anger out. Needed a goal that was far away. I used music when I realised that modelling wasn't sustainable. I tried to ignore that she used my success infront of her friends to seem involved, even though I just wanted to get away. So how to get past this? Time (about 15 years since moving out) didn't seem to make it go away, as these feelings come back when I see my mother in person. Distance is wonderful. And yet, I want to model showing them the freedom of choice to move here, not becoming the controlling monster I wanted to escape. Maybe some arrangement can be made when my parents move here. Like when people get divorced and have to compromise. Like one day a week that the girls (3 F and 36 weeks pregnant) spend with their grandparents. I don't want to talk to her about it. It's a mess every time I try. I don't even know what I want. No contact? To hate her? Do I fill the void by becoming the mother I wish I had? Or does that disregard what my own children need? I see her staring at my child, trying to be a part of a life that isn't hers. She doesn't deserve it. And yet she is finding her way in by deciding to move here. Am I just overreacting/the asshole showing her the cold shoulder because I'm about to have another baby/pregnancy hormones? Do I just need to get over myself and realise that my childhood is long gone & we are in a different place now? Or do I have a point to be worried about losing my freedom if my parents move here? Thanks for reading :)

Hello everyone, I've been feeling quite low recently after I've thought over what I've done over my first two semesters at the campus (having so much time suddenly does that to a person) and it feels as though I've done little and achieved very little in this time. Don't get me wrong, I've had a decently fulfilling time during my stay here. I've become a better person in many ways and I've made very good friends along the way.
All this aside though, seeing as what I had hoped to do at college before coming to campus, I've not even achieved 10% of that. I want you to know that I was a complete loser before coming here, no over-exaggeration here. But even after all this time, I still have 0 extracurriculars, near 0 hobbies, 0 sports skills, poor health, no non-technical commitments. All that would be completely fine if I had some skills in the technical domain. The only technical skills I have is for something which is not even relevant at college.
Recently I've started up LinkedIn, and looking at my batchies and seniors there, it makes me question my worth.
After saying all this, let me come to my point. I've decided to put in my fullest over the vacations and the next couple of semesters to make something out of myself. I've come to realize it is no use wallowing in my misery and I need to get up and do things, and that is why I've come to reddit to clarify some things.
In the last semester, I've talked to many seniors from the 21 and 22 batches, and a few from the 20 batch. I really appreciate all the advice and guidance they have provided me but I can't help but feel it is a bit vague. I will provide some examples. - Do competitive coding, it will help you when you have to get good at DSA. - Make connections, in the future it will be this networking that gets you out of sticky situations. - Do internships, as work experience will be quite valuable for SI and placement season. - Go to the gym and take care of your health. - And more
I have obviously boiled down their entire explanation to one line, which does not do justice to the valuable time they have spared for me. But truthfully, knowing all this does not help me very much, because all the seniors were either vague or had different approach about the HOW for these things. HOW do I make connections? HOW do I make sure those connections stick? HOW do I start going to the gym or building my health, considering I am starting from very poor health. HOW do I get internships? I've been told to make projects, and use linkedin or connections for internships but WHAT projects? And how to use linkedin for these purposes?
I would appreciate if anyone could share the method to getting the answer for these questions.
I want to use the vacations to build up a resume so I can try for internships later. I will not say that I am starting from zero, but it is definitely close to zero.
If anyone has the spare time and the requisite experiences and knowledge, I would be very grateful if you could answer these questions:

1. If I already know I don't want to look towards consulting, product management and analytics (not core either since I'm in CS), are there any other on-campus opportunities I'm missing except IT, AI/ML and finance?
   
2. Although I feel quite interested in software, I would like to give finance a chance especially as a backup. How can I get the idea what finance courses would be like without having to go all in on a finance minor from the get go? I've heard people say I should take Fundafin or some other basic finance course, but is that enough to judge?
   
3. How important are prior internships for SI season? What about for placements?
   
4. If they are quite important, how should I get started in order to get my first internship? Keeping in mind I don't have the necessary skills yet, what are some good things to learn and how to apply them?
   
5. How do you 'network' in an effective manner? And how do you judge if it is worth putting the time in? People have told me to use LinkedIn, but what to do on LinkedIn?
   
6. How did you guys improve at competitive coding? I seem to be stuck at my current level for some time now. What resources did you use?
   
7. What kind of projects have value for resume purposes? Is there a bias towards specific technologies? What kind of projects did you make?
   
8. What does IT and other software jobs look like as a career in the long term? (Please answer only if you have the experience, otherwise fine to skip)
   
9. Is there any generic 'roadmap' I could use as a template to build up my profile before the SI season?
   
10. Currently, my CG > 9.5 but is it worth it to maintain it? Or should I let it drop to in favor of other things?
    
11. Should I care about the fact I'm 0 in extracurricular and 0 in sports? It is really intimidating to start at this point in life.
    

Apart from all this, I would like seniors to share their experience on what doesn't matter as much as people think it does (like any common misconceptions about something's importance).
I also want to ask that should I keep comparing to myself to others as a motivator or should I drop the habit altogether as it is damaging to my mental well-being.
Some copium would be nice as well, nowadays I'm feeling that I'm way too far behind people in all departments. I'm trying to work on myself but I've had my bad habits for so long it's a real burden trying to shed them. Here's to hoping that these vacations are a happy and productive one.
Have a happy vacation everybody!

Hi all!
Thank you for your wonderful feedback, it's already helping a lot and I believe (and hope) that I am in the right direction. Soo, here comes my third attempt at what I consider to be something that resembles a quarry letter (I am still trying to figure out how to write a good hook and my comps but I will get there at some point).
Dear [Agent],
As Eon stares into the river, he confronts an undeniable truth: he no longer recognizes the man looking back at him.
Unarmed and without memories, Eon must traverse the treacherous forest he finds himself in, or face a painful death by the beasts that lurk in its depths. Struggling to find a way out, he discovers a group of merchants led by the wizard Rius. Driven by his curiosity and hunger for knowledge, Eon decides to cooperate with him in his magical research in exchange for safe passage through the forest. When they discover that Eon is both capable of wielding magic and highly resistant to its effects, he starts to wonder who his former self really was.
In an effort to further both their goals, Eon agrees to meet Rius’ employer, the leader of a cult that reveres and studies the secrets of the afterlife. The cult offers Eon the services of their oracle in return for his assistance in their studies, but things get out of hand when instead of his past, he witnesses a bleak future; a future in which he dies without recovering his memories as the world is brought to ruin.
With time running out, Eon must decide if he can still rely on Rius’ support as he struggles to reclaim his past self and understand the reason behind the world’s future destruction, all while dealing with a cult that demands its end of the bargain and aims to reach the afterlife before the prophecy is fulfilled.
Lord of the rings meets Piranesi in an epic and mysterious world that comes to life through Eon’s curious eyes in THE FORGOTTEN PURPOSE, a fantasy novel of 110.000 words. With the character-driven plot aspect of A God in Chains by Matthew Hughes and the rich world-building of The Shadow of the Gods by John Gwynne, the novel is an adult epic fantasy journey through a world full of strife and magic. I am querying you because [personalized sentence].
I have a degree in History and Social Anthropology and can be found writing every day, be it about fantasy, the past or the present. My novel draws inspiration from modern world issues while looking critically at the past. Thank you for your time and consideration.
Sincerely,

How to use "Má " and "Máa" in statement.
Hello,
How are you doing today,
I hope we are still learning,
Today, let's look at these two words, they can be used at the beginning of a statement when we are speaking to a younger person or friend but their meaning is different.
"Má"--With just one "a" is used to give command, when you want to tell someone not to do something. (Don't)
For example

1. Má sùn------Don't sleep.
   
2. Má jẹun - - - - Don't eat.
   
3. Má sùn------Don't go.
   

Máa - - - This is also used to give command but this time around, you want to tell someone to continue with their action.
Example.

1. Máa sùn------You can continue sleeping
   
2. Máa lọ - - - - You can go
   
3. Máa jẹun - - - You can continue eating.
   

Do you understand?