Hand job moms

Is it legal for my employer to apply my accrued pay time off to a day off? I took an emergency day off. I Did not request my PTO to be applied. I had to go see my mom at the ER and I called out the morning of. I walked into work the next day to clock in, and all my PTO was applied to the day before, but I never asked for that to happen. I just started this job and already four people have quit. Apparently this company was sold right before started and is under new management and people leaving is a huge red flag. And then I walked in today and another CSR quit. No Two weeks notice just quit. Then I go to take my lunch and was stopped by a friend that I made my first week here. When I asked her why everyone was quitting she told me that I should bail before I get too deep here. And that this place is turning rotten. I'm literally on my lunch shaking right now because I just got to this job and I already feel like this place is crooked.

I currently work as a receptionist at a mental health clinic. I was going to school to be an addiction counsellor and recently decided to take a break from college. Since I took this break, I kinda realised I’m not a persuasive person or stellar communicator. I want to work with my hands. I have been looking into the trades. I know I’m great with cars because I single-handedly rebuilt the engine of my project car. The issue is I don’t know if going into automotive would ruin my passion for it as a hobby. I have looked at being an electrician, finish carpenter or carpentry in general, plumbing, etc. I worry about very dangerous jobs because I am a young mom and I want to make sure I always come home at the end of the day. Any suggestions?

Hello I am a 22 years old male, weighting about 225. I working a manufacturing job so earlier in the day my hand slipped and, my left hand hit the rounded edge of a metal guide rail. Impact occurred on the center of my hand over the tendon middle digit, impact was hard enough to make a small laceration. After the impact my hand went numb and I struggled to move my middle digit and pointer finger, after getting it cleaned up a white string like thing popped out from deeper in my hand it’s been 5 hours since, area around the impact is swollen, hurts to move middle and pointer, and I can feel it’s weaker, should I be concerned and what is this poking out my wound

First time posting so here is some back story on my situation. I technically went partially no contact with my sister doing as much as I can to avoid her since 2015 Fast forward to 2022 is when I noticed her playing the victim saying stuff like I didn't bring enough food to eat for her (which when I did I always tried to include her but she refused to eat it) I primarily visited my parents house daily to bring them food and just relax and watched as I feel I'm the only kid in my family that actually cares for my parents w/o wanting something nor is my parents paying me. Note at this time yes I did want to go full no contact with my sister but I low key still wanted to keep it open just to rebuild the relationship Now fast forward to summer 2023 when I ordered my mom and I food from doordash (note my sister was already uptight about me bringing food over to my parents house) came home and found out I did that started chaos played the victim and then she decided that she was going to go full no contact with me. Which doesn't bother me, but what bothers me is I can't spend time with my parents because she's always home because she has no job. What can I do? Also note I'm not the only one she's done this too. She's went no contact with my brother in late 2021and before that he's been he's been living almost in another state with very little contact with him as well. And what bothers me is I still do very care about my sister, but I feel after this stunt she is pulling I might not want to help her. Am I the villain?

Been caring for mom since last August. I worked 2 jobs and left one for a mental break I was so burned out sending kids to college and my brother was stessing out family. Didn’t get a week off to get my mental break and mom fell, broke shoulder and had a heart attack and that was 2 months of care. Then she had spells of afib each month before every holiday . She was diagnosed with hypertrophic cardiomyopathy and she’s better but I take her to dr appts each week. Luckily she hired a cleaner and gets groceries delivered bc I was doing that too. Now my husband has a mass on his lung. He had a stroke 7 years ago and has been ok since then after surgery etc. they think it’s cancer. We will know more in a couple of weeks. I’m scared, cry everyday at work, and just so depressed. He’s grumpy too and snaps at me and it doesn’t make it easy when he’s mean bc I am already fragile. I have autoimmune hypothyroidism and a herniated disk I can’t take care of due to everyone else’s stuff I take care of. Any advice or just hey you got this would help. I feel like my life is just existing.

The Reality of Housing and Utility Costs: Why Estimated Budgets Fall Short Across Different Income Levels

The discussion around housing affordability is increasingly relevant as home prices and utility costs continue to rise, especially near major metropolitan areas. Let's dive into a detailed comparison of estimated and true budgets for individuals earning the federal minimum wage, median income, and average income, and see how they fare in terms of affording housing and utilities close to major cities. This comparison will highlight why these budgets often fall short.

Budget Analysis

Federal Minimum Wage Scenario:

• Federal Minimum Wage: $7.25 per hour
• Annual Income: $15,080
• After-Tax Income: $13,572 annually ($1,131 monthly)

Estimated Monthly Budget: - Housing: $400 - Utilities: $100 - Food: $300 - Transportation: $100 - Healthcare: $50 - Debt Payments: $50 - Savings and Investments: $50 - Entertainment and Miscellaneous: $81
Estimated Total Monthly Expenses: $1,131
True Monthly Budget: - Housing: $400 (Shared housing or low-cost rentals) - Utilities: $367 - Food: $416 (national average) - Transportation: $400 - Healthcare: $400 - Debt Payments: $400 - Savings and Investments: $400 - Entertainment and Miscellaneous: $300
True Total Monthly Expenses: $3,083
Shortfall: $1,952 per month

Median Income Scenario:

• Median Annual Income: $74,580
• After-Tax Income: $55,935 annually ($4,661 monthly)

Estimated Monthly Budget: - Housing: $1,400 - Utilities: $200 - Food: $600 - Transportation: $400 - Healthcare: $400 - Debt Payments: $400 - Savings and Investments: $400 - Entertainment and Miscellaneous: $861
Estimated Total Monthly Expenses: $4,661
True Monthly Budget: - Housing: $1,919 (average mortgage for a $400,000 home) - Utilities: $367 - Food: $416 - Transportation: $400 - Healthcare: $400 - Debt Payments: $400 - Savings and Investments: $400 - Entertainment and Miscellaneous: $300
True Total Monthly Expenses: $4,602

Average Income Scenario:

• Average Annual Income: $69,392
• After-Tax Income: $52,044 annually ($4,337 monthly)

Estimated Monthly Budget: - Housing: $1,300 - Utilities: $200 - Food: $600 - Transportation: $400 - Healthcare: $400 - Debt Payments: $400 - Savings and Investments: $400 - Entertainment and Miscellaneous: $637
Estimated Total Monthly Expenses: $4,337
True Monthly Budget: - Housing: $1,919 (average mortgage for a $400,000 home) - Utilities: $367 - Food: $416 - Transportation: $400 - Healthcare: $400 - Debt Payments: $400 - Savings and Investments: $400 - Entertainment and Miscellaneous: $300
True Total Monthly Expenses: $4,602

Housing Prices in Major Cities

Here are the average home prices and their impact on affordability in some major cities:

1. New York, NY (Queens):
   
   • Average Home Price: $1,091,100
   • Typical Monthly Mortgage: $5,795
2. San Francisco, CA:
   
   • Average Home Price: $1,515,000
   • Typical Monthly Mortgage: $6,320
3. Seattle, WA:
   
   • Average Home Price: $800,000
   • Typical Monthly Mortgage: $3,579
4. Los Angeles, CA:
   
   • Average Home Price: $900,000
   • Typical Monthly Mortgage: $3,840
5. Austin, TX:
   
   • Average Home Price: $575,000
   • Typical Monthly Mortgage: $2,450

Additional Cost Increases: Food, Gas, and Car Prices

1. Food Prices: - Food prices in the U.S. have increased significantly, with the average cost of groceries being $416 per person per month (https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/finance/how-much-to-spend-on-groceries).
2. Gas Prices: - Gas prices have been volatile, with significant increases due to global events and supply chain disruptions. The average cost of gasoline is now around $3.50 per gallon, up from pre-pandemic levels.
3. Car Prices: - The cost of new and used cars has surged due to supply chain issues and increased demand. New car prices have increased by approximately 12% over the past year, while used car prices have seen even larger increases.

Inflation and Price Gouging

Inflation Impact: - Overall inflation has driven up the cost of living, impacting housing, utilities, food, and transportation. The Consumer Price Index (CPI) shows a significant rise in prices across all major categories.
Price Gouging: - During periods of high demand and low supply, some businesses have engaged in price gouging, further exacerbating the financial strain on consumers.

Taxation of a Dollar

When discussing the taxation process, it’s important to understand how many times a dollar is taxed before it is effectively reduced to zero through successive transactions.
1. How a Dollar is Taxed: - Initial Income Tax: Assume a marginal tax rate of 25%. From $1 earned, 25 cents goes to taxes, leaving 75 cents. - Subsequent Spending and Sales Tax: When the 75 cents is spent, assume a sales tax rate of 10%. This deducts 7.5 cents, leaving 67.5 cents. - Cycle of Transactions: This process repeats with each transaction. Each time the money changes hands, it is subject to additional taxation (income tax, sales tax, etc.).
2. How Many Times a Dollar Changes Hands: - Mathematical Model: The dollar's value after each transaction is ( Vn = V{n-1} \times (1 - t) ), where ( V ) is the value and ( t ) is the combined tax rate. - Effective Tax Rate: Assuming a combined effective tax rate of 35% (including various forms of taxation), we can calculate how many times a dollar changes hands before it is effectively reduced to zero. - Calculation: Using the formula ( V_n = V_0 \times (1 - t)ⁿ ), where ( V_0 ) is the initial dollar and solving for when ( V_n \approx 0 ): - If ( t = 0.35 ), then ( V_n = 1 \times (0.65)ⁿ ). - Solving for ( n ) when ( V_n \approx 0 ) (practically considered close to zero when it is less than 1 cent), we find that it takes approximately 10-12 transactions for the dollar to be effectively taxed to zero.

Why Budgets Don't Make Sense

Minimum Wage Earner: - The true total monthly expenses for a minimum wage earner exceed their after-tax income by $1,952. Even with shared housing and minimal expenses, they cannot afford basic living costs without significant financial assistance or multiple jobs.
Median Income Earner: - While the estimated and true budgets balance, they do not leave much room for unexpected expenses or significant savings. Housing and utility costs consume a significant portion of the income, limiting financial flexibility.
Average Income Earner: - Similar to median income earners, the estimated and true budgets balance but are very tight. High housing and utility costs significantly constrain the ability to save or spend on discretionary items.

Conclusion

Comparing these budgets highlights the stark differences in financial flexibility between minimum wage earners and those earning median or average incomes. Minimum wage earners face significant challenges in meeting basic living expenses, particularly housing and utilities. Even median and average income earners experience tight budgets when purchasing homes near major cities. Addressing housing affordability requires a multifaceted approach, including policy interventions, financial support, and increased wages to ensure financial stability and quality of life for all income groups.
Sources: - National Association of Realtors (https://www.nar.realtor) - Kiplinger (https://www.kiplinger.com) - Redfin (https://www.redfin.com) - Harvard Joint Center for Housing Studies (https://www.jchs.harvard.edu) - MIT Living Wage Calculator (https://livingwage.mit.edu) - U.S. Census Bureau (https://www.census.gov) - Bureau of Labor Statistics (https://www.bls.gov) - Move.org (https://www.move.org) - HomeGuide (https://www.homeguide.com) - Food and Agricultural Organization (https://www.fao.org) - NerdWallet (https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/finance/how-much-to-spend-on-groceries)
This comprehensive analysis provides a solid foundation for discussing housing affordability and financial challenges across different income levels. Let’s discuss

I’m using GI Bill and living at my mom’s place. It sucks sometimes since I’m 25. I am saving money, I have 15k saved and growing. About to have an associates in EE from community college this fall. Would it be possible or worth trying to get some sort of tech related job that’s entry level with this? I understand “Engineering technology” Is different, a 2 year program and is more hands on. Can I land any sort of job similar to this with a regular EE associates? If so, would it be a good idea to get a job and potentially delay graduation a year or so to gain work experience?
If that’s not possible, I’m assuming its get internships/do projects etc. I want to start working but I get it if it’s better to just do projects etc and keep pumping out classes. I’ve been working part-time as a math tutor but not much, mainly been taking classes full-time and during summers.
Thanks

It's been over a year now since. Highschool sweethearts, love of my life since I was 16 and he was 18. Even then I knew there were red flags, but he was an 18 year old and I told him exactly what I wanted and he agreed. We were good for the most part, at least I thought so. He always had his inconsiderate moments but Wes work it out - or rather I'd just move by because I wanted to nurture the relationship.
He broke up with me several times before. Once because of health thing I couldn't control. Another because he was supposedly having job and money issues he wanted to figure out alone. Another because I moved in with him and his grandma after a house fire and he got tired of me being in the same room as him when I didn't move out quick enough because my family struggled to find a home. There were a couple other occasions I know I missed. Each time I let him go with love and wished him the best, but told him I was sure he was my person. He always came back. Despite the fact that for years he wanted to sow his oats, explore, see what was out there. I encouraged him to do what he needed but he assured me that he wanted to be with me.
I knew when he was having doubts. He'd get hot and cold, grow distant at odd times. He liked sexy pictures of girls online - and when I saw him doing it I worked up the courage to say that it made me uncomfortable and he was defensive at first before apologizing. He did it again a year later and had no remorse. And used the opportunity to tell me he'd been thinking about breaking up with me around my birthday. He admitted that to me on other occasions too. He pushed me to take a job in another state because he knew it would be an excuse to leave me. And he always discussed doubts about our relationship with other people, one of those people being one of my best friends since I was in middle school.
He broke up with me this last time a month before our 8 year anniversary. He said he didn't want to live together and struggled to see a future. He wanted to get numbers and show up his friends with no game. He said he didn't know who could satisfy him emotionally, mentally, sexually (except maybe a threesome ((his words))). But he wanted to be single. Unlike the last time he announced it to our friend group in a prewritten message, changed his status, removed our pictures, and went out to the bar two days later and asked for a mutual friend's number.
He did a lot to continue to hurt me. Including trying to come back out of jealousy.

• asked for the mutual friends number
• liked my mom's provocative pictures on Instagram
• he didn't remember the year I was born
• he only treated me like a friend in group settings
• he never knew how to comfort me
• didn't defend me to his grandma who called me a gold digger even though I never asked him for a penny
• always used me to gauge his feelings
• got a 21 year old girlfriend
• called me crying to say he could only envision a future with me, but then said he actually wanted to be with the new girlfriend and that he actually didn't feel anything romantic for me despite all he said during our 6 hour in person talk
• hit on his "best friends" ex and got nudes from another one

He wants to come back, and I've been able to tell him no despite him saying everything he knows I want to hear. But I know I dragged out the pain for a year. He finally blocked me after I wasn't responding how he wanted. And I know it's for the best and I should have blocked him myself but I love him so much. I'm grieving all over again. I just want to rant I suppose. Or get reassurance. Or be told I'm stupid and need to get over it.
Sorry this was so long. I left out so many things. Just feeling really anxious today and wanted to get it out.

I filed 5 claims previously, everyone of which got denied, rightfully so, there was no evidence aside from hearing tests that I failed during enlistment, and DOCS word. I filed for Muscle spasms, headaches, hearing loss + tinnitus, and a skin condition.
I have been dealing with depression, anxiety, and substance abuse since I’ve gotten out. So much so that my entire apartment was piss bottles, fast food bags, and important paperwork. I threw out 99% of all paperwork related to the marine corps, luckily I had a digital copy of my DD214 from a job app, and DOC has personally sent my med records to my moms address which saved those. The problem is I was dealing with this in the marine corps, and had gotten arrested during a RAM inspection at the gate @ 20, got into some trouble in Japan, and was in outpatient at or before 21, and let me fucking tell u I wish alcohol was never invented. I ended up popping on a piss test and my DD214 literally says drug abuse, but outside of that I have 0 evidence. I also complained about lower back problems, breathing problems, lost my front tooth, and I had a recurring dislocated, that dislocated multiple times in service as well as out. Not sure if I should appeal or file new claims first

I read a lot about that everyone thinks that Sweden has such low salaries. But I don’t agree, I don’t think Sweden has low salaries when talking about the median NET pay. I don’t compare to countries outside of Europe. Not everyone is an engineer, programmer or working in finance. I’m talking about the average person on the street. I am not saying Sweden has the one of the best salaries but definitely not the worst. Different countries have different tax and insurance systems and we need to compare net pay here. The money in your hand after tax and insurance to use for consumption.
Let’s take me for example. I work as a project manager and planning architect in the local government in Stockholm and I have 40k gross and 32k NET. All taxes and insurances are already paid when I get my 32k SEK. The payroll tax is paid by my employer and that includes insurances and other stuffs. I’m 31 years old and have 4 years of experience. So with 32k SEK I can do whatever I want with it. This salary has allowed me to afford to buy a newly constructed studio in Täby park which is considered one of the better areas to live in the Stockholm area. I travel every month and I wear a 5000 SEK suit. I often have fika 2-3 times a week and maybe have a dinner somewhere once a week. I don’t drink alcohol. I spend around 310 SEK for great sushi for two. That’s 26,7€. My life is comfortable and I have Friday as a weekend. I don’t feel poor when I travel and I’ve been to NYC, LA, and Switzerland recent year. So I don’t think that my salary is that low in an international context. Converted to euro it’s around 2726€ net, and with that money I pay my mortgage and living costs. My mortgage and housing costs including utilities are around 7500 SEK which isn’t expensive I think, that’s like 647€. My gym is around 1499 SEK a year after the friskvårdsbidrag. After traveling to over 100 countries I don’t find Sweden more expensive than other western European countries. I am not including alcohol here. The housing is definitely cheaper than other Western European countries. Buying an apartment seems to be very difficult in other Western European countries.
From my research only Denmark, Norway, Luxembourg, and Switzerland have significantly higher salaries than Sweden. London is also a bit higher but that’s a special case. The Netherlands, Germany, Austria, Ireland, UK, Belgium, Finland are give and take similar levels as Sweden depending on the job. I am talking about NET pay now. After all deductions, taxes, and insurances are paid. Some jobs better some worse. Sweden does good on average jobs and worse in the top level ones. But I do find Sweden competitive still. Yes engineers make more money in Germany. But how about cashier workers?
Nominal gross national income per capita in $ of some countries:
Norway 95,510 Luxembourg 91,200 Switzerland 89,145 USA 76,370 Denmark 73,200
Sweden 62,990 Netherlands 57,430 Austria 56,140 Finland 54,360 Germany 53,390 UK 48,890 Belgium 48,700 France 45,860
Source: World Bank
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_GNI_(nominal)_per_capita?wprov=sfti1#Methodology
As you can see Sweden is doing okay. So please don’t call Sweden poor. I don’t compare to countries outside of Europe as they have a different environment all together. USA shouldn’t be mentioned in an European context. So my conclusion is that Sweden isn’t bad when it comes to money compared to European countries, rather decent. Yes it’s not the top 5. Yes it’s not great compared to USA.
TL;DR: People say that salaries are so low in Sweden but I actually think they are okay. Yes Sweden isn’t one of the best but it’s not worst either. I’m talking about median NET pay for normal average jobs. Not talking about engineering and IT. Sweden isn’t that bad what everyone claims it to be. I’m not comparing to USA. For 2726€ NET you will afford a decent life in Stockholm as I do.

Hello, I'm a very new Steward for my Local. Sorry for the very long post, it's kinda half me venting a bit. It may be a bit disorganized, too.
I feel like my Unit is in a very weird, concerning spot that I don't feel is normal, and I was hoping to get some advice/opinions on it.
My Unit is in a casino, with the rest of the local being about 250 miles away. It's weird situation of the AFL-CIO getting involved with the Union that was at my Casino before, and to prevent the workers from going under, some retired Union members at the place stepped up and we got subsumed into our current Local because our fees couldn't support ourselves. From what I understand the distance from our head Local office and Staff reps makes it difficult to get things proper.
Over the last 3 years, the three Stewards that were on the shop floor were fired for one reason or another. One of them got hired on to work our Units office, and another is still fighting for their job back after 2 years (Which is wild in itself, from what I understand of Just Cause and whatnot they should NOT have been fired. The company is dragging their feet intentionally.) In the interim, they were hired on to do Stewarding work full time, because otherwise there would have been no Stewards at all. She, along with the help of our treasurer, have done it themselves until I came on board. And her job was made that much harder by the sheer hostility management has towards her, which they take so far as to constantly basically ban her from the property unless she notifies them ahead of time, and insulting and shutting her down in meetings. It's pretty bad. So as such, I'm the only Steward we have on the Casino property, currently. I also just became our Units Recording Secretary. I have to constantly watch my back at work, which can be difficult as a food server in an unhosted, fast paced environment where management constantly shifts rules.
We have been skirting the 30% membership requirement to stay. Over Covid, the company tried to get rid of the Union, and almost was successful. In our last vote and just barely made it. Our treasurer, who has been in the game for a very long time, has said that the company is one of the most anti-union workplaces he's ever seen. And our contract, he says is one of the worst he's seen. He states that it has been hard for us to do anything about the anti-union practices due to low membership and just lack of hands to be able to do anything. There's just so many issues that the other Steward is very much overwhelmed with calls and texts, and we're talking 5+ different calls almost every day about problems, and that's mostly only from the beverage department.
In fact, the anti-union activity performed by the Casino has been so bad that most workers don't even know they are in the Union (Right to work state, yay!!). In our contract, we cover people even if they aren't active dues paying members. There's constant daily miscommunication and mistakes that honestly have gotten so bad that it has to be intentional. It's absurd.
I'm pretty nervous about how to really handle things, since I feel like the situation is pretty delicate. It has been hard for me to learn from the other Steward and the Treasurer, since they are both so busy all the time (I feel bad that our Treasurer has to help us so much already, he handles like 5-7 other contracts or something.) Thing also take days at a time to get accomplished, it's very frustrating. I've got a few books I'm reading, all by Robert Schwartz (Just Cause, how to win Past Practice, and the Legal Rights of Union Stewards) which have helped me understand, somewhat.
I have mostly focused my efforts on trying to get the Unit set up to handle the issues better. I'm a very techy person, and I've been coding a website and reporting tool so that we can streamline receiving complaints and making it easier for members to report things. I'm hoping to use the website as a tool to also spread information and communicate better to the members. A big complaint that I've observed and heard is that, while yeah the other steward has been doing it herself the entire time, there's a severe lack of communication. There's a general feeling from the members that the Union is useless and does nothing. Trying to get members to properly do things like call for a representative or even report really everything that goes on is like trying to pull teeth.
That's the biggest hurdle I think we face, really. Gaining the trust back from the members. Something I personally feel can be addressed through teaching, and just sheer better communication. I would try and talk to the other Steward about the issues, but she gets immediately so defensive and stubborn that it becomes next to impossible to discuss almost anything with her.
There's more I could tell about the place, but this is already long enough.
I'm so damn frustrated with everything here, but I'm absolutely determined to help these people that are being used and abused by the Casino. It absolutely pisses me off because it's all in the name of money and profit. This industry is really harsh on its workers, it's insane. But I'm grasping at straws and I'm finding it hard to rationalize the stress I'm taking on. I feel as if I'm fighting the Union as much as I am the Company.
-Are there not resources in the overarching Union (International?) to assist with Locals/Units that are failing?
-Is anyone else here in a Casino union that perhaps has experience dealing with the greedy nature of the company?
-Any tips on handling a very hostile management?
-The other Steward and the Treasurer constantly say that due to our sheer lack of bargaining power we can't accomplish anything. How really true is that?

At 19, I started my credit building journey with a $300 limit Capital One card. I brought my score up to 680 before opening another account. I was able to get a $1000 limit through Credit One. They ended up boosting my Capital One limit up to $600. Well, I went on a trip with my now ex and payed for it with my credit cards (totaled out to be about $900) and of course expecting to be able to make my payments seeing as how I had a full time job and was very responsible with them. However, my grandma fell ill and no one was able to care for her (my mom didn't want to step up) so she insisted I quit my job to take care of her. That I did. I was not able to make the payments so my accounts went delinquent and were sent to collections. Now I'm 22 trying to scramble to get my sh*t together. I'm working full time again and no longer living with my mom. That being said, I can't advance at all because everything relies on your credit score. I'm not able to get my own apartment, car, nothing. I'm stuck, I bank with Navy Federal CU so I know I'm able to get a secured card through them. But I figured I'd turn to reddit to see what others suggest. (btw she was aware of my debt and still had me quit with no offer to help me out financially, so, no I didn't receive any income in the 2 years of taking care of my grandmother)

I dont know how i got here but i lost my job after impulsively quitting 2 weeks ago. Spent all the money i had left on alcohol during these 2 weeks and I'm gonna be homeless in 3 days . I think this is the time to end it because i dont think there is any coming back from this . Thankfully no one is gonna be sad about me dying , mom is already dead and i'm an only child . I love u guys , take care ❤️❤️.

after almost 2 years i’ve decided to put in my two week notice. the thing is we just got a new manager who i adore and i really don’t want her to feel like it’s her fault or to blindside her with this. she’s the best thing to happen to this store and i fully believe she’s going to fix it up. i just don’t have it in me anymore
sm’s/asm’s,,,,,how should i go about telling her im giving my notice?? i have so much anxiety about even starting this dialog because i feel so much guilt over leaving her to deal with everything but on top of the stress of this job (honestly i was fine until we lost sco, now we have double the workload plus angry customers about having to wait- again, not the managers fault!!) my mom also has terminal cancer and i feel like im losing my mind trying to find a balance. id rather not sacrifice anymore time i have with my mom.
my notice is already written. i just dont know how to tell her

Started off as an SDR and crushed it for a year, then got promoted to SMB AE. I wanted to try my hand at being an SC, so after about 2 years I made the switch. I was an SC for about 3 years and then made the switch back, except now I’m an Enterprise AE.
If I’m starting to look for jobs outside my current company, would there be any harm in just omitting my SC experience and replacing it with more years of Enterprise AE experience? Would hiring companies be able to check?

My boyfriend (22m) and I (20f) have been LC/NC with MIL since last July. I blocked her on Facebook in May after sending her a nasty message her for missing her son’s 21st birthday party. (Shallow, yes I know. I was just angry.) She had 2 months notice about the party and made excuse after excuse about why she couldn’t come, ultimately it ended up being because we didn’t want her alcoholic husband to be there and she refused to go without him. She never even sent him a birthday card.
My bfs birthday is at the beginning of May and this year MILs husband sent him a message asking what he wanted for his bday during the second week of April. My bf does not like him, wants nothing to do with him and has explained this to his mom. So the message was never read because he has his notifications blocked. I saw it about a week and half after it was sent while looking on his phone and told my bf. He was annoyed but texted MILs husband back, we didn’t hear anything for over a week and then MIL invited us up to dinner at her house but they wanted to wait until we all had a day off. We gave them our availability and she said they were waiting to get Sundays off together and that day would be best. They live about an hour away so we said sure whenever is fine after the 6th because my dad was coming to stay with us for a week. This upset MIL and she said she wanted to do it the weekend after his birthday, we said that’s fine then. It didn’t end up happening and we were gonna let her tell us when they were ready.
Now it’s 3 weeks later and my schedule just changed so I’m working Sundays. I asked my boyfriend to let his mom know and she said that she is trying to find a new job because they cut her hours at work. MIL and her husband always work at the same place and her hours always get cut…
I just need to vent because this is not how my family is, birthdays are special and to be celebrated with all of your favorites because you need to enjoy life. I wish this women would even take a second of her own time to spend with her son, even on the phone without her husband talking too. She didn’t send him a card or anything this year either. We live and hour away and she commuted to a job an hour and 15 mins away for over a year!!!! I want to believe she cares about her son but everything she’s ever done and how she treats him tells me she doesn’t.
Disclaimer: Yes I understand everyone’s family’s are different but she goes over the moon for his siblings and even grandparents birthdays. Her oldest doesn’t even get a second glance.

Danna stopped recording and lowered the phone.
"Daniel Levi, we practiced this!"
"Sorry, Mom. I'm just kinda tired and..."
"Well if you would GET THIS RIGHT, you could go and have a rest!"
Shaking her head, she deleted the clip and raised the phone again, thumb tapping the screen to restart recording.
"Again," she said, watching the boys scramble to get back to their starting positions.
Daniel had been very obstinate and whiny lately, feigning pain and tiredness to try and get out of working. No matter how she explained to him that the videos were how the family made money, no matter how long she made Derick paddle him—and her oh-so-strong husband kept trying to puss out on that—the child's will would not be tamed.
Finally, after another take, they got the shots she wanted for the day's big video. All that was left now was to edit this was to edit this with the footage of herself from earlier, play with the filters and everything, and post.
Children were a test. They were, of course, sent by the Lord to refine the spirit, to challenge dreams and delay goals so as to make the parents into stronger vessels.
But Danna Orson was certain that her second son went beyond the usual testing intended by God.
Daniel had been needier at birth than the others, and had a stronger will as he grew than the others. Danna simply did not know how to break the boy. She almost wished her mother were around. Peggy Lynn Sooks knew how to bring anyone in line: children, pets, employees. Maybe, if the Lord compelled them to turn around and pass back through Iowa at some point, Danna could prevail on Derick to allow a stop-off to visit Peggy Lynn. All the boys would benefit from some of their grandma's order and discipline.
Derick would benefit from being reminded too that while the man might be the headship, the woman ruled the roost.
Making her way back to the RV, Danna plopped down in her favourite chair and started editing. Occasionally she considered turning this mundanity over to one of the older children, after some training of course, but she knew none of them would truly understand how things worked.
Men were all muscle and no mind. Women were little enough mind as it was, but men had none at all, particularly not for things that were important—things that mattered.
Derick stepped out of the RV and moved behind her chair, resting a hand on her shoulder.
"Hi, sugar," he said.
"I'm all sweaty," she responded, "so don't touch me with your cold hands."
She felt her husband pull away.
"Sorry."
Men had to be discreetly kept in line. They had to know that a wife was available to them physically, but you never could let them sense any deeper emotional bond. That led to problems later. Danna knew it well enough by now.
She had been gentler with Derick when they met, and ever-sweet, and emotionally available because, as a dumb college girl, she thought men cared about emotional investment too.
All it had earned her was a husband she had to cajole and weedle to get sex when she was ready for another baby. Even then, they did not always conceive easily, and she blamed herself on some level. She had no physical impediment, of course, but she had been tender toward what she perceived as Derick's emotional needs when they met.
Treating men as emotional creatures and responding to their feigned feelings in kind—and their feelings were feigned, as part of how the Lord helped them win a woman—was emasculating. It could even make them faggots. Danna was pretty sure, as little as he seemed to want sex, that Derick would immediately go the faggot route if she did not keep close tabs on him.
She could see hints of it in the way he walked so carefully aboard the RV, letting the kids run all around him and never pushing past to assert himself as the dominant male. It was visible in how he treated the kids too, hugging on them when they were whining because of some little cut or bruise, helping them up if they tripped or fell or anything in proximity to him.
She would just have to keep working on it.
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I'm 22M, living in Asia, Vietnam specifically, I consider myself a failure because I'm still in college and I don't have a love life.
I got two cats, abandoned by my ex, I keep them because they had nowhere to go. People seems to hate taking care of them because they are too emotionally attached to me, one of them wouldn't eat if it's not me feeding her.
I have a job teaching basic English for Vietnamese students and Vietnamese for foreigner. The paid is enough to cover my living and have some left for hobbies too, I'm also on good terms with my parents that I don't have to pay for any college fee.
Here's the problematic part, I trust people way too much for no reason at all. I've not been taught about this kind of thing by my parents, they also didn't teach me about sex, about how to deal with people so I just trust people for no reason.
I trusted my ex enough that I quit school for a while to work to earn money to support him. I trusted my friends, lend them money and hadn't heard from them since. I also trust strangers, I once picked up a wallet but instead of keeping it so I could trace the info so I could personally hand it back to the owner, but I trusted a random police officer, handed it to him and just went off, I hadn't heard anything from the owner so everyone just assumed the officer took it as his own.
I felt like shit after these things happen, but I don't know why can't I think about it more, I tend to just underthinking things.
Any tips so I could grow a bit more? Life is tough and I'm not tough enough to beat life right now. Thank you.

I, (19F) have been dating my boyfriend “J” (18M) for about five and a half months now. We’ve been friends for over five years and best friends for the past two. He had developed feelings for me first, and at first I didn’t like him like that, but after we both left for basic training it kind of became clear to me how much I actually care about him. After we both got back (the guard, not active duty) we started our relationship and have been on like one date on New Years Eve. But that’s the thing.
For context, my home life isn’t ideal, as my dad passed three years ago and now I have a stepdad that I despise and can’t stand to be around. I’m fortunate enough that my boyfriend’s mom lets me stay pretty much every day at their house and sometimes we switch to his dad’s house (his parents are divorced. ) J’s dad likes me and has told me that I’m more than welcome to stay there any time, and his mom says the same about her house. So, I basically live with my boyfriend and even kind of did before we started dating. We were really close friends. Because of this closeness and the nature of our relationship, I feel like we skipped a stage in our dating experience. We hang out every day, and get food together, but I really want him to take me out on dates, get me flowers, and treat me like his girlfriend more, rather than a roommate he makes out with.
I’m just at a loss with what to do here, because on one hand the clear answer is to backtrack to going on dates occasionally and living separately, but on the other hand, I can’t live with my mom and stepdad for the sake of my mental health. And I’m already so deep into this relationship I feel like it would be whiplash to try and take a step back. Like besides me going to work I literally spend every moment with him. It just doesn’t feel special anymore. We went from friends that spend a ton of time together, to a relationship where we already live together. Don’t get me wrong, he’s a sweetheart and I love him, but I really want J to try more I guess.
So how do I make it feel special again? Any help is appreciated!