Cheats for the o.g. app

I was making friends with a girl 22F from the Philippines in an app where you meet global friends. I am 30M. It's not really for dating but it can be. She 22F told me she recently broke up with a guy she hates because he cheated on her with other women and assumes every guy is like that.
In the first time we video called as friends which was the first day I talked to her after moving apps, her mother randomly grabbed her phone and ended up talking to me. I was being nice and respectful and then the mother was like "where do you live? What do you do? Can I see what your house looks like?" I told her it's very late it's 4am it's very dark I can't right now I'm about to sleep. Blah
After I responded with those questions a bit nervously, the mother stopped talking and she told her mom that I'm just her friend. After that I got turned off from that... I told the girl that it was pretty rude and that I don't like that.
Then after that she been calling me cute and handsome in tagalog non-stop. Her moms been asking about me a lot too. She been talking to me like I'm her boyfriend and future husband. I'm just her friend and I keep telling her that I don't have feelings for her. I barely talk to her yet she fills my dm's with messages iloveyou iloveyou iloooooveyouuuuu and paragraphs saying how much she'll wait for me to fall in love with her and that she is willing to wait to meet me. She doesn't even know what she wants to do in life and doesn't even go to school.. which makes it even harder because there's no way I'm going to meet her soon. I am not able to go there either. She said her mother is controlling her saying that she doesnt want her to go to school and in the phone call that day her mom said "shes staying here" even though I didn't say anything. Keep in mind I'm an introvert so I didnt ask anything to the mom. Lol
After that I haven't been speaking much but slowly less and less each day so she will probably lose interest. I just only want to be friends...
She told me she doesn't do anything right now. She is very poor and just stays at home. Gets really mad if I'm online and I don't message her back. Gets clingy if she sees another girl comment my photos or post and questions it. She even says "I know youre not my boyfriend and just a friend but I looooove you"... then gets mad at me if I don't say it back and forces me to say it. Then she unsends her messages if I don't say the same thing back to her.
She is really nice to me but I don't want to make her cry. I don't have the same feelings for her and I don't want to force it on myself to love someone I don't know. I already told her. She gets mad if I'm talking to others even old friends even dudes! Gets mad I'm not giving her my whole attention even though I'm single.
It seems like the less I talk the more she falls for me???
She keeps telling me she doesnt want to be hurt by me and she wants to not be an option. She keeps repeating herself. I keep telling her how I am feeling and I don't want to say I love you because I only want to be friends. She gets mad. She wants me to tell her everything I'm going to do every day even though I am not her boyfriend and gets mad when I don't.

Story: I 23F Met 25M on a app n dated for 3months. Im pro for a govt exam meanwhile he works as software engineer.
Everything was good he is a good person ,kind, empathetic n caring.Dates are wonderful, romance is on point we are happy and love each other alot.
Reason: From the beginning I know tht He is naive n didn't understand few things about dating ,so I waited patiently for him to learn himself how to talk n date women. He says he never dated before and iam his first relationship.
We talked alot n share similar views in many things, he is a very good person so i liked him alot (still do) as a person.
But The biggest problem is spending time. he is always busy n never makes time except for one day -weekend when we meet for a date. He is like this since the day 1 i thought may be we r still in getting to know phase let it be but even now when we r in a relationship he is still same. Every night I wait for his msg as he will be free during night but he either watches a movie,go out to eat with roommates at midnight or falls asleep in btw texting. Whenever I ask he says he can't text if PPL r around he wants to spend time with them.
We barely text on weekdays n only spend time in weekend for one day. He don't have any other girl in his life I saw his socials (to think he is spending his time with someone)so clearly no cheating.
I constantly hated this feeling of waiting for him everyday so I stopped n started to do something else at nyt instead of waiting but this only got us apart and ntg changed. He is fine with this but I hate spending very little time with my bf.
I wanted a relationship where i could spend time n connect emotionally to my partner which seems not happening in our relationship.i thought it is just 3months let's wait but it keep getting worse n he is taking me for granted n unbothered about spending less time as we r official now.
I tried to break-up twice communicating about this issue but he promised he will make time n he do it for two days later back to his old self.
Idk I loved him alot n but this thing is bothering me alot we both live in same city just 18kms apart yet it feels like we r in some long distance relationship with time zone difference.
So I told him how I want to end this time for sure n he says wait till ur exam n later we can do tht (he believes it will effect my preparation and also can convince me again so I won't leave)
Yesterday I was fed up with this n it has impacting me mentally i feel so much pain over this repeated behaviour n tired of asking him to spend time so I send him a msg wishing him best n blocked him everywhere.
But idk if I did right thing by blocking instead of mutually ending things by discussing? ( Bec he never let me end as he convince me everytime he will do better n I fall for it) So I want to leave on my own without hearing anything from other side.
But deep inside I know he is a green flag and very empathetic person yet in our relationship he is not doing enough.🥹n im tired of feeling like one sided.🥲

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Hello, my gf and I broke up days ago. This is the first time I’m starting to lose interest in everything, I always tried to escape in games but this time I get tired of it too so I want to let this out.
She tried ghosting me, I was lucky I followed my instinct to kinda hack my way in to her messenger and found out about it (read a chat with one of her friends) even if it meant I invaded her privacy.
I’m not perfect, we had our ups and downs, I had red flags and she did too. The reason I read why she was leaving me was because she said she deserves peace of mind, I was not respecting her anymore, rude words whenever we had argument and the silent treatment that she wanted me to change and she said that I did not change, she gave me a chance and she is done and she is spent. Yes, that is true I am guilty of it, I am trying to change, but it is still not enough or she saw too little of it, definitely my fault.
But then I also found out that she was talking to her guy friend she met at the same dating app that she met me in. (I was not able to see the messages and no sign of it because of the new encryption of messenger).
I don’t know how long they have been chatting, I have no access to her social media account. As to how I found is that I only saw a few in her email and this is not accurate idk how or why meta sends this email and not all messages she receives in messenger are emailed to notify, only a few. There was 5 emails in different dates this month that notifies she received a message in her messenger from this guy.
I thought we were still okay this past month, although I noticed some changes that she doesn’t want me to hug her anymore for long when sleeping or cuddling, saying that it is hot. She is getting cold in the chat, I always tried to be lively in the chat but it was not as it was how it supposed to be. I ignored this knowing she is busy with her work.
Days before our break up, she met with the guy she was talking to after work. She did ask for permission from me and the reason is it was all just about catching up with one another and “Kaibigan niya lang”. I agreed even if I did not really want to because I was complacent we had an app that is called life360 and I can check up on her wherever she is going. This did not go well for me, as I was monitoring the app from time to time, I thought it was cancelled as her location never moved from her house. Later that day I asked her about it and she told me it was not cancelled and that she left her phone at home and only brought her sister’s phone. I was kinda mad and it resulted to me ignoring her.
I did not know that this was the start of her ghosting me, she also ignored me and let it pass, I messaged her asking for something like to start a conversation again and make it up again. But she still ignored me. And this was when I did it, going through her messenger and email. I also tried checking on some of her social media platform, I found out she has a threads account which I did not know that she had one. I saw there her 2 posts that caught my attention. It says “You are one of a kind”, and the other “In another life, maybe we met each other earlier then I would love you” posted this month, one that is days ago and one that is weeks ago. It was definitely not for me.
I felt angry with all that I found out. As she was ignoring me in social medias, I emailed her to confront her and tell that I found out that she was ghosting me and all the other things, some insults as to how the guy is just a friend despite all the things I learned of, and if it was me in her place and did it, I bet her reaction would be worse. I also said that it is the last time she will hear from me whatever she says.
She did replied saying that there is no need to explain to me and it is okay if I think that she is cheating and the post on her threads were not meant for that guy.
So it was meant for someone else? Another guy I do not know of? A quick thought that popped in my mind.
I ignored her, blocked her on everything, I did not try to fix it anymore. Did I do the right thing, I wanted to fix it but with all that I learned of, it was too much for me.
With everything that I found out there is still a question in my mind.
The question now in my mind is if that I’m the real reason or did she really cheated or maybe both…. Now my emotions are being mixed with anger whenever I think about it.
ABYG na hindi ko na inayos at hinayaan nalang at iniwan na din siya? O mali ako at nag overthink lang ako at ako talaga ang rason kung bakit niya ako iiwan nang walang pasabi.

I use a bot. Lots of people do. I'm of the opinion that it's not unethical, when the CEO of this company could definitely pay his workers far above the pay grade to do this job. Amazon is always in the news for their corporate work culture. So if you're going to lecture people on Reddit (which is so big and tough of you behind your silly little avatar) about how we're all cheaters, no offense, but f*** you.
I also think it's absurd that Amazon would just now start to crackdown on bots. Partially bc they know those of us who use them get paid and keep working for them. What probably happened is recently they may have noticed a surge in the amount of people getting above base pay, and much like online piracy, they crackdown on a few accounts, make an example out of those people, and they'll go right back to looking the other way once it's contained...
Amazon could easily write a script and prevent surges in pay to discourage bot usage. But they don't. All I've learned from getting this stupid email is now I'll have to be smarter about using the bot and I can no longer run it 24/7 anymore and I've already had people give me tips and pointers.
This was true for me at Amazon back when I was a driver for them at a DSP. They deliberately try to scare you into thinking you're going to get fired but then they never actually fire you. They'll be reminding us we could easily be replaced by people on a wait list. But go head! Cancel all surges, purge all "cheating" employees, and admit a fuck ton of people on the wait-list. So you just got rid of a bunch of formerly loyal employees and replaced them with people who are brand new and need to be trained. And they're seeing other courier apps openly offering $30 hourly gigs where no bot is required... And all the Karen's out in suburbia want their essential oils delivered to them same day. Have fun with that strategy, Amazon!
So I'm just gonna live my life the way I always have. Treating every job as temporary. Knowing each and every day, there's always more of us than there are of them. Stay classy, y'all and make that money, hustle and grind. Those r muh thoughts on the matter! ✌️

We both met at a house party 2 years ago, we didn’t interact much at that time but we bonded a month or two later after meeting on a dating app over the fact that we both felt out of place at the house party.
For the next 7-8 months we bonded a lot over the same music taste, humour etc. I was going through a tough phase during this time, it can be summarised as a ho* phase because before this I was seeing a girl for the first time and after a few months she cheated on me in front of me at a club and it led to a traumatic experience and I had to go to therapy for this, I was experiencing panic attacks, severe anxiety and depression.
During my ho* phase, I was hooking up with girls I met on dating apps and I had lost the ability to genuinely connect with someone. I was still talking to this girl and we were becoming great friends.
Now almost 14 months ago she started seeing someone seriously and that guy cut her off slowly even though everything was going pretty well for them. During this period I confessed that I was into her and asked her out.
We went on a few dates, but she was moving out of the city for higher studies so we thought we weren’t ready for LDR but even after this we started an FWB sort of thing.
All of this led to an on-and-off situationship till she blocked me for a month because we were getting too close and it wouldn’t have led to anything. She unblocked me and we started chatting normally, but we still had the flirty banter between us, she would give some mixed signals by being horny and weird when she was ovulating(ik sounds weird af)
Now I was completely out of that ho* phase for an entire year, I deleted dating apps, and Instagram and completely focused on my studies. Earlier this year when we were talking I had a feeling that I was falling for her and confessed that I liked her and I wanted to see where it goes, and I was even open to an ldr.
We texted for some time she asked to meet and we bonded well but it was all platonic. When we smoked up at her place things got a bit messy when I straight up brought up the topic while I was high(ik it’s stupid) and she kept on evading it. It got very heated and I left later she told me that she couldn’t do ldr since I was also moving for my master's to a different country.
I was so genuinely into her that I never thought she would reject me, it has completely broken me and I am feeling like my 2022 self with the same panic attacks, anxiety and depression, I just can’t get over her, I have been with decent number of girls but never had this feeling of wanting to be with one only. I still cannot understand why she rejected me, what did I do wrong, I was even ready to commit completely in a relationship, something that I never thought I would be able to during my hoe phase.
Tldr- we had an on and off situationship but when I asked her that I was willing to commit in a long term relationship even if it was an LDR, she rejected me saying she wasn’t very sure of it.

Okay so for context my ex (m20) and I (F19) broke up back in January. we met at 17 and 18. our relationship started perfectly as most do and then of course in the downfall I was finding a bunch of sketchy things he was doing such as liking half naked women, only following women, only snapping women, phone always on dnd, as well as a second Snapchat.. those things were “fixed” (he got much better at hiding) and we tried to continue to work together. Eventually it turned into me being accused of cheating and him even breaking up with me because “he thought he heard someone say I cheated on him” I was in love with this man giving my entire world to him I practically lived with him and did everything he could ever ask.. anyways that breakup didn’t last more than 48 hours and after the breakup I thought we seemed to get closer than ever, in fact I ended up just fully moving in with him and his family… while staying with him all the time I would often bring my childhood dog to the house for weeks at a time because my dog loved my ex and his family and they all loved the dog.. anyways skip forward abt 6 months of living there and always having my dog there and it feeling like our own little family, I caught him on a dating app for minors. That he’d been using throughout our entire relationship including after the first breakup.. so I left him and we haven’t spoken since… but in the breakup because I was still in love with him and emotional I really didn’t think we’d end up no contact, part of me was still trying to convince myself he was a good person and we’d still be talking… so I told him I’d let him know when my dog is passing so he could come see him… well it’s now 4 months of no contact later and I def don’t want to be in contact with him anymore but my poor pups finally being put down, and I know he loved the dog so part of me wants to break no contact to stay true to what I said to him and just to at least let him know… but the other part of me hates the idea of talking to him and I feel like he might not even care anyways so why reach out if it might be pointless or just hurt my own feelings more..

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Most of the pieces are on little discounts right now on Amazon México, but starting tomorrow there is a week of sales so maybe the prices that I listed (that I converted from pesos to dollars) may be cheaper, but I could only buy few pieces per month because I have to use part of the money I get for different things.
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This is my first ever Reddit post and I’m posting to see some fresh perspectives. Any advice or help is welcome. Thank you.
I’ve been in a relationship for over 2 years now, and I can honestly say it has been the best time of my life. This woman helped me find myself and helped shape me into the man I am today. She always tries her best to listen to my problems, but lately I’ve been getting the feeling it’s too much for her. Which is why I’ve came to Reddit for help. (I’ve talked with my parents and a school therapist about this as well)
I’ve always had problems with anxiety. Ever since I was little I’ve cared far too much about what people think of me. It’s a problem that’s kind of taken a backseat these past few years, but has recently come up in a bunch of different ways. For around 7 months now, my relationship has been hindered by my chronic overthinking, 100% of the time wondering where she is and what she’s doing. I know that I can’t always know this, as that is controlling behavior, but it still upsets me deeply. Every scenario, such as being active on social media at the same time as guys I’m uncomfortable with, or not answering my texts when she is active on that app, makes me panic a bit. Instead of logically assuming she’s answering somebody else or just hasn’t opened my text yet, I always find the most catastrophic situation possible, like cheating. Even as I’m writing this, I’m wondering what guys she could be texting at that moment. I often have to talk to my girlfriend about these issues, and I often take her feelings for granted and I think it’s draining her to the point where I don’t think she can handle this as long as she thinks she can.
Let me give you an example of my head (For context, my girlfriend has just graduated and I am still in school.)
A couple of days ago, I was sitting in class with the knowledge that my girlfriend was going to be hanging out playing sports with her best friend (F) and a couple of guys, all of whom are her classmates. I end up learning that her best friend decided to stay at home, leaving her and these guys. I then learn that they are all planning on getting food at a restaurant in a neighboring tow. They get food, come back, then I learn that they are again playing sports, and after that is done, my girlfriend gives one of the guys a ride home as he does not have a car. Through no fault of my girlfriend, I’m learning all this new stuff through gapped texts, partly due to connection issues.
To most, this is just a normal day with nothing that could have happened. But my mind is not so simple. Let me take you through my thought process throughout the day.
First, let me go over one of her friends in particular, Fred (name change ofc). Fred has exhibited odd behavior since the start of the school year towards me and my girlfriend, and I don’t know if I’m justified in saying he has a crush on her. Please give me your thoughts. To my face Fred has called her the most beautiful girl in the school, knowing she was my girlfriend. He mentions her in class to me whenever he can bring her up, often unnecessarily. He sends her songs to listen to, and starts unnecessary text conversations stemming from questions he or she asked. Just after they got done as a group, he immediately sends her a video of a song and tries to initiate conversation, which she tries her best to shut down. After trying to shut it down, he then asks her if she’d want to get a group together and hang out again. How do you think me and my girlfriend should handle the situation? Any attempt at telling her anything about it makes me feel controlling and manipulative.
For context, Fred happens to be the friend my girlfriend drove home.
Back to the example, me learning that her female best friend was not there made me feel as if something was instantly going on, or that she planned this on purpose to be alone with Fred. Then when I learn she’s getting lunch with the guys, I feel as if she’s letting me go, while also wondering if she’s sitting next to Fred on the ride there. While they’re eating, I’m thinking about who she’s sitting next to and why it’s taking them so long to eat. When they return from the restaurant and are playing sports again I freak out wondering if this was her choice and if she’s using this as an excuse to be close to Fred or some guy that’s there now I don’t know about. By this point I’m out of school and at home, where I am trying to text her, but because she’s playing sports, she’s not answering her phone. Instead of thinking this, my already full head assumes something more is going on or that she’s not answering on purpose cause she knows I’m freaking out. By this point, Im in full panic mode, checking her location as often as possible, and after a short break, I see she is at Fred’s house. Her location is pinged there longer than it normally should be, and this just about sends me over the edge. Images of them kissing in the car or laughing while having good conversation pop into my head, and at this point there’s nothing I can do to stop it. I text her asking her what she’s doing, trying to almost set her up for a lie or expect the worst answer. When I do confront her about her location being there, she gives me a very logical, yet not complete answer, still allowing my mind to run free and wild. Looking back on it I honestly handled the situation very toxically, but in the moment I had no better ideas. Please tell me how I can react to these situations more calmly. I’d like to point out I’ve never outright accused her of cheating on me, but I have told her when it seems like at least a semi-rational scenario(even if it’s not).
So yeah, that’s what my brain thought of a seemingly normal day for my girlfriend was like. Please feel free to give suggestions on how I can change my behavior effectively. Also tell me if you think my girlfriend can change her behavior to help me.
These snowballing thoughts happen from the tiniest of things, and I need help stopping them before they begin. One of my main concerns is a trip my girlfriend is taking this summer, which includes Fred. There’s a high likelihood I’ll never see Fred again after this trip, and I’m worried he’ll make his move. I would love to say I trust my girlfriend, but in all honesty, for no reason at all I can’t trust her. She’s given me 0 reason to not trust her, and honestly I’m more scared of him making a move than her accepting it.
I’ve put thought into this, and I have 2 reasons. 1. Self-Confidence I am not ugly by any means, but lately because of my issues and changing appearance,I think I’ve started to get worried on whether or not I’m good enough for my girlfriend. 2. Fear of Loss One of the causes for lack of trust could be that I’m scared of losing her. Meaning I don’t want to completely latch onto her in case she hurts me. But I also feel Ive latched onto her too tight in other aspects of our relationship.
I know this post is extremely long, and I don’t think this encompasses everything I’m dealing with, so if you need more context feel free to message or leave a comment.
Thank you for your time.

My (31F) boyfriend (37M) had a terrible relationship with his ex where she cheated, pulled a gun out on him, etc. regardless of the things that happened between them they got married. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and his divorce has taken about 2 years it was finalized a few months ago.
Now I have been married and divorced but my kids dad and I get along great. Coparenting relationship is solid. Him and his ex…awful..she is awful constant belittling just not a nice person.
Now this is a little background my issue that I have is that my boyfriend is very insecure and refuses to admit it. He consistently tries to “catch” me doing something “wrong”
For instance today I went out had lunch with my brother during my lunch break and came home, didn’t pick up the kids till 3 My boyfriend was at school he came home around 5pm and laid next to me and started scrolling through his phone aggressively. Then the questions started with our camera system. “How come the cameras recorded you leaving but not coming home?” “Did you delete the videos off the camera app?” I answered his questions short but what really irritated me is when he began to try to call my “bluff” “Oh I found the button to recover deleted videos.” “Yep right here I’m recovering deleted videos….” I knew what he was doing so I just stayed quiet…nobody ever deleted videos and I just said maybe the internet turned off when I was gone. No idea. Later on in the day he asked why I was upset and quiet, and I made the mistake of opening my big mouth. I explained to him I’m so tired of being treated like a cheating whore and that isn’t the first time he’s trying to catch me doing “something”. I mentioned to him that I hate paying for the sins of another, that what his ex did to him was wrong but it wasn’t something I did. He of course as always didn’t admit that this something he does. That he isn’t insecure because of his ex. And it isn’t true that he doesn’t try to “catch” me.
I also have two jobs and work over 72 hrs a week. So when I’m home I really enjoy just being home. I feel this is ruining my peace and I just want him to understand where I’m coming from…I love him but like I mentioned to him, I don’t feel like he’s my friend anymore more like a jailer.
My question is how do I fix this issue, is there anything I can do?

My mom has been a consistent cheater to my father, even nung bata pa ko, I always see him with another guy. He even physically abused me (sakal lang natatandaan ko - dalawang beses na sakal) when I was 4 yrs old when she found out na I told our neighbors na the guy slept at our home. Pinagtanggol lang ako ng yaya ko kaya di niya ko napuruhan, pero si Yaya nasapak nya sa tummy and muntik pang malaglag sa hagdan to protect me from her.
Fast forward to my college years 2015, she decided to reconnect w an old guy friend from college, and the connection didn't stop. They were seeing each other consistently. Even caught the msgs from the guy on my mom's messenger "I will win you back, I will always win you back" wtf. Hanggang ngayon, they've been seeing each other. Caught her na sinusundo/hinahatid ni guy sa bahay every weekend because she stays w him every weekend and holiday pero ang palabas nya is "may work sya". San ka nakakita ng work na weekend and holidays lang meron? May dala pa syang maliit na dog w her - regalo ata nung guy.
Tapos now, 2024, I have my own place na. Bumukod na ko kay Mama because hindi ko na kaya. She blocked me on all messaging apps. And yung fb nya is puro "galangin mo ang magulang mo" posts. Also, I'm afraid of failing because she always use the "tignan natin saan marating mo" card back then because pinagtanggol ko Dad ko from her cheating and I no longer tolerate it.
Now, naguguluhan ako kung ako ba talaga mali. Na mamalasin ba talaga ko sa buhay because I no longer respect her, that's why I avoided her too. Naaawa lang din ako sa Dad ko, he's been working hard abroad just to be cheated numerous times by my jobless mom.
May cancer now yung Lola ko (Mom ni Mama), and my Dad shoulders most of the expenses kasi ayaw mag ambag ng mga kapatid nya masyado. Naiinis ako, what did my dad do to deserve this? Ako din, what did I do to deserve a mom like her. 3 lang kami sa fam, pero we will never be complete anymore.
Last weekend nung Mother's Day, we did not greet each other at all.
Mamalasin ba ko sa buhay for not tolerating her cheating and abuse?
Edit: Alam ni Papa lahat because sinabi ko.

One common theme one sees across Reddit and other apps is that many Muslim brothers and sisters give fatawa with NO sources, and NO knowledge of what they’re speaking about. I see so many people saying “I think such and such is good” “I think such and such is halaal/haraam but I’m not totally sure” “it’s fine if you do this” and similar replies. This is not a joke.
Al-A'raf 7:33
‎قُلۡ إِنَّمَا حَرَّمَ رَبِّىَ ٱلۡفَوَٰحِشَ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنۡهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ وَٱلۡإِثۡمَ وَٱلۡبَغۡىَ بِغَيۡرِ ٱلۡحَقِّ وَأَن تُشۡرِكُواْ بِٱللَّهِ مَا لَمۡ يُنَزِّلۡ بِهِۦ سُلۡطَٰنًا وَأَن تَقُولُواْ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعۡلَمُونَ
Say (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم): "(But) the things that my Lord has indeed forbidden are Al-Fawahish (great evil sins, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse, etc.) whether committed openly or secretly, sins (of all kinds), unrighteous oppression, joining partners (in worship) with Allah for which He has given no authority, and saying things about Allah of which you have no knowledge."
Al-Isra' 17:36
وَلَا تَقۡفُ مَا لَيۡسَ لَكَ بِهِۦ عِلۡمٌۚ إِنَّ ٱلسَّمۡعَ وَٱلۡبَصَرَ وَٱلۡفُؤَادَ كُلُّ أُوْلَٰٓئِكَ كَانَ عَنۡهُ مَسۡـُٔولًا
And follow not (O man i.e., say not, or do not or witness not, etc.) that of which you have no knowledge (e.g. one's saying: "I have seen," while in fact he has not seen, or "I have heard," while he has not heard). Verily! The hearing, and the sight, and the heart, of each of those you will be questioned (by Allah).
Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Qataadah said: Do not say, “I saw” when you did not see, or say “I heard” when you did not hear, or “I know” when you do not know, for verily Allah will question you about all of that.
What we may conclude from their comments is that Allah, may He be exalted, forbids speaking without knowledge; in fact He forbids speculation or suspicion, which is based on imagination. End quote.
Tafseer Ibn Katheer (5/75)
https://abdurrahman.org/2013/04/08/dont-speak-without-knowledge-shaykh-saalih-al-fawzaan-videoar-en-subtitles/
If you don’t know something, you don’t have to answer the question. Some of the wise have said saying “I do not know” is half of knowledge.
‘Umar b. Al-Khattāb – Allāh be pleased with him – said: Verily, the followers of opinion are the enemies of the Sunan (the teachings of Allāh’s Messenger as passed down in hadith): they were unable to preserve them and their meanings escaped them, and when asked [questions] they were too embarrassed to say ‘We don’t know,’ so they opposed the Sunan with their opinions.
Ibn Abī Zamanīn, Uṣūl Al-Sunnah article 8; Al-Lālakā`ī, Sharḥ Uṣūl I’tiqād Ahl Al-Sunnah article 201 et al.
عَنْ ‌مَسْرُوقٍ قَالَ قَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بن مسعود رضي الله عنه يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا اللهَ مَنْ عَلِمَ مِنْكُمْ شَيْئًا فَلْيَقُلْ بِمَا يَعْلَمُ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَعْلَمْ فَلْيَقُلِ اللهُ أَعْلَمُ فَإِنَّهُ أَعْلَمُ لِأَحَدِكُمْ أَنْ يَقُولَ لِمَا لَا يَعْلَمُ اللهُ أَعْلَمُ
Masruq reported: Abdullah ibn Mas’ud, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “O people, fear Allah! Whoever among you knows something, let him say what he knows. Whoever does not know, let him say: Allah knows best. Verily, the most knowledgeable of you is one who says when he does not know: Allah knows best.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2798
والله تعالى أعلم

My friend got a random text from a woman in her mid 30s. The woman was looking for a friend named Susan and had the wrong number. She is an asian woman who is very successful and owns a jewelry shop in new york. She is divorced after her husband cheated on her. After a month of talking he is going to meet up with her.
He moved to talking to her on WhatsApp and nothing out of the ordinary has happened yet. At first it seemed like a scam the area codes do not match and she uses heavy filters on herself. She has not found her friend yet ether. Although they have video chatted and she looks legit. She does not ask for money or gifts but says she invests in crypto. I have not seen the texts so I can’t be sure if this is real or not.
This is not the first time my friend has been scammed and two days prior to her initial text he got honey potted by a group of people and then blackmailed him unless he set them money. He paid these people a large chunk of his savings.
Edit: she has not tried to get him to invest him anything. Just mentioned she does crypto.

hey! so it’s my day 2 and honestly it’s not as bad rn as i thought? however i feel the diet part is a bit vague and i’m having issues. i’m 24F, 70kgs and 164 cm. i set my diet as “roughly 1450 calories and no takeout, follow a meal plan” but i don’t know if that’s too vague; i’m not calorie counting per se, im using the app “eat this much” and eating the meal plans generated by that app. i just don’t know if it’s too vague. like what about candy? is it cheating if i eat a piece of candy but it fits in my “vague” calorie estimate? just confused lol. thank you!
also, if anyone has any ideas for diets that worked for them? i feel like i won’t rly get anywhere with something as vague as the diet i currently have. i kinda feel like something more defined or strict would be better? idk. much appreciated!

So for context we met in high school and ended up dating my senior year. I moved across the country to go to college with him, we dated for almost a year but broke up because he was a porn addict also going on tinder and other dating apps while I was sleeping at our apartment messaging girls disgusting things.
The night I found out we were both drunk and got in a huge fight. I was 17 and the time and he grabbed my phone out of my hands and locked himself into the bathroom. As a drunk younger teenager, I wasn’t sure what he was going to do with it and I was so upset I broke down the door and got it back. His family found out and he blamed everything on me so he wouldn’t get in trouble.
A couple years later I moved back across the country for him and school and we got back together when he started living in my apartment. The same problem happened again where he would be messaging other girls trying to cheat. Eventually things got better and he’d take me out to dinners, invite me to hangout with his friends, have me over at his place for most days out of the week. The issue is he NEVER wants me around his family. Doesn’t invite me on trips, won’t mention me to them, even told me the wrong date for his graduation just so they wouldn’t see me. He tells me he loves me and wants to be with me but continues to hide me from his family.
When he’s drunk he gets really drunk and messages girls from high school specifically one he had a crush on but never dated “i really miss you” and calls her. Then when I get upset he tells me to just leave and says awful things to me that make me feel worthless and like i’ve wasted years of my life. When he sobers up he apologizes and says he didn’t mean any of it he was just hammered and is really nice to me the day after. It exhausts me always having to be vigilant to make sure he’s not cheating, I’m constantly stressed out and sad in the back of my mind.
He is my best friend and I love him to death which is why I want to make it work. When it’s good it’s really good and when it’s bad it kills me. I don’t know how to get through to him so he realizes I’m not trying to start fights I just want to have a normal relationship where I’m included in family events and not cheated on
TL;DR My bf cheats online and hides me from his family after incident above. How do I get him to understand my POV without thinking I’m just starting an argument

Greetings Redditors,
I (f,43) met a lovely fellow online (38) on a friendship app. We switched to a texting platform and talk sporadically. We have never met irl and live very far apart.
Approx 2 months ago we started messaging regularly, but he is a parade of red flags : avoidant, ptsd (veteran AND wife cheated & left), uses sarcasm more than I'd like (which makes texting convos difficult) and self-professed unempathetic, temperamental and neurodivergent.
I'm no picnic myself, with : depression, anxiety, anxious attachment and overly empathetic. All things considered, I like him as a human and very much want the best for him. I also believe we both find each other physically attractive. However, I think he is incapable of wanting the best for me, which leads to other inconsistencies, such as texting / communicating (which is so challenging with him), a constant push-pull as he avoids me / disappears, seems sarcastic to push me away, then sweet (for him) as he kind of "pulls" me back in.
I put time & space between us. He contacted the very week I was geographically relocating. We rekindled a bit and I asked if he wanted my new ph # (answering direct Qs.... Another one of his more avoidant areas). He said nothing and a few days later, he texted. I wished him a good summer and said goodbye. He asked why I was going NC and I said bc of new ph #. He then took my number and said I should "push my way in". I literally hadn't even fully asked the words "are you sure?" And he said "yes". I told him he would regret it (as I like to text) and he told me he doesn't regret things.
He texted a few days later so I verified this, asking againif he still wanted me to "push my way into his DMs". After ignoring the Q and forcing me to repeat it, he confirned Yes. I've messaged him "good night" twice and got back the hugest smiley face from him, so I know the bit I've given so far, has been well-received, but I'm still holding back.
He is a self-proclaimed avoidant and a dude, so I've always tried to be considerate of his time and need to be alone. I told him it works both ways and he could text me too, but, big surprise, mostly crickets.
Here's the problem : his messages are sarcastic, they feel designed to push me away, they're only a few words long...... ALL the things that scream "he's not that into you". Ultimately, I'm texting him more bc he's asked me to, but to what end? If he is going to continue to be kind of rude, I don't want to stay his friend. If he is so anti-social that he just needs to interact with me for practice with other women, then I'll step up my game. If he simply wants attention and validation from me, ain't nobody got time for that. I'd ask this shit of him directly, but I don't have pliers big enough to pull those teeth 🤦
Thanks all!!

for context: my bf(22) and I (f20) have been together for a year and a half now and there’s already been some stuff that has happened and now i’m left questioning everything. I need advice
We are still together and I really love him, and can’t imagine life without him. I genuinely feel like he’s my soul mate but I did the unthinkable. I cheated. And the reason was so out of character and toxic, I used to hate cheaters and the idea of it made me sick and I still really do regret it and wish nothing ever happened. There was a reason I did it but I don’t think it’s even justifiable anymore.
It all started a few months ago when I received a message from a girl with screenshots that he’d made a new dating profile and was messaging/sexting other girls. I felt so hurt and betrayed but didn’t want to end the relationship there. He was remorseful and I forgave him, but in return it just made me want to make him feel the way I did (hurt people hurt people kinda thing, stupid i know) and so I was just hurting for a few weeks.
I downloaded a dating app, firstly just to see if he was on there but some guy added me and we spoke for a few days, we had a few convos about boring stuff but I got drunk and went to his house. That’s when I cheated, it’s fucking disgusting I know. The following day I texted my boyfriend confessing what I did and said we should break up as what I did was the worst thing anyone could do to someone but we met up that day and talked things through. He decided that he’d give me a second chance and that we’d work through it together and are still together to this day.
It’s been a few weeks and I really don’t want to lose him but I don’t want to hurt him even more than I have done. I know deep down in my heart and soul I’ll never cheat again, but I just need advice please. I love him so much.
Thanks for reading.

So for context we met in high school and ended up dating my senior year. I moved across the country to go to college with him, we dated for almost a year but broke up because he was a porn addict also going on tinder and other dating apps while I was sleeping at our apartment messaging girls disgusting things. The night I found out we were both drunk and got in a huge fight. I was 17 and the time and he grabbed my phone out of my hands and locked himself into the bathroom. As a drunk younger teenager, I wasn’t sure what he was going to do with it and I was so upset I broke down the door and got it back. His family found out and he blamed everything on me so he wouldn’t get in trouble. A couple years later I moved back across the country for him and school and we got back together when he started living in my apartment. The same problem happened again where he would be messaging other girls trying to cheat. Eventually things got better and he’d take me out to dinners, invite me to hangout with his friends, have me over at his place for most days out of the week. The issue is he NEVER wants me around his family. Doesn’t invite me on trips, won’t mention me to them, even told me the wrong date for his graduation just so they wouldn’t see me. He tells me he loves me and wants to be with me but continues to hide me from his family. When he’s drunk he gets really drunk and messages girls from high school specifically one he had a crush on but never dated “i really miss you” and calls her. Then when I get upset he tells me to just leave and says awful things to me that make me feel worthless and like i’ve wasted years of my life. When he sobers up he apologizes and says he didn’t mean any of it he was just hammered and is really nice to me the day after. It exhausts me always having to be vigilant to make sure he’s not cheating, I’m constantly stressed out and sad in the back of my mind. He is my best friend and I love him to death which is why I want to make it work. When it’s good it’s really good and when it’s bad it kills me. I don’t know how to get through to him so he realizes I’m not trying to start fights I just want to have a normal relationship where I’m included in family events and not cheated on

Hello, I just want somewhere to share this with. My gf and I broke up days ago. This is the first time I’m starting to lose interest in everything, I always tried to escape in games but this time I get tired of it too so I want to let this out.
She tried ghosting me, I was lucky I followed my instinct to kinda hack my way in to her messenger and found out about it (read a chat with one of her friends) even if it meant I invaded her privacy. Also found out that she was talking to her guy friend she met at the same dating app that she met me in. (I was not able to see the messages and no sign of it because of the new encryption of messenger).
I thought we were still okay this past month, although I noticed some changes that she doesn’t want me to hug her anymore for long when sleeping or cuddling, saying that it is hot. She is getting cold in the chat, I always tried to be lively in the chat but it was not as it was how it supposed to be. I ignored this knowing she is busy with her work.
Days before our break up, she met with the guy she was talking to after work. She did ask for permission from me and that it was all just about catching up with one another. I agreed even if I did not really want to because we had an app that is called life360 and I can check up on her wherever she is going. This did not go well for me, as I was monitoring the app from time to time, I thought it was cancelled as her location never moved from her house. Later that day I asked her about it and she told me it was not cancelled and that she left her phone at home and only brought her sister’s phone. I was kinda mad and it resulted to me ignoring her.
I did not know that this was the start of her ghosting me, she also ignored me and let it pass, I messaged her asking for something like to start a conversation again and make it up again. But she still ignored me. And this was when I did it, going through her messenger. I also I tried checking on some of her social media platform, I found out she has a threads account which I did not know that she had one. I saw there her 2 posts that caught my attention. It says “You are one of a kind”, and the other “In another life, maybe we met each other earlier then I would love you” posted this month, one that is days ago and one that is weeks ago. Definitely not for me.
I don’t know how long they have been chatting as I only saw a few in her email and this is not accurate idk how or why meta sends this email and not all messages she receives in messenger are emailed to notify, only a few. There was 5 emails in different dates this month that notifies she received a message in her messenger from this guy.
I’m not perfect, we had our ups and downs, I had red flags and she did too. The reason I read why she was leaving me was because she said I was not respecting her anymore, rude words whenever we had argument and the silent treatment that she wanted me to change and she said that I did not change, she gave me a chance and she is done and she is spent. Yes, that is true I am guilty of it, I am trying to change, but it is still not enough or she saw too little of it, definitely my fault. But now with everything that I found out there is also a question in my mind.
The question now in my mind is if that is the real reason or did she really cheated…. Now my emotions are being mixed with anger whenever I think about it.

im back again with another story! Apparently i didnt learn my lesson, dating malay guys.
TLDR : met a guy, said no strings attached, i agreed, he brought me on dates, he got attached first, guy has lots of opportunities to come clean before becoming exclusive, turns out he has a gf, I LEFT HIS ASS, gf took the trash back. sekian
Met Z.A on Tinder last year September. On off chatting for several days. One day, Z.A said that hes looking for casual hookups, no strings attached etc. Asking me will i be down and make a trip to visit him for it. Offering me to go on dates around his place as theres a lot of cafes and stay at his place. Im like err ok, why not, but i didnt go at all. We just talked random things about life and he asked for my number. Then, we moved to whatsapp and continued there for a few more days. He would pop in occassionally, asking me when am i coming to visit him.
Fast forward to January 2024, he said hes on company trip at the state im living in, asking would be down to hangout. I replied “🌚” since its been like 2-3months since our last conversation. He didnt reply. Few days later, i saw him on Bumble and i texted him, saying i saw him there. We texted almost everyday ever since with some calls here and there. We talked about life and some deep conversations.
There was a concert on February which i went with my friends and i had an extra ticket. I asked whether will he be interested to join, he was and offered me to stay at his place. That was when i finally met him. We went for brunch nearby his place and back to his place. Hangout for a while to break the ice and went to the concert.
After several weeks, i have another concert to attend at SG. I told him about it, he offered me to stay at his place again and i agreed. I arrived a day earlier and came back to stay another day. He even went to the airport to drop me off. Occasionally, during our talks, he would ask me whether do i like him etc. He said he does. I would just keep quiet or asked him why? He said im different from the girls he met before. Seems like im breaking a lot of his “firsts” in dating as he told me, i.e PDA. Thats why he fall for me. He would act all cutesy at the same time also masculine. Z.A is buff, dresses nice, works in a bank, pampers and treats girl like a queen, willing to spend, sweet talks, understanding…etc
After that, im headed back home by ETS. He would text me “i miss you” etc. Then, i had surgery and was on MC for a month. He would videocall me while i was in the hospital. He was worried and anxious. On the morning i was discharged, he sent me a long text saying he doesnt want to do these hookup thingy, its killing him inside, feeling ashamed, wants to focus on himself, doesnt want to hurt me further, “work, gym and God”. He also said he cherishes our time together, glad that we met, im his kryptonite, meeting me has been the best experience hes ever had on the app🥹
So we stopped contacting for 2 weeks. He reappeared, saying he saw my ig stories, glad im healing well, doing well and enjoying life. Slowly, we started texting back. At this point, i think he should have come clean to me that he actually has a gf but he didnt.
Early April, i told him i will be visiting with a friend to do some shopping, asking him whether would be available to meet up as i had to return something he lent me previously. Immediately, he said yes, would love to. Saying he misses me, barely hanging on letting me go, thinking a lot about us, etc.
We met. We talked. We cried. We became exclusive. We were happy. We discussed that any problems we had, we should work it out together. Lets make this work, etc. We videocalled everyday. We met again after Raya. Brought me to a waterfall and petting zoo date. It was fun!
After that, he went to Sabah for a week for work conference and leisure. Three days after hes back, he came to visit me. I brought him to visit some places and treated him dinner.
The next day, Labour Day, we went to a valley with petting zoo in it. We were enjoying our time together happily. Before heading back, i received a message request from someone, asking do i know him and shes been seeing Z.A for almost a year etc. I asked him wtf is this, he started explaining. I was calm throughout the whole thing. Shed a little tear or two. He was balling his eyes out. I asked him, “why are u doing this” “i dont know, im messed up” “both of us came from the same past, and now u are the one doing it, what are u thinking”. He was crying, seeking forgiveness and kept apologizing. I asked him to show me their conversations. I saw some pretty interesting messages, like “u even flew back with me to meet my mother” “u asked my mom for blessing on her deathbed” etc. I just kept quiet and listening to what bullshit crap he wanted to say. I asked him, do u still love her? He couldnt answer. Means yes lo. He said no, hes more like sympathizing her, wanted to leave but couldnt as she was going thru with her family issues. Tbh, i think hes lying. I asked him when are u planning to tell me about this if ur gf didnt text me? He said before he leaves. I think its bullshit. I highly doubt it. It would go on until one of us discovers.
Turns out the leisure part in Sabah, he spent it with GF instead of his colleague which is what he told me🙃. Turns out the whole time we’ve been communicating, he has a GF. Turns out when we started texting back in Jan, she was away back at her hometown for several months, he was alone and had a wandering eye and we were there to comfort each other with our struggles.
During the drive back, we were silent. I roasted him and even joked with him about his work, gym and God thing. We went to get lunch and gelato before dropping him off at the train station. We talked. We joked. As if nothing happened. I asked him whats he gonna do when he gets back. He said he gonna talk with her, he will be a single man after midnight. One thing he asked, “are u gonna post me on reddit” im like lol “is that ur main concern right now”
He left, saying i love you and see u again. I replied his GF text. She was waiting at his place for an explanation. She was asking lots of questions and i was overwhelmed. I did not answer every one of them as i quite hesitant idk why. She said she would leave his ass and i can have him lol, saying i should let him wine and dine me and leave his ass. He called me when he reached his destination, telling me his thoughts and what he plans to do. He even said he will call me when he settled with GF. He didnt hahaha. The next day, i texted him what happened. Theres he goes, apologizing, seeking forgiveness, saying they reconciled, lots of things to fix with her, settling with her decisions and rules etc. I asked him why is he on dating apps since u have a gf. He said at that time, the gf has a lot of guy friends she always hangout with, to the point lepak at their house. He was insecured, told her he dont like she did those and they would argue everytime about it. So he downloaded it back to stop overthinking and be jealous of it, in case she cheats on him. Then, he blocked me on Whatsapp & Telegram, deactivated his IG, Tiktok and LinkedIn. Basically any social media that i could get to him.
GF still texting me for 2-3more days asking more questions. She said that he really did have feelings for me. In the end, she said we should stop communicating, she couldnt deal with any more stress. She told me that she was mad that he speaks like me, adding “lo” behind words i.e i dont know lo, i dont care lo. I asked why did u take him back? She said she wants focus on things he did right instead of wrong 👏🏻. But she wont forgive and forget. Honestly, its a bunch of crap. I dont trust their words mostly.
I told my friends about this. Few said hes a penakut. One said GF is like “GuanYinMa”, picking up trash.

• i just wanna vent and share my experience. dont bash me for it🥺

SW: 212 CW: 201 GW: 175 (for starters) I am short and pretty sedentary. Oh, and 60 y.o.
I’m using the Lose It app to track macros and CICO, doing 20:4 and it’s working well for me. I selected the Mediterannean food plan which feels balanced to me. The goal is 85 grams of protein a day, which I know is way lower than lots of folks here generally aim for. (My original plan on Lose It wanted me at like 120 g per day. Yikes!!)
I averaged 73 grams of protein last week. I am adding in some protein powder and snacking on chick peas, focusing on turkey and chicken. I’m really trying, but it is a lot to get in with my TDEE - 500 deficit at 1325. If I don’t manage to get to 85 or higher, what can I expect to happen? What are the issues I should be looking out for? And is there anything to mitigate such problems? (Things like weight lifting to retain muscle, taking collagen to prevent hair loss?) Thanks!