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The most interesting subreddit about things you're not interested in. Come here for writeups about drama in various hobbies, interests, and fandoms over the years.
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2012.05.30 01:33 /r/TotalDrama - Discuss Total Drama, the Ridonculous Race, and Total Dramarama

A subreddit to talk about the Canadian cartoon franchise, Total Drama, its spin offs (DramaRama & the Ridonculous Race) as well as any related works such as Disventure Camp. Remember that posts related to the 2023 reboot and/or Disventure seasons must be spoiler tagged.
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2010.09.08 16:57 locuester Internet Drama

A place to linking to and discussing drama that occurs anywhere on the internet. Slapfights, vindictive blogger wars, internet celebrity meltdowns, social media shitfits, obscure forum drama, historical internet drama, etc etc.
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2024.05.14 12:49 jarsun_carpincho How I would change the story

The story of Eiyuden is OK for me, it's tempered because of the E10+ rating and was only kind of good when Kenan betrayed us (but then it ended up being anticlimactic). During the whole story, it felt like nothing was at stakes (we could freely go around occupied towns, Seign despite being a traitor could walk around Ardinale like it was nothing. Meanwhile, in Suikoden III, we had Chris Lightfellow changing her appearance because it would not make sense if she could walk freely around the Grasslands after burning the Karaya Village to the ground. In Suikoden V, the Prince, Lyon, Sialeeds had to disguise himself from time to time, otherwise the enemy would recognise him).
So here's how I would change some of the story:
  1. Make Lian less annoying
  2. Put more interactions with the Watch. Maybe do 1 small mission (which also functions as a kind of tutorial) before meeting Seign. In this mission we should see more bonding between the members.
  3. After discovering the Primal Lens, maybe do 1 more mission with Seign that can further strengthen the friendship between Nowa and Seign. Maybe bringing the Primal Lens to the Dux in Ardinale, and then we start seeing that he's an unsettling character (like when we first met Marscal and Gizel in Stormfist)
  4. After the six months jump, do a mission where Nowa saves Garr's life or smthg (maybe Garr being held hostage by Hurstwine or something so that he can take the blame for the purported attacks on Galdean border), so that it makes sense that he then becomes the captain of the Watch.
  5. In Kyshiri, start by having a feast between Nowa and the villagers and Aunt Martha to see how nice people they are. And then when the attack came, burn the village to the ground, have some villagers being slaughtered and Aunt Martha killed. We need to see more rage from Nowa, and maybe Nowa crying after. Seign rescuing the villagers so that none of them died is really out of place here, it's better to have more drama and make us feel bad that these good people were slaughtered. This also gives us more tension with Leene, we don't really know where she is (instead of Aunt Martha saying she is on adventure), and we can have cutscenes of Nowa worrying and Mio and Lian trying to console him.
  6. Eltisweiss war: explain how the Galdeans suddenly appeared out of the mountains and occupied Werne.
  7. Sneaking into Werne: have Nowa meet Seign to have a dramatic cutscene, and then Hildi seeing them and sounding the alarm. Maybe one of the members of the Watch can stay to hold the enemies and be arrested to add more drama.
  8. I didn't really get how there's suddenly an abandoned castle connected to the abandoned mines. Maybe when we sneaked there and saw Kogen etc, we could have more scenes exploring how they found the castle, how they have been living there, etc.
  9. Siege of Eltisweiss: Perrielle being let go is not so outlandish, but it really removes the tension and it felt like nothing was at stakes. It would be better if she was under house arrest in her manor, and later we have to rescue her.
  10. I don't like how we can freely walk around Eltisweiss to play Beigoma with Reid and Dr. Corque. Also didn't Seign destroy the gate in the war, but suddenly the wall was left intact?
  11. Seign's defection was too fast, the infiltration to the laboratory should have been before the defection. It will make more sense that way. Also it may be a good Pahn moment to have one of them (maybe Hildi) not defecting immediately, but only later after some convincing. Also Seign's defection should have led him to being forced to fight his father in battle, that would have been really interesting + Teo moment.
  12. The chimaeras in the laboratory could have been made of the corpses of the people of Grum County being deformed by the Primal Lens, so not just those adept in lens magic. That could also explain the Dux's war: to get human sacrifices. This will really raise the stakes of losing, and makes Perrielle's confrontational approach more questionable: she indirectly brought her people's demise by being so oppositional to the Dux. This can also be used to explain Valmaurice's betrayal: the Dux promised him League lands that can be resettled by dragonewts.
  13. The attack on Yarnaan was kind of random also, why?
  14. I will end here because it's getting too long, but I would certainly not make things anticlimatic right after we were in such a desperate situation after Athrabalt. I also wonder how those sharks could bring those ships through the mountains to reach the great seas...
It's such a shame that the story could have been amazing, but it has been tempered to have a more lighthearted feeling + be more accessible for more people. I guess we'll see if this decision is more justified from a financial perspective.
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2024.05.14 12:40 Specialist_Bake6514 Vapiano P3: Italian Food Made in Germany

Vapiano P3: Italian Food Made in Germany
The kitchen is on fire. Welcome to the final part of the Vapiano story where the tables are turning. In the first two episodes we followed Mark Korzilius' journey from setbacks to founding Vapiano, a groundbreaking restaurant concept, highlighting its fresh ingredients, dynamic atmosphere, and data-driven operations that drove rapid success. While achieving initial profitability and garnering attention from industry giants like McDonald's, Vapiano's global expansion has led to stellar revenue growth. However, it has also resulted in the emergence of numerous side projects (or distractions), operational challenges, increased costs, significant investments, and a notable accumulation of debt. This underscores the prioritization of top-line growth over profitable growth. We will continue on this thread and see how the story ends, but I would encourage you to read part one and two for better context. Vapiano P1: Italian Food Made in Germany (substack.com). Let's dig in.
Before Going Public
We are now in 2015 and the year is a disaster for Vapiano's PR department. Employee time stamps are being manipulated, endless overtime for employees and high turnover in managerial roles are reported; mice in the kitchen and even rotten food allegedly found.
The company is confronted with allegations of exceeding working hours among trainees in an article published by Welt am Sonntag, while the same outlet accuses Vapiano of manipulating punch times. The auditing firm PwC is commissioned to investigate the allegations and finds that there is no systematic approach but rather misconduct by individual employees, a mistake that’s being corrected. Internal however, investigations into stamp times are carried out regularly now and beyond its obvious reputational impact, this sucks up valuable management time and attention.
In the summer of 2015 CEO, co-founder and investor Gregor Gerlach, who has been running the group since 2011 is stepping down and Jochen Halfmann is taking over. A new Vapiano People Program with an App is being developed with the aim to better interact with customers that will incorporate innovate features such as mobile pay. The German website sees a launch of new magazine to further promote the brand and there is now a full inhouse blogger and Instagram team being installed. In October the company buys seven restaurants from original co-founder, former co-investor and ex-president previously responsible for internation expansion Kent Hahne (2x Bonn, 3x Cologne, 1x Koblenz and one in Cologne that’s under construction). This package of Vapiano restaurants is very successful and generates net sales of more than 20 million euros in 2014. Hahne opened his first Vapiano restaurant in Cologne in August 2006 and in 2015 with his company apeiron AG, Hahne operates six L'Osteria franchise restaurants, a direct Vapiano competitor, and two self-owned restaurants GinYuu.
Then in November of 2015, the next public relations bomb goes off with allegations regarding the company's quality standards. The company immediately investigates the issue through internal and external specialists but finds no evidence of any quality issues. Nevertheless, knowing that the group is now being closely watched, the company’s already in place hygiene standards are being reinforced. Additional audits and inspections are performed nationally. Further, all Vapianos worldwide are being audited twice by the partners SGS Institut Fresenius and SAI Global. Auditing software is purchased to simplify the implementation of the audits and the resulting measures. Apart from the external examinations, there is a food sampling plan in place being performed continuously. Again, all of this sucks up costs, management time and attention. With all these tumultuous developments the company’s growth engine is undeterred. Revenue grows by a whopping 50 million euros to 202 million euros, an increase of 33%. Impressive. While average spent per customer increases in all countries, the number of customers per day in Germany decreases by 3.3% partially due to the negative press towards the end of the year. Five own, four JV and 19 new franchise restaurants are added that year to the group, the total number of own managed restaurants grows to 51, there are 31 JVs and 84 franchises which bringing the total to 166 Vapiano restaurants. Global restaurant sales are now above 400 million euros.
But while revenue grows by an astronomical 50 million euros, operating profits, alarmingly, shrink again. Gross margins are staying perfectly healthy above 75% but operating costs keep growing disproportionately fast. The Company’s outstanding debt jumps by almost 30 million, close to 85 million euros by the end of the year. With operating profits at 9.5 million euros, alarm bells should be going off right now.
In Q4 of 2015, new CEO Jochen Halfmann introduces Strategy 2020. The new strategy includes five essential points. One, profitable growth in the newly defined core markets of Germany and Austria as well as in the UK, Netherlands, France and USA. Two, operational excellence through strict “best practice” management. Three, further development and digitalization of the concept considering guest feedback. Four, greater focus on long-term employee retention and five, building a modern and sustainable IT landscape. Sound’s good on paper but let’s see how things pan out.
Vapiano's investments (capital expenditures) that year are primarily directed towards new restaurant openings, renovations of existing establishments, and share acquisitions in other Vapiano restaurants from franchisees or JV partners. A significant portion of funds is allocated to the digitalization of the guest experience, including the development of a new app scheduled for market release in 2016 and the implementation of a time recording system across all group restaurants. The world's first standalone Vapiano restaurant with a delivery service that year is built in Fürth, Germany. The company keeps expanding its presence in both inner-city locations and international markets, such as Shanghai, China.
To finance all of this, the group has its own operating cash flow which comes in at 18 million while capital expenditures are 26 million euros plus 14 million for acquisitions. The funding gab is filled with 26 million euros of new debt and a seven-million-euro equity raise. At that end of the year and after the equity raise Gregor Gerlach (through his AP Leipzig GmbH & Co. KG entity) holds 30.1%, Hans-Joachim and Gisa Sander through their Exchange Bio GmbH hold 25.5% and the Tchibo heirs, Herz through their Mayfair Beteiligungsfonds II GmbH & Co. KG hold 44,4%.
But for the first time the restaurant’s concept that was so successful to date is being questioned. Some customers are starting to mislike the operational flow of the concept itself. If you want pasta, you must queue for pasta. If you want pizza you stand in a different queue. A small side salad, yet another queue. "You spend more time carrying trays than an actress in Berlin-Mitte. The audience in the pasta limbo can only consist of people who have worked for an insurance company for a long time and, like Stockholm syndrome, they can no longer get away from the industrial canteen feeling," writes TV host Beisenherz provocatively. While overly harsh in his assessment he's not entirely wrong judging by customers venting their frustrations in forums and social media channels. It isn’t uncommon for those who ordered pizza to have already finished eating while there is little movement in the pasta queue. Long term that doesn't go down well, QSRs competitors like L’Osteria are handling this process differently, with much success.
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Tipping Point

Where are now in the year 2016 and things start to deteriorate visibility. Perhaps not for the leman’s eye but any business minded observer can see that there are problems under the hood. Yes, revenue grows yet another whopping 50 million to almost 250 million euros but half of that growth, comes from acquisitions of restaurants that the group didn’t already own 100%, which is now being fully consolidated within the group’s accounts. Here is a concrete example. In the past, Vapiano SE, the group’s top holding company held an indirect 50% stake in a French subgroup via the subsidiary VAP Restaurants SA, based in Luxembourg, and included this as an associated company in the Vapiano SE consolidated financial statements using the equity method. Due to the acquisition of additional shares in September of 2016, Vapiano SE's indirect share in the French subgroup increased to 75%. This means that Vapiano SE takes control of the French subgroup, which is therefore included in the group’s financial statements as part of the full consolidation. The revenue from the acquired subsidiary now recorded in the consolidated income statement amounts to 12.8 million euros. While that’s great for the top line, the loss of the fully consolidated entity equates to 0.2 million euros. Yes, you are buying revenue, but there are losses attached to them, not profits. A similar case is the Swedish entity that runs eight restaurants with revenue of 11.5 million euros but has losses of 235 thousand euros. So much for Strategy 2020 and “profitable” growth.
That year the group’s operating profits are absolutely tanking, halving to 3.5 million euros. Operating profits are now a mere 1,4% of revenue. Remember original founder Mark Korzilius who talked about operating margins of 25% to 28% at the restaurant level? Yes, there are overhead costs for the organization that sits above the chain of restaurants, but operating margins that low indicates a course correction is needed. What’s telling is that in the annual report, in the management discussion section, the company starts talking about EBITDA as a proxy measure of profitability, rather than operating profit or net income. This wasn’t the case in the years before. Is this window dressing for an upcoming IPO? EBITDA is short for earnings before interest, tax, depreciation, and amortization. How can you measure profitability of a restaurant chain that absolutely and unequivocally needs capital investment to maintain its restaurant operations, the very source of cash generation, by simply excluding this maintenance charge (depreciation in the income statement)? Vapiano’s own annual report talks about the fact that existing restaurants must be rejuvenated from time to time and that new interior designs have to be implemented every few years. These things wear and tear, they go out of style, kitchen equipment breaks and needs replacement. This business absolutely needs maintenance capital expenditure, why anyone talks of profits before these maintenance costs is beyond me. Fun fact: in the previous annual report EBITDA is mentioned seven times, mostly around restaurant acquisitions and financing, not however as a profit indication for the group. In the new annual report, EBITDA is mentioned 28 times. Maybe it’s just me but belated Charlie Munger liked to call EBITDA: bullsh*t earnings. When in doubt I stick with Charlie. Interestingly, EBITDA for Vapiano keeps growing while operating and net profits keep falling.
Operating cashflow for the group that year is about 21 million euros, but capital expenditure is 30 million and acquisitions for subsidiaries another 20 million. To finance these expenditures another 28 million euros of debt and 16 million of equity is raised. Net debt rises above 130 million euro. The operating cashflow of the group before any capital expenditures is 21 million euros. I am not sure free cash flow would be significantly positive after maintenance capex is paid out; it’s not broken out so we can’t be sure. Granted, I am not on the ground during this time, and I am not in the board room, I am simply reading what’s in front of me, but to me this is starting to look like a distressed situation. Regardless, the following year the company goes public.

IPO

Where are now in the year 2017 and its Vapiano’s first year as public company. The company’s annual report reads the following “Sales revenue, like-for-like growth (LfL) and the earnings figures EBITDA and adjusted EBITDA are used as the most important financial performance indicators for controlling operational business activities.” The very same report however also says: “The majority of the group's investments regularly go towards opening new restaurant locations and modernizing existing restaurants. The latter are differentiated into regular replacement investments that occur during ongoing operations (Maintenance CAPEX) and fundamental investments in the renovation of a restaurant (Remodeling CAPEX). On average, a restaurant remodeling takes place nine years after opening.” It says it right there in their own report; every nine years a remodeling is taking place. Remodeling and updating is not cost free, so why exclude depreciation charges which reflect capital expenditures? I understand that perhaps you would want to strip out one-off opening costs, that’s fine and fair, but don’t go overboard.
The number of restaurants increases by 26 (previous year: 13) to a total of 205. The increase consists of 27 new openings and one closure. Group revenue grows to an astonishing 325 million euros but here comes the shocker, operating profits turn negative to 25 million. Fine, strip out foreign exchange losses of 3 million, IPO costs of 5.8 million and new opening costs of 6.1 million and you still have 10 million euros of operational losses. All the while the debt load of almost 130 million hasn’t materially changed, so those operating losses are before a six-million-euro interest payment. 184 million euros are raised through the IPO of which 85 million go to the company. This money is earmarked for further expansion as the group has ambitions to almost double the footprint to 330 restaurants by the end of 2020. The company is currently not profitable on an operating basis, and still wants to expand aggressively? I don’t get it. The remaining 100 million euros of the IPO money raised is distributed to co-founder Gregor Gerlach and Wella heirs Hans-Joachim and Gisa Sander. The family office of the former Tchibo owners Günter and Daniela Herz with a 44% stake, don’t sell a single share. After the IPO, 32% of all the company’s shares are now in free float.
One year later, in 2018, things get even worse. Revenue grows to 371 million, but operating losses mount to 85 million euros, that’s before interest expenses of 9 million. Even the beloved EBITDA figure turns negative, meaning the operating business before any expansionary or even maintenance capital expenditures is loss making. All regions are experiencing significant deterioration in their earnings profiles. Like for like sales are down 1% across the board. That’s revenue, not profitability. The question naturally arises: is the Group approaching its natural saturation point here or this operational by nature? The operating cash flow is now 9 million while financing cost are close to 7 million. That leaves 2 million for maintenance capital for 74 own restaurants and 76 joint ventures ones. Describing this as financially tight, would be an understatement.
Things are not looking good at this point. Yet the company still grows restaurants by 26 new sites. 64 million euros are spent on acquisitions, new openings, and maintenance costs, financed through a 20 million-euro equity raise and 72 million of new debt. The Company now has net debt outstanding of over 160 million euros. After the equity raise and by the end of the year 2018, Mayfair owns 47.4%, VAP Leipzig, Gregor Gerlach’s entity owns 18.9% and the Sander couple own 15.5% of the company. Yes, the Sanders and Gerlach may have taken 100 million euros off the table, but they still have substantial skin in the game. Plus, Mayfair hasn’t sold a single share and instead injects more money into the company through the equity round. The stock has now fallen from its IPO price of 23 euros per share to under 6 euros by the end of 2018. Something must be done here. And indeed, there is pivot in strategy and a hard push for change. At last, the management team abandons its aggressive growth plan and curtails new openings significantly. Additionally, the team wants to run a thorough analysis of weak locations to then either discontinue or sell sites. In Europe, the operating focus will be put on corporate restaurants and joint ventures in major cities to ensure the ideal size and location to match the respective demographic target group. Outside of Europe, the franchising business is being expanded and at the same time a consolidation of the existing corporate and joint venture markets is being sought. All future investments will be reviewed to achieve higher rates of returns on new openings. Investments are also being made in the renovation of older restaurants. The goal in the future is to also open smaller formats, like Mini-Vapianos (less than 400 square meters) or Freestander at prominent transportation hubs outside city centers (currently in Fürth and Toulouse) to cater to individual location requirements, and to enter new partnerships. I am not sure why management hasn’t stopped all expansion altogether, bringing the ship in order first, getting profitable, clean up, all hands-on deck before considering any further expansions whatsoever. But again, it’s easy to comment from the sidelines; maybe they saw white spaces that would be covered by competing concepts if they weren’t moving fast and aggressively enough. Although pushing internationally means competing with local players such as Jamie's Italian, Prezzo, Pizza Express, Wagamama, Nando's and many more which brings in its own dynamic.
Management also aims to enhance guest satisfaction. This involves refining operational processes, reorganizing the support center, and refocusing on the core offering: providing fresh and high-quality Italian food at affordable prices for a broad audience. The group also aims to reduce waiting times, especially during lunch, while also improving the evening atmosphere. There is even what I would call an evolution, away from Vapiano’s original concept, reorientating the customer journey. The ordering flow is being changed, offering guests synchronized preparations of all dishes while eliminating wait times at the cooking stations. The open show kitchen remains, staying true to original mantra of freshness and transparency but now guests can choose their preferred method of ordering through a mobile app, using a digital order point (kiosk), or by personally placing an order with a waiter. Guests can still freely choose their table and are then informed about the complete preparation of their order through a pager or their smartphone. This is a substantial deviation from the original concept, but a needed one. The group is also exploring and implementing the expansion of take-away and home delivery services but only at suitable locations, not universally across new openings. I am not sure why home delivery is even a priority here; it adds operational complexity. It’s better to clean up shop first and get back to the basics before adding new complexities. To be fair management does try to simplify. There are 49 different permanent dishes on the menu and additional 10 seasonal ones. Customers can choose from eleven different types of pasta. There is simply too much choice, and it makes orders complicated. The company announced to slim the menu down to its most popular and typical Vapiano dishes. There’s no need for an Asian salad at an Italian restaurant. "We have to go back to the roots, i.e. classic, honest Italian cuisine" says COO Everke. Regardless, in November of 2018, the supervisory board pulls the plug on CEO Jochen Halfmann and replaces him with Cornelius Everke. Everke himself has just become COO five months ago. Since 2017 he was responsible for international expansion. From 2011 to 2017 that role was filled by Mario Bauer – put a pin in that name, he’ll play a key role in the groups fate later. Then nine months later, in the middle of 2019, Cornelius Everke quits. He essentially concludes that his skillset and experience in the areas of internation expansion is no longer needed in the foreseeable future. To put it differently: Vapiano has moved from a growth story and has become a restructuring case, and other skills are required for that job. In June of 2019 Everke says the following “(we’ve) made a bit of a mistake when it came to foreign expansion”. No sh#t. Vapiano postpones the presentation of the 2018 annual financial statements three times in the spring of 2019, citing negotiations over an urgently needed loan of 30 million euros. It’s not until the end of May that a binding loan commitment comes through from the financing banks and major shareholders.
We are now in August of 2019 and the corona pandemic is just around the corner. Supervisory board chief Vanessa Hall takes over as interim-CEO and things are unravelling. Visitor numbers are declining; originally, it was planned to sell the US business but halfway through the year the buyer cannot come up with the money. But not all restaurants are performing poorly. The group's poor figures contrast starkly as an example with the experiences of the Swiss-German franchisee, who runs six restaurants. The Sodano family in Switzerland pays Vapiano a royalty of 6% of sales for the use of the brand. Enrico Sodano explains in an interview that they operate largely autonomously from the licensor. If an “accident” were to occur, he could immediately replace the Vapiano sign with Sodano, he says. The family concluded the rents and contracts with employees and suppliers independently. The Sodano family have six locations in Bern, Basel and Zurich, around one million guests every year and 350 employees. Things are going well on the ground. The delivery service they’ve built is offering them a second income stream. Expansion into Winterthur, St. Gallen and Lucerne are being planned; small locations with 150 to 250 square meters and an attached delivery service. Originally, Vapiano restaurants used to be huge but for such a large restaurant to be profitable, 800 to 1,000 guests per day are needed. That’s possible in medium-sized cities, but not in smaller towns which is why the Vapiano group now also supports smaller formats. Back to our corporate drama. The 2019 annual report would be the last report the group files. By the end 2019 the outstanding debt of the company is at an astronomical 450 million euros. Revenue has grown by another 7%, produced by four net new openings through two JVs and two franchise restaurants but operating losses come in at 317 million euros. That sound like an absolute shocker at first but depreciation and amortization charges are 345 million, so that operating cash flow is actually positive but unfortunately capital expenditures and interest payments are so large that they are eating up all of the company’s operating cash flow. Then in the beginning of 2020 Corona hits with full force and the world shuts down. As a result of the measures to prevent further spreading of the virus, the group is forced to cease all global business operations (except in Sweden). While all these shutdowns are happening, the group is the middle of negotiating with its lending banks and main shareholders. There are additional financing needs for restructuring measures, even without a pandemic happening in the background. The situation is so dire that the company starts pleading to the German government to roll out the package of financial help more quickly. Unfortunately, it’s to no end. The rapid closure of restaurants and the resulting lack of operating cash inflows in conjunction with the additional financing requirements, lead to the company’s final knockout punch. In April of 2020, the Vapiano group officially files for insolvency proceedings. The end of an era.

New Beginnings

Because of the pandemic, the majority of the group's subsidiaries in Austria, the Netherlands, Denmark, the United States, Sweden, and China also file for insolvency or seek liquidation. The US business never gets sold in the end and is wound down. In the summer of 2020, significant group divestments occur, including the sale of 75% shares in the group's French subsidiaries, shares in franchisor companies, Australian subsidiaries, German subsidiaries, associated companies, self-managed restaurants in Germany, and insolvency-related sales in the Netherlands, Great Britain, and Sweden. The buyer of the Vapiano brand and one of these bundles of Vapiano restaurants is company named Love & Food Restaurant Holding, a consortium led by Mario C. Bauer – a name I told you to remember. Bauer was a former Vapiano board member and led the national and international expansion, opening 200 sites in 33 countries from 2011 to 2017 until he was succeeded by Cornelius Everke. Bauer didn’t feel comfortable with the IPO at the time but clearly has a lot of managerial and entrepreneurial talent.
The buyer consortium is an absolute A-Team comprised of European QSR top league hitters, including the founder of the Pret A Manger chain Sinclair Beecham; Henry McGovern, the founder and Ex-CEO of the giant international restaurant and foodservice operator AmRest; the Van der Valk Family that runs hotels and Vapiano restaurants in the Netherlands, and co-founder and ex-CEO Gregor Gerlach. The acquisition value is 15 million euros and entails 30 Vapiano restaurants in Germany, albeit that’s just the purchase price which comes on top of any capital investment needed to refresh and return the sites to its former glory. Nevertheless, just as a thought experiment, if you can get each site to 2 million euros of revenue and 400,000 euros in operating profit on average, which wouldn’t be an overly aggressively assumption given the company’s history, you’ve got yourself a package that can deliver restaurant-level operating profits of 12 million euros or more. It’s not disclosed how much capex was needed to refresh the operations, just that fact that the overall investment plus purchase price was a middle double-digit million-euro figure. Stil, it probably was a decent purchase. The same consortium buys Vapiano’s French business for 25 million euros just two weeks prior. After the transaction concludes, the master franchise is given to Delf Neumann and his Gastro & Soul GmbH. Neumann is an experienced operator, and he is ambitious to revitalise the brand with new services and products. For example, instead of pizza, the restaurants will be serving pinsa - a flatbread made from sourdough, wheat and rice flour, topped similarly to a pizza. It targets a more health-oriented customer base looking for a less calory heavy option. The menu overall is expanded by including a variety of vegan and vegetarian dishes.
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Today Neumann’s Gastro & Soul GmbH operates 18 Vapianos on its own account and has 29 franchise sites, amongst other brands. By the year 2021, Vapiano operates 191 restaurants in 34 countries. This is around 50 fewer sites than before the bankruptcy. The number of branches is particularly thinned out in Germany – from 80 to 55. Nevertheless, Vapiano's home country remains by far the largest market, followed by France with 35 restaurants and Austria with 15 locations. “We have shrunk ourselves to health,” says Bauer in the aftermath and there is no further shrinking planned. Quite the opposite, the smell of expansion is in the air again – pun intended. Not as aggressively as before and with a new menu and ordering process.
Overall, the team around Bauer is filled with industry experts with knowledge and networks gained over decades who have a great track record, a long-term view, and the staying power to let Vapiano breath and finds its way back to success. The pressure of being a public company with all the associated quarterly, half-year and yearly disincentives have been removed. The menu is changed and extended with new types of pasta and sauces with significantly more vegetarian and vegan dishes available. Guests can order with restaurant staff, at terminals or on their phones and there are barcodes attached to the tables identify the respective seat. The food is brought to your table, all at the same time if you are in a group, no more annoyances with waiting in line. There is a plan for smaller, 350 square meter locations, with half the number of guests and significantly fewer staff and less set-up costs required to make the economics work. Locations that capitalize on remote work and increased demand for local lunch options, higher population density with shorter delivery routes and therefore cost-effective in house delivery services are targeted. And Bauer is testing the concept of ghost kitchens, which operate without a dining room or service staff, focusing solely on preparing food for delivery services, which for obvious reasons have a very different operational set up and footprint. Original founder Mark Korzilius however is not entirely convinced. He is not a fan of the pinsa for instance and he considers Vapiano's pizza as its cash cow, flagship product and believes that the core Vapiano proposition of Pizza, Pasta, Bar that has given the company its original success is being diluted. He instead admires the competitor L'Osteria, saying they’ve done a better job by focusing on Italian classics, especially the impressively large pizzas that sticks out beyond the plate is leaving every customer in awe. The guys who run L’Osteria are the same guys who have built Vapiano with him in the first place. Bauer on the other hand, like a true business leader, remains undeterred, stating that he is frequently asked whether Vapiano's restart was bold or foolish. He believes in entrepreneurship, franchising, in his experienced fellow partners and importantly the Vapiano concept. By the year 2024 you can find over 140 Vapiano branded restaurant in 27 countries across the globe, including locations far away from its birthplace like Australia, USA, Columbia, Chile, Bahrain, and Saudi Arabia. And why not? Italian food is, and will remain to be, incredibly popular. Vapiano offers fresh and tasty food at affordable prices in a good atmosphere. This combination of attributes should attract a lot of customers. It certainly has in the past.
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2024.05.14 12:35 DirtZealousideal9270 AITAH for thinking of leaving my SO because she is not and does not have a plan to be financially independent?

Throwaway account.
My wife (31F) and I (35M) have been married for 4 years now. We both are from South East Asia who went through an arranged marriage. We met online about 5 years ago. At the time, I lived in North America and she lived in her home country. We chatted on the phone and spent significant time on calls to get to know each other, I even flew down for a few days to meet her the same year. We took some time to know each other and decided to get married about 7 to 8 months after our introduction.
About 2 months before my marriage, my parents pressured (a whole lot of family drama) me into moving back to my home country. They wanted me to spend some time(about 5 months) with them after our marriage as I was away from them for 5 years or so. Though I hated this whole situation, I headed to their request (regretfully so) and moved back to my country. As a retaliation my then soon to be wife quit her job. To this day she refuses to accept that it was a retaliation, instead she claims it was too difficult for her to juggle between work and giving attention to marriage preparations, so she quit her Job.
I had never wanted to live in my home country, never felt I belonged there. When I decided to move back to my country, I had prepared myself well to not take any support from my parents. So, I had applied for another visa, had planned & paid for our honeymoon, saved enough to survive about a year in my home country without a job and had enough money to move back once my new visa gets approved.
Her quitting the job before our marriage was her decision, and I understand to certain aspect. At the time she lived in a different city than mine and after marriage she wanted to find work in the city that I would end up residing in. Also, we had plans to move to North America after our wedding anyways, so this made sense at the time. We had agreed to do our individual visa's coz I didn’t want her to move countries on a dependent visa, just so that she does not lose her career growth or leave North America if we ever split. We both were supposed to apply for the visa before our marriage date, I applied mine 4 months before our marriage. She was still figuring it out until our wedding date. I got my visa a couple of weeks after our wedding, but she was not able to secure her visa as she couldn't score enough in her English proficiency (not because she lacks the skill, English is her native tongue and has a good hold on the language). I tried to give her time, motivation and any kind of financial support that she needs to clear all visa requirements. But it was too late. Pandemic hit, borders were shut, so were government offices. I moved out of my country 7 months after our marriage amid a lot of pandemic restrictions. My wife promised she would continue to pursue applying for the visa while I leave the country and establish myself again.
1 year later, still no progress in her visa application, no change in employment status. She was living with her parents, and passed all her leisurely expenses to me coz I was "her husband". My family is not the best to work with, so my wife kept blaming that my parents stressed her enough to not pursue her carrier nor focus on the visa application. In the meanwhile, I was supporting my family financially(I owe them funding my college education) and my wife coz she couldn't find a job during the pandemic, while I was surviving my temporary low income job. Surviving with just bare minimum and sending home literally every surplus I earned by picking extra shifts. Fine. Pandemic restrictions started to ease further about 1.5 - 2 years after our marriage. By this time, I had a good job, was earning well enough. I flew back to my country to register our marriage and start her visa application as my dependent. She knew it would be a while before she gets her visa because of the back log and she agreed to look for work until we unite again in North America. She kept saying she is applying without any positive result. After a lot of argument, she confessed she wasn't looking for jobs with complete focus.
In the meantime I am going back to my country every year until her dependency visa was processed just so that she does not get depressed because of the long distance relationship.
Finally after a lot of effort, my wife finally got her visa approved, and I immediately booked her flight so that this long distance ordeal might end. She landed in my city a year ago. She had promised to start looking for job right after she landed, especially picking up temporary jobs until she gets something in her field of education. She has been jobless for more than 3 years by now. We were in our honeymoon phase for about 4 - 5 months after she had moved in with me. She got a job at a grocery store, which she worked briefly (~3 months), and would always complain about pains, how horrible the job is compared to her job back home, how beneath her standards were mopping the floors.
She wanted our first anniversary together to be an overseas trip, so I booked a trip for which she was supposed to pitch in half using her pay from the temporary job. She was asked to leave the job a month before the trip and I took care of the expense, this was unplanned for me, so had to move money around to make this happen.
She just completed 1 year of stay about a month ago. This milestone has taken a toll on me. We had a very bad argument, during which she confessed she knew she needed to bridge her overseas education courses with a fresh course in the new country. Which is about 6 months long and costs lesser than our anniversary trip. She didn't want to ask me money for her education, coz she felt I have spent enough money on her? What? It goes beyond me why a person would think a trip is more important than an education that would put her back in the job market.
She loves me a lot, she takes care of me, she is affectionate for which I am grateful for her. But I very much feel my future is not going to be wise to me if I continue to live with her. Post our argument which was a month ago, I had walked her through a few things to get some fee waiver and asked her to find a temporary job to fund this education. I don't see any improvements and I strongly suspect she has already missed deadlines to do this bridging course from reputed universities. I do not want to wait to get disappointed at her again. Am I an asshole to think she should have been financially independent by now? Am I an asshole for asking her to pitch in on our anniversary trip? Am I an asshole for thinking that I should end this marriage and cancel her dependency visa? I feel I will be better off alone.
TLDR: My wife quit her job just before our marriage and has not worked a stable job in the last 5 years of our marriage. We are now in a new country and it doesn't look like she will be able to get a job in the near future without a bridging course which she has missed her deadline to apply.
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2024.05.14 12:20 chanma50 'Back To Black' Review Thread

I will continue to update this post as reviews come in.
Rotten Tomatoes: Rotten
Critics Consensus: Back to Black's sympathetic approach to its subject's story is an overdue antidote to the tabloid treatment she often received in life, even if the end results are disappointingly pedestrian.
Score Number of Reviews Average Rating
All Critics 36% 69 4.50/10
Top Critics 38% 24 4.50/10
Metacritic: 49 (18 Reviews)
Sample Reviews:
The film’s snaky on-and-off power begins with the British actor Marisa Abela, whose lead performance nails Amy Winehouse in every look, mood, utterance, and musical expression. - Owen Gleiberman, Variety
Back to Black is, like its heroine, flawed and fallible but frequently very affecting. - Leslie Felperin, Hollywood Reporter
Tells the story of Amy Winehouse but shows no passion in telling it and has nothing to say about the events that transpire. It’s the utter minimum of what a biopic can be. - William Bibbiani, TheWrap
There are other, tougher, bleaker ways to put Winehouse’s life on screen – but Abela conveys her tenderness, and perhaps most poignantly of all her youth, so tellingly at odds with that tough image and eerily mature voice. 4/5 - Peter Bradshaw, Guardian
There are moments when Abela disappears and Winehouse bursts on to the screen, like a magic eye picture blinked fleetingly into focus. But the film is wildly uneven and prone to catastrophic misjudgments. 2/5 - Wendy Ide, Observer (UK)
Because of the cautious gloss, the film is perhaps less enlightening or truly tragic than it might have been. 3/5 - Tim Robey, Daily Telegraph (UK)
The final scene, in particular, with its completely and utterly baseless, sensationalist implications, made me physically gasp in horror. 1/5 - Hamish Macbain, London Evening Standard
The ending, of course, is sad... Yet, for all its faults, the film is more celebratory than tragic. 3/5 - Ed Potton, Times (UK)
Back to Black is a fitfully enjoyable little package that will do wonders for the careers of Abela and O’Connell. But unlike Winehouse’s oeuvre, it’s not worth taking seriously. It’s just too afraid of the dark. 2/5 - Charlotte O'Sullivan, Independent (UK)
The film seems too tame, too tasteful, too frightened of alienating the fans: everything that Winehouse was not. 2/5 - Tom Shone, Times (UK)
[Amy Winehouse's] music remains in a different creative galaxy to this dispiriting film, which is at once twee and ghoulish. 2/5 - Danny Leigh, Financial Times
Sure, you will learn more – and hear more of the original recordings – in Asif Kapadia’s great documentary Amy, but Taylor-Johnson does a decent job of making a tight drama from the same tragic yarn. 3/5 - Donald Clarke, Irish Times
This is a middle-of-the road biopic about a musician who was anything but. It’s not great and it’s not terrible. 3/5 - Stephen Romei, The Australian
It has such reverence for Winehouse that it lacks the honesty the 2015 Oscar-winning documentary Amy was able to present. 2.5/5 - Wenlei Ma, The Nightly (AU)
A solid performance let down by a script that cherry-picks the facts and ultimately tells us less than we already know. Watch Asif Kapadia’s Amy instead. 2/5 - Hayley Campbell, Empire Magazine
Offers a pallid account of Winehouse’s story, ironing out some thornier issues, and bringing little that’s new, either in fresh revelations or distinctive angles on the familiar. - Jonathan Romney, Screen International
This is better than I expected (although my expectations were low). It does seem softened at the edges, and one can never forgive a falling-in-love montage set at London Zoo -- ever -- but I (mostly) didn’t cringe and it is respectful, if painful. - Deborah Ross, The Spectator
In her attempt to put the woman back at the centre of her own life, Taylor-Johnson has at least captured an addictive personality and achieved a powerful portrait of doomed love. - Kate Mossman, New Statesman
It is as salacious and cruel as any tabloid cutting from the noughties – only invested in the bloody ballet pump left in the street, not the complexities of living a very public life with addiction. 1/5 - Rogan Graham, Little White Lies
Everyone involved in the film approaches the late artist with love and respect, but its tawdry instincts and misguided sense of responsibility let her memory down. C- - Vikram Murthi, indieWire
Bizarrely, the one thematic thread that Back to Black does seek to tie its tale together with is the singer’s desire to have a child. 1.5/4 - Ross McIndoe, Slant Magazine
Like Winehouse herself, the film teeters on the edge, hovering restlessly between genre-subversive brilliance that complicates celebratory narratives about artistic genius, and well-worn, re-hashed tropes about tragic women. - Rebecca Harrison, Sight & Sound
A strong cast, in particular a stirring performance from Marisa Abela, is not enough to effectively convey the chaos and the tragedy central to the story of such a beloved artist. 2/5 - Linda Marric, HeyUGuys
Its punchlines lack punch, [but] what it does have is a frankly dynamite central turn from Marisa Abela. - Mark Kermode, Kermode and Mayo's Take (YouTube)
SYNOPSIS:
The extraordinary story of Amy Winehouse’s early rise to fame from her early days in Camden through the making of her groundbreaking album, Back to Black that catapulted Winehouse to global fame. Told through Amy’s eyes and inspired by her deeply personal lyrics, the film explores and embraces the many layers of the iconic artist and the tumultuous love story at the center of one of the most legendary albums of all time.
CAST:
DIRECTED BY: Sam Taylor-Johnson
SCREENPLAY BY: Matt Greenhalgh
PRODUCED BY: Alison Owen, Debra Hayward, Nicky Kentish-Barnes
EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Sam Taylor-Johnson, Anna Marsh, Ron Halpern, Joe Naftalin
DIRECTOR OF PHOTOGRAPHY: Polly Morgan
EDITED BY: Martin Walsh
PRODUCTION DESIGNER: Sarah Greenwood
COSTUME DESIGNER: PC Williams
MUSIC BY: Nick Cave, Warren Ellis
MUSIC PRODUCTION BY: Giles Martin
MUSIC SUPERVISOR: Iain Cooke
CASTING BY: Nina Gold
RUNTIME: 122 Minutes
RELEASE DATE: May 17, 2024
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2024.05.14 12:10 margaur how to properly apologize?

I need some advice. My friend1 and I were talking abt our friend2 and her boyfriend in private messages and it got some serious drama but I promised it's not below the belt, we're just disappointed something like that. Actually, friend2 had told us that her boyfriend is a liar, a micro-cheater, and a gaslighter. Despite this, she recently got back together with him. My first post here on Reddit was about her situation with her boyfriend.
Naturally, my friend1 and I were disappointed when she reconciled with him because she had shared numerous instances of his problematic behavior, including flirting with a co-worker. Unfortunately, while I was printing our manuscript, she saw our private messages on my phone. Since then, friend2 has been very quiet, and we are worried that she thinks we were backstabbing her (I’m not sure if that’s the right term). I'm not sure if nabasa niya yung convo namin kahapon but confirmed nabasa niya talaga because nikwento niya yun sa isa naming friend.
We are planning to apologize to her tomorrow, but I need some advice. Are we really being bad friends? How should we approach the apology? Any comments would be greatly appreciated.
(We are a group of 5, all girls. First time may mangyari na ganito sa circle namin and I don't want this to get worse)
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2024.05.14 12:08 marty_96 AITAH For fighting over money?

Long story incoming.
My grandmother passed away 3 months ago after a 6 year fight with dementia. It was hard seeing her change from the loving, caring matriarch of the family to a shell, who couldn't recognise anyone. I regard her death as a blessing, with the last 3 years of her life bound to a chair with no quality of life in a nursing home.
Nan wasn't wealthy, she owned her home, had a very small savings account, and I would estimate her estate was worth around $450'000 australian dollars when she passed.
I had no expectations of any inheritance, the thought hadn't even crossed my mind.
My mum and her only sibling were executors
My mother stated she would be contesting her brother for lost time to care (periodic showering and feeding in the nursing home) to the tune of about $10k, and her brother was fine with that arrangement. When I heard about this, I had some reservations, but as I didn't know the full details I decided it wasn't my business.
The will was meant to be read last week but the solicitor asked why the other benefiting members were not present.... it turns out that my Nan's estate was to be split evenly in eights (12.5% shares) between my uncle, his wife and kids, and my mum, dad and me and my brother.
My Dad called me in the days following the attempted reading and very vaguely told me the details, and then asking me to sign a deed of family arrangement to annul the will to make 50% go to mum alone, surrendering the portion bequeathed to me.
I'm 27, married, 3 kids, just over $1 million in mortgage... 40k would be a huge surprise and welcome final gift from Nan.
My brother and I got together to go to mum+dads house that day and put our thoughts strait. My brother was not happy because mum was trying to take money from her own children, I wasn't happy because mum was trying to change the last word of my nan.
Ultimately, the discussion was a disaster, my mother stated she deserved our portion as she had cared for nan and we didn't, missed out on work to take Nan to appointments and that she deserved to be comfortable and eliminate the remainder of ther mortgage with the inheritance. Being called selfish and greedy by my own mum will stick with me for a long time.
I texted later that I will stand firm and not agree to any abolition of the will. I fully expect my mum to commence court action from this point.
There's a lot of behind the scenes drama, including my parents not liking my wife, and then by extension, my kids, grudges held for decade old issues and general alcohol induced mental instability on my mums side...
Tldr: I refused to surrender an inheritance to my mum and now she's one war path.
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2024.05.14 12:07 Femboy_Yugioh 26[M4M]USA/Looking for a nerdy bf

Hi, Just A femboy looking for a serious ltr , so I’ll get to the point 🤗. I’m not here for the games , or ghosting . I’m here for something long term. Dating apps don’t work for me sadly.
Located: Texas . Willing to move to another state or have my future partner live with me .
Appearance :
A thick black femboy who loves dressing up sometimes . Height : 5’3. I wear glasses to read manga . My style is mostly goth/casual clothes from mostly anime shirts and chokers.
💙My hobbies:
🩷What im looking for in a Relationship🩷
▶️MY TYPE:
TALL (taller than my own height) , very communicative, masculine(mostly beards and body hair) gamers/anime nerds. These are just preferences not a deal breaker .
✅Ps: for compatibility reasons I’m a 100% bottom.
If you made it this far, please message me an introduction about yourself. This is extremely important as it tells me alot about you and for me to give you a well detailed response. Mostly a name to call you , hobbies, location (state wise) and what you’re looking for . You may send pics in the first message if you may like 😊
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2024.05.14 11:36 pifouherisson Being psychically gay!!!

I now realize that since the age of 5, I've always had memories of being emotionally and sentimentally attracted to boys.
During my childhood, girls' bodies really disgusted me, unlike boys'.
I couldn't explain why, but a body without a willy between its legs disgusted me deep down.
I felt psychically different from other boys, because I sensed that something was wrong, without understanding what.
At puberty, I began to feel a strong sexual attraction to boys.
And throughout my adolescence, it was all the time and every day that I was sexually attracted to boys and their willies.
I had secret crushes.
I felt psychologically that I was exclusively homosexual.
But I couldn't come to terms with my drama because I was so ashamed and disgusted with being gay, and I had a lot of internalized homophobia.
Being gay also made me feel very weak in relation to the others, and I had developed a real inferiority complex in relation to the other boys, because I was the boy who couldn't seduce girls despite looking very cute, and it was confusing for the other boys that I never had any girlfriends. Some of them suspected I was gay, so I tried hard to get interested in girls.
Despite this internalized homophobia, I still felt gay in spite of myself.
But I couldn't deal with my drama.
Today I've accepted myself and I'm aware that psychologically I'm gay in my head and always have been, and that my personality has been influenced by my homosexuality. I'm convinced that my personality would be different if I had been straight.
I am who I am because I'm gay.
Have you always felt psychically gay and is it visceral?
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2024.05.14 11:35 prest1977 5 Reasons Why 'Mother of the Bride' is the Must-Watch Movie of the Year

5 Reasons Why 'Mother of the Bride' is the Must-Watch Movie of the Year
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Discover the 5 compelling reasons why 'Mother of the Bride' is the ultimate must-watch movie of the year! With its heartwarming storyline, stellar performances, and captivating drama, this film is a true cinematic gem. Get ready to be swept away by the charm and emotional depth of this unforgettable movie. Here's why 'Mother of the Bride' is a must-see for all movie enthusiasts.
  • *💖 A Heartfelt Story of Mothers and Daughters *"Mother of the Bride" explores the complex relationship between a mother and daughter as they navigate the emotional rollercoaster of a wedding. The film delves into themes of love, loss, and forgiveness, offering a heartwarming and relatable story that will resonate with audiences of all ages.
  • *🌟 Stellar Performances by Brooke Shields and Miranda Cosgrove *Brooke Shields delivers a powerful performance as the mother, capturing the anxieties and joys of motherhood with nuance and authenticity. Miranda Cosgrove shines as the daughter, bringing a youthful charm and vulnerability to the role. Their on-screen chemistry is undeniable, making their interactions both believable and touching.
  • *🎬 A Visually Stunning Destination Wedding Setting *The film transports viewers to a picturesque destination wedding, showcasing breathtaking landscapes and elegant settings. The attention to detail in the production design creates a visually immersive experience that complements the emotional journey of the characters.
  • *🎶 A Soundtrack that Captures the Mood *The film's soundtrack features a mix of original songs and classic tunes that perfectly capture the emotional highs and lows of the story. The music adds depth and resonance to the characters' experiences, making the film even more impactful.
  • *🎉 A Celebration of Life and Love *"Mother of the Bride" ultimately celebrates the enduring power of love and family. It reminds us that even amid challenges, there is always hope and joy to be found. The film leaves viewers with a warm and fuzzy feeling, making it the perfect choice for a feel-good movie night.
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2024.05.14 11:33 tehesammietehe Ex-friends na college na pero petty pa rin

So I (18f) have these highschool friends before. Nung nag-college kami, we went into different universities but we stayed in touch. Araw-araw din active gc namin. I also meet 'yung isa sa kanila na same university ko. It was all going fine and we talk often talaga sa gc.
Before I get to the main part ng rant ko (kasi i am really fuming in age right now and hindi lang halata), here are some take-away points:
  1. 3 kaming girls, then dalawang boys
    1. isang lalaki, may bf
  2. Saming mga babae, ako lang 'yung may bf
  3. Friends sila simula gr11 while I befriended them ng gr12
  4. They comment about other people's lives a lot and it doesn't sit right with me so madalas, taga-tawa and react lang ako sa gc. Wala akong ambag sa hates and chika, ganon
Then nitong christmas break, naturally nag-ayaan na mag-inuman and all. I'm game naman pumunta because I missed them rin and there was never a dull time naman talaga kapag inuman with them. The thing lang is, I have a fever that time (and I'm a bunso so up to now, I'm sheltered by my parents) so hindi pumayag mom ko. I communicated with them naman. I even sent my conversation with my mom na nagsasabi talaga ako na gusto ko pumunta kasi minsan lang 'yon. Then the only response I got was: “Tumigil ka teh. Pinupuno mo ako. Ikaw lang wala”. That was off-putting na agad but I still tried to ask them if pwedeng i-move 'yung inuman because mahaba naman break naming lahat. And they still responded with pabalang na tone. So of course, I got offended na lang din and didn't reply.
Then ayun, after new year I noticed na tahimik na 'yung gc. I didn't pry much kasi baka they were just celebrating with their family din naman. However, kinagabihan, I saw their stories na nasa google meet sila and ako lang 'yung wala. So na-gets ko agad na may bagong nang gc.
Hindi ako confrontational na tao so I let them be. I don't know. May two other friends naman ako that have a much more genuine connection with me. Saka before I can even reach out dun sa friends kong 'yon, may ig story agad sila with the gc name “7-1” implying that they kicked me out or dropped me. Edi lalo akong nawalan ng gana to confront them because bakit ganon agad ginawa nila?
It didn't stop there. It's been going on for months. Lagi silang mag-sstory na makikita talaga ng lahat na I'm not friends with them anymore. Ako, I stayed silent because I don't really like online dramas. Pwede naman kasi pag-usapan sa pm if they weren't like that. Tapos ang gagawin pa nila, they'd chat sa old gc namin ng mga parinig sakin.
Then recently, I bumped into a highschool acquaintance. Apparently, pinapalabas nilang ayaw ko daw silang kasama just because I was sick that time!
Then today, panibagong pakulo na naman nila. They started with setting a new nickname for each other sa gc. Then they set my nickname to "batang ina".
I am literally fuming mad right now because what the fuck is wrong with them and saan nila nakuhang buntis ako just because I don't post often sa socmeds. Ah tangina.
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2024.05.14 11:08 tehesammietehe Friends na college na pero pang-elem pa rin ang galawan

So I (18f) have these highschool friends before. Nung nag-college kami, we went into different universities but we stayed in touch. Araw-araw din active gc namin. I also meet 'yung isa sa kanila na same university ko. It was all going fine and we talk often talaga sa gc.
Before I get to the main part ng rant ko (kasi i am really fuming in age right now and hindi lang halata), here are some take-away points:
  1. 3 kaming girls, then dalawang boys
    1. isang lalaki, may bf
  2. Saming mga babae, ako lang 'yung may bf
  3. Friends sila simula gr11 while I befriended them ng gr12
  4. They comment about other people's lives a lot and it doesn't sit right with me so madalas, taga-tawa and react lang ako sa gc. Wala akong ambag sa hates and chika, ganon
Then nitong christmas break, naturally nag-ayaan na mag-inuman and all. I'm game naman pumunta because I missed them rin and there was never a dull time naman talaga kapag inuman with them. The thing lang is, I have a fever that time (and I'm a bunso so up to now, I'm sheltered by my parents) so hindi pumayag mom ko. I communicated with them naman. I even sent my conversation with my mom na nagsasabi talaga ako na gusto ko pumunta kasi minsan lang 'yon. Then the only response I got was: “Tumigil ka teh. Pinupuno mo ako. Ikaw lang wala”. That was off-putting na agad but I still tried to ask them if pwedeng i-move 'yung inuman because mahaba naman break naming lahat. And they still responded with pabalang na tone. So of course, I got offended na lang din and didn't reply.
Then ayun, after new year I noticed na tahimik na 'yung gc. I didn't pry much kasi baka they were just celebrating with their family din naman. However, kinagabihan, I saw their stories na nasa google meet sila and ako lang 'yung wala. So na-gets ko agad na may bagong nang gc.
Hindi ako confrontational na tao so I let them be. I don't know. May two other friends naman ako that have a much more genuine connection with me. Saka before I can even reach out dun sa friends kong 'yon, may ig story agad sila with the gc name “7-1” implying that they kicked me out or dropped me. Edi lalo akong nawalan ng gana to confront them because bakit ganon agad ginawa nila?
It didn't stop there. It's been going on for months. Lagi silang mag-sstory na makikita talaga ng lahat na I'm not friends with them anymore. Ako, I stayed silent because I don't really like online dramas. Pwede naman kasi pag-usapan sa pm if they weren't like that. Tapos ang gagawin pa nila, they'd chat sa old gc namin ng mga parinig sakin.
Then recently, I bumped into a highschool acquaintance. Apparently, pinapalabas nilang ayaw ko daw silang kasama just because I was sick that time!
Then today, panibagong pakulo na naman nila. They started with setting a new nickname for each other sa gc. Then they set my nickname to "batang ina".
I am literally fuming mad right now because what the fuck is wrong with them and saan nila nakuhang buntis ako just because I don't post often sa socmeds. Ah tangina.
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2024.05.14 11:04 omglifeisnotokay Friend calling me up to complain about their breakup for hours on the phone (it’s been a month)

I’ve got a close friend who I’ve known for years. We both struggle from mental health issues but she struggles with addiction issues and other stuff. For the past month she’s called me up everyday to talk for over 4 hrs about the same “script” of her ex boyfriend who left her and how amazing he is and how horrible he is and I get about 5 mins of talk time. At first I felt bad for her because everyone cut her out of their lives but most recently I actually see why. Our last convo left me frustrated. I tried to talk to her about my frustrations of how our mutual friend has been upsetting me. I figured since she has also has had issues with this friend we could talk about that and share and vent on that topic. We were talking about the past and I relayed to her some tough criticism of how that friend doesn’t really want to get involved in listening to the boyfriend drama and all of a sudden she snapped and told me I was triggering her and she didn’t need to hear about it blah blah blah and back onto her talking about herself. I started crying because I just felt so unappreciated and realized she just wants to talk about her crap and seems to be using me to some degree. I recently am looking for a therapist now because she’s stressed and drained me and she’s in therapy yet still calls me up to ramble on. I don’t want to cut her out of my life but also can’t take this on anymore. As soon as I set my boundaries she almost reverses back on me that she’s setting the boundaries with what I say! I’m not sure if she’s got some sort of personality disorder but I’m dealing with my own stuff. Any advice would help. I feel lost and alone in this.
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2024.05.14 10:21 glorious_echidna AIBU for “forcing” my sister to come and visit us?

The story about me (36f) and my sister (38f) is long and complicated, so I’ll try to summarise as short as possible, which is long anyway. (English is not my first language - sorry for grammar!)
Sister has some kind of psychological issues she refuse to deal with properly. I suspect BPD, but I may be very wrong. Mom mentioned she may have gotten a diagnosis lately, but didn’t remember if it’s ADHD or Autism. She’s a very extrovert person who thrives when being around people. She only has two moods: ecstatic or depressed. She absolutely worships people, until one day when she cast them down to the status of a devil. Nothing in between.
Her life is cyclical. It starts with finding a new area of interest that she dives head first into. She meets people doing this thing she’s interested in and idolise them. She says it’s her calling in life, and credits her new-found mental wellbeing to this new calling. She invests everything she has into the new thing - time and money, even starts working in the field. Then comes the depression. Every time she claims she has never felt like this before. The people she worshipped are discarded and branded “bad” or “crazy”. She relies on family to get her back on her feet, then find a new area of interest that “saves her”, and the cycle starts anew. Over and over again.
I broke with her almost 5 years ago. She was depressed and lived with our parents again at that time. I was back to school to get a new career after first being burnt out, then losing my job. My daughter was 3 years old. At that time, I realised my marriage was a huge cause of my own depression and that he was cruel to out child and decided to get a divorce. My ex was very abusive, so I was facing the threat of being homeless, jobless and lose custody. My sister ripped me to shreds and told me that my problems were nothing compared to hers, and that my situation did not excuse not being there for her. For context - she called me every day while I was in school and made me “talk her out of” doing things to herself for 2 hours - every day for weeks while refusing therapy or medication. I lost it.
We went NC about 1 year, then to very LC the last 3 years. It’s working kinda good! As long as I don’t get close to her, we can even see each other without drama. The times I’ve slipped up and allowed too much contact has been a disaster, she becomes possessive straight away and demand I apologise to her for what I did.
My daughter (8f) is the only child in the family. Thank goodness my sister hasn’t had any, and doesn’t plan to either. My sister instantly fell in love with her, before she was even born. While she seems to forget daughter’s existence from time to time, she also adores her from time to time. She showers daughter in gifts and attention. When they last hung out, Sister even pretended to love the very same things as Daughter, which at the time was rainbows and unicorns.
Since I broke with Sister, she has met Daughter 3 times. Once overnight 3 years ago, the other 2 times just a couple of hours outside of home. I do invite her here from time to time and say she’s always welcome, but she never does. She doesn’t bother coming here even if she’s in the area. She lives 4 hours away with car, and now claims she can’t travel here because her horse needs her. Good for us, I thought. Less drama.
But last week I found a package in the mail, addressed to Daughter. In it were the gifts Sister missed giving her - Christmas, Birthday and Easter. There was also a card, in which Sister writes how much she loves Daughter. Boxed in with a green marker, she writes that it’s her biggest dream to have Daughter visiting her for a weekend, and that she’s willing to meet us halfway to pick her up. She asked me a year or so ago, but I haven’t heard a word from her this year.
Yesterday, my mom said Sister has been in touch with her too, asking her to bring Daughter to her. No one asked me. Sister still sends Daughter unicorns and rainbows, even though Daughter hasn’t been into them for more than two years. She does not know my Daughter anymore.
Daughter loves her aunt, and often talk about her and makes her drawings and jewelary. She doesn’t know the issues my Sister has. She does not know she is forgotten for weeks, maybe months at a time. I’m scared my Sister will break her heart, or mess her up. I have not asked Daughter if she wants to go, and she didn’t say anything when reading the card either.
I told mom that Sister is always welcome to come here, and that I want her to come and see Daughter at least twice before I’m ok with Daughter going there (with my parents - not alone. Even mom agrees whole heartedly that Daughter should not go there alone). Mom thinks it’s unreasonable, because Sister is afraid of me and won’t come. I have never raised my voice to her. Never said harsh words. Just refused to do what she wants, so I feel it’s unfair to blame me.
What is your take on this? Am I being unreasonable to “force” my sister to come visit us in order to see my daughter?
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2024.05.14 10:09 just1computer I (25F) want to distance myself from my friend (27F) how do I avoid conflict?

Apologies for any formatting issues; I'm on mobile
I've been friends with this girl for about 5 years now. We've gotten very close and I still have love for her but I just don't feel like this friendship is adding much to my life anymore since I don't feel like our relationship is very equal.
For context/background, I recently experienced a series of deaths in my immediate family as well as moving to another city so I've been going through a lot of stress and emotional turmoil. I would call her from time to time and admittedly a lot of those phone calls would be me crying and moping around. I hoped that she would be supportive but most of those calls would just result in telling me that I had bad vibes or change the subject back to her, usually about her dating life. I've been there for her for when her long term boyfriend broke up for her and even staying with her for weeks to make sure she was ok but when my mother passed, she didnt call me back until the next day and spent maybe an hour with me the next day since she had made dinner plans with someone else.
I did express to her that I felt like she hadn't been there for me as a friend and it felt like she didnt understand why I was upset but she apologized and I just didnt have the emotional capacity to fight with her so I just accepted her apology and I've just been cordial with her at this point. I don't really have the desire to continue this friendship anymore but we have a lot of mutual friends and I can't deal with any drama but she's texted me asking "why I don't love her anymore". I have no idea how to respond since I wanted to just let this friendship fizzle out and avoid conflict since I dont think she understands why I've been keeping my distance.
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2024.05.14 09:57 Stillstandingknight Looking to switch industries while making 6 figures. Any advice?

Hey, I’m a 26 single male looking to make a career switch. I’m currently working in the telecom sales and making little over $100,000 a year, been doing it since the last 5 years but getting fed up with the politics and toxic environment at the work place, my manager feels jealous of me and always picking on me and there are always dramas in the store where people are stealing your sales, back bitting etc. So I wanna try something high ticketing because I know I can do better, I put my heart and soul in everything I do and that’s why I succeed so much. I’m the top sales person of my region in the company. Got a house on my own a few years ago and that’s why leaving the current job feels scary, I don’t think I can start making the same amount of money by working on a salaried job. Im also working another full time job which is remote just for the sake of having a backup plan as I don’t wanna rely on just one job when I’ve debts to pay. So I’ve been grinding two full time jobs since the last 5 years and my body can’t take it no more. Been a lot stressed recently because of the mortgaging as I don’t have anybody to support me financially but me. My mental health is deteriorating due to my manager who’s always bulling and threatening me indirectly. I’m really good at what I’m doing but I think I can do a lot better and have better rewards if I put in the same amount of effort and time in a different industry. I’m also preparing for the mortgage sales person exam so I can get my feet in the mortgage industry while working my full time job. Please share different industries I can succeed in. I would really appreciate your outputs. Thanks so much
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2024.05.14 09:46 dragoninhomeland How do I[22M] best break up with my gf[25F] who is suffering from depression and anxiety, and is way too dependent on me?

Ive been dating her for about 6 months.
Gotta straight out say it, I'm the grade A douchebag in this situation, so let's get this out of the way. We met on hinge, I wasn't attracted to her in the slightest, let's be real, appearance wise I'm way above her league. but I've been on hinge for two years without even a second date at the time, I just want a gf so bad so I went out with her.
After 2 months or so she ask me to go exclusive with her, during that entire two months Ive gotten zero matches, like I sent out all the likes everyday and zero matches. I didn't know what to say so I was like, ok you are my exclusive gf now. She dreamed about me taking her to her favorite park, bought her her favorite dessert, and asking her to be her official boyfriend, and wouldn't' let the dream go. Well, I feel bad for her so I did exactly just that, the way she smiled almost made me convinced that I actually like her. But umm I still have hinge on my tablet (hidden at home) rn, but can't cheat when there's no matches. You can bad name me in the comments or whatever. But this is the context.
So, obviously she deserves someone who's actually attracted to her and can make her happy for the rest of her life. I'm not that guy, my preferences aside, I don't want children like ever they are disgusting, but she wants children and gets baby fever all the time. She's religious, I think religion is just crazy people preaching about a fictional character and it makes no sense. She wants to get married before 30, I don't feel like marrying anytime soon. She wants to move to the other side of the country, I want stay here. She's a cat person, I like dogs. My asian parents would never accept me dating a black girl so I've been hiding her from them and social media. And my friends keep teasing me nonstop about dating an ugly girl. This is a dead end relationship, I don't do short term relationships so I cannot remain in a relationship that I know is not gonna work long term.
But, she's super into me, and is extremely dependent on me. She's working two jobs and studying, and is nearly broke, can hardly make ends meet. She cry herself to bed like every week, and always vent to me about how she feel so inadequate, other girls look so pretty in their summer dresses with nice skin and skinny body makes her so jealous, her parents abusing her and bodyshame her (tbh her parents kinda have a point), not having a single friend, both her ex cheated on her and SAed her, she's so worried that she will fail out of school, working both jobs is so physically and mentally draining, and all that. She attempted suicide 5 months before meeting me, so there's that too.
On top of that, she told me over and over, that meeting me is the absolute best thing that has ever happened to her in her entire life. That I'm 100% her type, I'm the k-drama male lead in the k-drama that is her life, end quote. That since I agree to be her bf, she's been feeling motivated in life for the first time. That I'm the only person in her life that she can talk to, because she has no friends and her parents despite her. That I am 100% the man of her dreams, and everyday she feel so blessed having me in her life. If I don't text her every hour she gets anxious and starts to panic, she can only sleep when I do a video call and put the camera towards me the entire night so she knows that I'm "beside" her as she sleep.
Well, when being told all that, I can't exactly just break up with her. I just....feel so bad? I've been brainstorming nonstop for the past month on how exactly I can break up with her while keeping the devastation to her at a minimum. I would feel guilty for life if she just offed herself after I break up with her. She has no friends, and her parents despite her, so I can't text anyone to take care of her after I break up with her. We go to the same school too and she knows my workplace, so I'll 100% bump into her multiple times post break up.
Bro someone plz help me out, im trapped.
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2024.05.14 09:40 galaxydreamer25 AIO by thinking that what he did was wrong?

Six years together. 2024 has been quite a year so far. My boyfriend has been out of work for almost 5 months, which is yearly occurrence since his main source of income is from doing gig work with a local transportation company. He has been applying to jobs with an out of date resume, he hasn't had that much luck in finding work. When I suggested taking on a temporary job at a grocery store or cafe to stay afloat until his main job starts up again, he became extremely upset and said that those jobs were beneath him.
In these past 5 months he has been playing video games, smoking weed in my bathroom, randomly leaving at all hours to hang out with his friends. He doesn't help with any chores, out of fear for my safety I purchased him a new phone when he broke his, paid for two months worth of phone bills, purchase work boots, and allowed him to shake me down for cash to buy weed.
Even though he tries to gaslight me but saying that this is first year that he hasn't been without work, it hasn't been. Every year since he quit his job during covid(2020)and moved into my apt. he has had periods of no work and very little to no money. He just games and smokes those months away. He berates me for not cooking or cleaning when I was working two jobs and he was working none. When he finally did get a new job thanks to his dad helping him, he refused to contribute financially even though he saw how physically and mentally exhausted I was from working 6 days a week. He said I didn't deserve help. He treats me terribly whenever I help him out. He has forced me to pay his taxes, give him one of my stimulus bills, buy him food. He becomes irate if things aren't exactly how he wants it. He loves to make plans only to cancel at the last minute and then gaslight me about it. He would refuse to go out with me to events but then drop everything to go hang out with his friends.
I always told him that if he can't contribute financially due to not having enough or having work, it's fine but he should contribute by doinf household chores. He refuses.
I think what is going on is that my mind is trying to protect me by compartmentalizing and lessen the gravity of the situation and of what occurred this past weekend. I see the signs of being in an abusive relationship but I don't fully believe that I am in one because it doesn't fit what we all have been told are the signs of an abusive relationship.
In February he pushed some storage bins into me, one of which broke and cut me in my back because I told his parents that he hadn't been working for the past two months.
This past weekend which we were walking through a soon to be closed mall, I had been recording the beautiful 80's/90's architecture when he said wait, I instinctively turned around and he was scratching himself. I laughed a little bit and turned back and continued walking. Since I had my phone in my hand he thought I had recorded him, he rushed down the hallway angrily asking me if I recorded him and to give him my phone. I said I didn't and kept walking,I was wearing a hoodie and he grabbed my hood and pulled, angrily telling me to give him my phone, I told him to let go that he was hurting me. I tried to keep on walking but he was still holding onto and pulling my hood. He then proceeds to try to grab the phone out of my hands. You know when someone tries to grab something out of your hands and both of you start grappling over the item, that's what happened. My phone is brand new and did not have a case yet and I was worried he would smash it into the ground. I know my personal safety is more important than a phone but I couldn't let go even if I wanted to, he had grabbed onto me and was in the process of pushing me into the wall when a guy rounded the corner.
He didn't step in nor call the police as far as I know. I took the opportunity to get away from my boyfriend as quickly as I could.
I ran to the train station, he kept on yelling at me "Are you really going to act like this", I didn't answer. My neck and throat burned from where his was pulling back on my hoodie. I started to cry. There was a lady who seemed to notice that something was going on and nodded her head in approval when she saw me rushing past to get into the station.
When he finally did catch up to me and when he texted and called me afterwards, he kept on blaming me for what happened. He said that I shouldn't have walked away from him when he grabbed onto my hood and that I should have told him that I was playing around and pretending to record him( which is what I said to placate him). When I said that he shouldn't have grabbed my hoodie and pulled he retorted with the so now it's my fault, as if I made him pull my hoodie and react like that.
I wanted to go home but I didn't have my keys on me, so I went down to a nearby marina and watched the boats for awhile.
I ultimately ended up at his parents house. I did not tell them what happened. In the past he would become enraged when he found out that I had told his sisters or mom about what was really going on, and would forbade me to either go to a family function or to say anything. His dad then proceeded to have a conversation about selling his house and giving us the proceeds to buy a house but we should have two kids. His parents have been pressuring me have a child with him even though we aren't married. I want to get married and have a small church wedding but according to my boyfriend I don't deserve a wedding. He also shared with us the importance that both people in a relationship need to contribute financially and pay bills, I told him he should tell that to his son, not me. It would be insanity to have a child with a man like him. I know that he will not change who he is if a child came along.
My friends are aware of the general situation (not of this latest incident), some of my family is aware of the general situation( I don't want them to worry and I don't want to bring unnecessary drama into their lives). His family is aware, one of his older sister's told me to call her for help when I wanted to end things with him and she would come over but when I actually did reach out to her, she said that I was an adult and would need to handle things on my own. I think she feigned concerned in order to get information to gossip with the rest of their family.
I am scared of him. Scared of how he would react if I stand firm in him needing to leave. Scared that he will harm my friends, family, himself and me. He has threaten suicide before. He has threaten to harm my pet. He has threaten to steal my mom's ashes. I have asked him to leave before and either he refuses or he simply ignores me.Him leaving is not that simple. He has nothing to lose yet at the same time everything to lose. He doesn't want to go back to his parents house because they will make him find a full time job and then won't let him do what he wants, he would have less freedom( couldn't smoke weed)...and those are his words not mine. He has never agreed to a break or even a temporary visit because he would "come back madder". He knows if he does leave, I will try to end things with him.
He comes across as a calm, chill guy when he is around my friends and family because he is high all or most of the time. That calm, chill guy is not who he really is. He is angry, volatile, and cruel. Yes, he has his moments of kindness(or niceness) and sweetness. Is it "nice" to have someone around to talk with, yes. Who seemingly care about when you will be back home, yes. but do those niceties outweigh everything else that has happened.
There is so much more that I could add to this post, but I am exhausted and I have blocked several incidents out. He constantly tries to gaslights me. He lied about his background and education. He has gotten physical several other times as well as verbally/emotionally. He has engaged in several sexting relationships, most notably with his ex Christy and his "friend" Lore. When I expressed how hurtful his cheating was he stated that is who he is, that he's the kind guy but since he didn't sleep with them, it's fine, it's not cheating. These girls also do not see anything wrong with what they have done.
I do not have any immediate family ie siblings or parents. Therefore, I cannot go and stay with family until he leaves or have a family member accompany me while he moves out. I do have extended family in the area but life has taught me that there is no guarantee that they will help you even if you desperately need it. It's the American way to find your own way out of problems and pull yourself up by your bootstraps ( I say this sarcastically).
The apt. is in my name and I'm pretty sure there is a clause in it that states that if there are domestic disturbances I would have to move out. As stated above I don't have anywhere else to go, so he must leave.
Sometimes I think that this is my lot in life and that I should just accept it. I find myself questioning if what happened on Saturday really is abuse or if it was just a misunderstanding that got a little bit out of hand. Sometimes I just don't know anymore.
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2024.05.14 08:58 jakgem Lovely Runner [Episode 12]

Lovely Runner [Episode 12]
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  • Drama: Lovely Runner
    • Also Known As: Time Walking on Memory, Carry Sunjae and Jump
    • Korean Title: 선재 업고 튀어
    • Adapted from: Tomorrows Best/ 내일의 으뜸 (webtoon)
  • Director: Yoon Jong Ho (Flower of Evil)
  • Screen Writer: Lee Si Eun (True Beauty)
  • Starring:
  • Network: tvN, TVING
  • Premiere Date: Monday April 8th, 2024
  • Airing Schedule: Monday and Tuesday at 8:50pm KST
    • Duration: 1 hour 10 Minutes
  • Episodes: 16
  • Streaming Sources: Viki, Viu
  • Plot Summary: In the glitzy realm of stardom, Ryu Seon Jae shines as a top-tier celebrity, captivating the spotlight since his debut. Despite the facade of a perfect life, the demanding nature of the entertainment industry has left him utterly exhausted. Im Sol, an ardent admirer, holds an affectionate love for Ryu Seon Jae. A childhood accident derailed her dreams, yet the solace found in Ryu Seon Jae's music on the radio transformed her into an unwavering fan. The narrative takes a poignant turn when Im Sol, reeling from the breaking news of Ryu Seon Jae's tragic demise, experiences a miraculous twist of fate. Transported back 15 years into the past, she confronts Ryu Seon Jae in his 19-year-old high school self. Im Sol grapples with the formidable challenge of altering the trajectory of his future, driven by an unyielding determination to avert the impending tragedy.
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2024.05.14 08:43 UnusualEar1928 Starting a rewatch and have thoughts

Hi I just need to get my thoughts out, I am on season 2 episode 11. I originally watched this show when I was a kid, which explains why I absolutely live for drama and why I was so horny at age 9. I am sure I am not the first person on this sub to have these particular thoughts but I figured another post about why Allison sucks wouldn't hurt? Ok in no particular order:
  1. Allison sucks. Her mouth is somehow the most annoying character in these early episodes. I feel like she knows she has this mouth thing and emphasizes it to act like offended at everything.
  2. There is no way on god's green earth that a woman like Amanda would ever date, let alone be obsessed with, Billy. There is also no way that Amanda would ever think to or need to compete with Allison for a man. There is also no way that a man would choose Allison over Amanda.
  3. Billy's mouth is on par in annoyingess with Allison's mouth. These two have such distracting mouths and are constantly working them as if they are aware that yes, I have a distracting mouth.
  4. Which brings me to the next point, which is that Allison and Billy seem like siblings to me. They have the sexual chemistry of a brother and sister. They are also both incredibly annoying. And thus, seem related.
  5. Sydney and Marcia Cross re-confirm that redheads can be some of the most gorgeous women.
  6. Poor Jane, they made her out to be such a stick in the mud. She was there just to have bad shit happen to her.
  7. They just don't make horny shows like this anymore. That electric guitar sound that plays during all the sexy scenes just takes the horniness to 11. This explains a lot of why I "matured early". I watched this shit when i was like 8? So many lingering questions have been answered that explain why I am like this.
  8. I always thought Amanda was a bitch, but has she literally EVER been wrong? No.
  9. Allison is somehow the only character who looks 90s in the wrong way. Everyone else is 90s cool, which is what everyone under 30 is trying and failing to do irl today. Allison has the hair and clothing of a middle aged woman and is somehow like 26 when this starts? She looks 40.
  10. I used to think Jake was so hot. And he is just a fucking asshole. Which explains why I have always been attracted to quiet guys who all end up being just assholes. Much to think about.
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2024.05.14 08:34 adulting4kids Genres

This list and the Tropes A and Tropes B postings will be used in some of the prompts coming up so be sure to refer back to these!
  1. High Fantasy
  2. Science Fiction Mystery
  3. Romantic Comedy
  4. Historical Fiction
  5. Urban Fantasy
  6. Cyberpunk
  7. Epic Adventure
  8. Paranormal Romance
  9. Steampunk
  10. Dystopian Thriller
  11. Space Opera
  12. Superhero
  13. Detective Noir
  14. Time Travel Romance
  15. Post-Apocalyptic Survival
  16. Magical Realism
  17. Historical Mystery
  18. Biopunk
  19. Alternate History Fantasy
  20. Conspiracy Thriller
  21. Fairy Tale Retelling
  22. Science Fantasy
  23. Apocalyptic Horror
  24. Psychological Thriller
  25. Martial Arts Adventure
  26. Environmental Sci-Fi
  27. Space Western
  28. Historical Romance
  29. Mummy Horror
  30. Futuristic Crime
  31. Virtual Reality Gaming
  32. Alien Invasion Sci-Fi
  33. Supernatural Drama
  34. Eco-Thriller
  35. Cinematic Adventure
  36. Mystery Comedy
  37. Social Science Fiction
  38. Military Space Opera
  39. Cursed Object Horror
  40. Mystery Fantasy
  41. Magical Academy Romance
  42. Techno-Thriller
  43. Family Drama Fantasy
  44. Time Loop Comedy
  45. Adventure Horror
  46. Sci-Fi Espionage
  47. Fantasy Heist
  48. Robot Fantasy
  49. Political Fantasy
  50. Cinematic Romance
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2024.05.14 08:26 pheakelmatters Cliffsnotes for the Pascal interview

Full interview: https://www.youtube.com/live/0hIyE8jSzYg?si=iY6Rzyqe5upSJkBz
  1. Seth confirms the PI's exit was due to Tony's involvement.
  2. Seth said he likes Tony because Tony does whatever he tells him
  3. Seth says the PI's didn't share all information with him and weren't checking up on leads. Seth says it's his operation, not theirs.
  4. Tony and Seth say the Proudfoot's aren't working with them, and Tony's job was to get them on board with Seth.
  5. Seth said the leaked phone call of Chris Proudfoot interfered with getting the Proudfoot's on board. Tony rebukes Chris Proudfoot for calling into Cluemaniti with fake voices. (note: there's still no proof this was actually CP. If anyone can link clear evidence of this please do so)
  6. Tony claims Chris Proudfoot agreed not to do social media but did it anyway, said "he's not a good guy".
  7. Tony said he was Seth's agent for the latest Nancy Grace appearance in regards to the polygraph he took.
  8. Tony said he had an agreement with Nancy Grace's producers that the interview would not paint the Proudfoot's in a bad light. He said when the polygraph administrator said Seth told him he believes Katie accidentally OD'd Sebastian he advised Seth to hang up immediately, which Seth complied with.
  9. Seth confirmed this account from Tony. Seth said the polygraph administrator ask for his top three theories on what might have happened to Sebastian. Seth said he said the OD theory and an additional two more, but the polygraph administrator only focused on that one.
  10. Tony said he spoke with Nancy Grace's team afterwards and that's why this part was edited out later on.
  11. When asked if Seth actually believes the OD theory he evaded the question.
  12. Seth rebukes people for worrying too much about Chris Proudfoot's ex-wife and other drama.
  13. Seth talks about his physical search during the first couple of weeks. Goes on to rebuke people "running their mouth". He's venting quite a bit. (IMO he deserves a break here)
  14. Seth shut down the GoFundMe because of "grief" about it. Said he used the funds for flyers and other things like that. (Fair. I admit to thinking it was more nefarious than what it likely was)
  15. Seth is being quite genuine during this venting. (I'd hug him, no lie)
  16. Tony rebukes Pascal's chat.
  17. Tony talks about how awesome he is, and what a saint he is for helping Seth.
  18. Seth rebukes soical media vultures. (Even though he's on social media vulture Pascal).
  19. Tony once again talks about how awesome he is.
  20. Seth praises Tony for doing whatever he tells him
  21. Tony rebukes social media vultures, on social media vulture Pascal. Tony says it's okay to make money off of Seth's missing child, and rebukes them, and then says it's okay again. Then rebukes them again.
  22. Seth says he has no social media and listens to Tony to stay off of YouTube... While he's on YouTube. Seth rebukes someone for commenting on his weight.
  23. Seth praises his volunteer searchers for putting their health and safety on the line.... Rebukes people that say bad things about him online.
  24. Seth thanks the parents of the North Carolina boy that was thought to be Sebastian for giving him a few brief days of hope.
  25. Seth has not seen all the footage the police have. Seth says there is dashcam footage the police have. Evaded all followup questions.
  26. Tony says he has no idea about dashcam footage
  27. Tony says neither of them have talked to Seth's mom about her Facebook posts, but they don't blame her. Tony says she is just venting.
  28. Tony talks about how awesome he is for not blaming Calib's grandmother either. (Another case he worked on)
  29. Seth apologizes for cutting Tony off, stands up for his mom. Says she's feeling very helpless, and he is too. Rebukes people for sending stuff to his both him and his mom.
  30. Seth says he obtained Sebastian's CPS file. Says he won't share it, says his attorney told him not to.
  31. Sumner county has this file. Seth says TBI didn't have it. Seth clarified he has a redacted copy. Says Tony hasn't seen it.
  32. Tony speaks with authority on it even though Seth said he hadn't seen it.
  33. Seth rebukes Pascal for prying the issue.
  34. Something something Church. Seth challenged Pascal to come to the next vigil, Pascal agrees. Let's hold him to that. It's on the 19th!
  35. Seth says if Sumner Sheriff and TBI won't clear him than they (meaning the Proudfoot's) aren't cleared either. (This is an interesting statement!)
  36. Pascal than spends the rest of the interview making money from reading superchats priced $5-$50. He made good bank.
My thoughts, it's good seeing Seth sober and ready for these interviews. He's definitely trying to be more cordial. Even though I'm crapping on Pascal, and he deserves to be crapped on, he advocated for for a united front from Seth, Chris and Katie. He did however cowtow to the idea that Seth should just get to see all the evidence the police have collected. He's smart enough to understand why that can't happen. Tony definitely has Seth's ear, and he probably helped him out a great deal during the Nancy Grace incident... But I still don't think he's doing it for altruistic reasons. I meant it when I said we should hold Pascal to his commitment to come to the vigil. He made more money in an hour and half than I made in the 8 hours I worked today.
My last thought... An hour and 41 minutes. That's how long that live stream was and the majority of it was Seth and Tony addressing drama that Seth and Tony and basically everyone that wasn't the Proudfoot's created (with the possible exception for Chris calling in to Cluemaniti). At no point did the stream put up a picture of Sebastian. At no point did anyone say or show the number for the tip line. At no point did Seth mention what areas his volunteer searches have covered. At no point did Seth outline areas that still need to be searched. At no point did Seth give insight to Sebastian's personality that could help indentify him. If this was the very first thing I'd had seen about this case I'd know all about Seth and Tony and how they feel about things.. but Sebastian would be pretty much a mystery.
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2024.05.14 07:15 dirganddahlias Losing it with my 3.5 year old

My daughter is 3.5, I love her and she is driving me absolutely insane.
There was no switch at 2, or 3, her behavior has just slowly been ramping up over the past yeayear and a half. She is constantly demanding “her” music, “her” shows, screaming no at her baby brother, screaming no at the dog, and giving conditional affection to mom and dad depending on how much we are willing to give her her way.
She screams and clings to me every day (3 days a week) when I drop her off at daycare. I haven’t been able to give her baby brother any attention at drop off because the morning is spent trying to get her settled without too much drama about being dropped off. So the daycare teacher requested trying something new, setting the expectation that I will walk her in, give her a big hug and kiss and turn around and leave. So yeah, still no time to tend to baby brother who is also going through separation anxiety.
I pick her up today, play “her” songs on the way home (Taylor Swift). She’s jamming, we’re talking about her day, I’m telling her I’m so proud of her for being a big girl at school. Come home, make dinner while we’re still listening to Taylor Swift. She refuses dinner. Pizza bread, zucchini, and applesauce. Says she doesn’t feel good and wants cheerios. I check her throat, it looks red, maybe she isn’t feeling well, give her cheerios. She requests to watch some TV. We watch “her” show (Scooby Doo). Time for bed. Fights brushing her teeth. Screams bloody murder when I try to brush her hair. I finally lost my shit and yelled at her to knock her shit off before she wakes her brother up. Take her upstairs and finish brushing her hair while she’s SCREAMING.
I apologize for losing my patience with her. Ask her if she wants a hug. She says no and wants me to leave her room. Requests daddy to read to her and stay in her room for bedtime. I leave feeling sad and guilty, and knowing that I get to do it all over again tomorrow starting with a horrific daycare drop off.
This is mostly just a rant but also is she acting this way because we are just spoiling the shit out of her? I only work 3 days a week. The other days we usually have something planned, swim, gymnastics, lots of outside time now that the weather is getting better. I go back and forth between “this is normal” and “this gentle parenting shit is bullshit and my child is spoiled and needs much firmer boundaries”. I never was the type to sleep train or withhold meals if they’re not willing to eat what I made and stuff like that but I’m starting to question my methods.
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