Building a house games
Building a house
2014.04.06 03:41 myopic1 Building a house
Pics & process of building a house.
2012.06.14 15:15 TheSquidFromSpace Base Building Games
Hello there! This is a subreddit focused on base building computer games. If you came here for real estate or fitness advice, you might be in the wrong place.
2013.05.06 01:37 Zaydene Sims4
The unofficial subreddit for all things Sims 4!
2024.05.14 06:32 scrubspice A pet peeve I have with the Sims on console…
I hate that bb.moveobjects counts as a cheat in the Sims 4 on Xbox. If you use cheats you can’t earn any achievements, but that’s a fulfilling part of play throughs. Why can’t I have my achievements and a cute house too🥲. I wish EA would exclude bb.moveobjects as a cheat and have it as a build mode setting, hopefully in the sims 5. Anyone agree?
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2024.05.14 06:30 PersonalizedGameRecs [/r/boardgames PGR] Looking for an immersive adventure game that is easy to pickup and play. Something a ground can sit down and play a one off of right away. Do not Gloomhaven. More like House on Haunted Hill, but a bit more developed. Heavy on the atmosphere.
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2024.05.14 06:30 PersonalizedGameRecs [/r/boardgames PGR] Hi, my work is going to have a team building event that is an "LCR tournament." Looking this up, I'm guessing they mean the game Left Center Right. Looking at some videos on the rules, it seems that you just roll dice and pass chips, am I correct? It would seem there is no agency
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2024.05.14 06:30 Mplapo How do I fix "PCU limit reached" in the tutorial
I'm working through The First Jump, on mission three where I have to build a battery, but when I go to place it it says PCU limit reached. I tried to look up the problem and it told me to just remove the limit but the game says I can't edit world settings for the tutorial. How do I proceed?
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2024.05.14 06:30 GavishX [xbox 360] [Early 2010’s] Terrible horror game
I found a free demo of this game on the xbox 360 store page, but never got the full game so I believe it was paid. It was bad. Very low effort and is likely just an asset flip. The demo (and I think the full game as well) starts the player off in the fenced in front-yard of a house in broad daylight with little to no tutorial or instructions. It’s a first person 3-d game where the player can only click on objects to pick them up and click on other objects to use the items. After getting a key, the player can go inside the house which is full of rotting wood and I think there was a woman crying in the other room, which is locked of course. Shortly after solving some more “puzzles”, the demo ends. I know some YouTuber posted gameplay that I watched so I could know what to do next. Could’ve been markiplier or someone else with his noteriety back then. I feel like the title of the game might’ve had a girls name in it but that could’ve just been my imagination as well.
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2024.05.14 06:29 drcombatwombat2 Landlord offering to sell me the house I currently rent. It seems like I should, am I missing something?
Hi all,
I normally feel confident with anything personal finance related (I have an economics degree) but for the first time I am in enough uncharted territory I would like to gather the opinion of strangers. To start, I am a 28 year old data analytics consultant grossing 115k/year + bonus. I never carry a credit balance more than a month and my only debt is 25k in student loans I have refinanced down to 3.5%. I have no spouse, no children, and am not responsible to anyone but myself. I have $15k between my checking and a high yield savings, $20k in a brokerage, and $60k in my 401k.
I currently rent a 3 bed 3 bath rowhome in a major east coast city. The house is old but was completely renovated after my landlord bought it in 2018. Since he acquired the property, he replaced the roof, replaced the furnace, replaced the water heater, redid the kitchen cabinets and countertops, and basically renovated every single room. I have lived here 3 years and have not had any major issues. The neighborhood is also gentrifying super fast with multiple apartments going up within a few block radius within the past year.
I sublet to two roommates. I have the largest bedroom with a master bath as the owner of the lease but we all pay $1200/month so the total rent paid on the property comes out to $3600/month. My landlord is getting divorced and is selling the property to help finance that. He informed us we have to be out in 60 days. I asked what the selling price is and after some negotiation I got a decent offer. I also negotiated to have all the appliances, and all furniture in the house kept upon sale.
I then applied for a mortgage and was approved for a loan that comes out to $3400/month. I told my roommates of the situation and offered a deal where I would keep the rent the same for 1 year if they agreed to stay for a year if I purchase the property. They agreed so I thus would get $2400/month in rent from them alone and I would only be on the hook for the other $1000.
So essentially, I would become owner of the property with my portion and all my roommates rent remaining at or roughly the same, I keep all the furniture, and roughly breakeven on profit. I finally get some mortgage interest to write off and begin to build equity. As soon as interest rates drop, ill refinance and have the payment on the house go down.
After running the numbers, everything about the situation says to f*cking do it! Is there anything I am missing? This seems like a once in a lifetime opportunity and home ownership much earlier than I anticipated. It really seems like it would be more of a pain to move out and find somewhere else to rent than do a background transaction and just stay here. Once again, what am I missing here?
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I normally feel confident with anything personal finance related (I have an economics degree) but for the first time I am in enough uncharted territory I would like to gather the opinion of strangers. To start, I am a 28 year old data analytics consultant grossing 115k/year + bonus. I never carry a credit balance more than a month and my only debt is 25k in student loans I have refinanced down to 3.5%. I have no spouse, no children, and am not responsible to anyone but myself. I have $15k between my checking and a high yield savings, $20k in a brokerage, and $60k in my 401k.
I currently rent a 3 bed 3 bath rowhome in a major east coast city. The house is old but was completely renovated after my landlord bought it in 2018. Since he acquired the property, he replaced the roof, replaced the furnace, replaced the water heater, redid the kitchen cabinets and countertops, and basically renovated every single room. I have lived here 3 years and have not had any major issues. The neighborhood is also gentrifying super fast with multiple apartments going up within a few block radius within the past year.
I sublet to two roommates. I have the largest bedroom with a master bath as the owner of the lease but we all pay $1200/month so the total rent paid on the property comes out to $3600/month. My landlord is getting divorced and is selling the property to help finance that. He informed us we have to be out in 60 days. I asked what the selling price is and after some negotiation I got a decent offer. I also negotiated to have all the appliances, and all furniture in the house kept upon sale.
I then applied for a mortgage and was approved for a loan that comes out to $3400/month. I told my roommates of the situation and offered a deal where I would keep the rent the same for 1 year if they agreed to stay for a year if I purchase the property. They agreed so I thus would get $2400/month in rent from them alone and I would only be on the hook for the other $1000.
So essentially, I would become owner of the property with my portion and all my roommates rent remaining at or roughly the same, I keep all the furniture, and roughly breakeven on profit. I finally get some mortgage interest to write off and begin to build equity. As soon as interest rates drop, ill refinance and have the payment on the house go down.
After running the numbers, everything about the situation says to f*cking do it! Is there anything I am missing? This seems like a once in a lifetime opportunity and home ownership much earlier than I anticipated. It really seems like it would be more of a pain to move out and find somewhere else to rent than do a background transaction and just stay here. Once again, what am I missing here?
2024.05.14 06:28 PersonalizedGameRecs [/r/boardgames PGR] Looking for an immersive adventure game that is easy to pickup and play. Something a ground can sit down and play a one off of right away. Do not Gloomhaven. More like House on Haunted Hill, but a bit more developed. Heavy on the atmosphere.
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2024.05.14 06:28 PersonalizedGameRecs [/r/boardgames PGR] Hi, my work is going to have a team building event that is an "LCR tournament." Looking this up, I'm guessing they mean the game Left Center Right. Looking at some videos on the rules, it seems that you just roll dice and pass chips, am I correct? It would seem there is no agency
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2024.05.14 06:28 Maleficent_Yogurt38 Need some advice regarding laptop for an MBA
I have an Alienware with a 3090 high end gaming laptop, but the power backup is low(2.5-3hrs). Should I go for another backup laptop or will this one work? Will I be on the move all the time? This one cost me 150k a few years back, should I spend on a new Mac now? I can't sell the laptop because I do building modeling & gfx on it :(
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2024.05.14 06:27 Trendin5 [PS5] [US]
Hey i'm 25M looking for zero build players. Must have a mic and i'm down for zero build ranked also. I'm chill to play with. I just need more people to play this game with.
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2024.05.14 06:27 throwRAasdzlkey Fearful my GF (22F) is cheating on me (22M) in our LDR. Am I being crazy, if not how can I bring it up?
I've been having this gut feeling that my GFs cheating on me for the past 1-2 months and am reaching a breaking point. I don't believe it's healthy for these feelings to be left to fester and am wondering whether I'm being crazy or reasonable, and if so how to start this conversation/resolve these feelings.
This started a few months ago when my GF made two new friends (M) and (F), unsure of their ages. They began hanging out, with one of their first being from 9 PM - 3 AM at a store that closes at 10 PM. They spent the remaining time in the parking lot of this shopping plaza and I heard from her maybe once during this time. Eventually, they began hanging out at the M friend's house (he lives with his parents), and she would be out until 4-5 AM with 1-2 text messages.
When I asked her about these hangouts there was 0 detail, no references to conversations had or activities they did. Eventually, I had a conversation with her about this asking her for more detail and she would slightly increase it, "We talked about music" or "We played a few games so and so", but nothing more. Additionally, with work or her other friends, she'll tell me distinct conversations and stories from them, however none with these friends.
I also asked about her few responses to my texts or FT calls when she's out. She explained that when she's out with friends she likes to focus on the people she's with and won't text frequently or respond to my FTs/calls when she's out with people.
I feel similar (if it's random friends), but if she were to text me or call me when I was out I would pick up without a thought. This explanation confused me and personally doesn't resonate but I feel as though it does make sense and we just have different feelings regarding this topic.
A week or two later she went out alone with M friend to play basketball and visit a gym together, from around 9 AM - 1 PM. Later that same week, the two of them went out to lunch again for multiple hours without a word from her. During the hanging out I noticed her location showed the parking lot of her community gym for ~30ish minutes. We talked later in the day when I asked if she had gone to the gym which she said she hadn't. Her gym has an outdoor seating area as well, which she's previously used and has mentioned to me before. This worried me, why are you in a parking lot for that long with another man?
This recently happened again, in the same parking lot, and this time ~45 minutes or so before a response, but this time she said she was with the F friend. This was at 10:30 pm after previously being at the outdoor seating area. Why would you move from your outdoor seating to a car for that long and that late at night? Was she really with her F friend? When I'm with her and we hang out as soon as whatever planned activity is finished she wants to leave. She doesn't want to hang out in either of our cars, she just wants to go. I'm confused and hurt as to why it seems different with her friends.
After feeling worried about this, I asked her if I could meet her friends and she was vehemently against it. She said that she 'barely knows them' and would feel awkward introducing me to them. This seemed incredibly suspicious to me. She's hanging out with them 1-2 times a week for 4+ hours at a time, and why would it be awkward to introduce your partner to your friends?
TLDR:
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This started a few months ago when my GF made two new friends (M) and (F), unsure of their ages. They began hanging out, with one of their first being from 9 PM - 3 AM at a store that closes at 10 PM. They spent the remaining time in the parking lot of this shopping plaza and I heard from her maybe once during this time. Eventually, they began hanging out at the M friend's house (he lives with his parents), and she would be out until 4-5 AM with 1-2 text messages.
When I asked her about these hangouts there was 0 detail, no references to conversations had or activities they did. Eventually, I had a conversation with her about this asking her for more detail and she would slightly increase it, "We talked about music" or "We played a few games so and so", but nothing more. Additionally, with work or her other friends, she'll tell me distinct conversations and stories from them, however none with these friends.
I also asked about her few responses to my texts or FT calls when she's out. She explained that when she's out with friends she likes to focus on the people she's with and won't text frequently or respond to my FTs/calls when she's out with people.
I feel similar (if it's random friends), but if she were to text me or call me when I was out I would pick up without a thought. This explanation confused me and personally doesn't resonate but I feel as though it does make sense and we just have different feelings regarding this topic.
A week or two later she went out alone with M friend to play basketball and visit a gym together, from around 9 AM - 1 PM. Later that same week, the two of them went out to lunch again for multiple hours without a word from her. During the hanging out I noticed her location showed the parking lot of her community gym for ~30ish minutes. We talked later in the day when I asked if she had gone to the gym which she said she hadn't. Her gym has an outdoor seating area as well, which she's previously used and has mentioned to me before. This worried me, why are you in a parking lot for that long with another man?
This recently happened again, in the same parking lot, and this time ~45 minutes or so before a response, but this time she said she was with the F friend. This was at 10:30 pm after previously being at the outdoor seating area. Why would you move from your outdoor seating to a car for that long and that late at night? Was she really with her F friend? When I'm with her and we hang out as soon as whatever planned activity is finished she wants to leave. She doesn't want to hang out in either of our cars, she just wants to go. I'm confused and hurt as to why it seems different with her friends.
After feeling worried about this, I asked her if I could meet her friends and she was vehemently against it. She said that she 'barely knows them' and would feel awkward introducing me to them. This seemed incredibly suspicious to me. She's hanging out with them 1-2 times a week for 4+ hours at a time, and why would it be awkward to introduce your partner to your friends?
TLDR:
- She spends a lot of time with friends without responses in 'suspicious' areas such as empty parking lots or M's friend's house.
- She gives little detail about these hangout situations.
- She is strongly against me meeting these friends.
- She seems to be willing to hang out longer and in parking lots during 1 on 1 situation with her friends but not me.
2024.05.14 06:27 AlgyToph The big picture.
 | I've been playing afkJ since April 1st and can confidently say I've spent a good deal in both time and money. Im a VIP12 so not really a whale but spent enough that I was comfortable with change. submitted by AlgyToph to AFKJourney [link] [comments] From the beginning I knew that this game would be a costly game for me as I lack patience. I went into this game knowing I'd probably spend more money than I usually would but I was ok with it because it was new and I felt the development team was experienced so I trusted them to make a game id enjoy for years to come. I actually enjoyed many of the decisions that Lilith made and I thought giving heroes abilities that would make them pop out more was a great idea. But they screwed up BIG time. Here are my thoughts. Marilee and Korin: the first big mistake they made was nerfing the two characters that for weeks after global launch were praised as a safe bet for people to invest their hard earned resources into. Long term they could steadily make back investments in the form of Temporal and Tidal essense which became the clear backbone to any growing account. The argument against this is that the characters themselves were not nerfed but the bosses were simply changed to even the playing field against true damage being the dominant force in dream realm. This is complete bullshit, marilee has no place outside of dream realm and is niche at best in afk stages. Lilith has screwed over people who were building marilee as a main focus for a long term investment to boost the usage of Odie who is already a great unit in Arena, Afk levels, BOSSES, and essentially all content in the game. As a result of this Marilee has absolutely 0 reason to be built besides possibly working well with Necrodrakon or cleaning early boss levels with Vala. We knew characters would be getting buffs and seasonal abilities but we had no idea that bosses would be operating differently and this was Liliths fault for not clarifying. Had we known we would have been more careful or at least been more prepared for the absolute backhand. Korin on the other hand is maybe less of an issue as he has niche success in afk stages if you are pushing LB. he's only really great for necrodrakon as everywhere else maulers have taken more priority. It's clear that this is obviously a seasonal change and isn't permanent but this season is 4 months long so how are we expected to build up for a new meta just for it to completely change next season to somethinf completely different? I was ok with power creep but unlike completely rolling over the entire functionality of a game mode I was expecting the heroes ive had to still work as intended and to simply save up until I feel I've got enough to cover whatever new hero is coming out to play with after a few releases. That's one of the great things about games like this is the consistency and ability to predict, this is not the case and we are at the mercy of whatever the devs feel will make the game more successful and profitable(which is completely reasonable but not at the expense of your players). There are many other issues like the clear as day inflation of important resources from the noble path, or the "bountiful resources" from the season areas but those don't bother me nearly as much as the overhaul to dreamrealm which I always stated to everyone was easily the most important thing to invest in early on or the clear drop in summons if you dont spend here and there. I know this company is a company at the end of the day but that doesn't excuse cutting corners for profits at our expense. Don't kiss a company's ass that bragged about making $2.5M their first week. Don't forget that at the end of the day your money belongs to you and if you feel cheated you have every right to try and make a stance against greed. Stop feeling bad for multimillion dollar companies and start treating your dollars like they matter. Goodbye and good riddance AFKJ |
2024.05.14 06:27 ShinobiKitty My girlfriends (F23) family doesnt like me (F25), seemingly no matter what i do. Advice?
We have been together for 3 years. We were friends for a year first after meeting through mutuals. Her parents are separated and dads side are civil to me, but moms side is downright rude. Prior to us dating, my girlfriend did not have a speaking relationship with her mother. Shortly after us starting to date, their brother asked that they all try speaking again. The mother did not apologize for anything and nothing was discussed. Year 1, i wasnt invited to any family parties at either parents house.I met them at a graduation party for an extended family member. A beach trip was mentioned with the mother at a beach my girlfriend and i had planned to visit for a weekend trip around the same time, so i suggested we reschedule the date of ours and all go together. I was told i wasnt allowed on the family beach trip and that i had ruined things when it ended up being cancelled altogether. This discussion has been cited as "the reason" the mother does not like me.
Year 2, i was invited to family parties at dads house for all holidays. Moms house invited me to my girlfriends birthday dinner, alone. I painted my moms girlfriend a painting for mothers day a few months later. I attended an art gallery she had work in. I attend a family gathering at the mothers with extended family. I continue to try to form a relationship to little avail.
Year 3, i am not invited to any further gatherings moms. When i ask if i can come, responses are either flat out "no"s or "its a free country so anyone can come, i suppose" if a meeting was in a public place. Dad continues to invite.
I started with just being me with both parents. Then, overt niceness with mom. Then, simple civility with mom Now, i don't try to speak at all with mom. With mom, I am not invited to come over at all. I am not allowed to come inside if i drop something off at the house. I am not welcomed. I am not spoken to kindly.
And all this id likely be okay with except every time my girlfriend comes back from her moms, which is maybe 3 times a year, we get into an argument. I cant help but feel like mom is causing this.
The argument is always about my girlfriend feeling like i am holding her back from living her life but when i point out all the new adventures we have been on recently, and ask her in what ways she is feeling held back and how i can work on them, theres no solid response. When i ask in what way she feels held back from her friends when we have weekly game nights and regularly go on day trips with our friends? I ask if theres anything i can do to help with these feelings and she says she doesnt know.
I truly feel like her mother is sabotaging our relationship and i dont know what i can do to improve the situation. A large reason they stopped speaking was because of her mothers controlling and manipulative behavior so it frustrates me to watch it happening. I have tried to befriend her mother to no avail. I have encouraged therapy sessions with no luck. I have endured the disrespectful treatment with no positive changes.
I wont ask my girlfriend to cut off contact with a family member. What can i do to improve our situation when niceness, civility, and avoidance hasnt worked?
Tyia!
Tldr: ive tried to be nice/civil/avoid my girlfriends mom and she still doesnt like me. It is affecting my relationshio with my girlfriend. How do i improve the situation?
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Year 2, i was invited to family parties at dads house for all holidays. Moms house invited me to my girlfriends birthday dinner, alone. I painted my moms girlfriend a painting for mothers day a few months later. I attended an art gallery she had work in. I attend a family gathering at the mothers with extended family. I continue to try to form a relationship to little avail.
Year 3, i am not invited to any further gatherings moms. When i ask if i can come, responses are either flat out "no"s or "its a free country so anyone can come, i suppose" if a meeting was in a public place. Dad continues to invite.
I started with just being me with both parents. Then, overt niceness with mom. Then, simple civility with mom Now, i don't try to speak at all with mom. With mom, I am not invited to come over at all. I am not allowed to come inside if i drop something off at the house. I am not welcomed. I am not spoken to kindly.
And all this id likely be okay with except every time my girlfriend comes back from her moms, which is maybe 3 times a year, we get into an argument. I cant help but feel like mom is causing this.
The argument is always about my girlfriend feeling like i am holding her back from living her life but when i point out all the new adventures we have been on recently, and ask her in what ways she is feeling held back and how i can work on them, theres no solid response. When i ask in what way she feels held back from her friends when we have weekly game nights and regularly go on day trips with our friends? I ask if theres anything i can do to help with these feelings and she says she doesnt know.
I truly feel like her mother is sabotaging our relationship and i dont know what i can do to improve the situation. A large reason they stopped speaking was because of her mothers controlling and manipulative behavior so it frustrates me to watch it happening. I have tried to befriend her mother to no avail. I have encouraged therapy sessions with no luck. I have endured the disrespectful treatment with no positive changes.
I wont ask my girlfriend to cut off contact with a family member. What can i do to improve our situation when niceness, civility, and avoidance hasnt worked?
Tyia!
Tldr: ive tried to be nice/civil/avoid my girlfriends mom and she still doesnt like me. It is affecting my relationshio with my girlfriend. How do i improve the situation?
2024.05.14 06:26 Ok_Potential359 I keep finding new things to add to my mod — sorry for the delay
 | So I know I made a promise to release my mod soon but like, I keep adding things to enhance the end game. submitted by Ok_Potential359 to breathoffire [link] [comments] See those pictures? You’re reading it right, stats can exceed 999. HP can exceed over 999. So what does that mean? I can make true to form “strong-as-shit” super bosses that satisfy that singular breath of fire itch I’ve had in the back of my skull for years. Without the compromise of making them cheap or impossible. There are soooooo many unintended behaviors I’ve discovered by messing around with the values. Like when an enemy uses Tornado and they have HP over 30K, instead of damaging an enemy it HEALS them for 9999. And regen can be adjusted to heal less than 5% for enemies. And skills like Venom can be adjusted to inflict every major status effect in the game (this is borderline almost too strong right now, so still settling on it). Oh and Weretiger? Yeah, it can actually be controllable. Wtf right? But it graphically starts fucking up. But you can totally control a berserker Weretiger. Nuts. So like, there are hundreds of these types of changes I’ve introduced into the game. And every time I think I’m ready to release something, one more damn thing pops up and I’m like “wait, the game behaves like this? What happens if I do that?” Then I start building mechanics around the new encounter. Still not perfect or anything. Most playtesting has been largely positive from people who have tried my mod out. But balance issues are kind of still there, some players figure out how to completely exploit certain encounters or other encounters are way overturned and I need to adjust them. I have a full time job, so I can’t work on this every day like I want. I promise there’s a playable mod that I’ll release eventually. Chalked full of goodness with vastly modified magic, new moves, and more thoughtful encounters — it’s just taking a hot minute. Huge thanks to the rom hacker Red Herring who’s really managed to make parts of this mod come alive. Anyways, it’ll be ready sooner than later. Ideally before the next 2 weeks. But if I keep finding shit, it might delay more. Time will tell. |
2024.05.14 06:26 PersonalizedGameRecs [/r/boardgames PGR] Looking for an immersive adventure game that is easy to pickup and play. Something a ground can sit down and play a one off of right away. Do not Gloomhaven. More like House on Haunted Hill, but a bit more developed. Heavy on the atmosphere.
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2024.05.14 06:26 RedDelta22 Are there any vehicle building games for android?
I'm looking for a vehicle building game for android. Apk works for me if that is how I can get one. I remember Google play had a few that were good but I can't find them anywhere.
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2024.05.14 06:26 PersonalizedGameRecs [/r/boardgames PGR] Hi, my work is going to have a team building event that is an "LCR tournament." Looking this up, I'm guessing they mean the game Left Center Right. Looking at some videos on the rules, it seems that you just roll dice and pass chips, am I correct? It would seem there is no agency
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2024.05.14 06:25 Independent_Yak_7303 Advice for overcoming shame and social anxiety
Using a throwaway account since this is a pretty vulnerable post.
I'm a female in my early 20s, and I'm about to graduate from college with an English degree (double concentration in literature and creative writing). My tentative plan is to become a Professor of English Literature since I've always been an avid reader and writer. I'm incredibly passionate about learning and media literacy, and there's few things I love more than discussing art and helping others develop a deeper appreciation for it (and vice versa -- I'm always eager to gain a new perspective on something). I have no teaching experience (yet), but I feel like I have a lot of potential in this field.
Here's the thing, though: I struggle with intense feelings of social anxiety and shame. I have very little work experience due to feeling incompetent outside of my wheelhouse in English. Because I'm so anxious in social situations, I struggle to be present and often say/do things that come across as "ditzy" or awkward. I'm very afraid of how I'm being perceived, so I internally freak out -- I'm stuck inside my head instead of being present with those around me (other students, professors, coworkers, acquaintances, basically anyone who isn't in my close circle of friends and family). I feel like I have a reputation of being elusive, isolated, and/or sketchy because I tend to keep to myself and people pick up on my nervous energy (hence the "sketchy" vibes). I have internalized these feelings of incompetency and awkwardness and, as a result, my self-esteem is very low. I have been labeled as socially inept and unintelligent, and I often worry that these things are true. These feelings are made worse by my tendency to compare myself to others. While I know comparison is a losing game, I can't help but observe the accomplishments and talents of others and see the deficit of those things in myself... I recognize that this is an unhealthy mindset and am working hard to change that. I'm often my own worst enemy, so I'm trying to practice self-compassion in order to grow and become a more authentic, uninhibited version of myself. I know that, in order to achieve my goals (e.g., become a better writer, improve social skills, become a professor one day), I need to cultivate more confidence and self-trust. I've carried these feelings of shame for a long time, so it's going to take awhile to deconstruct them, but I'm trying to trust the process and believe in a brighter future.
Also, some context that may or may not be important: I'm in therapy and it's been a great resource. My therapist and I think that I could be on the autism spectrum as well. I'm not currently diagnosed so I hesitate to mention it, but I feel like it explains a lot of my discomfort socializing, the intense "special interest" in my field of study, and my heightened sensitivity (emotional and physical sensitivity -- I get overstimulated easily).
Here are some general questions I have for y'all, but feel free to share whatever insight you feel is appropriate:
What advice do you have for someone struggling with intense shame and social anxiety? How do you detach from other people's perception of you? How do you build genuine, lasting self-esteem?
Also, if there are any professors and/or writers here, what advice do you have for a fledgling undergrad?!
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I'm a female in my early 20s, and I'm about to graduate from college with an English degree (double concentration in literature and creative writing). My tentative plan is to become a Professor of English Literature since I've always been an avid reader and writer. I'm incredibly passionate about learning and media literacy, and there's few things I love more than discussing art and helping others develop a deeper appreciation for it (and vice versa -- I'm always eager to gain a new perspective on something). I have no teaching experience (yet), but I feel like I have a lot of potential in this field.
Here's the thing, though: I struggle with intense feelings of social anxiety and shame. I have very little work experience due to feeling incompetent outside of my wheelhouse in English. Because I'm so anxious in social situations, I struggle to be present and often say/do things that come across as "ditzy" or awkward. I'm very afraid of how I'm being perceived, so I internally freak out -- I'm stuck inside my head instead of being present with those around me (other students, professors, coworkers, acquaintances, basically anyone who isn't in my close circle of friends and family). I feel like I have a reputation of being elusive, isolated, and/or sketchy because I tend to keep to myself and people pick up on my nervous energy (hence the "sketchy" vibes). I have internalized these feelings of incompetency and awkwardness and, as a result, my self-esteem is very low. I have been labeled as socially inept and unintelligent, and I often worry that these things are true. These feelings are made worse by my tendency to compare myself to others. While I know comparison is a losing game, I can't help but observe the accomplishments and talents of others and see the deficit of those things in myself... I recognize that this is an unhealthy mindset and am working hard to change that. I'm often my own worst enemy, so I'm trying to practice self-compassion in order to grow and become a more authentic, uninhibited version of myself. I know that, in order to achieve my goals (e.g., become a better writer, improve social skills, become a professor one day), I need to cultivate more confidence and self-trust. I've carried these feelings of shame for a long time, so it's going to take awhile to deconstruct them, but I'm trying to trust the process and believe in a brighter future.
Also, some context that may or may not be important: I'm in therapy and it's been a great resource. My therapist and I think that I could be on the autism spectrum as well. I'm not currently diagnosed so I hesitate to mention it, but I feel like it explains a lot of my discomfort socializing, the intense "special interest" in my field of study, and my heightened sensitivity (emotional and physical sensitivity -- I get overstimulated easily).
Here are some general questions I have for y'all, but feel free to share whatever insight you feel is appropriate:
What advice do you have for someone struggling with intense shame and social anxiety? How do you detach from other people's perception of you? How do you build genuine, lasting self-esteem?
Also, if there are any professors and/or writers here, what advice do you have for a fledgling undergrad?!
2024.05.14 06:24 PersonalizedGameRecs [/r/boardgames PGR] Looking for an immersive adventure game that is easy to pickup and play. Something a ground can sit down and play a one off of right away. Do not Gloomhaven. More like House on Haunted Hill, but a bit more developed. Heavy on the atmosphere.
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2024.05.14 06:24 PersonalizedGameRecs [/r/boardgames PGR] Hi, my work is going to have a team building event that is an "LCR tournament." Looking this up, I'm guessing they mean the game Left Center Right. Looking at some videos on the rules, it seems that you just roll dice and pass chips, am I correct? It would seem there is no agency
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2024.05.14 06:24 Over-Guarantee-1015 [Mobile] [???-2019??] Mobile vampire romance on Andriod Samsung
Trying to find this old romance game I used to my on my Samsung. I know it got deleted but I saw playthroughs on YouTube a few years ago. The premise is like you the blonde haibrown skin protag gets their house broken into by a group of three men and one girl and it's like “You need to come with us” That's all the plot I remember. Before the game starts it asks for your gender and what gender you were attracted if you picked female you would romance the only woman in the group!
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2024.05.14 06:23 Alwaysa299 Construction Loan
So we are currently building a house and took out a construction only loan that will need to be refinanced at the completion of the home. Question I have is this… is it possible to refinance this loan into a single close construction to permanent loan? We have not broken ground yet and have our current house sold with the down payment from our current house our loan will only be 55% of the value so 45% down payment. I ask this because the company I work for was recently sold and I’d hate to have an employment issue pop up right before we are supposed to refinance the original construction loan to permanent in 11 months. Thoughts on this? Worth looking into? The bank we used does not have construction to permanent loans so would need to go elsewhere.
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