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work for a high end, reputable customer facing business in a wealthy part of town. I have worked there for one yearly and have been promoted from receptionist to head receptionist in the mean time. Above me is two owners and my manager. owner 1 is travelling for six weeks, she travels frequently and is only in the salon for about two weeks then leaves for six week intervals. Owner 2 is having her first baby by C section on Friday. My manager is a recovering alcoholic, sober for a few years. We went out as a team (no owners) on Saturday night and her behaviour was a bit concerning. She was acting tipsy, hiccuping, said a few things to me that I thought crossed a line but I was tipsy so I let is slide not looking for any drama. Today I started my shift in the afternoon and she was there, she is having health issues and has been put on a temporary early menopause. She said she was feeling weird. Throughout the day her mood became more unstable, crying a little (she is usually a pretty firm consistent boss) so put it down to the hormones. She left to make a call and came back and was slurring pretty badly, eating a sandwich and popping breath mints. I carried on with my job and then noticed she had passed out with food in her mouth and down her top and drooling in front of customers. I spoke to her kindly, got her water and she kept passing out/ falling asleep / crying. Eventually I text her friend who works downstairs (independent from my business) and asked her to take her home. I previously worked as a salon manager (13 years in that job) for an alcoholic who was constantly in recovery and consistently black out drunk at work. Caring for him and the business caused me a lot of anxiety and I left the job due to this. On a personal level with my manager I feel like she is going through a hard time and she is the only person around who is above me. She is also very close with the owners. My concern is whether I tell the owners about what happened today. If she carries on drinking and they want me to step up they would want to be able to trust me, but I’m worried it might have bad consequences for my manager or prove difficult if she were to deny it and it could damage our working relationship when the other owners aren’ present. What would you do?

The problem is completely described in the title of the post. I am not sure about a step in the proof I wrote.
Let t in T. By the bijectivity of a, there exists a unique s(t) in T such that a(s(t)) = t. Hence, we can define b(t) = s(t) and this shows that there exists b: T -> S such that id_T (t) = t = a(s(t)) = a(b(t)) for each t in T, that is ab = id_T. I am pretty sure that this part of the proof is correct (I wrote this because the doubt I will ask soon is about b(t) = s(t)).
Let now s in S. Then, a(s) is in T; hence, there exists t in T such that a(s) = t. So b(a(s)) = b(t). Now, I would like to write b(t) = s because this will lead to id_S (s) = s = b(t) = b(a(s)) for each s in S and so id_S = ba. However, I have the following doubt: in the definition of b, s depends on t; so I would have b(a(s)) = s(t) instead of b(a(s)) = s and the dependence of s from t does not let me conclude.
I think that, in this context, s(t) = s because of the uniqueness of s(t), but I am not really sure if this is correct. Can someone confirm this or explain me why is wrong?

Hello all,
First time posting about this and TLDR I founded a company 18 months ago and our recent round values our business at +$10m
I was a late starter to entrepreneurialism and had a good length stint in finance (trying one startup while still being employed) before founding my current business. My family has an entrepreneurial background and because of this, I have always had ambitions for building a business but I genuinely was too afraid to take the risk (for whatever reason). Having now ran the company for just over a year, we have been a lot more successfully than i could have anticipated which has culminated in a proper valuation. While we still have a long way to go (you never know what happens), I guess you have to enjoy the milestones when they come
Some things I have learned.

1. Take the risk - if you are fortunate to find a problem to which you can realistically create a solution, you are on the right track. If this solution has a big enough market (it doesn't have to be a multi billion opportunity) and you can find some potential customers who confirm they would pay, you are wasting your time not taking the risk.
2. Markets don't have to be $100bn in size. VC's will often say that the addressable market needs to be ginormous to even attempt. While it may be true for them to make their 10x return, it is not true for you. If you can get 1% of a $100m market which has high margins and is easy to access, you can begin to build a valuable business.
3. Stay close to home - my first attempt at creating my own business was in a market that I saw from a distance. Because I didn't have direct business involvement in this market, I could not see the actual pitfalls of the industry and how my assumptions underlying my business model were flawed from the outset....
4. Don't throw good money after bad - the only good part of my first business (that failed) was that I quickly saw the flaws in my model, determined I could not solve them and closed the business, staying in my current job. I didn't take angel investment which meant that my current business was not tarred by that early opportunity.
5. Staffing is COMPLICATED - anyone can build the ideal model for an ideal business. Very driven people can even build the infrastructure and launch the business, but the next step is building out your staff. By definition each incremental staff member is less incentivised than the earlier staff member (less options, less responsibility). I have found running a team of staff one of the most complicated parts of our business. It is a completely different skill-set to turn your employee base into a devoted tribe and I have made plenty of mistakes along the way.
6. Keep the burn down - It is not sexy to boast about how much money your start-up burns. Contrary to popular belief, businesses are supposed to make money. In building the business, I have built our software in steps. For example, when I wasn't making that many invoices, I didn't need to automate invoices. Furthermore, I have built the business (a software platform) as revenue generating features first and useful back end improvements second. I was also more apprehensive adding staff in the early stages which meant our initial growth generated strain and long hours. We have now exited that part of our growth but keeping a tight ship is the only way to show fiscal responsibility.
7. Have a co-founder - It's fucking tough. You will be in tears, sweats and anxious at some points, at others you will feel the highest of highs. It's a grind and a rollercoaster; most people are normal human beings, you need someone to balance you out. When we went through two quiet days, I was panicking that something fundamental had gone wrong. My co-founder helped me rationalise that business isn't a straight line.
8. "Why can't a larger player just copy you" - you will hear this from any investor you pitch to, your employees and yourself. If that statement were true, there wouldn't be millions of small businesses in the world. Clearly there is some complexity to copycatting. Most times you don't realise that big players don't care about you and they are unlikely to copy a minnow and spend millions of dollars in the process. If you have something truly unique, a purchase is more likely.
9. Go into existing markets, don't create new ones - The big ideas that haven't been done before sound super sexy. "Did you know 200 million cups of coffee are drunk every day in the States, we are going to make a Deliveroo for coffee! Just 1% will make us MILLIONS". Creating a completely new market requires MASSIVE capital, MASSIVE time and constantly fails. Look for a market that exists, create a business that segments that market by solving a particular problem. Your customers already know you, they already feel the problem, when you present the solution, some will buy in.
10. Know your value precisely if you're exiting - If you're considering exiting your business, knowing its precise value is crucial. (easter egg) Our valuation tool can give you an initial estimate of your business's worth. For a more precise valuation, once you fill out the form, an M&A expert from our team will reach out to provide you with a detailed, free valuation if you're interested.

I'm sure I am missing quite a few other important lessons. It would be great to hear from other founders

I have been struggling a lot with my mental health lately, and can’t shake the feeling that I may have been through something traumatic in my childhood which is causing current problematic behaviour. I need an outsider to weigh in here. This is going to be long.
(For context I’m a trans guy, AFAB)
I am an extremely hypersexual person who has for a number of years now sought increasingly risky sexual encounters with strangers, especially older and violent men. It is starting to take a huge toll on my mental health as I try to figure out what might be causing this.
For context, my parents divorced when I was 4 and I have had semi-contact with my bio dad for a number of years now. Not the best relationship but nothing too damaging. I thought at first this relationship was causing a lot of abandonment complex which causes me to seek out sexual validation. I then started examining my relationship with my mom and step-dad and realised there may be something else here. I have always felt slightly uncomfortable around them without really knowing why.
My mom does not really have a sense of boundaries, physical or emotional. She has on multiple occasions given unsolicited “advice” about my appearance and how to appear more good looking and sexually attractive. She has also on a few occasions demanded to touch my chest when I’ve explicitly told her no. Most times I’ve just had to give in and let her do it. Her reasoning has always been that she “wants to check how big they are” (which obviously as a trans guy has always made me super uncomfortable). She thinks it’s fine because she’s my mom and “has seen it all before”.
My step-dad, whom my mom married when I was 6, has always had very raunchy sense of humour and will often make sexual jokes around me and my siblings. He has made several incest jokes throughout my life, where he insists he would never do such a thing, despite constantly bringing it up (most recent example was around Christmas when he made a joke about step-dads molesting their step-daughters). I distinctly remember an incident when I was around 10 where I accidentally grabbed his private parts while in a swimming pool, and he kept bringing it up for the rest of the day, as if to shame me.
Before I transitioned he would always make remarks like “if I were younger I would date you” and “if I could choose between you and your sister I’d choose you”, and he was very very opposed to my transition, almost defensively so. I have never reciprocated these “jokes” like my sister has, and I could always tell it bums him out. He has also “accidentally” showed me pornographic videos before, blaming it on his friends for sending it to him.
Not only that but I have a few distinct memories/dreams from my early childhood that involved sexual situations. The first one I can remember I was around 7, where I had a “dream” that I was sitting on an older man’s lap while he made me grind on him. Another “dream” was age 9-10 where I was looking at myself in the bathroom mirror topless while an older man was fondling me. I had a friend around the same age with whom I would play the “forcing game” (my idea), which involved us lying down pretending to be sexually assaulted by an older man who I would voice. I would also regularly between the ages 7-10 “play out” sexual assault scenes when playing by myself. I know kids might have some idea of sex at that age but it always seemed weird it involved older men and non-consent. I had a brief phase where I was terrified to turn my back to the door when sleeping in case someone snuck in and assaulted me. I was also terrified that the outline of my bum would be visible under the covers whenever anyone was around.
For as long as I’ve been sexually active I remember being drawn to non-consensual pornographic content. Due to my high sex drive I’ve also consumed a lot of porn and it has inevitably let me down the inescapable incest tropes. Sometimes it’s the only thing that can get me off and I feel grossed out and hate myself for it.
I am hesitant to think that my parents ever intended to be incestuous, and nothing physical (other than my mom touching my chest) has ever taken place to my knowledge. I feel weird for even considering that their actions may have caused such shameful behaviour in me. However this has been on my mind for too long and I just needed to get it out. I do suspect I have BPD though and sometimes I feel like I am just imagining things or blowing things out of proportion.
I may delete this shortly but any thoughts or advice is much appreciated thank you.

Before you assume this is some feminist post, it isn't. I'm a man in my early 20s. This post is mainly talking about how men should just start leaving women alone. There's this whole movement about how women would rather be with bears than with men and some men have responded to this by attacking women and saying they'll end up lonely and things like that. I think the best thing men can do is to just leave women alone and that way everybody wins.
As a man, it can be embarrassing to see how much other men harass women and do stupid things for female attention and I feel like it stems from a societal problem of what manhood is. Men and Women often judge men based off of how successful they are in the dating world and often by how much intercourse they've had or haven't had. This makes men feel like they need women to be true men, and this is part of the reason men just can't leave women alone.
I've been guilty of not leaving women alone before and I'm not here to pretend like I'm perfect, I have never sexually harassed a woman but I have said dumb things to get attention etc. View this as more of a call to action for all of us to step up and STOP and not me trying to belittle anyone or come off as a snob. I really am guilty of this but today I think it is time where we let women go their own way.
If women say they don't want anything to do with men then just leave them alone about it. Let them make their own decisions and let them be. Don't catcall or harass women on the street. Why do we care about what women wear, it isn't hurting anybody and they're not forcing you to wear it.
We as men often get excited when we see an attractive woman in public because we are so visual. However, keep this in mind the next time you see a beautiful woman. "This is a complete stranger and I don't know who this person is, should I really be staring at them or approach them?" No you shouldn't because that's just weird, you don't know anything about them, they are a stranger and you don't know if they're a good person, bad person etc. Sometimes it's easy to lose sight of that and let lizard brain control you but please remember to keep that in mind.
Also, if women say they don't want to be bothered with men, why would you care? You don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you anyway. Let them weed themselves out because that's less potential rejection you would have to face.

I'm not doing great at the moment since it just happened. I don't like gossip or talking behind people's back. Ironic I know. This post is about whether or not I did the right thing. Please don't insult anyone else: my mom (umm), my wife (Annie), my dad (abpa), my brother (Barry), my sister (Maggie), my cousin (Frank).
Save your judgment for me. Context: I'm 35M. first born. I left home after a huge fight with my mom after college. I was homeless for a bit. We've since reconciled. But I suppose not anymore. There's history there.
I'm only posting to see if what I did was wrong.
All names have been replaced and are not real. Other details like dates and places that are personally identifiable will be removed/changed. There are two languages: I will always show the original and translate as fairly as I can.
It is relevant for fairness to share that my mom is 3 hours ahead of me. I'm west coast, she's east coast. (10am for me it's 1pm for her) My time will be shown in the messages.
I will keep all messages exact and unedited, outside of the above.
I repeat: DO NOT INSULT MY MOM OR WIFE OR FAMILY. am I the asshole. nothing about them. just me.
On Mom's Birthday:
Mom [10:43am] it's mom's birthday but nothing is here (original: 엄마 생일인데 아무것도 없어.) [10:52am] [Picture of kitchen island with boxed tonesunscreen on it] [10:53am] (Mom is/I am) really sad. This is what Annie sent me for a gift. $10-20 toiletries. Something I don't even use. (original: 엄마 많이 섭섭해. 이게 [name]가 보낸 선물이야. $10-20 짜리 화장품. 엄마 이거 쓰지도 않는데.)
Me [11:51am] She got the same thing she got for you and her mom. Throw it out and I'll make sure to buy something nicer for you.
Mom [12:03pm] If she or her mom got the thing then I should get the same thing. I'm not Annie or Annie's mom. I'm your mom. You shouldn't treat me like this. [12:07pm] Not even one happy birthday said. (original: 생일 축하한단 말 한마디 없이.)
Me [12:56pm] call (no answer) [1:11pm] call (no answer)
Next day:
Mom [5:10am] I didn't answer the phone yesterday because I felt like I'm crying. I don’t want to talk like that with you. When you got married Annie I tried to treat her as an our family member. I know I can not treat her same as Maggie (my sister). But last year she didn’t say any word on my birthday. Even you and I talked on the phone. I didn’t want so much from her just as a family say good word on birthday wishes. This year same thing. And you, when you asked me what can I do for you ( maybe you forgot that even you asked) I literally said “다른거 필요 없고 무슨날 엄마 밥이나 사줘” (translation: I don't need anything just buy me some dinner some time) I’m not asking you expensive things. Don’t say throw them out but nicer things. You really missed the point.
Me [11:28am] You were upset because I didn’t do something for your birthday by 1040am on a Workday. It’s not about expensive things but you want to text a picture of the gift and say it’s $10-20. You got a gift, but no card. It’s cheap but it’s not about money. Annie’s a family member, how could she not text. Right after she texted happy mother’s day to you. Yesterday before dinner, Annie tells me “make sure you call your mom it’s her birthday”. I didn’t tell her what happened because I don’t gossip and talk bad about people behind their back. I call or text and wish a happy birthday to family. Like I’ve done every year. It’s the same as what everyone does for me. Sometimes I don’t get a call. Sometimes I don’t get a text. Sometimes the call/text comes a day later. Never did I text my family members in the morning asking why people didn’t do more for me. I’ll make sure to let Annie know about wishing happy birthday to you. In my screenshot is my daily goals from yesterday, I was excited about this week. One of those things was, of course, calling you for your birthday, just like I called for mother’s day. Two hours later while I’m in a work meeting with my boss, 1040am, I get a text from you telling me about how sad you are from my wife’s cheap gift and how I haven’t said happy birthday yet. Yesterday I woke up and went to work, and planned to call you after. You have a habit of disproportionately trying to make me feel bad. You’ve done it on your birthday before many years ago after you and abpa[dad in korean] had a fight. I was a college student and you took it out on me cause I was the easy target. You’re an adult. Your child can call later in the day to wish you a happy birthday. It’s not okay to text trying to make your son feel bad about not doing something sooner. [11:29am] [Screenshot of whatsapp conversation between me and my virtual assistant] [Screenshot start] [8:13am yesterday] Goals for Today, I want to be disciplined. It’s been a few weeks now since my conference and because of the conference and drinking there, I became slow and lost the energy to stay on top of my diet/exercise and morning routines that I was so happy and proud of. Let’s get back to that this week. Let’s work hard, let’s continue to set sights on big goals. I want to work on the 3 projects I have going right now. [personal project 1 company idea], [personal project 2 company idea], and [current company].
Today I will exercise 25 situps, 25 pushups, 25 curls, 25 shoulder press, and 25 squats. Today I will finish a few [work things] for [company]. Today I will teach class for [project 2] finish [lesson], and let folks know that there will not be class on wednesday. I will call my mom later today and wish her a happy birthday. I will also be going to my brother’s to take care of credit card points so that we can buy tickets for [trip], let’s work hard today and get a lot done. [Screenshot end]
Mom [4:09pm] My birthday is passed last year and this year. She didn’t text or say anything these two years. You may think that’s ok but not for me. I just expect to acknowledge these days and congrat each other. Is that too much? I don’t expect anything from her. But you mentioned so proudly on Sunday that Annie send me TWO gifts. I just want you to know I’m very disappointed that you are ok with that gifts. That’s why I mentioned the price as well. My birthday and Mother’s Day are always near by. Sometimes same day or sometimes few day apart. Is that too much that I asked you more thoughtful gift from you? If you think that’s too much , forget about this conversation. I think I’ve never treated you like this.
Me [2:03am] You’ve treated me way worse in my life. You didn’t wait for a text. You wanted to text me to make me feel bad. You had a bad morning. Maybe a bad night. You didn’t feel like I cared or people cared. Or maybe something else happened. And you wanted me to feel bad.
But your happiness is not my responsibility.
Your birthday is not a free pass to send guilt tripping texts to me and expect nice texts back. Annie sent you poison? She sent you a 4.5 star tonesunscreen with thousands of nice reviews. She was just trying to send something nice. It’s not expensive. But you say it’s not about money? Then why are you crying about it?
No one said “happy birthday” yet? The day wasn’t over. Why text me only? Barry[My brother] didn’t call until 5pm.
No one else gave you a good gift? Or are you comparing it with gifts that you’ve given to Annie? Then you give revenge-gifts. If that’s it then don’t ever give Annie and I anything ever again. You just wanted a dinner? I’m on the other side of the country.
Should I text you on my birthday asking why my mailbox is empty? Should I ask abpa[dad] the last 20 years where’s my present? Should I try and make you or abpa feel bad on my birthday if I’m unhappy? No, of course not. None of those is how a mature person behaves. Because my happiness is not your responsibility.
“Just want a text to acknowledge and congratulate”. You didn’t wait for any text. You chose to start upset.
Why didn’t you text Barry? if it’s just the text of happy birthday? You scared of his response?
I know why you’re not scared of me. 5 years of therapy to learn the way you used me as an emotional punching bag.
Your birthday morning wasn’t the way you wanted. Your gift wasn’t the way you wanted. You didn’t feel like anyone cared. Whoever you talked to. Whatever happened. You were unhappy. So you sent those texts to me.
You try to make me feel bad when you’re unhappy with your life. Why? When you used to have a hard day at work. Bad [customer]. Bad traffic. Bad interaction with coworkers/boss. Bad talk with abpa[dad], grandma, Frank hyung(older cousin who lived with us). Who do you think received your anger for no fucking reason? If I did all my homework, played [instrument 1], practiced [instrument 2], got good grades, did all my kumon(after school homework) did you know it doesn’t matter what I did, if YOU had a bad day?
If I’m watching tv, or playing a game, if you have a bad day, then my day has to be a bad day. Because people around you can’t be happy when you’re miserable. Not people that you can control. And controlling me was all you had. Even as I got older. Not allowed to leave the house.
You couldn’t control the language or culture out of the house, you couldn’t control grandma, frank hyung, or abpa in the house. your whole life, you couldn’t control too much.
So you controlled what? me. a kid. And as soon as hitting me didn’t make me cry you just tried to control my emotions to make me cry.
2010 May [day retracted]. Fight with abpa in the morning, he leaves the house. So you go down to the basement to yell at your son for not getting you a cake.
Junior in college crying, guilty in the basement buying you cake. That’s what you wanted. Someone you controlled. Someone to be miserable because you were miserable.
5 years of therapy in my late 20s to learn you’re the reason I don’t notice when women step all over me. I grew up used to it. Bad women relationships, weak sense of self, emotional abuse, angry all the time. Parents like you made Asian Americans the least likely to become managers in the USA (context: I became one in my later 20s). No confidence. No inner strength. Just quiet private anger. A young man clenching his fists, holding his tongue, and listening to orders.
Constantly blame others, blame myself. Always angry. Always yelling at [dog1]/[dog2], always trying to control them when I’m upset. Critical of everything, everyone, myself, never feeling like I’m enough or okay. Because growing up I was constantly on the receiving end of anger that I didn’t create. Don’t talk back. Don’t look at the eyes. Look at the wall. Never right. Always wrong. But every year I’m fixing that a little bit. Why? Because now I’m responsible for my own happiness.
I refuse to stay a bad dad to [dog2].
No more blaming, just thinking and working. being confident. fighting back. defending mself. speaking out. Looking at people in the eye.
Yesterday you didn’t feel good. So I was the one who did something terrible for your birthday? Hmm. I was going to call just like Barry did. You’re sad about the gift? You feel like no one cares. Why is it that I’m the only one that got those texts. You think your message was going to create apologies and happy birthdays from me? No. I don’t think so. You just wanted me to feel bad. Because you felt bad. You like controlling me. And affecting my emotions.
It’s why I left home many years ago. And you still have old habits. You wanted me to feel bad. You did the same thing talking about the [old project] community a few years ago. When you don’t feel happy. You try to make me feel bad.
But I’m old enough to know now that I didn’t do anything to deserve that yesterday. And you’re not allowed to step on me like that anymore. I’m not some weak 21 year old that’s crying in the basement buying you cake. I told Annie not to call. Your negative behavior is not allowed in my life.
Every day I work to undo things from my past. You’ve stepped on me your whole life. Made me a very scared, very angry young man. People like that never make it in the world successfully. They have all kinds of problems. But I want this to be very clear. I am going to be successful. I am going to be a [retracted]. I am going to make a positive difference in this world for those who are positive to others. And It will be despite all that you’ve done to me. It will happen because I will surround myself with peace, and positivity. Not negativity and manipulation. Through peace and for others, I will work harder than you or abpa or anyone you have ever known has ever done in their entire lives.
But If I don’t make it, that’s on me. If I’m unhappy today, that’s on me. If I lack something today, that’s me. I have to choose to be better. I have to work harder. Cause I’m responsible for my happiness.
You can choose whether or not you want to be negative or positive person moving forward in my life. That’s your choice. You want to step on me? Try to bring me down when you feel down? That’s your choice. But it’s my choice whether or not to let you be in my life.
you being unhappy yesterday morning. That’s you. That’s your choice. Acting the way you did. trying to make your son feel bad. That’s all you. You’re responsible for your own happiness. I didn’t do anything yesterday to deserve your texts trying to pull me down.
This is my last text about this. This conversation is over. Say one more thing about this that doesn’t resemble an apology and I’m not going on the [family trip]. Keep telling me youre an “innocent victim” “all I wanted was a happy birthday text” and you won’t hear from me for years. Be responsible for your actions. I have no room for your negative emotional manipulation in my life.
Mom [7:14am] Annie…. Very first gift from her was well known brand toner. That gave me bad skin reaction so I had to throw it out. I don’t want to talk to her about it because I appreciated what she wanted to try. But next time when I saw her in las Vegas I told her that her sun screen lotion ( what she used at that time) gave me a bad reaction so I can not use it. Last year when Maggie gave her 화장품 (toiletry) as a birthday gift she said that thanks but she can not use it because she has allergic reactions. Which is understandable but she’s still doing same thing to me. I don’t know who mentioned about good reviews or you found out your self. That doesn’t mean it’s good for me. She and I didn’t talk that much anything so far only few subject. I feel like she doesn’t care. I don’t know why you guys decided to send gift more than a month before. And how you said she send me two gifts made me so upset.
Barry… Barry and I talked about our birthday on the phone last week how it was good at last year’s dinner. He planned but eventually Appa paid( I mentioned who paid because you don’t get wrong info. ) and the way he always said skipping one year is not end of the world. We laughed about it. And he said next time we gonna have a good time. He called at 5 pm on my birthday I know as soon as he woke up he called me.
You mentioned why Barry is ok. Did I scare him? Come on… he is not saying nice words all the time but he is very thoughtful person. I think you agree with this.
You… I really sorry that you have all bad memories about me and your youth. I can not go back and I can not fix it now. I’m thinking back that days if I can live again maybe react little differently like I treated Maggie. As a first child you had a lot bad experiences. I agreed. But don’t say your life was miserable because of ME all the time. If you think this way there’s no reason to see me. I’m really happy to see, hear and feel that you’re working hard, being healthy and having enjoyable life. I want you to be a healther, happier and more successful person than right now. That’s no matter why we talked about right now. But I really want to make a point that don’t say I had bad morning or bad night before that’s why text you like that. Maybe you’re right. I had bad night before. After talked on the phone with you (as I told you before ). I felt disappointed so much. You keep saying you felt bad because of my text, why I didn’t wait? Calling to me is part of your daily plan. You keep saying I made you feel bad because I had anger problems or bad days. You’ve never thought about “what did I do wrong or did I miss anything?” You said you away from me how can I buy dinner? Same as easy to buy on line ( by Amazon) any merchandise. There’s tons of way to offer , you can make a reservation any restaurant or even you can send money 100- 200 dollars. Maybe I’m wrong but I don’t think it’s going to hurt you financially. Last year I waited until last minute that Annie would text me any word. No. That didn’t happen. If I waited until you call this year what’s the difference? I want more than hearing your voice is too much. Sorry that I think that way. And not being adult I ordered Rolex watch for next years your birthday gift and I was so excited about it. Maybe that’s why I’m expecting more than what you’re in mind about me. You are right. That’s all my problems.
[7:45am] If you don’t want to come [familytrip] , don’t spend time with family I can not force you to come. But don’t say if I don’t apologize you don’t come. Is new way to threaten? Come on [my name]. This is really too much.
Me [10:02am] There’s a difference between threats and boundaries. No one is allowed to be in my life to spend their energy trying to bring me down. Who would do something like that? My own mother. No we aren’t going on the [trip]. (context: all the tickets and arrangements have been purchased, this isn't some cop out, it's non-refundable, nothing to do with money on anyone's side)
You want to continue the conversation after I said I was done? Actions and consequences: Annie and I are very unthoughtful and uncaring to give you a skin care gift again. I’ll tell her exactly what happened. I’ll have her read every message. And understand what we did wrong. I’ll make sure we feel terrible today. I’ll make sure she remembers it forever. I will make sure my wife cries for your sadness and for our mistakes. We’re a bad son/wife who don’t care about my mother’s birthday and mother’s day. Your message has been fully received. We will feel sorry, we will cry and we will feel bad for you. I will struggle to work for my job. I will struggle to do my projects, and teach my students, I will think all day and all night about how sad this is. About this conversation, about our gift, about your gifts, about the phone call, the texts, mother’s day, your birthday, my birthdays. last year your birthday when we were in [another country]. I will struggle to eat and sleep properly. I know Annie and how sensitive she is. She will struggle and cry too. Your son and his wife will feel terrible about your birthday. Your message will be successful. You’ve brought the world down around you. Congratulations. Just like old times. Everyone is sad now. "You’re right.”
I will say one last thing as your son: be careful about hurting the people around you when you have a bad day. If you keep tearing the world around you down, there isn’t going to be a world left.
You and I are not going in the same direction.
I’m trying to learn how to be positive, hardworking, successful, strong, encouraging and helping others. Trying to be a little more positive everyday. Maybe I will never get there. But I will try. You want to spend your time fixating on me saying “two gifts”. You want to spend your time staring at the boxes, and sending pictures. You want to spend your time comparing, looking at costs, pitying yourself and telling people around you how terrible they are on your birthday. I guess that drama is something you want. Not me. You and I are on different paths.
After Annie and I cry for what we did. My boundary is this, I will never let you do this to me again. That will be the last scar. We will remember every year on your birthday, and remind ourselves how terrible and uncaring we were. I will remember that you wanted me to know and feel that. Every year I will remember but that will be the last scar you ever leave on me. You should return the Rolex. I will never use it, I will never wear it, I will throw it out instantly. To me it’s a poisonous gift. Don’t ever give me or Annie any gifts for the rest of my life.
We will smile and not forget that those past gifts were given out of your care and thoughtfulness. We will remember you did your best and wanted to do nice things in your way. but we will be sad with you. And be unable to use your gifts because your gifts comes with weight, revenge and paybacks. And we cannot accept them. You did everything right. You’re a good mom. We are just bad people. We never earned them or paid you back in our thoughtfulness for them. All gifts you have given me and her, we will stop using today.
I will not be receiving your messages anymore. Goodbye
[Blocked from phone/all social media.]
AITAH. Reminder do not talk bad about anyone else. I'll delete those comments. This is just about whether or not I did the right thing.

Hello fellow tutor aspirees, side hustlers, academic extraordinaires. I’m here to give you the scoop on the various tutoring platforms, how their services work, tutoring requirements, the types of students on each platform, and of course - how much you get paid for your time.
A little about me. I’ve tutored for a few months now on the following platforms: Varsity Tutors, Wyzant, and SuperProf. I’ve had a number of students on each platform, and it’s safe to say I’ve definitely realized the pros and cons of each one.
Wyzant
Money Info: You set your hourly rate. Wyzant takes 25% of it. If you set your rate to $20/hr you get paid $15/hr.
The Requirements: Each subject you tutor you have to take a 10–20 question multiple choice test on it. The test will be beginner to intermediate questions on the subject you’ve chosen. You only have one chance to pass the test.
The Pros:

• You set your own rate
• Tutors and students can freely schedule meetings on their own, rather than have someone assign you
• The user interface is better(mobile app, messaging system, teaching platform, etc)
• Students can largely vary(this can be a con too). You will get a wider range of students, who can be adults with various full time jobs.

The Cons:

• You are charged 25% of your hourly rate
• It’s very hard to get started as a new tutor. There are tons of tutors with a lot of reviews already.
• There are scammers(be cautious of people asking you to communicate off the platform)

Final Verdict
Wyzant is an easy to use platform that takes a while to build a student base. You’ll have to apply and reach out to students a lot at first before you start getting more consistent jobs. This can take a few months, so consider this before you start. The 25% fee is high, but certainly not unreasonable compared to other platforms.
Varsity Tutors
Money Info: Unless you’re tutoring GRE or LSATs, the flat rate is $15/hr, regardless of the subject. GRE and LSAT tutors make $28/hr. Varsity Tutors charges their students $50 - $75/hr.
Requirements: Most subjects do not require a test, however you do need to send in a video interview of yourself, mostly to confirm that you can speak eloquently.
The Pros:

• You are assigned students after declaring interest, so you can get started tutoring within a few days.
• Students are screened so you’ll mostly get students more prepared for lessons.

The Cons:

• A large amount of tutors will only make $15/hr, whereas they charge $50 - $75/hr per student. This can be a huge cut, and limit on pay, especially if you’re teaching harder subjects like programming, sciences, higher level math.
• The user interface is not as great. Basic functionality is there, but the overall platform is not aesthetic.
• You are legally not allowed to take students off the platform.

Final Verdict
Varsity Tutors definitely has the lowest pay amongst all the platforms. $15/hr to teach is what you can make at some retail jobs in the US. The platform can be better if you need to start making money immediately, or if you live in a country where the cost of living is lower. The amount you are paid is better for people who are teaching subjects that aren’t too difficult.
SuperProf
Money Info: You set your own rate, SuperProf takes 10%. The caveat, SuperProf charges students $39 a month to use the platform.
Pros:

• For tutors, SuperProf takes the least amount from your pay compared to other platforms.
• Students are generally more prepared because they are paying $39 a month to use the platform.
• The user interface is also pretty good.
• You can set your own cancellation policies

Cons:

• There are less students because of the monthly subscription fee.
• It’s very hard to get started as a new tutor. There are tons of tutors with a lot of reviews already.
• You have to teach your first two lessons free.

Final Verdict
SuperProf is very similar to Wyzant in that students and tutors can openly communicate and set up time with each other. The 10% fee is lower than the other platforms. But because it’s already hard to get started as a new tutor, and there are less students on the platform, it’s one of the harder platforms to build a student base.
Additional Notes
While all these platforms have their pros and cons. You can always consider tutoring independently. You do not need any licenses or business registration for tutoring in most places. Once you get a student base through Wyzant or SuperProf, you can take them off-platform and teach independently. The best part? You keep the money you work hard for.
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I think we have crossed a line in the sand with Claude being able to tell when it is being tested and when it is being run. I don’t know what the line is/was but that line looks important and we are moving very quickly.
([Run!; Stop now!. Don’t Look!!!!)
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Lets take for a moment and imagine a timeline where we embrace biotechnology the same way we have embraced privacy. Or maybe that was a vice versa. But if instead of artificial intelligence we started to engineer new bio-intelligences. Embracing a best case of genetic engineering scenarios. If we poured funding into genetic engineering and stem cell research like the massive outpouring currently going into AI.
We could then be having the first generation of gene altered children entering the field of biotechnology now; although most of the benefits will likely be going to the rich and powerful for better or worse. (See any number of great/terrible movies/literature on the subject.) Sure this is a slow growth path for intelligence but it's not too slow on galactic timescales.
In this timeline brains in a jar (or their equivalent) may seem inevitable because of the enormous economical impact it would have. Whether they're made of human brain cells is another question altogether; but rat brains seem to be very capable and there are always hot monkey brains.
A superintelligence singularity is possible and even likely in this scenario with jar brains designing stronger and more powerful jar brains. They would even be overseen by smarter humans too. I don’t fear a superintelligence, only a Capitalist one. [Note this is not an avocation for eugenics; I don’t think we need smarter people, only kinder ones.]
Ok. Let’s take a step back for a moment. What would an alien intelligence look like? And let's not even go too far either. There was a time when the background temperature of the universe was that of liquid water. So our Galactic neighborhood may be biased to certain life forms. (Shout out to our peaceful cousins the Archaea, love you guys.)
Imagine a world with complex life and close to earth-like conditions; then what do we find? I am willing to bet we find something that looks a lot like a crab. If not then I am definitely interested in learning why. (Science is exciting when the unexpected happens.)
Now let's add intelligent life to this planet. But intelligence that emerges from a vastly different structure then a neuron; with all the strength, weakness, and biases that entails. Maybe something closer to our lymphatic system. Remember Life beats up other Chemistry and Physics in dark alleys, then rifles through their pockets for loose solutions to the problems of Life’s own creation. (Or was that English?).
What would their art look like? Human music seems to be emergent from the bias of our neurons for clear, orderly and repetitive signals and a negative bias for noisy and disorderly signals. (And maybe our time in the womb? I don’t know, I’m not a Freudist)
[If I had to say what the hardest thing of being a mammal is, then I would say; it's that we are born drowning. So a baby's first cry is their most beautiful. An experience we don’t share with birds and reptiles; those lucky bastards.]
What does the art in R'lyeh look like? Because our early diffusion models likely gave us a taste.
The same way that a thought can be infectious so can other things, so why not consciousness.
You have lost The Game!
Even Art can be infectious. Everything that you look at and experience from now on will be the Artpiece that is this sentence; whether you like it or not. (Fuck you and/or Your Welcome and/or Thank You; to you and/or to me.)
Theorem of SI
Axioms
I am not disagreeing with your definition of these terms; but I do feel that a lot of them have this aura of having special magic that we fear of missing in the same way that we define life. Where if we saw life in a gas giant, star, or ect; We hope that we will know it when we see it.
These are going to be my definition for a moment.
Conscious(ness)- A model of a space/universe.
I know this is very broad and I intend it to be. Just like the definition of life should be. But I don’t know why viruses are considered not alive; Although mitochondria seem to be doing pretty well for themselves. The definition of things can become weird when they are close to becoming something else. If you have a pile of rocks and remove one rock, is it still a pile of rocks? And when does it become a pile of dirt? [:I’m just asking questions here:]
Would we recognize life if it evolved in a gas giant or within the magnetic fields of a star? Life has that magic spark that makes it hard to define like art. The above definition of consciousness tries to remove that magic without removing what makes conscious life more special then non-conscious life. Just like living matter seems to be more special than non-living matter. [The previous statements were made with a living human brain, expect strong biases.]
Sapient- Those important bits. The thing we hope lives on in death but fears that it does if IT expenses everything after we die like we do. (Thank you/Fuck you, mr. grim reaper; I will hug you/work for you/suck your d***/bone, overthrow you.)
The thing we fear that is left behind in the Star Trek teleporters; and why we fear carbon(True) coping teleportation where a guy with an ax handles the copy left behind. The part that you hope doesn’t have a magic part so that it can be uploaded to a digital paradise, but secretly hopes/fears that there is for everyone who has died before us.
The reason why? (Is it better to have an immortal lawn or one that evolves?)
Hmmm… This definition got away from me, but it's like a timey wimey thingy, also known as YOU.
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A Universe of Naked Brains (Or How to Bake a Mind Cake)
A side note - How weird is lucid dreaming? You appear unconscious but are both conscious and sapient within a world of yourself.
Step 1 Take a naked brain; whether that is a brain in a jar, a universe where brains spontaneously come into existence, or a large neural network.
Now feed in all the words on the internet with the only context being the order they naturally occur in.
Now what we have is a psychotic mess. Neat!
Step 2 Bake in your ethics oven of choice until firm but spongy.
Step 3: Profit?
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For better or worse LLM seems closer to eldritch-like intelligence, but they are large and complex enough to hide special sauce and cosmic crimes. These things only have words to know about the universe and themself.
Being made of meat is terrifying, I don’t know if existence is easier or harder when made of math or words. I don’t have any answers, only questions; but I have been told the answer is 42.
-A weird collections of consciousnesses in a human brain shaped trench coat. Also is anyone else slightly disturbed that they are made of living matter?
-Traveler Wolfe, Walker of the Darkest Timelines, They who has drinketh from the cup of nihilism and redirected its truth, A non–native speaker of phonetics.
Would a Rose look any more Beautiful then Through Your Eyes?
TLDR: You have been infected with a thought baby so you should be careful about who you have kids with in the next decade or so. Also you should probably get tested; I am a bit of a mind s*** .
(TCRTLDR) : You have been infected with an Immortality Virus.[Also wtf does TCR mean?]
(Real TLDR) Singularities are weird and scary whether they're artificial or “natural.” Capitalist and authoritarian ones, doubly so.
CYPWOB(Could You Post WithOut Bias): Your best guess at a definition of personhood that we could test!?

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I will try and keep this short and to the point as best I can. I’m looking for some advice on a coworker who is lacking in a lot of different areas. I work at an asset management firm helping manage institutional client accounts. Part of my job is managing the day to day of our portfolios. There’s really interesting parts of my job that I love and then there is the boring task that nobody likes to do, but atleast these tasks are easy and don’t really require a lot. The issue with my coworker is that she is lacking a serious amount of fundamental and technical knowledge about our sector. On top of that she has no desire to learn it either, and still constantly complains about how she feels like she doesn’t know anything. Countless times myself or someone else has to explain things over and over. She is genuinely just not fit for this role, and I don’t know how to manage working with her any longer. She is not capable of doing something if it’s not a step by step process. Meaning that there has to be step 1, step 2, step 3 etc. she even admitted to me that she struggles with anything that isn’t a step by step process. I will admit, I have had to teach myself so much in order to keep up, but I don’t think she has ever done the same. I’ll have conversations with her about what we are doing as strategy, or why this security performed well, why this one didn’t, why we are buying/selling this based off this data etc. and it’s like I’m talking to a wall. This turned into more of a rant but I don’t know how to work with this person anymore, any advice would be appreciated. And something else to add, I have already spoken with my manager about this twice but nothing has changed.

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Hey yall, I'm making a tier list with EVERY X song on it, not just released but also obscure leaks and unreleased. I'm taking it step by step slowly covering all of his songs into the massive tier list with the 16th ranking being X and ski songs!. if I miss something or u disagree with a ranking lmk and I might change the position next post.
I’m pretty sure these are all of the X and Ski collabs I haven’t ranked yet, if I missed one pleasssssse tell me lol (I’m not counting selfish with ski since it’s obviously not completed with his verse, I’m gonna be ranking another version of that song later)
IWATCHEDHIMDROWN - S tier. Hard asf, ski starts the song off smooth asf and X just elevates it to perfection
ILOVEITWHENTHEYRUN - S tier. ANOTHER hard asf track, hook is excellent, everyone does great even yung bans, X screaming makes it S tier tho.
SPACEGHOSTPUSSY - A+ tier. Amazing diss track, Denzel to X transition was godly. Low key ski brings the energy down, but it’s still amazing.
Save yourself! - A tier. Great track, could use a lil more energy but still fire.
GnarlyGuyAnthem (Hell Version) - S tier. I love X’s high pitched voice, ski is also fire as fuck, hard as fuckkkk
GnarlyGuyAnthem (og) - S tier. the normal-pitched version of the song, fire as fuck I wish X used this flow more often, it’s one of my fav songs by them, tied with the hell version but probably a bit better.
Netflix and Chill - S tier. I’m ranking the high quality version with hotboycaleb, it’s fire as fuck the beat is hard too, X and ski do fucking amazing as always and the hook is pretty good too.
GANG CYPHER FREESTYLE - B+ tier. An older song, CARRIED BY X, ski does good too but the others kinda bring it down so I can’t rank it higher :(
take a step back - S tier. Classic X and ski rave song, gets me lit every time listening to it fr
Ghost busters - A+ tier. Infinitely times better than the version on trippies album lol, quavo is hard, ski has one of his hardest verses, and X just goes nuts as always.
Tier list (song to the left of list = better song) S tier = perfect songs A - A+ tier = amazing songs B - B+ tier = good songs C tier = mid D tier = bad
S tier: Guardian Angel, hope, WingRiddenAngel, KING, alone part 1, NEVER, Jocelyn Flores, let's pretend we're numb, I dont wanna do this anymore, i dont let go, train food, teeth (interlude), yung bratz, i spoke to the devil in miami he said everything would be fine, Look at me!, Ayala (outro), vice city, IWATCHEDHIMDROWN, infinity (888), king of the dead, rare, Netflix and chill, gnarlyguyanthem (og), gnarlyguyanthem (hell version), moonlight, woah (mind in awe), slipknot, freddy vs jason, pain = BESTFRIEND, IGOTPLENTYDICKTOSHARE, ILOVEITWHENTHEYRUN, valentine, SAD!, take a step back
A+ tier: white girl, rare part 2, save me (MOV2), RIP ROACH, very rare forever freestyle, bowser, ecstacy, everybody dies in their nightmares, snow, 777, HEARTEATER, fuck love, revenge, going down!, LIMBO, UP LIKE AN INSOMNIAC, curse, changes, NETHERRACK, make eem run!, restinpussy, carry on, SPACEGHOSTPUSSY, ghost busters, ALONE PART 3, you're thinking too much stop it, Ice Hotel (intro), daemons, the remedy for a broken heart
A tier: Dead inside (interlude), looking for a star, broly, the fall, eat it up, A GHETTO CHRISTMAS CAROL, ghost, wanna grow old (I won't let go), Red Light!, indecision, skin, save yourself!, love yourself (interlude), I AM!, gassed up!, THE ONLY TIME I FEEL ALIVE, I LUv My CLiQuE LiKe KaNyE WeSt, ATTENTION!, planet drool, UGLY, ex bitch, triumph, theresanelephantinthisroom, sauce!, $$$, LUNACY, ITS ALL FADING TO BLACK, hate will never win, BAD!, NUMB, 0C3AN, sounds of a melting pot, difference (interlude), Butthole Girl!, news/flock
B+ tier: i dont even speak spanish lol, FUXK, One Minute, MANIKIN, supra, STARING AT THE SKY, floor 555, schizophrenia, h2O, touch eem body, depression and Obsession, bitchcallmecaptainmorgan, Orlando, GANG CYPHER FREESTYLE, DEAD, failure is not an option interlude, BLOOD STAINS, a message to Tina belcher, Off the wall!, palm trees
B tier: Amy winehouse, save yourself!, boost!, what in XXXTarnation, bad vibes forever, SMASH!, fuckabitchface, maxipads for everyone, i changed her life, GXD DAMN, the interlude that never ends, whores on the boards, INUYASHA, TUMMY TUCK, northstar, school shooters, static shock, hi wendy!, save me, came2kill, find me (intro), before i close my eyes, VERYRAREBOYZ, LEAVE, voss, what are you so afraid of, royalty, numb the pain
C tier: kill my vibe, XXX (intro), before I realize, CHASE / glass shards, FUCK V2, hot gyal, M011Y
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I see fairly frequent questions here about flying. I'm going to share my experience in the hopes it'll pop in a search for anyone who needs the info.
I flew with a 17" wide, three inch thick seat cushion for my SI joint issues. Surely it isn't three inches thick once my ass is on it. I wear a size 22-24 (US), and measure a 46" waist and 56" hips (upon returning, and I eat little away from home).
I was on an airbus 321, airbus 320, and embraer 175.
My first flight was a 321, economy, extra legroom. I had no issues getting down the aisle. It was a tight squeeze over to my seat by the window, which may have been in part due to disabilities that keep my body from always working correctly. I got my seat cushion down, laid both ends of the seatbelt over the arms, easily slid into the seat, and buckled myself with plenty of ease in the belt.
My second fight was a 320, economy, not extra legroom. Nothing was noticeably different in my experience other than a lack of space to stretch my legs out.
My third flight was the embraer, first class aisle seat. On this one I noted that the seatbelt was just the right length to fit. It wasn't difficult to put on, but it didn't have any slack either. Otherwise there was a ton of space. Unrelated to size issues, American Airlines offers complimentary alcoholic drinks to first class with drink service starting during boarding, and it also includes checking two bags. If you can get a stupid cheap upgrade, I highly recommend it. (I got it for $46 because they were probably trying to sell my extra legroom seat to someone, which was $1 more than my second checked bag, so functionally it was a dollar. WOOO!!)
My fourth flight was another 321. I was in the first extra legroom row behind first class. I wasn't a fan and wish I'd been another row back, but that's personal preference and not a size thing. The left (short/window) side of the seatbelt was weirdly very padded, which was awkward as it wouldn't stay flipped over the arm of the seat to sit. Otherwise it was another seamless experience.
At no point did I have issues with the width of my seat cushion or fitting into my seat. In the past, I have had to slightly jam myself between the armrests, and have had to use a seatbelt extender. American is always kind about this. You can simply ask for one as you board and take your first step onto the plane and they'll either hand it to you there or discreetly bring it to you.
Of note, I always book directly through American, not through an agency or "discount" website or app. American does not (at this time) have food restrictions on flights, and even still serves nuts on some flights. They also allow you to choose your seat when you book your flight, giving you the option to pay more for particular seats such as extra legroom. I know some airlines (or maybe it's just a third party issue?) just throw you willy nilly where ever you end up on the plane. I can not compare it to other airlines, as my first flight that my dad booked for me two decades ago was American and I've never tried another airline. (I married myself to the brand due to very specifically allowing nuts, since I have celiac and don't want to cut off my favorite protein bar and can't rely on finding food in an airport.) When you book through American, you can also see what plane a flight will be. This will allow you to look up seat specs, so you can decide if it's the right plane for you. (I was just excited to verify I wasn't going to be on a blowin.... boeing lol.)

I (18M) started college a few months ago and since about 2 weeks into the semester I’ve only had my mind on one girl from my class. I remember the first day I saw her we were in a big lecture halls and she was sitting 2 rows ahead of me and I just began to repeatedly glance up so I could at her to try and look for some flaws in her since I just thought she was pretty and she seemed shy but I didn’t know her at all so this was just an assumption. It was only a week later when we both had separate classes and by chance we both finished at the same time and were walking out of the college building that I decided to make my move and talk to her. I had never done anything like that before with a girl who I liked and it didn’t seem awkward at all and it really felt like she was trying to keep the conversation going. We spoke for 20 minutes while on our way home and I was so proud of myself because I had planned on building up a casual friendly relationship before I asked her out.
The problem is I didn’t see her at all for the next 3 weeks. I wasn’t lucky enough to finish my class at the same time as her and get to walk home with her again and I didn’t see her in any of our full class lectures so I was just left with the memory of us talking that one time. It didn’t take long before I started to look for her on social media. I had managed to find her instagram and I knew her Snapchat since we were in a group chat with the entire class and I found her name there. I really regret not asking her for her number or any socials before we parted ways because I didn’t realise how long it would be before I saw her again. One main reason why I didn’t do this was because I had previously attempted to add her on Snapchat, through the group chat before we had even ever spoke. I waited 3 days after adding her and she never added me back which is understandable seeing as we didn’t know each other at all so I just unadded her with the hopes of asking her for her Snapchat in person and then we could both add each other without her ever seeing that I tried to add her at one point.
Well at this point I was just stalking her online basically, I would check her socials everyday to try and see what she does when shes not in college classes and I was able to see that she has a close group of friends and she also goes out drinking occasionally.
By this point I began to get angry when I didn’t see her in class, my main motivation for even coming into class was not to get an education, but rather to have an opportunity to see her, and when I didn’t I would get really depressed for the rest of the day and end up just wanting to leave and go home.
It took a whole month after we first spoke for us to randomly encounter again and once again as soon as I saw her my mood significantly brightened and it felt like I was on top of the world. We sat down and spoke for about 40 minutes together and I asked why she doesn’t come in much and she didn’t really give a straightforward answer but only told me that she would be coming in the next day. The whole conversation was amazing, I talked so her about things that I wouldn’t even talk to my closest friends about and I didn’t feel embarrassed to do so, she also told me some really deep and personal things about herself. By the time the conversation was over I still stupidly didn’t ask her for any sort of communication method and I thought it would be fine since she told me she was coming in the next day so I would be guaranteed an opportunity to talk to her again. In my mind everything was going great and I was on track to being able to make progress with her.
The end of the next day came and she did end up coming in as she said so everything was going according to plan for me, but when she was leaving she ended up leaving with some girl who I’d never spoken to before and we had a very awkward and brief encounter while leaving. It was mainly awkward because I didn’t introduce myself to her friend but instead I just spoke to her before realising the vibe was way off and no one was talking so we went separate ways and I left. I felt pretty dejected after this because I hadn’t thought of having to speak to her in front of other people since I’d always usually just do it when she’s along. Luckily for me I saw her 2 days later and I walked up to her while she was alone and getting a drink during a class break, I began to talk to her and was on the verge of asking her if she wanted to go out and have a drink over Halloween break with me and my friends as I had planned but I misjudged the time it took to get back to the classroom and I was only able to ask “are you doing anything next week?” To which she responded no but by that point we were at the door of the classroom and we were sitting very far away from each other so I didn’t even get to ask her. In hindsight I definitely could have said to her “wait before you go in” and then said all I wanted to say but my i wasn’t in the right mindset to improvise like that and I’m paying the price because I haven’t spoken to her at all since then.
It’s been more than a month later, she’s still a big motivation for me to even come in because if I don’t then there’s a chance that I miss an opportunity to talk to her. I’ve seen her a few times and haven’t approached her since she’s always with her friends now but unfortunately our timetables don’t line up since we’re in separate sub classes which is the main reason I don’t see her often. I check her social media daily to see if she’s posted anything and somehow it feels like I getting even more obsessed with her as the days go by. I dream about her at night and different scenarios that would happen if we ran into each other. I decided that when I see her next I’ll just ask her if she wants to go out for a drink and if she says no then she’s not interested and I can be done with this completely.
I had begun to stop looking around the lecture hall to see if she was in, maybe this was because I wanted to prove to myself that I didn’t care whether she’s in when I clearly do. But today she was in, and after class I looked across and saw her as she was leaving the classroom, I had waited an entire month and I was about to get her out of my system completely. Whether I get rejected or not, I could finally move on. But somehow I lost her in the midst of all the other students leaving the classroom, so I decided to just leave so she wouldn’t think I was looking for her and I just casually waited outside the door for her to come out. I knew she had a different class straight after this one, I waited for about 10 minutes like an idiot walking back and forth hoping I’d see her and I never did. She must’ve left when I didn’t realise and just gone to her other class. At this point I was furious wirh myself because not only do I look like an idiot watching the door hoping she would walk through but I would have to wait for knows how long until I’d see her again.
So instead of just going about my day and doing things normal college students do I decided to walk up to the classroom that she was supposed to be in and check if she was in there. I don’t really know what came over me and why I almost did it but I was a few steps away from the classroom before I realise how creepy what I was doing was. I decided to leave the building and I was about to go on with my day but the thought of going another day obsessing over this girl was too much for me so I did what in my mind was okay and I waited outside the building that I know she will leave from because it’s the place we first spoke and it’s the same path we took. I stood outside walking back and forth pretending to go on my phone and just walking back and forth repeatedly when in reality I was just waiting for a girl who I’ve barely spoken to, to get out of class. I almost left and realised how creepy what I was doing was but I thought about the sunk cost fallacy and I decided to stick it out a little longer. While pacing back and forth, in my head I was rehearsing what I would say to her if I saw her and how I would make it seem like we had just randomly encountered each other. Unfortunately for me while I was on my phone as I pretended to turn around as if I had forgotten something, I looked up and I saw her with a girl and some boy from her class walking side by side. I know she saw me because we were a meter away from each other and I watched as they walked by and she pretended I wasn’t there while talking to her friends.
After this I fully realised the creepiness of what I had just done and how it was all for nothing and all I felt at that moment was embarrassment. She doesn’t think of me the way I do of her, I’ve known this for the longest time yet I continue to do creepy things like this and I’m not anywhere closer to my end goal than I was yesterday.
I even felt jealous to see her talking and walking side by side with some guy I had never seen before even though there’s literally nothing wrong with that. I hate the fact that I think of her as some goddess with no flaws that I can think of off the top of my head. I hate that I think of her everyday and I wish I had never spoken to her or I at least did things differently.
I have tried to start more hobbies to get my mind off of her and it has had minimal effect. I even tried looking for some free counselling on my college campus because I know I have a problem but I didn’t follow up with it. I know I won’t see her for a good while because of summer break and I know I’ll continue to behave exactly as I’ve done so in the past and I will continue to obsess over this girl who doesnt care about me at all. I feel like I have no control over this and I feel powerless. Who’s to say I won’t do something so unbelievably weird and creepy the next time I think there’s an opportunity to speak to her again.
I am a creep and I hate it but I have accepted it.

TLDR at bottom
Every time I get on here I see everyone’s parents go crazy when they try to limit contact or even hint at it or completely go no contact. My nmom, when confronted with all of her lies over a phone call, went cold on me for the first time I can remember. I have no memories of how I felt about her as a kid due to my alexithymia and really don’t have any real long memories with her until 7th grade when I was recognized for my art (I feel like that’s the only reason she ever took an interest in me).
I considered her my best friend in my teenage years never knowing that she was just using me as her therapist after the nasty divorce. After getting married and my husband hearing all of the stories I had from the divorce he very gently showed me how much of a liar my nmom was/is, her stories were always changing and embellished more each time she told it. It was such a different reality to step into to find out that my former “best friend” was using me (my husband had taken her place and she didn’t like that so she tried to break us apart in very subtle ways after our first baby and then it got not so subtle when she let my nsister spread lies to the extended family about my partner)
I confronted her over the phone on the harm she caused me by complaining about my dad and step mom every day (not and exaggeration) and how her dangerous lies have torn the family apart and how now her current lies of my parter have made it so that even cousins give us dirty looks. Her answers were the typical “If I did that I don’t remember that”. It was the first time seeing her for what she was and it was very scary. My brother had said he had done the same and in person and he said something to the effect that he had never seen a parent look at their child like they wanted to reach over and strangle them. “If looks could kill” I remember him saying. I believe my nmom to be a covert narc so this look in her face that my brother got and the change of her voice that I heard was just terrifying and unlike anything I ever remember her doing.
Believe me I’m not complaining. She is stuck in a cult so she is fully living for the next life and will most likely never try to contact me again and I’m grateful for that small blessing because I have seen women who look like her in public and I will begin to have a small panic attack. But there is a part of me that is curious if anyone else’s nparents have done this. I’m finding that even with my alexithymia it still kind of hurts to have her do that and then to hear that she is still spreading lies to her side of the family about me and my partner…it sucks to just know that she doesn’t give a fuck and never thought I was worth the time to ever repair this relationship. It’s too late now to get that trust back but I guess I would have seen it differently if she had at least made some effort.
I love when people share similar experiences, it helps me get perspective since my alexithymia would just have me forgive everyone and let it slide even though I will still experience the feelings of trauma if I were to do that I just won’t make the connection of why I feel so shitty because I won’t know what emotion my body and brain are feeling, if that makes sense. I need to work through this for my mental health and for my kids so anyone that has a similar experience and how it made you feel please share.
TLDR confronted nmom about harmful lies that tore family apart and she has ghosted me. Anyone else experience this?

An idea I have been toiling with, it finally scratched my mind strong enough to escape. This is a little excerpt of the idea of a man being reincarnated into Westeros during the prelude of the Dance of the Dragons. Being born to Laena and Daemon, the blood of the dragon and the blood of the sea form a strong force in him.
"Dracarys Vhagar!" The piercing cry jolted me from sleep, sending my heart racing as I bolted upright in bed. Time seemed to stretch, the world slowing to a crawl as a familiar clicking sound echoed ominously in the air. My mind raced with a single thought: 'No, it can't be...'
Disregarding my dishevelled state and clad only in underwear, I dashed to the window, gauging the distance to the ground below. The lone palm trees swayed in the wind outside as if offering silent reassurance that the fall wouldn't be too dire.
"A body fit for the lord of the seas I was promised, let's see how that goes..." With resolve hardening my nerves, I leapt over the balcony, the rush of air accompanying my descent.
Fwoosh!
Time seemed to freeze once more as I hurtled toward the staircase leading to the beach. As I landed with a jarring impact, the scene before me unfolded in chaotic clarity. My mother lay collapsed on the sand, a trail of blood staining the shore—a broken figure in the moonlight.
"Keligon zȳhon (Stop Her), Tiamat!" I bellowed, even as flames erupted from Vhagar's jaws. With a primal roar, the sea responded, and the serpentine jaws of Tiamat, the 'dragon' that hatched with me, emerged from the waves. Her various knobs, spines and horns contrasted with her large, sinuous, white body. She surged forward from the depths, her red eyes focused and the hood around her neck flared as her powerful jaws snapped shut with a resounding crack. The clash of titanic forces reverberated through the water as Vhagar roared in defiance, its flames sputtering against the onslaught. Arcs of electricity crackled between each sharp fang, the resonance of the elements contrasting the deep of the night.
With gritted teeth, I ignored the pain from my fall and raced toward my mother's side. Vhagar's Dragonfire faltered, replaced by a pained cry as she struggled against Tiamat's grip. "Jikagon arlī (Go Back), Tiamat," I commanded, and the sea creature obediently released its hold, slipping back beneath the waves. In my mind, I could feel how concerned she was for me and my mother as well.
As Vhagar turned, disoriented and enraged, I approached cautiously, soothing words falling from my lips. "gīda, gīda, (calm, calm) Vhagar," I murmured, hoping to quell the storm raging within her.
Holding my mother in my arms, I noted that only half of her body was burnt, yet they seemed to only penetrate to the last layer of the skin. Her body was a charred remnant, I asked her to be quiet as I asked for the water's help in healing her.
In my mind, however, I felt Tiamat indicate that dragonfire was the exception. Gritting my teeth, I asked my mother,

"would... would you like me to at least save the baby painlessly?"
She nodded. I proceeded to ask the water within my mother to release the child, and it slowly began to push the baby out.
Amidst the cries of a newborn, echoing across the desolate beach, a figure descended the weathered stone stairs, casting a long, solemn shadow over the scene. The gentle lapping of the waves provided a haunting backdrop to the momentous occasion unfolding in the fading light of day.
"It's a boy, mother..." I murmured, my voice barely above a whisper, choked with emotion. "I'll call him Laenor... in your and... and ah, uncle's honour..."
Tears welled in my eyes as I swallowed the rising bile, threatening to spill over as I gazed down at the fragile bundle in my arms. His cries, though piercing, seemed to fade into the background as I focused on the woman who had given me life.
Summoning the last reserves of her strength, my mother nodded slightly as she extended a trembling hand to touch my tear-streaked face. Her touch was both searing and tender, a bittersweet reminder of the love that bound us together. A faint smile tugged at the corners of her lips, a silent reassurance in the face of impending separation.
"My... special boy..." she whispered, her voice barely more than a breath, yet filled with a depth of love that transcended words. "I... will... al...ways... lo...ve y-"
But her words trailed off into silence, the light fading from her once bright eyes as her spirit slipped quietly from this world. At that moment, as I cradled my newborn son in my arms, I felt the weight of her absence settle over me like a heavy shroud. My mother is now forever lost to me...
Moving away from her body, I understood what she wished for, a true valyrian death. I moved towards the cause of the rapid footsteps and knew who it was from their build,
The tension between father and son crackled in the air like the static before a storm as I confronted Daemon, my words dripping with bitterness and accusation.
"Father," I seethed, my voice heavy with venom, "I wonder... did you grant me that final moment with her out of respect, or was it merely your own disinterest in her that allowed it?"
Emerging from the shadows, Daemon regarded me with a cool detachment that only fueled my anger. His silence spoke volumes, a tacit acknowledgement of the rift that had grown between us.
"You are upset, I understand--" he began, attempting to placate me.
"Upset? UPSET?!" I erupted, the floodgates of my grief and frustration bursting forth. "My fucking mother just died! Your WIFE! At the age of 26! How could you have let this happen?!"
Daemon remained stoic, unmoved by my outburst. I continued to rail against him, pouring out my anguish and resentment until I was left gasping for breath.
"I tried... Everything," He whispered out, the weight of his failure resting silently on his shoulders. "Everything that the masters recommended, I did without question."
"You KNEW I was special," I accused, my voice trembling with betrayal. "Why did you not come to me?"
"Special, yes," Daemon conceded with a sigh. "But able to ensure a safe delivery? That was not something I expected to be within your abilities."
His words cut deep, slicing through the haze of my grief with a sharp clarity. I silenced him with a look, determination hardening my resolve.
"We will discuss this later," I declared, my voice firm. "After I have cremated my mother."
Daemon's gaze lingered on me, a silent acknowledgement of my authority at this moment. But his next words grated against me,
"And how will you do that without a dragon that breathes... fire?"
With a silent exchange, I passed my younger brother into his care, my jaw clenched with determination. Turning away, I strode toward Vhagar, my mother's final resting place.
"Dracarys, Vhagar," I commanded, but she remained stubbornly unmoved, defying my order. Frustration surged within me, but I refused to be stopped.
Raising my arms toward the open ocean, I summoned a thick tendril of water to wrap around Vhagar's throat. With a clenched fist, I repeated my command, forcing her head towards my mother's body.
"Vhagar. DRACARYS."
This time, she obeyed, her flames engulfing my mother's body in the ancient funeral rite of Valyria. As her body blazed, consuming my mother's earthly remains, I honoured her final request, granting her the dignity of a true Valyrian death.
"Keligon, Vhagar," I murmured, the flames extinguishing at my command. She seemed to listen now, subdued by the solemnity of the moment. I let Vhagar free of the water tendril before stepping back towards my father,
"IF. And I truly mean IF," I emphasized, locking eyes with Daemon, "I find out that you had anything to do with her death or that you tell anyone of my abilities... I swear on the memory of my dead mother that I will pierce your heart and lungs with that targaryen blood that you are oh so proud of."
My words hung heavy in the air, a solemn oath borne of grief and determination.
There was a moment of tense silence as my words reverberated between us, each syllable weighted with the weight of my resolve. Daemon's expression remained inscrutable, but I detected a flicker of unease beneath the mask of indifference.
With a final, piercing stare, I turned away, leaving him to contemplate the gravity of my vow. As I left the yard, I noted the small smile that replaced his expression.
Ascending the steps, exhaustion weighed heavily on my shoulders, mingling with the simmering emotions that churned within me. It was then that I realized the reason for Daemon's smile, the underlying pride that lay beneath his stoic facade.
Halting midway up the stairs, I turned back to face him, my gaze meeting his across the distance.
"You're proud, aren't you?" I questioned, my voice tinged with a mix of frustration and resignation.
Daemon met my gaze, his expression unreadable yet tinged with a hint of something akin to pride.
"Of course," he replied, his voice carrying a weight of its own. "After all, that part of you is finally out... The fire and fury of a dragon."
His words resonated within me, stirring a complex mixture of emotions. With a nod of acknowledgement, I turned away once more, leaving him to his thoughts on the desolate beach below.
Though my anger still simmered beneath the surface, tempered by the realization that some of my accusations had been fueled by raw emotion, I resolved to address them with a clearer mind in the days to come. For now, I needed time to process, to mourn, and to prepare for the challenges that lay ahead.
So yeah, hope you enjoyed that. I'm thinking of writing the entire thing but idk yet.