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2024.05.14 00:05 SensitivePresence286 We all got that Ride or Die Child lol. My daughter got this shot guess what she loves her mom to and I'm good with that parents has an S cause it's plural smh the fact you aren't that way says so much about you ....... Sometimes life just never stops ya can take the "L" go on about your life smh
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2024.05.14 00:04 flawed_dasein 52 [M4F] #Nashville
Home from work. Relaxing on the couch. Would love to find someone interesting to chat with.
About me: Divorced, educated, decent shape (6’/220), good job, nice house in suburban Nashville, positive attitude, great sense of humor. No smoking, drinking, drugs or drama. Just an even-tempered and easy-going kind of guy. Three grown children, one awesome cat. Pics on profile.
My daughter says I’m “eccentric”, which I take as a compliment. She and I discuss art, philosophy, books, poetry, etc often.
I like outdoorsy type stuff like fishing and hiking. Also like movies, music (80s/90s alternative mostly), absurd comedy, roadtrips, antiquing, misc podcasts, etc.
If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to chat. Hope to hear from you soon!
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About me: Divorced, educated, decent shape (6’/220), good job, nice house in suburban Nashville, positive attitude, great sense of humor. No smoking, drinking, drugs or drama. Just an even-tempered and easy-going kind of guy. Three grown children, one awesome cat. Pics on profile.
My daughter says I’m “eccentric”, which I take as a compliment. She and I discuss art, philosophy, books, poetry, etc often.
I like outdoorsy type stuff like fishing and hiking. Also like movies, music (80s/90s alternative mostly), absurd comedy, roadtrips, antiquing, misc podcasts, etc.
If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to chat. Hope to hear from you soon!
2024.05.14 00:03 Icy_Competition8947 Reworking Taro (now in a dedicated post)
Or rather, in a dedicated repost, because silly me couldn't read the pinned post and wait a few hours before posting my text the first time.
After giving a proper rewrite to Ayano, it's now time to do the same for her love interest. But first, I must give my apologises. The title of my post is "Reworking Taro", but it's actually misleading because there was barely any work to redo to begin with. Ok, there was the easy jab at the original character. Reading my previous rewrite posts isn't necessary to understand this one, but would allow you to grasp the differences with the official game better. If you're too lazy to do so, just keep in mind that my rewrite is a bit more social-focused. Anyway, here's my full-fledged take on our senpai.
Just like many other mediocre harem MC, the main problem with Taro is that he is extremely bland. There's literally nothing worth noticing about him. Now don't get me wrong, making one of your main characters an Average Joe isn't a bad thing in itself, and I know that a yandere having a crush on ordinary people is nothing uncommon in modern Japanese media. However, even the most boringly average person that you can think of still has defined personality, goals, and passions that makes them at least more interesting than a slice of stale bread. In our case, you could replace Taro with a random object and the story would still make as much sense, which usually isn't a good sign for a story meant to have a serious tone. Just like my name choice suggested it, I wanted my version of Taro to stay ordinary. However, I tried to flesh out the little characterization he originally has to make him stand out in his own way, so that the numerous girls' interest in him would feel a bit less unbelievable.
This is Daiki Tanaka, a 17-years old Japanese boy living with his parents and his little sister. Like many other Japanese high-schoolers, he goes to high school from Monday to Friday, attends classes, studies for his tests, and hopes he will be accepted in a good university. And just like many other teenagers, he is is having interrogations about what he wants to do after graduation, how his classmates view him, and whether he'll find himself a girlfriend. Clearly, he's just an average student. Among the typical students you can find in a school, Daiki is a hard-working one. Pressured both by his parents and himself to get the best opportunities he can to settle his future, he is self-conscious about his academic performances and is always trying to improve his grades. Thus, he preferred to remain clubless and spend his free time alone to focus on his studies. Most of the time, he is seen studying at the school library, or reading a book of classic literature next to the fountain. But behind this ordinary reserved bookworm loner appearance is a kind and cultivated boy with a strong sense of justice and a clear passion for the old texts he's reading, making him actually quite a charming person to spend time with for those who can see past his plain exterior. Ayano, of course, is one of those few people, but little did she know that she won't be the only one interested in her dear senpai.
Now that Senpai can be interacted with, it’s time to explore the potential of this addition by giving him another feature regular students have: tasks. Even if you can withstand his aura a bit better than in the official game, most of the conversations you’ll have with him won’t be long due to Ayano’s shyness. So, if you want to befriend Daiki, those little errands are the key to increase your affinity with him. For a more immersive narration, Daiki's tasks won't be your usual fetch quests that you can accept or refuse, but small talk where you must pay attention and figure out what to do to by yourself. The tasks will be at first very simple, like bringing him his schoolbag that he forgot in his classroom or gifting him the book he wanted to buy. Then, as he feels more comfortable around you, he will start talking a bit more openly about his life and his preoccupations, naturally leading to more complex tasks with more vague formulations and less obvious solutions, such as helping him become less invisible among his classmates. What would be the point of doing all that, will you ask? Having a higher affinity with Daiki will allow Ayano to make him follow her if you need to tactically move him for one of your eliminations. He will also be more likely to reject the rivals’ love confessions in case you don’t have the time to deal with them yourself. Moreover, narrative-wise, I think having the main character interact with their love interest would be a more realistic and healthier depiction of romance in the story. Well, as “healthy” as a yandere can be. But of course, you could also completely ignore this mechanic and focus on eliminating if you want to.
Finally, I would like to improve the reactions he has regarding students' disappearances. Despite all those things happening near him, he is shocked for a bit and then just kinda... accept it like nothing strange happened? The second most important character of the game, ladies and gentlemen. I get it, Senpai is a loner, he is passive, and he is dense. But at this point, that's not being passive anymore, that's being a wooden plank. So, this is my take: Daiki's sense of justice and passion for literature gave him a natural curiosity for crimes because of its depiction in novels. When facing murder, he will mostly act according to the loner archetype. However, if too many deaths or disappearances near him stay unresolved by the police and his sanity is high enough, he will find the courage to take a more active role and investigate on the crimes himself. Obviously, Daiki won't be able to arrest anyone by himself, but he has the advantage of being directly at the crime place and closer to the people at school than the police. Thus, he could report them additional details that they might have missed, like a student acting stranger than usual, missing tools or places cleaner than usual. This could put you in trouble unless you cover your tracks very well, or just prevent him from investigating. And of course, I would also implement Senpai's sanity meter that has been promised for I don't know how much time (but honestly, are you still hoping for it to be implemented after all that happened?), although slightly reworked. Daiki's sanity would decrease with any person dying. The closer the person is to him, both physically and figuratively, the lower it would drop. The deaths that would affect him the most would thus be those of his sister, his childhood friend, or anyone murdered right in front of him. On the opposite, a random student dying at the other side of the school would barely have any effect. A low sanity would have various effects on Daiki depending on its value and the amount of time he has spent with the other students. Those effects could be taking private lessons due to his grades dropping, joining a certain club to feel safer, or shutting himself in at home in one of the worst scenarios. In any case, this would affect his routine. Just like in the official concept, he would be able to recover sanity with a long enough crimeless period or giving him gifts. Only now would the rivals also be able to use the later method to gain affection, making them act a bit more like romantic rivals. I hope you don't mind actually caring about your senpai's mental health.
Obviously, a reworked senpai means reworked dynamics with your main targets. Since detailing everything would be way too long for a single post, I'll just link here my take on the romantic rivals that I decided to keep in my hypothetical game, and here, what I'd do with the discarded ones. Since they are Daiki's closest people, and the most likely to affect his mood in the game, I'll still put here what I have in mind for my version of Osana and Hanako.
His sister
Just like his canon counterpart, Daiki loves his sister very much. A feeling that is reciprocated a bit too much. Unlike her brother who has a balanced lifestyle, the middle-schooler is a very clingy girl who can't imagine being away from him. She has the bad habit of leaving her school during lunchtime just to visit him, which greatly embarrasses Daiki. Even if he appreciates the time they spend together in the end, he knows that this behaviour is unhealthy, and hope that, one day, his sister will find the confidence to become more independent. In my rewrite, the little sister isn't a romantic rival, but someone that I'd call a "big obstacle", as her role is mainly to appear at random (or maybe not, I haven't decided yet) days during lunchtime and potentially mess up your planification for the day. You wouldn't want to kill someone in front of your crush's beloved sister, right?
His childhood friend
Daiki and his sister have known their neighbours' daughter for more than a decade. All three of them used to play together during their childhood. The neighbours' daughter is a brash and impulsive girl, whose personality clashes with Daiki's quieter nature. Despite frequently being at odds and arguing about trivial things, both of them deeply care about each other and would be the first person to help the other if they were having problems. Daiki and his friend didn't have many occasions to see each other since elementary school, until the girl coincidentally transferred to the same high school as him. Even if he is now more serious and reserved than before, deep inside, he is still the same kind boy that she knew. Now that they can once again spend much time together, the girl has come to realize she was in love with her dear friend, but her internal turmoil and her personality make it difficult for her to act sincere and confess her feelings. She stays otherwise pretty similar to Osana, except for the greater consequences when dealing with her by using lethal eliminations, and maybe the fact that she won't be the first rival to appear.
Budo (or whatever name I'll end up giving him)
Yes, you read it right. That guy that overshadows Senpai among the fans is one of his friends in my rewrite. Because even the most introverted individuals are able to develop relationships with people that aren't potential romantic interests. The leader of the martial arts club is an outgoing action-oriented boy who is pretty popular at school. Unlike Daiki, Budo always knew in his heart that his place would be in a dojo, and thus doesn't have much interest in academics. But despite having such different backgrounds and personalities, both boys share the same sense of justice and admiration toward heroes. When he's not attending classes, studying or reading, Daiki hangs out with Budo, and is sometimes invited to watch the martial arts club members practicing. If too many dangerous events happen around Daiki, Budo, as an aspiring hero and good friend, will propose to escort him at certain periods, becoming basically a part-time bodyguard.
Ayano
Nothing much to say here. Daiki unknowingly reminded Ayano, who has locked her heart for years, how great it is to have feelings when they first met, and now she wants to make sure nothing stands between them. How she will reach her ends is your decision. If she decides to spend time with him and do his tasks, he will think of her as a peculiar, but well-intentioned girl. Just like in canon, Daiki is oblivious to Ayano's feelings, but it's more due to the fact that they barely know each other.
And that was my full-fledged take on Taro. When you have an ordinary person as a character in the middle of very colourful ones, the key to make the public care about him is to give them tangible preoccupations that, even if they aren't always relatable, make this character at least feel like a real person with human struggles and dreams, and not just a barebone plot device. And that might seems obvious, but if you have to write a love interest, make sure you actually show your public what your main character likes about him. That's even more important in the case where many people are attracted to this character. I tried to take those two things into account when rewriting Taro, and I know it's far from perfect, so don't hesitate to tell me what I should improve. In any case, if you made it to the end, thank you for taking the time to read this long post. I hope I'll find the motivation to do the same with other characters.
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After giving a proper rewrite to Ayano, it's now time to do the same for her love interest. But first, I must give my apologises. The title of my post is "Reworking Taro", but it's actually misleading because there was barely any work to redo to begin with. Ok, there was the easy jab at the original character. Reading my previous rewrite posts isn't necessary to understand this one, but would allow you to grasp the differences with the official game better. If you're too lazy to do so, just keep in mind that my rewrite is a bit more social-focused. Anyway, here's my full-fledged take on our senpai.
Just an ordinary upperclassman: Daiki Tanaka (田中 大樹)
Although Taro Yamada is a perfectly valid Japanese name, it's literally the Japanese equivalent of John Doe. This name just gives me the impression that nothing really matters about him, and that it isn't even worth the effort thinking about a proper name. That might have been the dev's intention, given Taro's characterisation in the game, but I personally can't consider being so lazy about the second most important character. So, rather than keeping this name that makes Senpai seem like some background character, I chose names that actually are very common in Japan in order to keep the "average guy" feeling. The most common Japanese surname is Sato (佐藤), but that sounded a bit too generic for me, so I opted for Tanaka (田中), another widespread name that you might already have seen in some anime. Surprisingly, despite also being common, Yamada (山田) doesn't even come close. For his first name, "Daiki" (written like this: 大樹) means "big tree". It's a fairly popular boy name during the last decades and doesn't refer to anything particular, except maybe the fact that he is a big brother.Just like many other mediocre harem MC, the main problem with Taro is that he is extremely bland. There's literally nothing worth noticing about him. Now don't get me wrong, making one of your main characters an Average Joe isn't a bad thing in itself, and I know that a yandere having a crush on ordinary people is nothing uncommon in modern Japanese media. However, even the most boringly average person that you can think of still has defined personality, goals, and passions that makes them at least more interesting than a slice of stale bread. In our case, you could replace Taro with a random object and the story would still make as much sense, which usually isn't a good sign for a story meant to have a serious tone. Just like my name choice suggested it, I wanted my version of Taro to stay ordinary. However, I tried to flesh out the little characterization he originally has to make him stand out in his own way, so that the numerous girls' interest in him would feel a bit less unbelievable.
This is Daiki Tanaka, a 17-years old Japanese boy living with his parents and his little sister. Like many other Japanese high-schoolers, he goes to high school from Monday to Friday, attends classes, studies for his tests, and hopes he will be accepted in a good university. And just like many other teenagers, he is is having interrogations about what he wants to do after graduation, how his classmates view him, and whether he'll find himself a girlfriend. Clearly, he's just an average student. Among the typical students you can find in a school, Daiki is a hard-working one. Pressured both by his parents and himself to get the best opportunities he can to settle his future, he is self-conscious about his academic performances and is always trying to improve his grades. Thus, he preferred to remain clubless and spend his free time alone to focus on his studies. Most of the time, he is seen studying at the school library, or reading a book of classic literature next to the fountain. But behind this ordinary reserved bookworm loner appearance is a kind and cultivated boy with a strong sense of justice and a clear passion for the old texts he's reading, making him actually quite a charming person to spend time with for those who can see past his plain exterior. Ayano, of course, is one of those few people, but little did she know that she won't be the only one interested in her dear senpai.
Gameplay role
According to the wiki:Gameplay-wise, Taro is more similar to a "moving obstacle" rather than a regular interactive student, as he cannot be interacted with normally.And you see, to me, that's a big problem. You spend the entire game keeping rivals away from Senpai by killing them, making them uninterested in him, or ruining their reputation, and after all the bad experiences he had with those (rather) normal girls, you expect me to believe that the girl Senpai, the perfectly normal guy at all levels, ends up choosing is the creepy lonely student that he has barely spoken to? Nah, I don't buy it. This is why, in my rewrite, my Senpai would be (most of the time) considered as a regular student that you can actually interact with. That means, first, that Ayano wouldn’t get immediately flustered by him when approaching him. I understand that people, especially teenagers, can act shy, nervous, or a little clumsy when their crush are at sight, but seriously, the depiction of this behaviour in the game is completely ridiculous. So, in my hypothetical game, you will have a small amount of time where you will be able to act normally near Daiki and talk to him before your heart starts beating louder and the screen gradually turns pink. Past this point, things pretty much happen the same as in the official game, since Ayano is emotionally unstable. Naturally, the more you interact with Daiki, the longer you will be able to remain calm in his presence.
Now that Senpai can be interacted with, it’s time to explore the potential of this addition by giving him another feature regular students have: tasks. Even if you can withstand his aura a bit better than in the official game, most of the conversations you’ll have with him won’t be long due to Ayano’s shyness. So, if you want to befriend Daiki, those little errands are the key to increase your affinity with him. For a more immersive narration, Daiki's tasks won't be your usual fetch quests that you can accept or refuse, but small talk where you must pay attention and figure out what to do to by yourself. The tasks will be at first very simple, like bringing him his schoolbag that he forgot in his classroom or gifting him the book he wanted to buy. Then, as he feels more comfortable around you, he will start talking a bit more openly about his life and his preoccupations, naturally leading to more complex tasks with more vague formulations and less obvious solutions, such as helping him become less invisible among his classmates. What would be the point of doing all that, will you ask? Having a higher affinity with Daiki will allow Ayano to make him follow her if you need to tactically move him for one of your eliminations. He will also be more likely to reject the rivals’ love confessions in case you don’t have the time to deal with them yourself. Moreover, narrative-wise, I think having the main character interact with their love interest would be a more realistic and healthier depiction of romance in the story. Well, as “healthy” as a yandere can be. But of course, you could also completely ignore this mechanic and focus on eliminating if you want to.
Finally, I would like to improve the reactions he has regarding students' disappearances. Despite all those things happening near him, he is shocked for a bit and then just kinda... accept it like nothing strange happened? The second most important character of the game, ladies and gentlemen. I get it, Senpai is a loner, he is passive, and he is dense. But at this point, that's not being passive anymore, that's being a wooden plank. So, this is my take: Daiki's sense of justice and passion for literature gave him a natural curiosity for crimes because of its depiction in novels. When facing murder, he will mostly act according to the loner archetype. However, if too many deaths or disappearances near him stay unresolved by the police and his sanity is high enough, he will find the courage to take a more active role and investigate on the crimes himself. Obviously, Daiki won't be able to arrest anyone by himself, but he has the advantage of being directly at the crime place and closer to the people at school than the police. Thus, he could report them additional details that they might have missed, like a student acting stranger than usual, missing tools or places cleaner than usual. This could put you in trouble unless you cover your tracks very well, or just prevent him from investigating. And of course, I would also implement Senpai's sanity meter that has been promised for I don't know how much time (but honestly, are you still hoping for it to be implemented after all that happened?), although slightly reworked. Daiki's sanity would decrease with any person dying. The closer the person is to him, both physically and figuratively, the lower it would drop. The deaths that would affect him the most would thus be those of his sister, his childhood friend, or anyone murdered right in front of him. On the opposite, a random student dying at the other side of the school would barely have any effect. A low sanity would have various effects on Daiki depending on its value and the amount of time he has spent with the other students. Those effects could be taking private lessons due to his grades dropping, joining a certain club to feel safer, or shutting himself in at home in one of the worst scenarios. In any case, this would affect his routine. Just like in the official concept, he would be able to recover sanity with a long enough crimeless period or giving him gifts. Only now would the rivals also be able to use the later method to gain affection, making them act a bit more like romantic rivals. I hope you don't mind actually caring about your senpai's mental health.
Relationships with other characters
The rivalsObviously, a reworked senpai means reworked dynamics with your main targets. Since detailing everything would be way too long for a single post, I'll just link here my take on the romantic rivals that I decided to keep in my hypothetical game, and here, what I'd do with the discarded ones. Since they are Daiki's closest people, and the most likely to affect his mood in the game, I'll still put here what I have in mind for my version of Osana and Hanako.
His sister
Just like his canon counterpart, Daiki loves his sister very much. A feeling that is reciprocated a bit too much. Unlike her brother who has a balanced lifestyle, the middle-schooler is a very clingy girl who can't imagine being away from him. She has the bad habit of leaving her school during lunchtime just to visit him, which greatly embarrasses Daiki. Even if he appreciates the time they spend together in the end, he knows that this behaviour is unhealthy, and hope that, one day, his sister will find the confidence to become more independent. In my rewrite, the little sister isn't a romantic rival, but someone that I'd call a "big obstacle", as her role is mainly to appear at random (or maybe not, I haven't decided yet) days during lunchtime and potentially mess up your planification for the day. You wouldn't want to kill someone in front of your crush's beloved sister, right?
His childhood friend
Daiki and his sister have known their neighbours' daughter for more than a decade. All three of them used to play together during their childhood. The neighbours' daughter is a brash and impulsive girl, whose personality clashes with Daiki's quieter nature. Despite frequently being at odds and arguing about trivial things, both of them deeply care about each other and would be the first person to help the other if they were having problems. Daiki and his friend didn't have many occasions to see each other since elementary school, until the girl coincidentally transferred to the same high school as him. Even if he is now more serious and reserved than before, deep inside, he is still the same kind boy that she knew. Now that they can once again spend much time together, the girl has come to realize she was in love with her dear friend, but her internal turmoil and her personality make it difficult for her to act sincere and confess her feelings. She stays otherwise pretty similar to Osana, except for the greater consequences when dealing with her by using lethal eliminations, and maybe the fact that she won't be the first rival to appear.
Budo (or whatever name I'll end up giving him)
Yes, you read it right. That guy that overshadows Senpai among the fans is one of his friends in my rewrite. Because even the most introverted individuals are able to develop relationships with people that aren't potential romantic interests. The leader of the martial arts club is an outgoing action-oriented boy who is pretty popular at school. Unlike Daiki, Budo always knew in his heart that his place would be in a dojo, and thus doesn't have much interest in academics. But despite having such different backgrounds and personalities, both boys share the same sense of justice and admiration toward heroes. When he's not attending classes, studying or reading, Daiki hangs out with Budo, and is sometimes invited to watch the martial arts club members practicing. If too many dangerous events happen around Daiki, Budo, as an aspiring hero and good friend, will propose to escort him at certain periods, becoming basically a part-time bodyguard.
Ayano
Nothing much to say here. Daiki unknowingly reminded Ayano, who has locked her heart for years, how great it is to have feelings when they first met, and now she wants to make sure nothing stands between them. How she will reach her ends is your decision. If she decides to spend time with him and do his tasks, he will think of her as a peculiar, but well-intentioned girl. Just like in canon, Daiki is oblivious to Ayano's feelings, but it's more due to the fact that they barely know each other.
Trivia
- Regarding his career choice, Daiki is hesitating between becoming an author, a lawyer or a criminologist.
- Like Taro, he also likes nature and gardening, but to a lesser extend.
- Sometimes, instead of a book of classic literature, you can see him reading the latest crime novel at the fountain. With a pen and a writing pad, because he's just that invested.
- Since he is friend with Budo, he sometimes feels too plain and boring compared to him regarding romance. If you use matchmaking to eliminate a rival, his self-consciousness will grow a bit stronger.
- He has never bought a panty shot from Info-chan, but honestly, do you really find this surprising, or even relevant? He has never even contacted Info-chan.
- I had quite the choice among popular Japanese boy names. Daiki could've been named "Yamato", "Daisuke", "Hiroto", "Yuto", "Yuu", or even "Satoshi" instead.
- In the official game, if Ayano commits a crime in his sight while wearing a mask, Taro will rip the mask off her face with no regard for his safety or his character consistency. I would like to get rid of this behaviour for Daiki, except for one specific circumstance.
And that was my full-fledged take on Taro. When you have an ordinary person as a character in the middle of very colourful ones, the key to make the public care about him is to give them tangible preoccupations that, even if they aren't always relatable, make this character at least feel like a real person with human struggles and dreams, and not just a barebone plot device. And that might seems obvious, but if you have to write a love interest, make sure you actually show your public what your main character likes about him. That's even more important in the case where many people are attracted to this character. I tried to take those two things into account when rewriting Taro, and I know it's far from perfect, so don't hesitate to tell me what I should improve. In any case, if you made it to the end, thank you for taking the time to read this long post. I hope I'll find the motivation to do the same with other characters.
2024.05.14 00:03 richbun Is it normal to want to watch a TV show from the start?
Context. My daughter is watching a long series and she's on series 7. I watch an episode and like it. She says, great, we can watch together. I say, no, I need to watch series 1-6 first (and potentially spin off series 1-2 it might have).
Is that normal behaviour, would everyone else join half way through and perhaps catch-up at some point in the future?
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Is that normal behaviour, would everyone else join half way through and perhaps catch-up at some point in the future?
2024.05.14 00:03 flawed_dasein 52 [M4F] #Nashville
Home from work. Relaxing on the couch. Would love to find someone interesting to chat with.
About me: Divorced, educated, decent shape (6’/220), good job, nice house in suburban Nashville, positive attitude, great sense of humor. No smoking, drinking, drugs or drama. Just an even-tempered and easy-going kind of guy. Three grown children, one awesome cat. Pics on profile.
My daughter says I’m “eccentric”, which I take as a compliment. She and I discuss art, philosophy, books, poetry, etc often.
I like outdoorsy type stuff like fishing and hiking. Also like movies, music (80s/90s alternative mostly), absurd comedy, roadtrips, antiquing, misc podcasts, etc.
If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to chat. Hope to hear from you soon!
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About me: Divorced, educated, decent shape (6’/220), good job, nice house in suburban Nashville, positive attitude, great sense of humor. No smoking, drinking, drugs or drama. Just an even-tempered and easy-going kind of guy. Three grown children, one awesome cat. Pics on profile.
My daughter says I’m “eccentric”, which I take as a compliment. She and I discuss art, philosophy, books, poetry, etc often.
I like outdoorsy type stuff like fishing and hiking. Also like movies, music (80s/90s alternative mostly), absurd comedy, roadtrips, antiquing, misc podcasts, etc.
If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to chat. Hope to hear from you soon!
2024.05.14 00:02 CountryNew5744 Dorters or dawtahhhzzz
Can I just say that I love how all of us in this sub constantly spell daughters —> dorters or dawtahz. As a nj girl, I love it, because that’s exactly how all us Jersey girls say the word 🤷🏼♀️😂. It cracks me up everytime, and is a nice refresher from all the constant Tre fan vs Melissa fan bashing. Btw, I am a fan of both, I know, it’s rare, but possible!!
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2024.05.14 00:02 Opal_Spectacles Can't tell if my coworker (43F) wants to fuck me (24F) or fuck with me.
TL;DR I thought I was certain about my coworker having feelings for me so I confessed to her, but she rejected me. For my birthday, though, she gave me lingerie. I have no clue what she wants or how to proceed!!
I have a coworker I've been flirting with for about a year. We haven't really done anything (for reasons I'll get into later), but the flirting has definitely escalated and we've gotten much closer as friends over this time.
Recently, though, we had a weird disagreement/miscommunication. Almost a month ago we had gotten so close that we were very openly all over each other. I'm talking hugging, kissing each other on the face/neck, holding hands, and joking about being in a relationship. She even told me she wanted me over text. With all this, I had thought that it was way past time for a "what's going on between us?" conversation.
I always felt she was hesitant to go all the way with me due to our age gap and the fact that she's terrified of being outed as gay/admitting she likes women, even though it's kind of an open secret in our workplace, so I expected the talk to be difficult.?But not like this.
I tried to have this conversation with her 4 separate times; in person, on the phone, and through text. And throughout these conversations she went from acting like she didn't know what I was talking about to telling me "sorry if i made you uncomfortable, but it's not like that between us." She also sounded more nervous each time I brought it up. I figured maybe she thought I was going in the "I'm not gay" direction, so I ended up straight up confessing over the phone. She said I was too young for her, that I was just her "little buddy." And she said "if the way i'm acting is making you feel that way, maybe I should be careful of how I act around you."
Broke my heart. I didn't truly believe she had no feelings for me because of all the stuff that had happened between us, but what she said really hurt. We had gotten so close and intimate with each other by that point that it almost felt like I was her girlfriend. I even stopped talking to her because I felt lied to, confused, hurt, etc. She seemed bothered by it and would ask me what's wrong, but when I told her it was what we talked about that made me upset she played dumb again. So I stopped bringing it up.
We still have the same circle of friends, though, and I of course haven't told them what's happening so it's hard to avoid her completely. Yesterday, they had a surprise party for me that she attended and of course everyone gave me gifts...except her. No big deal. It was surprisingly nice between us. We talked and danced, got drunk, had fun. At the end of the night she asked me to take her home. It was raining pretty hard and I mentioned how I hate driving in the rain, so she suggested I stay over and insisted even though I was hesistant. Her apartment complex tows cars that don't have permits, though, so I went on home. This morning I was looking through my gifts and found one I didn't remember being given, which was odd because everyone's gifts were given to me in front of the group. It was a pack of Juicy Couture thongs. I thought maybe I had been too drunk to remember who had given me this but I couldn't see how ANY of the people there would think that's an appropriate gift except her. This friend group is a bunch of women older than us, in their 50s, who see me as their daughter. I texted her asking if she knew who bought the thongs and she sent a couple laughing emojis and said "let me see?" When I sent a picture, she put a heart reaction on it and didn't say anything else...
[By the way, the thongs fit perfectly. Not surprising that she'd know the size of my ass considering her hands are always on it.]
I'm just so confused. I can't tell if she wants me or not. I've always known she's not the kind of person to admit things out loud, so I'm taking this as a signal, but if that's the case why would she reject me so hard?? I want to go back to the way we were before, but I can't flirt in perpetuity, especially when things have gotten this far. I also don't think asking her "do you want to fuck me" is going to work either considering how the above situation played out. How do I maneuver this?
Also: I omitted some detail about our relationship before all this for the sake of brevity but I can definitely give examples of how we were together in the comments if needed. The way I typed it makes my feelings sound kind of one-sided I think!
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I have a coworker I've been flirting with for about a year. We haven't really done anything (for reasons I'll get into later), but the flirting has definitely escalated and we've gotten much closer as friends over this time.
Recently, though, we had a weird disagreement/miscommunication. Almost a month ago we had gotten so close that we were very openly all over each other. I'm talking hugging, kissing each other on the face/neck, holding hands, and joking about being in a relationship. She even told me she wanted me over text. With all this, I had thought that it was way past time for a "what's going on between us?" conversation.
I always felt she was hesitant to go all the way with me due to our age gap and the fact that she's terrified of being outed as gay/admitting she likes women, even though it's kind of an open secret in our workplace, so I expected the talk to be difficult.?But not like this.
I tried to have this conversation with her 4 separate times; in person, on the phone, and through text. And throughout these conversations she went from acting like she didn't know what I was talking about to telling me "sorry if i made you uncomfortable, but it's not like that between us." She also sounded more nervous each time I brought it up. I figured maybe she thought I was going in the "I'm not gay" direction, so I ended up straight up confessing over the phone. She said I was too young for her, that I was just her "little buddy." And she said "if the way i'm acting is making you feel that way, maybe I should be careful of how I act around you."
Broke my heart. I didn't truly believe she had no feelings for me because of all the stuff that had happened between us, but what she said really hurt. We had gotten so close and intimate with each other by that point that it almost felt like I was her girlfriend. I even stopped talking to her because I felt lied to, confused, hurt, etc. She seemed bothered by it and would ask me what's wrong, but when I told her it was what we talked about that made me upset she played dumb again. So I stopped bringing it up.
We still have the same circle of friends, though, and I of course haven't told them what's happening so it's hard to avoid her completely. Yesterday, they had a surprise party for me that she attended and of course everyone gave me gifts...except her. No big deal. It was surprisingly nice between us. We talked and danced, got drunk, had fun. At the end of the night she asked me to take her home. It was raining pretty hard and I mentioned how I hate driving in the rain, so she suggested I stay over and insisted even though I was hesistant. Her apartment complex tows cars that don't have permits, though, so I went on home. This morning I was looking through my gifts and found one I didn't remember being given, which was odd because everyone's gifts were given to me in front of the group. It was a pack of Juicy Couture thongs. I thought maybe I had been too drunk to remember who had given me this but I couldn't see how ANY of the people there would think that's an appropriate gift except her. This friend group is a bunch of women older than us, in their 50s, who see me as their daughter. I texted her asking if she knew who bought the thongs and she sent a couple laughing emojis and said "let me see?" When I sent a picture, she put a heart reaction on it and didn't say anything else...
[By the way, the thongs fit perfectly. Not surprising that she'd know the size of my ass considering her hands are always on it.]
I'm just so confused. I can't tell if she wants me or not. I've always known she's not the kind of person to admit things out loud, so I'm taking this as a signal, but if that's the case why would she reject me so hard?? I want to go back to the way we were before, but I can't flirt in perpetuity, especially when things have gotten this far. I also don't think asking her "do you want to fuck me" is going to work either considering how the above situation played out. How do I maneuver this?
Also: I omitted some detail about our relationship before all this for the sake of brevity but I can definitely give examples of how we were together in the comments if needed. The way I typed it makes my feelings sound kind of one-sided I think!
2024.05.13 23:56 No-Turnip-3738 I’m channelling how airline pilots speak to passengers in my everyday life
I was watching a Dr Becky reel on how parents should aim to talk to their children as if they are an airline pilot - and I’m fascinated.
I’m now using this not just with my daughters but in work and in my own self talk…and I’m wondering if pilots get taught the psychology of how to make announcements and communicate with a whole range of passengers.
For background, her original post says: “Imagine being on an airplane, going through strong turbulence, and feeling very scared. The pilot starts speaking. Here are two different announcements he might make: .
Announcement 1. "We are going through turbulence. I know you're scared - that's ok. I know what I'm doing. I'm not scared of this turbulence and I'm not scared by your fear, either. We are still set to arrive on time in the same city we set out for."
. Announcement 2. "All of your nervousness is throwing me off! You're making it hard to do my job! Maybe this flight was a bad idea, maybe we should land, or no we should still fly, or I don't know. Maybe one of you can come up here and decide what to do and where to go."
“I feel secure with Announcement 1. I'd start freaking out with Announcement 2.”
She goes on to say: “We want a leader who knows what she is doing when things get tough. We want someone who can recognize our feelings and yet see them as independent, who isn't necessarily swayed by them; this is actually what makes our emotions feel SAFE, that they are allowed to exist and cannot overpower decisions that need to be made for our benefit.
“We want a leader who can say, "You're allowed to be upset; your emotional storm isn't overwhelming my sense of what's right here. I am still your sturdy leader."
It makes so much sense.
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I’m now using this not just with my daughters but in work and in my own self talk…and I’m wondering if pilots get taught the psychology of how to make announcements and communicate with a whole range of passengers.
For background, her original post says: “Imagine being on an airplane, going through strong turbulence, and feeling very scared. The pilot starts speaking. Here are two different announcements he might make: .
Announcement 1. "We are going through turbulence. I know you're scared - that's ok. I know what I'm doing. I'm not scared of this turbulence and I'm not scared by your fear, either. We are still set to arrive on time in the same city we set out for."
. Announcement 2. "All of your nervousness is throwing me off! You're making it hard to do my job! Maybe this flight was a bad idea, maybe we should land, or no we should still fly, or I don't know. Maybe one of you can come up here and decide what to do and where to go."
“I feel secure with Announcement 1. I'd start freaking out with Announcement 2.”
She goes on to say: “We want a leader who knows what she is doing when things get tough. We want someone who can recognize our feelings and yet see them as independent, who isn't necessarily swayed by them; this is actually what makes our emotions feel SAFE, that they are allowed to exist and cannot overpower decisions that need to be made for our benefit.
“We want a leader who can say, "You're allowed to be upset; your emotional storm isn't overwhelming my sense of what's right here. I am still your sturdy leader."
It makes so much sense.
2024.05.13 23:54 book-nerd-daisy A new Mother’s Day low
Let me preface with my expectations for Mother’s Day are already basically non-existent. Keep your expectations low are you will never be disappointed right? but yesterday was a new low.
So of course my husband forgot about Mother’s Day until Saturday but still plenty of time.
My oldest daughter no longer lives at home so this only involves my husband and youngest.
He takes her to Walmart Sunday afternoon. Whatever. He texts and asks me if I want hamburgers for dinner. Again sure whatever.
Then later my daughter brings me my gift. She hands me a card and a box of incense. I really do love the incense and it smelled really good.
So I open the card which I also love and I expect to find a gift card (and I mean like a $20 GC) and it is empty.
So I told my daughter how much I loved it and thank you.
When I asked her today if dad helped her or gave her money. She said he told her to pick something out and when she told him I needed something more he apparently said that was good enough.
I nicely ask him a few minutes ago if he had given her a budget and he said yes and she spent it. The card was probably the same cost as the incense honestly. $15 is what I am worth to him as the mother of his children. Money is not an issue for him at all.
Then he proceeds to throw a teenager with no money and no drivers license under the bus and says she should have taken care of it because I am not his mother. How these holidays just make people hate each other. I said who hates anyone? I was just asking if there was a disconnect.
He is now upset with me for saying anything and my daughter to having the audacity to tell him he should be helping with Mother’s Day.
This man gets up and goes to work. Barely does anything else because when asked to help he does it when he feels like it.
I do all the chores. Shopping. Holidays. Birthdays. Finances. Vacations. I work 40 hours a week just like him. He just shows up.
His excuse will be similar when my birthday rolls around
I asked him for a divorce last week but he talked me out of it. I should have just went through with it and that would have been the best Mother’s Day gift I could have ever given to myself.
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So of course my husband forgot about Mother’s Day until Saturday but still plenty of time.
My oldest daughter no longer lives at home so this only involves my husband and youngest.
He takes her to Walmart Sunday afternoon. Whatever. He texts and asks me if I want hamburgers for dinner. Again sure whatever.
Then later my daughter brings me my gift. She hands me a card and a box of incense. I really do love the incense and it smelled really good.
So I open the card which I also love and I expect to find a gift card (and I mean like a $20 GC) and it is empty.
So I told my daughter how much I loved it and thank you.
When I asked her today if dad helped her or gave her money. She said he told her to pick something out and when she told him I needed something more he apparently said that was good enough.
I nicely ask him a few minutes ago if he had given her a budget and he said yes and she spent it. The card was probably the same cost as the incense honestly. $15 is what I am worth to him as the mother of his children. Money is not an issue for him at all.
Then he proceeds to throw a teenager with no money and no drivers license under the bus and says she should have taken care of it because I am not his mother. How these holidays just make people hate each other. I said who hates anyone? I was just asking if there was a disconnect.
He is now upset with me for saying anything and my daughter to having the audacity to tell him he should be helping with Mother’s Day.
This man gets up and goes to work. Barely does anything else because when asked to help he does it when he feels like it.
I do all the chores. Shopping. Holidays. Birthdays. Finances. Vacations. I work 40 hours a week just like him. He just shows up.
His excuse will be similar when my birthday rolls around
I asked him for a divorce last week but he talked me out of it. I should have just went through with it and that would have been the best Mother’s Day gift I could have ever given to myself.
2024.05.13 23:53 _Bumblebee2267 My friend's sisters low key looks like Scarlett Johansson. I think she can play Scarlett's daughter in a movie, but she says she doesn't see it. What do you think?
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2024.05.13 23:53 herlipssaidno Mother’s Day Posts
Respectfully, I am tired of seeing the same posts every Mother’s Day. It takes two to tango, by which I mean this:
You are a co-creator in every single dynamic you are a part of.
Why are you allowing yourself to be let down and disappointed by your men?
How does it serve you and your relationship to come here to tell us about it?
Tell him! Do for yourself! Invest more in relationships that do serve you! State your expectations, explicitly!
I’m not saying that by talking to your husband you can get him to treat you better, nor am I advocating for leaving — but take a hard look at what got you here. This is not an isolated incident. If it was, you would likely be able to brush it off.
In what ways are you allowing your needs to go unmet, or keeping yourself small? It might be in service of your family, sure. Motherhood is hard and sometimes we sometimes feel we have to put ourselves last. But honeys, we really don’t, nor should we.
Teach your sons and daughters that a mother’s work is to be fulfilled, vibrant, and met with LOVE and appreciation by those around her so that she can provide even better care for those who rely on her. That is our work. And there is no one who can do that for you better than you.
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You are a co-creator in every single dynamic you are a part of.
Why are you allowing yourself to be let down and disappointed by your men?
How does it serve you and your relationship to come here to tell us about it?
Tell him! Do for yourself! Invest more in relationships that do serve you! State your expectations, explicitly!
I’m not saying that by talking to your husband you can get him to treat you better, nor am I advocating for leaving — but take a hard look at what got you here. This is not an isolated incident. If it was, you would likely be able to brush it off.
In what ways are you allowing your needs to go unmet, or keeping yourself small? It might be in service of your family, sure. Motherhood is hard and sometimes we sometimes feel we have to put ourselves last. But honeys, we really don’t, nor should we.
Teach your sons and daughters that a mother’s work is to be fulfilled, vibrant, and met with LOVE and appreciation by those around her so that she can provide even better care for those who rely on her. That is our work. And there is no one who can do that for you better than you.
2024.05.13 23:51 Alarming_monkey Don’t lie on your timesheet and don’t be a bully
I’ve done 10 years of housekeeping in multiple different jobs from hotels to nursing homes. Over 10 years ago I worked full time at a nursing home for 3 years before moving across the country. I loved the job especially the clients living there. We had a “lovely” family working there with the mother and mother’s boyfriend along with the mother’s 2 daughters. They made this otherwise wonderful job into a nightmare somedays. Workplace bullying is a real thing and it was constant there with this family. They also had a couple other coworkers join their little family group to make my working life just that much better. On top of all the nasty comments and manipulation, I swear the mother spent most of the time on light duties for 1 injury or another and of course her daughters would pull the same thing every once in a while. They would call out sick including one day all 4 called out. We didn’t even have sick time so I have no idea how they paid their bills. This made me and the other workers have to pick up the slack. I had at one point gave up on the extra work and told my boss I’ll be doing my work first and will do the extra work if I had the time. I was a lead hand at one which means I would be in early to check for sick calls. I made it a regular thing to start the washers when I got in to help the laundry workers. One instance of their direct bullying was one morning I had forgotten to start the washer on a day the daughters were in. The mother came up and yelled at me and was pointing her finger at me. This is a day I had 2 sick calls in the kitchens so I was at my wits ends. They tried to get me written up for it. Thankfully my boss didn’t care and was fine when I told him I won’t be touching the laundry for them again. So on to the revenge. While I was lead one day the 2 daughters were working laundry. I had gone down to the lunchroom which is across from the laundry. Lights were off and all machines were stopped. No washers or dryers were running. This was around 11am I figured they had taken their break. I had gone back to work thinking it was strange they hadn’t been back yet but as a lead I pretty much can’t do anything. I got a text from one of the daughters saying they both left and were not coming back. This was around 12:30. The one daughter had a child who supposedly needed to be picked up and taken the hospital and her sister who had a vehicle drove her. The driver decided she didn’t have to come back after dropping her sister off. I wrote on our payroll paperwork the time I knew they were gone several hours prior. The next time day they were in and they decided they needed to be paid up to the time they messaged me. Flashback to not long before I remembered the girls car had a flat and was convinced someone put a hole in it so they went to maintenance and had them look at the camera facing the parking lot. I’m pretty sure I would not have thought of the cameras if it weren’t for that. So I went straight to my manager and told him he needed to check the cameras. Well he didn’t tell me when they left but it was a while. My guess is around 10-10:30 since the washers and dryers were stopped at 11 when I was down for break. Another thing to note is we were in a union and the mother was a rep of course so when the daughters were being put on 3 days suspension she was in the room. Daughter A, who was the one with the child was brought in first. But before daughter B was taken in she all of a sudden had hurt her back and was leaving so she wasn’t brought in. Both daughters dragged it out and basically never came back. I left the job before the mother and boyfriend did something just as stupid but I felt good knowing I had a hand in getting rid of the daughters. In dealing with them I learned a lot about how to deal with workplace bullying which helped when I encountered it in some other situations. It even helped me finish my Workplace Occupational Health and Safety certificate because I did my research project that finished off my course on workplace bullying.
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2024.05.13 23:50 DirectionPresent3016 I think I’m done, don’t know how to go about leaving.
I made the post about ten days ago saying I had serious doubts after getting myself, my six year old and two year old baptized. I’ve felt pretty awful the last two weeks or so, a lot of shame and guilt for dragging my family into orthodoxy after not even being Christian. Multiple people from the church and our priest and his wife gave us gifts icons new clothes and welcomed us into the church with open arms, which makes it very difficult to leave. But if I’m being completely honest with myself I just feel that I don’t believe in the church and its teachings and I’m even questioning if I want to be a “Christian” going forward. I was questioning things for about the last year but never had the heart to tell my priest or admit to myself what I knew in my gut, that this was not the right move, and that my own delusions and reactionary/obsessive personality were dragging me into a fundamentalist religion( I have a history of doing things similar to this)
This is all extremely embarrassing to admit, I’ve sat down and talked with my wife multiple times through out the last two weeks, and she is supportive. I’ve told her that we’ll stick it out and continue to go for the community, which she thinks is a good idea, but the more thinking about what I actually value in life it’s not found in Orthodoxy and staying will only produce more cognitive dissonance and suffering. I think it’s better to just cut ties and move on ASAP.
I’ve barely brought up prayers, Jesus, or church and my daughter hasn’t thought twice about it which makes me think she’ll move on easily. I’m struggling to talk to my priest about this, I’m sure he’ll want me to stick it out and pray etc. I also feel terrible because I know this has happened to him before; he baptizes someone and they almost immediately leave the church. So how do I go about this? Let him know I have all these doubts, and I don’t want to be orthodox? Tell him I want to take a break and rethink things? It’s a very small church so I can’t just stop showing up unnoticed, we skipped church this past Sunday on Mother’s Day and I got a text today from the priest’s wife saying how in Romania people only miss liturgy if they are dead ( she was joking, but not really)
I also want to make things right for the time and money invested into us, do I donate all my icons books, baptism crosses, and a check for a couple hundred dollars? I expect people to be very upset and caught off guard by this or maybe I’m just making a bigger deal out of it. I know at the very least my priest will take this to heart and be very upset, he’s a true believer and will think he failed his duties as a priest.
Any advice would be appreciated. I want to handle this amicably, these people have been good to us and I really see myself as being the foolish one who’s in the wrong in this situation.
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This is all extremely embarrassing to admit, I’ve sat down and talked with my wife multiple times through out the last two weeks, and she is supportive. I’ve told her that we’ll stick it out and continue to go for the community, which she thinks is a good idea, but the more thinking about what I actually value in life it’s not found in Orthodoxy and staying will only produce more cognitive dissonance and suffering. I think it’s better to just cut ties and move on ASAP.
I’ve barely brought up prayers, Jesus, or church and my daughter hasn’t thought twice about it which makes me think she’ll move on easily. I’m struggling to talk to my priest about this, I’m sure he’ll want me to stick it out and pray etc. I also feel terrible because I know this has happened to him before; he baptizes someone and they almost immediately leave the church. So how do I go about this? Let him know I have all these doubts, and I don’t want to be orthodox? Tell him I want to take a break and rethink things? It’s a very small church so I can’t just stop showing up unnoticed, we skipped church this past Sunday on Mother’s Day and I got a text today from the priest’s wife saying how in Romania people only miss liturgy if they are dead ( she was joking, but not really)
I also want to make things right for the time and money invested into us, do I donate all my icons books, baptism crosses, and a check for a couple hundred dollars? I expect people to be very upset and caught off guard by this or maybe I’m just making a bigger deal out of it. I know at the very least my priest will take this to heart and be very upset, he’s a true believer and will think he failed his duties as a priest.
Any advice would be appreciated. I want to handle this amicably, these people have been good to us and I really see myself as being the foolish one who’s in the wrong in this situation.
2024.05.13 23:42 Own-Effort-8569 My aunty backed out from taking care of her mother whilst my uncle is away
My uncle and his wife are my grandmother’s carers. She has Alzheimer’s. They are living off of her benefits and pension. My uncle left his job about 3 years ago, the reason he stated was to take care of my grandmother. His wife has never worked a day in her life. They took control over my grandma’s money when her memory deteriorated.
They buy expensive items and always go shopping and on weekly outings, all on her money. Basically they’re not good people.
So now they are planning to go abroad for a few months. They travelled abroad in 2021 and left my grandma at my parents house without even asking, just expecting things to be done their way like always. At that time, I had just quit my job at a nursing home. I have severe anxiety and ADHD. I live with my parents and brother in a 3 bedroom house. We had to move half of our things in my uncle’s house just to make room for my grandma. There was a lot going on. It was very difficult to take care of her. I had mentioned that I struggle with her personal care. But I was always told to just get over it as it is my responsively as her granddaughter. You know, the usual emotional manipulation. Anyways, the whole experience took a mental and physical toll on my family, and my uncle even extended his stay for an extra month.
Once he was back, I had a word with him and told him that I cannot do this again in the future so he needs to respect my boundaries. But sadly the term ‘boundaries’ does not exist in his dictionary. He had tried this again many times.
About 6 months ago, I was discussing this issue with my aunty (his sister). I just had rhinoplasty 6 months ago (nov 2023), and I’m still recovering and am very sensitive to smell, to the point where I feel nauseous. My aunty agreed to take care of my grandma if my uncle and his wife plan to go abroad again. She said she would ask him to hire a carer as my aunty can’t take care of my grandma 24/7.
A couple of days ago. My uncle told her that he is planning to travel for 3 months and he asked her, she completely backed out by making an excuse.
She advised my mum to take my grandma in. My mum is blind and also has health problems and I cannot take care of my grandma. My Aunty is aware of this, but that’s what she does all the time. She likes to give others unsolicited advice but never sticks to her own words. Now I understand it is not her responsibility. It is my uncle and his wife’s responsibility to arrange care as they are her legal guardians. But my Aunty did say she would take care of her and now she’s backing out and expecting my mum to do it. She has an adult daughter who always brags about her skills as a former care assistant. She always says she can take care of her better than anyone. But just like her mother, she is all talk. She has never taken care of my grandma (who is her maternal grandma) and she refuses to do so.
I’m just so sick and tired of taking others responsibility. I work full time I have no time for this and I am also not capable of doing personal care which I have mentioned like a million times to them.
My grandmas condition has deteriorated and she needs care 24/7. Her bedroom is designed to fit her needs she cannot stay over somewhere else. But they expect my family to move on temporarily until they come back.
TL;DR: My aunty backed out from taking care of her mother whilst my uncle is away
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They buy expensive items and always go shopping and on weekly outings, all on her money. Basically they’re not good people.
So now they are planning to go abroad for a few months. They travelled abroad in 2021 and left my grandma at my parents house without even asking, just expecting things to be done their way like always. At that time, I had just quit my job at a nursing home. I have severe anxiety and ADHD. I live with my parents and brother in a 3 bedroom house. We had to move half of our things in my uncle’s house just to make room for my grandma. There was a lot going on. It was very difficult to take care of her. I had mentioned that I struggle with her personal care. But I was always told to just get over it as it is my responsively as her granddaughter. You know, the usual emotional manipulation. Anyways, the whole experience took a mental and physical toll on my family, and my uncle even extended his stay for an extra month.
Once he was back, I had a word with him and told him that I cannot do this again in the future so he needs to respect my boundaries. But sadly the term ‘boundaries’ does not exist in his dictionary. He had tried this again many times.
About 6 months ago, I was discussing this issue with my aunty (his sister). I just had rhinoplasty 6 months ago (nov 2023), and I’m still recovering and am very sensitive to smell, to the point where I feel nauseous. My aunty agreed to take care of my grandma if my uncle and his wife plan to go abroad again. She said she would ask him to hire a carer as my aunty can’t take care of my grandma 24/7.
A couple of days ago. My uncle told her that he is planning to travel for 3 months and he asked her, she completely backed out by making an excuse.
She advised my mum to take my grandma in. My mum is blind and also has health problems and I cannot take care of my grandma. My Aunty is aware of this, but that’s what she does all the time. She likes to give others unsolicited advice but never sticks to her own words. Now I understand it is not her responsibility. It is my uncle and his wife’s responsibility to arrange care as they are her legal guardians. But my Aunty did say she would take care of her and now she’s backing out and expecting my mum to do it. She has an adult daughter who always brags about her skills as a former care assistant. She always says she can take care of her better than anyone. But just like her mother, she is all talk. She has never taken care of my grandma (who is her maternal grandma) and she refuses to do so.
I’m just so sick and tired of taking others responsibility. I work full time I have no time for this and I am also not capable of doing personal care which I have mentioned like a million times to them.
My grandmas condition has deteriorated and she needs care 24/7. Her bedroom is designed to fit her needs she cannot stay over somewhere else. But they expect my family to move on temporarily until they come back.
TL;DR: My aunty backed out from taking care of her mother whilst my uncle is away
2024.05.13 23:40 Double-Comfortable-3 Does my mom hate me for being trans?
My parents ignore that I am trans. Now, my dad tries sometimes but fails a lot, so we are mostly going to talk about my mom. I found out that I was trans in early 2021 and came out in October 2023 to my best friend, my school, and my parents. My school was very supportive, and all the cis head boys in my class tried their best at remembering and using my right pronouns: he/him (which was surprising). But my mom kind of laughed at me when I told her that I was trans. When she sees a trans person, she uses the right pronouns for them and calls them by their preferred name. But when I heard her talk to her friend about me coming out, she said that I was just confused and in a phase. And that really hurts. Why does she support every trans person except me, her own son? She also purposely started calling me girl nicknames, and before I came out and she introduced me to others, she said: 'This is -deadname-.' But now she says on purpose: 'This is my daughter.' She thinks that I just woke up one day and was like: 'Wow, I am trans now.' But that is not it. When I was 10, I remember I wanted to be a boy, and that feeling never left. I finally found out that I was trans and that there were other people like me. When I finally, after 2 years, got the courage to tell her, it felt like she grabbed a knife and stabbed me right in my back. It's been almost 2 years now, and she still ignores it. The worst part is that she is an amazing mom. I can wear whatever I want and cut and dye my hair however I want. When I do something she doesn't like, she will tell me but won't stop me. She's amazing, and that's what hurts the most. It's hard to explain, but I feel betrayed. Does she really love me, or is it all fake? When I told her I wanted to be called Finn, she laughed in my face. And when I ran upstairs and started crying, she hugged me and said that she loved me and also started crying. WTF, you just laughed in my face and called me stupid, and now you're crying because I want to change my name. I don't know what to do, and I hope she will realize that I am really trans. I can't wait to get out of this shithole."
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2024.05.13 23:39 Eyesalwaysopened Used Car Report: Buying Around The Neighborhood
Hi all, hey all.
I’m back. With my report that I promised.
And lol, was it a shit storm, and honestly? I’m extremely disappointed. It’s not that I didn’t expect it, but I wasn’t expecting it to be this bad.
So a quick rundown;
The used car market is a hit/miss game. That’s part of the fun, and for many, I’ll still recommend a used car. Better to own then to have your car towed away by the repo guys, or need to limit your driving by experience because it’s a lease.
However; the used car market at the moment is overpriced and full of junk.
From my experience checking cars this weekend in the neighborhood/around the surrounding neighborhoods, it’s clear people are passing off shit cars for the price of good ones.
It’s also clear that people were skipping maintaining their cars during the Covid years and are now selling ticking time-bombs.
All in, I checked about 13 cars and out of them, 4 were in pretty good shape but were overpriced. My favorite was a 2006 Honda Accord in great shape, and a wonderful interior inside and out. However, with 350k miles and needing new tires, asking $7000 was ridiculous. This would have been a $1000 car pre-Covid. I was picking some up, alongside some Hyundai Sonatas for $500-$600 pre-Covid to fix for my students. Same cars are demanding $5000+. Absolutely insane.
To keep this already long post from becoming a novel, I’ll give you all a quick rundown on the worse offenders and what to look out for.
(2002 Subaru Forester-Asking $6000)
Low mileage-75,720
Asked the typical questions: Are you the first owner? (No, second owner. Had it for 4 years.)
How much do you driven it? That’s really low!
(You know, it was my daughter’s car, she got a new one, I’m selling it for her. She only drove it to school and home. LIU Post To Woodside. Like 4 times a week for the years she’s owned it.)
Okay cool, so like 30k miles give or take in 4 years. Do you happen to know the mileage you brought the car at? (No, I forgot! Sorry!)
It’s okay, can I have the VIN? I just want to pull up the report and we can work on a price. (Why do you need it? It’s like the social of the car. It’s a great car, no accidents and I need it gone. Why so many questions?)
I need to know the car records and history. Mileage is low, and that’s unusual for this year and make. I’ll be quick and I’ll give you a free copy, no charge.
-at this point, the seller is still hesitant but eventually let me get it. The car mileage was indeed rolled back. When they purchased it, it was at 218k miles. There were also 3 reported accidents. Twice with the original owner and once with them. This was almost a dead giveaway since I could see work was done on the back of the car because the body was slightly misaligned. Wouldn’t you now it, rear end damage reporting in an injury. At this point, seller said I was wasting their time and left angrily saying I was lying.
The lesson to take here is to look at the body of the car. If the car body seems misaligned or the paint seems off, ask about any accidents or body work done.
If the year is older but the mileage seems low, make sure to see if the car had the mileage rolled back.
If the buyer is hesitant about allowing you the have the VIN, this is a huge red flag. This will allow you much more information about the car and its a must if you’re buying.
My next favorite is the $10k cars I see lining Astoria, Woodside, Sunnyside and beyond. I’ve been seeing them floating for years and always avoided them. I tended to avoid the “street dealers.” Wannabe car dealers without a shop, operating out of street parking they occupy endlessly.
I asked to check 3 cars and before I went, I asked to see the titles. I asked if they had clean titles. I was told yes. They were not. All 3 were savaged titles. 2 had mismatched mileage. No point in checking more.
Here, the lesson to learn is if you see different cars with similar signs and prices, it’s a “street dealer” and they’re selling most auction cars, mostly from PA. Avoid, you’ll mostly find lemons and you’ll regret it.
Lastly, let me cover a good car, and one I did end up picking up.
(2010 Honda CR-V -Asking $7500)
Mileage sitting at 220k.
Interior was clean, other than a worn drivers seat. Cloth seating, but easily cleaned with a good steam cleaner.
Extremely well maintained exterior, with a minor bump on the bumper. Looks like they hit a fire hydrant backing up at some point. So common you’ll quickly figure what it looks like haha.
Check engine light on. I appreciate the seller telling me about it immediately. No clue why. Within a few seconds I figured out why: faulty oxygen sensor. Easy fix, and not a big issue.
Tires have life on them and no major rust on the underbody. Amazing for a car up here. Ask about it; car came from Texas. That would explain it.
Only problem here was the price. I know if this guys brings it in to a dealer, he’s getting $2-4k tops, if he’s lucky. Selling privately will get you more money, but I need a fair price.
I explain this to him, point out the cost of the repair at a mechanic, and the value of the car. Offer him $3200 cash; we settle at $3300 and a beer. I’ll take it.
My student walked away with a new car, I’ll fix the sensor myself later this week and everyone leaves happy.
Now, deals like this will happen. But not often. You’ll have to hit the pavement and find them.
However, remember the tips I included here.
Remember not to overpay for a used car.
Do your research and don’t get caught holding a lemon.
Calling your insurance company before any purchase to understand the cost.
Do not get pressured by the seller.
Be respectful as a buyer and walk away if neither side can agree. It happens.
And all the best shopping! Please post any questions here! I’ll try my best to answer them!
I’m a college professor, not a mechanic, but I was lucky enough to spend my weekends in the garbage learning as a teenager. I didn’t have a dad around, and didn’t want to be helpless to my own kids in the future, not knowing how to help them with their cars.
submitted by Eyesalwaysopened to astoria [link] [comments]
I’m back. With my report that I promised.
And lol, was it a shit storm, and honestly? I’m extremely disappointed. It’s not that I didn’t expect it, but I wasn’t expecting it to be this bad.
So a quick rundown;
The used car market is a hit/miss game. That’s part of the fun, and for many, I’ll still recommend a used car. Better to own then to have your car towed away by the repo guys, or need to limit your driving by experience because it’s a lease.
However; the used car market at the moment is overpriced and full of junk.
From my experience checking cars this weekend in the neighborhood/around the surrounding neighborhoods, it’s clear people are passing off shit cars for the price of good ones.
It’s also clear that people were skipping maintaining their cars during the Covid years and are now selling ticking time-bombs.
All in, I checked about 13 cars and out of them, 4 were in pretty good shape but were overpriced. My favorite was a 2006 Honda Accord in great shape, and a wonderful interior inside and out. However, with 350k miles and needing new tires, asking $7000 was ridiculous. This would have been a $1000 car pre-Covid. I was picking some up, alongside some Hyundai Sonatas for $500-$600 pre-Covid to fix for my students. Same cars are demanding $5000+. Absolutely insane.
To keep this already long post from becoming a novel, I’ll give you all a quick rundown on the worse offenders and what to look out for.
(2002 Subaru Forester-Asking $6000)
Low mileage-75,720
Asked the typical questions: Are you the first owner? (No, second owner. Had it for 4 years.)
How much do you driven it? That’s really low!
(You know, it was my daughter’s car, she got a new one, I’m selling it for her. She only drove it to school and home. LIU Post To Woodside. Like 4 times a week for the years she’s owned it.)
Okay cool, so like 30k miles give or take in 4 years. Do you happen to know the mileage you brought the car at? (No, I forgot! Sorry!)
It’s okay, can I have the VIN? I just want to pull up the report and we can work on a price. (Why do you need it? It’s like the social of the car. It’s a great car, no accidents and I need it gone. Why so many questions?)
I need to know the car records and history. Mileage is low, and that’s unusual for this year and make. I’ll be quick and I’ll give you a free copy, no charge.
-at this point, the seller is still hesitant but eventually let me get it. The car mileage was indeed rolled back. When they purchased it, it was at 218k miles. There were also 3 reported accidents. Twice with the original owner and once with them. This was almost a dead giveaway since I could see work was done on the back of the car because the body was slightly misaligned. Wouldn’t you now it, rear end damage reporting in an injury. At this point, seller said I was wasting their time and left angrily saying I was lying.
The lesson to take here is to look at the body of the car. If the car body seems misaligned or the paint seems off, ask about any accidents or body work done.
If the year is older but the mileage seems low, make sure to see if the car had the mileage rolled back.
If the buyer is hesitant about allowing you the have the VIN, this is a huge red flag. This will allow you much more information about the car and its a must if you’re buying.
My next favorite is the $10k cars I see lining Astoria, Woodside, Sunnyside and beyond. I’ve been seeing them floating for years and always avoided them. I tended to avoid the “street dealers.” Wannabe car dealers without a shop, operating out of street parking they occupy endlessly.
I asked to check 3 cars and before I went, I asked to see the titles. I asked if they had clean titles. I was told yes. They were not. All 3 were savaged titles. 2 had mismatched mileage. No point in checking more.
Here, the lesson to learn is if you see different cars with similar signs and prices, it’s a “street dealer” and they’re selling most auction cars, mostly from PA. Avoid, you’ll mostly find lemons and you’ll regret it.
Lastly, let me cover a good car, and one I did end up picking up.
(2010 Honda CR-V -Asking $7500)
Mileage sitting at 220k.
Interior was clean, other than a worn drivers seat. Cloth seating, but easily cleaned with a good steam cleaner.
Extremely well maintained exterior, with a minor bump on the bumper. Looks like they hit a fire hydrant backing up at some point. So common you’ll quickly figure what it looks like haha.
Check engine light on. I appreciate the seller telling me about it immediately. No clue why. Within a few seconds I figured out why: faulty oxygen sensor. Easy fix, and not a big issue.
Tires have life on them and no major rust on the underbody. Amazing for a car up here. Ask about it; car came from Texas. That would explain it.
Only problem here was the price. I know if this guys brings it in to a dealer, he’s getting $2-4k tops, if he’s lucky. Selling privately will get you more money, but I need a fair price.
I explain this to him, point out the cost of the repair at a mechanic, and the value of the car. Offer him $3200 cash; we settle at $3300 and a beer. I’ll take it.
My student walked away with a new car, I’ll fix the sensor myself later this week and everyone leaves happy.
Now, deals like this will happen. But not often. You’ll have to hit the pavement and find them.
However, remember the tips I included here.
Remember not to overpay for a used car.
Do your research and don’t get caught holding a lemon.
Calling your insurance company before any purchase to understand the cost.
Do not get pressured by the seller.
Be respectful as a buyer and walk away if neither side can agree. It happens.
And all the best shopping! Please post any questions here! I’ll try my best to answer them!
I’m a college professor, not a mechanic, but I was lucky enough to spend my weekends in the garbage learning as a teenager. I didn’t have a dad around, and didn’t want to be helpless to my own kids in the future, not knowing how to help them with their cars.
2024.05.13 23:38 ThaBiGGDoGG Kat Ocean Chat On Discord (I Already Removed Mine After She Stopped Talking)
April 2, 2024
katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:15 PM
I have a few contacts now via twitter.
[6:16 PM]
I just love people who are all about saying fuck the establishment. To a degree.
[6:16 PM]
Wow!
[6:17 PM]
I got one that is banned permanently. Then a throw away one. And then my main one im vocal on
katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:23 PM
Oh YOU ARE BLUE BALLS SECURITY?!?!
[6:23 PM]
Lmaooooo
[6:24 PM]
[6:25 PM]
Damn there alll out early today. Now Jess is live
[6:26 PM]
Absolutely!
katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:34 PM
Awee shucks, well its been a nice distraction
[6:34 PM]
Who do you think is your favorite streamer of the Squirrels to watch?
katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:45 PM
It was. A long but fun day
[6:47 PM]
But my stupid ex made me go out the night before and up till like 3AM. I was pissed.
[6:48 PM]
So I just rolled out of bed at like 1230-1 and uber down
[6:48 PM]
No make up or anything and threw comfys on and dipped
[6:48 PM]
Well thank you. I was a hot mess express
[6:49 PM]
5'7
katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:52 PM
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:05 PM
Big plans for tonight?
[7:12 PM]
Watching the streamers! I just made it on Jess' poster! Shes putting all our names on her poster
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:28 PM
STOPPPP
[7:29 PM]
Where was that???
[7:29 PM]
Aweee shucks stopppp
[7:32 PM]
Danks
[7:34 PM]
Did DOA say he was coming back?
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:36 PM
Ahhh okay. Ill just stick on Jess' live for now
[7:40 PM]
Why??
[7:42 PM]
I try and not to be a rude person. I like engaging in conversations with people
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:44 PM
Your boy just went live
[7:48 PM]
Ill head over cause jess is just writing names on her poster lol
[7:48 PM]
Shoot streets is live
[7:48 PM]
And yellin at the 5-0
[7:48 PM]
Gotta watch that
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:59 PM
Wow
[7:59 PM]
UNDER CONTROL
katocean. — 04/02/2024 8:15 PM
Nah.
[8:15 PM]
I dont have much of an appetite
[8:16 PM]
But Chris' chipotle does look good but Im always disappointed when I get it. Plus Im saving every nickel and dime I have right now. So deff not ordering out or anything for a while.
[8:19 PM]
What do you know how to make besides pizza?!?!
[8:19 PM]
Lol
[8:21 PM]
Meatloaf
[8:21 PM]
Spaghetti good
[8:21 PM]
Chicken long as its well done lol
katocean. — 04/02/2024 8:22 PM
Hahaha im picky and get weird food adversions. I like everything fully cooked and well done
katocean. — 04/02/2024 8:47 PM
Ruhhh rooh!
[8:49 PM]
Its just starting to sleet / snow over here
[8:49 PM]
And my dog wont stop bothering me to go out. Im like ANNA PUP HUSH YOU DONT NEED TO POTTY EVERY HR
1
April 3, 2024
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:38 AM
Sorry I fell asleep so early last night
[7:40 AM]
Thank you! Just woke up, its deff snowing but not much yet
[7:41 AM]
Yay for April! And snow! You never know what youre gonna get in the midwest
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:47 AM
No I applied for an apartment yesterday so hoping to hear back today... applying for another one today. Thats about it. Im temp staying in Wisconsin at my moms. Trying to return to work next week
[7:47 AM]
How about you??
[7:52 AM]
We both live such exciting lives right now
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:55 AM
How? My life is so messed up right now. I cant wait to get back to normalcy soon. Back in my own place, working, my daily routine etc
[7:57 AM]
[7:57 AM]
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:12 AM
Whose that?
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:24 AM
Ewww
[8:24 AM]
Omg
[8:24 AM]
Lord
[8:24 AM]
Stop
[8:24 AM]
Wtf
[8:24 AM]
I look like a night crawler
[8:31 AM]
Gah idk what you're definition of beautiful is but that is NOT it
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:33 AM
Wtfff lmao. That girl was NOT PLAYIN WITH YA
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:53 AM
Boy you and your pizza I like plain cheese but a GOOD and mean has to be good, bacon, chicken, bbq hits every once in a while
katocean. — 04/03/2024 9:15 AM
Ewww
[9:15 AM]
No
[9:15 AM]
I dont even like hot dogs.
katocean. — 04/03/2024 9:24 AM
Apple duh
[9:24 AM]
You're probably an android weirdo
[9:24 AM]
K bye
[9:30 AM]
katocean. — 04/03/2024 9:58 AM
I dont really drink pop but If I do it has to be coke. I used to like pepsi then I went to Europe and they only had coke... so then bam I made the switch ever since
katocean. — 04/03/2024 11:07 AM
Mmm I guess horror. I prefer documentaries, war movies especially about WW2, Drama, biographical movies, etc
[11:08 AM]
I'm more of a serious person with a purpose
katocean. — 04/03/2024 2:22 PM
Im just annoyed AF
[2:23 PM]
The application process for these two places are driving me up the fucking wall
[2:23 PM]
Its easier to buy a fucking gun then it is to apply for an apartment
[2:23 PM]
And im just beyond livid right now
[2:23 PM]
All I want to do is cry
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:05 PM
Do you have a million dollars you can send me? That would be helpful, okay Ill take 100k... i wont be greedy
[3:05 PM]
Thank you
[3:06 PM]
I want to go home so badly. I want nothing to do with my ex. I dont even want to see him but I want to be back in my "home" until I have somewhere of my own again
[3:06 PM]
I hate that all my stuff is still there, that im at my moms
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:31 PM
You have a better mind set then me
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:38 PM
Karma works too slow for me
[3:38 PM]
And never seems to happen
[3:40 PM]
Damn lol
[3:40 PM]
Or did YOU break it?!?! Lmao
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:50 PM
Oh lord I dont want to get into politics. But I am NOT a Trumper. I will say that. I'm a pretty liberal activists and wouldnt be a social worker if I wasnt. But I will say, from a fiscal standpoint I am more conservative as I got older & on my own. And I do recognize that we do better as an economy usually when a republican is president. But thats all Im gonna say about that
[3:52 PM]
Oh god I know. I wish we didnt have to go through these two bafoons again. I want new fresh faces, younger faces with progressive ideas. But I pretty much hate both sides at this moment in time and govt in general
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:57 PM
Agree
[3:58 PM]
Im about to be in therapy for the next hr so my lack of responses will be why
katocean. — 04/03/2024 6:04 PM
I know I just sped through his stream and caught up. Im worried they are keeping his phones and computer and fur coat. Cause the officer is like "for further investigation"
katocean. — 04/03/2024 6:26 PM
Just relaxing. Contemplating if Im going to eat dinner or not.
katocean. — 04/03/2024 6:44 PM
No way sir
[6:44 PM]
Im in a depression funk
[6:46 PM]
I can give you my instagram if you want
[6:46 PM]
But deff no selfies right now
katocean. — 04/03/2024 6:52 PM
You can find it idk how to link it
[6:52 PM]
Still have all my pictures with my ex tho
[6:52 PM]
Just havent felt like deleting yet
[6:53 PM]
Also please if you see him tagged dont message him or anything. Even if you think thats being helpful.
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:06 PM
No bueno
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:20 PM
No bueno = No good
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:38 PM
Thank you
April 4, 2024
katocean. — 04/04/2024 9:12 AM
Morning, thank you. You as well
katocean. — 04/04/2024 11:54 AM
Go to St. Louis Scientology Squirrel right now
[11:54 AM]
Shes in the St louis org
[11:54 AM]
Under cover live
[11:54 AM]
Recording
[11:54 AM]
But keep it on the DL. We dont want to many people knowing
[11:55 AM]
On YY
[11:55 AM]
Yt**
[11:55 AM]
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:06 PM
No but it was great. Cant wait for the full replay to be posted
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:14 PM
My mom informed me she had the book back in the 70s and her & her first husband read it. And thought it was "interesting"... I'm like omg... I could have became a sciento! Thank god it was just a dabble into the book and nothing more
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:22 PM
Oh god
[12:22 PM]
Probably one I hate
[12:22 PM]
Oh and to answer your question earlier... yes, I want to move to the PNW badly. Thats my dream
[12:22 PM]
[12:25 PM]
Pshhh i know why its your favorite picture... creepy old men lol
[12:25 PM]
But I did post it as a thirst trap sorta bahahaha
[12:25 PM]
I've lost nearly 80lbs this last year
[12:26 PM]
I always was skinny but the last 5-6 years I put sooo much weight on. I got up to 210 and now down to like 130
[12:27 PM]
Which is great. But id love for other parts of my life to fall in place so i can just be happy overall
[12:27 PM]
Do you try and work out? Or anything?
[12:27 PM]
Maybe LESS pizza XXXXX! Lol
[12:27 PM]
Jk
[12:28 PM]
Have you talked with your doctor on getting on like Wegovy or Ozempic? Do you have insurance?
[12:28 PM]
It was a life saver for me
[12:28 PM]
Yeah fool. I found ur fb too. XXXXX XXXXX
[12:28 PM]
[12:29 PM]
I gotta know who im randomly talking to
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:29 PM
But you have nothing besides memes and rando pictures that i can see and emoji bits or whatever lmao
[12:30 PM]
Get yourself on like Tinder or Bumble or Ok Cupid or somethin!
[12:30 PM]
But you deff have to have pictures
[12:31 PM]
I dont know. Im not in any place to give dating advice. I cant even fathom doing that at all right now. Im just ready to be single and build myself back up.
[12:31 PM]
Sheesh
[12:31 PM]
Im sorry
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:37 PM
What do you think the issue is? Like not placing blame on you or anything... but when you do a deep dive into yourself what issues or things do you think makes it hard for a women to want to pursue anything further with you?
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:53 PM
The snap chat thing is a little creepy IMO
[12:53 PM]
So Im not surprised you arent getting much traction from that
[12:53 PM]
Yeah not having a car is a huge hinderance
katocean. — 04/04/2024 1:11 PM
No. My mom does alll the time. Shes actually watching it right now lmao. I find them cheesy AF. Ha. One of my ex's & cousin are extras in those show allll the time
katocean. — 04/04/2024 1:22 PM
Only medical show I can watch is Greys Anatomy. And its because Ive been watching it since I was 16... and just cant give it up. 19 almost 20 years now.
[1:22 PM]
And I was and like "oh god this would never happen IRL" lmao
[1:23 PM]
Its the story lines for me of the characters. Not necessarily the medical aspects and patients.
katocean. — 04/04/2024 1:31 PM
I dont watch the Good doctor. I watched like 2 episodes when it first came out and I couldnt get past his insane autistic melt downs
[1:31 PM]
Lmao Im an asshole
[1:32 PM]
Cute what?
[1:34 PM]
Lets see how fast Sciento dad blocks me
katocean. — 04/04/2024 1:41 PM
Oh fuck me
[1:42 PM]
Probably Kathy hopefully
[1:42 PM]
And not Kathleen lol
katocean. — 04/04/2024 2:07 PM
No
[2:07 PM]
Lol
katocean. — 04/04/2024 2:31 PM
Lol!
[2:31 PM]
Me and Scientology twitter back at it right now
[2:31 PM]
[2:31 PM]
I love the attempting gaslighting
[2:33 PM]
Hahaha i love toying with these little fuckers
katocean. — 04/04/2024 2:48 PM
katocean. — 04/04/2024 3:18 PM
No thank you
[3:18 PM]
Maybe 5-10 years ago
katocean. — 04/04/2024 7:19 PM
Hey I took a really long afternoon nap just woke up
[7:20 PM]
Lol
katocean. — 04/04/2024 7:28 PM
Probably like a deep purple
katocean. — 04/04/2024 7:38 PM
Yeah pretty close
katocean. — 04/04/2024 9:30 PM
No
[9:30 PM]
Lol
[9:30 PM]
Sorry
April 5, 2024
katocean. — 04/05/2024 8:31 AM
Sleeping, Ive been going to sleep early these days by like 9-10 ish or so
[8:32 AM]
Honestly, right now, I wake up wait for the day to go by just so I can go to sleep
[8:32 AM]
Im contemplating on returning to work next Tuesday
[8:37 AM]
I wish
katocean. — 04/05/2024 8:52 AM
Basically between 1,300-1,400 fml
[8:52 AM]
All 1 bedroom, 1 bath
[8:52 AM]
Sucks
katocean. — 04/05/2024 10:19 AM
Oh wow
[10:19 AM]
What kind of jobs do you do?
[10:19 AM]
What does your daughter do for work? Did you finish college with a degree or nah?
[10:24 AM]
How do you bring in any income, if you don't mind me asking? Are you on like disability?
[10:25 AM]
Like surveys?
katocean. — 04/05/2024 10:27 AM
Ahhh okay just curious
[10:27 AM]
You gotta get on that and get that money
[10:33 AM]
My favorite up and coming person right now is HonestAv
[10:33 AM]
https://open.spotify.com/album/11ZfrqRpeCnGBAbJ8e50kH?si=E9lWAq4mTTibq7p9Yo25EA
[10:33 AM]
I relate to his songs so much
katocean. — 04/05/2024 10:34 AM
Nah but his songs and lyrics are so relatable
[10:40 AM]
Ha. Im conservative. No more thirst traps.
katocean. — 04/05/2024 11:01 AM
Aweee thats nice of her for something so simple
[11:01 AM]
My ex is my age
katocean. — 04/05/2024 4:32 PM
Awee sorry to hear about your gmas cat, hope its ok!!
katocean. — 04/05/2024 7:08 PM
Ha
[7:09 PM]
I put in a few more inquiries. I do have a back up plan for May though.
katocean. — 04/05/2024 7:20 PM
HOT
[7:20 PM]
hahahahah
April 6, 2024
ThaBiGGDoGG — 04/06/2024 3:34 PM
Not sure what I did that made you upset. I wish you lots of luck with what you are dealing with. I'm always here if you wanna talk.
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katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:15 PM
I have a few contacts now via twitter.
[6:16 PM]
I just love people who are all about saying fuck the establishment. To a degree.
[6:16 PM]
Wow!
[6:17 PM]
I got one that is banned permanently. Then a throw away one. And then my main one im vocal on
katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:23 PM
Oh YOU ARE BLUE BALLS SECURITY?!?!
[6:23 PM]
Lmaooooo
[6:24 PM]
[6:25 PM]
Damn there alll out early today. Now Jess is live
[6:26 PM]
Absolutely!
katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:34 PM
Awee shucks, well its been a nice distraction
[6:34 PM]
Who do you think is your favorite streamer of the Squirrels to watch?
katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:45 PM
It was. A long but fun day
[6:47 PM]
But my stupid ex made me go out the night before and up till like 3AM. I was pissed.
[6:48 PM]
So I just rolled out of bed at like 1230-1 and uber down
[6:48 PM]
No make up or anything and threw comfys on and dipped
[6:48 PM]
Well thank you. I was a hot mess express
[6:49 PM]
5'7
katocean. — 04/02/2024 6:52 PM
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:05 PM
Big plans for tonight?
[7:12 PM]
Watching the streamers! I just made it on Jess' poster! Shes putting all our names on her poster
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:28 PM
STOPPPP
[7:29 PM]
Where was that???
[7:29 PM]
Aweee shucks stopppp
[7:32 PM]
Danks
[7:34 PM]
Did DOA say he was coming back?
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:36 PM
Ahhh okay. Ill just stick on Jess' live for now
[7:40 PM]
Why??
[7:42 PM]
I try and not to be a rude person. I like engaging in conversations with people
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:44 PM
Your boy just went live
[7:48 PM]
Ill head over cause jess is just writing names on her poster lol
[7:48 PM]
Shoot streets is live
[7:48 PM]
And yellin at the 5-0
[7:48 PM]
Gotta watch that
katocean. — 04/02/2024 7:59 PM
Wow
[7:59 PM]
UNDER CONTROL
katocean. — 04/02/2024 8:15 PM
Nah.
[8:15 PM]
I dont have much of an appetite
[8:16 PM]
But Chris' chipotle does look good but Im always disappointed when I get it. Plus Im saving every nickel and dime I have right now. So deff not ordering out or anything for a while.
[8:19 PM]
What do you know how to make besides pizza?!?!
[8:19 PM]
Lol
[8:21 PM]
Meatloaf
[8:21 PM]
Spaghetti good
[8:21 PM]
Chicken long as its well done lol
katocean. — 04/02/2024 8:22 PM
Hahaha im picky and get weird food adversions. I like everything fully cooked and well done
katocean. — 04/02/2024 8:47 PM
Ruhhh rooh!
[8:49 PM]
Its just starting to sleet / snow over here
[8:49 PM]
And my dog wont stop bothering me to go out. Im like ANNA PUP HUSH YOU DONT NEED TO POTTY EVERY HR
1
April 3, 2024
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:38 AM
Sorry I fell asleep so early last night
[7:40 AM]
Thank you! Just woke up, its deff snowing but not much yet
[7:41 AM]
Yay for April! And snow! You never know what youre gonna get in the midwest
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:47 AM
No I applied for an apartment yesterday so hoping to hear back today... applying for another one today. Thats about it. Im temp staying in Wisconsin at my moms. Trying to return to work next week
[7:47 AM]
How about you??
[7:52 AM]
We both live such exciting lives right now
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:55 AM
How? My life is so messed up right now. I cant wait to get back to normalcy soon. Back in my own place, working, my daily routine etc
[7:57 AM]
[7:57 AM]
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:12 AM
Whose that?
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:24 AM
Ewww
[8:24 AM]
Omg
[8:24 AM]
Lord
[8:24 AM]
Stop
[8:24 AM]
Wtf
[8:24 AM]
I look like a night crawler
[8:31 AM]
Gah idk what you're definition of beautiful is but that is NOT it
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:33 AM
Wtfff lmao. That girl was NOT PLAYIN WITH YA
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:53 AM
Boy you and your pizza I like plain cheese but a GOOD and mean has to be good, bacon, chicken, bbq hits every once in a while
katocean. — 04/03/2024 9:15 AM
Ewww
[9:15 AM]
No
[9:15 AM]
I dont even like hot dogs.
katocean. — 04/03/2024 9:24 AM
Apple duh
[9:24 AM]
You're probably an android weirdo
[9:24 AM]
K bye
[9:30 AM]
katocean. — 04/03/2024 9:58 AM
I dont really drink pop but If I do it has to be coke. I used to like pepsi then I went to Europe and they only had coke... so then bam I made the switch ever since
katocean. — 04/03/2024 11:07 AM
Mmm I guess horror. I prefer documentaries, war movies especially about WW2, Drama, biographical movies, etc
[11:08 AM]
I'm more of a serious person with a purpose
katocean. — 04/03/2024 2:22 PM
Im just annoyed AF
[2:23 PM]
The application process for these two places are driving me up the fucking wall
[2:23 PM]
Its easier to buy a fucking gun then it is to apply for an apartment
[2:23 PM]
And im just beyond livid right now
[2:23 PM]
All I want to do is cry
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:05 PM
Do you have a million dollars you can send me? That would be helpful, okay Ill take 100k... i wont be greedy
[3:05 PM]
Thank you
[3:06 PM]
I want to go home so badly. I want nothing to do with my ex. I dont even want to see him but I want to be back in my "home" until I have somewhere of my own again
[3:06 PM]
I hate that all my stuff is still there, that im at my moms
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:31 PM
You have a better mind set then me
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:38 PM
Karma works too slow for me
[3:38 PM]
And never seems to happen
[3:40 PM]
Damn lol
[3:40 PM]
Or did YOU break it?!?! Lmao
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:50 PM
Oh lord I dont want to get into politics. But I am NOT a Trumper. I will say that. I'm a pretty liberal activists and wouldnt be a social worker if I wasnt. But I will say, from a fiscal standpoint I am more conservative as I got older & on my own. And I do recognize that we do better as an economy usually when a republican is president. But thats all Im gonna say about that
[3:52 PM]
Oh god I know. I wish we didnt have to go through these two bafoons again. I want new fresh faces, younger faces with progressive ideas. But I pretty much hate both sides at this moment in time and govt in general
katocean. — 04/03/2024 3:57 PM
Agree
[3:58 PM]
Im about to be in therapy for the next hr so my lack of responses will be why
katocean. — 04/03/2024 6:04 PM
I know I just sped through his stream and caught up. Im worried they are keeping his phones and computer and fur coat. Cause the officer is like "for further investigation"
katocean. — 04/03/2024 6:26 PM
Just relaxing. Contemplating if Im going to eat dinner or not.
katocean. — 04/03/2024 6:44 PM
No way sir
[6:44 PM]
Im in a depression funk
[6:46 PM]
I can give you my instagram if you want
[6:46 PM]
But deff no selfies right now
katocean. — 04/03/2024 6:52 PM
You can find it idk how to link it
[6:52 PM]
Still have all my pictures with my ex tho
[6:52 PM]
Just havent felt like deleting yet
[6:53 PM]
Also please if you see him tagged dont message him or anything. Even if you think thats being helpful.
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:06 PM
No bueno
katocean. — 04/03/2024 7:20 PM
No bueno = No good
katocean. — 04/03/2024 8:38 PM
Thank you
April 4, 2024
katocean. — 04/04/2024 9:12 AM
Morning, thank you. You as well
katocean. — 04/04/2024 11:54 AM
Go to St. Louis Scientology Squirrel right now
[11:54 AM]
Shes in the St louis org
[11:54 AM]
Under cover live
[11:54 AM]
Recording
[11:54 AM]
But keep it on the DL. We dont want to many people knowing
[11:55 AM]
On YY
[11:55 AM]
Yt**
[11:55 AM]
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:06 PM
No but it was great. Cant wait for the full replay to be posted
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:14 PM
My mom informed me she had the book back in the 70s and her & her first husband read it. And thought it was "interesting"... I'm like omg... I could have became a sciento! Thank god it was just a dabble into the book and nothing more
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:22 PM
Oh god
[12:22 PM]
Probably one I hate
[12:22 PM]
Oh and to answer your question earlier... yes, I want to move to the PNW badly. Thats my dream
[12:22 PM]
[12:25 PM]
Pshhh i know why its your favorite picture... creepy old men lol
[12:25 PM]
But I did post it as a thirst trap sorta bahahaha
[12:25 PM]
I've lost nearly 80lbs this last year
[12:26 PM]
I always was skinny but the last 5-6 years I put sooo much weight on. I got up to 210 and now down to like 130
[12:27 PM]
Which is great. But id love for other parts of my life to fall in place so i can just be happy overall
[12:27 PM]
Do you try and work out? Or anything?
[12:27 PM]
Maybe LESS pizza XXXXX! Lol
[12:27 PM]
Jk
[12:28 PM]
Have you talked with your doctor on getting on like Wegovy or Ozempic? Do you have insurance?
[12:28 PM]
It was a life saver for me
[12:28 PM]
Yeah fool. I found ur fb too. XXXXX XXXXX
[12:28 PM]
[12:29 PM]
I gotta know who im randomly talking to
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:29 PM
But you have nothing besides memes and rando pictures that i can see and emoji bits or whatever lmao
[12:30 PM]
Get yourself on like Tinder or Bumble or Ok Cupid or somethin!
[12:30 PM]
But you deff have to have pictures
[12:31 PM]
I dont know. Im not in any place to give dating advice. I cant even fathom doing that at all right now. Im just ready to be single and build myself back up.
[12:31 PM]
Sheesh
[12:31 PM]
Im sorry
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:37 PM
What do you think the issue is? Like not placing blame on you or anything... but when you do a deep dive into yourself what issues or things do you think makes it hard for a women to want to pursue anything further with you?
katocean. — 04/04/2024 12:53 PM
The snap chat thing is a little creepy IMO
[12:53 PM]
So Im not surprised you arent getting much traction from that
[12:53 PM]
Yeah not having a car is a huge hinderance
katocean. — 04/04/2024 1:11 PM
No. My mom does alll the time. Shes actually watching it right now lmao. I find them cheesy AF. Ha. One of my ex's & cousin are extras in those show allll the time
katocean. — 04/04/2024 1:22 PM
Only medical show I can watch is Greys Anatomy. And its because Ive been watching it since I was 16... and just cant give it up. 19 almost 20 years now.
[1:22 PM]
And I was and like "oh god this would never happen IRL" lmao
[1:23 PM]
Its the story lines for me of the characters. Not necessarily the medical aspects and patients.
katocean. — 04/04/2024 1:31 PM
I dont watch the Good doctor. I watched like 2 episodes when it first came out and I couldnt get past his insane autistic melt downs
[1:31 PM]
Lmao Im an asshole
[1:32 PM]
Cute what?
[1:34 PM]
Lets see how fast Sciento dad blocks me
katocean. — 04/04/2024 1:41 PM
Oh fuck me
[1:42 PM]
Probably Kathy hopefully
[1:42 PM]
And not Kathleen lol
katocean. — 04/04/2024 2:07 PM
No
[2:07 PM]
Lol
katocean. — 04/04/2024 2:31 PM
Lol!
[2:31 PM]
Me and Scientology twitter back at it right now
[2:31 PM]
[2:31 PM]
I love the attempting gaslighting
[2:33 PM]
Hahaha i love toying with these little fuckers
katocean. — 04/04/2024 2:48 PM
katocean. — 04/04/2024 3:18 PM
No thank you
[3:18 PM]
Maybe 5-10 years ago
katocean. — 04/04/2024 7:19 PM
Hey I took a really long afternoon nap just woke up
[7:20 PM]
Lol
katocean. — 04/04/2024 7:28 PM
Probably like a deep purple
katocean. — 04/04/2024 7:38 PM
Yeah pretty close
katocean. — 04/04/2024 9:30 PM
No
[9:30 PM]
Lol
[9:30 PM]
Sorry
April 5, 2024
katocean. — 04/05/2024 8:31 AM
Sleeping, Ive been going to sleep early these days by like 9-10 ish or so
[8:32 AM]
Honestly, right now, I wake up wait for the day to go by just so I can go to sleep
[8:32 AM]
Im contemplating on returning to work next Tuesday
[8:37 AM]
I wish
katocean. — 04/05/2024 8:52 AM
Basically between 1,300-1,400 fml
[8:52 AM]
All 1 bedroom, 1 bath
[8:52 AM]
Sucks
katocean. — 04/05/2024 10:19 AM
Oh wow
[10:19 AM]
What kind of jobs do you do?
[10:19 AM]
What does your daughter do for work? Did you finish college with a degree or nah?
[10:24 AM]
How do you bring in any income, if you don't mind me asking? Are you on like disability?
[10:25 AM]
Like surveys?
katocean. — 04/05/2024 10:27 AM
Ahhh okay just curious
[10:27 AM]
You gotta get on that and get that money
[10:33 AM]
My favorite up and coming person right now is HonestAv
[10:33 AM]
https://open.spotify.com/album/11ZfrqRpeCnGBAbJ8e50kH?si=E9lWAq4mTTibq7p9Yo25EA
[10:33 AM]
I relate to his songs so much
katocean. — 04/05/2024 10:34 AM
Nah but his songs and lyrics are so relatable
[10:40 AM]
Ha. Im conservative. No more thirst traps.
katocean. — 04/05/2024 11:01 AM
Aweee thats nice of her for something so simple
[11:01 AM]
My ex is my age
katocean. — 04/05/2024 4:32 PM
Awee sorry to hear about your gmas cat, hope its ok!!
katocean. — 04/05/2024 7:08 PM
Ha
[7:09 PM]
I put in a few more inquiries. I do have a back up plan for May though.
katocean. — 04/05/2024 7:20 PM
HOT
[7:20 PM]
hahahahah
April 6, 2024
ThaBiGGDoGG — 04/06/2024 3:34 PM
Not sure what I did that made you upset. I wish you lots of luck with what you are dealing with. I'm always here if you wanna talk.
2024.05.13 23:37 Own-Effort-8569 My aunty backed out from taking care of my grandma whilst my uncle is away
My uncle and his wife are my grandmother’s carers. She has Alzheimer’s. They are living off of her benefits and pension. My uncle left his job about 3 years ago, the reason he stated was to take care of my grandmother. His wife has never worked a day in her life. They took control over my grandma’s money when her memory deteriorated.
They buy expensive items and always go shopping and on weekly outings, all on her money. Basically they’re not good people.
So now they are planning to go abroad for a few months. They travelled abroad in 2021 and left my grandma at my parents house without even asking, just expecting things to be done their way like always. At that time, I had just quit my job at a nursing home. I have severe anxiety and ADHD. I live with my parents and brother in a 3 bedroom house. We had to move half of our things in my uncle’s house just to make room for my grandma. There was a lot going on. It was very difficult to take care of her. I had mentioned that I struggle with her personal care. But I was always told to just get over it as it is my responsively as her granddaughter. You know, the usual emotional manipulation. Anyways, the whole experience took a mental and physical toll on my family, and my uncle even extended his stay for an extra month.
Once he was back, I had a word with him and told him that I cannot do this again in the future so he needs to respect my boundaries. But sadly the term ‘boundaries’ does not exist in his dictionary. He had tried this again many times.
About 6 months ago, I was discussing this issue with my aunty (his sister). I just had rhinoplasty 6 months ago (nov 2023), and I’m still recovering and am very sensitive to smell, to the point where I feel nauseous. My aunty agreed to take care of my grandma if my uncle and his wife plan to go abroad again. She said she would ask him to hire a carer as my aunty can’t take care of my grandma 24/7.
A couple of days ago. My uncle told her that he is planning to travel for 3 months and he asked her, she completely backed out by making an excuse.
She advised my mum to take my grandma in. My mum is blind and also has health problems and I cannot take care of my grandma. My Aunty is aware of this, but that’s what she does all the time. She likes to give others unsolicited advice but never sticks to her own words. Now I understand it is not her responsibility. It is my uncle and his wife’s responsibility to arrange care as they are her legal guardians. But my Aunty did say she would take care of her and now she’s backing out and expecting my mum to do it. She has an adult daughter who always brags about her skills as a former care assistant. She always says she can take care of her better than anyone. But just like her mother, she is all talk. She has never taken care of my grandma (who is her maternal grandma) and she refuses to do so.
I’m just so sick and tired of taking others responsibility. I work full time I have no time for this and I am also not capable of doing personal care which I have mentioned like a million times to them.
My grandmas condition has deteriorated and she needs care 24/7. Her bedroom is designed to fit her needs she cannot stay over somewhere else. But they expect my family to move on temporarily until they come back.
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They buy expensive items and always go shopping and on weekly outings, all on her money. Basically they’re not good people.
So now they are planning to go abroad for a few months. They travelled abroad in 2021 and left my grandma at my parents house without even asking, just expecting things to be done their way like always. At that time, I had just quit my job at a nursing home. I have severe anxiety and ADHD. I live with my parents and brother in a 3 bedroom house. We had to move half of our things in my uncle’s house just to make room for my grandma. There was a lot going on. It was very difficult to take care of her. I had mentioned that I struggle with her personal care. But I was always told to just get over it as it is my responsively as her granddaughter. You know, the usual emotional manipulation. Anyways, the whole experience took a mental and physical toll on my family, and my uncle even extended his stay for an extra month.
Once he was back, I had a word with him and told him that I cannot do this again in the future so he needs to respect my boundaries. But sadly the term ‘boundaries’ does not exist in his dictionary. He had tried this again many times.
About 6 months ago, I was discussing this issue with my aunty (his sister). I just had rhinoplasty 6 months ago (nov 2023), and I’m still recovering and am very sensitive to smell, to the point where I feel nauseous. My aunty agreed to take care of my grandma if my uncle and his wife plan to go abroad again. She said she would ask him to hire a carer as my aunty can’t take care of my grandma 24/7.
A couple of days ago. My uncle told her that he is planning to travel for 3 months and he asked her, she completely backed out by making an excuse.
She advised my mum to take my grandma in. My mum is blind and also has health problems and I cannot take care of my grandma. My Aunty is aware of this, but that’s what she does all the time. She likes to give others unsolicited advice but never sticks to her own words. Now I understand it is not her responsibility. It is my uncle and his wife’s responsibility to arrange care as they are her legal guardians. But my Aunty did say she would take care of her and now she’s backing out and expecting my mum to do it. She has an adult daughter who always brags about her skills as a former care assistant. She always says she can take care of her better than anyone. But just like her mother, she is all talk. She has never taken care of my grandma (who is her maternal grandma) and she refuses to do so.
I’m just so sick and tired of taking others responsibility. I work full time I have no time for this and I am also not capable of doing personal care which I have mentioned like a million times to them.
My grandmas condition has deteriorated and she needs care 24/7. Her bedroom is designed to fit her needs she cannot stay over somewhere else. But they expect my family to move on temporarily until they come back.
2024.05.13 23:36 CatSpilledSpicedTea AITA for refusing to help my daughter after her husband's affair since she supported her mother's affair.
I was paying for my daughter's tuition when my ex had an affair. My daughter, Elena, was 22 at the time. She spouted off some BS about patriarchy. She wasn't upset with her mother at all.
In the five years since she has still not changed her stance. She seems to think that her mother cheating was some sort of protest vote against female enslavement.
My wife had a full time job. We had a cleaning lady. I did more than half the remaining chores. My ex was far from a slave.
Elena's husband left her after two years of marriage. No kids thank Christ. But, while Elena is employed full time her ex has like three times her income.
She is unable to maintain her lifestyle on her salary alone. My ex is currently in Australia for six months. So Elena called me.
I have maintained a cordial relationship with her but not much beyond that. She said that she is running through her savings and that she needs help while she figures out what to do.
I said I would be unable to assist her as my retirement had left me on a fixed income. She said that she knew how much my pension was and that I had savings beyond that. She pointed out that I just bought myself a $100,000 truck. I said that wasn't really her concern. But that I hoped her relationship righted itself.
She has been calling everyone to badmouth me. My family all knows how she feels about my divorce. My parents think she is their dumbest grandchild and that's saying a lot. Her brothers both asked me if I would help if she apologized. I said yes. They told her and her response was that she had nothing to apologize for.
I love the kid but her head needs a shake if she thinks I am going to help her out of a mess of her own making.
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In the five years since she has still not changed her stance. She seems to think that her mother cheating was some sort of protest vote against female enslavement.
My wife had a full time job. We had a cleaning lady. I did more than half the remaining chores. My ex was far from a slave.
Elena's husband left her after two years of marriage. No kids thank Christ. But, while Elena is employed full time her ex has like three times her income.
She is unable to maintain her lifestyle on her salary alone. My ex is currently in Australia for six months. So Elena called me.
I have maintained a cordial relationship with her but not much beyond that. She said that she is running through her savings and that she needs help while she figures out what to do.
I said I would be unable to assist her as my retirement had left me on a fixed income. She said that she knew how much my pension was and that I had savings beyond that. She pointed out that I just bought myself a $100,000 truck. I said that wasn't really her concern. But that I hoped her relationship righted itself.
She has been calling everyone to badmouth me. My family all knows how she feels about my divorce. My parents think she is their dumbest grandchild and that's saying a lot. Her brothers both asked me if I would help if she apologized. I said yes. They told her and her response was that she had nothing to apologize for.
I love the kid but her head needs a shake if she thinks I am going to help her out of a mess of her own making.
2024.05.13 23:35 RainInMyBr4in The disappearance of Fiona Sinnott
Fiona Sinnott was a 19 year old Irish woman who vanished after a night out in County Wexford on February 8th 1998. At the time of her disappearance, Fiona was a single mother to an 11 month old daughter, Emma.
The night of Sunday 8th started off normally and Fiona spent it socialising with her friends at Butler's Pub in Broadway, County Wexford which also happened to be close to her home. Her friends Nora, Joan and Martina all described Fiona as being in good spirts that night but did state that she kept complaining of a bad pain in her arm. Her friends and Garda later considered that this could have been related to a past relationship she had broken off. Fiona had suffered immense physical abuse at the hands of a former boyfriend and had hospitalised herself after being violently attacked on numerous occasions. Her injuries had included bruises to her face, bites to her legs, being beaten about the head and back and even a fractured jaw. She had confided in close friends details about these attacks but never filed any complaints against the perpetrator, a man from South Wexford. Despite this pain in her arm, however, Fiona seemed to be in good form and enjoyed a good night out with her friends. At one point, she called her brother Séamus and asked him to come down to the pub but he declined as he was tired after a long day at work. He later stated that he wondered if something had happened to Fiona while at the pub and had she contacted him as a way of seeking help. Either way, this was the last contact Fiona had with her family. At around midnight, Fiona decided to return home as the pain in her arm was causing her great discomfort. She asked her ex-boyfriend, a man by the name of Seán Carroll, if he could walk her home. Carroll was the father of Fiona's child and although their relationship had ended, they remained close and on good terms. He had been drinking alone at the premises and willingly agreed to walk her back to her home, which wasn't far from the pub. They left together shortly after midnight.
Fiona wasn't reported missing until February 18th, 9 days after she was last seen leaving the pub. Her family hadn't reported her missing sooner as she reportedly had a habit of traversing the country to visit people and would sometimes be without contact for several days at a time. However, after 9 days of silence, her family knew something was terribly wrong, especially as she hadn't contacted Sean's family, with whom she has a childcare arrangement, to collect her daughter. Her father, Pat, then filed a missing persons report. Seán was the first to be interviewed as he was the last person to see Fiona. He told Gardaí that he and Fiona had walked back to her home slowly as her pain was causing her immense discomfort. Upon entering her property, he offered her coffee but she declined and went immediately to bed. He slept on the sofa that night while she went to sleep in the upstairs bedroom. He awoke at 9am and went into Fiona's room where he woke her up and she had told him that she would be visiting the doctors in Bridgetown to see about her arm. Seán gave her some money and then left the house as his mother had arrived to collect him. She drove him home to Coddstown, two miles west of Broadway. He stated that when he left, Fiona was awake and sitting up in bed.
When Garda began to investigate Fiona's house in the hopes of finding clues, they were met with an unusual sight. According to a Gardaí officer, "Her house was immaculately cleaned, almost spotless. This was unusual for Fiona, especially as she had been suffering from arm pain before she disappeared. Her family told us that she was not house proud and she would have always had some mess lying around. Because of this, we don't believe Fiona tidied the house. We searched everywhere for clues but found nothing- everything had been painstakingly cleaned". Fiona's landlord also stated that because of her young daughter, anytime he went to visit the house it "always had bits and bobs scattered around". Fiona's neighbour's reported that in the days after her disappearance, numerous black bin bags appeared outside of her house. However, these had vanished by the time she was reported missing. Several weeks after her disappearance, a local farmer came forward to Garda and stated that while he had been tending to his cattle, he stumbled upon numerous bin bags dumped on his property and that when he opened them, he found numerous letters and documents addressed to Fiona Sinnott. Regretfully, he was unaware of her disappearance at the time and had burnt the bags as he believed it to be the result of fly tipping, something that was a big problem then.
Today, 26 years later, no trace of Fiona has ever been found. Shockingly, when her family attempted to erect a memorial plaque in 2008 close to the pub where she was last seen, it was destroyed the night before being unveiled and a second plaque was also destroyed a few months later. However, a third plaque remains to this day down by the harbour. Despite these setbacks, her family have not given up hope of finding her and bringing her home. They have stated that they know exactly who killed her but that the perpetrator now resides in mainland Europe. Garda have also stated they have a person of interest but, as the family stated, they no longer live in Ireland. In 2005, her case was upgraded to a murder enquiry. Some interesting information did come to light in recent years however, as a Garda information appeal resulted in someone coming forward and stating that on the night Fiona vanished, they had been driving along when they spotted a woman and a man matching her and Seán's description walking away from the direction of the pub. They also noted that two men, in their late teens/early 20's, appeared to be following them quite quickly. This witness statement has opened up new lines of thinking, including whether or not Fiona even made it home that night. However, unless a body is found or a confession is made, Fiona's family remain without answers and her disappearance remains unsolved.
Sources: https://m.sundayworld.com/news/irish-news/gardai-say-people-know-what-happened-to-fiona-sinnott-last-seen-25-years-ago-today/1754438002.html
https://www.irelandsvanishingtriangle.com/fiona-sinnott
'Missing' by Barry Cummins
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The night of Sunday 8th started off normally and Fiona spent it socialising with her friends at Butler's Pub in Broadway, County Wexford which also happened to be close to her home. Her friends Nora, Joan and Martina all described Fiona as being in good spirts that night but did state that she kept complaining of a bad pain in her arm. Her friends and Garda later considered that this could have been related to a past relationship she had broken off. Fiona had suffered immense physical abuse at the hands of a former boyfriend and had hospitalised herself after being violently attacked on numerous occasions. Her injuries had included bruises to her face, bites to her legs, being beaten about the head and back and even a fractured jaw. She had confided in close friends details about these attacks but never filed any complaints against the perpetrator, a man from South Wexford. Despite this pain in her arm, however, Fiona seemed to be in good form and enjoyed a good night out with her friends. At one point, she called her brother Séamus and asked him to come down to the pub but he declined as he was tired after a long day at work. He later stated that he wondered if something had happened to Fiona while at the pub and had she contacted him as a way of seeking help. Either way, this was the last contact Fiona had with her family. At around midnight, Fiona decided to return home as the pain in her arm was causing her great discomfort. She asked her ex-boyfriend, a man by the name of Seán Carroll, if he could walk her home. Carroll was the father of Fiona's child and although their relationship had ended, they remained close and on good terms. He had been drinking alone at the premises and willingly agreed to walk her back to her home, which wasn't far from the pub. They left together shortly after midnight.
Fiona wasn't reported missing until February 18th, 9 days after she was last seen leaving the pub. Her family hadn't reported her missing sooner as she reportedly had a habit of traversing the country to visit people and would sometimes be without contact for several days at a time. However, after 9 days of silence, her family knew something was terribly wrong, especially as she hadn't contacted Sean's family, with whom she has a childcare arrangement, to collect her daughter. Her father, Pat, then filed a missing persons report. Seán was the first to be interviewed as he was the last person to see Fiona. He told Gardaí that he and Fiona had walked back to her home slowly as her pain was causing her immense discomfort. Upon entering her property, he offered her coffee but she declined and went immediately to bed. He slept on the sofa that night while she went to sleep in the upstairs bedroom. He awoke at 9am and went into Fiona's room where he woke her up and she had told him that she would be visiting the doctors in Bridgetown to see about her arm. Seán gave her some money and then left the house as his mother had arrived to collect him. She drove him home to Coddstown, two miles west of Broadway. He stated that when he left, Fiona was awake and sitting up in bed.
When Garda began to investigate Fiona's house in the hopes of finding clues, they were met with an unusual sight. According to a Gardaí officer, "Her house was immaculately cleaned, almost spotless. This was unusual for Fiona, especially as she had been suffering from arm pain before she disappeared. Her family told us that she was not house proud and she would have always had some mess lying around. Because of this, we don't believe Fiona tidied the house. We searched everywhere for clues but found nothing- everything had been painstakingly cleaned". Fiona's landlord also stated that because of her young daughter, anytime he went to visit the house it "always had bits and bobs scattered around". Fiona's neighbour's reported that in the days after her disappearance, numerous black bin bags appeared outside of her house. However, these had vanished by the time she was reported missing. Several weeks after her disappearance, a local farmer came forward to Garda and stated that while he had been tending to his cattle, he stumbled upon numerous bin bags dumped on his property and that when he opened them, he found numerous letters and documents addressed to Fiona Sinnott. Regretfully, he was unaware of her disappearance at the time and had burnt the bags as he believed it to be the result of fly tipping, something that was a big problem then.
Today, 26 years later, no trace of Fiona has ever been found. Shockingly, when her family attempted to erect a memorial plaque in 2008 close to the pub where she was last seen, it was destroyed the night before being unveiled and a second plaque was also destroyed a few months later. However, a third plaque remains to this day down by the harbour. Despite these setbacks, her family have not given up hope of finding her and bringing her home. They have stated that they know exactly who killed her but that the perpetrator now resides in mainland Europe. Garda have also stated they have a person of interest but, as the family stated, they no longer live in Ireland. In 2005, her case was upgraded to a murder enquiry. Some interesting information did come to light in recent years however, as a Garda information appeal resulted in someone coming forward and stating that on the night Fiona vanished, they had been driving along when they spotted a woman and a man matching her and Seán's description walking away from the direction of the pub. They also noted that two men, in their late teens/early 20's, appeared to be following them quite quickly. This witness statement has opened up new lines of thinking, including whether or not Fiona even made it home that night. However, unless a body is found or a confession is made, Fiona's family remain without answers and her disappearance remains unsolved.
Sources: https://m.sundayworld.com/news/irish-news/gardai-say-people-know-what-happened-to-fiona-sinnott-last-seen-25-years-ago-today/1754438002.html
https://www.irelandsvanishingtriangle.com/fiona-sinnott
'Missing' by Barry Cummins
2024.05.13 23:34 outdoorjane I don’t like who I am after becoming a mom
I feel bad saying that. It makes me feel guilty. But if I’m being completely honest since becoming a mom I feel like a more anxiety-heightened, emotional, busier version of myself. I’m a new mom. My daughter turns 6 months today. I love her more than anything in the world, but my life has now just turned into an extension of hers. I have no time to do anything, my free time I use to clean up or restock baby items and get things ready for the week. Normal things that used to be so chill and fun are now so much harder and it’s more work to do it than anything and I kind of just don’t even want to do those things anymore- ex: go to someone’s house for dinner, go camping, go on a hike. (I do, because I force myself to, but god it would just be easier not to). All I do everyday is worry about her at daycare and how she’s doing there, what sickness she will get next, what her sleep will be like that night, etc etc etc. It’s like I am completely consumed by her and most days I have nothing left to give to anything else. Just feeling a little down about it and I guess in a sense mourning the person I was before her. I know this is my life now and I’ve accepted it, I just don’t love it.
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2024.05.13 23:34 Lapolamalu Review: Action Comics 593
 | I posted this on the DC sub a few days ago, but I thought this group would be interested too. submitted by Lapolamalu to superman [link] [comments] For those that are unaware, Action Comics 592 and 593 have a two part story featuring Big Barda, by John Byrne. The controversy occurs when Sleez, a post-Apokolips mind-controller, makes a sleazy video featuring Barda (under mind control) so that he can make some quick cash. Later, when Superman comes under his control, he starts to make one featuring Superman and Barda, but is interrupted by Mr. Miracle. I recently was reading through the Byrne Superman collection when I got to this storyline. I remembered hearing about the controversy, but couldn't imagine DC doing this story, so I was eager to find out exactly what happened. I admit that it is suggestive and ambiguous and you CAN assume that Sleez s*xually assaulted Big Barda. But you don't have to take it that way. First let me dispel the notion that Superman and Barda have sx (under the mind-control of Sleez). In 593, Grossman, the maker and distributor of sleazy videos, is upset because Superman can't act, is passionless, and has zero sx appeal. Sleez mentions that Superman is resisting his powers and realizes that: "Superman's strong moral fibre is making him resistant to my power!" Superman is shown (fully clothed) sitting upright on a bed with Barda (in an Apokolipian bikini) with his arms outstretch on her shoulders. Barda's hands are on his arms, so that she looks like she's been pushed back by Superman or that she's resisting him. Hard to say either way. Then Sleez redoubles his efforts to break Superman, and we see Superman's face straining and sweating as he fights off Sleez's mindcontrol. The next panel has he and Barda with their hands on the other's shoulders. Then we shift to Mr. Miracle's perspective where we see Supes and Barda kissing. Scott jumps through the window, disrupting the smooch, thinking: "Things are about to go TOO FAR down there." So it's clear nothing has happened beyond kissing. That's far enough, of course, the heroes definitely have a complaint, but that's far from a p*rno. The Barda tape is a little trickier, but let me lay out the case for taking it in a more PG-13 way: In 592 Sleez knocks out Barda using her Mega Rod and the next time we see them he's got her under his control. They are in a sewer and Barda is in heavy make-up and dressed in a skimpy ribbon garment. Sleez sits next to a boom box and is commanding her to dance for him. Barda manages to speak, which surprises him. He says, "You speak? Your strength of will is indeed great, daughter of Apokolips." Even though she's not able to resist him at the level of Superman, it's important to note that she can resist him to a degree. After Sleez gives her his backstory he takes her face in his hand and says, "Nothing can stand against me. Nothing!" and Barda says, "No... please... not again..." We don't see the tape, but we do see Oberon and Scott watching the tape in 593. Oberon notes that the production values are low, that it's filmed in a sewer and that he can hardly recognize Barda under that "awful make-up." Then Scott's and Oberon's faces look shocked. They could be shocked by imagining a p*rnographic activity, but all we know that happened is that Sleez made her dance in a skimpy outfit and gaudy make-up in a sewer. That's enough to shock Scott and Oberon, watching a daughter of Apokolips shake what her Granny gave her. Of course, it is ambiguous. Prnographic acts can be imagined. Perhaps Byrne intended to invoke prnographic acts to the adult readers while making it safe for the younger readers. I don't actually know. But I do know that the comic book doesn't actually go there. I don't think you can argue anything more than kissing happened with Superman and you don't have to assume that Barda was r*ped. She certainly doesn't respond that way afterwards. She describes Sleez's perceived suicide as "a trifle frustrating." So if you think more happened, you also have to think Barda considers her rapist's suicide "a trifle frustrating" which is more ruinous to her character than anything Byrne did. |