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2024.05.14 04:22 actionableadvice20 EXTROVERT GUIDE: ACTIONABLE ADVICE
Extroverts are one of the groups for which people have a love-hate relationship. Some people hate the way a lot of extroverts act but the same people would love the relationships extroverts have. This guide is not to become an extrovert but to become better at socialisation.
Socialisation or having a great social circle is one of the most important things in the world. It is one of the most important things in terms of mental health. I would argue it is more important than something like working out. So this is my guide for Socialisation.
WHO IS IT FOR?
It is for primarily people who are in college, university or school. If you are working this is not for you as all my guides come from my personal way of solving my problems and I don’t have experience with social circles while working a job.
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
I would consider myself as an ambivert, I am very middle of the pack when it comes to extraversion traits. I had a problem where I failed 11th class and then stayed at home for 12th class and then covid happened and because of that I spent like 2-3 years at home. And because of that I was super shy and antisocial in the start of college and didn’t try to make friends, but over time I made some great friends where my social circle is more than 10 friends who I like to spend time with, which is very great for me. So this is how I did it.
ACTIONABLE ADVICE:
Join a social group or a society, find what social activity you like to do, for example Bowling, Concerts , Say hello, your name, ask for their name, what you have in common and build from there. Stop and talk with people you have applied the framework on when you see them.
Again this is not to become an extrovert but if you follow it you would develop some traits which are usually attributed to extroverts. If you have any review for me tell me in comments.
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Socialisation or having a great social circle is one of the most important things in the world. It is one of the most important things in terms of mental health. I would argue it is more important than something like working out. So this is my guide for Socialisation.
WHO IS IT FOR?
It is for primarily people who are in college, university or school. If you are working this is not for you as all my guides come from my personal way of solving my problems and I don’t have experience with social circles while working a job.
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
I would consider myself as an ambivert, I am very middle of the pack when it comes to extraversion traits. I had a problem where I failed 11th class and then stayed at home for 12th class and then covid happened and because of that I spent like 2-3 years at home. And because of that I was super shy and antisocial in the start of college and didn’t try to make friends, but over time I made some great friends where my social circle is more than 10 friends who I like to spend time with, which is very great for me. So this is how I did it.
ACTIONABLE ADVICE:
- JOIN A SOCIETY: I don’t know how it works in foreign universities but I live in India and we have different societies in college as well as school like theatre, dance, music, or even things like debate, community service etc. My guess would be that foreign universities also have that and in my experience that has been the best way to meet people both girls and guys and they have things in common with you plus some tasks where you work together.
- FIND WHAT YOU ENJOY: A lot of time we tend to just do what our friends do like clubbing, parties etc. But personally I never liked them. My preferences in social settings got confirmed in college and I don’t do clubbing or parties. But I found out what I like to do, which is concerts and activities like bowling, swimming etc. Even in huge social circles I like when there is not too much noise like clubs but where we sit, eat something and talk. So I geared people around me towards things like that. So find out what you enjoy doing and do it with other people.
- SAY HELLO: Saying hello to people around you is the easiest way to start a conversation, I mean yeah no shit sherlock, but what worked for me was a framework where I said hello, my name, then asked for their name and acknowledge what we have in common and then build from there. This framework which I build unconsciously tends to work for me.
- STOP AND TALK: One last thing which helped me was when I talked to someone once, using the above framework, I then whenever I saw them in college campus stopped and talked with them even if that is for 3-4 minutes and that helped form a lot of acquaintances with many different people.
Join a social group or a society, find what social activity you like to do, for example Bowling, Concerts , Say hello, your name, ask for their name, what you have in common and build from there. Stop and talk with people you have applied the framework on when you see them.
Again this is not to become an extrovert but if you follow it you would develop some traits which are usually attributed to extroverts. If you have any review for me tell me in comments.
2024.05.14 04:21 actionableadvice20 EXTROVERT GUIDE: ACTIONABLE ADVICE
Extroverts are one of the groups for which people have a love-hate relationship. Some people hate the way a lot of extroverts act but the same people would love the relationships extroverts have. This guide is not to become an extrovert but to become better at socialisation.
Socialisation or having a great social circle is one of the most important things in the world. It is one of the most important things in terms of mental health. I would argue it is more important than something like working out. So this is my guide for Socialisation.
WHO IS IT FOR?
It is for primarily people who are in college, university or school. If you are working this is not for you as all my guides come from my personal way of solving my problems and I don’t have experience with social circles while working a job.
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
I would consider myself as an ambivert, I am very middle of the pack when it comes to extraversion traits. I had a problem where I failed 11th class and then stayed at home for 12th class and then covid happened and because of that I spent like 2-3 years at home. And because of that I was super shy and antisocial in the start of college and didn’t try to make friends, but over time I made some great friends where my social circle is more than 10 friends who I like to spend time with, which is very great for me. So this is how I did it.
ACTIONABLE ADVICE:
Join a social group or a society, find what social activity you like to do, for example Bowling, Concerts , Say hello, your name, ask for their name, what you have in common and build from there. Stop and talk with people you have applied the framework on when you see them.
Again this is not to become an extrovert but if you follow it you would develop some traits which are usually attributed to extroverts. If you have any review for me tell me in comments.
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Socialisation or having a great social circle is one of the most important things in the world. It is one of the most important things in terms of mental health. I would argue it is more important than something like working out. So this is my guide for Socialisation.
WHO IS IT FOR?
It is for primarily people who are in college, university or school. If you are working this is not for you as all my guides come from my personal way of solving my problems and I don’t have experience with social circles while working a job.
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
I would consider myself as an ambivert, I am very middle of the pack when it comes to extraversion traits. I had a problem where I failed 11th class and then stayed at home for 12th class and then covid happened and because of that I spent like 2-3 years at home. And because of that I was super shy and antisocial in the start of college and didn’t try to make friends, but over time I made some great friends where my social circle is more than 10 friends who I like to spend time with, which is very great for me. So this is how I did it.
ACTIONABLE ADVICE:
- JOIN A SOCIETY: I don’t know how it works in foreign universities but I live in India and we have different societies in college as well as school like theatre, dance, music, or even things like debate, community service etc. My guess would be that foreign universities also have that and in my experience that has been the best way to meet people both girls and guys and they have things in common with you plus some tasks where you work together.
- FIND WHAT YOU ENJOY: A lot of time we tend to just do what our friends do like clubbing, parties etc. But personally I never liked them. My preferences in social settings got confirmed in college and I don’t do clubbing or parties. But I found out what I like to do, which is concerts and activities like bowling, swimming etc. Even in huge social circles I like when there is not too much noise like clubs but where we sit, eat something and talk. So I geared people around me towards things like that. So find out what you enjoy doing and do it with other people.
- SAY HELLO: Saying hello to people around you is the easiest way to start a conversation, I mean yeah no shit sherlock, but what worked for me was a framework where I said hello, my name, then asked for their name and acknowledge what we have in common and then build from there. This framework which I build unconsciously tends to work for me.
- STOP AND TALK: One last thing which helped me was when I talked to someone once, using the above framework, I then whenever I saw them in college campus stopped and talked with them even if that is for 3-4 minutes and that helped form a lot of acquaintances with many different people.
Join a social group or a society, find what social activity you like to do, for example Bowling, Concerts , Say hello, your name, ask for their name, what you have in common and build from there. Stop and talk with people you have applied the framework on when you see them.
Again this is not to become an extrovert but if you follow it you would develop some traits which are usually attributed to extroverts. If you have any review for me tell me in comments.
2024.05.14 04:21 actionableadvice20 EXTROVERT GUIDE: ACTIONABLE ADVICE
Extroverts are one of the groups for which people have a love-hate relationship. Some people hate the way a lot of extroverts act but the same people would love the relationships extroverts have. This guide is not to become an extrovert but to become better at socialisation.
Socialisation or having a great social circle is one of the most important things in the world. It is one of the most important things in terms of mental health. I would argue it is more important than something like working out. So this is my guide for Socialisation.
WHO IS IT FOR?
It is for primarily people who are in college, university or school. If you are working this is not for you as all my guides come from my personal way of solving my problems and I don’t have experience with social circles while working a job.
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
I would consider myself as an ambivert, I am very middle of the pack when it comes to extraversion traits. I had a problem where I failed 11th class and then stayed at home for 12th class and then covid happened and because of that I spent like 2-3 years at home. And because of that I was super shy and antisocial in the start of college and didn’t try to make friends, but over time I made some great friends where my social circle is more than 10 friends who I like to spend time with, which is very great for me. So this is how I did it.
ACTIONABLE ADVICE:
Join a social group or a society, find what social activity you like to do, for example Bowling, Concerts , Say hello, your name, ask for their name, what you have in common and build from there. Stop and talk with people you have applied the framework on when you see them.
Again this is not to become an extrovert but if you follow it you would develop some traits which are usually attributed to extroverts. If you have any review for me tell me in comments.
submitted by actionableadvice20 to Healthygamergg [link] [comments]
Socialisation or having a great social circle is one of the most important things in the world. It is one of the most important things in terms of mental health. I would argue it is more important than something like working out. So this is my guide for Socialisation.
WHO IS IT FOR?
It is for primarily people who are in college, university or school. If you are working this is not for you as all my guides come from my personal way of solving my problems and I don’t have experience with social circles while working a job.
PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
I would consider myself as an ambivert, I am very middle of the pack when it comes to extraversion traits. I had a problem where I failed 11th class and then stayed at home for 12th class and then covid happened and because of that I spent like 2-3 years at home. And because of that I was super shy and antisocial in the start of college and didn’t try to make friends, but over time I made some great friends where my social circle is more than 10 friends who I like to spend time with, which is very great for me. So this is how I did it.
ACTIONABLE ADVICE:
- JOIN A SOCIETY: I don’t know how it works in foreign universities but I live in India and we have different societies in college as well as school like theatre, dance, music, or even things like debate, community service etc. My guess would be that foreign universities also have that and in my experience that has been the best way to meet people both girls and guys and they have things in common with you plus some tasks where you work together.
- FIND WHAT YOU ENJOY: A lot of time we tend to just do what our friends do like clubbing, parties etc. But personally I never liked them. My preferences in social settings got confirmed in college and I don’t do clubbing or parties. But I found out what I like to do, which is concerts and activities like bowling, swimming etc. Even in huge social circles I like when there is not too much noise like clubs but where we sit, eat something and talk. So I geared people around me towards things like that. So find out what you enjoy doing and do it with other people.
- SAY HELLO: Saying hello to people around you is the easiest way to start a conversation, I mean yeah no shit sherlock, but what worked for me was a framework where I said hello, my name, then asked for their name and acknowledge what we have in common and then build from there. This framework which I build unconsciously tends to work for me.
- STOP AND TALK: One last thing which helped me was when I talked to someone once, using the above framework, I then whenever I saw them in college campus stopped and talked with them even if that is for 3-4 minutes and that helped form a lot of acquaintances with many different people.
Join a social group or a society, find what social activity you like to do, for example Bowling, Concerts , Say hello, your name, ask for their name, what you have in common and build from there. Stop and talk with people you have applied the framework on when you see them.
Again this is not to become an extrovert but if you follow it you would develop some traits which are usually attributed to extroverts. If you have any review for me tell me in comments.
2024.05.14 04:20 No-Examination8822 college kid with no knowledge on credit cards
I am a 22 year old college student looking to boost my knowledge more on diversifying my credit cards and how to maximize the benefits from them (points, cash back etc). I am currently using the discover it cash back credit card as well as the apple card. I find myself not really using the full benefits of the discover it cash back when the 5% cash back changes per quarter as I tend to forget to look at it. I currently have a part-time job making roughly 700-800 every two weeks and I live at home with my parents because the commute to school is only 10 minutes. I have received offers mainly from chase regarding the chase sapphire preferred and the chase freedom unlimited. Both sound tempting to apply for haha but again I don't want to make any hasty decisions without knowing how to use these cards to their fullest potential
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2024.05.14 04:19 marain556 APPLYING TO ABSN PROGRAMS??
Hi all,
Does anyone know if you need to already hold a bachelor’s degree to be accepted into an accelerated BSN program? I am currently an undergrad student who is getting ready to apply for nursing school, (after this fall semester I will have completed all of the necessary pre requisite courses), and was wondering if I can apply to ABSN programs in addition to the traditional 2 year BSN programs. When I was checking out some ABSN programs online it seemed like they were catering towards people who already hold a Bachelors degree, but I just wanted to check to see if this might be an option for someone like me as well. Sorry in advance if this is a stupid question!! 😭
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Does anyone know if you need to already hold a bachelor’s degree to be accepted into an accelerated BSN program? I am currently an undergrad student who is getting ready to apply for nursing school, (after this fall semester I will have completed all of the necessary pre requisite courses), and was wondering if I can apply to ABSN programs in addition to the traditional 2 year BSN programs. When I was checking out some ABSN programs online it seemed like they were catering towards people who already hold a Bachelors degree, but I just wanted to check to see if this might be an option for someone like me as well. Sorry in advance if this is a stupid question!! 😭
2024.05.14 04:18 PliesLikesJandJ Bloomberg/IBM SWE Full Time Interview
Hello! I'm a senior about to graduate, and plan to apply to Bloomberg and IBM for a full time position (haven't done an internship at either, but I've had 4 internships). My question is, what kind of Leetcode questions should I expect for a FULL TIME position. And I'm aware of the System Design interview, I'll be preparing for that. Any tips on what to study would help too (beyond Grind 75 and Neetcode 150, yada yada). Preferably the more recent advice, the better, since the job market has changed recently. I appreciate any help!
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2024.05.14 04:18 randomlyhere_1 Going through all this.......
. Family problems like alcoholic father with very less salary, working mother (just a 20-25k salary job )who have to lookup for everything, becoz of my father i could apply for my visa, 1 year loss and lot's of expenses during IELTS and making documents, daily fights and shouting with father , after that joining bachelor, he even doesn't care about my fees and other expenses, just care about alcohol and rajniti .always available for rajniti program but never for a me and our family. Becoz of my mother i have joined bachelor and started studying but i could concentrate in my study. Overthinking, anxiety ,daily fights in family, financial crisis and lot's of things is going on me .I have capture my self in my room . My friend also left me and just become alone .
I think i should consult to a psychiatrist but i don't know anything about where and how to contact . I am just fed up with everything...!
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I think i should consult to a psychiatrist but i don't know anything about where and how to contact . I am just fed up with everything...!
2024.05.14 04:18 mybstoleranceislow No child support for 15yrs, now he's in UK living his life
Hi guys! I was inspired by the posts and the legit advices I read here, so I thought I should also share my story.
I got pregnant at 17 (now I'm 34) and my ex was 19 that time. I was about to turn 18 when I told my family and kahit almost prepared na lahat for my 18th bday, I chose to not have a big party and asked mom if I can just use the money for my birth. We were both students by then, he took Accountancy and I took Tourism. Since the term just started and I just enrolled, mom asked me to just finish the term. Yet, ex needs to find work ASAP because that's the right thing to do.
Fast forward, as an 18 yo pregnant teenager, of course it was high risk. Got admitted to a private hospital and mom took care of all the bills. Ex's salary is only enough to cover for my daily needs (cravings, vits, baby things, etc). Don't get me wrong, I am not the maluho at maselan type of preggy. He continued with work and I took care of my baby.
Fast fast forward. I live in QC and he's from Pque. It's literally north to south travel and he once asked if we can schedule staying home for a week then south (though he works in Q.Ave) palit palit kumbaga. His father gave him a car though, so I agreed kasi it's not much of a hassle for the baby naman since may car. That was the setup. Maybe he's just homesick and wants to be with his family kahit sya mahirapan everyday papasok. The first few weeks went fine until one day, I found out he's cheating. Mind you, not only 1 sidechick, but 3.
This was way back keypad phone days and I was bothered by the series of text msgs na naririnig ko sa phone nya. No passcodes, everything manual. He's taking a bath then, and I felt the urge na pakialaman yung phone. I don't normally do that, but it felt like GO GIRL YOU GOTTA CHECK IT TODAY. Then lo and behold, 1 girl was telling him she cooked their lunch. The other one was asking, sabay ba sila papasok. The other one is nagtatampo kasi di narereplyan. I felt betrayed of course, but remained calm (i'm proud cos when this happened I am under PPD). It wasn't easy. I just told him, "Bilisan mo na maligo at hinihintay ka ng 3 babae mo!", then never said anything about it.
I need to have a job so I can break up with him. I have my family to help me start again and I am positive I don't need his help. So I plotted the plan, that's to apply somewhere in Makati. Because of the cold shoulder, he then finally realized what I'm doing and became aggressive. For some reason, parang gusto nya ibalik ang dati, but for me it's a never. I believe in HE DID IT ONCE, HE'LL DO IT AGAIN type. I managed to get a job and escaped from the hell hole.
This is getting longer so here are the highlights: 1. When mom asked to meet his mom about the pregnancy, Tita said "So anong gagawin natin dyan?, which made my mom angry. She's insinuating that we should get the baby aborted. She even said "Sinira mo naman buhay ng anak ko.", like he's the girl in our relationship and I don't have a future waiting. Hence, my mom don't like his family.
In all honesty, I want to see my ex again. I wanted to show him where I'm at, kung pano ko pinalaki mga anak ko ng wala sya, how beautiful and well mannered they are. And of course, I want to see how they will react. I am now working at a BPO for 6yrs, also owns a clothing business. Di pa rin ako mayaman, but I managed to achieve everything over the yrs as a single mom. Ito na yung sinabihan nya dati na DI MO MABUBUHAY MGA ANAK MO. I wanna shove this to his face.
I did my research too, found out he's in UK. Living a life he don't deserve. He abandoned my kids. He ignored me once when I asked help cos my bunso had dengue. Well, here's where I need the advice.
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I got pregnant at 17 (now I'm 34) and my ex was 19 that time. I was about to turn 18 when I told my family and kahit almost prepared na lahat for my 18th bday, I chose to not have a big party and asked mom if I can just use the money for my birth. We were both students by then, he took Accountancy and I took Tourism. Since the term just started and I just enrolled, mom asked me to just finish the term. Yet, ex needs to find work ASAP because that's the right thing to do.
Fast forward, as an 18 yo pregnant teenager, of course it was high risk. Got admitted to a private hospital and mom took care of all the bills. Ex's salary is only enough to cover for my daily needs (cravings, vits, baby things, etc). Don't get me wrong, I am not the maluho at maselan type of preggy. He continued with work and I took care of my baby.
Fast fast forward. I live in QC and he's from Pque. It's literally north to south travel and he once asked if we can schedule staying home for a week then south (though he works in Q.Ave) palit palit kumbaga. His father gave him a car though, so I agreed kasi it's not much of a hassle for the baby naman since may car. That was the setup. Maybe he's just homesick and wants to be with his family kahit sya mahirapan everyday papasok. The first few weeks went fine until one day, I found out he's cheating. Mind you, not only 1 sidechick, but 3.
This was way back keypad phone days and I was bothered by the series of text msgs na naririnig ko sa phone nya. No passcodes, everything manual. He's taking a bath then, and I felt the urge na pakialaman yung phone. I don't normally do that, but it felt like GO GIRL YOU GOTTA CHECK IT TODAY. Then lo and behold, 1 girl was telling him she cooked their lunch. The other one was asking, sabay ba sila papasok. The other one is nagtatampo kasi di narereplyan. I felt betrayed of course, but remained calm (i'm proud cos when this happened I am under PPD). It wasn't easy. I just told him, "Bilisan mo na maligo at hinihintay ka ng 3 babae mo!", then never said anything about it.
I need to have a job so I can break up with him. I have my family to help me start again and I am positive I don't need his help. So I plotted the plan, that's to apply somewhere in Makati. Because of the cold shoulder, he then finally realized what I'm doing and became aggressive. For some reason, parang gusto nya ibalik ang dati, but for me it's a never. I believe in HE DID IT ONCE, HE'LL DO IT AGAIN type. I managed to get a job and escaped from the hell hole.
This is getting longer so here are the highlights: 1. When mom asked to meet his mom about the pregnancy, Tita said "So anong gagawin natin dyan?, which made my mom angry. She's insinuating that we should get the baby aborted. She even said "Sinira mo naman buhay ng anak ko.", like he's the girl in our relationship and I don't have a future waiting. Hence, my mom don't like his family.
- I was battered when he found out I had a bf at work (technically we broke up from the day he cheated). I had to have sx with him para lang makaalis ng bahay every day. With that, I got pregnant with my 2nd child. This was technically, RPE, but I don't want to see it that way cos my baby was a blessing.
- When we separated, he took my eldest and told me "BUHAYIN MO MAG ISA ANAK MO, AKIN TONG ISA". This means maghahati kami sa mga bata at wala ng pakialamanan. He even shoved to my face na di ko kaya bumuhay ng bata dahil wala ako matinong work.
- I borrowed my eldest on my bday and never talked to them again. Why? Go, sue me. I am the mom. From then on, I took care of everything.
In all honesty, I want to see my ex again. I wanted to show him where I'm at, kung pano ko pinalaki mga anak ko ng wala sya, how beautiful and well mannered they are. And of course, I want to see how they will react. I am now working at a BPO for 6yrs, also owns a clothing business. Di pa rin ako mayaman, but I managed to achieve everything over the yrs as a single mom. Ito na yung sinabihan nya dati na DI MO MABUBUHAY MGA ANAK MO. I wanna shove this to his face.
I did my research too, found out he's in UK. Living a life he don't deserve. He abandoned my kids. He ignored me once when I asked help cos my bunso had dengue. Well, here's where I need the advice.
- Should I keep silent and let things be? Pigilan yung bunso ko na hagilapin sya?
- Do something and file a case for child support at kunin kung ano ang dapat matagal ng nabigay sa mga bata?
2024.05.14 04:17 freebird023 Learned how my parents really see my transition, and I’m getting tired of my family.
This is gonna sound ridiculous and obvious, but I was really trying to hold out and give them every benefit of the doubt. I’m nearly 8 months into my transition, and have been afraid to do pretty much anything outwardly feminine BECAUSE OF THEM. I’ve been taking HRT and applying basic makeup occasionally, but other than that, basically nothing because they already make plenty of comments about me already(mostly my dad). He jokes about shaving my head, has said stuff like “I’m just a guy who paints his nails”, stuff like that. I know he’s never been an ally, but I at least thought he, all of them, would come around. He also suggests constantly that I should rent out a room from his (Mormon) grandparents house, and I’ve just stopped responding to him whenever he brings it up.
I thought my mom had my back a little bit more, at least. She talks me through some medical stuff, and has told me she has to teach me to do my makeup better sometime(genuinely still think it wasn’t a jab, it’s pretty basic eyeliner lol). But yet even she has only gendered me ONCE correctly, a few days ago. And I think it was because we were both in front of my aunt(her sister) who’s been one of my biggest supporters and resources). Yet today, when discussing a job I’m starting later, she told me not to wear makeup starting out and not to “Shove it in people’s faces” and “Let them get to know me first”. I told her it fucking IS me, but without the cussing. She got pretty quiet. And even then, what kinda logic is that? I walked out of the room and realized that they just see me as their son, who’s doing this thing. Literally what my dad has referenced it as, btw. My thing. My mom always says she supports and loves me, but then will literally groan when I wear makeup outside of the house.
Don’t even get me started on my brothers. One pretends it never happened and the other genders me correctly a lot, but then used a slur the other day, and got mad when I told him to not do that? Like I was some twitter activist and not his sister who’s literally been called that before.
I thought I could just tough it out and look at the positive parts, but for the first time, I’m finding myself wanting to act out, say all the things I’m thinking and run out the door with all of my belongings. B this sounds like a typical teenage reaction, but the thing is: I turn 20 in a little over 2 weeks, and have never felt as much outright resentment towards them before. Even when things got ROUGH in my teenage years, I was always the rule-follower, but they’ve done some shitty things to me in the years past. Said some shitty things in the years past.
I feel resentment for when I was forced out the closet at 14, and my dad basically told me “Never under his roof”. Resentment for how awkward they get when other people actually gender me correctly. Resentment for acting like this is the worst part of me. I don’t want to speak to them once I move out, or at least keep MINIMAL contact. I’m so, so, so tired of counting my progress in millimeters, based on however comfortable they’re going to be sitting in the same room as their “son with boobs”.
I at least want to have my 20th away from them, and celebrate it with my cousin(who’s also my best friend) and my boyfriend, who’s also trans. He’s cis passing and way farther along in his transition than me, and has been helping me though all of the toughest parts of my own. I’m going to his house tomorrow, and I’m going to put on a dress, skirts, makeup, practice my fem voice, because it’s what I’ve craved to do for who knows how long, but even then, I know I’ll still be feeling the sarcastic, pseudo-supportive ire of my parents, who live an hour away.
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I thought my mom had my back a little bit more, at least. She talks me through some medical stuff, and has told me she has to teach me to do my makeup better sometime(genuinely still think it wasn’t a jab, it’s pretty basic eyeliner lol). But yet even she has only gendered me ONCE correctly, a few days ago. And I think it was because we were both in front of my aunt(her sister) who’s been one of my biggest supporters and resources). Yet today, when discussing a job I’m starting later, she told me not to wear makeup starting out and not to “Shove it in people’s faces” and “Let them get to know me first”. I told her it fucking IS me, but without the cussing. She got pretty quiet. And even then, what kinda logic is that? I walked out of the room and realized that they just see me as their son, who’s doing this thing. Literally what my dad has referenced it as, btw. My thing. My mom always says she supports and loves me, but then will literally groan when I wear makeup outside of the house.
Don’t even get me started on my brothers. One pretends it never happened and the other genders me correctly a lot, but then used a slur the other day, and got mad when I told him to not do that? Like I was some twitter activist and not his sister who’s literally been called that before.
I thought I could just tough it out and look at the positive parts, but for the first time, I’m finding myself wanting to act out, say all the things I’m thinking and run out the door with all of my belongings. B this sounds like a typical teenage reaction, but the thing is: I turn 20 in a little over 2 weeks, and have never felt as much outright resentment towards them before. Even when things got ROUGH in my teenage years, I was always the rule-follower, but they’ve done some shitty things to me in the years past. Said some shitty things in the years past.
I feel resentment for when I was forced out the closet at 14, and my dad basically told me “Never under his roof”. Resentment for how awkward they get when other people actually gender me correctly. Resentment for acting like this is the worst part of me. I don’t want to speak to them once I move out, or at least keep MINIMAL contact. I’m so, so, so tired of counting my progress in millimeters, based on however comfortable they’re going to be sitting in the same room as their “son with boobs”.
I at least want to have my 20th away from them, and celebrate it with my cousin(who’s also my best friend) and my boyfriend, who’s also trans. He’s cis passing and way farther along in his transition than me, and has been helping me though all of the toughest parts of my own. I’m going to his house tomorrow, and I’m going to put on a dress, skirts, makeup, practice my fem voice, because it’s what I’ve craved to do for who knows how long, but even then, I know I’ll still be feeling the sarcastic, pseudo-supportive ire of my parents, who live an hour away.
2024.05.14 04:17 moebeast25 Lost and Listless
Im going to be 23 in a couple of days, i have no job or any other prospects. I would study but i have no clue what to even do at this point. Ive already studied both graphic design and data analytics previously, I apply to literally every job i can regardless of what ive studied now since i cant find work or rather no one is hiring me in the fields ive studied.
Ive been trying to do some online commissions for both graphics and art but in the past 2 years of trying... I have very little to show for it. I dont have friends, the only sorta "friends" i have are a few people that i play games regularly online with and to get them to help me with literally anything is really sisyphean.
Not to try and complain too much but my family has been hounding me to get a job or make a living some how ever since i was 14/15 and me not being able to do that has been a real drain in our relationship. I feel like a failure in every aspect of my life and i have no idea how to turn it around. I dont have much of a will to do anything anymore other then meander about and play video games all day with how everything i feel like i do ends up not going well for me, i am at a loss or have any real idea of how to move on with my life.
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Ive been trying to do some online commissions for both graphics and art but in the past 2 years of trying... I have very little to show for it. I dont have friends, the only sorta "friends" i have are a few people that i play games regularly online with and to get them to help me with literally anything is really sisyphean.
Not to try and complain too much but my family has been hounding me to get a job or make a living some how ever since i was 14/15 and me not being able to do that has been a real drain in our relationship. I feel like a failure in every aspect of my life and i have no idea how to turn it around. I dont have much of a will to do anything anymore other then meander about and play video games all day with how everything i feel like i do ends up not going well for me, i am at a loss or have any real idea of how to move on with my life.
2024.05.14 04:16 Usual_Writer_825 I hate my mom and her bf sm.
Time after time my mom (38) has chosen men over her 4 children, she literally chose to lose our 4 bed 2 bath apartment just so she can live with her pos bf (52) whose she hasn't even known for 6 months. She left me alone at the apartment to stay with him 5 day out of the week after just 2 weeks of knowing him, after maybe two months she moved in full time and he has been since February. He is a homophobic pos that says shit to my mom when I (Trans 16) wears a skirt. We used to be so close until they met, now she blames me because we don't talk or see each other. Her bfs house is a 2 bed 1 bath house. My sibling go over there on the weekends because my grandmother is closest to their school, so that would be 5 people including 3 kids (6, 10, and 16) on the weekends. My dad died 8 years ago and since then I've been getting $1000 every month, which she is supposed to be used on me, which she hasnt givin me shit, maybe $300 in the last e months, which i have a dog and a rabbit, including my food and hygiene. When I ask for anything all she tells me is to get a job, which i would but I have mental health issues in 2022 and the fucked up my learning (I do online) so I've been trying to get caught up, and she bitches at me when I don't have schoolwork caught up, then tell me to get a job for fucking necessities. We wen out for mothers day dinner last night and she dead ass looks at my sister and expected her to pay for my meal. And by the end of the month they will be their full time, and by the beginning of next month I and my sister, my sisters bf and their baby will be evicted from the apartment. (My sister, her so and baby have been living in the apartment until they can get a house, which they will have by the end of next month, so she has been taking care of me. Like she always has(they have a place to stay until they)). So I'm forced to move in with my mom until further notice, I will fucking be so depressed and angry their. I fucking hate being 16, I fucking hate my mom, she is an irresponsible selfish parent who only cares about her happiness. Fuck you mom.
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2024.05.14 04:16 mybstoleranceislow No child support for 15yrs, now he's in UK living his life
Hi guys! I was inspired by the posts and the legit advices I read here, so I thought I should also share my story.
I got pregnant at 17 (now I'm 34) and my ex was 19 that time. I was about to turn 18 when I told my family and kahit almost prepared na lahat for my 18th bday, I chose to not have a big party and asked mom if I can just use the money for my birth. We were both students by then, he took Accountancy and I took Tourism. Since the term just started and I just enrolled, mom asked me to just finish the term. Yet, ex needs to find work ASAP because that's the right thing to do.
Fast forward, as an 18 yo pregnant teenager, of course it was high risk. Got admitted to a private hospital and mom took care of all the bills. Ex's salary is only enough to cover for my daily needs (cravings, vits, baby things, etc). Don't get me wrong, I am not the maluho at maselan type of preggy. He continued with work and I took care of my baby.
Fast fast forward. I live in QC and he's from Pque. It's literally north to south travel and he once asked if we can schedule staying home for a week then south (though he works in Q.Ave) palit palit kumbaga. His father gave him a car though, so I agreed kasi it's not much of a hassle for the baby naman since may car. That was the setup. Maybe he's just homesick and wants to be with his family kahit sya mahirapan everyday papasok. The first few weeks went fine until one day, I found out he's cheating. Mind you, not only 1 sidechick, but 3.
This was way back keypad phone days and I was bothered by the series of text msgs na naririnig ko sa phone nya. No passcodes, everything manual. He's taking a bath then, and I felt the urge na pakialaman yung phone. I don't normally do that, but it felt like GO GIRL YOU GOTTA CHECK IT TODAY. Then lo and behold, 1 girl was telling him she cooked their lunch. The other one was asking, sabay ba sila papasok. The other one is nagtatampo kasi di narereplyan. I felt betrayed of course, but remained calm (i'm proud cos when this happened I am under PPD). It wasn't easy. I just told him, "Bilisan mo na maligo at hinihintay ka ng 3 babae mo!", then never said anything about it.
I need to have a job so I can break up with him. I have my family to help me start again and I am positive I don't need his help. So I plotted the plan, that's to apply somewhere in Makati. Because of the cold shoulder, he then finally realized what I'm doing and became aggressive. For some reason, parang gusto nya ibalik ang dati, but for me it's a never. I believe in HE DID IT ONCE, HE'LL DO IT AGAIN type. I managed to get a job and escaped from the hell hole.
This is getting longer so here are the highlights: 1. When mom asked to meet his mom about the pregnancy, Tita said "So anong gagawin natin dyan?, which made my mom angry. She's insinuating that we should get the baby aborted. She even said "Sinira mo naman buhay ng anak ko.", like he's the girl in our relationship and I don't have a future waiting. Hence, my mom don't like his family.
In all honesty, I want to see my ex again. I wanted to show him where I'm at, kung pano ko pinalaki mga anak ko ng wala sya, how beautiful and well mannered they are. And of course, I want to see how they will react. I am now working at a BPO for 6yrs, also owns a clothing business. Di pa rin ako mayaman, but I managed to achieve everything over the yrs as a single mom. Ito na yung sinabihan nya dati na DI MO MABUBUHAY MGA ANAK MO. I wanna shove this to his face.
I did my research too, found out he's in UK. Living a life he don't deserve. He abandoned my kids. He ignored me once when I asked help cos my bunso had dengue. Well, here's where I need the advice.
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I got pregnant at 17 (now I'm 34) and my ex was 19 that time. I was about to turn 18 when I told my family and kahit almost prepared na lahat for my 18th bday, I chose to not have a big party and asked mom if I can just use the money for my birth. We were both students by then, he took Accountancy and I took Tourism. Since the term just started and I just enrolled, mom asked me to just finish the term. Yet, ex needs to find work ASAP because that's the right thing to do.
Fast forward, as an 18 yo pregnant teenager, of course it was high risk. Got admitted to a private hospital and mom took care of all the bills. Ex's salary is only enough to cover for my daily needs (cravings, vits, baby things, etc). Don't get me wrong, I am not the maluho at maselan type of preggy. He continued with work and I took care of my baby.
Fast fast forward. I live in QC and he's from Pque. It's literally north to south travel and he once asked if we can schedule staying home for a week then south (though he works in Q.Ave) palit palit kumbaga. His father gave him a car though, so I agreed kasi it's not much of a hassle for the baby naman since may car. That was the setup. Maybe he's just homesick and wants to be with his family kahit sya mahirapan everyday papasok. The first few weeks went fine until one day, I found out he's cheating. Mind you, not only 1 sidechick, but 3.
This was way back keypad phone days and I was bothered by the series of text msgs na naririnig ko sa phone nya. No passcodes, everything manual. He's taking a bath then, and I felt the urge na pakialaman yung phone. I don't normally do that, but it felt like GO GIRL YOU GOTTA CHECK IT TODAY. Then lo and behold, 1 girl was telling him she cooked their lunch. The other one was asking, sabay ba sila papasok. The other one is nagtatampo kasi di narereplyan. I felt betrayed of course, but remained calm (i'm proud cos when this happened I am under PPD). It wasn't easy. I just told him, "Bilisan mo na maligo at hinihintay ka ng 3 babae mo!", then never said anything about it.
I need to have a job so I can break up with him. I have my family to help me start again and I am positive I don't need his help. So I plotted the plan, that's to apply somewhere in Makati. Because of the cold shoulder, he then finally realized what I'm doing and became aggressive. For some reason, parang gusto nya ibalik ang dati, but for me it's a never. I believe in HE DID IT ONCE, HE'LL DO IT AGAIN type. I managed to get a job and escaped from the hell hole.
This is getting longer so here are the highlights: 1. When mom asked to meet his mom about the pregnancy, Tita said "So anong gagawin natin dyan?, which made my mom angry. She's insinuating that we should get the baby aborted. She even said "Sinira mo naman buhay ng anak ko.", like he's the girl in our relationship and I don't have a future waiting. Hence, my mom don't like his family.
- I was battered when he found out I had a bf at work (technically we broke up from the day he cheated). I had to have sx with him para lang makaalis ng bahay every day. With that, I got pregnant with my 2nd child. This was technically, RPE, but I don't want to see it that way cos my baby was a blessing.
- When we separated, he took my eldest and told me "BUHAYIN MO MAG ISA ANAK MO, AKIN TONG ISA". This means maghahati kami sa mga bata at wala ng pakialamanan. He even shoved to my face na di ko kaya bumuhay ng bata dahil wala ako matinong work.
- I borrowed my eldest on my bday and never talked to them again. Why? Go, sue me. I am the mom. From then on, I took care of everything.
In all honesty, I want to see my ex again. I wanted to show him where I'm at, kung pano ko pinalaki mga anak ko ng wala sya, how beautiful and well mannered they are. And of course, I want to see how they will react. I am now working at a BPO for 6yrs, also owns a clothing business. Di pa rin ako mayaman, but I managed to achieve everything over the yrs as a single mom. Ito na yung sinabihan nya dati na DI MO MABUBUHAY MGA ANAK MO. I wanna shove this to his face.
I did my research too, found out he's in UK. Living a life he don't deserve. He abandoned my kids. He ignored me once when I asked help cos my bunso had dengue. Well, here's where I need the advice.
- Should I keep silent and let things be? Pigilan yung bunso ko na hagilapin sya?
- Do something and file a case for child support at kunin kung ano ang dapat matagal ng nabigay sa mga bata?
2024.05.14 04:16 raifoundnemo I got fired today.
I just got fired from a major corporation. I’ve been a pharmacy technician since October 2021. I’m near Charlotte, NC. USA
I can fill in more details as needed. I feel like so much has happened during my time with this company, I’m not even really sure which parts of the story are relevant.
But to start, I was at a store that didn’t have a store manager for 6 months and I was having issues getting hours, support, literally any paperwork being done because my pharmacy manager (pharmacist in charge, RXM) did not like me. We were understaffed, there was a ton of drama. I had spoken to the district manager (DM) about my issues several times and finally after a technician lashed out and threw some filling totes and some bagged prescriptions at me and another technician, I called him after work and told him I no longer felt safe and wouldn’t be returning to work until he handled the situation.
I help out at other stores all the time and one of the stores I help out offered me to transfer. Additionally, right after I left pretty much everyone quit, I was not the only person with issues at that store. After that situation, since I was already starting the process of transferring, instead of waiting two more weeks I immediately went to the new store. During this time I had started the process for ADA accommodations through HR and with my doctor.
The week I started at the new store, I sat down with the pharmacy tech manager (RXOM) and the store manager (SM). This probably should have been my first red flag, but the SM basically asked something along the lines of why he should let me transfer because it sounds like I had a lot of problems at the old store. So upon starting at this specific store, I disclosed issues I have socially due to my disability and stated that I needed clear communication because I do not pick up on hints or subtleties and that I needed clear feedback when I have made a mistake or in a situation where I upset someone. I also disclosed that I would need additional assistance in tense situations with customers and coworkers. I explained there was a lot of drama and pettiness at my old pharmacy and that I inadvertently caused a lot of issues because I was oblivious to it. The SM basically decided that it didn’t sound like an issue to be clear and concise and kind of guide me through situations that come up. He assured me I could talk to him anytime. I was repeatedly ignored when I requested aid in those situations. And then if the outcome was less than satisfactory, I was punished. The tech manager became my support needs liaison, but the store and assistant manager refused to accommodate me. The tech manager actually got a lot of crap for trying to help me. I have a disability that can affect the way I am perceived by other people and speaking to people about it usually helps clear up any problems. I was not given an opportunity to do this. I thought I was protecting myself my disclosing my needs and weaknesses.
So at this store a few things happened with different people all at once and the store became short staffed. I started helping out a lot, staying late when I could, picking up shifts even though I had to find extra childcare. The pharmacy manager quit a few weeks after I got there, a few technicians quit or drastically reduced their hours, a couple people went on leave. So the ESM (assistant store manager) started helping out in the pharmacy more, mostly with filling prescriptions. I was warned before she started helping out that she was really prickly and if I had any issues that I could talk to the RXOM. There were a few things that came up and he told me that I wasn’t misconstruing things, to just ignore her.
And then came a day where we had a ton of call outs, my RXOM wasn’t in that day and the SM had left. It was Christmas eve weekend. So the pharmacy was gonna be closed the next day. So we were extremely short staffed, extremely busy and the phones were insane. The ESM started out the day basically complaining to us about how nothing was done, it was a mess, etc etc. I wouldn’t even call it passive aggressive. She was outright threatening and saying she would definitely be telling the RXM and SM about how incompetent we were, how out of hand everything was.
There was an incident with a customer, he was yelling at me because I went to lunch before helping him and instead of letting me handle it, the ESM jumped in without really even getting a handle on what was happening. I got written up for the way I spoke to the patient and how I handled the situation with the ESM because I had stepped over to the floater pharmacist and when asked I explained the situation. She told the story as me mumbling under my breath and complaining and carrying on. The rest of the day was pretty much the same, her carrying on about how useless we were and at one point she said it was a mess and that we (the techs) would be staying after to clean it up. I was slightly irritated that she told me I had to rather than asking, especially because the mess was from the days previous, from other techs, etc. It just had been a hectic few days, with short staff. I knew how she was though so I just decided I would stay. Right before we closed, she told me she wanted to speak to me. I had assumed she was going to give us a game plan for how to clean up quickly so we could go. I went over to her after we closed and she started to tear into me for disrespecting her and then noticed I wasn’t making eye contact. It had been a long day and I was feeling really overwhelmed. She made a big deal about it and I told her I couldn’t make eye contact with her because I have a disability but assured her I was listening to her. She went back and forth with me a few times basically trying to force me to look her in the eyes or I was disrespecting her. She ended up saying that she couldn’t speak to me if I wasn’t going to look her in the eyes when she spoke to me. I took this as a dismissal, so part of my write up was for insubordination because I left and refused to have a conversation with her. I reported the incident to HR, briefly spoke with them and thought that was the end of it.
Well shortly after, she started being extremely short with me, very dramatically avoidant like when I walked in the pharmacy would say things like “that’s my cue to leave”. If she asked for help out loud, if I tried to help her she would tell me she didn’t want my help and she would get someone else. I tried not to let it bother me but it definitely stressed me out over time. The few times I did help her, she would throw whatever she was working on down and storm from the pharmacy muttering that she would tell SM about whatever, usually swearing. I asked the other managers what I was doing wrong and was never given any answers. Or guidance. I brought it up a few times and was always brushed off. That never really ended.
An important detail is that the schedule was consistently put out on Wednesdays, usually evenings and our week started on Thursdays. Our weeks run Thursdays-Wednesdays.
There were a few other small issues, I had talked to the managers about issues with scheduling and basically just got constantly brushed off. I had agreed to a general schedule of opens and mids and every other Sunday when I transferred and they weren’t able to accommodate it anymore, they started scheduling me all over the place, closes, several weekends in a row. This made childcare difficult especially with short notice because daycare has set hours. When I got my first warning about tardiness, I brought this up and was accused of blaming everyone else for my tardiness and told to have some accountability.
By this point, I dreaded going to work when the SM or ESM was there. I would get so anxious, I would be physically sick, throwing up, gastro issues, migraines. I was constantly in a state of overstimulation. Again, I asked for help and got blown off.
So in February there was an incident that led up to me requesting short term leave. My son had a minor medical issue that I took him to the doctor for, she made an appointment for the following Thursday at an eye doctor at 8:15am. I told my RXOM I couldn’t work Thursday, he ended up scheduling me to close. 12-9. I called out around 9am after getting to my son’s appointment and learning he had to do some tests for underlying issues including being dilated. He’s 3 so I needed to be with him because he was really disoriented. We finished around 4pm and my RXOM had texted me several times for updates telling me other people called out and they really needed me. I told him that my son needed me and he basically begged me to come in for a few hours to close. I finally relented and got there around 5-6 and stayed until close. No one said anything to me, so I didn’t think anything of it. A few weeks go by and on February 19, I was called into the office for a meeting with the SM and RXOM and received a write up for being 5 hours late that day. If I would have just left it as a call out, there would be no disciplinary action because I had not used any yet for the year. This was incredibly frustrating and the way it was presented was really overwhelming. I told them I was getting overwhelmed and would like to step out, the SM continued to talk down to me. I was getting increasingly agitated, my stims were getting faster and I started to rock back and forth, beginning to have an autistic meltdown. The SM told me I needed to calm down, tried to get me to speak to him while I was shutting down and just kept scolding me, I honestly don’t even know what he was saying by this point. I told the RXOM I needed to step out and I walked out of the office next door to the break room to turn on the sink and I just completely shut down, I crawled under the counter in the break room and had a complete shutdown/meltdown. My muscles locked up, I was crying and rocking back and forth and covering my ears and had my arms over my eyes, all stimulation was bothering me. The RXOM came to check on me and saw me having a meltdown and that I was unable to communicate so he pulled my file and called my emergency contact and basically just told him I was melting down and I was under the sink and needed to be picked up.
My partner came to get me, we left my car, I went home and calmed down and then called my company’s HR and put a request in for short term medical leave. My doctor had been urging me to do this for over 6 months. I texted my RXOM and SM asking what I should do next and heard nothing so I reported to work on 2/20. Upon arriving, the guest pharmacist notified me we had a call out. After everyone arrived, I asked who the call out was and the ESM, pharmacist and other techs didn’t know. The SM was not there. The RXOM wasn’t answering my texts. An hour into my shift, the RXOM told me that they were told my leave was approved and I wouldn’t be there. I asked what to do and got nothing in response.
During my lunch break on 2/20/24, I received a call on my personal phone from HR outlining my short term leave and giving me instruction on paperwork. They verified leave was supposed to start 2/19 and I explained no one answered me so I reported to work. She told me she would have to change my leave to go into effect starting 2/21.
Fast forward, my leave ends 5/8/24, and I had not heard anything beyond communication with HR about it ending. I text my RXM and tell him I am returning to work and ask what my next steps are. He replies late evening and tells me to reach out to SM and I tell him I will in the morning. The next morning, I receive a text with my name written in and highlighted, I’m not scheduled for the first few days (Thursday-Sunday) and I’m scheduled Monday-Wednesday. So I go in for my scheduled shift on 5/13/24. During my leave, my RXOM and a bunch of technicians quit. We gained a full time staff pharmacist and a couple technicians. I get there at 10:00 and I work until 12:00 (so for two hours) and I’m called into the office with the SM and RXM and told the SM told me that I received a final written warning for insubordination and tardiness so they decided to terminate my employment due to my continued insubordination and job abandonment and because a member of management complained about my attitude. He went on to say that he contacted HR and reported that I had an “episode” and walked away from him when he was trying to communicate with me and resolve a conflict which was the insubordination and then after my “episode” I went home instead of finishing my shift. Despite putting my leave in the day it happened, because the date of leave was changed, the day I left early wasn’t covered under FMLA.
So far, I have submitted a request to the EEOC, but their first available appointment was 11/4/24. I was not in a state to call lawyers today, but I filled out a couple online forms for Employment Discrimination lawyers that had online contact forms. Immediately after being terminated, I went to my car and logged into the employee portal and downloaded all of my available paystubs and the documented disciplinary action sheets. There wasn’t one for termination, I asked my SM how I would obtain that information and he told me to contact HR. I have some screenshots from text message communication mostly asking the RXOM for help with conflicts, but the SM would really only talk to me in the office.
I’m looking for advice on what to do next. I am feeling pretty overwhelmed. Obviously, I am going to work on my resume and start applying to jobs, but beyond that I’m not really sure what to do next. Any advice is appreciated. Even if it’s to tell me that I’m in the wrong. If you read my novel, thank you. <3
TLDR; I have autism and I was bullied into having a meltdown and then fired after returning from short term medical leave for going home early. I feel like they were looking for reasons to fire me as retaliation for reporting the ESM to HR.
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I can fill in more details as needed. I feel like so much has happened during my time with this company, I’m not even really sure which parts of the story are relevant.
But to start, I was at a store that didn’t have a store manager for 6 months and I was having issues getting hours, support, literally any paperwork being done because my pharmacy manager (pharmacist in charge, RXM) did not like me. We were understaffed, there was a ton of drama. I had spoken to the district manager (DM) about my issues several times and finally after a technician lashed out and threw some filling totes and some bagged prescriptions at me and another technician, I called him after work and told him I no longer felt safe and wouldn’t be returning to work until he handled the situation.
I help out at other stores all the time and one of the stores I help out offered me to transfer. Additionally, right after I left pretty much everyone quit, I was not the only person with issues at that store. After that situation, since I was already starting the process of transferring, instead of waiting two more weeks I immediately went to the new store. During this time I had started the process for ADA accommodations through HR and with my doctor.
The week I started at the new store, I sat down with the pharmacy tech manager (RXOM) and the store manager (SM). This probably should have been my first red flag, but the SM basically asked something along the lines of why he should let me transfer because it sounds like I had a lot of problems at the old store. So upon starting at this specific store, I disclosed issues I have socially due to my disability and stated that I needed clear communication because I do not pick up on hints or subtleties and that I needed clear feedback when I have made a mistake or in a situation where I upset someone. I also disclosed that I would need additional assistance in tense situations with customers and coworkers. I explained there was a lot of drama and pettiness at my old pharmacy and that I inadvertently caused a lot of issues because I was oblivious to it. The SM basically decided that it didn’t sound like an issue to be clear and concise and kind of guide me through situations that come up. He assured me I could talk to him anytime. I was repeatedly ignored when I requested aid in those situations. And then if the outcome was less than satisfactory, I was punished. The tech manager became my support needs liaison, but the store and assistant manager refused to accommodate me. The tech manager actually got a lot of crap for trying to help me. I have a disability that can affect the way I am perceived by other people and speaking to people about it usually helps clear up any problems. I was not given an opportunity to do this. I thought I was protecting myself my disclosing my needs and weaknesses.
So at this store a few things happened with different people all at once and the store became short staffed. I started helping out a lot, staying late when I could, picking up shifts even though I had to find extra childcare. The pharmacy manager quit a few weeks after I got there, a few technicians quit or drastically reduced their hours, a couple people went on leave. So the ESM (assistant store manager) started helping out in the pharmacy more, mostly with filling prescriptions. I was warned before she started helping out that she was really prickly and if I had any issues that I could talk to the RXOM. There were a few things that came up and he told me that I wasn’t misconstruing things, to just ignore her.
And then came a day where we had a ton of call outs, my RXOM wasn’t in that day and the SM had left. It was Christmas eve weekend. So the pharmacy was gonna be closed the next day. So we were extremely short staffed, extremely busy and the phones were insane. The ESM started out the day basically complaining to us about how nothing was done, it was a mess, etc etc. I wouldn’t even call it passive aggressive. She was outright threatening and saying she would definitely be telling the RXM and SM about how incompetent we were, how out of hand everything was.
There was an incident with a customer, he was yelling at me because I went to lunch before helping him and instead of letting me handle it, the ESM jumped in without really even getting a handle on what was happening. I got written up for the way I spoke to the patient and how I handled the situation with the ESM because I had stepped over to the floater pharmacist and when asked I explained the situation. She told the story as me mumbling under my breath and complaining and carrying on. The rest of the day was pretty much the same, her carrying on about how useless we were and at one point she said it was a mess and that we (the techs) would be staying after to clean it up. I was slightly irritated that she told me I had to rather than asking, especially because the mess was from the days previous, from other techs, etc. It just had been a hectic few days, with short staff. I knew how she was though so I just decided I would stay. Right before we closed, she told me she wanted to speak to me. I had assumed she was going to give us a game plan for how to clean up quickly so we could go. I went over to her after we closed and she started to tear into me for disrespecting her and then noticed I wasn’t making eye contact. It had been a long day and I was feeling really overwhelmed. She made a big deal about it and I told her I couldn’t make eye contact with her because I have a disability but assured her I was listening to her. She went back and forth with me a few times basically trying to force me to look her in the eyes or I was disrespecting her. She ended up saying that she couldn’t speak to me if I wasn’t going to look her in the eyes when she spoke to me. I took this as a dismissal, so part of my write up was for insubordination because I left and refused to have a conversation with her. I reported the incident to HR, briefly spoke with them and thought that was the end of it.
Well shortly after, she started being extremely short with me, very dramatically avoidant like when I walked in the pharmacy would say things like “that’s my cue to leave”. If she asked for help out loud, if I tried to help her she would tell me she didn’t want my help and she would get someone else. I tried not to let it bother me but it definitely stressed me out over time. The few times I did help her, she would throw whatever she was working on down and storm from the pharmacy muttering that she would tell SM about whatever, usually swearing. I asked the other managers what I was doing wrong and was never given any answers. Or guidance. I brought it up a few times and was always brushed off. That never really ended.
An important detail is that the schedule was consistently put out on Wednesdays, usually evenings and our week started on Thursdays. Our weeks run Thursdays-Wednesdays.
There were a few other small issues, I had talked to the managers about issues with scheduling and basically just got constantly brushed off. I had agreed to a general schedule of opens and mids and every other Sunday when I transferred and they weren’t able to accommodate it anymore, they started scheduling me all over the place, closes, several weekends in a row. This made childcare difficult especially with short notice because daycare has set hours. When I got my first warning about tardiness, I brought this up and was accused of blaming everyone else for my tardiness and told to have some accountability.
By this point, I dreaded going to work when the SM or ESM was there. I would get so anxious, I would be physically sick, throwing up, gastro issues, migraines. I was constantly in a state of overstimulation. Again, I asked for help and got blown off.
So in February there was an incident that led up to me requesting short term leave. My son had a minor medical issue that I took him to the doctor for, she made an appointment for the following Thursday at an eye doctor at 8:15am. I told my RXOM I couldn’t work Thursday, he ended up scheduling me to close. 12-9. I called out around 9am after getting to my son’s appointment and learning he had to do some tests for underlying issues including being dilated. He’s 3 so I needed to be with him because he was really disoriented. We finished around 4pm and my RXOM had texted me several times for updates telling me other people called out and they really needed me. I told him that my son needed me and he basically begged me to come in for a few hours to close. I finally relented and got there around 5-6 and stayed until close. No one said anything to me, so I didn’t think anything of it. A few weeks go by and on February 19, I was called into the office for a meeting with the SM and RXOM and received a write up for being 5 hours late that day. If I would have just left it as a call out, there would be no disciplinary action because I had not used any yet for the year. This was incredibly frustrating and the way it was presented was really overwhelming. I told them I was getting overwhelmed and would like to step out, the SM continued to talk down to me. I was getting increasingly agitated, my stims were getting faster and I started to rock back and forth, beginning to have an autistic meltdown. The SM told me I needed to calm down, tried to get me to speak to him while I was shutting down and just kept scolding me, I honestly don’t even know what he was saying by this point. I told the RXOM I needed to step out and I walked out of the office next door to the break room to turn on the sink and I just completely shut down, I crawled under the counter in the break room and had a complete shutdown/meltdown. My muscles locked up, I was crying and rocking back and forth and covering my ears and had my arms over my eyes, all stimulation was bothering me. The RXOM came to check on me and saw me having a meltdown and that I was unable to communicate so he pulled my file and called my emergency contact and basically just told him I was melting down and I was under the sink and needed to be picked up.
My partner came to get me, we left my car, I went home and calmed down and then called my company’s HR and put a request in for short term medical leave. My doctor had been urging me to do this for over 6 months. I texted my RXOM and SM asking what I should do next and heard nothing so I reported to work on 2/20. Upon arriving, the guest pharmacist notified me we had a call out. After everyone arrived, I asked who the call out was and the ESM, pharmacist and other techs didn’t know. The SM was not there. The RXOM wasn’t answering my texts. An hour into my shift, the RXOM told me that they were told my leave was approved and I wouldn’t be there. I asked what to do and got nothing in response.
During my lunch break on 2/20/24, I received a call on my personal phone from HR outlining my short term leave and giving me instruction on paperwork. They verified leave was supposed to start 2/19 and I explained no one answered me so I reported to work. She told me she would have to change my leave to go into effect starting 2/21.
Fast forward, my leave ends 5/8/24, and I had not heard anything beyond communication with HR about it ending. I text my RXM and tell him I am returning to work and ask what my next steps are. He replies late evening and tells me to reach out to SM and I tell him I will in the morning. The next morning, I receive a text with my name written in and highlighted, I’m not scheduled for the first few days (Thursday-Sunday) and I’m scheduled Monday-Wednesday. So I go in for my scheduled shift on 5/13/24. During my leave, my RXOM and a bunch of technicians quit. We gained a full time staff pharmacist and a couple technicians. I get there at 10:00 and I work until 12:00 (so for two hours) and I’m called into the office with the SM and RXM and told the SM told me that I received a final written warning for insubordination and tardiness so they decided to terminate my employment due to my continued insubordination and job abandonment and because a member of management complained about my attitude. He went on to say that he contacted HR and reported that I had an “episode” and walked away from him when he was trying to communicate with me and resolve a conflict which was the insubordination and then after my “episode” I went home instead of finishing my shift. Despite putting my leave in the day it happened, because the date of leave was changed, the day I left early wasn’t covered under FMLA.
So far, I have submitted a request to the EEOC, but their first available appointment was 11/4/24. I was not in a state to call lawyers today, but I filled out a couple online forms for Employment Discrimination lawyers that had online contact forms. Immediately after being terminated, I went to my car and logged into the employee portal and downloaded all of my available paystubs and the documented disciplinary action sheets. There wasn’t one for termination, I asked my SM how I would obtain that information and he told me to contact HR. I have some screenshots from text message communication mostly asking the RXOM for help with conflicts, but the SM would really only talk to me in the office.
I’m looking for advice on what to do next. I am feeling pretty overwhelmed. Obviously, I am going to work on my resume and start applying to jobs, but beyond that I’m not really sure what to do next. Any advice is appreciated. Even if it’s to tell me that I’m in the wrong. If you read my novel, thank you. <3
TLDR; I have autism and I was bullied into having a meltdown and then fired after returning from short term medical leave for going home early. I feel like they were looking for reasons to fire me as retaliation for reporting the ESM to HR.
2024.05.14 04:14 BlazeFire3701 Finding the Right Path
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So I'm a second year CS student in college, and I'm trying to figure out what my best route is professionally, both short term and long. I'm currently on the tail end of a gap year, as my last semester did not go well and I needed to take some time to get myself together in a number of ways before giving it another shot. I've been working a few low-wage jobs and doing a bit of volunteering in this down time to make a bit of money and keep myself busy, but now I'm seriously considering what would be the best series of events or accomplishments to land the good-paying job I'm after in the field in a few years time.
I picked CS as my major because out of all my interests and things I'd dabbled in in grade school (art, music, photography, video editing, writing, etc.), this seemed like the best choice for a future career. For a bit more background information, it's worth noting I never did any paid work as a teenager, and that up through the end of high school, I was mostly just used to following the straight line school laid out for me and rarely trying new things (that I could put on a resume anytime) beyond that on my on time.
Now here I am three years later, and really kicking myself in the rear over that. I could have been working from the time I was 16, or even 13 (depending on the store), and doing stuff and learning skills outside of school to groom myself for future financial success from an early age. Now I'm in my early twenties, with few marketable skills, and years of lost time to make up for.
But alas, it's not too late! I just one want to make sure that whatever my next move is is the right one. One of the reasons I resisted getting a minimum wage job for so long was because I felt like they were a road to nowhere, when in reality, had I started years earlier, I could be well above that by now. Well, it's never too late to do the right thing or change course, and that's what I want your help trying to figure out now. Any advice is greatly appreciated, and at the moment, I really don't have anyone else knowledgeable on the subject to turn to.
(SKIP HERE IF YOU DON'T WANNA READ THE BACKGROUND STUFF)
What I'm wondering is...
-How much does having that relevant bachelor's degree matter compared to not having it? From what I've seen, it seems like that alone opens up a world of possibilities.
-"One to two years as a _ required™" (to be able to apply for this job)-Those words haunt my nightmares. I've seen them, you've seen them, and the problem is obvious. When 80%+ of entry level jobs have that cursed stipulation, how are you supposed to get that one to two years anywhere? Well, you tell me. Someone has to have cracked it.
-What certifications can help my case? Or which would be most worth the effort? A Plus is the main one I've heard of, but what impact could having one for something like computer basics or Microsoft Office make?
-What do employers care about the most? Certifications? Past experience? A degree?
-What difference could a masters/grad school make? While I haven't applied myself much so far in college, I'm working hard to change that. And when I go back, I'm hoping to get into the honors program, and after that and a successful graduation-maybe, just maybe, by some miracle-punch a ticket to MIT (yeah, laugh it up). Now, if I did somehow pull that off, what doors could that open to me?
-Best programming language to know, and the best place to learn it (and prove I can use it too)? If I can't walk the walk, I'm not gonna get anywhere. I've had friends who have been proficient in things like Python, HTML, or Java since high school. If I wanna buckle down and go nuts with CodeAcademy or CompTIA or something, where would my time best be spent?
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So I'm a second year CS student in college, and I'm trying to figure out what my best route is professionally, both short term and long. I'm currently on the tail end of a gap year, as my last semester did not go well and I needed to take some time to get myself together in a number of ways before giving it another shot. I've been working a few low-wage jobs and doing a bit of volunteering in this down time to make a bit of money and keep myself busy, but now I'm seriously considering what would be the best series of events or accomplishments to land the good-paying job I'm after in the field in a few years time.
I picked CS as my major because out of all my interests and things I'd dabbled in in grade school (art, music, photography, video editing, writing, etc.), this seemed like the best choice for a future career. For a bit more background information, it's worth noting I never did any paid work as a teenager, and that up through the end of high school, I was mostly just used to following the straight line school laid out for me and rarely trying new things (that I could put on a resume anytime) beyond that on my on time.
Now here I am three years later, and really kicking myself in the rear over that. I could have been working from the time I was 16, or even 13 (depending on the store), and doing stuff and learning skills outside of school to groom myself for future financial success from an early age. Now I'm in my early twenties, with few marketable skills, and years of lost time to make up for.
But alas, it's not too late! I just one want to make sure that whatever my next move is is the right one. One of the reasons I resisted getting a minimum wage job for so long was because I felt like they were a road to nowhere, when in reality, had I started years earlier, I could be well above that by now. Well, it's never too late to do the right thing or change course, and that's what I want your help trying to figure out now. Any advice is greatly appreciated, and at the moment, I really don't have anyone else knowledgeable on the subject to turn to.
(SKIP HERE IF YOU DON'T WANNA READ THE BACKGROUND STUFF)
What I'm wondering is...
-How much does having that relevant bachelor's degree matter compared to not having it? From what I've seen, it seems like that alone opens up a world of possibilities.
-"One to two years as a _ required™" (to be able to apply for this job)-Those words haunt my nightmares. I've seen them, you've seen them, and the problem is obvious. When 80%+ of entry level jobs have that cursed stipulation, how are you supposed to get that one to two years anywhere? Well, you tell me. Someone has to have cracked it.
-What certifications can help my case? Or which would be most worth the effort? A Plus is the main one I've heard of, but what impact could having one for something like computer basics or Microsoft Office make?
-What do employers care about the most? Certifications? Past experience? A degree?
-What difference could a masters/grad school make? While I haven't applied myself much so far in college, I'm working hard to change that. And when I go back, I'm hoping to get into the honors program, and after that and a successful graduation-maybe, just maybe, by some miracle-punch a ticket to MIT (yeah, laugh it up). Now, if I did somehow pull that off, what doors could that open to me?
-Best programming language to know, and the best place to learn it (and prove I can use it too)? If I can't walk the walk, I'm not gonna get anywhere. I've had friends who have been proficient in things like Python, HTML, or Java since high school. If I wanna buckle down and go nuts with CodeAcademy or CompTIA or something, where would my time best be spent?
2024.05.14 04:14 notboomergallant "If any of our demands are not fulfilled by 16th of May [...] This will be hunger strike to death,"
[Meet our demands or we will kill ourselves ] say the current protestors to CBC and the province.
No. We need higher skilled workers. Why aren't these guys trying to get into those roles if they want to guarantee they can stay? Go actually contribute to society and help us build housing or work in health services.
People threating to unalive themselves ... Why didn't they try this when it didn't work out for them initially in Ontario or Manitoba, before coming here?
Working at Tim Hortons isn't contributing to society. You aren't owed permanent status just because you applied here when it didn't work out elsewhere and you'd rather pour coffee than concrete.
Let's get our kids back to working the entry level jobs and let these guys put in some real work if they actually want to stay and build a life here.
Notice how most of the protestors have been in Canada for years. Not PEI. How they want to live in Canada. Not PEI. While they came here for the path of least resistance into Canada and now are spouting lies upon lies while demanding PEI gives them what they want.
Call their bluff. Approve the ones that meet the requirements and let the other permits expire.
Or should we all go on hunger strikes for the rest of the serious struggles we face as islanders that aren't being fixed and should be? There's a lot of people here that have contributed their lives to this province that need help they don't get. Is this the solution? Make demands for a few days then launch a hunger strike to the death? Is it that easy to get what we need or want around here?
I guess we'll see if this strategy works for these guys or not.
Targeting required skilled positions that better benefit society isn't discrimination. Applying for a program isn't a guarantee. Reducing approval numbers isn't a denial or unfair.
Most importantly, imigration is a privilege. Not a right.
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No. We need higher skilled workers. Why aren't these guys trying to get into those roles if they want to guarantee they can stay? Go actually contribute to society and help us build housing or work in health services.
People threating to unalive themselves ... Why didn't they try this when it didn't work out for them initially in Ontario or Manitoba, before coming here?
Working at Tim Hortons isn't contributing to society. You aren't owed permanent status just because you applied here when it didn't work out elsewhere and you'd rather pour coffee than concrete.
Let's get our kids back to working the entry level jobs and let these guys put in some real work if they actually want to stay and build a life here.
Notice how most of the protestors have been in Canada for years. Not PEI. How they want to live in Canada. Not PEI. While they came here for the path of least resistance into Canada and now are spouting lies upon lies while demanding PEI gives them what they want.
Call their bluff. Approve the ones that meet the requirements and let the other permits expire.
Or should we all go on hunger strikes for the rest of the serious struggles we face as islanders that aren't being fixed and should be? There's a lot of people here that have contributed their lives to this province that need help they don't get. Is this the solution? Make demands for a few days then launch a hunger strike to the death? Is it that easy to get what we need or want around here?
I guess we'll see if this strategy works for these guys or not.
Targeting required skilled positions that better benefit society isn't discrimination. Applying for a program isn't a guarantee. Reducing approval numbers isn't a denial or unfair.
Most importantly, imigration is a privilege. Not a right.
2024.05.14 04:14 BlazeFire3701 Finding the Right Path
(SKIP TO QUESTIONS IF YOU WANT)
So I'm a second year CS student in college, and I'm trying to figure out what my best route is professionally, both short term and long. I'm currently on the tail end of a gap year, as my last semester did not go well and I needed to take some time to get myself together in a number of ways before giving it another shot. I've been working a few low-wage jobs and doing a bit of volunteering in this down time to make a bit of money and keep myself busy, but now I'm seriously considering what would be the best series of events or accomplishments to land the good-paying job I'm after in the field in a few years time.
I picked CS as my major because out of all my interests and things I'd dabbled in in grade school (art, music, photography, video editing, writing, etc.), this seemed like the best choice for a future career. For a bit more background information, it's worth noting I never did any paid work as a teenager, and that up through the end of high school, I was mostly just used to following the straight line school laid out for me and rarely trying new things (that I could put on a resume anytime) beyond that on my on time.
Now here I am three years later, and really kicking myself in the rear over that. I could have been working from the time I was 16, or even 13 (depending on the store), and doing stuff and learning skills outside of school to groom myself for future financial success from an early age. Now I'm in my early twenties, with few marketable skills, and years of lost time to make up for.
But alas, it's not too late! I just one want to make sure that whatever my next move is is the right one. One of the reasons I resisted getting a minimum wage job for so long was because I felt like they were a road to nowhere, when in reality, had I started years earlier, I could be well above that by now. Well, it's never too late to do the right thing or change course, and that's what I want your help trying to figure out now. Any advice is greatly appreciated, and at the moment, I really don't have anyone else knowledgeable on the subject to turn to.
(SKIP HERE IF YOU DON'T WANNA READ THE BACKGROUND STUFF)
What I'm wondering is...
-How much does having that relevant bachelor's degree matter compared to not having it? From what I've seen, it seems like that alone opens up a world of possibilities.
-"One to two years as a _ required™" (to be able to apply for this job)-Those words haunt my nightmares. I've seen them, you've seen them, and the problem is obvious. When 80%+ of entry level jobs have that cursed stipulation, how are you supposed to get that one to two years anywhere? Well, you tell me. Someone has to have cracked it.
-What certifications can help my case? Or which would be most worth the effort? A Plus is the main one I've heard of, but what impact could having one for something like computer basics or Microsoft Office make?
-What do employers care about the most? Certifications? Past experience? A degree?
-What difference could a masters/grad school make? While I haven't applied myself much so far in college, I'm working hard to change that. And when I go back, I'm hoping to get into the honors program, and after that and a successful graduation-maybe, just maybe, by some miracle-punch a ticket to MIT (yeah, laugh it up). Now, if I did somehow pull that off, what doors could that open to me?
-Best programming language to know, and the best place to learn it (and prove I can use it too)? If I can't walk the walk, I'm not gonna get anywhere. I've had friends who have been proficient in things like Python, HTML, or Java since high school. If I wanna buckle down and go nuts with CodeAcademy or CompTIA or something, where would my time best be spent?
submitted by BlazeFire3701 to learnprogramming [link] [comments]
So I'm a second year CS student in college, and I'm trying to figure out what my best route is professionally, both short term and long. I'm currently on the tail end of a gap year, as my last semester did not go well and I needed to take some time to get myself together in a number of ways before giving it another shot. I've been working a few low-wage jobs and doing a bit of volunteering in this down time to make a bit of money and keep myself busy, but now I'm seriously considering what would be the best series of events or accomplishments to land the good-paying job I'm after in the field in a few years time.
I picked CS as my major because out of all my interests and things I'd dabbled in in grade school (art, music, photography, video editing, writing, etc.), this seemed like the best choice for a future career. For a bit more background information, it's worth noting I never did any paid work as a teenager, and that up through the end of high school, I was mostly just used to following the straight line school laid out for me and rarely trying new things (that I could put on a resume anytime) beyond that on my on time.
Now here I am three years later, and really kicking myself in the rear over that. I could have been working from the time I was 16, or even 13 (depending on the store), and doing stuff and learning skills outside of school to groom myself for future financial success from an early age. Now I'm in my early twenties, with few marketable skills, and years of lost time to make up for.
But alas, it's not too late! I just one want to make sure that whatever my next move is is the right one. One of the reasons I resisted getting a minimum wage job for so long was because I felt like they were a road to nowhere, when in reality, had I started years earlier, I could be well above that by now. Well, it's never too late to do the right thing or change course, and that's what I want your help trying to figure out now. Any advice is greatly appreciated, and at the moment, I really don't have anyone else knowledgeable on the subject to turn to.
(SKIP HERE IF YOU DON'T WANNA READ THE BACKGROUND STUFF)
What I'm wondering is...
-How much does having that relevant bachelor's degree matter compared to not having it? From what I've seen, it seems like that alone opens up a world of possibilities.
-"One to two years as a _ required™" (to be able to apply for this job)-Those words haunt my nightmares. I've seen them, you've seen them, and the problem is obvious. When 80%+ of entry level jobs have that cursed stipulation, how are you supposed to get that one to two years anywhere? Well, you tell me. Someone has to have cracked it.
-What certifications can help my case? Or which would be most worth the effort? A Plus is the main one I've heard of, but what impact could having one for something like computer basics or Microsoft Office make?
-What do employers care about the most? Certifications? Past experience? A degree?
-What difference could a masters/grad school make? While I haven't applied myself much so far in college, I'm working hard to change that. And when I go back, I'm hoping to get into the honors program, and after that and a successful graduation-maybe, just maybe, by some miracle-punch a ticket to MIT (yeah, laugh it up). Now, if I did somehow pull that off, what doors could that open to me?
-Best programming language to know, and the best place to learn it (and prove I can use it too)? If I can't walk the walk, I'm not gonna get anywhere. I've had friends who have been proficient in things like Python, HTML, or Java since high school. If I wanna buckle down and go nuts with CodeAcademy or CompTIA or something, where would my time best be spent?
2024.05.14 04:14 Overall-Bee-8900 My fiancé 23M, whom i’ve (22F) been with for years is having difficulty finding a job and it has affected our relationship. Needing advice?
I’ve been with my guy for years and we’ve always been such a strong match. We’ve worked through troubling times and have been there for each other for over 8 years. I truly can’t see myself with anyone else. I would like to soon move in together and share living expenses. I’m currently in graduate school and will work 40+ unpaid hours in my externship within the next year. Therefore, it is more than likely that we will not be able to comfortably afford a place. We both have a good chunk of student loans to pay off. He currently pays all of his living expenses but still lives with his family. And that’s ok for the time being. But, it’s been almost a year since he’s graduated from undergrad with a degree. He still is working a part time job (25 hrs/week) that does not use his degree and does not make enough for us to live on our own. He has applied to many places with his degree, but has not yet had any luck landing an interview/job. This has been hard for me. I worry about our future and want us to have a life together. How should I proceed? He is extremely intelligent and also very introverted. He sometimes has a challenge putting himself out there. I want to support him as much as possible but i do feel that his lack of using his degree has generated some strain on our relationship. He feels that i view him as not enough or that he is lazy. It’s hard for me to communicate with him that i worry about our future. His family is also hard on him many times about him not using his degree. I don’t want to come off brash, but sometimes i feel like we are not on the same page. I’m unsure what to do. We’re still young and have time to figure things out, but i tend to over analyze and stress. I think this sometimes rubs off on him. I don’t want to make him resent me. We recently got engaged and I’m thrilled to get our life going together. I need help figuring out how we can “meet in the middle” and be together on the same page.
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2024.05.14 04:13 Putrid_Big_6553 Big Brother ORG Casting Now!
 | _GHOSTORG BIG BROTHER 3: Toxic Apocalypse 🧪 _ Applications are now open for the third season of GhostORG Big Brother 🦠 🪦 ! After last season's cast filled the house with toxicity, an overflow of toxic waste exploded in the GhostORG Labs building, turning the GhostORG universe into a Toxic Apocalypse! This season's houseguests will fight to reverse the apocalypse inside the GhostORG BB Bunker, competing in toxic / apocalyptic themed challenges as they fight for their lives! Who will be crowned the third GhostORG BB champion and be honored as the hero who saved the world from the apocalypse? It could be you, so apply today! submitted by Putrid_Big_6553 to OnlineSurvivor [link] [comments] The Perks of GhostORGs: - 👻 A team of active, helpful, and experienced hosts who are here to have as good of a time as you are! - 🕰️ 24 hour challenges with occasional extensions if needed! - 🧪 Creative competitions and twists to fit the theme of each season! - 🍿 Host commentary and extra visuals for entertainment, such as voting charts, fun graphics, and more! Join Today: https://discord.gg/ABF89sEA7C |
2024.05.14 04:13 that_alt_chic How do DNH's work, and will I ever be off of it?
Basically, a company I worked for caught me partaking in fraudulent/theft with the rewards program and I was fired. I'm fairly certain I'm on a do not hire list, and I can't seem to get a job anywhere. Will I ever be able to work a part time job again? Or am I screwed because of this do not hire in whatever database. I've applied to so many different places and I just can't get a job, even after taking the company with the do not hire on me off of my resume. What can I do?
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2024.05.14 04:12 Gold-Bluebird3920 Career change to Tech
No coding experience but very eager to learn. I was a former healthcare professional student and kind of burnt out/not sure if it's the best fit for me anymore. I learn best from application and hands on, versus regurgitating information which I think is why i'm leaning away from healthcare.
Wondering what would be the best way to transition? getting a masters in CS or just doing bootcamps? Money isn't necessarily a problem but I want to get the best chance of landing a job in the future (I've only looked at WashU and Launchcode but would love to get more info).
I'm very persistent and resilient, i love to problem solve. I don't know if cybersecurity, coding, or UX design would have the best outcomes in this job market/where i can learn but i am open to anything. Thank you.
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Wondering what would be the best way to transition? getting a masters in CS or just doing bootcamps? Money isn't necessarily a problem but I want to get the best chance of landing a job in the future (I've only looked at WashU and Launchcode but would love to get more info).
I'm very persistent and resilient, i love to problem solve. I don't know if cybersecurity, coding, or UX design would have the best outcomes in this job market/where i can learn but i am open to anything. Thank you.
2024.05.14 04:11 RichSea8810 I don’t know what to do anymore
 | I know I should be thankful I am employed rn, but stuff like this is killing me bro. It feels like a kick straight to the face. I am trying to move 10 hours away so I can go live with my girlfriend, and I have been working 2 jobs at 70-80 hours a week. While also looking for jobs where I’m moving to, and trying to finish my bachelors degree. This shit is killing me. Nobody responds. Indeed is fake. I can’t live off your 13 dollars an hour salary ESPECIALLY when you’re asking for me to have 5 years experience. This screenshot is from a job I applied for in February. I got a virtual interview and then I flew there to do some next step stuff like drug testing. They told me today, may 13th, would be the “projected” hiring date. When I didn’t hear anything back by 4 o clock I sent an email and this is what they said. Idk what to do anymore. ATLEAST TELL ME IM NO LONGER IN CONSIDERATION SO I CAN STOP HOPING. Thank you for allowing me to rant and any advice would be greatly appreciated. I just want to be with my gf after over 2 years of long distance😔 submitted by RichSea8810 to jobs [link] [comments] |
2024.05.14 04:10 Many-Ad-3058 💀💀
 | IF a certain someone actually applied for a job….🙄👀 submitted by Many-Ad-3058 to DisneyInfluencers [link] [comments] |