Catchy 2011 senior year slogans

Hi,
I run the senior year program at my school in the U.K.
Does anyone know of or have used a goal setting program with a whole cohort?
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
We have a small budget to purchase a program if needed.
Cheers!

TLDR: I own a share if freehold flat and the other freeholder lives abroad, is incapacitated and has no next of kin, just a legal representative appointed by a government organisation in the country she lives in. I need to sell my flat and extend the lease but two years in I have got nowhere in getting the deeds signed. What can I do?
Hi Housing UK readers,
I wanted to see if you had any fresh ideas on how to approach this situation I find myself in.
I purchased a flat in 2011. The flat is one of two in a Victorian conversion. Both flats are self-contained.
I am the sole registered leasehold proprietor of flat B and have been living in the flat since 2011.
Miss X is the sole registered leasehold proprietor of flat A, and has owned the flat since 2001. The flat is being rented as Miss X retired abroad in 2006.
Miss X and I also both own a share of the freehold, which is split 50/50.
I’m in contact with Miss X for a few years after I buy, but all admin relating to building management is dealt with by her estate agents and she defers any discussions to them.
Fast forward to September 2022. I need to sell my flat as I want to move to a different city, and have some debt I need to pay off. The flat is listed for sale in late October 2022.
There are 84 years left on the lease for both myself and Miss X. I reach out to Miss X to inform her of my plans and that I will need her signature for the various deeds, and that we should extend the lease. The email bounces back and her phone line is disconnected.
I contact the estate agents who manage flat A. They have also not heard from Miss X for a while, I can tell they know more, but they are unwilling to share any details. In a tactical move, I list my flat for sale with them too, to try and get their help with Miss X (a whole other hilarious side story). I am repeatedly assured by them that the situation with Miss X will not hinder the sale of the flat (a huge lie).
March 2023 I finally find some buyers (with another agent) and start the conveyancing process, including extending the lease and transferring the freehold.
May 2023. After chasing Miss X’s estate agents for weeks, I discover that Miss X is now incapacitated and hospitalised with dementia. Miss X has no partner or children, no next of kin and no legal representation in the UK. She is under the care of a government agency in the European country she resides in. A lawyer employed by the agency, let’s call him SP, has been appointed as her legal representative and is in contact with the UK estate agents. SP sends documents to verify his status to the agents, who confirm legitimacy via their lawyers. SP is very hard to reach, rarely answers emails or his phone.
I find a solicitor specialised in property law to help me navigate this situation. As Miss X is not deemed “absent”, the solicitor suggests that it’s best to try and resolve this with the appointed legal representative (SP), as any other legal routes available for absentee freeholders through UK courts wouldn’t apply (as we know where Miss X is). I explain the situation to SP, he talks to a judge and informs me he lacks capacity to make decisions about the leasehold and freehold matters without court / judicial approval in his country.
SP also asks for help with gaining access to Miss X’s UK bank account. All rental income from her flat in the UK is being transferred to a UK bank account via the estate agents. I share information on obtaining power of attorney in the UK and suggest it would be best to appoint a lawyer in the UK to help with all matters.
November 2023. After several months of backwards and forwards with SP to try and find out exactly what legal documents the judge wants to see in court, under his guidance my solicitor produces papers, documents and evidence, we get them translated, postilled and posted. SP is confident the judge will be happy and grant permission for signatures.
The documents make it clear that the authority being sought for SP to sign the leasehold extension and transfer of freehold are in no way prejudicial to Miss X and in fact extending the lease would add value to her property should she decide to sell in future.
A court date is set 3 months later. Sigh. More waiting.
I lose my buyers (understandably).
February 2024. The court date arrives. The judge rejects the request for permission for SP to sign papers on behalf of Miss X. It’s not fully clear why this is rejected. After speaking to SP it seems that the judge now wants SP to obtain access to Miss X’s bank account before moving forward. I am surprised that no progress has been made with that.
I go back to my solicitor. Now that we can show that steps have been taken to locate Miss X and get the deeds signed by her legal deputy without recourse, they suggest that we can apply to court in the UK to have another trustee appointed to sign the transfer and deed, and suggests appointing counsel to make the application to UK courts, which should be “run of the mill”. We choose a barrister, the situation is explained, documents shared, and I’m given a 3 week timeframe for papers to be produced for court.
In the meantime we connect SP to a solicitor in the UK who can help with obtaining PoA, as no progress has been made with that yet.
A few days later the barrister gets in touch, more bad news.
Under TLATA, there would be a breach of trust if all required consent from the current trustees was not obtained, so it is not sufficient to just add another trustee, Miss X would need to be replaced as outlined in the Trustee Act 36(1). However under the Trustee Act 36(9), where a trustee lacks the ability to perform their function, no new trustee can be appointed without consent from the Court of Protection. I am informed that making this application to the CoP is lengthy, costly and risky. The barrister says it would be faster and safer to wait for SP to obtain the relevant permissions.
We reach out to SP again to see what progress has been made. None. Some documents need to be translated and he is unwilling to pay for the translations (it seems their organisation has no money). We offer to pay now and be reimbursed once access to Miss X’s money is granted.
We are now almost half way through 2024 and coming up to 2 years into this situation.
Is it really possible that legally these are my only two options?

• going to the UK courts at great expense in a process that has been called “risky and lengthy” by the barrister.
• Waiting for SP to sort out PoA with no guarantee that the judge will even grant permission for the deeds to be signed (again risky and lengthy)

I know I can try and sell my flat without the share if freehold and with a short lease, but this will affect its value and the short lease especially will be a problem with mortgage applications.
Any different ideas on how to approach this? Seems so absurd to me that currently I can’t sell something that is mine, due to a situation I didn’t create!
There are many more twists and turns to this story but I have left them out as this is long enough. Also I do not have a legal background or am a housing expert so apologies if some of the language I use is incorrect.
Reddit, help!

I previously worked in big 4 consulting focused more on policy/operational improvement and have worked at a F500 as a senior manager near director for 4 years across multiple strategic projects across regional/global level.
I am about to finish my MBA where I have excelled in the top 10% of my class. My undergrad results were quite poor but I feel I have demonstrated my ability now, many years after my original degree.
I have always wanted to work in pure strategy but feel I have never had the right person to learn off and build the skills. Am I crazy to think about MBB even though I would have to likely start again at associate? What would you do?

I, (17M) had a S.A experience which I still haven't gotten over it till date ..
Just about 2 years ago, a mate of mine in the hostel Let's call him Ice was weirdly obsessed with me for some reason I don't know. We rarely talked of course because he didn't run in the same circles as I did. I don't know how this happened because we all grew up together though we weren't friends .
He is not the type of guy anyone would expect to do that .He has a gf, his cool friends gang and all that straight popular guys all do. While me in contrast is kinda the very opposite "not liked and outcasted by my mates due to weird rumors and plain homophobia not that " I am gay for the record".. So Ice basically did all kinds of shit like ogling, grope me repeatedly and then proceed to attack and belittle me at any chance he got that made me feel so fucking uncomfortable. At first I dismiss it as a mere joke that was untill an certain incident happened that he bullied me : "tore my bread into pieces in front of me" for no reason at all
I can't even explain all the messed up things he did and I don't know if you understand but everyday I woke up paranoid of what Ice will do next to me and played numb to all that.
Let just say I would have forgotten it if I didn't have to remember that "creepy ass smirk" he had all the time while ogling without shame or groping me. It kinda sent the message "I can do anything I want with you, and you can't do anything about it" and I hated to admit that he was right and I was totally helpless given my situation at large . Fun fact is that I thought I was delusional about the whole incident and repeatedly gaslighting myself that maybe this guy was just joking around or I am taking this way too seriously. That was until the bread situation!!
Funny enough he didn't even apologize. After that "tearing of bread into pieces" incident, he just stopped me that night to shake my hand..I don't know if that is bro code for apology . It's not about the fucking bread!! It is the fact of how weak and pathetic I felt when he did that and couldn't stand for myself cuz everyone else will support him .To rub salt into the injury my so called friends had a group meeting with me on how I should have stood up for myself and fought him. And what did I do to offend him so bad cuz the reaction was weird.
And in the evening when I made a promise to myself to stand up for myself in the future..Fate decided to played a cruel game with me that evening.
It was common for guys to go fetch water downstairs for the evening bath. I decided to help a junior friend of mine who was sick to do that. It was a long queue with junior guys. Normally seniors jump the queue for that but I decided not to ( Wrong choice by the way). And that got me trapped cuz Ice also happened to join the queue as well.. I tried jumping the queue to avoid him but Ice stop that and said of course the right thing to do is to lead by example and wait and the juniors agree with him. While we were both in the line and before I knew it. He started repeatedly groping me down my ass .. I tried turning back and signalling but no one of course noticed. That was until I stared him down with hate in my eyes and luckily that made him uncomfortable and he told the juniors to allow me to fetch my bucket and leave...... That made me realized that maybe I wasn't being delusional or overreacting and This guy is really doing all this on purpose. And waves of guilt and self hate flooded my mind and I hate myself for not protecting myself enough and be pathetic enough to be picked on like that
After I left that environment,I continue to obsessed about those stuffs until I saw him again for a moment which weirdly made me stop obsessing about it temporarily
And I can't tell anyone cuz I am afraid they won't take it seriously or just dismiss it. And I also come from a pretty very conservative country so you can only imagine.
I feel that I can't trust anyone really, the few people I told just plainly dismissed it as I am a guy and didn't really take it seriously.. Almost like I am overreacting which I knew I wasn't back then.
And back then I just wanted to tell someone, anyone but Alas I couldn't find the courage to even do that..
Even the option of therapy won't even solve that because I don't even believe in such and we'll it's not practiced over here by the way.
I still feel that I lost my innocence and can never be the same and I hold it against him but I am trying to forgive him for all that.
So any advice?

Example: English.
Grammar and rules based on Anglo-Saxon, though there are only 4500 true Anglo-Saxon words out of 170000, making about 1 percent. As joke for this dire cituation, there is historical fact that at some the time, linguistic purists created slogan : "Avoid Latin derivatives; use brief, terse Anglo-Saxon monosyllables". And irony is that the only Anglo-Saxon word in the entire slogan is "Anglo-Saxon".
Another example: Japanese.
There're kango (total 49% of the vocabulary) - Chinese loanwords from 5 century, wago (34%) - initial Japanese words, gairaigo (9%) - transcripted into Japanese european loanwords, konshugo (8%) - hybridized words that draw elements from more than one language. So less then half of Japanese words are *Japanese*.
But the more fun cituation - writing systems. Kanji came with kango an used nowadays like in ancient, although the Chinese hieroglyphs have completely changed over a thousand years. From kanji deveoped hirogana and katakana. Both used as simplfied version of kanji, though katakana has huge foreign orientation.
Rōmaji - just writing Japanese in latin alphabet, which was used here.
So we get the 1,5 out of 4 writing systems, which used today and have strict native origin.
Third example: Estonian.
It's modern vocabulary:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Estonian_vocabulary#/media/File:Estonian_vocabulary.png
Well, you get the idea.
So, which modern languages consists largely on foreign words or in which grammar and rules are totally borrowed/ultrashifted?

Who is Tristan Da Silva?
Tristan Da Silva is a 6'9" tweener forward coming off a standout senior year at Colorado. Known for his versatile offensive skills akin to Kyle Kuzma, Tristan is this year's "Most Likely to Be Jaime Jaquez Jr." winner. He's set to immediately contribute as a valuable role player in the NBA.
Da Silva is intelligent, adaptable, and performs well both on and off the ball. His ability to thrive as a #3 or #4 scoring option—spotting up from three, attacking closeouts, and exploiting mismatches—makes him a potent offensive threat. Yet, questions linger about his transition to the NBA due to his athletic, strength, and length limitations. In college he was a solid defender but due to his physical limitations his defense is a big question mark for me.
NBA Fit:
I'm all in on players who bring versatility and a high basketball IQ to the table. Da Silva fits this mold perfectly as a high-floor, low-ceiling prospect likely to excel as either a starter or a key bench player, depending on the team's needs. Ideally, he should be paired with a strong, versatile forward or a defensive anchor to compensate for his limitations.
Da Silva is on my short list of players I would love for the Raptors to draft at #19. His fit next to Scottie and Co. is arguably the best out of the available prospects when we will be selecting. Furthermore, Da Silva is ready to contribute today and fits the BBQ timeline. If he can become the high end role player that I think he can be he would be a perfect forward to pair with Scottie.
Strengths:

• Versatile offensive player
• Smart player
• Makes good cuts
• Uses his size on mismatches
• Has some 3-level scoring potential with step back middys off the dribble
• Has a little back to the basket game with short hooks when guarded by smaller defenders
• Not afraid to shoot the ball
• Capable of creating his own offense
• He was the guy at Colorado
• Is a smart and willing passer
• Has a nice turnaround jumper
• Shows ability to create offense off of screens
• Good shooter
• Knows how to get open with off ball movement
• Has projectable NBA role as a versatile scoring forward able to play off ball and provide on ball creation in a pinch.
• Can go coast-to-coast off rebounds
• Not afraid to take big shots
• Good hands on defense
• Smart team defender
• Has a high motor on defense. Willing to do the little things.
• Can protect the rim in a pinch as a help defender

Weaknesses:

• Not very athletic
• Not very long
• Will his lack of athleticism limit his ability to create his offense
• Needs to get stronger if he is going to be a PF/SF
• He is the definition of a tweener. He is not athletic enough to be a wing but he is not strong enough and lacks the frame for an NBA power forward
• Will he be able to get all the way to the hole in the NBA?
• Seemed to struggle when guarded by larger defenders where he isn’t able to leverage his size
• Will his defense transfer in the NBA?
• Questions about his lateral quickness when switched onto quick wings and guards
• Questions about his strength when asked to guard true power forwards
• He will most likely never be a good rebounder

Stats and Analytics:
Here are Tristan Da Silva’s senior year stats and advanced stats at Colorado:
Senior Year Stats:

• GP/GS: 34/34
• Minutes: 33.8
• FG%: 49.3
• 3PT%: 39.5 on 4.8 3PA
• FT%: 83.5
• Rebounds: 5.1
• Assists: 2.4
• Steals: 1.1
• Blocks: 0.6
• Points: 16.0

Advanced Stats (Senior Year):

• PER: 19.8
• Offensive BPM: 5.0
• Defensive BPM: 2.1
• Overall BPM: 7.1
• Usage Rate: 22.5%
• True Shooting %: 60.6%
  
• Isolation & Driving: Only 3.6% of possessions in isolation and drove 8.4% of the time, highlighting limited on-ball activity.
  
• Spot-Up Shooting:
  
  • Ranks in the 94th percentile for spot-up scoring with 1.237 points per possession (PPP) this season.
  • 82nd percentile in shooting off the catch with 1.19 PPP.
  • Shot 40.3% from three overall, increasing to 48.1% when unguarded.
• Historical Performance:
  
  • Last season, scored 1.11 PPP in spot-up situations (84th percentile) and 1.21 PPP shooting off the catch (85th percentile).
  • Shot 39.6% from three last season.

NBA Comparison:
Tristan shows elements of both Kyle Kuzma and Jaime Jaquez Jr. in his style of play, offering a promising outlook for his NBA career.
Game Tape:
For a closer look at Da Silva’s playing style and skills, check out his game tape here.
What are your thoughts on Tristan's fit in the NBA? Let's discuss!

Today I got a call from my agency that my contract was going to be cut short due to a few complaints. I need other nurses’ opinion on this please.
Context: I’m contracted at a rural multi purpose hospital, combined emergency, acute medical and residential care. It’s purely nurse-led with medical officers on call who can get on the telehealth/screen in ED if needed. Plus a doctor who physically visits approx 3x a week in AM shifts.
There’s a senior RN who works casual shifts. We never really got along, although we’ve never had any direct conflict or arguments. She just makes a lot of comments about travel nurses, questioning our ED skills, how we made the nurses accomodation a “pig sty” (even though it’s spotless, no dishes on the sink, always dried and put away on the spot etc). Anyway she complained to the management that I don’t do complete handovers- for example I didn’t hand over to their shift that I gave a slow IV push of digoxin to an ED patient. Another nurse who was in the handover room 100% remembers that I did in fact hand it over including the period of time I took to push the drug in and what time. On top of that, all the drugs given were charted and co signed by us, all available for her to read. But she says I never handed it over.
Number two, there’s a complaint that I argued with the doctor and have “abrupt attitude.” I have never ever argued with anybody there- not the admin, nit the cleaners, not the medical team etc. I have opinions about the people but I always keep it to myself to avoid the work politics. The closest thing I can think of is the doctor DECLINED to see a head injury patient I handed over, because she would rather suture a non urgent wound on the limb in another room. Without asking who, what, how, when, she just replied “I don’t want to see him” with a smile on her face. I said “They’re actually in that other room right now and have timed their arrival to see you.” And she went “Well I’ll be too busy suturing in there.” And that was end. She refused to see him 100%. Fortunately, the same coworker who is vouching I handed over the digoxin also witnessed this interaction. The patient was clinically well and neuro obs okay so he was discharged with a minor traumatic brain injury fact sheet. I explained all the warning signs and to come back if so. He returned the next day unwell and I texted her again to come SEE him, that’s when she finally saw him. And the kid ended up getting a CT scan in a bigger hospital. Luckily, there was no brain bleed. This was an INCREDIBLY DANGEROUS situation and I have so many regrets because I didn’t advocate for that patient enough. Luckily he was okay and he went home. I also had another chest pain patient who presented twice on the same day- I followed protocol, did the ECG and bloods. The dr was giving me attitude that it was clearly non-cardiac and non-urgent, rather mental health related. Regardless, I did my job and followed protocols for chest pain. Then the pharmacy called me asking about a loratadine script not matching the online med chart, and wanted to clarify which drug the doctor wanted. Obviously I was not going to tell her which drug to dispense (as I’m not a doctor) so I passed it on to the doctor. Her response was “This question is so petty. I don’t really care.” As you can see, despite this doctor’s attitude, I’ve been very patient and kept things to myself to remain professionalism. These are the closest interactions I can think of to an “argument.” The only person other than my witness who knew about this interaction was the same RN above who complained about the digoxin
Fourth, we do our own blood pathologies onsite due to being rural. So when I had a chest pain, I placed a 24 gauge IV cannula on a 71 year olds r) forearm SOLELY for the collection of bloods. My thinking was rather than poking her 3x for repeat bloods I would cannulate her to collect from the same cannula (you only need 1 mL or less each time). I already told this to the LPN/LVN who questioned the size of the cannula. I assured her at the event we had to administer IV drugs, it would be given in a bigger cannula on the L) forearm (as I avoid collecting blood from the same IV where drugs and fluids are being pushed into). This is also documented in her acute folder, cannulation form (under reason for cannulation is BLOODS). Anyway this LPN complained that I’m using the wrong IV size. Iwant to clarify NO IV DRUGS were given. Only ORAL. That IV was purely for bloods. But you know what, thinking about it, even if I were to push fluids through there, it wouldn’t be wrong. 24 gauge is used on paediatrics AND elderly AND adults with miniature sensitive veins.
But despite all of this, my contract has been cut shorter by weeks and the agency has asked me not to approach the management. And to finish my contract quietly and in peace. They won’t pass my feedback on out of fear it will cause conflict in their relationship with the client. Additionally, moving forward, they cannot place me in ED contracts anymore until I’ve completed a medical/acute contract and gotten good feedback.
To me this absolute bullshit so I told them this will be the last contract with them (I have other agencies). Did I do the right thing? Was I wrong in any of these scenarios? Please give feedback as I want to improve myself as a nurse…

My cat is turning either 22/23 this year. She still eats, purrs, cleans herself, does her business without assistance and can still jump up onto the bed.
Sometimes however, she does these loud meows like she is confused or disorientated. This normally stops when she sees me. I take her to the vet every month to get her weight checked and they seem to think everything is fine for a cat that age (her kidney's slowly failing though)... But could she be meowing in pain?
Any cat owners with older cats experienced this, and if so, what could be the reason? Anything else I should keep an eye on?

Who is Tristan Da Silva?
Tristan Da Silva is a 6'9" tweener forward coming off a standout senior year at Colorado. Known for his versatile offensive skills akin to Kyle Kuzma, Tristan is this year's "Most Likely to Be Jaime Jaquez Jr." winner. He's set to immediately contribute as a valuable role player in the NBA.
Da Silva is intelligent, adaptable, and performs well both on and off the ball. His ability to thrive as a #3 or #4 scoring option—spotting up from three, attacking closeouts, and exploiting mismatches—makes him a potent offensive threat. Yet, questions linger about his transition to the NBA due to his athletic, strength, and length limitations. In college he was a solid defender but due to his physical limitations his defense is a big question mark for me.
NBA Fit:
I'm all in on players who bring versatility and a high basketball IQ to the table. Da Silva fits this mold perfectly as a high-floor, low-ceiling prospect likely to excel as either a starter or a key bench player, depending on the team's needs. Ideally, he should be paired with a strong, versatile forward or a defensive anchor to compensate for his limitations.
Strengths:

• Versatile offensive player
• Smart player
• Makes good cuts
• Uses his size on mismatches
• Has some 3-level scoring potential with step back middys off the dribble
• Has a little back to the basket game with short hooks when guarded by smaller defenders
• Not afraid to shoot the ball
• Capable of creating his own offense
• He was the guy at Colorado
• Is a smart and willing passer
• Has a nice turnaround jumper
• Shows ability to create offense off of screens
• Good shooter
• Knows how to get open with off ball movement
• Has projectable NBA role as a versatile scoring forward able to play off ball and provide on ball creation in a pinch.
• Can go coast-to-coast off rebounds
• Not afraid to take big shots
• Good hands on defense
• Smart team defender
• Has a high motor on defense. Willing to do the little things.
• Can protect the rim in a pinch as a help defender

Weaknesses:

• Not very athletic
• Not very long
• Will his lack of athleticism limit his ability to create his offense
• Needs to get stronger if he is going to be a PF/SF
• He is the definition of a tweener. He is not athletic enough to be a wing but he is not strong enough and lacks the frame for an NBA power forward
• Will he be able to get all the way to the hole in the NBA?
• Seemed to struggle when guarded by larger defenders where he isn’t able to leverage his size
• Will his defense transfer in the NBA?
• Questions about his lateral quickness when switched onto quick wings and guards
• Questions about his strength when asked to guard true power forwards
• He will most likely never be a good rebounder

Stats and Analytics:
Here are Tristan Da Silva’s senior year stats and advanced stats at Colorado:
Senior Year Stats:

• GP/GS: 34/34
• Minutes: 33.8
• FG%: 49.3
• 3PT%: 39.5 on 4.8 3PA
• FT%: 83.5
• Rebounds: 5.1
• Assists: 2.4
• Steals: 1.1
• Blocks: 0.6
• Points: 16.0

Advanced Stats (Senior Year):

• PER: 19.8
• Offensive BPM: 5.0
• Defensive BPM: 2.1
• Overall BPM: 7.1
• Usage Rate: 22.5%
• True Shooting %: 60.6%
  
• Isolation & Driving: Only 3.6% of possessions in isolation and drove 8.4% of the time, highlighting limited on-ball activity.
  
• Spot-Up Shooting:
  
  • Ranks in the 94th percentile for spot-up scoring with 1.237 points per possession (PPP) this season.
  • 82nd percentile in shooting off the catch with 1.19 PPP.
  • Shot 40.3% from three overall, increasing to 48.1% when unguarded.
• Historical Performance:
  
  • Last season, scored 1.11 PPP in spot-up situations (84th percentile) and 1.21 PPP shooting off the catch (85th percentile).
  • Shot 39.6% from three last season.

NBA Comparison:
Tristan shows elements of both Kyle Kuzma and Jaime Jaquez Jr. in his style of play, offering a promising outlook for his NBA career.
Game Tape:
For a closer look at Da Silva’s playing style and skills, check out his game tape here.
What are your thoughts on Tristan's fit in the NBA? Let's discuss!

97th minute winner from 15 year old Joseph Teasdale in the u-18 league fixtures against Celtic. Aberdeen were presented with the u-18 league trophy at this game and were 2-0 down at halftime. Another u-18 player, Fletcher Boyd, made his senior debut on Sunday coming off the bench to score in the 92nd minute.
Really excited for our future with this group of kids coming through.

Hello, gusto ko na lang talagang ilabas 'to kasi hirap na hirap na talaga ako. Please suggest some things that I can do to lessen my problems, pero sana hindi masyadong harsh hehe.
I'm 18 years old and pakiramdam ko sa lahat ng parte ng buhay may problema ako. Dapat 1st year na ako ngayong AY and turning second year next sem, pero I dropped out first sem pa lang ng freshman year ko. Sinabi ko sa family ko na ittry kong mag-aral mag-code/program (since yung kinuha kong course is Computer Science) and bigyan lang nila akong 1 year, pag nag fail mag-eenroll ako ngayong year. And yun na nga, nag-fail. Wala akong idea sa coding/programming and hindi ako masyadong interested doon, gusto kong makakuha ng IT related knowledge kasi yun ang in-demand ngayon at hindi kami mayaman kaya kailangan kong maging wais sa pagdedesisyon sa buhay. Pero ngayon parang lalo ko pang pinalala ang sitwasyon ko, I tried mag apply sa ibang univs as freshman pero hindi pala ako pwedeng matanggap dahil nakapag-enroll na ako last yr sa ibang school and kailangan tranferee na ako. Kailangan kong makuha yung documents ko sa dating school and malaki yung babayaran. Sinabi ng mga magulang ko na kunin na yung documents at bayaran na lang namin yung balance sa school pero naaawa na talaga ako sa kanila, alam kong pinaghirapan nila yung pera pero parang mawawala lang ng ganon dahil sa mga maling desisyon ko sa buhay. Nag enroll ako sa univ na yon dahil tutulungan kami ng mga pinsan ko (mother's side) sa tuition fee and sa allowance.
Pero here's the real reason why I dropped out of college: - I was pressured, since maraming nag-papaaral sa'kin ang dami kong tao na kinoconsider bago ako makapag desisyon, and I overthink a LOT. - add ko pa rito na I applied for scholarships tapos lagi akong tinatanong kung nakapasa ba ako, sobrang tagal ng resulta and may scholarship na nag-release ng result tapos hindi ako nakapasa so lalo pa akong na-down. (may isang scholarship na nakapasa ako pero too late because nag-drop out na ako when they released the passers.) - medyo strict din yung mga pinsan ko na nagpapaaral sa'kin so medyo napressure din ako don, and they're pretty successful people so yon. - I was shocked, sobrang laking adjustment para sa akin dahil mula elementary - senior high school ay sa lugar lang namin ako nag-aral then biglang nag Manila ako. Nag-adjust rin ako sa environment, kasi sa bahay na ako ng mga pinsan ko nakatira and sobrang nahihiya akong kumilos, tinutulungan na nila ako financially tapos sila pa nag-aasikaso sa akin. - Friends & cousins (not the ones that are helping me, father's side), nung nakapasa ako sa univ na yon my friends and cousins weren't that happy for me, they were asking kung dun na ba ako mag-aaral and all. Ayokong sabihin yung tuition fee sa mga pinsan ko pero nasabi ng nanay ko sa tita ko because natanong sya on the spot so nasabi nya and nalaman ng mga pinsan ko, tapos nung nalaman nila they acted na parang papahirapan ko mga magulang ko (kasi di nga kami mayaman and di namin afford) and they were telling me na gusto ko lang kaya ako papapasukin doon, when in reality gusto ko rin naman talaga pero gusto rin akong ipasok ng mga magulang at mga pinsan ko (mother's side) sa maayos na school.
Hindi ko na alam ang gagawin ko. Gusto kong kausapin yung mga magulang at mga pinsan ko na bigyan ulit ako ng chance na pag-aralin ako at dun ulit sa univ na yon (bc baka mahirapan na akong lumipat) pero hindi ko alam kung papayag pa sila because na-disappoint ko na sila. Sobrang naappreciate ko pa rin talaga silang lahat kasi nung nagdecide na akong ganon hindi nila ako pinagsalitaan ng masama, they even tried things para mas maging magaan yung loob ko kasi lumalayo na ako sa lahat at that time. Sobrang hirap para sa akin kasi pakiramdam ko sinayang ko lang yung pag-aaral ko nang mabuti mula elem - shs, alam ko naman rin na hindi ako tanga pero parang naging ganon na ngayon yung tingin ko sa sarili ko, lol.
I deleted my socmeds when I dropped out, wala akong na akong connections sa lahat ng mga kaibigan ko for the past 8 months.
May nangyayari pang gulo sa pamilya namin ngayon so mas lalo akong nahihirapan pero hindi na ako magdedetail sa part na to.
And I'm also broken hearted rn haha, my ex who is also my best friend is now out of my life. Malaki rin yung naging parte nya sa buhay ko because we've known each other for around 6 years. Ayoko na rin idetalye to kasi baka mabasa nya, gusto ko na lang rin syang hayaan kasi may iba na na nagpapasaya sa kanya. Salamat pa rin sa kanya.
Kailangan ko lang talagang mafigure out yung gagawin ko para makabalik sa pag-aaral kasi nung yun pa lang yung problema ko sobrang sakit na sa ulo, tapos habang tumatakbo yung oras lalo lang nadagdagan yung mga problema.
Sorry pero hirap na hirap na ako, araw-araw na iyakan, sleepless nights, at ngayon hindi na ako makakain kahit ako yung tipo ng tao who loves to eat, lol. Naaawa na rin ako sa nanay ko kasi laging kaming dalawa lang ang magkasama and siya yung nakakasaksi ng mga pag-iyak at panghihina ko. I'm even considering na tapusin na lahat ng paghihirap na to kasi hindi ko naman alam kung worth it ba talaga, kung may liwanag ba talaga at the end of the tunnel. Pero iniisip ko rin na sobrang laki ng mundo, bilyong-bilyong tao ang walang pakialam kung mawawala ako ngayon kaya gusto ko na lang rin sanang maranasan kung paano maging successful at maranasan maging totoong masaya.
Pasensya na po wala na akong ibang mapagsabihan, nakakatakot na rin magtiwala at magsabi sa iba, at least dito anonymous haha.

Hi everyone,
This year is my first season as a member since 2011 and so I am unaware of how the membership tickets for the rounds 16-23 games work. I have an 11 game membership and I am confused as to what happens

To be able for you to tell me this, I don't want to post my CV, but some details:

• I have 3 published titles I worked on as game programmer (all of them are Unity)
• These titles contain PC-only games and there's also a multiplatform title
• I have also fixed tons of bugs which were related to Xbox One and Android platforms
• I have a hobby Unreal Engine title I worked on as game programmer
• I already worked remotely as a contractor multiple times.

These are consisting 7 years of professional game industrial experience with full-time jobs (only in small indie companies). During these years I didn't receive too much code reviews (I mostly worked for very small indie studios). So maybe I'm at intermediate level, OR between intermediate and senior level.

So, I am an employee at a French-Belgian mid-sized company in Belgium. Our leadership has no written HR rules and openly uses different policies for different people - most have WFH twice a week, only a few (incl. me) have no WFH possibility even though I have 5 year seniority within the company and WFH was taken away from me for no specified reason (I had it for 2 years). I and some of my colleagues also notice discrimination when it comes to leave policy. Are there strict rules in favour or against this behavior epecially WFH possibility for most except 5 people in the office? if so, where can I read them? FYI We don't even have an HR person in the office, one of the regular staff takes on the role of HR (salaries are outsourced)

TLDR: junior software engineer with no guidance at work, lots of freedom which is great but also struggling due to lack of experience (trial and error approach). Wanting to know how I can support myself so I can become better as a software engineer and well rounded for future opportunities.
Forewarning: long post incoming, thanks for reading.
I've been working for a few months for a relatively small business in Auckland, primarily as a junior software engineer. I've been working on implementing brand new integration systems which sit in the middle between in house software and a cloud based ERP system. Lots of python, REST API development and general data processing.
I'm in a bit of a unique situation, in that it's essentially just my supervisor and I. They are a sort of jack of all trades IT specialist, and are self taught when it comes to coding. I have a background in software engineering and computer science, but this is my first 'professional' software role, so I'm essentially junior in terms of years of experience.
I have been really enjoying the job, my supervisor comes up with ideas and requests for things they want to have built, and I go away and crack on with coming up with a solution. It's been tough, but good fun. It's been a very 'thrown in the deep end' experience but I feel as though I've learnt a lot since starting at the job, albeit through a lot of trial and error.
My main 'concern' is that it's not a very standard way of building software, so I'm not getting the exposure I would normally get in a larger team with regards to mentorship. We don't do sprints, or any of that sort of thing. There aren't hard deadlines. There isnt really much of anything in the way of how a normal team of engineers would operate in industry. I can discuss ideas and problems with my supervisor but they mostly leave me be to crack on with my coding, they are generally busy fighting other fires.
I'm trying to apply the things I've learnt during my time in University but I feel like I'm missing out on having anyone provide feedback. I'm also missing out on the broader picture. A lot of what I do is just 'okay what tools can I use here, do a bit of googling, okay this sounds reasonable let's flesh that out, okay that works keep adding on etc.', but it feels undirected. I don't know anything about best practice, or industry standards, I just do what I can with the little that I do know.
I'm worried about my growth in becoming a well rounded software engineer, for when I eventually decide to move on.
I guess what I would like to know is, what could I do to help myself broaden my skillset and fill in the gaps where I'm unsupported, so that when I do move on, I'm not in the shit due to a lack of oversight from a more senior engineer.
Furthermore, are there any specific book recommendations that could help round me out? What tech stacks are most common in NZ? Should I continue to dig deeper on my python skills specifically, or should I try to dabble with different technologies so I am more marketable (for when the job economy becomes better in the coming years... hooefully).
I'm essentially trying to figure out how I can plan for my own professional development.

I’m an appointee for the upcoming class of 2028 and something I’m still a little confused about is if cadets get summers off, and if so, how much time? I was under the impression that your first two years included no summers off and then junior and senior year you had around 3 weeks or so..

I'm an Illinois resident that didn't get the program I wanted my senior year of high school that currently goes to Madison. I was thinking of transferring over and possibly changing my major while I was at it. (For context I'm pretty familiar with UIUC as a sibling goes there and tons of people from my HS go there as well)
I currently do Computer Science and pre-med but was thinking of switching to CE + pre-med or CS + Bioengineering. I can't decide which program would be better to transfer into since acceptance rates are low and I just want to work with more hands-on things like circuit boards and other things.
Currently I've taken Calc 3, Lin Alg, Diff Eq through Madison's Honors Calculus track (MATH 375/376), Discrete Math, General Chemistry I and II, and COMP SCI 300 and 400. I also have AP credit for AP Physics C, AP Bio, AP Lit and Lang, APUSH, and some others.
Which program do you guys recommend?

hi, im a 19(F) who in the past year has dealt with two ghosters who used to be my irl friends, but slowly begun to dislike me overtime for some reason - for this first ghoster, we will call them Apple and for the second ghoster, we will call her Banana for privacy reasons
so let’s start with Apple. i’ve been friends with Apple for 7 years (middle school-high school) and while we weren’t close close because of our different interests, we’ve gotten each other thoughtful and meaningful birthday gifts and talked on social media a lot — when we were seniors in high school, which was last year, after our winter break they had begun to ignore me on social media - we still saw each other irl so i thought nothing of it, but i still felt some sort of loneliness and lack of closeness from them. in may (last year) when we graduated, apple was still ignoring my messages so i decided to only text them every few months as to not bother them - around oct, i had checked one of our social media to see that they soft blocked me, and i assumed they had done so in the middle of summer sometime. they had also gotten into new interests within that time, something i actually knew about so that we could’ve had a convo - it never happened.
in nov, i had asked one of their friends if she knew how apple was doing, and the friend didn’t feel comfortable telling me (which i respected) so then on thanksgiving, i messaged apple for closure and an explanation in hopes of finally getting a response - still nothing. apple was even online, and completely ignoring and ghosting me. it really hurt me.
things soon took an invasive turn. in december, i had continued to respectfully ask apple’s other friends if they knew anything about apple ghosting me. they said no. i even offered to give one of them context via my text messages with apple, which i know now was a complete inappropriate move on my part, because even if i didn’t actually send them, i still considered sending them, which is wrong. i was desperate to find out the truth. apple unfriended me on social media for talking with their friend, but didn’t completely block me yet.
in mid january, our friendship ended. i was still feeling desperate and needing to know why apple ghosted me. so i messaged another one of their friends to ask if they knew anything about me being ghosted (i did not send anything personal). the friend had no idea but told me that they would show apple our conversation.
(i also put apple in my dni on my new social media account, made a sarcastic comment abt them ghosting me but also allowing them to message me if they wanted. i was feeling spiteful and annoyed at the time)
i soon got an angry, harsh message from apple.
the message was basically that i lost the right to know why they stopped talking to me (remember this for later), disrespected apple for wanting to share our personal information and relentlessly bothering their friends. (i do agree on that part and it is my fault, although i was very respectful when they all said they had no idea and i apologized to them all) — apple also said they didn’t ghost themselves from me, but rather distanced themselves from me — as they said, i agree that’s completely fine and normal - however, it becomes a problem when you don’t say you’re going to distance yourself from said person, because apple still had me added on other social media before that day, and apple gave me a heartfelt message in our yearbook (but I actually never got to write in theirs) - so ofc i got mixed signals
anyways, apple basically told me to get a life off my phone and that they will never contact me again. okay, i accept that (except the ‘go touch grass’ part that was uncalled for, but it was the heat of the moment so i understand their anger) — now, remember the ‘lost the right to know why i stopped talking to you’? - apple constricted themselves a few sentences later saying that they didn’t want to make a big deal ending a backboned friendship (of 7 years, mind you!), which im assuming implies that they never valued our friendship as much as i did. (ofc sometimes our friendship was rocky at times, but i always apologized in the end.)
one thing that makes me mad abt the message is that apple never took responsibility for their actions that begun all of this, never once replying to my messages and even knowing how much i was hurting from the closure message i sent them two months ago, they did not care about my feelings in the slightest - i know they said they would never contact me again, but at least think of the happy memories we had once before and once you’ve come down from your anger, take the responsibility as i did. but i guess i wasn’t worth it.
afterwards, i ended up breaking down and crying a few days later because the deserved hurtful message really made me feeling upset for weeks - I even vented to my own friends about the whole situation but idk i feel like some of them didn’t really care or just got annoyed with me because i did the invasive thing and probably still are so i felt like i couldn’t talk about my own feelings with anyone and take in my sadness alone
it’s been a few months since then so i’ve moved on from my first ghoster and i still don’t have many irl friends to this day, but i do wish them the best, even if we ended on a sour note. i’d say we were both at fault here, and it could’ve worked out had we just communicated and talk it out. but i suppose we’re better off and maybe we were just too toxic for one another. i am still sorry for everything that went wrong. i can only hope my first ghoster is too, deep down.
now to you all, i’ve told you mainly everything that happened without leaving any important details out. i wanted to share my mistakes with you and not keep it in the dark, because it’s important to own up to them. ik im just a throwaway account here, but i hope you can see where i was coming from, even if it was an unconventional method. i am sorry. i would really appreciate it if you guys don’t entirely focus on that part, but if you need to, i understand.
part 2 regarding my second ghoster will be up in a few days. if you’ve read this far, thank you very much. it felt good getting my feelings out to this community, i just hope you all will be understanding that. i may still make mistakes from time to time, but i will learn from them with each passing day. thank you.

It's been two years pero nandito pa rin yung galit ko sa CVSU for not accepting me just because iba yung strand ko sa gusto kong kunin na program sa college. I took ABM kasi gusto ng parents ko but after senior high I stood up and choose what I really like, which is IT.
Recently, nag apoy na naman yung galit ko dahil out 50k+ students, 7k+ lang yung nakapasok. And someone I knew is being boastful about it saying na it says a lot sa commitment ng CVSU na i-maintain ang good quality of education. Sorry pero that's bullsh*t.
Finifilter yung mga nakakapasok; tinatanggap lang yung mga matatalino para masabing magagaling ang estudyante ng CVSU. Tapos iniiwanan yung mga estudyante na di naman kagalingan pero willing matuto.
Pakyu to the highest level. Napaka unfair nyo. Sobra ang discrimination nyo.
Edit: Dagdag ko lang, if commited talaga ang CVSU sa good quality education, dapat hindi sila maging selective sa mga students na tatanggapin nila. That's the challenge; gawing knowledgeable yung mga students matalino man or bobo.

I'm writing this late at night unable to sleep cause of this aching feeling that I'll never be able to reach my goals and aspirations. Currently I'm a junior in highschool about to go into my senior year. What's really bothering me is being unsure of the path I'll take. I've always wanted to study aerospace engineering but after looking into it the prospects for a job like that seem dismal. My dream college is MIT, one of the few schools where a aerospace engineer degree would stand out from, but I feel as I've wasted away my time in highschool not applying myself enough, and now a feeling of guilt and panic have started to dominate my life as I know most likely I can't do anything at this point in my highschool career to be able to reach my dream school. Apart from that although I love space and all things related I don't want to spend my whole life living under a salary going into work everyday wasting away my life until 40 years later I retire to enjoy my last few years.
I just feel so lost in what my future plans are ideally looking at what my ambitious are I'd like to have a company of my own in the aerospace field but when i look at it realistically the chances of that seem impossible.
I could really use some advice in how to overcome these types of feelings or things I could do to potentially make my dreams come true. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Sorry if it seems incoherent in some parts I'm not used to expressing my feelings like this.

I’m a 26 yo Indian Male Engineer. I have about 5 YoE as a software engineer.
Academics: Undergrad from a school which has been a feeder, though not a lot, to INSEAD, Duke, etc. GPA - 8.8/10 - pretty much consistent.
I was awarded scholarship as well in one of the semesters for scoring in top 15% of the batch.
Not sure if this matters - I was struggling with depression during high school to the point that I did get suicidal and that took a hit on my academics. I couldn’t score well enough to get into top tier institutes and eventually, though not proud of it, had to get admitted to the University via donation.
Professional Experience: Company 1 - Software Engineer - 2 years Location: India US based I was among the top 5 finalists who had the chance to showcase their hackathon idea at the company headquarters. This idea is being used currently as we speak.
I was promoted once from junior level software engineer to mid level. I was up for another promotion in 8 mos but decided to quit as I wasn’t growing.
Company 2 - Tech Consulting Location - London, UK Role - Tech lead I was the project lead for a client to develop an application. I wore multiple caps here, Tech lead, project manager, stakeholder management, mentor.
I quit this job after 8 months as Tech Consulting was something I didn’t want to do.
Company 3 - A very well known Brand (not FAANG) - 1.5 years approx Location - London, UK Role - Software Engineer

• I’m part of a high performing team that generates prices for the product that the company sells.
  
• I’ve led 4 projects here, bringing in millions of revenue, working with Product Managers and other relevant stakeholders.
  
• Saved 2K$ per month.
  
• Not sure if this is relevant but I’ve worked on side projects that have improved the day to day processes within the team. (Optimizing efficiency of the team)
  
• I was also recognised, on two occasions by my Senior Director for the work I’ve done.
  
• Recently, I started working with another team that’s responsible for optimizing the prices of the product that we sell. This team is much more business oriented, though my role is technical, than the previous one so getting a decent exposure to pricing strategies and optimisations.
  

Extracurriculars: 1. I was part of the fundraising campaign in my Undergrad, bringing in thousands of rupees for the college fest from local businesses. 2. I led a team of 5 for an event during the fest. 3. I was part of the college football team. 4. I’ve worked with an NGO in London to improve their social media reach and website visibility. 5. I used to play football for a league in London but had to stop because of an injury. 6. Currently I’m building a football community in London - organising leagues, practice sessions, etc
Post MBA goal: Moving into Product Management, specifically in startups and eventually moving to entrepreneurship.
Target Schools, mostly US - (I’m still in the process of researching) Duke, NYU Stern, Kellogg, Haas, UCLA Anderson, Tuck, Kelley.
GMAT - preparing for it.
Targeting to apply next year. So class of 2026 I guess.
Ofcourse MIT, Stanford, Harvard are in my list but I am so demotivated looking at the responses to the profile evaluation of Indian Male IT engineers that I’m contemplating leaving my current job, moving to India and taking up a role that’s unconventional just to have an edge.
I really need some guidance.
Any help would be much appreciated.